1 00:00:03,200 --> 00:00:06,720 Speaker 1: Hello, my beautiful people. Welcome to your favorite podcast, Cheeky's 2 00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:10,160 Speaker 1: in Chill. This episode is for all of my supporters 3 00:00:10,240 --> 00:00:12,680 Speaker 1: out there, whether you've been with me since day one 4 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:15,840 Speaker 1: or you've recently discovered me through my music or reality 5 00:00:15,880 --> 00:00:19,119 Speaker 1: TV shows. Today, I want to talk about boss the 6 00:00:19,320 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: Nation and what it really means. Okay, I want to 7 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 1: get into it because it's something that sometimes is misunderstood, 8 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:28,800 Speaker 1: and it's also something that has evolved so much throughout 9 00:00:28,840 --> 00:00:30,880 Speaker 1: the years. So I want to explain it to you 10 00:00:30,920 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 1: because some of you may be Boss B's and you 11 00:00:33,440 --> 00:00:36,720 Speaker 1: really don't even know exactly what it means and how 12 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: I came up with the saying. So here we go, 13 00:00:41,720 --> 00:00:43,160 Speaker 1: and I'm going to tell you, guys how this started 14 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:46,320 Speaker 1: and how Boss b Nation was created. When I was 15 00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:49,640 Speaker 1: recording for Cheeky's and Roxy, the first reality show was 16 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:52,479 Speaker 1: a part of, Like in two thousand and nine twenty ten. Gerald, 17 00:00:52,760 --> 00:00:54,680 Speaker 1: he's no longer my friend, but he was my friend then. 18 00:00:55,200 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 1: He would use this thing called Boss Bitch a lot 19 00:00:59,560 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 1: and we would play with it like, oh, I'm a 20 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:03,720 Speaker 1: boss Bitch and there was levels to it. If you 21 00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:06,880 Speaker 1: guys go back and watch those episodes, like you'll you'll 22 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:08,839 Speaker 1: know if you know, you know. If not, I'll explain 23 00:01:08,880 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 1: it here. And so in reality, I can't take full credit. 24 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:18,040 Speaker 1: It was Gerald that started Boss Bitch, but I always 25 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:21,760 Speaker 1: was worried about the youth, and I always thought about, okay, 26 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: bitch is kind of strong, and some people can take 27 00:01:24,959 --> 00:01:29,479 Speaker 1: the word offensively, especially women of course. So I started 28 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:32,840 Speaker 1: thinking about how I can make it more kid friendly, 29 00:01:32,920 --> 00:01:36,600 Speaker 1: I guess, and just softer, not so rough. So that's 30 00:01:36,640 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: how I came up with Boss be. And then I 31 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 1: started looking into the importance of what bees are and 32 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:46,279 Speaker 1: how important they are really to our survival. Guys, these 33 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 1: little insects, these little beautiful flying insects, are so essential 34 00:01:52,880 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: to our ecosystem. Anyway, I won't go there, but you 35 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 1: should check it out. And we have to save the 36 00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:01,960 Speaker 1: bees side note, okay, And so that's how it happened. 37 00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:05,120 Speaker 1: I looked into bees and I like read and researched 38 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:07,920 Speaker 1: about them and what they represent, and then it just 39 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:10,760 Speaker 1: started from there. So it became Boss b b E 40 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:15,480 Speaker 1: And that's how it happened. This happened years ago, and 41 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:20,239 Speaker 1: I feel some people misinterpret it because when you think 42 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: of Boss it's like, oh, she's bossy or she thinks 43 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:27,520 Speaker 1: she's better than she wants to boss people around, and 44 00:02:27,639 --> 00:02:31,240 Speaker 1: that's not the case here at all. And before I 45 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: get into the nitty gritty of what Boss B really represents, 46 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 1: I also was looking because I started getting like fans 47 00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:42,680 Speaker 1: and people following me, and so I felt weird then 48 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:45,839 Speaker 1: calling my fans my fans. I was like, I want 49 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:48,639 Speaker 1: to create some type of community and call them something 50 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:51,840 Speaker 1: other than fans. So that's why I was like, okay, 51 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,240 Speaker 1: Boss B. So it was like, little by little, it 52 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 1: just started flowing and it grew organically on its own, 53 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:01,679 Speaker 1: and I was just really into this whole thing. And 54 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:04,960 Speaker 1: I've always been a person that wants to be a 55 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:09,840 Speaker 1: positive light in the world, which is why I created this. 56 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:13,079 Speaker 1: So that's just another little thing that I wanted to state. 57 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: And in my opinion, Boss can come off a little strong, 58 00:03:18,919 --> 00:03:21,520 Speaker 1: but I think it's important for you guys to understand 59 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:26,360 Speaker 1: what it is. And it represents built on self success. Okay, 60 00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 1: boss built on self success. And when you think of that, 61 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 1: you're thinking, oh, perhaps it's a person that is an 62 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 1: opportunist and they are going to do anything and everything 63 00:03:39,080 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 1: to get where they want. And I don't know I 64 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: don't know what it is that you're thinking, but what 65 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:47,600 Speaker 1: I meant for it to represent is the following. I 66 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 1: wrote some stuff down for you guys. Okay, here we go. 67 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:56,840 Speaker 1: So self defined success, okay, built on self success. Success 68 00:03:56,920 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 1: is not just money or status. It's in a life. 69 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:04,000 Speaker 1: I meant with your values and fulfillment in your own terms, 70 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 1: ownership of your story. How taking responsibility of your life 71 00:04:08,800 --> 00:04:12,560 Speaker 1: puts you in the driver's seat. Daily habits and discipline, 72 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 1: small consistent actions that create big results. Okay, turning obstacles 73 00:04:17,800 --> 00:04:22,960 Speaker 1: into opportunities, using challenges as fuel rather than excuses. Ooh, 74 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:27,920 Speaker 1: play that again. Boundaries and leadership, knowing when to say yes, 75 00:04:28,360 --> 00:04:32,480 Speaker 1: when to say no, and leading yourself before leading others. 76 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:37,279 Speaker 1: That is what I mean. And also comes the aspect 77 00:04:37,440 --> 00:04:41,760 Speaker 1: of faith, because I feel no, I don't feel I know, 78 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:43,840 Speaker 1: I have not been able to get where I am 79 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:47,360 Speaker 1: today if it wasn't for my faith for the Higher Power, 80 00:04:47,920 --> 00:04:49,960 Speaker 1: for whatever it is that you want to call it. 81 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 1: For me, it's God, It's the Higher Power. It's the 82 00:04:52,400 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 1: Creator that has given me the strength to keep going 83 00:04:56,800 --> 00:05:00,839 Speaker 1: in this sometimes very hard world. And that is part 84 00:05:00,880 --> 00:05:04,240 Speaker 1: of my built on self success. That's a huge part 85 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:06,279 Speaker 1: of it. So I wanted to break that down because 86 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:10,880 Speaker 1: a lot of people have this misconception of the word boss. 87 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:12,760 Speaker 1: And that's why it was important for me to talk 88 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:15,280 Speaker 1: about this subject and about Boss B because I want 89 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:17,320 Speaker 1: you guys to feel very proud when you say I'm 90 00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 1: a Boss B. We're boss bees, guys, We're like doing it. 91 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:25,680 Speaker 1: We're trying our best to just survive out here. And 92 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:27,839 Speaker 1: for a long time I was in surviving mode. Guys, 93 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:31,839 Speaker 1: I get it, and now we're thriving. Boss B's okay, 94 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 1: So that's boss. Now we have b b ee. You 95 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:38,520 Speaker 1: think of bees, Yes, we love bees. We love what 96 00:05:38,560 --> 00:05:45,840 Speaker 1: they represent. They represent sweetness, they represent prosperity, they represent spirituality. 97 00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 1: They save us, I mean literally, So that's one part. 98 00:05:50,720 --> 00:05:56,919 Speaker 1: But Bee stands for Babe. Embracing evolution. Now, I wrote 99 00:05:56,920 --> 00:05:58,760 Speaker 1: some things down again because I wanted to break it 100 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:01,280 Speaker 1: down because I didn't want to forget everything. So it's 101 00:06:01,279 --> 00:06:05,120 Speaker 1: the power of embracing change. Growth requires letting go of 102 00:06:05,240 --> 00:06:09,760 Speaker 1: old versions of yourself. Grace is the process being kind 103 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:16,360 Speaker 1: to yourself while evolving. Okay, because life is full of surprises, 104 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:21,600 Speaker 1: ups and downs. Life is could be you know, an 105 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: emotional rollercoaster. So that's why it is important to have 106 00:06:25,279 --> 00:06:29,000 Speaker 1: grace in the process, Okay, stepping into new seasons, not 107 00:06:29,080 --> 00:06:34,200 Speaker 1: fearing reinvention or redirection. Even if you just turn forty 108 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 1: and you feel like, I should already know what I want, 109 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 1: I should already have a baby, I should already be married, 110 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 1: I should already be in a different level of my career. 111 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:49,200 Speaker 1: It's okay. Don't compare your process and your progress with 112 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:54,240 Speaker 1: anyone else's. Do not fear reinvention or redirection. That is 113 00:06:54,560 --> 00:06:59,200 Speaker 1: a babe, embracing evolution. Feminine strength. This one was hard 114 00:06:59,240 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 1: for me. Guys, okay, but feminine stream owning softness, intuition, 115 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:07,799 Speaker 1: and emotional intelligence as power. This was a little difficult 116 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:10,800 Speaker 1: for me. I went through being a people pleaser, and 117 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 1: that stemmed from being quiet and not speaking my mind. 118 00:07:15,400 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 1: Things that I learned and picked up in my household. 119 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:20,400 Speaker 1: Act like a lady h as much as you can, 120 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:23,760 Speaker 1: don't be too outspoken, you know. And I'm like, okay, 121 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:27,440 Speaker 1: so I was just too quiet. Then I learned to 122 00:07:27,480 --> 00:07:29,560 Speaker 1: find the balance within that, and then I became too 123 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 1: masculine because I'm like, oh hell no, I got hurt. 124 00:07:31,760 --> 00:07:34,360 Speaker 1: I'm not going to let any man hurt me. And 125 00:07:34,440 --> 00:07:37,400 Speaker 1: it's finding that balance in our softness and our feminine 126 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:48,000 Speaker 1: and masculine energies, community and connection. How uplifting others during 127 00:07:48,040 --> 00:07:52,440 Speaker 1: your evolution deepens your own journey and that for me, 128 00:07:52,520 --> 00:07:56,160 Speaker 1: that's what boss Be Nation is all about. How we 129 00:07:56,240 --> 00:07:59,360 Speaker 1: came to boss Be Nation. Boss B came first, then 130 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:03,200 Speaker 1: we made it an because I wanted a mission, okay, 131 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 1: and I wanted to invite people on this mission because 132 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:10,200 Speaker 1: I can't do it alone and I know that and 133 00:08:10,480 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 1: I want my boss bees to help me change the world, 134 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:17,240 Speaker 1: one hard at a time. And that is our slogan, 135 00:08:17,280 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 1: that is our motto. That is like what we have 136 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:22,800 Speaker 1: on the Instagram because I really truly believe that like 137 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:25,960 Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be on a huge scale where 138 00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 1: you can change someone's life. You don't have to be 139 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:32,080 Speaker 1: famous to help someone out. You just having the desire 140 00:08:32,160 --> 00:08:34,640 Speaker 1: of helping someone out. And it doesn't have to be public. 141 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:37,160 Speaker 1: It could be quietly. But as long as like you 142 00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:40,840 Speaker 1: know that you're doing your part in this world by 143 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:44,600 Speaker 1: being of service, that also helps you. So that's why 144 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:47,400 Speaker 1: I created boss Be a Nation, and that came from 145 00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:51,480 Speaker 1: a Boss B one of my fans, her name is Raquel, 146 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:55,000 Speaker 1: and we both were into the forty nine Ers. I'm 147 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:57,160 Speaker 1: not into football as much as I was before anyway, 148 00:08:57,160 --> 00:08:59,320 Speaker 1: but forty nine Ers is my first football team that 149 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:02,160 Speaker 1: I loved. And they call it forty nine or Nation 150 00:09:02,280 --> 00:09:05,080 Speaker 1: or nine or nation, and that's why we're like, oh, 151 00:09:05,160 --> 00:09:07,160 Speaker 1: what if we call it Nation? It was her idea. 152 00:09:07,880 --> 00:09:10,079 Speaker 1: I said, heck, yeah, I love it. So that's how 153 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:13,960 Speaker 1: Bossy Nation happened. And now you know it's grown. It's 154 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: been how long we just celebrated. I think February thirteenth 155 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:25,359 Speaker 1: is our anniversary and we created it February thirteenth, twenty fourteen, guys. 156 00:09:25,960 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 1: So yeah, it's been over ten years. And I love 157 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:34,280 Speaker 1: that we're still going hard and we've created this beautiful community. 158 00:09:35,160 --> 00:09:38,080 Speaker 1: A lot of my boss bees have come together, have 159 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:43,280 Speaker 1: gotten married, guys have had babies. Like now, it's so 160 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:46,120 Speaker 1: crazy to me to see like people that have come 161 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:48,560 Speaker 1: to my autograph signings boss Bees and now they have 162 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:52,439 Speaker 1: babies and they're bringing their babies to meet me and 163 00:09:52,520 --> 00:09:55,200 Speaker 1: their fans and they're wearing their be stuff and they're 164 00:09:55,640 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: they came. Like it was just tripping me out, especially 165 00:09:58,240 --> 00:10:01,880 Speaker 1: with the book tour. Just meeting the babies, of my 166 00:10:01,960 --> 00:10:07,080 Speaker 1: boss bees, of my babies. It's the craziest thing. Like, 167 00:10:07,120 --> 00:10:10,800 Speaker 1: for instance, I just mentioned Raquel and her and her 168 00:10:10,840 --> 00:10:14,160 Speaker 1: partner met as boss Bees and they're still together and 169 00:10:14,200 --> 00:10:16,560 Speaker 1: it's been I don't know how many years, at least eight, 170 00:10:17,120 --> 00:10:19,480 Speaker 1: So it's just it's beautiful. It's been a really beautiful thing, 171 00:10:19,679 --> 00:10:21,680 Speaker 1: and I wanted to just explain it and take the 172 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:25,240 Speaker 1: time because it's important to me. Anything that I create, 173 00:10:25,240 --> 00:10:27,960 Speaker 1: anything that I do, there's always a meaning behind it. 174 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:31,000 Speaker 1: There's always a positive message behind it. And that is 175 00:10:31,120 --> 00:10:33,080 Speaker 1: what boss b is. And I'm so proud of it 176 00:10:33,720 --> 00:10:36,800 Speaker 1: because that was the first thing that I created and 177 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:40,280 Speaker 1: I could say is mine, is ours because I wouldn't 178 00:10:40,280 --> 00:10:42,640 Speaker 1: be able to do it without you guys, without my 179 00:10:42,679 --> 00:10:45,400 Speaker 1: boss bees, the people that believe in my vision, the 180 00:10:45,440 --> 00:10:48,920 Speaker 1: people that support me, and we've been able to help 181 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:52,280 Speaker 1: a lot of people. Guys. I've talked about this vaguely, 182 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:56,559 Speaker 1: but I have It's not a nonprofit, but I eventually 183 00:10:56,600 --> 00:11:00,400 Speaker 1: will get there. But my boss Bees that perch, my 184 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:05,080 Speaker 1: merch that purchase mainly my merchandise at my shows or 185 00:11:05,120 --> 00:11:09,120 Speaker 1: even online, that all goes directly. Every single dollar goes 186 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 1: directly into my boss Be account and when I get 187 00:11:14,240 --> 00:11:17,200 Speaker 1: a letter or we go and donate to schools, like 188 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:19,760 Speaker 1: right now, a lot of kids need school supplies. It's 189 00:11:19,840 --> 00:11:22,480 Speaker 1: not just me, guys, it's also you guys. You guys 190 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:24,320 Speaker 1: are also helping, Like I wouldn't be able to do 191 00:11:24,360 --> 00:11:26,120 Speaker 1: this without you guys. Yes, I'm the one that makes 192 00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:28,600 Speaker 1: the initial investment, but you guys go out there and 193 00:11:28,640 --> 00:11:32,640 Speaker 1: purchase it, and we're doing this together. So eventually I 194 00:11:32,679 --> 00:11:34,720 Speaker 1: do want to make it a nonprofit, but right now 195 00:11:34,720 --> 00:11:37,080 Speaker 1: it's just us, and I know a lot of you 196 00:11:37,120 --> 00:11:39,720 Speaker 1: guys believe in the mission and are very aware of 197 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:43,920 Speaker 1: our slogan, which is again changing the world one hard 198 00:11:43,920 --> 00:11:46,400 Speaker 1: at a time. But that's why I wanted to make 199 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:49,520 Speaker 1: this episode and explain to you guys what Boss B 200 00:11:49,679 --> 00:11:52,600 Speaker 1: really means and what it represents and the true meaning 201 00:11:52,640 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 1: behind it, and also how to find balance, you know, 202 00:11:56,240 --> 00:11:59,000 Speaker 1: because I did have a boss be a couple of 203 00:11:59,040 --> 00:12:01,720 Speaker 1: years ago now asked me for advice and said, look, 204 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:05,560 Speaker 1: I know that we're supposed to be beams of light 205 00:12:05,600 --> 00:12:08,080 Speaker 1: in the world and help people out, but there's this 206 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:11,080 Speaker 1: boss Bee that's pissing me off, and how it just 207 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:15,080 Speaker 1: makes me laugh because she was really like concerned. She's like, 208 00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:18,720 Speaker 1: I really want to kick her ass, and I don't 209 00:12:18,760 --> 00:12:21,040 Speaker 1: want to disappoint you, and I really want to be 210 00:12:21,080 --> 00:12:22,680 Speaker 1: a true boss beet, So can you give me some 211 00:12:22,800 --> 00:12:26,080 Speaker 1: advice and calm me down because I don't know what 212 00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:29,280 Speaker 1: else to do because the way she handled things back then, 213 00:12:29,640 --> 00:12:31,320 Speaker 1: she was like, I'm a gangster. I come from the hood. 214 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:33,280 Speaker 1: I'm gonna kick someone's ass, you know. And I'm like, okay, 215 00:12:33,280 --> 00:12:35,640 Speaker 1: I get that. I feel you. There's some people I 216 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:38,720 Speaker 1: want to slap around sometimes, but we're trying to make 217 00:12:38,720 --> 00:12:40,160 Speaker 1: the world a better place here. I was like, you 218 00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:41,640 Speaker 1: know what, it's not worth it. Let me talk to 219 00:12:41,679 --> 00:12:43,520 Speaker 1: her or try to speak to her, so I give 220 00:12:43,559 --> 00:12:46,959 Speaker 1: her advice. The point is that my boss bees really 221 00:12:47,040 --> 00:12:49,240 Speaker 1: take this seriously, and I want you guys to know that. 222 00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:52,719 Speaker 1: I'm so grateful, and I'll say it again and I'll 223 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:55,160 Speaker 1: say it forever. I would not be able to do 224 00:12:55,200 --> 00:12:57,400 Speaker 1: what I'm doing if it wasn't for you guys. On 225 00:12:57,440 --> 00:13:02,360 Speaker 1: those days when I'm feeling down, when I'm feeling disappointed 226 00:13:02,520 --> 00:13:06,080 Speaker 1: in the industry in the world, when I'm like, you 227 00:13:06,080 --> 00:13:08,400 Speaker 1: know what, I'm gonna step away from music or I'm 228 00:13:08,440 --> 00:13:10,040 Speaker 1: just gonna hide out for a little while and I 229 00:13:10,080 --> 00:13:13,160 Speaker 1: read one of your guys's letters that you guys give 230 00:13:13,200 --> 00:13:17,240 Speaker 1: me at my shows or at autograph signing, Like, you 231 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 1: guys make me feel better. I'll go on social media 232 00:13:20,200 --> 00:13:22,920 Speaker 1: and your comments or listening to you guys on Dear 233 00:13:23,000 --> 00:13:27,720 Speaker 1: Cheeky's and it's just it gives me that inspiration. And 234 00:13:27,800 --> 00:13:31,559 Speaker 1: sometimes you guys reinspire me to just keep going and know, Okay, 235 00:13:31,600 --> 00:13:33,640 Speaker 1: we have a mission in this world, and it's not 236 00:13:33,760 --> 00:13:36,199 Speaker 1: always going to be easy, and you're not always gonna 237 00:13:36,240 --> 00:13:40,040 Speaker 1: get it right. And being part of Boss be Nation 238 00:13:40,120 --> 00:13:42,120 Speaker 1: or being a boss b doesn't mean that we're gonna 239 00:13:42,160 --> 00:13:45,079 Speaker 1: be perfect. We're gonna mess up, and we're gonna want 240 00:13:45,080 --> 00:13:47,880 Speaker 1: to kick someone's ass sometimes I get it. I want 241 00:13:47,880 --> 00:13:50,679 Speaker 1: to flip people off on the freeway too, I understand, 242 00:13:51,320 --> 00:13:53,880 Speaker 1: But it's at least us trying. How can I go 243 00:13:53,960 --> 00:13:57,000 Speaker 1: and help someone, How can I commit an act of 244 00:13:57,120 --> 00:14:00,320 Speaker 1: kindness today with someone that I know, or or even 245 00:14:00,360 --> 00:14:02,760 Speaker 1: better with someone that I don't know, even if they're 246 00:14:02,760 --> 00:14:05,200 Speaker 1: not nice, even if they don't receive it, well, at 247 00:14:05,240 --> 00:14:07,280 Speaker 1: least I know I did my best and I tried. 248 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:10,760 Speaker 1: Hopefully they do. Hopefully it's reciprocated, It's not always going 249 00:14:10,840 --> 00:14:14,680 Speaker 1: to be reciprocated. Don't let that discourage you, don't let 250 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:17,760 Speaker 1: that stop you from being who you are meant to be. 251 00:14:18,559 --> 00:14:21,800 Speaker 1: Don't let anyone change your essence. And these are all 252 00:14:21,880 --> 00:14:25,360 Speaker 1: things and reminders for myself guys as well. So everything 253 00:14:25,440 --> 00:14:28,160 Speaker 1: that I do, it's not because I'm perfect and because 254 00:14:28,160 --> 00:14:30,640 Speaker 1: I have it all together. Sometimes I have it all together, 255 00:14:30,960 --> 00:14:33,480 Speaker 1: sometimes I don't. Sometimes I'm in a great mood, sometimes 256 00:14:33,520 --> 00:14:37,040 Speaker 1: I'm not. I've just learned not to fake the funk. Now. 257 00:14:37,080 --> 00:14:39,120 Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what, I'm not feeling good today. 258 00:14:39,200 --> 00:14:42,800 Speaker 1: I'm not one hundred today. I'm twenty percent today actually, 259 00:14:43,240 --> 00:14:45,480 Speaker 1: and what can you do to make me feel better? 260 00:14:45,880 --> 00:14:54,040 Speaker 1: And vice versa? Right, So I do want to talk 261 00:14:54,040 --> 00:14:58,000 Speaker 1: a little bit about balancing the strength between Boss and B. 262 00:14:58,000 --> 00:15:01,120 Speaker 1: Boss I think is a strength and then be is 263 00:15:01,160 --> 00:15:04,280 Speaker 1: the grace that comes with time, that comes with practice. 264 00:15:04,480 --> 00:15:07,600 Speaker 1: And I don't want to get into it fully because 265 00:15:07,600 --> 00:15:09,680 Speaker 1: more than anything, this episode was meant for you, guys 266 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:14,720 Speaker 1: to just understand what it truly means Boss B. And 267 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:17,720 Speaker 1: you're gonna probably have to replay this episode a few times, 268 00:15:17,800 --> 00:15:21,320 Speaker 1: and that's okay. Hit it, girl, Give us those downloads. 269 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:24,440 Speaker 1: Share this episode, help your friend out so that we 270 00:15:24,480 --> 00:15:29,040 Speaker 1: can continue helping the world because we're doing this together again. 271 00:15:29,600 --> 00:15:32,160 Speaker 1: So remember, guys, you don't have to have it all together. 272 00:15:32,600 --> 00:15:35,360 Speaker 1: You don't have to have it all figured out. You 273 00:15:35,440 --> 00:15:38,440 Speaker 1: just have to keep building and keep evolving. That's what 274 00:15:38,480 --> 00:15:41,320 Speaker 1: it is, you know. So I do have some little 275 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:43,360 Speaker 1: tips for you guys as well. If you want to 276 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:45,320 Speaker 1: become a boss B and you don't have to say, oh, 277 00:15:45,320 --> 00:15:52,520 Speaker 1: I'm a boss B. No, just practice and adopt these suggestions. Okay, 278 00:15:53,360 --> 00:15:57,040 Speaker 1: create a personal definition of success. What is your definition 279 00:15:57,120 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 1: of success? It could be different from mine. Everyone's definition 280 00:15:59,720 --> 00:16:03,720 Speaker 1: of success is different. Obviously. There are some people that 281 00:16:03,760 --> 00:16:07,040 Speaker 1: think success is having flashy stuff, is being very rich. 282 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:10,360 Speaker 1: Other people feel like success is going out to the 283 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:14,400 Speaker 1: mountains and being by yourself and just not being involved 284 00:16:14,440 --> 00:16:17,400 Speaker 1: with all the chaos of the world. I don't know. 285 00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:21,440 Speaker 1: It is important that you create a personal definition of success. 286 00:16:21,520 --> 00:16:24,600 Speaker 1: This is just my opinion and what has worked for 287 00:16:24,680 --> 00:16:29,320 Speaker 1: me and what I've gone through personally, right, and what 288 00:16:29,360 --> 00:16:32,840 Speaker 1: I've been able to sobre vi what's the word of 289 00:16:32,880 --> 00:16:36,120 Speaker 1: so revivire that I've been able to thrive from or 290 00:16:36,160 --> 00:16:39,200 Speaker 1: survive from whatever you want to call it. Okay, moving forward, 291 00:16:39,680 --> 00:16:43,040 Speaker 1: commit to one habit that moves you toward your goals. 292 00:16:44,520 --> 00:16:46,960 Speaker 1: Habits are important. We talk about the habits a lot here, guys, 293 00:16:47,480 --> 00:16:51,880 Speaker 1: habits routine. Again, I fall off my routine, it happens. 294 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:54,640 Speaker 1: We try to create habits. Remember it takes twenty one 295 00:16:54,760 --> 00:16:58,359 Speaker 1: days to create a habit, so be patient. It's a process. 296 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:02,760 Speaker 1: Identify an area where you need to embrace change. Change 297 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:06,479 Speaker 1: is uncomfortable. I know a lot of people don't like change. 298 00:17:07,160 --> 00:17:10,040 Speaker 1: I don't really like it, but I'm learning to like 299 00:17:10,080 --> 00:17:13,560 Speaker 1: it because I know that with change comes growth and 300 00:17:13,880 --> 00:17:18,680 Speaker 1: I want to become the best version of myself today 301 00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:21,439 Speaker 1: right now. Some days I'll have bad days. Like the 302 00:17:21,480 --> 00:17:23,080 Speaker 1: other day, I was like, I'm not feeling good. I'm 303 00:17:23,080 --> 00:17:25,560 Speaker 1: gonna go lay my ass down, take a nap, and 304 00:17:25,640 --> 00:17:29,800 Speaker 1: chill out. And I felt better afterward. So just know 305 00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:33,679 Speaker 1: that again, it's a process, and this is part of 306 00:17:33,720 --> 00:17:36,840 Speaker 1: being a boss. B is embracing these changes and knowing 307 00:17:37,640 --> 00:17:42,120 Speaker 1: that this is a journey forever. This is a forever journey, guys. 308 00:17:42,160 --> 00:17:44,760 Speaker 1: It's not a destination. It's not like, Okay, I'm going 309 00:17:44,840 --> 00:17:46,600 Speaker 1: to do this because this is where I want to 310 00:17:46,640 --> 00:17:49,040 Speaker 1: get because then you get there and then you're gonna 311 00:17:49,040 --> 00:17:51,640 Speaker 1: have to take another journey to another destination. And that's 312 00:17:51,720 --> 00:17:53,760 Speaker 1: just how life is. And I've learned to accept it. 313 00:17:54,480 --> 00:17:58,840 Speaker 1: And it's not an easy realization, but once you just 314 00:17:58,920 --> 00:18:01,679 Speaker 1: accept it, like you start kind of rolling with the 315 00:18:01,680 --> 00:18:05,720 Speaker 1: punches and riding the wave in a way. Eh. Last one, 316 00:18:05,800 --> 00:18:11,640 Speaker 1: surrounding yourself with people who support your evolution. Ooh, that's 317 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:13,680 Speaker 1: why I love hanging with y'all with my boss bees, 318 00:18:13,720 --> 00:18:18,560 Speaker 1: because yes, people need to support your evolution and try 319 00:18:18,560 --> 00:18:21,920 Speaker 1: to stay away from those people that don't bring out 320 00:18:21,920 --> 00:18:24,159 Speaker 1: the best in you, that actually bring out the worst. 321 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:27,440 Speaker 1: I had to let go of a few people this year. 322 00:18:28,280 --> 00:18:30,920 Speaker 1: Actually I shouldn't say a few, a couple because it's 323 00:18:31,040 --> 00:18:34,800 Speaker 1: two people, and I think it's one of the best 324 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:37,680 Speaker 1: things I've done. I've done that a lot the last 325 00:18:37,720 --> 00:18:40,000 Speaker 1: ten years, where I'm like, Okay, this person is not 326 00:18:40,040 --> 00:18:44,120 Speaker 1: serving my highest good. They make me feel worse than 327 00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:47,640 Speaker 1: I want to feel. They bring down my energy. There 328 00:18:47,680 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 1: are energy leeches and suckers, guys like vampires, and you 329 00:18:52,119 --> 00:18:55,919 Speaker 1: need to be careful and surround yourself with people that no, 330 00:18:56,000 --> 00:18:58,600 Speaker 1: they don't have to be on the same page and 331 00:18:58,800 --> 00:19:01,720 Speaker 1: you know, want to evolve the way you do, but 332 00:19:01,800 --> 00:19:04,200 Speaker 1: at least support you and say, hey, that's not my thing, dude, 333 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:07,040 Speaker 1: but I love you and cool, I love you and 334 00:19:07,080 --> 00:19:09,399 Speaker 1: if that's what you love to do, that's awesome. Not 335 00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:12,680 Speaker 1: really my vibe, but I love that it's your vibe 336 00:19:12,760 --> 00:19:16,439 Speaker 1: sort of vibe, you know. And I've learned like I 337 00:19:16,480 --> 00:19:18,760 Speaker 1: need to be around people that make me feel good, 338 00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:21,199 Speaker 1: that bring out the best in me, that make me 339 00:19:21,359 --> 00:19:24,280 Speaker 1: want to be a better me. If you're gonna piss 340 00:19:24,320 --> 00:19:27,960 Speaker 1: me off one too many times and you're making me 341 00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:31,199 Speaker 1: feel depleted after hanging out with you like that, to 342 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:37,119 Speaker 1: me is an indication of yeah, this relationship, this friendship, 343 00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:42,640 Speaker 1: this partnership is not serving my highest good. So think 344 00:19:42,640 --> 00:19:45,880 Speaker 1: about that. Because we all have them around us. We 345 00:19:46,080 --> 00:19:48,600 Speaker 1: all have them around it sometimes or even our family members, 346 00:19:48,600 --> 00:19:51,679 Speaker 1: people that we absolutely love and we can love someone, 347 00:19:52,000 --> 00:19:54,960 Speaker 1: but that doesn't mean we're gonna like them, and that's okay. 348 00:19:55,440 --> 00:19:57,160 Speaker 1: So just think about that. And these are just things 349 00:19:57,200 --> 00:19:59,600 Speaker 1: that I wanted to kind of like quickly talk about. 350 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:01,760 Speaker 1: Even if you are not a boss beer, you don't 351 00:20:01,760 --> 00:20:03,560 Speaker 1: want to be called the boss beat, that's totally fine. 352 00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:07,040 Speaker 1: It's just there's so much to unpack behind the meaning 353 00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:09,200 Speaker 1: of it that I thought it was important to write 354 00:20:09,240 --> 00:20:12,679 Speaker 1: these things down. So moving on, I do have an 355 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:16,879 Speaker 1: empowering affirmation for you. You know, I love affirmations. I 356 00:20:16,920 --> 00:20:20,520 Speaker 1: love mantras, and I wrote one for you. It's very short, 357 00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:23,680 Speaker 1: very cute. You know. I am built on self success. 358 00:20:24,080 --> 00:20:27,200 Speaker 1: I am a babe embracing evolution. I am a boss beat. 359 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:31,080 Speaker 1: It is simple but very deep. I am built on 360 00:20:31,119 --> 00:20:35,439 Speaker 1: self success. What is self success? What is your definition 361 00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:39,320 Speaker 1: of success? And I'm a babe embracing evolution. I'm okay 362 00:20:39,640 --> 00:20:43,160 Speaker 1: with what's happening in the world. I can't control those things, 363 00:20:43,200 --> 00:20:48,600 Speaker 1: but I can't control myself how I react, how it 364 00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:53,919 Speaker 1: affects me, and I also control how I can detox 365 00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:57,520 Speaker 1: myself from it. I'm embracing evolution. I'm embracing growth, and 366 00:20:57,560 --> 00:21:00,199 Speaker 1: I know with growth comes X, Y and Z. I 367 00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:02,280 Speaker 1: am a boss B if you want to say you're 368 00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:06,200 Speaker 1: a boss B. If not, it's totally fine. So AnyWho, 369 00:21:06,680 --> 00:21:10,920 Speaker 1: that's this episode, and I'm excited that you're here. Thank 370 00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:13,639 Speaker 1: you so much for showing up, Thank you for pressing 371 00:21:13,640 --> 00:21:16,199 Speaker 1: the play button. I appreciate you, and I hope that 372 00:21:16,280 --> 00:21:20,920 Speaker 1: this episode can spark something in you to just make 373 00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:25,240 Speaker 1: a change today, a good change, or start a habit 374 00:21:25,480 --> 00:21:28,920 Speaker 1: or a routine, anything that's going to make your heart radiate, 375 00:21:29,040 --> 00:21:31,480 Speaker 1: and for you to also radiate love in the world, 376 00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:34,919 Speaker 1: because love is the moving force of the universe. Guys, okay, 377 00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:36,800 Speaker 1: and I don't mean to get all hippie on you, 378 00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:39,240 Speaker 1: but these are my feelings and my thoughts today, and 379 00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:41,639 Speaker 1: I'm grateful that you're here to listen to them. 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