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Speaker 1: right everybody, it's time for the Strawberry Little Well, my

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Speaker 1: good friend Shirley Strawberry, thank you, junior subject. Let's make

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Speaker 1: a deal, Dear Stephen, Shirley, I'm a very beautiful and

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Speaker 1: bucksom female in my mid forty and I'm divorced. My

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Speaker 1: close to two years that married men and men with

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Speaker 1: be honest. I'm still damaged from my divorce, so it

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Speaker 1: would be nice to have sex with no strings attached

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Speaker 1: with a decent man that's being honest about his situation.

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Speaker 1: I shared my thoughts with two of my good friends.

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Speaker 1: One is a man, and he advised me to get

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Speaker 1: something out of the situation. If a married guy wants

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Speaker 1: to want sex on the side, he suggested that I

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Speaker 1: tell the guy I want a deal. In quotes, the

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Speaker 1: deal can be anything that I want or need to

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Speaker 1: be happy with our arrangement, whether it's money or home

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Speaker 1: cooked me weekly massage. I love this concept, but when

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Speaker 1: They said, an affair is just an affair. They don't

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Speaker 1: woman again. I'm not ready for that, so I just

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Speaker 1: have to keep my goodies to myself. Okay, Am I

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Speaker 1: wrong to expect the cheater to make a deal? With

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Speaker 1: the cheaty Okay, what what is this all about? I mean,

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Speaker 1: this is a lot to unpack in this letter. First,

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Speaker 1: I have to commend you for leaving your raggedy husband.

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Speaker 1: What he did with your so called acquaintance in your

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Speaker 1: how could you ever trust him again? Anyway? You should

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Speaker 1: know that you deserve better, and I think you do.

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Speaker 1: He walked in the bathroom by mistake, he said, yeah, right,

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Speaker 1: stop lying. The acquaintance, confessed loser, told everything. I'm sure,

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Speaker 1: but now I think you are selling yourself short. You

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Speaker 1: you let her stay in the first place. So you know.

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Speaker 1: Now moving on to you wanting no strings attached this

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Speaker 1: don't do that. You don't want to do that, and

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Speaker 1: why you're not ready for that, you're still damaged Goods.

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Speaker 1: You said that in your letter you need to work

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Speaker 1: That's where your mind should be right now. I say, forgive,

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Speaker 1: I agree with everything you said perfectly fine, Mom, a

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Speaker 1: I'm a very beautiful and bucksome female in my mid

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Speaker 1: I'm very beautiful and buxhall. I'm a buxom female. For

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Speaker 1: That means I'm heavy, chesty, That means I'm luptuous. If

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Speaker 1: I'm wide rack, I'm i'm, I'm, I'm I'm I'm I'm

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Speaker 1: top heavy, I'm i'm, I'm blessed, I'm okay, I'm strong.

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Speaker 1: My headlights is on a high bean. We know what

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Speaker 1: it means. I just want I want to go over

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Speaker 1: with my brother says like me, Steve. You know, I'm Stevens.

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Speaker 1: Here for the real dudes out there, y'all got a

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Speaker 1: she got all that working in she mid forties and

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Speaker 1: she's very beautiful. Husband cheated on it because of an

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Speaker 1: I was a knee. I was naive. Hit the line

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Speaker 1: that threw me off. It didn't suspect anything, even though

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Speaker 1: where she was taking a shot. Boy, Come on, lady,

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Speaker 1: you trusted her. Man caught him coming out bath room

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Speaker 1: where one was taking a shot, And don't stay there.

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Speaker 1: One hold on, Hold on, hold on, hold on. We'll

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Speaker 1: have part two of your response. Steve coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes to half to be our today's Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letters subject Let's make a deal. We'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject let's make a deal. This beautiful bucks some

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Speaker 1: female We went over bucks on what that means? I

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Speaker 1: won't spend a lot of time on it. Just quickly though.

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Speaker 1: That's heavy chested, I louptuous, wide ragget, it's top heavy,

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Speaker 1: is blessed, high beam headlights. It's all of these things.

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Speaker 1: Glory to God. Or the reason we're not getting much

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Speaker 1: from our crowd here on the Morning show, it is

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Speaker 1: because they've heard all well, Shirley and Carlin have heard

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Speaker 1: all this before more than once, and probably familiar with

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Speaker 1: other terms. I haven't throwed out yet. Now there's a

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Speaker 1: about you, Junior. Praise him. And So my husband cheated

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Speaker 1: Here's the line of lines from me, even though I

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Speaker 1: walked in by mistake, my dog. Well, that's the one

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Speaker 1: out of fact that you were naive and didn't know

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Speaker 1: it that I found out right after that because she confessed.

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Speaker 1: So she'd been singing now for two years, and she's

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Speaker 1: noticed that married men and men with girlfriends they want

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Speaker 1: to play with her on the side. And then you know,

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Speaker 1: then she says, she's still damaged from the divorce. Right,

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Speaker 1: And then she said it would be nice heal sex

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Speaker 1: and I would suggest you listen to surely. Here's where

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Speaker 1: I come in that I shared my thoughts with two

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Speaker 1: of my good friends. One is a man. He advised

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Speaker 1: I tell the guy I want to deal. The deal

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Speaker 1: happy with our arrangement, whether there's money or home cook

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Speaker 1: meal or weekly massage. I love this concept. Let me

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Speaker 1: that's supposed to be your friend. This was not for

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Speaker 1: you to just take and run with him. He was

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Speaker 1: suggesting this for himself. Oh oh, but if he your friend,

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Speaker 1: he didn't want to proposition you like that, But he

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Speaker 1: so when you came to him after two years of divorce,

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Speaker 1: conversations for nothing. We don't do nothing without purpose. Now,

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Speaker 1: it to the black men that were really trying to

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Speaker 1: I understand that, but you're in your mid forties. This

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Speaker 1: Listen to this part. One of my closest male friends

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Speaker 1: that now. The reason he told you that it's because

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Speaker 1: y'all hands sex? Huh? You think he forgot that? You

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Speaker 1: think when y'all sitting around, he don't remember having you? What? What? Man?

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Speaker 1: You talking to girls? Stop? So now he's set in

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Speaker 1: Look now we'dn't done this before years ago. You just

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Speaker 1: you right here with me. Free open, let's thet dudelet's

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Speaker 1: what this head. Then the ladies say, so, I've just

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Speaker 1: kept my goodies to myself. That's a good idea. Am

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Speaker 1: I wrong to expect the cheetah to make a deal

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Speaker 1: with the cheaty? Absolutely? Absolutely. They're called benefit packages. They

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