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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya red An I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in and

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Speaker 1: today it's a big day, a huge day. Some might

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Speaker 1: call it a holiday holiday because we have Robbie red

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Speaker 1: Star had a garb. This has been how many years

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Speaker 1: in the making, almost three the relationship, Yeah, almost three

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Speaker 1: years in November. Wait, guys, before we dive in here,

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Speaker 1: I actually have a little surprise. So when I woke

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Speaker 1: up this morning, I didn't realize that it was your

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Speaker 1: fifth anniversary, and I just thought that this is something

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Speaker 1: that we need to celebrate. First of all, honored to

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Speaker 1: be on your fifth anniversary show. Um, but uh, watching

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Speaker 1: this kind of from afar for the past a couple

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Speaker 1: of few years, just really uh impressed and inspired by

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Speaker 1: kind of what you guys have built and it's worth celebrating,

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Speaker 1: not just YouTube, but everybody who is behind this podcast

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Speaker 1: really an incredible team. Uh and uh so we have

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Speaker 1: to pop this champagne to start this podcast. Give me

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Speaker 1: one second, not even a minute, and I'm crying. So

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Speaker 1: there's that. Okay, I'm just gonna let him take over,

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Speaker 1: probably interview yourself. Oh god, I'm nervous. Gonna like shoot up. No,

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Speaker 1: he's good at it. He knows what he's doing. Not well,

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Speaker 1: it's not crystal clear still here that wow. Thank you Robbie,

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Speaker 1: so kind and I am so honored that you are

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Speaker 1: our guest on the anniversary. I know, it's really crazy,

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Speaker 1: Like I'm so excited because start crying. Um, because I

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Speaker 1: talked about you all the time, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 1: It's been like years I'm like talking about this guy,

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Speaker 1: and now like you actually get to speak and like

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Speaker 1: the scrubbers get to like hear you and like with you.

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Speaker 1: So it's like, really, um, it's really nice. We're finally

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Speaker 1: giving Robbie his voice. Let him speak for yourself exactly.

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Speaker 1: So done, a good job. Cheers, two cheers, five years,

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Speaker 1: cheers your relationship and you finally scrubbing in and Amy

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Speaker 1: and Danielle and East and Allison and Mark on the

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Speaker 1: zoom and we literally could not we we wouldn't do

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Speaker 1: this podcast about anything. Amy reached out to me five

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Speaker 1: years ago and was like, hey, do you want to

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Speaker 1: and like it's so cool that five years later we're

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Speaker 1: in the room doing something like this. So cheers to

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Speaker 1: everybody for you doing this till we're eighty. Oh lord,

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Speaker 1: I love you. All right, He's gonna need to drink

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Speaker 1: a little more of that champagne. You might want to

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Speaker 1: drink a little more of that. Okay, I do want

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Speaker 1: to start because that leads me righting to my first question.

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Speaker 1: I've been hearing word that you were a little nervous

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Speaker 1: and hesitant, not hesitant to come on. But just like

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure what to expect. Where where did that

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Speaker 1: come from? No, I mean I don't. I mean I'm excited,

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Speaker 1: and I'm a little bit nervous. You know, I don't.

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Speaker 1: I'm not a podcast or I'm not really a public figure.

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Speaker 1: So I'm a little nervous to be on here, but

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Speaker 1: no more excited than anything. When you've like listened to

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Speaker 1: the podcast, did you ever think because we started calling

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Speaker 1: was she nicknamed the men that she was dating. So

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Speaker 1: we had many nicknames, and many many that meant nothing

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Speaker 1: Y'all first saw each other on Hinge. This has been

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Speaker 1: a debate on the podcast of who made the first move,

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Speaker 1: But before we get into that debate, what was the

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Speaker 1: Tanya's Hinge profile. So the thing that struck me about

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Speaker 1: I definitely had you. Maybe it was my Riot profile.

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Speaker 1: If you're in a relationship, go ahead and deactivate all

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Speaker 1: of your logout wasn't easy. You have to know you

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Speaker 1: have to go to subscription. Yeah. Well, there's always been

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Speaker 1: So so it's like, here's my analogy. Let's say you're

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Speaker 1: been dating people before you met Tanya? Like what I'm

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Speaker 1: yeah the kiss felt different. Yeah, you were looking No,

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Speaker 1: you were looking for company, not companionship until you met Tom. Wow.

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Speaker 1: The that was that was deep? Yeah, that was really good.

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Speaker 1: Comes to you it happens. Um. Tanya is very like open.

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Speaker 1: I we've talked about how y'all have navigated different religious backgrounds,

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Speaker 1: and um, I feel like I'm more Jewish than he is. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: from what we've heard, Tanya has really learned the words

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Speaker 1: the encyclopedia. She knows Jewish. What was it Valentine's Day?

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Speaker 1: Jewish Valentine's Day? And I still haven't gotten a card

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Speaker 1: for by the way, I had never heard of it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Tanya write her own Jewish book. Leave it to Tony

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Speaker 1: for the high holidays, and so you know, it's just

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Speaker 1: But what I've realized being this relationship is like there's

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Speaker 1: whenever I would get into moments of like frustration, Riquel

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Speaker 1: love is amazing, love is beautiful, love is romantic, love

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Speaker 1: that she ever tells me anything about y'all's relationship. She

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Speaker 1: that's literally exactly what Robbie said. Honestly, it's so funny

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Speaker 1: because she like, she'll never bring you up as a

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Speaker 1: I don't know you or Haley well enough in that

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Speaker 1: it's just trigger event? Trigger event? Do we are we

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I wanted to take my feelings

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Speaker 1: They're the priority when it comes to this. Not that

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Speaker 1: all that. So yeah, I was just I was learning

426
00:25:42,840 --> 00:25:45,440
Speaker 1: as I as I went, and and to getting kind

427
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:48,640
Speaker 1: of what Tony said earlier. There's no right or wrong right.

428
00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:51,520
Speaker 1: There's no right way to do it or wrong way

429
00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:55,440
Speaker 1: to do it's just kind of the way you feel, um,

430
00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:58,119
Speaker 1: and there's multiple people's feelings we're kind of taking into

431
00:25:58,160 --> 00:26:01,040
Speaker 1: account here. Tony was like out and out during that

432
00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:03,080
Speaker 1: time and was like trying to make it seem like

433
00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:08,359
Speaker 1: she was like thriving and living her best life. And um,

434
00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 1: did you get the impression just based on what you

435
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:14,440
Speaker 1: saw in social media that she was like moved on

436
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 1: and doing her own thing and during the breakup, I

437
00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:20,439
Speaker 1: didn't get it wasn't the impression for social media. It

438
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:23,920
Speaker 1: was the impression from like a couple of interactions that

439
00:26:24,000 --> 00:26:27,800
Speaker 1: we had or didn't have. It wasn't on social media

440
00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:31,119
Speaker 1: you to feel that we weren't really harked really hard

441
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:38,720
Speaker 1: for that, So thanks for noticing. Okay, Well, I kind

442
00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 1: of I think I saw through that, but I think

443
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:44,200
Speaker 1: when you honestly know I did, But I think when

444
00:26:44,240 --> 00:26:48,919
Speaker 1: you didn't like respond to like a particular text or this,

445
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:51,480
Speaker 1: and that combined with all that, then I was like, okay,

446
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:55,600
Speaker 1: so she's she's moved on, she's moved on. Little did

447
00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 1: you know? Little did you know? I was still writing

448
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:02,480
Speaker 1: in that your future husband doing all about you? Thank

449
00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 1: you so much. That literally leads right into my next question.

450
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:08,959
Speaker 1: How many questions are on that? Doing all of them?

451
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 1: Are you doing? Okay? You're feeling okay, I feel great,

452
00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 1: but I feel like I'm way ahead? Are you guys

453
00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:19,080
Speaker 1: on the champagne? Um? Here? Cheers, cheers? Do you want

454
00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:21,440
Speaker 1: to know? What let him out of the trigger event?

455
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 1: It was just how hot I looked? Okay? I So

456
00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 1: someone asked us. They were like, was it saying because

457
00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:31,840
Speaker 1: Tanya some of those red carpet looks were like, Tanya,

458
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:39,240
Speaker 1: the orange, I gotta, I gotta get her back. It

459
00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:42,040
Speaker 1: was hard. The orange was hard. So it's so funny

460
00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 1: because what he's talking about is he'd reached out a

461
00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:45,919
Speaker 1: couple of times to me and I didn't respond to

462
00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:51,880
Speaker 1: him multiple times, and then on my birthday, on his birthday,

463
00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:53,800
Speaker 1: I aisd him I did not reach out to him.

464
00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:55,959
Speaker 1: You didn't deserve it. We went to dinner that night.

465
00:27:55,960 --> 00:28:00,399
Speaker 1: We were with Ashley I and Lizzie and um Jade

466
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:03,840
Speaker 1: and we were all talking about because she was devastated

467
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:05,920
Speaker 1: the day. I was like, I need somebody to take

468
00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:09,320
Speaker 1: my mind off this. I can't be alone. Yeah. So

469
00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:11,439
Speaker 1: he reached out to me on multiple occasions and I

470
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:13,200
Speaker 1: did not respond and I did not reach out to

471
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:17,560
Speaker 1: Hi Hi another day. Yeah, multiple days. And then on

472
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:19,720
Speaker 1: your birthday, I was really him making high because I

473
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:21,720
Speaker 1: was going to send you a cake. And then all

474
00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 1: my friends were like, are you to send him a

475
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:27,159
Speaker 1: cake after he broke up with you? He doesn't deserve

476
00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:31,680
Speaker 1: a cake. I was liked, which friends, I was probably

477
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 1: one of those. But the thing is about the breakup

478
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:36,880
Speaker 1: was that I was always like because Tanya was dead

479
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:42,800
Speaker 1: set like this is my guy. We're gonna and I'm like, Tanya,

480
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 1: it's not. It's not happening right now. So but I

481
00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 1: was always I was definitely like, don't send him a

482
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 1: cake on his birthday. But I was like, Robbie is

483
00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 1: an amazing guy. Like if you all can work it out,

484
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:59,280
Speaker 1: I support it. But but it's really funny because I

485
00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:00,720
Speaker 1: did the Globes and I had that was when I

486
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 1: was in the orange dress and he reached out to me,

487
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 1: and for some reason, I think I was like exhausted,

488
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:07,320
Speaker 1: I hadn't slept, and so I saw his message and

489
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:11,360
Speaker 1: I just got emotional and like I responded to that one.

490
00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 1: And that's kind of the impetus to how we started

491
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:18,560
Speaker 1: like talking again. It was then what was that? What

492
00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 1: was the date? It was like end of February, early March. Yeah,

493
00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:29,040
Speaker 1: that sounds right. Yeah, story checks out. Yeah. I'm gonna

494
00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: ask both of you this. Do you feel like the

495
00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:41,480
Speaker 1: breakup major relationship stronger in some capacity? I'm gonna say no, Oh, yeah,

496
00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 1: I don't think it did for me. I think that

497
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 1: there's two sides of this. So in one sense, it

498
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 1: made our relationship weaker because it put in her mind

499
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:56,320
Speaker 1: for a very long time. I know if it's still

500
00:29:56,360 --> 00:30:02,440
Speaker 1: there that if I'm faced with this again, traumatic kind

501
00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:10,240
Speaker 1: of adversity, adverse, Yes, intense adversity. Um, would I break

502
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 1: up with her again? Um? So that was a negative

503
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 1: from Tanya's perspective, But I think I don't know if

504
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 1: it was a positive from my perspective. I mean, it

505
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:23,560
Speaker 1: ended up being a positive. I didn't it would only

506
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 1: be a positive. I needed the breakup to kind of

507
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 1: have the revelation that I had, which I don't necessarily

508
00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 1: know that I did, but at the end of the day,

509
00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 1: I had it, and that's kind of what matters. He

510
00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 1: missed me. That's so interesting because like from my perspective,

511
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 1: I thought that was going to be a no brainer. Yes,

512
00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 1: because to me, as soon as y'all got back together,

513
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 1: I felt like y'all were moving in a forward direction.

514
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 1: But she was holding she would hold on to that,

515
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 1: and Tana was holding on because I think, like, it's

516
00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:55,719
Speaker 1: I think it's a very like if you bring if

517
00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 1: someone breaks up with you, how are you supposed to

518
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:00,200
Speaker 1: they feel like, Okay, if we get back together, few

519
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 1: if something happens again, you're not going to jump ship

520
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:05,480
Speaker 1: again because I have to understand. I know, I know,

521
00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 1: I know, but I think, like, you know, for me,

522
00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 1: what I'm saying is like that was not a great

523
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:13,480
Speaker 1: place for me, for me to have as an insecurely

524
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:17,920
Speaker 1: attached woman, that's a hard place to be in. Do

525
00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 1: you still feel insecurely attached? Yeah, I'm definitely getting better.

526
00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:25,840
Speaker 1: Like he's so securely attached it's like annoying, Like, God,

527
00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 1: bless you, has Tanya ever done anything that made you jealous,

528
00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 1: like feel like jealous, No, I want to hear no,

529
00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 1: not no, not really jealous. But we joke about the

530
00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:42,000
Speaker 1: Hairy Styles thing, like yeah, I mean and not only

531
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 1: was eye contact, it was like doing an extra song

532
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:46,800
Speaker 1: for her and was calling her after the show to

533
00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 1: invite her to the whatever. Yeah, I too felt jealous,

534
00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:55,200
Speaker 1: jealous of myself for that too, all right, So the

535
00:31:55,240 --> 00:32:00,720
Speaker 1: standards quite high to make jealous, Harry Styles has to

536
00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 1: be involved, and that's a securely attached person. And that's

537
00:32:04,040 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 1: what it's like. I'm like, I would love to know

538
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:08,240
Speaker 1: what it feels like to be in your shoes, you know,

539
00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:12,040
Speaker 1: like it's just not like that in these boots literally

540
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 1: appeared hard. Have you always been that way or does

541
00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:22,600
Speaker 1: Tanya make you feel that way? No, it's uh no,

542
00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:25,360
Speaker 1: I've always I've always been that way in relationships where

543
00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 1: I shouldn't have been. I was so yeah, I've always

544
00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 1: been that way. Where do you where I come from?

545
00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:31,720
Speaker 1: You know? I mean that's that you can't teach it deep.

546
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:34,680
Speaker 1: I have no idea. Oh yeah, I mean you probably

547
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:43,480
Speaker 1: know better than me. You've like you've simply put days.

548
00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 1: I don't know. This question is very specifically, very important,

549
00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:54,280
Speaker 1: to me, what was your first impression of me? That's

550
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:58,000
Speaker 1: a good question. Uh, well I've had I've had a

551
00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 1: couple of firsts. You first impressions of you, well, so

552
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:06,720
Speaker 1: you know that. Well no, not well you know that.

553
00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 1: So first time I ever have been the first impression

554
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:12,200
Speaker 1: I ever had. He was on the Bachelor, so I

555
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 1: was like a not so d L Bachelor fan, So

556
00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 1: like I saw you on the Bachelors, I was the

557
00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:17,360
Speaker 1: first impression. I just thought you were a you know,

558
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:23,960
Speaker 1: like nice girls, nice girl, not one of the train work.

559
00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 1: So that was my very first impression. Then my impression

560
00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:32,160
Speaker 1: of you was really before I met you, but kind

561
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:37,520
Speaker 1: of through Tanya and like hearing about and seeing about

562
00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:42,160
Speaker 1: you guys friendship, and my my impression of that was

563
00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 1: you know, how incredible of a friend you are, and

564
00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:49,200
Speaker 1: like how great you guys were in terms of your friendship.

565
00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:52,080
Speaker 1: And then when I met you, uh for the first

566
00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 1: time and we started hanging out, Uh, I was just

567
00:33:56,320 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 1: like this, this girl is really really cool. Um, and

568
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 1: I thought we kind of hit it off right away.

569
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:09,960
Speaker 1: What's going on over here? Um? Yeah? And then I'd

570
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 1: beat you in ping pong multiple times. Well, sorry you

571
00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:18,040
Speaker 1: skipped over that. Don't play ping pong, and as of

572
00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:22,360
Speaker 1: not as it stands now, I have one. You know,

573
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:27,840
Speaker 1: she I don't know the exact the exact pality, but

574
00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:32,920
Speaker 1: she is definitely leading the overall series bye bye, probably

575
00:34:33,280 --> 00:34:36,879
Speaker 1: three or four games at this point. I did win

576
00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:44,760
Speaker 1: the most recent game. Where was that? With the table?

577
00:34:44,880 --> 00:35:06,759
Speaker 1: Like that? Playing under any conditions? What challenges do you

578
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:13,359
Speaker 1: face dating Tanya? Not? None of the challenges I face

579
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 1: dating Tanya are Tanya related. The challenges that we face

580
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:24,359
Speaker 1: are more kind of like circumstantial. Whoa shocking, Yeah, that's impressively.

581
00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:26,879
Speaker 1: I'm happy with that answer. I can be a lot.

582
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:30,840
Speaker 1: I know I can be a lot. Yeah, but like, okay,

583
00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:32,920
Speaker 1: I mean everybody could be a lot. You're great, and

584
00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:35,759
Speaker 1: I think you're great. So I love you. Do you

585
00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 1: love the like daily letters and affirmations from Tanya? Because

586
00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:49,440
Speaker 1: I do. It feels so great. It's so nice. No, no,

587
00:35:49,520 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 1: it is, I love it. But also part of me

588
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 1: is like, okay, I mean this is like a lot,

589
00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:56,680
Speaker 1: but it's really really nice. Okay, but this is the question.

590
00:35:56,760 --> 00:35:58,799
Speaker 1: It was that that's really funny you say that because

591
00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:01,800
Speaker 1: the question was like, does it feel like it means less?

592
00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:05,400
Speaker 1: Because it's done every single thing. The fact that she

593
00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:08,680
Speaker 1: does it every day shows and proves that it's who

594
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 1: she is. Right, if she did it every once in

595
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 1: a while, I think it would mean less, if that

596
00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:18,120
Speaker 1: makes sense. That's just who she is. I think it's

597
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:20,520
Speaker 1: quite nice to get a nice love note every day.

598
00:36:20,640 --> 00:36:22,480
Speaker 1: It's really really nice. Do you have a favorite one?

599
00:36:23,360 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 1: Do I have a favorite one? So I have a

600
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:30,400
Speaker 1: literal like it's not even called a stack, it's like

601
00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:36,640
Speaker 1: a it's like a mound of them in like a shell. Uh,

602
00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:41,160
Speaker 1: But there's not a particular favorite one. She wrote a

603
00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 1: hilarious rhyming poem like yeah, it was a little dirty.

604
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:49,840
Speaker 1: It was a little dirty made chuckle in the morning.

605
00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:54,399
Speaker 1: Do you have it with you know? They're like if

606
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:57,239
Speaker 1: she had that like all photographs on her phone. But

607
00:36:57,360 --> 00:36:59,360
Speaker 1: you know what it is, sweetie, He's saved like anytime

608
00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:01,680
Speaker 1: I've ever written him and know a card, like literally

609
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 1: anything I've ever left him, he like saves it. So

610
00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:06,239
Speaker 1: like I actually saw it up in the closet the day.

611
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:07,960
Speaker 1: I was like, what is all this stuff? It's like

612
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 1: stacks and stacks and I was just like, wow, I've

613
00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:14,480
Speaker 1: given you a lot of love notes all Yeah, Okay,

614
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:18,239
Speaker 1: I'm still it's impressive. Yeah, have you ever listened to

615
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:20,279
Speaker 1: the podcast? Like, have you ever like sat down and

616
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 1: listened to a full podcast? I have. I've listened. So

617
00:37:24,040 --> 00:37:28,759
Speaker 1: there's like this unspoken thing that Tanya has communicated to

618
00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:32,320
Speaker 1: me with her eyes, which basically means like, don't listen

619
00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:35,480
Speaker 1: to the podcast. So I do respect that, kind of

620
00:37:35,520 --> 00:37:39,720
Speaker 1: give her her own free space where I'm not listening

621
00:37:39,719 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 1: in and she can talk about whatever. And you know,

622
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:46,480
Speaker 1: I have full trust that she's uh, you know, respecting

623
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:49,800
Speaker 1: whatever boundaries kind of I might have or we've discussed.

624
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:51,799
Speaker 1: So I'm not worried about that, but I have. I have.

625
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:55,920
Speaker 1: So when we first met early on, I listened to

626
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 1: a few just to kind of see what this is

627
00:37:57,280 --> 00:37:59,359
Speaker 1: all about. And let me tell you, I'm a big fan.

628
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:03,600
Speaker 1: You guys hilarious. You guys are really really funny. The

629
00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 1: show is really really great. And then during the breakup

630
00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 1: I did listen to a couple just to hear what

631
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:17,760
Speaker 1: you were saying, which was really effing hard. Um. Yeah, uh,

632
00:38:17,800 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 1: And I've obviously been to the live show, which one

633
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:23,520
Speaker 1: more thing about Becca, sorry, one more thing about that

634
00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:26,520
Speaker 1: at the live show. But when I first like met

635
00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:30,279
Speaker 1: that guy was like, she's not really that funny at all,

636
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:33,279
Speaker 1: Like she's not that funny. I was like, so, I

637
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:35,480
Speaker 1: was like, so, what's the dynamic here, Like she's like

638
00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:39,640
Speaker 1: the serious one and Tanya is the funny one. But no, no,

639
00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:44,880
Speaker 1: but the point I'm for something And then but over

640
00:38:45,239 --> 00:38:49,759
Speaker 1: time I think you're hilarious. You're just hilarious. And you guys,

641
00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:51,200
Speaker 1: look at the live show. You don't think it was

642
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:57,280
Speaker 1: funny or like meeting me, um, I don't. I didn't.

643
00:38:57,320 --> 00:38:59,319
Speaker 1: It didn't strike me how funny you were at the

644
00:38:59,360 --> 00:39:01,239
Speaker 1: live show. Like I was just like, she's just not

645
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:05,359
Speaker 1: that funny. She's this serious one. I guess I get it. Like,

646
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:07,960
Speaker 1: so what's the Becca, what's a Tanya? Becca's are more

647
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:12,279
Speaker 1: serious there? Funny? I was like. I was like, I

648
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:15,800
Speaker 1: was like really grappling with this. But what's really funny?

649
00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:18,240
Speaker 1: Was like now when he watches like the videos and stuff,

650
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:21,560
Speaker 1: that's all of him do now he's like, God, Becca's

651
00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:23,640
Speaker 1: timing is just so and he's like the way that

652
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:26,440
Speaker 1: you guys, he's like the way you guys bounce off

653
00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:29,280
Speaker 1: each other, just like you can't you can't, you can't

654
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:31,680
Speaker 1: just make that up. But not even just on the podcast,

655
00:39:31,760 --> 00:39:34,399
Speaker 1: like your Instagram, Like, I just think you're hilarious. You're very,

656
00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:36,160
Speaker 1: very very funny, but you're since a humor. It took

657
00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:38,480
Speaker 1: me a second. I'm so happy I redeem myself. That

658
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:40,360
Speaker 1: means a lot to me. He just really bombed at

659
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 1: that Life show then, right, Sorry everybody. It was the

660
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:47,160
Speaker 1: early days. He was still like trying to figure things out. Yeah,

661
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 1: I don't think I got although I do remember when

662
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,759
Speaker 1: he broke his ribs and he was like just on

663
00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 1: all these drugs in the hospital and he had nothing

664
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:56,840
Speaker 1: to do in the hospital room. He's like I listened

665
00:39:56,880 --> 00:40:00,920
Speaker 1: to a couple of the p and I was like,

666
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 1: oh god, I can't remember. It was like after we

667
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:05,520
Speaker 1: said something like super embarrassing. But I knew he was

668
00:40:05,520 --> 00:40:10,600
Speaker 1: like on so many drugs he would to remember. Um. So,

669
00:40:11,440 --> 00:40:13,319
Speaker 1: I don't know if you listen to the podcast about

670
00:40:13,320 --> 00:40:15,759
Speaker 1: Tanya talking about vabbing. I'm sure you saw the clip

671
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 1: of it. I see, I see. That's the thing. I

672
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:23,239
Speaker 1: see all the Instagram stuff. Yeah, Crystal, Wow, she's a

673
00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 1: champion of champions. Um. So, Robbie texts me after Tanya

674
00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:32,440
Speaker 1: like the clip of us talking about it, how I

675
00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:34,799
Speaker 1: was like upset that you hugged me and didn't tell me,

676
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:37,839
Speaker 1: and we're always like I don't think she yeah, and

677
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:41,480
Speaker 1: you were like I don't think she really did it. No,

678
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 1: that's not what Yeah, you're like, she didn't do that,

679
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:46,640
Speaker 1: or you were like she no, no, no, that's not

680
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:49,680
Speaker 1: what I said. No, no, no, sorry, I forget exactly

681
00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 1: I thought what I was saying was no, I oh

682
00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:59,439
Speaker 1: it's in her head that yeah, okay, so you're saying

683
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:01,879
Speaker 1: like he umple minimui, he goes no, like, I don't

684
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 1: think that's true. But well, we'll tell you multiple times.

685
00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:08,520
Speaker 1: I'd say in the last two weeks, you said, God,

686
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:11,919
Speaker 1: you look extra beautiful today. Did you vab this morning? Yeah?

687
00:41:11,920 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 1: Now I'm like, now I'm like worried. Now I'm not

688
00:41:14,120 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 1: your mom. No, like I'm at work, like you look

689
00:41:20,719 --> 00:41:26,680
Speaker 1: really good? Did you like? Am I being hypnotized? But

690
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:28,279
Speaker 1: but there is a thing, there's like a it's like

691
00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:32,359
Speaker 1: a psychological phenomenon that if you like do something, then

692
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 1: you're more hyper aware of things. So I think that's

693
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:36,759
Speaker 1: kind of what was happening with her. So you're not

694
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 1: like grossed out by the bab Yeah, yeah, yeah, I

695
00:41:39,480 --> 00:41:43,680
Speaker 1: think it's disgusting. Ye, So like you're like in your

696
00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:46,520
Speaker 1: head thinking that she's doing this gross thing, but it's

697
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:50,040
Speaker 1: making you actually more attracted to her. I get that

698
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:53,799
Speaker 1: that's complicated, yeah, but it's not I know I think

699
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:55,759
Speaker 1: that in my heart. I know that's not true, but yeah,

700
00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:58,719
Speaker 1: do you do you so? Um? Tanya also talks about

701
00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:00,719
Speaker 1: like the e T toe that she says she'll like

702
00:42:00,800 --> 00:42:03,080
Speaker 1: reach over and touch you with her toe. We call

703
00:42:03,120 --> 00:42:06,240
Speaker 1: it the e T toe. Do you like the T toe? Touch?

704
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:14,560
Speaker 1: I mean quick movies responsive touch. No. But here's here's

705
00:42:14,560 --> 00:42:18,120
Speaker 1: the thing though, So like if we're like we sleep

706
00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:23,000
Speaker 1: apart right that we don't sleep like some people sleep

707
00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:27,720
Speaker 1: like spooning or cuddling. No, we like cuddle. We cuddle

708
00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 1: and then when it's bedtime, it's like I break right

709
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 1: and I go to one side. So if the toe

710
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:35,440
Speaker 1: is touching me during the cuddle, that's totally fine. But

711
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:38,720
Speaker 1: if we break and the toe touches, that's a complete

712
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:42,799
Speaker 1: that's when the toe happened. That's right. Yeah, I'll kick

713
00:42:42,840 --> 00:42:46,520
Speaker 1: it over, you punt it, put it back to it

714
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:50,120
Speaker 1: doesn't stay there. But I like to be touching when

715
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:52,560
Speaker 1: I fall asleep. I want I understand like, I like

716
00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:54,200
Speaker 1: having separate sides of the bed. I don't need to

717
00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 1: be like touching touching, but I want to be touching

718
00:42:56,680 --> 00:42:58,480
Speaker 1: a part of him. What's the point of sleeping with

719
00:42:58,480 --> 00:43:00,359
Speaker 1: somebody if you're not going to touch them. No, there's

720
00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:03,280
Speaker 1: a whole side felt thing on this. This this idea

721
00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 1: that you're sleeping not actually mean you do. Yes, you don't.

722
00:43:11,680 --> 00:43:15,480
Speaker 1: Sleeping together doesn't mean actually sleeping together. The sleep has

723
00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:18,239
Speaker 1: nothing to do with the other things. So anyways, this

724
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:21,040
Speaker 1: is a very famous episode. I feel like I've heard

725
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:24,200
Speaker 1: that quote before. I've never watched the field. Did you

726
00:43:24,239 --> 00:43:25,920
Speaker 1: know that he didn't like the t to ors? This

727
00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:28,520
Speaker 1: breaking news? No? I mean I know, I know he

728
00:43:28,560 --> 00:43:31,960
Speaker 1: doesn't like a lot of things. Yeah, Like sometimes I'll

729
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:34,000
Speaker 1: be cuddling out is like stare at him, Like I

730
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:38,319
Speaker 1: was like, stare at him, looking at you. Woke up

731
00:43:38,320 --> 00:43:41,759
Speaker 1: to her on the flight over here. I'm like, and

732
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:43,239
Speaker 1: I go, what are you doing with you? Guys? I'm

733
00:43:43,280 --> 00:43:46,840
Speaker 1: just examining all the details on your face, like like

734
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:54,400
Speaker 1: what the little hairs Going back to the one of

735
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:59,319
Speaker 1: the challenges will be like watching Love Island and like

736
00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:01,680
Speaker 1: Robbie's using the TV and I'm looking at him, and

737
00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:04,360
Speaker 1: I'll just be like just staring at him and not

738
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:08,000
Speaker 1: watching us like TV's that way, Like I'm like, I'd

739
00:44:08,040 --> 00:44:14,279
Speaker 1: rather watch you. Yeah, that's uncomfortable. But I'm genuinely so

740
00:44:14,360 --> 00:44:16,880
Speaker 1: proud of your handling this because I feel like you

741
00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:20,239
Speaker 1: would just be like so crushed to hear this. I

742
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:23,600
Speaker 1: know he doesn't like it, but don't do it. It's

743
00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:30,080
Speaker 1: like I'm like, yeah, looked, however, and he's like, it's

744
00:44:30,080 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 1: a really good episode. You should Yeah, So I know

745
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:36,839
Speaker 1: I already know. It doesn't stop me. A modern woman,

746
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 1: I do what I want. Yeah, you don't look at

747
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:41,759
Speaker 1: that gorgeous face instead of the TV. That's what I'm

748
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:44,120
Speaker 1: gonna do. The differencete me and you guys that I

749
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:46,239
Speaker 1: know it means so much to her, so I you know,

750
00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:51,319
Speaker 1: I let her let her. I let her she my

751
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:56,960
Speaker 1: boundaries all the time. I'm a WinCE a little bit,

752
00:44:57,080 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 1: but I don't shove her off of me. I some

753
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:04,480
Speaker 1: just let her know it's not my favorite. Do you

754
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:06,759
Speaker 1: do you enjoy sitting on the same side of the

755
00:45:06,800 --> 00:45:09,000
Speaker 1: booth with her? I do. I'm into that, but I

756
00:45:09,440 --> 00:45:13,399
Speaker 1: my ideal scenario would be you eat across from each other.

757
00:45:13,800 --> 00:45:16,200
Speaker 1: And then maybe for like dessert, you go, that's the

758
00:45:16,239 --> 00:45:22,960
Speaker 1: move because honestly, talking side by side is it's it's

759
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:25,520
Speaker 1: a weird head. Your head has to turn to the side.

760
00:45:26,080 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 1: You're not that far across from the table. But then

761
00:45:28,080 --> 00:45:29,640
Speaker 1: you kind of you know, then you switch it up.

762
00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:34,000
Speaker 1: You have like two different experiences. Haley and I always

763
00:45:34,000 --> 00:45:37,920
Speaker 1: hold hands across the table. Across the table is like antarctica.

764
00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:47,200
Speaker 1: So far it was like cold or what? Um? Who

765
00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:50,759
Speaker 1: said I love you? First? What? What what was that

766
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:53,920
Speaker 1: like for you? Oh? This leads into another question, what

767
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:55,600
Speaker 1: what what was that like for you? That she said?

768
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:59,440
Speaker 1: At first? Well, you guys, I heard it on the radio.

769
00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 1: She didn't say it to me. First. I heard her

770
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:12,040
Speaker 1: say she loved me on the radio. What scial I

771
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 1: don't think I know about the race on the morning show.

772
00:46:16,920 --> 00:46:21,800
Speaker 1: She somehow it was like a revelation on the air.

773
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:23,719
Speaker 1: Like they were like, oh, you don't love him, and

774
00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 1: I was like, no, I think I love him. Like

775
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:28,359
Speaker 1: I was like I love him. And so then they

776
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:30,840
Speaker 1: decided to take that and like played on loop for

777
00:46:30,840 --> 00:46:33,359
Speaker 1: the next like however long, And so I heard it

778
00:46:33,480 --> 00:46:36,400
Speaker 1: on the radio. That's when I heard it. So then

779
00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:40,879
Speaker 1: I'm holding that in for how long before you were

780
00:46:41,040 --> 00:46:47,000
Speaker 1: in person for a week. It was probably a week,

781
00:46:47,560 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 1: a week or two at the most. Thought yeah. And

782
00:46:50,040 --> 00:46:52,520
Speaker 1: then what was the time in between you saying you

783
00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:55,000
Speaker 1: saying Tony saying I love you till you sing it back.

784
00:46:55,120 --> 00:47:00,879
Speaker 1: It was May to July. I don't remember. I told

785
00:47:00,920 --> 00:47:03,680
Speaker 1: you in May. I felt it sooner. You know that

786
00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:06,000
Speaker 1: I felt it were it was an I said it

787
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:07,799
Speaker 1: was an unspoken I love you for a long and

788
00:47:07,840 --> 00:47:09,759
Speaker 1: I knew he felt it when I said it, but

789
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:11,440
Speaker 1: I knew he wasn't ready to say it to me.

790
00:47:11,640 --> 00:47:13,480
Speaker 1: So I said it, and I was like, I know

791
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:15,239
Speaker 1: you're not going to say it back to me, and

792
00:47:15,239 --> 00:47:17,600
Speaker 1: I know you feel it, but I want to. I

793
00:47:17,640 --> 00:47:19,200
Speaker 1: want to say it. I want to start saying it

794
00:47:19,239 --> 00:47:20,439
Speaker 1: to you. So I said it to him in May,

795
00:47:20,640 --> 00:47:23,600
Speaker 1: and then you said it back to me in July.

796
00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:27,080
Speaker 1: It was the worst two months because I love you

797
00:47:27,160 --> 00:47:31,280
Speaker 1: and he was like, nice, it's nice to be loved,

798
00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 1: it's nice to be in your shoe. I love you.

799
00:47:40,920 --> 00:47:45,480
Speaker 1: The immediate response that was nice, feel good? Right then

800
00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 1: would you say it? Yeah? And then he said it back.

801
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:51,400
Speaker 1: I said it right back. Yeah, you didn't say for

802
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:55,479
Speaker 1: a while yeah, we have a couple of those things. Um,

803
00:47:55,680 --> 00:48:01,239
Speaker 1: do you see marriage in your future again? Yeah? For sure?

804
00:48:02,800 --> 00:48:06,040
Speaker 1: Do you That was quick? Good answer, so good. What

805
00:48:06,160 --> 00:48:09,480
Speaker 1: about do you have? You have two kids? Do you

806
00:48:09,520 --> 00:48:12,960
Speaker 1: see more kids in your future? With Tanya? Tanya and

807
00:48:13,040 --> 00:48:16,880
Speaker 1: I kind of talk about this all the time, and um,

808
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:22,479
Speaker 1: I always said that for me, I the decision about

809
00:48:22,560 --> 00:48:26,040
Speaker 1: kids is really more about finding the life partner that

810
00:48:26,080 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 1: I want, um, and the kind of decision about kids

811
00:48:29,080 --> 00:48:30,360
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812
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:33,360
Speaker 1: Tanya and I definitely talked about a lot. Yeah, right, Tanya,

813
00:48:33,600 --> 00:48:37,959
Speaker 1: Speaking of examining Robbie space, Yeah, what do you notice

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00:48:38,000 --> 00:48:40,400
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00:48:47,360 --> 00:48:50,680
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Speaker 1: T A N E. Loxyton dot Com Code Podcast. Who

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Speaker 1: would you say is Sunny's favorite person of the two

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Speaker 1: of you? It depends on the day, because she has

846
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Speaker 1: like a thing with Robbie, like he like she does

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Speaker 1: this like growl with him, like he knows how to

848
00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:45,560
Speaker 1: massage her. It's a moan and she like he like

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Speaker 1: touches her and she's like, I can't do it. She

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Speaker 1: doesn't do it with me at all. But I think

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Speaker 1: she loves me more. Mm hmm. I really don't know.

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00:50:56,719 --> 00:50:58,799
Speaker 1: I honestly, she loves us both so much. It's hard

853
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Speaker 1: for me to say. If if I have to say,

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Speaker 1: I'd say me, but it's close to it would be

855
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Speaker 1: you should do that thing where we like, I'm down

856
00:51:08,360 --> 00:51:11,560
Speaker 1: to like trying to put her in the middle different ways.

857
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Speaker 1: You gotta have a oh, like okay, so you'll start

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Speaker 1: together in the I do think that she might like

859
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Speaker 1: it might be different one day from the next. I think, like, yeah,

860
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Speaker 1: certain days she's way more into me, certain days she's

861
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Speaker 1: more into you. It's interesting, but she loves Yeah, I

862
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Speaker 1: feel have I have I missed any questions? Tny? Have

863
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Speaker 1: I asked everything you could ever want me? To ask,

864
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Speaker 1: I think so, I mean you hit all the ones.

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Speaker 1: I was personally curious. Yeah, which one's really hit? Struck

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Speaker 1: a chord with you? Easton? Well, obviously I was curious

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Speaker 1: about the marriage, the future together, if you're going to

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Speaker 1: propose right now? That was a question I had. Do

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Speaker 1: you have something you want to say, Robbie? Uh, you know?

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Speaker 1: And then of course the who made the first move?

871
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Speaker 1: I was really excited about that confrontation. Confrontation, Um, we

872
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Speaker 1: didn't settle the final debate over does Robbie believe in

873
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Speaker 1: right person, wrong time? No? I do think that that so, sorry,

874
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Speaker 1: just so I'm clear on this right person, wrong time

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Speaker 1: meaning it doesn't work right right? Uh yeah, I know.

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Speaker 1: I think right person, wrong time does not work. And

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Speaker 1: I know that I have heard this conversation. We are

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Speaker 1: not right person, wrong timerect we are not right personally

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Speaker 1: personal weird time, very difficult time, weird time. Yea difficult time,

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Speaker 1: weird time. But it's it was. It was a time

881
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Speaker 1: that was wrong for y'all to be together. No, I don't,

882
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Speaker 1: I don't think it. What do I just say in

883
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Speaker 1: this podcast? There's no right and wrong. Wait, I'm gonna

884
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Speaker 1: take it a step Further, I think that that it

885
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Speaker 1: was we met at the perfect time perfect. Yeah, I do.

886
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Speaker 1: I think so. I think that both Tanya I was

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Speaker 1: brought in a time his life and time just brought

888
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Speaker 1: into my life at the perfect time for each other.

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Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that it was opportunity. There were there

890
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Speaker 1: aren't challenges, or that there aren't you know, things that

891
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Speaker 1: we're working through in our relationship. Every relationship has its

892
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Speaker 1: own issues. Um, I can't wait to hear about yours

893
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Speaker 1: and Hayley's. But you know what I do, what I

894
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Speaker 1: do think is interesting, and I tell people this all

895
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Speaker 1: the time because I'm like, we had to go through

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Speaker 1: so much, Like we've gone through so much in the

897
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Speaker 1: early days of our relationship when like when people first

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Speaker 1: meet and there you know, when you're like both single

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Speaker 1: and unattached and there's not like so much going on, um,

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Speaker 1: and then like either you have kids and you do

901
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Speaker 1: you do with like that and and all the stuff

902
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Speaker 1: that comes along with that, or you have all these

903
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Speaker 1: challenges as you get married and like whatever. Like we've

904
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Speaker 1: faced all these challenges, Like we've frontloaded all those challenges,

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Speaker 1: Like we dealt with all this stuff in the very

906
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Speaker 1: beginning and like we've always had kids involved. It was

907
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Speaker 1: never you know what I mean, we never had that

908
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Speaker 1: part of a relationship that was as carefree as they

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Speaker 1: can be, if that makes sense. I'm like, we've frontloaded

910
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Speaker 1: all of our stuff, so like it's gonna be its

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Speaker 1: smooth sale. So yeah, I don't know that. I don't

912
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Speaker 1: know that we're not going to have challenges in the future,

913
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Speaker 1: but certainly we've dealt with early challenges which have made

914
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Speaker 1: us stronger for sure, and we're gonna be more capable.

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Speaker 1: We already are more capable of communicating and dealing and

916
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Speaker 1: working through those challenges. Yeah. So so you were both

917
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Speaker 1: on the same page that wrong first, right person the

918
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Speaker 1: wrong time is just the wrong person. Yeah yeah, but

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Speaker 1: that's not us. Yeah, thank you be Yeah, Okay, stand

920
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Speaker 1: and steak and on this because you'll broke up and

921
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Speaker 1: got back together. But a lot of people break up

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Speaker 1: and get back together, so that eliminate that makes that

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Speaker 1: means that it could be the right person wrong to time.

924
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Speaker 1: What I know, I'm with him, Yeah, I understand, I understand.

925
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Speaker 1: What Wait, the right you can break up if you're

926
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Speaker 1: the right person right time, true true speaking, the true

927
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Speaker 1: the breakup has nothing to do with the right person,

928
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Speaker 1: wrong time. But I'm saying that people if someone meets

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Speaker 1: someone and they're like, I met someone, but it's not

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Speaker 1: the right time, but I think they're my person. The

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Speaker 1: breakup was it was not because it wasn't the right time.

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Speaker 1: That wasn't why we broke up. It's not. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you can say no, it's not. It's not technically, but

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Speaker 1: it's like some could argue, you know that your lawyer,

935
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Speaker 1: you could say the words not the right time, but

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Speaker 1: that's not fundamentally why we broke up. I don't think right.

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Speaker 1: I agree. All right, Well, I'm glad you all have

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Speaker 1: each other to agree. What tonya sorry I'm touching you?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god? Or a podcast? I was gonna say it.

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Speaker 1: You know, I really enjoyed the second to last question,

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Speaker 1: but I feel like that's more for you and Haley.

942
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Speaker 1: Wait let me see it. Oh oh yeah. I also

943
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Speaker 1: so you know, Haley got her nickname because we were

944
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Speaker 1: at a live show and it was a truth or

945
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Speaker 1: drink game and the question was what is the percentage

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Speaker 1: that you will marry the person that you're dating? And

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Speaker 1: Haley staring at me in the crowd if I drink

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Speaker 1: I'm in trouble. If I don't say the right percentage,

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Speaker 1: I'm in trouble. So I went so that became her.

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Speaker 1: I can't wait to hear that. I can't wait to

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Speaker 1: hear her response to like how it felt hearing that

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Speaker 1: in that moment. I cannot wait for that. So I'm

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Speaker 1: curious about your percentage unmarrying Tanya. Yeah, see, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't think there's a percentage. I think what you

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Speaker 1: do is, you know, we're getting lawyer more of a

956
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Speaker 1: philosophical discussion. In case Socrates, at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: when you're ready to get married, you get married. Okay,

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Speaker 1: where you got percentagewise on that? If you had to

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Speaker 1: quantify and percentage, I'm not ready today to get married,

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Speaker 1: if that's if that's what we're asking. Yeah, well I

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Speaker 1: also wasn't ready, but I still throughout a percentage zero. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's what I'm here in zero things? You know, eight hundred?

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Speaker 1: What's the right? Are we? At least about my end?

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Speaker 1: We're getting deeper and deeper over here. There's no there's

965
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Speaker 1: no percentage. You you, you and I know. It's a

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Speaker 1: good time to end the podcast. Time of death September,

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Speaker 1: our fifth anniversary. I avoided it, and you said you

968
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Speaker 1: wanted to know. I was curious. Curiosity killed the cat.

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Speaker 1: Now I'm just curious serious percentage to it, which I

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Speaker 1: think you'd probably agree with after he said no, she

971
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Speaker 1: felt strong in But you can't say there's no. You

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Speaker 1: don't put a percentage on it. I don't think my opinion,

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Speaker 1: I can put a percentage on it. Okay, what's your

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Speaker 1: percentage about time? Thinne over here? Well, on that note,

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Speaker 1: were the cheers to five years together? Five Thank you

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Speaker 1: for coming on letting us out hard. I know, thank

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Speaker 1: you so much. I I don't know how I roped

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Speaker 1: you into this, But was it scary? No, not at all. Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 1: thank you for honesty. I know it's like we do

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Speaker 1: this every week, and I really appreciate you coming on

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Speaker 1: and answering, and because I also think too, like a

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Speaker 1: lot of people are in the situation that we are in.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's like a really weird, hard thing to navigate,

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Speaker 1: and I think your transparency, um, I think it will

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Speaker 1: help a lot of people. I really do. I hope. So.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, every situation is different, but if

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Speaker 1: I could have helped one person. That'd be great. Well,

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Speaker 1: I love you guys, and my percentage for y'all is

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Speaker 1: so I'm still twenty alright. We love you guys and

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Speaker 1: love you. Let me come back. We'll be back with

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Speaker 1: no I think there will be a game. It's going

992
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Speaker 1: to be and then we're gonna play a game all

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Speaker 1: four of us. So really the next week and a half,

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Speaker 1: keep and keeps on giving. Happy five years. Happy, love you,

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Speaker 1: love you, Bye, love you Bye,