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Speaker 4: Now, Brook and Jeffrey in the morning Second Date updates.
Speaker 3: We frequently hear on this show that the number one
Speaker 3: turn off for men and women is if your date
Speaker 3: is rude or dismissive to the weight staff.
Speaker 1: Yay, it's bad. Yeah, how often it happens is wild?
Speaker 2: Yeah, totally.
Speaker 3: And Brook knows that because she owns a chain of restaurants,
Speaker 3: so she can be rude to the weight staff because
Speaker 3: she owns them, but not as a patron. That's not okay,
Speaker 3: that's where she draws the line. And she doesn't pay overtime.
Speaker 1: No, but I don't mean I don't even pay minimum.
Speaker 3: Way we're getting away from the point here. My point
Speaker 3: is one of our listeners witnessed a rude encounter happened
Speaker 3: at a restaurant and it actually led to a date. What, Andrew,
Speaker 3: I read your email. Tell us more about the situation
Speaker 3: that you encountered. Hopefully it wasn't at one of Brook's
Speaker 3: unregistered roadside diners.
Speaker 1: But really I was hoping that his date's name wasn't Karen.
Speaker 3: What was the story?
Speaker 5: Hey, guys, thanks for having me on here. First.
Speaker 1: Oh, aren't you polite?
Speaker 3: Too polite? I don't like it. Answer the question.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess you weren't the issue at this restaurant.
Speaker 3: Yeah, where did this happen?
Speaker 5: It was in a restaurant kind of like like a
Speaker 5: Buffalo wild Wings type sports bar type thing.
Speaker 1: So place.
Speaker 3: Always the most polite people, most types of places. Okay,
Speaker 3: So I was.
Speaker 5: Sitting over at the bar and I hear these two
Speaker 5: ladies near me. They were asking the waitress. They're like, hey,
Speaker 5: do you think you're pretty?
Speaker 1: Maybe they were going to compliment her, like, I don't
Speaker 1: know what happened.
Speaker 5: Next, Well, the waitress says, well, I mean I think
Speaker 5: I have good days and bad days, you know, like
Speaker 5: any normal person would, right, But they kept pressing her
Speaker 5: and they were saying, no, come on, you think you're pretty,
Speaker 5: don't you.
Speaker 1: Please tell me that. They followed up with a compliment
Speaker 1: like we think you're gorgeous. Tone isn't as mean as
Speaker 1: it sound.
Speaker 5: Yes, yeah, well they actually didn't do that.
Speaker 1: That's coming from a place of their own self confidence issues.
Speaker 3: But okay, why what happened?
Speaker 5: She just wanded like, I mean today I feel good
Speaker 5: about myself, you know, like you obviously taken aback.
Speaker 3: Uh huh.
Speaker 5: But then she makes the drinks and she brings them
Speaker 5: back on time and everything. She's like really good to them,
Speaker 5: And then the women are like, do you think people
Speaker 5: tip you because you're pretty?
Speaker 1: What is their head?
Speaker 3: Wow?
Speaker 1: What is weird? I have never heard any one say anything.
Speaker 2: That's got to be an attempt at a compliment. Or
Speaker 2: you're so pretty, you're so pretty, come on, you.
Speaker 3: Know you are so bizarre. Or it's an episode of
Speaker 3: Undercover Boss and they're secretly taping this. Come on, be
Speaker 3: rude to the customers. Do you feel well this box?
Speaker 1: This is so crazy that this is happening.
Speaker 3: Weird for sure.
Speaker 5: Yeah. So then she responds, I think most people tip
Speaker 5: me based on my service, not my luck.
Speaker 3: Yeah done.
Speaker 1: I'm also good at my job.
Speaker 5: Then she brings the check to the ladies, right, and
Speaker 5: I hear them say we're not going to tip you
Speaker 5: because you're pretty. And I'm sure you get tipped a
Speaker 5: lot because.
Speaker 1: People based the whole thing was a setup so they
Speaker 1: could get out of tipping.
Speaker 3: Brook has never been so impressed.
Speaker 1: But that is awful.
Speaker 3: I know it is pretty low.
Speaker 5: It was infuriating just to watch.
Speaker 3: It like I used to.
Speaker 2: I can see somebody writing this, but to say it
Speaker 2: to their face and then walk out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, please tell me you didn't follow them into the
Speaker 1: parking lot and ask one of them out, and that's
Speaker 1: why you're.
Speaker 3: Calling I think I'm pretty. By the way, I had
Speaker 3: a double date. So no, what happens because you said
Speaker 3: it leads to a date.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it wasn't with them, I assure you.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 5: So I kipped her big and I told her I
Speaker 5: was like, listen, I'm not tipping you because you're pretty,
Speaker 5: even though of course you are. I'm tipping you because
Speaker 5: you're a great server and you shouldn't listen to those tags.
Speaker 3: That's right, okay?
Speaker 1: And then you asked her out?
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, kind of after that, I ended up getting
Speaker 5: her number, and then we met up after her shift.
Speaker 2: Because a lot of times was about like a fake
Speaker 2: number or just be like, yeah, call me, but it's
Speaker 2: just to get you out of her hair. Actually had
Speaker 2: a date.
Speaker 1: I don't know. She was in a low place. She
Speaker 1: was ready to do anything.
Speaker 3: Those two other women actually kind of set you up
Speaker 3: for this, yer. But how did it go?
Speaker 5: I mean it was good. We went to a dive bar,
Speaker 5: so we were out pretty late, and then she ended
Speaker 5: up staying at my place.
Speaker 1: Wow, all right, what was it like in the morning.
Speaker 3: Oh, you're skipping, okay, let's go to the morning.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't feel like I always need
Speaker 1: all the details of what happened at the night, like
Speaker 1: we understand what happens.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she was pretty. She was very pretty scene.
Speaker 5: So the next morning when she was leaving, I thought
Speaker 5: things were good between us. Everything was awesome actually, and
Speaker 5: the mood seemed good and everything, and I was helping
Speaker 5: her gather her stuff and I even called an uber
Speaker 5: for her. Yeah, but that was it, and she's now
Speaker 5: not responding to my text at all other than like
Speaker 5: one word.
Speaker 1: Do you think that she was just thinking of it
Speaker 1: as like a one night type of thing.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I get you know, it turned out
Speaker 5: to be like a one night standing but I really
Speaker 5: don't want it to be. I really liked her a lot,
Speaker 5: and I guess I feel like if I go back
Speaker 5: to her bar, though, I'm gonna be in stalker territory.
Speaker 5: I don't want to do that.
Speaker 1: I would agree. I think you come across as kind
Speaker 1: of a creepy customer at that point, unless.
Speaker 3: You wear a mustache. AI.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know. I just haven't heard from her
Speaker 5: through texting, and I don't know what to do now.
Speaker 5: So what do you guys think, Well.
Speaker 3: It's definitely less stalker ish to reach out to a
Speaker 3: radio station and have us call her on your behalf.
Speaker 1: That's different than showing up at her work. Actually, so,
Speaker 1: I'm actually.
Speaker 3: It's just one step above the stalker move, and we're
Speaker 3: going to do it when we come back and get
Speaker 3: you your second date update right after this.
Speaker 4: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning Second Date Update.
Speaker 3: Couldn't start part two without playing this song. I feel
Speaker 3: that's my mom loves this song because our listener and
Speaker 3: witnessed a waitress getting basically harassed by two other female
Speaker 3: patrons at the bar who kept asking her, Hey, do
Speaker 3: you think that you're pretty?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Is that why you get tipped? You get tipped
Speaker 1: because you're pretty? That's more of the tone.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like, come on, you think you are? You think
Speaker 3: you are a regular Arlene Fox?
Speaker 1: Don't you My mom is a smoke show. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm just saying.
Speaker 3: And when they left the bar, they told her, we're
Speaker 3: not tipping you because you get plenty of other tips
Speaker 3: from customers who find you pretty.
Speaker 1: Dude, it was all a setup because they're cheap. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Well, one of those customers was Andrew, who took the
Speaker 3: opportunity to swoop in.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that was kind of misleading. Yeah, people
Speaker 1: were listening to the front. He wasn't.
Speaker 3: He literally said, I'm not tipping you because you're pretty.
Speaker 3: I'm tipping you because you give great service.
Speaker 1: That's right, and you deserve extra tip because those ladies suns.
Speaker 1: Yeah he called them hags actually, And it sounds.
Speaker 3: Like you got excellent service from her. Later that night
Speaker 3: back at his place when she stayed over it.
Speaker 1: I don't need to do that.
Speaker 3: Andrew felt like it was more of a one night thing.
Speaker 3: But afterwards, she's not being super receptive to his text
Speaker 3: so maybe she didn't feel the same, and that's okay.
Speaker 1: If she didn't, maybe she thought that you wouldn't want more.
Speaker 1: What have you texted her?
Speaker 5: I'm just saying like, what's up? I mean, I didn't
Speaker 5: specifically say like, hey, let's go get something again, because
Speaker 5: she's not really responding.
Speaker 2: You know, it feels like you can't start a conversation
Speaker 2: even like you're saying, hey, what's up? By was your
Speaker 2: day kind of vibe?
Speaker 5: Yeah, exactly exactly.
Speaker 3: Are you reminding her that you're not texting her cousin pretty?
Speaker 5: Yeah, maybe I should have.
Speaker 1: Let's not do that when we get her on the phone.
Speaker 3: I am on the women's side here.
Speaker 1: Yes, it's interesting.
Speaker 3: So let's call her. What's her name?
Speaker 1: Her name Monica, Monica. Okay, that is a pretty girl name.
Speaker 3: Don't say that, Brooke. Don't label her that way. She's
Speaker 3: more than that. Let's just give her a call and
Speaker 3: we'll see what she's really all about. Here we go. Hello, Hey, Monica,
Speaker 3: this is a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey in
Speaker 3: the Morning. How you doing.
Speaker 6: Oh, I'm good.
Speaker 1: What is this about. I'm actually so glad you're awake,
Speaker 1: because if you are a waitress, then oftentimes you have
Speaker 1: late nights.
Speaker 3: Ah you know, yeah, good job waking up today. We're
Speaker 3: proud of you.
Speaker 1: Probably doesn't listen to morning radio very often.
Speaker 6: I don't know you se.
Speaker 3: Honestly, we don't really know you that much either. We've
Speaker 3: just heard about you through a listener of ours name Andrew.
Speaker 6: Oh, Andrew.
Speaker 3: I don't love how you say that, but maybe there's
Speaker 3: a reason that you say it that way, because what
Speaker 3: we're doing here is called a second date update. We're
Speaker 3: trying to help Andrew figure out if there's a reason
Speaker 3: that the two of you haven't met up a second time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he definitely felt like the connection was strong. Enough,
Speaker 1: it should be more than just a one time hangout.
Speaker 6: Well, I don't know how much you know about the
Speaker 6: whole night.
Speaker 3: He did tell us what happened at the bar before
Speaker 3: the two of you went out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, with those two jerks, yeah DAGs.
Speaker 3: Yeah, grilling you about being pretty.
Speaker 1: And then using that as an excuse not to tip you.
Speaker 1: I'm mad still, geez.
Speaker 6: Yeah, that was that was pretty rough.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I bet wasn't it nice? Say? Andrew like, I
Speaker 1: don't know, kind of saved the moment in a way.
Speaker 6: Well, in the beginning, he did make me feel better
Speaker 6: by coming over and talking to me, and he felt
Speaker 6: like someone I could trust, so I gave him my number.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he told us that. He said that, he told
Speaker 3: you that he didn't think that you were pretty, that
Speaker 3: he was tipping you because you were a good server.
Speaker 1: Again, why are we emphasizing.
Speaker 3: That cart Because he's a good person and doesn't see
Speaker 3: you for just like a beautiful face.
Speaker 1: It's hard to disagree with when you said it. I mean,
Speaker 1: the words are right and the tone is just weird.
Speaker 1: He's a good guy. Maybe we could just move on
Speaker 1: to them hanging out. Remember you got he told us,
Speaker 1: you guys got drinks at a dive bar and that
Speaker 1: was fun enough to go back to his place.
Speaker 6: Mm hmm. Also, he did tell you that I stayed
Speaker 6: over at his place.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: We tried not to pry too deep into it because overall,
Speaker 3: he just felt like there was a strong connection, strong
Speaker 3: enough that you'd hang out a second time. And that
Speaker 3: hasn't happened, and he's not sure why.
Speaker 6: There was a little bit of like an issue before
Speaker 6: I left his house in the morning.
Speaker 1: See, I asked him about the next morning, and he
Speaker 1: said there was nothing awkward.
Speaker 6: Well, he wouldn't have known about it because I didn't
Speaker 6: make a big deal about it and I didn't tell
Speaker 6: him anything. Oh well, so what happened in the morning
Speaker 6: was as we were getting ready, our clothes were everywhere,
Speaker 6: and I asked him to toss me to my pants
Speaker 6: because they were closer to him. And he tosses me
Speaker 6: my jeans and a pair of underwear. But the only
Speaker 6: problem was I wasn't wearing underwear that night.
Speaker 1: Wait.
Speaker 2: Oh, another women's underwear on the bed, not his underwear.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was just laying around.
Speaker 4: Yeah this guy.
Speaker 6: Yeah, so like I wanted to ask him, like, who's worthy,
Speaker 6: but I didn't want to make a big deal about it.
Speaker 6: I didn't know what to do.
Speaker 1: I mean, I could see how that would be a
Speaker 1: big mood killer, right, even though you're not in a
Speaker 1: relationship or anything, like, just to have random women's unter
Speaker 1: lying all over something guys off.
Speaker 3: Well, so what's going through your mind when you when
Speaker 3: you see that?
Speaker 6: Like, well, I was like, does he do this with
Speaker 6: other waitresses?
Speaker 1: Like it just follows those mean girls around and then
Speaker 1: trying to make people feel better after they stiff their waistuff.
Speaker 6: It didn't feel good because before that I didn't want
Speaker 6: on one night stand. But after that, I just I
Speaker 6: couldn't talk to him again.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but he.
Speaker 1: Had to have seen the women's underwear and like internally died.
Speaker 1: There's no way he didn't notice.
Speaker 3: He thought it was hers, but it was on the floor.
Speaker 1: Before that then, right, But.
Speaker 5: I mean.
Speaker 1: He would know if another woman's underwear happened to still
Speaker 1: be there.
Speaker 3: I don't know what's going through his mind. We should
Speaker 3: just ask him right now because you don't know this, Monica.
Speaker 3: But Andrew's been waiting on the other line, listening to you.
Speaker 1: He's like a surprise pair of bundies on the other.
Speaker 5: Hey, Monica, Hi, Andrew, I'm sorry about this. I'm really
Speaker 5: sorry those weren't yours. I would you believe me if
Speaker 5: I told you they were mine?
Speaker 1: Is that the road we're going to take?
Speaker 3: Is that better?
Speaker 5: Okay? Okay, so yeah, I'm not gonna lie. I have
Speaker 5: no idea who those were. But I'm really sorry that happened.
Speaker 5: I really like you a lot, and I'm sorry that
Speaker 5: made you feel like trash like I see, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1: He's trying to yell over the top of the lace
Speaker 1: panties that were on his bed.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, I did mean what I said before
Speaker 6: that I initially didn't want this to be a one
Speaker 6: night stand. But I don't know if I can move
Speaker 6: past that.
Speaker 3: And she was saying earlier, Andrew, she's worried, maybe you
Speaker 3: do this all the time with waitresses all over the
Speaker 3: city because you just admitted yourself you don't even know
Speaker 3: who's underwear those belonged to.
Speaker 1: That was not a good confession, Andrew. It needed four
Speaker 1: for days and you don't even know.
Speaker 3: You're making yourself sound like a crazy player.
Speaker 5: Okay, I don't do this with lots of waitresses. I mean, yeah,
Speaker 5: every now and then, I'll meet somebody here and there,
Speaker 5: but it's not like all the time, you know, and
Speaker 5: I hear, this is the thing I want to drive
Speaker 5: home is Monica. That night at the dive bar after
Speaker 5: be connected, it felt so good. I felt really good
Speaker 5: with you, and honestly, I was somewhat sober at that point.
Speaker 5: So I'm hoping that somehow you can forgive me for
Speaker 5: the whole underwear thing that I had no idea that
Speaker 5: was the reason. And I definitely don't plan on seeing
Speaker 5: that person again.
Speaker 3: So now suddenly you do know who they belonged to,
Speaker 3: and you just don't plan on seeing them, or he.
Speaker 1: Still doesn't know, and there's no way for him to
Speaker 1: see him again because he has no idea who he was.
Speaker 5: Probably that guys, you were supposed to be on my side,
Speaker 5: I know, but I feel.
Speaker 3: Like you're just trying to give you a Yeah, there's
Speaker 3: some landmines that you haven't cleaned up along the way,
Speaker 3: and we haven't heard how Monica's doing right now. Monica,
Speaker 3: what's running through your mind?
Speaker 6: I don't know. I'm I'm thinking a lot of things.
Speaker 6: You're kind of backpeddling a little bit, and I don't
Speaker 6: want to dismiss how I feel.
Speaker 5: Okay, Monica, you shouldn't have to dismiss how you feel.
Speaker 5: I just want you to hear me out like, I
Speaker 5: really really like you, and yet I've had sex with
Speaker 5: somebody before and they left.
Speaker 1: I think that's okay, that's okay first time. I mean
Speaker 1: it was a mistake that he made. He sounds sincere
Speaker 1: that he really likes you, Monica, and he wants to
Speaker 1: see you again.
Speaker 3: And if you're open to it, we'd pay for that meetup.
Speaker 1: See, we are on your side, Andrew.
Speaker 3: Just one more if you're willing to give Andrew a chance.
Speaker 6: You know what, I haven't had anyone put in the
Speaker 6: effort to even try to fix things with me, So
Speaker 6: I'll give you another chance.
Speaker 1: Whoa, I did not see that coming, just like those underwear.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, congratulations Andrew. I don't know how you did it,
Speaker 3: but you dug yourself out of your own hole. You
Speaker 3: got yourself a date.
Speaker 5: I attribute it to you, guys. Thank you, and thanks
Speaker 5: Monica for giving me another chance.
Speaker 6: Okay, Andrew, not that I'm encouraging that we go back
Speaker 6: to your place, but just please clean up your room
Speaker 6: next time.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, she's already becoming your mom, brou.
Speaker 1: She's all turned off again.
Speaker 3: If she buys you a hamper run.
Speaker 1: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: It's interesting that Brooks said that she didn't see the
Speaker 3: yes coming, because I don't think I don't think any
Speaker 3: of us did. Honestly, just really goes to show persistence
Speaker 3: does pay off sometimes.
Speaker 1: Yeah, or she just realized, well, I guess just another
Speaker 1: pair of underwear. It's been worse in my dating life. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I mean I would say to him, bring her a
Speaker 3: gift on the next date, and it should be a
Speaker 3: brand new pair of unused underwear that she could leave
Speaker 3: it his place next time. I thought it was gonna
Speaker 3: be the matching pro set. Oh why not? Yeah, the
Speaker 3: whole she bang.
Speaker 1: Have you guys were paying attention to begin I don't
Speaker 1: think she does that. It's the underwear thing. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: that's not her.
Speaker 3: Jam Okay, well respect to her then, But whatever your
Speaker 3: underwear situation is, we can always try and step in
Speaker 3: and help you with your dating life. Email the show.
Speaker 3: We'll call that person who's not calling you back and go.
Speaker 3: Check out all of our second Date podcasts. They're available
Speaker 3: to listen anytime. Underwear on or off that's right. Just
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