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Speaker 1: My partner is a serial cheater. He has a new

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Speaker 2: Break up with him?

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Speaker 1: You know that'll break up? Leave clop in man, Sam.

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Speaker 1: This comes to us by way of Dying Wolf forty five.

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Speaker 2: Hey, I hope you're okay getting deep.

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Speaker 1: Dark vibes here, but let's see what's going on. Hi,

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Speaker 1: my partner's very active on Reddit, so I'm going to

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Speaker 1: change a couple facts to avoid discovery. My name is

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Speaker 1: Lily nineteen female, and my partner's Nick twenty Maile. We've

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Speaker 1: been together for two years going on three. Soon our

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Speaker 1: relationship started off rocky due to our friends causing issues lying,

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Speaker 1: making us originally second guess a relationship, but we pulled through.

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Speaker 1: But unfortunately COVID then suddenly hit. We got locked down

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Speaker 1: due to that and my parents' medical views. We barely

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Speaker 1: got to see each other medical views, medical views. I'm

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Speaker 1: just saying, yeah, we'll see what that's about. We had

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Speaker 1: a similar friend group which my ex was in. My

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Speaker 1: ex twisted a lot of things about me to him.

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Speaker 1: I think, like, you know, yeah, manipulation and did the

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Speaker 1: same to me. We ended up breaking up and getting

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Speaker 1: back together over and over. Classic broke.

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Speaker 3: I think the the statute of limitations, or the amount

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Speaker 2: I agree.

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Speaker 1: I was about to say I've never done that. I've

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Speaker 1: done it once, but it was a very umable split

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Speaker 1: and now and now we're back together.

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Speaker 3: So I feel like I've almost every girl that I've dated,

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Speaker 3: I've broken up with at least once and then gotten

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Speaker 3: back together for a small period of time.

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Speaker 1: Every time they've they've all been done with me. I

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Speaker 1: don't want anything to know. Done it, done it once

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Speaker 1: been there, doesn't quit it. Yeah, except they didn't even

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Speaker 1: hit it, not even joke gigs virgin. Okay, anyways, back

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Speaker 1: to you, Opie, I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 3: We'll talk about John's band camp experiences. Yeah, well, we'll

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Speaker 3: check it out later, pod.

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Speaker 1: But then his family started to dislike me because of

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Speaker 1: this as well as I started to show him the

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Speaker 1: how they were hurting him. I mean, that sounds like

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Speaker 1: a good deat uh. Later that year, something happened right

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Speaker 1: are beating the shit out of him. That means like, hey,

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Speaker 1: he's got some life in him. Yet you know he's

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Speaker 1: not going away. He's not going away anytime soon. Man

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Speaker 1: has some strong genetics. My goodness. Oh, and he changed,

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Speaker 1: not in a good way. Things have become rocky once again,

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Speaker 1: and we started fighting almost constantly, and we were breaking

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Speaker 1: up at least once a month. My goodness. What this

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Speaker 1: relationship is no good hope, this is yeah, we're already

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Speaker 1: you should leave, but we'll finish it going.

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Speaker 2: We'll keep going.

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Speaker 1: During this, he graduated high school and he was a senior.

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Speaker 1: I was still in school as a junior. Things are

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Speaker 3: No wait, no, no, no, say he starts cheating on

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Speaker 3: you and then like, oh but things are getting better.

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Speaker 2: I got better yeo, Like.

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Speaker 3: I means, beat the every living shit out of him.

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Speaker 3: Red flag. You guys are are breaking up all the time.

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Speaker 3: Red flag. He's cheating on you. Triple red flag. Right,

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Speaker 3: But then you can't just have all that happen.

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Speaker 1: Here's the thing, though, but little did I know he

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Speaker 1: immediately out of school that January, I got a job.

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Speaker 1: We saw each other less because of this, but we

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Speaker 2: Why are you making time for this clown?

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Speaker 1: I don't know if she knows at this point he's

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Speaker 1: my entire period. I think he was yatting. We spent

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Speaker 1: huge blowout fight and broke up. Yo, man has been

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Speaker 1: on the prow. He's arisen everyone in sight. Yeah, this

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Speaker 1: pattern repeats itself, we got back together again. Ok, I've

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Speaker 1: have more self respect for yourself than that girl. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this ain't ain't There's so.

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Speaker 2: Many better guys out there than this clown.

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Speaker 1: But Sam set boundaries this time.

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Speaker 2: Uh huh.

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Speaker 1: But I also had my first realization of how bad

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Speaker 1: just then how toxic he had become because that breakup

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Speaker 2: Oh, I hate this guy.

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Speaker 1: I hate it. I hate him, this dude. Eventually some

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Speaker 1: quote unquote from that relationship.

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Speaker 2: But at that point I'm safe and I think, I.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, some assistance could be good. But at that point

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Speaker 1: he was so far in my thoughts, in my head.

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Speaker 1: of ketchup cheating, us having a huge fight and things.

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Speaker 1: Suddenly we're fixed. Oh my goodness. Uh we somehow got

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Speaker 2: Op op op op op Yoh goodness is making me die.

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Speaker 1: That's not good. Wait wait, somehow I was smart and

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Speaker 1: least as the primary signer. I don't know if that's smart, Moe.

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Speaker 1: We'll see. So I am head of the households. At

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Speaker 1: this point, he has become physically violent. Oh god, I'm

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Speaker 1: I got pissed and confronted him about it. Now, mind

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Speaker 2: YEA good for you, Pee.

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Speaker 3: I guess that's why it's smart like that she has

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Speaker 1: A co You're not on the lease, so you don't

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Speaker 1: But I set conditions. Now, mind you, he had been

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Speaker 1: But I have no hope that I've given him false hope,

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Speaker 1: but personally I feel he will have gone back to

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Speaker 2: No, run for the fucking hells Obie.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, yeah, you've given this guy way too many chances,

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, you should one hundred percent leave because there's

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Speaker 2: And honestly, maybe it's good to be single for a

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Speaker 3: Just figures as like you're young, like this is your

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Speaker 3: time for exploration of self yea, And sometimes it can

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Speaker 2: Okayop.

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Speaker 1: What is something you did once and never again? Never?

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Speaker 1: I stayed at my sister's place one night and we,

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Speaker 1: for the life of us couldn't find the vacuum cleaner

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Speaker 1: to blow up the spare mattress. That's a great idea.

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Speaker 1: I guess they had a reverse vat You never tried that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's like you reverse any vacuum. I don't know

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Speaker 1: I don't know, but maybe so I hit on the

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Speaker 1: bright idea of using the car exhaust to blow up

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Speaker 1: the mattress. The car exhaust, the carbon monoxide from my car.

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Speaker 1: You started so strong, it's just going downhill so fast.

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Speaker 1: And back then the car used leaded petrol, so there's

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Speaker 1: As a rule, I sleep with the windows and door closed,

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Speaker 1: So I am dang lucky. Yes you are, Ope, yes

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Speaker 1: in hindsight lucky with the mattress half flat and the

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Speaker 2: to do this? So dumb, This is freaking dumb.

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Speaker 1: But being low to the ground near the door, the

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Speaker 1: So like the draft under the door was literally like

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