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Speaker 1: Tell you here it is strawberry letter subject, I need

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Speaker 1: a tiger. That's my growl, not a not a shy

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Speaker 1: little mouse. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm in my mid forties

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Speaker 1: and I've been married for twenty years. My husband is

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Speaker 1: and wasn't ashamed to say what he wanted from me. Nowadays,

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Speaker 1: the worst part is that he's been acting shy in

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Speaker 1: we just met um and he doesn't know me sexually

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Speaker 1: at all. I've told him that he needs to be

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Speaker 1: more dominant in the bedroom. I want a tiger. I

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Speaker 1: don't want to be in control. That turns me off.

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Speaker 1: I want a man that can say what he wants

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Speaker 1: I don't want to cheat. He gets so upset when

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Speaker 1: stopped trying. I don't want to divorce my husband of

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Speaker 1: twenty years just so I can have some good sex.

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Speaker 1: Help me. I've tried toys to help me out, but

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Speaker 1: that wasn't enough. What should I do? A little freakingly? Go? Okay,

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Speaker 1: come now? Said? All right, a little freakingly. Look, come on,

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Speaker 1: I just think it's something wrong. I think it's something

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Speaker 1: wrong in your twenty year marriage. You guys have been together.

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Speaker 1: You probably have grown tired of each other. You know,

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Speaker 1: you need to breathe some new life into it, some

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Speaker 1: new energy, some new romance. Uh. He's probably I don't know,

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Speaker 1: depressed or something. Uh. The question, though, is has he

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Speaker 1: lost interest in sex? Or has he lost interest in

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Speaker 1: sex with you? That's the different friends, I mean that,

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Speaker 1: that's really the question. I mean. And you say you

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Speaker 1: what you want him to do to you in bed? Well,

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Speaker 1: no one wants a drill, sergeant, Okay, just just throwing

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Speaker 1: that out there. Okay, no one wants a drill sergeant.

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Speaker 1: If that's what you're in there doing. And I'm not

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Speaker 1: is a problem in your marriage. Maybe he needs some

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Speaker 1: blue pills or something like that. Okay, I don't know,

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Speaker 1: I don't need I don't know. Ye Oh, okay, what

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Speaker 1: what do the yellow ones to do? I'm gbing up

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Speaker 1: some experts on the SHOWO they tell me. Okay, I

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Speaker 1: mean I don't need to yeah, come on, yeah. But

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Speaker 1: the bottom line, you say your husband is a good

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Speaker 1: and decent man. Okay. If he's a good and decent man,

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Speaker 1: someone about this issue that you're having. Plain and simple.

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Speaker 1: I think you need counseling. I don't think this twenty

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Speaker 1: year marriage is we're throwing away. If he's such a

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Speaker 1: need to go get some counseling, talk to your husband,

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Speaker 1: get some blue or yellow pills, you know, or something.

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Speaker 1: Oh there we go again. Stuff you learn on this show,

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Speaker 1: so you've heard. But anyway, I think that's what you

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Speaker 1: you think. He's had enough. You've done it every way

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Speaker 1: So sometimes when you go through the entire playball, the

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Speaker 1: what it sounds. Okay. Um uh, nephew, Come on, an tiger,

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Speaker 1: not a shy little mouse. Is the subject of today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry lets Her. I'm the best advice I could possibly

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Speaker 1: ain't strong now? I'm strong when it comes to this.

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Speaker 1: I know what you're looking for. I have been there.

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Speaker 1: I've been in this position. You want to do the

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Speaker 1: human we are barrel all around the room. I got you.

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Speaker 1: You won't need to push your head down in the

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Speaker 1: fish aquarium, because I won't that. Hold on, hold on,

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Speaker 1: today Strawberry letter. I need a tiger and not a

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Speaker 1: shy little mouth. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show,

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Speaker 1: all right, coming up at forty one after the hour,

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Speaker 1: we'll have the nephew's weekend confessions. So get ready for that.

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Speaker 1: Call us eight seven seven twenty nine Steve. But up

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Speaker 1: right now, it's part two of your response to the

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letter of our response. By the way, if you

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Speaker 1: Of course subject for to day. I need a tiger,

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Speaker 1: not a shy little mouse. Uh. This woman is in

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Speaker 1: her early forties. She's been married for twenty years. Her

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Speaker 1: you didn't know what I'm trying to tell you. This

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Speaker 1: is a case of zoo loving. This is safari loving.

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Speaker 1: Just somebody won't animal loving type of things that happen.

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Speaker 1: You know that that camel love it. This is what

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Speaker 1: she's supposed to act like a camera put on humping

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Speaker 1: You won't. Ego loving, now, Ego loving is when you

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Speaker 1: get eager loving is when you get on the seiling

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Speaker 1: just laying on him. That's eager loving. You got things

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Speaker 1: talk like tell he could do all that, but he

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Speaker 1: each other like well the beasts? Can we do that?

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Speaker 1: I'm good, you're still I'm tired. Can we act like

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Speaker 1: Because we do that? Somebody else coming in here, I'll

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Speaker 1: for pottum of love where we just open my mile

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Speaker 1: love one of them? Oh god? Alright, alright, let's let's

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Speaker 1: bring Could could we be like the koala bands that

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Speaker 1: little shot. Now. Well, the question I have for her

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Speaker 1: just give up. She's built like a beaver, but she

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Speaker 1: is not sexy at all. This is her fault. She's

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Speaker 1: the one left. She's tired of his tired behind. After years. Hey, hey,

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Speaker 1: you want to do something tonight? No, okay, what what

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Speaker 1: You want to do something? No, you show no, you

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Speaker 1: show you show no. Hey, you show no. You show no.

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Speaker 1: One last time you show no. Not when you find

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Speaker 1: when you don't look like that you feel like anything? Alright,

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Speaker 1: let me tie you up. And now if I tie

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Speaker 1: well for you. Fine women help other stuff to say, Jay,

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Speaker 1: something to say. Move your legs. He is so tired

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Speaker 1: like that good leg. So twenty years show that? What

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Speaker 1: get you some zo loving Alright, listen again, if you

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Speaker 1: have any relationship issues, you need our advice. That's Steve

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Speaker 1: in mind. When Steve comes back. Okay, email us, email

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