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Speaker 1: Is it acceptable for parents to have a favorite child.

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Speaker 1: That's the question we're going to answer today with this story.

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Speaker 1: Am I the ahole for refusing to give my stepdaughter

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Speaker 1: a graduation gift?

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Speaker 2: Even though I gave one to our other kids who

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Speaker 2: doesn't need one? You know what we teach our kids resilience,

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Speaker 2: and that is a gift that is better than all

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Speaker 2: the rest. Amen. Brother.

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Speaker 1: This comes from Throwaway Raymond, who says, Hi, I forty

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Speaker 1: three year old woman. I have a one daughter who

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Speaker 1: is eighteen. Her father left us when I was pregnant

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Speaker 1: with her. Shout out, dad, where's that milk? Where's those cigarettes?

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Speaker 2: Nowhere? Apparently? Yeah, dude, he got stuck. Yeah. Thanks, While

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Speaker 2: I had to go to that one in Alaska, Yep,

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Speaker 2: there you go. He ran all the way there. He's

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Speaker 2: on his way back. It's like that Forest Gump scene,

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Speaker 2: Mary's just running until his beard.

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Speaker 1: Except it's with the most evil intention, evil list of intentions.

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Speaker 2: What do you mean milk is evil?

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Speaker 1: I have I own a small company in interior design

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Speaker 1: and it's very successful in my country. I make a

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Speaker 1: good living and I met my husband fifty five around

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Speaker 1: eight years ago. He moved in with me seven years ago,

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Speaker 1: and we got married two years ago in a private ceremony.

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Speaker 1: My husband has two children from a previous marriage, the

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Speaker 1: boys twenty and a girl eighteen.

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Speaker 2: Sounds great. I love backstories. This is great. Love the backstories.

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Speaker 1: Both my stepchildren hated me and my daughter in the

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Speaker 1: beginning of the relationship. When my husband asked me how

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Speaker 1: they'd feel about him moving in together with me, they

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Speaker 2: The stepchildren. The stepchildren, aren't they like old? Nineteen and twenty?

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Speaker 1: This might have been. Yeah, they're still pretty old. I

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Speaker 2: Get over yourself, kids, right over yourself. What's wrong with you?

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Speaker 2: You don't want your dad to find love? Yes, that's lame,

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Speaker 2: that's lame. That's what they want. They're being angsty teens.

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Speaker 2: I want to hate my dad and make sure it

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Speaker 2: never gets married again. My dad and I hate my mom.

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Speaker 2: They don't well, they love them well. Half of that

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Speaker 2: song is true, that's right.

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Speaker 1: But after a while my husband moved in any ways

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Speaker 1: and said to them they were welcome should they change

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Speaker 1: their mind. So basically, hey, there's the door. If you

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Speaker 1: want to leave, don't let it hit you with a

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Speaker 1: good lord splitch. But also there's door. If you want

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Speaker 2: There's just the door. Door. Welcome to move through it

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Speaker 2: as you.

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Speaker 1: Pope in it and close it, all all the functions

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're welcome. That is I think that's the best

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Speaker 2: thing to give to Brady kids. Doors. That's the best

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Speaker 2: gift you could give a bratty kid. A door.

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Speaker 1: They did after seeing the big house with the pool

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Speaker 1: and all the great accommodations. Oh oh oh, so they

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like as soon as they saw the hot time,

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Speaker 2: they're like, oh, just like looking pretty good. I guess

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Speaker 2: I guess I could. I guess I could while like

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Speaker 2: five Ritz Carlton level mansion. Dude, gold diggers. I hate

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Speaker 2: gold digging kids. You know, you give them one xbox.

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Speaker 2: You give them one xbox and suddenly they're hanging around

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Speaker 3: Come on, you know what you should do? What take

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Speaker 3: them to Sacramento. I'm a pan for gold.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, I thought that was going to be a movie reference.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, this is just a location.

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Speaker 2: Can you can pan for gold and Sacramento? Why? And

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Speaker 2: I did? I did find gold? You didn't, Yes, I did.

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Speaker 2: I found flakes of gold. It was fake, it was

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they put them in the water.

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Speaker 2: They do not put them in the water. It's natural sediment.

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Speaker 2: I would love that. Okay, sure, but there were there

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Speaker 1: Oh, my goodness, gracious. So she was horrible to me.

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Speaker 2: I don't know about never live again, but I think

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Speaker 2: And what the dad did is he just drove behind

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Speaker 3: Oh I saw that, TikTok.

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Speaker 2: Make sure she's over five miles. Perfect. Yeah, she had

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Speaker 1: My stepdaughter tried to apologize and she was sobbing, but

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Speaker 2: Get on the streets, kid. It sounds like it's almost

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Speaker 2: like where we're at it. No, she's gonna live with

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Speaker 1: I had too long of an experience with that. I

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Speaker 2: What go this? That's crazy? If that's true, that's crazy.

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Speaker 2: that is an overreaction. What should happen is she should

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Speaker 1: But you can I don't even know if that's a

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Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly and whatever. Yeah, but not. But also like

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Speaker 2: I think there's unresolved childhood drama. OPI was bullied, which

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Speaker 1: We definitely deserve that, and I think we'll find more

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Speaker 1: is where you like order people what to do, and

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Speaker 1: then that's the only crime that they can charge you

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Speaker 3: This is also the problem now that the dad sent

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Speaker 2: Yeah, other than just giving one hundred cans exactly, it

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Speaker 1: Okay, so the sentence says, when my step son started

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Speaker 1: concentrate on his studies engineering. It's possible she didn't give

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Speaker 2: That's kind of what it seemed like. I feel like

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Speaker 2: that's my parents helped me pay help pay for tuition,

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Speaker 2: but I was expected to pay for like half through

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Speaker 3: All of college.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so if you worked at Starbucks.

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Speaker 3: And then also I had a I had like two

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Speaker 3: Well just to get jobs, it's good to happen.

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Speaker 2: Exactly exactly, So like you should be having summer internships

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Speaker 3: I don't think it's necessarily an issue to want to

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Speaker 2: Blah blah blah, silly, silly.

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Speaker 1: He was so grateful but told us that, but told

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Speaker 3: Okay, w son, w son, his son.

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Speaker 2: That's a different level of responsibility to basically be like, WHOA,

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Speaker 2: you're dumb for giving me this fun right, the mom

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Speaker 2: Better, but so much better. I digress.

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Speaker 2: She asked her father about one hundred thousand. Wait, so

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Speaker 2: this is the step to that bullied oh Pea's daughter

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Speaker 1: to ask me. I was confused. Because before I gifted

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Speaker 2: Was that communicated, though, I think it was communicated. It

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Speaker 2: Bro.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, don't she does not deserve even if she was

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Speaker 2: I don't think she exactly. It's like actions have consequences,

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Speaker 2: and I don't think that is incouraged. Like you have

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Speaker 1: It's not because she's a stepdaughter. It's because of how

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Speaker 2: If it was if OP said I don't want to

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Speaker 2: he would be the a different story. But and she

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Speaker 2: already gave the step son, yeah, the one hundred grand exactly,

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Speaker 2: totally clear to not give this this step damter or

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Speaker 1: And side note, Sam's hair is looking better every single day.

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Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, Do you guys like it when I

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Speaker 1: push it back or push it forward?

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Speaker 2: This door is is here, Here we go? Are you ready?

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Speaker 1: The pompadoor is handsome and the swept forward is cute.

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Speaker 1: Let us pick your look.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, let me know. John just tells me I look

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Speaker 2: good either way. I want to know the truth. I

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Speaker 2: want to know the truth. Let's pull actually, let's do

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Speaker 2: it all right, swept back or push forward, and we

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Speaker 2: will die. These are the real questions that need answers.

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Speaker 2: The member's only question.

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Speaker 1: By the way, it's it's getting a little hot in

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Speaker 1: here with all of Sam's good looks, So I might

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Speaker 1: I might request an open window at uh at some point.

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Speaker 3: Maybe I'm getting back to the story though, Yes, I

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Speaker 3: was gonna say the Opie's husband is being so presumptuous

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Speaker 3: you need to give your money to my stepdaughter. Like

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Speaker 3: why why isn't he giving the money if he wants

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Speaker 2: It to her because she's much more wealthy.

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Speaker 3: No, I know, yeah, because he expects her to fund

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Speaker 2: Which sucks. I mean he shouldn't.

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Speaker 1: He shouldn't want to reward her for her bad He

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Speaker 1: should be like, yeah, she's doing bad behavior. Why why

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Speaker 2: Yeah? There you have it.

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Speaker 1: But speaking of stepdad or the husband, he is now

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Speaker 1: very angry. He hasn't talked to me in over a week.

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Speaker 1: He's saying I'm using my money to control their lives

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Speaker 1: and that he's heartbroken. If I don't have enough money

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Speaker 1: for both daughters, I can split my daughter's share between them.

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Speaker 1: Since my daughter isn't even sure where she wants to

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Speaker 2: But it's not about the money, it's about the attitude.

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Speaker 1: Exactly exactly, and let's face it, she will likely never

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Speaker 3: Okay, so now we know where the stepdaughter is getting

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Speaker 3: all this baple far from the tree that is making

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Speaker 3: me want to divorce the husband.

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Speaker 2: The comment like that.

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Speaker 1: After this very very important poll that we're running right

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Speaker 1: comment divorce right now. If you're feeling it, let us

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Speaker 2: Because I'm the reason I'm thinking divorce is. And now

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Speaker 2: I'm getting the suspicion that Op's husband may have been

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Speaker 2: encouraging Slash saying things about Ope's daughter behind her back. Oh,

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Speaker 2: he was encouraging the daughter, like not encouraging, but maybe

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Speaker 2: saying something that like why would this kind of this

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Speaker 2: kind of thought where it's like, oh, like your daughter

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Speaker 2: now yeah, and I'm like, like, did his daughter get

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Speaker 2: but he's broke and he sucks and he is and

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Speaker 2: he sucks and he is al. That's actually exactly what

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Speaker 2: I am saying. He's a gold digger.

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Speaker 1: A lot of people saying saying divorce, ossy girl with

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Speaker 1: the art shop, actual Birch, maryel Strasser, Tracy Eysen.

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Speaker 2: Divorce, divorce, he's a gold digger in b Kansas, all

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Speaker 2: all the people.

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Speaker 1: Maybe if I did it, give the money, the stepdaughter

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Speaker 2: Mmm, no, she'll.

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Speaker 3: She'll be good, nice, see you.

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Speaker 2: I know that's dumb.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what to do. I feel like I

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Speaker 1: suffered enough because of her ways. She could still do

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Speaker 1: still defiant. I should do what I want with my money.

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Speaker 1: And we do have some relevant comments.

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Speaker 2: Yes, and op is using the money as a as

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Speaker 2: a reward slash punishment. But that's that I mean that.

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Speaker 2: I think that's fine. Yeah, if you are if you

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Speaker 2: literally put your step mom's phone number as that be

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Speaker 2: it's because I think she's been awful and needs a

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Speaker 2: this is the reason why maybe that will finally be like,

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Speaker 1: And I think I think she could really because because

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Speaker 2: You know you should.

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Speaker 1: You should give it to her like you did the

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Speaker 1: been a good person. Learn from him, and like, I

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Speaker 2: Maybe your stepbrother's example. Maybe it's like, hey, you can

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Speaker 2: take out loans right now, go through the experience. If

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Speaker 2: after you finish your schooling it feels like you have changed,

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Speaker 2: maybe I can help you out on the other end

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Speaker 2: of it.

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Speaker 1: I'm I would do that, but never tell her. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I would. I would because you have changed. It's the

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Speaker 1: but she was doing it right.

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Speaker 2: Both of everyone was the yeah, but I mean maybe

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Speaker 2: wow wild, Well we did have an incredible poll. Swept back.

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Speaker 1: Swept back is the answer for Sam's Hareah, thank you

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Speaker 1: ladies and gentlemen for in on that. I'm very curious

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Speaker 1: which is we were I think before we were saying divorced, but.

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Speaker 2: I should Ope divorce the husband or have a conversation

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Speaker 2: maybe divorce with the husband and daughter. Divorce or conversation

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Speaker 2: with husband and daughter. Yeah, I feel like it shouldn't

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Speaker 2: more like we need a little more context. Yeah, I

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Speaker 2: think it's to have conversation. Maybe is it conversation with

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Speaker 2: a daughter and like or do you tell her that

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Speaker 2: you give the incentive? So do you say maybe i'll

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Speaker 2: if I see change over the next four years, i'll

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Speaker 2: help you on the other end or do you not

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00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:48,600
Speaker 2: say anything? So, yeah, like you have the incentive or not? Yeah?

441
00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:50,840
Speaker 2: Incentive orna, what do you guys think incentive or na?

442
00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:56,880
Speaker 2: So basically, should Ope go to the daughter and sit

443
00:21:56,960 --> 00:21:59,040
Speaker 2: down and say, hey, this is why I'm not giving

444
00:21:59,040 --> 00:22:02,200
Speaker 2: you the hundred k and then stop there or should

445
00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:03,560
Speaker 2: ope sit down? He's like, this is why I'm not

446
00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 2: giving you the hundred k. But if in four years

447
00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:08,760
Speaker 2: I see that you have changed, I might help you

448
00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 2: out in some way at the end. So incentive or no,

449
00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:14,880
Speaker 2: we shall see. But let's get into these relevant comments.

450
00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:16,720
Speaker 2: Tree City Kitty says, so.

451
00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:19,080
Speaker 1: Your husband has just been sitting around waiting for you

452
00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:22,160
Speaker 1: to pay both his kids. What a charmer op? He says,

453
00:22:22,280 --> 00:22:25,800
Speaker 1: he pays alimony and paid child supports. I guess kind

454
00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:29,560
Speaker 1: of defending the husband. Tree City Kitty responds, that's good,

455
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:31,720
Speaker 1: but it sounds like he expects his daughter to receive

456
00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:34,439
Speaker 1: the same treatment as his son and your daughter. He

457
00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:36,920
Speaker 1: knows that she hasn't treated you and your daughter well

458
00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:39,000
Speaker 1: and has been a bully to both of them. What

459
00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:41,840
Speaker 1: makes him think she deserves anything? And why does he

460
00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:44,600
Speaker 1: not insist that she treat you both better? Why does

461
00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:46,400
Speaker 1: he think you owe her anything?

462
00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:48,720
Speaker 2: I think those are great questions, great questions.

463
00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:52,160
Speaker 1: Love you dog fourty three says you. Uh, you know

464
00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:55,320
Speaker 1: the man is just with you for the money, right right?

465
00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:59,119
Speaker 1: You may want to reconsider the whole breaking up plan

466
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:00,640
Speaker 1: that you had Opie.

467
00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:01,919
Speaker 2: Maybe he is.

468
00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:04,439
Speaker 1: He never showed anything like that before.

469
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:07,040
Speaker 2: I don't know. I feel like that's a little far.

470
00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:09,920
Speaker 2: I don't think we have evidence of that. Yeah, probably me.

471
00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:15,920
Speaker 1: I mean, it is very suspicious that he is asking

472
00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:20,320
Speaker 1: for like I feel like he he maybe didn't ask

473
00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:21,879
Speaker 1: for it for the steps on because he didn't need

474
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:24,159
Speaker 1: to and knew it was gonna happen. But what have

475
00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:26,600
Speaker 1: if he needed to And now he's really pushing it

476
00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:28,960
Speaker 1: for the step out him when she doesn't. That's it's

477
00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:31,440
Speaker 1: it's kind of it's pretty fishy. Honestly, it's a little

478
00:23:31,440 --> 00:23:33,680
Speaker 1: stinky to me, that Welson.

479
00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:36,680
Speaker 2: I don't know, because it's like he's not getting the money.

480
00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:39,080
Speaker 2: It's just like he's giving his kids the money.

481
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:44,399
Speaker 1: Yes, but I don't know, it's not something's I'm a

482
00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:45,600
Speaker 1: little I'm a little suspicious.

483
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:48,479
Speaker 2: I'm not suspicious. I don't think so. I don't think

484
00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:50,199
Speaker 2: he's cold. Digging was so much? You guys think of

485
00:23:50,200 --> 00:23:51,040
Speaker 2: this or not?

486
00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:54,480
Speaker 1: Plummy Dog four two three says we'll think about it. Logically,

487
00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:57,440
Speaker 1: if your children told you they would never see you again,

488
00:23:57,560 --> 00:23:59,680
Speaker 1: if you moved in with a man, what would you do.

489
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,440
Speaker 1: I'll take a wild guest and say you would end

490
00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:06,879
Speaker 1: it right. Well, he didn't, so we've already established that

491
00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:09,960
Speaker 1: he's a bad dad who doesn't actually care about his

492
00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 1: children's best interests.

493
00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 2: I don't think that's true either. I don't know. So like, like,

494
00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:21,000
Speaker 2: this person's basically saying he's a bad dad because when

495
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 2: his kids are like I don't want you to move

496
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:27,120
Speaker 2: in with this woman, you didn't listen, Like, I think

497
00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:29,640
Speaker 2: kids are sometimes just being bratty.

498
00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:32,760
Speaker 1: If you know, if your kid wants ice cream for dinner,

499
00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:35,080
Speaker 1: are you gonna just be like, you know what, You're right,

500
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:36,359
Speaker 1: let me take care of your needs.

501
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:39,080
Speaker 2: Yeah. There sometimes kids are afraid of the change, and

502
00:24:39,160 --> 00:24:40,679
Speaker 2: like you, as an adult, you have to be like,

503
00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:42,240
Speaker 2: I actually think this is going to be better for

504
00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:45,240
Speaker 2: like me and the family, and you make executive decisions

505
00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:45,600
Speaker 2: as an.

506
00:24:45,560 --> 00:24:48,760
Speaker 1: Adult, which it was for the step son. Yeah, it

507
00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 1: worked out beautifully.

508
00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:53,159
Speaker 2: It was better. It was better the better son, better house,

509
00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:55,680
Speaker 2: better parents, Papa John's.

510
00:24:57,240 --> 00:24:59,879
Speaker 1: And he got one hundred K, and he got a

511
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:05,560
Speaker 1: one hundred freaking Buckerronies fluffy dog fourty three continues. Next,

512
00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:07,800
Speaker 1: his kids didn't want you to move in with you

513
00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 1: until they realized you were rich. Kids often learned these

514
00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:13,080
Speaker 1: morals from their parents. So what does it tell you

515
00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 1: that both kids were suddenly okay with things and their

516
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:18,359
Speaker 1: step daughter threw a fit about leaving the home of

517
00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:21,160
Speaker 1: the woman she hated simply because you have nice things.

518
00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 1: I think that's just kids winning that. If there's a

519
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:29,679
Speaker 1: baller mansion that I could live in with a PlayStation

520
00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:33,679
Speaker 1: down like a a if I could play PlayStation and

521
00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:38,760
Speaker 1: a spinny slide down into the pool underwater, Yeah, but

522
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:39,359
Speaker 1: you have.

523
00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:42,280
Speaker 3: To live with I don't know, person you hate match.

524
00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:44,879
Speaker 2: I don't bet there's a billion rooms. I could just

525
00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:47,119
Speaker 2: go to another room. I'll go on the slide. If

526
00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:49,320
Speaker 2: I'm a kid, I'm like, yeah, I'm choosing. I'm choosing

527
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:51,000
Speaker 2: the slide. Yeah.

528
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:54,280
Speaker 1: What does it say Maybe that they were raised by

529
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:56,680
Speaker 1: someone who has a particular interest in the finer things

530
00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 1: in life.

531
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Speaker 2: Continuation of point one. When it came to picking his

532
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:02,960
Speaker 2: childer picking your money again, he picked you with the

533
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 2: money and permanently kicked his kids out. What the f Finally,

534
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:08,919
Speaker 2: I don't agree with that. I want to know in

535
00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 2: the comments. If you guys see that, let us know.

536
00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:14,440
Speaker 2: But I just don't agree with that. And also, John,

537
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:16,320
Speaker 2: I can't believe you gave a free sponsor.

538
00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:19,159
Speaker 1: I you know, we've been giving free sponsors all day today.

539
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 2: I know, but specifically you, specifically me, specifically you bet

540
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,879
Speaker 2: your pizza that the joke was just banged too hard.

541
00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:27,359
Speaker 2: I couldn't.

542
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,439
Speaker 1: I could not make the joke of the sponsors.

543
00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:32,440
Speaker 2: Dude, you're the king of no free sponsors, and yet

544
00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:37,240
Speaker 2: you stomped on your own land. You destroyed your own kingdom.

545
00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 1: Even kings make a mistake, even players slip up.

546
00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 2: The King's sorry, The king is infallible. That was a mouthful.

547
00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:50,920
Speaker 3: The King is a pizza, But bet a pizza fed

548
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 3: at home. No free sponsors.

549
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 2: I see, that would be nice job.

550
00:26:56,520 --> 00:27:01,120
Speaker 1: So for you execution, giving me the improv queen, giving

551
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:03,240
Speaker 1: me a lesson, ladies and gentlemen, as I deserve it.

552
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:06,399
Speaker 1: So finally, now that you said you won't give for

553
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:08,560
Speaker 1: any money, he's trying to pretend he's a good father

554
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:13,119
Speaker 1: question mark. But we've already established twice love establishing he

555
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:15,639
Speaker 1: doesn't actually give a crap about his kid's best interest,

556
00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:18,240
Speaker 1: and given that he's the one in charge of his

557
00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:21,040
Speaker 1: son's money, it stands to reason he'd probably expect the

558
00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:23,919
Speaker 1: same even if he didn't. Again, he's only willing to

559
00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:27,320
Speaker 1: be a good dad when that involves taking your money.

560
00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:30,000
Speaker 1: If it involves giving up your money though, oh no,

561
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:32,679
Speaker 1: his kids can go rot for all he cares. And

562
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 1: I guess one last point, because there wasn't enough. He

563
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:38,480
Speaker 1: wanted you to give up providing for your actual child

564
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:42,120
Speaker 1: to provide for his, and even decided to insult your kid.

565
00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:44,920
Speaker 1: So that brings me back to my first point. If

566
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 1: you're in a situation where you had to choose between

567
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:48,240
Speaker 1: a man and your kid.

568
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:49,240
Speaker 2: Who would you choose.

569
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:52,760
Speaker 1: I remember, I was conflicted because you seem like you

570
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:56,240
Speaker 1: choose your kid even before you realize he's in it

571
00:27:56,440 --> 00:28:01,640
Speaker 1: just for the money. Remember, truly manipulative people ever reaching,

572
00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:05,320
Speaker 1: it's just yeah, reaching, leading the witness.

573
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:07,840
Speaker 2: Just too much. It's just the man read it, read.

574
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 1: It goes way too far. Fluffy dog, you're doing too much.

575
00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:12,280
Speaker 1: You need to fluff down a little bit.

576
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:15,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you're a spiky dog, right, you got an

577
00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:18,080
Speaker 2: ear dog with an attitude. You're smart being honestly, I

578
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:19,440
Speaker 2: think that dog needs to be put down.

579
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:23,240
Speaker 1: Wow, I was gonna say, like catnip or something.

580
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:30,280
Speaker 2: Put down with catnip. Bang bang smash, smash, says he

581
00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:32,880
Speaker 2: could ask that bang bang and smash smash that dog.

582
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:35,359
Speaker 2: I tried to help him. I tried.

583
00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:38,480
Speaker 1: Uh, he can ask his son to share his money

584
00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:41,080
Speaker 1: with his sister, or he can provide with some money.

585
00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:42,920
Speaker 2: He is basically asking you to.

586
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:46,120
Speaker 1: Buy your stepdaughter's affection, and you're saying you don't think

587
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:49,280
Speaker 1: it's a good investment with probable returns. There is a

588
00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:52,200
Speaker 1: comment that is normal, thank you, Yes, my god, I

589
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:52,800
Speaker 1: agree with that.

590
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 2: He already tried. He says he already tried.

591
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 1: Step son was furious he's not on good terms with

592
00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:00,200
Speaker 1: his sister, which I think is a little telling, like

593
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:02,400
Speaker 1: he's been so great and he's not on good terms

594
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:04,240
Speaker 1: with his steps with his owns.

595
00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:05,720
Speaker 2: A biological sister.

596
00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 1: Throwaway thirty eight ALSD says, your step son may want

597
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 1: to put a lock on his account if you don't

598
00:29:11,320 --> 00:29:14,640
Speaker 1: have access to stop his dad from transferring money to

599
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:17,440
Speaker 1: the sister behind his back. I wouldn't put it past him,

600
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 1: I agree, just just for safety.

601
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:23,120
Speaker 2: But if that happens, then you would divorce. Yes, but

602
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 2: do you want that? Okay?

603
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 1: So you're saying like it's a tell yeah, and then

604
00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:30,160
Speaker 1: you use that like I honestly like, but then also,

605
00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:31,480
Speaker 1: you risk one hundred grand.

606
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:35,080
Speaker 2: Well, you've already given it away. That's true. I think

607
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 2: I think I think better, I think better than now.

608
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 2: That's a good point, fair point. Yeah, agree, Now you

609
00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 2: change my mind, and.

610
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:46,320
Speaker 1: And please make sure your own will is ironclad. You

611
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:50,920
Speaker 1: would be rewarding bullies if you gave your stepdaughter the cash,

612
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:54,200
Speaker 1: and no, it wouldn't fostering a more positive relationship. Your

613
00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:57,280
Speaker 1: daughter would likely just feel upset that her nemesis is

614
00:29:57,320 --> 00:30:00,959
Speaker 1: being rewarded by her own mom, and it'll damn that relationship.

615
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:03,600
Speaker 1: Don't do that, to which OPI responds, I have no

616
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 1: access to my step son's money. I don't think my

617
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:08,800
Speaker 1: husband would do something like that. But maybe I need

618
00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:10,880
Speaker 1: to tell my step son that he needs to be

619
00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 1: more cautious. Do I even have the right to do that. No,

620
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:18,080
Speaker 1: I do not think you do that. I think anything

621
00:30:18,120 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 1: you you talk to your husband, Yeah, talk to the

622
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 1: talk to your husband. Make sure that I don't. I

623
00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:25,080
Speaker 1: don't agree with that at all. That's getting way too

624
00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:28,240
Speaker 1: much up in the business. And I completely flip flop

625
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:31,200
Speaker 1: my answer to agree with Sam's previous point, which is

626
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:34,320
Speaker 1: literally give continue to give the husband full access. Maybe

627
00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 1: maybe maybe you go to like the master account and

628
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:39,800
Speaker 1: you're like bank or whatever, and you're like, hey, could

629
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 1: you send me a flag if he tries to, like

630
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:47,840
Speaker 1: like an alert, if he tries to like withdraw out.

631
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:50,160
Speaker 1: We have access to it is zero access to it.

632
00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 1: I still think it could. I think it could be

633
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:57,040
Speaker 1: good just to like there. I mean, she would she

634
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 1: would find out. Probably she would.

635
00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 2: She would. I don't think she has to safeguard.

636
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 1: It, That's true. It could be nice though, Like in

637
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 1: a perfect world, she gets this beambing being red flag alert.

638
00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:11,360
Speaker 1: He's trying to withdraw you know, one grand or five

639
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:14,680
Speaker 1: grand or fifty grand from the account. Op is flagged,

640
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:17,280
Speaker 1: and she's able to divorce know that he was going

641
00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:19,240
Speaker 1: to do that, and the stepsun is still able to

642
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:22,280
Speaker 1: use the one hundred grand as he was.

643
00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 3: I don't even know you were yawning. I was just

644
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:25,480
Speaker 3: switching back.

645
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 2: I think if I, if I was in that situation,

646
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:32,480
Speaker 2: I would not tamper with any of it. I would

647
00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:35,000
Speaker 2: just I would just be hands off, fair enough.

648
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 1: But I think I think, ladies and gentlemen, we've got

649
00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:40,000
Speaker 1: we've got some good relevant comments, but we have an update, and.

650
00:31:39,960 --> 00:31:42,920
Speaker 2: I want to jump to that right now. Oh, we're

651
00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:45,320
Speaker 2: going to skip the relevant comments. We've gotten a lot

652
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 2: of relevant comments that we've been reading. Yeah, skip it

653
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:49,920
Speaker 2: and go straight to me update.

654
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:53,360
Speaker 1: So I have now talked to both my husband and stepdaughter,

655
00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:55,080
Speaker 1: so I thought I would share it with you if

656
00:31:55,080 --> 00:31:55,640
Speaker 1: you're interested.

657
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Speaker 2: Uh, we are.

658
00:31:56,760 --> 00:31:59,200
Speaker 1: But before that, I want to say that I'm very

659
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 1: disgusted on, though not surprised, by the amount of people

660
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 1: who actually took a bully's side. What I wrote in

661
00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 1: my first post wasn't just one off incidents at anyone

662
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:12,040
Speaker 1: with more than three brain cells should have understood that.

663
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:14,720
Speaker 1: I wasn't going to write eight years worth of bullying

664
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:17,800
Speaker 1: and bad behavior and one post to convince bully apologists

665
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:21,160
Speaker 1: to understand why I did what I did. Many also

666
00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:24,440
Speaker 1: talked about how we as parents have failed the bully.

667
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:28,160
Speaker 1: I don't know how, since the other children we raised

668
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 1: turned out to be decent human beings with lots of

669
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:34,440
Speaker 1: empathy for others around them. I only wish everyone who

670
00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 1: defends bullies or try to explain away their horrible, life

671
00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 1: scarring behavior that never has heard oh he's been OHP

672
00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:49,440
Speaker 1: needs and deserves therapy to never have had to deal

673
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 1: with one in their or their children's lives and feel

674
00:32:53,720 --> 00:32:56,840
Speaker 1: the pain they can inflict upon others. I do not

675
00:32:57,040 --> 00:32:59,720
Speaker 1: regret any of my actions. I saw my stepdaughter for

676
00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:03,200
Speaker 1: what she was, and I acted instinctively. Her young age

677
00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:06,160
Speaker 1: played little to no role in my decision to protect

678
00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 1: my baby. My daughter was and is still my sole priority.

679
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 1: Onto the update, I decided that I should try to

680
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 1: confront my step daughter directly instead of communicating through my

681
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:19,920
Speaker 1: husband or via text. So I asked her around for tea,

682
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:22,720
Speaker 1: which I think is a good idea. Invite the daughter

683
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:24,600
Speaker 1: to some tea to sit down and.

684
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 2: Just talk, which is what we said to do. Take notes.

685
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:31,360
Speaker 2: I we didn't say tea, but we did what we said,

686
00:33:31,400 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 2: sit down. We said sit down talk.

687
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 1: Basically. She accepted immediately, which was a first. She showed

688
00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:40,280
Speaker 1: up last Sunday. I sat her and my husband down

689
00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:43,640
Speaker 1: and I just bluntly asked her why she would expect

690
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 1: any financial help from me when she hated my guts.

691
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:49,200
Speaker 1: She got defensive and said that she didn't ask me,

692
00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 1: she asked her dad. I mean, I asked her dad

693
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 1: for the one hundred grands.

694
00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 2: But that is fair. Ow, she's a fair point, like

695
00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:01,520
Speaker 2: if she because oh because it's like the husband is

696
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:04,560
Speaker 2: getting mad on his daughter's behalf. It's like, not the daughter.

697
00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:08,239
Speaker 3: That's the thing. The stepdaughter probably went to her dad

698
00:34:08,239 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 3: and was like, hey, my brother got this. Can I

699
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:14,360
Speaker 3: have some financial help? And then he went to op

700
00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:16,160
Speaker 3: and was like can you fund this?

701
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:17,200
Speaker 2: Yeah?

702
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:20,040
Speaker 3: So which, Yeah, doesn't negate that she's.

703
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:23,320
Speaker 1: Still trying to ask for reward for terrible behavior.

704
00:34:23,440 --> 00:34:26,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I think it's also I don't know.

705
00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:30,720
Speaker 2: With that context, I put a little bit more blame

706
00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:31,480
Speaker 2: on the dad.

707
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:35,319
Speaker 1: I agree, I agree. I told her that I knew

708
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:38,800
Speaker 1: she wasn't stupid, and she well knew that steps on

709
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:41,759
Speaker 1: God is gift from me and not their father. She said,

710
00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 1: what's the difference, You're married? So yeah, anyways, I told

711
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:48,840
Speaker 1: her a difference is that my step son treated me

712
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 1: and my daughter as family, while she always hated us,

713
00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:54,280
Speaker 1: bullied her little stepsister even in high school.

714
00:34:54,600 --> 00:34:55,640
Speaker 2: She was shocked here.

715
00:34:55,840 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 1: She didn't know that I had found out about the

716
00:34:58,120 --> 00:34:59,000
Speaker 1: high school bullying.

717
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 2: And I asked.

718
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 1: Her if she would give money to someone she knew

719
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:07,160
Speaker 1: hated her of the amount that she hated me, and

720
00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 1: why then she expected me to do that? She started crying,

721
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 1: that's you know, beautiful.

722
00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, very text buck exposure. Expose like a man in

723
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 2: a trench coat. You just got caught, yep, she shows.

724
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 2: She started crying and apologizing, et cetera, et cetera. I

725
00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 2: told her I wasn't the one she should be apologizing to.

726
00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:33,160
Speaker 2: I told her that I wished her great success and happiness,

727
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:36,560
Speaker 2: but that I wouldn't be helping her financially throughout her education,

728
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:39,799
Speaker 2: which again I agree with that. I agree too.

729
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:42,759
Speaker 1: My husband was silent the whole time when she left.

730
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 1: I told him to never compare our daughters again, making

731
00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:48,759
Speaker 1: my daughter to be the inferior one just because she

732
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:52,839
Speaker 1: just because she wasn't as academically successful as her stepsister.

733
00:35:53,239 --> 00:35:55,360
Speaker 1: I trust my daughter and I want her to be happy,

734
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:58,440
Speaker 1: and if she wants to study in a less prestigious school,

735
00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:02,120
Speaker 1: so be it. Her happiness is the most important thing

736
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:05,400
Speaker 1: to me, and I didn't appreciate him dragging her and

737
00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:08,919
Speaker 1: comparing her to others when none of what happened has

738
00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:11,920
Speaker 1: anything to do with her. He tried to apologize and

739
00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:13,800
Speaker 1: told me he just wanted to help.

740
00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:17,440
Speaker 2: His daughter, which yes, I understand, but you're not going

741
00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:20,399
Speaker 2: to like help your daughter in the long run by

742
00:36:20,560 --> 00:36:22,880
Speaker 2: just giving things that she doesn't deserve. She needs to

743
00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:26,040
Speaker 2: learn a lesson, and you know what's great? She apologized,

744
00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:28,400
Speaker 2: long way to go, but at least that's a step.

745
00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 1: Could you pass me that red flag over there, because

746
00:36:31,560 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 1: I need to do a little bit of a red

747
00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:36,680
Speaker 1: flag waving Q animation.

748
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:40,800
Speaker 2: Uh, Sophia, the husband said, Oh, I just want to

749
00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 2: help my daughter.

750
00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:45,720
Speaker 1: What about your stepdaughter who you should see as your daughter?

751
00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:47,399
Speaker 1: A men?

752
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:51,839
Speaker 2: Go off, King, that's right. I read that subtext, sir.

753
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 2: I'm on it. I'm reading comprehension one hundred percent. Oh,

754
00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 2: Sam and John, they never know how to read. Guess

755
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:05,160
Speaker 2: what we just did in between the colors. We're getting

756
00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 2: into medical school and we got a full scholarship.

757
00:37:09,000 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 1: I am not, but that's okay. Hashtag college dropout?

758
00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:16,240
Speaker 2: Should we do be doo? Uh? I got into college.

759
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:20,839
Speaker 2: I got into college. The second didn't you get a scholarship?

760
00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:26,239
Speaker 1: I got the like basic the scholarship, the bread and

761
00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:27,279
Speaker 1: butter scholarship.

762
00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:29,920
Speaker 2: It was it was you know what it was.

763
00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:34,319
Speaker 1: It's the we're gonna mark up your education by uh

764
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 1: twenty thousand and give you ten thousand because you're still something.

765
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 1: Maybe it wasn't cheap That's all I'm saying.

766
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:42,360
Speaker 2: Anyways, ooop poop poop.

767
00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:45,400
Speaker 1: I lost my play Sophia.

768
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:47,719
Speaker 2: If you can help them grow thanks to the fire

769
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:50,799
Speaker 2: right happiness, the incentive should be I will create a

770
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:53,879
Speaker 2: contract with you, change your behavior, and maintain it. By

771
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:56,520
Speaker 2: the end, I will pay for anything fall off the wagon.

772
00:37:56,640 --> 00:37:58,560
Speaker 2: You have to pay me back. You could do that,

773
00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 2: could you could? But it's also like, when is she

774
00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:03,480
Speaker 2: going to interact with the daughter or she's not going

775
00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 2: to interact with the daughter or her that much? You know?

776
00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:08,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think you could, and I think

777
00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:11,399
Speaker 1: it could work out. Well, I'm just skeptical. It also

778
00:38:11,440 --> 00:38:13,840
Speaker 1: could not. That would be completely fine too. Yeah, I'm

779
00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:16,520
Speaker 1: I am cautious of tying the financials to it for

780
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:20,239
Speaker 1: the possible gold digging perverse incentive behavior A.

781
00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:23,879
Speaker 2: Great vibe, sid We're I love I love perverse incentives.

782
00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:26,600
Speaker 2: But yeah, that I think it's good. I just love

783
00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 2: that set of words together, perverse perverse incentives incentives. Bringing

784
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:32,920
Speaker 2: it back.

785
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:35,800
Speaker 1: I trust my daughter and I want her to be happy,

786
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 1: and if she wants to study a less percentigous school,

787
00:38:37,640 --> 00:38:39,640
Speaker 1: then so be it. Her happiness is the most important

788
00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:41,759
Speaker 1: thing to me, and I didn't appreciate him dragging her

789
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:44,400
Speaker 1: and comparing her to others when none of what happened

790
00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: has anything to do with her. He tried to apologize

791
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:48,439
Speaker 1: and told me he just wanted to help his daughter.

792
00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:51,080
Speaker 1: I told him he's free to do that, however, he wanted,

793
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:54,640
Speaker 1: just not at my daughter's expense. We have been civil

794
00:38:54,680 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 1: to each other ever since, although he's a bit cold

795
00:38:57,080 --> 00:39:01,000
Speaker 1: towards me, but hopefully he's just ashamed of this whole episode.

796
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 1: I will give him some space because honestly I need

797
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:07,280
Speaker 1: some myself to think things over. Thank you for listening,

798
00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 1: and we will close out with these quick relevant comments.

799
00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:13,400
Speaker 1: Woollie Goldfish says, so when's the divorce party? Divorce divorce.

800
00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:15,279
Speaker 1: Start your chats below. I want to read what you

801
00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:18,279
Speaker 1: guys have to say. Opie says, Oh god, I have

802
00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 1: been thinking NonStop about our future together. I don't want

803
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:24,440
Speaker 1: to make any rash decisions while agitated. I think having

804
00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:26,880
Speaker 1: my space is a good start for now. And then

805
00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:29,200
Speaker 1: a few comments just think Opie handled it wrong and

806
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:33,360
Speaker 1: should not have turned her back on the stepdaughter. Opie replies,

807
00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 1: it was my struggling child or her abuser. It was

808
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:38,239
Speaker 1: a very easy choice. I hope you do the same

809
00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:39,839
Speaker 1: for yours, Miley face.

810
00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:43,360
Speaker 2: That is it red flag though that the husband wasn't

811
00:39:43,480 --> 00:39:47,319
Speaker 2: able to change how his daughter was interacting with his

812
00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:50,760
Speaker 2: stepdaughter after this came to light.

813
00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:55,360
Speaker 1: I personally believe because you know, like if I was

814
00:39:55,360 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 1: in his position and my biological daughter is is bullying

815
00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:04,560
Speaker 1: and harassing my wife and stepdaughter, I believe it's kind

816
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:07,759
Speaker 1: of on Yeah, as her like the father of her

817
00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:11,719
Speaker 1: through her whole life, it definitely is to get her

818
00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:12,440
Speaker 1: to not do that.

819
00:40:12,719 --> 00:40:16,760
Speaker 2: It definitely is. I think I think major red flag,

820
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:21,760
Speaker 2: major red flag on the father's side. And I had

821
00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:27,200
Speaker 2: another thought, oh uh in terms of what next steps,

822
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:31,560
Speaker 2: oh he should do? I think yes, space is a

823
00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 2: great a great start totally. Coolly and Samantha l are

824
00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:40,760
Speaker 2: saying divorce. I don't think it's yet time for divorce,

825
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:45,719
Speaker 2: but I think this is very obviously a time for

826
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:50,560
Speaker 2: couple's therapy because there it seems like there is a

827
00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:53,880
Speaker 2: little bit of resentment on both sides and if that

828
00:40:54,040 --> 00:41:01,240
Speaker 2: isn't resolved quick, it could metastasize into something much worse.

829
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:04,879
Speaker 2: And so like nip it in the butt, us nip

830
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 2: it in the bud, but bud, nip into the butt.

831
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:11,680
Speaker 2: I like nip in the butt. It's not nip in

832
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:14,640
Speaker 2: the butt. No, it's nip in the bud. I'm saying,

833
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:17,160
Speaker 2: nip in the butt. Nip the butt is so much funnier.

834
00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:19,480
Speaker 2: I'm sticking with it. I'm just imagining, like like you

835
00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:20,919
Speaker 2: got you really got to nip it in the butt,

836
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:23,480
Speaker 2: where it's just like you're just biting someone the butt.

837
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:24,120
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.

838
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:25,600
Speaker 1: It might be because a grow up in Florida, but

839
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:27,839
Speaker 1: that is that is how I heard it. Yeah, it's

840
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:30,080
Speaker 1: about vision is history. I'm just rolling with it. It's

841
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 1: way better. But yeah, I think I think couple's therapy

842
00:41:33,520 --> 00:41:35,600
Speaker 1: for sure in this situation.

843
00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:36,600
Speaker 2: Yes, I totally.

844
00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 1: Uh, it's space is almost like step zero where it's

845
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:42,440
Speaker 1: like you need a reset and then the the first

846
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:44,920
Speaker 1: like step of action is getting couples therapy to actually

847
00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:47,400
Speaker 1: come together and and work on it. I think it

848
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:51,200
Speaker 1: is salvageable. I'm honestly yeah. In the end, oh, who

849
00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:52,359
Speaker 1: who's the one that said it?

850
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:55,719
Speaker 2: Oh? Oh, suspicious? Can you show up a little bit?

851
00:41:56,239 --> 00:42:00,920
Speaker 1: Suspicious Thoughts eleven says, I think real a whole as

852
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:04,000
Speaker 1: a dad, I think when all the dust settled them,

853
00:42:04,120 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 1: the mom was doing some a whole behavior in the beginning,

854
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:10,279
Speaker 1: came back and was very reasonable and fair and good communicator.

855
00:42:10,480 --> 00:42:12,840
Speaker 1: The stepdaughter was a massive a pole a hole. She

856
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 1: did apologize and it seems like she's on the path

857
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:19,279
Speaker 1: to redemption possibly here. But the the dad is he

858
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 1: is the one I feel like there's no character development.

859
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:25,440
Speaker 1: He is on the shakey, is ground by a landslide

860
00:42:25,440 --> 00:42:29,880
Speaker 1: by the end of the story. And I again, I

861
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 1: think it's possible that they can recover, but I'm I

862
00:42:33,880 --> 00:42:35,399
Speaker 1: I could totally see it also not.

863
00:42:35,400 --> 00:42:39,080
Speaker 2: Working out and him not changing. Oh yeah, but who

864
00:42:39,080 --> 00:42:41,239
Speaker 2: do you think is the a hole? Let us know

865
00:42:41,400 --> 00:42:43,759
Speaker 2: and in the in the chat. But it seems like

866
00:42:43,880 --> 00:42:46,640
Speaker 2: most people are saying don't divorce right, Well, actually it's

867
00:42:46,680 --> 00:42:49,880
Speaker 2: pretty split. Fifty four percent of people are saying couples therapy.

868
00:42:50,040 --> 00:42:55,360
Speaker 1: That is majority, which our audience loves thee in a

869
00:42:55,360 --> 00:42:55,759
Speaker 1: while as well.

870
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'm not going to do it now because

871
00:42:57,200 --> 00:42:59,799
Speaker 2: I don't think this reserve deserves divorce. That's true. But

872
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:03,520
Speaker 2: when it does, just you know, we will be chanting away.

873
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Speaker 2: But yeah, fifty one percent it's gone down the election.

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Speaker 2: Fifty one percent say cup, fifty percent say oh, it's

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Speaker 2: oh wow, it's fifty percent divorce. Okay, all right, what's

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Speaker 2: right now? You guys heard us and you're like, what

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Speaker 2: this can't stand divorce? Fifty okay, fifty one percent couples therapy.

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Speaker 2: So our fifty percent? Wow, you got it? Is it is?

879
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Speaker 2: I think it's just going to keep flip flopping it.

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Speaker 2: It is neck and neck. It is neck and neck.

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Speaker 2: But you know what we're up to our necks and

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Speaker 2: what this next story? And also donations with John reading

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Speaker 2: them while I pull up this next story. That's right?

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Speaker 2: Where am I starting again?

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Speaker 3: Man hatteral Matt.

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Speaker 1: Hattergal, thanks for the ten bucks. To answer John's question

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Speaker 1: about my friend. He is very clueless about girls flirting

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Speaker 1: with him. It took him a few months to notice

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Speaker 1: his wife was flirting with him when they were well

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Speaker 1: there you go.

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Speaker 2: Oh, and really quick, if you have a story about

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Speaker 2: playing favorites with children, or if you felt that as

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Speaker 2: a child there was a favoritism thing and your upbringing,

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Speaker 2: please call in. And also we'd love to hear your

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Speaker 2: thoughts on the story and maybe using some of your

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Speaker 2: experience to navigate. So we'd love to hear do you

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Speaker 2: think couple's therapy or divorce and why go to Riley

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Speaker 2: DM them on the discord so we can bring you

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Speaker 2: up on stage. That's right back to you.

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Speaker 1: Lenka Lashat, thanks for the twenty euros going to bed,

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Speaker 1: but you all will keep me company on my forty

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Speaker 1: four mile ride. Let's freaking go by the way. I'm

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Speaker 1: part of all the armies, Worm, Pigeon, Orange and Protein unite.

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Speaker 1: There there will be a the Is this the story

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Speaker 1: of the great uniter that will bring the four kingdoms

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Speaker 1: together in harmony?

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Speaker 2: Is sira is? That is what's going to happen here?

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Speaker 2: Could be pretty exciting, we might see.

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Speaker 1: But Josephine matelot burg Quist, thanks for the sixty five

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Speaker 1: sk I think Swedish. Is there any option to use

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Speaker 1: the discord to get a story on the show for

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Speaker 1: us outside the US? Also, Worm Army Rise Up, we

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Speaker 1: marchd it. Don Josephine slid from your room Queen first

914
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Speaker 1: and second, yes, to submit a story, just go to

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Speaker 1: our slash Okop show.

916
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Speaker 2: We might change it in the future if we can

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Speaker 2: figure that out.

918
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Speaker 1: But go to our slash Okop show and then take

919
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Speaker 1: that story link after you submit it and put it

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Speaker 1: in our stories channel.

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Speaker 2: What is the channel? Really is the stories channel.

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Speaker 1: Into the stories channel. We want to pull as many

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Speaker 1: stories as.

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Speaker 2: Possible humanly possible. Ideally this show is completely okay story teme.

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Speaker 2: We're we're on the path to doing that.

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Speaker 1: So and and by the way, it works anywhere in

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Speaker 1: the world, So submit it from wherever you are.

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Speaker 2: That I hit all the donos there.

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Speaker 3: You sure did. Sure is also fun fact going back

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Speaker 3: a little bit, because I was trying to say it,

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Speaker 3: when you combine two idioms, that's called a malapore. You

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Speaker 3: were combining bite come back to bite you in the butt.

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Speaker 2: And dip it in the bud all for you know.

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Speaker 2: I can I can hear you, but I have a

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Speaker 2: hard time like.

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Speaker 3: So combined.

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Speaker 2: It makes it so much better when I can see

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Speaker 2: full frames of each person talking when they're talking, like

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Speaker 2: a full frame would be yeah, oh man, I just.

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Speaker 1: I just it's not getting it say, it's not getting

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Speaker 1: any more screen time now.

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Speaker 2: I just feel like I could expand you know, I

943
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Speaker 2: got room exactly and the like when you the more

944
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Speaker 2: you switch, the more dynamic it is. It's just so much.

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Speaker 2: It's yeah, there we go that. Bravo, Sophia, Bravo, Bravo, Bravo,

946
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Speaker 2: that's what I was talking.

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Speaker 1: About as just goingz zoom, Sam zoom, John zoom, Sam zoom,

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Speaker 1: John zoom.

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Speaker 2: But but I think we have a call. I want

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Speaker 2: to talk to him. So who do we got? Who

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Speaker 2: we got or doing? Who? Who's whose? Do we got

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Speaker 2: who we got? We have two hundred and fifty people,

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Speaker 2: that's true, and there's gotta be someone who can comment

954
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Speaker 2: on this story. That's right. Shout out to all y'all

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Speaker 2: members by the way, joining us. We freaking love it.

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Speaker 2: How's she doing? Rond miskilled it that says just got

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Speaker 2: off work in my pj's ready to smoke and relax.

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Speaker 2: Miskilled it sounds like you're killing your night ban life.

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Speaker 2: Here we go.