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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Just take a breath. Hi, Hi, what a fun little

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Speaker 2: start to wind down. Guys. What's going on? I we

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Speaker 2: always have to start this with a deep breath and deep,

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Speaker 2: deep deep. You got anything to share? A kb H.

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Speaker 2: Nothing that's not toxic? So oh well, welcome to wind out. Exactly.

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Speaker 2: It's fine, it's fine. Are you in the brigatiers? Nope,

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Speaker 2: don't say that because that makes me on.

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Speaker 3: She wasn't.

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Speaker 4: Damn did you hate when that happens at my doctor?

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Speaker 4: I went into my guano yesterday and my therapist like

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Speaker 4: gently suggested, She's like, I think maybe you should talk

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Speaker 4: to your kynecologists about options for drugs. Yeah, and then

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Speaker 4: that made me cry because but I just got off.

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Speaker 4: And then and then when I went into my therapist

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Speaker 4: or then I went to the guy, no, she was like,

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Speaker 4: all right, let's She's like, all right, see your anxiety,

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Speaker 4: talk to me about it.

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Speaker 2: And then I just like started crying.

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Speaker 4: And she's like and I was like, I just I

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Speaker 4: don't know if I just need to talk about it

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Speaker 4: or like I just need to Like she's.

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Speaker 1: Like, what your therapists that you hear I just talked

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Speaker 1: about it in therapy.

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Speaker 2: So I know y'all have like a mental breakdown last week,

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Speaker 2: but I want to start with.

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Speaker 3: You to talk about your mental breakdown.

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Speaker 2: I like to talk about other people's mental good I

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Speaker 2: don't feel like it's a mental breakdown.

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Speaker 5: I just am maybe start with Channa, Okay, let start

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Speaker 5: with me.

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Speaker 3: Start with your I was doing.

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Speaker 2: I was going to lock it up, and then you

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Speaker 2: had to say the words do you want to cry? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I should say what Alan's dad says, are you greeting you?

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Speaker 1: She wouldn't understand and she wouldn't cry.

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Speaker 4: I was on FaceTime with Ballan's dad and mom mom

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Speaker 4: the other day and he's like, even greetan or I

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Speaker 4: can't say. I can't do Scotland, I'm Scottish. I'm just

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Speaker 4: gonna just pretend it's whatever. I go Russian, I go

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Speaker 4: Russian British, like I cannot do Scottish. But he's like

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Speaker 4: a greeting and I'm like that's when I was like, yeah, great,

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Speaker 4: people like hello, goodbye. Like it's so silly. He's like, no,

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Speaker 4: greeton means crying in Scottish.

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Speaker 2: Oh I didn't know that I'm greeting greeting greetings from

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Speaker 2: KB on wine down. I don't know what I'm turned

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Speaker 2: down over here, So I don't want to really talk

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Speaker 2: about mine either.

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Speaker 3: If you'll just report.

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Speaker 2: Mine like the news and mentally I'll just detach and

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Speaker 2: that it's not even that big of a deal. It's

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Speaker 2: just frustrating. M Okay, I'll go with mine. It's okay,

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Speaker 2: it's okay.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, no's like god, I just love not being hormonal.

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Speaker 2: It is overly apparent when you have the most part

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Speaker 2: pregnant woman. You know, this is why jar and I've

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Speaker 2: always done pregnancies together, because we got to lean in.

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Speaker 2: Poor Cash Warren Man.

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Speaker 4: I mean, he's he's well, but then again, he's got

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Speaker 4: Jessica Alba, you know, who's you know, amazing in the

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Speaker 4: mom and so she he probably is gonna get the hormones,

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Speaker 4: but we gotta lock it up.

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Speaker 2: Who's going. Essentially, what happens to me is I have

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Speaker 2: a hard time asking for help, and so I've been

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Speaker 2: encouraged by couples therapist, amy therapist, everyone lean in, try

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Speaker 2: to get help, that's all. And I feel like, I

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Speaker 2: I feel like reliable help is hard to find.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if it's an age thing, I don't

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Speaker 2: generationally meaning, I don't know if it is an expectation.

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Speaker 2: I just try to lean in. And I already don't

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Speaker 2: trust anyone, and I don't think people are helpful. That's

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Speaker 2: really a big statement, but it's true. And so then

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Speaker 2: I feel like when I'm let down, it's just consistently

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Speaker 2: reinforcing that, right, because you ask for help today and

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Speaker 2: the kids are now here, uh huh in the other room. Yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: So that's my story. Is overslept, right, which happens. It happens.

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Speaker 2: me to understand. And someone can't wake up at eleven.

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Speaker 4: Well, but it's hard because the heart, the thing that

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Speaker 4: you have a hard time doing, you then get let

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Speaker 4: out and you're like, see, that's why I don't ask

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Speaker 5: One's let it.

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Speaker 2: I literally wrote it to you in capslock. Yeah, no

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Speaker 2: one is helpful. Yeah, that's how I feel. And it's

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Speaker 2: hard for me to like not feel that way. I

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Speaker 1: Fair I hate that because there are a lot of

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Speaker 2: Do you that you feel that way?

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Speaker 2: And the other thing that I have, Yeah, that's been

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Speaker 2: not consistent. I just I just don't know. I feel

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Speaker 2: like sharing sitters is a very tricky thing. It is,

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Speaker 2: and I tried that and it didn't work. I know, well,

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Speaker 2: shared this is just and she's really wonderful person. Uh huh,

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Speaker 2: she's just sleepy. Yeah. Well, you know it's interesting though.

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Speaker 2: How old is she almost thirty? Oh? Okay, well then

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Speaker 2: that's interesting even more. No, like and she's great last

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Speaker 2: you should be up you know before. But sometimes but

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Speaker 2: also people have things like right, like I can't sleep

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Speaker 2: because I'm an anxious person, but some people just really

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Speaker 2: need a lot of sleep.

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Speaker 1: Oh I do, But I'm going to be there. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I don't mean that to be mean, but like I

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Speaker 1: I'm going to be there on time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, But it's not to be mean. It's just

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Speaker 2: it really has nothing to do with her. It has

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Speaker 4: When it actually comes true, then it's like, see that's why.

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Speaker 4: And then it's just very defeating.

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Speaker 2: Wildly defeating, because I'm like, I'm postpartum. I've already today,

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Speaker 2: I've already taken both my kids to the dentist. I've

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Speaker 2: the one part that I'm leaning in and to not

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Speaker 4: I went yesterday thinking that I was going to have

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Speaker 4: like five root canals because my teeth, Like I have

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Speaker 4: this on tooth that's been hurting, and I'm like, well

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Speaker 4: I didn't this is gross, but like the water and

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Speaker 4: I couldn't brush my teeth like I just use wisps.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like I don't know. I was making fun of me.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, nobod, you don't understand.

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Speaker 4: Like I would try and then I would gag and

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Speaker 4: then I'd puke, and so it just wasn't worth.

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Speaker 2: The like extra puke of the day. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So I just would always just use the wisp

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Speaker 4: was like, you did a really good job for not

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Speaker 2: I was like, hey, so is the pain from pregnancy

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Speaker 2: He said a lot of He's like, he goes, everything

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Speaker 2: looks good. He's like, where you're saying the pain is

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Speaker 2: So he's like, nothing look looks like it's cracked or

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Speaker 2: seeping or anything. He's like, I can't do anything anyways

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Speaker 2: because you're pregnant. He's like, but a lot of women

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Speaker 2: are very when they're hormonal. It hurts more your teeth. Yes,

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Speaker 2: I felt that, like I was afraid I had cavities

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Speaker 4: But then I feel bad because then we started. He's like,

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Speaker 4: well hopefully I go, oh, well, I got a cavity

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Speaker 4: like on every tooth, and and I brush my teeth.

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Speaker 4: I'm good with brush my teeth. But it's apparently it's

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Speaker 4: a genetic thing to have bad teeth. And so it

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Speaker 4: makes sense now because my daughter she has two cavities.

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Speaker 4: She's seven on her adult teeth. So I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 4: I gave it to my daughter. Yeah, Like you know,

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Speaker 4: like when you're the worst thing you've given your daughter.

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Speaker 4: We're breaking a lot of generations here. And you're like

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Speaker 2: Teeth on that one present side. I don't know anything.

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Speaker 2: It's like born in some hospital in the middle of nowhere.

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Speaker 2: He doesn't even have a birth certificate. Somebody was just guessing, Oh,

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Speaker 2: so I called you yesterday, Yeah coming back born you did?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Oh didn't see it.

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Speaker 4: So when I went to my gaiano yesterday, we have

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Speaker 4: to move up my c section date. But we have

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Speaker 4: a problem with that move update. I know nothing about

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Speaker 4: a scorpio. Man, Oh, this is right on brand for

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Speaker 4: a day. Nothing I know?

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Speaker 2: Is it bad? Oh it's not that well even Gemini girl,

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Speaker 2: I know, do you remember the process? I went sort

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Speaker 2: of like, even it's nothing. It is so silly to me.

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Speaker 1: It's something you know what mine are?

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Speaker 2: What?

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Speaker 1: I don't know what my kids are?

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Speaker 2: Good? You what are you?

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Speaker 4: That's why kidding, that's why she doesn't know. She's like,

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Speaker 4: that's right, fair, No, I actually have no idea about

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Speaker 4: a pisces. But yes, he's dirty. When she said that,

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Speaker 4: I was like, I got you know, I was excited

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Speaker 4: that we got to move it up.

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Speaker 2: A little, but also I was like, that's not such dirty.

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Speaker 2: I know SAgs. I am one. That's how I feel.

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Speaker 2: I had a Capricorn daughter. I am one. I had

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Speaker 2: a Leo's son. My husband's a Leo, and then we

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Speaker 2: just had this little tiebreaker with the twin personality. Well,

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Speaker 2: so I did a little googling and they say, a

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Speaker 2: scorpion man is like very he's got like two sides.

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Speaker 2: He's like a shape shifter.

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Speaker 4: And I was like, fabulous, very passionate, yes, loyal and stubborn, yes,

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Speaker 4: but has like a dark side.

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Speaker 2: Well it's called scorpion, scorpio scorpion. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So I was like, I'm gonna call Christian the stings.

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Speaker 2: Did you know I didn't even know he was Jessicala.

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Speaker 4: I love Jesscalba, so I like know, like her whole thing.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he can help us.

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Speaker 2: Maybe he can help us, or maybe he'll do together.

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Speaker 2: I do not have it together today. Take a break

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Speaker 3: Hello, Hi there.

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Speaker 2: I'm Jana, Hi Janna, I'm Kristen and I'm Catherine.

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Speaker 4: I just love you. I just have to say that.

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Speaker 4: I've I've always loved you. I think you're great.

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Speaker 3: You know, that's so sweet. I appreciate that.

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Speaker 3: I am, yes? Are you guys in La?

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Speaker 4: I was for a very long time. I was there

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Speaker 2: So now now I'm in Nashville. Now we're in Nashville.

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Speaker 3: Ah, that's a fun city. I love it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we all of your people are moving here. Do

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Speaker 3: I know, I sure do.

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Speaker 2: Come on down over. Would you ever move out of LA?

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Speaker 2: Sure.

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: How is that age difference?

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So we're in the thick of it, and it's

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Speaker 2: the beginning. Yeah, but that gap is so helpful. Though

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Speaker 6: Yes, I appreciate it. Even the early stages were before

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Speaker 2: Bit that's really special.

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Speaker 3: Like this. Yeah, you know, you know the rough times

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Speaker 4: Yes, I'm going to that hospital and taking everything out

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Speaker 2: What husband do you think you are?

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Speaker 3: And what husband?

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Speaker 2: And your wife thank you are cash for?

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Speaker 6: Oh well, that's a good one. I'm a good sous chef,

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Speaker 3: And so you know.

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Speaker 6: That's all I know really is to be involved and

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Speaker 6: I'm like, it's just being a dad, Like just just

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Speaker 3: He loves.

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Speaker 6: If I don't give give him a list of things

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Speaker 1: I literally today I send him this meme. It's like

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Speaker 3: Of it seventeen times. I literally just sent him that

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Speaker 2: Yep, that is literally mostualty. Sorry anyway, this might be

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Speaker 3: Yes, I'm going to.

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Speaker 2: You have dominated my laundry rooms. So do you want

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Speaker 4: I do.

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Speaker 2: So.

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Speaker 6: I started this brand, Pair of Thieves about nine years

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 6: And so we're a premium brand, but we're sold in

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Speaker 3: I couldn't be more proud.

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Speaker 2: Well, we used to spend a ton on I don't

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Speaker 2: know if I can mention your competition.

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Speaker 3: I don't mind.

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Speaker 4: Isn't that isn't an undies because we oh no, what

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you move from your toes to your balls. I

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Speaker 6: just a matter of kind of how and when. Because

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00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:48,480
Speaker 6: we were self funded, we had limited resources, limited bandwidth,

439
00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:51,639
Speaker 6: and and so we took about two years to develop it.

440
00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:55,000
Speaker 6: But by the time it launched, it quickly became our

441
00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:56,720
Speaker 6: our number one revenue generator.

442
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Speaker 3: And and it's awesome.

443
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Speaker 6: You know, I never thought I would have a business

444
00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:02,800
Speaker 6: where I would be waking up to like naked selfies

445
00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:05,600
Speaker 6: from friends being like, dude, I'm wearing your ship, and

446
00:21:05,640 --> 00:21:09,760
Speaker 6: I'm like, it makes me so happy, it does makes

447
00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:10,800
Speaker 6: me so oh.

448
00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:11,399
Speaker 2: I love that.

449
00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:13,720
Speaker 4: And where did the Because I get the of socks

450
00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:15,879
Speaker 4: start as socks, like the pair of but where where'd

451
00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:16,680
Speaker 4: you get the thieves part?

452
00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:17,480
Speaker 2: Like who came up with that?

453
00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:20,840
Speaker 6: You know, like one of your socks always goes missing?

454
00:21:20,840 --> 00:21:26,320
Speaker 6: Who steals that sock? So that's how it started.

455
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Speaker 2: So yeah, oh gosh, I love that. Good for you?

456
00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:32,760
Speaker 2: So how long? How long has this business been going?

457
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Speaker 5: Then?

458
00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:37,320
Speaker 6: So we launched officially in twenty fourteen, so this is

459
00:21:37,359 --> 00:21:42,080
Speaker 6: our ninth year, next our tenth anniversary. Target was our

460
00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:45,399
Speaker 6: first retailer, but now we're carried at a wide range

461
00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:50,919
Speaker 6: of retailers from Walmart and Target and Amazon to Macy's

462
00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:52,959
Speaker 6: and Nordstrums.

463
00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:54,359
Speaker 3: To Meyer fred Meyer.

464
00:21:55,320 --> 00:21:58,440
Speaker 6: We weren't about six thousand stores nationwide.

465
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Speaker 2: Now that's incredible. Where you where do you want it

466
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Speaker 2: to go?

467
00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:03,440
Speaker 4: And then you said you're branching on to other things now,

468
00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:05,160
Speaker 4: but it's like, do you want to do brick and mortar,

469
00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:07,679
Speaker 4: do you want to do more like clothes like active

470
00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:09,760
Speaker 4: wear all that stuff or what do you want?

471
00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:13,120
Speaker 6: Yeah, Like, we're not going to turn around and try

472
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:15,679
Speaker 6: to go be a denim brand tomorrow, but we very

473
00:22:15,720 --> 00:22:17,879
Speaker 6: much look at ourselves as a lifestyle brand. And so

474
00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:21,360
Speaker 6: even though we do playing kind of really limited categories

475
00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:23,960
Speaker 6: of socks and underwear and T shirts. We still want

476
00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:27,640
Speaker 6: to tell lifestyle stories. So whether that's active, where performance,

477
00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 6: where lounge, weear sleepwear, there's a lot of different lanes

478
00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:34,879
Speaker 6: that we can kind of expand into. We did women's

479
00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:37,199
Speaker 6: for about a year and a half because what we

480
00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:40,439
Speaker 6: were over fifty percent of our customers or women, and

481
00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:42,320
Speaker 6: so whether that's buying for a man in their house

482
00:22:43,520 --> 00:22:45,880
Speaker 6: or that's buying for themselves, we found that a lot

483
00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:48,040
Speaker 6: of women are buying our products for themselves, and so

484
00:22:48,119 --> 00:22:52,000
Speaker 6: we did launch a women's collection. We it did well,

485
00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:55,680
Speaker 6: but we quickly realized we just didn't have enough resources

486
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Speaker 6: to really support it.

487
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Speaker 3: You guys are.

488
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Speaker 6: Highly sought after customers with a lot of competition, and

489
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:04,200
Speaker 6: we if we are going to do women's.

490
00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:04,720
Speaker 3: We need to do it right.

491
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:08,320
Speaker 6: And so so we decided to refocus on men's but

492
00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:11,679
Speaker 6: would love to go back into women's one day. And

493
00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:14,600
Speaker 6: kids were all dads, and so we did this dad

494
00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:17,919
Speaker 6: kid matching sock that was like the cutest thing. When

495
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:21,000
Speaker 6: we were looking out there special daughters, there was like

496
00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:23,840
Speaker 6: nothing out there for dads and daughters. Everything was like

497
00:23:23,920 --> 00:23:26,080
Speaker 6: dads and sons or moms and daughters, and so we

498
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Speaker 6: did the dad kid just to make it unisex and

499
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Speaker 6: and that was a lot of fun. And so kids

500
00:23:33,200 --> 00:23:36,160
Speaker 6: would be fun and women's would be fun, and then

501
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:38,760
Speaker 6: expanding inside of men's.

502
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Speaker 2: I love that. Well, you let us know if you

503
00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:41,440
Speaker 2: need like a test group.

504
00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:44,280
Speaker 3: Yes, I know, wadly we.

505
00:23:44,240 --> 00:23:47,040
Speaker 4: Have lots of kids, and I definitely remember I think

506
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Speaker 4: we did something for parathieves, like. I don't know if

507
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:51,240
Speaker 4: you guys ever did like an influencer thing, but I

508
00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:53,040
Speaker 4: kind of I kind of remember, like because I was like,

509
00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:55,080
Speaker 4: oh yeah, parathets like and then I think my ex

510
00:23:55,160 --> 00:24:00,000
Speaker 4: had them. Anyway, Anyway, we do a lot of influencer stuff,

511
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:03,200
Speaker 4: you know, not primarily, but some of the time it's

512
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:04,680
Speaker 4: around our give back initiative.

513
00:24:04,760 --> 00:24:07,359
Speaker 6: So we have a program called good Fits, which is

514
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:11,680
Speaker 6: our social responsibility kind of branch, and inside of there,

515
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:14,200
Speaker 6: we we've donated close to five million pairs of socks

516
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:17,679
Speaker 6: to families in need with an organization called Baby to Baby.

517
00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:22,520
Speaker 6: We are partnered with Bring Change to Mind around mental

518
00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:26,840
Speaker 6: health for youth. It's you know, specifically around suicide prevention,

519
00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:31,200
Speaker 6: which is just really scary what's going on with kind

520
00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:36,359
Speaker 6: of teens and tweens today and then and then lgbt Q.

521
00:24:36,920 --> 00:24:38,200
Speaker 3: With Trevor Project.

522
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Speaker 6: We have a Pride initiative, and so perhaps there was

523
00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:45,119
Speaker 6: an engagement around baby to baby or bring change to mind.

524
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Speaker 4: I love I love that you also have that aspect

525
00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:50,160
Speaker 4: to in the giving back. That's that's always that's nice.

526
00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:52,879
Speaker 6: Yeah, And you don't use it really as a marketing

527
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:55,840
Speaker 6: ploy for us. It's really like I'm philanthropic in my

528
00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 6: own life. When we were building the brand, I very

529
00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,719
Speaker 6: much wanted it to be a reflection of us, and

530
00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:03,159
Speaker 6: so we picked causes that were near and dear to

531
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:07,600
Speaker 6: our hearts. But with the team expanding, I've told everybody

532
00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:10,080
Speaker 6: at the company bring new causes.

533
00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:10,200
Speaker 3: To the table.

534
00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:13,440
Speaker 6: We're always looking to expand what we support, and even

535
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 6: if we're not talking about it publicly, like we're just

536
00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:18,760
Speaker 6: we're supporting and we're doing it right. And that's action

537
00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:22,160
Speaker 6: speak louder and words. I don't want someone to only

538
00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 6: buy our product because of a give back. I want

539
00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:28,840
Speaker 6: them to love the products and then be pleasantly surprised

540
00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 6: when they find out we're all so helping out.

541
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Speaker 2: It's kind of a reverse business model for our society though,

542
00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:35,560
Speaker 2: because I feel like people love to lead with their

543
00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 2: good deeds publicly, So look at you, you sneaky little

544
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:40,840
Speaker 2: angel man.

545
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:44,239
Speaker 6: You know the reason was I actually I was like

546
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:48,399
Speaker 6: so many people get for things that they support somebody.

547
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Speaker 3: I don't know if I'm allowed.

548
00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:52,560
Speaker 6: To cuss you, I'm sorry, but people get, you know,

549
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:58,120
Speaker 6: get flack for supporting things or you know, you're you're

550
00:25:58,119 --> 00:26:03,359
Speaker 6: donating things to shoes to impoverish nations, and next thing

551
00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:06,640
Speaker 6: you know, you're getting backlash for not doting and not

552
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 6: donating enough or doing And I just didn't want to.

553
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:12,400
Speaker 6: I would just wanted to do good and not get

554
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 6: not get any pushback.

555
00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 4: I'm going to try and word this the right way,

556
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:31,760
Speaker 4: So forgive me if I don't do it.

557
00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 2: Great.

558
00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:37,200
Speaker 4: But you are obviously were successful when you met Jessica.

559
00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 4: But was there ever a piece of you that you know,

560
00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:45,560
Speaker 4: because obviously she's got the honest business and she's Jessica

561
00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:49,000
Speaker 4: Alba and she's got, you know, a huge name for herself.

562
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 4: For my own personal past experiences, if I was ever

563
00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:56,359
Speaker 4: more successful than the guy, they would say they loved it,

564
00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:58,960
Speaker 4: But then it was the thing that was used against me. Well,

565
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:01,720
Speaker 4: I cheated because as it was always about you and

566
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:04,480
Speaker 4: your schedule and this, that and the other. And so

567
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:07,640
Speaker 4: when you kind of walked into this relationship with Jessica,

568
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:11,679
Speaker 4: did you ever feel like it was you know, just

569
00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 4: about her?

570
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:14,320
Speaker 2: Did? Like as a guy, like, how how did.

571
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 4: You kind of manage that knowing that, like, you know,

572
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 4: she is who she is?

573
00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:23,679
Speaker 3: You know is a really it's a good question. I

574
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:24,160
Speaker 3: think that.

575
00:27:26,920 --> 00:27:31,199
Speaker 6: It manifest did I would say that yes, there was

576
00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:32,080
Speaker 6: definitely there was.

577
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:38,159
Speaker 3: There was definitely something that like that I felt. I

578
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 3: don't know if it was.

579
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:45,200
Speaker 6: Jealousy towards her, resentment towards her, but when we first

580
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 6: started we've been together twenty years now, so when we

581
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:51,159
Speaker 6: first started dating, I was really jealous of that, like

582
00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:54,440
Speaker 6: other guys and the attention that she was getting from

583
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 6: other guys, and and it just wasn't making me feel good.

584
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:00,919
Speaker 6: And it just did Like I was always a pretty

585
00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 6: confident person in my own kind of walking my own

586
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:08,000
Speaker 6: path and really really happy there, and next thing, you know,

587
00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:11,400
Speaker 6: I'm like looking up and just feeling jealous all the time.

588
00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 6: And I was like, I hate feeling like this. I

589
00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:16,600
Speaker 6: don't you know, it doesn't make me feel good, and

590
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,720
Speaker 6: I know it doesn't make you feel good. And and

591
00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:22,679
Speaker 6: we broke up four years in four years into our relationship,

592
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:25,800
Speaker 6: we broke up. It was like just the jealousy I

593
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 6: was turning into an asshole. And and so we broke up.

594
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:33,320
Speaker 6: And and during that that time of part I was

595
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:36,360
Speaker 6: just like, if we ever got back together, like I

596
00:28:36,359 --> 00:28:39,200
Speaker 6: I'm promising, I like made a promise to myself to

597
00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:42,480
Speaker 6: like channel that into in a different way, into a

598
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 6: more productive way. And so the jealousy towards other guys,

599
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:50,480
Speaker 6: I've never resent I've always always like cheered her. I'm

600
00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:54,440
Speaker 6: like her biggest cheerleader. And so I'm I'm I'm I've

601
00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 6: never felt jealous of or or kind of resentment towards

602
00:28:59,880 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 6: her for working hard or if anything we got together,

603
00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 6: I was like, you know, like don't make sacrifice, like

604
00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 6: push pursue your passion, pursue your careers. Don't make sacrifices

605
00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 6: because you feel bad for leaving the kids for this

606
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 6: week or that week, or like.

607
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:20,760
Speaker 3: Eventually they'll grow up and and they'll.

608
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 6: Forget the fact that you were gone for these three

609
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 6: days or these five days.

610
00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:25,720
Speaker 3: Like we we we.

611
00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 6: Live, we forgive, we forget, like you know, And so

612
00:29:30,560 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 6: I'm a biggest fan I'm a biggest cheerleader. I've I've

613
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:37,760
Speaker 6: tried to be a good teammate in that regard. I'm

614
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:40,960
Speaker 6: not interested in the spotlight. I don't have you know,

615
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 6: I'm not a star. I'm not a you know, I'm

616
00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:45,320
Speaker 6: not an actor. I've never tried to be an actor.

617
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 6: It's just I high five her, let her do her thing,

618
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:52,440
Speaker 6: and and I've gotten.

619
00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:54,080
Speaker 3: More comfortable with it over the years. I guess, long,

620
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 3: long answer.

621
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:57,600
Speaker 4: No, But you know it makes sense because I just

622
00:29:57,600 --> 00:29:59,640
Speaker 4: feel like it can be like hard for the guys.

623
00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:02,440
Speaker 4: It's like they like the power and the beauty in

624
00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:05,360
Speaker 4: this person, but then it's like, yeah, there comes resentment

625
00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:07,240
Speaker 4: and jealousy, and I think it's hard if you're not

626
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:10,480
Speaker 4: secure and who you are in your manhood, Like it

627
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 4: can be challenging. I mean even like it was hard

628
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 4: for me even well well yeah, but I mean even

629
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:17,240
Speaker 4: on the flip side, like when you when we go

630
00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 4: do our tours, it's like Preston wants to be the star.

631
00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:24,280
Speaker 2: Well he yeah, because he is right, but like.

632
00:30:24,320 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 4: You deserve to like shine too, you know what I mean.

633
00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 4: So it's like having that like balance in like all

634
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:31,520
Speaker 4: of it. Yeah, I mean I felt the resentment, even

635
00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 4: just like hanging up my own career to be a

636
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 4: stay at home mom because what he does, you know,

637
00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 4: is the PM.

638
00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 2: He's the breadwinner. And so I just until we started

639
00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:42,240
Speaker 2: doing this, I've just kind of been home and that

640
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,320
Speaker 2: was I mean, it's it's it's interesting when you say

641
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:47,840
Speaker 2: those words, because I mean that's just real life and

642
00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 2: a very honest response.

643
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 1: It's human to feel that way.

644
00:30:50,520 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, sure, yeah, And I think that it's something they

645
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:58,800
Speaker 6: all like, I'll always be working on She'll always be

646
00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:01,960
Speaker 6: working on it. And we find ways where you know,

647
00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:04,520
Speaker 6: she can support me and she can uplift me and

648
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:08,440
Speaker 6: kind of help help some of the Yeah, and we try,

649
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:10,840
Speaker 6: we really do try to find that balance. I think

650
00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:14,360
Speaker 6: that there is no easy answer. I do think today

651
00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:18,120
Speaker 6: different than probably thirty years ago or twenty years ago. Today,

652
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:22,120
Speaker 6: there are a number of households that have that are

653
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 6: two income families where you know, both parties are breadwinners,

654
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 6: both parties are working, you're both parenting.

655
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 3: And so it used to be.

656
00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:33,040
Speaker 6: How do the moms balance career in parenting? And the

657
00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 6: dads would never get asked that question. Today, dads also

658
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:40,520
Speaker 6: get asked that question because they recognize that both parents

659
00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 6: are probably balancing career and parenting.

660
00:31:43,520 --> 00:31:46,400
Speaker 4: But I mean twenty years is like that's amazing, especially

661
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 4: in the Hollywood, you know world that you guys, Yeah,

662
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 4: exactly what is the thing that works?

663
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:56,440
Speaker 2: Like why you know? Is is it love? Is the communication?

664
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:57,200
Speaker 2: Is it their respect?

665
00:31:57,320 --> 00:31:57,400
Speaker 5: Like?

666
00:31:57,440 --> 00:31:58,840
Speaker 4: What is the one thing you can be like this

667
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:01,160
Speaker 4: has been what we've been really really good at?

668
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 3: What are what is the one thing that we've been

669
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:04,720
Speaker 3: really good at?

670
00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:08,080
Speaker 4: And just like keeping that strong foundation of twenty years,

671
00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:09,960
Speaker 4: I mean that's a that's a really like that's a

672
00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:10,880
Speaker 4: long time.

673
00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:14,239
Speaker 6: Yeah, I think, you know, one of the things that

674
00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 6: I've thought a lot about recently is like the ebbs

675
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:21,360
Speaker 6: and flows of a relationship. And so like when you

676
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:24,720
Speaker 6: first start dating and you know you're together, and you

677
00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:26,960
Speaker 6: get into a fight, you make up right away, and

678
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:28,440
Speaker 6: then you get into a fight, you make up a

679
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:30,640
Speaker 6: couple of days later. And as the longer you're together,

680
00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:34,320
Speaker 6: those kind of disagreements or those moments where your energy

681
00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 6: is just a little bit off, can those can last longer?

682
00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 3: Right?

683
00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 6: And so it goes from being like a one day

684
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:43,280
Speaker 6: thing to a one week thing to a month, and

685
00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 6: then the longer you're together, it actually can last even longer, right,

686
00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:49,680
Speaker 6: so you can almost you can go months where your

687
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,640
Speaker 6: energy is just off. It's not like you're actively fighting

688
00:32:52,680 --> 00:32:55,240
Speaker 6: over those months, but your energy is off, and just

689
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:59,120
Speaker 6: having the patience and the kind of the patience to

690
00:32:59,240 --> 00:33:01,880
Speaker 6: know that, like a eventually it starts to come back

691
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:05,880
Speaker 6: together and your energy starts to get back aligned, and

692
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 6: and going through a few of those cycles, I no

693
00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:12,320
Speaker 6: longer get his nervous and kind of start looking at

694
00:33:12,320 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 6: the door, you know, I no longer get his nervous

695
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 6: when when you're drifting apart, so to speak, or you're

696
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:21,480
Speaker 6: kind of your energy's off. I think she's felt very much.

697
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 6: She's a line there. And so when we're going through

698
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:29,760
Speaker 6: those times, we you know, either give each other our

699
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:32,680
Speaker 6: space that we need, we talk it out. We then

700
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:34,200
Speaker 6: you know, maybe go on a date and I, like

701
00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:36,880
Speaker 6: you try to like do things to get it back.

702
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:42,200
Speaker 6: And fortunately I've got a partner who's kind of right there.

703
00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:43,040
Speaker 3: Lock and step.

704
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 4: I love it. That kind of makes me think of

705
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 4: like you, you know what I mean, Like you're a

706
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:49,640
Speaker 4: situation where it's like you and your she almost divorced

707
00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:52,560
Speaker 4: her husband, but like is because it just that resentment

708
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:55,680
Speaker 4: was too many years, like no coming back together like

709
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:57,520
Speaker 4: you can have you had the space, but then it

710
00:33:57,560 --> 00:33:58,719
Speaker 4: was no like reconnection.

711
00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:01,320
Speaker 1: Well it's interesting, he said, I no longer get scared

712
00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:03,800
Speaker 1: because it's like we were married for fifteen years, we

713
00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 1: were going to get divorced, but ended up just being

714
00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:08,680
Speaker 1: separated for a couple months. But then it's like we've

715
00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 1: had a little bit of a cycle now where it

716
00:34:10,760 --> 00:34:14,040
Speaker 1: is kind of feeling not now. I would say, like

717
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:16,719
Speaker 1: over the summer that felt that way, And he kind

718
00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:19,200
Speaker 1: of made that comment like, well, I'm just like trying

719
00:34:19,200 --> 00:34:20,960
Speaker 1: not to get to a point where I'm scared or

720
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:23,080
Speaker 1: like where I'm afraid of you know. So it's interesting,

721
00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 1: like you have to talk through that, and because it does,

722
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:28,360
Speaker 1: it can easily just get longer as you're married and

723
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:29,160
Speaker 1: together longer.

724
00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:30,839
Speaker 2: It's interesting to hear that.

725
00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 3: How do you keep your relationship kind of exciting?

726
00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 1: Well, so we've been back together for a year, so

727
00:34:41,880 --> 00:34:44,040
Speaker 1: for us, a lot of it is just really the

728
00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:46,399
Speaker 1: communication part of it. We just got to a point

729
00:34:46,440 --> 00:34:48,960
Speaker 1: where we were not communicating and it was like I

730
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:51,799
Speaker 1: need my space. So he got mad and went over

731
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:53,680
Speaker 1: here to give me my space, you know, and it

732
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:55,479
Speaker 1: was like we couldn't figure out how to come back.

733
00:34:55,840 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 1: We did figure out how to come back obviously when

734
00:34:58,200 --> 00:35:02,359
Speaker 1: we were separated, but now it's just communicating and making

735
00:35:02,400 --> 00:35:04,839
Speaker 1: sure that we are doing date nights and just you know,

736
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:05,560
Speaker 1: being more.

737
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 2: But we've got kids.

738
00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:08,560
Speaker 1: I mean, I know it's not excuse, but we're kids

739
00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:11,239
Speaker 1: are about the same ages as yours, and it's a lot.

740
00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:12,680
Speaker 2: It's busy. It's crazy.

741
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:14,799
Speaker 1: It's like, how do we even find time in the

742
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:18,120
Speaker 1: schedule to have a date night? But you know it's important.

743
00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 3: I feel it's so scripted to something it does.

744
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,000
Speaker 4: I know it's true, and that's a piece like yeah,

745
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 4: as like starting a relationship, I'm like, I don't want

746
00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:29,399
Speaker 4: to I'm like, I don't I don't want to fall

747
00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:31,160
Speaker 4: into those traps, but I know you're gonna there. There's

748
00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:33,120
Speaker 4: gonna be those like holes that you fall into. But

749
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 4: it's like scary because I'm like, I don't want to

750
00:35:34,480 --> 00:35:35,960
Speaker 4: mess up again and I don't want to fail again

751
00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:37,360
Speaker 4: because I feel like I have like a lot of

752
00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:40,719
Speaker 4: pressure riding on like this new beginning. But it's like

753
00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:44,320
Speaker 4: but it's also you know, it's life. We're going to

754
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 4: have setbacks and stuff, but they just haven't come yet,

755
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 4: So I'm just like, when are they coming? And I

756
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 4: just want to wear because it's how We're all living

757
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 4: together for nine months, so like you know what I mean,

758
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:55,719
Speaker 4: And I got a baby out of it, so you know,

759
00:35:55,800 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 4: it's like things are like a little but you know,

760
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 4: I've just you know, but I mean Max and I

761
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:03,680
Speaker 4: were together for seven years and you know, so it's

762
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:08,600
Speaker 4: just it's it's, uh, it's way wildly different than my

763
00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:09,360
Speaker 4: last relationship.

764
00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:09,480
Speaker 3: Though.

765
00:36:09,600 --> 00:36:11,480
Speaker 4: There's so much more respect in this one, Like we

766
00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 4: just he respects me and so then therefore I respect him,

767
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:17,759
Speaker 4: and there was no respect in my last relationship. You know,

768
00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:20,319
Speaker 4: I didn't respect his choices and so therefore I spoke

769
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:22,759
Speaker 4: ugly words and was not respectful to him either.

770
00:36:22,840 --> 00:36:25,279
Speaker 2: So it was just like such a toxic mess.

771
00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:27,279
Speaker 4: And it's like that's why I'm like, let's just be

772
00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:30,040
Speaker 4: so careful with our words, because I think anything you

773
00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:33,160
Speaker 4: do you can take back, but for me, words you

774
00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:35,320
Speaker 4: can't take back. Like if you were to say something

775
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 4: to me like that is like that is what I

776
00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 4: remember the most as opposed to your action.

777
00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 2: So yeah, He's like, can we go back to These

778
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:56,320
Speaker 2: three shakes have really let me into the sorority. Okay,

779
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:59,520
Speaker 2: so tell us, tell us if you can do anything

780
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:01,879
Speaker 2: for all of life? Your cash worn you. You look

781
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:05,120
Speaker 2: like the sweetest little superman. You look clerk keinnish. You've

782
00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:08,040
Speaker 2: got you know this, great wife, three beautiful babies that

783
00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:11,839
Speaker 2: are not babies anymore. One's gonna drive soon, right, Yeah?

784
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 3: I got a teacher how to drive this year.

785
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:15,759
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, how do you learn to drive?

786
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 3: In La?

787
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:20,759
Speaker 4: Let me ask that question, you pray, just jump in.

788
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 3: You gotta gotta do it.

789
00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:24,640
Speaker 1: It's probably the best place to learn how to drive.

790
00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:28,320
Speaker 2: Honestly, woof what were you going to ask them? Well, okay,

791
00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:30,040
Speaker 2: so I was going to ask if you could do anything?

792
00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 2: If you if you can do anything? Like we just

793
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:37,000
Speaker 2: we say cash now in this moment in time, what

794
00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:38,239
Speaker 2: do you want to be when you grow up? Like

795
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:42,840
Speaker 2: you get to entrepreneur anything? What is it? Make anything up? Like,

796
00:37:42,960 --> 00:37:45,719
Speaker 2: make anything? It's okay if you're living it too, But

797
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:48,600
Speaker 2: is there something that you're like this is the ultimate

798
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:51,759
Speaker 2: because you've done so many It's like I just told

799
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:54,120
Speaker 2: you my business is one hundred million dollars this year.

800
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:57,680
Speaker 3: You're living it. I am I am, I'm I am,

801
00:37:57,840 --> 00:37:58,440
Speaker 3: I am.

802
00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 6: I've been super I started my own business when I

803
00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:03,719
Speaker 6: was twenty five years old. So I started working for

804
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:08,839
Speaker 6: myself at twenty five. And I've had tech startups, I've

805
00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 6: done documentary producing, I've you know, done digital stuff, and

806
00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:20,680
Speaker 6: now I've got a pair of thieves and I've got

807
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:24,120
Speaker 6: a beautiful family. Like, I love being an entrepreneur. I

808
00:38:24,160 --> 00:38:27,920
Speaker 6: love starting businesses. Even though I had no idea, I

809
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:31,400
Speaker 6: knew nothing about the apparel industry, I jumped in head first,

810
00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:34,960
Speaker 6: like I just love the like taking an idea and

811
00:38:35,400 --> 00:38:38,520
Speaker 6: turning it into something tangible, like making it come to fruition,

812
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:39,239
Speaker 6: like is my.

813
00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 3: Favorite thing to do.

814
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:43,960
Speaker 6: And so I love partnering up with really creative people

815
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 6: and like figuring out how do we bottle this and

816
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 6: sell it?

817
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:46,920
Speaker 3: And so.

818
00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:50,840
Speaker 6: I am doing exactly what I would want to do.

819
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:52,160
Speaker 6: I would like to play more golf.

820
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:56,400
Speaker 4: Okay, so get that on the wish list and you

821
00:38:56,440 --> 00:38:58,319
Speaker 4: want to enjoy the fruits of it all?

822
00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 3: Now, yeah, I would like to do that. Now, Yeah

823
00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:06,920
Speaker 3: I've lived. I'm doing it. I feel I feel what

824
00:39:06,920 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 3: about you? What would you guys be doing?

825
00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:10,760
Speaker 2: It's a really isn't that like such a special place

826
00:39:10,800 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 2: to be though? Really, the contentment piece. It's such a

827
00:39:14,080 --> 00:39:16,440
Speaker 2: rare thing for all of us to just sit like

828
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:19,200
Speaker 2: at A girlfriend called me yesterday and I said, her

829
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:21,200
Speaker 2: dad used to say, you're like you answered her call

830
00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:24,719
Speaker 2: you just an answer mine? I called, I called you back. Okay, Hey,

831
00:39:24,719 --> 00:39:27,560
Speaker 2: does everybody want to We're gonna pin this because when

832
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:30,719
Speaker 2: she's nine weeks, we're just gonna come right back. When

833
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:32,319
Speaker 2: you just call them when I call you and you're like,

834
00:39:32,400 --> 00:39:37,960
Speaker 2: mascara's down your face. So my girlfriend yesterday, her dad

835
00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 2: always says you're living the best days of your life

836
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:44,359
Speaker 2: and you don't even know it. And I told her

837
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:47,040
Speaker 2: yesterday was the first time I really have felt that

838
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 2: I've pulled back in the Nashville circle a little. Like

839
00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 2: I'm a country wife, so there's a lot of that,

840
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 2: and I've just kind of have gone like what is

841
00:39:54,680 --> 00:39:57,560
Speaker 2: important to me, Like who are my real people? Pour

842
00:39:57,600 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 2: into my real people, spend time with my real people,

843
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:03,080
Speaker 2: do things, enjoy but like it's a really special place

844
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 2: to be in where you're just I said, I'm I

845
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 2: just feel like I'm living the best days of my life. Yeah,

846
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:10,799
Speaker 2: well every day we're allowed and breathing is you know. Yeah,

847
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 2: But like I keep saying, we live in such an

848
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:16,279
Speaker 2: unsatisfied society as kind of a whole that I feel

849
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:18,680
Speaker 2: like we're always like what's next, what's bigger, what's next?

850
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:20,960
Speaker 2: You know, and sometimes it's okay to say you just

851
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:25,440
Speaker 2: want to play golf. I would love a babysitter. So

852
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:27,719
Speaker 2: since we're just putting things into the universe, I can

853
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:28,440
Speaker 2: get you a babysitter.

854
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:33,560
Speaker 6: Canter. Yeah, we have some good folks in Nashville.

855
00:40:34,760 --> 00:40:37,440
Speaker 4: Well, Cash, anytime you and Jess are here, called her.

856
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:41,799
Speaker 4: Just you know that we're like money. Whenever you guys

857
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:46,160
Speaker 4: roll in and whenever here in Nashville, let me know,

858
00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:48,520
Speaker 4: let us know, and you guys can Bill will take

859
00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 4: you out on the town. But everyone who's listening, go

860
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:54,560
Speaker 4: buy Para Thieves for your for your hobby, and and

861
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:56,320
Speaker 4: Cash says thank you.

862
00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 3: So I certainly do. Yeah. Our head of sales, Michael

863
00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:01,439
Speaker 3: Cole get a shout out to Michael Whole. He lives

864
00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:02,200
Speaker 3: in Nashville.

865
00:41:02,400 --> 00:41:04,240
Speaker 2: Okay, well I need to talk to him. Was missending

866
00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:05,600
Speaker 2: a lot of money on your brand and I would

867
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:07,440
Speaker 2: love to support. But if there's a way that you

868
00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:09,560
Speaker 2: guys could cover our ass too, that would be great.

869
00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:15,279
Speaker 3: I really love you, buddy, I will gladly do that

870
00:41:16,040 --> 00:41:16,520
Speaker 3: the best.

871
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you for coming on.

872
00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:21,759
Speaker 3: Thank thank you so much for having me. I can't

873
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:22,399
Speaker 3: wait to meet a person.

874
00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:29,440
Speaker 2: You'll make a tea time buddy. We love you. Oh

875
00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:33,360
Speaker 2: my god, I love him. We were so today. I

876
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Speaker 2: know he's like, oh well he has daughters. I love him.

877
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:39,880
Speaker 2: You guys, He's just good and I'm just likeding my

878
00:41:39,960 --> 00:41:43,359
Speaker 2: cheeks hurt from smiling. Well because he smiled. He's you

879
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:45,640
Speaker 2: guys are happy. Speaking of which, because I know my

880
00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:51,200
Speaker 2: looks keep getting published on this podcast. My reaction, Yes,

881
00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 2: this brought to you by I was kidding, bubbly, hi you.

882
00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:57,440
Speaker 2: I love that. By the way they look here you

883
00:41:57,560 --> 00:42:02,719
Speaker 2: hey you. I always say I feel like he has

884
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Speaker 2: resting happy face, but he's in like a happy yeah

885
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Speaker 2: one thousand percent.

886
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Speaker 4: But also when we were doing the interview, I'm like,

887
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Speaker 4: you know how you thought like Amy's relationship is perfect?

888
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Speaker 4: Like when I look at him, I'm like, he looks

889
00:42:17,040 --> 00:42:21,560
Speaker 4: like the best husband. There are things and he even

890
00:42:21,600 --> 00:42:25,399
Speaker 4: said that, right, but don't even like it's like they

891
00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 4: just look like the.

892
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Speaker 2: Happiest, go luckiest, Like I'm like, what helpful.

893
00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:34,000
Speaker 1: Are still the most from like y'all are like still

894
00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:37,439
Speaker 1: romanticizing about me. We are hopeless, hopeless romantic YEA.

895
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Speaker 4: Well, I kind of feel like I'm still in that

896
00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:41,120
Speaker 4: because I'm still in that season with my with.

897
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Speaker 2: My Maybe it'll always be that way. It'd be great.

898
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:53,560
Speaker 2: I mean, I mean, I mean, yeah, I don't know, TVD, TBD. Well, you, guys,

899
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Speaker 2: I'm kidnapping my husband this week in for his birthday.

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Speaker 2: It's a surprise and he doesn't know it. Sweet, oh

901
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Speaker 2: good this weekend? Ye, where are you going? Just it's close.

902
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:05,520
Speaker 2: We're just going to stay close, but a little overnight

903
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:09,960
Speaker 2: and some dinner and because I need it, so I'm

904
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:13,279
Speaker 2: disguising it as a birthday gift to him. You have

905
00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:16,040
Speaker 2: a babysitter. I do. I have a do and a baby.

906
00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:20,880
Speaker 2: Two alarms different one. Al Right, guys, good luck with that,

907
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Speaker 2: have fun and see you next week. Bye bye,