Speaker 1: Hey, guys, welcome to the podcast. Got my favorite guest
Speaker 1: on here. And it's not Bernie, and it's not Chad
Speaker 1: or Parker or Marshall or London or a man or
Speaker 1: say that to everybody or London. Yeah, it's you Amber,
Speaker 1: my wife. I don't say that to everybody, do I? Yeah,
Speaker 1: my favorite guest. How could I? I would be wrong
Speaker 1: if I said that. Maybe didn't mean you. Okay, So
Speaker 1: I get Amber on here. And anytime I have other guests,
Speaker 1: I like, we plan it, usually put on the calendar.
Speaker 1: But with you, I'm like, hey, can you please come
Speaker 1: home the podcast real quick? And Maverick's taking a nap.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just put him down and he's like, let's
Speaker 2: go to a podcast. So we have a solid maybe
Speaker 2: two hours.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so thank you. What we do is we answer
Speaker 1: your questions. Email me podcast at grangersmith dot com. We'll
Speaker 1: walk through the question and like two friends sitting in
Speaker 1: the cap of a truck, you have a question, you
Speaker 1: ask it, and I don't have any notes in front
Speaker 1: of me or famous quotes, even though maybe I could
Speaker 1: pull a couple up, but I'll just answer you like
Speaker 1: like I would a good friend. And that's the format.
Speaker 1: Of this podcast. Currently, I'm coming to you. I'm very itchy,
Speaker 1: so itchy, so itchy. I got tangled up into some
Speaker 1: poison oak that we know of. Yeah, probably poison oak,
Speaker 1: maybe poison ivy, although I've never had poison ivy in
Speaker 1: my life. I've actually never had poison oak either. But
Speaker 1: I just happened to be clearing some cedar and cut
Speaker 1: up a tree and it was wrapped all in it
Speaker 1: with poison oak vine. And this time of year it's
Speaker 1: ripe like red. Those leaves are red and they just
Speaker 1: look scary.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's got it pretty.
Speaker 1: They're pretty, but they're scary. It looks like a red oak. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the vine.
Speaker 2: You were out there with mav.
Speaker 1: Too, out there with Maverick. And I'm actually having on
Speaker 1: my eyebrow and my eye lid and under my right eye,
Speaker 1: all under my chin, behind my left ear, all around
Speaker 1: my growing and the biggest parts on my side, my
Speaker 1: rib cage on my left side. Yeah, And I think
Speaker 1: that's where it started because there's some scratches and I
Speaker 1: think it entered my bloodstream and it's just my flesh
Speaker 1: is screaming at me.
Speaker 2: Also, Granger is a minimalist, and if you know him.
Speaker 2: You know this, but he likes to re wear the
Speaker 2: same hoodie a couple days in a row, has the
Speaker 2: same T shirt, the same T shirt under it. And
Speaker 2: I said, babe, what were you wearing when you cut
Speaker 2: this ceedar? The hoodie that he has on now? And
Speaker 2: I said, a week ago, let's wash it. Let me
Speaker 2: wash it because you're just putting the same oil over
Speaker 2: your head. That's probably why it's on your eye and
Speaker 2: your ear. But anyway, he's it you today, guys, that
Speaker 2: was a really.
Speaker 1: Good point you made, Like you really got me.
Speaker 2: I even thought about this morning because I saw the
Speaker 2: hoodie laying there and I was like, he's probably gonna
Speaker 2: put that back on. I bet that's what he was wearing.
Speaker 2: I should have just taken it and washed it.
Speaker 1: Because I'm like, how's it getting behind my ear and
Speaker 1: under my chin and on my eye and on my cheek?
Speaker 1: And everyone's like, hey, what clothes were you wearing a
Speaker 1: week ago when you're cutting that seedar? And I was like,
Speaker 1: this actually in this hat?
Speaker 2: Okay, all of it, So that's what it is.
Speaker 1: But what am I going to wear? If you watch
Speaker 1: this though?
Speaker 2: Well, we do have an apparel company. I think you
Speaker 2: can find another yee hoodie.
Speaker 1: Okay, should we get to a question. This is from Megan,
Speaker 1: and she says, this is kind of a complicated topic.
Speaker 1: Imagine that she says, you could see my children's You see,
Speaker 1: my children's father is not a believer in the gospel,
Speaker 1: but I am. We are no longer together. But this
Speaker 1: is a topic that is thrown in my face on
Speaker 1: a regular basis. Just recently he approached me and my
Speaker 1: children were not to be brainwashed by the church and
Speaker 1: taught to fear hell. I obviously have a different stance
Speaker 1: on this topic, but to avoid an argument, I'm trying
Speaker 1: to figure out a way to plant a seed in
Speaker 1: his heart to reconsider Christ is good and we all
Speaker 1: need him. I think I'm just asking for advice on
Speaker 1: how to plant that seed so we could be in
Speaker 1: unity when it comes to teaching our children in the Gospel.
Speaker 1: It actually sounds like a complicated question, but it's actually not.
Speaker 1: That's very normal, Megan, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. This is
Speaker 1: a situation that so many people are in, so many
Speaker 1: of our friends, so many people that we know, and
Speaker 1: they say.
Speaker 2: They're no longer together. I mean, this is the situation
Speaker 2: that some of our friends are together in dealing with this.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and some are not. Yeah, we're not, and so
Speaker 1: much so it is. I say it's common, and I
Speaker 1: don't say that to minimize the the severity of it,
Speaker 1: but it is common enough that even the apostle Paul
Speaker 1: speaks about it, not the separated part, but being with
Speaker 1: an unbeliever.
Speaker 2: This is biblical.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it is biblical. Some people believe in some people don't.
Speaker 2: Until the veil is removed from their eyes, until the
Speaker 2: Lord changes their hearts. So she's asking about how can
Speaker 2: I plant seeds for him? And I would just advise
Speaker 2: you to keep living your life the way that you
Speaker 2: are as and have as much grace for him as
Speaker 2: you can and kindness for him as you can. But
Speaker 2: you and your girls, I think I think she said today,
Speaker 2: have girls pray for his heart, pray for his heart
Speaker 2: to be changed, because you guys can't do it. You
Speaker 2: can plant seeds, and you can just speak openly and
Speaker 2: just say, you know, the Lord is my savior and
Speaker 2: we believe in what the Bible says. And I'm taking
Speaker 2: our girls to church because you're not together, so he's
Speaker 2: technically not the head of your home anymore now if
Speaker 2: you guys are married, this would be a different, different talk.
Speaker 2: But you aren't together anymore, or so you are taking
Speaker 2: your girls and your your submission is first to the Lord.
Speaker 2: So you need to be doing what is what is
Speaker 2: what the Bible says to do, which is train your
Speaker 2: children up in the way that they should go, and
Speaker 2: take your girls to church, your children to church, pray
Speaker 2: for this man's heart to be changed, and have your
Speaker 2: girls pray pray for him.
Speaker 1: That's where first of all, I don't know where you're
Speaker 1: getting girls.
Speaker 2: What did you not? Did she not say girls?
Speaker 1: I don't see it, but it says children children.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, maybe I don't know. I just put girls
Speaker 2: in there.
Speaker 1: So the idea of your children are not to be brainwashed.
Speaker 1: His children are not to be brainwashed. I don't blame them,
Speaker 1: because that's a legitimate concern that any child would be
Speaker 1: brainwashed by some kind of system or manipulation or anything
Speaker 1: that would be that that would be false or wrong
Speaker 1: or what could hurt them in a way. And so
Speaker 1: you could use that and say you could talk to
Speaker 1: the brainwashing part of it and just say, hey, our
Speaker 1: children are are free to think and choose and and
Speaker 1: listen to and contemplate of many ideas. And so if
Speaker 1: you want to, if you want to dig in with
Speaker 1: them about the Bible, I'd be happy to sit with you.
Speaker 1: And we could even have one of our pastors at
Speaker 1: our church come and sit. We could we could dig
Speaker 1: in to understand kind of the the history of it,
Speaker 1: the working of it, so that there's not a mystery.
Speaker 1: And you know, many times when someone digs deep like that,
Speaker 1: they actually find the truth it because it's undeniable. So
Speaker 1: there is there is that. But but I besides the
Speaker 1: telling the gospel, which is the seed, there is only
Speaker 1: one seed. You say, how do I plant the seed? This?
Speaker 1: There is only one seed, and that is the Gospel.
Speaker 1: And that is the story the good news that God
Speaker 1: came to reconcile sinners through his son Jesus, God knowing
Speaker 1: that people could not be good enough to come to him,
Speaker 1: that could not fulfill his law, and that were because
Speaker 1: he's a just God, and sinners deserve hell for rebelling
Speaker 1: against him, because he's a holy God and can't have
Speaker 1: corruption around him, and because we are ourselves guilty of it,
Speaker 1: of committing that crime against him. Then knowing that we
Speaker 1: could not be good enough, and knowing that if he
Speaker 1: didn't do something, if he didn't act in that he
Speaker 1: would be alone in heaven because there would be no
Speaker 1: one else. And that's not to say that he wouldn't
Speaker 1: that he would be unhappy. God, the triyuing God in
Speaker 1: himself has enough love in himself and enjoy and happiness.
Speaker 1: He doesn't need anything else. He doesn't need people, but
Speaker 1: through his mercy in his creation, through his people, seeing
Speaker 1: that people had no way to get to him, that
Speaker 1: they were all corrupt, that all had turned, that all
Speaker 1: were evil, that no one was good, not even won.
Speaker 1: The Bible says God, in his mercy in instead of
Speaker 1: giving us justice that we deserved, he gave mercy to
Speaker 1: his people, coming to earth in the person of the
Speaker 1: son of Jesus, going to the cross, becoming a replacement,
Speaker 1: a substitute, taking the sins of the world onto his
Speaker 1: own body on the cross, and then for those that
Speaker 1: looked to him and his resurrection as God raised him
Speaker 1: from the dead, defeating death, becoming the ultimate sacrifice for sin.
Speaker 1: As people looked to him, turned from their old ways
Speaker 1: and looked to him and trust the forgiveness of their sins.
Speaker 1: Through that sacrifice to them. He says, You'll be with
Speaker 1: me in eternity. That's the way we get to God.
Speaker 1: It is not by our own good works. That's the
Speaker 1: good news. That's the only seed you could plant. You
Speaker 1: could say that story in a bunch of different ways,
Speaker 1: but that is the only seed you could plant. So
Speaker 1: and you don't have to plan it over and over
Speaker 1: and over. Sometimes we think I got to tell him
Speaker 1: the gospel again today, Not necessarily. If he hears it
Speaker 1: and understands it, you could move on and just love him. Yeah,
Speaker 1: just live a life that makes Christ look awesome, and
Speaker 1: love him and forgive him and be gentle and practice
Speaker 1: humility around them. And that's the only thing you could do.
Speaker 2: Yeah, don't be naggy like you need to go to
Speaker 2: church or are you know, live your life. A lot
Speaker 2: of people they can see by how you live and
Speaker 2: sometimes just by the way that you're living out your
Speaker 2: life and your faith. It makes them want to know
Speaker 2: more about that. Well, why does she have this light?
Speaker 2: Why does she have this joy? So that's a way
Speaker 2: that you could plant a seed. But you can also
Speaker 2: just invite him, just keep inviting him to church, have
Speaker 2: him to come to church with you just say I'd
Speaker 2: love for you to join us. If he says no, fine,
Speaker 2: but maybe one day he'll say yes. And just keep
Speaker 2: praying for him.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, let's get another question. Blaine says, Hey, Granger,
Speaker 1: my wife and I are going through a divorce because
Speaker 1: of past decisions I've made, including stealing, lying, manipulating, alcohol abuse,
Speaker 1: financial infidelity. We have four kids, ages two to nine.
Speaker 1: We've been separated for almost a year now, with a
Speaker 1: divorce being on pause currently because she started a new
Speaker 1: job and it's been stressful for her to deal with
Speaker 1: it all. My main question is this. I was baptized
Speaker 1: about nine months ago, and I've been involved in a
Speaker 1: regeneration program at my church. Through this, I've learned more
Speaker 1: and more about spiritual warfare. I do feel, due to
Speaker 1: my lack of spiritual knowledge, that I was in a
Speaker 1: very dark place in my life when I chose to steal,
Speaker 1: chose to drink and hide it, chose to manipulate anyone
Speaker 1: close to me to think I was a good man.
Speaker 1: Now that I'm grown in my faith, it's hard for
Speaker 1: me to understand divorce. When I talk about being in
Speaker 1: a very dark place with my wife, it's labeled as
Speaker 1: an excuse. It's hard to hear, but I would love
Speaker 1: your thoughts. Thanks blame. Did you understand that last part? Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: explain it to me.
Speaker 2: She was saying. He's saying, now that he realizes he
Speaker 2: was in a dark place. I think it's coming across
Speaker 2: as when he says that to her and he's realizing
Speaker 2: all these things. She's she's making him feel like that's
Speaker 2: just an excuse.
Speaker 1: That makes sense. Yeah, I think you're right, and and
Speaker 1: it's hard to blame her.
Speaker 2: Yeah, when you're hurt and betrayed.
Speaker 1: And this is another story we see a lot. It's like, Hey,
Speaker 1: I've you know, I abused you in so many ways
Speaker 1: by stealing, lying, manipulating, alcohol, financial infidelity. I've done all
Speaker 1: this stuff so much so that I've basically run you
Speaker 1: out of the house and stressed you out beyond your wits.
Speaker 1: But guess what, I've been baptized, and I'm in this
Speaker 1: new program at church, and I'm a change. I'm changed, babe,
Speaker 1: And now I have a bunch of knowledge about spiritual warfare.
Speaker 1: And now I know that that wasn't me that was
Speaker 1: doing all that stuff. That was the devil. And so
Speaker 1: I'm changed now. And she's like, get out of here.
Speaker 2: Well, it's been nine months. I mean I would I
Speaker 2: would think nine months since his baptism and this program.
Speaker 2: Nine months is a pretty long time to be able
Speaker 2: to see fruit or evidence of a change like art
Speaker 2: is he has he done any of those things in
Speaker 2: the last nine months.
Speaker 1: We also don't know if.
Speaker 2: She right, and we don't know if she's a believer,
Speaker 2: because praise the Lord if he is, if he is
Speaker 2: in this new if you got.
Speaker 1: Baptized, yeah, blad, I'm not minimizing. I'm just saying. I'm
Speaker 1: saying from her perspective, she's like, get.
Speaker 2: Out of here, right, She's like, I don't believe you.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the worldly thing is not believing in a
Speaker 2: changed heart. But praise the Lord if your heart has
Speaker 2: changed and you're working on it. And I also find
Speaker 2: it interesting that the divorce is on pause. The word
Speaker 2: has put it on pause for this time, maybe so
Speaker 2: you guys could work it out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's a total grace that you don't deserve
Speaker 1: blame that all of a sudden there's there's a you know,
Speaker 1: a new wind has blown and it is everything's on pause.
Speaker 1: So because this new.
Speaker 2: Job you've got some time.
Speaker 1: You've got you've got time, and and every second is
Speaker 1: critical in this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like Granger said, you can't obviously you probably you
Speaker 2: can't blame her. You've lived with her, You've known what
Speaker 2: you've done, and we are like, we don't know if
Speaker 2: she's a believer. We are called to forgive. And I
Speaker 2: believe that any marriage can be redeemed and restored no
Speaker 2: matter what has happened, if both parties are repentant and
Speaker 2: willing and ready to come together again, and both of
Speaker 2: you chase after Christ. So I would use this time
Speaker 2: pour into her as much as you can try to
Speaker 2: make up for that lost time. Keep praying, pray together,
Speaker 2: pray for her, serve her in ways that you hadn't before,
Speaker 2: and hopefully she will be able to see fruit and
Speaker 2: and hopefully come around and maybe try to give this
Speaker 2: one more shot. Yeah, I mean, obviously the Lord is
Speaker 2: placed it on hold for a reason. So start dating
Speaker 2: each other again.
Speaker 1: Let's say too that Blaine, this is where if we
Speaker 1: were in a cap of a truck, I would start
Speaker 1: asking some questions back to you. But one of the
Speaker 1: questions is you say I was baptized nine months ago.
Speaker 1: What I would prefer you to say, is I become
Speaker 1: a Christian nine months ago and was baptized. I would
Speaker 1: prefer it worded like that, like the Lord saved me
Speaker 1: nine months ago. After all this, then through his word,
Speaker 1: the Lord radically saved me, and then I was baptized
Speaker 1: as a response to the saving. And what I hope
Speaker 1: I'm not hearing here or reading from this email, is
Speaker 1: that you were in a really dark place and everything
Speaker 1: was falling apart, including your marriage, and you're like, well,
Speaker 1: I may able to just go to the church and
Speaker 1: get baptized, Like maybe that'll help me, Because the answer
Speaker 1: is it won't. You. Being dunked in some water absolutely
Speaker 1: means nothing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot of people do that in a very
Speaker 2: part season.
Speaker 1: It means nothing unless the Lord has saved you and
Speaker 1: given you a new heart and radically turned your life
Speaker 1: around back towards him. And you say, I'm all in Jesus.
Speaker 1: What do I do in your first work and obedience
Speaker 1: to Him is to get baptized and to testify in
Speaker 1: front of the church that you're now a new creation.
Speaker 1: And everyone sees you go in the water and comes
Speaker 1: back up, and then you walk as a new creation
Speaker 1: in the good works that have been that have been
Speaker 1: planned for you by Him. And so that's what I
Speaker 1: hope is part of this regeneration program at your church.
Speaker 1: I don't know necessarily what that means, but just walking
Speaker 1: with the members of your church, serving in your church,
Speaker 1: being held accountable by the other members of your church
Speaker 1: as you hold them accountable as well as Christians. And
Speaker 1: instead of saying, though I've learned more and more about
Speaker 1: spiritual warfare, great, but what I want you to say
Speaker 1: is I've learned more and more about who God. And
Speaker 1: so those are the two little nuances that maybe you
Speaker 1: meant in your email, but maybe you didn't. But there's
Speaker 1: a huge difference between the two things.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and this is and like I said, we don't
Speaker 2: know what's happened in the last nine months, if you have,
Speaker 2: if she has seen fruit, or if she hasn't. And
Speaker 2: the only thing that might make this work is a
Speaker 2: little bit of time and patience with her, if that's
Speaker 2: something that you know, broken relationships take time to build
Speaker 2: trust back. So I think over time she will see
Speaker 2: hopefully see fruit in your life if your heart has
Speaker 2: truly been converted and.
Speaker 1: The Lord has used these dark moments of separation and
Speaker 1: divorce and loss and grief. The Lord uses those moments
Speaker 1: where people well are desperate to fix it, and then
Speaker 1: in the fixing, the Lord saves them. But if you
Speaker 1: heard the way I described, it's it's a it, it's
Speaker 1: kind of backwards. Because what you need, Blaine, and what
Speaker 1: you probably maybe you don't even think this, maybe you
Speaker 1: don't even know this, but what you need is to
Speaker 1: be forgiven of your sins by Jesus. And the only
Speaker 1: way you are forgiven is by turning from your old
Speaker 1: life and turning to Him and trusting his forgiveness that
Speaker 1: he's provided through his work on the Cross. And to
Speaker 1: need forgiveness, you need to know what's at stake. If
Speaker 1: you don't have it, you need to know you're standing
Speaker 1: before God is bad. You're standing for a judge and
Speaker 1: he says guilty. And because he is the ultimate judge,
Speaker 1: the higher the judge, the bigger the judge, the more
Speaker 1: severe the punishment. So if you're standing in front of
Speaker 1: your local county courthouse, that's one thing. If you're standing
Speaker 1: in front of your state courthouse, that's another thing. If
Speaker 1: you're standing in front of the Supreme Court, that gets bigger.
Speaker 1: As the court gets bigger, and you're in this story
Speaker 1: we're talking about. You're standing in front of the highest court.
Speaker 1: You're standing in front of the sovereign God, and he
Speaker 1: looks at you and says guilty. And if you recognize
Speaker 1: the severity of that charge against you, then the more
Speaker 1: you'll need and desire and crave forgiveness that Jesus provides.
Speaker 1: Here's my point. I say all that because it sounds
Speaker 1: like you're doing this the baptism thing, the program at church,
Speaker 1: the learning about spiritual war is to get your wife back,
Speaker 1: and your wife is the least of your worries as
Speaker 1: a sinner needing forgiveness. Once again, I started this whole
Speaker 1: conversation by saying, the Lord uses that uses a I'll
Speaker 1: call it a sinful desire of wanting your idol back.
Speaker 1: I just want my wife back, It's all I want.
Speaker 1: What should I do to get my wife back? Get baptized,
Speaker 1: learn the Bible, pray well, whatever, just give me my
Speaker 1: idol back and the idols my wife. You need forgiveness.
Speaker 1: And when you find forgiveness in Jesus, the forgiveness that
Speaker 1: he has provided through giving himself up on the cross
Speaker 1: with his own blood when you realize what he's done
Speaker 1: and the severity of the crime. Here, the severity of
Speaker 1: the crime is easy to understand when you know that
Speaker 1: God gave his only son to pay for it. That's
Speaker 1: a pretty high price. That is the highest price. And
Speaker 1: so when you understand the severity of it, you go,
Speaker 1: I don't need my idol. I don't. The wife is
Speaker 1: the least of my concerns. But if I have Jesus
Speaker 1: and I love him, now I could love my wife
Speaker 1: more than I ever did before. And now she's not
Speaker 1: an idol. She's a gift from the Lord, and the
Speaker 1: Lord has given me this gift in her, and now
Speaker 1: I want to serve her and love her and provide
Speaker 1: for her and care for her, and not raise my
Speaker 1: voice and anger against her or abuse her with my words,
Speaker 1: with alcohol or financial whatever. So that's how this is
Speaker 1: how the river flows. It flows that direction, and so
Speaker 1: blame if you hear anything from this whole conversation. Don't
Speaker 1: ever get baptized to get the girl back. Anybody listening,
Speaker 1: don't get baptized, don't go to church, don't pray. Don't
Speaker 1: do that with the means of getting getting your wife
Speaker 1: back or the girl back. Don't let that be the
Speaker 1: end of the means. Let the Lord let seeking forgiveness,
Speaker 1: seeking his grace and mercy be the end, and then
Speaker 1: through seeking that, everything else will fall into place. Just
Speaker 1: a reminder if you want to get a hold of
Speaker 1: me in any way or have me make you a
Speaker 1: video message from my phone, you could do that by
Speaker 1: going to cameo dot com slash granger Smith. You enter
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Speaker 1: Whatever that might be, happy anniversary, maybe just a word
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Speaker 1: get them, or it's last minute. Go to cameo dot
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Speaker 1: message however you want me to say it.
Speaker 2: We're back.
Speaker 1: We're back. So if you want to email me podcast
Speaker 1: at grangersmith dot com and put your question and you
Speaker 1: could ask anything you want. I don't even care ask
Speaker 1: anything you want. I wish I had some what's it
Speaker 1: called klumine? Calumine?
Speaker 2: I put some on your side for your face.
Speaker 1: I need some from my neck, my neck. It is yeah,
Speaker 1: we'll finish this podcast and now I'll give you. I
Speaker 1: will gladly give you this hoodie to wash. Okay, you
Speaker 1: remember the last time you washed it?
Speaker 2: No, I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 2: Because you usually don't put it in the dirty clothes.
Speaker 1: Baby.
Speaker 2: It's just you just lay it somewhere.
Speaker 1: So I could pick it up the next time I
Speaker 1: need it.
Speaker 2: No, I just need to grab it and wash it.
Speaker 1: This might be a lesson for me and for everyone.
Speaker 1: Wash your clothes. Wash your clothes kids. Adam, hopefully you
Speaker 1: don't have that same question. Adam says, Hey, gring your
Speaker 1: my name is Adam and I'm a huge fan. I've
Speaker 1: been following your podcast since you first started it. I
Speaker 1: tune in every Monday for it. I also watch your
Speaker 1: teachings on YouTube. Man, Adam, thank you. You might be
Speaker 1: the only one that tunes in every Monday. Appreciate you. Man,
Speaker 1: I'm making this podcast just for you, he says. My
Speaker 1: question that I bring to you is how do I,
Speaker 1: as a twenty three year old, go about meeting someone.
Speaker 1: I'm heavily introverted and it takes me a little bit
Speaker 1: to open up to new people, so it's tough for me.
Speaker 1: Whenever I go to a bar or any social gathering
Speaker 1: to try and talk to new people. I've always struggled
Speaker 1: with it, and I try to start up a conversation
Speaker 1: with new people that try to break this habit. Is
Speaker 1: there anywhere in the Bible that may teach or help
Speaker 1: me see this differently? I would love to hear your
Speaker 1: thoughts or advice on how I could break this.
Speaker 2: Adam, I feel like we answered a question like that
Speaker 2: on the last one that I was with with maybe
Speaker 2: find an introverted guy looking to find I think he
Speaker 2: was looking to find a girl, though, So.
Speaker 1: We're going to dive in like we're cab of a
Speaker 1: truck here. And first of all, Man, thank you for
Speaker 1: the encouragement of watching the podcast. I love that youtune
Speaker 1: in every Monday. That's really encouraging for me. I honestly
Speaker 1: sometimes wonder if anyone's listening or watching or just kind
Speaker 1: of scanning the scan in the YouTube. Okay, yeah, maybe
Speaker 1: twenty three years old, super young. I'm not worried about
Speaker 1: you running out of time anytime soon. A lot of
Speaker 1: people will say things like that, like I know I'm
Speaker 1: getting up there in age, or you're not. You got
Speaker 1: a long time heavily introverted. Great, that's what makes the
Speaker 1: world go round. There's nothing that I would ever tell
Speaker 1: you that say you shouldn't be introverted, or in order
Speaker 1: to meet someone you need to be extroverted. No one's
Speaker 1: ever going to tell you that or that would be wrong.
Speaker 1: That's your personality. You say, it's tough to go to
Speaker 1: a bar or social gathering and try to talk to
Speaker 1: new people, so you try to break the habit by
Speaker 1: striking up conversations with new people. I don't know, I mean,
Speaker 1: maybe that's healthy, the practice opening up to new people. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like he's twenty three. So when
Speaker 2: was COVID five years ago? Yeah, you know, I feel
Speaker 2: like there has been a disservice to the kids, teenagers,
Speaker 2: young adults in that area where everybody just secluded themselves
Speaker 2: and locked themselves up and everything became online talking. And
Speaker 2: I know we've dealt with social media for a lot,
Speaker 2: way longer than that, but I feel like something about
Speaker 2: this age range, there's a lot of people that seem
Speaker 2: to be very introverted and find it hard to talk
Speaker 2: to people. Yeah, and that's just the world we live
Speaker 2: in now. I think everybody is so much on their
Speaker 2: screen and not going out and meeting new people. So
Speaker 2: it makes it weird whenever we have to actually go
Speaker 2: out and have a conversation with people. I mean, I
Speaker 2: find out when I go out even to restaurants and
Speaker 2: people don't even look.
Speaker 1: At you or talk to you.
Speaker 2: So maybe that's not the case for him, but I
Speaker 2: feel like that entranged. I hear a lot of people
Speaker 2: that struggle with that, being introverted, being led through that
Speaker 2: COVID season of being stuck by themselves.
Speaker 1: So his question is is there anywhere in the Bible
Speaker 1: that may help or teach a way to see this differently?
Speaker 1: He says, that's an interesting question.
Speaker 2: That's an interesting question.
Speaker 1: Well, first of all, the short answers know. The short
Speaker 1: answers know the Bible doesn't address dating. Dating is really
Speaker 1: a new issue, and it's we have invented this in
Speaker 1: modern history. We don't know anything about the for instance,
Speaker 1: the Apostles, we don't know anything about their wives. Specifically Peter,
Speaker 1: he would be the one that we the only one
Speaker 1: maybe that we actually have a word from, but we
Speaker 1: don't know anything about her or how they met. But
Speaker 1: certainly in first century Judaism it was arranged, or it wasn't.
Speaker 1: It wasn't at all in the context of we think
Speaker 1: courting is today. In the fact that's I would have
Speaker 1: to I would have to dive in. And I've never
Speaker 1: really studied that history of courting, but I'm assuming it's
Speaker 1: two hundred years maybe, and it's at most maybe a
Speaker 1: little more, maybe three hundred years since people actually courted
Speaker 1: each other. But typically it would be just someone's gonna,
Speaker 1: for lack of a better term, someone's gonna set you
Speaker 1: up or arrange it. And I mean, certainly in ancient times,
Speaker 1: this is the only way you were arranged by a family. I,
Speaker 1: as a father of a thirteen year old daughter, am
Speaker 1: totally down for arranging. It's not gonna happen, but I
Speaker 1: feel like that would be pretty awesome. Like me and
Speaker 1: you we go and find like a really good family
Speaker 1: that we already have a couple in mind. I already
Speaker 1: have a couple in mind, and I'd be like, hey, okay,
Speaker 1: and I would go present the dowry to the other family,
Speaker 1: like I'll give you my daughter and thirty thousand dollars. God,
Speaker 1: you know, some girls might need a little bit more
Speaker 1: to because it's worth getting them on the house, I
Speaker 1: would assume, but Adam all that to say, No, the Bible,
Speaker 1: I'm kidding. The Bible doesn't speak about dating or getting
Speaker 1: over being an introvert. So you could date.
Speaker 2: But I will tell you what the Bible does speak
Speaker 2: on is that God created us for community and created
Speaker 2: us not to do things in isolation. Yes, And so
Speaker 2: I would say, are you involved as a local member
Speaker 2: of a church of a local church? I think so?
Speaker 2: And I feel like I say that on every single podcast,
Speaker 2: Every single question that we have about this is people
Speaker 2: ask how do I meet people? How do I meet people?
Speaker 2: How do I meet people? I feel weird go into bars?
Speaker 2: Are you a member of a church?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 2: I feel like so many times you can meet people
Speaker 2: through your local church and meet people through families there
Speaker 2: or youth events there. You know, you're twenty three, you
Speaker 2: might be a little old for the youth, but still
Speaker 2: I feel like that is such a special way to
Speaker 2: meet new people.
Speaker 1: Yeah. No, I totally. I mean, I totally agree. I
Speaker 1: think getting involved in things that you love. I've said
Speaker 1: this so many times over eight years of this podcast.
Speaker 1: Now one of my go to things to say to
Speaker 1: this kind of question is find something you love, a hobby,
Speaker 1: and go do that, and inevitably you'll look around you
Speaker 1: and there'll be someone that shares that common interest. Maybe
Speaker 1: you're really into bowling, for instance, like I love bowling.
Speaker 1: I go to bowling tournaments, go join a league and
Speaker 1: talk to the people, and you might not find a
Speaker 1: girl that's bowling with you. But maybe one of the
Speaker 1: guys on your team has a sister. And one day
Speaker 1: she's twenty one years old and she's visiting from the
Speaker 1: next town over and she comes to visit her brother
Speaker 1: and you see her and you go wow. And then
Speaker 1: here's where the introvert thing comes in. You think, I
Speaker 1: am so introverted. I'm scared to say something. So you
Speaker 1: go to the brother and you say, man, you know me,
Speaker 1: you like me, right, And the guy's like, yeah, I
Speaker 1: like you. You're my buddy. I wonder if you would
Speaker 1: ever introduce me to your sister. And maybe that's a
Speaker 1: bad example because brothers. I've never had a sister, so
Speaker 1: I don't know how that goes. But that's just an
Speaker 1: example of you don't necessarily need to be extroverted. You
Speaker 1: just need to be in community. Yeah, and community, and
Speaker 1: the community usually starts with hopefully a church. That's what
Speaker 1: Amber and I would encourage. So let's say that that's
Speaker 1: already in place. So you've got the church going on,
Speaker 1: and then you're also in the chess club, or you're
Speaker 1: in the bowling league, or you're in the skeet shooting club,
Speaker 1: or you're you like to watch parades? Are you go
Speaker 1: to circuses? Are you watch drag racing? I mean like anything,
Speaker 1: literally anything you like poodle dog races? I don't know anything.
Speaker 2: There's some favorite hobbies you're not telling me about.
Speaker 1: All you have to do is think what do I
Speaker 1: love to do? What do I like to do? You
Speaker 1: like to play Mario Brothers. There's a league probably for that.
Speaker 1: But get involved in the community, and then hopefully that
Speaker 1: involves a church, and hopefully you're also sharing the gospel
Speaker 1: why you're in community. And then while you're doing all this,
Speaker 1: and you're chasing after Jesus and you look over to
Speaker 1: your left and there is someone chasing after him at
Speaker 1: the same rate you are, and you say, hey, you
Speaker 1: and grab some coffee and she says, yes, I do,
Speaker 1: and there's your wife. Yeah, So so take that, Adam.
Speaker 2: I was just going to add on the end there.
Speaker 2: If you do get yourself involved in in a local body,
Speaker 2: even if you're introverted, if it's a healthy church, they're
Speaker 2: going to come to you and start talking to you.
Speaker 2: Like you might not even have to come out of
Speaker 2: your shell per se right at the beginning, but those
Speaker 2: people and that church will come to you and say
Speaker 2: hey and welcome you in and start about to strike
Speaker 2: up a conversation.
Speaker 1: Use your family, yeah, you use your mom and your
Speaker 1: dad and your siblings, and say, hey, if you know
Speaker 1: of anybody, if you know anybody that's singled around my age,
Speaker 1: I would love to go on a date. And I
Speaker 1: have no Angela is one that that actually happened to.
Speaker 1: So are there are people in our friend group that
Speaker 1: two parents met at the country club and said, I
Speaker 1: have a son that's this age, I have a daughter
Speaker 1: that's this age. My son's single, my daughter's single. And
Speaker 1: then they talk more and then they say we should
Speaker 1: set them up. And that just kind of circumvents the
Speaker 1: whole introverted thing. And you don't have to go to
Speaker 1: a bar and like impress a girl. That just you
Speaker 1: don't have to do that stuff. Next question comes from
Speaker 1: anonymous steer granger, I'd like to remain anonymous. I'm thirteen
Speaker 1: years old and I live in Utah. Let's hit the
Speaker 1: dirt road, he says. So, I struggle with lust, and
Speaker 1: when I when I lust, I feel my personality and
Speaker 1: the way I handle things change. My question is how
Speaker 1: do I not change when I stumble? Because I know
Speaker 1: when I lust and when I fail, my slate is
Speaker 1: wiped clean by Jesus on the Cross. But there's this
Speaker 1: girl I really like who when I hang out with her,
Speaker 1: it's the opposite, and I feel disgusted by my lust.
Speaker 1: Do you have any tips or anything for me to
Speaker 1: turn away from the sin? I love your music and
Speaker 1: I love your podcast. Thanks for reading and considering my question.
Speaker 1: What a sweet kid, and scary because he's thirteen. Yeah, Heyboddy,
Speaker 1: I've once been thirteen so many I'm gonna boldly step
Speaker 1: into this situation here, and I'm gonna try it first.
Speaker 1: I'm let's try to understand what he's asking. He says,
Speaker 1: I struggle with lust, and when I lust, I feel
Speaker 1: like my personality and the way I handle things change. Okay,
Speaker 1: let's just take that sentence alone. I struggle with lust,
Speaker 1: and when I lust, my personality and the way I
Speaker 1: handle things change. That is that is the thirteen year
Speaker 1: old talking.
Speaker 2: That's speaking lusting. I mean we obviously we don't know.
Speaker 2: Is this lust in his mind or is he acting
Speaker 2: on this lust?
Speaker 1: He doesn't say, don't know. I don't think so. I
Speaker 1: think this is something that struggles with mentally. But what's
Speaker 1: happening is the the animal in him? Yeah? Is that's
Speaker 1: what he's because he can't explain why his personality changes.
Speaker 1: And we look, let's let's be as crude as we can.
Speaker 1: Let's say about dogs. When a dog goes in heat,
Speaker 1: they change their personality and the way they handle things change. Like,
Speaker 1: that's what he's saying. I mom ass cows, right, So
Speaker 1: when you separate the bull and the cows and one
Speaker 1: of those cows goes in heat, that bull will jump
Speaker 1: a barbed wire fence. Yeah, I've never seen it. Personally,
Speaker 1: I know they'll break the fence. I've never seen him
Speaker 1: jump it, but I have seen him in the pasture
Speaker 1: with him Yeah, like, how did he get here? He
Speaker 1: jumped from away? His personality and the way he handles things,
Speaker 1: The way he handles things. The bull on a normal
Speaker 1: day is eat the grass, and hang out and go
Speaker 1: get a drink of water. But when he lust, because
Speaker 1: of the smell of the heat of the cow, his things,
Speaker 1: the way he handles things around the fence change and
Speaker 1: he will do anything he can to break it, to
Speaker 1: jump it. So that's like physically, that's that's what's happening
Speaker 1: to you. You know, we are not cows and we
Speaker 1: are not dogs. Were humans are different, and we're different
Speaker 1: in that we still had that animal being. We're we're
Speaker 1: from the earth were we have We're a creation. We're
Speaker 1: not a creator. We are we are creatures. And because
Speaker 1: we're creaturely, we have attributes of dogs and cows. And
Speaker 1: so the Bible says, the Bible has laid out God
Speaker 1: has laid out his word in a way that this
Speaker 1: creaturely lust that we have, he has a way that
Speaker 1: he directs it, and that is towards marriage, so that
Speaker 1: when you're in marriage, then all of these creaturely desires
Speaker 1: are satisfied in a healthy way that doesn't hurt anything.
Speaker 1: And if you don't, if you don't follow that, then
Speaker 1: you'll find yourself in a really bad place. And most
Speaker 1: of these emails that we've read when it comes to
Speaker 1: separation or divorce, or you would say, oh, yeah, there
Speaker 1: it is, and you just cannot make an argument at
Speaker 1: all that lusting after everyone and chasing your creaturely desire
Speaker 1: and following it down every rabbit hole that it goes
Speaker 1: to leads to a happy life. It always leads to depression, sadness,
Speaker 1: and tortured souls. So the god God says, here's here's
Speaker 1: my law. Do this. So now let's tap back into
Speaker 1: the question here with anonymous.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it doesn't mean it's not hard like the Lord
Speaker 2: has put that in us, as Granger said, though for
Speaker 2: our husband or our wife. So those are temptations that
Speaker 2: we will fight. One of the things that I that
Speaker 2: I like from this question is that he's seeing it
Speaker 2: and he says he's disgusted by it. So he said
Speaker 2: something earlier about I know when I lust, Jesus forgives
Speaker 2: me and I'm wiped clean. Yeah, if you believe, you know,
Speaker 2: if you're a believer, you know, it's not like you
Speaker 2: can just lust and do all this stuff and Jesus
Speaker 2: automatically forgives you.
Speaker 1: Like that's not Yeah that I was going to go
Speaker 1: there too. Okay, it's not automatic.
Speaker 2: It's not automatic, but the fact that you are disgusted
Speaker 2: by it, which that's that's we are at war with
Speaker 2: our flesh. When we are converted and we believe and
Speaker 2: we want to follow the Lord, our sin does grieve us.
Speaker 2: So that's a good thing that I'm seeing from this
Speaker 2: thirteen year old boy.
Speaker 1: I'm at war with my flesh right now.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, we hate scratch. He's just a war
Speaker 2: with his flush, but like we hate our sin. When
Speaker 2: the Lord has changed us, we hate our sin. So
Speaker 2: that's a good thing that you're warring with this. So
Speaker 2: he says, what does he say? Is there anything I
Speaker 2: can do to turn away from this sin?
Speaker 1: Yeah? So the question, you know, it starts off very
Speaker 1: very specific to anonymous this guy and his specific situation,
Speaker 1: but really the question is the most general, but it's
Speaker 1: still very good question, and it is this, do you
Speaker 1: have any tips or anything for me to turn away
Speaker 1: from this sin? And so we said this earlier in
Speaker 1: the podcast, but first we need to understand how serious
Speaker 1: sin is and it's this serious? Is it? Is it
Speaker 1: something that just we just throw away, we kind of forget,
Speaker 1: like oh Jesus wipes the wipes the slate clean. Let's
Speaker 1: think about that for a second. So he says, I
Speaker 1: know when I lust and when I fail, my slate
Speaker 1: has wiped clean by Jesus on the cross. Let's think
Speaker 1: about that, if you could, if you could go back
Speaker 1: in time right now, and you could moments after the
Speaker 1: crucifixion at Calvary and talk to one person that was
Speaker 1: witnessing this and say, did he just wipe this slate clean?
Speaker 1: What do you think about that? It's pretty cool? Huh.
Speaker 1: Everyone would be horrified at what they just saw. Crucifixion
Speaker 1: is the worst way to die. Broadly speaking, it was
Speaker 1: the let me say that only rephrase that crucifixion was
Speaker 1: the best technique for the Romans to execute in the
Speaker 1: most brutal way to get the quickest result. And the
Speaker 1: result is let's make an example of this, of this
Speaker 1: person that has broken the Roman law of some sort.
Speaker 1: Let's make an example of humiliation. It is the ultimate humiliation, excruciating, painful,
Speaker 1: horrific death torture device, and the Romans were good at it.
Speaker 1: So to watch a man efphyxiated, losing his air because
Speaker 1: he's trying to hold himself up on the bones of
Speaker 1: his feet and trying to pull himself up on the
Speaker 1: bones between his hands that giant, rusty nails have gone through,
Speaker 1: and you in order to breathe, because your reaction to
Speaker 1: that such pain is to collapse upon your own lung
Speaker 1: your own lungs, and to take a breath of air,
Speaker 1: you need to stand up on the nail that's going
Speaker 1: between the bones of your feet and take a breath
Speaker 1: and then sink back down. And so you do this
Speaker 1: for hours. You push up on the bones and pull
Speaker 1: with the hands that have nails right through the middle
Speaker 1: of them into the wood, and you pull up and
Speaker 1: just for a second you take a breath of air.
Speaker 1: Then you sink back down. All the while people are
Speaker 1: mocking you, throwing things at you. There are in many cases,
Speaker 1: if you're taking too long because you're breathing too much,
Speaker 1: and everyone's kind of getting bored, or it's getting dark
Speaker 1: and that you can't have people hanging at night, so
Speaker 1: they'll break your legs. So then it makes it even
Speaker 1: harder for you. So now you have broken legs, and
Speaker 1: not the case of Jesus, he didn't have a bone broken,
Speaker 1: but in most cases of crucifixion, you're trying to stand
Speaker 1: on broken legs that they broke with hammers on the
Speaker 1: bloody nails, holding your butt. This is crucifixion. It's absolutely awful.
Speaker 1: So I just want to say that we should think
Speaker 1: really hard, and it's hard, but we need to think
Speaker 1: really hard about saying, oh, Jesus wiped a sleeve clean
Speaker 1: on the cross. Did hey, you know what that meant?
Speaker 1: Do you know the pain that he must have gone
Speaker 1: through for you? Do you know that for you he
Speaker 1: wiped the slate clean on that cross. Yes, for you,
Speaker 1: So don't go back to it for you to turn,
Speaker 1: for you to turn, don't go back. He did that,
Speaker 1: so you're forgiven. So don't go back to the sin.
Speaker 1: Use that. Let that fuel you, and let it fuel
Speaker 1: you to know that if he hadn't have done that,
Speaker 1: you would never be free, you would never be forgiven,
Speaker 1: you would never be seen right in the eyes of God,
Speaker 1: you would never be righteous, and you would be condemned.
Speaker 2: So often people say, you know they And this is
Speaker 2: a short email, so it's hard to hear his heart
Speaker 2: behind it, but so often people will say that, well,
Speaker 2: I know Jesus. Jesus knows my heart. You know he
Speaker 2: died from me on the cross. I know I know
Speaker 2: I'm forgiven. He knows my heart well, our heart is
Speaker 2: sinful and wicked. So I just you know, he said,
Speaker 2: is there anything I can do? I would hit your
Speaker 2: knees every time that you feel that lust, as you know,
Speaker 2: as David, cry out to the Lord. You know, God,
Speaker 2: create me a new heart, a clean heart. God, take this,
Speaker 2: take this sin from me. I cannot do it alone.
Speaker 2: I war with my flesh.
Speaker 1: Help me.
Speaker 2: Lord. Just continue to cry out to God, thinking of
Speaker 2: him on the cross and what he has done for you,
Speaker 2: for that sin that you are fighting, and beg him
Speaker 2: to remove it from you. You will not be perfect.
Speaker 2: We will struggle with this until we're called home. But
Speaker 2: every single time you have that thought, go open your Bible,
Speaker 2: hit your knees, and beg the Lord to take that
Speaker 2: sin from you.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I'm in. And the other thing is to know,
Speaker 1: first we know what the cost, the price that Jesus paid.
Speaker 1: And the second thing is to know that how serious
Speaker 1: Jesus was about sin itself, so serious that he says,
Speaker 1: if your right eye causes you to sin, then pluck
Speaker 1: it out. If your hand causes you to sin, chop
Speaker 1: it off, because it's better to go into heaven without
Speaker 1: a hand or without an eye, then to go into
Speaker 1: hell with two hands and two eyes. That's how serious
Speaker 1: that he. He's not minimizing this at all. So that's
Speaker 1: how serious he is. And he's speaking directly to you
Speaker 1: and to me and to everyone. He's saying, are you struggling,
Speaker 1: gouge out your eye? You know, so know the price,
Speaker 1: the cost, and know how serious he was about it.
Speaker 1: And now when we let's sit on that foundation, and
Speaker 1: now let's get practical. Practically, you're with this girl, you
Speaker 1: really like her, and when you're with her, you start
Speaker 1: to lust. So practically avoid the situations where you're alone,
Speaker 1: avoid the situations where you are tempted in any way,
Speaker 1: are able to act on the lust. If you can't
Speaker 1: handle it, then gouge the eye out and say I
Speaker 1: can't hang out with you.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Now, hopefully it's not ever going to get so bad
Speaker 1: that you cannot see a girl that you actually like
Speaker 1: because you're so overcome with lust. Hopefully he doesn't get there.
Speaker 1: But if you get to a situation where every time
Speaker 1: you just see her, this is why maybe I shouldn't
Speaker 1: go here, but I will. But this is why in Islam,
Speaker 1: the women who are dressed the way that they're dressed,
Speaker 1: and and and it's it's from a lot of different reasons,
Speaker 1: but for one of the foundational reasons Islam, why you
Speaker 1: see women dressed usually in black and completely veiled is
Speaker 1: so that the the men don't stumble with lust. So
Speaker 1: it's like a way, it's a it's a way for
Speaker 1: them to go, Hey, I know how to fix this problem. Anonymous.
Speaker 1: How about we just get all the women to veil themselves.
Speaker 1: Then we don't have the problem. That's that's the wrong
Speaker 1: way to think of it. They could think of a
Speaker 1: million ways. Why that's it's not not the right way
Speaker 1: to do it. That doesn't fix the problem. In fact,
Speaker 1: it might even make people lust more perhaps, But Anonymous,
Speaker 1: let me get to the point. If your right, it's
Speaker 1: continued to send plug it out. So stay away from her,
Speaker 1: and especially alone, especially at night, especially in a bedroom
Speaker 1: or a car or any place like that.
Speaker 2: If you're scrolling her page or something at night, don't
Speaker 2: do that.
Speaker 1: There's that destroy your computer if that's what it takes.
Speaker 2: You don't know what's fueling lust, you know, I mean,
Speaker 2: this question could go so general question, This question could
Speaker 2: go very very deep, for a thirteen year old boy.
Speaker 2: So I don't know what's fueling this lust. But as
Speaker 2: Granger said, if there was anything else that is fueling
Speaker 2: your lust of the eyes or of the fleshyouget out.
Speaker 1: Let me say this. Let me say this. This will
Speaker 1: finish the question and the podcast. Anonymous. You're anonymous, I
Speaker 1: get it. It's embarrassing. Don't be anonymous to everyone.
Speaker 2: Yeah, confess to somebody, you know.
Speaker 1: Go to someone, a friend, a parent, a sibling, a cousin,
Speaker 1: a teacher, a coach, a pastor, anyone. Go to anyone,
Speaker 1: and we would recommend a friend like that. Usually starts
Speaker 1: with a friend. You need accountability, buddy, like Daniel in
Speaker 1: the Bible, you need buddies, and you go, I got
Speaker 1: a problem. Can I tell you about a problem, dah
Speaker 1: man anything. I'm I'm having this problem with lust right now.
Speaker 1: Will you help keep me accountable? Brother? Yeah? Man, I will.
Speaker 1: What do you wanna do? Okay, Well, when's the when's
Speaker 1: the time you're vulnerable? Usually at night? I get vulnerable
Speaker 1: when I'm all alone and I have my screen. Okay,
Speaker 1: here's what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna text you at
Speaker 1: seven am tomorrow and I'm gonna say, did you stay clean? Okay?
Speaker 1: Text me okay. And so nine o'clock at night, you're
Speaker 1: getting lonely and you're scrolling this girl's page and you think, oh, man,
Speaker 1: I gotta, I gotta. I can't lie to my buddy.
Speaker 1: Tomorrow he's gonna ask me at seven am if I
Speaker 1: stayed clean, and I'm gonna say, yes, I did. I
Speaker 1: have to do it. So you're gonna put the phone down,
Speaker 1: and then seven am hege major stay clean. Yeah it
Speaker 1: was hard, but I did. How about you? I did too.
Speaker 1: And then if you slip up, you tell them and
Speaker 1: you keep each other accountable. You fall, I fall, So
Speaker 1: let me hold you up so that you don't fall,
Speaker 1: because if you go down and I go down, this
Speaker 1: is this is the accountability you have to have to
Speaker 1: do that. Let's practically do that. Anonymous, don't be anonymous
Speaker 1: to everyone. You could be anonymous to me, but not
Speaker 1: to your buddy.
Speaker 2: Two her better than one.
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