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Speaker 3: and we picked up from daycare. I had played horribly,

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00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:30,239
Speaker 3: missed the cut whatever, and they said that she had

437
00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:33,000
Speaker 3: a low grade fever, but it wasn't anything out of

438
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:36,000
Speaker 3: the ordinary. You know, kids get fever. Sure, took her

439
00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:40,160
Speaker 3: home and she vomited, but it wasn't like I said,

440
00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,879
Speaker 3: kids vomit right, she had a good night's sleep, and

441
00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:46,480
Speaker 3: then the next day she we were just playing in

442
00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:49,760
Speaker 3: the hotel and I scooped her up and it was

443
00:22:49,880 --> 00:22:52,440
Speaker 3: nap time and I had her on my chest and

444
00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:56,879
Speaker 3: she fell asleep. But her naps were probably like thirty

445
00:22:56,880 --> 00:23:00,080
Speaker 3: minutes forty minutes. But an hour passed and she was

446
00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:04,639
Speaker 3: very still on my chest, and I thought it was weird,

447
00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:08,000
Speaker 3: but it wasn't anything alarming. She didn't have fever, like

448
00:23:08,119 --> 00:23:10,639
Speaker 3: none of the signs pointed to that something was wrong.

449
00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:13,760
Speaker 3: But you know, hour two came and I started kind

450
00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:16,440
Speaker 3: of wondering, what's happening. You know, I kind of tried

451
00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:18,119
Speaker 3: to wake her up. It was, you know, time to

452
00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:20,600
Speaker 3: give her a bottle whatever, and I kind of looked

453
00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:22,919
Speaker 3: at her and I saw this grimace on her face

454
00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:25,600
Speaker 3: and like she was in pain. And at that point

455
00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:31,359
Speaker 3: she she didn't communicate other than with coups and like

456
00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:33,480
Speaker 3: a ten month old would. But you know, I tried

457
00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:35,840
Speaker 3: to get her to come to and she couldn't open

458
00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:38,119
Speaker 3: her eyes. You know, she had a little grimace in

459
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:42,080
Speaker 3: her brow, and I kept saying grace, grace, grace, hey,

460
00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:45,640
Speaker 3: like wake up, wake up, and she started letting out

461
00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:48,159
Speaker 3: these little groans, and I could tell her she was

462
00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:52,679
Speaker 3: in pain, and I thought, okay, well, let's give her

463
00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:54,760
Speaker 3: some time at all and see if she kind of

464
00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:59,800
Speaker 3: perks up. And it didn't happen, and then all of

465
00:23:59,880 --> 00:24:03,600
Speaker 3: us sudden, I went from zero to one hundred. I'm like,

466
00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 3: we need to take her to the er. And there

467
00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 3: was a children's hospital, probably a small children's like urgent care,

468
00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:13,439
Speaker 3: probably like three miles away. And that was the longest

469
00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:16,400
Speaker 3: ride of my life because she's in the car seat,

470
00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:21,040
Speaker 3: petech driving. I'm frantic, and she's just this tiny little

471
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:25,280
Speaker 3: blob in a car seat and she just kept making

472
00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:29,800
Speaker 3: this noise that was very unusual. And we got to

473
00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:33,320
Speaker 3: the hospital and they're like, what's happening, and I said,

474
00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:35,480
Speaker 3: you know, she hasn't. It's very unlike her to be

475
00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:41,080
Speaker 3: very lethargic and nonresponsive like this. So at that point

476
00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:44,760
Speaker 3: I'm thinking, Okay, well, I wonder what's happening and have

477
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:49,600
Speaker 3: them run tests. And that day was the last time

478
00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:53,640
Speaker 3: that I saw Grace. Pre brain injury and the brain injury,

479
00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:59,639
Speaker 3: she was basically seizing in her sleep NonStop. She was

480
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:02,320
Speaker 3: having seizure after seizure and that was why she couldn't

481
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:04,920
Speaker 3: open her eyes. That was why she was catatonic. She

482
00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:07,199
Speaker 3: couldn't move anything. And that's when they did, you know,

483
00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:10,440
Speaker 3: a lumbar puncture. They did an EEG, they did an MRI.

484
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:15,360
Speaker 3: All within four hours. So within that span of four hours,

485
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:20,720
Speaker 3: I went from being a mom on tour to am

486
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:25,320
Speaker 3: I gonna have to plan a funeral here? And I

487
00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:31,680
Speaker 3: just remember thinking, like life just changes like that, and

488
00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:36,760
Speaker 3: this is bad. I wasn't gonna cry, but it's okay. Yeah.

489
00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:42,760
Speaker 3: So that led to a month in the ICU in

490
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:46,640
Speaker 3: Dallas and a man, I have gone to so much

491
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:48,680
Speaker 3: therapy and why am I crying?

492
00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:53,360
Speaker 1: No, Jane, it's okay, it's okay, Okay, trust me, I'll

493
00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:55,640
Speaker 1: be trying too. I know it. We have tissues here.

494
00:25:55,760 --> 00:25:56,720
Speaker 1: Tell them, just tell me when.

495
00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:00,240
Speaker 3: But yeah, it was a month in the ICU. But

496
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:04,160
Speaker 3: even at that point, it didn't seem real that that

497
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:06,640
Speaker 3: she was going to wake up different. And in my heart,

498
00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:08,439
Speaker 3: I knew that she was going to wake up, but

499
00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:11,680
Speaker 3: I didn't know what version of Grace would come out

500
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:17,359
Speaker 3: on the other side, and it was a completely different kid. Sorry,

501
00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:20,880
Speaker 3: it's okay that your followers didn't expect this.

502
00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:27,720
Speaker 1: You know, I'm just I think one thing that I

503
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 1: think is so beautiful is looking at you on social media.

504
00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:34,199
Speaker 1: Your bio says, this profile is a love letter to

505
00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:37,520
Speaker 1: my beautiful disabled daughter Grace. And when you look at

506
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:42,959
Speaker 1: all your posts, they truly are diary logs. And you

507
00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:45,280
Speaker 1: say that you're not into school and you're not BookSmart

508
00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:47,600
Speaker 1: and all these things, but Jane, you write so beautifully.

509
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:50,880
Speaker 1: Oh thing, like, you write so beautifully and it's it's

510
00:26:50,880 --> 00:27:00,119
Speaker 1: from traumauma, but you convey your emotions so well and

511
00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 1: so real and just so raw that anyone can read

512
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:10,160
Speaker 1: your posts and just absolutely feel got wrenched and beside you.

513
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:14,199
Speaker 1: And just the other night when I was catching up

514
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:17,240
Speaker 1: and going through your page, the amount of sobbing that

515
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:21,000
Speaker 1: I did, just because the way you write it's just

516
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,000
Speaker 1: so real, like it makes me want to like hug

517
00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 1: you through a screen. And I can't imagine how many

518
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:27,879
Speaker 1: people that you've touched and people have reached out to

519
00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 1: you through this. So now she's in the hospital. HM,

520
00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 1: at what point did you realize within that month or

521
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:37,240
Speaker 1: earlier or later that she was not going to be

522
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:38,840
Speaker 1: the Grace that you once knew.

523
00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:43,399
Speaker 3: We had a number of neurologists come by, and you know,

524
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 3: I started learning the lingo of the hospital, and you

525
00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:48,840
Speaker 3: know what an attending was and what a resident is.

526
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 3: I didn't know what any of that stuff was. We

527
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:54,160
Speaker 3: had a different attending every week, and we were there

528
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:57,160
Speaker 3: for a month. And the first attending that we had

529
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:02,120
Speaker 3: was the best one because he she delivered the message

530
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 3: very succinctly, in a very kind way, but didn't beat

531
00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:12,199
Speaker 3: around the bush. He was very to the point, and

532
00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:16,560
Speaker 3: he said, she's gonna have a difficult life. The damage

533
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 3: to her brain is immense, and it goes all the

534
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 3: way down to the gray matter, which is the very

535
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 3: deepest part of your brain where everything happens. Well, you know,

536
00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:33,440
Speaker 3: the brain is an amazing organ and surprisingly through time,

537
00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:36,720
Speaker 3: I've learned that as much as we know about the brain,

538
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 3: we don't know anything about the brain. And I think

539
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:46,959
Speaker 3: that open endedness kind of makes things a mystery and

540
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:52,320
Speaker 3: keeps things I wouldn't say interesting. But when she finally

541
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:55,520
Speaker 3: stopped seizing, it was two weeks into the ICU. She

542
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 3: had a tube down her throat and she had these

543
00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 3: EEGs all over her brain, these little leads that have

544
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 3: pads that detect the electricity in your brain to see

545
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 3: what's happening. And I just remember every time a technician

546
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:15,120
Speaker 3: came in, they came in and said, your daughter's still seizing.

547
00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:17,080
Speaker 3: Your daughter's still seizing.

548
00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:19,120
Speaker 1: Because it would happened in her sleep, so it's not

549
00:29:19,120 --> 00:29:19,760
Speaker 1: something you saw.

550
00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:23,880
Speaker 3: It's so there's something called subclinical seizures, and those are

551
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:27,480
Speaker 3: seizures that you can't see. They don't take a physical

552
00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 3: form like the ones you see in the movies. But

553
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:32,080
Speaker 3: the type of seizure she was happening was in her

554
00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:35,040
Speaker 3: brain and it completely shut her body down, so we

555
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 3: weren't able to see any type of jerky movements or anything.

556
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:42,800
Speaker 3: So they put her on a pretty strong cocktail to

557
00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:48,800
Speaker 3: basically bring her up to nearly comatose. They were very

558
00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:52,360
Speaker 3: close to completely putting her in a coma because her

559
00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:56,400
Speaker 3: brain was firing like NonStop, and they had her in

560
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 3: a pretty strong cocktail of drugs to stop the brain activity.

561
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:04,880
Speaker 3: And finally, once they got ahold of the activity in

562
00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:09,160
Speaker 3: her brain and the initial injury that had taken place,

563
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 3: was the inflammation had died down and whatnot, they decided

564
00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 3: to pull the meds from her to see if she

565
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:20,719
Speaker 3: would come to, and she slowly woke up and she

566
00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:24,400
Speaker 3: started opening her eyes and you know, like how long

567
00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:28,200
Speaker 3: before she was This was probably two weeks into it. Yeah,

568
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 3: she was still in the hospital, still had the tube

569
00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:33,400
Speaker 3: and her throat, and we were all just kind of

570
00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:36,360
Speaker 3: standing around her, just waiting to see if she would

571
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:41,080
Speaker 3: move a finger, like maybe move her face, try to

572
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:45,840
Speaker 3: say something through the tube. And I just remember thinking,

573
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 3: she's gonna wake up and she might not be the same,

574
00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:56,200
Speaker 3: but she's still my girl. Yeah, But at the same time,

575
00:30:56,560 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 3: I don't want this girl. I want the old Grace

576
00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:02,960
Speaker 3: back because that was the Grace that I fell in

577
00:31:02,960 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 3: love with, and that was the grace I knew, and

578
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 3: I don't want whatever is going to happen from this

579
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:14,760
Speaker 3: moment forward. And she finally came to they were able

580
00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 3: to kind of wake her up. Her SATs for her,

581
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 3: you know, vitals were okay. They took the tube out,

582
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 3: and that was the first time that she was kind

583
00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:30,280
Speaker 3: of aware of her surroundings. But her brain injury had

584
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:33,320
Speaker 3: been so severe that she could not make eye contact,

585
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 3: she couldn't move her head. I likened her to like

586
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 3: a Mashie potato, just kind of laying there with leads everywhere,

587
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:45,720
Speaker 3: and the injury that she incurred was insane, to say

588
00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 3: the least, and when she woke up, there was nothing

589
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:53,720
Speaker 3: on her face that said I'm still.

590
00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 1: Grace, that's still just at ten months knew.

591
00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 3: I just knew that everything that we had known about

592
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:05,160
Speaker 3: her to that point was gone. It was just a

593
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 3: blank slate. And at that point, I just remember feeling

594
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,920
Speaker 3: very detached from her, like I don't want I don't

595
00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:16,800
Speaker 3: want this kid, right Like there were times where I

596
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:19,120
Speaker 3: felt like it would be better if she passed away,

597
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:27,400
Speaker 3: and I recall calling the nurse when I finally felt

598
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:30,120
Speaker 3: like I wanted to comfort her in some way, and

599
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:36,840
Speaker 3: I asked the nurse, Hey, can you help me with

600
00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:38,840
Speaker 3: all the wires? I would love to hold her. I

601
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:41,960
Speaker 3: haven't held her in two weeks. And she said, yeah,

602
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 3: of course I could do that. So I climbed into

603
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:46,360
Speaker 3: bed with her and the nurse There's all these like

604
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 3: wires and different things everywhere, and I didn't want to

605
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:53,040
Speaker 3: pull anything out and you know, IVS or whatever, and

606
00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:55,880
Speaker 3: she lifted her up and put her in my arms,

607
00:32:56,120 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 3: and I just remember letting out this guttural cry, and

608
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:03,760
Speaker 3: it was I don't know, three in the afternoon, and

609
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:06,040
Speaker 3: I'm sure everyone in the ward like could hear me

610
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:12,000
Speaker 3: just sobbing, because it was like the end of a

611
00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 3: life and then a beginning of life, trying to get

612
00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 3: to know this new person. I'll never forget that moment.

613
00:33:19,960 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 3: And her body was so stiff. She used to fit

614
00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 3: so perfectly in my little nook, and then she was

615
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:29,280
Speaker 3: as stiff as his table, And that typically happens when

616
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:33,040
Speaker 3: you incur a brain injury. Your body pretty much does.

617
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 3: It's not yours anymore in certain ways. So, yeah, that

618
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 3: was a whole month in Dallas of just trauma after trauma.

619
00:33:40,520 --> 00:33:44,360
Speaker 1: So what is the name of the overall diagnosis and

620
00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:47,560
Speaker 1: what is your day to day like now? Yeah, and

621
00:33:47,680 --> 00:33:48,480
Speaker 1: Grace's day to day.

622
00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:53,640
Speaker 3: So running all these tests on Grace to find if

623
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:59,280
Speaker 3: there was any genetic disorder. Nothing, no genetic disorder, no diagnosis.

624
00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:03,760
Speaker 3: Don't even know why she started seizing, And it's a

625
00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:08,120
Speaker 3: it's a question left unanswered, but at this point an

626
00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:12,239
Speaker 3: answer wouldn't really make a difference. The damage in her

627
00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:17,200
Speaker 3: brain is done and she pretty much has lenox Guesto syndrome.

628
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:20,960
Speaker 3: It's basically a fancy name for like drug resistant epilepsy.

629
00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 3: So the epilepsy, the shocks to her brain come from

630
00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:28,560
Speaker 3: the brain injury that she incurred, and we don't know

631
00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:32,520
Speaker 3: why that brain injury occurred. She just ten month old,

632
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:36,319
Speaker 3: just started seizing out of nowhere, so there's really no explanation.

633
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:42,919
Speaker 3: But she honestly is the strongest little girl. Man. These

634
00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 3: kids that go through this, like your bad days are

635
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:49,000
Speaker 3: just like not that bad when you see what these

636
00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:52,560
Speaker 3: kids go through. And I think that's what makes it

637
00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:57,800
Speaker 3: easier to try and put one foot in front of

638
00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:01,920
Speaker 3: the other day to day. For me, it's this is

639
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:03,560
Speaker 3: a real treat for me, by the way, because I'm

640
00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:04,840
Speaker 3: not at home and.

641
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:07,880
Speaker 1: Show her well, so welcome to the party.

642
00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:12,719
Speaker 3: Yes, she is full care, so I need to get

643
00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:16,279
Speaker 3: her up from bread. She's non ambulatory, which means she

644
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:19,760
Speaker 3: can't move on her own, and I dress her, feed

645
00:35:19,800 --> 00:35:22,600
Speaker 3: her via a G two in her stomach, and I

646
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:24,799
Speaker 3: know that kind of paints a picture like she just

647
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 3: kind of lays there. But she's a vibrant young girl

648
00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:35,200
Speaker 3: for everything that she's been through. She Yeah, she's blowing

649
00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:39,319
Speaker 3: my mind and blowing everyone's mind. The doctor's minds. They're like,

650
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:42,640
Speaker 3: we have no idea how she's going to turn out,

651
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:44,759
Speaker 3: but she's blowing everyone's mind.

652
00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:48,000
Speaker 1: How has the process been for you, coping with the

653
00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 1: ups and downs and just processing this new life.

654
00:35:51,719 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I am heavily medicated. I've got a lot, you know,

655
00:35:57,000 --> 00:36:01,440
Speaker 3: I'm taking an idepressance which kind of levels things out.

656
00:36:01,560 --> 00:36:06,200
Speaker 3: And I obviously have a ton of anxiety when it's

657
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:09,360
Speaker 3: anything that to do with Grace, because it's almost like

658
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:12,960
Speaker 3: you need to be like seven steps ahead to make

659
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:17,359
Speaker 3: sure she doesn't get a respiratory illness or you know,

660
00:36:17,719 --> 00:36:21,400
Speaker 3: washing her hands, putting like hand sanitizer on her hands,

661
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:25,960
Speaker 3: making sure that she's in like a clean space so

662
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:32,480
Speaker 3: that she doesn't catch any viruses. But in terms of seizures,

663
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:35,280
Speaker 3: I mean she has seizures every day. She's got anywhere

664
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:38,839
Speaker 3: from twelve to twenty a day, and they can range

665
00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:43,560
Speaker 3: anywhere from five seconds to three minutes. And it's just

666
00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:48,719
Speaker 3: become our normal. And I think a human's ability to

667
00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:56,400
Speaker 3: adapt to different outcomes is incredible, not only for our situation,

668
00:36:56,520 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 3: but like the way Grace adapts to everything, she is incredible.

669
00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 3: Sometimes I'm like, how are you my daughter? That's incredible.

670
00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 3: It's incredible.

671
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:10,880
Speaker 1: So what would you say is the most rewarding aspect

672
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:12,400
Speaker 1: about raising Grace?

673
00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:17,320
Speaker 3: She just puts kind of a different perspective to everything.

674
00:37:17,400 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 3: For me not to say that I still grieve immensely

675
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:28,640
Speaker 3: what could have been. I grieve immensely my journey as

676
00:37:28,640 --> 00:37:32,000
Speaker 3: a mother, my experience as a mother, my experience in

677
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 3: general with having a kid. I used to not be

678
00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:38,160
Speaker 3: able to go anywhere near a toy aisle because I

679
00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:42,359
Speaker 3: couldn't buy a toy that she could interact and play with,

680
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:46,000
Speaker 3: because it's just her motive functions just aren't there. Those

681
00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:53,080
Speaker 3: kind of become a periphery because the light that she shines,

682
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:56,959
Speaker 3: like when you're present with her is it just makes

683
00:37:57,000 --> 00:38:01,880
Speaker 3: everything else feel so dim and say that those things

684
00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 3: don't creep up every now and then. It's hard for

685
00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:07,920
Speaker 3: me to be in a space where there are other parents,

686
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:12,640
Speaker 3: other moms that have a typical mothering experience, because I

687
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 3: can't chime in and say, oh, yeah, my kid was

688
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:18,279
Speaker 3: late for the bus and I had to take her

689
00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:22,080
Speaker 3: to school. Just little things like that. But I know

690
00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:25,520
Speaker 3: that the experience that I'm having is an experience that

691
00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 3: was meant for me. And would I go back, and

692
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:32,760
Speaker 3: if I could change anything. I do have some regrets.

693
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:35,440
Speaker 3: I wish I didn't take her to Dallas, and I

694
00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 3: wish I didn't have this burning desire to compete again

695
00:38:40,680 --> 00:38:43,839
Speaker 3: and just kind of maybe prematurely bring her out, and

696
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:46,799
Speaker 3: would she have gotten sick if we stayed home, like

697
00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:49,840
Speaker 3: all those things. But my brain kind of exists in

698
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:54,839
Speaker 3: two different worlds. I guess world where everything I see

699
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:57,439
Speaker 3: is grace and how to make her comfortable and keep

700
00:38:57,440 --> 00:39:02,919
Speaker 3: her happy. And on the other side, I'm like, look

701
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:05,600
Speaker 3: at the rest of the world just kind of going

702
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:10,680
Speaker 3: as if nothing happened. Yeah, And it's trying to mold

703
00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:14,920
Speaker 3: those two together and be okay with it. And some

704
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:17,960
Speaker 3: days are easier than others. Other days, I'm just like,

705
00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:21,359
Speaker 3: the bare minimum I can do is just PLoP her

706
00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:24,000
Speaker 3: on the couch and just sit next to her and

707
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:27,920
Speaker 3: have her watch her show while I watch, like I

708
00:39:27,960 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 3: don't know, Tiger reruns or something just to like or

709
00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:36,120
Speaker 3: Kobe reruns. But yeah, it's just about survival honestly most

710
00:39:36,160 --> 00:39:39,080
Speaker 3: of the time. But that's just the life of a caregiver.

711
00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:42,279
Speaker 3: All you can do is just really try to love

712
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:44,919
Speaker 3: who you're caring for, and she's easy to love.

713
00:39:45,480 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 1: I just feel very empathetic because even when you speak

714
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:52,399
Speaker 1: your words of the two different worlds, I just can't

715
00:39:52,400 --> 00:39:55,400
Speaker 1: imagine what that must be like that. You know, she

716
00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:58,759
Speaker 1: is your world and that is true, but then there's

717
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:00,880
Speaker 1: also this part of you It's like, but the world

718
00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:04,719
Speaker 1: is still moving. Yeah, and you can grieve and also love.

719
00:40:04,960 --> 00:40:07,480
Speaker 1: You can grieve and also find happiness. And I think

720
00:40:07,520 --> 00:40:11,839
Speaker 1: it's just the Jane that I know is the Jane

721
00:40:11,920 --> 00:40:15,239
Speaker 1: that's welcoming all the rookies. Jane that I know is

722
00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 1: just always so happy and so bubbly. And I think

723
00:40:17,600 --> 00:40:20,839
Speaker 1: it's just very real to see you in this light.

724
00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:24,319
Speaker 1: I just feel very close and empathetic to you and

725
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:25,240
Speaker 1: seeing your story.

726
00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:26,239
Speaker 3: Thank you.

727
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:28,319
Speaker 1: And I just want you to know that if I'm

728
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:31,200
Speaker 1: sitting here bawling and my makeup is just falling apart,

729
00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:36,560
Speaker 1: I can't tell you how many story I can't tell

730
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:40,239
Speaker 1: you how many lives I'm I'm sure you touch, and

731
00:40:40,280 --> 00:40:43,000
Speaker 1: how much awareness you bring. And I love how you

732
00:40:43,040 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 1: speak so loudly for grace and you just love you

733
00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:51,319
Speaker 1: love so deeply, and you just deserve so much. You

734
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:55,439
Speaker 1: deserve the world like you really do you do? Oh God,

735
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:58,600
Speaker 1: you do? I know. I'm this has now become a

736
00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:01,839
Speaker 1: therapy session. It's honest, is I feel like girl time

737
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:02,839
Speaker 1: is just the girl time.

738
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:05,040
Speaker 3: This is it really is.

739
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, so fast forwards to twenty twenty three. Yeah, you

740
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 1: actually took the time and you stepped back out on

741
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 1: the golf clues and you competed in another LPGA event.

742
00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:35,719
Speaker 1: What brought you out to compete again? Were you invited?

743
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:37,400
Speaker 1: Was this a decision of yours?

744
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 3: It wasn't a decision of mine, but one of the

745
00:41:40,520 --> 00:41:45,200
Speaker 3: tournament directors that runs the DOW, which is the team event,

746
00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:49,520
Speaker 3: kept reaching out and saying, hey, honestly, it would be

747
00:41:49,560 --> 00:41:51,440
Speaker 3: great to have you back, just even if it's just

748
00:41:51,480 --> 00:41:54,200
Speaker 3: for that week, because you know, I didn't have a

749
00:41:54,239 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 3: proper sendoff. I was kind of you know, on the

750
00:41:56,200 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 3: ladder half of my career and or not even latter half.

751
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:01,160
Speaker 3: I was I wanted to be done soon ish and

752
00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 3: want to have another kid. But he just kind of said,

753
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:08,240
Speaker 3: you know, just show up. You can play like crap

754
00:42:08,560 --> 00:42:10,920
Speaker 3: and nobody will care. We just want to see you.

755
00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:16,239
Speaker 3: And it just he kept asking me, and I was like,

756
00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:18,560
Speaker 3: you know what, you know, like the competitor, and me

757
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:21,959
Speaker 3: wanted like time to grind and like you know, get

758
00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 3: better and like kind of get my old playing back,

759
00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:29,760
Speaker 3: like to be a good competitor. But you know, people

760
00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:32,799
Speaker 3: were like, dude, nobody cares. You can go shoot ninety five.

761
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, okay, I'll do it. I'll do it.

762
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:40,640
Speaker 3: And you know, I brought Grace and people were so

763
00:42:40,719 --> 00:42:44,040
Speaker 3: happy to see her. And I know, Instagram is such

764
00:42:44,080 --> 00:42:47,400
Speaker 3: a it's a snippet of someone's life. It's not the

765
00:42:47,400 --> 00:42:50,919
Speaker 3: whole picture. And it was just so great to have

766
00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:57,400
Speaker 3: people that I hold dearly to my heart as friends

767
00:42:57,480 --> 00:43:01,400
Speaker 3: but also complete strangers just come up to me or

768
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 3: like see Grace and just like come running over like,

769
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:08,160
Speaker 3: oh my god, it's great and uh, you know, she'll

770
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:10,000
Speaker 3: just flash her a little smile and yeah.

771
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:10,960
Speaker 1: And that was it.

772
00:43:11,040 --> 00:43:15,080
Speaker 3: And Paula was my partner. I had been playing against

773
00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:17,520
Speaker 3: her since since we were ten. She's got better of

774
00:43:17,560 --> 00:43:20,040
Speaker 3: me and like all those years, but she was such

775
00:43:20,040 --> 00:43:23,360
Speaker 3: a great partner. She made sure I was comfortable and

776
00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:25,399
Speaker 3: we just had a good time. You know, we didn't

777
00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 3: make the cut, but I mean it wasn't about that,

778
00:43:27,360 --> 00:43:28,160
Speaker 3: and the hobby was on.

779
00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 1: The back watching it. I think, what a moment. So

780
00:43:32,360 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 1: for you, was that your proper send off that oh

781
00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:38,799
Speaker 1: You've always been hoping for.

782
00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:42,279
Speaker 3: It was kind of a you know, now that we're

783
00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:45,040
Speaker 3: out of the weeds, and I'm we're in a more

784
00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:50,640
Speaker 3: steady place. Let's try and tackle traveling with her, Let's

785
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:53,799
Speaker 3: go and see my friends. And it was such a

786
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:58,120
Speaker 3: welcome back, but it was also like a proper goodbye. Yeah. Yeah,

787
00:43:58,160 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 3: And I'm totally fine with never playing.

788
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:05,320
Speaker 1: So that's no chance of saying, Jane parks playing again.

789
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:07,440
Speaker 3: That's the last time I touched my golf clubs. It

790
00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:08,680
Speaker 3: was nearly two years ago.

791
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:11,959
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't even just attempt to play for fun

792
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:14,040
Speaker 1: chick in the backyard competitions with Tip.

793
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:16,239
Speaker 3: I mean those are yeah, whenever she comes in, we

794
00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 3: want to do, have to. Yeah, but yeah, that part

795
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:22,480
Speaker 3: of my life. It's almost like that chapter of the

796
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:25,919
Speaker 3: book has turned and it's it used to be my love,

797
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:30,799
Speaker 3: but now I'm like, let's let's fully focus on what's here,

798
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 3: what's now, and not to bring it back to like

799
00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:37,600
Speaker 3: a dark place. But I truly just enjoy my time,

800
00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:39,759
Speaker 3: my one on one time or like you know, time

801
00:44:39,800 --> 00:44:43,600
Speaker 3: in general with Grace because I know she's more prone

802
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:49,439
Speaker 3: to having illnesses, an early death, like all those things,

803
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:52,960
Speaker 3: and those things are constantly on my mind, which is

804
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:56,560
Speaker 3: why I just don't want to be away from her. Ye,

805
00:44:57,640 --> 00:44:59,239
Speaker 3: I just want to suck the life out of her

806
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:03,319
Speaker 3: and just her into like a little like ball of nothing. Yeah,

807
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:06,839
Speaker 3: but yeah, there's a lot of perspective that has been

808
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:10,239
Speaker 3: learned in the last few years. I wish it wasn't

809
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:15,480
Speaker 3: through just insane trauma, but but it's my trauma, and

810
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:17,200
Speaker 3: it's my story and it's her story.

811
00:45:17,520 --> 00:45:22,040
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, if you could go back and talk to

812
00:45:23,200 --> 00:45:28,160
Speaker 1: little Jane maybe before she turned pro, what would.

813
00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 3: You tell her? Wow, it's so cliche. I would tell her, like,

814
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:36,799
Speaker 3: you know, missing a three footer is really not that

815
00:45:36,880 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 3: big of a deal. It's not a big deal, and

816
00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:44,960
Speaker 3: lord knows I have missed a lot of three footers.

817
00:45:45,920 --> 00:45:51,560
Speaker 3: But I would just tell her life is going to

818
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:55,359
Speaker 3: challenge you in ways that you would never wish on

819
00:45:55,440 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 3: your worst enemy. But you're going to be okay. Okay

820
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:03,960
Speaker 3: is relative, I think, And it's okay not to be

821
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 3: okay because you have people that check in on you

822
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:11,520
Speaker 3: and people that are going to be in your corner

823
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:13,239
Speaker 3: and just to.

824
00:46:14,800 --> 00:46:19,360
Speaker 1: Love deeply, which I don't think will ever change.

825
00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:20,320
Speaker 3: Okay.

826
00:46:20,560 --> 00:46:22,480
Speaker 1: So we're gonna end this pod on a bit of

827
00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 1: a lighter now, okay, And we have a funnel game.

828
00:46:24,560 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 1: I always start my pods with the game and with

829
00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:29,759
Speaker 1: the game. Yes, and I made this game custom for you,

830
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:34,040
Speaker 1: and it's called take Me Back. Okay, So I'm going

831
00:46:34,080 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 1: to show you a photo and you're going to take

832
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:39,120
Speaker 1: me back to that moment and kind of like rapid

833
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:41,719
Speaker 1: fire form like fast story for me, and you're gonna

834
00:46:41,719 --> 00:46:44,520
Speaker 1: tell me what's going on, yeah, or that moment. Yeah,

835
00:46:45,320 --> 00:46:49,520
Speaker 1: and you just hopefully we bring up some happy moments. Okay, okay, okay,

836
00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:53,000
Speaker 1: are ready all right? Here we go take me back?

837
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:56,239
Speaker 3: Oh man, yeah, us Women's zam Champ. I had been

838
00:46:56,280 --> 00:46:58,759
Speaker 3: working so hard for that and I finally had it

839
00:46:58,760 --> 00:47:02,040
Speaker 3: in my arms. That trophy is also like insane, by

840
00:47:02,040 --> 00:47:02,800
Speaker 3: the way, beautiful.

841
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:05,880
Speaker 1: Yeah. I thought it was like wider and made skinnier,

842
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:07,839
Speaker 1: like it kind of looks like it's edited, but like

843
00:47:07,840 --> 00:47:09,960
Speaker 1: that's legit the trophy and it's from your head to

844
00:47:10,000 --> 00:47:11,680
Speaker 1: your torso it's gorgeous.

845
00:47:11,719 --> 00:47:13,640
Speaker 3: And I had it in my possession for a year

846
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:14,200
Speaker 3: and I broke it.

847
00:47:14,280 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 1: How did you break it?

848
00:47:15,120 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 3: Oh? You know, you know?

849
00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:20,839
Speaker 1: Things okay, okay, things all right, still happy moment, all right.

850
00:47:21,719 --> 00:47:25,759
Speaker 1: I just didn't know what this activation was. Oh, you're

851
00:47:25,800 --> 00:47:27,000
Speaker 1: standing next to an astronaut.

852
00:47:27,040 --> 00:47:30,160
Speaker 3: We were in Houston, I believe and we make sense,

853
00:47:30,200 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 3: and NASA invited us to come toward their facilities. Wow, yeah,

854
00:47:36,160 --> 00:47:36,520
Speaker 3: let's go.

855
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:39,839
Speaker 1: That's wild. Yeah yeah, I love this. I just went

856
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:41,759
Speaker 1: basically went through Getty Images and this is what I

857
00:47:41,760 --> 00:47:44,200
Speaker 1: found of you. And I was like, okay, this is

858
00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:46,920
Speaker 1: the last one. I just thought that this was a

859
00:47:46,960 --> 00:47:54,040
Speaker 1: great throwback. Oh god, look at these photos. If I

860
00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:54,680
Speaker 1: could zoom.

861
00:47:54,520 --> 00:47:58,239
Speaker 3: It on, just baby Jane, baby Michelle. Yeah God, why

862
00:47:58,320 --> 00:48:00,960
Speaker 3: do I have such an RBF? Oh this is a

863
00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:06,000
Speaker 3: great face right here. Yeah, let's say the worst picture

864
00:48:06,080 --> 00:48:07,600
Speaker 3: ever and just put it up with Jane.

865
00:48:07,840 --> 00:48:11,480
Speaker 1: Oh god, it's great. Okay, So this is Curtis.

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Speaker 3: Cup, Curtis Kyle, Curtis Cup.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: What year is it?

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Speaker 3: Two thousand and three? Yeah, I was a junior in

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Speaker 3: high school. Yeah, man, we were. Michelle and I were

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Speaker 3: just we would just talk about inappropriate things and just

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Speaker 3: make each other laugh.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. You know.

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Speaker 3: She was my roommate that week, and you know she's like,

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Speaker 3: can we push our beds together? I'm kind of scared. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 3: I'll yeah, whatever, It's fine.

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Speaker 1: Oh gosh, I love it. I love how this is

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Speaker 1: like pre makeup days. It's pree everything. It's like the

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Speaker 1: awkward years of life.

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Speaker 3: She had like clip on earrings and she let me

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Speaker 3: wear them because I hadn't had my ears pierced yet either.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, we'd stay up and play card games and

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Speaker 3: I love that. It was. It was a good time.

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Speaker 1: I can't say it was your prime years, but it

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Speaker 1: was definitely memorable years. So with that, where can everyone

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Speaker 1: find you?

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Speaker 3: I'm mostly on Instagram at the Jane Park a lot

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Speaker 3: on Instagram. I also started painting and I made this

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Speaker 3: little like extra Instagram account. It's called Grace in Every Color. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: and I just started doing it in like a form

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Speaker 3: of therapy and it's been really fun. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: All right, so those are the two places that we

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Speaker 1: could find you. That's it, Jane, Thank you so much

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Speaker 1: for joining the party.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much. You're amazing.

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