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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.

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Speaker 2: Talk Talk To We're just two unapologetically black women with

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Speaker 2: an opinion who talks back.

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Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? It's your girl? A j Holiday and

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Speaker 1: what's up Tampam? Hey, y'all.

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Speaker 2: I love y'all so much. We made in twenty twenty six.

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Speaker 2: I'm so happy I missed y'all. I feel like I

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Speaker 2: haven't talked to y'all in a while. All Right, Happy

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Speaker 2: New Year, Happy New Years lady, Happy y'all.

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Speaker 1: Do you feel renewed?

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Speaker 2: I do. I'm starting a new year with some good energy.

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Speaker 2: I cannot lie. I really feel good about the possibilities

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Speaker 2: of twenty twenty six. I'm talking about on New Year's Well,

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Speaker 2: we're gonna get into that. We're gonna get into that.

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Speaker 2: But how is your weekend? Let's start there like we

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Speaker 2: always do, y'all.

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Speaker 1: My weekend when it's full of just catching up on life,

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Speaker 1: because like I said, I was on vacation for a week,

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Speaker 1: so just catching up on all the shit, cleaning my

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Speaker 1: house up, which I did clean if I left. But

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Speaker 1: I don't know if some trolls or theories was in

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Speaker 1: here when I was going. But I feel like my

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Speaker 1: shit got re dirty. I don't know, re dirty is crazy.

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Speaker 2: Said to reclean.

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Speaker 1: So just cleaning up and visiting my family. My daddy's

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Speaker 1: still in the damn hospital. He's getting better.

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Speaker 2: Though, Okay, that's good. That's good.

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Speaker 1: He should be able to rehab this week. So I

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Speaker 1: made a bread pudding this weekend because then Barbados bread

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Speaker 1: pudding is a big thing. So I had like four

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Speaker 1: different bread puddings over there. So when I got home,

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I've got some old ass bread. Let me

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Speaker 1: make some bread pudding.

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Speaker 2: Oh what you put in a bread pudding? Because I

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Speaker 2: don't even know what goes into that.

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Speaker 1: I make it basically essentially how I make my French toast.

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Speaker 1: It's just like low. I don't use a whole lot

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Speaker 1: out heavy whipping cream, though a little bit of heavy

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Speaker 1: whipping mostly con dense milk. Oh, you can use regular milk, sugar, nutmeg, cinnamon,

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Speaker 1: like four eggs, depending on how much bread are you doing.

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Speaker 1: And you just break your bread up. So if you

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Speaker 1: got some old hamburger buns or some shit you just

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Speaker 1: don't want to throw away, make a bread pudding right quick,

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Speaker 1: break it up in the bowl. Make you a little

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Speaker 1: custard in the side with your milks, your your eggs,

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Speaker 1: your butter. Also, I think I left that out sugar, nutmeg,

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Speaker 1: oven for like forty five minutes. You got a whole

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Speaker 1: dessert from some old ass bread. Not moldy bread now, but.

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Speaker 2: Right, but just bread that's just about to go bad.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, bread pudding. I love bread pudding.

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Speaker 2: I've never done that. I probably still won't, but if

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Speaker 2: you make some lidy eet it.

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Speaker 1: That was my weekend, child, How is yours?

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Speaker 2: This weekend? I just recuperated same. It was quiet, you know.

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Speaker 2: I just feel like the beginning of the year, especially

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Speaker 2: with hair, there's nobody coming to get their hair done.

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Speaker 2: After before the new year is crazy. Right after it's

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Speaker 2: a ghost town. Everybody it's like it's very quiet. So

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Speaker 2: I didn't have very I probably had like two hair

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Speaker 2: appointments over the weekend and then I just came back

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Speaker 2: and chilled. Oh no, Saturday, I did start exercising again.

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Speaker 2: I haven't been back to the gym yet though, I've

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Speaker 2: been doing outside outdoor shit because everybody's sick. So I

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Speaker 2: just know that gym is a cess pool right now.

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Speaker 2: So I'm just gonna give it like till the fourteenth

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Speaker 2: or fifteenth that's when people start giving up, and then

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Speaker 2: I'll go in there and you know, come back to

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Speaker 2: the gym. But yeah, So I just started working back

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Speaker 2: out and I started the carnivore diet with my friend

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Speaker 2: is all I meet.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Giry, your farnt gonna be so stink Okay.

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Speaker 2: I love me though. So oh that sound like I'm

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Speaker 2: a whole, ain't it. I'm talking about food.

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Speaker 1: A hole for the food exact thing.

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Speaker 2: So but I mean, really, it's it's just keto, is

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Speaker 2: what I seem. It feels like I'm doing, you know,

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Speaker 2: That's what it's feeling like. I started that a couple

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Speaker 2: feel like everybody's sick right now?

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Speaker 1: I got sick, like right before vacation, Like I went

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Speaker 1: By Monday evening, I was fucking sick, like real life sick.

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Speaker 1: So I just started beefing up on his icon, and

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Speaker 1: I was a little bit sick going out of town. So, yes,

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Speaker 1: everybody's sick. And then I saw some they have some

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Speaker 1: super fungus or some shit out here now that they

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Speaker 1: said is not curable. Y'all can't tell me COVID wasn't

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Speaker 1: a fungus or not a fungus but a uh parasite,

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Speaker 1: right something something happening all over again, because yes, everybody

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Speaker 1: is sick, and I guess maybe this time year people

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Speaker 1: are normally sick, but it's just it's just every year

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Speaker 2: Like, yeah, well that's what I'm trying to avoid. So

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Speaker 2: I'm just doing outside workouts right now. Because your girl

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Speaker 2: got thick again. Y'all had got so fine last summer

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Speaker 2: with that seventy five hard and now I'm back and

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Speaker 2: I'm back big birth though, But that's okay because if

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Speaker 2: I could get it off one time, I can get

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Speaker 2: it off again.

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Speaker 1: Got big birth. You ain't never a big birth, child.

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Speaker 1: Let's get in the sins you got going on on

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Speaker 1: on in the world, child, aside from war. Yeah, bus

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Speaker 1: some fun shit on y'all. Of course we're not organized

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Speaker 1: at the beginning, Yes we are.

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Speaker 2: Listen alcohol al right, I got it, while you got it?

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Speaker 1: I got it?

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, y'all.

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Speaker 1: So the alcohol industry has lost over eight hundred and

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Speaker 1: thirty billion dollars in the last four years. This article says,

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Speaker 1: as millennials and Gen z's are drinking less than our

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Speaker 1: past generations.

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Speaker 2: Do you agree with that? I think they crackheads, so

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Speaker 2: at least cope? Yeah, they just not. Alcohol is no

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Speaker 2: longer the drug of choice. I'm not. I don't think

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Speaker 2: people are just healthier, do you? I don't know.

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Speaker 1: It says global alcohol companies have lost about eight hundred

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Speaker 1: and thirty billion in market value over the past four

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Speaker 1: years as consumers drink less and rethink alcohol's role in

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Speaker 1: their lives. A Bloomberg index tracking about fifty major bear

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Speaker 1: wine and spirits producers and now excuse me, is now

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Speaker 1: forty six percent below it's twenty twenty one peak, which

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Speaker 1: that's like kind of during COVID right, reflecting that analysts

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Speaker 1: describe as a structural, long term change rather than a

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Speaker 1: temporary downturn feeling falling consumption driven by health concerns, generational shifts,

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Speaker 1: and lifestyle changes that's hit earnings across the sector. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I kind of we might be on some other shit,

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Speaker 1: like we like, I don't drink that much.

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Speaker 2: When we older listen millennials. It says millennials and gen

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Speaker 2: zs are drinking less influenced by wellness trends, weight loss, drugs,

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Speaker 2: cannabis alternatives, and the growing popularity of non alcohol products.

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Speaker 2: And then it's also being influenced by rise and costs

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Speaker 2: because of terriffs and wea can demand in China what

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Speaker 2: alcohol is?

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Speaker 1: China sent it over here? I thought, like the tequila

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Speaker 1: is supposed to come from Mexico, and shit.

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Speaker 2: Who knows. I was looking for some alcohol alternatives yesterday

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Speaker 2: and I found this thing called Hio hi Yo and

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Speaker 2: they had good reviews, like a ten out of ten.

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Speaker 2: So I'm gonna try. And it says it gives you

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Speaker 2: a euphoric feeling without all the bullshit. That's the poison,

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Speaker 2: because alcohol, let's call it what it is.

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Speaker 1: It's poisonous, that's all, you know, literally poisoning your body.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: No, I feel like I don't know. I feel like

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Speaker 1: people still, like the regular people still be drinking, Like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't know that we are extra drugs though, like

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Speaker 1: you suggest, well, I don't remember.

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Speaker 2: I don't remember people when I was young. I don't

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Speaker 2: remember people casually doing shrooms. Oh yeah, I.

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Speaker 1: Think with more information surrounding psychedelics during our generation, you know,

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Speaker 1: people realize, like you know, microdocin might be good for

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Speaker 1: you versus being on an adderall or some type of

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Speaker 1: prescription drug. You know, you still with shit from your earth,

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Speaker 1: you know, so you got your weeds, you got your shrooms. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and alcohol really isn't saying it's pure sugar, but most

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Speaker 1: of it is not even pure sugar, is like man

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Speaker 1: made additives and all that bullshit in our alcohol. So

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm gonna lean towards the weren't natural.

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Speaker 1: If you gotta do something.

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Speaker 2: Do something natural. So look at this. Yeah, don't do it.

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Speaker 2: It's all right, listen to this. Strippers donated for two

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Speaker 2: hundred and fifty thousand dollars to children's hospitals and are

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Speaker 2: now the number one donor of toys of toys hospital

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Speaker 2: history in Portland. I guess toys in the hospital's history

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Speaker 2: in Portland. So there's a heart woman's story out of Portland.

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Speaker 2: It's proven that the generosity can come from unexpected places.

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Speaker 2: A group of local Exotic Dancers has become the largest

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Speaker 2: private donors of toys to Portland's Children's Hospital, breaking their

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Speaker 2: own record this year with thousands get gifts collected for

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Speaker 2: kids in medical care. Because nothing sells more than pussy.

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Speaker 2: So if let's be clear, you know, they could afford

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Speaker 2: to do this.

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Speaker 1: It's a tax deduction, Okay. So I'm pretty sure they

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Speaker 1: running the escort about that COUUCI and they're all what

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Speaker 2: And they're probably all moms. A lot of them are moms,

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Speaker 2: you know, So they want to make sure them kids.

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Speaker 2: If nobody got something for them kids in the hospital,

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Speaker 2: them striggles got it. And I log now. So that's

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Speaker 2: a beautiful thing for the holidays. I mean, the holiday

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Speaker 2: season is over now, but just a little warmth to share.

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Speaker 1: So I saw this article. It says men who marry

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Speaker 1: after thirty five have the lowest divorce rates of all

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Speaker 1: male groups. Divorce rates in the United States have steadily

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Speaker 1: declined over the past three decades, dropping from nineteen divorces

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Speaker 1: per one thousand married people in nineteen ninety to thirteen.

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Speaker 1: That's not even a big jump for whatever, to thirteen

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Speaker 1: per one twenty twenty one However, this overall decline hides

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Speaker 1: major differences in age groups, so apparently, and I agree

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Speaker 1: with that, after thirty five, I think men are more

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Speaker 1: ready and more inclined, right, and more mature to get married.

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Speaker 2: And they lose they they don't work as good. Not

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Speaker 2: saying that all the time, but you know, like I

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Speaker 2: feel like men get older, they lose the desire to

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Speaker 2: just be fucking all the time, whereas women are desired increases.

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Speaker 1: Exactly beef it up, like where is the dick? Okay?

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Speaker 2: Right? So I mean, but that's a good thing, and

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Speaker 2: that's hopeful too.

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Speaker 1: So and you know how they say like having kids

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Speaker 1: older in age for women, you know, the kids are

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Speaker 1: more likely to possibly have autism, things like that. But

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Speaker 1: actually it is the male's sperm and how it degrades

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Speaker 1: over time, that old ass sperm. So men really need

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Speaker 1: to be trying to have kids before thirty three because

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Speaker 1: after because just think about it, the baby comes out

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Speaker 1: to man first, like that's your kid. I add my

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Speaker 1: little shit to the pot, you know, once it gets

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Speaker 1: to me. But really that's your old ass sperm. It's

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Speaker 1: a lot of things they make it like it's as

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Speaker 1: if it's women's problems. It's just not right. So I'll

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Speaker 1: might need to be getting married at least before thirty three, actually.

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Speaker 2: You will be. So I'm excited about I I'm going

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Speaker 1: Let me think of something else I'm going to do

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Speaker 1: be calling me the podcast. I'm not potting on regular

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00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:47,760
Speaker 1: phone calls no more. Like what the fuck do you want?

434
00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:49,679
Speaker 1: Like why are we going back and forth? Like it's

435
00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:52,719
Speaker 1: a camera in a micro front of us. I'm not

436
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:53,879
Speaker 1: doing that. Get off my phone.

437
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:56,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's fair, and you have the right to do

438
00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:58,800
Speaker 2: that because we don't call me with that. I know

439
00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:01,520
Speaker 2: you though I have a podcast, but that's not what

440
00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:02,320
Speaker 2: we're doing here.

441
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:04,760
Speaker 1: Do people do that to you, Like do people call

442
00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:08,720
Speaker 1: you to debate about things, like they ask your opinion

443
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:13,080
Speaker 1: about stuff? They call you opinionated or asking your opinion

444
00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:15,359
Speaker 1: on things, and then I guess when you don't agree

445
00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:18,000
Speaker 1: or it just ends up in a like a back

446
00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:18,680
Speaker 1: and forth thing.

447
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:21,399
Speaker 2: No, and I'm not going back and forth to you.

448
00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:23,239
Speaker 2: I don't have that going on because I just let

449
00:25:23,320 --> 00:25:26,120
Speaker 2: people have it, Like, okay, that's how you feel.

450
00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:28,760
Speaker 1: I need to let people have it in twenty twenty.

451
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:30,640
Speaker 2: Six, Yeah, just let them go on, and then I'll

452
00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:35,679
Speaker 2: be like, oh my mama, call me, needs the call.

453
00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:36,840
Speaker 2: I exit the conversation.

454
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:39,800
Speaker 1: People would be like, I don't need to be right,

455
00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:41,679
Speaker 1: but yes you do, because if you don't need to

456
00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:45,840
Speaker 1: be right, this conversation would have ended thirty minutes ago, right.

457
00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:48,359
Speaker 2: I just yeah, I let people feel how they feel,

458
00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:52,360
Speaker 2: because sometimes people are just committed to misunderstanding and they

459
00:25:52,520 --> 00:25:54,840
Speaker 2: just want someone to go back and forth with and

460
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:56,840
Speaker 2: I'm not going to give you that. So I just

461
00:25:56,880 --> 00:26:01,240
Speaker 2: be like, Okay, you know, okay, yeah, yeah you got it.

462
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:06,240
Speaker 2: Yeah you got it. So that's a perspective and I'll

463
00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:09,440
Speaker 2: leave it at that. That's a perspective. I don't say

464
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:11,679
Speaker 2: I agree with it or not. I just say that

465
00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:16,360
Speaker 2: is one of them or interesting. Right, All right, let's

466
00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:20,720
Speaker 2: play a little game, all right, So you're gonna say

467
00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:24,400
Speaker 2: what the year feels like to you? Okay, So this

468
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:29,840
Speaker 2: year feels like a song. Pick a song, I mean

469
00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:32,359
Speaker 2: the year just started. But yeah, but I mean like

470
00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:34,600
Speaker 2: in hopefulness.

471
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:38,520
Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean the first song that comes

472
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:41,879
Speaker 1: in my head is like see Little Green Crazy, like

473
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 1: I remember, I remember, I remember when I lost about that,

474
00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:51,439
Speaker 1: when someone's so schedular about that letter. I listened to

475
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:57,120
Speaker 1: that song often because it reminds me of where I

476
00:26:57,200 --> 00:27:01,719
Speaker 1: was versus where I am now. Right, So it's just

477
00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:06,879
Speaker 1: like mentally, just all the things right, because there was

478
00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:08,199
Speaker 1: a point in my life where I felt like I

479
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:11,359
Speaker 1: was losing my fucking mind. And it wasn't that long ago.

480
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 1: I can't say it was something pleasant about that place. Yeah,

481
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:19,840
Speaker 1: I've experienced that and within the last few years, and

482
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 1: I'm not in that space anymore.

483
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:25,000
Speaker 2: That was a hit for t Low. Yeah, I don't

484
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:29,679
Speaker 2: think you're crazy. Yeah, that was a good one for me.

485
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:34,960
Speaker 2: Alicia Myers, I want to thank you. I want to

486
00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:42,240
Speaker 2: thank you, even my father shining y'all light on me. Oh,

487
00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:45,240
Speaker 2: I sounded to look good, right then, didn't I? No,

488
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:50,240
Speaker 2: all right, this year feels like a season. Which one

489
00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:50,480
Speaker 2: for you?

490
00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:54,120
Speaker 1: Oh? It's always something girl, I am you know, I'm

491
00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:59,000
Speaker 1: a gymnih okay, conceived in Nicole, born in the heat. Okay,

492
00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:00,199
Speaker 1: so it's summer for me.

493
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:05,240
Speaker 2: Oh see it. I was thinking about like food seasonings,

494
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:08,240
Speaker 2: so I was gonna go with like sugar bitch what

495
00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:13,000
Speaker 2: so that I would go with I'm sorry because it's sweet.

496
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 2: All right, So spring if you all right, but if

497
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:18,160
Speaker 2: you had to put a food season on the world,

498
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 2: would it be?

499
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:30,280
Speaker 1: Though regan? I like, it's healing, it tastes good, like, okay,

500
00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 1: that's good.

501
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:34,320
Speaker 2: And then I would go with spring because I think

502
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 2: spring is Spring is really the new year for me,

503
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 2: you know, like everything's renewing. So all right the next one.

504
00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 2: This year feels like a drink would drink.

505
00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:49,840
Speaker 1: It's red wine for me, and I don't even drink

506
00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:54,640
Speaker 1: that often, but I found myself buying red ring because

507
00:28:54,640 --> 00:29:00,200
Speaker 1: of charlamagne. As so. Jessica birthday was in November run

508
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 1: up to Thanksgiving, so we went to a little surprise

509
00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:09,000
Speaker 1: get together and I took my significant other and Charlamagne

510
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 1: was like, basically, he doesn't drink for real, like he'll

511
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 1: do like wine or champagne, but he doesn't drink liquid.

512
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:18,080
Speaker 1: But Charlomagne convinced him that red wine is like gonna

513
00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:22,240
Speaker 1: make his dick car forever. So now how that stalked

514
00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:24,240
Speaker 1: him on red wine and his bitch and when he

515
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:29,000
Speaker 1: comes no, but it just it's good. It is good

516
00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:31,160
Speaker 1: for heart health and circulation. You know what I'm saying.

517
00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 1: It's good for men to drink red wine. So I

518
00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:35,800
Speaker 1: would think that that's gonna be my my shift for

519
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:38,240
Speaker 1: this year. So I have stalked up on some costco

520
00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:40,880
Speaker 1: red wine.

521
00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 2: We get at and like, y'all need just the money, y'all.

522
00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:47,480
Speaker 2: She'd been supporting y'all for years on this show.

523
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:52,800
Speaker 1: I got a couple of Kirkland brand red wine child Merlow,

524
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:55,320
Speaker 1: and there's a couple other I don't be knowing for real.

525
00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 1: I just pick up whatever has the highest alcohol volume.

526
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 2: You should try, You should try. Maybe I'll give this

527
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 2: to you for your birthday. Brown Family Winery out of NAPA.

528
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:09,560
Speaker 2: It's a black On winery, black On Vineyard, and they

529
00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:13,040
Speaker 2: have some really really nice red wine and it's out

530
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:17,400
Speaker 2: of Napa and they're black, so there's that. So all right,

531
00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:20,600
Speaker 2: the drink for me would be a ranch water. I

532
00:30:20,600 --> 00:30:21,800
Speaker 2: don't know if y'all know what that.

533
00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 1: Is, but what's that.

534
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 2: It's tequila, soda water and lime. And the reason why

535
00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:32,440
Speaker 2: I choose that is because it gets the job done

536
00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:35,720
Speaker 2: without all the added bullshit. And that's what I will

537
00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:38,840
Speaker 2: in twenty twenty six. Let's get the job done without

538
00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:42,480
Speaker 2: all the bullshit. So it's just you can use whatever

539
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:47,360
Speaker 2: liquor you want, but tequila has zero carbs. So tequila

540
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 2: soda water in the lime, and I like the soda

541
00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:53,720
Speaker 2: water to be that. It's tapo chico. I think that's

542
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:55,360
Speaker 2: how you pronounce it. That if I saying it wrong,

543
00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:59,560
Speaker 2: yellow yeah, and it's topo chico. I think that's how

544
00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 2: you pronounce. It's really good and those taste so nice

545
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 2: together and you get the job done without all the

546
00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 2: bullshit period or and then lastly, of the game, this

547
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:14,920
Speaker 2: year feels like a word. One word, what would it be?

548
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 1: It's blessed for me. I don't like be saying. I

549
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:20,320
Speaker 1: don't like to say bless I know people to me

550
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:23,800
Speaker 1: people when people say bless it's like car sarcasm. Because

551
00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 1: it's be less, you know, when you break it up.

552
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 1: And usually when people say it is girl, have a

553
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:34,600
Speaker 1: blessed day, they don't really mean it. Yeah, so blessed,

554
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 1: bless me for twenty twenty six, I want to pay me.

555
00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:41,960
Speaker 2: Yes, that's a good word, all right. So for me,

556
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 2: it's a gape. And that's that unconditional, selfless love. I

557
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 2: love that's not based on feelings or physical attraction or reciprocity,

558
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 2: A love that seeks well being of others without expecting

559
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:02,600
Speaker 2: anything in return. So, yeah, a gotpe that's what I

560
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 2: want twenty twenty six.

561
00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:06,840
Speaker 1: Is that an English word?

562
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:08,080
Speaker 2: I don't think it's Greek?

563
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 1: Oh a gote?

564
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's go for it.

565
00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:15,280
Speaker 1: Were for your for your vocabulary.

566
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:19,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, write it down, get it, get a tattooed, get

567
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:23,800
Speaker 2: a tattooed. I got it all right, So we're gonna

568
00:32:23,840 --> 00:32:27,160
Speaker 2: try it a new way. Name one thing you're not

569
00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 2: gonna overthink this year. I don't know.

570
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 1: I feel like some I've already like been mastering some things, right.

571
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:37,880
Speaker 1: I feel like in the past, like most of my

572
00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 1: over overthinking was surrounding relationships. It really wasn't like regular

573
00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:46,160
Speaker 1: day to day life shit, or it was just like

574
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:50,640
Speaker 1: thinking about what the fuck somebody else is doing to me? Basically,

575
00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:53,400
Speaker 1: So I don't have those bad type of I'm not

576
00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:56,120
Speaker 1: in that energy. I don't have those type of problems anymore.

577
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:59,440
Speaker 1: So I don't know if I I don't know what

578
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:04,880
Speaker 1: I would be for thinking about. Right now, I'm gonna

579
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 1: sleep good night. I still be thinking. I be thinking

580
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:10,640
Speaker 1: about a bunch of shit. It's just not is that overthinking?

581
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:11,600
Speaker 1: I think about it?

582
00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:13,920
Speaker 2: If you can't sleep at night because you're thinking that,

583
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:17,640
Speaker 2: would that is probably overthinking?

584
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:23,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's just it's just how do you overthink?

585
00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 2: Were you obsessed about some shit and you think about

586
00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 2: it multiple times, different scenarios playing it in your head?

587
00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:33,920
Speaker 2: Oh what if it happens bad? What I'm obsess about

588
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:41,720
Speaker 2: is my weight? Stop overthinking that too, And I've.

589
00:33:41,560 --> 00:33:43,440
Speaker 1: Been stop thinking about food and when i'mna eat like

590
00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 1: that shit frustrates me and stresses me the funk out

591
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 1: all throughout the day. So if I feel a little

592
00:33:48,000 --> 00:33:50,360
Speaker 1: tiny hot, is he to low something that's going just

593
00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 1: thinking about what I'm eating? Cook every day?

594
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:57,360
Speaker 2: Stop overthinking that ship And as far as my way concern, like,

595
00:33:57,440 --> 00:33:59,520
Speaker 2: I am a little birther right now, and that's the

596
00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 2: fucking Okay. This nigga liked it, and I'm gonna look

597
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:06,800
Speaker 2: back at this body one day when I'm old and

598
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:09,239
Speaker 2: miss it. So that's why I'm like, I look at

599
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:11,560
Speaker 2: old pictures where I was beat myself up and I

600
00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 2: was like, damn, I was fine. So I just I'm

601
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:17,600
Speaker 2: just gonna accept my body at every stage and just

602
00:34:17,719 --> 00:34:20,359
Speaker 2: be okay with it, because I definitely overthink that shit

603
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:22,799
Speaker 2: all the time. I will beat myself up in the

604
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 2: mirror and I'm just done. You know, I'm done overthinking that.

605
00:34:26,960 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 2: And I'm done overthinking my relationships with people. Everybody, whatever

606
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 2: it is is what it is, you know, I'm overthinking.

607
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:42,640
Speaker 2: I think it's especially my friendships that I not even

608
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:45,560
Speaker 2: with niggas, but the friendships that have dissolved in what

609
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:47,880
Speaker 2: way I will play it out in my head and

610
00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:50,440
Speaker 2: replay it and what could I have done different? What

611
00:34:50,480 --> 00:34:51,320
Speaker 2: could they have done?

612
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:51,560
Speaker 1: That?

613
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:53,640
Speaker 2: Bitch ain't shit? You know, I'm done with all of

614
00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:56,880
Speaker 2: that too, you know, like what everybody ain't meant to

615
00:34:56,880 --> 00:34:58,799
Speaker 2: be a part of every chapter and I have to be.

616
00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:02,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, let me add that too. I agree, it's one

617
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:04,360
Speaker 1: of my if I have to say, resolution was just

618
00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:07,640
Speaker 1: I don't want to talk about old relationships no more.

619
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 1: Sometimes it might be relevant because we if were talking

620
00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:13,760
Speaker 1: about relationships or something like that, but I really don't

621
00:35:13,800 --> 00:35:17,000
Speaker 1: want to. I don't want to think about the motherfuckers.

622
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:19,800
Speaker 1: I don't want to think about old besties. Yeah, because

623
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:22,840
Speaker 1: I feel like even those relationships, like with your female

624
00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 1: friends that you are no longer friends with, I feel

625
00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:29,600
Speaker 1: like those actually hurt more than with men. Mantic relationships

626
00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:32,239
Speaker 1: for sure, Like yeah, with the means like I was

627
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:36,000
Speaker 1: done with you. The relationships with women, it's almost like

628
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:38,640
Speaker 1: it's just a weird Well I already told you, because

629
00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:40,600
Speaker 1: I feel like you know my secrets and you just

630
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 1: walk around the world knowing shit about me.

631
00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:47,760
Speaker 2: I don't like that. It just happened to me recently,

632
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:50,880
Speaker 2: and it was this two girls that I used to

633
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:53,879
Speaker 2: be cool with, and I am no longer an acquaintance

634
00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:56,560
Speaker 2: with them anymore. I mean one of them we never

635
00:35:56,640 --> 00:36:00,319
Speaker 2: really fell out, we just kind of stopped talking. And

636
00:36:00,360 --> 00:36:03,520
Speaker 2: then the other one I do not fuck with because

637
00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:05,600
Speaker 2: she did some shit that I just felt like with shady.

638
00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 2: So I saw them. I was in a restaurant in Charlotte.

639
00:36:10,160 --> 00:36:11,800
Speaker 2: I was out with this guy. We was just kicking

640
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:14,920
Speaker 2: it at the bar, nothing serious, just friends, and they

641
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:20,520
Speaker 2: were in there and I wasn't sure should I say

642
00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:23,839
Speaker 2: be polite and say hi or just keep walking past

643
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:26,480
Speaker 2: some bitches like I ain't see him? So I chose

644
00:36:26,520 --> 00:36:31,600
Speaker 2: the latter. But what would you have done? Would you

645
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:34,080
Speaker 2: have said hello? Because I mean, while I'm saying, how

646
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:36,120
Speaker 2: do you bitches? That's how I feel at this point,

647
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 2: like I'm done with politeness. Y'all. You don't like me,

648
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:43,560
Speaker 2: clearly you don't like me, and I don't like you either.

649
00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:47,919
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm indifferent honestly, So it's okay. We don't

650
00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 2: have to fake politeness at this point. And that's how

651
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:51,799
Speaker 2: I feel, like.

652
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:55,440
Speaker 1: No, I think it's definitely okay just to be a

653
00:36:55,480 --> 00:36:57,880
Speaker 1: motherfucker that somebody used to know, Like you don't know

654
00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:01,400
Speaker 1: me no more, right, So, I mean, but me personally,

655
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:04,440
Speaker 1: when I see when I see strangers, I say him.

656
00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 1: I guess they would have to be more intentional if

657
00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:09,759
Speaker 1: I walk by somebody that I have known, you know,

658
00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:11,320
Speaker 1: if we had.

659
00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 2: To pass each other's path, maybe I would have been

660
00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:20,120
Speaker 2: like hi, right, but it would yeah or something like that.

661
00:37:20,200 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 2: But we didn't have to. But I was like thinking,

662
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:26,319
Speaker 2: about like, am I should I say?

663
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:26,440
Speaker 1: How?

664
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:28,239
Speaker 2: Should I not? Now? I won't even I ain't even

665
00:37:28,239 --> 00:37:30,759
Speaker 2: gonna get that no energy at this stage in my life.

666
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 2: It is what it is. Yeah, all right. One thing

667
00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:35,479
Speaker 2: you're open to this year?

668
00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 1: New partnerships?

669
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:40,120
Speaker 2: Yeah?

670
00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:41,799
Speaker 1: Why is my shit focusing like that?

671
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:42,920
Speaker 2: I don't know.

672
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:45,840
Speaker 1: This is hard. I should have liked Why did you

673
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:47,759
Speaker 1: tell me what we was talking about beforehand?

674
00:37:48,280 --> 00:37:48,760
Speaker 2: Simply?

675
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:52,759
Speaker 1: What am I open to this year? Just all the

676
00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:56,560
Speaker 1: possibilities new friends, because new friends get your places old

677
00:37:56,600 --> 00:37:58,839
Speaker 1: friends can't. So yeah that, yeah, we don't have those

678
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 1: old relationships anymore. Or but I like meeting new people.

679
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:05,759
Speaker 1: I like making new friends, so I'm definitely always open

680
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:09,280
Speaker 1: to that. I'm opening new ways to make money, okay, always,

681
00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:11,959
Speaker 1: I don't know. Come back to me, how many people

682
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:12,439
Speaker 1: in the room?

683
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 2: Okay, I guess what I'm gonna whisper y'all, so come close.

684
00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:20,919
Speaker 2: I'm open da having sex without a condom this year.

685
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:23,279
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do it without a COMMI this year, I

686
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:25,040
Speaker 2: ain't gonna have a baby if I keep sucking with

687
00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:29,520
Speaker 2: a condom every time. I'm open to that.

688
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 1: I guess I'm open to fucking with the condom I'm

689
00:38:33,239 --> 00:38:34,120
Speaker 1: open the safe set.

690
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:37,319
Speaker 2: No, hell, no, you me get that. I'm gonna cry.

691
00:38:37,440 --> 00:38:40,359
Speaker 2: I'm gonna cry it, okay. And then the last thing,

692
00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 2: one way, you're choosing joy on purpose.

693
00:38:46,239 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 1: I mean, happiness is definitely a state of mind, right,

694
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:50,640
Speaker 1: so you can choose to be happy or you could

695
00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:54,960
Speaker 1: choose to be sad. So I'm going to purposely be

696
00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:58,360
Speaker 1: happy every day, and I'm generally a happy person. I

697
00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:01,839
Speaker 1: mean it could be things, you know, throughout the day,

698
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:04,160
Speaker 1: throughout the month, throughout the year. You may have some

699
00:39:04,239 --> 00:39:08,360
Speaker 1: type of little ill feelings. But yeah, I'm gonna purposely

700
00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:11,759
Speaker 1: be happy. Let's seem I could be happy three hundred

701
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:12,960
Speaker 1: and sixty five days this year.

702
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:17,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that's hard, but it's a try. I

703
00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:22,120
Speaker 2: think one thing I'm gonna do to purposely, you know,

704
00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:27,560
Speaker 2: choose joy. Anytime I have an intrusive thought, I'm gonna

705
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:30,480
Speaker 2: try to combat it with two good thoughts. Anytime I

706
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:34,120
Speaker 2: have a thought like towards myself, like a negative or

707
00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:36,239
Speaker 2: I'm not good enough or I'm not smart enough, I'm

708
00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 2: not funny enough, or I'm not pretty enough, or you

709
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 2: get old. Every time I hear that in my head,

710
00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 2: I'm gonna combat it was two good things about myself

711
00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:46,960
Speaker 2: that I like, and I like a lot of shit

712
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:48,359
Speaker 2: about me, you know, So I.

713
00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:49,960
Speaker 1: Can't be beating ourselves up.

714
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:53,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, man, we be beating ourselves up. So that is

715
00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:57,440
Speaker 2: my That is my goal in choosing joy this year

716
00:39:58,640 --> 00:40:00,400
Speaker 2: and how I'm gonna do it and how I'm gonna

717
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 2: practice it. So guess what I got for us? And

718
00:40:04,120 --> 00:40:06,920
Speaker 2: we're gonna go to a commercial book? Guess what I got.

719
00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:09,880
Speaker 2: We got a dumb bitch story. We got one of

720
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:12,880
Speaker 2: the party year off. Somebody already know.

721
00:40:15,760 --> 00:40:17,919
Speaker 1: That I brought that nigga into twenty twenty six.

722
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 2: All right, y'all, we'll be right back and we'll get

723
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:28,719
Speaker 2: into it. All right. Do you want me to read

724
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 2: this or you're gonna read this? Is kind of long.

725
00:40:30,239 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 2: She took some time, she had some time.

726
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:34,479
Speaker 1: Go you got it? Oh my god.

727
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 2: Okay, So hey, ladies, I already know. Please don't yell

728
00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 2: at me too bad. Damn she's starting out. Okay. I

729
00:40:44,120 --> 00:40:47,960
Speaker 2: met this man in October at a friend's kickback. Tall, charming,

730
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 2: good job, very soft spoken, king energy. He asked for

731
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 2: my number that night, and we were inseparable almost immediately,

732
00:40:56,520 --> 00:41:00,160
Speaker 2: like daily face times falling asleep on the phone, good

733
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:04,320
Speaker 2: morning texts, good night text sending memes all day. First

734
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:07,360
Speaker 2: red flag that I ignored. He said he doesn't really do

735
00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:10,759
Speaker 2: social media because it causes drama. He told me he

736
00:41:10,840 --> 00:41:14,640
Speaker 2: deleted Instagram but still had one for business. I said, okay,

737
00:41:14,680 --> 00:41:18,520
Speaker 2: because I didn't want to see him insecure. Second red flag.

738
00:41:19,120 --> 00:41:21,400
Speaker 2: Every time I went to his place, it was always

739
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:25,600
Speaker 2: late at night, never daytime, never weekends. He said he

740
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:29,040
Speaker 2: worked weird hours in like this privacy. His apartment was

741
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 2: very clean, but no personality, no pictures, no mail, no food,

742
00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:36,360
Speaker 2: just vibes, no food.

743
00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:44,480
Speaker 1: Just dick, No late night dick. Okay, got it right.

744
00:41:44,480 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 2: That's basically talking about just vibes food. No food would

745
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 2: have had me up out of there quick. I don't

746
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 2: care if you ain't got no pictures onder all, but

747
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:55,719
Speaker 2: you ain't got no food here? I yetto, all right.

748
00:41:56,440 --> 00:41:59,759
Speaker 2: Third red flag. I asked him once if he was

749
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:04,280
Speaker 2: seeing anyone else, and he said, I'm not entertaining anybody. Seriously.

750
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:08,840
Speaker 2: I thought that meant me. Apparently that meant something else entirely.

751
00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 2: Fast forward to December. He comes to my birthday dinner,

752
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:15,200
Speaker 2: meets my friends, posts a picture of my drink on

753
00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:18,319
Speaker 2: this story but not me, and tells me I like

754
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 2: to keep us. I like to keep what I care

755
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 2: about offline. I ate that shit up, easy, girl, we

756
00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:31,120
Speaker 2: love you though. It's okay. It feels good when it

757
00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:34,719
Speaker 2: feels like somebody love you. Okay. So now here's where

758
00:42:34,719 --> 00:42:39,479
Speaker 2: it gets ugly. Oh it ain't ugly yet, Okay. One night,

759
00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:41,840
Speaker 2: I'm scrolling TikTok and I see a girl doing to

760
00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:44,840
Speaker 2: get ready with me to make dinner for my man. Video.

761
00:42:45,719 --> 00:42:48,920
Speaker 2: I click her page for no reason and it's his apartment,

762
00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:54,480
Speaker 2: save couch, same kitchen, saint bare ass walls. I scroll.

763
00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 2: There are months of videos cooking for my boyfriend. Day

764
00:42:58,080 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 2: night with my man, soft life with my part I

765
00:43:01,120 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 2: confront him immediately. He says I'm jumping to conclusions. Then

766
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:08,640
Speaker 2: he says she's his ax. Then he says they're working

767
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:12,200
Speaker 2: on things. Then he finally admits they live together and

768
00:43:12,280 --> 00:43:16,320
Speaker 2: have been together for three years. How the fuck you

769
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:18,680
Speaker 2: ain't see no roomnants of no woman in there? Like

770
00:43:18,760 --> 00:43:22,200
Speaker 2: it's hard? He wants to be, like, I don't know

771
00:43:22,400 --> 00:43:23,840
Speaker 2: because I at one time.

772
00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 1: No weekend, but at night during the week, like, how

773
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:27,520
Speaker 1: many you over there?

774
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 2: Yeah? And where was she at she wants to be

775
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 2: a nurse because I remember my nigga tried me like that,

776
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:38,960
Speaker 2: a traveling nurse. Yeah, anyway, so he says, and have art.

777
00:43:39,080 --> 00:43:41,440
Speaker 2: So they've been together for three years. He tells me

778
00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 2: he was planning to leave but didn't expect to meet

779
00:43:43,640 --> 00:43:47,040
Speaker 2: someone like me. He says. I make him realize what

780
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:49,920
Speaker 2: he really wants. He says he didn't tell me because

781
00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:55,000
Speaker 2: he didn't want to lose me. Meanwhile, she thinks they're happy.

782
00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:58,319
Speaker 2: So I blocked him. Then he cash at me five

783
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:01,839
Speaker 2: hundred dollars with a note, can we please talk? I

784
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:05,319
Speaker 2: accepted it, of course. Then I blocked him again. The

785
00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:10,399
Speaker 2: worst part. I'm mad at him, but I'm also embarrassed

786
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:12,640
Speaker 2: because the signs were slapping me in the face and

787
00:44:12,680 --> 00:44:15,960
Speaker 2: I chose vibes over logic. Please tell me how to

788
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:20,839
Speaker 2: recover my dignity in the new year. Well, at least

789
00:44:20,840 --> 00:44:23,080
Speaker 2: you ain't still fucking him just at your house now,

790
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:27,759
Speaker 2: so we're proud of you for them. Yeah, you gotta let.

791
00:44:27,680 --> 00:44:29,239
Speaker 1: Him go, you know what I'm saying. If he's not

792
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:31,319
Speaker 1: married to this person on kids and all that, if

793
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 1: there's no like extra baggage, maybe once he reads that situation,

794
00:44:35,280 --> 00:44:36,880
Speaker 1: he can spend the block on you. You happen to

795
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:39,799
Speaker 1: be available, but you you gotta let him go. We

796
00:44:40,600 --> 00:44:44,120
Speaker 1: be over Look, fun, what are you talking about? You

797
00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 1: saw you felt something wasn't right, and you could tell

798
00:44:48,760 --> 00:44:51,520
Speaker 1: us you clicked on somebody page randomly if you want to,

799
00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:52,680
Speaker 1: I feel like your ass.

800
00:44:53,920 --> 00:45:00,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, you found her randomly. It's billious up people on

801
00:45:00,760 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 2: TikTok and somehow you just found itch randomly. Girl. So

802
00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:06,919
Speaker 2: the truth, it's okay when you judging, you was looking

803
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:09,000
Speaker 2: for her and you found what you was looking for.

804
00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:10,880
Speaker 2: But it's all about what you're gonna do with that

805
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:13,840
Speaker 2: information after you find it. So I applaud you for

806
00:45:14,000 --> 00:45:16,799
Speaker 2: blocking him and taking the money. Don't send that money back.

807
00:45:17,120 --> 00:45:19,280
Speaker 2: And if y'all be like, I don't even want his money,

808
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:21,799
Speaker 2: I hope y'all rich, because if you're not rich, keep

809
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:26,080
Speaker 2: the money, girl, But block him and leave him alone.

810
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 2: Because there's just so many people out here, so many

811
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:31,239
Speaker 2: decent men. You don't have to put up with that,

812
00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:33,280
Speaker 2: and don't come to second to no bitch in twenty

813
00:45:33,320 --> 00:45:35,240
Speaker 2: twenty six period.

814
00:45:35,360 --> 00:45:38,359
Speaker 1: Man, men just lack of integrity. You know what I'm saying,

815
00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:41,320
Speaker 1: because you can literally tell a brand new woman exactly

816
00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:44,320
Speaker 1: what you got going on, and she might stolt you

817
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:46,200
Speaker 1: as a fuck with you just because you were honest.

818
00:45:47,120 --> 00:45:49,520
Speaker 1: But would y'all love to put you out put women's

819
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:54,280
Speaker 1: lives in your hands by lying right for no reason

820
00:45:54,360 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 1: to a stranger, because he would lose her. Like you

821
00:45:58,160 --> 00:46:00,799
Speaker 1: don't even know me to even care about really losing me.

822
00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:02,839
Speaker 1: You're just selfish here.

823
00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:05,640
Speaker 2: And what did he get you for your birthday? Because

824
00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:07,239
Speaker 2: if he can't shave a few one hundred dollars, I

825
00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:09,440
Speaker 2: mean five hundred dollars, and I'm sure he got you

826
00:46:09,560 --> 00:46:12,040
Speaker 2: he sposted just a drink. I want to know what

827
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:17,880
Speaker 2: to gift for us, dick, because his mouth.

828
00:46:19,520 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 1: At the house that night, I don't know. Man, Listen,

829
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 1: we choose an ease. Anything is that is confusing, get

830
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:30,759
Speaker 1: away from it, because relationships do not have to be

831
00:46:30,800 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 1: that hard. We make them hard. Right the minute we

832
00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:35,759
Speaker 1: see some bullshit, get up out of there, because you

833
00:46:35,800 --> 00:46:38,879
Speaker 1: know who's doing it. Men are getting the fuck out

834
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:41,120
Speaker 1: of there the minute you do some shit they don't like. Right,

835
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:43,720
Speaker 1: they're not putting up with half the ship we be asking.

836
00:46:43,840 --> 00:46:46,520
Speaker 1: They ask us to put up with. Getting out of there,

837
00:46:46,800 --> 00:46:49,120
Speaker 1: So just be like a man in that way. Don't

838
00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:51,640
Speaker 1: listen Steve Harvey with the other bullshit in his book,

839
00:46:52,440 --> 00:46:57,080
Speaker 1: he let him be like a man and set boundaries

840
00:46:58,120 --> 00:47:02,560
Speaker 1: and and somebody is stually, you know, stepping over those boundaries.

841
00:47:02,560 --> 00:47:03,840
Speaker 1: You get the ass up there.

842
00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:07,920
Speaker 2: Because all you're gonna end up with is Itchikucci because

843
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:18,040
Speaker 2: her bacterio. That's what baking, looking cute, walking around seat

844
00:47:18,239 --> 00:47:22,959
Speaker 2: pus And you had to listen in a grocery store,

845
00:47:23,080 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 2: your kuchie itch that's not fun. You're kind of.

846
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:33,040
Speaker 1: Scratching discreetly, list greatly, rubbing your thighs, legs together, pulling

847
00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:39,000
Speaker 1: your leggings up, pulling your leg girl, we ain't doing

848
00:47:39,080 --> 00:47:40,600
Speaker 1: that shit, Okay.

849
00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:44,640
Speaker 2: Not this year. No Itchikuchi behind a nigga. This year.

850
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:47,280
Speaker 2: We're not doing it.

851
00:47:47,440 --> 00:47:51,360
Speaker 1: Life, man, Such is life. Such is life.

852
00:47:52,640 --> 00:47:55,839
Speaker 2: But we appreciate you for listening to the show and

853
00:47:55,880 --> 00:47:58,640
Speaker 2: sending us your story. Y'all, send us your stories so

854
00:47:58,680 --> 00:48:01,439
Speaker 2: we can talk. And we love y'all. Really, we laugh

855
00:48:01,520 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 2: and joke about this shit, but it's because we love you, y'all,

856
00:48:04,520 --> 00:48:07,600
Speaker 2: our sisters, and we've been there. We've shared our stories

857
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:10,399
Speaker 2: and we might have some new ones, hopefully not. But

858
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:13,760
Speaker 2: hopefully we just share y'all's and not ours. In twenty

859
00:48:13,800 --> 00:48:15,960
Speaker 2: twenty six, I.

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Speaker 1: Had a dumbist story in LNG Tide, y'all, I just

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Speaker 1: had one.

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Speaker 2: Remember. I don't know if y'all listened to that episode

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Speaker 2: of We were on Good Mom's Bad Choices, But my

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Speaker 2: dumb bitch story with viral over there. So, yeah, what's

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Speaker 2: your last last?

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Speaker 1: No dumb bit shit in twenty twenty six?

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Speaker 2: Period.

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Speaker 1: Do everything that feels good to you, Okay, that's relationships,

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Speaker 1: that's love, that's business. It has to feel good. That's

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Speaker 1: my last last, my last.

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Speaker 2: Last for the new year one. I love y'all so

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Speaker 2: much again. I love y'all. I missed y'all. I miss

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Speaker 2: talking to y'all those two weeks off. It felt good,

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Speaker 2: but I'm missed this. Yeah no, because we did it

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Speaker 2: on Monday, and then we didn't talk for two weeks.

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Speaker 2: You know, it's two weeks before we had an episode

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Speaker 2: came out that week, but we hadn't had to run

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Speaker 2: our mouth for two weeks, all right, So I missed y'all.

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Speaker 2: Be kind to one another. Everybody is going through something

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Speaker 2: that is hard out here right now, so be kind

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Speaker 2: to people, you know, show some love, even if you're

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Speaker 2: not gonna get anything in return for someone. You never

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Speaker 2: know how you might make somebody day just by being

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Speaker 2: kind to them, but most importantly, be kind to yourself.

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Speaker 2: This year, I love y'all. Remember to speak now.

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Speaker 1: If you enjoyed this episode, y'all too. Every Thursday on

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Speaker 1: the iHeartRadio Apple, whatever the fuck you get your podcasts,

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Speaker 1: This is your co host, a Jay Holiday two point

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Speaker 1: zero on Instagrams.

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Speaker 2: All right, I'm bad, I'm fuck up for the new year.

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Speaker 2: All right? This official Tambama on Instagram. Y'all follow me there,

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Speaker 2: follow We talk Back Podcasts. Send us your dumb bitch stories,

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Speaker 2: dm us with them or email us at We talk Back.

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Speaker 2: E N. T dot at gmail dot com, d P O.

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Speaker 2: D at gmail dot com. And we love y'all so much.

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Speaker 2: Remember speak now.

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Speaker 1: And never hold your bliss period. We talk Back podcast

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