WEBVTT - The Battle Against Lust Paul De La Cerda

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, guys, welcome to the podcast. Got my favorite guest

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<v Speaker 1>on here. And it's not Bernie, and it's not Chad

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<v Speaker 1>or Parker or Marshall or London or a man or

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<v Speaker 1>say that to everybody or London. Yeah, it's you Amber,

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<v Speaker 1>my wife. I don't say that to everybody, do I? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>my favorite guest. How could I? I would be wrong

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<v Speaker 1>if I said that. Maybe didn't mean you. Okay, So

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<v Speaker 1>I get Amber on here. And anytime I have other guests,

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<v Speaker 1>I like, we plan it, usually put on the calendar.

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<v Speaker 1>But with you, I'm like, hey, can you please come

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<v Speaker 1>home the podcast real quick? And Maverick's taking a nap.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I just put him down and he's like, let's

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<v Speaker 2>go to a podcast. So we have a solid maybe

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<v Speaker 2>two hours.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so thank you. What we do is we answer

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<v Speaker 1>your questions. Email me podcast at grangersmith dot com. We'll

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<v Speaker 1>walk through the question and like two friends sitting in

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<v Speaker 1>the cap of a truck, you have a question, you

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<v Speaker 1>ask it, and I don't have any notes in front

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<v Speaker 1>of me or famous quotes, even though maybe I could

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<v Speaker 1>pull a couple up, but I'll just answer you like

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<v Speaker 1>like I would a good friend. And that's the format.

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<v Speaker 1>Of this podcast. Currently, I'm coming to you. I'm very itchy,

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<v Speaker 1>so itchy, so itchy. I got tangled up into some

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<v Speaker 1>poison oak that we know of. Yeah, probably poison oak,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe poison ivy, although I've never had poison ivy in

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<v Speaker 1>my life. I've actually never had poison oak either. But

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<v Speaker 1>I just happened to be clearing some cedar and cut

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<v Speaker 1>up a tree and it was wrapped all in it

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<v Speaker 1>with poison oak vine. And this time of year it's

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<v Speaker 1>ripe like red. Those leaves are red and they just

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<v Speaker 1>look scary.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he's got it pretty.

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<v Speaker 1>They're pretty, but they're scary. It looks like a red oak. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>the vine.

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<v Speaker 2>You were out there with mav.

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<v Speaker 1>Too, out there with Maverick. And I'm actually having on

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<v Speaker 1>my eyebrow and my eye lid and under my right eye,

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<v Speaker 1>all under my chin, behind my left ear, all around

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<v Speaker 1>my growing and the biggest parts on my side, my

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<v Speaker 1>rib cage on my left side. Yeah, And I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's where it started because there's some scratches and I

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<v Speaker 1>think it entered my bloodstream and it's just my flesh

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<v Speaker 1>is screaming at me.

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<v Speaker 2>Also, Granger is a minimalist, and if you know him.

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<v Speaker 2>You know this, but he likes to re wear the

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<v Speaker 2>same hoodie a couple days in a row, has the

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<v Speaker 2>same T shirt, the same T shirt under it. And

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<v Speaker 2>I said, babe, what were you wearing when you cut

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<v Speaker 2>this ceedar? The hoodie that he has on now? And

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<v Speaker 2>I said, a week ago, let's wash it. Let me

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<v Speaker 2>wash it because you're just putting the same oil over

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<v Speaker 2>your head. That's probably why it's on your eye and

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<v Speaker 2>your ear. But anyway, he's it you today, guys, that

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<v Speaker 2>was a really.

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<v Speaker 1>Good point you made, Like you really got me.

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<v Speaker 2>I even thought about this morning because I saw the

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<v Speaker 2>hoodie laying there and I was like, he's probably gonna

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<v Speaker 2>put that back on. I bet that's what he was wearing.

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<v Speaker 2>I should have just taken it and washed it.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I'm like, how's it getting behind my ear and

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<v Speaker 1>under my chin and on my eye and on my cheek?

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<v Speaker 1>And everyone's like, hey, what clothes were you wearing a

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<v Speaker 1>week ago when you're cutting that seedar? And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>this actually in this hat?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, all of it, So that's what it is.

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<v Speaker 1>But what am I going to wear? If you watch

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<v Speaker 1>this though?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, we do have an apparel company. I think you

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<v Speaker 2>can find another yee hoodie.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, should we get to a question. This is from Megan,

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<v Speaker 1>and she says, this is kind of a complicated topic.

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<v Speaker 1>Imagine that she says, you could see my children's You see,

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<v Speaker 1>my children's father is not a believer in the gospel,

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<v Speaker 1>but I am. We are no longer together. But this

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<v Speaker 1>is a topic that is thrown in my face on

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<v Speaker 1>a regular basis. Just recently he approached me and my

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<v Speaker 1>children were not to be brainwashed by the church and

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<v Speaker 1>taught to fear hell. I obviously have a different stance

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<v Speaker 1>on this topic, but to avoid an argument, I'm trying

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<v Speaker 1>to figure out a way to plant a seed in

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<v Speaker 1>his heart to reconsider Christ is good and we all

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<v Speaker 1>need him. I think I'm just asking for advice on

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<v Speaker 1>how to plant that seed so we could be in

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<v Speaker 1>unity when it comes to teaching our children in the Gospel.

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<v Speaker 1>It actually sounds like a complicated question, but it's actually not.

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<v Speaker 1>That's very normal, Megan, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. This is

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<v Speaker 1>a situation that so many people are in, so many

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<v Speaker 1>of our friends, so many people that we know, and

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<v Speaker 1>they say.

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<v Speaker 2>They're no longer together. I mean, this is the situation

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<v Speaker 2>that some of our friends are together in dealing with this.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and some are not. Yeah, we're not, and so

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<v Speaker 1>much so it is. I say it's common, and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't say that to minimize the the severity of it,

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<v Speaker 1>but it is common enough that even the apostle Paul

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<v Speaker 1>speaks about it, not the separated part, but being with

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<v Speaker 1>an unbeliever.

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<v Speaker 2>This is biblical.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it is biblical. Some people believe in some people don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Until the veil is removed from their eyes, until the

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<v Speaker 2>Lord changes their hearts. So she's asking about how can

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<v Speaker 2>I plant seeds for him? And I would just advise

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<v Speaker 2>you to keep living your life the way that you

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<v Speaker 2>are as and have as much grace for him as

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<v Speaker 2>you can and kindness for him as you can. But

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<v Speaker 2>you and your girls, I think I think she said today,

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<v Speaker 2>have girls pray for his heart, pray for his heart

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<v Speaker 2>to be changed, because you guys can't do it. You

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<v Speaker 2>can plant seeds, and you can just speak openly and

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<v Speaker 2>just say, you know, the Lord is my savior and

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<v Speaker 2>we believe in what the Bible says. And I'm taking

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<v Speaker 2>our girls to church because you're not together, so he's

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<v Speaker 2>technically not the head of your home anymore now if

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<v Speaker 2>you guys are married, this would be a different, different talk.

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<v Speaker 2>But you aren't together anymore, or so you are taking

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<v Speaker 2>your girls and your your submission is first to the Lord.

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<v Speaker 2>So you need to be doing what is what is

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<v Speaker 2>what the Bible says to do, which is train your

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<v Speaker 2>children up in the way that they should go, and

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<v Speaker 2>take your girls to church, your children to church, pray

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<v Speaker 2>for this man's heart to be changed, and have your

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<v Speaker 2>girls pray pray for him.

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<v Speaker 1>That's where first of all, I don't know where you're

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<v Speaker 1>getting girls.

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<v Speaker 2>What did you not? Did she not say girls?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't see it, but it says children children.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry, maybe I don't know. I just put girls

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<v Speaker 2>in there.

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<v Speaker 1>So the idea of your children are not to be brainwashed.

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<v Speaker 1>His children are not to be brainwashed. I don't blame them,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's a legitimate concern that any child would be

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<v Speaker 1>brainwashed by some kind of system or manipulation or anything

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<v Speaker 1>that would be that that would be false or wrong

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<v Speaker 1>or what could hurt them in a way. And so

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<v Speaker 1>you could use that and say you could talk to

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<v Speaker 1>the brainwashing part of it and just say, hey, our

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<v Speaker 1>children are are free to think and choose and and

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<v Speaker 1>listen to and contemplate of many ideas. And so if

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<v Speaker 1>you want to, if you want to dig in with

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<v Speaker 1>them about the Bible, I'd be happy to sit with you.

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<v Speaker 1>And we could even have one of our pastors at

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<v Speaker 1>our church come and sit. We could we could dig

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<v Speaker 1>in to understand kind of the the history of it,

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<v Speaker 1>the working of it, so that there's not a mystery.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, many times when someone digs deep like that,

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<v Speaker 1>they actually find the truth it because it's undeniable. So

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<v Speaker 1>there is there is that. But but I besides the

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<v Speaker 1>telling the gospel, which is the seed, there is only

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<v Speaker 1>one seed. You say, how do I plant the seed? This?

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<v Speaker 1>There is only one seed, and that is the Gospel.

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<v Speaker 1>And that is the story the good news that God

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<v Speaker 1>came to reconcile sinners through his son Jesus, God knowing

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<v Speaker 1>that people could not be good enough to come to him,

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<v Speaker 1>that could not fulfill his law, and that were because

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<v Speaker 1>he's a just God, and sinners deserve hell for rebelling

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<v Speaker 1>against him, because he's a holy God and can't have

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<v Speaker 1>corruption around him, and because we are ourselves guilty of it,

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<v Speaker 1>of committing that crime against him. Then knowing that we

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<v Speaker 1>could not be good enough, and knowing that if he

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<v Speaker 1>didn't do something, if he didn't act in that he

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<v Speaker 1>would be alone in heaven because there would be no

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<v Speaker 1>one else. And that's not to say that he wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>that he would be unhappy. God, the triyuing God in

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<v Speaker 1>himself has enough love in himself and enjoy and happiness.

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<v Speaker 1>He doesn't need anything else. He doesn't need people, but

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<v Speaker 1>through his mercy in his creation, through his people, seeing

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<v Speaker 1>that people had no way to get to him, that

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<v Speaker 1>they were all corrupt, that all had turned, that all

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<v Speaker 1>were evil, that no one was good, not even won.

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<v Speaker 1>The Bible says God, in his mercy in instead of

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<v Speaker 1>giving us justice that we deserved, he gave mercy to

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<v Speaker 1>his people, coming to earth in the person of the

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<v Speaker 1>son of Jesus, going to the cross, becoming a replacement,

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<v Speaker 1>a substitute, taking the sins of the world onto his

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<v Speaker 1>own body on the cross, and then for those that

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<v Speaker 1>looked to him and his resurrection as God raised him

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<v Speaker 1>from the dead, defeating death, becoming the ultimate sacrifice for sin.

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<v Speaker 1>As people looked to him, turned from their old ways

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<v Speaker 1>and looked to him and trust the forgiveness of their sins.

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<v Speaker 1>Through that sacrifice to them. He says, You'll be with

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<v Speaker 1>me in eternity. That's the way we get to God.

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<v Speaker 1>It is not by our own good works. That's the

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<v Speaker 1>good news. That's the only seed you could plant. You

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<v Speaker 1>could say that story in a bunch of different ways,

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<v Speaker 1>but that is the only seed you could plant. So

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<v Speaker 1>and you don't have to plan it over and over

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<v Speaker 1>and over. Sometimes we think I got to tell him

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<v Speaker 1>the gospel again today, Not necessarily. If he hears it

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<v Speaker 1>and understands it, you could move on and just love him. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>just live a life that makes Christ look awesome, and

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<v Speaker 1>love him and forgive him and be gentle and practice

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<v Speaker 1>humility around them. And that's the only thing you could do.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, don't be naggy like you need to go to

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<v Speaker 2>church or are you know, live your life. A lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people they can see by how you live and

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes just by the way that you're living out your

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<v Speaker 2>life and your faith. It makes them want to know

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<v Speaker 2>more about that. Well, why does she have this light?

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<v Speaker 2>Why does she have this joy? So that's a way

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<v Speaker 2>that you could plant a seed. But you can also

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<v Speaker 2>just invite him, just keep inviting him to church, have

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<v Speaker 2>him to come to church with you just say I'd

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<v Speaker 2>love for you to join us. If he says no, fine,

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<v Speaker 2>but maybe one day he'll say yes. And just keep

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<v Speaker 2>praying for him.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah, let's get another question. Blaine says, Hey, Granger,

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<v Speaker 1>my wife and I are going through a divorce because

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<v Speaker 1>of past decisions I've made, including stealing, lying, manipulating, alcohol abuse,

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<v Speaker 1>financial infidelity. We have four kids, ages two to nine.

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<v Speaker 1>We've been separated for almost a year now, with a

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<v Speaker 1>divorce being on pause currently because she started a new

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<v Speaker 1>job and it's been stressful for her to deal with

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<v Speaker 1>it all. My main question is this. I was baptized

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<v Speaker 1>about nine months ago, and I've been involved in a

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<v Speaker 1>regeneration program at my church. Through this, I've learned more

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<v Speaker 1>and more about spiritual warfare. I do feel, due to

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<v Speaker 1>my lack of spiritual knowledge, that I was in a

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<v Speaker 1>very dark place in my life when I chose to steal,

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<v Speaker 1>chose to drink and hide it, chose to manipulate anyone

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<v Speaker 1>close to me to think I was a good man.

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<v Speaker 1>Now that I'm grown in my faith, it's hard for

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<v Speaker 1>me to understand divorce. When I talk about being in

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<v Speaker 1>a very dark place with my wife, it's labeled as

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<v Speaker 1>an excuse. It's hard to hear, but I would love

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<v Speaker 1>your thoughts. Thanks blame. Did you understand that last part? Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>explain it to me.

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<v Speaker 2>She was saying. He's saying, now that he realizes he

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<v Speaker 2>was in a dark place. I think it's coming across

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<v Speaker 2>as when he says that to her and he's realizing

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<v Speaker 2>all these things. She's she's making him feel like that's

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<v Speaker 2>just an excuse.

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<v Speaker 1>That makes sense. Yeah, I think you're right, and and

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<v Speaker 1>it's hard to blame her.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, when you're hurt and betrayed.

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<v Speaker 1>And this is another story we see a lot. It's like, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I've you know, I abused you in so many ways

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<v Speaker 1>by stealing, lying, manipulating, alcohol, financial infidelity. I've done all

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<v Speaker 1>this stuff so much so that I've basically run you

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<v Speaker 1>out of the house and stressed you out beyond your wits.

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<v Speaker 1>But guess what, I've been baptized, and I'm in this

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<v Speaker 1>new program at church, and I'm a change. I'm changed, babe,

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<v Speaker 1>And now I have a bunch of knowledge about spiritual warfare.

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<v Speaker 1>And now I know that that wasn't me that was

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<v Speaker 1>doing all that stuff. That was the devil. And so

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<v Speaker 1>I'm changed now. And she's like, get out of here.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's been nine months. I mean I would I

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<v Speaker 2>would think nine months since his baptism and this program.

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<v Speaker 2>Nine months is a pretty long time to be able

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<v Speaker 2>to see fruit or evidence of a change like art

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<v Speaker 2>is he has he done any of those things in

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<v Speaker 2>the last nine months.

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<v Speaker 1>We also don't know if.

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<v Speaker 2>She right, and we don't know if she's a believer,

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<v Speaker 2>because praise the Lord if he is, if he is

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<v Speaker 2>in this new if you got.

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<v Speaker 1>Baptized, yeah, blad, I'm not minimizing. I'm just saying. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>saying from her perspective, she's like, get.

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<v Speaker 2>Out of here, right, She's like, I don't believe you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's the worldly thing is not believing in a

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<v Speaker 2>changed heart. But praise the Lord if your heart has

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<v Speaker 2>changed and you're working on it. And I also find

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<v Speaker 2>it interesting that the divorce is on pause. The word

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<v Speaker 2>has put it on pause for this time, maybe so

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<v Speaker 2>you guys could work it out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's that's a total grace that you don't deserve

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<v Speaker 1>blame that all of a sudden there's there's a you know,

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<v Speaker 1>a new wind has blown and it is everything's on pause.

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<v Speaker 1>So because this new.

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<v Speaker 2>Job you've got some time.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got you've got time, and and every second is

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<v Speaker 1>critical in this.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like Granger said, you can't obviously you probably you

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<v Speaker 2>can't blame her. You've lived with her, You've known what

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<v Speaker 2>you've done, and we are like, we don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>she's a believer. We are called to forgive. And I

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<v Speaker 2>believe that any marriage can be redeemed and restored no

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<v Speaker 2>matter what has happened, if both parties are repentant and

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<v Speaker 2>willing and ready to come together again, and both of

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<v Speaker 2>you chase after Christ. So I would use this time

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<v Speaker 2>pour into her as much as you can try to

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<v Speaker 2>make up for that lost time. Keep praying, pray together,

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<v Speaker 2>pray for her, serve her in ways that you hadn't before,

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<v Speaker 2>and hopefully she will be able to see fruit and

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<v Speaker 2>and hopefully come around and maybe try to give this

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<v Speaker 2>one more shot. Yeah, I mean, obviously the Lord is

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<v Speaker 2>placed it on hold for a reason. So start dating

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<v Speaker 2>each other again.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's say too that Blaine, this is where if we

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<v Speaker 1>were in a cap of a truck, I would start

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<v Speaker 1>asking some questions back to you. But one of the

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<v Speaker 1>questions is you say I was baptized nine months ago.

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<v Speaker 1>What I would prefer you to say, is I become

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<v Speaker 1>a Christian nine months ago and was baptized. I would

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<v Speaker 1>prefer it worded like that, like the Lord saved me

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<v Speaker 1>nine months ago. After all this, then through his word,

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<v Speaker 1>the Lord radically saved me, and then I was baptized

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<v Speaker 1>as a response to the saving. And what I hope

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not hearing here or reading from this email, is

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<v Speaker 1>that you were in a really dark place and everything

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<v Speaker 1>was falling apart, including your marriage, and you're like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I may able to just go to the church and

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<v Speaker 1>get baptized, Like maybe that'll help me, Because the answer

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<v Speaker 1>is it won't. You. Being dunked in some water absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>means nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, a lot of people do that in a very

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<v Speaker 2>part season.

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<v Speaker 1>It means nothing unless the Lord has saved you and

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<v Speaker 1>given you a new heart and radically turned your life

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<v Speaker 1>around back towards him. And you say, I'm all in Jesus.

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<v Speaker 1>What do I do in your first work and obedience

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<v Speaker 1>to Him is to get baptized and to testify in

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<v Speaker 1>front of the church that you're now a new creation.

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<v Speaker 1>And everyone sees you go in the water and comes

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<v Speaker 1>back up, and then you walk as a new creation

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<v Speaker 1>in the good works that have been that have been

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<v Speaker 1>planned for you by Him. And so that's what I

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<v Speaker 1>hope is part of this regeneration program at your church.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know necessarily what that means, but just walking

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<v Speaker 1>with the members of your church, serving in your church,

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<v Speaker 1>being held accountable by the other members of your church

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<v Speaker 1>as you hold them accountable as well as Christians. And

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<v Speaker 1>instead of saying, though I've learned more and more about

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<v Speaker 1>spiritual warfare, great, but what I want you to say

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<v Speaker 1>is I've learned more and more about who God. And

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<v Speaker 1>so those are the two little nuances that maybe you

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<v Speaker 1>meant in your email, but maybe you didn't. But there's

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<v Speaker 1>a huge difference between the two things.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and this is and like I said, we don't

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<v Speaker 2>know what's happened in the last nine months, if you have,

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<v Speaker 2>if she has seen fruit, or if she hasn't. And

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<v Speaker 2>the only thing that might make this work is a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit of time and patience with her, if that's

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<v Speaker 2>something that you know, broken relationships take time to build

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<v Speaker 2>trust back. So I think over time she will see

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<v Speaker 2>hopefully see fruit in your life if your heart has

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<v Speaker 2>truly been converted and.

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<v Speaker 1>The Lord has used these dark moments of separation and

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<v Speaker 1>divorce and loss and grief. The Lord uses those moments

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<v Speaker 1>where people well are desperate to fix it, and then

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<v Speaker 1>in the fixing, the Lord saves them. But if you

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<v Speaker 1>heard the way I described, it's it's a it, it's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of backwards. Because what you need, Blaine, and what

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<v Speaker 1>you probably maybe you don't even think this, maybe you

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<v Speaker 1>don't even know this, but what you need is to

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<v Speaker 1>be forgiven of your sins by Jesus. And the only

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<v Speaker 1>way you are forgiven is by turning from your old

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<v Speaker 1>life and turning to Him and trusting his forgiveness that

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<v Speaker 1>he's provided through his work on the Cross. And to

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<v Speaker 1>need forgiveness, you need to know what's at stake. If

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<v Speaker 1>you don't have it, you need to know you're standing

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<v Speaker 1>before God is bad. You're standing for a judge and

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<v Speaker 1>he says guilty. And because he is the ultimate judge,

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<v Speaker 1>the higher the judge, the bigger the judge, the more

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<v Speaker 1>severe the punishment. So if you're standing in front of

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<v Speaker 1>your local county courthouse, that's one thing. If you're standing

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<v Speaker 1>in front of your state courthouse, that's another thing. If

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<v Speaker 1>you're standing in front of the Supreme Court, that gets bigger.

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<v Speaker 1>As the court gets bigger, and you're in this story

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<v Speaker 1>we're talking about. You're standing in front of the highest court.

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<v Speaker 1>You're standing in front of the sovereign God, and he

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<v Speaker 1>looks at you and says guilty. And if you recognize

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<v Speaker 1>the severity of that charge against you, then the more

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<v Speaker 1>you'll need and desire and crave forgiveness that Jesus provides.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's my point. I say all that because it sounds

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<v Speaker 1>like you're doing this the baptism thing, the program at church,

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<v Speaker 1>the learning about spiritual war is to get your wife back,

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<v Speaker 1>and your wife is the least of your worries as

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<v Speaker 1>a sinner needing forgiveness. Once again, I started this whole

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<v Speaker 1>conversation by saying, the Lord uses that uses a I'll

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<v Speaker 1>call it a sinful desire of wanting your idol back.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want my wife back, It's all I want.

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<v Speaker 1>What should I do to get my wife back? Get baptized,

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<v Speaker 1>learn the Bible, pray well, whatever, just give me my

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<v Speaker 1>idol back and the idols my wife. You need forgiveness.

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<v Speaker 1>And when you find forgiveness in Jesus, the forgiveness that

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<v Speaker 1>he has provided through giving himself up on the cross

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<v Speaker 1>with his own blood when you realize what he's done

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<v Speaker 1>and the severity of the crime. Here, the severity of

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<v Speaker 1>the crime is easy to understand when you know that

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<v Speaker 1>God gave his only son to pay for it. That's

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<v Speaker 1>a pretty high price. That is the highest price. And

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<v Speaker 1>so when you understand the severity of it, you go,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't need my idol. I don't. The wife is

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<v Speaker 1>the least of my concerns. But if I have Jesus

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<v Speaker 1>and I love him, now I could love my wife

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<v Speaker 1>more than I ever did before. And now she's not

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<v Speaker 1>an idol. She's a gift from the Lord, and the

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<v Speaker 1>Lord has given me this gift in her, and now

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<v Speaker 1>I want to serve her and love her and provide

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<v Speaker 1>for her and care for her, and not raise my

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<v Speaker 1>voice and anger against her or abuse her with my words,

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<v Speaker 1>with alcohol or financial whatever. So that's how this is

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<v Speaker 1>how the river flows. It flows that direction, and so

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<v Speaker 1>blame if you hear anything from this whole conversation. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>ever get baptized to get the girl back. Anybody listening,

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<v Speaker 1>don't get baptized, don't go to church, don't pray. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>do that with the means of getting getting your wife

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<v Speaker 1>back or the girl back. Don't let that be the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the means. Let the Lord let seeking forgiveness,

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<v Speaker 1>seeking his grace and mercy be the end, and then

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<v Speaker 1>through seeking that, everything else will fall into place. Just

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<v Speaker 1>a reminder if you want to get a hold of

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<v Speaker 1>me in any way or have me make you a

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<v Speaker 1>video message from my phone, you could do that by

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<v Speaker 1>going to cameo dot com slash granger Smith. You enter

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<v Speaker 1>birthday to my brother, he's a fan of your music.

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<v Speaker 1>Whatever that might be, happy anniversary, maybe just a word

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<v Speaker 1>of encouragement, especially for people this time of year that

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<v Speaker 1>are hard to buy for you don't know what to

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<v Speaker 1>get them, or it's last minute. Go to cameo dot

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<v Speaker 1>com slash granger Smith and I'll make you a video

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<v Speaker 1>message however you want me to say it.

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<v Speaker 2>We're back.

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<v Speaker 1>We're back. So if you want to email me podcast

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<v Speaker 1>at grangersmith dot com and put your question and you

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<v Speaker 1>could ask anything you want. I don't even care ask

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<v Speaker 1>anything you want. I wish I had some what's it

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<v Speaker 1>called klumine? Calumine?

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<v Speaker 2>I put some on your side for your face.

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<v Speaker 1>I need some from my neck, my neck. It is yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll finish this podcast and now I'll give you. I

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<v Speaker 1>will gladly give you this hoodie to wash. Okay, you

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<v Speaker 1>remember the last time you washed it?

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<v Speaker 2>No, I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Because you usually don't put it in the dirty clothes.

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<v Speaker 1>Baby.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just you just lay it somewhere.

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<v Speaker 1>So I could pick it up the next time I

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<v Speaker 1>need it.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I just need to grab it and wash it.

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<v Speaker 1>This might be a lesson for me and for everyone.

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<v Speaker 1>Wash your clothes. Wash your clothes kids. Adam, hopefully you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have that same question. Adam says, Hey, gring your

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<v Speaker 1>my name is Adam and I'm a huge fan. I've

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<v Speaker 1>been following your podcast since you first started it. I

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<v Speaker 1>tune in every Monday for it. I also watch your

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<v Speaker 1>teachings on YouTube. Man, Adam, thank you. You might be

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<v Speaker 1>the only one that tunes in every Monday. Appreciate you. Man,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm making this podcast just for you, he says. My

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<v Speaker 1>question that I bring to you is how do I,

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<v Speaker 1>as a twenty three year old, go about meeting someone.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm heavily introverted and it takes me a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>to open up to new people, so it's tough for me.

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<v Speaker 1>Whenever I go to a bar or any social gathering

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<v Speaker 1>to try and talk to new people. I've always struggled

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<v Speaker 1>with it, and I try to start up a conversation

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<v Speaker 1>with new people that try to break this habit. Is

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<v Speaker 1>there anywhere in the Bible that may teach or help

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<v Speaker 1>me see this differently? I would love to hear your

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts or advice on how I could break this.

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<v Speaker 2>Adam, I feel like we answered a question like that

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<v Speaker 2>on the last one that I was with with maybe

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<v Speaker 2>find an introverted guy looking to find I think he

0:23:57.480 --> 0:23:59.160
<v Speaker 2>was looking to find a girl, though, So.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to dive in like we're cab of a

0:24:03.480 --> 0:24:06.800
<v Speaker 1>truck here. And first of all, Man, thank you for

0:24:06.840 --> 0:24:10.719
<v Speaker 1>the encouragement of watching the podcast. I love that youtune

0:24:10.720 --> 0:24:15.040
<v Speaker 1>in every Monday. That's really encouraging for me. I honestly

0:24:15.160 --> 0:24:20.040
<v Speaker 1>sometimes wonder if anyone's listening or watching or just kind

0:24:20.040 --> 0:24:24.159
<v Speaker 1>of scanning the scan in the YouTube. Okay, yeah, maybe

0:24:25.680 --> 0:24:29.200
<v Speaker 1>twenty three years old, super young. I'm not worried about

0:24:29.240 --> 0:24:32.159
<v Speaker 1>you running out of time anytime soon. A lot of

0:24:32.160 --> 0:24:35.720
<v Speaker 1>people will say things like that, like I know I'm

0:24:36.040 --> 0:24:38.200
<v Speaker 1>getting up there in age, or you're not. You got

0:24:38.200 --> 0:24:43.240
<v Speaker 1>a long time heavily introverted. Great, that's what makes the

0:24:43.280 --> 0:24:48.879
<v Speaker 1>world go round. There's nothing that I would ever tell

0:24:48.920 --> 0:24:52.080
<v Speaker 1>you that say you shouldn't be introverted, or in order

0:24:52.119 --> 0:24:54.680
<v Speaker 1>to meet someone you need to be extroverted. No one's

0:24:54.680 --> 0:24:56.600
<v Speaker 1>ever going to tell you that or that would be wrong.

0:24:57.640 --> 0:25:04.399
<v Speaker 1>That's your personality. You say, it's tough to go to

0:25:04.440 --> 0:25:06.320
<v Speaker 1>a bar or social gathering and try to talk to

0:25:06.400 --> 0:25:09.280
<v Speaker 1>new people, so you try to break the habit by

0:25:09.280 --> 0:25:12.760
<v Speaker 1>striking up conversations with new people. I don't know, I mean,

0:25:12.960 --> 0:25:17.680
<v Speaker 1>maybe that's healthy, the practice opening up to new people. Yeah.

0:25:17.760 --> 0:25:22.600
<v Speaker 2>I mean, I feel like he's twenty three. So when

0:25:22.800 --> 0:25:27.360
<v Speaker 2>was COVID five years ago? Yeah, you know, I feel

0:25:27.400 --> 0:25:31.120
<v Speaker 2>like there has been a disservice to the kids, teenagers,

0:25:31.240 --> 0:25:34.240
<v Speaker 2>young adults in that area where everybody just secluded themselves

0:25:34.280 --> 0:25:38.080
<v Speaker 2>and locked themselves up and everything became online talking. And

0:25:38.119 --> 0:25:40.119
<v Speaker 2>I know we've dealt with social media for a lot,

0:25:40.160 --> 0:25:42.280
<v Speaker 2>way longer than that, but I feel like something about

0:25:42.280 --> 0:25:44.040
<v Speaker 2>this age range, there's a lot of people that seem

0:25:44.080 --> 0:25:45.960
<v Speaker 2>to be very introverted and find it hard to talk

0:25:46.000 --> 0:25:49.400
<v Speaker 2>to people. Yeah, and that's just the world we live

0:25:49.400 --> 0:25:51.560
<v Speaker 2>in now. I think everybody is so much on their

0:25:51.600 --> 0:25:53.520
<v Speaker 2>screen and not going out and meeting new people. So

0:25:53.560 --> 0:25:55.359
<v Speaker 2>it makes it weird whenever we have to actually go

0:25:55.440 --> 0:25:57.879
<v Speaker 2>out and have a conversation with people. I mean, I

0:25:57.880 --> 0:25:59.760
<v Speaker 2>find out when I go out even to restaurants and

0:26:00.359 --> 0:26:01.840
<v Speaker 2>people don't even look.

0:26:01.680 --> 0:26:02.720
<v Speaker 1>At you or talk to you.

0:26:03.480 --> 0:26:05.159
<v Speaker 2>So maybe that's not the case for him, but I

0:26:05.200 --> 0:26:07.120
<v Speaker 2>feel like that entranged. I hear a lot of people

0:26:07.200 --> 0:26:10.720
<v Speaker 2>that struggle with that, being introverted, being led through that

0:26:11.600 --> 0:26:13.840
<v Speaker 2>COVID season of being stuck by themselves.

0:26:14.000 --> 0:26:15.959
<v Speaker 1>So his question is is there anywhere in the Bible

0:26:16.040 --> 0:26:19.320
<v Speaker 1>that may help or teach a way to see this differently?

0:26:19.359 --> 0:26:21.440
<v Speaker 1>He says, that's an interesting question.

0:26:21.440 --> 0:26:22.320
<v Speaker 2>That's an interesting question.

0:26:25.480 --> 0:26:28.000
<v Speaker 1>Well, first of all, the short answers know. The short

0:26:28.040 --> 0:26:31.640
<v Speaker 1>answers know the Bible doesn't address dating. Dating is really

0:26:31.640 --> 0:26:35.280
<v Speaker 1>a new issue, and it's we have invented this in

0:26:36.480 --> 0:26:41.720
<v Speaker 1>modern history. We don't know anything about the for instance,

0:26:41.760 --> 0:26:46.200
<v Speaker 1>the Apostles, we don't know anything about their wives. Specifically Peter,

0:26:47.600 --> 0:26:50.280
<v Speaker 1>he would be the one that we the only one

0:26:50.359 --> 0:26:53.760
<v Speaker 1>maybe that we actually have a word from, but we

0:26:53.760 --> 0:26:56.439
<v Speaker 1>don't know anything about her or how they met. But

0:26:56.560 --> 0:27:03.639
<v Speaker 1>certainly in first century Judaism it was arranged, or it wasn't.

0:27:04.160 --> 0:27:06.320
<v Speaker 1>It wasn't at all in the context of we think

0:27:06.480 --> 0:27:10.040
<v Speaker 1>courting is today. In the fact that's I would have

0:27:10.080 --> 0:27:11.800
<v Speaker 1>to I would have to dive in. And I've never

0:27:11.840 --> 0:27:17.000
<v Speaker 1>really studied that history of courting, but I'm assuming it's

0:27:17.400 --> 0:27:23.639
<v Speaker 1>two hundred years maybe, and it's at most maybe a

0:27:23.640 --> 0:27:26.399
<v Speaker 1>little more, maybe three hundred years since people actually courted

0:27:26.480 --> 0:27:31.080
<v Speaker 1>each other. But typically it would be just someone's gonna,

0:27:32.280 --> 0:27:34.199
<v Speaker 1>for lack of a better term, someone's gonna set you

0:27:34.320 --> 0:27:40.280
<v Speaker 1>up or arrange it. And I mean, certainly in ancient times,

0:27:40.680 --> 0:27:44.840
<v Speaker 1>this is the only way you were arranged by a family. I,

0:27:44.920 --> 0:27:46.840
<v Speaker 1>as a father of a thirteen year old daughter, am

0:27:46.960 --> 0:27:51.560
<v Speaker 1>totally down for arranging. It's not gonna happen, but I

0:27:52.400 --> 0:27:55.520
<v Speaker 1>feel like that would be pretty awesome. Like me and

0:27:55.600 --> 0:27:57.520
<v Speaker 1>you we go and find like a really good family

0:27:57.560 --> 0:27:59.119
<v Speaker 1>that we already have a couple in mind. I already

0:27:59.160 --> 0:28:01.480
<v Speaker 1>have a couple in mind, and I'd be like, hey, okay,

0:28:02.600 --> 0:28:05.760
<v Speaker 1>and I would go present the dowry to the other family,

0:28:06.200 --> 0:28:10.680
<v Speaker 1>like I'll give you my daughter and thirty thousand dollars. God,

0:28:13.080 --> 0:28:15.120
<v Speaker 1>you know, some girls might need a little bit more

0:28:15.160 --> 0:28:17.159
<v Speaker 1>to because it's worth getting them on the house, I

0:28:17.200 --> 0:28:20.879
<v Speaker 1>would assume, but Adam all that to say, No, the Bible,

0:28:21.680 --> 0:28:27.719
<v Speaker 1>I'm kidding. The Bible doesn't speak about dating or getting

0:28:27.720 --> 0:28:29.760
<v Speaker 1>over being an introvert. So you could date.

0:28:29.880 --> 0:28:31.160
<v Speaker 2>But I will tell you what the Bible does speak

0:28:31.200 --> 0:28:33.800
<v Speaker 2>on is that God created us for community and created

0:28:33.880 --> 0:28:36.320
<v Speaker 2>us not to do things in isolation. Yes, And so

0:28:36.359 --> 0:28:39.080
<v Speaker 2>I would say, are you involved as a local member

0:28:39.160 --> 0:28:41.479
<v Speaker 2>of a church of a local church? I think so?

0:28:41.560 --> 0:28:43.360
<v Speaker 2>And I feel like I say that on every single podcast,

0:28:43.360 --> 0:28:45.640
<v Speaker 2>Every single question that we have about this is people

0:28:45.680 --> 0:28:47.120
<v Speaker 2>ask how do I meet people? How do I meet people?

0:28:47.160 --> 0:28:48.800
<v Speaker 2>How do I meet people? I feel weird go into bars?

0:28:49.320 --> 0:28:50.360
<v Speaker 2>Are you a member of a church?

0:28:50.960 --> 0:28:51.160
<v Speaker 1>You know?

0:28:51.520 --> 0:28:53.720
<v Speaker 2>I feel like so many times you can meet people

0:28:53.720 --> 0:28:57.200
<v Speaker 2>through your local church and meet people through families there

0:28:57.360 --> 0:28:59.360
<v Speaker 2>or youth events there. You know, you're twenty three, you

0:28:59.400 --> 0:29:01.880
<v Speaker 2>might be a little old for the youth, but still

0:29:01.920 --> 0:29:04.200
<v Speaker 2>I feel like that is such a special way to

0:29:04.560 --> 0:29:05.320
<v Speaker 2>meet new people.

0:29:06.760 --> 0:29:10.320
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. No, I totally. I mean, I totally agree. I

0:29:10.360 --> 0:29:15.760
<v Speaker 1>think getting involved in things that you love. I've said

0:29:15.760 --> 0:29:18.360
<v Speaker 1>this so many times over eight years of this podcast.

0:29:18.360 --> 0:29:21.560
<v Speaker 1>Now one of my go to things to say to

0:29:21.640 --> 0:29:26.000
<v Speaker 1>this kind of question is find something you love, a hobby,

0:29:26.880 --> 0:29:33.880
<v Speaker 1>and go do that, and inevitably you'll look around you

0:29:34.600 --> 0:29:38.080
<v Speaker 1>and there'll be someone that shares that common interest. Maybe

0:29:38.080 --> 0:29:41.160
<v Speaker 1>you're really into bowling, for instance, like I love bowling.

0:29:41.400 --> 0:29:45.240
<v Speaker 1>I go to bowling tournaments, go join a league and

0:29:45.720 --> 0:29:48.040
<v Speaker 1>talk to the people, and you might not find a

0:29:48.080 --> 0:29:50.520
<v Speaker 1>girl that's bowling with you. But maybe one of the

0:29:50.560 --> 0:29:54.120
<v Speaker 1>guys on your team has a sister. And one day

0:29:54.600 --> 0:29:57.520
<v Speaker 1>she's twenty one years old and she's visiting from the

0:29:57.560 --> 0:29:59.960
<v Speaker 1>next town over and she comes to visit her brother

0:30:00.440 --> 0:30:03.120
<v Speaker 1>and you see her and you go wow. And then

0:30:03.240 --> 0:30:06.480
<v Speaker 1>here's where the introvert thing comes in. You think, I

0:30:06.560 --> 0:30:10.360
<v Speaker 1>am so introverted. I'm scared to say something. So you

0:30:10.400 --> 0:30:13.680
<v Speaker 1>go to the brother and you say, man, you know me,

0:30:15.000 --> 0:30:16.680
<v Speaker 1>you like me, right, And the guy's like, yeah, I

0:30:16.720 --> 0:30:20.680
<v Speaker 1>like you. You're my buddy. I wonder if you would

0:30:20.680 --> 0:30:25.200
<v Speaker 1>ever introduce me to your sister. And maybe that's a

0:30:25.200 --> 0:30:27.480
<v Speaker 1>bad example because brothers. I've never had a sister, so

0:30:27.520 --> 0:30:30.160
<v Speaker 1>I don't know how that goes. But that's just an

0:30:30.160 --> 0:30:33.680
<v Speaker 1>example of you don't necessarily need to be extroverted. You

0:30:33.720 --> 0:30:37.080
<v Speaker 1>just need to be in community. Yeah, and community, and

0:30:37.200 --> 0:30:40.640
<v Speaker 1>the community usually starts with hopefully a church. That's what

0:30:40.680 --> 0:30:43.200
<v Speaker 1>Amber and I would encourage. So let's say that that's

0:30:43.200 --> 0:30:45.840
<v Speaker 1>already in place. So you've got the church going on,

0:30:46.120 --> 0:30:49.080
<v Speaker 1>and then you're also in the chess club, or you're

0:30:49.080 --> 0:30:52.280
<v Speaker 1>in the bowling league, or you're in the skeet shooting club,

0:30:52.680 --> 0:30:57.280
<v Speaker 1>or you're you like to watch parades? Are you go

0:30:57.400 --> 0:31:03.080
<v Speaker 1>to circuses? Are you watch drag racing? I mean like anything,

0:31:03.320 --> 0:31:09.800
<v Speaker 1>literally anything you like poodle dog races? I don't know anything.

0:31:10.320 --> 0:31:12.960
<v Speaker 2>There's some favorite hobbies you're not telling me about.

0:31:13.080 --> 0:31:15.080
<v Speaker 1>All you have to do is think what do I

0:31:15.160 --> 0:31:18.200
<v Speaker 1>love to do? What do I like to do? You

0:31:18.320 --> 0:31:21.160
<v Speaker 1>like to play Mario Brothers. There's a league probably for that.

0:31:21.240 --> 0:31:25.760
<v Speaker 1>But get involved in the community, and then hopefully that

0:31:25.800 --> 0:31:28.440
<v Speaker 1>involves a church, and hopefully you're also sharing the gospel

0:31:28.480 --> 0:31:30.680
<v Speaker 1>why you're in community. And then while you're doing all this,

0:31:30.720 --> 0:31:33.000
<v Speaker 1>and you're chasing after Jesus and you look over to

0:31:33.080 --> 0:31:35.920
<v Speaker 1>your left and there is someone chasing after him at

0:31:35.920 --> 0:31:37.840
<v Speaker 1>the same rate you are, and you say, hey, you

0:31:37.920 --> 0:31:40.640
<v Speaker 1>and grab some coffee and she says, yes, I do,

0:31:41.200 --> 0:31:45.640
<v Speaker 1>and there's your wife. Yeah, So so take that, Adam.

0:31:47.000 --> 0:31:48.120
<v Speaker 2>I was just going to add on the end there.

0:31:48.120 --> 0:31:50.640
<v Speaker 2>If you do get yourself involved in in a local body,

0:31:51.160 --> 0:31:53.960
<v Speaker 2>even if you're introverted, if it's a healthy church, they're

0:31:54.000 --> 0:31:55.880
<v Speaker 2>going to come to you and start talking to you.

0:31:56.160 --> 0:31:57.520
<v Speaker 2>Like you might not even have to come out of

0:31:57.520 --> 0:31:59.600
<v Speaker 2>your shell per se right at the beginning, but those

0:31:59.640 --> 0:32:01.680
<v Speaker 2>people and that church will come to you and say

0:32:01.680 --> 0:32:04.120
<v Speaker 2>hey and welcome you in and start about to strike

0:32:04.200 --> 0:32:04.840
<v Speaker 2>up a conversation.

0:32:05.400 --> 0:32:08.239
<v Speaker 1>Use your family, yeah, you use your mom and your

0:32:08.320 --> 0:32:10.560
<v Speaker 1>dad and your siblings, and say, hey, if you know

0:32:10.600 --> 0:32:14.400
<v Speaker 1>of anybody, if you know anybody that's singled around my age,

0:32:15.040 --> 0:32:17.520
<v Speaker 1>I would love to go on a date. And I

0:32:17.560 --> 0:32:20.360
<v Speaker 1>have no Angela is one that that actually happened to.

0:32:20.600 --> 0:32:23.000
<v Speaker 1>So are there are people in our friend group that

0:32:24.560 --> 0:32:27.560
<v Speaker 1>two parents met at the country club and said, I

0:32:27.640 --> 0:32:29.480
<v Speaker 1>have a son that's this age, I have a daughter

0:32:29.520 --> 0:32:32.000
<v Speaker 1>that's this age. My son's single, my daughter's single. And

0:32:32.000 --> 0:32:34.240
<v Speaker 1>then they talk more and then they say we should

0:32:34.240 --> 0:32:39.800
<v Speaker 1>set them up. And that just kind of circumvents the

0:32:39.840 --> 0:32:42.720
<v Speaker 1>whole introverted thing. And you don't have to go to

0:32:42.760 --> 0:32:45.960
<v Speaker 1>a bar and like impress a girl. That just you

0:32:46.000 --> 0:32:49.719
<v Speaker 1>don't have to do that stuff. Next question comes from

0:32:49.760 --> 0:32:52.640
<v Speaker 1>anonymous steer granger, I'd like to remain anonymous. I'm thirteen

0:32:52.720 --> 0:32:55.560
<v Speaker 1>years old and I live in Utah. Let's hit the

0:32:55.560 --> 0:33:00.160
<v Speaker 1>dirt road, he says. So, I struggle with lust, and

0:33:00.280 --> 0:33:06.360
<v Speaker 1>when I when I lust, I feel my personality and

0:33:06.400 --> 0:33:10.360
<v Speaker 1>the way I handle things change. My question is how

0:33:10.360 --> 0:33:13.680
<v Speaker 1>do I not change when I stumble? Because I know

0:33:13.720 --> 0:33:16.480
<v Speaker 1>when I lust and when I fail, my slate is

0:33:16.480 --> 0:33:19.800
<v Speaker 1>wiped clean by Jesus on the Cross. But there's this

0:33:19.840 --> 0:33:24.320
<v Speaker 1>girl I really like who when I hang out with her,

0:33:24.680 --> 0:33:27.920
<v Speaker 1>it's the opposite, and I feel disgusted by my lust.

0:33:28.880 --> 0:33:30.520
<v Speaker 1>Do you have any tips or anything for me to

0:33:30.560 --> 0:33:33.040
<v Speaker 1>turn away from the sin? I love your music and

0:33:33.040 --> 0:33:35.400
<v Speaker 1>I love your podcast. Thanks for reading and considering my question.

0:33:36.800 --> 0:33:45.160
<v Speaker 1>What a sweet kid, and scary because he's thirteen. Yeah, Heyboddy,

0:33:46.000 --> 0:33:49.360
<v Speaker 1>I've once been thirteen so many I'm gonna boldly step

0:33:49.400 --> 0:33:52.800
<v Speaker 1>into this situation here, and I'm gonna try it first.

0:33:52.800 --> 0:33:56.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm let's try to understand what he's asking. He says,

0:33:56.200 --> 0:33:58.640
<v Speaker 1>I struggle with lust, and when I lust, I feel

0:33:58.640 --> 0:34:00.880
<v Speaker 1>like my personality and the way I handle things change. Okay,

0:34:01.120 --> 0:34:04.320
<v Speaker 1>let's just take that sentence alone. I struggle with lust,

0:34:04.600 --> 0:34:06.720
<v Speaker 1>and when I lust, my personality and the way I

0:34:06.720 --> 0:34:12.879
<v Speaker 1>handle things change. That is that is the thirteen year

0:34:12.880 --> 0:34:13.359
<v Speaker 1>old talking.

0:34:13.560 --> 0:34:15.719
<v Speaker 2>That's speaking lusting. I mean we obviously we don't know.

0:34:15.800 --> 0:34:17.440
<v Speaker 2>Is this lust in his mind or is he acting

0:34:17.480 --> 0:34:18.160
<v Speaker 2>on this lust?

0:34:18.719 --> 0:34:20.719
<v Speaker 1>He doesn't say, don't know. I don't think so. I

0:34:20.719 --> 0:34:23.840
<v Speaker 1>think this is something that struggles with mentally. But what's

0:34:23.880 --> 0:34:28.080
<v Speaker 1>happening is the the animal in him? Yeah? Is that's

0:34:28.080 --> 0:34:32.360
<v Speaker 1>what he's because he can't explain why his personality changes.

0:34:33.000 --> 0:34:35.839
<v Speaker 1>And we look, let's let's be as crude as we can.

0:34:36.239 --> 0:34:40.040
<v Speaker 1>Let's say about dogs. When a dog goes in heat,

0:34:40.480 --> 0:34:44.880
<v Speaker 1>they change their personality and the way they handle things change. Like,

0:34:44.920 --> 0:34:49.440
<v Speaker 1>that's what he's saying. I mom ass cows, right, So

0:34:50.400 --> 0:34:53.680
<v Speaker 1>when you separate the bull and the cows and one

0:34:53.719 --> 0:34:56.920
<v Speaker 1>of those cows goes in heat, that bull will jump

0:34:57.280 --> 0:35:01.440
<v Speaker 1>a barbed wire fence. Yeah, I've never seen it. Personally,

0:35:01.520 --> 0:35:03.560
<v Speaker 1>I know they'll break the fence. I've never seen him

0:35:03.600 --> 0:35:06.560
<v Speaker 1>jump it, but I have seen him in the pasture

0:35:06.560 --> 0:35:09.040
<v Speaker 1>with him Yeah, like, how did he get here? He

0:35:09.120 --> 0:35:12.960
<v Speaker 1>jumped from away? His personality and the way he handles things,

0:35:13.760 --> 0:35:16.040
<v Speaker 1>The way he handles things. The bull on a normal

0:35:16.120 --> 0:35:18.719
<v Speaker 1>day is eat the grass, and hang out and go

0:35:18.760 --> 0:35:21.960
<v Speaker 1>get a drink of water. But when he lust, because

0:35:22.000 --> 0:35:26.320
<v Speaker 1>of the smell of the heat of the cow, his things,

0:35:26.440 --> 0:35:28.680
<v Speaker 1>the way he handles things around the fence change and

0:35:28.719 --> 0:35:30.719
<v Speaker 1>he will do anything he can to break it, to

0:35:30.760 --> 0:35:35.120
<v Speaker 1>jump it. So that's like physically, that's that's what's happening

0:35:35.120 --> 0:35:37.239
<v Speaker 1>to you. You know, we are not cows and we

0:35:37.280 --> 0:35:42.160
<v Speaker 1>are not dogs. Were humans are different, and we're different

0:35:42.160 --> 0:35:45.759
<v Speaker 1>in that we still had that animal being. We're we're

0:35:45.800 --> 0:35:50.319
<v Speaker 1>from the earth were we have We're a creation. We're

0:35:50.320 --> 0:35:55.200
<v Speaker 1>not a creator. We are we are creatures. And because

0:35:55.239 --> 0:36:00.520
<v Speaker 1>we're creaturely, we have attributes of dogs and cows. And

0:36:00.560 --> 0:36:06.640
<v Speaker 1>so the Bible says, the Bible has laid out God

0:36:06.680 --> 0:36:10.160
<v Speaker 1>has laid out his word in a way that this

0:36:11.000 --> 0:36:14.359
<v Speaker 1>creaturely lust that we have, he has a way that

0:36:14.400 --> 0:36:17.640
<v Speaker 1>he directs it, and that is towards marriage, so that

0:36:17.920 --> 0:36:25.080
<v Speaker 1>when you're in marriage, then all of these creaturely desires

0:36:25.160 --> 0:36:29.440
<v Speaker 1>are satisfied in a healthy way that doesn't hurt anything.

0:36:30.320 --> 0:36:33.399
<v Speaker 1>And if you don't, if you don't follow that, then

0:36:33.440 --> 0:36:37.279
<v Speaker 1>you'll find yourself in a really bad place. And most

0:36:37.280 --> 0:36:39.319
<v Speaker 1>of these emails that we've read when it comes to

0:36:39.360 --> 0:36:43.560
<v Speaker 1>separation or divorce, or you would say, oh, yeah, there

0:36:43.560 --> 0:36:47.319
<v Speaker 1>it is, and you just cannot make an argument at

0:36:47.320 --> 0:36:53.360
<v Speaker 1>all that lusting after everyone and chasing your creaturely desire

0:36:53.719 --> 0:36:55.600
<v Speaker 1>and following it down every rabbit hole that it goes

0:36:55.680 --> 0:37:00.719
<v Speaker 1>to leads to a happy life. It always leads to depression, sadness,

0:37:00.840 --> 0:37:05.919
<v Speaker 1>and tortured souls. So the god God says, here's here's

0:37:05.960 --> 0:37:09.560
<v Speaker 1>my law. Do this. So now let's tap back into

0:37:09.560 --> 0:37:10.920
<v Speaker 1>the question here with anonymous.

0:37:11.160 --> 0:37:13.360
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it doesn't mean it's not hard like the Lord

0:37:13.400 --> 0:37:16.200
<v Speaker 2>has put that in us, as Granger said, though for

0:37:16.440 --> 0:37:19.960
<v Speaker 2>our husband or our wife. So those are temptations that

0:37:19.960 --> 0:37:22.080
<v Speaker 2>we will fight. One of the things that I that

0:37:22.440 --> 0:37:24.440
<v Speaker 2>I like from this question is that he's seeing it

0:37:24.520 --> 0:37:27.160
<v Speaker 2>and he says he's disgusted by it. So he said

0:37:27.160 --> 0:37:29.520
<v Speaker 2>something earlier about I know when I lust, Jesus forgives

0:37:29.560 --> 0:37:33.360
<v Speaker 2>me and I'm wiped clean. Yeah, if you believe, you know,

0:37:33.360 --> 0:37:35.320
<v Speaker 2>if you're a believer, you know, it's not like you

0:37:35.360 --> 0:37:37.160
<v Speaker 2>can just lust and do all this stuff and Jesus

0:37:37.239 --> 0:37:38.200
<v Speaker 2>automatically forgives you.

0:37:38.280 --> 0:37:40.120
<v Speaker 1>Like that's not Yeah that I was going to go

0:37:40.120 --> 0:37:42.160
<v Speaker 1>there too. Okay, it's not automatic.

0:37:41.680 --> 0:37:44.239
<v Speaker 2>It's not automatic, but the fact that you are disgusted

0:37:44.239 --> 0:37:46.719
<v Speaker 2>by it, which that's that's we are at war with

0:37:46.760 --> 0:37:49.680
<v Speaker 2>our flesh. When we are converted and we believe and

0:37:49.719 --> 0:37:52.200
<v Speaker 2>we want to follow the Lord, our sin does grieve us.

0:37:52.280 --> 0:37:53.920
<v Speaker 2>So that's a good thing that I'm seeing from this

0:37:53.960 --> 0:37:54.879
<v Speaker 2>thirteen year old boy.

0:37:55.040 --> 0:37:57.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm at war with my flesh right now.

0:37:57.239 --> 0:38:01.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah, yeah, we hate scratch. He's just a war

0:38:01.520 --> 0:38:03.960
<v Speaker 2>with his flush, but like we hate our sin. When

0:38:03.960 --> 0:38:05.640
<v Speaker 2>the Lord has changed us, we hate our sin. So

0:38:05.680 --> 0:38:08.000
<v Speaker 2>that's a good thing that you're warring with this. So

0:38:08.040 --> 0:38:09.799
<v Speaker 2>he says, what does he say? Is there anything I

0:38:09.840 --> 0:38:11.239
<v Speaker 2>can do to turn away from this sin?

0:38:11.320 --> 0:38:13.799
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? So the question, you know, it starts off very

0:38:13.920 --> 0:38:18.880
<v Speaker 1>very specific to anonymous this guy and his specific situation,

0:38:19.560 --> 0:38:23.960
<v Speaker 1>but really the question is the most general, but it's

0:38:23.960 --> 0:38:29.080
<v Speaker 1>still very good question, and it is this, do you

0:38:29.520 --> 0:38:31.839
<v Speaker 1>have any tips or anything for me to turn away

0:38:31.840 --> 0:38:35.719
<v Speaker 1>from this sin? And so we said this earlier in

0:38:35.719 --> 0:38:38.799
<v Speaker 1>the podcast, but first we need to understand how serious

0:38:39.120 --> 0:38:44.080
<v Speaker 1>sin is and it's this serious? Is it? Is it

0:38:44.160 --> 0:38:46.160
<v Speaker 1>something that just we just throw away, we kind of forget,

0:38:46.280 --> 0:38:50.680
<v Speaker 1>like oh Jesus wipes the wipes the slate clean. Let's

0:38:50.680 --> 0:38:55.680
<v Speaker 1>think about that for a second. So he says, I

0:38:55.719 --> 0:38:58.760
<v Speaker 1>know when I lust and when I fail, my slate

0:38:58.800 --> 0:39:01.719
<v Speaker 1>has wiped clean by Jesus on the cross. Let's think

0:39:01.719 --> 0:39:05.359
<v Speaker 1>about that, if you could, if you could go back

0:39:05.360 --> 0:39:11.160
<v Speaker 1>in time right now, and you could moments after the

0:39:11.200 --> 0:39:16.239
<v Speaker 1>crucifixion at Calvary and talk to one person that was

0:39:16.320 --> 0:39:20.959
<v Speaker 1>witnessing this and say, did he just wipe this slate clean?

0:39:21.040 --> 0:39:23.120
<v Speaker 1>What do you think about that? It's pretty cool? Huh.

0:39:23.320 --> 0:39:28.560
<v Speaker 1>Everyone would be horrified at what they just saw. Crucifixion

0:39:29.000 --> 0:39:34.600
<v Speaker 1>is the worst way to die. Broadly speaking, it was

0:39:34.640 --> 0:39:38.880
<v Speaker 1>the let me say that only rephrase that crucifixion was

0:39:38.960 --> 0:39:43.960
<v Speaker 1>the best technique for the Romans to execute in the

0:39:44.000 --> 0:39:46.719
<v Speaker 1>most brutal way to get the quickest result. And the

0:39:46.760 --> 0:39:51.200
<v Speaker 1>result is let's make an example of this, of this

0:39:51.280 --> 0:39:55.240
<v Speaker 1>person that has broken the Roman law of some sort.

0:39:56.000 --> 0:40:03.320
<v Speaker 1>Let's make an example of humiliation. It is the ultimate humiliation, excruciating, painful,

0:40:03.640 --> 0:40:07.839
<v Speaker 1>horrific death torture device, and the Romans were good at it.

0:40:08.280 --> 0:40:14.680
<v Speaker 1>So to watch a man efphyxiated, losing his air because

0:40:14.680 --> 0:40:18.520
<v Speaker 1>he's trying to hold himself up on the bones of

0:40:18.600 --> 0:40:22.520
<v Speaker 1>his feet and trying to pull himself up on the

0:40:22.560 --> 0:40:26.800
<v Speaker 1>bones between his hands that giant, rusty nails have gone through,

0:40:27.120 --> 0:40:31.799
<v Speaker 1>and you in order to breathe, because your reaction to

0:40:31.840 --> 0:40:36.040
<v Speaker 1>that such pain is to collapse upon your own lung

0:40:36.960 --> 0:40:39.959
<v Speaker 1>your own lungs, and to take a breath of air,

0:40:40.160 --> 0:40:43.200
<v Speaker 1>you need to stand up on the nail that's going

0:40:43.239 --> 0:40:47.040
<v Speaker 1>between the bones of your feet and take a breath

0:40:47.280 --> 0:40:49.839
<v Speaker 1>and then sink back down. And so you do this

0:40:50.239 --> 0:40:55.520
<v Speaker 1>for hours. You push up on the bones and pull

0:40:55.680 --> 0:40:58.720
<v Speaker 1>with the hands that have nails right through the middle

0:40:58.760 --> 0:41:01.239
<v Speaker 1>of them into the wood, and you pull up and

0:41:01.600 --> 0:41:04.200
<v Speaker 1>just for a second you take a breath of air.

0:41:04.320 --> 0:41:07.399
<v Speaker 1>Then you sink back down. All the while people are

0:41:07.480 --> 0:41:14.040
<v Speaker 1>mocking you, throwing things at you. There are in many cases,

0:41:14.640 --> 0:41:17.200
<v Speaker 1>if you're taking too long because you're breathing too much,

0:41:17.480 --> 0:41:19.800
<v Speaker 1>and everyone's kind of getting bored, or it's getting dark

0:41:20.200 --> 0:41:23.120
<v Speaker 1>and that you can't have people hanging at night, so

0:41:23.360 --> 0:41:26.279
<v Speaker 1>they'll break your legs. So then it makes it even

0:41:26.400 --> 0:41:28.640
<v Speaker 1>harder for you. So now you have broken legs, and

0:41:28.719 --> 0:41:30.760
<v Speaker 1>not the case of Jesus, he didn't have a bone broken,

0:41:31.120 --> 0:41:34.480
<v Speaker 1>but in most cases of crucifixion, you're trying to stand

0:41:34.480 --> 0:41:38.799
<v Speaker 1>on broken legs that they broke with hammers on the

0:41:38.800 --> 0:41:44.240
<v Speaker 1>bloody nails, holding your butt. This is crucifixion. It's absolutely awful.

0:41:44.920 --> 0:41:48.520
<v Speaker 1>So I just want to say that we should think

0:41:49.680 --> 0:41:51.680
<v Speaker 1>really hard, and it's hard, but we need to think

0:41:51.760 --> 0:41:55.080
<v Speaker 1>really hard about saying, oh, Jesus wiped a sleeve clean

0:41:55.120 --> 0:41:59.440
<v Speaker 1>on the cross. Did hey, you know what that meant?

0:42:00.120 --> 0:42:01.879
<v Speaker 1>Do you know the pain that he must have gone

0:42:01.920 --> 0:42:06.279
<v Speaker 1>through for you? Do you know that for you he

0:42:06.400 --> 0:42:09.520
<v Speaker 1>wiped the slate clean on that cross. Yes, for you,

0:42:10.520 --> 0:42:12.520
<v Speaker 1>So don't go back to it for you to turn,

0:42:12.960 --> 0:42:15.239
<v Speaker 1>for you to turn, don't go back. He did that,

0:42:15.320 --> 0:42:18.799
<v Speaker 1>so you're forgiven. So don't go back to the sin.

0:42:20.120 --> 0:42:24.200
<v Speaker 1>Use that. Let that fuel you, and let it fuel

0:42:24.239 --> 0:42:26.120
<v Speaker 1>you to know that if he hadn't have done that,

0:42:26.840 --> 0:42:29.440
<v Speaker 1>you would never be free, you would never be forgiven,

0:42:29.640 --> 0:42:31.839
<v Speaker 1>you would never be seen right in the eyes of God,

0:42:32.080 --> 0:42:34.799
<v Speaker 1>you would never be righteous, and you would be condemned.

0:42:36.200 --> 0:42:39.279
<v Speaker 2>So often people say, you know they And this is

0:42:39.280 --> 0:42:42.000
<v Speaker 2>a short email, so it's hard to hear his heart

0:42:42.040 --> 0:42:43.680
<v Speaker 2>behind it, but so often people will say that, well,

0:42:43.719 --> 0:42:46.200
<v Speaker 2>I know Jesus. Jesus knows my heart. You know he

0:42:47.080 --> 0:42:48.279
<v Speaker 2>died from me on the cross. I know I know

0:42:48.320 --> 0:42:49.880
<v Speaker 2>I'm forgiven. He knows my heart well, our heart is

0:42:49.920 --> 0:42:52.520
<v Speaker 2>sinful and wicked. So I just you know, he said,

0:42:52.560 --> 0:42:54.080
<v Speaker 2>is there anything I can do? I would hit your

0:42:54.160 --> 0:42:57.360
<v Speaker 2>knees every time that you feel that lust, as you know,

0:42:57.400 --> 0:42:59.600
<v Speaker 2>as David, cry out to the Lord. You know, God,

0:42:59.640 --> 0:43:02.839
<v Speaker 2>create me a new heart, a clean heart. God, take this,

0:43:02.960 --> 0:43:05.880
<v Speaker 2>take this sin from me. I cannot do it alone.

0:43:06.200 --> 0:43:07.400
<v Speaker 2>I war with my flesh.

0:43:07.440 --> 0:43:07.840
<v Speaker 1>Help me.

0:43:07.920 --> 0:43:11.239
<v Speaker 2>Lord. Just continue to cry out to God, thinking of

0:43:11.320 --> 0:43:12.960
<v Speaker 2>him on the cross and what he has done for you,

0:43:13.040 --> 0:43:15.359
<v Speaker 2>for that sin that you are fighting, and beg him

0:43:15.400 --> 0:43:17.200
<v Speaker 2>to remove it from you. You will not be perfect.

0:43:17.239 --> 0:43:19.759
<v Speaker 2>We will struggle with this until we're called home. But

0:43:19.840 --> 0:43:23.240
<v Speaker 2>every single time you have that thought, go open your Bible,

0:43:23.320 --> 0:43:24.960
<v Speaker 2>hit your knees, and beg the Lord to take that

0:43:25.000 --> 0:43:25.600
<v Speaker 2>sin from you.

0:43:26.000 --> 0:43:31.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah, I'm in. And the other thing is to know,

0:43:32.200 --> 0:43:35.839
<v Speaker 1>first we know what the cost, the price that Jesus paid.

0:43:36.640 --> 0:43:38.680
<v Speaker 1>And the second thing is to know that how serious

0:43:38.760 --> 0:43:42.520
<v Speaker 1>Jesus was about sin itself, so serious that he says,

0:43:42.800 --> 0:43:46.560
<v Speaker 1>if your right eye causes you to sin, then pluck

0:43:46.600 --> 0:43:50.799
<v Speaker 1>it out. If your hand causes you to sin, chop

0:43:50.840 --> 0:43:53.840
<v Speaker 1>it off, because it's better to go into heaven without

0:43:53.840 --> 0:43:56.120
<v Speaker 1>a hand or without an eye, then to go into

0:43:56.120 --> 0:43:59.200
<v Speaker 1>hell with two hands and two eyes. That's how serious

0:43:59.360 --> 0:44:02.640
<v Speaker 1>that he. He's not minimizing this at all. So that's

0:44:02.680 --> 0:44:05.080
<v Speaker 1>how serious he is. And he's speaking directly to you

0:44:05.200 --> 0:44:07.960
<v Speaker 1>and to me and to everyone. He's saying, are you struggling,

0:44:08.960 --> 0:44:13.400
<v Speaker 1>gouge out your eye? You know, so know the price,

0:44:13.600 --> 0:44:17.160
<v Speaker 1>the cost, and know how serious he was about it.

0:44:17.480 --> 0:44:21.000
<v Speaker 1>And now when we let's sit on that foundation, and

0:44:21.040 --> 0:44:27.279
<v Speaker 1>now let's get practical. Practically, you're with this girl, you

0:44:27.360 --> 0:44:30.840
<v Speaker 1>really like her, and when you're with her, you start

0:44:30.880 --> 0:44:35.760
<v Speaker 1>to lust. So practically avoid the situations where you're alone,

0:44:36.560 --> 0:44:41.560
<v Speaker 1>avoid the situations where you are tempted in any way,

0:44:42.520 --> 0:44:46.080
<v Speaker 1>are able to act on the lust. If you can't

0:44:46.120 --> 0:44:49.799
<v Speaker 1>handle it, then gouge the eye out and say I

0:44:49.840 --> 0:44:50.719
<v Speaker 1>can't hang out with you.

0:44:50.920 --> 0:44:51.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:44:51.520 --> 0:44:53.319
<v Speaker 1>Now, hopefully it's not ever going to get so bad

0:44:53.360 --> 0:44:55.200
<v Speaker 1>that you cannot see a girl that you actually like

0:44:55.280 --> 0:44:58.399
<v Speaker 1>because you're so overcome with lust. Hopefully he doesn't get there.

0:44:59.360 --> 0:45:01.680
<v Speaker 1>But if you get to a situation where every time

0:45:01.719 --> 0:45:05.440
<v Speaker 1>you just see her, this is why maybe I shouldn't

0:45:05.440 --> 0:45:08.360
<v Speaker 1>go here, but I will. But this is why in Islam,

0:45:09.040 --> 0:45:11.600
<v Speaker 1>the women who are dressed the way that they're dressed,

0:45:12.160 --> 0:45:15.560
<v Speaker 1>and and and it's it's from a lot of different reasons,

0:45:15.560 --> 0:45:18.400
<v Speaker 1>but for one of the foundational reasons Islam, why you

0:45:18.400 --> 0:45:23.279
<v Speaker 1>see women dressed usually in black and completely veiled is

0:45:23.320 --> 0:45:27.200
<v Speaker 1>so that the the men don't stumble with lust. So

0:45:27.239 --> 0:45:28.680
<v Speaker 1>it's like a way, it's a it's a way for

0:45:28.719 --> 0:45:32.120
<v Speaker 1>them to go, Hey, I know how to fix this problem. Anonymous.

0:45:32.360 --> 0:45:34.320
<v Speaker 1>How about we just get all the women to veil themselves.

0:45:34.360 --> 0:45:37.799
<v Speaker 1>Then we don't have the problem. That's that's the wrong

0:45:37.840 --> 0:45:39.160
<v Speaker 1>way to think of it. They could think of a

0:45:39.200 --> 0:45:42.040
<v Speaker 1>million ways. Why that's it's not not the right way

0:45:42.080 --> 0:45:45.799
<v Speaker 1>to do it. That doesn't fix the problem. In fact,

0:45:45.800 --> 0:45:50.640
<v Speaker 1>it might even make people lust more perhaps, But Anonymous,

0:45:50.719 --> 0:45:54.080
<v Speaker 1>let me get to the point. If your right, it's

0:45:54.080 --> 0:45:57.760
<v Speaker 1>continued to send plug it out. So stay away from her,

0:45:58.280 --> 0:46:03.280
<v Speaker 1>and especially alone, especially at night, especially in a bedroom

0:46:03.400 --> 0:46:05.439
<v Speaker 1>or a car or any place like that.

0:46:06.600 --> 0:46:09.479
<v Speaker 2>If you're scrolling her page or something at night, don't

0:46:09.480 --> 0:46:09.799
<v Speaker 2>do that.

0:46:09.880 --> 0:46:13.680
<v Speaker 1>There's that destroy your computer if that's what it takes.

0:46:14.600 --> 0:46:17.319
<v Speaker 2>You don't know what's fueling lust, you know, I mean,

0:46:17.360 --> 0:46:20.120
<v Speaker 2>this question could go so general question, This question could

0:46:20.120 --> 0:46:21.600
<v Speaker 2>go very very deep, for a thirteen year old boy.

0:46:21.600 --> 0:46:23.000
<v Speaker 2>So I don't know what's fueling this lust. But as

0:46:23.000 --> 0:46:25.000
<v Speaker 2>Granger said, if there was anything else that is fueling

0:46:25.120 --> 0:46:28.879
<v Speaker 2>your lust of the eyes or of the fleshyouget out.

0:46:29.080 --> 0:46:30.799
<v Speaker 1>Let me say this. Let me say this. This will

0:46:30.800 --> 0:46:35.560
<v Speaker 1>finish the question and the podcast. Anonymous. You're anonymous, I

0:46:35.600 --> 0:46:39.320
<v Speaker 1>get it. It's embarrassing. Don't be anonymous to everyone.

0:46:39.440 --> 0:46:40.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, confess to somebody, you know.

0:46:41.160 --> 0:46:45.400
<v Speaker 1>Go to someone, a friend, a parent, a sibling, a cousin,

0:46:46.520 --> 0:46:51.440
<v Speaker 1>a teacher, a coach, a pastor, anyone. Go to anyone,

0:46:51.480 --> 0:46:54.480
<v Speaker 1>and we would recommend a friend like that. Usually starts

0:46:54.480 --> 0:46:57.600
<v Speaker 1>with a friend. You need accountability, buddy, like Daniel in

0:46:57.640 --> 0:47:00.520
<v Speaker 1>the Bible, you need buddies, and you go, I got

0:47:00.520 --> 0:47:02.359
<v Speaker 1>a problem. Can I tell you about a problem, dah

0:47:02.400 --> 0:47:06.080
<v Speaker 1>man anything. I'm I'm having this problem with lust right now.

0:47:06.400 --> 0:47:09.799
<v Speaker 1>Will you help keep me accountable? Brother? Yeah? Man, I will.

0:47:09.840 --> 0:47:12.319
<v Speaker 1>What do you wanna do? Okay, Well, when's the when's

0:47:12.320 --> 0:47:15.640
<v Speaker 1>the time you're vulnerable? Usually at night? I get vulnerable

0:47:15.640 --> 0:47:18.920
<v Speaker 1>when I'm all alone and I have my screen. Okay,

0:47:19.160 --> 0:47:21.640
<v Speaker 1>here's what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna text you at

0:47:21.680 --> 0:47:26.280
<v Speaker 1>seven am tomorrow and I'm gonna say, did you stay clean? Okay?

0:47:26.760 --> 0:47:30.960
<v Speaker 1>Text me okay. And so nine o'clock at night, you're

0:47:30.960 --> 0:47:35.160
<v Speaker 1>getting lonely and you're scrolling this girl's page and you think, oh, man,

0:47:35.160 --> 0:47:37.200
<v Speaker 1>I gotta, I gotta. I can't lie to my buddy.

0:47:37.239 --> 0:47:39.480
<v Speaker 1>Tomorrow he's gonna ask me at seven am if I

0:47:39.560 --> 0:47:42.080
<v Speaker 1>stayed clean, and I'm gonna say, yes, I did. I

0:47:42.200 --> 0:47:44.359
<v Speaker 1>have to do it. So you're gonna put the phone down,

0:47:45.120 --> 0:47:47.600
<v Speaker 1>and then seven am hege major stay clean. Yeah it

0:47:47.640 --> 0:47:50.399
<v Speaker 1>was hard, but I did. How about you? I did too.

0:47:50.880 --> 0:47:52.440
<v Speaker 1>And then if you slip up, you tell them and

0:47:52.480 --> 0:47:54.799
<v Speaker 1>you keep each other accountable. You fall, I fall, So

0:47:54.880 --> 0:47:56.879
<v Speaker 1>let me hold you up so that you don't fall,

0:47:57.000 --> 0:47:58.640
<v Speaker 1>because if you go down and I go down, this

0:47:58.719 --> 0:48:02.040
<v Speaker 1>is this is the accountability you have to have to

0:48:02.120 --> 0:48:05.640
<v Speaker 1>do that. Let's practically do that. Anonymous, don't be anonymous

0:48:05.680 --> 0:48:08.279
<v Speaker 1>to everyone. You could be anonymous to me, but not

0:48:08.400 --> 0:48:09.040
<v Speaker 1>to your buddy.

0:48:09.680 --> 0:48:10.600
<v Speaker 2>Two her better than one.

0:48:11.360 --> 0:48:14.960
<v Speaker 1>Love y'all say next Monday. Thanks for joining me on

0:48:15.000 --> 0:48:18.279
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0:48:18.280 --> 0:48:21.120
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