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Speaker 1: Hi, you guys. It's me Cynthia Bailey. Here. I'm here

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Speaker 1: with my daughter Noel for the first episode of Mommy

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Speaker 1: and Me. And we're so excited. We are. So we're

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Speaker 1: gonna do a toast. We can drink together now, which

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Speaker 1: is quick. She's four, which she has a love hate

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Speaker 1: relationship with I really did. We'll get into that, and

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Speaker 1: we're gonna cheers to my first seeding strength my peach Bellini.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'll be happy. What are you drinking? I'm

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Speaker 1: having some moscato. Excuse me, my cheers, cheers us and

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Speaker 1: cheers to this first episode. Should I be worried about

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Speaker 1: some of the stuff you're gonna say? Always always runaway

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Speaker 1: train over here. She doesn't say a lot, but when

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Speaker 1: she does, it's like a lot. So let's just jump

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Speaker 1: right into it. Wow, Okay, this is the first time

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Speaker 1: we've really done anything like this. Yeah, so I'm a

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Speaker 1: little mortified but excited. All right, explain your relationship as

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Speaker 1: mother and daughter. Our relationship you want to go first? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'll go first.

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Speaker 2: So I would say our relationship is very complex, but

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Speaker 2: I feel like it's functional. I feel like the way

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Speaker 2: that we operate as mom and daughter probably wouldn't work

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Speaker 2: for a lot of other people, but for us, I'll

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Speaker 2: say that, and I feel like we're very, very close,

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Speaker 2: which is really good in a lot of ways. But

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Speaker 2: it does cause us to clash in.

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Speaker 1: A lot of ways.

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Speaker 2: But there are ways that I wouldn't regret because I

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Speaker 2: just want to be close to I think it's like

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Speaker 2: with anybody, like a mother daughter relationship is like a

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Speaker 2: relationship with so many different aspects, like with a friend,

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Speaker 2: with another family member and relationships. You know, if you

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Speaker 2: spend so much time with anybody, even if you love them,

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Speaker 2: you know, sometimes you guys can bump pedsulm.

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Speaker 1: Yes, that's very true. And then for me, I would

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Speaker 1: say our relationship is like I'm your mom, but we're friends.

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Speaker 1: And I know everyone's like, don't be friends with your kids,

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Speaker 1: Like you can't be friends with your children. That is

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Speaker 1: some bullshit, okay, because I have to be your friend

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Speaker 1: because if I'm not your friend, I you know, there's

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Speaker 1: no real communication. I don't know what's going on. You

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Speaker 1: don't trust me to tell me and keep me in

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Speaker 1: the loop of all the things that you're doing. And

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Speaker 1: I want to know everything. I want to know everything

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Speaker 1: that you have going on, you know, and.

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Speaker 2: She's also like a helicopter mom, so I feel like

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Speaker 2: she couldn't even have the amount of like information control

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Speaker 2: that she wants to have if she wasn't also my friend.

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Speaker 1: So wait, it's true. I'm a helicopter Yes, you like,

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Speaker 1: basically your face should be in the dictionary by helicopter

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Speaker 1: mom because okay, well we're gonna move on to yeah,

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Speaker 1: we'll like anyway. I believe in being friends with your children,

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Speaker 1: and I know a lot of people don't, but for

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Speaker 1: us it works. I'm not, you know, only one child,

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Speaker 1: so I can only tell you what works for us.

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Speaker 1: And I mean I don't even like her to be

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Speaker 1: be friends, I want to make sure that we never

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Speaker 1: really have you know, we're not mad at each other

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Speaker 1: for too long, and we'll get into that stuff exactly,

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Speaker 1: all right, Noel, do you like being an only child? Yes?

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Speaker 1: So I get this question so much. I love being

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Speaker 1: an only child. I really wouldn't trade it for the world.

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Speaker 2: But also, I think you need to say that when

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Speaker 2: you don't have any siblings or you don't have an

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Speaker 2: experience of anything else.

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Speaker 1: I enjoy it.

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Speaker 2: I like the extra attention, but sometimes it could be

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Speaker 2: bad because I am her only child, so like she

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Speaker 2: can extra focus on all. Okay, so I could see

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Speaker 2: how maybe it would have taken some of that pressure off.

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Speaker 1: But I could say I enjoyed it.

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Speaker 2: No, I think you definitely enjoy it has more pros

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Speaker 2: and than cons. For me, I'd say, right, it works

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Speaker 2: for her because I used to feel bad, especially as

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Speaker 2: I get older. I just celebrated my fifty seventh birthday,

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Speaker 2: and I often think about, like, you know, when I

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Speaker 2: go to heaven, I know, but you know, I'm not

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Speaker 2: gonna be it forever. But when I do go on,

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Speaker 2: like sometimes I wish you had a sister, someone else

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Speaker 2: protect each other, you know what I mean, like someone else.

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Speaker 1: And your dad is like older too, so you know

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Speaker 1: at some point, you know, I don't want to get

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Speaker 1: always felt a little bad about not no, not having

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Speaker 1: that she's like, no, I'm good, I can figure it out, okay, Like,

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Speaker 1: and did I always want one kid. You know what,

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Speaker 1: I really am a want and done kind of girl

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Speaker 1: when it comes to like being a mom, Like and

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Speaker 1: I wore her ouse anymore to a lot. It was

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Speaker 1: really almost like having triplets like you are. There's a

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Speaker 1: lot of layers that you have. So yeah, I'm good

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Speaker 1: with one. I can't imagine love two or three of you. No,

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Speaker 1: all right, So what is your favorite thing about each other?

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Speaker 1: What is your favorite thing about me? Take your time.

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Speaker 1: I mean, there's there's so many things, so it's just

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Speaker 2: I would say, I love how authentic you are, Like

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Speaker 2: you're just very much so yourself. Like it's like, this

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Speaker 2: is who I am, this is what works for me,

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Speaker 2: this is what doesn't work for me. And you're not

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Speaker 2: afraid to make mistakes and just try to do something

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Speaker 1: And that's something I'm not afraid to look crazy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like, and that's honestly something I feel is really

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Speaker 2: admirable because I feel like some people, even including myself,

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Speaker 2: you know, just even put myself out there in a

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Speaker 2: way that oh if it if it doesn't work out.

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Speaker 1: It would be bad. But like with you, you're just like

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Speaker 1: I'm just doing it.

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Speaker 2: Whether it's like a business opportunity or relationship anything, she

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Speaker 2: just kind of it just goes after it, and you know,

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Speaker 2: if it fails, she just looks as it like you

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Speaker 2: look said as a lesson and just like moves forward.

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Speaker 1: That's true. That's true. That's sorry, that's true. Okay, what

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Speaker 1: is my favorite thing about you? I think my favorite

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Speaker 1: thing about you is like you're very like when you

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Speaker 1: want something, you're gonna get it. Like when Noah focuses

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Speaker 1: just don't even fight her on it because it's gonna happen.

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Speaker 1: If she's going to get it, that's going to be

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Speaker 1: her obsession and her focus and she's not gonna stop

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Speaker 1: until it happens. So I learned a long time ago,

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Speaker 1: mean as well, just like what can I do to

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Speaker 1: it get Also like the scorpio and it is it

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Speaker 1: is a scorpio. These scorpio people out here, when I

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Speaker 1: say you do not they're going to get what they want.

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Speaker 1: You don't want to piss them off because I could

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Speaker 1: takes years. They're going to pay you back. They're going

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Speaker 1: to get their lick back, no matter what, even if

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Speaker 1: there even if you're their mother, They're going to get

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Speaker 1: their linked back. Sometimes I'm like, we've moved past that,

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Speaker 1: I might tell you and joke, but I'll never tell you.

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Speaker 1: She is not wrong. She's not wrong, And I honestly

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Speaker 1: think that I'm like one of the better, more evolved

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Speaker 1: scorpios out here. So that's just your lick back. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: well the thing is coming. But even if the lick

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Right, No, it's true. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So what is your biggest dick about each other? This

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Speaker 1: one is super easy for me, Okay, Okay, So I

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Speaker 1: would say it's actually two things. So one of my

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Speaker 1: eggs about you is she gets like very hostile about

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Speaker 1: like food, like if I have some food, and it's

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Speaker 1: just the pie story. Yeah, this is also very fresh

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Speaker 1: and it was a real tread. Yeah, we really fell out.

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Speaker 2: Like it was like a really bad fallout actually about

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Speaker 2: a blueberry pie from Airwan. I went to the grocery store.

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Speaker 2: I asked her, Hey, do you want anything from Airwan?

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Speaker 2: I literally actually told her. I said, hey, I'm thinking

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Speaker 2: about getting this slice. It's a slice of poe, a

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Speaker 1: I'm like, because I'm trying to be good and be

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Speaker 1: like fifteen pounds. But anyway, so of course I turned

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Speaker 2: I came home and then a couple hours he she's like,

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Speaker 2: and I was like, hey, you can have like half

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Speaker 2: of my slice of pie.

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Speaker 1: Yeah exactly, she she I like, like blueberry pie. I

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Speaker 1: eated it up for her. I plated it and I

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Speaker 1: served her with some ice cream. You did, I did?

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Speaker 1: That was fair? So I brought upstairs. She had the pot.

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Speaker 1: She said, oh my god, this is so good. I

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Speaker 1: I've been sleeping on blueberry pie for years apparently, like

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Speaker 1: I'm more of like a sweet potato pie or the

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Speaker 1: cam pie, like any other pie. I never think about

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Speaker 2: And keep in mind, I am I have a major

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Speaker 2: sweet tooth, and you know as a girl, like I'm

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Speaker 2: around that time where like I'm.

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Speaker 1: Crazy sweet stuff. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So, like I was very much so looking forward to

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Speaker 2: eating my second slice, and I you know when you

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Speaker 2: like plan out something like you're like, I'm gonna eat

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Speaker 1: It out, okay, So what happened? So basically she.

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Speaker 2: Was like can I have the other slice of pie?

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Speaker 2: And I was like no, no, and she was like wow,

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Speaker 2: like and you can you can explain all right.

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Speaker 1: Well from there, I just didn't think it was that

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Speaker 1: and then I felt like if she, I mean, she

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Speaker 1: like I don't really ask that much, Like I literally

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Speaker 1: asked you for nothing, but for some reason, you asked

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Speaker 1: me for fifty things a day. You probably asked me

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Speaker 1: literally asked you for nothing. She like, I never asked

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Speaker 1: for anything, but I do not. But then I got it.

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Speaker 1: This pie was so good, so I was like, you know,

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Speaker 1: I want, I want it, just like can you just

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Speaker 1: give me this one thing? And she was like no,

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Speaker 1: And then I just was like this is I just

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Speaker 2: Yeah no, because my whole thing is she was crazy

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Speaker 2: and as if I was just purposely just like stripping

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Speaker 2: I asked her if she wanted me to get her

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Speaker 2: But you should not ever know what my battery percentage is.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like it's not always a good time to be

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Speaker 2: like hello, like mom, if some like can you give

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Speaker 1: What's one piece of advice you would give to other

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're.

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Speaker 2: Is how I like, I'm stuck in my ways, this

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Speaker 1: I come around, I don't shut you down, I don't

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Speaker 1: That goes back to the friendship part of the friendship dynamic.

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Speaker 1: In our relationship, we talk about everything, like I call

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Speaker 1: hey I told you when you ask me, you know,

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Speaker 2: But I think part of that as a parent, and

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Speaker 2: And then there's other things where it's like I know

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00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:44,680
Speaker 2: I'm telling her a story that may not have been

433
00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:47,359
Speaker 2: like something that I made the best decisions, and I

434
00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:49,880
Speaker 2: know that she can't she won't put.

435
00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:52,359
Speaker 1: On that hat and she'll just genuinely just be a

436
00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:55,800
Speaker 1: front and give me that sound advice. Because if I

437
00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:58,000
Speaker 1: felt like you would just be a disciplinarian at every

438
00:21:58,040 --> 00:21:59,960
Speaker 1: turn no matter what I said, I just wouldn't say so.

439
00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:02,520
Speaker 1: And it doesn't mean that I wouldn't do them, I

440
00:22:02,560 --> 00:22:04,520
Speaker 1: just wouldn't tell her, which I don't really feel like

441
00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:06,480
Speaker 1: you serve me either one of them, right, you know,

442
00:22:06,760 --> 00:22:09,879
Speaker 1: And that's called being out of the loop because they

443
00:22:09,880 --> 00:22:13,280
Speaker 1: don't feel comfortable telling you stuff exactly, and trust me,

444
00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:19,120
Speaker 1: you'd rather know than not. So do I ever embarrass you? Yes?

445
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:22,439
Speaker 1: Do you embarrass me when you always try to do

446
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:25,720
Speaker 1: like those dancing videos on Instagram and on the show,

447
00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:28,920
Speaker 1: like when you tried to do the pole dancing class

448
00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:32,840
Speaker 1: that was kind of horrific. For me, I actually did

449
00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:35,960
Speaker 1: a great job in that pole dancing class. You know

450
00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:39,119
Speaker 1: that I kind of killed it. To be honest, I

451
00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:45,440
Speaker 1: personally don't feel about Yeah I met, but everyone loves

452
00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:47,359
Speaker 1: my Do you know how many likes and comments I

453
00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:49,879
Speaker 1: get when I guess I should do more dancing videos.

454
00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:52,000
Speaker 1: As a matter of fact, I've meant to actually focus

455
00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:55,119
Speaker 1: on doing more dancing videos in twenty twenty four, but

456
00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:57,720
Speaker 1: I just got busy with the acting and you know

457
00:22:57,760 --> 00:22:59,560
Speaker 1: all the other you know, jobs and stuff that I

458
00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:02,919
Speaker 1: have going on. But I wish I would love to

459
00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:05,480
Speaker 1: do at least drop a couple of dancing videos a

460
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:08,680
Speaker 1: week on my social media. Just because you're getting a

461
00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:11,760
Speaker 1: lot of engagement with something doesn't mean that it's necessarily

462
00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 1: like positive, Like, well, people make fun of me, Yeah,

463
00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:19,080
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying, Like they have a sin. I mean,

464
00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:22,080
Speaker 1: they still enjoy it, like it, but they're not they're

465
00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:24,200
Speaker 1: not laughing with you, you know what I mean. They're

466
00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:30,760
Speaker 1: laughing like that's something that I'm embarrassed about because it's like, oh,

467
00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:32,960
Speaker 1: you're like my friends just like here's your mom like

468
00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:38,240
Speaker 1: basically trying to work on Instagram, and I'm like, yes,

469
00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:41,720
Speaker 1: that is her that is indeed my mom that you

470
00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:47,919
Speaker 1: just saw. Indeed, Well, I love to dance, and I

471
00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 1: just think at this point in my life, I should

472
00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:52,440
Speaker 1: just be allowed to just do what I want to do.

473
00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 1: If I want to dance, even if people make fun

474
00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 1: of me, they can just let the photo put their

475
00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:02,439
Speaker 1: laugh emode and let me move on with my life. Agreed.

476
00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:06,800
Speaker 1: So most I'm not things, but most people, most people's

477
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:09,480
Speaker 1: moms also, like don't have like millions and millions of followers,

478
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:12,200
Speaker 1: so it's like it wouldn't be yeah, you know what

479
00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:14,119
Speaker 1: I mean. Well, I've had a couple of go by

480
00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:18,120
Speaker 1: I will say, agree, which I thought was a good Okay,

481
00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:22,920
Speaker 1: how would you describe me in three words? I would

482
00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:29,080
Speaker 1: say ambitious, classy, and authentic. Thank you, Iver Seved That

483
00:24:30,080 --> 00:24:34,840
Speaker 1: have you always felt comfortable telling me everything? Not always.

484
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:38,359
Speaker 2: I think as a kid you go through like those

485
00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 2: little rebellious years when you're a teenager where you just

486
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:43,960
Speaker 2: kind of just go rogue.

487
00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:47,119
Speaker 1: And I didn't at that point feel so comfortable telling

488
00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:52,720
Speaker 1: you everything. But I think I did come around pretty

489
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:56,240
Speaker 1: quickly and sooner than most kids do. Yeah, like you

490
00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:58,920
Speaker 1: probably like it was like maybe a year or two

491
00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:02,879
Speaker 1: I didn't like the teen, fourteen and fifteen. Those years,

492
00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:05,240
Speaker 1: there was a lot of like closed doors, a lot

493
00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:08,080
Speaker 1: of like hey, you think, no, I'm fine, Hey, how

494
00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:10,760
Speaker 1: was your day? It was good? But you know how

495
00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:13,439
Speaker 1: it is like like it was like everybody goes to

496
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:16,440
Speaker 1: that town that like one word thing where like they

497
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 1: you just know they don't like you, and you're just

498
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:21,639
Speaker 1: asking basic questions like would you like some food and

499
00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:24,639
Speaker 1: you're like no mine. You're like, but you haven't eaten.

500
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:28,000
Speaker 1: I'm good. Can you please leave me alone? I feel

501
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:31,040
Speaker 1: like it's like they're terrible twos, but like in teenage years,

502
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 1: like people go through thirteen, fourteen, fifteen year old Oh

503
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:37,960
Speaker 1: my god, Like I was like, and then you come

504
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:40,639
Speaker 1: around and realize like, oh, we actually need this person.

505
00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,320
Speaker 1: This person is actually trying to help me survive. Yeah,

506
00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:46,479
Speaker 1: open the door and let me back in. Like it was.

507
00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 1: That was tough. That was really tough. How do you

508
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 1: feel about hearing about my dating life? It's like, I

509
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:56,359
Speaker 1: don't really mind it, just because we do have the

510
00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 1: type of relationship where we're very unfiltered with each other.

511
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:02,359
Speaker 1: And I mean, not gonna lie, there's still some moments

512
00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:04,159
Speaker 1: I'm like, m this was kind of a lot that

513
00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 1: you just told me. But overall, I like being able

514
00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:10,880
Speaker 1: to just like shed like some light on my perspective

515
00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:13,320
Speaker 1: on things, just because I feel like the way that

516
00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:17,760
Speaker 1: I navigate dating just in my age group, in the

517
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:19,960
Speaker 1: way you guys navigate dating and your age group is

518
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:22,159
Speaker 1: just so different and there's so many different terms and

519
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 1: different pieces of information that you don't know about and

520
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:30,719
Speaker 1: vice versa with me. Right well, what I love is

521
00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:32,800
Speaker 1: that you're able to help me navigate a little bit.

522
00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 1: Because again, I'm old school, so I'm used to people

523
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:37,440
Speaker 1: just picking up phone and calling me if they want

524
00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:39,440
Speaker 1: to talk to me. If I want to talk to them,

525
00:26:39,520 --> 00:26:43,760
Speaker 1: I just call them back right away. I text back.

526
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 1: If you text me, I text you back right away.

527
00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:51,080
Speaker 1: I'm just very like, okay, so you're trying to get

528
00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 1: to know me, so this is how this should go.

529
00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:58,160
Speaker 1: But unfortunately, this is a different time. This is different,

530
00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:02,200
Speaker 1: like dating is different now, and like I honestly, I've

531
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 1: been single for like a couple of years now, and

532
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:08,639
Speaker 1: it's been very difficult to just try to figure out

533
00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:11,800
Speaker 1: like even if someone even likes you or not. I'm like, well,

534
00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 1: wait a minute, you win my dams for ten years,

535
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:18,280
Speaker 1: like you reached out to me. So now that I

536
00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:21,920
Speaker 1: finally responded, aren't you supposed to be kind of excited

537
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:24,520
Speaker 1: about it and call me all the time and text

538
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 1: me all the time? And you've sat in these dams

539
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 1: all this time wanting my attention and when I finally

540
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 1: give it to you, now I can't get you on

541
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:33,840
Speaker 1: the phone. Yeah, I would. That's like definitely a piece

542
00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:36,160
Speaker 1: of dating advice that I feel like I shared with her.

543
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:39,880
Speaker 1: If there's ever a situation. Obviously I wouldn't say this

544
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:41,639
Speaker 1: is like one hundred percent of the time, but I

545
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:45,240
Speaker 1: would probably say ninety five. If you've ignored somebody in

546
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,760
Speaker 1: your dams or just in general that has been trying

547
00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 1: to pursue you, and then you finally like circle around,

548
00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:53,920
Speaker 1: just don't even do it because they're gonna like put

549
00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:56,159
Speaker 1: you through it, Like seriously, it's just not worth it

550
00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:58,720
Speaker 1: because I didn't because I've made them wait so long.

551
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 1: If you yet, if you ignored it, just keep ignoring you.

552
00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:05,960
Speaker 1: That's just the best thing that I can say. Like

553
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:06,960
Speaker 1: I'm not going to say.

554
00:28:06,840 --> 00:28:10,000
Speaker 2: It will never work out, but well, I ignored it

555
00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:11,840
Speaker 2: because I was in a relationship at the time.

556
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 1: But now that I'm single, I'm like, okay, so now

557
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:18,080
Speaker 1: spend the block Like, Okay, now you will get a

558
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 1: different outcome if you come for me, because I can

559
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,240
Speaker 1: actually go for a coffee with you or whatever whatever

560
00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:27,119
Speaker 1: people do. Now, yeah, okay, who is your celebrity crush?

561
00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:30,720
Speaker 1: But do you know who? Minus? You don't know who

562
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 1: my celebrity crushes? Do you have a couple of I

563
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:36,640
Speaker 1: do not. I have one that I have consistently named

564
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:41,240
Speaker 1: and called out. It's not a rapper. And like I

565
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 1: literally have on every major platform talked about the celebrity

566
00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:49,560
Speaker 1: crush it. Who was it? You really don't know what

567
00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:54,440
Speaker 1: it is? Okay? When I said we tell each other everything,

568
00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 1: I don't know you talk about a lot of people.

569
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:02,320
Speaker 1: One soelebrity crush on this planet. Okay, So when I

570
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 1: tell you, can I tell you who I thought it was?

571
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:09,280
Speaker 1: I thought it was fifty Cent's fifty cent? What I mean,

572
00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:11,680
Speaker 1: I don't have anything against fifty cent. I mean we

573
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 1: do share a nickname, like I'm fifty cent fifty c Why,

574
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:18,640
Speaker 1: Like we listened to a lot of his music. Still, well,

575
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 1: I love his music, but I don't have a crush

576
00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:22,960
Speaker 1: on him. He's not my celebrity crush. Like I would

577
00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 1: like to meet him one day because I just I'm

578
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 1: all the way I think I know what it is?

579
00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:30,560
Speaker 1: Is it the guy from the podcast over right? He

580
00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:35,960
Speaker 1: just just Okay, I'm just gonna say yes because I

581
00:29:35,960 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 1: don't want to like, yeah, we're gonna like snaggle through

582
00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:42,480
Speaker 1: like ten people. Go ahead, Noel for Robinson, my first

583
00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:46,000
Speaker 1: born and only born child. My celebrity crush, for the

584
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:50,680
Speaker 1: love of God is Letty. I would have yeah, you've

585
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:54,960
Speaker 1: mentioned this, but I wouldn't guessed that one. Okay, I'm

586
00:29:55,080 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 1: so hurt and disappointed that you don't know that about me.

587
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:02,480
Speaker 1: This is like public you can google who is Cynthia

588
00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:06,480
Speaker 1: Bailey's celebrity crush and it comes up. I don't need

589
00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 1: you to pay more attentions. I need to do better

590
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:13,320
Speaker 1: and shout out to fifty I celebrity crush? Who is yours?

591
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:16,200
Speaker 1: You have one? I don't really like. If I'm just

592
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:24,880
Speaker 1: thinking about someone on the spot, I would say like, oh, okay, okay,

593
00:30:25,080 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 1: well she is cute. Actually did games people play with her?

594
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:31,200
Speaker 1: And she's super sweet and super cute. She seems like

595
00:30:31,280 --> 00:30:37,560
Speaker 1: super sweet. Yeah she is. I was right about that answer. Okay,

596
00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:42,320
Speaker 1: what did you like and did not like about filming Housewives.

597
00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 2: Ooh okay, I would say, which, like, yeah, the things

598
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 2: that I did like about filming Housewives is just more

599
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:55,760
Speaker 2: so coming from who I am as a person, Like

600
00:30:55,800 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 2: I'm just a very private person. I don't really like

601
00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:01,959
Speaker 2: for people to know that much about me. So I

602
00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 2: feel like that's probably something that I kind of didn't like.

603
00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:07,840
Speaker 2: Was just you know, people didn't know a lot about

604
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:10,840
Speaker 2: me from the show, not everything obviously you came on

605
00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:12,960
Speaker 2: when you were eight. Yeah, that's another thing I was

606
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 2: going to say, Like just filming a reality television show,

607
00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:19,280
Speaker 2: like when you're so young and you know, people forming

608
00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 2: opinions about you as you're literally just growing up just

609
00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 2: living life. I think it was really really difficult on me,

610
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:30,080
Speaker 2: just always feeling like I had to be a perfectionist,

611
00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 2: like even to this day, like even on my Instagram,

612
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 2: like I want all my pictures to be like absolutely perfect.

613
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:39,600
Speaker 2: But as I like dive deeper, I think it's like

614
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:42,120
Speaker 2: a defense mechanism because I have been like picked a

615
00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:45,320
Speaker 2: part on television for like over a decades. Would say,

616
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:48,479
Speaker 2: I would say, for me, I feel like being on

617
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:51,040
Speaker 2: television and being on a reality TV show since I

618
00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:54,560
Speaker 2: was like eight years old. There's constantly so many like

619
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:57,880
Speaker 2: different opinions that people have like on you, just as

620
00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 2: you're just growing up and being a kid, which I

621
00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 2: think can be a little bit rough on your mental

622
00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:04,160
Speaker 2: It was rough on life.

623
00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm grown, and it's hard, you know, social

624
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:10,240
Speaker 1: media the aspect that makes it very difficult. It's not

625
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:12,040
Speaker 1: like you just like back in my day, you just

626
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:15,360
Speaker 1: watch show and you just went to sleep after it,

627
00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 1: just like went to dinner, like you didn't go on

628
00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 1: social media and talk about the show and rip apart

629
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 1: the people on the show. Yeah. So I think like.

630
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:25,040
Speaker 2: Just me being like a kid and just like growing

631
00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:27,800
Speaker 2: up on there, I think one it did make it

632
00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 2: a bit hard for me socially because you have to

633
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:31,880
Speaker 2: also understand I'm going to school every day as well,

634
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:34,800
Speaker 2: Like I'm also like you know, making friends. I'm also

635
00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:37,240
Speaker 2: like you know, calling myself, trying to date, you know,

636
00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:40,200
Speaker 2: like certain things like that. I do feel like it

637
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:42,800
Speaker 2: definitely made that experience a little bit more difficult. And

638
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 2: it also I feel made me a bit of a perfectionist.

639
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:49,520
Speaker 2: Like even on my Instagram, like I'm like so anal

640
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 2: about all my pictures being perfect and as I like

641
00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 2: Dug a little bit deeper. I think that that just

642
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:58,240
Speaker 2: more so comes from like me wanting to like appear perfect.

643
00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:01,280
Speaker 2: It's just a defense mechanism from being picked apart for

644
00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 2: so long on reality TV. And it's not to stay

645
00:33:03,920 --> 00:33:06,120
Speaker 2: that like I wasn't. I feel that I was, like,

646
00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 2: you know, for the most part. But when you have

647
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:10,920
Speaker 2: millions of people watching a show, there's gonna be people

648
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:13,240
Speaker 2: that just don't like you. And it's okay, you know,

649
00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 2: that's fine, that's just like a part of life. Yeah,

650
00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:18,280
Speaker 2: you know, social media is like a tricky thing because I.

651
00:33:18,360 --> 00:33:20,120
Speaker 1: Will have to say, after eleven years of being on

652
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:23,640
Speaker 1: Real Housewives of Atlanta, you know, depending on a scene

653
00:33:23,640 --> 00:33:25,640
Speaker 1: that I was in, depending if I was into it

654
00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:29,160
Speaker 1: one of you know, someone's favorite housewife or whatever. You know,

655
00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 1: they would like go in on me or drag me

656
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:33,640
Speaker 1: or whatever. You're like, oh my god, you're awful, you're

657
00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 1: so boring, you're so stupid, you're so weak, you're so whatever,

658
00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:38,600
Speaker 1: you don't have a boys, you don't have an opinion, whatever.

659
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 1: You know, all those things would be in social media world.

660
00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 1: And I have to say I was on the show

661
00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:48,960
Speaker 1: for eleven consistent years, and I haven't been on for

662
00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 1: a couple of years. I have yet to see some

663
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 1: a fan in person come up to me and say,

664
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:58,480
Speaker 1: oh my god, you were just a corrupt Dodo on

665
00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:01,400
Speaker 1: the show. I can't stand in your own show. You

666
00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:04,960
Speaker 1: are a horrible human being. You made watching this show

667
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:09,719
Speaker 1: like dying of slow death. Like yet for anything come

668
00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:12,319
Speaker 1: up to me and say anything. All I get is

669
00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:15,359
Speaker 1: love in person. Oh my god, you're my favorite. I

670
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:17,080
Speaker 1: love you. You gotta come back to the show. She's not

671
00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 1: the same with that you. Oh my god, my mom

672
00:34:19,200 --> 00:34:21,440
Speaker 1: loves you, my grandmother loves you, my kids love you.

673
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:24,720
Speaker 1: Like it's all love in person. But on social media,

674
00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 1: that's when things could be negative and hateful. But you

675
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 1: have to For me, I put into things in perspective,

676
00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:34,399
Speaker 1: like what's real is when people see exactly what's not

677
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:37,560
Speaker 1: real is people hiding behind social media. But I think

678
00:34:37,600 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 1: also another.

679
00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:40,399
Speaker 2: Piece of this is I grew up in the more

680
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 2: of the age of social media than what you do,

681
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 2: you know, And I think social media has been, you know,

682
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 2: really prevalent, maybe in the past like five or six years.

683
00:34:49,239 --> 00:34:50,839
Speaker 1: And I think when we first started to show, there

684
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:53,160
Speaker 1: was social media, but it was it wasn't as late. Yeah,

685
00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:55,239
Speaker 1: and I kind of grew up in an era of

686
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 1: like social media was very deep for like pretty much

687
00:34:58,080 --> 00:34:59,080
Speaker 1: my life.

688
00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:01,840
Speaker 2: You know, I don't remember when it wasn't random, but

689
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:04,200
Speaker 2: that's what I'm saying. So and people, of course, you

690
00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:06,160
Speaker 2: could go through things where people will say like, oh,

691
00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:09,239
Speaker 2: you know, just don't read the comments, but you're you

692
00:35:09,280 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 2: know what I mean, Like it's hard. It's like saying,

693
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:13,399
Speaker 2: don't eat the blueberry pie. If it tastes good, you're

694
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:15,960
Speaker 2: gonna eat. You're gonna read the comments. And even at

695
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:18,120
Speaker 2: the time, like this is before they were like filters

696
00:35:18,120 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 2: and different things in place, but you had to read

697
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:22,880
Speaker 2: a comment to know what's bad to delete it.

698
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 1: So it's like, yeah, I didn't comment to block the person,

699
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:28,560
Speaker 1: okays know they need to be blocked, exactly. And it's

700
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 1: hard to just not internalize it. And I think sometimes

701
00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:33,759
Speaker 1: when people see you on television, they just think that

702
00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:36,040
Speaker 1: you're like this larger than like person that you can't

703
00:35:36,040 --> 00:35:39,240
Speaker 1: be affected by. You don't have to build well, okay,

704
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 1: and we read all the main comments all right, exactly,

705
00:35:42,360 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 1: So I think that's that positivity. If you don't like us,

706
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:47,959
Speaker 1: don't falls exactly. I agree. I don't follow anyone else,

707
00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 1: only follow people that I like. Actually, I mean, it

708
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:54,560
Speaker 1: seems like a pretty reasonable thing social media. Follow the

709
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:56,799
Speaker 1: people you like, don't follow people you don't like.

710
00:35:56,880 --> 00:35:59,839
Speaker 2: And I also say, as a reality show TV kid,

711
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:05,160
Speaker 2: even just a celebrity kid, I do feel like sometimes

712
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 2: people have the stigma of like, oh, our life is perfect,

713
00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:10,880
Speaker 2: or like we just don't go through stuff, or like

714
00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:13,200
Speaker 2: if we were to say anything or do anything, we

715
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:16,080
Speaker 2: kind of automatically get like the wrap.

716
00:36:15,840 --> 00:36:18,279
Speaker 1: Of like being spoiled. And to be honest with you,

717
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:20,240
Speaker 1: like we go through real stuff.

718
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:23,160
Speaker 2: So it's like we're going through life just the same

719
00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:25,239
Speaker 2: a lot of the same ways that you guys are,

720
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:28,080
Speaker 2: and then we're seeing all these crazy comments and it

721
00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:29,920
Speaker 2: would be wrong for me to say, like it doesn't

722
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:32,239
Speaker 2: affect I could say it definitely has affected me.

723
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:36,360
Speaker 1: But I've worked on it, you know, so we're you mean, well, yeah,

724
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:39,840
Speaker 1: what do you like about being a part of the show.

725
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:42,759
Speaker 2: What I did like about being a part of the

726
00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:46,000
Speaker 2: show is I do feel that in my vulnerability and

727
00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:48,560
Speaker 2: people watching me grow up, there were a lot of

728
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:52,320
Speaker 2: people that were able to resonate with my personal journey

729
00:36:52,320 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 2: in so many different areas, just being afraid to go

730
00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:57,200
Speaker 2: to college, or like even like coming out on the show,

731
00:36:57,239 --> 00:36:59,160
Speaker 2: Like there were just so many different parts of me

732
00:36:59,280 --> 00:37:02,440
Speaker 2: just figuring myself out that I feel.

733
00:37:02,239 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 1: Like really made a big impact.

734
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:07,680
Speaker 2: Like seriously that have gone through like similar experiences that

735
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 2: to me, or just watching me grow up. I feel

736
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:13,400
Speaker 2: like it really inspired a lot of people out received

737
00:37:13,400 --> 00:37:15,400
Speaker 2: some like oh when you went through this, like I

738
00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:17,560
Speaker 2: really resonated with this, or oh, like I was thinking

739
00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 2: about going to this place and it resonated with me.

740
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:23,760
Speaker 2: So just knowing that like my authentic story is having

741
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:26,399
Speaker 2: like a really positive impact on someone else like that

742
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:28,279
Speaker 2: always is gonna feel absolutely well.

743
00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 1: Can I tell you that you coming out on the show.

744
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 1: I never had so many phone calls and dms from

745
00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:40,520
Speaker 1: people that found my number who just commended me and

746
00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:46,239
Speaker 1: you exactly. And the whole situation of other celebrities, uh,

747
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:49,439
Speaker 1: just other people who have children that are fluid as well.

748
00:37:50,520 --> 00:37:52,279
Speaker 1: It really was like I had no idea. I was

749
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:54,200
Speaker 1: just like, Okay, well this is just our thing, and

750
00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:55,960
Speaker 1: I was like, let's just talk about our thing. And

751
00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:58,399
Speaker 1: so many other parents were trying to figure out how

752
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:03,040
Speaker 1: to navigate that. You know, their their kids want they

753
00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:04,439
Speaker 1: know you know that.

754
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:08,920
Speaker 2: They you know, they've decided to that somewhere on the spectrum. Yeah,

755
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 2: And I think for for me, I think it was.

756
00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 1: A really excellent presentation of how to interact with, you know,

757
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 1: a kid who just like them more daughter relationship, of

758
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:22,160
Speaker 1: how to navigate conversations like that, because there's so many

759
00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:25,560
Speaker 1: situations where it doesn't go that way, you know what

760
00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:27,319
Speaker 1: I mean. I know it was really hard for you

761
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:29,920
Speaker 1: to do that, to come out on camera, but I

762
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 1: kind of am really glad you did because I felt

763
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 1: like it just kind of not only inspired other children

764
00:38:38,239 --> 00:38:43,880
Speaker 1: who are fluid to live in their truth and to

765
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: be comfortable sharing their truth with their parents.

766
00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:49,960
Speaker 2: Well, I want to say, like on the spectrum, like

767
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 2: you're a part of it, Yeah, because there's other people

768
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:55,560
Speaker 2: that you know are not just fool that are actually.

769
00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 1: Like you know either l yeah, yeah, yeah, Which you

770
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:00,319
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, that resonating with it. So it

771
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:03,640
Speaker 1: wasn't just then So what happens when you're on in

772
00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:06,360
Speaker 1: the reality show, is this say we didn't talk about

773
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 1: Noel being fluid or whatever, and it just came out

774
00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 1: in real life, not on the show, then it would

775
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:17,680
Speaker 1: have been foreseen by our reality TV world in social

776
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:20,160
Speaker 1: media world, like we're hiding it, like this is like

777
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:23,719
Speaker 1: a secret, like we were maybe ashamed to like talk

778
00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:27,399
Speaker 1: about this. So I love. I feel like what I've

779
00:39:27,480 --> 00:39:30,640
Speaker 1: learned from being on the show for so long is

780
00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:32,919
Speaker 1: that it's really good to just put it out there.

781
00:39:33,120 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 1: Just put it out there, because it actually protected you,

782
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:38,240
Speaker 1: because you want to be in control of your own narrative.

783
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:41,399
Speaker 1: And in terms of your college the only one, the

784
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:45,640
Speaker 1: one only regret that I have from being on the

785
00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 1: Real Housewives of Atlanta, It is the only regret that

786
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 1: I have, and I should regret a feeling the kind embarrassing,

787
00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:56,799
Speaker 1: But my one only regret is filming you go to college. Yeah,

788
00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:59,279
Speaker 1: that is my one only regret. I will take that

789
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:02,160
Speaker 1: to the grave as myne regret because I felt like

790
00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:06,799
Speaker 1: I messed up your college situation, your college experience, if

791
00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:10,840
Speaker 1: you will, because we showed up and I thought I

792
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:12,319
Speaker 1: was doing a good thing. Because Noah was the first

793
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:15,400
Speaker 1: kid on our show that was shown going to college.

794
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 1: So it's like we need to show this, we need

795
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:20,759
Speaker 1: to show our children, you know, going to college. I

796
00:40:20,840 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 1: think the first they actually like flew a camera crew.

797
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 1: No she's like someone who wasn't a housewise, absolutely, like

798
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:31,000
Speaker 1: we the whole team, Like she showed up to her

799
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:35,359
Speaker 1: college orientation with like twenty people, Yeah, cameras like we're

800
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 1: like going to bed bath and beyond getting sheets.

801
00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:41,360
Speaker 2: Like for the orientation, the penning ceremony, like in the

802
00:40:41,440 --> 00:40:44,320
Speaker 2: dorm rooms with the cameras in the hallways.

803
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:47,279
Speaker 1: So it's like, obviously it ended up being like a spectacle. Yeah,

804
00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:48,759
Speaker 1: it was a complete spectacle.

805
00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:50,880
Speaker 2: And I'm just more so the type of person like

806
00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:55,080
Speaker 2: I was on the show obviously as byproduct of my

807
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:58,560
Speaker 2: mom being my mom, Like I didn't choose. I didn't choose,

808
00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:01,960
Speaker 2: and also you have to un like I didn't even

809
00:41:02,120 --> 00:41:03,839
Speaker 2: when I first started feeling the show, I was eight.

810
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:06,960
Speaker 2: I didn't even know what I was doing, or like

811
00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:11,080
Speaker 2: the long term ramifications of like I didn't know what

812
00:41:11,120 --> 00:41:13,319
Speaker 2: I was doing either, you know. So it's just like

813
00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 2: there's so many different phases of you growing up that

814
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:18,080
Speaker 2: I'm sure you're happy the cameras were not filming, you

815
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:20,680
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying, I like just didn't have that luxury,

816
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 2: you know, you know, which is fine, you know, but

817
00:41:23,239 --> 00:41:26,239
Speaker 2: like I definitely would say just having the camera crew

818
00:41:26,360 --> 00:41:31,440
Speaker 2: there definitely really impacted my personal experience in college. Yeah,

819
00:41:31,440 --> 00:41:34,400
Speaker 2: you got a lot of unwanted attention, and that's just

820
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:39,120
Speaker 2: not how I Literally, people were like befriending you because

821
00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:41,160
Speaker 2: they were fans of mine or fans of your dad,

822
00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:43,160
Speaker 2: and so you didn't know who was really coming to

823
00:41:43,239 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 2: date me or like, you know, there's just so many

824
00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:46,359
Speaker 2: different you didn't know what was real.

825
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, and it just kind of threw off like

826
00:41:49,440 --> 00:41:52,799
Speaker 1: basically just my ability to even make that word, and

827
00:41:52,880 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 1: like you just threw.

828
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 2: Friendships, and you know, just even if I wasn't on

829
00:41:56,560 --> 00:41:59,319
Speaker 2: the show going through, and you know, people deal with

830
00:41:59,320 --> 00:42:02,399
Speaker 2: fake friends all time, or like you know, people deal

831
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:05,480
Speaker 2: with toxic relationships or certain things like that. So it's

832
00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:08,240
Speaker 2: already difficult to navigate that as a human being in general,

833
00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:11,120
Speaker 2: So having all that additional attention, I just think it

834
00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:14,480
Speaker 2: was a bit difficult. Also, keep in mind, I was

835
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:17,279
Speaker 2: homeschool for two years prior and I took a gap year,

836
00:42:17,480 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 2: so I wasn't I don't feel that really. I was

837
00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 2: probably the most equipped, you know, with the social skill

838
00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:25,160
Speaker 2: when I first got there, So I think adding the

839
00:42:25,200 --> 00:42:29,280
Speaker 2: canvas as well was just like a recipe for disaster regret.

840
00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:32,040
Speaker 1: But it happened, and you know, I learned from it

841
00:42:32,120 --> 00:42:34,400
Speaker 1: and it's all good. Well I'm sorry, and I always

842
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:36,719
Speaker 1: tell you that, and I love you because anything I do,

843
00:42:36,800 --> 00:42:40,239
Speaker 1: I always like think that it's like gonna be good

844
00:42:40,280 --> 00:42:43,160
Speaker 1: for you and good for us or whatever. So my

845
00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:46,359
Speaker 1: intention was to just be like, oh, this is gonna

846
00:42:46,360 --> 00:43:05,600
Speaker 1: be great. But I'm kind of backfy too. Do you

847
00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:09,040
Speaker 1: think that I am iconic? Definitely? But I mean you're

848
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:12,239
Speaker 1: not an biased But even even aside from that, yes,

849
00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:15,239
Speaker 1: like in so many different ways, like you like you're

850
00:43:15,280 --> 00:43:17,799
Speaker 1: just you know, you are a supermodel back in your day,

851
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,759
Speaker 1: and like you just have done so many things with it,

852
00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:24,479
Speaker 1: Like you're an actress. I'm not technically a supermodel. I'm

853
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:29,080
Speaker 1: very successful. You you are, Okay, I'm speaking from my experience. Okay,

854
00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:31,000
Speaker 1: this is when the people be like, she went on supermodel,

855
00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:32,279
Speaker 1: she's supermodest. I was a.

856
00:43:32,280 --> 00:43:35,319
Speaker 2: Supermodel to Noel, so that's all they met exactly. So

857
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:38,680
Speaker 2: you've just gone after so many things, and I feel

858
00:43:38,680 --> 00:43:40,680
Speaker 2: like you kind of just broke the stigma that like

859
00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:43,320
Speaker 2: you can only just be one thing or be really

860
00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 2: known for one thing, because I feel like you're really

861
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:47,240
Speaker 2: known for like a couple of different days.

862
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:49,480
Speaker 1: At this point with a lot of chapters. All right,

863
00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:54,440
Speaker 1: next question, Uh, are you ever recognized in public? Yes,

864
00:43:54,719 --> 00:43:55,799
Speaker 1: and more.

865
00:43:55,600 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 2: Often than I would think, Like, I don't ever think

866
00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:04,200
Speaker 2: that I'm really anybody, like just because there's just so

867
00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:07,120
Speaker 2: many more people that are way more well known than me,

868
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:09,680
Speaker 2: and I also don't really go out that much, and

869
00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:13,360
Speaker 2: so it's just I don't really think that really anybody.

870
00:44:13,360 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 2: So when people do recognize me, a lot of times

871
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:17,600
Speaker 2: I'm thinking, like, there's somebody I'm like.

872
00:44:17,560 --> 00:44:19,520
Speaker 1: In j LO, but I mean, like do I need

873
00:44:19,560 --> 00:44:22,480
Speaker 1: to pull out? Why what are we looking at?

874
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 2: And then they're like me like like no, I love you,

875
00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 2: Like oh my god, I'm like wait what Like I

876
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:30,759
Speaker 2: always like, honestly, I don't think there's one time that

877
00:44:30,800 --> 00:44:33,120
Speaker 2: I've been like spotted and recognized that I wasn't completely

878
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:36,279
Speaker 2: taken off guard. And a lot of people do say like,

879
00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:39,440
Speaker 2: oh yeah, like you're so humble or whatever. But I think, actually,

880
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 2: just like in denial, don't think that I won't recognize you.

881
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:46,200
Speaker 1: And I mean, you get me somewhere and someone will

882
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:48,400
Speaker 1: text me be like, oh my god, I'm a so

883
00:44:48,520 --> 00:44:51,560
Speaker 1: and so having tea time and I see no Wallas

884
00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:54,560
Speaker 1: here like my like, I have people that recognize you

885
00:44:54,680 --> 00:44:58,680
Speaker 1: anytime you Yeah, and I think I am going out

886
00:44:58,719 --> 00:44:59,720
Speaker 1: more now.

887
00:44:59,840 --> 00:45:02,319
Speaker 2: So I think as I've gone out more, I've been

888
00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:05,520
Speaker 2: getting recognized really consistently. So I kind of just caused

889
00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:07,320
Speaker 2: like a bit of black and I was like, wait, okay,

890
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:08,439
Speaker 2: this is really the thing.

891
00:45:08,680 --> 00:45:14,680
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, all right, sorry, you're famous. Let's say, how

892
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 1: do you feel about me doing sex scenes on TV

893
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:18,919
Speaker 1: as a actress?

894
00:45:20,320 --> 00:45:22,799
Speaker 2: You know, it's it's a bit weird, but it doesn't

895
00:45:22,840 --> 00:45:24,960
Speaker 2: really FaZe me, just because, like I said, we like

896
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:26,799
Speaker 2: tell each other so much, so it's like.

897
00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's it's like I know that this acting. Well,

898
00:45:30,960 --> 00:45:32,640
Speaker 1: I just did a movie and I had a bunch

899
00:45:32,680 --> 00:45:34,320
Speaker 1: of sex scenes in it and it's coming.

900
00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 2: Out, Like I think it would be different, like and

901
00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 2: I also just my dad's an actor as well, Like

902
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:41,080
Speaker 2: I know how it works, so it's like I'm not

903
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:44,400
Speaker 2: really like I know what it actually is behind the scenes,

904
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 2: Like I think it would be different like that was released,

905
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:48,440
Speaker 2: Like what do you like that would be?

906
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:52,640
Speaker 1: You know, what do you think about your dad and

907
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:55,479
Speaker 1: I acting in a movie together? I think that would

908
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:59,400
Speaker 1: be like pretty amazing. I know, actually I want to, like,

909
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:02,880
Speaker 1: I really she want to work with Lyon, So we'll

910
00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:05,360
Speaker 1: see if that happens. Who is your favorite out of

911
00:46:05,400 --> 00:46:08,840
Speaker 1: all my former ATL castmates and who is your least favorite?

912
00:46:09,000 --> 00:46:11,960
Speaker 1: When my mom's filming for the show, whatever type of

913
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:14,440
Speaker 1: energy and things that are going on when she's filming,

914
00:46:14,600 --> 00:46:16,840
Speaker 1: she does take that stuff home with her, And to

915
00:46:16,880 --> 00:46:18,640
Speaker 1: be honest with you, I end up getting in front

916
00:46:18,680 --> 00:46:22,640
Speaker 1: of it. So I would just saying whoever is coming

917
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:24,799
Speaker 1: for her that day, and I get the brunt of it.

918
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:27,319
Speaker 1: I don't like them that they're not my favorite.

919
00:46:27,680 --> 00:46:30,440
Speaker 2: And you know, whoever's making my life easier and defending

920
00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:31,560
Speaker 2: her and putting her in a good movie.

921
00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:34,839
Speaker 1: She comes back from the scene, you're my favorite. They're

922
00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:38,120
Speaker 1: being nice to me, their favorite if they're coming from me,

923
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:41,960
Speaker 1: put her off, and now she's like in a bad

924
00:46:42,000 --> 00:46:44,480
Speaker 1: movie and then up coming home mad. Yeah, you're not

925
00:46:44,600 --> 00:46:47,839
Speaker 1: my favorite at that point exactly. Oh you know what,

926
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:50,080
Speaker 1: this is what family traditions we have. You know what

927
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:53,120
Speaker 1: I love? I love when we do our mom daughter trips. Yes, yes,

928
00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:54,960
Speaker 1: that's something we just try to do. We got to

929
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:57,120
Speaker 1: schedule it for this year. We're supposed to go on

930
00:46:57,160 --> 00:47:01,440
Speaker 1: to cruise. Actually, yeah, but like I'm love spending one

931
00:47:01,480 --> 00:47:04,000
Speaker 1: on one time with you, going on our trips. And

932
00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:05,719
Speaker 1: I think part of that for me is I live

933
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:09,880
Speaker 1: in like the mom guilt bubble of you know, with

934
00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:12,919
Speaker 1: all these acts in chapters and things that I've done

935
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 1: in my life, you know, to just be successful. I

936
00:47:17,080 --> 00:47:19,720
Speaker 1: missed a lot of stuff. I missed a lot of stuff.

937
00:47:20,520 --> 00:47:23,200
Speaker 1: You were taken care of. You had Nanny's, you had

938
00:47:23,360 --> 00:47:26,560
Speaker 1: Leon's mom, you had my mom. But it's not the

939
00:47:26,600 --> 00:47:29,640
Speaker 1: same as like it you actually being there, like your prejudice,

940
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:29,920
Speaker 1: you know.

941
00:47:30,000 --> 00:47:33,239
Speaker 2: But but she's done so much. It's like it's like

942
00:47:33,280 --> 00:47:35,680
Speaker 2: one of those things where it's like, oh my gosh,

943
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:38,279
Speaker 2: like you're amazing, Like you provide such an amazing life.

944
00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:40,560
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful, but like I also missed you, and

945
00:47:40,600 --> 00:47:44,920
Speaker 1: I feel like both of those feelings are valid, you know. Yeah. Okay,

946
00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:50,920
Speaker 1: so this is the last question, and it's pretty easy. Actually,

947
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:56,440
Speaker 1: I think do you think that we are similar? No,

948
00:47:57,600 --> 00:48:02,279
Speaker 1: I don't know, like we're opposites, but we have a

949
00:48:02,280 --> 00:48:06,600
Speaker 1: lot it works. Yeah, but you're like not similar at all.

950
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:10,480
Speaker 1: We're really not. But I do like that, and this

951
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:13,000
Speaker 1: is like reflective of your life and even how you

952
00:48:13,040 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 1: care yourself on Instagram, Like, I do think you are

953
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:21,040
Speaker 1: very classy, and I feel like you know at you

954
00:48:21,040 --> 00:48:24,239
Speaker 1: know in your twenties, like as a young twenty year old,

955
00:48:24,320 --> 00:48:26,879
Speaker 1: still you know, figuring it all out for twenty four

956
00:48:27,000 --> 00:48:31,799
Speaker 1: year old. I think that on SOI media, people don't

957
00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:36,800
Speaker 1: always big a class and I love that you handle

958
00:48:36,880 --> 00:48:39,759
Speaker 1: yourself with class. I appreciate that a lot. I would

959
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:42,719
Speaker 1: like to think you get that from me? Yeah, right,

960
00:48:42,960 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 1: you did get that from here? Yes, I got it

961
00:48:44,680 --> 00:48:50,440
Speaker 1: from me, I would say, yeah, I don't feel like

962
00:48:50,480 --> 00:48:53,719
Speaker 1: we're similar, like I just I just truly don't. Like

963
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:56,799
Speaker 1: I feel like you're more like an extrovert and more

964
00:48:56,800 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 1: of an introvert. Like I feel like we're like opposites

965
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 1: in so many different ways, right, I'm like big, I'm like,

966
00:49:02,160 --> 00:49:04,880
Speaker 1: don't get me wrong. My mom's like want to be healthy,

967
00:49:04,920 --> 00:49:07,719
Speaker 1: but like I'm like like super healthy, like.

968
00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 2: Just like just in every way, Like I'm interested in,

969
00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:14,400
Speaker 2: like you know, doing my house a certain way, and

970
00:49:14,440 --> 00:49:16,279
Speaker 2: she's like, I'll just get whatever I can like and

971
00:49:16,400 --> 00:49:17,280
Speaker 2: just put in the house.

972
00:49:17,400 --> 00:49:20,960
Speaker 1: Like I feel like I'm easier kind of like just

973
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:23,120
Speaker 1: very specific and like I go.

974
00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:25,680
Speaker 2: I think the difference between you and me a lot

975
00:49:25,760 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 2: of times is that I like demand what I want

976
00:49:28,480 --> 00:49:30,440
Speaker 2: out of the universe and you're just like, oh, well,

977
00:49:30,480 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 2: like okay, but I'm like, no, I'm going to get

978
00:49:34,480 --> 00:49:36,040
Speaker 2: this And this is just.

979
00:49:36,000 --> 00:49:38,399
Speaker 1: How that's true. That's true. And I've gotten better as

980
00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:41,399
Speaker 1: a result of like seeing how you move, Like I'm

981
00:49:41,480 --> 00:49:45,879
Speaker 1: much more specific about what I want and I'm much

982
00:49:45,960 --> 00:49:50,120
Speaker 1: more intentional about what i want and uh, which is

983
00:49:50,120 --> 00:49:53,160
Speaker 1: probably why I'm so thinkle because I just don't want

984
00:49:53,239 --> 00:49:55,799
Speaker 1: I love love to find love. I'm always looking for

985
00:49:55,840 --> 00:49:59,440
Speaker 1: my person, but I just don't want any love. I

986
00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:04,640
Speaker 1: want a nurturing man. I want a kind man. I

987
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:06,879
Speaker 1: want like there's so many things that are just deal

988
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:09,200
Speaker 1: breakers for me at this point, and I'm not going

989
00:50:09,239 --> 00:50:12,120
Speaker 1: to den my light for anyone. So this person has

990
00:50:12,160 --> 00:50:14,360
Speaker 1: to come hole and he has to be secure and

991
00:50:14,400 --> 00:50:16,080
Speaker 1: needs to want me to like shine.

992
00:50:16,239 --> 00:50:19,239
Speaker 2: But I think he holds you accountable, you know, because

993
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:21,960
Speaker 2: I feel like we're different in dating as well, Like

994
00:50:22,080 --> 00:50:24,439
Speaker 2: we are like definitely a lot different in dating.

995
00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:27,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, And anytime she sees me going down that road

996
00:50:27,440 --> 00:50:30,080
Speaker 1: of like getting in my light or like like I'm

997
00:50:30,080 --> 00:50:32,040
Speaker 1: not dating for the things that I know that it's

998
00:50:32,080 --> 00:50:33,640
Speaker 1: good for me in a relationship.

999
00:50:33,760 --> 00:50:36,200
Speaker 2: She's like, mmm, she calls me out basically, Well, I

1000
00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:38,200
Speaker 2: just think also, I think part of that is a

1001
00:50:38,239 --> 00:50:40,480
Speaker 2: generational thing too, because I feel like I'm in a

1002
00:50:40,520 --> 00:50:43,239
Speaker 2: generation where like people are even going to contact with

1003
00:50:43,280 --> 00:50:45,239
Speaker 2: their family members, like you know what I'm saying, Like

1004
00:50:45,440 --> 00:50:48,680
Speaker 2: we're not taking anything, and it's like we're in a situation.

1005
00:50:48,800 --> 00:50:51,120
Speaker 1: We're even at a job that doesn't service we leave,

1006
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:53,400
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like you know, in their generations,

1007
00:50:53,440 --> 00:50:55,319
Speaker 1: they for like thirty forty years, like we don't like

1008
00:50:55,360 --> 00:50:57,839
Speaker 1: the job and it's over with, We're gonna leave. That

1009
00:50:57,880 --> 00:51:00,920
Speaker 1: goes for the relationship, the friendships, the family members whatever.

1010
00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:04,319
Speaker 1: Like we just try to protect protect your piece a

1011
00:51:04,360 --> 00:51:07,840
Speaker 1: lot more. And I think because of that, like me

1012
00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:10,680
Speaker 1: talking about your dating life, I am able to drop

1013
00:51:10,719 --> 00:51:12,839
Speaker 1: those gems on you. Then I learn it just from

1014
00:51:12,840 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 1: being bombs whatever you want to call it. Yeah, well

1015
00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:17,839
Speaker 1: I think this is a great place to stop, you know,

1016
00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:20,200
Speaker 1: just protecting our peace and just being at peace. And

1017
00:51:20,239 --> 00:51:22,480
Speaker 1: I think, you know, I want my own personal piece.

1018
00:51:22,520 --> 00:51:24,440
Speaker 1: I know you meet your own personal peace, and we

1019
00:51:24,520 --> 00:51:28,680
Speaker 1: have to respect each other's space and peace and who

1020
00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:31,800
Speaker 1: we are. You know, we are still two separate people.

1021
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:34,759
Speaker 1: This is my daughter. I'm her mother, but she has

1022
00:51:34,840 --> 00:51:37,040
Speaker 1: her own life and her own identity, and I have

1023
00:51:37,120 --> 00:51:40,719
Speaker 1: my own life and my own identity, and I respect

1024
00:51:40,760 --> 00:51:41,120
Speaker 1: each other.

1025
00:51:41,239 --> 00:51:43,959
Speaker 2: And I think our relationship improved a lot too when

1026
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:48,839
Speaker 2: we stop trying to like they think that the only

1027
00:51:48,880 --> 00:51:51,359
Speaker 2: one way was right. Like I think you as a parent,

1028
00:51:51,400 --> 00:51:53,320
Speaker 2: like I saw you grow a lot as a parent

1029
00:51:53,360 --> 00:51:56,160
Speaker 2: when you realize, like, hey, I'm not going to handle

1030
00:51:56,200 --> 00:51:58,080
Speaker 2: certain things the way that you would handle it, because

1031
00:51:58,080 --> 00:51:59,319
Speaker 2: there's a lot of things that you'd be like, oh,

1032
00:51:59,320 --> 00:52:01,000
Speaker 2: I don't care about that, and I care about it

1033
00:52:01,040 --> 00:52:03,239
Speaker 2: a lot, like you can take me under. But I

1034
00:52:03,239 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 2: think once you realize, like, hey, this is my kid.

1035
00:52:05,360 --> 00:52:07,640
Speaker 2: My kid is sensitive, Like I'm not sensitive, but my

1036
00:52:07,719 --> 00:52:10,359
Speaker 2: kid is sensitive, and that's okay. You know, my kid

1037
00:52:10,400 --> 00:52:12,359
Speaker 2: may take this harder than I'm taking it right now,

1038
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:13,120
Speaker 2: and that's okay.

1039
00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:15,240
Speaker 1: So I think once you just started, and just because

1040
00:52:15,400 --> 00:52:17,680
Speaker 1: I consider myself to be strong and mean that you

1041
00:52:17,800 --> 00:52:21,840
Speaker 1: have to be strong because you're who you are is

1042
00:52:21,880 --> 00:52:25,440
Speaker 1: based off of your upbringing and my experience. My upbringing,

1043
00:52:25,560 --> 00:52:29,759
Speaker 1: my experiences, So just embracing each other's differences is to

1044
00:52:29,840 --> 00:52:32,360
Speaker 1: something that I would say is really important as well. Okay,

1045
00:52:32,760 --> 00:52:36,719
Speaker 1: I love you. I love you so much. You are

1046
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:39,839
Speaker 1: the wind beneath my wings. I always say that, and

1047
00:52:39,920 --> 00:52:43,560
Speaker 1: I hope that I have. I've done more good than

1048
00:52:43,640 --> 00:52:47,400
Speaker 1: bad and good that it's been more positive than negative.

1049
00:52:48,040 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 1: And I thank you for just loving me unconditionally because

1050
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:55,200
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, he's are the only

1051
00:52:55,200 --> 00:52:59,520
Speaker 1: ones that is going to do that, and accepting me

1052
00:52:59,800 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 1: for my flaws and forgiven me for my mistakes and

1053
00:53:05,800 --> 00:53:09,239
Speaker 1: staying with you as well. Thank you so much, Love you,