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Speaker 1: when I said to you, look up azrabay John if

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Speaker 1: You can dm us, you can hit us up friendshire

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Speaker 1: radio dot com. So you are in a new relationship

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Speaker 1: with a boyfriend of about six months. This has been

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Speaker 1: going on, yes.

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Speaker 2: And I want to just preface by saying we are

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Speaker 2: very happy, We're very into each other, and everything is

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Speaker 2: great except one thing.

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Speaker 1: Great, nice topic this, Thanks for calling. You just want

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Speaker 1: to call here, brag. I'm so happy in my life

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Speaker 1: scrubs stark that yeah, relationship. Well, so what is the

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Speaker 1: one thing though?

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Speaker 2: Well, so we have a very big age yap. So

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Speaker 2: I'm twenty four and he is fifty.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, so we get a nice nice twenty

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Speaker 1: six year age gap. I need to hear both of Now.

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Speaker 1: I'm not quite fifty. In fact, I'm not anyone you're fifty.

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Speaker 1: But but you know, let's defend the older let's defend

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Speaker 1: the older men dating the younger women. Thing for a

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Speaker 1: moment until I hear the old thing. So how did

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Speaker 1: you meet? And like why are we talking of? If

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Speaker 1: you're happy? I get that it's a huge age gap,

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Speaker 1: but like what's the insecurity? Like where does it come from?

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Speaker 1: Why are we talking?

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Speaker 2: Well, we met while we were both out, and this

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Speaker 2: is not like a thing for me, like I don't

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Speaker 2: seek out men that are older than me.

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Speaker 1: But we met at a bar.

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Speaker 2: I thought he was much younger than fifty. He does

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Speaker 2: not look fifty, and I approached him and then we

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Speaker 2: got along and after talking for a while, he was like,

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Speaker 2: like looking for this, but it just kind of happened.

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Speaker 2: And we've been dating for six months now, so it's

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Speaker 2: like kind of getting to be time to introduce into

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Speaker 2: my family. But I'm very afraid of how they're going

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Speaker 2: to react. They know that I'm dating someone, but they

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Speaker 2: don't know his age.

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Speaker 1: Does he have kids? Old are his kids?

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Speaker 2: He does not have kids?

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Speaker 1: Okay, because that could get a little weird, you know

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Speaker 1: if I agree if his kids were you know, close

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Speaker 1: to your age. And there's my dad, right, yeah, that's right,

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Speaker 1: your dad has dated someone. You're one of your friends.

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Speaker 3: Right, Well, I'm not her friend, but we did attend

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're not friends now are we? We never were?

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Speaker 1: But can help no?

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Speaker 1: Right, Oh my goodness. So weird. And so your family's like, oh,

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Speaker 1: this is so exciting, Brionn has met someone or whatever.

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Speaker 1: How do you I mean, is your dad? Let me see,

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't think they're going to tell me

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Speaker 2: going to be like jumping for joy about it. And

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Speaker 2: my friends know about him and they're concerned. They've told

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Speaker 1: Well that says a lot now why it's huge age gap, right,

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Speaker 2: Well, none of them have met him, and I think

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Speaker 2: they're just like, why is a fifty year old man

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Speaker 1: Know him HM, So I have a lot of questions.

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Speaker 1: First of all, eight five, five, five, nine one one

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Speaker 1: a thing, like yeah, it's unorthodox, but like why, I

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Speaker 1: don't know, I don't, I don't know. I mean, I've

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Speaker 1: dated people of all ages. I'm forty four. I've dated

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Speaker 1: gone both ways. But like if I date someone who's

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Speaker 1: think I'm disgusting for that. But is am I disgusting

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Speaker 1: for that? Or is there an insecurity about that? It's

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Speaker 1: you doing with me? It's like well, because I can

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Speaker 1: like both things, right, Like, I'm not necessarily I'm not

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Speaker 1: care about the age necessarily, But your priorities may differ.

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Speaker 1: I mean, he's fifty, Like, do you want kids? He

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Speaker 1: start now, Like, I feel like that's the kind of

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Speaker 1: stuff that might get you in trouble. Em heard, I mean,

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Speaker 1: do you want kids? She's like, received, yeah, yeah, yeat,

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, I mean what did I get on it?

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Speaker 1: be very mature for your age and and find that

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Speaker 1: this guy offers security and money, a parental figure, you know,

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Speaker 1: or something needs that maybe. Well, I'm just saying, like,

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Speaker 1: whatever you need, right and maybe and there's something wrong.

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Speaker 1: You're both adults, right, I mean, there's something there's nothing

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Speaker 1: inherently wrong about this, but I guess I wonder, like,

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Speaker 1: all of the principles and all of the goals that

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Speaker 1: you have for one another.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, those are valid concerns, But I am also just

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Speaker 2: kind of like living in the moment of this relationship,

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Speaker 2: and for the moment, it's.

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Speaker 1: Very good, is he rich?

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Speaker 2: Hell?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, I want to say that, Like, you know,

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Speaker 1: when I was twenty four, I'm surprised that anybody went

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Speaker 1: out with me. When I was thirty four, I'm surprised

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Speaker 1: that anybody went out with me, to be honest, Like,

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Speaker 1: the difference between the human being that and I'm not

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Speaker 1: sure that's saying much, but the difference between the human

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Speaker 1: being I am now and I was twenty years ago

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Speaker 1: is significantly different. And I don't know, I'm much more settled.

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Speaker 1: I'm much more kind of like, you know, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't have anything to prove to anybody anymore. I

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Speaker 1: am who I am. I don't know. I think I'm

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Speaker 1: a better version of myself. You know, back then, I

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Speaker 1: had a lot to prove. I didn't have any resources.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know, you know, my butt from a hole

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Speaker 1: guess I can see why younger women gravitate towards older men.

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Speaker 1: I just wonder, I just wonder how long you're you're

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Speaker 1: sort of you're gonna be on how many points you

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Speaker 1: were aligned? Or hey, are you happy not having kids

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Speaker 1: and being with a guy who's much older, who's rich

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Speaker 1: and there's security there? And I mean, I guess, I

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Speaker 1: guess this all depends on what your priorities are, right.

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Speaker 2: God, lots to think about. Geez.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, Well, let me take some calls on this,

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Speaker 1: Brianna and I will have to follow up. I can't

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Speaker 1: wait to hear and I let me get Let me guess, Brianna,

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Speaker 1: he's got money, he's mature and confident, and the sex

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Speaker 1: is really good. Right, what's the problem? Thank you, good luck,

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Speaker 1: have a good day and keep the radio and we'll

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Speaker 1: see what people have to say. Bye. Can you've done

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Speaker 3: Yeah, twenty was where I maxed out, maxed out, excuse me,

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Speaker 1: Think about it? Emotional? Yeah, yeah, when beneath my wings, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: twenty is where I maxed out. But I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I do also have concerns, Like one of

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Speaker 3: like I and this is dark, but like I took

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Speaker 3: I just found I can't do it again.

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Speaker 1: He was in his fifties. Yeah, he was fished. I

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Speaker 1: Hopefully I hear what you're saying. I was like, I

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Speaker 1: can't do that. You're going to be a caretaker at

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Speaker 1: some point you marry this guy. Yeah, So that was

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Speaker 3: I was like, I need I need a little because

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Speaker 3: I want to have kids, But I.

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Speaker 1: Think I don't want to say anything. I think that

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Speaker 1: generally women think that men who date women who are

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Speaker 1: So it hasn't always appealed to me, right, Like, sometimes

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Speaker 1: So who's like going, wait, how old are you?

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Speaker 1: What, Diane? You say, this is too big of an

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Speaker 1: So she comes home with you, I mean, let me

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Speaker 1: ask you this. She's she's around twenty four, your daughter, Diane,

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Speaker 2: It's appropriate because by the time she's going to have

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Speaker 1: Another wrong with that?

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Speaker 2: Like there's wrong with They're going to be falling apart?

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Speaker 1: I see the concerns. I see the concerns, but I

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Speaker 1: And yeah, okay, thank you, Diane. I know, peop, yeah,

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Speaker 4: Yes, not such an huge age cap. But I dated

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Speaker 4: When you're like twenty and he's always here trying to

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Speaker 1: It was more like that type of I see. Okay,

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Speaker 1: your priorities were different. Yes, yeah, yeah, okay, Well thank you, Liz,

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Speaker 1: Not every twenty four year old wants to go out

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Speaker 1: You know, I mean, I think there's probably a compromise

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Speaker 1: Stay Orgo? She's twenty four, didt young guy who's fifty.

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 6: I think if she were confident in knowing that this

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Speaker 6: It doesn't matter what other people think. But I'll tell

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Speaker 6: because that's what happened with me. And I was forty five.

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Speaker 6: He was twenty three years older than me. He was

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Speaker 6: What ultimately happened, well, what happened was it was an

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Speaker 6: And I said, you know this, I really need to let.

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Speaker 1: feel like when people hear these age gaps, all they're

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Speaker 1: I don't. That's certainly probably an element in a lot

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Speaker 6: No, oh, no, gosh no. I mean that was part

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Speaker 6: Oh, all the time, and we still stay in touch.

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Speaker 6: He's a lawyer. He did my mother's papers before she passed.

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Speaker 6: He was at my dad's funeral. I mean we cried together.

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Speaker 1: But you won't reconcile. There's no way that you can see,

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Speaker 2: At this point. He's in his nineties.

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Speaker 1: Oh, that's a part of time.

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Speaker 5: Well, I.

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Speaker 1: I to some papers of your own, you know. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: I mean you did the hard work, you know, time

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Speaker 1: All right, thank you, Dian, I have a good day.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for sharing. All right, I only have ten.

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Speaker 1: It really was sweet. No, man, no, I mean yes.

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Speaker 1: in any case, so I can see them. But listen

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Speaker 1: from the male perspective, here comes big Rich beg Rich

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Speaker 1: is here. Hey, he's forty seventy. His girlfriend's twenty five.

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Speaker 5: Come on, come on, we have to make it sound

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Speaker 1: Is that what it is?

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Speaker 1: And how did you mean?

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Speaker 5: We met at a mutual friend's house when we were

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Speaker 5: in sure she told me she was twenty eight years old.

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Speaker 1: Well that's a big difference, Rich, twenty five? Come on, man,

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Speaker 1: so you hell have you together?

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Speaker 5: The prime at the time, she was twenty three, and

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, so she's eighteen, so you've been just

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Speaker 1: together for two years. Yeah, So what's the future.

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Speaker 5: Living together for two years, dating for like just a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, and so what is it? Wow, you pulled in,

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Speaker 1: and never left, Ainy, nothing wrong with that. What what's

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Speaker 5: Like?

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Speaker 1: Are you gonna get married and have kids and do

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's that's that's what we're that's what we're hoping for.

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Speaker 5: I mean, we're obviously trying to get some stuff ironed out, uh,

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Speaker 5: you know, her thing is she wants a white fence.

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Speaker 5: Pick a fence, and then she'll get married.

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Speaker 1: Rich has to get divorced and she has to graduate

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Speaker 1: high school. So there's a luck going on.

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Speaker 5: I've been divorced for seven years.

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Speaker 1: Rinchie was too easy. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, but no,

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Speaker 1: I hope, Look, I hope it works out if you

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Speaker 1: should judge Rich? Right?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we get we get a lot of judgment online

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Speaker 5: and stuff like that, and she has. She posts a

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Speaker 5: lot of one of her TikTok says wish we met earlier,

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Speaker 1: And I love doing that. Yeah, that's not that's certainly

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Speaker 1: going to feed the narrative. Hey, Rich, good luck, man,

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Speaker 1: I appreciate you calling. Have a good day. You're good support,

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Speaker 1: all right, not good for rich life man? Yeah yeah, Hey,

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Speaker 1: no college loans for her. He can pay for it,

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Speaker 1: you know, I want to give me. Oh man, what's

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Speaker 1: the website? I think they are quite what's the website

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Speaker 1: called grinder? Want to jump on important show, Shelley, Next

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