1 00:00:01,240 --> 00:00:05,800 Speaker 1: Hey, Chip, I just sounded like my sister. That's how 2 00:00:05,800 --> 00:00:06,880 Speaker 1: she says it when I call her. 3 00:00:07,360 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 2: Lit up Chip, it's about to sing you a song. 4 00:00:12,160 --> 00:00:16,080 Speaker 2: So I did a podcast on Wednesday that the intuitive 5 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:19,800 Speaker 2: told me that she kept picturing me behind a microphone 6 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:24,239 Speaker 2: like emotionally belting out a song, and she's like, I 7 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:26,680 Speaker 2: have now done this reading with you. Now I'm doing 8 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 2: this podcast with you, and that is not leaving me. 9 00:00:29,600 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 2: And I thought I said I'm not a singer though 10 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 2: in fact, on my Friday episodes with my co host, 11 00:00:35,200 --> 00:00:37,279 Speaker 2: we try to sing sometimes and we're terrible. 12 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 1: You don't. I want to know something funny is I 13 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:42,559 Speaker 1: was Actually I was in the studio yesterday with the 14 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: band Lula and ended up in the vocal booth doing 15 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:47,519 Speaker 1: gang vocals on the chorus. 16 00:00:47,880 --> 00:00:49,080 Speaker 2: What's a gang vocal? 17 00:00:49,840 --> 00:00:49,880 Speaker 1: Like? 18 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:51,120 Speaker 2: Similar to a gang bang? 19 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:54,680 Speaker 1: No? Well yeah, but everyone's singing, so it's like we 20 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 1: were the choir basically, So everyone that was happened to 21 00:00:57,880 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 1: be at the studio that at that time studio and 22 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:01,320 Speaker 1: we sang harmonies. 23 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:05,880 Speaker 2: Was she channeling your energy on me? Maybe do I 24 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:07,120 Speaker 2: need to do a gang vocal? 25 00:01:08,560 --> 00:01:10,479 Speaker 1: Maybe we need to add you? 26 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:14,240 Speaker 2: I was dying laughing every time she says that. I'm like, 27 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:16,440 Speaker 2: I mean, I definitely think that I'm in a phase 28 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 2: of learning how to express so I could see that, 29 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 2: but like actually singing by myself behind a mic, I 30 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 2: mean sorry to the audience. 31 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:27,960 Speaker 1: In advance karaoke. 32 00:01:28,560 --> 00:01:30,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, but you know I don't even really like to 33 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:31,119 Speaker 2: do that anymore. 34 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:35,319 Speaker 1: Yeah, but that doesn't mean you won't, I guess not 35 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:37,119 Speaker 1: a shoot. So anyway, I'm always down. 36 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 2: I'm just going to be singing for a week. My 37 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:42,920 Speaker 2: homework is to sing a song by myself for five minutes, 38 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:45,039 Speaker 2: just to like see what happens and see if it 39 00:01:45,040 --> 00:01:46,760 Speaker 2: opens anything up. So there you go. 40 00:01:47,000 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 1: She gave you homework. Yes, oh wow. 41 00:01:50,320 --> 00:01:52,640 Speaker 2: I love intuitives that give homework because it's been it's 42 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 2: like actually putting things, making things applicable in your life, 43 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 2: like actually putting them into practice. 44 00:01:58,080 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 1: Next week on the Velvet Edge, we're going to hear 45 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:00,919 Speaker 1: the Day Be a single from. 46 00:02:00,840 --> 00:02:02,880 Speaker 2: Kelly Do you know what I? 47 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 1: Do? 48 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 2: You know what? Song? I did today? After that podcast, 49 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:10,360 Speaker 2: I was prepping for some other stuff and then I 50 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:11,880 Speaker 2: was sitting in front of my computer and I did 51 00:02:11,919 --> 00:02:12,800 Speaker 2: Lisa Lobe stay. 52 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 1: Oh, I just added that to my karaoke list. 53 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 2: For some reason, that has always been the one song. 54 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:21,720 Speaker 2: When I was younger, I was like, maybe I kind 55 00:02:21,720 --> 00:02:24,359 Speaker 2: of sound like Lisa Lobe Like I thought maybe I could. 56 00:02:24,400 --> 00:02:26,240 Speaker 2: I think it's because I can stay on pitch with 57 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:28,080 Speaker 2: her the whole entire time, Like I can hit all 58 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:30,920 Speaker 2: the notes. Yeah, so in my head, I sound just 59 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:31,320 Speaker 2: like her. 60 00:02:31,440 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 1: It gets to be a bit tongue twistery at the end. 61 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:36,359 Speaker 2: I know every word. Yeah, I know the part you're 62 00:02:36,360 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 2: talking about though. 63 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:39,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, call me because you. 64 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:40,679 Speaker 2: Want me and went to you let me go. Yeah, 65 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:44,519 Speaker 2: you try to give away keep her anyway. 66 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 1: That's a fun I got a fun little fact about 67 00:02:46,639 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 1: that song. It's the only independent Well it might that 68 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:52,200 Speaker 1: this might not be a fact anymore because it's an 69 00:02:52,200 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: older song, but when it hit number one on the 70 00:02:54,160 --> 00:02:56,720 Speaker 1: pop chart, it was the first time an independent song 71 00:02:57,200 --> 00:03:00,120 Speaker 1: was number one on the pop chart because she wasn't 72 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 1: a record label. Oh really, Yeah, that song was on 73 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:05,919 Speaker 1: the Reality Bite soundtrack. Yes, that was how I got 74 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:08,240 Speaker 1: It was put out through a major label, but she 75 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:12,600 Speaker 1: wasn't signed yet. She was Ethan Hawk's neighbor no way, Yeah, 76 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:16,280 Speaker 1: she was his neighbor, and he put her on the soundtrack. 77 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 2: My god, I used to love her. 78 00:03:18,160 --> 00:03:20,560 Speaker 1: Mm hmmm, I have that. I have her first album 79 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:22,919 Speaker 1: on cassette. It's called the Purple Tape. 80 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 2: That's what her cassette is. 81 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:26,040 Speaker 1: Called, Yeah, because it was purple. 82 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:29,040 Speaker 2: Oh oh my god, look at all these fun facts. 83 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:31,519 Speaker 2: I didn't even know what I was opening Pandora's box 84 00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:35,680 Speaker 2: when I said, Lisa Lobe. Anyway, maybe I'll sing it 85 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:37,280 Speaker 2: again later and I'll always know it to. 86 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:39,120 Speaker 1: You, my practice. 87 00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 2: That's not what we're actually here to talk about. We 88 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 2: actually both just did a really interesting experience experiment. So 89 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 2: if you are not driving, I would uh, is it 90 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:54,360 Speaker 2: employ you? Is that how you say this? Poor implore? Wow, 91 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:56,160 Speaker 2: I knew that wasn't right, but my brain's a little 92 00:03:56,200 --> 00:03:58,400 Speaker 2: dead today. I would implore you to take out your 93 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:02,640 Speaker 2: phone open if you have an iPhone, go to your settings. 94 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 2: Then what do I do, Chip, I'm already forgot you. 95 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:08,440 Speaker 1: Go to settings and look at screen screen time. Let 96 00:04:08,440 --> 00:04:11,000 Speaker 1: me see if I can find out for those Android users. 97 00:04:11,120 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 2: Android, Yes, if you're an Android user. So Chip texted 98 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 2: me and says, have you ever looked at your screen time? 99 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 2: Which of course I have, But now I choose to 100 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 2: live in denial. And not. But I'm kind of glad 101 00:04:25,400 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 2: you brought this back up to me because I do 102 00:04:28,520 --> 00:04:30,800 Speaker 2: feel like when I just let it free flow and 103 00:04:30,839 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 2: I'm not at all paying attention, it gets a little 104 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 2: out of hand. Did you want to, like tell us 105 00:04:35,560 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 2: some of your numbers? 106 00:04:36,480 --> 00:04:43,920 Speaker 1: Chip, Yeah, so I was shocked. So my my daily 107 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:48,119 Speaker 1: average is down this week to down twenty one percent 108 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:50,919 Speaker 1: from last week to almost eight hours of use on 109 00:04:50,960 --> 00:04:54,880 Speaker 1: my phone seven hours and fifty one minutes. That's your 110 00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:58,479 Speaker 1: daily after that's the average daily. Yes, for yesterday, I 111 00:04:58,600 --> 00:05:01,040 Speaker 1: was on my phone ten hours in fifty three minutes 112 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 1: calling to me. 113 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 2: Does that include phone calls? 114 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:11,240 Speaker 1: Probably, but it's not. I don't talk on the phone 115 00:05:11,279 --> 00:05:14,400 Speaker 1: that much. I don't even see where phone is on. 116 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:17,320 Speaker 2: I don't actually know that it does. That's what's making 117 00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:21,080 Speaker 2: it worse because it says see all app and website activity. 118 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:24,280 Speaker 2: My daily average is seven hours and thirty two minutes. 119 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:29,839 Speaker 2: That's on apps and websites. Yeah, what's your highest it like, 120 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:31,280 Speaker 2: what's your highest category? 121 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:37,200 Speaker 1: My most used category is mess I message so texting? 122 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:38,279 Speaker 1: Are you sure? 123 00:05:38,560 --> 00:05:40,320 Speaker 2: Did you press the most? 124 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 1: It's just it's so it's social. 125 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:45,320 Speaker 2: Not social as well? Does that include messages? 126 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:49,480 Speaker 1: Gossages messages fall into that. So oh, I spent a 127 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:52,240 Speaker 1: whopping eleven seconds today on LinkedIn. 128 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:56,080 Speaker 2: I won't even have LinkedIn. What is your okay screen 129 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 2: time for social? What is yours for last week? 130 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: Last week? 131 00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:04,760 Speaker 2: Mine is shocking? I want to I don't even know 132 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:05,600 Speaker 2: if I want to say it. 133 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 1: Oh my god, mine is I don't know if this 134 00:06:10,320 --> 00:06:12,279 Speaker 1: is collective. I don't know how to read it properly. 135 00:06:13,640 --> 00:06:16,080 Speaker 1: I'm looking at last week and it says eighteen hours 136 00:06:16,080 --> 00:06:17,000 Speaker 1: and sixteen minutes. 137 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:19,279 Speaker 2: But yeah, mine says seventeen hours and sixteen minutes. 138 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:22,120 Speaker 1: Crazy, that must be total though, right of the week. 139 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:25,919 Speaker 2: Yeah, my daily average is four hours and nineteen minutes. 140 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:28,240 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, my daily average is four hours and thirty 141 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 1: four seconds. 142 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:32,679 Speaker 2: Oh my god. So Chip and I got to talking 143 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:35,400 Speaker 2: about this because we were just, I mean, we comments 144 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:37,880 Speaker 2: about this all the time on this podcast, of just 145 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:39,919 Speaker 2: how we kind of feel like we float through this 146 00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:43,800 Speaker 2: world or we're not fully paying attention to things. We're 147 00:06:43,839 --> 00:06:46,280 Speaker 2: just like driving the bus, I've going to work, the 148 00:06:46,360 --> 00:06:49,279 Speaker 2: hustle of all the things. And you actually sent me 149 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 2: a really interesting article. There was a couple, but this 150 00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 2: one post from Mel Robbins. If you guys ever follow her, 151 00:06:57,080 --> 00:06:59,560 Speaker 2: but she's on Instagram. She said, on average, you will 152 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:01,880 Speaker 2: spend twenty twenty years of your life just scrolling through 153 00:07:01,920 --> 00:07:04,520 Speaker 2: your phone. Imagine it's the end of your life and 154 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:07,200 Speaker 2: someone says, would you like an extra twenty years and 155 00:07:07,240 --> 00:07:10,320 Speaker 2: your answer is nah, I'd rather have I'd rather have 156 00:07:10,400 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 2: spent twenty years scrolling mindlessly on my phone. 157 00:07:14,240 --> 00:07:18,480 Speaker 1: I mean, it's it really puts it in perspective, like 158 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:21,960 Speaker 1: big time. I know I use my phone a lot 159 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:25,600 Speaker 1: for work, and I think so the text messaging has 160 00:07:25,640 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 1: a lot to do with work. But it's shocking to 161 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 1: me the differentiation between how much time I spend on 162 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:36,720 Speaker 1: email on my phone versus text messaging. And you know, 163 00:07:36,720 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 1: a lot of work stuff now does well. 164 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:39,800 Speaker 2: We talked about that. 165 00:07:40,480 --> 00:07:43,160 Speaker 1: I hate it. I hate texting for work, but you 166 00:07:43,200 --> 00:07:44,680 Speaker 1: just have to. It just is what it is, just 167 00:07:44,720 --> 00:07:47,360 Speaker 1: the world that we live in now. But it's it's 168 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:53,160 Speaker 1: a huge difference between mail and texting. I would imagine 169 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 1: that I just do more of the emailing on my computer, 170 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:57,960 Speaker 1: but I also I am running around a lot. I'm 171 00:07:57,960 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 1: not often just sitting at my desk. 172 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:02,320 Speaker 2: That's why I think I would shocked by your numbers 173 00:08:02,320 --> 00:08:05,440 Speaker 2: because I feel like you're either driving or running around 174 00:08:05,960 --> 00:08:07,000 Speaker 2: pretty consistently. 175 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:10,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I'm one of those bad people that is 176 00:08:10,240 --> 00:08:11,480 Speaker 1: on my phone a lot when I'm driving. 177 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:13,240 Speaker 2: I'm not a bad person. Don't talk about my friend 178 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 2: the way. 179 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 1: Well, I'm just like, it's not a smart thing to do, 180 00:08:17,880 --> 00:08:20,800 Speaker 1: and I recognize that, but I also do it, you know, 181 00:08:21,080 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 1: so I need to be better about it. Would you 182 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 1: just say when you're driving when I'm driving, Yeah. 183 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:25,960 Speaker 2: That's to be better about that. 184 00:08:26,040 --> 00:08:27,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, I have to be better about it. 185 00:08:28,160 --> 00:08:31,960 Speaker 2: I just think that it's so fascinating because it's such 186 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:34,720 Speaker 2: a I had a somatic therapist once tell me that 187 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:37,080 Speaker 2: motion that I'm doing. The motion right now, You guys 188 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 2: have like the scroll, Like the way we move our 189 00:08:40,080 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 2: finger up and down on the phone when we're scrolling 190 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:45,040 Speaker 2: is a way that we calm our nervous system, which 191 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:48,240 Speaker 2: I found fascinating because really it's yes, it's a way 192 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:52,959 Speaker 2: we disassociate. And so the social media people specifically are 193 00:08:53,120 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 2: so brilliant because they have learned how to tap into 194 00:08:56,600 --> 00:08:59,760 Speaker 2: our addictive brain in our nervous systems. And so we're 195 00:08:59,760 --> 00:09:02,760 Speaker 2: sitting they're doing that scrolling motion after the like at 196 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 2: the end of a long day, or if you find 197 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:07,360 Speaker 2: yourself doing it in between task or when you're on 198 00:09:07,400 --> 00:09:09,800 Speaker 2: the phone with someone and you like need to go 199 00:09:09,840 --> 00:09:12,479 Speaker 2: do that, really your nervous system is like, I'm overloaded, 200 00:09:13,040 --> 00:09:13,800 Speaker 2: is what that's saying. 201 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:17,840 Speaker 1: Thingfore, no, we've never done so it's something that we've 202 00:09:17,840 --> 00:09:18,480 Speaker 1: adapted to. 203 00:09:18,800 --> 00:09:20,960 Speaker 2: Well, it's what you do on your phone. So before, 204 00:09:21,080 --> 00:09:23,200 Speaker 2: like when you only had MySpace on your computer, it 205 00:09:23,280 --> 00:09:27,120 Speaker 2: was different, but somehow, like that's how it's progressed in 206 00:09:27,160 --> 00:09:29,760 Speaker 2: our society now that we have such access to apps 207 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:32,040 Speaker 2: on our phone, and that could be for dating apps, 208 00:09:32,040 --> 00:09:33,960 Speaker 2: that could be anything. It's like we always wonder why 209 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:38,000 Speaker 2: these things are so addictive. There's obviously like the validation piece, 210 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:42,320 Speaker 2: you know, the reward process that speaks to our brains 211 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:44,520 Speaker 2: and our nervous systems. But I just thought that that's 212 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:48,560 Speaker 2: so interesting about that motion, and so I have started 213 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 2: to try, like if I find myself having those days 214 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:56,719 Speaker 2: where I'm just not able to not pick up my phone, 215 00:09:57,120 --> 00:09:59,040 Speaker 2: I'm like, what is going on? Like trying to ask 216 00:09:59,040 --> 00:10:02,840 Speaker 2: yourself the deeper question. But it's crazy how unconscious it is, 217 00:10:02,960 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 2: you know, like it's literally like that phantom even vibrate 218 00:10:06,800 --> 00:10:08,760 Speaker 2: thing that happens in the back pocket, or if you 219 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:11,960 Speaker 2: if you see someone else pick up their phone and 220 00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:14,160 Speaker 2: they're checking it, like you have to check yours all 221 00:10:14,160 --> 00:10:15,040 Speaker 2: of a sudden, do you notice it. 222 00:10:15,040 --> 00:10:17,520 Speaker 1: It's almost like an adult pacifier if you think about it, 223 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:20,880 Speaker 1: because you know, when I walk in, if I'm like 224 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:23,560 Speaker 1: early to a bar, a restaurant or something, it's like 225 00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:26,880 Speaker 1: my shield. Yeah, I can like look like I'm not alone, 226 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:30,120 Speaker 1: I can disappear into something, and yeah, I tell myself, oh, 227 00:10:30,200 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 1: I can use this time to get some stuff done. 228 00:10:32,480 --> 00:10:35,319 Speaker 1: But if I look at the stats on my right, 229 00:10:35,360 --> 00:10:37,920 Speaker 1: for the most part, I'm probably not doing shit that's 230 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:44,080 Speaker 1: worth doing, you know. Yeah, so you know I I 231 00:10:44,120 --> 00:10:46,560 Speaker 1: have to change something like this is shocking to me. 232 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:48,160 Speaker 1: This is the first time I've ever looked at like 233 00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:50,080 Speaker 1: I had to google how to figure it out. And 234 00:10:50,120 --> 00:10:53,600 Speaker 1: by the way, if you're an Android user, what you 235 00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:56,440 Speaker 1: would do is you open your device's settings app and 236 00:10:56,480 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 1: then tap Digital well Being and Parental Controls, and there's 237 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:02,559 Speaker 1: charts to show your ice US and then you should 238 00:11:02,559 --> 00:11:03,600 Speaker 1: throw away your phone again. 239 00:11:03,400 --> 00:11:07,480 Speaker 2: On my phone, don't start them on those green pets. 240 00:11:07,920 --> 00:11:08,360 Speaker 1: I can't. 241 00:11:08,679 --> 00:11:16,559 Speaker 2: I can't hear that rant again. I will say, there 242 00:11:16,640 --> 00:11:18,440 Speaker 2: is something you can do on iPhones, And I did 243 00:11:18,440 --> 00:11:20,680 Speaker 2: have this set up for me for a while where 244 00:11:20,720 --> 00:11:23,000 Speaker 2: it was like, after an hour on your social media, 245 00:11:23,080 --> 00:11:25,480 Speaker 2: you would get it stops you. It like takes you 246 00:11:25,559 --> 00:11:27,559 Speaker 2: out of it, and it goes alert. You've been on 247 00:11:27,600 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 2: here for an hour. Let me tell you how fast 248 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:31,640 Speaker 2: that comes in your day. There would be times where 249 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:33,719 Speaker 2: I'm like, it's eight am, how am I already getting that? 250 00:11:33,920 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 1: Like right? 251 00:11:34,880 --> 00:11:38,920 Speaker 2: And so anyway, I wouldn't necessarily follow the rules, but 252 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:41,800 Speaker 2: it was something that I had in place that did 253 00:11:41,840 --> 00:11:43,800 Speaker 2: help me actually be conscious of it more. 254 00:11:44,240 --> 00:11:45,920 Speaker 1: I mean, does it not lock you out of the 255 00:11:46,000 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 1: app until the next. 256 00:11:47,040 --> 00:11:48,560 Speaker 2: Day, No, you can just close it out. 257 00:11:49,600 --> 00:11:51,760 Speaker 1: See, there must be some way, like because of with 258 00:11:51,840 --> 00:11:53,720 Speaker 1: the parental control, you might have to go a little 259 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:56,360 Speaker 1: deeper because there are parental controls that you can literally 260 00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:56,960 Speaker 1: lock them out. 261 00:11:57,000 --> 00:11:58,959 Speaker 2: I mean, you sound like such an addict right now, 262 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:00,600 Speaker 2: though when you hear yourself, I mean. 263 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:04,520 Speaker 1: No, truthfully, it's I would need something that extreme because 264 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:06,280 Speaker 1: I would do exactly what you did. Ah fuck it, 265 00:12:06,600 --> 00:12:08,280 Speaker 1: Like in the same way that like when my alarm 266 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:11,720 Speaker 1: goes off at six am, I hit snooze for an hour. 267 00:12:12,040 --> 00:12:14,719 Speaker 2: We'll tell about that stat So I was. 268 00:12:14,640 --> 00:12:17,320 Speaker 1: Like, wait a minute, why have I used my clock 269 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:21,040 Speaker 1: more than I used email that day? Well, because I like, 270 00:12:21,280 --> 00:12:23,800 Speaker 1: I hit snooze for an hour and so you're in 271 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:27,640 Speaker 1: your clock is open the whole time that so it's 272 00:12:27,640 --> 00:12:29,839 Speaker 1: from like six am to seven am. The other day. 273 00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:32,600 Speaker 2: I just can't The snooze thing is so bizarre to me. 274 00:12:32,800 --> 00:12:35,040 Speaker 2: I don't understand it because I'm like, just set your 275 00:12:35,080 --> 00:12:36,640 Speaker 2: alarm for seven, then why. 276 00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:38,160 Speaker 1: Then I would hit snooze till eight? 277 00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 2: But it's just such disrupted sleep, I guess, so I 278 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:46,599 Speaker 2: don't feel rested after. It makes me feel worse if I'm. 279 00:12:45,480 --> 00:12:50,520 Speaker 1: Trying to shift my daily habits so that I wake 280 00:12:50,600 --> 00:12:53,680 Speaker 1: up earlier so that I can get like a dog 281 00:12:53,760 --> 00:12:56,360 Speaker 1: walk in, some meditation, some journaling and the gym, but 282 00:12:56,520 --> 00:13:00,520 Speaker 1: all before work. But it's really I know, it's really 283 00:13:00,559 --> 00:13:04,360 Speaker 1: hard to shift that because I'm used to standing up 284 00:13:04,400 --> 00:13:06,800 Speaker 1: really late, and waking up at six is really hard. 285 00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:10,600 Speaker 1: So I have started Now I put my phone in 286 00:13:10,679 --> 00:13:13,240 Speaker 1: the kitchen and an alarm clock in the kitchen, so 287 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 1: I have to get out of bed to turn them off. 288 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:17,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, and then once you're out, it's like you're us 289 00:13:17,240 --> 00:13:19,640 Speaker 2: it seem as well, make a coffee while you're yeah. 290 00:13:19,559 --> 00:13:21,960 Speaker 1: Right, and then once I want and you know, after 291 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:23,920 Speaker 1: a few days of this, it will start to form 292 00:13:23,960 --> 00:13:25,920 Speaker 1: a habit where it's a lot easier just to get 293 00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:28,120 Speaker 1: up at that time because I actually really love being 294 00:13:28,200 --> 00:13:31,600 Speaker 1: up in the morning. I also happen to love sleeping, 295 00:13:31,840 --> 00:13:35,680 Speaker 1: so if I can sleep later, I do. But this 296 00:13:35,840 --> 00:13:38,040 Speaker 1: was a short tail sign, Like that's really embarrassing. 297 00:13:38,280 --> 00:13:39,120 Speaker 2: It's shocking. 298 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:42,120 Speaker 1: You were on your clock for an hour. Yeah, so 299 00:13:42,360 --> 00:13:45,040 Speaker 1: like what a lame app to be on the clock. 300 00:13:45,600 --> 00:13:46,839 Speaker 1: It's like what. 301 00:13:49,080 --> 00:13:50,840 Speaker 2: You did. Send me another post that I thought was 302 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:55,240 Speaker 2: really interesting because it really breaks down because when we 303 00:13:55,240 --> 00:13:57,400 Speaker 2: were talking about let me backtrack for a second, we 304 00:13:57,400 --> 00:13:59,400 Speaker 2: were talking about the phone. Then you were like, oh 305 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 2: my god, this is crazy. Think about all the time 306 00:14:01,960 --> 00:14:05,000 Speaker 2: we're missing with the people in our lives, like actually 307 00:14:05,040 --> 00:14:09,920 Speaker 2: interacting with real human beings, really truly connecting, not just 308 00:14:10,520 --> 00:14:14,240 Speaker 2: disassociating or thinking that being on social media is true connection. 309 00:14:14,360 --> 00:14:17,200 Speaker 2: Like we're missing relationships with the people in our lives. 310 00:14:17,480 --> 00:14:19,400 Speaker 2: And then you found this post. Do you want to 311 00:14:19,440 --> 00:14:20,400 Speaker 2: read it or do you want me to? 312 00:14:21,280 --> 00:14:22,920 Speaker 1: You can start because there's several slides. 313 00:14:22,960 --> 00:14:26,400 Speaker 2: So yeah, this is on tanks good news. But so 314 00:14:26,520 --> 00:14:30,880 Speaker 2: basically they're talking about how from the time we're born 315 00:14:31,200 --> 00:14:36,080 Speaker 2: until our death, there's different seasons that different relationships are 316 00:14:36,080 --> 00:14:40,320 Speaker 2: like priorities. So when you first start, obviously, like your 317 00:14:40,360 --> 00:14:43,960 Speaker 2: relationship with your parents and your siblings, like your immediate 318 00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:47,640 Speaker 2: family is high, but it peaks in childhood and then 319 00:14:47,640 --> 00:14:50,400 Speaker 2: it declines after the age of twenty. So the key 320 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:52,720 Speaker 2: takeaways they say with this slide is time with family 321 00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 2: is limited. Time with your parents declines sharply after age twenty. 322 00:14:57,480 --> 00:15:00,000 Speaker 2: You may only see your loved ones a few more times. 323 00:15:00,200 --> 00:15:02,480 Speaker 2: Prioritize and cherish every moment. 324 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:05,600 Speaker 1: I mean, it's wild you. 325 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:07,560 Speaker 2: Talk about that one a lot, because you don't. I 326 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:10,400 Speaker 2: was talking about recently, like my parents are actually moving 327 00:15:10,440 --> 00:15:13,280 Speaker 2: to Nashville, and I'm so grateful because even if I 328 00:15:13,320 --> 00:15:15,840 Speaker 2: see them once a week, it's more than I'm like, 329 00:15:15,960 --> 00:15:18,560 Speaker 2: we're seeing them now twice a year, three times a year, 330 00:15:18,600 --> 00:15:22,040 Speaker 2: you know, like not very often on holidays. And then 331 00:15:22,120 --> 00:15:24,920 Speaker 2: it's like as everyone gets older, you start to really 332 00:15:24,960 --> 00:15:28,120 Speaker 2: take that into consideration of like, oh my gosh, there's 333 00:15:28,120 --> 00:15:31,520 Speaker 2: not that much times if I keep on this routine 334 00:15:31,680 --> 00:15:33,720 Speaker 2: of how often I'm seeing them there's not many times 335 00:15:33,760 --> 00:15:34,560 Speaker 2: that I'm gonna see them. 336 00:15:34,760 --> 00:15:37,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, the closer the older we all get, the worse 337 00:15:37,440 --> 00:15:40,000 Speaker 1: it gets. And you know, you and I it's a 338 00:15:40,040 --> 00:15:42,920 Speaker 1: little different because we're both single without children, right Like 339 00:15:43,040 --> 00:15:45,000 Speaker 1: I think about with my sister, who actually lives a 340 00:15:45,000 --> 00:15:47,120 Speaker 1: lot closer to my parents and because of that gets 341 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:50,400 Speaker 1: to see them more often. But the older her kids 342 00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:52,440 Speaker 1: are getting, the more complicated it is for her to 343 00:15:52,480 --> 00:15:54,480 Speaker 1: carve time out to go see my parents, of course, 344 00:15:54,520 --> 00:15:57,760 Speaker 1: because she's got softball games, running them around all and 345 00:15:57,840 --> 00:16:00,520 Speaker 1: running them around doctor's appointments, someone's sick and she doesn't 346 00:16:00,520 --> 00:16:03,160 Speaker 1: want to get my parents sick and all of the things. 347 00:16:03,200 --> 00:16:06,280 Speaker 1: And there's you know, there's a million reasons. Right Seeing 348 00:16:06,320 --> 00:16:09,840 Speaker 1: this post and seeing the graph is actually, like it's 349 00:16:09,920 --> 00:16:12,480 Speaker 1: kind of heartbreaking when you think about it, Like especially 350 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:15,960 Speaker 1: for people that move away, Like I haven't lived where 351 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:18,560 Speaker 1: I grew up since I was eighteen years old, right, 352 00:16:18,680 --> 00:16:20,880 Speaker 1: so the amount of time that I've gotten to spend 353 00:16:20,880 --> 00:16:24,800 Speaker 1: with my parents is diminished because of that. So I, 354 00:16:24,880 --> 00:16:26,760 Speaker 1: you know, I do make a very concerted effort to 355 00:16:26,800 --> 00:16:29,760 Speaker 1: try and get home several times a year, and if 356 00:16:29,800 --> 00:16:32,000 Speaker 1: there's a work excuse for me to be close to it, 357 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:34,560 Speaker 1: like closer to the home. I'll try and build in 358 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:36,800 Speaker 1: a trip home, even if it's for one night, because 359 00:16:36,840 --> 00:16:39,760 Speaker 1: I know how much it means to them, and when 360 00:16:39,760 --> 00:16:41,840 Speaker 1: they're gone, it'll mean even more to me. You know 361 00:16:41,920 --> 00:16:44,080 Speaker 1: that I put in that effort. 362 00:16:44,000 --> 00:16:46,560 Speaker 2: For sure, and you embrace the time you have with them. 363 00:16:46,880 --> 00:16:47,880 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. 364 00:16:48,160 --> 00:16:51,320 Speaker 2: This one says time spent with friends peaks at eighteen 365 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:56,359 Speaker 2: and declines sharply to decline sharply to a low baseline. 366 00:16:56,600 --> 00:17:00,240 Speaker 2: Key takeaways embrace friendship, Brett, but focus on death up. 367 00:17:00,800 --> 00:17:03,840 Speaker 2: Cherish those who are with you through good and bad times. 368 00:17:04,320 --> 00:17:08,240 Speaker 2: Invest your energy and healthy, meaningful friendships that last. 369 00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:13,400 Speaker 1: I mean, it's crazy because you know that one makes 370 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:15,040 Speaker 1: a lot of sense when I look at it. But 371 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:18,879 Speaker 1: as someone who's single, you know, and doesn't live in 372 00:17:18,920 --> 00:17:22,480 Speaker 1: the same town as my parents, my family are my. 373 00:17:22,520 --> 00:17:26,080 Speaker 2: Friendriends well, our friend group is really good at seeing 374 00:17:26,080 --> 00:17:26,960 Speaker 2: each other right. 375 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:29,439 Speaker 1: And so I don't know that that graph necessarily applies 376 00:17:29,480 --> 00:17:32,439 Speaker 1: to me, but I can see how in general it 377 00:17:32,480 --> 00:17:36,280 Speaker 1: applies to most people. Because you know, your life is 378 00:17:36,320 --> 00:17:39,280 Speaker 1: pretty care free until you're eighteen, and then you go 379 00:17:39,320 --> 00:17:42,480 Speaker 1: off to college and responsibilities set in and you're starting 380 00:17:42,480 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 1: families of your own and all those things, so time 381 00:17:45,800 --> 00:17:50,760 Speaker 1: with friends becomes less of a priority. But for me, 382 00:17:52,080 --> 00:17:54,760 Speaker 1: you know, if if I'm not with friends, I'm alone. 383 00:17:55,000 --> 00:17:56,960 Speaker 2: Well right, me too, So my graph is. 384 00:17:56,960 --> 00:18:01,120 Speaker 1: A little different. Like granted, like I'd have to quantify 385 00:18:01,160 --> 00:18:03,560 Speaker 1: with friends because it would have to be very different graphs. 386 00:18:03,600 --> 00:18:08,080 Speaker 1: Like obviously my high school friends, that graph really does 387 00:18:08,119 --> 00:18:12,480 Speaker 1: apply to me, yeah, because to speak to them. And 388 00:18:12,520 --> 00:18:14,439 Speaker 1: then I have New York friends and LA friends and 389 00:18:14,520 --> 00:18:17,239 Speaker 1: Nashville friends, and so I have I guess I have 390 00:18:17,280 --> 00:18:21,200 Speaker 1: different graphs, But I think that the key takeaway for 391 00:18:21,359 --> 00:18:23,679 Speaker 1: me there is is like to identify those that you 392 00:18:23,840 --> 00:18:25,800 Speaker 1: just can't live without and make sure to spend as 393 00:18:25,880 --> 00:18:29,400 Speaker 1: much time with or communicate with them as much as possible. 394 00:18:29,600 --> 00:18:32,200 Speaker 2: Well I like the depth, not Brett like it. I 395 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:35,040 Speaker 2: do think as you get older or for me, this 396 00:18:35,119 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 2: is how it's worked. I've started to not have as 397 00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:41,160 Speaker 2: many acquaintances per se, like in your twenties and stuff. 398 00:18:41,200 --> 00:18:42,760 Speaker 2: Remember I'd be like, oh, I just want to go out, 399 00:18:42,760 --> 00:18:44,000 Speaker 2: so who can I do that with? And it's like 400 00:18:44,000 --> 00:18:45,600 Speaker 2: you would go up with the person who didn't barely 401 00:18:45,640 --> 00:18:47,720 Speaker 2: even knew, Like it was just I don't know, we 402 00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:50,440 Speaker 2: would just hang out with different kinds of people. Now, 403 00:18:50,480 --> 00:18:54,119 Speaker 2: I'm like, if I'm giving effort into a relationship or time, 404 00:18:54,240 --> 00:18:57,040 Speaker 2: because none of us have that much of that because 405 00:18:57,040 --> 00:18:59,240 Speaker 2: of work and responsibilities and all the things you mentioned. 406 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:02,120 Speaker 2: I do think I need it to be someone who 407 00:19:02,160 --> 00:19:05,320 Speaker 2: I genuinely have a connection with, who is pouring into 408 00:19:05,400 --> 00:19:07,040 Speaker 2: me as much as I'm pouring into them, that we 409 00:19:07,040 --> 00:19:09,359 Speaker 2: can actually talk about real shit. We're not just like 410 00:19:09,800 --> 00:19:12,040 Speaker 2: going and getting drunk together like you in your twenties. 411 00:19:12,119 --> 00:19:14,439 Speaker 2: You know, like your relationships do change. But I do 412 00:19:14,520 --> 00:19:16,959 Speaker 2: think the depth piece is something to really consider as 413 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:17,639 Speaker 2: you get older. 414 00:19:18,000 --> 00:19:18,240 Speaker 1: Yeah. 415 00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:22,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, times it with partner is the opposite, But that 416 00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:24,080 Speaker 2: actually goes to show if you're not happy in your 417 00:19:24,080 --> 00:19:27,399 Speaker 2: marriage or your relationship, like you're wasting a lot of 418 00:19:27,440 --> 00:19:31,640 Speaker 2: time because that trends upwards until death. So the key 419 00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:34,119 Speaker 2: takeaways there, he says, are, who you choose as your 420 00:19:34,119 --> 00:19:37,320 Speaker 2: partner is actually the most important decision you'll ever make. 421 00:19:37,720 --> 00:19:41,080 Speaker 2: Find someone you genuinely enjoy spending time with, never settle 422 00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:41,920 Speaker 2: for less than love. 423 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:46,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's I mean, the end of that graph is 424 00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:48,960 Speaker 1: really sad too, because it's a steep drop off, which 425 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:51,000 Speaker 1: means that death. 426 00:19:51,200 --> 00:19:55,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's the inevitable that is not happening, but 427 00:19:55,560 --> 00:19:56,480 Speaker 2: we all will die. 428 00:19:56,720 --> 00:19:59,359 Speaker 1: It's also interesting too, sort of. I mean, I don't 429 00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:04,639 Speaker 1: know how where they got the graphs from, but the 430 00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:09,280 Speaker 1: really sharp endclines is between like twenty four and thirty. 431 00:20:09,320 --> 00:20:11,840 Speaker 1: I wonder if that's like that that's the window when 432 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:12,879 Speaker 1: most people get married. 433 00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:18,120 Speaker 2: Probably, yeah, that's you're right, because it rises a lot. Yeah, 434 00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:21,560 Speaker 2: it's probably like look like that. That's okay, though, everyone's 435 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:25,800 Speaker 2: on their own journey. I've spent with children peaks in 436 00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:28,440 Speaker 2: your thirties, so that's I guess when people are having kids, 437 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:32,720 Speaker 2: more decline sharply thereafter. Time with your children is short. Same, 438 00:20:32,760 --> 00:20:34,840 Speaker 2: that's the opposite of the parents. Obviously, slow down and 439 00:20:34,840 --> 00:20:38,439 Speaker 2: embrace the sweetness that children bring to your life. Co workers, 440 00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:41,080 Speaker 2: this is an interesting one. Steady during the prime working 441 00:20:41,160 --> 00:20:44,359 Speaker 2: years from twenty to sixty. But you spent a lot 442 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:45,960 Speaker 2: of time with your coworkers. 443 00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:50,159 Speaker 1: Yes, it's the longest relationships that you have, really crazy 444 00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:52,240 Speaker 1: who the most steady? I guess. Yeah. 445 00:20:52,320 --> 00:20:54,000 Speaker 2: Who you choose to work with is one of the 446 00:20:54,040 --> 00:20:57,000 Speaker 2: most important decisions you'll make as well. Find work and 447 00:20:57,119 --> 00:21:01,119 Speaker 2: coworkers that create energy in your life. We have an 448 00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:03,800 Speaker 2: interesting thing there too, though, because literally we work with 449 00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:05,600 Speaker 2: our best friends. 450 00:21:05,640 --> 00:21:05,920 Speaker 1: True. 451 00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:08,439 Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's how my friends have become my friends. 452 00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:09,280 Speaker 2: It is from work. 453 00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:12,199 Speaker 1: Yeah. And depending on where you live, you might not 454 00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:15,560 Speaker 1: have as many options of you know, what you get 455 00:21:15,600 --> 00:21:18,040 Speaker 1: to do or or who you get to work with. 456 00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:18,680 Speaker 2: True. 457 00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:23,680 Speaker 1: So we're a bit of an anomaly there. But that said, 458 00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:27,520 Speaker 1: I think if you are able to choose to do 459 00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:29,960 Speaker 1: something that you love, you're probably going to end up 460 00:21:29,960 --> 00:21:31,959 Speaker 1: finding like minded people that you're going to get along with. 461 00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:38,200 Speaker 2: Really well, Time's going alone was a little weird too. 462 00:21:38,440 --> 00:21:42,359 Speaker 2: It says it steadily increases throughout your life, which I 463 00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:44,919 Speaker 2: can really think about is true, And my mom has 464 00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:47,760 Speaker 2: always said this, like the older you get, the more 465 00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:51,320 Speaker 2: clear it becomes. You remember, you came into this world alone, 466 00:21:51,359 --> 00:21:53,520 Speaker 2: and you're going to actually leave alone too, even if 467 00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:55,840 Speaker 2: you're surrounded by loved ones. Like, it's an experience that 468 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:57,919 Speaker 2: we all go through by ourselves. 469 00:21:58,240 --> 00:21:58,520 Speaker 1: Right. 470 00:21:58,600 --> 00:22:02,479 Speaker 2: So he says, learn to and a solitude, lecture, boredom, muscle, 471 00:22:02,600 --> 00:22:06,040 Speaker 2: regularly find happiness and joy in the time you have 472 00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:08,000 Speaker 2: to yourself. There will be a whole lot of it 473 00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:12,400 Speaker 2: as you get older. So in summary, One family time 474 00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:16,760 Speaker 2: is limited. Chairshit. Two friend time is limited. Prioritize real ones. 475 00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:21,480 Speaker 2: Three partner time is significant, never settle for children. Time 476 00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:25,600 Speaker 2: is precious, Be present. Five coworker time is significant. Find energy. 477 00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:30,720 Speaker 2: Six alone time is highest. Love yourself, damn and don't 478 00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:31,800 Speaker 2: get off your phone. 479 00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:33,240 Speaker 1: Get off your phones. 480 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:36,360 Speaker 2: I mean those are two a little bit separate topics 481 00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:38,600 Speaker 2: that at the point we're trying to make here is 482 00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:41,840 Speaker 2: like it really is starting to dawn on us how 483 00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:45,000 Speaker 2: unconscious we're moving through our lives sometimes and how much 484 00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:47,960 Speaker 2: time we're wasting on things that actually don't matter to us. 485 00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:52,720 Speaker 1: Well, you know, when you think about like the lifetime 486 00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:57,240 Speaker 1: of humanity and how new these like phones being in 487 00:22:57,280 --> 00:23:00,879 Speaker 1: our hands and having every touch of a button is, 488 00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:03,960 Speaker 1: you know, on that graph, it's such a small amount 489 00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:07,199 Speaker 1: of time. So we really don't know the shift that 490 00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:10,840 Speaker 1: this is going to have in humanity. And you know, 491 00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:14,480 Speaker 1: it feels like we're really connected because we're on Instagram 492 00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:17,080 Speaker 1: and Facebook and all the things that you know are 493 00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:21,359 Speaker 1: meant or designed to connect us, but we're really isolating ourselves. 494 00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:24,280 Speaker 1: You know. I do think there are lots of benefits 495 00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:26,440 Speaker 1: to it, too, Like I can stay in touch with friends, 496 00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:29,040 Speaker 1: that live in Europe of course because of this device, 497 00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:30,800 Speaker 1: and it makes it a lot easier than mailing a 498 00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:34,480 Speaker 1: letter and hoping it gets there one day. But I 499 00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:39,880 Speaker 1: think that the the major takeaway is that it's it's 500 00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:43,040 Speaker 1: a net loss of these things. You know, they might 501 00:23:43,040 --> 00:23:44,720 Speaker 1: make us a little bit more productive, but I think 502 00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:46,879 Speaker 1: they make us more isolated than connected. 503 00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:49,040 Speaker 2: Because I was thinking you said, so much of your 504 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:51,399 Speaker 2: time is spent texting, and like, even with work stuff, 505 00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:55,320 Speaker 2: how often are you actually in a bad mood but 506 00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:58,399 Speaker 2: you're texting like you're not? You know, so you're not 507 00:23:58,640 --> 00:24:02,399 Speaker 2: actually being true. It's like when you're experience a person 508 00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:04,639 Speaker 2: in real life or even on the phone, you can 509 00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:06,639 Speaker 2: hear tone of voice, you can hear like you just 510 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:11,800 Speaker 2: read energy better than you can do to like just 511 00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:15,399 Speaker 2: a text right totally, So. 512 00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:18,760 Speaker 1: You can push and you can push down your emotions too, 513 00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:21,000 Speaker 1: when you actually probably need to sit in them for 514 00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:24,439 Speaker 1: a minute and feel them and work through them and 515 00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:26,560 Speaker 1: work through whatever it is it's putting you in that mood. 516 00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:29,439 Speaker 1: But you have to like be on and getting your 517 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:33,200 Speaker 1: job done and all the things, or planning your night 518 00:24:33,200 --> 00:24:36,239 Speaker 1: out or whatever it is that you're doing, right, But 519 00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:38,680 Speaker 1: you know to lean into my word of the Year, 520 00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:41,280 Speaker 1: which was explore, Like I am. I need to sit 521 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,800 Speaker 1: down and do some deep digging and figure out what 522 00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:46,840 Speaker 1: I'm gonna do to buy myself some more time for 523 00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:51,840 Speaker 1: me because these dating apps, I like every time I'm 524 00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:55,879 Speaker 1: on them, like it's there. I don't find them beneficial, like, 525 00:24:55,960 --> 00:24:57,960 Speaker 1: but I feel like I'm doing something. I feel like 526 00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:00,960 Speaker 1: I'm searching for my somebody. But I would probably be 527 00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:05,920 Speaker 1: better off like volunteering somewhere or even out at a bar, 528 00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:10,040 Speaker 1: like forcing myself through the disc activity, yeah, or doing 529 00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:13,280 Speaker 1: an activity, joining a sports team with some gates gaze, 530 00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:18,480 Speaker 1: you know, like sports ball, just doing something where I'm 531 00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:22,119 Speaker 1: interacting with people in a real way versus just putting 532 00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:24,720 Speaker 1: myself in like a window to be shopped, you know that. 533 00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:28,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, I used to when I was on apps, I 534 00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:31,040 Speaker 2: would set a limit, like I would set the timer 535 00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:32,640 Speaker 2: for ten minutes in the morning and then I would 536 00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:34,080 Speaker 2: do ten minutes at night. That's all I would do 537 00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:36,440 Speaker 2: because to me, it is the same thing as social media, 538 00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:37,679 Speaker 2: and I was like, I do not I do not 539 00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:40,320 Speaker 2: need another thing where I'm just scrolling and scrolling and scrolling. 540 00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:42,760 Speaker 2: I also found that the days where I wouldn't do that, 541 00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:45,480 Speaker 2: and I would let myself scroll. I would get so 542 00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:49,959 Speaker 2: depressed because it would like you, if you're continuing to scroll, 543 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:52,840 Speaker 2: you're obviously not seeing anything you want and you're looking 544 00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:56,320 Speaker 2: for some sort of proof that that someone could be 545 00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:59,800 Speaker 2: out there. So it's like depressing if you're not finding it, you. 546 00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:03,760 Speaker 1: Know, yeah, yeah, and it's yeah, I think it's a 547 00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:08,160 Speaker 1: self fulfilling prophecy. It's east most of the time you're 548 00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:12,840 Speaker 1: not finding someone, right, you know, like literally n percent 549 00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:15,359 Speaker 1: of the time, it's not really working for you. And 550 00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:18,040 Speaker 1: then you're like, well, fuck, I just wasted two hours. 551 00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:21,280 Speaker 1: And sure, you know, at least, like if you're at 552 00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:24,760 Speaker 1: a bar and you don't meet somebody, you probably had fun. 553 00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:27,000 Speaker 1: You might have had some good conversations and had a 554 00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:29,440 Speaker 1: couple of drinks or whatever. I don't know. I need 555 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:31,040 Speaker 1: to change some shit up in my life, is all 556 00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:33,520 Speaker 1: I know based on these statistics of my phone. 557 00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:37,639 Speaker 2: So basically, we are are just inviting you guys to 558 00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:39,680 Speaker 2: go check your screen time like we did, give the 559 00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:44,000 Speaker 2: fascinating experience, and let us know what you come across too. 560 00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:45,679 Speaker 2: Like I just want to I think I am going 561 00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:47,840 Speaker 2: to set the timer again for my social media just 562 00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:50,439 Speaker 2: so it goes off because I am trying to be 563 00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:53,920 Speaker 2: more active on there for work purposes, but I also 564 00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:56,400 Speaker 2: don't need to fully scroll all the time, like I'm 565 00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:59,680 Speaker 2: just finding myself doing it and it's basically a waste 566 00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:05,000 Speaker 2: of time. So yeah, yeah, that's my new thing. If 567 00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:06,720 Speaker 2: you guys do try it and you want to let 568 00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:08,360 Speaker 2: us know, you can always email us at the Edge 569 00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:10,679 Speaker 2: at velvesedge dot com or you can hit us up 570 00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:14,840 Speaker 2: on the voicemail send us some voicemails. We're ready. You 571 00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:16,919 Speaker 2: can find that on my Instagram in the link at 572 00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:19,760 Speaker 2: the bio. It is at Velvet's Edge Chip. 573 00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:23,960 Speaker 1: I'm at Chip door shot chp d O R s ch. 574 00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:26,520 Speaker 2: And as you guys are going into the weekend and 575 00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:29,840 Speaker 2: you're living on the edge, I was gonna try to 576 00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:30,560 Speaker 2: be cute, but. 577 00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:33,240 Speaker 1: Stop my phone. 578 00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:36,080 Speaker 2: If you're living, hopefully not living on your phone, I 579 00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:43,600 Speaker 2: hope you always remember to a casual bye.