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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for

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Speaker 1: joining us. As always, we are so excited to be here.

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Speaker 1: How are you doing today, Susan.

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Speaker 2: I've had a day.

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Speaker 3: It's a good day. Yeah, good day.

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Speaker 2: Do you know what they say when they deal lemons?

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Speaker 3: What do you do you make lemonade?

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Speaker 2: Exactly what we put back in it? Or just hey

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Speaker 2: you guys.

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Speaker 4: Thanks for listening and we're having so much fun talking

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Speaker 4: to you guys, answering, giving advice, and we love when

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Speaker 4: we get the feedback after we've read your questions. We

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Speaker 4: love chatting with all of our Bachelor Nation fans, so

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Speaker 4: be sure to check out our latest episodes.

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Speaker 3: Please do.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So today we have a very special guest from

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Speaker 1: Clayton season of The Bachelor.

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Speaker 3: Jill is here. Hi, Jill, how are you today?

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Speaker 5: Hi? I'm good. It's so funny hearing you guys say

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Speaker 5: from Clayton season because it seems like it's so lifetime.

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Speaker 1: I know, my god, it is, it is let time ago.

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Speaker 1: But you know you're absolutely stunningly beautiful. I have to

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Speaker 1: ask you, and when I was reading about you, you

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Speaker 1: were from Situate, Rhode Island.

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Speaker 5: Yes, Situated Island.

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Speaker 1: I am from outside of Boston, Massachusetts, and there's a Situate,

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Speaker 1: Massachusetts area. And so when I read that, I thought,

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Speaker 1: is that a misprint? Like where is Situate Rhode Island?

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Speaker 2: Stitut?

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Speaker 5: Rhode Island is like twenty minutes outside of province to

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Speaker 5: the west. It's like closer to like Connecticut. It's like

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Speaker 5: the sticks.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay.

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Speaker 2: And which are you now?

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Speaker 5: I'm in Newport, So Newport, Rhode Island's.

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Speaker 3: So I've been there.

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Speaker 2: Whooh it's nice.

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Speaker 1: It's beautiful ever sincean we were talking about it where

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Speaker 1: the Vanderbilt mansions are and oh, yeah, it's beautiful.

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Speaker 3: There are you on the water? Are you on the water? Jill, girl?

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Speaker 5: I can't afford to be on the water.

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Speaker 4: It's like living in California in the water, right, I

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Speaker 4: could walk through it, but it's not.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: So what do you do in Newport?

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Speaker 5: I'm an architectural historian.

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Speaker 3: Well, I saw that in your bio. Tell me what

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Speaker 3: that means.

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Speaker 5: So basically, I study old houses. I work for the

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Speaker 5: I work for the munis Book government, and I deal

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Speaker 5: with all of the future planning for all historic houses

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Speaker 5: in the historic district. And I make sure.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, and Newport. That's that's a more than a

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Speaker 1: full time job.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and.

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Speaker 5: Love dream job.

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Speaker 3: See that's what you want you.

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Speaker 4: So, Jill, we're going to get to know you a

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Speaker 4: lot better today, and we want everybody.

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Speaker 2: Else to know you as well.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so we're going to kick things off with the

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Speaker 4: question of the day.

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Speaker 2: Okay, do you want to read it?

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Speaker 3: I do? But wait, can I just ask Jill one

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Speaker 3: more question?

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Speaker 5: Sure?

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Speaker 1: I have a bone to pick with you, Joe, and

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Speaker 1: I just met you and you're absolutely gorgeous.

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Speaker 5: Thank you, Yes, gorgeous your bones.

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Speaker 1: Okay, here it comes. Remember I'm from outside of Boston.

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Speaker 1: We say what we think.

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Speaker 5: Oh okay, yeah, I know.

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Speaker 3: Okay, here comes.

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Speaker 1: Why wasn't I listed on your favorite Best Impressions First

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Speaker 1: Impressions from Golden Bachelor. I didn't get hair, I didn't

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Speaker 1: get dressed, I didn't get makeup, I didn't get accessories.

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Speaker 2: I want to see this list.

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Speaker 3: Oh you can guess who got it?

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Speaker 2: Uh uh Well best hair is Edith.

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Speaker 1: Uh Edith got best dressed, April got best accessories.

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Speaker 3: Can't argue with that. I can't remember who the other

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Speaker 5: But I was like, okay, well it's so my friends

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Speaker 5: when we when we were watching The Golden Bachelor, we

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Speaker 5: had a league and so we all had our own people.

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Speaker 5: So I was like very focused on my people.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so that's why, Okay, Susan, we were not her people.

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Speaker 2: We were mentioned. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 5: If it was if it was personality, you guys would

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Speaker 5: have taken it easily. But that was like one night

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Speaker 5: one I don't know.

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Speaker 3: It was on anyway.

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Speaker 1: I was just just I went through it on the

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Speaker 1: on the Bachelor Nation website and I was like, wait

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Speaker 1: a minute, she didn't mention Susan orby well.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god. I was probably block out.

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Speaker 1: All right, all right, let's get to a question today.

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Speaker 1: It was just my that was my torment.

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Speaker 3: All right.

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Speaker 1: So what is something you wish you knew about men

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Speaker 1: and dating when you were younger?

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Speaker 5: She's still young, but okay, yeah, what I wish I knew?

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Speaker 5: I wish I knew that they're deeply disturbed and that

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Speaker 5: none of them have had therapy and none of them

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Speaker 5: know what they're doing, and they like, they're all just

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Speaker 5: going to disappoint you, honestly.

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Speaker 4: Like I even read the book Women Are from Venus,

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Speaker 4: Men Are from Mars, and I still don't.

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Speaker 2: Get it how they think, Oh I can't figure it out.

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Speaker 5: No, I can't figure it out, and it's just like I'm.

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Speaker 2: Exhausted, and then you give up trying, right, I know that.

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Speaker 5: That's what kind of where I'm at now. I'm just like,

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Speaker 5: you know.

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Speaker 2: What, It'll happen again and again.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no, don't say.

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Speaker 4: That we didn't get married out of high school and

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Speaker 4: move around the world with our husband.

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Speaker 1: No, it's possible to find someone that you love and

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Speaker 1: loves you.

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Speaker 5: No, totally, it is.

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Speaker 2: Of course it is.

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Speaker 5: I mean, it definitely is. But like, I'm at a

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Speaker 5: point in my life where like I can do it myself,

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Speaker 5: Like I can do everything myself. So I'm like happy there.

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Speaker 5: I'm at a point where like I'm not going to settle,

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Speaker 5: you know, like obviously I'd love to get married and

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Speaker 5: not at any cost.

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Speaker 4: Do you feel like being so self sufficient that that

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Speaker 4: intimidates men?

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Speaker 5: I feel like, oh god, I don't. I hope not.

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Speaker 5: I feel like that's just the kind of caliber of

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Speaker 1: Like, well, the women that you surround yourself, But so

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Speaker 1: so this is a good segue. I don't know how

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Speaker 1: comfortable and whatever you're you know you don't want to

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Speaker 1: talk about. But I did read about your breakup with

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Speaker 1: Ellice and Rachel.

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Speaker 3: What do you want you?

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Speaker 1: We love Rachel, she's lovely. Oh my gost How are

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Speaker 1: you doing since the breakup? And you know, anything you

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Speaker 1: want to share with us? Because you know we can

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Speaker 1: put a contract out on for you.

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Speaker 2: We could fix this we soon.

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Speaker 5: I was.

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Speaker 3: So talk to us only what you know, tell us

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Speaker 3: how whatever you feel like you.

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Speaker 5: Want to show. Okay, So yeah, I knew you guys

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Speaker 5: want ask this question.

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Speaker 3: We have to. We have to.

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Speaker 5: I So I think it's not like nothing crazy happened,

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Speaker 5: nothing like juicy or salacious. It's just like there comes

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Speaker 5: to a point in a relationship. We were together for

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Speaker 5: two years, and you know, it was definitely a turning point.

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Speaker 5: Either we were going to make it work or we weren't.

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Speaker 5: And so you know, as hard as you try, there's

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Speaker 5: sometimes where it just doesn't work out. And so that

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Speaker 5: was a decision that was made and.

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Speaker 2: For both of you, was it mutually. I mean.

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Speaker 5: That's tough to say. I thought we had a little

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Speaker 5: more time, but I you know, the writing was on

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Speaker 5: the wall. Yeah, so yeah, I mean it was definitely

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Speaker 5: really difficult. We lived together. So he moved out.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, he.

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Speaker 5: Moved out pretty swiftly. But it's fine, Like this was

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Speaker 5: my apartment before anyways, so it's just like business as usual.

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Speaker 3: Does he live in Newport?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 3: Well Newport is not a huge place. Do you bump

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Speaker 3: into him? Girl, I don't go out, you don't go out?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 2: Wait, how old are you? How old do you again?

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Speaker 5: I'm twenty nine. I'm about to be thirty this.

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Speaker 2: Summer, so that the night thing is over.

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Speaker 5: No, I've never been like a partier drinker really like

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Speaker 5: I like to go out with my friends like every

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Speaker 1: So do you have any rats on it? Like do

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Speaker 1: you wish you'd done things differently? I mean, we all

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Speaker 1: have regrets.

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Speaker 5: But no, I actually feel like, yeah, I feel really

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Speaker 2: The way len O, my god, tell me a lesson you.

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Speaker 5: Okay, oh my god. I well, I got to know

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Speaker 5: myself and who I am in a relationship so much

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Speaker 5: more like now I feel like for my next relationship,

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Speaker 5: I know what I'm looking for. I know who I am.

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Speaker 5: I mean, girl, I've been in therapy since I was

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Speaker 5: like thirteen, so I can like hand somebody a roadmap

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Speaker 5: to my mind. And you know that's pretty good. I

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Speaker 5: feel like conflict resolution and just dealing with conflict. I

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Speaker 5: remember when I was twenty three, I was just like

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Speaker 5: like just so unbelievably like inconsolable. But now I handle

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Speaker 5: conflict much better.

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Speaker 2: That's why.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm sure.

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Speaker 1: So wait, I have a question because Susan believe if

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Speaker 1: I remember when I read correct, you went to a

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Speaker 1: psychic after your breakup?

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Speaker 5: Oh my godness, I did.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so Susan goes to psychic so one, no, you

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Speaker 1: both go to psychics, meaning each of you. So I

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Speaker 1: want to hear what did you what? What gems? What

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Speaker 1: what came out of that? Because I've never done it,

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Speaker 1: and I'm not sure I ever could, as.

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Speaker 2: Yours a medium as well.

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Speaker 5: Mine wasn't a medium. I have seen psychic mediums before,

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Speaker 5: but I also have an astrologer. I love.

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Speaker 3: I want to hear what tell me? What? What? What

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Speaker 3: did they say?

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Speaker 5: So she said she was like, okay, now it's not

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Speaker 5: your time for love and I'm like, don't care.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, shut up, I don't want.

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Speaker 2: To hear that. I know.

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Speaker 5: She's like, give us six months, and I'm like, yeah, obviously,

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna give it six months. And then she also

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Speaker 5: said that she said eventually I was going to write something,

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Speaker 5: and I was like that she said, I'm justin for greatness. Obviously,

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Speaker 5: you know, we all knew that. But she also said

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Speaker 5: that I have, like, uh, I've psychic abilities, which.

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Speaker 1: May make and let's get to the heart of it,

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Speaker 1: Winter Susan and I going to meet mister Wright.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, right, no, hmmm, no. I honestly like,

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Speaker 2: Know, embrace it.

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Speaker 4: The past and it's okay to be down for a while.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I think sometimes people just rush there.

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Speaker 3: And you need the time.

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Speaker 4: I have a good question, actually, what you've been on

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Speaker 2: Yes, what's the difference?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like how did you feel different now on each?

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Speaker 5: Okay, So on the Bachelor obviously, like when you first

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Speaker 5: go on, it's like so nerve wracking you. It's your

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Speaker 5: So on Bachelor, the difference is it's not your love story.

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Speaker 2: You're one of many.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you're one of many. But on Paradise it's like

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Speaker 2: And I don't understand.

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Speaker 3: Can you explain that.

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Speaker 1: I don't understand when you say it's your what do

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Speaker 1: you mean? Give me an example what you mean by that?

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Speaker 1: You're you're she's choosing who she wants a date, right.

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Speaker 3: Is right, But they have to choose you as well, right.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, But it's like you have so much more freedom

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Speaker 5: you know, maybe i'll get time tonight.

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Speaker 2: It's like three minutes.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, right, like I'll definitely get time. And you're with

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Speaker 5: And the spotlight is definitely more on the individual versus

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Speaker 1: I want to know when you're in Paradise, did you

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Speaker 3: It seems so different to us.

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Speaker 1: I mean we've never been, but the watching it, watching.

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Speaker 4: The Golden Paradise guy do hope they do, But we

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Speaker 3: I mean I'm not I'm not going to the boom

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Speaker 5: I feel like the boom boom room has cobwebs in it.

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Speaker 5: we gotta we gotta ramp that up. But not meat.

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Speaker 3: Oh wait about that means you would never go back

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Speaker 2: Would you?

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Speaker 5: Oh god, I mean it's always on the tape.

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Speaker 2: Who knows?

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Speaker 5: I mean, I mean, yes, who knows. But there would

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Speaker 4: It's desolate, like and do you know who the men

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Speaker 5: No, you don't know anything, but you're right, so you're

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Speaker 5: can date. Obviously, like I could talk the wallpaper off

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Speaker 3: You know, if you don't have you're go ahead. You're

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Speaker 5: I'm just looking for something different, you know, like the

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Speaker 5: there's gonna be people, there's gonna be fresh meat. There's

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Speaker 5: to get their Yeah, yeahs out. That's totally good. But

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Speaker 5: I if I were to go down, I'd be looking,

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Speaker 5: you know, I'd get engaged.

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Speaker 2: I don't care. Like if it works, it works, you can't.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Like I would definitely be. I remember the last

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Speaker 5: and like knowing what it takes and being like that

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Speaker 3: Be like, so why not get engaged after a week?

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Speaker 3: Sounds good to.

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Speaker 5: Me, right, I mean, crazier things have happened.

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Speaker 2: We're married after three weeks, right.

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Speaker 5: I mean, yeah, I would. I it's definitely not off

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Speaker 5: it has to be serious, right, yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but you don't have to do anything on that show,

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Speaker 4: right you just do you feel like people will be

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Speaker 5: So there's definitely like a level of gameplay to it,

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Speaker 5: which is normal. There's friendship roses, there's you know, I

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Speaker 5: that's all valid, that's all good. But yeah, I mean

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Speaker 5: it gets messy, it gets so messy. It's just so fun.

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Speaker 3: Him a second. I think, Jill, can we have your

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Speaker 1: We're gonna call see if we'd get Jill on paradise

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Speaker 1: because another one.

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Speaker 5: I mean, oh my god, yeah, I mean, well, girl,

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Speaker 5: who knows, who knows? We'll see, We'll see.

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Speaker 3: That's very cool.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So, uh, what are you like married to Newport?

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Speaker 1: I mean you can leaving and doing something different because

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Speaker 3: Do bake a lot too?

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Speaker 3: I beg sour though, and yeah, you bake? Like what's

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Speaker 3: next for you? If? Are you tell me what's next

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Speaker 2: It's not a bad thing.

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Speaker 5: It's not a bad thing. Newport's like the best place

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Speaker 5: I am looking to step outside of my comfort zone

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Speaker 5: I thought I was going to live here forever, you know,

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Speaker 5: it's like, oh my god, I could do anything.

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Speaker 3: So and that's a liberating feeling.

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Speaker 5: It it's definitely liberating, but it's also scary, like I

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Speaker 5: and I said, I felt like a jellyfish, Like I'm

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Speaker 5: to all directions, right Like, I'm in my career, pretty

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Speaker 2: But yeah, love, would love take you somewhere else.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, absolutely, if it's for the right person, then yes, definitely.

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Speaker 1: I think you sound like a woman who at twenty nine,

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Speaker 1: and give some advice. We read questions, yes, and we

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Speaker 1: want I'm going to read one question and see what

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Speaker 5: Yes, I love giving opinions and I never take anybody's

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Speaker 2: Oh I know something I guess is billion people, what

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Speaker 5: I I want to hear I always say, you know,

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Speaker 1: And related as long as you as long as you

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Speaker 1: you know, then good for you.

447
00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:27,160
Speaker 3: It's a risk, it's a risk.

448
00:20:27,200 --> 00:20:29,280
Speaker 1: It's sometimes a good centers are bad, but you take

449
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Speaker 1: right here we go. Anonymous asks, Hi, ladies and Jill,

450
00:20:41,720 --> 00:20:43,200
Speaker 1: I could really use your help.

451
00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:45,960
Speaker 3: I feel like I've been in a sort of winter slump.

452
00:20:46,440 --> 00:20:49,600
Speaker 1: I haven't felt confident in myself in what seat feels

453
00:20:49,640 --> 00:20:52,760
Speaker 1: like forever. I've tried the things that usually work for me,

454
00:20:52,880 --> 00:20:55,359
Speaker 1: getting my hair done, buy new clothes, et cetera.

455
00:20:55,560 --> 00:20:56,840
Speaker 3: And nothing's working.

456
00:20:57,359 --> 00:21:00,359
Speaker 1: My mental health is managed, so I know there's nothing

457
00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:03,040
Speaker 1: new going on there. I just feel so blah and

458
00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:05,120
Speaker 1: it's gotten to the point where I don't really feel

459
00:21:05,119 --> 00:21:07,280
Speaker 1: like going out and hanging with my friends because I

460
00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:10,800
Speaker 1: feel so self conscious and that's really not like me.

461
00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:13,439
Speaker 1: What do you suggest I do to get out of

462
00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:17,120
Speaker 1: this funk? Thank you so much. I really love your podcast. Well,

463
00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:20,159
Speaker 1: thank you Anonymous. What says you, Jill? How did she

464
00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:22,040
Speaker 1: get out of this funk? Oh?

465
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Speaker 5: Girl? I feel the same way.

466
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Speaker 2: Okay, winter number winter right, I would.

467
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Speaker 3: Come into spring.

468
00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:32,960
Speaker 5: Were coming, I would say seek sunshine, right, like, maybe

469
00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:35,000
Speaker 5: take a vaka if you need to like escape for

470
00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:39,200
Speaker 5: a weekend, escape for a weekend. I would also try

471
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Speaker 5: something new that you kind of know you're going to

472
00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:43,520
Speaker 5: be good at already.

473
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Speaker 2: You know what would that be, I don't.

474
00:21:45,600 --> 00:21:48,360
Speaker 5: Know, like a new hobby or something, just to kind

475
00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:51,200
Speaker 5: of get your confidence up and get like excitement back, right.

476
00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:54,159
Speaker 5: Like That's how kind of I fell into baking. Was

477
00:21:54,200 --> 00:21:56,000
Speaker 5: I was just like, oh, like, let me try a

478
00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:57,400
Speaker 5: new hobby. And then I was like kind of good

479
00:21:57,400 --> 00:21:58,639
Speaker 5: at it, but I kind of knew I was going

480
00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:00,840
Speaker 5: to be good at it, so you know, give yourself

481
00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:01,720
Speaker 5: an easy win.

482
00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:04,119
Speaker 1: And then I just have to interrupt one second? What

483
00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:05,480
Speaker 1: do you do with all your We're going to get

484
00:22:05,480 --> 00:22:07,520
Speaker 1: back to anonymous question. What do you do with all

485
00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:08,600
Speaker 1: the bake woods you make? And do you.

486
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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're not even your thin as a rail? What

487
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:14,600
Speaker 3: do you do with all this? I?

488
00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:17,159
Speaker 5: Okay, so I keep half of a loaf, half of

489
00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:19,080
Speaker 5: a mini loaf for myself and then I give it

490
00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:20,399
Speaker 5: all away.

491
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Speaker 3: Do you get her address?

492
00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:22,360
Speaker 2: Right?

493
00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:24,679
Speaker 5: No, I don't know if it'll keep that long, But like,

494
00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:27,200
Speaker 5: I'm pretty sure my coworkers are like enough.

495
00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:30,520
Speaker 4: So I want to know when the woman talks, she

496
00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:34,520
Speaker 4: did her hairs, her mental healthless manage, but she feels

497
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Speaker 4: so self conscious. What do you think she meant by that?

498
00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:43,920
Speaker 5: I mean everyone hates being perceived. I feel you know.

499
00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:45,960
Speaker 2: Some people conscious of what?

500
00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 5: Yes, so if you're mental.

501
00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:51,639
Speaker 1: Herself, she probably just feels like you know this, She

502
00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:54,800
Speaker 1: probably feels like, oh I don't think my hair looks great.

503
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:58,920
Speaker 1: Oh this she feel I know. But when you feel

504
00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:00,960
Speaker 1: self conscious, it's like I did my hair and I

505
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:03,359
Speaker 1: still don't feel good. I bought new clothes and that

506
00:23:03,720 --> 00:23:06,160
Speaker 1: It just doesn't feel right. That's that's what I think.

507
00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:07,720
Speaker 1: Maybe that's what I think she means.

508
00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:10,600
Speaker 5: Just well, yeah, I think like confident. It's all about

509
00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:13,159
Speaker 5: like the mindset, you know, Like I went on the

510
00:23:13,160 --> 00:23:15,720
Speaker 5: Bachelor thinking I was like the next greatest thing, and

511
00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:17,200
Speaker 5: then when I walked in, I was like, oh, I

512
00:23:17,359 --> 00:23:19,160
Speaker 5: know what I looked like the best I've ever looked.

513
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:21,480
Speaker 5: And so I think you just have to like the

514
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:23,919
Speaker 5: confidence really comes from with it.

515
00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:25,479
Speaker 3: Fake it till you make it.

516
00:23:25,600 --> 00:23:28,040
Speaker 2: You took your words, you make out of my mess.

517
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:31,600
Speaker 1: Always I say to my kids all the time when

518
00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:33,520
Speaker 1: they're nervous, I said, what you don't think anyone else

519
00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:36,479
Speaker 1: is nervous walking into that whatever it is, fake it

520
00:23:36,520 --> 00:23:37,320
Speaker 1: till you make it.

521
00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:40,399
Speaker 5: But also like, don't compare yourself to anybody else, Like

522
00:23:40,400 --> 00:23:45,000
Speaker 5: you're only comparing Like everyone is so different. I feel

523
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:47,120
Speaker 5: like when I walk into a room, I'm not comparing

524
00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:49,240
Speaker 5: myself to anybody. I just you know, you have to

525
00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:52,160
Speaker 5: have really a solid ground of like who you are.

526
00:23:52,440 --> 00:23:56,840
Speaker 4: Every one of us are unique. Yeah, and the own ways, I.

527
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:59,680
Speaker 1: Think, don't you think, Susan, We've talked about this, Jill

528
00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 1: is as we've gotten older, when you're younger, I think

529
00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:07,439
Speaker 1: people tend to morph or try to be pleasing to

530
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:12,119
Speaker 1: other people, whether it's men or women or whatever whatever

531
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:14,439
Speaker 1: the scenario is. But when you get to be our

532
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:19,439
Speaker 1: range I am, you don't care as much. You're just like,

533
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:22,159
Speaker 1: this is who I am. I always say to people,

534
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:25,120
Speaker 1: I'm not everyone's cup of tea. You know, I have opinions.

535
00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:28,920
Speaker 1: I'm strong willed. But when you're talking about dating the

536
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:32,720
Speaker 1: man that meets me and it's not afraid of my independence,

537
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:35,720
Speaker 1: of my straight personality and my personality that'll be the

538
00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:38,600
Speaker 1: right guy for me, I don't worry so much anymore.

539
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:40,560
Speaker 3: And it doesn't. And it sounds like you've learned that

540
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:41,200
Speaker 3: lesson too.

541
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:45,800
Speaker 5: Yeah. No, I have a very strong sense of who

542
00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:48,239
Speaker 5: I am and at my core, like I know, I'm

543
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:50,320
Speaker 5: a good person, Like I'm not mean and I'm not

544
00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:55,159
Speaker 5: condictive like so yeah, I mean obviously, Oh my god,

545
00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:57,160
Speaker 5: especially on Paradise. So I walk up on the beach

546
00:24:57,200 --> 00:24:58,760
Speaker 5: and everyone is like, gorgeous.

547
00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:02,000
Speaker 2: Right, you wanted to be gamming? Ono? Did you come later?

548
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 5: No? I was for sands, So I was like, you know, I.

549
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:08,760
Speaker 3: How long did you stay? How long did you stay? Joe?

550
00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:11,840
Speaker 5: I see it until the week of split Week because

551
00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:13,440
Speaker 5: I was I was loyal to my man.

552
00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 3: We don't know, we don't know.

553
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:19,200
Speaker 5: Okay, so they they you know, they took the girls

554
00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:20,480
Speaker 5: away from the from.

555
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:22,440
Speaker 2: The guys at the beach, and they've stamped.

556
00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:25,480
Speaker 5: Us somewhere else. Yeah. I had an absolute meltdown. Is horrible.

557
00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 1: And oh my god, you were in season eight, right, yeah?

558
00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:33,040
Speaker 1: I think so, yeah, I mean.

559
00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:34,960
Speaker 2: Wait, that's the one I watched.

560
00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:39,679
Speaker 5: It was it was biblical like. The meltdown that I

561
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:43,360
Speaker 5: had was Oh my god. I felt so bad. So

562
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:46,280
Speaker 5: but I was loyal to a fault and my man

563
00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 5: the second I left here, I lived or died. He

564
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:53,199
Speaker 5: really did not care. And there were gorgeous men at

565
00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:56,560
Speaker 5: the place that we were, and I ignored them.

566
00:25:56,640 --> 00:26:00,240
Speaker 4: Because you were being so true blue.

567
00:25:59,840 --> 00:26:03,879
Speaker 3: But wait a minute, the guy, why did you leave?

568
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:05,359
Speaker 2: They make them?

569
00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:11,560
Speaker 5: Oh well no, no what what everybody pack? No? No, no, yeah,

570
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:13,359
Speaker 5: I left on my own terms. Like I went down

571
00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:16,439
Speaker 5: there and I was like, I stayed loyalty. Okay, what happened?

572
00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:18,280
Speaker 5: And then he told me, he said, and this will

573
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:20,960
Speaker 5: always stick with me, but it's like funny now, but

574
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 5: it's so true. He said, you have a unique personality

575
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:26,880
Speaker 5: that I love and enjoy. I just don't think it's

576
00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:27,800
Speaker 5: personally right for me.

577
00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:32,199
Speaker 4: Oh and I was like, oh and you're telling me

578
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 4: this now.

579
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:35,200
Speaker 2: When there was these men, I could have gotten to them.

580
00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 5: And the men were the men there.

581
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:39,320
Speaker 2: So you have regrets?

582
00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:41,240
Speaker 3: Wait were they good men or not good men?

583
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:43,920
Speaker 5: They were there? Was there were definitely a few men

584
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:47,040
Speaker 5: that I mean, there's a few in particular that I'm like,

585
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:50,040
Speaker 5: I kick myself every day, like I'm.

586
00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:52,240
Speaker 2: Like, if I try to reach out to them after

587
00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:53,440
Speaker 2: the show or not.

588
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:55,920
Speaker 3: Going to do that.

589
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:58,720
Speaker 2: That's the way of the world. Jones. Bachelors that were

590
00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:01,480
Speaker 2: on per season. I haven't had a chance.

591
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:04,719
Speaker 5: I haven't had the chance because like then, you know,

592
00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:08,560
Speaker 5: like a relationship. I was in a relationship. So you know,

593
00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:10,720
Speaker 5: if if if I happened to be on the beach

594
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 5: and one of them is there, and then yes, I

595
00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:13,719
Speaker 5: will absolutely explore that.

596
00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:17,360
Speaker 1: But listen, if I ever get to go to Paradise

597
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:19,480
Speaker 1: and you're there, I want the names of the guys.

598
00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:21,560
Speaker 3: I'll make sure I'll work it out for you. Jill.

599
00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 3: I'm a I'm a matchmaker. I will make this happen.

600
00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 5: Yes, I please, please, please, because oh my god, yeah,

601
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:30,119
Speaker 5: I was I was horrible to them too.

602
00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:31,680
Speaker 3: Oh my god, what would you want to see there?

603
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:34,199
Speaker 5: Who would you can say? I'm not telling you no.

604
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 2: Well, I put it out to the universe. It could happen.

605
00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:39,320
Speaker 5: Girl, I've put it out to the universe. I've manifested,

606
00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:40,479
Speaker 5: I've planned our life schedule.

607
00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:43,119
Speaker 1: Jo Let me just say, let's pretend I'm making up

608
00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:46,040
Speaker 1: a name. Let's pretend there's some guy John that you

609
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:48,560
Speaker 1: saw on Bachelor and you really liked him, right, But

610
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 1: he's a little you know, he got burned, he didn't

611
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:53,040
Speaker 1: get the girl. You know, he's a little bit insecure.

612
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:56,119
Speaker 1: Now he hears on this podcast which we're going to

613
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:59,440
Speaker 1: send to him that hey, do you know that Jill

614
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:02,440
Speaker 1: would like to meet you? You're steps ahead of the game.

615
00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 3: Girl.

616
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 1: You got to who do you want to see there?

617
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:07,080
Speaker 1: That was my sales pitch. Who do you want to say?

618
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:10,919
Speaker 5: No? Because I know that because Okay, the people that

619
00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:13,640
Speaker 5: I'm going, the people that I would be interested in,

620
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:16,240
Speaker 5: are not interested in going to paradise.

621
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:18,520
Speaker 2: Do you know what happens happening?

622
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:18,720
Speaker 1: Yeah?

623
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:23,400
Speaker 2: But to anonymous backus.

624
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:26,200
Speaker 1: I think I love Jill's advice to do something new,

625
00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:29,119
Speaker 1: get do something out of the ordinary, take a weekend trip.

626
00:28:29,560 --> 00:28:32,879
Speaker 2: Do something like you said, spring is almost tear. I

627
00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:33,960
Speaker 2: mean it will.

628
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 3: I'm old girl. Yeah exactly.

629
00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 1: I was just gonna say, Jill, sometimes yourself you got.

630
00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:42,080
Speaker 3: To love yourself.

631
00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:44,880
Speaker 1: But sometimes we all have I know it sounds like

632
00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 1: a Hallmark card. We all have some valleys, and we

633
00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 1: all have some peaks in life, and this may just

634
00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:51,400
Speaker 1: be a valley.

635
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 5: And you know what, I heard something that was so

636
00:28:54,520 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 5: good and it was enjoy the boring. Because when something

637
00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 5: terrible happens or like a tragedy in your life, you

638
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 5: are yearning for those times when life is boring. Like

639
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 5: enjoy the boring. Enjoy the time when nothing bad is happening,

640
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 5: because life is gonna throw stuff at you no matter what.

641
00:29:13,520 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 5: You just got to.

642
00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:19,080
Speaker 4: Enjoy quiet moments, embrace them, enjoy it. My favorite saying

643
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 4: was enjoy who you are.

644
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:21,720
Speaker 2: Yes.

645
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:22,520
Speaker 5: Oh that's a good.

646
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:24,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love it all right, Jill.

647
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:28,440
Speaker 4: Okay, next here we go. We want to know all

648
00:29:28,480 --> 00:29:31,479
Speaker 4: about you, but we found out a little here and

649
00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:32,360
Speaker 4: we have a little game.

650
00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:33,440
Speaker 5: Oh gosh.

651
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:37,360
Speaker 4: Okay, so before we wrap today's episode, these are fun,

652
00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 4: easy questions and this is so Bachelor Nation can know

653
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 4: you even more than they think they do. Okay, how

654
00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 4: do you unwind after a long day?

655
00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 5: I read my book, I read my kindle. I'm go

656
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 5: adic it to my books.

657
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:53,960
Speaker 3: Okay, that's what I love to read too.

658
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:57,720
Speaker 2: What's a piece of advice that you've always kept with you?

659
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:00,880
Speaker 5: Oh my god, Oh, don't leave with the feeling you're

660
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:05,000
Speaker 5: gonna be missed. Say it again, don't leave with the

661
00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 5: feeling you're going to be missed.

662
00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:10,080
Speaker 2: Wow, that's that's so dark.

663
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 5: It's really dark. But that was what my grandfather always

664
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 5: used to say.

665
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:18,880
Speaker 4: And we're like, we're gonna a feeling that you're gonna

666
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 4: be missed.

667
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Speaker 2: I always leave with the feeling that they're gonna miss me.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't.

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Speaker 5: Well, I know they are, but it's like, you know,

670
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Speaker 5: you've got to have some humility for sure. And then

671
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Speaker 5: also I take it it's kind of like give it

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Speaker 5: your all. And also it's like we're not as important

673
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Speaker 5: as we think we are. That all right? Yeah, so yeah,

674
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Speaker 5: just don't leave.

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Speaker 2: With the pH.

676
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Speaker 3: Wow. Okay, what would the title of your autobiography be?

677
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Speaker 5: Oh, dear, like the saddest handwritten book ever? The what

678
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Speaker 5: the saddest what hand written book? That's what I call

679
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:05,720
Speaker 5: my My journal is the saddest handwritten book.

680
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:07,560
Speaker 2: Is it all sad stuff?

681
00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:07,640
Speaker 5: You?

682
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Speaker 1: Right?

683
00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 5: Of course? I only write when I'm sad.

684
00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:12,200
Speaker 2: Right, isn't it the truth?

685
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:18,960
Speaker 1: Now? I'm rite when I'm happy. No, in my journal, No,

686
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:21,640
Speaker 1: it's therapy. It's the way I get it out and

687
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:22,239
Speaker 1: release it.

688
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Speaker 5: Like on the on the show on the Bachelor, I

689
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:27,600
Speaker 5: was really good at journaling on Paradise. No, I didn't

690
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Speaker 5: journal at all.

691
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Speaker 2: You didn't have time. Probably I didn't have any time.

692
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:31,480
Speaker 5: I was exhausted.

693
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Speaker 3: What was your favorite meal growing up?

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Speaker 5: Oh? My favorite meal growing up anything with potatoes in it.

695
00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:38,400
Speaker 5: I love, like a shepherd's pie.

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Speaker 3: I don't.

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Speaker 2: Oh I haven't a shepherd's pie.

698
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Speaker 3: Do you cook or do you just bake? Are you

699
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:44,520
Speaker 3: a cook as well?

700
00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:47,000
Speaker 5: No? I'm actually okay. I have like a couple of

701
00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:50,560
Speaker 5: signature dishes. Right, but if every night, like I just

702
00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:53,160
Speaker 5: I pick, you know, I don't really have I don't.

703
00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:55,360
Speaker 5: I'm not that great of a cook. But I love

704
00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:57,320
Speaker 5: to bake. But cooking is like I just.

705
00:31:57,240 --> 00:31:59,920
Speaker 2: Can't tell's the baker?

706
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:00,360
Speaker 1: Yeah?

707
00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:01,080
Speaker 3: I love to bake.

708
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Speaker 4: What's something you've always wanted to do but you haven't

709
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:06,040
Speaker 4: done yet?

710
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:06,840
Speaker 5: Oh? My god?

711
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:08,200
Speaker 3: Find a good guy.

712
00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:12,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, well that too. My bucket list is very long,

713
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:14,720
Speaker 5: but I think, like very high up on my list,

714
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:16,560
Speaker 5: I want to go to Australia and I want to

715
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:17,360
Speaker 5: put a wombat.

716
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 3: I read that on your thing. You still want to

717
00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:21,000
Speaker 3: do that?

718
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:23,760
Speaker 5: Oh my god, I'm dying to go to Australia and

719
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Speaker 5: put a wombat. That's like my life school.

720
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Speaker 3: She wants to pad a wombat and she loved Twilight.

721
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Speaker 5: I don't know we have and I know also I

722
00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:35,680
Speaker 5: want to see the Aurora borealis really bad.

723
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Speaker 3: Are you going to do it?

724
00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 5: Yeah? But you know I got to go. I gotta

725
00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 5: go way up north.

726
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:45,920
Speaker 3: You know, like to Greenland, right.

727
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:49,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, I gotta go to Greenland. Yeah, or like Iceland

728
00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:49,400
Speaker 5: or something.

729
00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 2: I got to go with my daughter. She wants to

730
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 2: do this.

731
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:53,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, I really want to do that.

732
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 1: And if you were stranded on a deserted island and

733
00:32:56,920 --> 00:33:00,680
Speaker 1: you could only bring three girls from your worst season,

734
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 1: who would you bring?

735
00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 5: Obviously Rachel Rekia of course that one without saying. Kate Gallivan.

736
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:13,040
Speaker 5: She she worked for the selling Sunset group. She was

737
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:16,120
Speaker 5: on Paradise as well. She is one of the funniest

738
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:17,920
Speaker 5: people I've ever met. You guys, would you, guys?

739
00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:20,160
Speaker 2: Would was she blonde? What color hair did she?

740
00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:20,400
Speaker 3: Yeah?

741
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:22,720
Speaker 5: She was blonde, and she actually stole my man for

742
00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:25,280
Speaker 5: a second. But I love her anyways, love her anyways.

743
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 5: And then probably Genevieve.

744
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 1: Oh, Genevieve. The Genevieve is really pretty. Well, they're all pretty,

745
00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:35,600
Speaker 1: but she's pretty with long dark hair, right.

746
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 5: Long dark hair. Massachusetts too.

747
00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:39,200
Speaker 3: Oh where's she from?

748
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:44,840
Speaker 1: She's from Rehobeth, ra Hope and holy smokes, wow, amazing.

749
00:33:45,160 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 2: Do you have any questions for us or advice for us?

750
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:52,080
Speaker 5: Well? No, yeah, of course I have questions for you guys. Okay,

751
00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 5: so what if you were me, what would you do

752
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 5: right now with your life?

753
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 2: I would start planning that trip to Australia.

754
00:33:58,560 --> 00:34:02,560
Speaker 3: Okay, if it were me, Yeah I was, I would.

755
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 1: I'd be looking for a new job in a new

756
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,040
Speaker 1: city and a completely new start.

757
00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 5: Okay. Wow, I know, it's like I hope, it's hoping

758
00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:13,879
Speaker 5: you and so it's a lot of work, but you.

759
00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 3: Know, but you can do it.

760
00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:17,720
Speaker 1: You're strong, you're smart, You've got a lot of memories

761
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 1: in Newport, and the first thing I'd do is getting

762
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:20,799
Speaker 1: the hell out of that apartment too.

763
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:22,280
Speaker 3: I mean, you need to change.

764
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:25,319
Speaker 4: You need to know and if it's just changing, if

765
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 4: you're staying there even and getting a new place.

766
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 1: Newport, Susan is a tiny little place. I mean, I

767
00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:33,000
Speaker 1: get it. Rhode Island's beautiful. I've been to Newport. My

768
00:34:33,160 --> 00:34:35,920
Speaker 1: mother was from Providence. I believe me. I know Rhode Island.

769
00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:39,400
Speaker 1: But but you've done it. You've done it. You know,

770
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:43,960
Speaker 1: got your single Go go work and play in a

771
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:44,840
Speaker 1: whole new place.

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00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:49,319
Speaker 4: Stop planning it, baby, Okay, do it. You're the only

773
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:50,720
Speaker 4: one that's going to make this happen.

774
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:53,359
Speaker 1: I know, I know, and you know I don't think.

775
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 1: I think you know not to wait. You know, I

776
00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:56,239
Speaker 1: can't surround You need.

777
00:34:56,160 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 4: For somebody to go with you. And you don't want

778
00:34:57,680 --> 00:35:00,040
Speaker 4: to go by yourself. Kathy, and I like to travel.

779
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:01,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I want to go to Australia. I'm not

780
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:05,280
Speaker 1: going to pad on that. But I'll get a stuff.

781
00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:07,840
Speaker 1: What's I'll get a stuff, Kuala bear though.

782
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:09,600
Speaker 5: But then you'll just you'll jump out of a plane.

783
00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 5: But you're not gonna put a mammal.

784
00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:11,840
Speaker 2: I'll pet it.

785
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:14,200
Speaker 3: I mean, all right, I'll pat it. You make a

786
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:17,600
Speaker 3: good point, all right, Well, this has been so much fun,

787
00:35:17,680 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 3: but fun.

788
00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:20,359
Speaker 2: I like it to know. We got to see her

789
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Speaker 2: on the side.

790
00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:25,440
Speaker 4: Yea, I love and I have a medium that I

791
00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:29,920
Speaker 4: used to see her mother for forty years. She passed

792
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:32,760
Speaker 4: and her daughter took over. She works with the police,

793
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:34,240
Speaker 4: she works, she's amazing.

794
00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:35,360
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

795
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 5: All right, well you often text me that too.

796
00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:39,759
Speaker 4: Yes, all right, I think that does it for this

797
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 4: episode of Happy Hours Golden Hour, And thanks Jill. We

798
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:46,440
Speaker 4: really love talking to you and we love your input

799
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Speaker 4: on things. And I want to taste your bread.

800
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Speaker 2: What can I say?

801
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:53,279
Speaker 1: Yes, I want the bread, I want the desserts. We

802
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:55,520
Speaker 1: loved getting to chat with you. I love talking to

803
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:57,839
Speaker 1: a fellow New England. Or even if you didn't put

804
00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:01,560
Speaker 1: me on your best of the best from that this,

805
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:04,120
Speaker 1: you know, I'll forgive you because you're beautiful, smart and

806
00:36:04,200 --> 00:36:06,440
Speaker 1: lovely so and you've got a great life out of it.

807
00:36:06,520 --> 00:36:08,400
Speaker 3: You don't forget that. Okay.

808
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,880
Speaker 1: Thank you all for joining us and follow us on

809
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 1: Bachelor Happy Hour because we have new episodes with new

810
00:36:14,200 --> 00:36:17,240
Speaker 1: guests and new fan questions coming out every week.

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812
00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:23,400
Speaker 4: because we can't answer them if we don't have you

813
00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:27,879
Speaker 4: know what to do bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour

814
00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:30,600
Speaker 4: or just make it easy and dm us on Instagram

815
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:31,960
Speaker 4: at Bachelor Happy Hour.

816
00:36:32,560 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 1: And thanks again, Jill. And hopefully you're going to be

817
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:39,080
Speaker 1: on paradise and find that many of your dreams.

818
00:36:39,440 --> 00:36:41,279
Speaker 2: But if you do, we're coming to see this.

819
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Speaker 3: That's why we're coming to see it.

820
00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:44,400
Speaker 5: From your mouth to God.

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Speaker 3: God's DearS. Okay, God, listen up. Okay.

822
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Speaker 1: In the meantime, listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour

823
00:36:50,280 --> 00:36:53,720
Speaker 1: on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to podcasts.

824
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Speaker 1: Until next time, everybody, have a great week.

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Speaker 2: Thanks