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Speaker 1: for you. Here. It is Strawberry Letter. Subject, There's no

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Speaker 1: way to bless this mess. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been

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Speaker 1: I attended a very messy church, and if you did

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Speaker 1: he would call you out. I have had a few

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Speaker 1: what I want on my Facebook page and it has

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Speaker 1: nothing to do with him or the church. I'm sure

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Speaker 1: the real problem was the fact that I was sleeping

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Speaker 1: with one of the deacons. But the pastor couldn't say

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Speaker 1: the pastor and I had words, and I cursed him out,

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Speaker 1: and he excommunicated me. I did not care, and I

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Speaker 1: joined a new church, but I was still messing with

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Speaker 1: was real cool with that church. All of us found

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Speaker 1: all uh. I waited a few days, and I called

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Speaker 1: marched right back up to my old church this past Sunday,

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Speaker 1: The horash deacon has found a new church, but all

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Speaker 1: of the other deacons were looking all scared when they

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Speaker 1: saw me after services. Pastor said he would have me

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Speaker 1: the right to do that. I should be able to

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Speaker 1: worship wherever I want to, and this is my church home,

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Speaker 1: no matter how messy it is. What should I do?

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Speaker 1: You want? You want? You want advice from us? From us?

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Speaker 1: You want you want advice? What can we tell you?

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Speaker 1: How can we advise you? You don't even listen to

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Speaker 1: I mean you, you're a pastor and the deacon. You're

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Speaker 1: all just just a mess. That church too. It is crazy.

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Speaker 1: If you're a member of a church, you should at

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Speaker 1: least and you go regularly, you call that at your

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Speaker 1: church home. You should at least be getting something out

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Speaker 1: You you sound like you know you're proud and not

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Speaker 1: the least bit of shame that you're sleeping with a

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Speaker 1: pastor of the church, or that you texted the deacon's

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Speaker 1: naked pictures to the pastor and the other deacons this

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Speaker 1: what are you doing? What are you doing? And you

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Speaker 1: need what would you say, Tommy, that's not godly? They no,

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Speaker 1: absolutely not, absolutely not. I mean you need to stop. Seriously,

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Speaker 1: you really need Jesus. You really need Jesus. You don't

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Speaker 1: And yes, the pastor can ask you not to post

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Speaker 1: you're yeah, I agree technically with what you said, and

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Speaker 1: The whole letter screams of what the hell. Listen, then,

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Speaker 1: Stephen Sherdon, I've been kicked out of my church and

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Speaker 1: what did she do? Well? Then she said it, I

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Speaker 1: want to bring to your attention, sister parnell or who

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Speaker 1: then you said, I'm sure that the real problem is

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Speaker 1: your Facebook page, as I got so much to saying

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Speaker 1: this letter, this whole thing is a mess, and I

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Speaker 1: have a solution for it. All right, Steve, will hang on.

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Speaker 1: We'll be back with part two of your response at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Subject of today's Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: there's no way to bless this mess, and we'll get

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Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters subject There's no

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Speaker 1: But he pastor, that's having the affair that fronts people

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Speaker 1: like I would. He told me that I was the problem. God, dog,

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Speaker 1: we got what hell is going up? You're the problem,

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Speaker 1: sir pastor said he would have me arrested if I

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Speaker 1: Where have y'all worshiped in this entire letter? Unless the

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Speaker 1: name of this church is Sodom and Gomorral twin cities,

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