WEBVTT - The Prison Of Offense

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, this is Stephen Ferdick.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm the pastor of Elevation Church and this is our podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to thank you for joining us today. Hope

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<v Speaker 1>this inspires you. Hope it builds your faith.

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<v Speaker 2>Hope it gives your perspective to see God is moving

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<v Speaker 2>in your life.

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<v Speaker 1>Enjoy the message and must continue in this series.

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<v Speaker 2>The other half, we believe great relationships still exist. We

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<v Speaker 2>don't believe that every marriage has to be dysfunctional.

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<v Speaker 1>Amen.

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<v Speaker 2>We don't believe parents have to hate their kids, kids

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<v Speaker 2>hate their parents. We believe that Christ offers us plenty

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<v Speaker 2>of wisdom and the scripture about not only how to

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<v Speaker 2>relate to Him, but how to relate to one another.

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<v Speaker 2>And we also believe that you can't worship Christ properly

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<v Speaker 2>and treat people like craps. So sometimes you got to

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<v Speaker 2>get it right at this horizontal level before the vertical level.

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<v Speaker 2>Last week when I left you, I taught you how

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<v Speaker 2>to put down the magnifying glass, Thank you worship team,

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<v Speaker 2>and pick up a mirror. Because sometimes when you're looking

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<v Speaker 2>to change stuff in other people, the place you need

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<v Speaker 2>to start the most is in yourself. Because if you

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<v Speaker 2>don't see yourself correctly, how in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you help anybody else with their own issues.

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<v Speaker 2>You're just going to end up projecting your dysfunctions onto them,

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<v Speaker 2>and then you be fixing things that are really wrong

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<v Speaker 2>with you, but trying to fix it on the platform

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<v Speaker 2>of their life.

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<v Speaker 1>And that won't be good.

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<v Speaker 2>That won't help you stay married, it won't help you

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<v Speaker 2>make friends, it won't help you raise.

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<v Speaker 1>Your children or anything like that.

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<v Speaker 2>So I want to continue along those same lines today

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<v Speaker 2>and go back to the words of Jesus and the

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<v Speaker 2>sermon on the Mount.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to pick up.

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<v Speaker 2>In Matthew chapter five, verse twenty one through twenty six.

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<v Speaker 2>And I know you're excited to study God's word today,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm excited to preach.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to talk to you about the.

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<v Speaker 2>Prison of offense, and I believe God is going to

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<v Speaker 2>set some people free today from the prison of offense.

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<v Speaker 2>And I asked that you pray for me as I speak,

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<v Speaker 2>that I might speak with accuracy in a way that

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<v Speaker 2>would liberate people.

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<v Speaker 1>Jesus says, you have heard that it was.

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<v Speaker 2>Said to the people long ago, you shall not murder.

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<v Speaker 2>This begins a series of six theological upgrades that Jesus

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<v Speaker 2>Christ has come to reveal.

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<v Speaker 1>He's taking some.

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<v Speaker 2>Wisdom that has passed down and deluded from the law

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<v Speaker 2>of Moses, and he.

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<v Speaker 1>Is showing how his.

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<v Speaker 2>Perfect wisdom is the fulfillment of what began in Moses.

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<v Speaker 2>And he begins with this idea that long before something

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<v Speaker 2>happens in our lives, it happened.

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<v Speaker 1>In our heart.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, long before something happens in your life, it

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<v Speaker 2>happened in your heart. And he says that there's this

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<v Speaker 2>command you shall not murder, and anyone who murders will

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<v Speaker 2>be subject to judgment. But I tell you that anyone

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<v Speaker 2>who is angry with a brother or sister will be

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<v Speaker 2>subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother

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<v Speaker 2>or sister raka, I don't even know what that means,

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<v Speaker 2>but that sounds like a cushword.

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<v Speaker 1>It's got that hard consonant in the middle.

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<v Speaker 2>If you say that to your brother and sister, you

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<v Speaker 2>are answerable to the court or the Sanhedrin.

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<v Speaker 1>And anyone who.

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<v Speaker 2>Says to a brother or sister, you fool, will be

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<v Speaker 2>in danger of the fire of hell.

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<v Speaker 1>That kind of scares me because I've said some.

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<v Speaker 2>Worse things than raca and you fool, And I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to go to hell. But watch this, he said,

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<v Speaker 2>in the knowledge of this, that what starts in the

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<v Speaker 2>heart doesn't stay in the heart. What starts as a

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<v Speaker 2>thought and turns into a word can actually create a

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<v Speaker 2>living hell in your life. You know, you can turn

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<v Speaker 2>your home into a living hell just.

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<v Speaker 1>By what you allow to access your heart. You really can.

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<v Speaker 2>You can turn a beautiful relationship into a garbage dump.

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<v Speaker 1>In fact, when Jesus says that you be in.

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<v Speaker 2>Danger of the fires of hell, he's not so much

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<v Speaker 2>speaking of something.

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<v Speaker 1>Abstract and theoretical.

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<v Speaker 2>He's referring to Gahinna, which did you people would have

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<v Speaker 2>been familiar with. It was like a place where they

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<v Speaker 2>used to sacrifice humans. They would sacrifice their babies to

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<v Speaker 2>the false god Molik, and they abandoned that practice, but

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<v Speaker 2>they kept it as a garbage dump. And it said

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<v Speaker 2>that the fires of Gahinna never never actually went out,

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<v Speaker 2>and so there was always a smoldering fire in Gahinna.

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<v Speaker 2>And he's bringing up this place, and he's saying that

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<v Speaker 2>anger within your heart and unresolved conflict in your relationships,

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<v Speaker 2>it can make your heart a living hell.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope you guys enjoyed the sermon. Last week.

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<v Speaker 2>This was gonna be a little different this week, So

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<v Speaker 2>I hope you're but there's a reality to be examined

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<v Speaker 2>here about the progression of offenses in our lives. Have

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<v Speaker 2>you noticed that we live in an age of perpetual offense?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean everybody is.

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<v Speaker 2>Offended about everything all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I'm serious. I have to pray for twenty minutes before.

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<v Speaker 2>I post anything on Instagram or Facebook, just to think

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<v Speaker 2>about how could I possibly phrase this where.

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<v Speaker 1>I won't offend somebody. I remember a couple of years

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<v Speaker 1>ago that I put and this is years ago and

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<v Speaker 1>I still remember it.

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<v Speaker 2>I put something on Twitter that I thought was very

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<v Speaker 2>clever because I.

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<v Speaker 3>Was studying a sermon on sanctification, and I was trying

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<v Speaker 3>to find a way to preach about sanctification that wouldn't

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<v Speaker 3>put the people to sleep. Because if I just stand

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<v Speaker 3>up to say I'm going to talk to you today

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<v Speaker 3>about sanctification, I would lose a lot of my audience

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<v Speaker 3>that isn't as spiritual as Brad. So I was trying

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<v Speaker 3>to just put it in real terms, and God gave.

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<v Speaker 1>Me this phrase.

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<v Speaker 2>He said, you should live in your sermon. People don't

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<v Speaker 2>need sermons that smell like a library. They need sermons

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<v Speaker 2>that smell like real life.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was so impressed with that thought I put

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<v Speaker 1>it on Twitter.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, sermons should smell less like a library and

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<v Speaker 2>more like real life. And this lady tweeted me back

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<v Speaker 2>she was a library. She wanted me to know she

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<v Speaker 2>was highly offended. She said, great, just what I needed

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<v Speaker 2>my pastor taking shots at my chosen career and profession.

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<v Speaker 1>How would you.

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<v Speaker 2>Feel if you were a library? And well, lady, I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't mean it like all that, just offendable. Christians are

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<v Speaker 2>the most offendable people on the planet, which is kind

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<v Speaker 2>of ironic considering that our whole religion revolves around a

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<v Speaker 2>relationship with somebody that dropped every offense that we had

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<v Speaker 2>committed against him. That's kind of weird to me. I'm serious, man,

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<v Speaker 2>you have to be really careful. People just get offended.

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<v Speaker 2>I know I'm easily offended. God's working with me on this.

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<v Speaker 2>He spoke to me a while back.

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<v Speaker 1>He said, the reason.

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<v Speaker 2>Is so hard for you to stay happy is because

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<v Speaker 2>it's so easy for you to get offended. If you

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<v Speaker 2>want to make it easier to stay happy, make it

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<v Speaker 2>harder for you to get offended. So I'm working on

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<v Speaker 2>this becoming unofendable project, and I want to invite you

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<v Speaker 2>in on it because Jesus says that this offense, however

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<v Speaker 2>it started with your brother and sister, if you entertain it, it.

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<v Speaker 1>Creates a living hell.

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<v Speaker 2>It spirals out of control, things can sink, things can

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<v Speaker 2>spin out of control so quick you don't even know

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<v Speaker 2>what's happening. And the enemy's agenda in your life is destruction.

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<v Speaker 1>Thief comes to kill, still and destroyer.

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<v Speaker 2>That's John chapter ten, verse ten, note takers, and his

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<v Speaker 2>agenda is destruction. Every good and perfect gift comes from above,

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<v Speaker 2>God's giver. Inemy's taker wants to destroy every good thing

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<v Speaker 2>that God puts in your life. Okay, that's his agenda.

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<v Speaker 2>His strategy is division. Jesus shared with us in Matthew

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<v Speaker 2>twelve twenty five that a house divided against itself can't stand.

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<v Speaker 2>Abraham Lincoln didn't say that, Jesus said it. Jesus said

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<v Speaker 2>that if the enemy wants to destroy your house, the

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<v Speaker 2>first thing he must do to destroy your house is

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<v Speaker 2>to divide your health. Are there any newly married couples

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<v Speaker 2>in church today? Newly married? Why are you clapping?

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<v Speaker 1>For them. They haven't proven anything yet. Is that pity?

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<v Speaker 2>Applause? Newly married couples? Just one more time and I

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<v Speaker 2>see Rachie. I'm saying like, maybe, like you're newly married?

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<v Speaker 1>How new a year? That counts? Would you come on

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<v Speaker 1>the stage? Do you mind?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to embarrass you in anyway. Is your

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<v Speaker 2>wife here?

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<v Speaker 1>She's not here.

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<v Speaker 2>You gotta sit down and you would have been great too.

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<v Speaker 2>Anybody here with your wife that's newly married. You guys

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<v Speaker 2>actually made it to church together today.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just kidding. I'm sure she's serving any kis. Would

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<v Speaker 1>you two years? Two years?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Come on, if you don't mind, come on, let's

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<v Speaker 2>get my hand.

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<v Speaker 1>Come on, guys, go on my hand. This is brave man.

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<v Speaker 1>I have no idea what they're getting into now. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not just gonna preach about married. It's coach day, but

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<v Speaker 1>I think if I use a marriage illustration, imply relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>Keep talking while they come. Come on, guys, can talk

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<v Speaker 1>to your name Stephanie and Dan. Good to have you guys, Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>come on all the way off. That'll be great.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me show you what the devil wants to do

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<v Speaker 2>in your relationship. Because God said that the two shall

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<v Speaker 2>become one. This is exactly what the enemy wants. So

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<v Speaker 2>every battle you're gonna fight, every argument about the dishes,

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<v Speaker 2>really it's a it's the enemies. The enemy's agenda is destruction.

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<v Speaker 2>And so his strategy is division. And the enemy, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if you believe in the devil or not,

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<v Speaker 2>but the enemy, Stephanie's not going to be happy until

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<v Speaker 2>he sees you like this. And what I just showed you,

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<v Speaker 2>the Bible says that marriage is even a picture of

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<v Speaker 2>Christ and the church. So what he wants to do

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<v Speaker 2>to them, he wants to do to this whole church,

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<v Speaker 2>and what he wants to do to them he wants

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<v Speaker 2>to do to you and your teenage or what he

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<v Speaker 2>wants to does them, And and so his his agenda

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<v Speaker 2>is destruction. He comes to kill still destroy. Histrategy is

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<v Speaker 2>the vision. And here's his tactic. And this is the

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<v Speaker 2>part I want to preach about. And I appreciate you

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<v Speaker 2>helping me, because you guys can help me preach a

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<v Speaker 2>sermon today.

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<v Speaker 1>His tactic is offense.

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<v Speaker 2>Satan has an offensive strategy because if he walked up

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<v Speaker 2>to you, I don't know how I forgot your name

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<v Speaker 2>already tell me one more time, Dan, Dan, Dan the man,

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<v Speaker 2>Come on, is Dan the man?

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody?

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<v Speaker 2>And if the devil we're not subtle, Dan wouldn't stand

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<v Speaker 2>for his schemes.

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<v Speaker 1>But the enemy is very strategic, and Jesus.

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<v Speaker 2>Is giving us, really in Matthew chapter five, kind of

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<v Speaker 2>a playbook of how the enemy wants to work in

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<v Speaker 2>your relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>And I know Dan's not going to let him, but

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<v Speaker 1>he's going to try. Now.

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<v Speaker 2>He won't make an announcement, Hey, I'm coming to kill

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<v Speaker 2>and steal and destroy, you know, because right now you

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<v Speaker 2>just spend all those money on the flowers and the

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<v Speaker 2>dresses and all the groomsmen and all that stuff. And

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<v Speaker 2>I know it's been a couple of years, and that's

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<v Speaker 2>good because what you see in those first couple of

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<v Speaker 2>years is you see that the enemy will usually start

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<v Speaker 2>in a small way because if he announced I've come

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<v Speaker 2>to divide, Dann the Man wouldn't stand for that. If

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<v Speaker 2>the devil came into divide, come on, stick.

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<v Speaker 1>Your chest out.

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<v Speaker 2>Dan.

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<v Speaker 1>Dan ain't having it. Dan ain't having it.

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<v Speaker 2>But if the enemy can just what he'll do, he'll

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<v Speaker 2>just use the littlest offense. And what Jesus is doing

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<v Speaker 2>in Matthew chapter five. He's showing us how to deal

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<v Speaker 2>with the offense so we can keep the devil on defense.

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<v Speaker 1>How many want to keep.

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<v Speaker 2>The devil on defense in your life and in your family?

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<v Speaker 2>Come on church, So you guys, if you sit back down,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll bring back in a minute. But I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>you to have to stay up here the whole time.

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<v Speaker 2>But just stay ready. Okay, all right, we're gonna come

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<v Speaker 2>back to here.

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<v Speaker 1>Last week when I was freaching.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if you remembered how many of you

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<v Speaker 2>were here last week.

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<v Speaker 1>Make some now.

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<v Speaker 2>If the person next to you isn't making noise, touch

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<v Speaker 2>them and say you really missed it, You really missed it.

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<v Speaker 2>I ended remember talking about you got this plank in

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<v Speaker 2>your eye, and you're so concerned about the little speck

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<v Speaker 2>in my eye while you're walking around your big old

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<v Speaker 2>plank just whacking them on the head, just causing distraction,

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<v Speaker 2>division and all this stuff. And it's the contrast between

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<v Speaker 2>the small things and the big things. And there are

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<v Speaker 2>times that a big offense. I mean, there's not a

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<v Speaker 2>week that goes by Hollywood. You agree that somebody doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>call me for counsel that's going through a marriage situation,

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<v Speaker 2>like a divorce of separation.

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<v Speaker 1>Buck, is this true. It's not a week that goes by.

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<v Speaker 2>It'll be another pastor or maybe a situation in the church,

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<v Speaker 2>and I get to talking to them about what happened.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you can go back far enough, you find

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<v Speaker 2>that every plank is made up of a lot of specs.

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<v Speaker 1>And to me, that's the heart of Jesus teaching. I

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<v Speaker 1>really didn't read you the.

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<v Speaker 2>Whole passage because I want to break it down and

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<v Speaker 2>show you how it happens. He said, it could be

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<v Speaker 2>something as small as a word. Now write this down.

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<v Speaker 2>The closer the relationship, the greater the opportunity.

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<v Speaker 1>And that goes both ways.

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<v Speaker 2>The closer the relationship, the greater the opportunity for intimacy. However,

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<v Speaker 2>the closer the relationship, the greater the opportunity for offense.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why nobody can make you really mad, like somebody

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<v Speaker 2>that you really love. Really nobody can hurt you like

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<v Speaker 2>somebody that you've given your heart to.

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<v Speaker 1>Nobody.

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<v Speaker 2>And I've asked the question a lot of times of people,

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<v Speaker 2>and really in my own mind, I've seen people that

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<v Speaker 2>were so loyal to each other and if you had

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<v Speaker 2>asked me ten years ago, who is most likely to

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<v Speaker 2>ever have kind of an enemy relationship, or who's most

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<v Speaker 2>likely it could be a divorce, or who's most likely

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<v Speaker 2>to not.

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<v Speaker 1>Be speaking to each other? And some of those very

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<v Speaker 1>same people.

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<v Speaker 2>Just in the last year of my life, Ethan, I've

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<v Speaker 2>watched some things happen that surprised me and you kind

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<v Speaker 2>of every time you see it, you ask the question,

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<v Speaker 2>how did we get here? You see how big Van

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<v Speaker 2>was smiling over Stephanie. Now they're going to have a

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<v Speaker 2>great marriage and all of that, and it's going to

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<v Speaker 2>be awesome, But you ask the question, how could somebody

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<v Speaker 2>who had that same hope, that same smile barely stand

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<v Speaker 2>to be in the room with somebody two kids later.

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<v Speaker 2>And it happens, And there's all kinds of ways that

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<v Speaker 2>it happens. I know there's compatibility, and I know that

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<v Speaker 2>it's not always something that you can fix because it

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<v Speaker 2>takes one to forgive, but it takes two to be reconciled.

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<v Speaker 2>And I guess I want you to know that my

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<v Speaker 2>goal today isn't to so much do an autopsy of

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<v Speaker 2>anybody's mistakes, but just to show you something that happens

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<v Speaker 2>It always happens one offence at a time.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes there are.

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<v Speaker 2>Betrayals, and yes there's adult tree, and yes there's abuse.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not really talking about those big things so much today.

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<v Speaker 1>As I am what Jesus was talking about.

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<v Speaker 2>He said, if you get something in your heart against

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<v Speaker 2>your brother and sister, and then you nurse it and

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<v Speaker 2>rehearse it long enough, it will literally create a smoldering

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<v Speaker 2>garbage dump of fire in the very relationship that was

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<v Speaker 2>once a garden of potential and love.

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<v Speaker 1>How does this happen? It happens one offence at a time.

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<v Speaker 2>How did we get here where we're smiling like everything

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<v Speaker 2>is okay? But deep down in my heart, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>if we come to church, man, nobody sees this stuff

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<v Speaker 2>when we come to church, watch this, jesays. In verse

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<v Speaker 2>twenty three, he says, if you are offering your gift

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<v Speaker 2>at the altar, and there remember that your brother.

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<v Speaker 1>Or sister has something against you.

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<v Speaker 2>Leave your gift there in front of the altar and

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<v Speaker 2>get it right with the person that is not right

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<v Speaker 2>with before you sing a song or pray a prayer

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<v Speaker 2>to try to cover up.

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<v Speaker 1>The fact that your relationships are under attack.

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<v Speaker 2>We were singing today in church, this song, this beautiful

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<v Speaker 2>worship song. Man, you should have seen the people singing,

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<v Speaker 2>and people had their hands lifted.

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<v Speaker 1>Mercy's folly.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's why was coming out of some people's mouths.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you can see.

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<v Speaker 2>What's going on in their heart, Jesus as possible for

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<v Speaker 2>you to be doing something on an outward level and

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<v Speaker 2>at an inward level you're full of anger and resentment.

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<v Speaker 1>Mercy is.

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<v Speaker 4>Fall except on my huh husband. He as.

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<v Speaker 2>If you could hear what was happening in the hearts

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<v Speaker 2>of people. How do we get here? Jesus says. It

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<v Speaker 2>starts small, but one offense at a time. The devil

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<v Speaker 2>wants to tear dense heart from Stephanie's heart. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>God takes the two and makes some one. The enemy

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<v Speaker 2>takes the one and makes them two.

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<v Speaker 1>How does he do it? One offense at a time?

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<v Speaker 2>And God knows I need this message, man, because I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not a perfect husband. I give ninety seven percent of

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<v Speaker 2>the credit for the happiness that exists in my marriage

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<v Speaker 2>to my wife. Three percent is me. I'm pretty proud

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<v Speaker 2>of that three But if you put me in the

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<v Speaker 2>wrong situation, I can get offended so.

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<v Speaker 1>Quick, just like on Twitter.

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<v Speaker 2>There was one woman that went off on me, and

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<v Speaker 2>I still remember what she said three years later.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, thousands of people have said nice things to me,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm quick to find the offense.

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<v Speaker 2>We can train ourselves to find the offense and then

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<v Speaker 2>just overreact. Man, it starts off as Raka, you fool.

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<v Speaker 2>Next thing you know, I'm in living hell and watsch I.

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<v Speaker 1>Bad at this?

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<v Speaker 2>Jesus said, it can get so bad if you don't

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<v Speaker 2>deal with it. If you don't learn how to deal

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<v Speaker 2>with this Dan, if you don't deal with the little things,

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<v Speaker 2>little foxes, he says, if you don't settle matters quickly

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<v Speaker 2>verse twenty five, with your adversary who.

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<v Speaker 3>Is taking you to According to that confused me because

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<v Speaker 3>in verse twenty one, we're talking about your brother or sister, Right,

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<v Speaker 3>we're talking about somebody you're close to.

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<v Speaker 2>In verse twenty five, we're talking about your adversary. I

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<v Speaker 2>always assume these are two different people.

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<v Speaker 1>What if it's not.

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<v Speaker 2>What if the same person who you called brother and

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<v Speaker 2>sister in twenty one is the same person who will

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<v Speaker 2>be your enemy in twenty five.

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<v Speaker 1>If you don't learn how to deal with offense, it

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<v Speaker 1>happens you ever thought about that.

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<v Speaker 2>The person who, he says, the person who doesn't deal

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<v Speaker 2>with the offense. And it's interesting how he says it.

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<v Speaker 2>If you don't settle matters quickly, that's so powerful. Saddle

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<v Speaker 2>matters quickly with your adversary who's taking you to court,

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<v Speaker 2>do what you can while you are still together on

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<v Speaker 2>the way, or your adversary may hand you over to

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<v Speaker 2>the judge, and the judge may hand you over to

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<v Speaker 2>the officer, and you may be.

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<v Speaker 1>Thrown into prison.

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<v Speaker 2>And truly, I tell you, knock it out until you

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<v Speaker 2>paid the last penny, the prison of offense. And it

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<v Speaker 2>all started with Roca. It all started with Roca, the

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<v Speaker 2>small offense. It all started in the parking lot. I

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<v Speaker 2>was backing out and this guy honking his horn at

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<v Speaker 2>me and his pickup truck. Just a couple months ago,

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<v Speaker 2>I took the boys to see that football movie, the

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<v Speaker 2>Christian football movie. Okay, Wood Wood Woodlock Woodlawn. We went

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<v Speaker 2>and saw Woodlawn made a deep impression on him. We're

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<v Speaker 2>leaving the movie and and this this guy, he's hollering

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<v Speaker 2>at me because his wife wants my parking spot. The

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<v Speaker 2>problem with his wife wanting my parking spot is she

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<v Speaker 2>is pulled up so close on my parking spot. I

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<v Speaker 2>can't get out to give it to her. And now

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<v Speaker 2>that's somehow my fault to this guy in the pickup truck.

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<v Speaker 2>So he says to me, or offers a course of

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<v Speaker 2>action to.

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<v Speaker 1>Me, Hey, get out of her way.

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<v Speaker 2>She's waiting on your spot, and I'm like, And then

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<v Speaker 2>I figure out that this is his wife because I'm

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<v Speaker 2>putting it all together, and I rolled down my window

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<v Speaker 2>and I says something back to him. No, it wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>any profanity or anything like that, but it was a

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<v Speaker 2>rocket type thing that I said something about his wife's

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<v Speaker 2>driving skills or something, you know, something like that, just

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<v Speaker 2>something insinuate.

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<v Speaker 1>But then he wants to get out of his truck

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<v Speaker 1>and he's not bigger than me.

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<v Speaker 2>So now I gotta get out of my maximum because

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<v Speaker 2>I got to because my boys are watching this, and

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<v Speaker 2>I need even be a good example that if a

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<v Speaker 2>man gets out of his pickup.

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<v Speaker 1>Truck and challenges you.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't matter whether you have an elevation sticker on

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<v Speaker 2>your car.

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<v Speaker 1>You gotta handle this. Why are you clapping for me?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so bewildered.

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<v Speaker 2>And I got out and I said what are we

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<v Speaker 2>gonna do?

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<v Speaker 1>Just a question, just a question. There's just a question.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't know what happened next.

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<v Speaker 2>I think, to this day, I still don't know, because

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<v Speaker 2>his tone changed dramatically. I don't think he was intimidated

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<v Speaker 2>by me. I think he really who I was. I

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<v Speaker 2>think so because it was right here in town. And

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<v Speaker 2>so I think he because I think he put the

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<v Speaker 2>sticker and the all thing together, because all of.

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<v Speaker 1>A sudden he turned real spiritual. He was like, well, God,

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<v Speaker 1>bless you man. We're just all trying to get where

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<v Speaker 1>we're trying to go. And I was like, yeah, we are.

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<v Speaker 1>Around this time, Graham comes out the car. He's eight,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. He comes over and stands by me, and

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<v Speaker 1>he said, you got your boys and I got my wife.

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<v Speaker 2>I says, cool, and we've got over here, and got

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<v Speaker 2>back in the car and I said when Graham got

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<v Speaker 2>in the car, I said, Graham, I said, what were

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<v Speaker 2>you gonna do?

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<v Speaker 1>And Graham said I.

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<v Speaker 2>Was gonna kick him in the shin if I had to.

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<v Speaker 1>And Elijah, my older son, he.

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<v Speaker 2>Speaks up and says, Daddy, a better question is what

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<v Speaker 2>were you going to do? I said, what ever needed

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<v Speaker 2>to be done. Son, I hadn't thought that far about it,

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<v Speaker 2>and he said, well, think about it. I mean, let's

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<v Speaker 2>say you'll get in a fight in the parking lot

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<v Speaker 2>of the movie theater.

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<v Speaker 1>Not only are the news.

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<v Speaker 2>People going to put you on the news, but they

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<v Speaker 2>might not even we might not even ever see you again.

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<v Speaker 2>We're in the back of the car, and maybe they

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<v Speaker 2>leave us, and then maybe you end up in prison,

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<v Speaker 2>and maybe we don't have a dad.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you think about that?

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<v Speaker 2>And I said, that's right, son, I'm giving you an example.

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<v Speaker 1>How not to handle a situation. We went and ate

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<v Speaker 1>some Mexican food.

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<v Speaker 2>And here's why I told you that story. When you

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<v Speaker 2>are in these moments I'm talking about, not with somebody

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<v Speaker 2>in parking lot, somebody you love. You're not thinking through

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<v Speaker 2>the fact that this is going to end up with

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<v Speaker 2>me and you and an attorneys sitting down talking about

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<v Speaker 2>dividing our assets.

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<v Speaker 1>That's not how division happens.

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<v Speaker 2>Because the enemy's agenda is destruction. His strategy is division.

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<v Speaker 1>But his tactic is those little offenses.

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<v Speaker 2>Come come on, Dan and Stephanie, come back, and I

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<v Speaker 2>just I need.

0:24:18.240 --> 0:24:24.280
<v Speaker 1>Your help because bring up, bring up my garden. Come on,

0:24:24.359 --> 0:24:25.480
<v Speaker 1>it's Dan and Stephanie.

0:24:25.560 --> 0:24:31.600
<v Speaker 2>Everybody two years, We're gonna get them to twenty. We're

0:24:31.640 --> 0:24:34.120
<v Speaker 2>gonna get you to twenty. I so appreciate your help.

0:24:34.119 --> 0:24:36.159
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna send I'm gonna send you guys to your

0:24:36.200 --> 0:24:40.720
<v Speaker 2>favorite restaurant. What's your favorite restaurant, Stephanie, what's our favorite restaurant?

0:24:41.119 --> 0:24:43.840
<v Speaker 1>I was gonna say Baker's Field, but theF change I

0:24:43.880 --> 0:24:48.520
<v Speaker 1>love it too. So here here's a garden. This This

0:24:48.600 --> 0:24:49.880
<v Speaker 1>represents the love of.

0:24:49.840 --> 0:24:53.840
<v Speaker 2>A relationship and and all the potential of a relationship.

0:24:54.480 --> 0:25:01.520
<v Speaker 2>And this, of course represents the offenses that are going

0:25:01.560 --> 0:25:03.119
<v Speaker 2>to come into your relationship.

0:25:03.400 --> 0:25:04.840
<v Speaker 1>Now you don't have to be married to get a

0:25:04.840 --> 0:25:06.440
<v Speaker 1>whole lot out of what I'm saying right now.

0:25:06.880 --> 0:25:09.639
<v Speaker 2>This will apply to anybody in your life who is

0:25:09.680 --> 0:25:12.879
<v Speaker 2>important to you and show you exactly what the enemy

0:25:12.920 --> 0:25:15.520
<v Speaker 2>will try to do. Like, for instance, I don't know

0:25:15.560 --> 0:25:16.919
<v Speaker 2>if Stephanie's a good cook or not.

0:25:17.280 --> 0:25:21.520
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, yeah, good good. And I was talking to

0:25:21.560 --> 0:25:24.040
<v Speaker 1>my mom this morning. No, my mom lives here in Charlotte,

0:25:24.160 --> 0:25:26.640
<v Speaker 1>and she reminded me of this story. This is hilarious.

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<v Speaker 2>It just shows how offenses can come because the question

0:25:29.760 --> 0:25:33.400
<v Speaker 2>isn't our offense is going to come into your relationship.

0:25:33.440 --> 0:25:36.040
<v Speaker 1>That's not the question. They're going to come. They're going

0:25:36.119 --> 0:25:39.560
<v Speaker 1>to come. The question is what are you going to

0:25:39.640 --> 0:25:40.080
<v Speaker 1>do with them.

0:25:41.480 --> 0:25:44.000
<v Speaker 2>That's what determines whether or not you keep a strong

0:25:44.240 --> 0:25:49.720
<v Speaker 2>relationship with God, with others, with yourself. So my mom

0:25:49.800 --> 0:25:54.640
<v Speaker 2>was telling me they were at my father's mom's house,

0:25:54.640 --> 0:25:57.959
<v Speaker 2>so my grandmother my dad's mom's house, for Thanksgiving, and

0:25:58.000 --> 0:26:03.359
<v Speaker 2>she made some stuffing, you know that. Yeah, And when

0:26:03.400 --> 0:26:06.240
<v Speaker 2>she and my grandmother made some stuffing.

0:26:07.320 --> 0:26:08.359
<v Speaker 1>And the way.

0:26:08.200 --> 0:26:10.240
<v Speaker 2>I understood the story, my dad was sitting there eating

0:26:10.240 --> 0:26:11.160
<v Speaker 2>his mom's stuffing.

0:26:11.840 --> 0:26:12.600
<v Speaker 1>And while he's.

0:26:12.480 --> 0:26:15.880
<v Speaker 2>Eating the stuffing, he says, trying to give a compliment

0:26:15.920 --> 0:26:16.760
<v Speaker 2>to his mom.

0:26:17.119 --> 0:26:21.000
<v Speaker 1>He's like, mmm, Mom.

0:26:20.720 --> 0:26:25.720
<v Speaker 2>Nobody makes stuffing like you. I mean, other people try

0:26:25.800 --> 0:26:30.040
<v Speaker 2>to make stuffing, but nobody can make it like you.

0:26:30.800 --> 0:26:33.040
<v Speaker 1>And my mom is thinking.

0:26:33.240 --> 0:26:38.000
<v Speaker 2>While he's saying, nobody makes stuffing like you, my mom

0:26:38.520 --> 0:26:41.600
<v Speaker 2>is thinking, and nobody is going.

0:26:41.280 --> 0:26:42.760
<v Speaker 1>To make stuffing for you.

0:26:43.160 --> 0:26:46.919
<v Speaker 2>Accept your mom, So you better invite your mom to

0:26:46.960 --> 0:26:48.000
<v Speaker 2>be your cook.

0:26:48.040 --> 0:26:50.240
<v Speaker 1>If nobody makes stuffing like her.

0:26:50.920 --> 0:26:53.200
<v Speaker 2>And my mom said, I didn't make that man stuffing

0:26:53.240 --> 0:26:57.840
<v Speaker 2>on Thanksgiving for the next six years, and.

0:26:57.760 --> 0:26:59.679
<v Speaker 1>I said, can I tell the church. That story is

0:26:59.680 --> 0:27:02.120
<v Speaker 1>a good illustration. She said, yes, as long as you.

0:27:02.119 --> 0:27:05.960
<v Speaker 2>Clarify that I really do make better stuffing.

0:27:05.560 --> 0:27:06.480
<v Speaker 1>Than your grandmother.

0:27:09.080 --> 0:27:12.919
<v Speaker 2>Now I got you holding that because he says this stuff. Oh,

0:27:12.960 --> 0:27:15.399
<v Speaker 2>he says these unintentional things, because men are stupid. We

0:27:15.440 --> 0:27:17.280
<v Speaker 2>just say stuff. We don't realize what we're saying, and

0:27:17.280 --> 0:27:19.680
<v Speaker 2>we just say stuff. And maybe Dan hasn't done it yet.

0:27:19.720 --> 0:27:21.920
<v Speaker 2>To me, he looks like an intelligent man, but he's

0:27:21.960 --> 0:27:23.520
<v Speaker 2>gonna say something.

0:27:23.720 --> 0:27:26.960
<v Speaker 1>And it will be unintentional in his mind. He's just

0:27:27.040 --> 0:27:30.439
<v Speaker 1>saying it. He's just saying something. Just say it, just

0:27:30.520 --> 0:27:31.200
<v Speaker 1>says stuff.

0:27:31.600 --> 0:27:35.160
<v Speaker 2>Or sometimes it's not what they say, it's what they

0:27:35.240 --> 0:27:39.440
<v Speaker 2>don't do. It's an unmet expectation. That is the breeding

0:27:39.480 --> 0:27:44.040
<v Speaker 2>ground of offenses and relationships. Unmet expectations. And let me

0:27:44.040 --> 0:27:47.920
<v Speaker 2>tell you the breeding ground of unmet expectations, unexpressed expectations.

0:27:48.280 --> 0:27:50.560
<v Speaker 1>So you got to learn how to talk to people otherwise.

0:27:50.640 --> 0:27:53.680
<v Speaker 2>Like let's say, growing up in Stephanie's house, birthdays were

0:27:53.720 --> 0:27:57.320
<v Speaker 2>a big deal. But maybe at Dan's house they didn't

0:27:57.320 --> 0:27:59.879
<v Speaker 2>make a big deal about birthdays because hey, what did

0:27:59.920 --> 0:28:00.320
<v Speaker 2>you do?

0:28:01.359 --> 0:28:03.000
<v Speaker 1>You didn't do anything on your birthday.

0:28:03.200 --> 0:28:05.720
<v Speaker 2>You were just born so maybe on birthdays at Dan's house,

0:28:05.880 --> 0:28:08.640
<v Speaker 2>nobody celebrates the fact that you just came out into

0:28:08.680 --> 0:28:11.920
<v Speaker 2>the world like it was some great achievement. But Stephanie

0:28:11.960 --> 0:28:13.760
<v Speaker 2>wakes up and her mom used to make her pancakes

0:28:13.800 --> 0:28:15.560
<v Speaker 2>on her birthday, and her dad had a special song

0:28:15.600 --> 0:28:16.800
<v Speaker 2>that he was saying, I don't know I'm making this

0:28:16.800 --> 0:28:18.879
<v Speaker 2>stuff up. I never met Stephanie and Dan before. I

0:28:18.920 --> 0:28:21.280
<v Speaker 2>was making a scenario. And so Dan wakes up on

0:28:21.320 --> 0:28:22.960
<v Speaker 2>the birthday and he's going to take her out to

0:28:23.040 --> 0:28:26.159
<v Speaker 2>pf Change that night because that's her favorite place. But

0:28:26.240 --> 0:28:28.320
<v Speaker 2>now it's morning time and it's like seven, and there's

0:28:28.359 --> 0:28:30.880
<v Speaker 2>no pancakes, and there's no special song and there's no thing.

0:28:31.040 --> 0:28:32.720
<v Speaker 1>And so now all of a sudden, it's the first

0:28:32.760 --> 0:28:34.240
<v Speaker 1>birthday they spend as a married couple.

0:28:34.359 --> 0:28:35.800
<v Speaker 2>And he wakes up and gives her a little kiss

0:28:35.840 --> 0:28:38.600
<v Speaker 2>and goes to work and leaves her with an offense.

0:28:40.240 --> 0:28:42.000
<v Speaker 2>And you're like, well, that's stupid that she shouldn't get

0:28:42.000 --> 0:28:45.600
<v Speaker 2>so offended over that. Well, you get offended over some

0:28:45.640 --> 0:28:50.440
<v Speaker 2>stuff too, some little things, and you hold it and

0:28:50.880 --> 0:28:54.640
<v Speaker 2>it won't just be you offending her. Let's say maybe

0:28:54.720 --> 0:28:57.600
<v Speaker 2>let's say you're working really hard this used to happen

0:28:57.600 --> 0:28:58.880
<v Speaker 2>in me and Holly's marriage.

0:28:59.480 --> 0:29:01.520
<v Speaker 1>This is an example. I did not ask for permission

0:29:01.560 --> 0:29:02.400
<v Speaker 1>to share it.

0:29:04.520 --> 0:29:08.320
<v Speaker 2>When I discovered that her recreational preference was shopping.

0:29:10.360 --> 0:29:13.800
<v Speaker 1>And yeah, yeah, so she said me too, So you

0:29:13.920 --> 0:29:14.800
<v Speaker 1>come home on Saturday.

0:29:14.840 --> 0:29:17.080
<v Speaker 2>Holly would come home on Saturday and she would be

0:29:17.200 --> 0:29:21.040
<v Speaker 2>energized and she would have bags all.

0:29:20.760 --> 0:29:21.680
<v Speaker 1>Over her arms.

0:29:21.920 --> 0:29:25.160
<v Speaker 2>But to me, those bags didn't look like shopping bags.

0:29:25.640 --> 0:29:30.560
<v Speaker 1>Those bags looked like grenades to be launched into our

0:29:30.640 --> 0:29:33.000
<v Speaker 1>financial picture. Here, I am trying to work.

0:29:33.040 --> 0:29:36.000
<v Speaker 2>She walking in with all these bags looking out, and

0:29:36.000 --> 0:29:38.680
<v Speaker 2>then she has the nerve to say, don't worry, because

0:29:38.720 --> 0:29:45.480
<v Speaker 2>I got it on. And this is what the devil

0:29:45.520 --> 0:29:46.160
<v Speaker 2>wants all right.

0:29:46.280 --> 0:29:49.040
<v Speaker 1>Now, Dan is trying to fall asleep on Saturday night.

0:29:49.120 --> 0:29:51.200
<v Speaker 2>And again I'm just making this up, but she handed

0:29:51.240 --> 0:29:52.240
<v Speaker 2>you this official.

0:29:51.880 --> 0:29:53.760
<v Speaker 1>One't trying to offend you. She was just shopping. It

0:29:53.840 --> 0:29:54.480
<v Speaker 1>was just a thing.

0:29:54.520 --> 0:29:56.720
<v Speaker 2>But Dan is working, and doesn't she see how hard

0:29:56.760 --> 0:29:58.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm working? And how does she expect us to get

0:29:58.640 --> 0:30:01.800
<v Speaker 2>ahead financially? Like the last thing she needs is another

0:30:01.840 --> 0:30:03.120
<v Speaker 2>pair of shoes, and the.

0:30:03.720 --> 0:30:05.880
<v Speaker 1>Enemy is like, yeah, yeah, that's good, Dan, that's good.

0:30:05.920 --> 0:30:08.200
<v Speaker 1>She doesn't care about you. She doesn't respect you.

0:30:08.480 --> 0:30:11.400
<v Speaker 2>She doesn't she doesn't appreciate all that you're doing to

0:30:11.480 --> 0:30:12.240
<v Speaker 2>provide for her.

0:30:12.440 --> 0:30:15.320
<v Speaker 1>She's working against you. It's just a little offense.

0:30:16.640 --> 0:30:24.800
<v Speaker 2>Meanwhile, Stephanie is still stuck on her birthday. It was

0:30:24.800 --> 0:30:29.080
<v Speaker 2>four months ago. She's still mad about the pancakes.

0:30:29.080 --> 0:30:30.480
<v Speaker 1>Come here, Stephanie, and.

0:30:30.400 --> 0:30:34.520
<v Speaker 2>She's over here, and she's still she's still nursing that

0:30:34.520 --> 0:30:38.880
<v Speaker 2>that thing about the birthday and see us every time

0:30:38.960 --> 0:30:44.520
<v Speaker 2>she thinks about it, just a little deeper. She should

0:30:44.600 --> 0:30:47.920
<v Speaker 2>drive it down in there with every thought and reliving

0:30:48.000 --> 0:30:50.480
<v Speaker 2>it and thinking about what he said and what she

0:30:50.560 --> 0:30:53.840
<v Speaker 2>did and what they didn't say. He didn't pay attention

0:30:53.920 --> 0:30:57.760
<v Speaker 2>to me, I don't appreciate me, and drives it down deeper.

0:30:58.320 --> 0:31:01.880
<v Speaker 2>And marriage is gonna give you because it's the most

0:31:01.880 --> 0:31:08.840
<v Speaker 2>intimate relationship, and the more intimate the relationship, the more infinite.

0:31:09.560 --> 0:31:14.000
<v Speaker 1>The potential for offense.

0:31:16.720 --> 0:31:21.360
<v Speaker 2>And so you're gonna have like a million offenses, little offenses,

0:31:22.160 --> 0:31:23.440
<v Speaker 2>and if you don't learn how to deal with them,

0:31:23.480 --> 0:31:28.200
<v Speaker 2>because sometimes the thing that you liked about her when

0:31:28.240 --> 0:31:31.120
<v Speaker 2>you were dating will drive you crazy now that you

0:31:31.200 --> 0:31:32.520
<v Speaker 2>have to wake up with it every day.

0:31:33.840 --> 0:31:36.160
<v Speaker 1>No offense to Stephanie. I'm sure she's wonderful. You're like, oh,

0:31:36.160 --> 0:31:38.600
<v Speaker 1>why would you say that about her? It's true about everybody.

0:31:38.680 --> 0:31:39.960
<v Speaker 1>Here's how the country preachers had it.

0:31:40.000 --> 0:31:46.400
<v Speaker 2>He said, before marriage, opposites tracked, after marriage opposite attack.

0:31:46.880 --> 0:31:53.320
<v Speaker 2>Hey man, that's how the country preacher said it. And

0:31:53.360 --> 0:31:57.160
<v Speaker 2>so I know it's kind of heavy. That's how offenses are.

0:31:57.240 --> 0:31:59.080
<v Speaker 2>But it's not all at once, it's just one at

0:31:59.080 --> 0:32:03.640
<v Speaker 2>a time. Let's say that before marriage you liked her

0:32:03.680 --> 0:32:08.920
<v Speaker 2>because she is mysterious and quiet, and that draws you

0:32:09.000 --> 0:32:11.920
<v Speaker 2>to her. But then in marriage it can go this

0:32:12.000 --> 0:32:15.480
<v Speaker 2>way to where it was really attractive that she was

0:32:15.560 --> 0:32:17.959
<v Speaker 2>quiet and mysterious when you were dating her.

0:32:18.200 --> 0:32:22.080
<v Speaker 1>But now in marriage she won't ever talk, and it's

0:32:22.160 --> 0:32:23.840
<v Speaker 1>like no, but yeah, but no.

0:32:24.120 --> 0:32:27.760
<v Speaker 2>But just for example, it's like, why won't you tell

0:32:27.760 --> 0:32:29.280
<v Speaker 2>me what's on your mind?

0:32:29.960 --> 0:32:31.200
<v Speaker 1>But that's why you liked her.

0:32:31.240 --> 0:32:33.480
<v Speaker 2>And before you married him, he was the life of

0:32:33.520 --> 0:32:36.720
<v Speaker 2>the party, and he walked in and he just talked.

0:32:36.480 --> 0:32:38.840
<v Speaker 1>And lit up the room. And now why won't he

0:32:39.000 --> 0:32:44.480
<v Speaker 1>ever shut up? Dan? Will not shut up? Shut up Dan?

0:32:48.360 --> 0:32:51.800
<v Speaker 2>And so what actually was part of building the foundation

0:32:51.840 --> 0:32:53.280
<v Speaker 2>of the relationship.

0:32:52.800 --> 0:32:54.560
<v Speaker 1>Now it's a fence and it happens.

0:32:54.280 --> 0:33:02.320
<v Speaker 2>A million different ways in the enemy, all kinds of opportunities,

0:33:04.920 --> 0:33:08.360
<v Speaker 2>and you don't realize what's happening because it's just one

0:33:08.400 --> 0:33:12.200
<v Speaker 2>little conversation after another. You know, it's just dressing on Thanksgiving.

0:33:12.840 --> 0:33:13.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, a big thing.

0:33:14.560 --> 0:33:16.320
<v Speaker 2>It's just me trying to tell Holly how to drive

0:33:16.360 --> 0:33:17.600
<v Speaker 2>and her saying, well, then why don't.

0:33:17.440 --> 0:33:19.440
<v Speaker 1>You drive if you do such a good driver.

0:33:20.240 --> 0:33:22.400
<v Speaker 2>And we have a lot of dysfunction in our relationship

0:33:22.440 --> 0:33:25.160
<v Speaker 2>over what happens in the car because I can't find

0:33:25.160 --> 0:33:29.920
<v Speaker 2>my way places and she can't drive. So she has

0:33:29.960 --> 0:33:33.080
<v Speaker 2>a great sense of direction, but horrible driving skills.

0:33:33.600 --> 0:33:35.720
<v Speaker 1>I'm a great driver with no sense of direction.

0:33:38.000 --> 0:33:42.960
<v Speaker 2>So the other night, we're driving coming from a movie

0:33:43.080 --> 0:33:46.760
<v Speaker 2>as a matter of fact, not the Christian football movie,

0:33:47.040 --> 0:33:50.280
<v Speaker 2>but we're coming back and she almost got us killed.

0:33:53.320 --> 0:33:56.360
<v Speaker 1>And I was mad because to me, she wasn't paying attention.

0:33:57.480 --> 0:34:00.640
<v Speaker 2>And we talked about that later and she was like, well,

0:34:00.760 --> 0:34:03.440
<v Speaker 2>you know, if you want to be in control of how.

0:34:03.360 --> 0:34:06.360
<v Speaker 1>The car works, there's a different seat you can sit in.

0:34:10.040 --> 0:34:20.359
<v Speaker 5>Shut up, lock up, ruck off.

0:34:20.040 --> 0:34:22.040
<v Speaker 2>H that's the biggest problem you have. No, it's not

0:34:22.040 --> 0:34:22.960
<v Speaker 2>the biggest problem we have.

0:34:23.040 --> 0:34:23.719
<v Speaker 1>It's just the one I'm.

0:34:23.600 --> 0:34:25.080
<v Speaker 2>Gonna tell you about. It's none of your business or

0:34:25.080 --> 0:34:31.759
<v Speaker 2>a problem here. But see offense by offense. If we

0:34:31.760 --> 0:34:34.479
<v Speaker 2>don't learn what to do about this, the enemy would

0:34:34.520 --> 0:34:38.279
<v Speaker 2>love just one conversation after another. You don't make a

0:34:38.320 --> 0:34:41.120
<v Speaker 2>decision to walk away from a relationship that you love.

0:34:41.200 --> 0:34:43.879
<v Speaker 2>You don't see them becoming your enemy. In Matthew five

0:34:44.200 --> 0:34:51.440
<v Speaker 2>twenty five, it's just one unacknowledged effort after another, and

0:34:51.520 --> 0:34:54.560
<v Speaker 2>you start thinking, well, I'm the only one who ever

0:34:55.440 --> 0:34:56.719
<v Speaker 2>takes out the trash around here.

0:35:01.320 --> 0:35:04.800
<v Speaker 1>I guess I'll do it, do it again like always.

0:35:04.840 --> 0:35:07.960
<v Speaker 2>No, it's good, I got it, I got.

0:35:07.800 --> 0:35:10.120
<v Speaker 1>It's not a problem. I'm would love.

0:35:10.440 --> 0:35:13.600
<v Speaker 2>To get up with the kid again in the middle something.

0:35:13.680 --> 0:35:21.239
<v Speaker 1>I know, it's fine, I know you gotta work. And

0:35:21.280 --> 0:35:31.480
<v Speaker 1>now what started as just a small offense, Now what

0:35:31.600 --> 0:35:51.000
<v Speaker 1>God joined together separated because of offense. And now the

0:35:51.040 --> 0:35:52.960
<v Speaker 1>crazy thing is Jesus said, if you.

0:35:52.920 --> 0:35:55.919
<v Speaker 2>Let it get to this point, if you live your

0:35:56.120 --> 0:35:59.600
<v Speaker 2>relational life on the basis of well, I'm not apologizing first,

0:35:59.600 --> 0:36:03.319
<v Speaker 2>apology us first last time. If you don't learn how

0:36:03.320 --> 0:36:05.800
<v Speaker 2>to deal with these things, you find yourself in prison.

0:36:07.600 --> 0:36:15.680
<v Speaker 2>It's not them that you imprison. It's you, Hey, Dan,

0:36:18.600 --> 0:36:22.080
<v Speaker 2>Why don't we talk anymore? Where did the love go?

0:36:25.160 --> 0:36:27.360
<v Speaker 2>Then we haven't been the PF change in three years?

0:36:27.440 --> 0:36:40.200
<v Speaker 2>Then you built a fence. The enemies agenda is destruction.

0:36:40.800 --> 0:36:42.239
<v Speaker 2>His strategy is the.

0:36:42.320 --> 0:36:45.480
<v Speaker 1>Vision, and his tactic is offense.

0:36:45.520 --> 0:36:51.080
<v Speaker 2>Thankfully, God has given us another way to deal with offense.

0:36:53.080 --> 0:36:58.279
<v Speaker 2>If only we could find an example of somebody who

0:36:58.360 --> 0:37:02.960
<v Speaker 2>had every right to be offended, of somebody who had

0:37:03.000 --> 0:37:07.520
<v Speaker 2>every right to hold it against us, of.

0:37:07.560 --> 0:37:11.880
<v Speaker 1>Somebody who had every right to stand at a distance,

0:37:15.560 --> 0:37:23.680
<v Speaker 1>but opened his arms and said, this is the way

0:37:23.719 --> 0:37:24.680
<v Speaker 1>of relationship.

0:37:27.920 --> 0:37:32.279
<v Speaker 2>And the Lord gave me a real specific word for

0:37:32.360 --> 0:37:36.000
<v Speaker 2>somebody who needs reconciliation in your relationship.

0:37:36.560 --> 0:37:38.439
<v Speaker 1>It's very simple what they have to do.

0:37:38.600 --> 0:37:41.640
<v Speaker 2>If they're gonna stay like they started, if we're gonna

0:37:41.640 --> 0:37:45.080
<v Speaker 2>get back to where we were, we're gonna have to learn.

0:37:45.239 --> 0:37:47.400
<v Speaker 1>Watch this. This is very this is very profound.

0:37:47.480 --> 0:37:49.120
<v Speaker 2>It's deep. You're gonna miss it. This is what you're

0:37:49.120 --> 0:37:53.200
<v Speaker 2>gonna have to learn. You got to learn to drop it.

0:37:55.200 --> 0:37:58.759
<v Speaker 2>You got to learn to drop it. And I don't

0:37:58.760 --> 0:38:01.040
<v Speaker 2>mean suppress it. I don't mean you don't deal with

0:38:01.120 --> 0:38:04.480
<v Speaker 2>things after they happen, but after you've had the conversation, Dan,

0:38:04.560 --> 0:38:06.240
<v Speaker 2>I like pancakes on my birthday.

0:38:06.520 --> 0:38:09.600
<v Speaker 1>Then drop it. Touch somebody say drop it?

0:38:10.840 --> 0:38:13.600
<v Speaker 2>I mean the moment, the offense, because you can't always

0:38:13.640 --> 0:38:16.279
<v Speaker 2>control what's handed to you, but you can control what

0:38:16.360 --> 0:38:16.759
<v Speaker 2>you do with this.

0:38:16.880 --> 0:38:18.640
<v Speaker 1>So what are you gonna do with the offense?

0:38:20.680 --> 0:38:24.239
<v Speaker 2>Come on, Dan, you can't choose anybody else's actions. The

0:38:24.360 --> 0:38:26.400
<v Speaker 2>enemy wants you to drive it down deep.

0:38:26.640 --> 0:38:28.239
<v Speaker 1>You know. He wants you to ah.

0:38:28.160 --> 0:38:30.560
<v Speaker 2>Think about it and miss all the reasons that the

0:38:30.600 --> 0:38:34.000
<v Speaker 2>person has worked their way into your life, and miss

0:38:34.000 --> 0:38:36.040
<v Speaker 2>all the things they've done for you, and he wants

0:38:36.080 --> 0:38:41.080
<v Speaker 2>to drive it. But God says, drop it. I believe

0:38:41.120 --> 0:38:44.160
<v Speaker 2>that there are some things that we need to drop tonight.

0:38:44.200 --> 0:38:47.160
<v Speaker 2>In fact, Jesus said this is so important that if

0:38:47.200 --> 0:38:50.480
<v Speaker 2>you are in church at the altar offering a gift

0:38:50.520 --> 0:38:54.600
<v Speaker 2>and a sacrifice, but the primary relationships in your life

0:38:54.840 --> 0:39:00.239
<v Speaker 2>are dysfunctional and need reconciliation, you can't even properly connect

0:39:00.280 --> 0:39:01.799
<v Speaker 2>with God unless you.

0:39:03.600 --> 0:39:04.000
<v Speaker 1>Drop it.

0:39:05.680 --> 0:39:10.279
<v Speaker 2>Do it again, Dan, drop it? Every time they do it.

0:39:10.320 --> 0:39:13.680
<v Speaker 2>I want you to reinforce it. One two three, drop it.

0:39:14.360 --> 0:39:16.439
<v Speaker 2>What are you gonna do when they when they don't

0:39:16.640 --> 0:39:17.320
<v Speaker 2>acknowledge you?

0:39:17.360 --> 0:39:19.120
<v Speaker 1>When they don't notice you. What are you gonna do?

0:39:20.719 --> 0:39:22.680
<v Speaker 2>What are you going to do when they when they

0:39:22.880 --> 0:39:25.680
<v Speaker 2>are too busy to show you the love and affection,

0:39:26.000 --> 0:39:27.799
<v Speaker 2>but you know that they're trying as hard as they

0:39:27.800 --> 0:39:32.600
<v Speaker 2>can to you gotta. I'm telling you, being married, being

0:39:32.640 --> 0:39:36.680
<v Speaker 2>in a close relationship is about not how quickly you

0:39:36.719 --> 0:39:39.680
<v Speaker 2>can get offended, but how quickly.

0:39:41.600 --> 0:39:55.040
<v Speaker 1>You can get over it. And I want everyone to stand.

0:39:54.760 --> 0:39:58.080
<v Speaker 2>At every location because I want to pray for some people.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you, guys, would you give them some love? That

0:40:00.520 --> 0:40:01.080
<v Speaker 1>was amazing?

0:40:02.760 --> 0:40:10.600
<v Speaker 2>They're walking off hand in hand. I asked the Lord

0:40:11.760 --> 0:40:14.239
<v Speaker 2>to help me in this message in a way. He said,

0:40:14.280 --> 0:40:17.200
<v Speaker 2>you need to pray for people for not what they're

0:40:17.200 --> 0:40:19.279
<v Speaker 2>going to experience while they're in the church, but what's

0:40:19.320 --> 0:40:23.319
<v Speaker 2>going to happen when they leave, Because you know, you

0:40:23.320 --> 0:40:25.640
<v Speaker 2>can offer a gift at the altar and feel pretty

0:40:25.680 --> 0:40:27.839
<v Speaker 2>good about it, but what's happening back at home can

0:40:27.880 --> 0:40:33.320
<v Speaker 2>be a living hell. And when I read those words

0:40:33.320 --> 0:40:36.960
<v Speaker 2>of Jesus that he said that when you don't deal

0:40:37.000 --> 0:40:40.200
<v Speaker 2>with the offenses, and when you don't drop the offenses,

0:40:41.200 --> 0:40:43.399
<v Speaker 2>when you allow it to become resentment in your life,

0:40:43.440 --> 0:40:46.960
<v Speaker 2>because hey, sometimes reconciliation isn't possible.

0:40:48.000 --> 0:40:50.799
<v Speaker 1>I mean, sometimes the person is dead, that you've held

0:40:50.840 --> 0:40:56.160
<v Speaker 1>the offense again. Sometimes the person isn't willing, but release,

0:40:57.920 --> 0:41:02.600
<v Speaker 1>release is always available. Release starts in your heart.

0:41:03.040 --> 0:41:08.600
<v Speaker 2>Smeed said that forgiveness is setting a prisoner free and

0:41:08.640 --> 0:41:19.440
<v Speaker 2>finding out the prisoner was you. So I believe God

0:41:19.480 --> 0:41:23.799
<v Speaker 2>wants to release some people today.

0:41:23.440 --> 0:41:25.400
<v Speaker 1>Release you from some things you've been.

0:41:27.160 --> 0:41:31.000
<v Speaker 2>Holding on to, some things that have been keeping you

0:41:31.080 --> 0:41:34.520
<v Speaker 2>at a distance, some things that have been keeping you divided,

0:41:35.800 --> 0:41:39.560
<v Speaker 2>And that in these closing moments of our time together today,

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<v Speaker 2>there are some things, by the power of the Cross

0:41:43.400 --> 0:41:46.440
<v Speaker 2>of Jesus Christ, that God is going to bring to mind,

0:41:47.280 --> 0:41:52.760
<v Speaker 2>some offenses that you've been building in some very important relationships,

0:41:52.760 --> 0:41:55.879
<v Speaker 2>and that God is going to begin to demolish your

0:41:55.960 --> 0:42:00.160
<v Speaker 2>excuses and break down your pride and your walls today,

0:42:00.920 --> 0:42:05.239
<v Speaker 2>and that we're going to receive hundreds of testimonies from

0:42:05.320 --> 0:42:09.200
<v Speaker 2>the word that went forth today of a process of

0:42:09.239 --> 0:42:14.680
<v Speaker 2>reconciliation and healing that began between husbands and wives, between

0:42:15.239 --> 0:42:19.400
<v Speaker 2>parents and children, between friends that haven't spoken.

0:42:20.320 --> 0:42:22.120
<v Speaker 1>God says, drop it, man.

0:42:22.200 --> 0:42:25.520
<v Speaker 2>I feel the spirit of Snoop coming on me right now,

0:42:26.080 --> 0:42:26.800
<v Speaker 2>and I want.

0:42:26.600 --> 0:42:29.440
<v Speaker 1>To say drop it like this hot.

0:42:31.280 --> 0:42:34.719
<v Speaker 2>Come on, you gotta drop it while you can't. He said,

0:42:34.800 --> 0:42:37.600
<v Speaker 2>do it while you're still on the way, or this.

0:42:37.400 --> 0:42:38.880
<v Speaker 1>Won't end well with you.

0:42:39.960 --> 0:42:48.359
<v Speaker 2>Unchecked resentment leads to regret, unbelievable regret, and you don't

0:42:48.400 --> 0:42:52.040
<v Speaker 2>want that for your life. So, with everyone standing today,

0:42:52.040 --> 0:42:55.440
<v Speaker 2>I want to ask you a question. If God dropped

0:42:55.440 --> 0:43:02.120
<v Speaker 2>the charges against you, is what offense is there in

0:43:02.160 --> 0:43:04.960
<v Speaker 2>the universe that you can't let go of.

0:43:05.040 --> 0:43:07.399
<v Speaker 1>It's not just flowing to me. The forgiveness of God

0:43:07.640 --> 0:43:08.480
<v Speaker 1>flows through me.

0:43:08.840 --> 0:43:18.320
<v Speaker 2>And because I'm forgiven, I can forgive now before I pray.

0:43:19.680 --> 0:43:23.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm not saying that you tolerate abuse. I'm not saying

0:43:23.040 --> 0:43:28.920
<v Speaker 2>any of that. Here's what I'm saying. Offense is an event.

0:43:31.400 --> 0:43:34.400
<v Speaker 2>Offended is a decision.

0:43:40.520 --> 0:43:40.840
<v Speaker 1>Again.

0:43:42.520 --> 0:43:45.479
<v Speaker 2>Offense is an event they hurt me. Offense is an event.

0:43:45.640 --> 0:43:48.800
<v Speaker 2>We need to work through this. But to live offended

0:43:50.520 --> 0:43:53.160
<v Speaker 2>as a believer in Jesus Christ, and to stay that

0:43:53.239 --> 0:43:58.439
<v Speaker 2>way and to live in that place, denies the very

0:43:58.560 --> 0:44:01.000
<v Speaker 2>nature of the salvation.

0:44:02.200 --> 0:44:03.600
<v Speaker 1>That you claim to have received.

0:44:05.400 --> 0:44:09.239
<v Speaker 2>So we want to make some decisions today. If you

0:44:09.239 --> 0:44:11.360
<v Speaker 2>feel comfortable, would you just lift your hands as a

0:44:11.400 --> 0:44:14.000
<v Speaker 2>sign of release. Nobody's looking at you. Don't even worry

0:44:14.000 --> 0:44:16.560
<v Speaker 2>about the crowd. Right now, Father, in this moment, we

0:44:16.640 --> 0:44:18.000
<v Speaker 2>come before you and.

0:44:17.920 --> 0:44:22.640
<v Speaker 1>We just release, Release. Release.

0:44:22.760 --> 0:44:26.480
<v Speaker 2>First of all, we acknowledge our own parts. Sometimes we

0:44:26.520 --> 0:44:28.760
<v Speaker 2>are so quick to see the ways we've been offended,

0:44:28.760 --> 0:44:30.400
<v Speaker 2>and we miss the ways that we've offended.

0:44:30.680 --> 0:44:31.920
<v Speaker 1>So we open our hearts.

0:44:31.640 --> 0:44:33.080
<v Speaker 2>To you, and we thank you for grace, and we

0:44:33.120 --> 0:44:35.440
<v Speaker 2>thank you for mercy, and we lift our hands in

0:44:35.480 --> 0:44:39.520
<v Speaker 2>your presence because we want to be free. We lift

0:44:39.520 --> 0:44:42.040
<v Speaker 2>our hands in your presence because we don't want to

0:44:42.080 --> 0:44:44.560
<v Speaker 2>withhold anything, and we want to be right. And so

0:44:44.640 --> 0:44:47.120
<v Speaker 2>we offer our gift on the altar. But God, we ask,

0:44:47.200 --> 0:44:47.600
<v Speaker 2>would you.

0:44:47.520 --> 0:44:48.480
<v Speaker 1>Do a work in us.

0:44:49.680 --> 0:44:51.919
<v Speaker 2>Some of us have some stuff happening back at home

0:44:51.960 --> 0:44:55.239
<v Speaker 2>and in our hearts and then our relationships that is

0:44:55.360 --> 0:44:58.920
<v Speaker 2>killing our joy and killing our peace. So we've come

0:44:58.920 --> 0:45:01.480
<v Speaker 2>into your presence not just to sing a song or

0:45:01.520 --> 0:45:05.160
<v Speaker 2>to hear a sermon, but to be changed at our core,

0:45:05.280 --> 0:45:06.200
<v Speaker 2>to be changed.

0:45:07.280 --> 0:45:10.080
<v Speaker 1>And we've got some things we need to drop.

0:45:10.160 --> 0:45:13.399
<v Speaker 2>With your hands still lifted in the air, I want

0:45:13.440 --> 0:45:15.280
<v Speaker 2>you to ask God in your heart, is there anything

0:45:15.320 --> 0:45:18.600
<v Speaker 2>I need to drop? Is there something I need to drop?

0:45:20.440 --> 0:45:22.000
<v Speaker 2>Is it a decision I need to make in my

0:45:22.080 --> 0:45:24.080
<v Speaker 2>heart to never bring it up again. Is it a

0:45:24.120 --> 0:45:26.439
<v Speaker 2>conversation I need to have to work through it? What

0:45:26.680 --> 0:45:34.759
<v Speaker 2>do I need to drop? Keep your hands lifted. You

0:45:34.800 --> 0:45:38.080
<v Speaker 2>feel how the blood is flowing out of.

0:45:38.000 --> 0:45:39.280
<v Speaker 1>Your fingers in your hands.

0:45:41.360 --> 0:45:43.600
<v Speaker 2>That's what it feels like when you hold on to stuff,

0:45:44.640 --> 0:45:47.560
<v Speaker 2>when you hold on to offensis, when you hold on

0:45:47.600 --> 0:45:51.680
<v Speaker 2>to what happened years ago. But if you would drop it,

0:45:52.800 --> 0:45:59.000
<v Speaker 2>drop it, you feel that come all over your body

0:46:00.040 --> 0:46:04.040
<v Speaker 2>when you finally decided to drop it. I declare that

0:46:04.120 --> 0:46:08.960
<v Speaker 2>God is going to set some captives free today, that

0:46:09.000 --> 0:46:14.200
<v Speaker 2>you are no longer going to be divided, dying behind offenses,

0:46:14.760 --> 0:46:22.360
<v Speaker 2>isolated behind offenses. And in the name of Jesus, I

0:46:22.480 --> 0:46:29.400
<v Speaker 2>declare release to the prisoners. I prayed that this message

0:46:29.440 --> 0:46:30.440
<v Speaker 2>would stay.

0:46:30.239 --> 0:46:35.200
<v Speaker 1>With you, that it would haunt you, that.

0:46:35.239 --> 0:46:39.400
<v Speaker 2>You would see Dan and Stephanie dropping those planks on

0:46:39.480 --> 0:46:43.600
<v Speaker 2>the stage until you come out from behind every offense

0:46:44.080 --> 0:46:47.480
<v Speaker 2>that has kept you in prison. I want to pray

0:46:47.520 --> 0:46:49.440
<v Speaker 2>before I walk off stage, for people who need a

0:46:49.520 --> 0:46:51.640
<v Speaker 2>right relationship with God, would you buy your head and

0:46:51.640 --> 0:46:54.560
<v Speaker 2>close your eyes again, because there is someone here who

0:46:55.600 --> 0:47:00.960
<v Speaker 2>doesn't have that relationship right. What calls your name, and

0:47:01.000 --> 0:47:03.600
<v Speaker 2>when he speaks to your heart, it's not a good

0:47:03.600 --> 0:47:07.200
<v Speaker 2>thing to wait around. You want to get right now.

0:47:08.760 --> 0:47:12.720
<v Speaker 2>You want to receive grace now, and with your heads bout.

0:47:12.520 --> 0:47:13.160
<v Speaker 1>And eyes closed.

0:47:13.160 --> 0:47:14.880
<v Speaker 2>At every campus, I would love to lead you in

0:47:14.920 --> 0:47:18.160
<v Speaker 2>a prayer to let you know that everything that needs

0:47:18.200 --> 0:47:20.480
<v Speaker 2>to be done for you to be a child of

0:47:20.520 --> 0:47:23.239
<v Speaker 2>God has already been done. Everything that needs to be

0:47:23.320 --> 0:47:25.839
<v Speaker 2>done for you to be forgiven has already been done.

0:47:26.000 --> 0:47:28.399
<v Speaker 2>There's nothing you need to earn, there's nothing you need

0:47:28.440 --> 0:47:31.640
<v Speaker 2>to do. God is the one who changes lives today.

0:47:31.680 --> 0:47:34.400
<v Speaker 2>If you'll reach out for his grace, you will receive it.

0:47:34.640 --> 0:47:36.480
<v Speaker 2>So with your head's bout and your eyes closed, we're

0:47:36.480 --> 0:47:38.560
<v Speaker 2>going to pray as a church family out loud for

0:47:38.600 --> 0:47:39.040
<v Speaker 2>those who.

0:47:38.960 --> 0:47:41.319
<v Speaker 1>Are coming to God or coming back to God.

0:47:41.480 --> 0:47:45.319
<v Speaker 2>Let's pray together, Church, Heavenly Father, I confess that I'm

0:47:45.360 --> 0:47:50.920
<v Speaker 2>a sinner and I need a savior. And today I

0:47:51.080 --> 0:47:55.840
<v Speaker 2>declare that Jesus Christ is my savior.

0:47:56.160 --> 0:47:57.719
<v Speaker 1>And my Lord.

0:47:57.840 --> 0:48:02.520
<v Speaker 2>I believe that Jesus Christ died to forgive my sin,

0:48:03.840 --> 0:48:05.759
<v Speaker 2>rose to give me life.

0:48:05.880 --> 0:48:09.600
<v Speaker 1>And right now, right now, right now.

0:48:09.800 --> 0:48:13.920
<v Speaker 2>I receive this new life. This is my new beginning.

0:48:14.800 --> 0:48:17.920
<v Speaker 2>I am a follower of Christ, I will never be

0:48:18.000 --> 0:48:21.600
<v Speaker 2>the same. With your heads about an ice close on

0:48:21.680 --> 0:48:23.720
<v Speaker 2>the count of three. If you just prayed that prayer,

0:48:23.960 --> 0:48:25.040
<v Speaker 2>shoot your hand in the air.

0:48:25.080 --> 0:48:25.760
<v Speaker 1>Don't be ashamed.

0:48:25.840 --> 0:48:28.560
<v Speaker 2>Let's celebrate one, two, three, Shoot.

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<v Speaker 1>Them up right now, right now, right now. God bless you,

0:48:31.719 --> 0:48:33.520
<v Speaker 1>God bless you. Love every little fiction.

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<v Speaker 6>Come on, Church, Come on, chart, come most celebrate these stignis.

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<v Speaker 6>Celebrate these new lives, Celebrate these new beginnings.

0:48:45.840 --> 0:48:50.239
<v Speaker 1>Come on, celebrate the marcy of God. I'll be their rest.

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