WEBVTT - Thoughts on seeing a psychic about the dead 0:00:00.520 --> 0:00:03.040 It says, I was wondering if you believe in what 0:00:03.160 --> 0:00:07.760 psychic mediums do? They supposedly, this is parentheses. They supposedly 0:00:07.800 --> 0:00:10.920 connect with people who have passed on and create can 0:00:11.039 --> 0:00:14.800 relate messages from deceased loved ones. Do I believe? Yes, 0:00:14.880 --> 0:00:17.800 I do. I do believe. And when you say you believe, 0:00:17.840 --> 0:00:20.920 you're not saying you endorse. No, you're saying and you 0:00:20.960 --> 0:00:24.080 think that there is something happening yeah, yes, and it 0:00:24.160 --> 0:00:27.000 is not good. Yes, okay, Yes, I believe that there 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:30.760 is something supernatural about some of them. I know that 0:00:31.080 --> 0:00:34.880 there's a million fakes. Well, there's a million frauds. They're 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:39.280 just an artists, they're just tricking. I do believe that 0:00:39.320 --> 0:00:44.720 there's a handful that are actually harnessing a supernatural power. So, yes, 0:00:44.800 --> 0:00:47.720 there is a there's a belief, a non endorsed belief, 0:00:48.720 --> 0:00:53.240 that they are harnessing a supernatural power, and I highly 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:58.480 discourage it. It is highly discouraged in my faith in 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:15.119 Jesus Christ. Chad Warren guests on the podcast Today Reoccurring guests. 0:01:15.480 --> 0:01:18.520 One of my faves, one of the crowds faves. People 0:01:18.560 --> 0:01:21.440 request you now, man, I'm super excited to be here. 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:24.520 Here's what I'll say. It is a lot of fun. 0:01:25.360 --> 0:01:26.920 It is just a lot of fun to come in 0:01:26.959 --> 0:01:29.960 here and I get excited. Well, you have been here. 0:01:30.360 --> 0:01:32.440 We've been chatting for about an hour before we turn 0:01:32.480 --> 0:01:35.760 on the mics, and I always do this, man, you 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:37.720 come in here, we talk for like a solid hour 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:40.160 and we say some really deep stuff. And I think 0:01:40.480 --> 0:01:43.080 this could have been a podcast. This could have been 0:01:43.120 --> 0:01:46.800 a good podcast episode. So we're answering questions today. This 0:01:46.840 --> 0:01:48.920 is what we do a lot of times on this podcast. 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:52.440 If you have anything for me, email Granger Smith Podcast 0:01:52.520 --> 0:01:55.120 at gmail dot com. Could be any kind of question, 0:01:55.480 --> 0:01:57.480 could be a shout out, could be a hey, you 0:01:57.520 --> 0:01:59.280 could just say it's my birthday and I want you 0:01:59.280 --> 0:02:03.960 guys to say birthday. We could do that. These questions 0:02:03.960 --> 0:02:07.120 have been rolling in for about a year now, and 0:02:07.160 --> 0:02:10.480 they are all over the place. We're talking relationship questions, 0:02:10.600 --> 0:02:17.280 life questions, deep questions about God, or questions about football 0:02:17.400 --> 0:02:19.320 or music or I mean, it's all over the place, 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:22.400 and I'm going to dive in, you know me. I 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:25.079 like to start off with a couple of soft pitches here. 0:02:26.480 --> 0:02:28.280 So this first one says, hey you and your my 0:02:28.400 --> 0:02:32.239 name is James, I met you the other night in Lafayette, Louisiana. 0:02:32.720 --> 0:02:34.280 It was great to meet you before the show was 0:02:34.360 --> 0:02:35.840 it was an awesome night. I got to stand in 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:38.000 front on the front row and fish bump you and 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:41.000 get a guitar pick it said. It was great. But 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:43.600 I'm fourteen years old. I want to learn how to 0:02:43.600 --> 0:02:45.840 play guitar. I've wanted to ask you if you have 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:48.400 any tips for learning how to play I already have 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:50.440 a guitar. I just want to learn to play it. 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:54.560 I love your podcast and music. Thanks well, James shout 0:02:54.560 --> 0:02:58.760 out to Louisiana. Thanks for writing in Buddy fourteen. Do 0:02:58.800 --> 0:03:03.480 you play any instruments? I played guitar mandolin, and I 0:03:03.560 --> 0:03:06.799 was forced to take piano lessons back in the day. 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:09.360 But I'm grateful for it because I learned the scales 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:12.440 and kind of note placement and things like that. Do 0:03:12.480 --> 0:03:16.200 you remember how you first started playing for James's sake, 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:23.000 I yes, So we had a classical guitar, Old Gibson, 0:03:23.240 --> 0:03:27.120 and so you learn a lot about kind of yeah 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:31.200 dexterity and fingerpicking and things like that. But I couldn't 0:03:31.240 --> 0:03:33.640 wait to get to a steel string and then eventually 0:03:33.960 --> 0:03:38.280 an electric guitar. Do you remember how the first how 0:03:38.320 --> 0:03:40.360 it first started for you, it was it a book. 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:43.800 For me, it was a book for me, it was lessons. 0:03:43.880 --> 0:03:46.720 It was a guy named Larry. It's out there Larry 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:49.880 and Montana, Larry and Montana, and he talked about himself 0:03:49.920 --> 0:03:54.320 and the third person, Like I remember, we were sitting 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:58.280 in this room, just me and Larry, and we're sitting 0:03:58.280 --> 0:04:00.680 there and I've got my guitar and he's facing me 0:04:00.840 --> 0:04:04.960 and he says, Okay, now Larry's gonna play a g ooh. 0:04:05.200 --> 0:04:10.600 And I was like, it's creepy. Oh you're Larry, got it? Okay. 0:04:10.920 --> 0:04:14.480 It's then he's like, okay, now Larry's gonna do It. 0:04:14.520 --> 0:04:17.839 Was the strangest, but I learned a g chord and 0:04:17.960 --> 0:04:20.080 it was a lot of scales, okay, a lot of 0:04:20.120 --> 0:04:24.960 finger scales. But for me it was I learned. Actually, 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:28.720 you said you're fourteen. I learned at fourteen, and I 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:31.559 pulled the It was because some friends of mine were 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:33.960 playing guitar in middle school and I just thought it 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:35.640 was the coolest thing. So I thought I want to 0:04:35.680 --> 0:04:38.200 do that, and the girls liked it when the guys 0:04:38.200 --> 0:04:40.160 could play guitar, so I thought, that's cool. No girl 0:04:40.160 --> 0:04:42.000 looked at me, so I thought, maybe one will look 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:44.560 at me if I play guitar. So there was one 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:47.560 in my closet for my grandmother. Was actually classical, which 0:04:47.600 --> 0:04:49.560 is great and I and it's kind of the point 0:04:49.560 --> 0:04:51.560 I want to make here in a second. They have 0:04:51.680 --> 0:04:57.119 nylon strings and they don't hurt your fingers as bad 0:04:57.279 --> 0:04:59.880 as the steel strings do. They're a lot softer, right 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:04.000 getting those calluses. Yeah, And it feels like the strings 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:07.520 are further from the neck. Yeah, like they're higher up. 0:05:07.560 --> 0:05:10.200 So you've got to be very intentional about fret placement. 0:05:11.320 --> 0:05:14.400 So I learned there was a book inside the guitar case. 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:17.760 And this was a guitar inside because my grandmother tried 0:05:17.800 --> 0:05:19.640 to play it and didn't put it in our house. 0:05:20.440 --> 0:05:21.680 So there was a book in there and it said 0:05:21.680 --> 0:05:23.800 where to put it had to fretboard and little dots, 0:05:23.839 --> 0:05:26.640 and so I just looked at the page and lined 0:05:26.720 --> 0:05:28.960 up my fingers to where the where the dots were 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:31.080 lined up. And if you do that, all you have 0:05:31.080 --> 0:05:33.120 to do is learn three chords and you could play 0:05:33.120 --> 0:05:35.720 a song essentially just two chords you could play if 0:05:35.760 --> 0:05:39.159 you learn e and a very simple positions E and 0:05:39.200 --> 0:05:41.080 A are the first things I learned, and you could 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:43.880 play a full song just E and A back and forth. 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:47.960 But when you learn three chords and you learn a D, 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:50.680 then you could play a full any song you hear 0:05:50.720 --> 0:05:56.520 on the radio pretty much. But that being said, today 0:05:56.720 --> 0:06:00.200 YouTube is around. YouTube is such a great source for 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:04.680 learning instruments, so you could do it free. You don't 0:06:04.720 --> 0:06:07.080 have to go see Larry and listen to him talking 0:06:07.080 --> 0:06:09.320 with Larry. You could watch YouTube. And I remember a 0:06:09.360 --> 0:06:13.200 big step was I was good at playing as long 0:06:13.240 --> 0:06:17.640 as there was no other things happening, like keeping rhythm 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:20.880 and stand on track, and then learning to play and 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:23.680 sing at the same time. That was a major hurdle 0:06:23.680 --> 0:06:25.080 for me. Yeah, and you don't have to do that 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:28.479 right away. Learn your guitar first, decently, and then you'll 0:06:28.520 --> 0:06:32.040 just want to sing along with the guitar. So you're 0:06:32.080 --> 0:06:34.440 on the right path, James. The first thing that you 0:06:34.560 --> 0:06:36.880 need is you need to want to do it, and 0:06:36.920 --> 0:06:38.680 then you need a guitar, and then and you have 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:42.000 both of that, you're ready. But this is what I 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:43.880 was gonna say earlier though. What you can do though 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:46.279 with your guitar is you could take it to a 0:06:46.320 --> 0:06:49.440 local shop and have them put nylon strings on your 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:53.440 acoustic guitar. And they're gonna think you're crazy. And you say, 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:55.240 Granger Smith told me to do it on a podcast, 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:57.560 but I've done it many times. You could take the 0:06:57.640 --> 0:07:00.760 steel strings off your guitar, replace it with eye on strings, 0:07:00.760 --> 0:07:03.560 and it allows you to play longer periods of time 0:07:03.960 --> 0:07:06.680 without it hurting. Because your your fingers tips right now 0:07:06.680 --> 0:07:09.880 are just soft. They don't have any callouses. So you 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:12.440 don't want that to be to inhibit your learning because 0:07:12.480 --> 0:07:15.600 it hurts that. You don't want that. But right back 0:07:15.640 --> 0:07:19.520 in James to try this out, and and right back in, 0:07:19.680 --> 0:07:25.440 let's get an update from you. Let's go to another question. 0:07:26.040 --> 0:07:28.960 I'm trying to get another. Okay, here we go. Here's 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:32.720 another softball. Hey Grande, this isn't necessarily a podcast question. 0:07:33.720 --> 0:07:35.840 I'm reading it on the podcast. But said, I'm in 0:07:35.880 --> 0:07:38.000 the market for a new smart watch. I saw yours 0:07:38.000 --> 0:07:39.800 on an episode of The Smith of just wondering what 0:07:39.840 --> 0:07:43.720 model it is. I get this question all the time, 0:07:44.240 --> 0:07:46.960 and that people don't realize it's just an Apple watch. 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:50.520 But this is just a wat. You're a commando, right. 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:54.280 It has a case that I got for fourteen dollars 0:07:54.320 --> 0:07:58.120 on Amazon, this little strap, this band, and it's just 0:07:58.400 --> 0:08:02.240 it's strong. It doesn't it protects it more even though 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:06.720 it's cheap. But I love the Apple Watch. It took 0:08:06.760 --> 0:08:09.160 me a while to get in the rhythm of it, 0:08:09.240 --> 0:08:11.280 but once I got in the rhythm of it. The 0:08:11.360 --> 0:08:14.400 alarm is probably my favorite thing. It vibrates so I 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:16.760 can get up before my wife and she doesn't hear 0:08:16.800 --> 0:08:19.120 me get up. She doesn't hear the alarm go off. 0:08:19.960 --> 0:08:23.800 So then I have I have the temperature outside always 0:08:23.840 --> 0:08:27.480 on my face, my watch face, which is great because 0:08:27.560 --> 0:08:30.880 I wake up in a new city and before I 0:08:30.920 --> 0:08:33.000 get dressed, I can be like, oh, it's forty two 0:08:33.000 --> 0:08:37.760 degrees south side. Yeah yeah. And then I also this 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:41.480 face has this and all the Apple Watch faces are free, 0:08:42.000 --> 0:08:44.920 but this one has the ability to see where the 0:08:44.920 --> 0:08:49.959 sun is in the sky, and I could I could 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:52.839 track it like this and go, well, the sun broke. 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:55.600 It broke the horizon at six twenty six this morning, 0:08:56.520 --> 0:08:58.480 and it's going to be it's going to hit the 0:08:58.520 --> 0:09:02.880 horizon again at a twelve PM, which that's probably helpful 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:06.240 for hunting when you know thirty minutes prior to first 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:08.720 light and after. And so the night before you go 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:10.280 on a hunt, you go, what times should I set 0:09:10.320 --> 0:09:12.400 my alarm? We want to be in the blind or 0:09:13.280 --> 0:09:16.079 out in the field wherever you're going, thirty minutes before 0:09:16.080 --> 0:09:20.760 the sun boom the sun comes up. That's nice. Whatever. So, yeah, 0:09:21.400 --> 0:09:23.480 you have smart watch, I don't have it on today. 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:25.600 You usually have the garment, right, I do have the garment. 0:09:25.840 --> 0:09:28.480 And for me it was a I don't need a 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:31.160 smart watch as much as I needed a fitness tracker, 0:09:31.440 --> 0:09:34.520 which it's different. I would say absolutely the Apple is 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:38.640 probably the best smart watch out there, but in terms 0:09:38.640 --> 0:09:42.600 of tracking fitness, it has some Like my wife has 0:09:42.800 --> 0:09:45.680 an Apple Watch, and so we'll both do a workout 0:09:45.760 --> 0:09:50.520 and I'm tracking heart rate, intermittent heart rate, respiratory. I 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:53.640 can track all kinds of things and see stats for 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:56.560 days on Like I remember going for a run and 0:09:56.600 --> 0:09:58.360 it told me that I spent more time on my 0:09:58.480 --> 0:10:01.400 left foot than on my right foot, So all kinds 0:10:01.440 --> 0:10:04.559 of cool things. My wife and I do the same workout. 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:08.280 We finish and maybe it's a fifteen minute workout, it 0:10:08.360 --> 0:10:10.840 says that she's only been active for like a minute 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:14.680 and a half. Interesting, and she does the whole Apple 0:10:14.760 --> 0:10:19.439 fit the little circles. So I think Apple's an incredible 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:22.720 smart watch, but I think there are better fitness trackers. 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:24.680 So it depends on what your goal is. And I've 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:27.440 had a garment before. Parker actually wears it now, but 0:10:28.080 --> 0:10:30.400 it's also it just it's the best in the field 0:10:30.480 --> 0:10:37.880 for GPS. So if you're hiking, altitude, perimetric pressure, snow skiing, 0:10:37.960 --> 0:10:41.600 anything in the mountains, garmin corners of the market, they 0:10:41.600 --> 0:10:46.960 are the best. Apple is going to depend on your 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:51.800 cell service, and the garment depends on the satellite. It 0:10:51.800 --> 0:10:54.600 picks up the satellites, so doesn't need to sell tower 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:58.040 at all. Are you ready to get into this? Those 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:03.720 are nice just one of soft on ramps into are 0:11:03.720 --> 0:11:06.440 we Getting Crazy? Series? I'm not going, well, you're gonna 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:08.640 pick oh, this is what we do. This is kind 0:11:08.640 --> 0:11:11.480 of a newer development when I first started, not that 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:15.360 I'm like a seasoned vet. So let me say a 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:19.079 couple of things. One, when you email Grangersmith Podcast at 0:11:19.080 --> 0:11:22.000 gmail dot com. Try you don't have to, but please 0:11:22.040 --> 0:11:26.760 try to make it readable and shorter. If it's a novel, 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:29.080 it's really hard to put on the podcast. And the 0:11:29.120 --> 0:11:31.360 second thing is. Please don't send them twice. I know 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:33.320 that a lot of you guys I could recognize some 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:35.600 mover names, are sending it multiple times in hopes that 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:38.560 you know you're going to just put another ball in 0:11:38.600 --> 0:11:44.199 the in the bingo and the hopper hopper. So please 0:11:44.240 --> 0:11:46.920 don't do that because it messes me up a little bit. 0:11:47.120 --> 0:11:50.840 I put everybody's email in the queue, so don't worry 0:11:50.920 --> 0:11:53.520 if you haven't heard it yet, it's just in the queue. 0:11:54.040 --> 0:11:58.960 So here's a couple for you. Chad, Hey, Granger needs 0:11:58.960 --> 0:12:06.000 some advice. Two light questions of faith and music. No 0:12:06.240 --> 0:12:11.360 real friends, psychic mediums, going against the grain, any of 0:12:11.360 --> 0:12:15.400 those pop out? Didn't Garth Brooks have a song going 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:19.199 against the Grain? Yeah, folks call me the Maverick. It was. 0:12:19.360 --> 0:12:22.920 It was the name of the album against the Grain. Okay, 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:26.520 let's see here. Well we've talked a lot about that. 0:12:26.800 --> 0:12:30.160 I'm sorry it was not that wasp win and out. 0:12:30.280 --> 0:12:32.319 The song was called against Have you ever had Garth 0:12:32.320 --> 0:12:34.920 on this I no, I have not know we should 0:12:34.960 --> 0:12:38.360 have him on here, Yeah I don't. I don't think 0:12:38.360 --> 0:12:40.240 Garth would do good on this podcast. He'd be too 0:12:40.320 --> 0:12:45.160 nice to everybody. Yeah, he's he's agree You've never met everybody. 0:12:45.160 --> 0:12:51.680 He seems like he's very agreeable. Really, yeah, that's fun anything. 0:12:52.080 --> 0:12:54.000 So in order to be good on this podcast, you 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:57.240 kind of have to You gotta be a little You 0:12:57.240 --> 0:13:00.400 gotta ruffle some feathers. Not necessarily, but you know me 0:13:00.480 --> 0:13:03.559 and you you're you're straight up. You have to be honest. 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:05.440 You want to be honest here, Yeah around a campfire. 0:13:05.559 --> 0:13:08.840 You can't always you can't always be butterflies and bunnies. 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:11.360 We have to read against the grain now, Okay, because 0:13:11.400 --> 0:13:13.640 we brought it up, says Hey Granger, just recently started 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:16.000 to find out about you and your company and your music, 0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:19.760 and I cannot be happier to have found you. Thank you. 0:13:20.080 --> 0:13:22.040 So my name is Sam. I'm nineteen years old. I'm 0:13:22.040 --> 0:13:25.120 from a small city in Massachusetts. My question to you 0:13:25.440 --> 0:13:29.160 is going against the grain or finding your own path? 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:33.280 Is it worth it? Because everyone I know from my 0:13:33.360 --> 0:13:35.600 school went to college and wants to be a plumber, 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:37.680 and I want to be a plumber. Do you have 0:13:37.720 --> 0:13:42.040 any advice? So everyone in your school is going to college, 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:43.920 but you want to go against the grain and not 0:13:44.000 --> 0:13:46.559 go to college and be a plumber. I mean that 0:13:48.400 --> 0:13:50.520 I don't see anything wrong with being a plumber. That 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:55.240 the plumbers make really good money and are in high demand. Yes, 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:59.319 especially today. You're always glad when you need a plumber 0:13:59.520 --> 0:14:03.160 and there's a plumber available, and you're always liked, especially 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:08.720 doing that ice storm. Yeah yeah, dude, Yeah, Sam. What's 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:12.320 awesome about this email is that you already know what 0:14:12.400 --> 0:14:15.320 you want to do, and probably most of your friends 0:14:15.360 --> 0:14:17.400 that are going to college don't know yet, and so 0:14:17.480 --> 0:14:20.280 that that's the default is going to college, which is 0:14:20.280 --> 0:14:21.680 a good thing. If you don't know what to do, 0:14:23.960 --> 0:14:26.080 get some more education and you'll figure it out in 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:29.200 the way. You want to be a plumber, dude, I 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:33.800 think I think that's awesome. You could also go to 0:14:33.840 --> 0:14:36.560 some kind of tech school for plumbing, right, Yeah, And 0:14:37.040 --> 0:14:39.600 it's probably like a journeyman or some sort of kind 0:14:39.640 --> 0:14:42.280 of process where you study and train, and I mean, 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:44.720 I don't know, but it seems like if you think 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:46.840 about why most of the people are wanting to go 0:14:46.880 --> 0:14:48.760 to college, it's so that they can figure out what 0:14:48.800 --> 0:14:51.160 they want to be when they grow up. Right, If 0:14:51.160 --> 0:14:53.960 you already know that, you save a ton of time 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:58.960 and money. My nephew has decided he's in his senior year. 0:14:59.040 --> 0:15:00.800 I think he's going into a year of high school. 0:15:00.800 --> 0:15:03.960 He's already decided he wants to be an electrician. His 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:06.840 sisters both went to college, but he's just like, you 0:15:06.840 --> 0:15:09.120 know what, I just I want to be an electrician 0:15:09.360 --> 0:15:12.760 and he loves it. So he's already started right now 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:17.720 in high school working with a local electrician and getting experience, 0:15:17.760 --> 0:15:19.680 and he just loves it. And he's going to save 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:22.360 a ton of time and money and just get going 0:15:22.440 --> 0:15:24.600 making a difference in the world through being an electrician. 0:15:24.640 --> 0:15:26.480 I think you can do the same thing, absolutely said. 0:15:26.520 --> 0:15:29.640 My question is my question to you, is going against 0:15:29.640 --> 0:15:31.560 the grain or finding your own path worth it? Yes? 0:15:32.040 --> 0:15:34.800 For you? Yes, not always. If you're talking about painting 0:15:34.800 --> 0:15:37.400 your fingernails black, i'd probably said hump the brakes a 0:15:37.400 --> 0:15:39.800 little bit. But yeah, it's like, what's your what's your 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:41.440 end game? Yeah? You do? You want to go a gett? 0:15:41.480 --> 0:15:46.040 Your end game is right? Yeah? How about I just 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:49.360 pulled this one up lost at seventeen. Yeah, Hey, Grangeer, 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:52.160 I'm a seventeen year old from New Hampshire's currently taking 0:15:52.200 --> 0:15:55.120 my ged I have very big goals for my life, 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:56.760 but I don't know how to get to where I 0:15:56.800 --> 0:15:58.960 want to be. Do you have any advice on how 0:15:59.000 --> 0:16:02.520 to chase your dream? Is there any advice on how 0:16:02.560 --> 0:16:05.480 to just feel like I'm doing right by myself and 0:16:05.480 --> 0:16:08.600 by my family. I want to feel like I'm making 0:16:08.680 --> 0:16:11.800 myself and my family proud. I love the podcast and 0:16:11.800 --> 0:16:17.560 the music. Sincerely a Lost Teenager. There's definitely like three 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:22.400 questions in there. There's you know, how do you achieve 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:27.520 a goal? And then doing right by your family or 0:16:29.280 --> 0:16:32.760 honoring your family and their reputation. It's great that he 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:36.600 cares about that. Yeah, you're not so lost, buddy. You 0:16:36.680 --> 0:16:39.960 might feel lost, but you're writing emails like you're on 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:42.720 a really good track here. You're asking the right questions, 0:16:42.760 --> 0:16:47.400 which is a great starting place. I want to start 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:51.800 this by just saying it's seventeen. There's just a lost 0:16:51.840 --> 0:16:55.920 feeling that just goes with that being seventeen, because you're 0:16:55.920 --> 0:16:59.960 coming out of adolescence and into manhood. So anytime you're 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:02.720 making that transition out of adolescence and in the manhood, 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:07.080 you're going to feel like you're in uncharted waters. You're 0:17:07.119 --> 0:17:10.359 in a new territory here. And when you're in uncharted waters, 0:17:10.359 --> 0:17:14.240 what do you feel a little bit lost. So there 0:17:14.359 --> 0:17:16.560 is a natural feeling like if you were saying this 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:20.520 and you were forty or thirty five, we've got a 0:17:20.560 --> 0:17:23.080 deeper issue of being lost at thirty five, but lost 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:26.920 at seventeen is kind of normal. So if anyone's let 0:17:26.920 --> 0:17:30.320 me say this too. A lot of people write similar questions, 0:17:30.359 --> 0:17:32.960 and so if you don't hear your specific question answered, 0:17:33.760 --> 0:17:35.840 you're gonna find yourself in some of these. And there's 0:17:35.840 --> 0:17:39.560 a lot of lost teenagers that email this podcast, and 0:17:39.600 --> 0:17:41.639 I could kind of speak to all that by saying, 0:17:42.200 --> 0:17:47.160 if you're fifteen through nineteen and you're feeling lost, don't 0:17:47.200 --> 0:17:53.239 worry right now, don't worry. That's pretty natural. Yeah, And 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:58.200 I would say that, you know, for for guys especially, 0:17:59.000 --> 0:18:01.040 we put a lot of phasis on what we do 0:18:02.160 --> 0:18:06.679 and how that relates to our value. Right if my occupation, 0:18:06.880 --> 0:18:10.480 my career, if I've made a name for myself, how 0:18:10.480 --> 0:18:15.119 I know what I'm able to contribute to society, And 0:18:15.119 --> 0:18:17.520 there's a lot of there's a lot of value placed 0:18:17.560 --> 0:18:19.240 on that, and we got to be careful that we 0:18:19.280 --> 0:18:21.840 don't find our identity in that or our actual value 0:18:21.840 --> 0:18:24.120 as a human being in what we do. Then where 0:18:24.119 --> 0:18:27.480 do you see that social media, you see that that 0:18:27.960 --> 0:18:32.240 value placement happened through social media where you see that 0:18:32.320 --> 0:18:36.440 guy is doing this and he is successful. I'm doing 0:18:36.480 --> 0:18:41.040 this and I'm not. I'm lesser value right, And even 0:18:41.080 --> 0:18:44.000 like when you meet somebody new, you're like, hey, my 0:18:44.119 --> 0:18:46.000 name is so and so what do you do? The 0:18:46.119 --> 0:18:49.200 question is what is your occupation? There's an association when 0:18:49.200 --> 0:18:51.520 you first meet somebody that I can fill in the 0:18:51.560 --> 0:18:53.840 blanks about who they are based on what they do, 0:18:53.920 --> 0:18:56.680 and I think that's a danger. So at the age 0:18:56.680 --> 0:19:01.040 of seventeen, the questions I think you're asking good questions 0:19:01.400 --> 0:19:05.520 to kind of dial in on your goals, whether they're 0:19:05.680 --> 0:19:08.600 appropriate goals, honoring family, those kind of things come out 0:19:08.640 --> 0:19:12.640 of figuring out kind of what you're wired to do. 0:19:13.040 --> 0:19:19.440 So you're going to assess passion, skills, opportunities, maybe what 0:19:19.480 --> 0:19:21.439 you've been equipped with or trained with, or what you 0:19:21.520 --> 0:19:24.679 find yourself doing anyway, what people around you affirm that 0:19:24.720 --> 0:19:29.840 you're good at, and what resources you have. Those all 0:19:29.880 --> 0:19:34.800 are going to play a role in setting trajectory, identifying goal, 0:19:35.240 --> 0:19:37.760 and you'll also identify are their other things you know, 0:19:37.800 --> 0:19:40.920 as you look towards that end goal that you need 0:19:41.359 --> 0:19:44.800 to make sure are in the picture, and you're asking 0:19:45.560 --> 0:19:50.439 any advice on how to do right by myself and 0:19:50.440 --> 0:19:52.560 by my family. I just want to feel like I'm 0:19:52.560 --> 0:19:56.760 making myself and my family proud. So that's going to 0:19:56.800 --> 0:20:03.280 relate always back to work, ethic, integrity, honesty. These are 0:20:03.359 --> 0:20:08.600 core moral values that Christians find in the Bible. And 0:20:09.680 --> 0:20:12.000 where are you? Where's your moral compass? Where are you 0:20:12.160 --> 0:20:17.320 basing your being right? Doing right? What does that word 0:20:17.480 --> 0:20:19.280 mean to you? Is something you're going to think about 0:20:19.320 --> 0:20:22.920 at seventeen. That's it's a great thing to think about. 0:20:23.600 --> 0:20:27.159 What is right? What is right? Now? I'm going to 0:20:27.240 --> 0:20:31.840 tell you that that right is being honest, making an 0:20:31.880 --> 0:20:40.160 honest living, working hard, treating others right, good, treating others well, 0:20:40.520 --> 0:20:43.640 you know, treating others as you would want yourself treated. 0:20:44.600 --> 0:20:46.960 You do that, it doesn't matter how much money you make, 0:20:47.040 --> 0:20:49.520 It doesn't matter your career status, doesn't matter how many 0:20:49.520 --> 0:20:52.200 followers you have on Facebook. If you're doing that, then 0:20:52.520 --> 0:20:55.320 that's how you answer your question making yourself and your 0:20:55.359 --> 0:20:59.360 family proud. Your family is proud of you because you're 0:20:59.359 --> 0:21:02.919 a good kid. You're honest, you work hard, you're passionate, 0:21:03.320 --> 0:21:05.320 you are a man of integrity, those are things that 0:21:05.359 --> 0:21:08.560 your family goes Yeah, very proud of my son, right Yeah. 0:21:08.560 --> 0:21:10.879 And what's cool about what you're saying is it doesn't 0:21:10.920 --> 0:21:15.120 matter what your occupation or what you're actually doing. It's 0:21:15.160 --> 0:21:18.919 how you're doing it that represents and reflects on your family. 0:21:19.160 --> 0:21:22.160 And it's honesty, integrity, you know, doing what you're saying 0:21:22.160 --> 0:21:25.640 you're going to do, showing up on time, like completing 0:21:25.680 --> 0:21:27.960 the task, maybe going above and beyond, Like these are 0:21:27.960 --> 0:21:30.159 things that regardless of what you put your hand to, 0:21:31.040 --> 0:21:32.959 it's the how you do it that's going to make 0:21:32.960 --> 0:21:34.760 it matter what you do, it's how you do it. 0:21:34.880 --> 0:21:37.680 I love that chat. I think of myself sometimes every 0:21:37.720 --> 0:21:40.720 once in a while drive by like burger King, and 0:21:40.760 --> 0:21:44.000 the stop pops in my head, like kind I kind 0:21:44.000 --> 0:21:45.960 of want to work there. I kind of want to 0:21:46.000 --> 0:21:51.240 work there in the kitchen, just to see how I 0:21:51.280 --> 0:21:54.800 could move up in the chain of burger king. And 0:21:54.960 --> 0:21:57.840 that means just what Chad said, showing up on time 0:21:57.880 --> 0:22:01.760 to burger king, make an impression with the manager, making 0:22:01.880 --> 0:22:06.280 every burger perfect, you know, doing the job that you're 0:22:06.320 --> 0:22:11.040 supposed to do really well, taking pride and making that 0:22:11.080 --> 0:22:16.200 burger and and cleaning up your area and being nice 0:22:16.200 --> 0:22:19.280 to customers, being in a good mood. And it's so 0:22:19.400 --> 0:22:21.600 interesting to think that if you did all of those 0:22:21.640 --> 0:22:24.440 things day by day by day, how long it would 0:22:24.480 --> 0:22:26.520 take you to become manager, and then how long it 0:22:26.520 --> 0:22:29.920 would take you to be a regional manager and maybe 0:22:29.960 --> 0:22:33.720 own a franchise or two. It's an interesting thought. You're 0:22:33.720 --> 0:22:36.120