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Speaker 1: Wine Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Are we ready, ladies, We're ready? Jenna ready? Guy? Is

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Speaker 2: I h tell me everything? Tell me in between your sneezes.

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Speaker 3: And I'm sorry, guys, I sound like I got a

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Speaker 3: frog stuck in my throat. I've got like Nott's coming out.

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Speaker 3: That's not, that's not.

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Speaker 2: I was going there. I couldn't figure out how to

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Speaker 2: get us back real quick. And I'm I'm glad. I'm

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Speaker 2: I'm usually not that quick. Nob good. That was good

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Speaker 2: and it was dad joke and I mean she's our

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Speaker 2: dad joke and the group, for sure, you should be proud.

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Speaker 2: I feel proud. I think you're rubbing off on me.

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Speaker 2: I love it so much.

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Speaker 4: Sorry, guys, I apologize dad jokes around here.

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Speaker 2: Oh I know. And I'm supposed to be traveling tomorrow,

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Speaker 2: so tb D. I'm so bummed.

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Speaker 3: You know, it's like one of those things we've been

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Speaker 3: locked in the house or you know, the decade kids

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Speaker 3: didn't have school even on that Monday. Thankfully they went

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Speaker 3: back to school and all is you know, well in that,

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Speaker 3: but you know, I was I was actually looking forward

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Speaker 3: to to going. I have some meetings, some really important

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Speaker 3: meetings in Los Angeles. I was going to San fran

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Speaker 3: for potential Super Bowl stuff and podcasting, and it's something

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Speaker 3: where like at the time I was like huh, But

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Speaker 3: then like meetings started to pile and then I was like, wait,

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Speaker 3: this is like good stuff and I'm getting things going.

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Speaker 3: And then I'm like, of course I haven't felt like

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Speaker 3: this in like I feel like years, like I don't.

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Speaker 2: Really get like head coldie. Yeah, So I'm like, what

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Speaker 2: did they put in the weather storm? I feel the

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Speaker 2: same way, and it feels like it's so like hurtful,

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Speaker 2: but everybody feels it. I know people are like things

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Speaker 2: just say, but then.

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Speaker 3: There's other side people who are just like it's because

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Speaker 3: the change is the weather parametric pressure. But at the

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Speaker 3: same time, I talked to Nate Nate Dog and you know,

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Speaker 3: I was doing my second IV with them yesterday, and

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Speaker 3: I'm like, did you think do you think they put

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Speaker 3: something in.

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Speaker 2: The snowy light?

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Speaker 3: I can't, But now that they've I'm actually I'm just

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Speaker 3: going to stop.

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Speaker 2: Can we talk about this later? So I want to

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Speaker 2: know what you were going to say. But I actually

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Speaker 2: just love a calmer week in the DM. So if

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Speaker 2: I had one thing. I pray mine were so good,

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Speaker 2: so positive.

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Speaker 3: Everybody was appreciative of that we brought it up and

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Speaker 3: how it was handled, and I think it was good.

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Speaker 3: And also I still have gotten people saying just thank

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Speaker 3: you for just sharing stuff to make it light where

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Speaker 3: it's not. Yeah, and so I get I see both sides. Update.

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Speaker 3: I did not text the moms. That was what I

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Speaker 3: was going to ask you. I didn't did you post?

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Speaker 3: I did not like of all the girls because I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 3: you know really I posted, you know, bringing the cake

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Speaker 3: to Jolie and picture of ar three. Yeah, But I

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Speaker 3: just thought about it, and I actually talked to another

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Speaker 3: one of my neighbors about it, and I was like,

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Speaker 3: I don't actually, oh it, I really don't. Like we're

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Speaker 3: not that close, do you know what I mean? I

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Speaker 3: think it would have been different if it was a

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Speaker 3: Ramsey or a love situation. Sure, definitely, where it's just

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Speaker 3: like I don't know them that well and she doesn't

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Speaker 3: know them that well. So I was like, I'm putting

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Speaker 3: way too much of my own stuff on this. And

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Speaker 3: I was like, if they want to come to me

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Speaker 3: and say like, hey, why wasn't this part I'd be like, oh,

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Speaker 3: you know, like she actually knows that your daughter can't

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Speaker 3: sapovers and there is a cap and you know. So

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Speaker 3: I think I just was like I've and I wasn't

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Speaker 3: honestly trying to avoid I even though I do say

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Speaker 3: I'd rather move to another country than have confrontation, right,

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Speaker 3: I truly.

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Speaker 2: And I still stand by that. I still stand.

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Speaker 3: By, but or change by number, but I I just

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Speaker 3: was like, no, I don't really feel like I need to.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, then in that case, don't you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: I think it just depends on how well if you

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Speaker 1: how you feel about it, and if you're worried about

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Speaker 3: I was worried about just because I never want to leave,

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Speaker 3: like I didn't want them to feel left out the adult,

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Speaker 3: you know, Right, So I'm like, this is I'm putting

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Speaker 2: I had a really wise, wonderful therapist, Crystal Jenkins, who

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Speaker 2: operates an overland Park, Kansas City. If you're in Kansas

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Speaker 2: and if you have the opportunity, should sit in a

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Speaker 2: room with her. She told me it's all about how

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Speaker 2: you come into a room in life. So if you're

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Speaker 2: coming in anxious and not even like obviously she doesn't

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Speaker 2: mean the physical room, but it's like you you know

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Speaker 2: what you know and know it all the way and

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Speaker 2: and and just if you make it a big deal,

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Speaker 2: often things will become a big deal. And not to

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Speaker 2: say that's dismissive or avoidant, but like often we are

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Speaker 2: determining how things are taken even before they're taken, you know. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so I like that you just took it off your plate.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah totally. So that's that.

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Speaker 3: But we were almost we were down a girl actually

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Speaker 2: Sweet love Bug. Love Bug made it through the ice

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Speaker 2: and the sledding, and she made it through all of Snowmageddon,

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Speaker 2: and she went back for her first private tumble lesson

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Speaker 2: and she made it fifteen minutes in and she did

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Speaker 2: try it again? And she said yeah, And she said, mom,

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Speaker 2: and I tried to bail on the second and she

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Speaker 2: did not bail well, and she broke her arm. It

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Speaker 2: was just a very long day, had all three of

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Speaker 2: I felt like the kids did so great, but Love

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Speaker 2: they said, are you know where's your pain level? Zero

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I just and we ended up. I took

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Speaker 2: They come and glitter now I know all these new

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Speaker 2: was like, the world are oyster, we can do what

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Speaker 2: She's worked since August for cheer comp Catherine knows as

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Speaker 2: a cheer mom it's really something and it's just you know,

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Speaker 2: we're two weeks away from her first travel cheer comp.

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Speaker 2: She's been looking forward to traveling for cheers. So we're

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Speaker 2: still going to travel with our team and we'll go,

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Speaker 2: and they've already submitted that maybe she could do some

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Speaker 2: and she's just gonna We're just gonna do the best

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Speaker 2: we can. But we're just learning a lot of lessons

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Speaker 2: in our refining season over here in Broken Boneville. I'm sorry, girl.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's it's such an interesting because when people get

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Speaker 2: Still with their teams. She's such a main Yeah, like

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Speaker 2: she's in the middle and they don't have they don't have,

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Speaker 2: they can't pull from the sideline. No, Like she's the

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Speaker 2: Legend brus wasn't my first bone break. I could have

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, So it'll be really cool for her

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Speaker 1: though luckily, knock on wood, I haven't had to deal

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Speaker 1: with It's that real, well this is knock on this too,

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Speaker 2: Definitely actually never had to deal with them.

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Speaker 4: It's not we're going with it.

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Speaker 1: But I've heard for so from so many girls how

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Speaker 1: much they learn in that moment of not being in

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Speaker 1: as hard as it is on them, I think sometimes

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she really has, Like we she went to cheer

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Speaker 2: And I'm just really proud of like the teams person

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Speaker 2: And I said, of course, you go, you know, just

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Speaker 3: No, No, I thought, I yell, you've never broken a bone? No,

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Speaker 3: and you did cheer in the whole back.

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Speaker 1: I mean I got my bringing, my face busted open

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Speaker 1: and that stitch is like inside and out.

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Speaker 2: But no, never a bone, baby, what about you? No bones?

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Speaker 2: But I do have rods in my back, So I

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Speaker 2: think that's God's way of being, like, you're all set

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Speaker 2: here checking you're good. Yeah, did you have you uh

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Speaker 1: No, why something stupid?

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Speaker 2: It always is, Okay. I was six years old at

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Speaker 2: Lindsay Crocker's house. Lady Crocker.

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Speaker 3: Lindsay Crocker was my bad friend, and then until her

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Speaker 3: Mary came around, and then it was I was the

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Speaker 3: third one out, like you know, that's what.

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Speaker 2: I remember about Wendsay Crocker. No, she's great. I'm kidding,

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Speaker 2: she's great. She was actually lind is finding herself driving

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Speaker 3: It's all marry and I'm getting Mary was great. No, no,

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Speaker 3: but like they ended up becoming closer and then I

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Speaker 3: was more like the you know, the third wheel.

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Speaker 1: But but it's fine, we're all not traumatized at all.

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Speaker 2: She's actually great she came to visit me one day

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Speaker 2: on the tour bus. We don't have to dig herself.

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Speaker 3: I'm say she's great telling about Lindsay Crocker having some

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Speaker 3: T shirts.

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Speaker 2: I love Lindsay Crocker. We're gonna be I'm crying. Why

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Speaker 2: this makes me laugh? We are anyway? You broke your arm?

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Speaker 3: Okay, So we're too old to be in these types

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Speaker 3: of cars, right, We're in the Flintstone. But that's what

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Speaker 3: we had when we were six, the little Flintstone. So

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Speaker 3: we're racing down the driveway like it was around.

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Speaker 2: By the way posted that for one second too.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So I'm going down the driveway.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so your driveway.

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Speaker 4: This is a bad idea.

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Speaker 2: January is a long year. Oh do y'all?

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Speaker 1: If not, mine is kind of funny and not popular, Okay,

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Speaker 1: And they have with us, especially as they get older.

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Speaker 4: So I think there's a good happy medium for sure.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll see.

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Speaker 1: how much better they do in their school work when

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Speaker 1: they get sleep.

436
00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:10,240
Speaker 2: Sleep is good for the brain, absolutely.

437
00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:13,879
Speaker 1: And I understand that we do these extracurricular things, but

438
00:20:13,960 --> 00:20:17,240
Speaker 1: those are so important in my mind for so many

439
00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:18,080
Speaker 1: other things.

440
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Speaker 4: So it's just how you balance all of it. And

441
00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:22,320
Speaker 4: my solution is less school.

442
00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:24,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, it is interesting when they can wake up to

443
00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:27,159
Speaker 3: their own little clock. Yes when well they may go,

444
00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:29,480
Speaker 3: but I'll also say, like not everybody. And this is

445
00:20:29,520 --> 00:20:32,080
Speaker 3: like maybe in your situation, like they're not doing the

446
00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:34,880
Speaker 3: cheer privates until ten thirty at night.

447
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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, Well, we don't do differently,

448
00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:38,360
Speaker 4: but we do have practice that way.

449
00:20:38,400 --> 00:20:40,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, practice, yeah, yeah, So it's like that's where it's

450
00:20:40,840 --> 00:20:43,600
Speaker 3: like that's a small percentage.

451
00:20:43,119 --> 00:20:45,480
Speaker 4: Too, right, right, But even if you look at.

452
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Speaker 3: And that's not saying that no, no, for sure, like that

453
00:20:47,760 --> 00:20:49,639
Speaker 3: I could see you being more of like a Christen

454
00:20:49,640 --> 00:20:52,200
Speaker 3: schedule with that type of like athlete.

455
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Speaker 2: Which we may do that for Emmy.

456
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Speaker 1: But even looking at Caden, even looking at him being

457
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Speaker 1: able to wake up sleep when and he goes to

458
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Speaker 1: bed early ish, still letting him sleep till he wakes up,

459
00:21:03,200 --> 00:21:05,639
Speaker 1: how much better he does, Like he's been doing act

460
00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:09,400
Speaker 1: prep while we've been out of school. His brain is functioning.

461
00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:11,919
Speaker 1: He's even mentioned it, like his brain is functioning so

462
00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:14,479
Speaker 1: much better. It's like he's comprehending it more. And he

463
00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:16,960
Speaker 1: goes to bed it like he's just he doesn't sleep out.

464
00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:19,400
Speaker 1: He stays at home and he but just being able

465
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Speaker 1: to sleep till you kind of wake up has just

466
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Speaker 1: been I've just started noticing the difference in that. And

467
00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:29,160
Speaker 1: you know, he doesn't do sports really late. But the teenagers,

468
00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:31,440
Speaker 1: the reality is teenagers aren't going to go to bed.

469
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Speaker 4: I don't care what you say. You can force them

470
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Speaker 4: to go to bed early.

471
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Speaker 1: They their clocks are different too, and they're not going

472
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Speaker 1: to bed at eight nine o'clock. You know so anyway,

473
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Speaker 1: but yes, agreed, Margot.

474
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Speaker 3: Robbie details becoming codependent with Jacob A Lordie while filming

475
00:21:57,520 --> 00:22:00,879
Speaker 3: Weathering Heights. It's a new movie starting Margot and Jacob.

476
00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:02,679
Speaker 3: It comes out in Valentine's Day. The press for this

477
00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:05,479
Speaker 3: movie has people buzzing, especially since viewers are picking up

478
00:22:05,480 --> 00:22:09,560
Speaker 3: on the off screen chemistry between Robbie and Jacob. An interview,

479
00:22:09,720 --> 00:22:13,440
Speaker 3: Robbie admits she felt quite lost without him on days

480
00:22:13,440 --> 00:22:15,359
Speaker 3: when they weren't near each other on set. She admitted

481
00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:17,879
Speaker 3: she felt like a kid without their blanket or something.

482
00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:19,000
Speaker 2: I was like, where is he?

483
00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:21,680
Speaker 3: The feelings are mutual, he shared, It's a mutual obsession

484
00:22:21,680 --> 00:22:23,360
Speaker 3: and he's quite enamored by her.

485
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Speaker 2: You know a lot of people are saying this is

486
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Speaker 2: like prosss, you know, does this cross a line?

487
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Speaker 3: And especially when both of them are in long term relationships.

488
00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:36,359
Speaker 3: But I honestly see it as a like when I

489
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Speaker 3: was doing the Christmas RN, even with Ben, Like when

490
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:42,360
Speaker 3: you have almost every scene with that person and then

491
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Speaker 3: the day that I'm like I look at the call

492
00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:44,679
Speaker 3: she I'm.

493
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Speaker 2: Like, ah, you're not here, like boo, you know what?

494
00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:49,000
Speaker 3: And I'm like, I'm A'll text him like oh, that's

495
00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:51,159
Speaker 3: like you suck, you know what I mean, Like why

496
00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:54,679
Speaker 3: aren't you here? Like they become like your buddy in it?

497
00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:56,480
Speaker 3: You know, like you guys are one and two are

498
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:58,480
Speaker 3: like in it together, you know, and so like when

499
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Speaker 3: two isn't there and one that I say like one

500
00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:03,120
Speaker 3: and two like on the call sheet, it's like if

501
00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:05,919
Speaker 3: I'm one, Ben's two or vice versa, and it's like

502
00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:08,080
Speaker 3: if he's if I don't see number two on there,

503
00:23:08,119 --> 00:23:10,400
Speaker 3: it's like you do get bummed because they're like they're

504
00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:13,120
Speaker 3: your person. They're they're like, who's helping you get through

505
00:23:13,119 --> 00:23:15,359
Speaker 3: the movie. I'm gonna be Devil's advocate.

506
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:19,960
Speaker 2: Okay. I think you are probably more respectful in those

507
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:24,960
Speaker 2: areas because you have solid marriage life and not saying

508
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:27,000
Speaker 2: that these people don't. I don't know who these people

509
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:28,800
Speaker 2: are really. I mean I know of them, but obviously

510
00:23:28,840 --> 00:23:31,760
Speaker 2: don't know them personally. But if my husband is has

511
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:33,879
Speaker 2: a coworker, so like, this is the way I always

512
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:35,639
Speaker 2: have to frame it, even for Preston and Music, Like

513
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Speaker 2: if you are a banker, if you work as a serviceman,

514
00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:43,080
Speaker 2: if like and you have a female coworker that is

515
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Speaker 2: talking about you that way inappropriate to me.

516
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Speaker 3: I mean, I wouldn't have used the words like. I

517
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Speaker 3: would never say like I have an obsession or that

518
00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:55,080
Speaker 3: he's my It's like I don't have my blanket. But

519
00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 3: again I think she's meaning it in a way of

520
00:23:57,640 --> 00:24:01,159
Speaker 3: like it's like that person like when you are on

521
00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:05,439
Speaker 3: set of off location, on location somewhere and you like

522
00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:07,400
Speaker 3: you have that friendship.

523
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Speaker 2: With someone and creative space. I understand some things can

524
00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:10,200
Speaker 2: yeah in.

525
00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:13,199
Speaker 3: Creative spaces, like it is nice to have that person

526
00:24:13,560 --> 00:24:15,480
Speaker 3: by you because they get it and you can still

527
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Speaker 3: be respectful and still have that feeling of like wanting

528
00:24:18,200 --> 00:24:21,359
Speaker 3: that like friend with you while still respecting your person.

529
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Speaker 2: I'm just saying, if I'm his wife, I understand what

530
00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 2: you're saying, and I'm reading this I'm like, are we

531
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Speaker 2: what's happening here? Like that feels like a It just

532
00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:33,199
Speaker 2: feels a little bit extra to me. I can understand. Like,

533
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Speaker 2: I mean, guys, I remember trauma bonding with so many

534
00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:38,920
Speaker 2: like wonderful guys that I worked with. You know, when

535
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Speaker 2: you're in the thick of it and you're doing fun

536
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:43,560
Speaker 2: projects and weird hours, and it's like, of course, but

537
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Speaker 2: like in our married adult life.

538
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Speaker 4: On a side with the uh, I see both sides

539
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Speaker 4: of this.

540
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Speaker 1: Well, that's why it's good to have three of us,

541
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Speaker 1: and I've seen it firsthand with you and friends on set.

542
00:24:59,560 --> 00:25:03,480
Speaker 1: Having said that, I think because of that, and what

543
00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:08,440
Speaker 1: you're saying is why so many things happen. I think

544
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Speaker 1: that I that is why so many coworkers can get

545
00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:13,400
Speaker 1: into positions.

546
00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:14,119
Speaker 4: That they get themselves into.

547
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Speaker 1: And I'm not saying you or yours, I'm saying, but

548
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 1: I can see where that could easily lend itself to that.

549
00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 1: Because you get so used to being with this person

550
00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:25,680
Speaker 1: all the time, they do become someone that you're looking

551
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:27,919
Speaker 1: for when you get there that day, they do become this.

552
00:25:28,640 --> 00:25:33,000
Speaker 1: So if you're not strong in your marriage or your

553
00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:37,160
Speaker 1: convictions or whatever, I think it easily can lend itself

554
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Speaker 1: to then becoming something that it shouldn't at.

555
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Speaker 3: A Cold Play concert, you know, which is why though

556
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:45,280
Speaker 3: I mean like strong boundaries, like with my marriage with Alan,

557
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:48,720
Speaker 3: like you know the boundaries are you don't you're not

558
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 3: in a trailer one. I'm not like the person like

559
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:53,400
Speaker 3: Ben has never stepped I step foot in his trailer

560
00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 3: when he wasn't in there because I did, Yeah, the

561
00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 3: little prank thing, But like it's never a one on

562
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Speaker 3: one backs closed you're in a trailer, you know what

563
00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:02,199
Speaker 3: I mean. Like if we're running lines, they'd be like, hey,

564
00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:04,280
Speaker 3: let's go run lines and we are sitting in a

565
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:07,919
Speaker 3: you know, a section inside the holding area where extras

566
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:11,680
Speaker 3: are over there, and like it's but back in the day, yeah,

567
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 3: sure lines were blurred with things like that because it

568
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:16,919
Speaker 3: is again like it becomes like a summer camp. And

569
00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:19,879
Speaker 3: then but when and when you spend time with me,

570
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:22,119
Speaker 3: like hey, let's run lines in your hotel room or

571
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:26,320
Speaker 3: let's you know, that's when you can blur and then

572
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 3: have that obsession right with that person because you're with

573
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,560
Speaker 3: them twenty four to seven. So having those really strong

574
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:34,919
Speaker 3: boundaries and those are the things that you learn right,

575
00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 3: that's what it's like, you know, the twenties not strong boundaries,

576
00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:40,119
Speaker 3: but like when you're older and you know, in a

577
00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:43,760
Speaker 3: respectful marriage, it's like, okay, this is boundaries where it's like, yes,

578
00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:45,720
Speaker 3: you don't do that. You're not hanging out. And even

579
00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:49,960
Speaker 3: if we were off location, like for example, when I

580
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:51,920
Speaker 3: was like in Oklahoma, it's same thing. It's like I

581
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 3: would not call Alan and be like, hey, me and

582
00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:55,320
Speaker 3: Nick are going to.

583
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Speaker 2: Go to a movie and dinner. He'd be like, the right, right,

584
00:26:59,080 --> 00:26:59,640
Speaker 2: you know what I mean.

585
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:02,400
Speaker 3: But I and and back in the day, I'd be like, well,

586
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:04,480
Speaker 3: what's the issue with it? But now I know what

587
00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 3: the issue with it is, you know. And it's like

588
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 3: even though it's innocent, like Nick and I were great friends,

589
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 3: but like.

590
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:10,440
Speaker 2: We never you don't.

591
00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:14,240
Speaker 3: We're not eating dinner after sets, you know, off location,

592
00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:16,440
Speaker 3: when we're on location somewhere, like you just you don't

593
00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:19,119
Speaker 3: do that because it can get blurred whether you have

594
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:20,639
Speaker 3: the best intentions going in or not.

595
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:22,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, correct, absolutely, And that's my thing, Like if I'm

596
00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:25,399
Speaker 2: the spouse of that person and I'm already not in

597
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:28,080
Speaker 2: the room and I'm not on set, and I'm not

598
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:31,119
Speaker 2: having those like experiences, and I'm the person that's like

599
00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 2: reading the headlines or like it's being even misunderstood that way.

600
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:36,720
Speaker 2: It's just such a horrible I mean, can I just

601
00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:37,640
Speaker 2: can't imagine. Yeah.

602
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 3: I mean, even when I was filming the movie in Arizona,

603
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:42,720
Speaker 3: Adam's like, he's like, I'll drive you back, and I

604
00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:44,280
Speaker 3: was like, no, it's okay, I'm gonna have Jake said

605
00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 3: he would drive me back the you know, the director

606
00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:49,399
Speaker 3: or whatever. And because again same, it's like, I I

607
00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:52,199
Speaker 3: don't even want to put myself in the situation to

608
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:54,240
Speaker 3: then be like, oh, Adam drove me home, to even

609
00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,879
Speaker 3: give it a doubt to Alan going why is Adam

610
00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:57,400
Speaker 3: driving you home?

611
00:27:57,480 --> 00:27:57,640
Speaker 2: Right?

612
00:27:57,680 --> 00:27:59,760
Speaker 3: You know, right, like why didn't the driver drive you home?

613
00:27:59,840 --> 00:28:01,600
Speaker 3: Or you know, And it's like again, it's not that

614
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:06,400
Speaker 3: he doesn't trust me, but it's just creating a boundary around.

615
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:08,360
Speaker 2: It all professionally, all the side of work hours.

616
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:11,760
Speaker 3: But and still saying when I see him, when I

617
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:14,080
Speaker 3: don't see the number two on the call sheet, I do.

618
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:16,240
Speaker 3: That's where I understand with Margot being like, ugh, you

619
00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:18,720
Speaker 3: do feel lost, because it's like they're your partner in crime.

620
00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:21,600
Speaker 3: So I can see that innocence with that piece of

621
00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:22,640
Speaker 3: it to defend her.

622
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:23,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

623
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 1: Absolutely, And it depends on what her boundaries are. You know,

624
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 1: I don't know what her boundaries are, but I just

625
00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:32,080
Speaker 1: think they can get very blurred and very quickly. Someone

626
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 1: good intentions can say hey, let me take you home,

627
00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:38,720
Speaker 1: and then something happens, you know, So it's protecting yourself.

628
00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 3: I mean, we all saw the Ed protecting Ian when

629
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 3: they were filming that movie together and they're out to dinner. Yeah,

630
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:46,600
Speaker 3: you know, that was I remember seeing that paparazzi shot.

631
00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:49,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, and it probably started with good intentions

632
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,320
Speaker 1: and just being you know, and that's the thing where

633
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:53,400
Speaker 1: it's just like again, I think it protects yourself and

634
00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 1: protects the other person.

635
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 4: It protects the other the spouses and that.

636
00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's how I would want to be respected,

637
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:00,600
Speaker 3: and it absolutely you know that the rules.

638
00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:03,040
Speaker 1: But I also think that you would understand a little

639
00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 1: bit more than like we would. Yeah, you know, like

640
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 1: if you had a spouse that was acting who said

641
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 1: so and so just got here, we're gonna do X,

642
00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:13,920
Speaker 1: Y and Z, you'd be like, okay, cool, because you know, yeah,

643
00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 1: but when someone like Gus here's that we might be like,

644
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:19,760
Speaker 1: you're gonna doing well, huh who you know it's jam.

645
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:22,560
Speaker 2: But if Alan was like I'm you know, he's in

646
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:25,680
Speaker 2: the tabloids because he's saying this person's like the air

647
00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:29,280
Speaker 2: I breathe in em word, you'd be like, yeah, I

648
00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:31,160
Speaker 2: love that. Yeah, the words are a little bit.

649
00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 3: But I also think it's different with spouses like my ex,

650
00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 3: we don't have to say why, like obviously he was

651
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 3: had lots of blurred lines, but like he didn't care

652
00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:40,040
Speaker 3: that like I would hear.

653
00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:43,640
Speaker 2: The movie with so he did not care? Yeah, you know.

654
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:45,560
Speaker 3: And it's like I I kind of like the fact

655
00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 3: that Alan cares.

656
00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:50,239
Speaker 2: Absolutely want someone to care better with that type of

657
00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 2: you know, cares.

658
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:54,920
Speaker 1: Because if someone doesn't, Yeah, if someone doesn't, you're like

659
00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:56,240
Speaker 1: wait what And so then you're gonna want to push

660
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 1: the lines a little bit, like what where's your line?

661
00:29:58,120 --> 00:29:58,840
Speaker 2: Do you do you?

662
00:29:58,880 --> 00:29:59,640
Speaker 4: Are you ever going to car?

663
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 2: Are you jealous of all? Yeah?

664
00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:05,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, little jealousy is I'm sorry a little hell Yeah?

665
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:08,400
Speaker 2: I agree with that. Therapist as well agrees with that. Yeah,

666
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:10,360
Speaker 2: we don't. I don't text dudes on my own. We

667
00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:13,280
Speaker 2: have group chats and I'm not Yeah, I just there's

668
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:16,040
Speaker 2: just like a real sanctity in marriage. Yeah.

669
00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, sorry, I just thought of something that end of

670
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:21,400
Speaker 3: other day.

671
00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 2: It was someone saw mine in Kristen's text. Oh no,

672
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:31,840
Speaker 2: we can talk about that. Nope, I would have brought

673
00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:35,560
Speaker 2: it up. But wait, not off the press get cat.

674
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 2: Oh no, maybe one day we'll post that. Probably not.

675
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:55,479
Speaker 3: Hi, ladies, would love your feedback on this. I am

676
00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:57,200
Speaker 3: close to the same age as you all, and I've

677
00:30:57,200 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 3: had a rough past five years. My person passed away suddenly,

678
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:02,880
Speaker 3: I battled and survived cancer, and I'm a single mom

679
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,840
Speaker 3: a teenager. I love your friendship dynamic and I don't

680
00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 3: have my close friend pod and struggle with how to

681
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:11,000
Speaker 3: make those friendships at this stage in life. I find

682
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:12,800
Speaker 3: it hard to find people my age that I can

683
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 3: relate to since I've been through a very difficult, very

684
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 3: different path in life. But I feel like I'm missing

685
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:22,680
Speaker 3: that component. I am successful. I'm successful in my career

686
00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:25,240
Speaker 3: and as a mom, but that's been my whole life

687
00:31:25,280 --> 00:31:27,560
Speaker 3: and I want more. Thanks for your insight, love y'all.

688
00:31:28,600 --> 00:31:32,920
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I want to hug you. I don't

689
00:31:32,920 --> 00:31:36,040
Speaker 3: feel qualified. Really, it is helpful because I haven't lost

690
00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:39,040
Speaker 3: a spouse. I just cannot imagine battled and survived cancer.

691
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 3: I mean, like back to back and with a teenager.

692
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:44,719
Speaker 1: I do think one thing I would say and some

693
00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 1: advice is because there's probably not a lot of people

694
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:50,200
Speaker 1: who have been down that same path, is to be

695
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 1: open to all kinds of friends. You know, like we've

696
00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 1: all been down completely nothing to even touch what you've

697
00:31:58,200 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 1: gone through, but we've all been down completely different paths,

698
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 1: and if we, you know, I think being open to

699
00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:07,320
Speaker 1: some friends who haven't but that still will be there

700
00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 1: to listen and you know, be there for you, I

701
00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 1: think would be really important because it's going to be

702
00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:14,480
Speaker 1: hard to find somebody who's been down you know, it's

703
00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 1: that's a lot and I feel for you. But if

704
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:19,360
Speaker 1: you know, if you're kind of open to some people

705
00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 1: that may not understand, but are there to listen and

706
00:32:22,120 --> 00:32:23,960
Speaker 1: willing to be your friend and be there for you,

707
00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 1: that might make it a little easier.

708
00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:26,360
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't.

709
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 3: I would also say too, to kind of go back

710
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 3: in the like, who are your friends maybe back in childhood,

711
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 3: age or school or somebody where it's that reconnection, because

712
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:37,760
Speaker 3: sometimes that could bring some peace to like you guys,

713
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:42,240
Speaker 3: I ran into Audrey Crocker, not Lindsay Crocker, Audrey. I

714
00:32:42,280 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 3: was on to Aubrey but at Whole Foods, and it

715
00:32:45,000 --> 00:32:47,120
Speaker 3: was like just and we were friends in middle school

716
00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:49,680
Speaker 3: and she moved here and it was just having that like,

717
00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:52,360
Speaker 3: oh my god, like that and it is just I

718
00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:54,600
Speaker 3: felt like a moment of just peace. We ended up

719
00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 3: going to different high schools and we kind of stayed

720
00:32:56,960 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 3: in touch, but she's just like it, and I was like,

721
00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:01,840
Speaker 3: when did you move here? And then we're just I'm like,

722
00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 3: we need to get together, you know, And it's like

723
00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:08,280
Speaker 3: just having that from familiarity of friendship could be and

724
00:33:08,320 --> 00:33:10,400
Speaker 3: I know we all lose touch, but it might be

725
00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:13,200
Speaker 3: nice to kind of go back and because those people

726
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 3: knew you from yeah, you know, like back in the

727
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 3: day and they know your heart and so sometimes it's

728
00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:21,040
Speaker 3: it's hard to start new friendships, but if you can

729
00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 3: kind of go back and re like water, the old

730
00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:27,360
Speaker 3: ones could be I don't know, the only really tip

731
00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:28,880
Speaker 3: that I see.

732
00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 2: And then the other.

733
00:33:29,720 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 3: Ways too, maybe, like I know, in therapy, like if

734
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 3: you have a great therapy center, sometimes they have like

735
00:33:35,440 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 3: on my therapy place has like art on Tuesdays and

736
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 3: they're doing yoga and like that might be a way

737
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:42,160
Speaker 3: to meet people too that are in the same path

738
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:45,120
Speaker 3: of maybe trauma or healing. And yeah, that was kind

739
00:33:45,160 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 3: of suggest that because I actually did a grief retreat

740
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:51,600
Speaker 3: through refuge shortly after, I felt like the masses died

741
00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 3: on me and it was just really it wasn't even

742
00:33:56,600 --> 00:33:58,760
Speaker 3: that the situations had to be surely there were people

743
00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:01,560
Speaker 3: that had, you know, lost parents, some had most had

744
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:03,840
Speaker 3: lost spouses, and I felt like it was just a

745
00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 3: really sweet and precious, like anointed time to just say

746
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:12,000
Speaker 3: all of the things and people knew how it felt.

747
00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 3: And some friendships developed out of that. I know there

748
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 3: was people that found each other and we're like, well

749
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:19,040
Speaker 3: this is lovely because I just don't have to explain myself,

750
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:22,080
Speaker 3: you know, And they a couple of them I think,

751
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 3: grew to be really great friends and they now do

752
00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:26,960
Speaker 3: Christmas parties together, which I think is sweet. So I

753
00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 3: don't know that you need to find like young widows,

754
00:34:30,200 --> 00:34:31,400
Speaker 3: but maybe there is.

755
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:34,120
Speaker 2: I just I always just am so surprised too. God

756
00:34:34,120 --> 00:34:36,400
Speaker 2: plants in these situations that you're like, well, this is

757
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:40,560
Speaker 2: refreshing a new church or a book club or you know, yeah,

758
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:42,759
Speaker 2: like I would I yeah, it's to your point, like

759
00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:44,800
Speaker 2: a small group at church. I don't know if you know,

760
00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:46,840
Speaker 2: if you go to church, they've got small groups like

761
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 2: that could be a way to meet people too, and

762
00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 2: over time. I mean, I guys, we really are blessed

763
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:53,279
Speaker 2: to have our A lot of people say that too,

764
00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:56,439
Speaker 2: you know, so friendships and so we don't hang out

765
00:34:56,840 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 2: a lot and we need to off air, but still

766
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:03,480
Speaker 2: knowing that I can, we can text our group chat.

767
00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:05,279
Speaker 1: Well, and that's everything when you know that you have

768
00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:07,640
Speaker 1: someone you can call, whether you see them a lot

769
00:35:07,719 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 1: or don't see them a lot. And I'm sure that's

770
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:12,399
Speaker 1: probably what she feels like, she's you know, missing because in.

771
00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:14,279
Speaker 3: Reality, like we actually don't hang out a lot, right,

772
00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:16,480
Speaker 3: this is like we then Alan said something to you know,

773
00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 3: it's like we get to see your friends every week.

774
00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 3: I go, no, but I don't though, right like yeah, right,

775
00:35:22,520 --> 00:35:25,000
Speaker 3: I see them. We have for an hour wee podcast,

776
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:26,799
Speaker 3: but we don't actually get to be like hey and

777
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:29,480
Speaker 3: then like hang out. Kristen came over for the birthday

778
00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:31,680
Speaker 3: party and I know you couldn't because you had some

779
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 3: stuff going on at your house, but you know, I go, Kristen,

780
00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:36,080
Speaker 3: when is the last time We sat on the couch

781
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:39,520
Speaker 3: firs here for four hours and it was like talk.

782
00:35:39,600 --> 00:35:41,680
Speaker 2: I'm like, this is something we ever get to do this.

783
00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:43,920
Speaker 2: I don't get to do that ever with anyone. It

784
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:44,840
Speaker 2: was just wonderful.

785
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:47,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think it's important for people to know

786
00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:49,400
Speaker 1: that because I think sometimes they look at us and

787
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:51,359
Speaker 1: think that we just have all this time where we're

788
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 1: always together and we're you know, and and this healthy

789
00:35:54,280 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 1: jealousy of having these friendships. But I think the ratulating

790
00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:02,360
Speaker 1: text it is it is, and it's if something's falling apart,

791
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:04,360
Speaker 1: like y'all gonna be the first people I'm gonna call

792
00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:05,839
Speaker 1: and say, hey, what do I do?

793
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:06,279
Speaker 4: You know?

794
00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 1: But the reality is in this whatever of life that

795
00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:13,440
Speaker 1: we're in, like that's just kind of where it is.

796
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:15,719
Speaker 1: But I think that people don't even have that, and

797
00:36:15,800 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 1: I think that that's got to be really hard and

798
00:36:18,560 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 1: really hard to find at this age. I understand that.

799
00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 1: But so I think all of these ideas are great

800
00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:26,239
Speaker 1: ideas at trying to find new friends so that you

801
00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 1: do have somebody to call in those instances, even if

802
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:31,080
Speaker 1: it doesn't mean y'all can hang out all the time.

803
00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:32,640
Speaker 2: This just popped in my heart, so all to say it,

804
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:35,000
Speaker 2: because sometimes I feel like that it means something. But

805
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:37,759
Speaker 2: I have heard from a couple of my girlfriends, like

806
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 2: I have a really really dear friend of mine who

807
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 2: lost her a little girl when her little girl was fourteen,

808
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:48,400
Speaker 2: and she became the mother who lost a daughter, and

809
00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:52,040
Speaker 2: so when she moved here, there was this like breath

810
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:54,120
Speaker 2: of fresh air for her that like we got to

811
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 2: meet and become really great friends. But I didn't know

812
00:36:56,960 --> 00:36:59,680
Speaker 2: that at first, right, And so maybe I don't know

813
00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:02,040
Speaker 2: if that's speaks to the situation, but I know, like,

814
00:37:02,200 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 2: you know, I also have girlfriends who have had breast

815
00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:06,120
Speaker 2: cancer and surfy breast cancer. They're like, I don't want

816
00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:08,279
Speaker 2: to be the pink ribbon girl, and that's okay, So

817
00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:11,560
Speaker 2: you know, at both sides are so needed. But like

818
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 2: if maybe that is a fresh perspective that you get

819
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:16,759
Speaker 2: to meet people and you just I felt that way,

820
00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 2: not nearly the same level, so I already know that,

821
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 2: but like I was divorced coming to Nashville, and I

822
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:24,840
Speaker 2: felt the shame and the disappointment in that, and it

823
00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:27,200
Speaker 2: was so refreshing to meet people that I didn't have

824
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:30,319
Speaker 2: to like share that. Yeah, you know, like it's just

825
00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:30,920
Speaker 2: I don't know.

826
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:37,320
Speaker 3: Maybe this is friends with me. It's like divorce, divorcing

827
00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:41,200
Speaker 3: it right here. Yeah, say this is your time, sister.

828
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:43,200
Speaker 3: Maybe you get to just decide the kind of friend

829
00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:47,160
Speaker 3: and woman and wife or girlfriend or maybe you never

830
00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:50,560
Speaker 3: are married again, and that's amazing and I just want

831
00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:53,640
Speaker 3: you to Maybe this is reinvention time. And part of

832
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:55,720
Speaker 3: new friendships is you get to reinvent a little.

833
00:37:56,320 --> 00:37:56,640
Speaker 2: Amen.

834
00:37:57,040 --> 00:37:59,399
Speaker 3: Don't be free to go approach someone too. I think

835
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:03,279
Speaker 3: that's you know, and it's scary part. Yeah, I know

836
00:38:03,320 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 3: it's scary, but yeah, yeah, in the meantime, do you

837
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:09,440
Speaker 3: do it? But like one of my good friends middle seat,

838
00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:09,799
Speaker 3: you know.

839
00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:11,840
Speaker 2: So it's like I just got to talk to people.

840
00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:14,640
Speaker 2: You and me, we bonded over face products exactly, and

841
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 2: now we're gonna wrinkled his hellf bury each other in

842
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:19,440
Speaker 2: evidence