Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say
Speaker 1: decision decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kirsty.
Speaker 1: You definitely say to welcome, welcome to the new podcast.
Speaker 2: Oh wait, you want to say together the Decisions Decisions.
Speaker 1: The book is out. The book is out. Maybe you
Speaker 1: can now go get no holes barre. It is available.
Speaker 1: We have made it to that day. We're literally on
Speaker 1: the day of recording.
Speaker 2: You guys know this is not our jam, but we
Speaker 2: have been flying and traveling so much it was only
Speaker 2: right to do a super fresh episode only a day late.
Speaker 1: But it's such a special day for us.
Speaker 2: I think one of the biggest days, if not the
Speaker 2: biggest day of our entire careers. A friend of mine
Speaker 2: sent us the photo in Calabasas.
Speaker 1: First of all, we've been puffing all these black old stores.
Speaker 1: Tell of what calabas Lets put our motherfucker book on
Speaker 1: the shelf early and they're not the white got a
Speaker 1: goddamn book out. First of all, I was like, who's
Speaker 1: tricking on you? In Calaba's death that I really wanted
Speaker 1: to know what you lived at Calabs.
Speaker 2: But it was amazing to see and it was like, yeah,
Speaker 2: it was right in the front. And I always when
Speaker 2: I go to a bookstore and I'll see the books
Speaker 2: in the fight, I always wonder, why, oh who are they?
Speaker 2: Is a special so it'll be so cool to just
Speaker 2: see everybody's share and please we're reposting like we are
Speaker 2: re close when you walk in a store and see
Speaker 2: it tag us, because it's surreal to me, Like I
Speaker 2: I don't know. I never really thought for a second
Speaker 2: when we were writing the book that I could just
Speaker 2: be walking in and grabbing it and taking photos where
Speaker 2: they're like having a tangible thing in my hand. I
Speaker 2: didn't actually see it the hard copy until Mandy came
Speaker 2: to the South of France and we just yeah, we
Speaker 2: just left can Lions. It's Can, y'all. I know y'all
Speaker 2: haven't seen everybody.
Speaker 1: It is not Con.
Speaker 3: It is not Kansa. It's not Cannics.
Speaker 1: It is Can. I think it might not Gone. It's
Speaker 1: not Cone. It's not Cone. It's not gone An. When
Speaker 1: French people say, they don't say can no, it's can Lions.
Speaker 3: It's can't. Oh they can? You know, I don't know
Speaker 3: how did friend we listen?
Speaker 1: Friends is like my least favorite place, but the South
Speaker 1: of France is one of my favorite places to go,
Speaker 1: but I think it's only because it's full of Americans
Speaker 1: that week. So I had a wonderful time. Tuesday, I
Speaker 1: brought the book because we had dinner with our iHeart family.
Speaker 1: It was all the exacts. Black Effect was there, so
Speaker 1: Dolly and Charlemagne was there, Malcolm Gladwell was there, quest
Speaker 1: Love was there. Shout out to them, and we was there.
Speaker 1: How we got to invite y'all. Listen, we were negroes
Speaker 1: and half I say that.
Speaker 2: They said, hey not just bring one and they put
Speaker 2: us in, you know, all together. But it was crazy
Speaker 2: just to think these are the people that are being
Speaker 2: celebrated with iHeart just this.
Speaker 1: You know. It was a very small dinner.
Speaker 2: It wasn't like they were honoring all of iHeart shit
Speaker 2: last clone, no, no, no, no, it was.
Speaker 1: It was two tables and we was a part of them.
Speaker 1: Two tables. It was a good time. I brought the book.
Speaker 1: It was Weezy's first time seeing the hardcover, like, and
Speaker 1: it's really dope. Our pictures bitch right down in the bag.
Speaker 1: It's cute or whatever. So I brought it and Weezy
Speaker 1: got to see it for the first time. We ended
Speaker 1: up uh being able to talk about like just what
Speaker 1: it was like writing the book and weasy and true
Speaker 1: weezy fashion brought my future wife up with us. If
Speaker 1: y'all my future wife, let me tell y'all a story
Speaker 1: we ain't never heard of one. No, let let me
Speaker 1: let me tell y'all a story. And I'm not a
Speaker 1: lot of Latino puss. I am gonna share love latinas
Speaker 1: I love women I date. The only type of woman
Speaker 1: I haven't been with was a white woman. I feel
Speaker 1: like that's literally it. I haven't been with a white woman.
Speaker 3: I have been with a lot of motherfucker carry.
Speaker 1: I loved in Miami. Okay, carry on, man, listen, I'm
Speaker 1: actually gonna share a story because I have a question.
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna share the Latino puss that I had
Speaker 1: in Miami one time that didn't make the book. Anyways.
Speaker 1: So we get into the iHeart Cafe, I'm talking with everyone.
Speaker 1: I go to set the book down because we have
Speaker 1: a signed seating. So I go to set the book
Speaker 1: down and all my way back to go join Will
Speaker 1: and Charlotte, Dolly, Me and Eva catch eye mind you.
Speaker 1: Eva's talking to like a group of people. Eva is,
Speaker 1: by the way, gorgeous. So literally I'm walking back and
Speaker 1: I had to pass Eva. Me and Eva lock eyes.
Speaker 1: Then she stops talking to the people and it's like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, hey, bitch embraces me, and I was like,
Speaker 1: does she see my clip online? Does she know who
Speaker 1: I am? Or she just gonna do that. I'm like,
Speaker 1: do you love me? No, I'm not gonna lie. Normally
Speaker 1: were we these like everyone's flirting with her, bitch. I
Speaker 1: don't care how if she was or not. I'm saying
Speaker 1: evil on Glory was flirting with me. So anyway, she
Speaker 1: goes and she embraces me and gives me a hug,
Speaker 1: and she's like, so good to see you. And I
Speaker 1: was like, bitch, good to see you. Okay, I just
Speaker 1: say it like that, but I just smiled. I was nice.
Speaker 1: So as soon as I leave her, bitch, you would
Speaker 1: have thought I just met god bitch, I was like,
Speaker 1: my heart was beating like a little fast, and I
Speaker 1: was like, so you're a little social hold on, she's thumping,
Speaker 1: heart pumping. So I go over to Charla and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I want her, I said, and she knows me. Don't
Speaker 1: know how she knows me or don't know if she
Speaker 1: was just being nice, but she stopped talking to the
Speaker 1: people embraced me, and I was like, I didn't know
Speaker 1: I loved evil loungorid like this, I ain't gonna hold you.
Speaker 3: She had that energy. She had that energy.
Speaker 1: So anyways, I go and I'm like, y'all, I'm sliding
Speaker 1: in them gms. When I tell you, Charlotte. Everyone was like,
Speaker 1: don't you do that. I was like, don't you slide
Speaker 1: on her? Dem don't And I was like, could I
Speaker 1: do it, just real nicely, like let me do it.
Speaker 3: He's like, don't slide in evil Loungaria DM.
Speaker 1: I said, fine.
Speaker 3: So we're the last to speak at this I Heeart dinner.
Speaker 1: And we go up.
Speaker 3: I'm holding the book and I immediately go.
Speaker 1: And shout out that I don't that it's fucked them
Speaker 1: kids for life. This is mine. He was speech in
Speaker 1: front of all the execs and everything, and I pretty
Speaker 1: much shout out Charlamagne for being my baby daddy. I
Speaker 1: guess we're kind of in a thruffle cause I'm like, Charlot,
Speaker 1: I don't want kids, but you allowing us on this
Speaker 1: journey to write a book. This is now my baby,
Speaker 1: this is my legacy, and I want to thank you.
Speaker 1: So we start talking about the book.
Speaker 2: We might as well have been sexy read the second
Speaker 2: we started talking about so we're like, we're like, ooh,
Speaker 2: it's ronchy is this? So Will asked the question and
Speaker 2: we reposed a question. Weezy said, here's a good question
Speaker 2: to ask us. If anybody could read the book, who
Speaker 2: would you want to read it? So Weezy go ahead
Speaker 2: and share your part. So while we're up there, we're
Speaker 2: basically speaking to people in between courses. So as each
Speaker 2: course come out, they have like a different piece of
Speaker 2: I heart talent coming out. So Malcolm spoke, Quest spoke,
Speaker 2: Charlis poke, and then white folks and then us. So
Speaker 2: once I get up there, I said, well, even though
Speaker 2: I would love to see Malcolm Gladwell's face reading the
Speaker 2: world word pussy out of our book, I'm going to
Speaker 2: go with Eva Longoria because I read once in an
Speaker 2: article that she said she was irritated that men don't
Speaker 2: know how to please women.
Speaker 1: But she looked like I said, and I said, smile.
Speaker 1: She smiled. Maybe she's like maybe I said that, And
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I love her to read our book.
Speaker 1: So she gets off, she get up. We don't know
Speaker 1: she she gets up and comes and joins us. I've
Speaker 1: just met, Like, oh, well, we'll get you a book, girl. No.
Speaker 1: She she stands up, smiling and joins us in front
Speaker 1: of everyone, and here go Weezy impum two. If you've
Speaker 1: been listening to the pod anytime we had a guest,
Speaker 1: Weezy was like, pick a number from zero two, so no,
Speaker 1: from one to three hundred, and she's like, okay, Eva
Speaker 1: Longoria says fifteen. I was like, I don't think. I
Speaker 1: don't think anyone has picked a number that long. Fifteen
Speaker 1: is like yeah.
Speaker 4: I was like, oh, I hope, I said, it's usually
Speaker 4: forty plus.
Speaker 1: You know, it's crazy. So that's when I as soon
Speaker 1: as she says fifteen, I was like.
Speaker 2: Let me read you what's on page fifteen, y'all, which,
Speaker 2: by the way, the start of page fifteen was a
Speaker 2: dud for a second.
Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, no. First words.
Speaker 3: The first words.
Speaker 2: The first words are the only thing that can seal
Speaker 2: me up. And I was like, okay, this is about
Speaker 2: to turn up. So then we try to find, you know,
Speaker 2: obviously a good entry point for it. So I'm like, okay, Eva,
Speaker 2: this is about masturbation. Masturbation can release sexual tension. That's
Speaker 2: what she That's what she read. No, so you were
Speaker 2: at something said dump the thumb thump is now the
Speaker 2: sound of my heart pounding after I've come.
Speaker 1: This is what she read alone and satisfy.
Speaker 2: Satisfied tells you this is when people starting to take
Speaker 2: their phones out.
Speaker 1: Bro. So she literally is is thump thump thumping. Like
Speaker 1: reading that sentence, Eva goes, oh my god, let me read.
Speaker 1: So Luckily there's those bullet points. And so in front
Speaker 1: of all these execs, we have Eva Longoria read the
Speaker 1: benefits of masturbation at dinner. It was so good. It
Speaker 1: came up to shar and I said, do you remember
Speaker 1: when you sniffed j Low's chair? Oh god, that's how
Speaker 1: I feel.
Speaker 2: Mike was right there, I know, he was like, wait,
Speaker 2: we got to get into some key that happened and
Speaker 2: can I wasn't really a part of it, but we
Speaker 2: saw in the breakfast the whole thing with Blake Lee Thornton.
Speaker 1: Oh. I just talked to Sean about my thoughts on it.
Speaker 1: But I know that's your friends, so it will be nice.
Speaker 1: So because I was like, oh no, he didn't. I didn't.
Speaker 3: We should talk about that etiquette too, because I think
Speaker 3: he was wrong.
Speaker 1: You feel listen to that situation, I don't think. Oh okay,
Speaker 1: so let's talk about it.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 1: So we're head that doesn't know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 2: So I don't know him well, but I'm a fan
Speaker 2: and I actually wanted to produce his pod back in
Speaker 2: the day. We were gonna makebe figure out if he
Speaker 2: would make a solo one. Now shout out to Blakelee Thornton.
Speaker 1: He's a really dope influencer and he covered the met
Speaker 1: gala carpet. That's how a lot of people recently found him. So,
Speaker 1: uh shared a store. We were supposed to do their
Speaker 1: pod now was week that was whose podcast it was?
Speaker 1: So I don't know him. So long story short. We
Speaker 1: are hanging out on Wednesday night and can club. Oh no.
Speaker 1: His wife was like, I can't never get him to
Speaker 1: go out, but he might go to a dec D
Speaker 1: Nights party.
Speaker 2: I'm like, fuck it, let's go out. We meet up
Speaker 2: with Debbie's Brown birthday. Should we have a little dinner.
Speaker 2: We walk across the street to Club Quarantine, which d
Speaker 2: Nice does every year in Dan and basically he redes
Speaker 2: his thing.
Speaker 1: He did on IG. When we first walked in, it
Speaker 1: was a little bit oldheadish. It was like just oldies.
Speaker 1: I will say. Mary J. Blige walked in and that
Speaker 1: did pique my interest. I was like, oh, but it
Speaker 1: was just like you know, but then it started getting
Speaker 1: young and cool. So for some reason, for some reason,
Speaker 1: people were being brought to different tables. JB.
Speaker 2: Smooth or No One. If you don't know who that is,
Speaker 2: he was in, curb your enthusiasm.
Speaker 1: He's black, dude.
Speaker 2: People brought someone brought Lucky Day, Steve Stout came over.
Speaker 2: People kept being brought to Charlotte's section. Now, everything during
Speaker 2: Canned Week is this long in the week is free
Speaker 2: except for bottle service. But all the cocktails were free, right.
Speaker 1: But not bottle service. So that it's very it's very
Speaker 1: important it is. But I don't know if I would
Speaker 1: have known that. So let me elaborate. Blakely did not
Speaker 1: walk into the section. He was brought into the section. Blakelee,
Speaker 1: by the way, is a man. Just want to add
Speaker 1: that context. He was brought into the section. Again.
Speaker 2: I don't know why that was happening. He's not lying
Speaker 2: about that. Now, me and Nina Park are sitting together.
Speaker 2: We're saying, hey, we're chatting it out with Blakelee. Whatever
Speaker 2: bottles come out.
Speaker 1: I didn't see this.
Speaker 2: I'm repeating what I heard what Charlotte name Blakeley said
Speaker 2: on their instagram. Huh, Charlotte does buy bottles of Dom,
Speaker 2: and I remember he came over to me.
Speaker 1: He goes, what do you want to drink three at
Speaker 1: twenty hundred dollars a piece? Yes, he said, do you
Speaker 1: want vodka ort tequila? I said, I'm not drinking as
Speaker 1: a matter of fact, because my man wants tequila. But
Speaker 1: don't even buy anything. We'll go to the bar. It's free.
Speaker 2: He just gets the Dom for him, Dolly and his wife.
Speaker 2: Blakelee has a toast with everybody. I don't see this
Speaker 2: because I really think Crystal Waters was on and I
Speaker 2: was in my household. So i get on my phone
Speaker 2: still in France, and I'm seeing Charlotte. Man hit me
Speaker 2: like I'm homophobic now, and I'm like, yes, what's going on?
Speaker 2: So Blake Lee basically is like Charlotte said to me,
Speaker 2: you know you're drinking my bottles?
Speaker 1: Dog and Blake Lee was wearing thigh high boots.
Speaker 2: Yep, they were flat, they weren't heels, and he said
Speaker 2: he was being homophobic for doing that.
Speaker 1: I hated that. Then he said shout out and I
Speaker 1: was like, ah, So Charlotte responded on the Bronx, No,
Speaker 1: I'm brilliant Idiots club.
Speaker 2: I watched a breakfast I watched his brilliant idiots, he
Speaker 2: said with justin envy and baby gave me doc here
Speaker 2: of the day. It wasn't like a dog. I don't
Speaker 2: think it was doc here the day. But he was like,
Speaker 2: how am I homophobic?
Speaker 1: Et cetera. I agree. Blakelee hit me like, yo, are
Speaker 1: you good? Like are we good? Or over this?
Speaker 4: I'm like, it was a breakfast court, breakfast club court,
Speaker 4: that's court, all right, okay?
Speaker 1: And I'm like yeah, I mean, I think he was joking,
Speaker 1: but it didn't come off funny because char really didn't
Speaker 1: know him at the time, and it got really awkward
Speaker 1: in this whole exchange. Now, while he was there, I
Speaker 1: will say there were maybe fifty other people that came.
Speaker 2: People were walking in and out of Charlemagne's section, maybe
Speaker 2: not fifty, maybe twenty, but anyone of influenced. I guess
Speaker 2: they just kept getting sent over to the celebrity tables,
Speaker 2: and so I really will stand on believing he thought
Speaker 2: the bottle was free. However, I don't think that makes
Speaker 2: Charlot homophobe, even if it was a joke, for being like,
Speaker 2: I don't think it's ever a joke the contact someone
Speaker 2: there maybe only were eight people in the section, so
Speaker 2: the segment was not my thing.
Speaker 1: My thing. There is club etiquette. This is Charlemagne's table.
Speaker 1: Charlemagne is a man. Whether you are gay, straight, yellow, purple, whatever,
Speaker 1: if you are a man, you should not be reaching
Speaker 1: into another man's bottles pouring your own drink without putting in. Oh,
Speaker 1: I don't even think it's a man. Excuse me. Nope,
Speaker 1: don't agree. I think fuck putting in.
Speaker 2: If you're gonna be at someone's table, I don't give
Speaker 2: a fucking fee. The baddest visial world you ask, can
Speaker 2: I make myself a cocktail?
Speaker 1: No? Either either or yet not speaking is awkward, and
Speaker 1: I think that that's the thing on brilliant idiots. He
Speaker 1: led to the fact that even him saying your name
Speaker 1: on the clip, Charlotte man was like, we didn't even
Speaker 1: introduce me to this guy. He comes over and is
Speaker 1: the as they're doing the toes Charlotte's, Like the waitress
Speaker 1: asked if it's okay for a drink, he said yeah.
Speaker 1: He he told him this is my bottle, a after
Speaker 1: he reached to make his own drink, which I agree, like, bro,
Speaker 1: if you don't know nobody at this table, like you
Speaker 1: just reached him making your own eye and that's the thing, right.
Speaker 2: I think he thought, I'm going to say this, and
Speaker 2: I don't know Blakely well, but I'm going to assume
Speaker 2: because I can't see why he made that comment otherwise.
Speaker 2: I think he thought all of the celebs were getting
Speaker 2: sat together, and I think he thought there's charlott and
Speaker 2: Nina Parker, and I.
Speaker 1: Think he and he got brought into it. He did
Speaker 1: not jump in there to say, hey to me, your Nina.
Speaker 1: At the end of the day, he a goofy ass,
Speaker 1: goof leaning into homophobia and making that a comment because
Speaker 1: the man said, hey, brother, that's my bottle. It wasn't.
Speaker 1: He didn't call you out your name, He didn't sit
Speaker 1: here and say you couldn't be here because of your sexuality.
Speaker 1: I think that it's very irresponsible to start labeling people
Speaker 1: in that manner, especially when you went a club and hey, brother,
Speaker 1: the Saint Shoe bottle, it's mine. And it's funny because
Speaker 1: talking to Charlamagne at the breakfast club, he was like, bro,
Speaker 1: I didn't even know how expensive the bottles were. He
Speaker 1: said they were twenty four hundred yuo. So it was
Speaker 1: easily about a seven eight thousand dollars check for three bottles.
Speaker 1: And he was like, man, well, I'm here now, I'm
Speaker 1: celebrating Debbie's birthday, and so I just thank it, you know,
Speaker 1: I just think I just think the labeling of him
Speaker 1: as a homophone like and that that's unfortunately what makes
Speaker 1: this space kind of difficult, Like there are a lot
Speaker 1: of black men, Charlotte being one who's very inclusive and
Speaker 1: welcoming to all people, so you don't want to like
Speaker 1: put out that narrative, even even the cloth that he's
Speaker 1: getting like like around it. I just hate that his
Speaker 1: his thing was to lean into the homophones. A twenty
Speaker 1: eight hundred dollars bottle, by the way, bruh, dog bruh.
Speaker 3: Charlie got it.
Speaker 1: Rich as I think it's a fair the.
Speaker 3: Fair, like, hey, my brother, this is my bottle.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's weird. I'm looking at every ounce of that.
Speaker 1: I said, I feel really embarrassed. I really wouldn't ever
Speaker 1: bring someone in your section section. I said, this is
Speaker 1: my next thing. Oh my god, not you, and just
Speaker 1: getting attacked primly. Oh, I'm not gonna lie. It's so funny.
Speaker 1: Alex is a great point. Hey, Alex, I'm Brilliant.
Speaker 3: Idiots Alex Mark.
Speaker 1: When I saw him say Charlaonmae's I'm like, I want
Speaker 1: now you gotta go breakfast club. Now, you guys, you
Speaker 1: gotta you gotta get on your partner. Alex was on
Speaker 1: Brilliant Idiots talking about well, he's saying he cool with Weezy.
Speaker 1: That means Weezy need to put on that bottle.
Speaker 3: Go ahead of send we the invoice for a portion
Speaker 3: of that bottle. That's what Alex said.
Speaker 1: Friend, So Alex said, go ahead of charge. That was man. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but bro find it out water bottles all night and
Speaker 1: I was dancing for four hours. Please, but I'll say this,
Speaker 1: I said. I me and Blakely were talking and I
Speaker 1: was like, listen.
Speaker 2: I was like, Charla Way is feeling hurt because he
Speaker 2: really is not that nigga. And I said, but I
Speaker 2: do think you should send bottles to Charlemagne on some
Speaker 2: drake shit.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that he should.
Speaker 2: And I think like, look, I've been a fan of
Speaker 2: his content for maybe two or three years, and then
Speaker 2: the look as though I think he could get it
Speaker 2: for about one hundred and fifty.
Speaker 1: Oh he should go ahead of the dog and the
Speaker 1: hook of the whole bottle.
Speaker 2: So I think people can miss, and I think that
Speaker 2: one just happened to be a miss because all of
Speaker 2: his content hits for me, he'd be calling out the
Speaker 2: White House.
Speaker 1: He does a very good job at calling out who
Speaker 1: needs to be called out. But that joke just didn't
Speaker 1: land because I really don't think she is that nigga.
Speaker 1: He asked, why are you leading into it being a joke?
Speaker 1: It's a joke. He seemed offended, and he called a
Speaker 1: man homophobic. I don't think that was a joke. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm hoping it was a joke, okay, because I don't.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have spoken because he made the dawn joke.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm i sss upbout his boots and I'm
Speaker 1: just like, maybe that was it, but okay, So here
Speaker 1: I do want to talk about the free ship in
Speaker 1: Can a little bit because at one point, bitch, there
Speaker 1: was a whole day. I haven't had a day in
Speaker 1: a while, and I challenge everyone to do this day.
Speaker 1: I talk about this in our master class, which you
Speaker 1: can go get. It's free if you ordered the book
Speaker 1: before July.
Speaker 2: First you need to try to have a zero dollar
Speaker 2: spend day. I was able to do it in Campo
Speaker 2: Holy multiple days.
Speaker 1: First of all, we got to Friday and I said,
Speaker 1: I've been here since Monday in Can because I spent
Speaker 1: two days the niece. Literally we got to Thursday and
Speaker 1: I was like, bro, we may have paid for two meals, drinks, meals, everything.
Speaker 2: Its basically just taking over every single portion of the beach,
Speaker 2: taking over a restaurant and point.
Speaker 1: IHeart the iHeart cafe. I'm thinking it's just the dinner
Speaker 1: Mandy night rat when I walk back in there.
Speaker 2: Nope, stays all day, all day. And when a check
Speaker 2: didn't come, my nigga looking at me, he said, hold on,
Speaker 2: let's go. And actually we do want to representde it.
Speaker 1: I don't want house to get I got it again, nigga,
Speaker 1: I couldn't believe it. I did want to talk about
Speaker 1: this little moment I had in Germany. So I told you,
Speaker 1: I don't know if I told you in person that
Speaker 1: I saw Old Day in Europe the first time in
Speaker 1: two years. I'm gonna do a little solo episode on
Speaker 1: Patreon because we need that catch up Nigga him giving
Speaker 1: Miami and a hug and saying, treat her well. We'll
Speaker 1: get in read anyway, We'll get into it. It's that
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Speaker 3: Connecting changes everything Well.
Speaker 1: I wanted to do a quick story about getting to
Speaker 1: can because while these white prices are pricing, while the
Speaker 1: weather is weathering, while we may be entering World War
Speaker 1: three and don't have access to go to other countries.
Speaker 1: Because she keep getting on the band list. So y'all
Speaker 1: know I're living Atlanta now, and so I was like, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: where normally I got to add on the tail in
Speaker 1: last year, I had it on the tail end and
Speaker 1: didn't say Trumpe and was like, ooh, well, this year
Speaker 1: I had to come back because I had to host
Speaker 1: Juneteenth on the East Shout out to JB, shout out
Speaker 1: to the entire city of Oklahoma City, like it was
Speaker 1: really dope. And now y'all are NBA champs as well. Ay,
Speaker 1: And so literally I'm like, okay, I'm gonna leave Thursday.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get to Nice on Friday, so I have
Speaker 1: a day in Nice and then Saturday I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: a Dan Monaco and then I had to can on Sunday. Y'all.
Speaker 1: I get to the airport. My flight is at eight
Speaker 1: fifty pm on Thursday. It gets it gets good, It
Speaker 1: gets good. This is a script. Okay, I'm gonna make
Speaker 1: this into a fucking sketch comedy. If Kemp Pill was
Speaker 1: still on, I'd be like, hey, guys, I got one
Speaker 1: for you. So I get a direct flight from Atlanta
Speaker 1: to Nise. Not sure how I was like, oh, thank God,
Speaker 1: because I did not want to do all the la
Speaker 1: in Europe. So I get a direct flight from Atlanta
Speaker 1: Tonise leaving Thursday, getting in Friday at noon. I said,
Speaker 1: this is perfect. So I get to the airport, get
Speaker 1: there a little early because my luggage is heavy. I'm
Speaker 1: bringing books. It's fucking it's I'm like, this is a heavy,
Speaker 1: goddamn luggage. So I get there early, go to the lounge.
Speaker 1: It like it's delayed, Like okay, supposed to be a fifty.
Speaker 1: It gets turned to nine thirty. Okay. I get to
Speaker 1: the gate at nine thirty. They're like, well it's now
Speaker 1: ten fifteen. Okay, we start boarding. Get on the plane.
Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, good, we're getting out of here.
Speaker 4: Now.
Speaker 3: I might get get in it like one or two whatever, Get.
Speaker 1: On the plane. I'm sitting here talking to the guy
Speaker 1: next to me. Cool ass, white dude, tat it up, bitch.
Speaker 1: He gives me the nude beach. I don't know how
Speaker 1: we got here to the nude beach, but clearly he
Speaker 1: saw it was one of those. He gives me the
Speaker 1: nude beach. A nie. I said, yo, we gotta go
Speaker 1: to the new beach. We sitting there talking, drinking our wine,
Speaker 1: getting ready to take off. I'm like, okay, let me
Speaker 1: put on a movie. I can fall asleep too. I
Speaker 1: put on Ten Things I Hate About You. Oh, good movie,
Speaker 1: such a good movie. None of them looked like high schoolers.
Speaker 1: I was like, whoa, how do we hear? Anyways, So
Speaker 1: watching ten Things I Hate About You, we go to
Speaker 1: take off. I'm like, okay, I fall asleep. Fall asleep
Speaker 1: in the middle of ten Things I Hate about You,
Speaker 1: I get woken up by Okay, guys, we'll be going
Speaker 1: to the gate. Da da da da. Please make sure
Speaker 1: you take everything off with you. I'm scared. I'm like, buddie,
Speaker 1: we had to land in another country. Like, what you
Speaker 1: mean were going to the gate. I'm like, I'm freaking out.
Speaker 1: A nigga a bish beIN sleep. No, it is one
Speaker 1: thirty in the morning. We never left goddamn Atlanta. We're
Speaker 1: going back to the gate because the hours was it
Speaker 1: from when it was taxi, Well, the flight was already
Speaker 1: delayed by like two hours, and then I guess we
Speaker 1: were on the tarmac for about another hour hour and
Speaker 1: a half. Ooh, Like weather was bad. That sucks.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it was so it's it's one thirty in
Speaker 3: the morning.
Speaker 1: So we all get off and they're just telling us, Hey, guys,
Speaker 1: they'll let you know up details at the gate, y'all.
Speaker 1: This is Delta. By the way, I preface that because
Speaker 1: what happened next made me question who the fuck I
Speaker 1: was lying. So we get out to the gate, and
Speaker 1: in the most Atlanta fashion, because we have no answers,
Speaker 1: she says, check in, check in, Hello, Hello. I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna let y'all know because y'all crew ain't had the
Speaker 1: balls to tell you. Literally, this is on the The
Speaker 1: reason y'all ain't taken off tonight is because they didn't
Speaker 1: want to take the trip.
Speaker 3: They timed out and said they don't want to take
Speaker 3: the trip.
Speaker 1: Suck. Let me tell y'all was about to happen. It's
Speaker 1: one thirty in the morning, which means we gotta find
Speaker 1: y'all a new crew. The chances of that happening at
Speaker 1: one thirty in the morning are very high. Give me
Speaker 1: five minutes, but do not come up here. Your crew
Speaker 1: chose not to take this flight. Give me five minutes.
Speaker 1: We're all sitting around and I'm like, okay, she said,
Speaker 1: give me five minutes. Come back on No Live five
Speaker 1: minutes later. All right, whatever number in email you use,
Speaker 1: there's a hotel voucher and food vouchers for y'all. Y'all
Speaker 1: gonna have to go stay in a hotel tonight because
Speaker 1: we don't think that y'all.
Speaker 3: Gonna be able to get out tonight.
Speaker 1: So I'm looking around, looking around, and they're like, okay, well,
Speaker 1: none of us can leave because even if we get
Speaker 1: hotels for tonight, we don't know what time we got
Speaker 1: to be back to the airport. So the funniest thing happens.
Speaker 1: Mind you, this is a direct flight to the south
Speaker 1: of France. I'm looking at people, look at these hotels.
Speaker 1: It's the La Quinta, it's the it's the red roof
Speaker 1: in hold On.
Speaker 3: So see, and here goes weezy. I think it's so easy.
Speaker 3: I can't stay that.
Speaker 1: So literally, I'm across and they're like, what kind of
Speaker 1: hotels do they think we're gonna stay at tonight? And
Speaker 1: I'm hearing all these bougie people look at the list
Speaker 1: of hold On and then they give us. Then they
Speaker 1: give us two food vouchers twelve dollars apiece, and let
Speaker 1: us know, y'all better go. The only thing open right
Speaker 1: now is McDonald's and they about to close. What are
Speaker 1: you in the morning. McDonald's is the only thing open,
Speaker 1: and everyone's like, I'm not staying at these hotels. But
Speaker 1: mind you, it's one thirty in the morning, so many
Speaker 1: of these hotels are already booked, like two or three options.
Speaker 1: So I'm listening to all these bourgie as people complain
Speaker 1: about not want to say at the Laquenza or the
Speaker 1: Holiday Inn. So then she comes back five minutes later,
Speaker 1: it is two o'clock in the morning, because she says, hey, guys,
Speaker 1: before we get a time that we can land, we
Speaker 1: have to call air traffic control because Nice is such
Speaker 1: a small airport they only allow one flight a day,
Speaker 1: so we need approval to land this plane for tomorrow.
Speaker 1: Shit bitch, She comes back. Flights officially been canceled, y'all.
Speaker 1: Y'all gotta figure out how to get there because they're
Speaker 1: not allowing two planes to land tomorrow and Nice so
Speaker 1: the desk is down the hall. Good luck, y'all. No,
Speaker 1: there's nothing she could do. She since now it's three
Speaker 1: hundred people literally at two thirty in the morning. Hold on,
Speaker 1: you're doing it too hold on. First off, I call
Speaker 1: the Diamond Line. I get booked on the next direct flight.
Speaker 1: I don't cause it's premium. I know, lucky there was
Speaker 1: one seat left in premium, so there was no extra charge.
Speaker 1: She put me on. I looked up. Here go Atlanta Airport.
Speaker 1: I'm in the international terminal. So y'all already sending people
Speaker 1: to hotels. Everyone's on the phone or lined up, and
Speaker 1: it's three hundred people. The fucking trains are down. It
Speaker 1: is a twenty three minute walk air trams. Oh shit,
Speaker 1: not only it is a twenty three minute walk. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, terminal E to motherfucking ground transportation. And then
Speaker 1: you know you got to call it Uba two thirty
Speaker 1: when I tell you so on the way. Walking on
Speaker 1: the way there, I'm like, well, let me call my
Speaker 1: hotel and niece cause they better give me a refund
Speaker 1: because I make it there covering. No. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: well I'll do I'm plotting them with Bear. So they said,
Speaker 1: no worries, I'll just modify the reservation. The Marriott was great,
Speaker 1: and so I'm walking and I'm like, wow, the growth.
Speaker 1: Normally I would have been pissed about. My blood pressure
Speaker 1: would have been hot I would have been like just miserable.
Speaker 1: And as I'm walking from twenty three minutes down all
Speaker 1: the goddamned terminals at the Atlanta Airport, I'm like, Giry,
Speaker 1: you came so far. I'm talking to myself at this point.
Speaker 1: It's three o'clock in the morning, and I'm like, you
Speaker 1: know how you normally respond to things, And I'm just like,
Speaker 1: in my mind, I'm genuinely like, I'm gonna make it
Speaker 1: there because I'm supposed to be there, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: there's a reason why we didn't get on that goddamn plane. True,
Speaker 1: it might be that the new final destination just dropped.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I've been just listen Bad Brother's Bad Brother, though.
Speaker 1: I've been saying I don't need the stress of doing that,
Speaker 1: and I was just like a good attitude. So I
Speaker 1: got then, I got that. On Saturday, got to spend
Speaker 1: I ended up cutting out Monacos, but the whole day
Speaker 1: and Knees got to cam the next day.
Speaker 3: And I was just like everything the entire week.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was fine. No, When I say, yeah, everything
Speaker 1: that we said we wanted, the people we said we
Speaker 1: wanted to meet, we met.
Speaker 3: And I was just like, it's because I came into
Speaker 3: this week with that energy. It had to be and
Speaker 3: it was just like so great.
Speaker 1: But no, as I was sitting there, I think it was.
Speaker 3: I think it was just funny. First off, the lady
Speaker 3: at the gate talking like this is so plain.
Speaker 1: I get it.
Speaker 4: Though she did it, it's not her. It was three
Speaker 4: hundred people to attack her. And thank god, by the way,
Speaker 4: that you took a nap right before that long walk.
Speaker 4: At least you were arrested.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie rest imagine you didn't take it nap.
Speaker 4: You're gonna be cranky walking all the way down to
Speaker 4: the Brown Transportation.
Speaker 1: I told you.
Speaker 5: I got home because I forgot my toy and still masturbating.
Speaker 5: When I get home, I said, oh my god, cleaning.
Speaker 2: Really, they'll do anything you want. They gat meet up
Speaker 2: looking same liquid to ship. Bitch didn't say there and
Speaker 2: I said, sorry, this is what I book.
Speaker 1: They gave it back. I started ordering food that they
Speaker 1: wouldn't let me get. They gave it back. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: was like, you know what, I remember when I what
Speaker 1: was it? I was telling y'all, oh, when we were
Speaker 1: supposed to make it to another country, what was it? Vietnam,
Speaker 1: and then we couldn't get in with the visa and
Speaker 1: we were sitting in the airport like what do we do? Yeah?
Speaker 1: And you know what's hard of the same latitude, Like
Speaker 1: you know, it'starting together. We forgot to tell you about
Speaker 1: that too, because that almost happened to me a Crystal
Speaker 1: because we were traveling with Adriana. Adriana has a German passport,
Speaker 1: so she booked our routing to Vietnam. Bitch me and
Speaker 1: Crystal get there, they say, oh no, y'all, bitches need visas.
Speaker 1: Now we literally had that day.
Speaker 3: They will, y'all they're on a weekend. Y'all were there
Speaker 3: on a weekend.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to think if any fun travel stuff happened
Speaker 2: with us. No, but the one thing, obviously the Old
Speaker 2: Bay story is tea, but that's a whole episode. So
Speaker 2: there's this club I don't know if anyone's ever heard
Speaker 2: of it. Listening, it's called Berghein, And actually last week's
Speaker 2: episode with Jerry, she talks about going in there.
Speaker 1: Okay, so my man and I are playing this yer
Speaker 1: trip and he is very like he would rather travel
Speaker 1: to like Brazil, Japan or South Africa.
Speaker 3: I love that you get him to do everything he
Speaker 3: don't want to do the cruise in now Europe.
Speaker 2: Oh he loved Europe though, And it sound funny because
Speaker 2: when you were in pairs together, he's like, I get
Speaker 2: it now, baby, He's like, I see because he would
Speaker 2: make fun of me and be like, oh you like
Speaker 2: that white shit. The second he got there, he's like,
Speaker 2: I've seen more niggas than I thought I would like.
Speaker 2: So we get We've been listening to a lot of
Speaker 2: House and more recently Techno at a spot called Basement
Speaker 2: in New York, which I mentioned was in the Baby
Speaker 2: Girl movie for that crazy club scene. So we're like,
Speaker 2: all right, we gotta go to the real shit. And
Speaker 2: I have heard the real shit is in Berlin. This
Speaker 2: club called Berghein. Berghein is basically this I don't even
Speaker 2: know how to describe it. It's maybe five stories warehouse building,
Speaker 2: a five story dungeon imagine.
Speaker 1: So all he's the club. No, it's just a club,
Speaker 1: and it's open because you're a dungeon're a dungeon.
Speaker 2: But ohrs, But we'll talk about what's in there a
Speaker 2: little bit because I want to keep the code and
Speaker 2: get back in one day four days. The club is open,
Speaker 2: okay from Thursday to Monday. So we're like talking to
Speaker 2: people in Germany, like how do we get in? What's
Speaker 2: the best way to get in. I spoke to Liz
Speaker 2: Knebridch because she loves techno and she's like, tell you today, bitch,
Speaker 2: you get their Sunday morning, you have brunch. And then
Speaker 2: he stayed on London warning and I'm like what, So
Speaker 2: I was really worried.
Speaker 1: We wouldn't get in.
Speaker 2: The door guy whose name's Spenn, actually he was in
Speaker 2: john Wick for he's a well known doorman. He's in interviews.
Speaker 2: Everybody's terrified at this guy. I watched this interview they
Speaker 2: had to like dub it. He basically is like what
Speaker 2: I do is face control. You can't pay me.
Speaker 1: No one's gonna convince me you can get it.
Speaker 2: If I say no, it's me and a team of
Speaker 2: other people and we decide if you fit the energy
Speaker 2: for this club, and if you don't, you don't get in.
Speaker 1: If he says no, there's no talking. There's also tiktoks
Speaker 1: and Reddit threats where you can figure out how to
Speaker 1: get in.
Speaker 3: That's spin okay.
Speaker 1: So basically when they ask you how many people are
Speaker 1: you hold up the fingers.
Speaker 2: You don't speak. They look you up and down. They
Speaker 2: may ask you what dj you know? They may not
Speaker 2: they may say why are you here? Like you got
Speaker 2: to figure out your answer. You wear all black, you
Speaker 2: don't smoke in line, you don't get on the phone
Speaker 2: in line.
Speaker 1: If you can google rules. I'm telling you this is
Speaker 1: what I know. This is insane.
Speaker 4: This man looks by the way all the audio listen
Speaker 4: is very intimidating. Man face covered in tattoos, snake bites,
Speaker 4: gray beard and looks like would crushed by school at Harby.
Speaker 1: And then something interesting he said. He's like, listen, uh,
Speaker 1: there's places I can't get into because of how he looks.
Speaker 1: Right for ta to tase.
Speaker 2: He's like, so there's just places you can't get into,
Speaker 2: like if you don't get the vibe in it. So
Speaker 2: me and my man get there around four pm on
Speaker 2: a Sunday. We heard that's when the line is low,
Speaker 2: because you may be in hours for three hours in line.
Speaker 2: But it's the best club in the world, they say
Speaker 2: Elon Musk got rejected.
Speaker 1: It's a whole thing. You can't get it. Not that attractive.
Speaker 1: No tables just to say, like, you could be the
Speaker 1: richest man in the world. Right. So we're watching people
Speaker 1: get turned away and my niggas like damn, like they
Speaker 1: kind of look like they fit, Like why the fuck
Speaker 1: they get it? So then we get closer, He's like,
Speaker 1: we don't need niggas in this line. We get ain't
Speaker 1: no way, I'll blow this shit up. Not getting in
Speaker 1: is the fucking culture of this club. So we get
Speaker 1: to the door. I'm thinking this guy is the urban myth.
Speaker 1: I'm thinking because he's been working at twenty years. I'm
Speaker 1: not thinking we all see him, bitch, we see you.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh fuck, because there are other door
Speaker 1: guys people talk about, but this is the one. My
Speaker 1: man's wearing black, black pans, thick, chunky, like those big
Speaker 1: botaga booze, and just some cool shit. He got his
Speaker 1: shirt open a little bit so you might see a
Speaker 1: little nipple ring. I was just wearing all black and leather.
Speaker 1: So the door guys look at us, say how many?
Speaker 1: They look us up and down. He says something in
Speaker 1: German to the guy next to him. Then they pull
Speaker 1: out spend he's the main guy. He's looking us up
Speaker 1: and down. They start talking to each other. Bro, I
Speaker 1: didn't know it was gonna take this long. So I'm swimming, bitch,
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, this feels like racism and oppression.
Speaker 1: This is too much. And then finally it's just boom
Speaker 1: one head nod and does this like go in. Well,
Speaker 1: you can't say anything, you know, So we're just walking
Speaker 1: in and he squeezing them olve and I'm like, oh shit,
Speaker 1: oh shit, oh shit. They cover your phones. This is,
Speaker 1: by the way, German thing phones covered.
Speaker 2: First thing I see when I get in, literally a
Speaker 2: dude with his dick out and wearing wristlets to hold
Speaker 2: his phone on his ankles.
Speaker 1: Did he go in with his dick out? Not set?
Speaker 2: But this was another tip I got for anyone going
Speaker 2: to berg Hine. So you bring a bag with you
Speaker 2: and they know you're gonna change. The first floor is
Speaker 2: the cod check.
Speaker 1: The code check is so full because everybody's getting undressed.
Speaker 1: So now at this point I told all like, I'm
Speaker 1: taking my pants off, like now I want to get undressed.
Speaker 1: So I'm thinking I'm about to walk into a sex club.
Speaker 1: It's not a sex club, but I don't know what
Speaker 1: to call it. You walk in it's a nude club.
Speaker 1: It's not even a nude club.
Speaker 3: If you saw a whole dick, girl, it's a nude club.
Speaker 1: People wearing clothes, some people are not, some people have
Speaker 1: their tips out. I don't know what it is a club,
Speaker 1: so my nudity, it's not. You saw dick a titty
Speaker 1: the club. It has no rules period. A club with
Speaker 1: no rules. No, so you cut a stuff your man
Speaker 1: dick in the club. I'm gonna tell you what I
Speaker 1: saw a little bit. Oh, I'm gonna tell you everything.
Speaker 1: This is a sex club, bro. It's not as like, okay,
Speaker 1: we're not going to label it like how. People don't
Speaker 1: want to be lax, so they say it is at
Speaker 1: the best club of the world.
Speaker 2: And I was talking to this black girl in the
Speaker 2: bathroom who she doesn't know me or you, but she
Speaker 2: was like, I feel.
Speaker 1: Like you do something with someone someone hold I know you.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, okay, maybe. So I was like, what
Speaker 1: do you think? She was like, I only came here
Speaker 1: because I heard it was hard to get in and
Speaker 1: I wanted to know I could get in. She was like, but.
Speaker 2: I hate techno and I hate house music. She's like,
Speaker 2: I fucking I cannot believe how much I love this thing.
Speaker 2: She's like, it is just the weirdest energy. So basically
Speaker 2: we start walking through the club and my man and
Speaker 2: I were still geeked off the fact that we got
Speaker 2: in this shit. We want to talk about it, like
Speaker 2: why are you looking at this a long?
Speaker 1: Did he say? Nigga? What did you say?
Speaker 2: So we're walking by and there's these little inlets like
Speaker 2: it looks like closets but with no door, private rooms,
Speaker 2: but only one two people could fit in, like literally
Speaker 2: if it looked like a box, like if you walked in,
Speaker 2: someone that got in there would have to squeeze and
Speaker 2: be suffocated.
Speaker 1: Or put their dick in you yep, And that's what
Speaker 1: I saw. And oh, so we're looking at it and
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I need to get high out. I
Speaker 1: need to do some drugs. Now, do some drugs. So
Speaker 1: I'm trying to go to the bathroom and do my
Speaker 1: drugs like a good person. And then finally I'm waiting
Speaker 1: online and someone just pulls some shit out. She says,
Speaker 1: would you like some spid? Do some spid? I was like,
Speaker 1: oh no, and I will go do my ecstasy alone.
Speaker 1: Ye go back out and it's like, it's five forty
Speaker 1: five the club closed at eight am to night. It's
Speaker 1: five forty five pm. He's like, what are we gonna do?
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know, dude. It is wild. I've
Speaker 1: never seen anything like this in my life. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I got to get out of here. Let's go get
Speaker 1: a drink. I go get a drink. I'm waiting on
Speaker 1: the bartender. Bartender is standing next to three on the
Speaker 1: bartender is wearing like all techno clothing, and another one
Speaker 1: comes out fully naked with a huge, huge rabbit's foot
Speaker 1: hanging from the chain on his dick, and he says, oh,
Speaker 1: but are you from would you like to drink? And
Speaker 1: I'm like, dick water, I don't bitch? What dick out? Bitch? Wait?
Speaker 1: Are all the bottles okay? Sorry, this is where my
Speaker 1: mom went. Are all the bottles at least on the wall,
Speaker 1: like above them? Because all I'm thinking is, as a
Speaker 1: former bartender, sometimes it's down anywhere else is his dick
Speaker 1: slanging possibly touching the tops of the bottles where it
Speaker 1: pours out.
Speaker 4: I just would like to also, also, is it like
Speaker 4: sacrilegious to share bottles there? Because that was a problem
Speaker 4: earlier in this Oh.
Speaker 1: There's no tables, okay, everyone, there's no tables. There's no
Speaker 1: way you can pay to get there is no exclusive No.
Speaker 1: I don't know, honestly, unless the bottle are coming from
Speaker 1: above you, I don't know if I want a dick
Speaker 1: slinging bye ma ba.
Speaker 2: Well, no choice match. And you know what else is crazy?
Speaker 2: This club is so true to the fact that no
Speaker 2: one's above anyone. When the DJ walked in, he walked
Speaker 2: in through the front door, I saw people bugging out
Speaker 2: about him. No oh well, he then climbed up a
Speaker 2: ladder to get to a section, to put his things down,
Speaker 2: and climb down the ladder to get to the fucking
Speaker 2: bro best anciste I've ever heard, I've never I was
Speaker 2: just wow, it was a lot.
Speaker 1: And then it's an unlabeled sex club. I think it's
Speaker 1: just a very pre for all love call free. I
Speaker 1: really don't think it's a sex sob. I swear to God,
Speaker 1: like if there's no there's no, there's no. But there's
Speaker 1: no way of fun. There's clearly a lot of places
Speaker 1: as the bathroom a little slits in a world. I
Speaker 1: think it's them all. It's just cool to me.
Speaker 5: Though.
Speaker 1: To me, though I think it's to me, I would say,
Speaker 1: and maybe because we we in Europe. But to me,
Speaker 1: if I'm going to a place that's not a sex club,
Speaker 1: like you and I are liberated. To me, if I'm
Speaker 1: going to a club, I don't believe that I'm going
Speaker 1: to see anybody's dick or anyone's think Like to me,
Speaker 1: that's like there's that sexual assault technically their sex.
Speaker 2: It's to rest why that is why all of these
Speaker 2: people are judged based on if they fit the vibe.
Speaker 2: Maybe you will see four fucking niggas fucking each other.
Speaker 2: Are you gonna be weird about it? I don't know
Speaker 2: how one guy with face tattoos can determine it. Well no, no, no, no, apparently,
Speaker 2: And I don't know because now after we got in
Speaker 2: we've just been googling, like trying to figure out about
Speaker 2: this club. There's a rumor online that he's been paid
Speaker 2: to like do the most.
Speaker 1: Like curate vibes and like do shit like that. Like
Speaker 1: I actually think that you can do that.
Speaker 2: I think for twenty years, if you've been running one
Speaker 2: of the most well known clubs in the world, Yes,
Speaker 2: I do think you can do that.
Speaker 1: I think I could look at somebody and be like,
Speaker 1: you ain't about this life one hundred percent. I think
Speaker 1: we all can do that. And I think in my
Speaker 1: in my first thirty seconds of just looking at someone
Speaker 1: where you can't say words, which means you can't have
Speaker 1: a conversation and you're just looking at energy, has energy bro.
Speaker 1: For example, there's a clip of Peggy Goose, she's a
Speaker 1: really dope DJ who is talking to another DJ in
Speaker 1: BBC and the girl goes, how do I get in?
Speaker 1: She was like, you gotta look ready, and the other
Speaker 1: girl are you huh? I agree, I agree, I think
Speaker 1: you gotta know. So then we start talking about this. Right.
Speaker 1: I talked to my homeboy who runs Jerk and Joel
Speaker 1: Off shout out to Sante. He's like, damn, nigga, you
Speaker 1: got in. I didn't get in, And I'm like.
Speaker 2: Hell because I'm thinking he's a handsome looking guy and
Speaker 2: he's like I had so many people I was with,
Speaker 2: So I'm like, all right, now, I don't think he
Speaker 2: means black shit. I think he means he throws the
Speaker 2: afrobeats party basically, right, Afrobe's anshult.
Speaker 1: So if you bring a niggas from the club with you.
Speaker 1: How are they dressed? Are they dressed in just like regularly? Shit?
Speaker 1: Like what they looking like?
Speaker 2: Because you really got to fit the bill for people
Speaker 2: that like this music, for people that do this, like
Speaker 2: you can't look like a first timer. And I heard
Speaker 2: them say to the guy before us, have you been
Speaker 2: here before? And he said no, and they talked and
Speaker 2: then they.
Speaker 1: Still let him in. But he kind of a little
Speaker 1: life vibe.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think that if more people did this
Speaker 2: instead of being for example, little Sisters Adore in New
Speaker 2: York that a lot of people can't get into. They're
Speaker 2: known notoriously for letting in skinny model girls and it's
Speaker 2: turned into this whole cool kid's culture.
Speaker 1: But it used to be a cool.
Speaker 2: Club, but it's not really anymore. What if it was
Speaker 2: just based off people that looked like they were ready
Speaker 2: to fucking dance and.
Speaker 1: That were cool, not hot, cool, that whatever, short, just
Speaker 1: a cool motherfucker instead of skinny model white.
Speaker 3: You just think even cool. But I think even cool.
Speaker 3: It's subjective.
Speaker 1: I do want to shout out to Okay, see because
Speaker 1: I found out cold they there's something called an unction
Speaker 1: and it's a thirty and up crowd. You cannot get
Speaker 1: it unless you are thirty plus and she's twenty seven.
Speaker 3: So she was like, oh, you gotta be thirty. And
Speaker 3: she said it like it was real old.
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, did you go? I didn't.
Speaker 1: I was so tired. I had just lend it from France.
Speaker 1: I had to go from France. Okay, see the whole festival.
Speaker 1: I was like, ain't no way, I'm making it out.
Speaker 1: But she was telling me by the unction and I said, yea,
Speaker 1: I love that name. And what I'm realizing too is
Speaker 1: thirty enough crowds are loving R and B. It's why
Speaker 1: almost the only time I go out, even in Atlanta,
Speaker 1: were looking for the R and B parties And I'm like, damn,
Speaker 1: that's a good name, I said, because I like a
Speaker 1: little thirty up crowd. Although I do like my Wyans too,
Speaker 1: But the Wayians in the South dress a little too
Speaker 1: Yanish for me. Oh.
Speaker 2: I like Kawaiians everywhere doing you know what? Learn that
Speaker 2: in London the Wayans the like that culture of like drill,
Speaker 2: like nog the cdentral Sea. Look, let me tell you something.
Speaker 1: Hate it crossing people's street, Hate it not crossing the street.
Speaker 1: I don't like them.
Speaker 2: I'm walking down the Lower east Side. Yo, I'm sorry
Speaker 2: if I sound like a fucking Karen. Me and my
Speaker 2: nigga are mid thirties.
Speaker 1: The other day we saw some niggas we were walking
Speaker 1: in it. I said, get him out of here, go left.
Speaker 1: I don't want to, he laughed. He's like, I'm like
Speaker 1: eight niggas, bunched up, thirteen years old after school. You marijuana,
Speaker 1: get up in marijuana?
Speaker 3: Well, no, I ain't gonna need you to me.
Speaker 1: It's it's not for shown. I hate it the Jesus.
Speaker 1: And here's my problem with the Yan fashion in Atlanta.
Speaker 1: Like me and my friend now have a game where
Speaker 1: when we go out, we literally try to decipher who's
Speaker 1: hetero and who's not. The why in look is a
Speaker 1: mix between guess real hood. But in Atlanta they bedazzle
Speaker 1: ships and they wear ship no, and then it be
Speaker 1: crop top like you go white there. So I'm like,
Speaker 1: you know why under me in my head is like that,
Speaker 1: hold no, no, no, let me finish. It'll be bedazzled
Speaker 1: tight with the crow top and it's still a ski
Speaker 1: mask where it's ninety degree. That's okay for Atlanta. That's
Speaker 1: what that is it's the white. It looks like that's
Speaker 1: my life with this is the way. That's the look,
Speaker 1: the way the that's the way the drill rappers dressed.
Speaker 1: Don't like it, like you know, I don't like it.
Speaker 1: He is you know, like if you know, like you
Speaker 1: went to Paris for fact music.
Speaker 2: It's this thing I kate when rain into on accidents,
Speaker 2: basically just music day. It started in the seventies where
Speaker 2: free concerts were all over the streets in France, and
Speaker 2: now it's turned into people could just play music from
Speaker 2: their homes like you basically follow the street to different sounds.
Speaker 1: It's so much fun. So my whomeboy invites me to
Speaker 1: this party. Be on my nigga about the pull up.
Speaker 1: I want to say it was sponsored by Snipes or
Speaker 1: Nike and it's free. Right. We got up there, I
Speaker 1: see thirty niggas with Travis Scott Braids and Nike Tech.
Speaker 1: I said, we're not going They're gonna be shooting we
Speaker 1: are No, Wow, that's crazy. I'm going to daily paper, bitch.
Speaker 1: I'm going to motherfucker every day pop why I'm not
Speaker 1: going to ask shit, Y'all'm n exactly going to be
Speaker 1: trying to kill me. Oh, it's funny. I've been trying
Speaker 1: to figure out where to go in Atlanta because it's
Speaker 1: a mix. I do want to go where the Waiians are,
Speaker 1: not the ones that just like the Wayans, but y'all
Speaker 1: know I like me a little Wayian, so I've been
Speaker 1: trying to go there. And then also them's her crowd,
Speaker 1: so the cigar bars. So it's like been interesting to
Speaker 1: figure out where the hell just to go out where, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know people you know makes sense. Yeah, let's get
Speaker 1: into y'all. We are now authors. We authors, Baby, We're
Speaker 1: gonna get into a little bit of the book to
Speaker 1: share with y'all some things, talk about it and really
Speaker 1: hopefully get y'all just as excited as we are that
Speaker 1: the book is now out, that you get to read
Speaker 1: all the things we shared.
Speaker 3: We'd be vulnerable on the podcast, but we even more
Speaker 3: vulnerable in the book.
Speaker 1: And listen, you may just be.
Speaker 2: A listener that doesn't really care about reading anything about us.
Speaker 2: You don't need to care about me and die it
Speaker 2: easy to read this. It's really that good of a book.
Speaker 2: I will say different compliments I received from this book.
Speaker 2: Last night when Shara hit me, he said, everyone that
Speaker 2: loved to say and will love this book. One of
Speaker 2: my other homegirls said, I kind of feel like I'm
Speaker 2: reading a self help book for help that I didn't
Speaker 2: ask for, but now I kind of like it. I
Speaker 2: like reading about tips about BDSM. She's like, I like
Speaker 2: reading about these heartbreak tips. She's like, I feel like
Speaker 2: I'm married, but just reading on how I should have
Speaker 2: done things feels good. And I think it's all of
Speaker 2: this juicy detail about someone that you don't know.
Speaker 1: But it's non fiction. When we read nonfiction, we're normally
Speaker 1: reading it to better our money or mental health. We
Speaker 1: never think about nonfiction for the sex. Yeah, so I'm
Speaker 1: like excited for you to dig in. I wanted to
Speaker 1: break up real quick some conversations for us based on
Speaker 1: the sections of the book, just so that we can
Speaker 1: maybe add some elements to it, tell them something they
Speaker 1: may not know, get deeper into something. So I wanted
Speaker 1: to start with pleasure, because pleasure outside of our introduction
Speaker 1: is where the book starts. And so for pleasure, I
Speaker 1: wanted you to share your favorite moment in the book
Speaker 1: from this section. Really, it could be a sense of
Speaker 1: a tip or a specific story about a certain person.
Speaker 1: So for me. Specifically, my three chapters and the Pleasure
Speaker 1: of Portion are about masturbation, being a unicorn on vacation,
Speaker 1: and anal sex, which I love. Y'all, actually has something
Speaker 1: to do with that chapter title. We literally leaned into
Speaker 1: something that was said on the podcast when Vinnie joined us.
Speaker 1: But can I put it back there? That's the title
Speaker 1: of that chapter. But I wanted to actually add because
Speaker 1: this is a story told on the podcast. Y'all remember
Speaker 1: when I took my solo trip to Mexico and became
Speaker 1: a unicorn for a couple and it was just super wonderful.
Speaker 1: This chapter, even though you've heard the story on the podcast,
Speaker 1: I kind of tied into the fact that so many
Speaker 1: of us maybe stop ourselves from exploring or doing things
Speaker 1: that we want to do because of how we think
Speaker 1: people will perceive us. So that chapter, the theme is
Speaker 1: about would this have happened if I came with friends?
Speaker 1: Would this have happened if I was thinking too much
Speaker 1: about what the people on the boat would.
Speaker 3: Have thought about me for staying on this island with strangers?
Speaker 1: Would I have got to experience this dope ass experience
Speaker 1: of a weekend? Had I let what public perception would
Speaker 1: have took about this experience from me, and so I
Speaker 1: really lean into hopefully the reader from that reading that chapter,
Speaker 1: the reader gets that, damn, how many times did I
Speaker 1: not shoot my shot because I was in fear of rejection?
Speaker 1: How many times did I not date this person because
Speaker 1: I just knew my friends wouldn't like him or my
Speaker 1: mama wouldn't like him, And I want to make all
Speaker 1: those people happy instead of choosing my own happiness first.
Speaker 1: So that was, like I would say, my favorite chapter
Speaker 1: of the pleasure section, but also the theme that I
Speaker 1: was able to bring around a story that y'all already
Speaker 1: heard on the pod.
Speaker 2: I think the pain section will be people's favorite because
Speaker 2: it jumps around. Oh no, I want to think it's no, no, no,
Speaker 2: I know I'm just saying, but I think the pleasure
Speaker 2: starting with the pleasure is really fun because when you
Speaker 2: pick up a book like this, that's what you respect read.
Speaker 2: I think for me one that I haven't really discussed
Speaker 2: the safety chapter. You don't really hear me talk a
Speaker 2: lot about, but I'm thinking about it because we did
Speaker 2: the breakfast club.
Speaker 1: This morning and I kind of forgot about how necessary
Speaker 1: it is.
Speaker 2: For so in the safety chapter I reference needing a
Speaker 2: devil and an angel on your shoulder. Mine is Vinnie
Speaker 2: and Brionda. And I know if I'm about to do
Speaker 2: some crazy shit, I'm gonna call any and he's gonna
Speaker 2: be like, bitch, go thought that nigga Brionda.
Speaker 1: Be like, oh my goodness, okay, well I'm here.
Speaker 2: She'll never tell me no, she'd never judge. And I
Speaker 2: think surrounding yourself with that community in your pleasure seeking journey,
Speaker 2: there does need to be someone else oden than you,
Speaker 2: because a lot of the inner turmoil I'd experienced with
Speaker 2: sexuality was because I didn't have anyone to relate to,
Speaker 2: and many times people kind of shame you for it,
Speaker 2: or you feel like they're gonna talk behind your back.
Speaker 2: Many of us have a group of a few friends,
Speaker 2: and I actually just recently said, I don't know if
Speaker 2: you've had this experience recently, but it's such a good
Speaker 2: place of comfort. My all girls are in a group
Speaker 2: chat with me and I was telling them something don't
Speaker 2: lie did and they were about to go to lunch.
Speaker 2: I was like, I don know, y'all, I was about
Speaker 2: to talk about me and they were like, olla, well,
Speaker 2: and we are with a smile, and I was like, damn,
Speaker 2: I am in such a good safe place, and you
Speaker 2: don't really.
Speaker 1: Get here till you're in your thirties. Right, there's always
Speaker 1: a bitch you can't staying something wrong, And it feels
Speaker 1: good to know that I've built that for myself, much
Speaker 1: like Chosen Family. So in the pleasure chapter, just knowing
Speaker 1: I got to do something fun and then sneaking call
Speaker 1: a friend and having that safety net, like, it didn't
Speaker 1: hit me that that was that pivotal for this book.
Speaker 1: Now there's the off the cuss question. There's sex throughout
Speaker 1: the book. Is there a sexual experience or story that
Speaker 1: you wish made the book cheating all old Bay? Probably okay,
Speaker 1: okay for me, I think, And I questioned myself, y'all know,
Speaker 1: I told y'all a story about the editor not allowing
Speaker 1: me to be the bi sexual bitch that I am. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And so I did at one point want to make
Speaker 1: a story about my frivolous casual sex with women because
Speaker 1: back in Miami. And it's so funny because this story
Speaker 1: just I don't remember who I was talking to. I
Speaker 1: think I was talking to somebody who No, it would
Speaker 1: have been a new story. It would have been a
Speaker 1: new chapter. But I remember having this conversation about what
Speaker 1: the club scene is like now, and I was like, yeah, man,
Speaker 1: back when I lived in Miami, I remember being able
Speaker 1: to eat couci in the in the bathroom saws. They
Speaker 1: were like, wait, how did you eat pussy in the
Speaker 1: bathroom sauce. I said, yo, I did it twice, No,
Speaker 1: maybe three times twice in play well, okay, I did
Speaker 1: it twice and play.
Speaker 3: Once it Jerry's if y'all know Jerry's, if y'all in
Speaker 3: your thirties. Jerry's was the.
Speaker 1: Diner on South Beach that is no longer open, and
Speaker 1: then I ate Pussy. I shared the story a story.
Speaker 1: No story was this side of the beach. No, it
Speaker 1: was down on the other side. And then I ate Pussy.
Speaker 1: Y'all heard the story when I went to Tutsis and
Speaker 1: so I'm literally like talking about the clubs and I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I used to pussy the stalls da da,
Speaker 1: And so I go to start talking about like my
Speaker 1: ex girlfriend and me that I dated when I was.
Speaker 3: In Miami and what that, and I was like, damn, okay.
Speaker 1: I realized that there was this questionable part of me,
Speaker 1: and it didn't make it in there because I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm not changing none of my chapters, but for me,
Speaker 1: I was like, damn, if I really could have shared
Speaker 1: all the wild, random sex with women I had, like
Speaker 1: on the dock and tootsies and stalls, I was like, wow,
Speaker 1: I actually don't have those stories with a lot of men,
Speaker 1: Like Bro.
Speaker 2: That's because of safety. That's a good point to like
Speaker 2: ring up. And so I don't know if it was safety, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 2: Bro were in the bathroom, I was on my knees
Speaker 2: like crazy. They could take me to give me head,
Speaker 2: and for some reason, niggas made me feel insafe. I
Speaker 2: don't know if I was letting man just take me
Speaker 2: in the bathroom and do shit strangers, yes, I mean
Speaker 2: my niggas. Yes, I've done it with like people that
Speaker 2: I know what you're saying. Safety is your thing, Okay.
Speaker 1: Like the way that I've learned how women respond to me,
Speaker 1: it's not because I'm the baddest man in world, even
Speaker 1: though i'd like to think. So. Women feel safer with women,
Speaker 1: like we're fucking area of sault. So we were able
Speaker 1: to eat each other pussy because we feel safe in
Speaker 1: the club safety O show us. Also all the women
Speaker 1: who have sucked digging a club, good for you, but yeah,
Speaker 1: you're right safe spacey plussy in a club.
Speaker 2: By the way, the reason I would want to add
Speaker 2: the old Bay thing is because, oh, that sounds so suitable.
Speaker 1: I didn't want to say this out loud say it.
Speaker 2: I feel like a lot of people feel really bad
Speaker 2: for me after reding that chapter, and I had some
Speaker 2: bad moments, but I had another boyfriend I was okay,
Speaker 2: which I was really living it up like I thought
Speaker 2: he was going to be my central relationship because it
Speaker 2: looked so good on paper, and I didn't really think
Speaker 2: I needed.
Speaker 1: Much more for stability for me. In the beginning of.
Speaker 2: That relationship, I really didn't focus on I always thought
Speaker 2: everything could be fixed, which isn't true. Like I always
Speaker 2: just kind of thought, hey, great on paper, we'll fix
Speaker 2: this other shit, I'll go to therapy, I'll figure it out.
Speaker 2: But this is a great catch to the point where
Speaker 2: I didn't really care about much else. Now, I didn't
Speaker 2: need a relationship that badly. I was having so much
Speaker 2: fun in my life and it's stumbled on one. But
Speaker 2: at that particular time I met him I was coming
Speaker 2: off of Scissors rebounding a little bit, and I felt
Speaker 2: like I needed that with a man, and I felt
Speaker 2: like he was a perfect man for it, and I
Speaker 2: also had a lot of fun with him. But the chapter,
Speaker 2: when I read it back, and it's some one that
Speaker 2: people talked to me about the.
Speaker 1: Most, it does feel sad.
Speaker 2: But I really was getting fucked, like I had two
Speaker 2: other niggas, Like I really was giving my lick.
Speaker 1: Back in real time. But I felt like bringing it
Speaker 1: up in the chapter with Muddy, how terrible he was,
Speaker 1: so I needed people to know he wasn't shit. Before
Speaker 1: I told you that you, I didn't start until he started.
Speaker 1: Guess crazy. Sorry for pain, we talk enjoyment, consequences, and trauma.
Speaker 1: Why did we and I want to talk to the
Speaker 1: to the audience here. Why did we feel it was
Speaker 1: important in this pain section to include BDSM or the
Speaker 1: pleasure of pain? I think it was because we definitely
Speaker 1: knew we didn't want to make this book too dark,
Speaker 1: and so yeah, the way of making it fun pain
Speaker 1: pleasure like it went hand in hand and someone and sometimes,
Speaker 1: to be truthful, when I say pleasure and pain, I
Speaker 1: don't think of heartbreak, pain I think of sex pain.
Speaker 1: So I think when the reader picks this up, they're like, ooh,
Speaker 1: pleasure and pain. So when you fucking hear about a
Speaker 1: story that's violent, you're like, oh shit, I think that
Speaker 1: is the unexpected party. I know we got our trigger
Speaker 1: warnings too, and I love that. Lauren on Breakfast Club
Speaker 1: was like, I really loved that y'all included these trigger
Speaker 1: warnings because when you're reading a book and you get
Speaker 1: into hearing about fucking a couple and eating pussy and
Speaker 1: taking dick in your ass, and then you get to
Speaker 1: a sexual assault chapter, it's like, WHOA, So you guys
Speaker 1: do have the trigger wanting to be able to flip
Speaker 1: through the book on your own time, because we definitely
Speaker 1: don't want to trigger you why you read this, But yeah,
Speaker 1: I was it was important for us to include that,
Speaker 1: and it's in the master class. I decided to do
Speaker 1: a whole breakdown of BDSM and then the dungeon that
Speaker 1: I'm actually speaking about in the book get the master class.
Speaker 1: I have a whole video in the exact room, so
Speaker 1: the way I described the space and what it looks like,
Speaker 1: you actually have a visual representation of the rig that
Speaker 1: suspended me in the air, and I literally also bring
Speaker 1: out the chastity belt that I put my exes Dick in,
Speaker 1: and you also get to see the thing that electrocuted me.
Speaker 3: So the electro play toy is there. Everything is in
Speaker 3: the master class.
Speaker 1: So again, make sure you get that it's only available
Speaker 1: till July first, and then for free, for free, for
Speaker 1: all of you out.
Speaker 3: Progression Healing is a journey. Where do you think you
Speaker 3: still have the most work to do?
Speaker 1: Like, even based on the stories you narrated in your
Speaker 1: progression part, is there anyone that still seems like a
Speaker 1: work in progress. I think.
Speaker 2: Myself is the work in progress for the story, particularly
Speaker 2: about depression and suicide and all that stuff.
Speaker 1: I'm such a happy person in my day to day that.
Speaker 2: It doesn't really come up often, but when it does,
Speaker 2: it's hard to get out of it because I'm so
Speaker 2: emotional when.
Speaker 1: I'm happy, I'm so happy. I'm not just content, I'm excited,
Speaker 1: and I'm screaming it at you.
Speaker 2: I feel like more recently in my life, just just
Speaker 2: said it to me when we were walking out of
Speaker 2: the Bakfast club. You look really good, and I was like,
Speaker 2: oh god, I'm just really happy. Like, that's my answers continually.
Speaker 2: I'm really happy and I feel it in and out,
Speaker 2: and I lost ten pounds.
Speaker 1: That added to it. Everybody keeps saying, oh, you look great,
Speaker 1: don't know you? I got it off. Now what I
Speaker 1: will say when those sad moments come.
Speaker 2: I then almost re tracked back to like this dark
Speaker 2: place of who I was, because it can really take
Speaker 2: me down. So some of the tools that I've used
Speaker 2: that I even talk about, how I talk about what
Speaker 2: my therapist did for me, automatic thoughts, how to fix them,
Speaker 2: sometimes I forget. I forget how to use them, and
Speaker 2: I really need to start practicing what I preach all
Speaker 2: the time. This week, we're gonna be doing so much
Speaker 2: extra work. I'm sure it may take my bad thoughts down. Like,
Speaker 2: for example, I don't know if this has ever happened
Speaker 2: to someone. It happened to me last night, and I
Speaker 2: was able to get through it. So I knew I
Speaker 2: had to go to bed by a certain time because
Speaker 2: make up was six forty five, with the breakfast club
Speaker 2: at nine whatever. Right around ten forty five, I'm like, Oh,
Speaker 2: if I keep staying up, I'm only gonna have seven
Speaker 2: hours and fifteen minutes. It's like, oh, if I'm still awake,
Speaker 2: I'm only have six hours to sleep. Then I went
Speaker 2: to the bathroom and I see the clock at four am.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, wow, so now I only have ninety minute.
Speaker 2: Like the way that my brain starts to spiral, it's
Speaker 2: so awful and I can't stop myself sometimes, And I
Speaker 2: think that is the biggest piece of work for me.
Speaker 2: How am I talking to myself when I'm stressed out?
Speaker 2: Why don't wake up every daytime?
Speaker 1: All? I just talked about going through the airport. That's
Speaker 1: the That's the thing that I'm like, so glad that
Speaker 1: I have in control.
Speaker 2: I did that a little bit when with the Reckfast
Speaker 2: club today, actually, and I helped myself, so I inverted
Speaker 2: the address, y'all.
Speaker 1: I left my house early. I was so proud of myself.
Speaker 2: Got to one twenty fifth instead of one twenty five
Speaker 2: West fifty fifth.
Speaker 5: What was it?
Speaker 1: Bruh.
Speaker 2: The second I started seeing horle, I'm like, this don't
Speaker 2: feel right. And after it got fixed, I'm looking at
Speaker 2: the clock. I'm watching it go from thirty two minutes
Speaker 2: to get there twenty nine minutes to get there.
Speaker 1: I'm late. I'm embarrassed, and I'm like, I go, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: they were trying to start without you, and I was like, no,
Speaker 1: let's again, God right, only six minutes. You were forty
Speaker 1: minutes late. No, no, no, six minutes from when we
Speaker 1: were recording. Oh, as soon as you got there, we started.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I got there in nine thirty six. They
Speaker 1: said nine thirty start.
Speaker 3: No no, no, no, no, no, no this Yeah, they
Speaker 3: were ready to go at night.
Speaker 1: Oh no, they were ready going night. I'm glad. I
Speaker 1: didn't know that. It would have gave me anxiety. I
Speaker 1: literally had to say to myself, this is a mistake.
Speaker 1: It happened. If I start to get upset, then it's
Speaker 1: gonna throw the vibe oup with the both of us.
Speaker 1: It's gonna read on my face.
Speaker 2: I'm not able to help talk about this book because
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be so overworked and upset I can't think
Speaker 2: about it. I made a mistake. I got to accept
Speaker 2: my fate. I'm gonna get there. It's gonna be great.
Speaker 2: Everything will be okay. Like it's tough because we are
Speaker 2: our biggest critic and I'm about to tear myself up
Speaker 2: in the car and fuck all this shit up.
Speaker 1: Fuck all this energy up, not just for myself but
Speaker 1: everybody else around me. So like, yeah, my thoughts get dark, dude,
Speaker 1: and when they do, I've just got to learn how
Speaker 1: to be better about it. And talking about that in
Speaker 1: the book was very freeing, just about ay, like life
Speaker 1: goes on, everything wound up being good.
Speaker 3: I think, Yeah, that's that's where I've had the most work.
Speaker 1: I used to get worked on hoping that people showed
Speaker 1: up how I wanted them to show up, or do
Speaker 1: as I wanted them to do, or be who I
Speaker 1: wanted them to be, whether it be a partner, whether
Speaker 1: it be you, whether it be a friend, whether it
Speaker 1: be my mom, my dad, my dad. Definitely, that's a
Speaker 1: whole nother story. And now I just exist where I'm
Speaker 1: like people are in their own worlds. I have my
Speaker 1: own world. I can't make make anyone get out of
Speaker 1: the own world that they existed, I said, So I
Speaker 1: just have to exist with my own thoughts. I only
Speaker 1: have control over how I show up. And like I said,
Speaker 1: even when that plane canceled, I talked to my best
Speaker 1: friend the next morning. She's like, ooh, bitch, I know
Speaker 1: you was tight, And I said, actually, friend, I wasn't.
Speaker 1: Everything that happened was completely out of my control. And
Speaker 1: I said, the only thing that I could control was
Speaker 1: how I felt in the moment. And I said, at
Speaker 1: that moment, I made the decision, You're not gonna be mad.
Speaker 1: There was nothing you could do. You're gonna get home,
Speaker 1: you're gonna go to sleep, you're gonna take the flight
Speaker 1: tomorrow and hopefully everything works out. And that's been such
Speaker 1: a freeing thing to get to. Like I used to
Speaker 1: be in therapy, like I don't understand like why this,
Speaker 1: and I would just get so upset that things didn't
Speaker 1: happen the way I thought everything should happen. And now
Speaker 1: that I just be like, Okay, well there's nothing you
Speaker 1: can do. Don't even get mad at this person. Just
Speaker 1: allow them to be who they are. You are who
Speaker 1: you are. You can only control who you are. How
Speaker 1: do you want to be today? Do you want to
Speaker 1: be upset? Do you want your energybo? Do you want
Speaker 1: to be nasty? Because if you don't want to be,
Speaker 1: those things show up the way that like allows you
Speaker 1: to have a good day. And when I allow you,
Speaker 1: boy that having a good day, everything just kind of
Speaker 1: works out.
Speaker 2: Like I talked about this before bringing up the manifestation
Speaker 2: visualization rituals I did on the master class.
Speaker 1: But like in my story, I'm headed to the airport.
Speaker 2: I had to leave earlier because I had a meeting,
Speaker 2: so my man is still in bed on our original flight,
Speaker 2: but I had to get to New York, you know.
Speaker 2: And I'm tired because we went out the night before
Speaker 2: and we're all cutled up, and I gotta get up
Speaker 2: at six am. I'm on the way to the airport. Mandy,
Speaker 2: I'm not even joking. The Uber driver says, excuse me,
Speaker 2: excuse me.
Speaker 1: One moment and he points to the wheel of his
Speaker 1: car like outside, and I'm like, okay. One moment he
Speaker 1: starts to blow up his shit with a little bike pump.
Speaker 1: I'm like, dog, I'm fucking late. I'm already in a
Speaker 1: bad mood because I lost my first class seat because
Speaker 1: I switched to my flight.
Speaker 2: This is total rich people problems. And let me tell
Speaker 2: you something, I don't care this flight I paid for
Speaker 2: my seat on because I said, hey, Mandy and I
Speaker 2: are doing the breakfast club right after this trip, and
Speaker 2: we uppress every single day. I'm gonna spend this money
Speaker 2: on my seat because I deserve.
Speaker 1: To lay it down. Lost the seat because I had
Speaker 1: to fucking leave early, so fucking tire boom blows out.
Speaker 2: Then on the highway tire goes out again. I gotta
Speaker 2: get another uber. Thirteen minutes to get this other uber.
Speaker 2: It's me and the luggage. While I'm rolling the luggage
Speaker 2: to the car, there was so much cobblestone spalls off.
Speaker 1: Well fall up. It's now I'm lugging sixty pounds bag
Speaker 1: stressed Mandy, this ah get to the airport. Flight is
Speaker 1: at nine thirty. I'm there at eight twenty seven. You know,
Speaker 1: the bag don't go on if it's not an hour
Speaker 1: before I run. I get there. My seat was thirty
Speaker 1: four J not lying to you get to the thing?
Speaker 1: She answered, my ticket there's four A on the ticket
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my god, and she goes, I
Speaker 1: guess people didn't make it, so you got upgrade it
Speaker 1: to verse class, Nigga. I paid six hundred dollars for
Speaker 1: that seat. Do you know how much I paid for
Speaker 1: the one before? Forty seven? I was like, dog, this
Speaker 1: is just good karma, because you know what my text
Speaker 1: message was to my man about the about the flight.
Speaker 1: Fuck it, I said, this is shitty. I'm in a
Speaker 1: hot ass cart this nigga and got a c It's
Speaker 1: my second crid to grave on a highway and I
Speaker 1: wrote the God damn, I had a great time. Life
Speaker 1: is Good book comes out tomorrow. Boom.
Speaker 2: The way that we are starting to move through life,
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's something we could have done.
Speaker 2: In the beginning of the show, I had to chip
Speaker 2: on my shoulder about so many things. I've had so
Speaker 2: much anger, so much confusion. Why is it happening to
Speaker 2: me just letting that shit go? Like life is good, I'm.
Speaker 1: Going to be tired this week. You're gonna get on
Speaker 1: my nerves. I'm gonna get on your nerve. Absolutely damn.
Speaker 1: I mean it already happened, you know, you know time
Speaker 1: to this, I'm I'm at the thing. She's like, girl,
Speaker 1: I went to Harlem. I switched to that address twenty
Speaker 1: four minutes away. I'm like, well the thing is so.
Speaker 1: I was just like, but you know, it was only Parson.
Speaker 1: I'm like, we got a long week. She gonna get here.
Speaker 1: And I literally was like, hey, you know I got
Speaker 1: anxiety to tell Mandy that because I know what she
Speaker 1: feels about.
Speaker 2: Time let alone fucking Charlamagne and breakfast club and is
Speaker 2: our first thing we stay back, and I hate that.
Speaker 2: That's the first place my brain went. But it's like,
Speaker 2: what are you gonna?
Speaker 1: What can you do? Man?
Speaker 2: You gotta just be happy. And at the end of
Speaker 2: the day, this shit just came out. I fucked up
Speaker 2: because when we still does the breakfast club it sucks.
Speaker 2: I was late, but this just happened, Like I really
Speaker 2: want to just feel good about my life instead of
Speaker 2: putting myself in this I hate everything mode.
Speaker 1: Every flight goes through turbulence, like you got to go
Speaker 1: through ship, not every flight with me all that, and
Speaker 1: I've been on some flights where I ain't feel a
Speaker 1: shake get to the first flight. Okay, where were you looking?
Speaker 1: I'm just I don't know. I went home. Let's be
Speaker 1: very clear. I live in Atlanta. That's that run you know,
Speaker 1: bring out in the city and there's you know jfkn
Speaker 1: or you know, you know you in that whole for hour.
Speaker 2: Atlanta's a really they set their airport up. Even though
Speaker 2: it's amazed, it's convenient to the city. That is one
Speaker 2: thing that Atlanta has.
Speaker 1: I was about to say or not if you got
Speaker 1: to go on the outskirts. I just happened to live centrally,
Speaker 1: but yeah, no, that shit is what happened. The last
Speaker 1: question that I want to ask, and I brought this
Speaker 1: up on the Breakfast Club, but it was just so
Speaker 1: powerful to me when I think about, like how everything
Speaker 1: pans out. So we're in the south of France. The
Speaker 1: last thing that I do for my trip, I went
Speaker 1: to like this beautiful villa. It's funny because I'm so American.
Speaker 1: I kept calling it the strip, but it's the quassette,
Speaker 1: oh right, strip, the strip, like the cossette. But I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I on the strip because that's what
Speaker 1: she used we used to call South Beach.
Speaker 2: Basically, the beach is a really long road, maybe it's
Speaker 2: like a mile and a half. You all the restaurants
Speaker 2: and you have all the shops.
Speaker 3: So colleagues, I called the trip a little like South
Speaker 3: Beach to me, just in the south of France.
Speaker 1: So I go to this thing. Shout out to Sharon.
Speaker 1: I was invited. She was on my flight, saw me
Speaker 1: sitting down. I got invited to do this salon culture
Speaker 1: conversation and it was just really dope that what's the company.
Speaker 1: It's salon culture conversations, A long culture conversation everything. I
Speaker 1: host something and I go to this villa up. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, it's so gorgeous. And we get to this
Speaker 1: last thing. It's like a kind of you know, relaxing
Speaker 1: thing for the end of the week. And this lady
Speaker 1: comes up and starts talking and heard her tone. Everything
Speaker 1: was just so beautiful. And she has this bag she
Speaker 1: starts handing around. She's like, pull out a card. People
Speaker 1: start pulling out cards, and I want to read the card.
Speaker 1: I literally took a picture of it because I was
Speaker 1: like wow. So I pull out this card and it
Speaker 1: said when did you know your story has power? And
Speaker 1: I immediately read it and my eyes get watery. And
Speaker 1: at this point I'm like, which is drunk? Like you
Speaker 1: had that much rose? Why is this making you so emotional?
Speaker 1: And it made me so emotional because immediately I'm like,
Speaker 1: my story is right here in this book, Like I
Speaker 1: knew it had power when I was able to quit
Speaker 1: my job and do this for a living, Like I
Speaker 1: quit my career in twenty nineteen, and I don't even
Speaker 1: want to call it a job because I fucking bust
Speaker 1: my in school for four years, got two degrees and
Speaker 1: was like, this is about to be my career. I
Speaker 1: finally made it, and now I left that and have
Speaker 1: been doing what I've been doing based on my story.
Speaker 1: Charlemagne doesn't give us the opportunity to have this book
Speaker 1: if we weren't sharing our story every goddamn week on
Speaker 1: this podcast. And so when I when I read that
Speaker 1: card in front of there was probably maybe twenty twenty
Speaker 1: five other people there, and I start sharing about this
Speaker 1: book and like what it is meant over the last
Speaker 1: year and a half to write it, what it's meant
Speaker 1: over the last eight years to be on a podcast
Speaker 1: to share it. And right before coming to this event,
Speaker 1: I met the Martinez on the strip and this girl
Speaker 1: comes up and it's like, Mandy, it's you. Her eyes
Speaker 1: start watering and she's like like like this, like she's like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to cry. I just want you to
Speaker 1: know that you helped me get through a really dark
Speaker 1: time with a breakup and just thank you. And then
Speaker 1: we just embraced, hugged and we both just started bawling,
Speaker 1: and I was like, that's when I knew my story
Speaker 1: had power. From the meet and greets to us going
Speaker 1: on tour to us really being able to meet the
Speaker 1: people that we've had impact on. I was like, maybe
Speaker 1: it's powerful. And I know, like people be in the
Speaker 1: comments and have their talks about we need to go
Speaker 1: to therapy, we'll be single forever. No, it's gonna want
Speaker 1: us well or me whatever. I'll speak for myself. It's
Speaker 1: just really it meant so much to not only pull
Speaker 1: this card but get that story right before it and
Speaker 1: now all week we get to talk about our goddamn
Speaker 1: stories in a motherfucking book and for it to end
Speaker 1: with power to say power, that's what this book ends with.
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh my Gody hat Yonnavirus, I
Speaker 1: see you. And it's just been that. Everything has been
Speaker 1: like so amazing. So y'all getting the book this week,
Speaker 1: we're putting it in the air. We all thought, but
Speaker 1: we're gonna be New York Times bestsellers because we are,
Speaker 1: y'all rock with us. That's time what happened, I said,
Speaker 1: because we live in New York and it's time eight
Speaker 1: that too, that too. But I'm just really excited about
Speaker 1: this book. And I don't know if you have a
Speaker 1: different story, but I wanted to literally on that. I
Speaker 1: think it's how did you know your story has power? No? No,
Speaker 1: let's have not yet. Okay, good story. Well, guys, the
Speaker 1: book of that motherfuckers by the way, just got word.
Speaker 1: If you're listening to this, if you're listening to this
Speaker 1: today Brooklyn, we sold out, So we're excited to see
Speaker 1: y'all tonight at Word Bookstore in Brooklyn. However, if y'all
Speaker 1: want to see us in Philly, pull up Wednesday. That's tomorrow,
Speaker 1: the twenty fifth, y'all pull up to Uncle Bobby's and Philly.
Speaker 1: We will be there from seven to eight thirty signing books,
Speaker 1: meeting and greeting with y'all and really really excited to
Speaker 1: touch y'all and feel y'all.
Speaker 2: Remember what Saucy Santana said, what what meeting agreed? Charlottagne
Speaker 2: was like you outside, he's out just meeting a greeting.
Speaker 1: We meet in agreeting y'all at Uncle Bobby's on Wednesday,
Speaker 1: and then Thursday, y'all, we are at State Solid State
Speaker 1: Solid State Books there where we are having a conversation.
Speaker 1: So we and I will be joined by our co
Speaker 1: author Tempest X, and we will be having a conversation
Speaker 1: where y'all also get to do Q and A with
Speaker 1: us as well as signing your books. And then Friday, y'all,
Speaker 1: New Haven, Connecticut at the Pride Center, We'll be doing
Speaker 1: a conversation with what does it black girls read books to?
Speaker 1: Or black kids? Yeah? Hold on, let me make sure.
Speaker 1: Let me make sure I got cuz, y'all, I think
Speaker 1: my boyfriend parents going so that Connecticut. Will hold on,
Speaker 1: I want to make sure I get his name. Here
Speaker 1: we go, Here we go.
Speaker 3: Kids with two d's read two so the kid Pig
Speaker 3: will be.
Speaker 1: Interviewing us about the process of writing the book, and
Speaker 1: then we will also be signing those also, if you
Speaker 1: are in Atlanta, meet me at forty fourth and third
Speaker 1: Bookstore on Sunday three pm, right after the brunch. Baby,
Speaker 1: I'll be there also with tempest X as well as
Speaker 1: a nice friend of mine moderating. And then weezy on Tuesday,
Speaker 1: coins and you got to go to Atlanta to La
Speaker 1: July Second. I'm gonna be with our girl, Shan Boody,
Speaker 1: our Reparations bookstore.
Speaker 2: Shan's gonna be interviewing me. But I thought it might
Speaker 2: be fun because my mom is there.
Speaker 1: Oh, that'll be fun.
Speaker 2: A little I'm gonna do a little second, since she
Speaker 2: went viral for talking about stroking that I'm a man
Speaker 2: at Ralph's on Woolshir asked her.
Speaker 3: About that doubt that's crazy. No one that knows what
Speaker 3: my mom said.
Speaker 1: Every loves that. And guess what really really really excited
Speaker 1: to let y'all know, bitch, we will be at Essence Festival.
Speaker 1: We got a mother fucking lot this baby. There we go,
Speaker 1: There we go, there we go. Well, I want to
Speaker 1: wait till you sit down so I can shout out
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Speaker 1: Really excited to be talking to Candy. Y'all know I'm
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Speaker 1: And also AT and T is supporting us as authors.
Speaker 1: So if you come to Essence Festival, Wall supplies last.
Speaker 1: You can go to the AT and T booth and
Speaker 1: get No Holds Barred, a dual manifesto of sexual exploration
Speaker 1: and power. Also, right after our live show, we will
Speaker 1: be signing books, so you can bring it, you can
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Speaker 1: you go to the marketplace at essenspest As Wall Supplies
Speaker 1: last you could pick it up. Yeah. Also believe us
Speaker 1: Guilla is also sponsoring books for that weekend as well, So.
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe we man, we're gonna be having some really
Speaker 2: cool talks about HIV, black women and how to stay safe,
Speaker 2: sponsored by Gilliad who are coughing some books for all
Speaker 2: the girls that need to read too.
Speaker 1: So come and see you some on Saturday. Inter you can,
Speaker 1: I can, I really ruin your walt and there you go, y'all.
Speaker 1: Thank y'all so much for tuning in to yet another
Speaker 1: episode of This is the This is the Hi