WEBVTT - Everything They Don't Tell Moms Feat While They Nap Podcast 0:00:19.920 --> 0:00:21.759 Welcome back to good Mom's Bad Choices. 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:25.680 I'm Erica and I'm Mela, and I'm sleepy, which is 0:00:25.720 --> 0:00:27.960 just yawning over he sorry, call me Midy. 0:00:28.280 --> 0:00:29.920 She's over here, chugging. 0:00:29.560 --> 0:00:35.519 Birth control pills, yawning, yelling at her mother's lot happening 0:00:35.560 --> 0:00:35.960 right now. 0:00:36.159 --> 0:00:37.080 She's totally fine. 0:00:37.120 --> 0:00:38.880 Guys, everything's perfect. 0:00:38.920 --> 0:00:40.160 You're good, okay? 0:00:40.200 --> 0:00:40.440 Cool? 0:00:40.520 --> 0:00:40.760 Well? 0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:44.680 Hi, Hi, how are you? I'm good? Happy hump day. 0:00:44.840 --> 0:00:45.520 Do you like my hair? 0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:47.520 It's so cute. I've actually made me feeling. 0:00:47.560 --> 0:00:49.120 I was trying to figure out like maybe if it 0:00:49.200 --> 0:00:51.839 was like to like like to this, like I put 0:00:51.880 --> 0:00:52.479 a braid in it. 0:00:52.520 --> 0:00:53.640 I think it kind of like. 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:56.640 So I'm in the midst of doing ban two knots, 0:00:57.000 --> 0:00:58.800 which I don't know. Like I was in the shower 0:00:58.800 --> 0:01:00.440 and I was like, I'm so fucking. 0:01:00.120 --> 0:01:02.279 Over my hair. Why did I grow it out? It's 0:01:02.320 --> 0:01:02.720 too much? 0:01:02.720 --> 0:01:03.880 And I was like, I'm gonna do it to what 0:01:03.920 --> 0:01:06.560 Chamila does and get band two nuts. And then the 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:08.600 moment I started it, I was like, this is a 0:01:08.800 --> 0:01:09.639 horrible idea. 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:10.920 It's really easy. I can finish that. 0:01:11.080 --> 0:01:13.480 I can't see. It took me literally ten minutes to 0:01:13.480 --> 0:01:14.520 do one part. 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:16.520 Well, the parts you can't worry about. You gotta just 0:01:16.520 --> 0:01:17.959 say fuck the parts. I just do. 0:01:18.120 --> 0:01:20.360 Well, it's my nigga's birthday on Friday. 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:23.280 I was trying to Yeah, I was trying to be cute, 0:01:23.319 --> 0:01:24.720 like I was trying to have to see a look 0:01:24.920 --> 0:01:27.600 not just like protective sleep style. 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:30.080 Well, no one cares about the parts, but also I 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:31.880 care about the part. You know, your man likes to 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:33.840 do weird shit like, I mean, he might. 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:36.319 He might. He might do my hair after tonight. I'm 0:01:36.360 --> 0:01:36.920 sure you will. 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:38.280 He like pucked your eyebrows. 0:01:38.680 --> 0:01:39.600 I know it's great. 0:01:39.680 --> 0:01:42.880 I have a living facialist, hairstyleist, nail doer. 0:01:43.080 --> 0:01:48.120 Such a cancer I know. Okay, Anyway, we're here, we're 0:01:48.200 --> 0:01:51.880 joined by while they nap podcast Ladies of Wild. 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:52.480 They nap. 0:01:53.080 --> 0:01:58.280 Thanks, guys, I'm shin and I'm late, and you. 0:01:58.240 --> 0:02:02.400 Guys are in Canada, right we are Drake. 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:07.240 Yeah, but you said Drake's hometown. Oh my god, I 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:09.160 love Drake. But now he lives here at our home 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:10.120 down the valley. 0:02:10.360 --> 0:02:12.200 About it, Listen, I feel like you know what that's 0:02:12.280 --> 0:02:14.720 it's okay, Like we're okay with it, but just remember 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:15.519 where he was. 0:02:15.720 --> 0:02:17.920 Does he actually live here? Yeah, everywhere. 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:21.840 I've been to his house, his house twice, so have you? 0:02:22.080 --> 0:02:22.320 Yeah? 0:02:22.880 --> 0:02:25.000 Is he there? Yeah? Wait? When was this? 0:02:25.360 --> 0:02:27.080 Every summer he has a party and I go, what 0:02:27.080 --> 0:02:28.240 are you talking about? Where have you been? 0:02:28.400 --> 0:02:30.320 I've been? I don't know, I've been here with you? 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:32.519 And why it wasn't I invited to the summer party. 0:02:32.680 --> 0:02:35.000 Always call me a club groupie, and so you don't 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:37.720 get invited. Wait, let me tell you this week. 0:02:37.840 --> 0:02:41.000 No, that was you were trying to go. She was 0:02:41.040 --> 0:02:43.240 trying to go to a fucking. 0:02:44.720 --> 0:02:46.359 And we missed it and it was amazing. 0:02:46.919 --> 0:02:47.359 Was the best? 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:49.480 She went, Yeah, so let me tell you this is 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:50.560 the most la shit ever. 0:02:50.639 --> 0:02:52.720 So I'm here, I'm so tired, like I kind of 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:54.720 got a bed that my my homegirl calls. 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:58.400 I'm like hello, I'm like yeah, She's like, Drake's DJ 0:02:58.600 --> 0:02:59.080 just called me. 0:02:59.720 --> 0:03:02.560 I'm so what, So did you want us to come over? 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:04.760 She's like no, I did they want to go out? 0:03:04.760 --> 0:03:05.960 I'm like, I don't want to go out. I don't 0:03:05.960 --> 0:03:07.440 want to be like a group where. She's like, I'm like, listen, 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:09.520 if we go into his house, it's like this intimate 0:03:09.560 --> 0:03:14.320 setting that probably have crab legs. This is the most 0:03:14.480 --> 0:03:16.520 La conversation. And then she calls me the next day 0:03:16.560 --> 0:03:19.320 because we ended up not going. She's like, we missed everything. 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:22.400 Drake DJ told me Kylie was there. It was a small, 0:03:22.480 --> 0:03:23.600 intimate terrible. 0:03:23.960 --> 0:03:24.680 I know I was. 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:28.480 Anyway, they went to the house, and they went to 0:03:28.480 --> 0:03:29.919 the Delight, they went to the Lilas and the meeting 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:31.800 that Danielle didn't go because I was too tired and 0:03:31.840 --> 0:03:33.480 she was tired, and I should have just went because 0:03:33.720 --> 0:03:34.600 for what I don't know. 0:03:34.639 --> 0:03:36.400 But I could have plugged good Moms. I could have 0:03:36.400 --> 0:03:37.560 told Drake about good mom. 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:39.240 I was over here shaming her. I'm like, you guys 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:40.320 are ratchet club huse. 0:03:40.400 --> 0:03:42.120 Every time I want to go to her, she shames me. 0:03:42.280 --> 0:03:45.960 But I just feel like the clubbing days are just 0:03:46.040 --> 0:03:47.720 whack in La. There's no fucking point. 0:03:47.800 --> 0:03:50.080 It is the whack. But like, Drake's house is really nice. 0:03:50.120 --> 0:03:51.839 You weren't going to Drin's house, I know, but I'm saying, 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:53.440 if he was invited, it was another full party, I 0:03:53.480 --> 0:03:55.960 would go, even though I'm going to there's so many hoes. 0:03:56.040 --> 0:03:59.480 You're like, she's self inviting herself, Drake, if you're listening, 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:00.000 you better be. 0:04:00.400 --> 0:04:02.520 I'm only going to his home. I refuse to meet 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:03.440 him in public space. 0:04:03.480 --> 0:04:05.440 Wait, okay, let me also get now that we're all 0:04:05.440 --> 0:04:07.120 the topics, let me just go ahead and tell you 0:04:07.160 --> 0:04:09.000 the last time went to Drake's house. Right, there's all 0:04:09.040 --> 0:04:13.080 these bitches, you know, probably like ten to one to 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:16.400 the niggas, and they're all like wearing a shitload of makeup. 0:04:16.440 --> 0:04:19.120 It's four hundred degrees in calabasses, it's melting off the 0:04:19.160 --> 0:04:20.880 allbring weaves and all looking like trying to be cut 0:04:20.920 --> 0:04:23.719 by the pool. He has all these things, food, liquor, 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:25.760 and then he has this huge obstacle course, like this 0:04:25.839 --> 0:04:28.360 blow up obstacle course, and it's been dry all day. 0:04:28.400 --> 0:04:30.359 Not one single bitch has gotten on it because you know, 0:04:30.480 --> 0:04:34.240 everyone's trying to be sexy and are like you're ready, 0:04:34.240 --> 0:04:34.840 we gotta get on this. 0:04:35.360 --> 0:04:35.760 We're like. 0:04:37.360 --> 0:04:39.160 My baby, my baby daddy is with us. We made 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:41.479 him sit at the end to time who made it out? 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:45.120 But only two bitches at Drake's house Like, oh you Marks, 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:49.560 I'm like climbing climbing up the sta. 0:04:50.360 --> 0:04:56.120 One me of course athletic for you, Yes, why are 0:04:56.120 --> 0:04:58.360 you shocked that I'm shocked that you're athletic? I've never 0:04:58.400 --> 0:04:59.880 seen you do one athletic thing in my house. 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:02.320 Fight you right now, I wrestle you to the ground. 0:05:05.200 --> 0:05:08.080 That's amazing. Okay, sorry, sorry, sorry about my drake rant. 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:12.919 I'm clearly in love obviously, I'm want to take that. Like, 0:05:13.000 --> 0:05:15.960 so you've been to Toronto, then you must know what. 0:05:16.720 --> 0:05:18.880 Oh I haven't. No, I've only been to Vancouver. I 0:05:18.880 --> 0:05:20.960 want to come to Toronto though, Yeah, you need to. 0:05:21.080 --> 0:05:24.680 Vancouver's amazing though, absolutely so. We call Vancouver like the 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:25.680 la of Canada. 0:05:25.880 --> 0:05:26.320 Oh really. 0:05:26.839 --> 0:05:29.080 Every person from California that we talked to were like, 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:30.039 have you been to Canada? 0:05:30.040 --> 0:05:31.240 It's always Vancouver. 0:05:31.480 --> 0:05:33.200 Yeah, I've been to Canada. 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:39.040 I've been to Montreal, Vancouver and Toronto, and Montreal is beautiful, gorgeous, 0:05:39.200 --> 0:05:40.120 it's just so cold. 0:05:41.920 --> 0:05:45.000 No, they a lot. They speak French there, right, that's 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:46.720 like the language of language. 0:05:47.040 --> 0:05:49.680 Yeah, it's like cool, friends, it's like a little bit different, 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:54.039 but I mean same fiv Yeah. Okay, ladies, So tell 0:05:54.080 --> 0:05:56.240 me about your guys. Tell me how you guys started 0:05:56.279 --> 0:05:59.320 your podcast. What's why did you guys start while they mapped? 0:05:59.560 --> 0:06:02.680 Obviously kids, Yeah, that. 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:04.040 Was like the big one there. 0:06:04.279 --> 0:06:10.440 But I we were on maternity leave and I always 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:12.880 wanted to start a podcast, but I didn't know what 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:15.600 I wanted to talk about, and I just didn't want 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:19.240 to do like, you know, random shit. So I was like, 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:21.479 I'm gonna wait until something comes to me. And then 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:23.359 I had a baby and I was like, Okay, I 0:06:23.480 --> 0:06:26.240 like this, this is cool. I have a lot of 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:28.400 shit to talk about about being a mom, like I 0:06:28.440 --> 0:06:30.760 didn't like I feel like being a first time mom. 0:06:30.800 --> 0:06:34.120 I was just like, what the what the fuck is 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:34.520 going on? 0:06:34.600 --> 0:06:37.800 Like so much shit was happening, and I'm like, nobody 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:40.800 told me about this shit, Like no one was like 0:06:41.000 --> 0:06:44.760 why is my whole body falling apart? Like I don't understand, 0:06:45.320 --> 0:06:49.159 and a lot was happening. I felt really lonely. I 0:06:49.200 --> 0:06:51.560 didn't have much friends to talk to because they didn't 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:53.760 have any kids at the time, or all their kids 0:06:53.800 --> 0:06:56.960 are much older so they couldn't remember. So a mutual 0:06:57.040 --> 0:06:59.640 friend of ours kind of hooked this up and we 0:06:59.680 --> 0:07:01.520 started going on like mom dates. 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:02.400 I'm laughing at that. 0:07:02.400 --> 0:07:05.120 Now we can stop your fuffles and that's funny way. 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:06.080 You know, just so you guys know. 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:09.239 When before we started this interview, Jamila was fully convinced 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:12.800 that they were married, and then they were lesbian married. 0:07:12.840 --> 0:07:15.360 Well, Erica said, you guys are married, right, and they 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:17.680 both said yeah, So I figured to each other. I 0:07:17.720 --> 0:07:21.400 mean I was it sounded like this is twenty twenty. 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:23.760 You can't just say are you married? Then asked too, 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:26.040 you know that doesn't apply to other people. The two 0:07:26.080 --> 0:07:28.880 people sitting in front of us super. 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:32.280 Cute and hilarious. We were hooked up, but yeah, that's 0:07:32.320 --> 0:07:34.160 kind of what happened. We were hooked up, and then 0:07:34.200 --> 0:07:36.920 Sen approached me and was like, hey, like you know, 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:39.080 this is after we had already gone out and like 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:39.960 spend time with each other. 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:41.200 She was like yeah, like I kind of have this 0:07:41.280 --> 0:07:43.040 idea to start a podcast. What do you think? And 0:07:43.080 --> 0:07:45.920 I'm like, yeah, no, I'm okay. 0:07:46.080 --> 0:07:47.880 She was like Nana, I'm good, Like that's okay, that's 0:07:47.920 --> 0:07:49.480 not for me, Like my voice is gross, Like I 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:51.160 hate the sound of my voice, Like I don't want 0:07:51.160 --> 0:07:53.600 to do that, and like I hate being like bandwagony, 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:55.680 like I know, like, of course, like you know, these 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:58.040 at least for everybody, and everyone has their own passions. 0:07:58.040 --> 0:08:00.440 But I felt like the podcasting things like really growing, 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:03.920 everyone's a podcast? What podcast? But I was like yeah, no, 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:05.400 I don't want to be a part of that camp. 0:08:07.000 --> 0:08:10.760 And then she's it. She was like Adam, and she's like, 0:08:10.840 --> 0:08:11.680 just try, just try it. 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:13.960 And then the same friend I hooked this up was like, honestly, 0:08:14.040 --> 0:08:15.360 give it one shot, try one time. 0:08:15.400 --> 0:08:17.000 If you hate it, you hate it. If you like it, 0:08:17.040 --> 0:08:17.600 then fine. 0:08:18.000 --> 0:08:20.120 And then like it came at like a pivotal moment 0:08:20.160 --> 0:08:22.800 where my husband had left to work out of town 0:08:22.880 --> 0:08:26.000 and I was home alone with my daughter, who is 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:30.080 a blessing, but like Jesus, being home with her by 0:08:30.120 --> 0:08:32.280 myself when she's ten months old, doing all the cooking, 0:08:32.320 --> 0:08:35.280 all the cleaning, everything was fucking exhausting, and I'm like, yo, 0:08:35.360 --> 0:08:37.760 I can't do this, Like I just I need to, 0:08:38.000 --> 0:08:40.679 like I need an outlet. So one day called my 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:42.439 cousin's mom was like please watch my baby. 0:08:42.480 --> 0:08:44.720 Went to her house. I'm like, yeah, let's record, and 0:08:44.760 --> 0:08:45.480 like I got some shit. 0:08:47.520 --> 0:08:50.120 I was in, Like I was like faceing that mic 0:08:50.200 --> 0:08:52.320 and I just went in and by the end of it, 0:08:52.360 --> 0:08:54.319 I'm like, wow, that was so cathartic. 0:08:54.920 --> 0:08:59.000 I need to do this again, like where it started. 0:08:59.040 --> 0:09:00.920 So it was dope because it's started being it was 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:03.960 about us truly, like about us, you know, just sharing 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:06.160 our thoughts and then like in the process of that, 0:09:06.200 --> 0:09:08.160 we built the community, which is pretty cool. 0:09:08.360 --> 0:09:11.680 Yeah, that's so dope. So you guys are in Canada, 0:09:11.840 --> 0:09:14.960 like what is would you say? Like, well, because I 0:09:14.960 --> 0:09:16.120 know America we're fucked. 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:21.960 I'm sure, I'm sure you've been watching the news. 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:25.960 I'm sure you're aware that America's a joke. 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:28.000 Well, I mean, but I know that Canada has been 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:30.840 in quarantine too, and obviously you guys are still in quarantine. 0:09:30.840 --> 0:09:32.880 You guys have probably been going through the same shit 0:09:32.960 --> 0:09:36.079 as us, as moms who are locked locked. 0:09:35.880 --> 0:09:42.480 Up, don't let me out. 0:09:40.679 --> 0:09:45.280 Locked up with our kids and stuff, and like, well, what's. 0:09:45.120 --> 0:09:48.360 The climate over there in Canada as far as like 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:51.920 what's happening? Or is everyone really like paranoid? Are they 0:09:51.920 --> 0:09:53.360 all indoors? 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:57.120 Have you guys broke quarantine? 0:09:58.120 --> 0:10:01.040 Well yeah, well yeah, kids going to summer camp? Are 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:02.000 they going to go to school? 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:05.160 Like camp is canceled? Yeah? 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:10.080 I just my daughter's in camp and I was, you know, 0:10:10.240 --> 0:10:12.160 you know how like chatty broads asked if we've ever 0:10:12.200 --> 0:10:14.320 been like people talk shit? 0:10:15.080 --> 0:10:18.800 What chatty brods ask people if people talk shit? Someone 0:10:18.800 --> 0:10:21.960 talks shit? What on chatty Broad's about us about me 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:24.680 in the comments. 0:10:24.320 --> 0:10:27.960 What they said, They said that we they only could 0:10:27.960 --> 0:10:31.320 get through half the episode because basically we're bad moms 0:10:31.360 --> 0:10:32.120 because we're black. 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:32.840 We're bad. 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:34.920 I've been making everything about brains. 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:38.559 Black, that that I'm just irresponsible because I have my 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:40.960 daughter going to camp, and that my man met my 0:10:41.120 --> 0:10:45.000 family and that's just irresponsible and breaking quarantine by letting 0:10:45.040 --> 0:10:46.480 my new boyfriend meet my mom. 0:10:46.640 --> 0:10:49.080 Bitch, did you hear anything said about the na that 0:10:49.120 --> 0:10:49.520 we need. 0:10:49.480 --> 0:10:52.800 To be more immersed with our kids and less worried 0:10:52.800 --> 0:10:55.480 about going out, and that we're boneheads. 0:10:57.000 --> 0:11:00.520 First of all, I want to make it reach. I'm 0:11:00.520 --> 0:11:01.560 not gonna make it Rachel. 0:11:01.840 --> 0:11:08.680 However, Ye Karen, nobody of any other race ever try 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:12.760 to insult anyone by calling them a bonehead. That that 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:14.720 one Karen is just not going to do it. 0:11:14.800 --> 0:11:16.559 You're gonna have become a little harder. Babe. 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:18.960 Oh my god, I think I called. 0:11:18.760 --> 0:11:20.560 Her, You responded. 0:11:21.280 --> 0:11:22.600 I responded, I was like. 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:25.840 First of all, her school's taking the necessary precaution, so 0:11:25.880 --> 0:11:27.720 you can take that up with all the other parents. 0:11:27.920 --> 0:11:29.319 Right, I'll send you their emails. 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:30.960 And I was like, and what I do with my family? 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:33.520 Is then your motherfucking business. Didn't say motherfucking because I 0:11:33.559 --> 0:11:36.040 don't want to scare these white people. And then I said, 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:37.520 you know, there's no name for. 0:11:37.559 --> 0:11:40.600 Name calling, like like sugar bumb or something. 0:11:40.600 --> 0:11:46.240 I said, so bonehead, sugar bum. 0:11:46.520 --> 0:11:49.560 The funniest thing is like you should never come for 0:11:49.640 --> 0:11:51.440 a black woman by calling her a phonehead. 0:11:51.840 --> 0:11:56.200 You're gonna lose. Oh my god. Wow. 0:11:56.360 --> 0:11:58.440 But I'm just wondering, like, are you have you guys, 0:11:58.960 --> 0:12:01.640 like you know, there's a lot of mommy shaming, especially 0:12:01.920 --> 0:12:05.640 a surrounding quarantine, and how what you're doing and who 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:08.160 you're hanging out with and all those things, like how 0:12:08.200 --> 0:12:10.920 have you guys encountered that out there and how are. 0:12:10.800 --> 0:12:11.599 You dealing with it? 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:16.760 I feel like people's reaction in Canada is pretty much 0:12:16.760 --> 0:12:20.320 the same in America. People are protesting here that they 0:12:20.360 --> 0:12:21.400 don't want to wear masks. 0:12:21.440 --> 0:12:23.840 Yeah really yeah. 0:12:23.880 --> 0:12:26.200 And then there are people that just don't give a 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:28.720 shit and are still like going out and doing whatever 0:12:28.760 --> 0:12:30.760 they want to do. And then there are people that 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:34.400 are paranoid and are indoors at all times. But of course, 0:12:34.440 --> 0:12:36.559 like being a parent, it's hard, Like I don't want 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:40.000 to stay home every day with my kid, like I'm crazy, 0:12:40.000 --> 0:12:43.800 I'm going crazy. Yeah, and like we have toddlers, so. 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:45.720 You can how old are how old are your kids? 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:49.200 My eighteen and a half months. My daughter's twenty months. 0:12:49.240 --> 0:12:50.920 So you're not putting like I'm not putting a mask 0:12:50.960 --> 0:12:53.040 on my eighties like that, Let's be like, let's be honest. 0:12:53.040 --> 0:12:54.440 And if I'm not putting a mask on my eighteen 0:12:54.440 --> 0:12:56.640 month old, and I'm out there like it's very possible 0:12:56.640 --> 0:12:57.880 that you should get something, give it to me. 0:12:57.920 --> 0:13:00.640 Like it's like it doesn't make any sense, you know, 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:04.040 it's unavoidable. It seems Yeah, it is. 0:13:04.080 --> 0:13:07.080 All I'm saying is like everyone needs to chill, not chill. 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:09.559 I get it. People are dying, and I'm respectable of that. 0:13:09.640 --> 0:13:13.319 And like I've I have people that have been have died, 0:13:13.400 --> 0:13:14.520 I know people that have died. 0:13:15.559 --> 0:13:17.920 I just also feel like what I do with my 0:13:18.000 --> 0:13:20.480 motherfucking family, like, bitch. 0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:20.920 You don't know. 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:23.239 You don't know at what point I decided to quarantine 0:13:23.240 --> 0:13:25.319 for fourteen days with my nigga and then introduce him 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:27.200 to my mom, right or vice versa. You have no 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:29.840 idea what we're doing over here. And quite frankly, it 0:13:29.960 --> 0:13:32.480 sounds like you're very bored and on edge, bitch, because 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:34.920 you haven't been anywhere and you ain't smoked no weed, 0:13:35.160 --> 0:13:37.520 and so you're kind of hating it sounds like you're 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:41.800 hating on us because we've found we've we've found the 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:43.160 silver lining of this all. 0:13:43.840 --> 0:13:44.760 And I get it. 0:13:44.800 --> 0:13:47.600 You're miserable. We're all we're in the same boat. But 0:13:47.640 --> 0:13:49.920 what you don't need to do is project how you're 0:13:49.960 --> 0:13:52.440 feeling on people who are just dealing with the same 0:13:52.440 --> 0:13:52.920 shit as you. 0:13:52.960 --> 0:13:55.680 Differently. We're all moms, we're all doing the same shit. 0:13:55.720 --> 0:13:56.760 We're all trying our best. 0:13:57.160 --> 0:14:01.959 We're obviously haven't killed our kids. You know, the government 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:05.520 hasn't come to get them. They're safe, they're happy, they're fed, and. 0:14:06.280 --> 0:14:07.480 You need to mind your fucking business. 0:14:07.520 --> 0:14:09.720 You listen to us for half the episode that was clear, 0:14:09.840 --> 0:14:13.000 so about forty minutes and that's just not enough to 0:14:13.120 --> 0:14:16.160 tell me about me, bitch, mind your business. 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:18.960 And my friend too will get that ass. 0:14:21.680 --> 0:14:24.320 Yeah, well that handles that. 0:14:25.160 --> 0:14:27.040 Yeah, that question. 0:14:28.840 --> 0:14:32.280 So your your your podcast is called while they napp? 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:34.600 Do your kids actually nap all your podcasts? 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:35.840 Like how do you do that? 0:14:36.800 --> 0:14:36.880 Not? 0:14:37.120 --> 0:14:41.800 Like like are you saying like my daughter's downstairs right now, 0:14:41.800 --> 0:14:45.120 in the basement of my husband. Any second, now, any second, 0:14:45.120 --> 0:14:47.000 you're gonna have a kid who running up half naked 0:14:47.080 --> 0:14:48.040 with goldfish in her mouth. 0:14:48.960 --> 0:14:52.760 The goldfish, oh right, the kids love it. How do 0:14:53.080 --> 0:14:55.720 How do your husbands feel about the podcast? And you 0:14:55.760 --> 0:15:01.080 guys like discussing, you know, your real rude feelings about 0:15:01.240 --> 0:15:04.800 motherhood amongst the internets of millions of people. 0:15:04.800 --> 0:15:07.120 Are they like, can you chill? Do you talk about them? 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:11.560 Are their roles surrounding that in the marriage? No, they 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:12.600 don't care. They don't care. 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:14.920 Now at the end of the day, like he knows 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:17.120 who he married. He's like, I'm a talker. Leanne is 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:18.920 gonna like voice her opinion. She's gonna say what she 0:15:18.960 --> 0:15:20.720 has to say. He's like, and I don't always want 0:15:20.720 --> 0:15:22.000 to hear that shit. He's like, so at the end 0:15:22.040 --> 0:15:23.680 of the day, like, if you need to release and 0:15:23.720 --> 0:15:25.400 you need to like let that out, go for it, 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:27.920 like say it all on the podcast, leave it all there. 0:15:28.120 --> 0:15:30.120 Of course, Like we communicate and I'm still able to 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:32.120 confide in him. But he loves the fact that I have. 0:15:32.200 --> 0:15:34.560 This is the outlet. He thinks it's aka. 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:37.560 They don't want to talk to us. Oh, you're talking 0:15:37.560 --> 0:15:38.200 to other people. 0:15:38.200 --> 0:15:41.280 Cool, don't give what you're talking about. 0:15:43.160 --> 0:15:44.400 Do your husbands listen? 0:15:48.800 --> 0:15:52.000 It's not depending on the episode, Like if he knows 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:55.120 that I'm talking about him on that episode, he's gonna listen. 0:15:55.400 --> 0:15:57.760 Yes, Like the Baby Love a Marriage episode where I 0:15:57.800 --> 0:16:00.000 talked about the fact that like six week four parts 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:02.280 on twelve weeks when I had seven stitches, my asshole 0:16:02.320 --> 0:16:03.720 was completely spread and opened out. 0:16:03.600 --> 0:16:06.440 That I was anything And I was like, you know, 0:16:06.680 --> 0:16:07.720 like no, like I've pissed off. 0:16:07.760 --> 0:16:08.000 I don't. 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:11.560 He's definitely he was like, oh, okay, so that tell 0:16:11.560 --> 0:16:12.440 me how you really feel. 0:16:12.560 --> 0:16:15.040 Oh, it's like that, Like but he wanted to hear. 0:16:15.360 --> 0:16:18.440 For the most part, they're like, nah, it's. 0:16:18.360 --> 0:16:20.320 Kind of a good excuse to like get them to 0:16:20.360 --> 0:16:21.400 hear what you got to say. 0:16:21.440 --> 0:16:24.560 But not You're like, oh, no, I didn't talk about 0:16:24.560 --> 0:16:25.560 you just a little. 0:16:25.480 --> 0:16:27.200 Just a little. This is how I really feel. 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:28.120 This is an. 0:16:28.000 --> 0:16:32.640 Announcement to my husband. We just went in. It's true. 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:37.680 How long have you guys been podcasting? Uh, less than 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:38.800 a year? No, less than a year. 0:16:42.320 --> 0:16:43.320 How do you think? 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:46.360 Well, my question aside from podcasting, because you guys have 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:49.880 toddlers and like I'm so like Mila just recently finally 0:16:49.920 --> 0:16:59.040 stopped calling our kids toddlers because they're like not toddlers anymore. Like, 0:16:59.800 --> 0:17:02.040 do you do you feel like when you after you 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:03.920 had your daughter? You have wait, you have you have 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:06.120 a daughter and you have a daughter as well. 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:07.320 Yeah, daughter. 0:17:07.840 --> 0:17:11.640 Do you feel like like, what was your transition out 0:17:11.640 --> 0:17:13.960