WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Too Pretty To Tip

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<v Speaker 1>Here we go. Let's do it again, another brand new

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<v Speaker 1>episode today for your Second Date. Oh my god, something

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<v Speaker 1>just so. I think it's fine. I think that this

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<v Speaker 1>the studio is following apart, but we're still here. We're

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<v Speaker 1>still making it happen for you. It's Brook and Jeffrey,

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<v Speaker 1>and thank you so much for finding the Second Date podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Ashin is stealing the copper under here.

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<v Speaker 3>I've got to move out of my parents somehow.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't blame you. And I didn't see anything, Ashton.

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<v Speaker 1>But what did you see? In the comments?

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<v Speaker 4>Alexis Muktar said, Hi from Afghanistan. I've been listening to

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<v Speaker 4>My college commute is thirty minutes by bike from my

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that's awesome. I hope you keep the volume a

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<v Speaker 1>little low so you hear the oncoming vehicles. Yeah. True,

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<v Speaker 1>you know we can't fo up there all right. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>there you go. Your brand new podcast starts right.

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<v Speaker 4>Now, Brook and Jeffrey in the morning Second Date updates.

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<v Speaker 3>We frequently hear on this show that the number one

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<v Speaker 3>turn off for men and women is if your date

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<v Speaker 3>is rude or dismissive to the weight staff.

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<v Speaker 1>Yay, it's bad. Yeah, how often it happens is wild?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, totally.

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<v Speaker 3>And Brook knows that because she owns a chain of restaurants,

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<v Speaker 3>so she can be rude to the weight staff because

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<v Speaker 3>she owns them, but not as a patron. That's not okay,

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<v Speaker 3>that's where she draws the line. And she doesn't pay overtime.

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<v Speaker 1>No, but I don't mean I don't even pay minimum.

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<v Speaker 3>Way we're getting away from the point here. My point

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<v Speaker 3>is one of our listeners witnessed a rude encounter happened

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<v Speaker 3>at a restaurant and it actually led to a date. What, Andrew,

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<v Speaker 3>I read your email. Tell us more about the situation

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<v Speaker 3>that you encountered. Hopefully it wasn't at one of Brook's

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<v Speaker 3>unregistered roadside diners.

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<v Speaker 1>But really I was hoping that his date's name wasn't Karen.

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<v Speaker 3>What was the story?

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<v Speaker 5>Hey, guys, thanks for having me on here. First.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, aren't you polite?

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<v Speaker 3>Too polite? I don't like it. Answer the question.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I guess you weren't the issue at this restaurant.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, where did this happen?

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<v Speaker 5>It was in a restaurant kind of like like a

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<v Speaker 5>Buffalo wild Wings type sports bar type thing.

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<v Speaker 1>So place.

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<v Speaker 3>Always the most polite people, most types of places. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>So I was.

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<v Speaker 5>Sitting over at the bar and I hear these two

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<v Speaker 5>ladies near me. They were asking the waitress. They're like, hey,

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<v Speaker 5>do you think you're pretty?

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe they were going to compliment her, like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what happened.

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<v Speaker 5>Next, Well, the waitress says, well, I mean I think

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<v Speaker 5>I have good days and bad days, you know, like

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<v Speaker 5>any normal person would, right, But they kept pressing her

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<v Speaker 5>and they were saying, no, come on, you think you're pretty,

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<v Speaker 5>don't you.

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<v Speaker 1>Please tell me that. They followed up with a compliment

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<v Speaker 1>like we think you're gorgeous. Tone isn't as mean as

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<v Speaker 1>it sound.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, yeah, well they actually didn't do that.

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<v Speaker 1>That's coming from a place of their own self confidence issues.

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<v Speaker 3>But okay, why what happened?

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<v Speaker 5>She just wanded like, I mean today I feel good

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<v Speaker 5>about myself, you know, like you obviously taken aback.

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<v Speaker 3>Uh huh.

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<v Speaker 5>But then she makes the drinks and she brings them

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<v Speaker 5>back on time and everything. She's like really good to them,

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<v Speaker 5>And then the women are like, do you think people

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<v Speaker 5>tip you because you're pretty?

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<v Speaker 1>What is their head?

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<v Speaker 3>Wow?

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<v Speaker 1>What is weird? I have never heard any one say anything.

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<v Speaker 2>That's got to be an attempt at a compliment. Or

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<v Speaker 2>you're so pretty, you're so pretty, come on, you.

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<v Speaker 3>Know you are so bizarre. Or it's an episode of

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<v Speaker 3>Undercover Boss and they're secretly taping this. Come on, be

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<v Speaker 3>rude to the customers. Do you feel well this box?

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<v Speaker 1>This is so crazy that this is happening.

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<v Speaker 3>Weird for sure.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah. So then she responds, I think most people tip

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<v Speaker 5>me based on my service, not my luck.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah done.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm also good at my job.

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<v Speaker 5>Then she brings the check to the ladies, right, and

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<v Speaker 5>I hear them say we're not going to tip you

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<v Speaker 5>because you're pretty. And I'm sure you get tipped a

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<v Speaker 5>lot because.

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<v Speaker 1>People based the whole thing was a setup so they

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<v Speaker 1>could get out of tipping.

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<v Speaker 3>Brook has never been so impressed.

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<v Speaker 1>But that is awful.

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<v Speaker 3>I know it is pretty low.

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<v Speaker 5>It was infuriating just to watch.

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<v Speaker 3>It like I used to.

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<v Speaker 2>I can see somebody writing this, but to say it

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<v Speaker 2>to their face and then walk out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, please tell me you didn't follow them into the

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<v Speaker 1>parking lot and ask one of them out, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>why you're.

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<v Speaker 3>Calling I think I'm pretty. By the way, I had

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<v Speaker 3>a double date. So no, what happens because you said

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<v Speaker 3>it leads to a date.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, it wasn't with them, I assure you.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay.

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<v Speaker 5>So I kipped her big and I told her I

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<v Speaker 5>was like, listen, I'm not tipping you because you're pretty,

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<v Speaker 5>even though of course you are. I'm tipping you because

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<v Speaker 5>you're a great server and you shouldn't listen to those tags.

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<v Speaker 3>That's right, okay?

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<v Speaker 1>And then you asked her out?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh yeah, kind of after that, I ended up getting

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<v Speaker 5>her number, and then we met up after her shift.

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<v Speaker 2>Because a lot of times was about like a fake

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<v Speaker 2>number or just be like, yeah, call me, but it's

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<v Speaker 2>just to get you out of her hair. Actually had

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<v Speaker 2>a date.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. She was in a low place. She

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<v Speaker 1>was ready to do anything.

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<v Speaker 3>Those two other women actually kind of set you up

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<v Speaker 3>for this, yer. But how did it go?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean it was good. We went to a dive bar,

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<v Speaker 5>so we were out pretty late, and then she ended

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<v Speaker 5>up staying at my place.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, all right, what was it like in the morning.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, you're skipping, okay, let's go to the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I don't feel like I always need

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<v Speaker 1>all the details of what happened at the night, like

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<v Speaker 1>we understand what happens.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, she was pretty. She was very pretty scene.

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<v Speaker 5>So the next morning when she was leaving, I thought

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<v Speaker 5>things were good between us. Everything was awesome actually, and

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<v Speaker 5>the mood seemed good and everything, and I was helping

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<v Speaker 5>her gather her stuff and I even called an uber

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<v Speaker 5>for her. Yeah, but that was it, and she's now

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<v Speaker 5>not responding to my text at all other than like

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<v Speaker 5>one word.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think that she was just thinking of it

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<v Speaker 1>as like a one night type of thing.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I mean I get you know, it turned out

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<v Speaker 5>to be like a one night standing but I really

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<v Speaker 5>don't want it to be. I really liked her a lot,

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<v Speaker 5>and I guess I feel like if I go back

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<v Speaker 5>to her bar, though, I'm gonna be in stalker territory.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't want to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>I would agree. I think you come across as kind

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<v Speaker 1>of a creepy customer at that point, unless.

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<v Speaker 3>You wear a mustache. AI.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I don't know. I just haven't heard from her

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<v Speaker 5>through texting, and I don't know what to do now.

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<v Speaker 5>So what do you guys think, Well.

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<v Speaker 3>It's definitely less stalker ish to reach out to a

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<v Speaker 3>radio station and have us call her on your behalf.

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<v Speaker 1>That's different than showing up at her work. Actually, so,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm actually.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just one step above the stalker move, and we're

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<v Speaker 3>going to do it when we come back and get

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<v Speaker 3>you your second date update right after this.

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<v Speaker 4>Brook and Jeffrey in the morning Second Date Update.

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<v Speaker 3>Couldn't start part two without playing this song. I feel

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<v Speaker 3>that's my mom loves this song because our listener and

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<v Speaker 3>witnessed a waitress getting basically harassed by two other female

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<v Speaker 3>patrons at the bar who kept asking her, Hey, do

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<v Speaker 3>you think that you're pretty?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Is that why you get tipped? You get tipped

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<v Speaker 1>because you're pretty? That's more of the tone.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, like, come on, you think you are? You think

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<v Speaker 3>you are a regular Arlene Fox?

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<v Speaker 1>Don't you My mom is a smoke show. Yeah, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying.

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<v Speaker 3>And when they left the bar, they told her, we're

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<v Speaker 3>not tipping you because you get plenty of other tips

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<v Speaker 3>from customers who find you pretty.

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<v Speaker 1>Dude, it was all a setup because they're cheap. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, one of those customers was Andrew, who took the

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<v Speaker 3>opportunity to swoop in.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean that was kind of misleading. Yeah, people

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<v Speaker 1>were listening to the front. He wasn't.

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<v Speaker 3>He literally said, I'm not tipping you because you're pretty.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm tipping you because you give great service.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right, and you deserve extra tip because those ladies suns.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah he called them hags actually, And it sounds.

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<v Speaker 3>Like you got excellent service from her. Later that night

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<v Speaker 3>back at his place when she stayed over it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't need to do that.

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<v Speaker 3>Andrew felt like it was more of a one night thing.

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<v Speaker 3>But afterwards, she's not being super receptive to his text

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<v Speaker 3>so maybe she didn't feel the same, and that's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>If she didn't, maybe she thought that you wouldn't want more.

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<v Speaker 1>What have you texted her?

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<v Speaker 5>I'm just saying like, what's up? I mean, I didn't

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<v Speaker 5>specifically say like, hey, let's go get something again, because

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<v Speaker 5>she's not really responding.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it feels like you can't start a conversation

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<v Speaker 2>even like you're saying, hey, what's up? By was your

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<v Speaker 2>day kind of vibe?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, exactly exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you reminding her that you're not texting her cousin pretty?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, maybe I should have.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's not do that when we get her on the phone.

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<v Speaker 3>I am on the women's side here.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, it's interesting.

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<v Speaker 3>So let's call her. What's her name?

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<v Speaker 1>Her name Monica, Monica. Okay, that is a pretty girl name.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't say that, Brooke. Don't label her that way. She's

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<v Speaker 3>more than that. Let's just give her a call and

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<v Speaker 3>we'll see what she's really all about. Here we go. Hello, Hey, Monica,

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<v Speaker 3>this is a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey in

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<v Speaker 3>the Morning. How you doing.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh, I'm good.

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<v Speaker 1>What is this about. I'm actually so glad you're awake,

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<v Speaker 1>because if you are a waitress, then oftentimes you have

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<v Speaker 1>late nights.

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<v Speaker 3>Ah you know, yeah, good job waking up today. We're

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<v Speaker 3>proud of you.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably doesn't listen to morning radio very often.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know you se.

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<v Speaker 3>Honestly, we don't really know you that much either. We've

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<v Speaker 3>just heard about you through a listener of ours name Andrew.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh, Andrew.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't love how you say that, but maybe there's

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<v Speaker 3>a reason that you say it that way, because what

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<v Speaker 3>we're doing here is called a second date update. We're

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<v Speaker 3>trying to help Andrew figure out if there's a reason

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<v Speaker 3>that the two of you haven't met up a second time.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he definitely felt like the connection was strong. Enough,

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<v Speaker 1>it should be more than just a one time hangout.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, I don't know how much you know about the

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<v Speaker 6>whole night.

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<v Speaker 3>He did tell us what happened at the bar before

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<v Speaker 3>the two of you went out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, with those two jerks, yeah DAGs.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, grilling you about being pretty.

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<v Speaker 1>And then using that as an excuse not to tip you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm mad still, geez.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, that was that was pretty rough.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I bet wasn't it nice? Say? Andrew like, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, kind of saved the moment in a way.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, in the beginning, he did make me feel better

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<v Speaker 6>by coming over and talking to me, and he felt

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<v Speaker 6>like someone I could trust, so I gave him my number.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, he told us that. He said that, he told

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<v Speaker 3>you that he didn't think that you were pretty, that

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<v Speaker 3>he was tipping you because you were a good server.

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<v Speaker 1>Again, why are we emphasizing.

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<v Speaker 3>That cart Because he's a good person and doesn't see

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<v Speaker 3>you for just like a beautiful face.

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<v Speaker 1>It's hard to disagree with when you said it. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>the words are right and the tone is just weird.

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<v Speaker 1>He's a good guy. Maybe we could just move on

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<v Speaker 1>to them hanging out. Remember you got he told us,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys got drinks at a dive bar and that

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<v Speaker 1>was fun enough to go back to his place.

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<v Speaker 6>Mm hmm. Also, he did tell you that I stayed

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<v Speaker 6>over at his place.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>We tried not to pry too deep into it because overall,

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<v Speaker 3>he just felt like there was a strong connection, strong

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<v Speaker 3>enough that you'd hang out a second time. And that

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<v Speaker 3>hasn't happened, and he's not sure why.

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<v Speaker 6>There was a little bit of like an issue before

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<v Speaker 6>I left his house in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>See, I asked him about the next morning, and he

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<v Speaker 1>said there was nothing awkward.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, he wouldn't have known about it because I didn't

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<v Speaker 6>make a big deal about it and I didn't tell

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<v Speaker 6>him anything. Oh well, so what happened in the morning

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<v Speaker 6>was as we were getting ready, our clothes were everywhere,

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<v Speaker 6>and I asked him to toss me to my pants

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<v Speaker 6>because they were closer to him. And he tosses me

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<v Speaker 6>my jeans and a pair of underwear. But the only

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<v Speaker 6>problem was I wasn't wearing underwear that night.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, another women's underwear on the bed, not his underwear.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I was just laying around.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah this guy.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, so like I wanted to ask him, like, who's worthy,

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<v Speaker 6>but I didn't want to make a big deal about it.

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<v Speaker 6>I didn't know what to do.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I could see how that would be a

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<v Speaker 1>big mood killer, right, even though you're not in a

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<v Speaker 1>relationship or anything, like, just to have random women's unter

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<v Speaker 1>lying all over something guys off.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, so what's going through your mind when you when

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<v Speaker 3>you see that?

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<v Speaker 6>Like, well, I was like, does he do this with

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<v Speaker 6>other waitresses?

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<v Speaker 1>Like it just follows those mean girls around and then

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<v Speaker 1>trying to make people feel better after they stiff their waistuff.

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<v Speaker 6>It didn't feel good because before that I didn't want

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<v Speaker 6>on one night stand. But after that, I just I

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<v Speaker 6>couldn't talk to him again.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but he.

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<v Speaker 1>Had to have seen the women's underwear and like internally died.

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<v Speaker 1>There's no way he didn't notice.

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<v Speaker 3>He thought it was hers, but it was on the floor.

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<v Speaker 1>Before that then, right, But.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>He would know if another woman's underwear happened to still

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<v Speaker 1>be there.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what's going through his mind. We should

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<v Speaker 3>just ask him right now because you don't know this, Monica.

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<v Speaker 3>But Andrew's been waiting on the other line, listening to you.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like a surprise pair of bundies on the other.

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<v Speaker 5>Hey, Monica, Hi, Andrew, I'm sorry about this. I'm really

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<v Speaker 5>sorry those weren't yours. I would you believe me if

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<v Speaker 5>I told you they were mine?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that the road we're going to take?

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<v Speaker 3>Is that better?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay? Okay, so yeah, I'm not gonna lie. I have

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<v Speaker 5>no idea who those were. But I'm really sorry that happened.

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<v Speaker 5>I really like you a lot, and I'm sorry that

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<v Speaker 5>made you feel like trash like I see, I'm so sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>He's trying to yell over the top of the lace

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<v Speaker 1>panties that were on his bed.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I mean, I did mean what I said before

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<v Speaker 6>that I initially didn't want this to be a one

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<v Speaker 6>night stand. But I don't know if I can move

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<v Speaker 6>past that.

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<v Speaker 3>And she was saying earlier, Andrew, she's worried, maybe you

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<v Speaker 3>do this all the time with waitresses all over the

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<v Speaker 3>city because you just admitted yourself you don't even know

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<v Speaker 3>who's underwear those belonged to.

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<v Speaker 1>That was not a good confession, Andrew. It needed four

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<v Speaker 1>for days and you don't even know.

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<v Speaker 3>You're making yourself sound like a crazy player.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, I don't do this with lots of waitresses. I mean, yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>every now and then, I'll meet somebody here and there,

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<v Speaker 5>but it's not like all the time, you know, and

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<v Speaker 5>I hear, this is the thing I want to drive

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<v Speaker 5>home is Monica. That night at the dive bar after

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<v Speaker 5>be connected, it felt so good. I felt really good

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<v Speaker 5>with you, and honestly, I was somewhat sober at that point.

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<v Speaker 5>So I'm hoping that somehow you can forgive me for

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<v Speaker 5>the whole underwear thing that I had no idea that

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<v Speaker 5>was the reason. And I definitely don't plan on seeing

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<v Speaker 5>that person again.

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<v Speaker 3>So now suddenly you do know who they belonged to,

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<v Speaker 3>and you just don't plan on seeing them, or he.

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<v Speaker 1>Still doesn't know, and there's no way for him to

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<v Speaker 1>see him again because he has no idea who he was.

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<v Speaker 5>Probably that guys, you were supposed to be on my side,

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<v Speaker 5>I know, but I feel.

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<v Speaker 3>Like you're just trying to give you a Yeah, there's

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<v Speaker 3>some landmines that you haven't cleaned up along the way,

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<v Speaker 3>and we haven't heard how Monica's doing right now. Monica,

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<v Speaker 3>what's running through your mind?

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know. I'm I'm thinking a lot of things.

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<v Speaker 6>You're kind of backpeddling a little bit, and I don't

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<v Speaker 6>want to dismiss how I feel.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, Monica, you shouldn't have to dismiss how you feel.

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<v Speaker 5>I just want you to hear me out like, I

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<v Speaker 5>really really like you, and yet I've had sex with

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<v Speaker 5>somebody before and they left.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's okay, that's okay first time. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>it was a mistake that he made. He sounds sincere

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<v Speaker 1>that he really likes you, Monica, and he wants to

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<v Speaker 1>see you again.

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<v Speaker 3>And if you're open to it, we'd pay for that meetup.

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<v Speaker 1>See, we are on your side, Andrew.

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<v Speaker 3>Just one more if you're willing to give Andrew a chance.

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<v Speaker 6>You know what, I haven't had anyone put in the

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<v Speaker 6>effort to even try to fix things with me, So

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<v Speaker 6>I'll give you another chance.

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<v Speaker 1>Whoa, I did not see that coming, just like those underwear.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well, congratulations Andrew. I don't know how you did it,

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<v Speaker 3>but you dug yourself out of your own hole. You

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<v Speaker 3>got yourself a date.

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<v Speaker 5>I attribute it to you, guys. Thank you, and thanks

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<v Speaker 5>Monica for giving me another chance.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, Andrew, not that I'm encouraging that we go back

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<v Speaker 6>to your place, but just please clean up your room

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<v Speaker 6>next time.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, she's already becoming your mom, brou.

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<v Speaker 1>She's all turned off again.

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<v Speaker 3>If she buys you a hamper run.

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<v Speaker 1>Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 3>It's interesting that Brooks said that she didn't see the

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<v Speaker 3>yes coming, because I don't think I don't think any

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<v Speaker 3>of us did. Honestly, just really goes to show persistence

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<v Speaker 3>does pay off sometimes.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, or she just realized, well, I guess just another

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<v Speaker 1>pair of underwear. It's been worse in my dating life. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean I would say to him, bring her a

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<v Speaker 3>gift on the next date, and it should be a

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<v Speaker 3>brand new pair of unused underwear that she could leave

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<v Speaker 3>it his place next time. I thought it was gonna

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<v Speaker 3>be the matching pro set. Oh why not? Yeah, the

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<v Speaker 3>whole she bang.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you guys were paying attention to begin I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think she does that. It's the underwear thing. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's not her.

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<v Speaker 3>Jam Okay, well respect to her then, But whatever your

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<v Speaker 3>underwear situation is, we can always try and step in

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