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Speaker 1: Here we go. Let's do it again, another brand new

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Speaker 1: episode today for your Second Date. Oh my god, something

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Speaker 1: just so. I think it's fine. I think that this

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Speaker 1: the studio is following apart, but we're still here. We're

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Speaker 1: still making it happen for you. It's Brook and Jeffrey,

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Speaker 1: and thank you so much for finding the Second Date podcast.

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Speaker 2: Ashin is stealing the copper under here.

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Speaker 3: I've got to move out of my parents somehow.

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Speaker 1: We don't blame you. And I didn't see anything, Ashton.

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Speaker 1: But what did you see? In the comments?

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Speaker 4: Alexis Muktar said, Hi from Afghanistan. I've been listening to

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Speaker 4: y'all for years now, phonetops and.

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Speaker 1: This and anywhere I go.

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Speaker 4: My college commute is thirty minutes by bike from my

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Speaker 4: house and I always have y'all on literally my favorite pod.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's awesome. I hope you keep the volume a

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Speaker 1: little low so you hear the oncoming vehicles. Yeah. True,

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Speaker 1: you know we can't fo up there all right. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: there you go. Your brand new podcast starts right.

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Speaker 4: Now, Brook and Jeffrey in the morning Second Date updates.

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Speaker 3: We frequently hear on this show that the number one

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Speaker 3: turn off for men and women is if your date

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Speaker 3: is rude or dismissive to the weight staff.

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Speaker 1: Yay, it's bad. Yeah, how often it happens is wild?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, totally.

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Speaker 3: And Brook knows that because she owns a chain of restaurants,

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Speaker 3: so she can be rude to the weight staff because

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Speaker 3: she owns them, but not as a patron. That's not okay,

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Speaker 3: that's where she draws the line. And she doesn't pay overtime.

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Speaker 1: No, but I don't mean I don't even pay minimum.

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Speaker 3: Way we're getting away from the point here. My point

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Speaker 3: is one of our listeners witnessed a rude encounter happened

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Speaker 3: at a restaurant and it actually led to a date. What, Andrew,

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Speaker 3: I read your email. Tell us more about the situation

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Speaker 3: that you encountered. Hopefully it wasn't at one of Brook's

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Speaker 3: unregistered roadside diners.

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Speaker 1: But really I was hoping that his date's name wasn't Karen.

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Speaker 3: What was the story?

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Speaker 5: Hey, guys, thanks for having me on here. First.

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Speaker 1: Oh, aren't you polite?

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Speaker 3: Too polite? I don't like it. Answer the question.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess you weren't the issue at this restaurant.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, where did this happen?

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Speaker 5: It was in a restaurant kind of like like a

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Speaker 1: So place.

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Speaker 3: Always the most polite people, most types of places. Okay,

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Speaker 3: So I was.

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Speaker 5: Sitting over at the bar and I hear these two

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Speaker 5: ladies near me. They were asking the waitress. They're like, hey,

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Speaker 1: Maybe they were going to compliment her, like, I don't

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Speaker 5: Next, Well, the waitress says, well, I mean I think

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Speaker 5: I have good days and bad days, you know, like

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Speaker 5: any normal person would, right, But they kept pressing her

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Speaker 5: and they were saying, no, come on, you think you're pretty,

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Speaker 1: Please tell me that. They followed up with a compliment

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Speaker 1: like we think you're gorgeous. Tone isn't as mean as

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Speaker 5: Yes, yeah, well they actually didn't do that.

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Speaker 1: That's coming from a place of their own self confidence issues.

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Speaker 3: But okay, why what happened?

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Speaker 5: She just wanded like, I mean today I feel good

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Speaker 3: Uh huh.

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Speaker 5: But then she makes the drinks and she brings them

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Speaker 5: And then the women are like, do you think people

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Speaker 5: tip you because you're pretty?

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Speaker 1: What is their head?

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Speaker 3: Wow?

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Speaker 1: What is weird? I have never heard any one say anything.

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Speaker 2: That's got to be an attempt at a compliment. Or

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Speaker 2: you're so pretty, you're so pretty, come on, you.

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Speaker 3: Know you are so bizarre. Or it's an episode of

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Speaker 3: Undercover Boss and they're secretly taping this. Come on, be

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Speaker 3: rude to the customers. Do you feel well this box?

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Speaker 1: This is so crazy that this is happening.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. So then she responds, I think most people tip

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Speaker 5: Then she brings the check to the ladies, right, and

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Speaker 5: I hear them say we're not going to tip you

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Speaker 5: because you're pretty. And I'm sure you get tipped a

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Speaker 1: People based the whole thing was a setup so they

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Speaker 3: Brook has never been so impressed.

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Speaker 1: But that is awful.

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Speaker 3: I know it is pretty low.

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Speaker 5: It was infuriating just to watch.

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Speaker 3: It like I used to.

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Speaker 2: I can see somebody writing this, but to say it

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Speaker 1: Yeah, please tell me you didn't follow them into the

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Speaker 3: Calling I think I'm pretty. By the way, I had

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Speaker 3: a double date. So no, what happens because you said

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Speaker 3: it leads to a date.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it wasn't with them, I assure you.

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Speaker 5: So I kipped her big and I told her I

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Speaker 5: you're a great server and you shouldn't listen to those tags.

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Speaker 3: That's right, okay?

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Speaker 1: And then you asked her out?

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, kind of after that, I ended up getting

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Speaker 2: Because a lot of times was about like a fake

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Speaker 2: just to get you out of her hair. Actually had

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Speaker 1: I don't know. She was in a low place. She

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Speaker 3: Those two other women actually kind of set you up

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Speaker 3: for this, yer. But how did it go?

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Speaker 5: I mean it was good. We went to a dive bar,

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Speaker 1: Wow, all right, what was it like in the morning.

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Speaker 3: Oh, you're skipping, okay, let's go to the morning.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't feel like I always need

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she was pretty. She was very pretty scene.

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Speaker 5: So the next morning when she was leaving, I thought

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Speaker 5: not responding to my text at all other than like

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Speaker 1: Do you think that she was just thinking of it

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I get you know, it turned out

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Speaker 5: and I guess I feel like if I go back

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Speaker 5: I don't want to do that.

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Speaker 1: I would agree. I think you come across as kind

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Speaker 3: You wear a mustache. AI.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know. I just haven't heard from her

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Speaker 5: through texting, and I don't know what to do now.

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Speaker 5: So what do you guys think, Well.

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Speaker 3: It's definitely less stalker ish to reach out to a

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Speaker 3: radio station and have us call her on your behalf.

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Speaker 1: That's different than showing up at her work. Actually, so,

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Speaker 1: I'm actually.

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Speaker 3: It's just one step above the stalker move, and we're

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Speaker 3: you your second date update right after this.

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Speaker 4: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning Second Date Update.

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Speaker 3: Couldn't start part two without playing this song. I feel

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Speaker 3: that's my mom loves this song because our listener and

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Speaker 3: witnessed a waitress getting basically harassed by two other female

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Speaker 3: you think that you're pretty?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Is that why you get tipped? You get tipped

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Speaker 1: because you're pretty? That's more of the tone.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like, come on, you think you are? You think

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Speaker 1: Don't you My mom is a smoke show. Yeah, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I'm just saying.

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Speaker 3: And when they left the bar, they told her, we're

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Speaker 3: from customers who find you pretty.

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Speaker 1: Dude, it was all a setup because they're cheap. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Well, one of those customers was Andrew, who took the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that was kind of misleading. Yeah, people

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Speaker 3: He literally said, I'm not tipping you because you're pretty.

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Speaker 3: I'm tipping you because you give great service.

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Speaker 1: That's right, and you deserve extra tip because those ladies suns.

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Speaker 1: Yeah he called them hags actually, And it sounds.

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Speaker 3: Like you got excellent service from her. Later that night

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Speaker 1: I don't need to do that.

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Speaker 3: Andrew felt like it was more of a one night thing.

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Speaker 3: But afterwards, she's not being super receptive to his text

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Speaker 3: so maybe she didn't feel the same, and that's okay.

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Speaker 1: If she didn't, maybe she thought that you wouldn't want more.

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Speaker 1: What have you texted her?

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Speaker 5: I'm just saying like, what's up? I mean, I didn't

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Speaker 2: You know, it feels like you can't start a conversation

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Speaker 2: even like you're saying, hey, what's up? By was your

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Speaker 2: day kind of vibe?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, exactly exactly.

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Speaker 3: Are you reminding her that you're not texting her cousin pretty?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, maybe I should have.

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Speaker 1: Let's not do that when we get her on the phone.

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Speaker 3: I am on the women's side here.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's interesting.

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Speaker 3: So let's call her. What's her name?

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Speaker 1: Her name Monica, Monica. Okay, that is a pretty girl name.

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Speaker 3: Don't say that, Brooke. Don't label her that way. She's

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Speaker 3: more than that. Let's just give her a call and

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Speaker 3: we'll see what she's really all about. Here we go. Hello, Hey, Monica,

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Speaker 3: this is a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey in

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Speaker 3: the Morning. How you doing.

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Speaker 6: Oh, I'm good.

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Speaker 1: What is this about. I'm actually so glad you're awake,

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Speaker 1: because if you are a waitress, then oftentimes you have

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Speaker 3: Ah you know, yeah, good job waking up today. We're

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Speaker 3: proud of you.

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Speaker 1: Probably doesn't listen to morning radio very often.

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Speaker 6: I don't know you se.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, we don't really know you that much either. We've

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Speaker 3: just heard about you through a listener of ours name Andrew.

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Speaker 6: Oh, Andrew.

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Speaker 3: I don't love how you say that, but maybe there's

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Speaker 3: a reason that you say it that way, because what

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he definitely felt like the connection was strong. Enough,

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Speaker 6: Well, I don't know how much you know about the

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Speaker 3: He did tell us what happened at the bar before

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Speaker 1: Yeah, with those two jerks, yeah DAGs.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, grilling you about being pretty.

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Speaker 1: And then using that as an excuse not to tip you.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, that was that was pretty rough.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I bet wasn't it nice? Say? Andrew like, I

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Speaker 6: Well, in the beginning, he did make me feel better

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he told us that. He said that, he told

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Speaker 1: Again, why are we emphasizing.

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Speaker 3: That cart Because he's a good person and doesn't see

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Speaker 1: It's hard to disagree with when you said it. I mean,

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Speaker 1: He's a good guy. Maybe we could just move on

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Speaker 1: to them hanging out. Remember you got he told us,

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Speaker 6: Mm hmm. Also, he did tell you that I stayed

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: We tried not to pry too deep into it because overall,

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Speaker 6: There was a little bit of like an issue before

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Speaker 1: See, I asked him about the next morning, and he

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Speaker 6: Well, he wouldn't have known about it because I didn't

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Speaker 1: Wait.

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Speaker 2: Oh, another women's underwear on the bed, not his underwear.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was just laying around.

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Speaker 4: Yeah this guy.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, so like I wanted to ask him, like, who's worthy,

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Speaker 6: I didn't know what to do.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I could see how that would be a

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Speaker 3: Well, so what's going through your mind when you when

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Speaker 6: Like, well, I was like, does he do this with

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Speaker 1: Like it just follows those mean girls around and then

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Speaker 6: It didn't feel good because before that I didn't want

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but he.

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Speaker 1: Had to have seen the women's underwear and like internally died.

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Speaker 1: There's no way he didn't notice.

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Speaker 3: He thought it was hers, but it was on the floor.

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Speaker 1: Before that then, right, But.

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Speaker 5: I mean.

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Speaker 1: He would know if another woman's underwear happened to still

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Speaker 3: I don't know what's going through his mind. We should

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Speaker 3: just ask him right now because you don't know this, Monica.

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Speaker 3: But Andrew's been waiting on the other line, listening to you.

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Speaker 1: He's like a surprise pair of bundies on the other.

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Speaker 5: Hey, Monica, Hi, Andrew, I'm sorry about this. I'm really

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Speaker 5: sorry those weren't yours. I would you believe me if

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Speaker 1: Is that the road we're going to take?

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Speaker 3: Is that better?

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Speaker 5: Okay? Okay, so yeah, I'm not gonna lie. I have

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Speaker 5: I really like you a lot, and I'm sorry that

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Speaker 1: He's trying to yell over the top of the lace

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, I did mean what I said before

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Speaker 3: And she was saying earlier, Andrew, she's worried, maybe you

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Speaker 3: do this all the time with waitresses all over the

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Speaker 3: who's underwear those belonged to.

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Speaker 1: That was not a good confession, Andrew. It needed four

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Speaker 3: You're making yourself sound like a crazy player.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I don't do this with lots of waitresses. I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 5: I hear, this is the thing I want to drive

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Speaker 5: home is Monica. That night at the dive bar after

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Speaker 5: So I'm hoping that somehow you can forgive me for

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Speaker 5: the whole underwear thing that I had no idea that

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Speaker 3: So now suddenly you do know who they belonged to,

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Speaker 3: and you just don't plan on seeing them, or he.

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Speaker 1: Still doesn't know, and there's no way for him to

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Speaker 5: Probably that guys, you were supposed to be on my side,

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Speaker 5: I know, but I feel.

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Speaker 3: Like you're just trying to give you a Yeah, there's

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Speaker 3: and we haven't heard how Monica's doing right now. Monica,

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Speaker 6: I don't know. I'm I'm thinking a lot of things.

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Speaker 6: You're kind of backpeddling a little bit, and I don't

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Speaker 5: Okay, Monica, you shouldn't have to dismiss how you feel.

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Speaker 5: I just want you to hear me out like, I

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Speaker 1: I think that's okay, that's okay first time. I mean

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Speaker 3: And if you're open to it, we'd pay for that meetup.

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Speaker 1: See, we are on your side, Andrew.

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Speaker 3: Just one more if you're willing to give Andrew a chance.

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Speaker 6: You know what, I haven't had anyone put in the

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Speaker 6: I'll give you another chance.

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Speaker 1: Whoa, I did not see that coming, just like those underwear.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, congratulations Andrew. I don't know how you did it,

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Speaker 3: but you dug yourself out of your own hole. You

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Speaker 5: I attribute it to you, guys. Thank you, and thanks

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Speaker 6: Okay, Andrew, not that I'm encouraging that we go back

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Speaker 6: to your place, but just please clean up your room

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, she's already becoming your mom, brou.

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Speaker 1: She's all turned off again.

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Speaker 3: If she buys you a hamper run.

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Speaker 1: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.

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Speaker 3: It's interesting that Brooks said that she didn't see the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, or she just realized, well, I guess just another

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Speaker 3: I mean I would say to him, bring her a

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Speaker 3: be the matching pro set. Oh why not? Yeah, the

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Speaker 1: Have you guys were paying attention to begin I don't

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Speaker 1: think she does that. It's the underwear thing. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 3: Jam Okay, well respect to her then, But whatever your

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Speaker 3: underwear situation is, we can always try and step in

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Speaker 3: and help you with your dating life. Email the show.

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Speaker 3: We'll call that person who's not calling you back and go.

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