1 00:00:02,200 --> 00:00:05,000 Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if 2 00:00:05,000 --> 00:00:08,640 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:09,080 --> 00:00:13,200 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com 4 00:00:13,240 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 1: and we could be reading your letter live on the air, 5 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:18,159 Speaker 1: just like we're going to read this one. See that 6 00:00:18,360 --> 00:00:20,639 Speaker 1: here that uh huh right here, right now, it could 7 00:00:20,640 --> 00:00:25,680 Speaker 1: be yours. You never know, oh right, buckle up and 8 00:00:25,680 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you, Strawberry. I'm 9 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:34,240 Speaker 1: still thinking about my prank. I'm sorry, Strawberry Letter, Thank you. 10 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:38,480 Speaker 1: Nep subject he's in a situationship with his wife. Dear 11 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:41,320 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty six year old single woman 12 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:44,480 Speaker 1: and I'm dating a man that has been separated from 13 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 1: his wife for four years, but they are not divorced. 14 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 1: He lives in their family home and she's moved out. 15 00:00:52,479 --> 00:00:54,560 Speaker 1: I asked him why his wife was the one to 16 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 1: move out of their home, and he said because she 17 00:00:57,080 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 1: cheated on him and ended up moving in with the 18 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:03,720 Speaker 1: I I was afraid to sleep over at his house 19 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:06,360 Speaker 1: for the first few months, but he assured me that 20 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:09,840 Speaker 1: his marriage was over. I eventually got a key to 21 00:01:09,959 --> 00:01:13,040 Speaker 1: the house and then he gave me my own drawer 22 00:01:13,200 --> 00:01:16,400 Speaker 1: for my pajamas and a few personal things so I 23 00:01:16,440 --> 00:01:19,720 Speaker 1: could stay over all right, I assumed we were in 24 00:01:19,720 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 1: a real relationship, and I trusted him well. For MLK 25 00:01:23,440 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 1: holiday weekend, he had a house party and I got 26 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:28,960 Speaker 1: to meet a lot of his friends. I found out 27 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:31,160 Speaker 1: near the end of the night that his wife was 28 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:34,160 Speaker 1: there when one of his male friends joked about how 29 00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:36,320 Speaker 1: cool it was for me and the wife to be 30 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 1: at the same party. I asked my man where his 31 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 1: wife was, and he says she was lying down in 32 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:44,240 Speaker 1: their guests room because she had had too much to drink. 33 00:01:44,880 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 1: I went to check, and sure enough, there she was. 34 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:51,360 Speaker 1: I spent the night to make sure no funny business happened, 35 00:01:51,600 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: and it turned out to be the best and worst 36 00:01:55,160 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 1: night of my life. My boyfriend and I were asleep 37 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:01,760 Speaker 1: and his wife came and got in the bed with us. 38 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:05,280 Speaker 1: She had showered and she was smelling like lavender, with 39 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:09,400 Speaker 1: buttery smooth skin. She started in on me first, and 40 00:02:09,800 --> 00:02:13,920 Speaker 1: granted we all had had a little too much to drink, 41 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:17,320 Speaker 1: but I knew what I was doing. My boyfriend handled 42 00:02:17,320 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 1: both of us like a pro. I'd never experienced such pleasure. 43 00:02:22,040 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 1: It's happened twice since then, But now I want them 44 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 1: all to myself. He said, he and his wife have 45 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:33,840 Speaker 1: a situation ship, but he loves me. Is our relationship ruined? Now? Well, 46 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 1: I'll answer it this way. That did take an unexpected turn, now, 47 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:41,120 Speaker 1: didn't it. I was not expecting that, and I was 48 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:45,120 Speaker 1: wondering why after four years they still weren't divorced. Well, 49 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: I guess I have my answer. I guess we all 50 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:49,639 Speaker 1: have our answer, because this is who they are and 51 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:54,320 Speaker 1: what they do. Why bringing the ugliness of divorce into 52 00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:57,519 Speaker 1: all of this. Let's have our cake and eat it too. 53 00:02:57,960 --> 00:03:00,400 Speaker 1: They just have to find someone who would go along 54 00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:03,120 Speaker 1: with it. Looks like they may have found that in you. 55 00:03:03,840 --> 00:03:06,520 Speaker 1: Why wouldn't they think it's you since they've done you 56 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 1: twice already? And I don't see them divorcing each other 57 00:03:10,240 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 1: because this is such a great arrangement. Unless you're planning 58 00:03:14,200 --> 00:03:17,799 Speaker 1: on this being your lifestyle, I think you better get 59 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:21,160 Speaker 1: out of this threesome asap. And if you don't already, 60 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:24,040 Speaker 1: know you're never gonna have him all to yourself because 61 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 1: the wife is always gonna be there. How, how how 62 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 1: is this for you? What are you getting out of this? 63 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: Situation ship. You're getting nothing out of this. He says 64 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:37,240 Speaker 1: he loves you, but he's still with his wife. They're 65 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 1: not divorced. This is craziness. Yeah, I would say the 66 00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:45,360 Speaker 1: relationship is ruined. Tommy. What you got? Oh my god? 67 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:52,920 Speaker 1: Oh this is heaven right. You are killing me, lady, Oh, Mark, 68 00:03:53,120 --> 00:03:56,200 Speaker 1: it bothers me when y'all you get something. You got 69 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:58,680 Speaker 1: a good thing, and don't know you've got a good thing. 70 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 1: What he's saying, he love you? What you? What are 71 00:04:01,560 --> 00:04:07,040 Speaker 1: you tripping about? What is it? He ain't gonna cheat 72 00:04:07,080 --> 00:04:09,520 Speaker 1: on you if you if you're letting the white sneak 73 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 1: in the bed, y'all dare together. He's not cheating on you. 74 00:04:13,160 --> 00:04:16,760 Speaker 1: That's it's y'all in this together. Make me understand what 75 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:19,880 Speaker 1: are you upset about? You said it was the best 76 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:24,240 Speaker 1: you have ever had, and now you not what what's if? 77 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:27,320 Speaker 1: It's the best, the best? Why do you want to 78 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:29,640 Speaker 1: why you want to miss that out? You got the best? 79 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:35,360 Speaker 1: Stop tripping, get in there and do your heart. Y'all family, Now, 80 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:41,120 Speaker 1: y'all family, this is so selfish of you to not 81 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:44,480 Speaker 1: partake in something that what you say the best you've 82 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:48,880 Speaker 1: ever had, you ain't never ever had nobody coming there 83 00:04:48,920 --> 00:04:53,120 Speaker 1: smelling like lavender and buttery skin. You ain't never had 84 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:57,200 Speaker 1: that before. Okay, I understand why it's the best. Why 85 00:04:57,279 --> 00:05:01,320 Speaker 1: are you tripping and joy the The man is being 86 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:04,440 Speaker 1: open and honest with you. This is something that, honestly, 87 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:07,040 Speaker 1: how but it is the best you've ever had. I'm 88 00:05:07,080 --> 00:05:09,160 Speaker 1: gonna tell you something, everything that's ever happened to me. 89 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:11,360 Speaker 1: When it's the best I've ever had, I keep going 90 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:13,240 Speaker 1: back to it. I don't understand why you want to 91 00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:17,200 Speaker 1: mess this up, Jay, why it's the best and worst? 92 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:21,360 Speaker 1: You forgot words, Jay, what you got? Jake? I agree 93 00:05:21,360 --> 00:05:23,880 Speaker 1: with you, Timmy. This man has gone out of his 94 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 1: way to show you that he cares. He's done. He's 95 00:05:28,839 --> 00:05:31,880 Speaker 1: done something in this relationship that a lot of people 96 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:36,279 Speaker 1: were just overlooking. He gave you your own drawer and 97 00:05:36,600 --> 00:05:43,040 Speaker 1: closet space. Preach when a man does that, when a man, 98 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:47,240 Speaker 1: When a man gives you closet space, you're in there. 99 00:05:47,680 --> 00:05:51,200 Speaker 1: You have nothing to worry about. That means when you 100 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:54,880 Speaker 1: were hanging your things up, you come back, they will 101 00:05:54,920 --> 00:05:59,720 Speaker 1: still be there. You have your own special drawer. Come on, you, 102 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 1: but your own drawer? What? What the hell? Your own 103 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: little drawer that's yours that you can put your stuff 104 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:14,800 Speaker 1: in and nobody's gonna touch it. I don't know. I 105 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 1: don't know why you don't see the love, because it's 106 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:29,479 Speaker 1: then they don't get good. You can start, Junior, but 107 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:33,240 Speaker 1: but we'll wait. We'll hold your ant, hold your response. Okay, 108 00:06:33,279 --> 00:06:37,880 Speaker 1: all right, listen. The subject of the strawberry letter is 109 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 1: he's in a situationship with his wife. We've heard the 110 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:45,279 Speaker 1: ignorance from Tommy and Jay coming back. It's gonna be 111 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:49,320 Speaker 1: Junior with his response in twenty three minutes after the hour. 112 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:52,120 Speaker 1: He's in a situationship with his wife. We'll get back 113 00:06:52,160 --> 00:06:56,839 Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening to morning show. 114 00:06:57,560 --> 00:07:00,120 Speaker 1: All right, it is time to recap the strawberry let. 115 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:03,760 Speaker 1: The subject he's in a situationship with his wife. Thirty 116 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:07,040 Speaker 1: six year old single woman wrote this letter. She's dating 117 00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:10,080 Speaker 1: a man that's been separated from his wife for four 118 00:07:10,160 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 1: years and now they've just been separated, not divorced. He 119 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:17,760 Speaker 1: lives in the family home. The wife moved out. Why 120 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:22,120 Speaker 1: did she move out because she cheated and she moved 121 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 1: in with the man she cheated with. Okay, so the woman, 122 00:07:26,480 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 1: thirty six year old writer of the letter, was a 123 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 1: little hesitant about moving in with the man, but he 124 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 1: gave her a drawer. As Jay pointed out earlier, he 125 00:07:35,200 --> 00:07:37,560 Speaker 1: gave her a drawer, So I guess that means something 126 00:07:37,600 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 1: if a man gives you a drawer a lot. So 127 00:07:40,240 --> 00:07:44,080 Speaker 1: she started. She started sleeping over at the house and everything. 128 00:07:44,520 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 1: So they had a big house party MLK weekend and 129 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:50,080 Speaker 1: she got a chance. The woman did to meet a 130 00:07:50,080 --> 00:07:52,080 Speaker 1: lot of his friends, and one of them just happened 131 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:54,520 Speaker 1: to say, Wow, isn't it cool that you can be 132 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:57,560 Speaker 1: here and his wife could be here? And she's like what, 133 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:00,880 Speaker 1: So she asked her man about it. He said, she's 134 00:08:00,920 --> 00:08:03,160 Speaker 1: in the guest room sleeping because she had too much 135 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:06,320 Speaker 1: to drink. So the woman wanted to spend the night 136 00:08:07,080 --> 00:08:09,560 Speaker 1: to make sure no funny business between the husband and 137 00:08:09,600 --> 00:08:12,480 Speaker 1: wife happened. But she got a whole lot more than 138 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:15,680 Speaker 1: she bargained for. She spent the night with the husband 139 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:19,760 Speaker 1: the woman. The wife came in, did her the husband 140 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:22,280 Speaker 1: it was. It turned out to be a threesome. She said, 141 00:08:22,280 --> 00:08:25,720 Speaker 1: it was the best and worst night of her life. Tommy, 142 00:08:25,880 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 1: but now they did it a few times, but now 143 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 1: she just wants the man all to himself. He says 144 00:08:31,760 --> 00:08:34,680 Speaker 1: he's in a situationship with his wife. He loves her, 145 00:08:35,160 --> 00:08:38,000 Speaker 1: but she wants to know what's the relationship ruined? Junior? 146 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:40,960 Speaker 1: What's you got? You heard from Tommy and Jay who 147 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 1: said that she's being selfish? Best ever? I can see 148 00:08:46,720 --> 00:08:50,079 Speaker 1: why she rode in. You got the righteous body? You 149 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:52,559 Speaker 1: gotta run just by somebody, because I know it is 150 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:55,280 Speaker 1: because you can't believe either, and we can't either. I 151 00:08:55,440 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 1: know you've been talking to yourself the whole time this 152 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:01,840 Speaker 1: is going on. You've been like he just me a key, 153 00:09:01,920 --> 00:09:04,600 Speaker 1: I you know, good waiter minute, Wait a minute, and 154 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:07,160 Speaker 1: waiter man? And so why is you complaining I'm with 155 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:09,520 Speaker 1: the fella he I know you have to talk this 156 00:09:09,679 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 1: to somebody because you couldn't believe it. Like when he 157 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:14,880 Speaker 1: said you can spend the night, I can spend the 158 00:09:15,000 --> 00:09:17,320 Speaker 1: night roll away for a hold on, wait a minute, 159 00:09:17,320 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 1: where is your wife? Because I know the whole time 160 00:09:20,559 --> 00:09:23,520 Speaker 1: you're talking to yourself. What you mean she here today? 161 00:09:23,640 --> 00:09:26,760 Speaker 1: Because by now I'm supposed to get my ass whooped. 162 00:09:26,920 --> 00:09:29,559 Speaker 1: This is supposed to be. This is supposed to be 163 00:09:29,920 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 1: somebody's supposed to tear the covers off of me. Why 164 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:35,000 Speaker 1: is his heath a closing this closet? Y'all know, you've 165 00:09:35,040 --> 00:09:37,840 Speaker 1: been talking to yourself the whole time, like, did she 166 00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:42,360 Speaker 1: just touch me with lavender? I don't know. This is 167 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:44,880 Speaker 1: not supposed to be happening. So why is you complaining? 168 00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:47,600 Speaker 1: You didn't made it through six ass whooping attempts and 169 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:50,360 Speaker 1: you're still breathing. You just need to go ahead take it. 170 00:09:50,920 --> 00:09:55,120 Speaker 1: Why you're good, You're fine, there's nothing you You have 171 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:57,199 Speaker 1: a situation where you ain't got to worry about him 172 00:09:57,240 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 1: that much because he's still married, Like his name is 173 00:09:59,520 --> 00:10:02,000 Speaker 1: still on the word. So she come in and make breakfast. 174 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 1: Understand you're getting eggs too. What are you complain about? 175 00:10:05,600 --> 00:10:09,040 Speaker 1: You there? You're in the perfect spot. Okay, when she 176 00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:12,200 Speaker 1: washing clothes, she washing your clothes. You're you're a friend 177 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:17,840 Speaker 1: of Why is you tripping? You are there perfect storm? 178 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:21,760 Speaker 1: And when I'm telling you, when y'all go on trips, 179 00:10:21,880 --> 00:10:26,800 Speaker 1: you get a ticket too. Why you fool your DRAMs? 180 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:30,400 Speaker 1: I mean that's a blessing, that is right, then? Not 181 00:10:30,480 --> 00:10:34,440 Speaker 1: a blessing. When you get back in the house, she 182 00:10:34,600 --> 00:10:41,840 Speaker 1: can't sit there. Tell me about y'all's day, y'allself, Yeah, 183 00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:45,400 Speaker 1: it doesn't want to share him anymore. That's why we're 184 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:49,960 Speaker 1: telling her just be quiet and share. You're winning, she's 185 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:53,880 Speaker 1: not winning worth when you get when you when you 186 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:57,440 Speaker 1: get sick, you got two people do care about you? 187 00:10:59,080 --> 00:11:03,280 Speaker 1: What all of that? She needs? All that? I would 188 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:06,880 Speaker 1: like two women take care of me who don't worry 189 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:11,400 Speaker 1: about it. You behind? Yeah, yeah, you don't understand, Shirley. 190 00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:14,160 Speaker 1: When you get a draw that's like getting a ring. 191 00:11:14,559 --> 00:11:17,040 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. No, it is not. How 192 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:20,720 Speaker 1: dare you? That's like getting immediately? No, No, it's not 193 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:26,040 Speaker 1: that I'm putting this relationship into overdrive. Yeah, I don't 194 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:29,319 Speaker 1: care what nobody says. Here's your drawing. Now, it's the 195 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:32,720 Speaker 1: top drawing, bottom drawing, timmy top draw I don't know 196 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:37,080 Speaker 1: now if it's top drawer, he really really cares about you. 197 00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:40,880 Speaker 1: If it's that top drawer, he really cares about you. 198 00:11:42,520 --> 00:11:46,240 Speaker 1: Move on, get your life. Your dress is right next 199 00:11:46,240 --> 00:11:50,000 Speaker 1: to her dress. Yeah, hanging in the clock. Both y'all 200 00:11:50,040 --> 00:11:56,760 Speaker 1: clothes next to each other, and you complaining. Your Lubertans 201 00:11:56,920 --> 00:12:00,720 Speaker 1: is right next to her Lubertons. You know y'all can 202 00:12:00,840 --> 00:12:04,720 Speaker 1: switch clothes. You got more clothes, You just got more clothes. 203 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:07,720 Speaker 1: Why did you Why did you clowning? What's what's wrong? 204 00:12:08,840 --> 00:12:12,000 Speaker 1: You got somebody that's gonna help you get dressed? Help 205 00:12:12,040 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 1: you do your hound? Y'all help each other. I don't 206 00:12:15,760 --> 00:12:19,480 Speaker 1: you got somebody that's you got somebody that's gonna go 207 00:12:20,040 --> 00:12:23,120 Speaker 1: girl that ain't working. You need that. You need that. 208 00:12:23,960 --> 00:12:29,040 Speaker 1: Your wife. Y'all got somebody when you put makeup on 209 00:12:29,120 --> 00:12:31,520 Speaker 1: in the bathroom and y'all jam, come on like girl, 210 00:12:31,520 --> 00:12:36,560 Speaker 1: that's my son. Good, that's my soul. Y'all get y'all 211 00:12:36,600 --> 00:12:43,080 Speaker 1: got it. A sister wife, you all her. That's the thing. 212 00:12:46,720 --> 00:12:48,319 Speaker 1: What did you What did you want? You wanted to 213 00:12:48,360 --> 00:12:52,439 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey answer, what did you want? This wrong? I 214 00:12:52,600 --> 00:12:54,959 Speaker 1: want you to be who you are always. This is 215 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:57,680 Speaker 1: where you know. Anyway, you had five times you gonna 216 00:12:57,720 --> 00:13:01,559 Speaker 1: get your ass hoop? You passed all five? All right, guys, 217 00:13:01,600 --> 00:13:04,200 Speaker 1: thank you. If you want to leave comments on Today's 218 00:13:04,200 --> 00:13:07,680 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter Instagram US, Facebook, US, all of that, go 219 00:13:07,720 --> 00:13:11,080 Speaker 1: to Steve Harvey FM. Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast too. 220 00:13:11,120 --> 00:13:14,600 Speaker 1: It is on demand now. Coming up next Junior and 221 00:13:14,800 --> 00:13:18,480 Speaker 1: Sports Talk. 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