Speaker 1: Second date update. It can be pretty frustrating when a
Speaker 1: first date doesn't go the way that you planned.
Speaker 2: Well yeah, yeah, like.
Speaker 1: When you go to the movie theater you find the
Speaker 1: tickets are all sold out. You go to the concert,
Speaker 1: the band forgot their guitar. I don't think that you
Speaker 1: go skydiving. They're out of parachutes, right, but they do
Speaker 1: have a big bundle of those helium party balloons. So
Speaker 1: you know, you give it a go, but it's just
Speaker 1: not working out the way that you hope.
Speaker 2: I don't think you're after that skydiving day.
Speaker 1: That's what happened to one of our listeners, justin, not skydiving,
Speaker 1: but just his date didn't go the way he wanted
Speaker 1: it to. So justin welcome to the show man.
Speaker 3: Hey, thank you for having me out there.
Speaker 2: Well, but you didn't say she jumped first.
Speaker 1: Well we'll get to what you did on your date
Speaker 1: in just a second, but first, tell us about the
Speaker 1: person that you were meeting up with. Who, what, where,
Speaker 1: when and why? That's a lot well just who, I
Speaker 1: guess right now? Everything.
Speaker 3: Well, her name was Robin. She's beautiful, has these really
Speaker 3: really sexy green eyes.
Speaker 2: I mean like, wow, oh that's awesome.
Speaker 1: Brook has some sexy green eyes over there, like little
Speaker 1: line of beans, like a like a mountain dew.
Speaker 4: See them, probably like an almost compliment into an insult.
Speaker 2: I get you, I get you us green eyed girls?
Speaker 2: Were you know we stick together with rare.
Speaker 3: Breed are Yeah, like real green eyes, not contacts or anything.
Speaker 2: Like what you're going on? Okay, so wait where did
Speaker 2: you meet her? Where'd you meet Robin?
Speaker 3: We met on a dating app and we decided to
Speaker 3: do like a dinner date.
Speaker 4: Okay, was were you feeling a lot of pressure going
Speaker 4: into this because it sounds like there's a lot of
Speaker 4: build up a.
Speaker 3: Little bit, but like, I try not to get too
Speaker 3: nervous because I feel like on dates we all just
Speaker 3: get nervous and we're trying to impress the other person,
Speaker 3: but the other person's probably feeling the same. So I
Speaker 3: just try to mellow out, be cool, just go there,
Speaker 3: have a good time, make sure everybody's comfortable.
Speaker 2: That is a good it's good life lesson right there?
Speaker 5: Really they always say be yourself. I feel like a
Speaker 5: lot of times if people try too hard, that's ruins.
Speaker 1: Right. So you go to the restaurant for the date,
Speaker 1: How does it go.
Speaker 3: I ended up getting there a couple of minutes early, like,
Speaker 3: because I really like this girl, and I'm always like
Speaker 3: five ten minutes late, so I made sure I was
Speaker 3: there fifteen minutes early.
Speaker 1: Nice, bro, don't set that precedent. You're gonna be late
Speaker 1: the rest.
Speaker 3: Forget this. So I'm there about fifteen minutes early, and
Speaker 3: then I get a text that she's running late. So
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, in there, of course.
Speaker 2: That's how it always wears.
Speaker 5: Yeah right, like.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know, like I completely understand. So I
Speaker 3: was like, not a problem. I just ordered a drink
Speaker 3: while I was waiting. So I finished my drink and
Speaker 3: by that time, she texts me again that she's still
Speaker 3: on the way.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, how long that here was a while?
Speaker 3: Like I'll tell you, Like, I saw another couple come
Speaker 3: in after I had been there, sit down, finish their meal,
Speaker 3: and leave. I think it had been like at least
Speaker 3: an hour before she got it.
Speaker 2: But she she did show up, right, and she stayed
Speaker 2: in contact.
Speaker 3: She did. She stayed in contact. She showed up. You know,
Speaker 3: people have rough days, I understand, okay.
Speaker 1: And that can be hard though, after you've been waiting
Speaker 1: like cold for like an hour for them, but.
Speaker 4: A couple of drinks, I know, But you know, the
Speaker 4: restaurant staff is like, oh.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and all the other couples around are looking over
Speaker 1: like getting stood up. And as a.
Speaker 5: Server, you know, this guy wants to make money off
Speaker 5: this table, but you can't go up and go, hey,
Speaker 5: when are you gonna just call it quits and let
Speaker 5: me get another table?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't do that. So how did it go
Speaker 1: when she finally did show up to the restaurant.
Speaker 3: Well, I was happy just to like, you know, have
Speaker 3: somebody there to be with me, because I was to.
Speaker 6: Her.
Speaker 3: I didn't want to like make herself conscious. She's I
Speaker 3: don't know what kind of day she was having. She's
Speaker 3: finally here. Let's just have a good time.
Speaker 2: That's hard though, Like was she super frazzled.
Speaker 3: She seemed a bit flustered. I don't know if it
Speaker 3: was because she was late. I didn't want to like
Speaker 3: keep digging at it or digging into it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you just want to move forward, move on. And
Speaker 4: were you able to Well?
Speaker 3: I tried, but the vibe was just different from before,
Speaker 3: Like I could tell this is not going well, and
Speaker 3: so I was like, hey, why don't I get you
Speaker 3: like a really nice cocktail. When they brought it out,
Speaker 3: she gulped it down like a shot.
Speaker 1: She was really stressed out.
Speaker 2: Yeah that's not a good look.
Speaker 1: So some people broke speak for yourself was a huge
Speaker 1: turn on. How did you feel about it?
Speaker 3: I don't know. I really like her. I feel like
Speaker 3: she's like the perfect physical match for me. And on
Speaker 3: the text she was so nice, funny, playful and charming.
Speaker 3: She just seemed really distracted, like she got food, she
Speaker 3: didn't even finish her food. So I don't know what
Speaker 3: was going on. I just could tell like, oh boy,
Speaker 3: this is not how I wanted it to go.
Speaker 1: Okay, So how did you end this date with her?
Speaker 3: So? I asked if she wanted to just go for
Speaker 3: a walk, because I love walking when I'm stressed out,
Speaker 3: and just you know, for fair and everything.
Speaker 2: That's kind, that's suthful.
Speaker 3: He said that she just kind of felt like she
Speaker 3: has to decompressed today and wanted to go home, And
Speaker 3: I said, that's not a problem.
Speaker 4: Did she give any indication that she wanted to see
Speaker 4: you again or like retry, because if it was me,
Speaker 4: I would feel really apologetic, right, like, like, oh my god,
Speaker 4: I ruined this day. I was super late. I've been
Speaker 4: totally distracted. Can you just give me a redo?
Speaker 3: You know, she didn't even say sorry when she came in.
Speaker 2: Ouch.
Speaker 1: I mean, it definitely doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. No,
Speaker 1: it sounds like there was something going on with her.
Speaker 1: But let's call her and find out and we'll try
Speaker 1: and get your second date update.
Speaker 3: All right, that'd be great.
Speaker 1: All right, man, hold on second date update. Let's take
Speaker 1: this from the woman's perspective. Okay, she shows up an
Speaker 1: hour light, She's in a sour mood, she's gulping down cocktails,
Speaker 1: barely eating, hardly even talking to the sweet man sitting
Speaker 1: across the table from her. Man, and after all of that,
Speaker 1: the guy still wants to see her again. Bro That's
Speaker 1: how powerful it is to have a pair of sexy
Speaker 1: green eyes. I bet Brooke wishes that she had a
Speaker 1: real pair and they weren't hiding behind those giant four
Speaker 1: and thick lenses that you got.
Speaker 2: Kay, Listen, my eyes don't work well, but they are green.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, according to photoshop they are. But look,
Speaker 1: that's why one of our listeners, justin wants to call
Speaker 1: Robin after he waited an hour at the restaurant for
Speaker 1: her to show up, and the date never really even
Speaker 1: got off the ground once she did. But those darn
Speaker 1: gorgeous asparagus green eyes they just had him wanting one
Speaker 1: more change?
Speaker 2: Do you hit lima beans and now you're going to asparagus?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, like a sexy Diesel gas pupp Right, you
Speaker 1: should say like an emerald or like a that's class,
Speaker 1: that's what everybody does. What what do you think they
Speaker 1: looks like? Justin how would you describe those green eyes?
Speaker 3: I don't know, like magical little kiwi.
Speaker 1: The outside, Yeah, kind of they're exotic.
Speaker 4: O. Justin the thing For me with this girl, she
Speaker 4: didn't apologize after she was so late. That doesn't rub
Speaker 4: you wrong.
Speaker 3: It does, But you know, just taking all the history
Speaker 3: in the consideration, I thought like, maybe she's just something
Speaker 3: personal happened, Like Okay, I wouldn't mind giving it one
Speaker 3: more shot.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's nice.
Speaker 5: The way you've been describing her. A lot of times,
Speaker 5: really hot girls aren't apologetic.
Speaker 1: They're used to people waiting on them.
Speaker 5: Are you worried maybe this girl has like a ton
Speaker 5: of options and doesn't really care about you that much?
Speaker 1: Trying to project onto him.
Speaker 4: I waited on a positive note on you try one
Speaker 4: more time, so.
Speaker 2: I just did not have experience with Let's let Jose
Speaker 2: sit in the corner and.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we have a lot of theories justin but we're
Speaker 1: really hoping for the best year. I'm gonna dial Robin's
Speaker 1: phone number right now. We'll see what's going on. You ready,
Speaker 1: all right, just picture those beautiful key we eyes. There
Speaker 1: we go. All right, let's do this.
Speaker 6: Hello.
Speaker 1: Hi is this Robin?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Hey, my name is Jeff work on the morning radio
Speaker 1: show called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, and this is Jose.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that is.
Speaker 2: Yeah, thanks Jeff.
Speaker 3: This is weird.
Speaker 2: Wow, this is Brook. It sounds like you're busy, Robin.
Speaker 1: And it is.
Speaker 2: Hi, am Alexis.
Speaker 1: That is Alexis.
Speaker 2: I don't think she was asking for a round table introduction.
Speaker 1: And you are now part of this thing called Brook
Speaker 1: and Jeffrey in the Morning. Welcome, so bad.
Speaker 6: Okay, what's going on? Did I win something or what's up?
Speaker 2: Possibly?
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, we're doing a segment called a second date update.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 1: The way that works is one of our listeners reaches
Speaker 1: out to us and we call the person who they
Speaker 1: went out on a date with and has been ghosting them,
Speaker 1: and we're trying to help him figure out the reason why.
Speaker 1: So the guy you went out with recently, his name's Justin.
Speaker 3: Oh Justin.
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, you can just tell him I'm not interested anymore.
Speaker 2: You're not interesting.
Speaker 4: Okay, you're not interested in Justin. He sounded like a
Speaker 4: really nice guy.
Speaker 6: No, I mean, I've got my reasons.
Speaker 1: Okay. Well, look that's okay, Like you're allowed to choose
Speaker 1: who you want a date and who you don't. But
Speaker 1: for Justin's sanity, he's trying to figure out what went
Speaker 1: wrong because he told us it took you a while
Speaker 1: to show up to the restaurant even I.
Speaker 6: Mean, yeah I did, and I do feel bad about.
Speaker 1: That, Like that seems like it's more on you and
Speaker 1: it's less of what Justin did or are we are
Speaker 1: we wrong about that?
Speaker 6: No, it's totally what he did.
Speaker 7: Oh oh, do So, like I had some stuff to
Speaker 7: get done and so I was like running late. But
Speaker 7: also like sometimes I do this with guys I meet online,
Speaker 7: just kind of to see how they're going to react.
Speaker 4: Wait, wait, wait, the one hour late thing was a test?
Speaker 4: Is that what you're saying yeah.
Speaker 7: I mean I didn't like planet ahead of time, but
Speaker 7: once I started being late, I was like, okay, well,
Speaker 7: how's he going to react to this? You know, and
Speaker 7: dude like sat there for an hour and waited for me,
Speaker 7: Like what is that?
Speaker 4: It's a gentleman called patience and kindness and forgiveness.
Speaker 2: No, I mean you were texting him the whole time.
Speaker 2: You kept telling him you were going to be there.
Speaker 2: You were leading him on. It's not like he sat
Speaker 2: there for an hour and hadn't heard from you.
Speaker 7: I only texted him twice and kept saying like I'm
Speaker 7: head of there, and all we had to do. He
Speaker 7: kept many options here, right, he could have rescheduled, he
Speaker 7: could have left, I mean something that should he had
Speaker 7: a backbone.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 1: Wait, so you're are you seriously saying that you're mad
Speaker 1: at Justin because he waited an hour for you to
Speaker 1: show up.
Speaker 7: No, I'm not mad at him. I just he's not
Speaker 7: the guy for me. I'm looking for somebody who's confident,
Speaker 7: who's going to stand up for himself. Like I didn't
Speaker 7: even say I'm sorry when I got.
Speaker 2: There, and he's too nice.
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's just kind of pathetic and it's just like
Speaker 7: a little puppy dog waiting.
Speaker 6: For like his master to show up.
Speaker 7: Love puppies, I mean, yeah, I like an actual puppy,
Speaker 7: not a man who's a puppy.
Speaker 4: I okay, I understand that you want somebody who's confident.
Speaker 4: But to me, it's not that he wasn't confident, it's
Speaker 4: just that he was forgiving. Those are two separate things,
Speaker 4: and I think, like god, the world needs more of
Speaker 4: that type of attitude right now more than anything.
Speaker 6: I mean, no, spare me.
Speaker 7: I think the world needs more men who like have
Speaker 7: a backbone and are a little waiting for somebody to
Speaker 7: show up who well out.
Speaker 1: I think it takes a lot of backbone, Robin, to
Speaker 1: be on the other line listening to this conversation the
Speaker 1: whole time and not freak out. Yeah, the patience. That
Speaker 1: takes strength and courage because Justin's actually been there the
Speaker 1: whole time wanted to talk to you. Isn't that right, Justin?
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's true My point.
Speaker 1: Okay, point, come on, mister, confidences show it, Robin.
Speaker 3: The reason I was waiting for you for so long
Speaker 3: was because you were late. You confirmed, and you said
Speaker 3: you were coming. I didn't want to be rude. If
Speaker 3: you want a guy who's mean to you, who's route
Speaker 3: to you. Good, Look, I just hope you guys don't
Speaker 3: have any kids, because all they're going to create is
Speaker 3: more havoc and monsters in the world's mind.
Speaker 7: Now you're just kind of like lashing out.
Speaker 2: So no, it's kind of put that now, slashing out.
Speaker 2: I thought that that's what you wanted him to do.
Speaker 7: No, I wanted him to be confident and to like
Speaker 7: stand up for himself, but like not just saying stuff
Speaker 7: to piss me off or to look strong.
Speaker 4: Like.
Speaker 1: No, okay, you wanted to be confident without being told
Speaker 1: to be confident.
Speaker 6: There's like a happy balance.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it really is.
Speaker 2: But there is something mean not mean nice. Is there
Speaker 2: any way Justin can win right now? Robin?
Speaker 6: No, I mean no, it's done.
Speaker 7: I mean I hope I hope that just like teaches
Speaker 7: him a lesson though, because girls really do want a
Speaker 7: little more confidence.
Speaker 3: But that's the thing. I'm not trying to go out
Speaker 3: with the girl. I'm trying to find a woman who's matured,
Speaker 3: spoken with confidence.
Speaker 1: Right there, Let's go Justin.
Speaker 4: Honestly, Robin, I never got not confident from Justin this
Speaker 4: whole time we were talking about him.
Speaker 7: I did, really.
Speaker 1: I mean, you should hear the way that he talks
Speaker 1: about your green eyes.
Speaker 3: Honestly, I've looked at Robin's green eyes in the flesh,
Speaker 3: and you know, now, I'm starting to think maybe they
Speaker 3: are contact.
Speaker 1: You think she's a phony green eyed girl?
Speaker 3: Did you hear that? That was a thick burn on you? Robin?
Speaker 1: Older?
Speaker 6: Are you?
Speaker 2: I mean, do we ask this?
Speaker 1: I mean there's definitely some sort of fiery passion going.
Speaker 5: I have to ask by saying you don't want to
Speaker 5: send him on a date, then she'll.
Speaker 1: Say, yes, do it? So, Robin, this is the time
Speaker 1: where I'm supposed to ask if you would like to
Speaker 1: go out on another date, but we don't want you
Speaker 1: to go on it. I don't think he even wants
Speaker 1: to show up to it. He wants to leave you
Speaker 1: hanging there. That's the type of guy, confident person that yes,
Speaker 1: and if you're willing to show up to that, then
Speaker 1: we'll pay for it.
Speaker 6: Thanks for the reverse psychology. I'm still good. I will
Speaker 6: find my own day.
Speaker 2: I mean, it's hard, all this testosterone in the room.
Speaker 2: It's really strong. Actually, Jeffrey Jose.
Speaker 1: And I screwed up. You know what, Robin, he should
Speaker 1: be the one that asks you, as the strong, independent
Speaker 1: man that he is. Go ahead, go ahead, justin.
Speaker 3: Hey, Robin, I'd like to officially ask you out on
Speaker 3: a date to a restaurant that's not even open. It's
Speaker 3: been closed by the health department.
Speaker 2: But the health is that another bird?
Speaker 1: Yeah you want some food poison.
Speaker 7: Rob, You know, I don't know what the hell is
Speaker 7: happening here. I'm like back in elementary school, like, what's
Speaker 7: going on?
Speaker 3: Because you're failing again?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, you're creating a monster.
Speaker 4: Here's at this point, this is getting very unsexy. I
Speaker 4: finally agree with thank you told you.
Speaker 3: You can say what you want. But that's another sick burn.
Speaker 5: Comedy you want to open anytime you want.
Speaker 3: I'm just saying I'll take you up on that comedy.
Speaker 3: I just need a clown like Robin to you know,
Speaker 3: and fire me.
Speaker 6: Why am I still on this phone call?
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 6: I think you're done now right.
Speaker 1: I feel like you would have left if you really
Speaker 1: wanted to leave, But you want to stick around.
Speaker 3: I mean, it's just like he wants grave.
Speaker 6: It's funny.
Speaker 1: Well, he's stuck around for you and you're doing the
Speaker 1: same thing. I don't know anybody agree. I guess that
Speaker 1: wasn't really great comparisons. I just sick burned myself. It's working,
Speaker 1: Jeffrey in the morning. You know, it's kind of interesting.
Speaker 1: We taped this a few weeks ago, and when we
Speaker 1: were done with the phone call, Robin hung up and
Speaker 1: we went back into the office to do our work.
Speaker 1: We came back in studio a while later and Justin
Speaker 1: was still on the line waiting for us. He just
Speaker 1: wanted to wait to say thank you.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 1: I call it kindness. Some call it weakness.
Speaker 4: Yeah. My goal was to like defend him, like I
Speaker 4: wanted to be on his side the whole time. And
Speaker 4: it's just like the last even thirty seconds of the call,
Speaker 4: I was like.
Speaker 1: He's just too sweet.
Speaker 5: He has no bad or mean bone in his body.
Speaker 5: Even know what he was trying to be mean, it
Speaker 5: didn't come out.
Speaker 2: And I still don't like the girl. Like I hate tests.
Speaker 4: I think tests sucks, you know, especially tests that make
Speaker 4: people wait for an hour.
Speaker 5: Of the.
Speaker 1: I know it's already like dating is already a hard
Speaker 1: enough game as it is. Now she's playing games on
Speaker 1: top of the game.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: No, clearly women just don't want to have a nice,
Speaker 1: respectful guy anymore.
Speaker 4: That's not true, exactly, not a jerk. You can be
Speaker 4: confident and also be kind. Those two things really truly
Speaker 4: can't live together.
Speaker 1: Like, Brook, I love you, but shut up for now,
Speaker 1: because I gotta.
Speaker 4: Tell everybody if that was aggressive, you are so with makeup.
Speaker 2: Take it. Those are like backhanded compliments, all right.
Speaker 1: Well, look, if you want to get a second date update,
Speaker 1: you can always email the show and we'll try to
Speaker 1: call the person who wasn't calling you back. I'm sure
Speaker 1: it's going to be disappointing a brook In somewhere Brook
Speaker 1: and Jeffrey in the morning