WEBVTT - #146 This is a waste of your time 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.360 You might as well go get another hobby, go do 0:00:02.480 --> 0:00:05.640 something else, go find another girl. All those things are 0:00:05.680 --> 0:00:21.160 easier than what you're saying, because what you're saying is impossible. Hey, guys, 0:00:21.200 --> 0:00:24.520 welcome to the podcast, Episode one forty six. Thank you 0:00:24.560 --> 0:00:27.520 for hanging with me, or being new, or staying late 0:00:27.760 --> 0:00:31.480 or repeating after so many times you've heard it, all 0:00:31.520 --> 0:00:34.000 of you, guys, Thank you for coming wherever you came from, 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:37.720 however you found it. I answer your questions, and I 0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:40.199 love doing this. We put this out every single Monday. 0:00:40.240 --> 0:00:42.680 We've done it a lot of Mondays, and we've answered 0:00:42.680 --> 0:00:45.960 a lot of questions. And I encourage you to email 0:00:46.040 --> 0:00:48.559 me Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. If you have 0:00:48.600 --> 0:00:52.599 a question, that's Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. We'll 0:00:52.640 --> 0:00:54.600 get to it. We'll walk through it casually. It could 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:57.600 be about any subject and I'll answer it like we're 0:00:57.720 --> 0:01:00.680 old friends, and I'll answer it like you a friend. 0:01:00.960 --> 0:01:04.080 And if any friend had a question for me about life, 0:01:04.600 --> 0:01:07.319 I'm going to walk through it in long term podcast 0:01:07.400 --> 0:01:10.200 form and walk through it. I have no notes with me, 0:01:10.360 --> 0:01:15.920 I have nothing to look at. Just good old fashioned friends. 0:01:16.000 --> 0:01:19.000 That's what we are. So the first question I have here. 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:24.600 The subject line says, is morally good enough? Heygre and 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:26.440 your mo name is Laura. I'm twenty nine years old 0:01:26.440 --> 0:01:29.600 from Illinois. My husband is an all around great guy. 0:01:29.720 --> 0:01:32.720 He's kind to everyone, a great father and husband. God's 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:35.480 moral law is clearly written on his heart. But he 0:01:35.560 --> 0:01:38.560 cannot surrender to Jesus and fully believe in him. I 0:01:38.600 --> 0:01:42.080 pray the every day that he will. He thinks that 0:01:42.160 --> 0:01:44.560 if he is to be judged by him when they die, 0:01:44.720 --> 0:01:47.200 and if God is merciful, he wouldn't throw him in 0:01:47.240 --> 0:01:49.600 hell because of his life on earth. He is so 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:52.560 full of love talking about God. So my main question 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:55.200 here is can someone be saved after they die and 0:01:55.280 --> 0:01:59.320 meet with their creator and believe? Is there any biblical 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:01.680 evidence you could give me to either confirm or deny? 0:02:01.920 --> 0:02:04.840 Is he cursed with abundance? Do you think that's possible? 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:07.240 I am a new creation in God and I am 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:09.799 the spiritual leader of our family, leading by actions, going 0:02:09.840 --> 0:02:13.040 to church, reading my Bible submitting. I know I cannot 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:15.959 make him believe. Thank you so much for reading my question. 0:02:16.080 --> 0:02:18.160 And if I don't hear back from you, I surely 0:02:18.200 --> 0:02:21.520 will seek wise counsel. I have never missed a podcast 0:02:21.639 --> 0:02:23.239 or an episode of the smiss I hope to see 0:02:23.240 --> 0:02:26.959 you in concert someday, Laura. Laura, thank you so much 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:30.080 for the email, and thank you for the kind words 0:02:30.120 --> 0:02:33.280 and for listening to the podcast and watching the Smiths. 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:37.960 I appreciate you so much. And it's such a great question. It's, 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:41.080 in fact, I think, the most important question anyone could ask, 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:44.760 and so I'm happy to answer it. And I'm sorry 0:02:44.800 --> 0:02:47.680 that you're in this predicament. But I want to thank 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:50.760 you for your faithfulness because you sound like just an 0:02:50.760 --> 0:02:55.200 incredible woman and you seem to be pretty knowledgeable at 0:02:55.240 --> 0:02:58.000 only twenty nine years old. Shout out to one of 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:01.600 my favorite stats, Illinois as well. So let's dive into this. 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:06.840 The answer to your question can someone be saved after 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:09.840 they died and meet with the creator and believe? So 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:12.600 basically what you're saying is can you go to heaven 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:17.239 without believing in Jesus? And that is that is the question, 0:03:17.600 --> 0:03:22.320 and the answer is a resounding no, you cannot. And 0:03:22.880 --> 0:03:26.480 I'm not speaking on my opinion here. This is not 0:03:26.600 --> 0:03:30.200 the Granger Smith podcast opinion show. This is not what 0:03:30.320 --> 0:03:33.480 I feel or what I hope or what I learned 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:36.400 from my parents growing up, or what some pastor taught 0:03:36.400 --> 0:03:39.360 me in church. It's none of that. What I'm telling 0:03:39.440 --> 0:03:45.040 you is straight from the Bible, over and over and 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:49.320 over again. Jesus said, I am the Way, the truth, 0:03:49.480 --> 0:03:52.000 and the life. No one comes to the Father but 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:56.880 by me. There are many ways, and many scriptures and 0:03:56.960 --> 0:04:01.080 many verses you could find that He is the only way. Now, 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:04.080 some of you listening might think, well, that's not very 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:08.480 loving of you to force your opinion on me, or 0:04:08.520 --> 0:04:12.480 to force this this idea on me. So then I 0:04:12.520 --> 0:04:17.680 would ask you, is it loving if I know from 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:21.000 the Bible, which we have so much evidence to say 0:04:21.000 --> 0:04:24.320 that the Bible is true and we could back that 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:27.880 up a million different ways. So if I'm reading the 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:31.479 Bible and I tell you what it says that you 0:04:31.640 --> 0:04:33.919 will not make it. You will not make it to 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:37.680 Heaven without faith in Jesus. If I tell you that 0:04:37.800 --> 0:04:40.680 after I read it, is it loving for me to 0:04:40.720 --> 0:04:42.839 tell you that? Or is it more loving for me 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:45.760 to just hide that information from you that after I've 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:49.240 clearly read it and let you off on your own, 0:04:50.120 --> 0:04:52.440 Because I don't want to intrude in your life and 0:04:52.480 --> 0:04:55.600 I don't want to force my opinions on you. So 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:58.760 which version is more loving? If that's what I read, 0:04:58.960 --> 0:05:03.480 and that's what I believe, I think everyone would agree 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:06.720 it is much more loving of me to tell the 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:08.520 truth that I've read through the Bible. This is not 0:05:08.640 --> 0:05:11.680 my truth. This is not something that I just came 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:14.040 up with. Like I said, it's not something I grew 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:17.400 up with. And now that's how I think. It's something 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:20.200 we read in the truth of the Bible, which is 0:05:20.440 --> 0:05:25.200 the truth. Jesus says, I am the truth. Not your 0:05:25.279 --> 0:05:28.719 truth or my truth, or world truth, or political truth 0:05:28.839 --> 0:05:33.880 or social truth. I am the truth. Okay. So he 0:05:34.000 --> 0:05:36.360 has said that, and he has been very clear about that. 0:05:37.080 --> 0:05:41.120 And then also we could see stuff like Ephesians two 0:05:41.920 --> 0:05:45.240 and Ephesians too. It'll say, for by grace you have 0:05:45.320 --> 0:05:48.520 been saved through faith. It is not your own doing. 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:51.560 It is the gift of God, not a result of work, 0:05:51.680 --> 0:05:55.880 so that no man can boast, For we are His workmanship, 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:59.359 created in Jesus Christ for good works which God has 0:05:59.400 --> 0:06:02.279 prepared before that we should walk in them. That's Ephesians 0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:05.359 two eight through ten. So what this is saying is 0:06:05.400 --> 0:06:08.040 and this is to your husband's idea about works, because 0:06:08.320 --> 0:06:10.960 because James says in the Bible that faith without works 0:06:11.000 --> 0:06:13.920 is dead. So what he's saying is, if you have 0:06:14.000 --> 0:06:16.520 true faith, then you will be able to see the 0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:19.920 fruits of that faith through your works. But works are secondary. 0:06:20.200 --> 0:06:22.719 Works are the result of the faith first. And guess 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:26.200 what the faith is a gift. That's what Ephesians two says. 0:06:26.680 --> 0:06:29.359 It is a gift of God. For by grace you 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:32.400 have been saved through faith in Jesus. And this is 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:36.000 not your own doing. It is the gift of God, 0:06:36.160 --> 0:06:38.960 not a result of work. So that no man may boast, 0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:40.880 because if you get to heaven, you've done a bunch 0:06:40.920 --> 0:06:43.880 of good works, and you go I didn't believe in Jesus, 0:06:44.279 --> 0:06:48.040 But I look at all the good works that I did, 0:06:48.720 --> 0:06:50.919 and you're gonna start feeling all uppity about it like 0:06:51.000 --> 0:06:54.440 you did it, and God's gonna say, get out of here. 0:06:55.120 --> 0:06:58.560 That is clearly not what I said. I said, surrender, 0:06:58.880 --> 0:07:01.560 have faith in myself. So then you could say, how 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:06.840 could a loving God reject people because they didn't love 0:07:06.839 --> 0:07:10.680 his son? And my response to that would be, our 0:07:10.760 --> 0:07:13.680 loving God gave us an opportunity through his son and 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:16.800 sent his son, and those that have faith in him 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:21.440 and love him, would be saved. Now he's not going 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:26.400 to save the people that reject his son. God was 0:07:27.160 --> 0:07:31.800 gracious enough to send his son to be persecuted and 0:07:31.920 --> 0:07:34.160 die on a cross and live a perfect life as 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:37.600 an example for us, because the law which he abolished 0:07:38.600 --> 0:07:41.280 was a good law. But we couldn't do it. We 0:07:41.280 --> 0:07:43.400 couldn't live up to it. We couldn't live up to 0:07:43.440 --> 0:07:48.280 the ten commandments. Everyone listening hasn't You can't. You've all 0:07:48.280 --> 0:07:51.720 told a lie in your life. Sometime, you've all stole 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:53.680 something in your life. At some time, you've all looked 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:56.280 at a woman with lust in your life. At some time, 0:07:57.280 --> 0:08:00.280 you've broken the law. It couldn't be done. He had 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:03.280 to send his perfect son as an example for us, 0:08:03.880 --> 0:08:06.720 so that he could be the substitute for us and 0:08:06.800 --> 0:08:09.480 our sin, so that when God looks at us, he 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:13.520 sees his son dwelling in us. That's the whole idea 0:08:13.560 --> 0:08:19.520 of an atonement. There is no other way. Your husband 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:23.680 is guilty because he also knows. He knows he's been 0:08:23.760 --> 0:08:26.280 given this. Now now you're thinking, well, what do I 0:08:26.360 --> 0:08:29.960 do well. The Bible also says that the Gospel is 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:32.160 the power of God for salvation in Romans too, So 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:37.600 our faith comes from that gift of faith comes from 0:08:37.679 --> 0:08:41.280 hearing the word. So you have to preach it to him. 0:08:41.360 --> 0:08:43.480 You have to preach the gospel what I've just told you. 0:08:44.040 --> 0:08:48.080 Jesus died on the cross as a substitute for our sins. 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:51.800 Believe in that, repent, turn to him and you'll be saved. 0:08:51.920 --> 0:08:56.840 That's the gospel. So in hearing that, it activates. It activates. 0:08:57.040 --> 0:09:00.880 Not everyone, but those that are meant to be activated 0:09:01.080 --> 0:09:04.120 will be activated upon hearing that word. Maybe not right 0:09:04.160 --> 0:09:06.440 off the bat, like, maybe not an instant thing. It 0:09:06.520 --> 0:09:09.800 might be years, but that's the seed that's planted. So 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:11.840 you have to just tell him the gospel. You can't 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:16.520 convince him. You can't convince him with nice, eloquent words. 0:09:17.559 --> 0:09:21.360 It's just the gospel. That's all you could do. Love him, 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:25.880 pour into him, show him the life that you live 0:09:25.960 --> 0:09:31.920 now because you're so different with this grace. That's all 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:36.920 you could do. But there is no other way. Next 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:42.000 question subde lines just says. Question says, Heygriner, have been 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:43.920 listening to the podcast for a while. I had a 0:09:43.960 --> 0:09:46.360 question in my own. I'm seventeen. I started going to 0:09:46.400 --> 0:09:48.800 church by myself. Soon after I turned sixteen, I found 0:09:48.800 --> 0:09:50.959 the Lord and got baptized a few months ago. Now, 0:09:51.000 --> 0:09:52.400 my parents are telling me they don't want me to 0:09:52.480 --> 0:09:54.880 go to church because I got in trouble at home, 0:09:55.480 --> 0:09:57.440 and they know that this is something I enjoy. I 0:09:57.480 --> 0:09:59.920 really love going to church and all the people there, 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:01.640 and I don't know how to explain it to them 0:10:02.200 --> 0:10:04.920 how important, how important it is to me. Any advice 0:10:04.920 --> 0:10:08.600 would be greatly appreciated. A question comes from a guy 0:10:08.679 --> 0:10:14.200 named Jude seventeen and there's a lot of problems in 0:10:14.240 --> 0:10:18.080 this email. Thank you for listening, buddy, and thank you 0:10:18.120 --> 0:10:21.360 for emailing in. And I'll get right to it. First, 0:10:21.600 --> 0:10:25.200 let me go to your question when you said, when 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:27.080 you're talking about the people you love at church, and 0:10:27.120 --> 0:10:30.720 you said, I don't know how to explain to them 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:34.240 how important it is to me. Okay, you're talking about 0:10:34.240 --> 0:10:38.760 your parents. Well that's kind of a relevant right now, 0:10:38.800 --> 0:10:41.640 because what they're doing is they're they're punishing you. They're 0:10:41.679 --> 0:10:44.360 disciplining you for something you did wrong. So let's go 0:10:44.480 --> 0:10:49.080 back to that. What did you do wrong? Like at 0:10:49.080 --> 0:10:52.120 some point you're still living in the under the roof 0:10:52.160 --> 0:10:55.480 of your parents and the Bible says, as you know, 0:10:55.960 --> 0:10:59.480 you've got to obey your parents. So by disobeying your 0:10:59.480 --> 0:11:02.320 parents and do something wrong, they're hitting you with the punishment. 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:06.079 They don't understand exactly what this kind of punishment is, 0:11:06.120 --> 0:11:08.960 but it really doesn't matter. They're taking away something you love. 0:11:09.920 --> 0:11:14.040 And so what do you do? Obey them, honor them. 0:11:14.720 --> 0:11:17.160 They you watch church online, you could talk to your people, 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:19.320 your friends and just say, hey, guys, I screwed up. 0:11:19.320 --> 0:11:20.760 I messed up. My parents aren't going to let me 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:23.679 go to church for the next three or four weeks. 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:27.800 Surely anybody would understand that. But this is not something 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:31.240 to rebel and go No, I'm going to church because 0:11:31.280 --> 0:11:33.840 I believe in God and I need to be in church, 0:11:33.840 --> 0:11:36.319 and I have all my friends there. So because you 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:38.880 see what you're doing, then you're contradicting the Bible itself 0:11:38.920 --> 0:11:42.200 by disobeying your parents and not honoring them so that 0:11:42.280 --> 0:11:45.440 you can go to church. That doesn't work that way, 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:48.679 So honor them, work on the behavior. Whatever you did wrong, 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:52.439 work on that, and guess what. Another year you're eighteen, 0:11:52.480 --> 0:11:54.920 you're going to hit a ride a passage. Maybe you'll 0:11:54.960 --> 0:11:57.080 be out of the house by then. Hopefully you will. 0:11:57.200 --> 0:11:59.400 I always preach you get out of the house and 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:02.719 then you could do whatever you want and hopefully you 0:12:02.760 --> 0:12:08.839 won't mess up. Thanks from the email brother. Last question, 0:12:08.880 --> 0:12:11.480 subject line says the Army in marriage. Hey grangerom getting 0:12:11.480 --> 0:12:14.079 married soon to my best friend. We're beyond excited. He's 0:12:14.080 --> 0:12:16.640 getting deployed overseas next year with the military. We've been 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:19.000 separated before due to trainings and at one point I 0:12:19.000 --> 0:12:21.480 didn't hear from him for two months. However, this time 0:12:21.480 --> 0:12:23.680 it seems different. We will be married and he'll be 0:12:23.679 --> 0:12:27.080 gone for a year with a large amount of time difference. 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:29.880 I always see your post on Instagram about the military 0:12:29.880 --> 0:12:32.319 in our country makes me happy knowing that someone is 0:12:32.520 --> 0:12:35.640 as famous as you still supports the military. Was just 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:37.760 hoping for some encouragement when it comes to being a 0:12:37.840 --> 0:12:41.319 newly wet and being separated. I love the Lord and 0:12:42.200 --> 0:12:44.880 trust that he has helped me through previous trainings and separations. 0:12:44.920 --> 0:12:46.560 I know he's going to help me through this deployment. 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:50.160 Thanks in advance, Madison. This question comes from Madison. Thank 0:12:50.200 --> 0:12:52.640 you for your service, Madison, and you're soon to be 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:58.680 husband as well. I feel for you and this is 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:01.440 a tough situation. It's a place to be, and the 0:13:01.480 --> 0:13:04.480 statistics show that you're gonna this is not going to work. 0:13:04.520 --> 0:13:08.960 Statistics will tell you that your marriage will fail because 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:12.440 your husband's on a year long deployment. So know that 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:16.880 and beat the statistic. Don't be that statistic. Beat it. 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:21.559 Beat that statistic. Okay. Lower your expectations of what you're 0:13:21.600 --> 0:13:23.319 going to need from him over this next year. And 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:27.520 I know that's difficult. I know that's difficult. But for instance, 0:13:27.559 --> 0:13:29.800 if you don't hear from him for two weeks and 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:31.640 then you finally do and you're so excited to hear 0:13:31.679 --> 0:13:33.800 from them, and you've just been dying to hear from him, 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:38.040 and you get just a quick email, lower your expectations 0:13:38.040 --> 0:13:40.120 of what you're expecting. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. 0:13:40.600 --> 0:13:42.440 It doesn't mean he wants to come home and get 0:13:42.480 --> 0:13:45.080 a divorce, or he's found somebody new, or he's over it. 0:13:45.800 --> 0:13:49.280 Avoid those thoughts because those are just feelings that are 0:13:49.360 --> 0:13:54.120 lying to you. Just have grace for him. He's doing 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:57.400 something that none of us can understand. He's overseas, he's 0:13:57.440 --> 0:14:00.920 seeing things that we can understand, and on the same ticket, 0:14:01.000 --> 0:14:03.800 you're doing things that he can't understand as well. You're 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:06.600 home waiting for a husband for a year. He can't 0:14:06.679 --> 0:14:08.920 understand that either, so you both have to have grace 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:11.440 for each other. But I would say, since you can't 0:14:11.440 --> 0:14:16.079 control him, focus on yourself. Go into this going. I'm 0:14:16.080 --> 0:14:19.440 gonna make it for twelve months, and I'm gonna I'm 0:14:19.440 --> 0:14:21.640 not going to expect a whole lot from him. I'm 0:14:21.640 --> 0:14:24.640 not gonna expect a lot emotionally and not expecting long 0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:28.320 phone calls and long emails. Then if you get it, great, 0:14:29.000 --> 0:14:33.200 it exceeds your expectations. But don't start nagging, and don't 0:14:33.240 --> 0:14:37.160 start worrying and getting letting loneliness drive you crazy. Lean 0:14:37.200 --> 0:14:40.000 into your friends, get a couple new hobbies. I would 0:14:40.000 --> 0:14:42.600 suggest writing a letter to your husband every single day. 0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:45.600 That would be my challenge to you, three hundred and 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:49.000 sixty five days worth of letters to your husband. These 0:14:49.000 --> 0:14:51.920 aren't emails or letters that you physically send. You're gonna 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:55.200 keep them at home, physically, write them a pen and 0:14:55.240 --> 0:14:57.760 a paper and just write them. Tell them about your day, 0:14:57.800 --> 0:14:59.440 tell them about how much you miss them, how much 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:01.880 you love them, Tell him how committed you are to 0:15:01.920 --> 0:15:04.920 this marriage. Tell him, tell him that nothing is going 0:15:04.960 --> 0:15:10.040 to separate you too, nothing and talk about the season's 0:15:10.160 --> 0:15:12.680 changing and new friends that you meet and new hobbies 0:15:12.680 --> 0:15:16.840 that you're trying, and pour it out onto these papers. 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:18.960 And when he gets home, give him the gift of 0:15:19.040 --> 0:15:22.640 three hundred and sixty five letters of love and commitment. 0:15:23.400 --> 0:15:25.720 That's going to keep your brain thinking about him and 0:15:25.760 --> 0:15:28.080 focused on the mission at hand, because you are on 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:31.720 a mission, Madison. This is the way that you're serving 0:15:32.040 --> 0:15:35.160 your country and we are all in gratitude to you 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:41.200 for that. Let's hit another one here. Subjectline says, remain 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:44.640 anonymous God taking away something good. Hey, Grangeer Love the podcast. 0:15:44.760 --> 0:15:47.600 My story is short. My girlfriend and I broke up recently. 0:15:47.640 --> 0:15:51.320 She's twenty one, I'm twenty four. We're both firm believers 0:15:51.320 --> 0:15:53.880 in Christ and that God has had a foundation of 0:15:53.920 --> 0:15:56.880 our relationship. We both prayed over it and had peace 0:15:57.240 --> 0:15:59.960 when we started dating and believe for greater things to come. 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:01.840 But when we broke up, she believes that God is 0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:04.280 calling her to a time to grow and be alone 0:16:04.320 --> 0:16:06.560 with him. I believe her when she says that, But 0:16:06.880 --> 0:16:09.880 why would we both be given peace about a relationship 0:16:10.240 --> 0:16:12.800 It was just going to end a few months later? 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:17.320 This question thank you for that. Thank you for it, 0:16:17.400 --> 0:16:20.520 and you're going to remain anonymous. And I'll tell you, 0:16:20.560 --> 0:16:24.320 anonymous that what your question is basically a lack of 0:16:24.400 --> 0:16:27.160 trust in God, lack of trust in God's purpose and plan. 0:16:27.880 --> 0:16:31.000 It's like, it's like, Okay, I had peace about it, 0:16:31.320 --> 0:16:33.840 and we prayed about it, and this relationship started going 0:16:33.880 --> 0:16:37.760 good and then we broke up. So now she must 0:16:37.840 --> 0:16:41.640 be wrong for breaking up because since I had peace 0:16:41.680 --> 0:16:44.040 about it, and since I feel like God spoke to 0:16:44.080 --> 0:16:48.800 me about it, then it's definitely right. But that's really 0:16:48.840 --> 0:16:52.640 just a lack of trust in God. It's like saying, hey, God, 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:55.880 you gave me this plan and this purpose, and now 0:16:55.880 --> 0:16:59.680 that it's not going that way, that other person must 0:16:59.720 --> 0:17:04.360 be growing up instead of saying, Hey God, I don't 0:17:04.400 --> 0:17:07.359 know what you're doing right now, but I'm gonna be patient. 0:17:07.400 --> 0:17:10.639 I'm gonna wait through it because I trust you. Whatever 0:17:10.720 --> 0:17:13.080 is happening right now, I trust that it's gonna end 0:17:13.160 --> 0:17:16.960 up good because your plan is always good. And I 0:17:17.000 --> 0:17:18.959 thought that this was the right plan. I was wrong. 0:17:19.440 --> 0:17:22.119 I was wrong thinking that this plan was your plan. 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:25.440 But it's not looking like it is. And so I'll 0:17:25.480 --> 0:17:28.360 wait and I'll continue to praise you and trust you 0:17:28.760 --> 0:17:32.840 and trust your plan, and I won't blame her. She's 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:36.080 out of love. This is finding God. Is just another 0:17:36.119 --> 0:17:38.280 one of the many excuses girls or guys will use 0:17:38.320 --> 0:17:41.240 when they're out of love and they need a break. 0:17:41.400 --> 0:17:43.920 Because the truth is, if she was just totally into 0:17:43.960 --> 0:17:46.399 you and full of love, then she would find a 0:17:46.440 --> 0:17:49.359 way around whatever she's dealing with and stay with you. 0:17:50.400 --> 0:17:52.640 But that's just another excuse she's using. I'm not saying 0:17:52.640 --> 0:17:55.280 it's a bad excuse. I'm just saying it is an 0:17:55.280 --> 0:17:58.679 excuse because she's fallen out of love. You gotta have 0:17:58.680 --> 0:18:02.160 peace with that. What your experiencing, its heartbreak. You got 0:18:02.160 --> 0:18:04.800 to wait it out. You got to lean into your friends. 0:18:05.280 --> 0:18:07.040 You got to pray about it. You say you're a believer, 0:18:07.119 --> 0:18:08.320 pray about it, and go God. I don't know what 0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:11.000 you're doing here, but I trust you. I trust you. 0:18:11.040 --> 0:18:14.240 It hurts. It hurts right now, but I trust that 0:18:14.280 --> 0:18:17.000 this pain is meaningful and it's gonna matter, and this 0:18:17.080 --> 0:18:20.280 pain will be used for something to teach me something 0:18:20.400 --> 0:18:22.480 or something I'm going to learn so that I will 0:18:22.480 --> 0:18:26.119 be better for you later on. That's the way you 0:18:26.119 --> 0:18:28.520 got to do it. That's the way you got to 0:18:28.560 --> 0:18:31.600 do it, buddy. Thanks for the email. Let's hit one 0:18:31.720 --> 0:18:35.960 more here. It says, subject line big changes and fake friends. 0:18:35.960 --> 0:18:38.680 Hey Grayyar'd like to stay anonymous here? My question is 0:18:38.720 --> 0:18:41.760 I play football, was and some big things have happened 0:18:41.760 --> 0:18:45.320 with colleges reaching out and now people who aren't my friends, 0:18:46.040 --> 0:18:48.919 some people who I never see, people that used to 0:18:48.960 --> 0:18:52.040 bully me and are bullying my other friends are now 0:18:52.080 --> 0:18:56.600 trying to be my friends now and act like they 0:18:56.600 --> 0:18:58.720 have known me since forever. What is your advice to 0:18:58.760 --> 0:19:02.760 handle these fake friends? Thank you? Love excuse me? Thank you? 0:19:02.800 --> 0:19:08.480 Gyegy Yeah. Question anonymous. Congrats on your football recruiting. That's 0:19:08.520 --> 0:19:12.399 pretty cool. What's your advice to handle these fake friends? 0:19:12.520 --> 0:19:17.000 Love them? That's my advice. What's your advice to handle 0:19:17.000 --> 0:19:21.399 these fake friends? Love them? Yeah? Stop judging them for 0:19:21.440 --> 0:19:24.280 being fake? Who are you to know? Who are you 0:19:24.359 --> 0:19:26.720 to know? Just because you haven't known them before and 0:19:26.760 --> 0:19:30.359 now they're reaching out to you, you're automatically assuming that 0:19:30.400 --> 0:19:32.679 they're bad people and they're trying to cling onto you 0:19:32.720 --> 0:19:35.159 because you have some kind of new popularity or some 0:19:35.280 --> 0:19:39.080 kind of new value in football. Hey, let it go. 0:19:40.280 --> 0:19:43.160 Let it go now? If you see bullying, call them out. 0:19:43.240 --> 0:19:46.960 Now now they're your friends, or now they're your new acquaintances. Right, 0:19:47.400 --> 0:19:49.760 so now call them out and say, hey, man, I 0:19:49.760 --> 0:19:52.840 don't think you guys should be bullying my friends. So 0:19:52.880 --> 0:19:55.240 now you have a platform to stand on to call 0:19:55.280 --> 0:19:57.879 them out. But other than that, I sit back. I 0:19:57.880 --> 0:20:01.160 don't judge them. We all I'll become fake friends at 0:20:01.160 --> 0:20:04.480 some point to somebody, whether we can help it or not. 0:20:05.000 --> 0:20:07.800 We're humans, and we're tribal creatures, and we lean into 0:20:07.800 --> 0:20:10.639 certain tribes and when people enter a new tribe, we 0:20:10.720 --> 0:20:13.560 latch onto them. And this football recruiting thing you're in 0:20:13.680 --> 0:20:15.359 is like a new tribe. And so there's other guys 0:20:15.359 --> 0:20:17.400 that are like, hey, he's part of our tribe, now 0:20:17.440 --> 0:20:21.520 bring him in. That doesn't mean that they're fake. Even 0:20:21.560 --> 0:20:23.800 if they are, that doesn't mean we hate them or 0:20:23.800 --> 0:20:25.520 we avoid them, or we'd be mean to them or 0:20:25.560 --> 0:20:28.720 snarky to them. We just love them. It's very difficult 0:20:28.760 --> 0:20:31.600 to do that, but at least you can call him out, 0:20:31.680 --> 0:20:35.399 if for bullying, we don't ever want that. But for 0:20:35.480 --> 0:20:37.680 the people that just came out of nowhere and they're 0:20:37.720 --> 0:20:40.600 reaching out to you, maybe they're just legitimately happy for you. 0:20:40.800 --> 0:20:43.679 You ever think about it, Maybe they're just really happy 0:20:43.720 --> 0:20:46.280 for your success because maybe they didn't see it coming 0:20:46.800 --> 0:20:50.440 and you proved everybody wrong, and they're like, man, that 0:20:50.480 --> 0:20:54.040 guy proved everybody wrong, and now all these colleges want him. 0:20:54.560 --> 0:20:56.920 I'd like to get to know that guy. I want 0:20:56.960 --> 0:20:59.960 to know that guy a little bit better now because 0:21:00.080 --> 0:21:01.920 he defeated a bunch of odds that I didn't think 0:21:01.960 --> 0:21:04.080 he could have defeated. And I want that to rub 0:21:04.119 --> 0:21:06.600 off on me because there's things I can't do and 0:21:06.680 --> 0:21:08.399 I want people like that in my life. You ever 0:21:08.440 --> 0:21:12.360 think about it, maybe that's these guys just love them. 0:21:12.520 --> 0:21:19.320 I'll take a break and be right back. Hey, thanks 0:21:19.359 --> 0:21:21.720 for listening to the podcast. Have you tried ye Ye 0:21:21.960 --> 0:21:24.879 Jerky yet? Well, I'm gonna bet it's the best beef 0:21:24.960 --> 0:21:27.480 jerky you've ever had in your entire life. It's a 0:21:27.480 --> 0:21:30.280 bold statement, but I'm willing to make it. Go to 0:21:30.400 --> 0:21:33.200 EEE dot com to get you some. Also, if you 0:21:33.240 --> 0:21:35.240 ever want to connect with me or get a personal 0:21:35.280 --> 0:21:37.960 message from me a video message, go to cameo dot 0:21:37.960 --> 0:21:41.440 com slash Grangersmith. 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