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Speaker 1: All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.

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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. I can't

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Speaker 1: even get drunk in peace. One more time. I can't

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Speaker 1: even get drunk in peace. But it seems like this

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Speaker 1: letter is Taylor May for our crazy show though. Dear

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Speaker 1: Steven Shirley, I am a forty five year old black man.

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Speaker 1: My fiance is fifty six, and she's a great woman,

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Speaker 1: but I'm worried about marriage. We'd like to kick back

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Speaker 1: and relax and drink wine and alcohol. It depends on

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Speaker 1: our mood, so sometimes it's wine and sometimes it's the

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Speaker 1: hard stuff. We pretty much drink every day after work.

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Speaker 1: I'm more relaxed and mellow when I've had a few drinks.

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Speaker 1: But she is the opposite of me. She likes to

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Speaker 1: get angry, cuss and fuss and bring up a bunch

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Speaker 1: of old stuff trying to start an argument. It really

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Speaker 1: messes up my buzz, and I'm afraid of losing my

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Speaker 1: cool one day and end up telling her to leave

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Speaker 1: me to hell alone. I've dealt with anger management all

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Speaker 1: of my life, and I've learned how to calm myself

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Speaker 1: down with Bible verses and positive affirmations I got while

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Speaker 1: I was in prison. She knows all you hurt me.

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Speaker 1: She knows all of this, but she still likes to

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Speaker 1: get in my face and push me to my limit.

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Speaker 1: I have to keep avoiding her. I don't have family

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Speaker 1: in town we live in, so if things get bad,

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Speaker 1: I have nowhere to turn to for some peace. Most

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Speaker 1: nights she gets rambunctious and then wants to make love,

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Speaker 1: so I'll forget how bad she has been acting. I

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Speaker 1: swear that it always works because she is really good

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Speaker 1: and bad. I have told her that she has a

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Speaker 1: problem with drinking, not a drinking problem, and we need

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Speaker 1: to figure out a way for her to drink socially

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Speaker 1: without losing her temper every time. I'm a laid back

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Speaker 1: type of brother and need to know if I should

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Speaker 1: keep encouraging her to do better or should I reconsider

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Speaker 1: marrying her. I trust your advice because this is a

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Speaker 1: major decision. Yeah, you have to consider this if you're

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Speaker 1: thinking about marrying someone. And this letter got deeper. Seems

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Speaker 1: like every sentence there was something new to learn about

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Speaker 1: you too. I think the two of you need to

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Speaker 1: put the alcohol down, or you at least need to

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Speaker 1: keep it to a two drink minimum or something like

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Speaker 1: that like they do with the clubs and listen. I

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Speaker 1: just you know, this hard liquor that you guys are doing,

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Speaker 1: this wine, it's just not for you, guys. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I think you need to step away from all this

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Speaker 1: Tennessee and stuff that you guys drink, drinking every every

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Speaker 1: single day after work. I think that's too much for you, guys,

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Speaker 1: I really do, because you don't know how to handle

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Speaker 1: your liquor. You say your chill and you're cool and everything,

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Speaker 1: and she's the exact opposite. And of course, no one

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Speaker 1: likes an ugly, nasty, mean acting drunk. Nobody likes a

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Speaker 1: mean drunk. The bad part is that you say she's

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Speaker 1: great in bed and she's trying to make up for

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Speaker 1: her bad behavior, you think. So, do you really think

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Speaker 1: that she knows what she's doing and she's just trying

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Speaker 1: to take advantage of this situation. If that's true, I

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Speaker 1: think that's part of the problem, because she knows what

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Speaker 1: she's doing and she knows she's just trying to push

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Speaker 1: your buttons. She definitely needs to stay away from the

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Speaker 1: alcohol for a while. You guys getting me give it

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Speaker 1: to hire. You guys need to get a hold on

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Speaker 1: your relationship. I don't think you need to consider marriage

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Speaker 1: right now. You're not in that space. You're not ready

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Speaker 1: for all of that that comes with a whole You

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Speaker 1: really will be drinking if you if you marry her now.

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Speaker 1: You need to get your relationship back on track. You

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Speaker 1: need to talk to her. You need to stop some

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Speaker 1: of all this drinking because you know the two of

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Speaker 1: you together can't handle it. That is not gonna last.

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Speaker 1: Your relationship will not last like this, and a marriage

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Speaker 1: certainly won't. So yeah, reconsider marrying her and put the

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Speaker 1: drinks down. Steve, it's so much I want to say

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Speaker 1: in this Damn, I don't let's crazy? Who so let

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Speaker 1: me just try to go a line at a time.

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Speaker 1: But we all know what her own. I'm a forty

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Speaker 1: five year old black man. You fiance fifty six, great girl,

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Speaker 1: I'm worried about marriage. Well, let me tell you something, sir,

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Speaker 1: after listening to this latter, Madge, ain't what y'all need

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Speaker 1: to be worried about a whole lot of other things

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Speaker 1: wrong Foo, we go down the eye right. We like

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Speaker 1: to kick back and relax and drink wine and alcohol.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if y'all notice it, but that's everything. Everything,

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Speaker 1: that's everything. Ain't nothing off limits. If we like to

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Speaker 1: drink wine and alcohol, everything is up. If you ain't

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Speaker 1: got none of that, give us some of this one

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Speaker 1: more time, Like you ain't got none of that, Gil,

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Speaker 1: some of this. We're gonna drank it. Fifty six, I'm

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Speaker 1: forty five. Drink drink, drink and drink and drank it.

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Speaker 1: It depends on our mood, which now watch this, So

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Speaker 1: sometimes just wine and sometimes it's the hard Stuff's two

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Speaker 1: different moves. Now, guess when they moved? Is we pretty

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Speaker 1: much drank every day? This is a letter about a

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Speaker 1: couple of alcoholics. Yeah, what this is? Let's stop all this.

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Speaker 1: Y'all are functioning alcoholics every day you go to work

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Speaker 1: and drink every day. That's a functioning alcoholic. I'm a

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Speaker 1: relaxing mellow when I have had a few drinks. But

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Speaker 1: she the opposite. She gets angry, cuss fusult response till

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Speaker 1: we come back at twenty three minutes after be okay, naw,

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Speaker 1: we'll have part two subject I can't even get drunk,

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Speaker 1: and naw, we'll be back at twenty three minutes after

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Speaker 1: the hour. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, Steve, come on,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. I can't even drink. I

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Speaker 1: can't even get drunk. In peace, live folks, Here we go.

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Speaker 1: This is a lot of we've determined on the last break.

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Speaker 1: This the recapit two alcoholics the road in and both

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Speaker 1: of them got a problem with each other. And you

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Speaker 1: know because the first dog they drink, depending on their moved,

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Speaker 1: either wine or alcohol. When a person says alcohol, that's

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Speaker 1: anything round liquor, clear liquor, bitter liquor, sweet liquor, dessert wine, champagne, ripple, thunderbird,

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Speaker 1: Mann of shivits mad dog, henness, round, Ian Jane, Canadian winds.

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Speaker 1: He don't bumpet face a gray goose. Just it's all

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Speaker 1: what or if you ain't got that, give us wine

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Speaker 1: box wine, bad wine, yellow wine. Girl, he has some

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Speaker 1: pink wine. It's rose, but our mind was pink. You

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Speaker 1: just all down in here buying champagoe and all this.

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Speaker 1: Y'all just drinking whatever. Man, just a couple of alcohols now,

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Speaker 1: and they drank every day after work, so they functioning alcoholics.

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Speaker 1: I'm more relaxing, mellow. Just a forty five year old

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Speaker 1: black man wrote the letter, and he's a fiances a

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Speaker 1: fifty six year old great woman. She likes to get

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Speaker 1: angry and cussing, fussing and bring up a bunch of

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Speaker 1: old stuff trying to start the argument. Now, this is

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Speaker 1: every day. This ain't on the weekends after work when

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Speaker 1: I punch out at five and I get your house

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Speaker 1: and we started just drinking and sick. What are you

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Speaker 1: talking like? Ain't o'clock on't fing to tell you as something?

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Speaker 1: That's her black ass? Make me sick, baby, Come on now, chill.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to be drunk in peace that you have nothing.

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Speaker 1: But if I do let you have it, it's gonna

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Speaker 1: be so good. You're gonna want it again, just angry,

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Speaker 1: and it really messed my bud. I'm afraid of losing

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Speaker 1: my cool one day and end up telling her to

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Speaker 1: leave me to hell alone. That's all you're gonna says,

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Speaker 1: that's because that's like you, so chill, I kill you girl,

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Speaker 1: leave me to hell alone. Oh? I told her to

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Speaker 1: leave me to hell alone? What the wolfing have now?

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Speaker 1: So then he said, I've dealt with anger management all

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Speaker 1: of my life, meaning he used to fly off. But

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Speaker 1: let me tell you how he fixed it. I learned

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Speaker 1: how to calm myself down with Bible versus and positive

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Speaker 1: affirmations I got while I was in prison. But as

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Speaker 1: soon as I got out of prison, I started drinking

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Speaker 1: and met her and we drank every day. That's the

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Speaker 1: Bible versus. I'd be pulling up because I'd be drinking

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Speaker 1: every day, reading the verses in the Bible, and then

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Speaker 1: I be positive affirmations because of the drinking. What what?

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Speaker 1: She knows all of this, but she still likes to

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Speaker 1: that when you got out prison. Ain't nobody. You ain't

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Speaker 1: nowhere to turn for some peace. So most nights she

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Speaker 1: gets rambunctious and then wants to make love. That's angry love,

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Speaker 1: angry sick. She looking over here, fuck him one. You

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Speaker 1: know you want this hill, You won't it looking at it,

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Speaker 1: won't come on over here? Bite me, you black ass

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Speaker 1: looking at it. Tad up, tad up for for you. Listen,

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Speaker 1: she made love so good. I forget how bad she

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Speaker 1: And next thing, you know, you ain't even mad at

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Speaker 1: me no more, just overhacled. I'm just full of hatred.

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Speaker 1: You ain't got no good love until you didn't have

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Speaker 1: some hate for love. Boy, I'll put this hate for

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Speaker 1: love on you. Full of hate. What it sounds like,

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Speaker 1: feel like a feel like a crab, a giant crab

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Speaker 1: claw angry love. I bite your whole bottom, nip off,

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Speaker 1: as I don't have no advice for this couple. Y'all

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Speaker 1: need to drinking, they quick seeing each other. Two things

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Speaker 1: needs happened. Y'all need to quit drinking and y'all need

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