1 00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:09,240 Speaker 1: Hello everybody, and welcome back to the Psychology of Your Twenties, 2 00:00:09,880 --> 00:00:12,240 Speaker 1: the podcast where we talk through some of the big 3 00:00:12,480 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 1: life changes and transitions of our twenties and what they 4 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:18,680 Speaker 1: mean for our psychology. 5 00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:25,959 Speaker 2: Hello everybody, Welcome back to the show. Welcome back to 6 00:00:26,040 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 2: the podcast, new listeners, old listeners. Wherever you are in 7 00:00:30,440 --> 00:00:32,279 Speaker 2: the world, it is so great to have you here. 8 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 2: Back for another episode as we, of course break down 9 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:40,000 Speaker 2: the Psychology of our twenties, Let's talk about something that 10 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:44,520 Speaker 2: has been really bugging me recently. I'm not having fun. 11 00:00:45,320 --> 00:00:48,200 Speaker 2: I am not having as much fun as I think 12 00:00:48,280 --> 00:00:51,440 Speaker 2: I should be having, and it is really getting me 13 00:00:51,479 --> 00:00:53,920 Speaker 2: into a rut. I'm not having fun, simple as that, 14 00:00:54,520 --> 00:00:56,920 Speaker 2: and I feel like in this decade I'm still in 15 00:00:56,920 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 2: my twenties. It's upsetting me. It's frustrated me that there 16 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:04,240 Speaker 2: should be my time to be embracing experiences and it's 17 00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:06,520 Speaker 2: just not happening. Tell me if you relate to this. 18 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 2: I feel as if my entire life at this stage 19 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:13,679 Speaker 2: is dominated by by my to do list or my 20 00:01:13,760 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 2: should do list, and it is lingering over me constantly. 21 00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 2: Even when things are done, there is always more to 22 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:26,560 Speaker 2: add on to the list. Unhealthy, Yes, impossible to escape. 23 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:30,720 Speaker 2: That's what I've been finding. This toxic focus on productivity 24 00:01:31,319 --> 00:01:34,120 Speaker 2: has made just having fun for the simple act of 25 00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 2: it kind of feel like a chore, but more so 26 00:01:37,680 --> 00:01:41,160 Speaker 2: like something that needs to be dismissed for as long 27 00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 2: as possible, because god forbid, I'm not working hard enough, 28 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 2: or I don't prove myself, or I look back at 29 00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:51,520 Speaker 2: this time and can trace future failures back to this 30 00:01:51,560 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 2: one afternoon that I took off this one day, I said, 31 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:56,720 Speaker 2: I'm just going to go to the beach instead. What 32 00:01:56,840 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 2: if my decision then changes my life for the world. 33 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 2: What if prioritizing fun in that moment means dissatisfaction long term. 34 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 2: It's a pretty toxic mindset to be and I acknowledge that. 35 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:11,040 Speaker 2: But the other element of this for me is that life, 36 00:02:11,560 --> 00:02:14,120 Speaker 2: I think the world in general, feels so serious and 37 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 2: terrible at this time. And you know, I had someone 38 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 2: say to me the other day it feels like we're 39 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:23,239 Speaker 2: living in end times, and I honestly relate to that feeling, 40 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:28,320 Speaker 2: So having fun sometimes makes me feel guilty. It's also 41 00:02:28,440 --> 00:02:32,000 Speaker 2: harder to be present in fun moments at this stage, 42 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:35,640 Speaker 2: because you're constantly being pulled back down to earth and 43 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:38,400 Speaker 2: back into reality by all the terrible things you see 44 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 2: in the news or that come across your feed. And 45 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:44,240 Speaker 2: so I asked you, all the listeners this very question 46 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:46,560 Speaker 2: I've been asking myself. Are you having fun? Are you 47 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 2: enjoying your life right now? Only twenty seven percent of 48 00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 2: you said yes. When I asked how often you have fun, 49 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:58,760 Speaker 2: only eighteen percent of you said every day, and sixty 50 00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 2: three percent of you said you wish your life was 51 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:06,920 Speaker 2: more fun. This final question I asked was do you 52 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 2: think we take our twenties too seriously? And seventy six 53 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:16,080 Speaker 2: percent of you said yes, yes we do. And so 54 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:19,120 Speaker 2: I had to ask myself, is that the culprit behind 55 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 2: why we I I'm not having fun right now? And 56 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:26,320 Speaker 2: I think it goes even deeper than that. We're going 57 00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 2: to touch on some of those explanations. But recently I 58 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:33,480 Speaker 2: have been reading this book titled The Fun Habit by 59 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:37,720 Speaker 2: the psychologist Mike Rucker, and he has this quote in 60 00:03:37,760 --> 00:03:40,080 Speaker 2: his book that really really stood out for me and 61 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 2: which inspired this episode. Happiness is a state of mind, 62 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:47,240 Speaker 2: but fun is something you have to do, not just 63 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:52,600 Speaker 2: think about. It also doesn't require education, money, or power. 64 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 2: All it requires is intentionality and not just I don't 65 00:03:57,480 --> 00:03:59,120 Speaker 2: know what it was. You know when you hear certain 66 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 2: things and they just change something in your mind. That 67 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:04,120 Speaker 2: was one of those quotes. And so as of a 68 00:04:04,160 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 2: week ago, I on a mission to make my life 69 00:04:07,200 --> 00:04:09,080 Speaker 2: more fun, and I want to bring you along with me. 70 00:04:09,360 --> 00:04:12,280 Speaker 2: Turns out as well, there are not just mental health 71 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 2: benefits to this, but it may just be something. Having 72 00:04:15,760 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 2: more fun could be something that extends your life. It 73 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:21,200 Speaker 2: keeps you healthier, and really, at the end of the day, 74 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:25,080 Speaker 2: I mean you are living your life for you. That 75 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:27,599 Speaker 2: is everything that this life should mean. You are living 76 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 2: your life to have unique, enjoyable experiences, and I think 77 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 2: that is something that we need to be deliberately reminded 78 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:38,480 Speaker 2: of every now and again, especially when there are a 79 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:43,240 Speaker 2: lot of reasons made up or real to not be 80 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:48,040 Speaker 2: prioritizing enjoyment and delight. So today we're going to look 81 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:52,080 Speaker 2: at the psychology behind fun, how to find fun in 82 00:04:52,600 --> 00:04:56,920 Speaker 2: unexpected ways, including in hard work, and some of the 83 00:04:56,960 --> 00:05:04,000 Speaker 2: best yet also less obvious ways for creating delight, creating playfulness, 84 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:07,920 Speaker 2: creating joy. I think it's something we could all do 85 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:10,960 Speaker 2: with a little bit more of myself included I'm in 86 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:14,560 Speaker 2: this boat with you, and the science also says the same. 87 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:18,919 Speaker 2: So without further ado, let's get into our tips the 88 00:05:18,960 --> 00:05:22,279 Speaker 2: psychology behind how you can just have more fun in 89 00:05:22,320 --> 00:05:29,359 Speaker 2: your life. Let's start with my argument for why we 90 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:31,840 Speaker 2: should be more focused on fun, not just in your twenties, 91 00:05:31,880 --> 00:05:34,479 Speaker 2: but in every stage of your life. I think so 92 00:05:34,560 --> 00:05:38,000 Speaker 2: many of us are focused on happiness, not realizing that 93 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 2: happiness is one of the hardest emotions to create through 94 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:48,039 Speaker 2: external means. We desperately chase this very elusive feeling, but 95 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:50,480 Speaker 2: what researchers will tell you is that it's quite difficult 96 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:53,880 Speaker 2: to obtain. We need to find a gateway to it, 97 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 2: and fun is one of those gateways to happiness. Through 98 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:04,640 Speaker 2: joy is like a shortcut. It's like an instantaneous jump 99 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:08,760 Speaker 2: the queue card. Like, if you can have fun, you 100 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:11,479 Speaker 2: can obtain happiness a lot easier. I think fun is 101 00:06:11,480 --> 00:06:15,039 Speaker 2: something that is depicted as a very childish and be 102 00:06:15,240 --> 00:06:18,599 Speaker 2: very frivolous. There is a time and a place for it, 103 00:06:18,680 --> 00:06:21,320 Speaker 2: mainly in childhood, but at some stage you need to 104 00:06:21,320 --> 00:06:24,200 Speaker 2: outgrow that. The older you get, the more you need 105 00:06:24,240 --> 00:06:26,160 Speaker 2: to be mature, the less time there is for that. 106 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:28,840 Speaker 2: There's no need for it. This that's what people are 107 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:32,039 Speaker 2: kind of assuming. But when we get existential about it, 108 00:06:32,080 --> 00:06:34,919 Speaker 2: which we often do in this podcast, what does life 109 00:06:34,960 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 2: really mean unless it is filled with experiences that leave 110 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:41,720 Speaker 2: an impact and that you can enjoy, that you can 111 00:06:41,760 --> 00:06:48,000 Speaker 2: reminisce on, that fill you with this unnameable, bright, gowey feeling. 112 00:06:48,320 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 2: Maybe that's what piece is. You may not be able 113 00:06:50,960 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 2: to have fun all the time, but you're also not 114 00:06:53,360 --> 00:06:58,080 Speaker 2: a machine. And as the saying goes, an unexamined life 115 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:00,320 Speaker 2: is a life not worth living. And I think a 116 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 2: fun life is a life not worth living either. I'm 117 00:07:04,200 --> 00:07:07,000 Speaker 2: going to throw some psychological research at you as well, 118 00:07:07,360 --> 00:07:12,920 Speaker 2: if you need more convincing that fun is important. Fun also, 119 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 2: on a practical level, fosters what is known as psychological flexibility, 120 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:20,120 Speaker 2: and that is our ability to adapt to life's demands 121 00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:23,720 Speaker 2: with openness and curiosity rather than rigidity. So it's the 122 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:27,200 Speaker 2: distinction between a fixed mindset versus a growth mindset. So 123 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:29,720 Speaker 2: if you are having fun, you're also going to be 124 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:32,960 Speaker 2: more flexible, more adaptable, You're going to be a better 125 00:07:33,080 --> 00:07:36,960 Speaker 2: problem solver, You're going to be less pessimistic. Fun also 126 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:41,000 Speaker 2: deeply strengthens social bonds. Between others, which we're going to 127 00:07:41,040 --> 00:07:45,360 Speaker 2: explore in a second, and having more fun and playfulness 128 00:07:45,440 --> 00:07:48,760 Speaker 2: enjoying your life has been proven to lower QUARTERSOL levels 129 00:07:49,080 --> 00:07:54,280 Speaker 2: and increase neuroplasticity in the brain. Neuroplasticity is one of 130 00:07:54,280 --> 00:07:58,200 Speaker 2: the most essential concepts that you need to understand if 131 00:07:58,240 --> 00:08:03,040 Speaker 2: you want to achieve, do, create, be anything. It is 132 00:08:03,080 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 2: the explanation. It is the single thing that is responsible 133 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 2: for you being able to change who you are, grow, 134 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:12,760 Speaker 2: learn and adapt throughout your lifetime. So if you want 135 00:08:12,800 --> 00:08:16,520 Speaker 2: to achieve anything in life, whatever it is for you, you 136 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:17,679 Speaker 2: have to tune into the ways that you are going 137 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 2: to allow your brain to be plastic and to be moldable. 138 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:26,560 Speaker 2: And it turns out fun is one of those things. 139 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 2: Fun can also come in various packaging. I guess there 140 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:33,800 Speaker 2: is this idea of type one and type two fun 141 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 2: that I came across recently, and it's a concept that 142 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:40,960 Speaker 2: was created by very serious outdoor enthusiasts who realized that 143 00:08:41,480 --> 00:08:44,880 Speaker 2: their idea of fun was very different to the average person. 144 00:08:45,160 --> 00:08:47,920 Speaker 2: You know, they didn't find much pleasure in going to 145 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:51,200 Speaker 2: the movies, but they could run one hundred miles and 146 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 2: feel ecstasy and enjoyment. Like nothing else. They could cycle 147 00:08:55,840 --> 00:09:00,000 Speaker 2: until their knees gave out, jump off cliffs, do extreme things. 148 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:03,840 Speaker 2: That was where fun lay for them. So what was 149 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 2: created was this distinction between type one and type two fun. 150 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:11,319 Speaker 2: Type one fun it's very typical. It's enjoyable when it's happening, 151 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:15,480 Speaker 2: going to the beach, classic type one fun, hanging out 152 00:09:15,480 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 2: with your friends, card games, rollercoasters fun. You can opt 153 00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:22,480 Speaker 2: into them and the fund surrounds you. Type two fun 154 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:26,000 Speaker 2: you have to work for. It's very different. It is 155 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 2: the kind of fun that only comes after you have 156 00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 2: completed the activity, not during it. It is the feeling 157 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:39,400 Speaker 2: of doing something difficult and almost hating it, like feeling uncomfortable, 158 00:09:39,720 --> 00:09:44,480 Speaker 2: but having this predominant feeling of adventure and accomplishment and enjoyment. 159 00:09:45,080 --> 00:09:48,480 Speaker 2: Now you're probably thinking, what, that's just relief, right, That's 160 00:09:48,520 --> 00:09:52,560 Speaker 2: the relief of finishing something not necessarily. You know, you're 161 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:56,200 Speaker 2: not going to finish a major assignment or a larger 162 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:59,560 Speaker 2: work project and be like that was fun. Who we're 163 00:09:59,559 --> 00:10:02,400 Speaker 2: going to be like, thank gosh, that's over. Type two 164 00:10:02,440 --> 00:10:06,400 Speaker 2: fun is specifically to do with things that are still 165 00:10:07,160 --> 00:10:10,320 Speaker 2: leisure and that are not required of you, but that 166 00:10:10,360 --> 00:10:14,400 Speaker 2: you opt into and that you work towards what you're experiencing. 167 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:18,880 Speaker 2: When you experience type two fun is called harmonious passion. 168 00:10:19,360 --> 00:10:22,640 Speaker 2: It is being absorbed in an activity that you choose 169 00:10:22,679 --> 00:10:25,120 Speaker 2: to do because you love it and you love how 170 00:10:25,160 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 2: it makes you feel, even when it's not making you 171 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 2: happy at the time. So there's also this final category 172 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:35,040 Speaker 2: of fun called type three fun. This is the kind 173 00:10:35,080 --> 00:10:37,360 Speaker 2: of fun. It's not fun in the moment, it's not 174 00:10:37,440 --> 00:10:40,240 Speaker 2: fun in retrospect, but it makes a good story. It's 175 00:10:40,240 --> 00:10:43,280 Speaker 2: a story or an experience that bonds two people together. 176 00:10:43,679 --> 00:10:46,600 Speaker 2: So being chased by a bear on a hike that's 177 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:49,160 Speaker 2: type three fun. Type three fun we're kind of going 178 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:52,400 Speaker 2: to ignore here. The argument that is typically made is 179 00:10:52,440 --> 00:10:54,959 Speaker 2: that it's very easy to just have type one fun 180 00:10:55,040 --> 00:10:58,240 Speaker 2: these days. Anything that gets out dopamine going, that connects 181 00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:00,760 Speaker 2: us is type one fun. We need to be having 182 00:11:00,800 --> 00:11:05,360 Speaker 2: more type too fun. We cannot just reserve hard work 183 00:11:05,480 --> 00:11:08,440 Speaker 2: for things that don't bring us joy or that aren't 184 00:11:08,880 --> 00:11:11,640 Speaker 2: things we want to do. We have to use hard 185 00:11:11,679 --> 00:11:14,640 Speaker 2: work for things that will challenge and excite us in 186 00:11:14,679 --> 00:11:20,080 Speaker 2: a fantastic, leisurely, self directed way. The thing is we 187 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:22,200 Speaker 2: know that fun is doing good things for our brains 188 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:24,920 Speaker 2: and for our bodies and for our social connections. There's 189 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:28,680 Speaker 2: not necessarily something that we can prescribe, Like your doctor 190 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:32,920 Speaker 2: isn't going to prescribe you an amusement park. They're not 191 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:36,560 Speaker 2: going to give you a pill full of fun. I 192 00:11:36,600 --> 00:11:40,560 Speaker 2: find this statement like are you having fun? So interesting. 193 00:11:40,600 --> 00:11:43,520 Speaker 2: It's like are you having dinner? Are you having a 194 00:11:43,559 --> 00:11:47,960 Speaker 2: glass of wine? Are you having this thing we call fun? 195 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:50,640 Speaker 2: Like it's something that we can serve up or that 196 00:11:50,679 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 2: we can buy, or we can consume or create a 197 00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:56,680 Speaker 2: dosage of. What we really need to be focused on 198 00:11:57,160 --> 00:12:01,920 Speaker 2: is everyday behaviors and ways that one is reinforced in 199 00:12:01,920 --> 00:12:04,280 Speaker 2: our minds as a priority. So let's talk about that. 200 00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:06,960 Speaker 2: Let's talk about the six ways you can integrate fun 201 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:09,800 Speaker 2: as a daily practice, the same way you shower, the 202 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:14,079 Speaker 2: same way you make breakfast, the same way you exercise. 203 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:17,360 Speaker 2: The first way that we can be having more fun 204 00:12:18,040 --> 00:12:20,719 Speaker 2: is to put fun on the calendar and to be 205 00:12:20,800 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 2: deliberate about it. The reason I found I couldn't allow 206 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:28,840 Speaker 2: myself time to have fun is not because I didn't 207 00:12:28,880 --> 00:12:31,920 Speaker 2: have the time or I didn't have the space. It's 208 00:12:31,960 --> 00:12:35,520 Speaker 2: because I didn't make the space. I didn't make the time. 209 00:12:35,880 --> 00:12:41,040 Speaker 2: Your life is truly made of the things that you prioritize. 210 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:43,439 Speaker 2: That's a choice that you get to make. And I'm 211 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:46,480 Speaker 2: going to ask you a very serious question. How much 212 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:50,720 Speaker 2: time do you prioritize spending on your phone each day? 213 00:12:51,240 --> 00:12:53,480 Speaker 2: How much time do you spend staying late at the 214 00:12:53,520 --> 00:12:57,040 Speaker 2: office or the library when you don't actually have anything 215 00:12:57,080 --> 00:12:59,679 Speaker 2: to do. How much time do you spend doing things 216 00:12:59,720 --> 00:13:03,559 Speaker 2: for other people that probably won't appreciate it. Not being 217 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:08,680 Speaker 2: intentional accidentally ends up causing us to prioritize things we 218 00:13:08,720 --> 00:13:10,880 Speaker 2: don't actually see is important, or that we shouldn't see 219 00:13:10,960 --> 00:13:14,480 Speaker 2: is important. So this is the challenge. Once a week, 220 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 2: I want you to take an afternoon, even an evening, 221 00:13:18,360 --> 00:13:21,640 Speaker 2: or a whole day off on the weekends to schedule 222 00:13:21,679 --> 00:13:24,480 Speaker 2: in fun the same way you would schedule in a 223 00:13:24,559 --> 00:13:27,520 Speaker 2: check in with your boss. Perhaps you can even adapt 224 00:13:27,559 --> 00:13:29,880 Speaker 2: this to be once a month, whatever works for you. 225 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:32,680 Speaker 2: Once a month, you take yourself out of town for 226 00:13:32,760 --> 00:13:36,079 Speaker 2: a fun day, you do an activity the way I've 227 00:13:36,120 --> 00:13:38,120 Speaker 2: integrated this, but there's a couple of ways. But the 228 00:13:38,160 --> 00:13:41,320 Speaker 2: first is that I've made a bucket list of sorts 229 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:43,520 Speaker 2: of all the things that i want to do in Sydney, 230 00:13:43,559 --> 00:13:46,079 Speaker 2: in the city that I live that I am working 231 00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:48,840 Speaker 2: to tick off. And I say work because that's sometimes 232 00:13:48,840 --> 00:13:51,160 Speaker 2: what it feels like at the beginning. It's always going 233 00:13:51,240 --> 00:13:54,480 Speaker 2: to feel like work when you are changing your routine. 234 00:13:54,960 --> 00:13:58,360 Speaker 2: But it takes on average three months for something to 235 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:01,439 Speaker 2: become a habit, three months according to the European Journal 236 00:14:01,440 --> 00:14:04,840 Speaker 2: of Social Psychology. So if you make fun of practice, 237 00:14:05,480 --> 00:14:08,800 Speaker 2: that's literally only twelve weeks before it is an in 238 00:14:08,880 --> 00:14:11,520 Speaker 2: built part of your life. Here's another way that I'm 239 00:14:11,679 --> 00:14:15,640 Speaker 2: integrating this. It's called the Sunday Dilly Deli. And I'm 240 00:14:15,679 --> 00:14:18,800 Speaker 2: almost at two months of doing the Dilly Deli, so 241 00:14:18,800 --> 00:14:20,680 Speaker 2: I've got one more month before hopefully it's a habit. 242 00:14:20,720 --> 00:14:23,040 Speaker 2: But this is how it works. Me and my friends, 243 00:14:23,080 --> 00:14:25,280 Speaker 2: we have our run club in the mornings on Sundays. 244 00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:28,280 Speaker 2: We call it Anti social social run Club. We meet 245 00:14:28,160 --> 00:14:31,360 Speaker 2: at eight thirty at the park. We don't even run together, 246 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:34,600 Speaker 2: like we do not even run together. We have our 247 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:37,520 Speaker 2: headphones in the entire time, but we meet back at 248 00:14:37,560 --> 00:14:40,400 Speaker 2: the same spot after about an hour and then we 249 00:14:40,440 --> 00:14:43,160 Speaker 2: all go and we do chores together. And we have 250 00:14:43,680 --> 00:14:49,560 Speaker 2: no agenda, no plan, no timeline. The only objective is 251 00:14:49,600 --> 00:14:52,600 Speaker 2: to dilly DEALI if you want to go and try 252 00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:55,400 Speaker 2: all the samples at the deli, Okay, we don't, Yeah, 253 00:14:55,480 --> 00:14:58,160 Speaker 2: let's do it. We want to buy new shoes, that's fine. 254 00:14:58,160 --> 00:15:00,480 Speaker 2: You want to randomly get your ears? Do you want 255 00:15:00,520 --> 00:15:04,040 Speaker 2: to get your haircut? Great? And you know, my friends 256 00:15:04,080 --> 00:15:07,400 Speaker 2: are all these really impressive people, their social workers, their 257 00:15:07,400 --> 00:15:10,400 Speaker 2: department heads, their lawyers, And what we always say at 258 00:15:10,440 --> 00:15:12,200 Speaker 2: the end of this is like, isn't it just so 259 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:16,120 Speaker 2: nice for one day of our weeks to not be structured, 260 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:20,360 Speaker 2: to allow us to have fun in an organic way. 261 00:15:21,240 --> 00:15:24,120 Speaker 2: Before this, I think it even felt like sometimes my 262 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:27,680 Speaker 2: Saturdays and Sundays were like becoming workdays for me, because 263 00:15:28,360 --> 00:15:30,240 Speaker 2: I would still be working, first of all, but I 264 00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 2: would also be scheduling in people, and I felt pressure 265 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:36,120 Speaker 2: to be the most productive I could be with my 266 00:15:36,280 --> 00:15:39,720 Speaker 2: free time, which is ridiculous and such an oxymoron. But 267 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:43,880 Speaker 2: the dilly dally has been the solution for me, So 268 00:15:44,080 --> 00:15:47,360 Speaker 2: scheduling your fun. If you don't make something a conscious priority, 269 00:15:47,760 --> 00:15:50,600 Speaker 2: it will slip through the cracks, especially when there are 270 00:15:51,240 --> 00:15:54,080 Speaker 2: objectively millions of other things that you could do with 271 00:15:54,200 --> 00:15:56,920 Speaker 2: that time. The thing to ask yourself is why do 272 00:15:57,040 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 2: I see those other things that are often chores or 273 00:15:59,760 --> 00:16:02,600 Speaker 2: requirements of me is more important than my enjoyment. The 274 00:16:02,680 --> 00:16:05,280 Speaker 2: dilly deli example actually brings me to tip number two, 275 00:16:05,320 --> 00:16:08,280 Speaker 2: and it was inspired by a study titled fun is 276 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:11,680 Speaker 2: more fun when others are involved. You need to invite 277 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:16,880 Speaker 2: people into your deliberate, delightful moments and it will make 278 00:16:16,920 --> 00:16:19,440 Speaker 2: them better. So the study I was talking about it 279 00:16:19,480 --> 00:16:23,120 Speaker 2: was conducted in twenty sixteen and the researchers recruited one 280 00:16:23,200 --> 00:16:25,880 Speaker 2: hundred and nineteen individuals, some of them in New York, Arizona, 281 00:16:26,280 --> 00:16:29,920 Speaker 2: across the United States, and they would essentially call these 282 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:34,280 Speaker 2: individuals multiple times a day and ask them, Hey, what 283 00:16:34,320 --> 00:16:37,280 Speaker 2: are you up to? Are you enjoying yourself? Are you alone? 284 00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:40,120 Speaker 2: Are you having fun? Are you with others? They then 285 00:16:40,120 --> 00:16:43,000 Speaker 2: also included a bunch of other psychometrics and measures for 286 00:16:43,640 --> 00:16:47,480 Speaker 2: low arousal and positive affect So basically they wanted to 287 00:16:47,560 --> 00:16:51,440 Speaker 2: know was someone calm, with someone relaxed, were they content 288 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:54,520 Speaker 2: at ease, or were they stressed? And what they found 289 00:16:54,640 --> 00:16:59,560 Speaker 2: These results were so clear, fun experienced with other people 290 00:17:00,200 --> 00:17:04,320 Speaker 2: is more positive and more enjoyable than solitary fun. Actually, 291 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:06,679 Speaker 2: they even want to step further and said that just 292 00:17:06,760 --> 00:17:12,200 Speaker 2: having other people around us, specifically friends, automatically activates a 293 00:17:12,240 --> 00:17:16,800 Speaker 2: pre fun mindset and state. Now the highest form of 294 00:17:16,840 --> 00:17:21,679 Speaker 2: fun amongst friends, it's actually learning something new together or 295 00:17:21,720 --> 00:17:25,040 Speaker 2: engaging in an activity. This could also be known as 296 00:17:25,119 --> 00:17:28,720 Speaker 2: parallel play. I love the term parallel play. It's something 297 00:17:28,760 --> 00:17:33,320 Speaker 2: that was borrowed from developmental psychology, and it basically refers 298 00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:37,480 Speaker 2: to two people being together in the same room doing 299 00:17:37,520 --> 00:17:41,720 Speaker 2: things side by side without necessarily doing the same thing. 300 00:17:41,760 --> 00:17:45,680 Speaker 2: They're just enjoying each other's presence and conversation, and that, 301 00:17:45,920 --> 00:17:50,160 Speaker 2: for us is fun. It really activates some very primal 302 00:17:50,359 --> 00:17:56,359 Speaker 2: human instinct for community and this idea that enjoyment needs 303 00:17:56,359 --> 00:17:59,560 Speaker 2: to be shared. Fun needs to be shared. I think 304 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:04,600 Speaker 2: parallel play also removes the pressure to be on all 305 00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:08,160 Speaker 2: the time and to fill the space with just talking 306 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:12,879 Speaker 2: or to constantly maintain emotional openness and focus. You know, 307 00:18:12,920 --> 00:18:14,760 Speaker 2: at this time in my life, sometimes I'm just too 308 00:18:14,800 --> 00:18:17,960 Speaker 2: exhausted to just sit with someone for three hours and 309 00:18:18,040 --> 00:18:21,480 Speaker 2: talk and have dinner. Fun is like the easy way 310 00:18:22,080 --> 00:18:26,040 Speaker 2: to still really enjoy someone's presence, but to be doing 311 00:18:26,040 --> 00:18:29,719 Speaker 2: things independently that you equally enjoy. There is this amazing 312 00:18:29,840 --> 00:18:32,919 Speaker 2: article from the New York Times. It's titled Let's ignore 313 00:18:32,960 --> 00:18:36,520 Speaker 2: each other in the same room, and it basically articulates 314 00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:39,560 Speaker 2: how much this kind of practice and these kinds of 315 00:18:39,600 --> 00:18:43,200 Speaker 2: activities are really essential for us, especially in this day 316 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:45,880 Speaker 2: and age, when it is a lot easier to interact 317 00:18:45,880 --> 00:18:50,399 Speaker 2: and maintain social bonds online. Parallel play might just be 318 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:53,320 Speaker 2: the solution. Okay, we're going to take a short break, 319 00:18:53,560 --> 00:18:57,280 Speaker 2: but when we return, let's discuss my final three tips, 320 00:18:57,320 --> 00:19:01,800 Speaker 2: including some contributions from you guy the listeners, on how 321 00:19:01,840 --> 00:19:04,760 Speaker 2: to make life more fun. A few of these suggestions 322 00:19:04,800 --> 00:19:09,399 Speaker 2: were genuinely hilarious and also genius, so stay tuned after 323 00:19:09,440 --> 00:19:18,159 Speaker 2: this short break. Having fun and being silly seem to 324 00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:20,879 Speaker 2: go hand in hand. Sometimes they're seen as synonymous. And 325 00:19:20,920 --> 00:19:23,240 Speaker 2: this really brings me to my third tip for making 326 00:19:23,280 --> 00:19:28,159 Speaker 2: everyday life more fun. Turn mundane things into a game. 327 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:32,399 Speaker 2: Pair a thing you hate doing with something that is 328 00:19:32,440 --> 00:19:37,680 Speaker 2: like just short of feeling stupid, but so enjoyable. So 329 00:19:37,920 --> 00:19:42,080 Speaker 2: this kind of strategy, it's actually called lifestyle gamification, and 330 00:19:42,119 --> 00:19:45,440 Speaker 2: it was a method that I believe was first emerging 331 00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:47,879 Speaker 2: as a way to help people with video game addictions. 332 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:53,120 Speaker 2: So these individuals were becoming addicted to the artificial environments 333 00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:57,280 Speaker 2: presented by video games, where things were rewarded and it 334 00:19:57,320 --> 00:20:00,960 Speaker 2: was you could win, and nothing was too serious and 335 00:20:01,040 --> 00:20:04,840 Speaker 2: it was magical and amazing, and people would obviously become 336 00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:07,400 Speaker 2: engrossed in that. And to get them out of that, 337 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:11,240 Speaker 2: these researchers were basically like, what if we turn everyday 338 00:20:11,280 --> 00:20:14,040 Speaker 2: life into a game. You could do this for yourself. 339 00:20:14,119 --> 00:20:16,960 Speaker 2: Think about a chore you hate, the thing you hate 340 00:20:17,040 --> 00:20:19,600 Speaker 2: most in the world having to do. How can you 341 00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:22,680 Speaker 2: gamify this so that it's more enjoyable. And I'll give 342 00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:26,080 Speaker 2: you an example. I have this terrible habit of making 343 00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:29,520 Speaker 2: an absolute disgrace of my house in the mornings. If 344 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:32,760 Speaker 2: you're like gross admitting it, because it's like my little sacret. 345 00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:35,479 Speaker 2: But I never put things back where they belong. I 346 00:20:35,560 --> 00:20:39,840 Speaker 2: just like throw things everywhere. But I also despise not 347 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:44,119 Speaker 2: having a tidy house. When I go to bed, you know, 348 00:20:44,119 --> 00:20:46,600 Speaker 2: if there are clothes on the floor, if things are 349 00:20:46,600 --> 00:20:50,359 Speaker 2: not in order, I'm not sleeping. Well, two different people 350 00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:53,119 Speaker 2: are operating in the morning and in the evening. In 351 00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:57,240 Speaker 2: my brain, major contradiction. But my sister taught me this trick, 352 00:20:57,440 --> 00:20:59,520 Speaker 2: and she calls it ten minutes to save the World, 353 00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:02,520 Speaker 2: where she puts on a ten minute timer and she 354 00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:06,520 Speaker 2: has ten minutes to clean as much as possible before 355 00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:08,720 Speaker 2: the timer goes off, or she will do it for 356 00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:10,639 Speaker 2: five minutes and just see if she can get all 357 00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:13,960 Speaker 2: the dishes done. And it's like this race and suddenly 358 00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:16,320 Speaker 2: perhaps what is probably the worst part of your day 359 00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:19,560 Speaker 2: has this new kind of fun glimmer to it. And 360 00:21:19,560 --> 00:21:22,680 Speaker 2: it's not just fun, it's also motivational. There was even 361 00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:26,439 Speaker 2: an app developed to help people with this I need 362 00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:30,000 Speaker 2: I think it's called Habit RPG, and it essentially lets 363 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:32,840 Speaker 2: you choose habits you want to promote and habits you 364 00:21:32,880 --> 00:21:35,399 Speaker 2: want to kick, and it ties them to real life 365 00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:39,639 Speaker 2: rewards in like a super gamified, enjoyable way, and you 366 00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:40,800 Speaker 2: can even create teams. 367 00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:41,680 Speaker 1: So it is. 368 00:21:41,720 --> 00:21:44,639 Speaker 2: Literally like a video game, and it's turning things that 369 00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:47,880 Speaker 2: we would ordinarily hate and that might suck joy out 370 00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:51,240 Speaker 2: of your life into a game in a more simple way. 371 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:54,680 Speaker 2: You can also play into any area of your life, 372 00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:58,040 Speaker 2: not just something that is annoying or frustrating. You can 373 00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:00,159 Speaker 2: try not to step on the tracks on your way 374 00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:01,800 Speaker 2: to the train in the morning. You can see how 375 00:22:01,840 --> 00:22:05,040 Speaker 2: many times you can spot someone wearing the same shoes. 376 00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:09,000 Speaker 2: Place imaginary bets on what the people next to you 377 00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:11,119 Speaker 2: at lunch are going to order. With your friends, I 378 00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:14,439 Speaker 2: think it's just inviting this open like, just being open 379 00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:18,240 Speaker 2: to how like silly life kind of is, and how 380 00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:20,399 Speaker 2: so many things that we do are actually like not 381 00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:22,800 Speaker 2: that serious, but we make them so on our mind. 382 00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:26,679 Speaker 2: This implicitly links to our fourth tip, Do things the 383 00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:32,040 Speaker 2: way your childhood self would skip instead of walking. Who 384 00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:34,639 Speaker 2: cares if someone judges you? Eat cereal for dinner, have 385 00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:38,040 Speaker 2: ice cream for breakfast, like watch cartoons. Let yourself be 386 00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:42,040 Speaker 2: unseerious on purpose. Healing you in a child I think 387 00:22:42,040 --> 00:22:44,879 Speaker 2: it really had a moment a few years ago, but 388 00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:48,280 Speaker 2: the value of it hasn't disappeared. Every version of you, 389 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:52,679 Speaker 2: who ever exists, still exists within you. They are holding 390 00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:56,879 Speaker 2: on to memories, They are representing the lessons you learned 391 00:22:56,960 --> 00:23:00,119 Speaker 2: and who you were at certain stages in your life. 392 00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:03,880 Speaker 2: That version of you, with the childlike wonder is still there. 393 00:23:04,720 --> 00:23:09,040 Speaker 2: We contain all these parts, all these roles everyone we 394 00:23:09,119 --> 00:23:12,520 Speaker 2: have ever been, and healing any part of you often 395 00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:18,159 Speaker 2: comes from listening, to acknowledging and honoring those parts, especially 396 00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:19,879 Speaker 2: the younger ones. Who may have had to grow up 397 00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:23,280 Speaker 2: too quickly. And you know I talked about how doctors 398 00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:27,600 Speaker 2: won't prescribe you fun. Sometimes a psychologist or a therapist 399 00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:30,040 Speaker 2: just might if there is a part of you from 400 00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:34,639 Speaker 2: childhood who they believe is still wounded or injured. You 401 00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:38,080 Speaker 2: will find once you start listening to this version of 402 00:23:38,119 --> 00:23:41,560 Speaker 2: you who is silly and playful and innocent, it's very 403 00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:45,440 Speaker 2: easy to slip back into that mindset, not because you're regressing, 404 00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:49,919 Speaker 2: but because you are rebelling against implicit, unconscious forces that 405 00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:53,240 Speaker 2: have told you that this kind of silliness and fun 406 00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:57,280 Speaker 2: isn't available to you anymore. It's not for you. You're 407 00:23:57,280 --> 00:24:01,240 Speaker 2: too old for that, And I'm really here to say no, 408 00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:06,360 Speaker 2: you are not. Silliness and playfulness and fun are not 409 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:10,439 Speaker 2: just reserved for childhood. So what can you do to 410 00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:14,239 Speaker 2: make your daily life more fun by treating it the 411 00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:16,800 Speaker 2: way your five year old self, maybe even your ten 412 00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:20,119 Speaker 2: year old self would have. What things would they be 413 00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:23,199 Speaker 2: fascinated by? What are the things you always asked for 414 00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:26,080 Speaker 2: as a kid or wanted that now you have adult 415 00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:31,040 Speaker 2: money you can kind of provide genuinely when you start 416 00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:33,480 Speaker 2: thinking this way, like the world is your oyster. Do 417 00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:35,760 Speaker 2: you know how much fun it is to get on 418 00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:38,919 Speaker 2: a train if you're imagining your five year old self 419 00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:41,280 Speaker 2: getting on the train with you. There's just so much 420 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:44,200 Speaker 2: that you see and that you appreciate that your adult 421 00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:47,840 Speaker 2: mind doesn't. There's so many things that like surprise you 422 00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:51,560 Speaker 2: about the world. Once you deliberately say, hey, maybe the 423 00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:55,120 Speaker 2: random stuff I take for granted is actually really really special, 424 00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:58,199 Speaker 2: and initially it is going to feel strange. You know 425 00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:01,680 Speaker 2: that that's the social conditioning kick in the social conditioning 426 00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:05,000 Speaker 2: that's saying you're an adult, now behave like one, and 427 00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,600 Speaker 2: then acting like a child sometimes is going to feel 428 00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:11,480 Speaker 2: really really liberating. And you know what, who cares if 429 00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:14,879 Speaker 2: you feel weird or cringe? I think feeling cringe is 430 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:18,719 Speaker 2: better than feeling joyless, and better than feeling cold, and 431 00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:22,040 Speaker 2: better than never trying anything new. And I always say 432 00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:24,400 Speaker 2: this if you're a longtime listener of the show. People 433 00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:27,480 Speaker 2: who are weird and who are fune and who threw 434 00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:30,640 Speaker 2: caution to the wind, they're the most interesting people out there. 435 00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:33,960 Speaker 2: I want to now quickly give some airtime to the 436 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:38,520 Speaker 2: tips that you all the wonderful listeners sent in about 437 00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:41,560 Speaker 2: how you are making life more fun for yourself in 438 00:25:41,600 --> 00:25:45,280 Speaker 2: the most nache and interesting ways. So I went on Instagram, 439 00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:48,440 Speaker 2: and I was like, I'm in a crowdsource some joyful, 440 00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:52,440 Speaker 2: delightful activities, and a lot of them were somewhat similar. 441 00:25:52,520 --> 00:25:56,040 Speaker 2: It was like romanticize dance, sing, and then some of 442 00:25:56,080 --> 00:25:59,240 Speaker 2: you were just so creative. And I will say, there's 443 00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:01,520 Speaker 2: a couple of these I have done, and I had 444 00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:05,199 Speaker 2: so much fun doing it. It made me feel so 445 00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:08,280 Speaker 2: peaceful when I went to sleep at night. Okay, here's 446 00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:11,679 Speaker 2: the list. Buying small bundles of flowers to make my 447 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:15,440 Speaker 2: own bouquets for family and friends. I read my book 448 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:17,360 Speaker 2: at a coffee shop for an hour, and I call 449 00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:22,000 Speaker 2: it book camping. I love that neurf war with my roommates. 450 00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:26,840 Speaker 2: Yes please, I chase my partner around the house and 451 00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:30,320 Speaker 2: we play tag. I actually do that one. This one 452 00:26:30,440 --> 00:26:33,000 Speaker 2: was so funny and I've been thinking about it all day. 453 00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:39,320 Speaker 2: Go to karaoke and use the microphone to gossip, which like, yes, 454 00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:43,280 Speaker 2: that's hilarious. This person said, always have bubbles or party 455 00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:47,080 Speaker 2: poppers in a small jar in my house for small accomplishments. 456 00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:50,600 Speaker 2: Me and my friend schedule meetings with each other throughout 457 00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:54,520 Speaker 2: company emails, even though we work in a completely different place, 458 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:57,880 Speaker 2: and we jump on business calls with each other. Once 459 00:26:57,920 --> 00:27:00,840 Speaker 2: a week when I go running, I try to smile 460 00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:04,520 Speaker 2: at everyone who I run past. This person just said trinkets. 461 00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:07,920 Speaker 2: Another person said dance party at least once a day. 462 00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:10,640 Speaker 2: This one I thought was really really sweet. I keep 463 00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:14,040 Speaker 2: stickers in my cash register to give the kids at work. 464 00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:18,080 Speaker 2: How joyful is that. I want you to notice something 465 00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:21,880 Speaker 2: about all these suggestions. None of them cost more than 466 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:26,760 Speaker 2: twenty dollars. In fact, most of them are free. That's 467 00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:30,520 Speaker 2: the brilliant thing about fun that we mentioned before. Fun 468 00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:34,560 Speaker 2: is probably one of the most affordable medicines. It's one 469 00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:40,520 Speaker 2: of the most affordable wellness trends, most affordable health remedy 470 00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:44,760 Speaker 2: you will probably ever encounter. And I think the things 471 00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:47,280 Speaker 2: that we take for granted are sometimes the things that 472 00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:52,080 Speaker 2: come to us most easily, like breathing, like spending time 473 00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:56,639 Speaker 2: in nature, like connecting with someone, like having fun. So 474 00:27:57,240 --> 00:28:00,600 Speaker 2: I hope that this episode has persuaded you in some 475 00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:04,399 Speaker 2: small way to make this a daily practice. If you 476 00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:07,280 Speaker 2: do any of these things, take a photo, tag me 477 00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:09,720 Speaker 2: in it. I want to see it. Message me. If 478 00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:12,800 Speaker 2: you do anything from that list and tell me how 479 00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:15,600 Speaker 2: it goes, especially if you do the karaoke one, because 480 00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:17,879 Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm just so fascinated by that. Whoever 481 00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:21,240 Speaker 2: set that in, Like you have changed, You've changed my 482 00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:23,920 Speaker 2: mind about so many things. I feel like I need 483 00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:25,439 Speaker 2: to go and do that, like treat it like a 484 00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:29,000 Speaker 2: podcast almost, But this is something I want to be honest, 485 00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:32,119 Speaker 2: I'm still working on myself, and I know there are 486 00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:37,480 Speaker 2: a lot of excuses to not feel joyful, and I 487 00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:39,920 Speaker 2: know there are a lot of excuses that I personally 488 00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:45,280 Speaker 2: am making myself to not just take a freakin afternoon off, 489 00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:48,280 Speaker 2: to not just say yes to things that are silly. 490 00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:53,160 Speaker 2: And I have never once regretted having fun, but I 491 00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:57,280 Speaker 2: have a lot of times regretted saying no to opportunities 492 00:28:57,560 --> 00:29:01,479 Speaker 2: for fun. Just the simple math that I think is 493 00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:05,680 Speaker 2: persuasive enough for me from a very utilitarian perspective, fun 494 00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:09,120 Speaker 2: is regret proof. So I hope you enjoyed this episode. 495 00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:12,720 Speaker 2: Make sure that you are either subscribed on YouTube or 496 00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:17,320 Speaker 2: you were subscribed on Spotify, Apple turnal notifications so you 497 00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:19,840 Speaker 2: know when new episodes come out. And you can also 498 00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:22,360 Speaker 2: share this episode with a friend someone who you think 499 00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:25,480 Speaker 2: might get a real kick out of it someone you 500 00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:27,960 Speaker 2: think may or may not need some more fun in 501 00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:31,240 Speaker 2: their life. I really enjoyed speaking about this, probably one 502 00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:33,720 Speaker 2: of my favorite episodes I've ever made. So if you've 503 00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:36,680 Speaker 2: made it this far, leave a little emoji that represents 504 00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:40,000 Speaker 2: fun for you in the comments, and until next time, 505 00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:44,760 Speaker 2: stay safe, be kind, have more fun, be gentle with yourself, 506 00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:46,880 Speaker 2: and we will talk very very soon,