WEBVTT - I Choose...Being A Risk Taker with Trista Sutter

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garth. Hey, everybody,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome to I Choose Me. This podcast, as you know,

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<v Speaker 1>is all about the choices we make and where they

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<v Speaker 1>lead us. Life is a way of presenting us with

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<v Speaker 1>opportunities for growth and change. When we're faced with a

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<v Speaker 1>new opportunity, we either make a safe, familiar choice, or

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<v Speaker 1>maybe we see this opportunity as a place to make

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<v Speaker 1>choices that propel us towards unfamiliar, uncertain places and experiences.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's in those risky choices where we find

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<v Speaker 1>the most gorgeous and rewarding personal growth and Rea mention

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<v Speaker 1>of ourselves. My guest today has taken some big and

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<v Speaker 1>bold risks in her life. You know her from being

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<v Speaker 1>the first ever bachelorette and from her podcast Almost Famous Ogs.

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<v Speaker 1>She recently participated on the new season of Special Forces

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<v Speaker 1>on Fox and spoiler alert, even though her time on

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<v Speaker 1>the show has come to an end, I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>talk with her because this show is so extreme. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know how she did it. Please welcome Trista Sutter

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<v Speaker 1>to the podcast. Hello Trista, Oh my gosh, I'm so excited.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't even know how many dreams you are making

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<v Speaker 2>come true with my college self. And honestly, I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I get you know when people tell you who

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<v Speaker 2>you look like, you're a woman of the people. Get

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<v Speaker 2>And I've always been like, thank you. That's such a

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<v Speaker 2>huge compliment. So I really like that. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I'm also a fan of yours. Been watching you

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<v Speaker 1>since you're on the Bachelor.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a long time ago.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a long time ago. Oh my god, you were

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<v Speaker 1>the very first bachelorette, like you are the reason there

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<v Speaker 1>is it's the Bachelor nation is so strong.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, thank you for that. I don't know if I

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<v Speaker 2>can take all the credit, but but yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 2>it's pretty crazy. But it's still going on, Like it

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<v Speaker 2>really is pretty crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>It really is.

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<v Speaker 2>Get started. I just want to say I'm so sorry

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<v Speaker 2>for everything that you and your family and your community

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<v Speaker 2>are going through. It's just heartbreaking.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you. Yeah, it really is heartbreaking. Oh it's just yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, of course, I just I had to say it,

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<v Speaker 2>but of course no. I was there actually on Tuesday,

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<v Speaker 2>but when it all started. Yes, I was doing interviews

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<v Speaker 2>at the Sunset Marquis Hotel and there was a fire

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<v Speaker 2>right near our hotel, and then as I was leaving

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<v Speaker 2>to go to the airport, like this huge plume of smoke.

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<v Speaker 2>You could see it from far away on the four

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<v Speaker 2>or five, and then from my plane, I actually took

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<v Speaker 2>a video of the Palisade fire. I'm thankful that I

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<v Speaker 2>got out when I did. But yeah, I just it's

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<v Speaker 2>like all in comor, like it consumes you your mind,

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<v Speaker 2>even if you don't live there, like I just my

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<v Speaker 2>heart is breaking for.

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<v Speaker 1>Lost me to me too. Just a first off, I

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<v Speaker 1>need to know all about this experience that you are having.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's talk about Special Forces, because for those of who

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<v Speaker 1>haven't seen the show, it's an insane I choose me

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<v Speaker 1>moment in itself just for doing this. It's like an

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<v Speaker 1>intense boot camp environment. Where what were you thinking when

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<v Speaker 1>you said yes to this?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, come on, no, I don't know if I

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<v Speaker 2>was thinking actually right, So at first I actually said hell.

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<v Speaker 1>No, okay, good response.

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<v Speaker 2>Crazy, and then said, don't you want my husband? This

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<v Speaker 2>is totally up his alley? Like he would thrive in

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<v Speaker 2>this experience. I okay. So the more I thought about it,

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<v Speaker 2>after I initially, you know, my gut reaction was to

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<v Speaker 2>say no. I talked to my husband, talked to my family,

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<v Speaker 2>and watched the previous seasons, and I felt like even

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<v Speaker 2>though I was fifty one when we filmed, and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not in the greatest shape of my life. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not like, you know, I'm not I'm not in horrible shape,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm not in the best shape. I'm somewhere in

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<v Speaker 2>the middle.

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<v Speaker 1>That's good. That's good to me.

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<v Speaker 2>And I just felt like, you know, yeah, i might

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<v Speaker 2>not be the strongest on the show, but I'm looking

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<v Speaker 2>my purpose is it's all individual, right, So my purpose

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<v Speaker 2>going into it was I dedicated my life to my

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<v Speaker 2>family for almost eighteen years. My son, my oldest, is seventeen,

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<v Speaker 2>so I look for opportunities to give back to myself

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<v Speaker 2>and challenge myself. And with them leaving soon, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>making me an empty nester with Ryan, I'm just really

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<v Speaker 2>faced with this moment of And you have an older daughter, right,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe two that are yeah, so.

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<v Speaker 1>You know you know youngest is eighteen, so yeah, okay, yes.

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<v Speaker 2>You know exactly. So I it's hard like when you

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<v Speaker 2>when you've poured into your family and your kids for

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<v Speaker 2>so long and it becomes your identity. I'm really trying

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<v Speaker 2>to get back to the person I am without my kids,

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<v Speaker 2>because not to take away from being a mom, it's

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<v Speaker 2>my greatest, greatest joy and I wouldn't take back any

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<v Speaker 2>of the time that I have given to my family

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<v Speaker 2>and my kids. But now I'm kind of looking to

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<v Speaker 2>the future and thinking, I really need to figure out

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<v Speaker 2>who I'm going to be when they're gone. So that

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<v Speaker 2>was my reason for doing it, and I'm really glad

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<v Speaker 2>I did. I'm really grateful for it. Actually it's crazy,

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<v Speaker 2>it's contense, but it was amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So yeah, this was, like I said before, the

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<v Speaker 1>ultimate I Choose me moment for you is just like

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<v Speaker 1>I need to figure out who I am and what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm capable of again, because I can fully relate with

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<v Speaker 1>You've given yourself all to your kids and your family,

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<v Speaker 1>and when you do that, you do you spend some

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<v Speaker 1>time thinking, well, what am I instead of that? Like

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<v Speaker 1>what am I without that? Because you're about to be

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<v Speaker 1>faced with a whole different kind of parenting And I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's so intuitive of you too. Yeah, first have

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<v Speaker 1>that negative reaction of like, uh no, thank you. I've

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<v Speaker 1>got to be honest with you. They asked me to

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<v Speaker 1>do the show on the first season. There was nothing

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<v Speaker 1>for me to watch to like yet what it was like,

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<v Speaker 1>and just from the description, I was like, yeah, that's

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<v Speaker 1>a no for me. I'm sorry. I don't need to

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<v Speaker 1>push myself like that anymore. I know. I know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm capable of, and I know what I'm not capable of.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm really not capable of leaping from a speedboat

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<v Speaker 1>onto a helicopter. I do not know how you did

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<v Speaker 1>these things. I just I want to know everything. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys are getting like pushed into freezing cold water,

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<v Speaker 1>like I said, jumping from helicopters, you're bungee jumping off

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<v Speaker 1>of the tall bridges. I've only seen the first two episodes,

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<v Speaker 1>but oh my god, I'm on the edge of my

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<v Speaker 1>seat for you and for all of the casts.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you do anything to prepare yourself ahead of time?

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<v Speaker 2>I tried. I talked to Hannah Brown, who was you know,

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<v Speaker 2>on a Bachelorette and won the first season. And if

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<v Speaker 2>you call it winning, like you know, she won for herself,

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<v Speaker 2>but she made it to the end of the first season,

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<v Speaker 2>and so I called her and she was like, as

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<v Speaker 2>much hiking running you can do with a big, huge backpack,

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<v Speaker 2>on your back and I wish I had done more.

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<v Speaker 2>Is all I have to say, Like I did.

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<v Speaker 1>You take her seriously or did you like I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to do this every day?

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<v Speaker 2>I took her seriously. But I had back surgery lumbar fusion.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, maybe like ten years ago. My back

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<v Speaker 2>is way better than it was. I felt like a

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<v Speaker 2>ninety year old. But after the surgery, I always say,

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<v Speaker 2>I wish I had had it sooner. Well, they the

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<v Speaker 2>medical you know, they have to clear you medically, and

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<v Speaker 2>the medical team wasn't going to clear me. And they

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<v Speaker 2>told me, sorry, we can't have you on the show

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<v Speaker 2>because we can't clear you. And I was like, I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>but Jack Osborne was on it with multiple sclerosis, like

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<v Speaker 2>you know, people had previous injuries, right, And so I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, well, why don't you let me make that

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<v Speaker 2>decision for myself and leave when I feel like I can't?

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<v Speaker 2>But why like exclude me from doing it when it's

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<v Speaker 2>just because I've had surgery. And they were like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>we don't know how you're going to be being pushed

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<v Speaker 2>off a boat now. Is anyone gonna be okay being

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<v Speaker 2>pushed off or does.

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<v Speaker 1>Anybody know how let's see, how did I act last

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<v Speaker 1>time I got pushed off a speedboat exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>So while I was working through that with the medical

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<v Speaker 2>team and the producers, I am super superstitious, and I thought,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to jinx myself if I keep working out.

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<v Speaker 2>So I've freaking stopped. I mean, and I knew like

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<v Speaker 2>three months before they asked me like three months before.

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<v Speaker 2>Had I continued and done it every day like I

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<v Speaker 2>should have, I would have been an amazing shape. But

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<v Speaker 2>didn't I know it. It bothers me. I wish I

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<v Speaker 2>would could have, because what you don't see on the

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<v Speaker 2>show is in between the tasks and the accommodations where

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<v Speaker 2>we're sleeping or like the first day when we started

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<v Speaker 2>at that, like off the boat getting pushed off the boat.

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<v Speaker 2>You run everywhere, you run all the time, and you're

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<v Speaker 2>running with a massive military rucksack backpack that has to

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<v Speaker 2>be filled to fifteen kilograms, which is like I think

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<v Speaker 2>it ends up being like thirty five pounds or something

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<v Speaker 2>like that. So if your pack isn't thirty five pounds,

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<v Speaker 2>then you have to fill it with sand until it's

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<v Speaker 2>thirty five pounds and carry that everywhere you go. In

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<v Speaker 2>between and I don't know. I just feel like I

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<v Speaker 2>don't like to burden other people. I didn't want to

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<v Speaker 2>be a burden to people. And they're helping me carry

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<v Speaker 2>my you can see. And when we got to the bridge,

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<v Speaker 2>you see Golden carrying a backpack on the front of

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<v Speaker 2>his body and his back that front backpack was mine.

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<v Speaker 2>So thank God for my angels. But I just I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't want to be a burden, you know. So I

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<v Speaker 2>really wish that I had trained more.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I can't even run to the corner, Like running

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<v Speaker 1>with no backpack is just like not a thing I

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<v Speaker 1>can do anymore. Unfortunately, before you accepted this job or experience,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever you want to call it, were you like in

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<v Speaker 1>the mindset of choosing yourself or how would you have

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<v Speaker 1>just described yourself like before this?

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<v Speaker 2>Before this, I was like, yes, occasionally choosing myself. But

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<v Speaker 2>I'm still in it. I mean, my daughter doesn't drive yet,

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<v Speaker 2>so I am still like her, you know, essentially her

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<v Speaker 2>chauffeur and set her and you know, all those things.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm still in it really with my with my

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<v Speaker 2>kids and just looking forward, looking forward to the time

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<v Speaker 2>when they're going to be gone, because I have a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of friends who are going, you know, through that

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<v Speaker 2>and becoming empty nesters. But so I'm still in it

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<v Speaker 2>and maybe not choosing myself as much as hopefully after

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<v Speaker 2>they're gone. But but yeah, that's kind of where my

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<v Speaker 2>mind was.

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<v Speaker 1>Since you did have the privilege of watching like the

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<v Speaker 1>seasons before, how did you were you terrified? How did

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<v Speaker 1>you mentally prepare yourself? Were you like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>I said yes to this like a couple of weeks ago,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm changing my mind. I don't want to do it,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I can imagine I would have been like freaking

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<v Speaker 1>out and be like, no, I'm not sorry, pulling out

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<v Speaker 1>not doing it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, there was you know, actually no, I take that back.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like once I committed, I was committed. It

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<v Speaker 2>was just waiting for my clearance to come through. I

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<v Speaker 2>was actually excited. You know, I've had some pretty crazy

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<v Speaker 2>ones in a lifetime. Opportunities like this is not people

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<v Speaker 2>can pay for, you know, like you don't just go

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<v Speaker 2>to the special courses and be like, hey, can you

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<v Speaker 2>put me through base camp boot camp? You know? So

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<v Speaker 2>I feel really lucky that I got asked, and I

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<v Speaker 2>really wanted to take it seriously and and make my

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<v Speaker 2>kids proud, make my husband proud, make myself proud, make

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<v Speaker 2>my family proud. You know, so, no, I was. I

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<v Speaker 2>was definitely committed once I committed.

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<v Speaker 1>M hmm. What was that like, having to leave your

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<v Speaker 1>family and go I don't even know where you filmed

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<v Speaker 1>that where you have to go far away? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we filmed in Wales, so I London. Yeah, it

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<v Speaker 2>was far and it was when my kids were still

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<v Speaker 2>in school, so they were going through finals. So well,

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<v Speaker 2>that was really hard because you know, I wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>be here to help them through that those last couple

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<v Speaker 2>of weeks of school. And of course they take away

0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:13.720
<v Speaker 2>your phone once you start filming, so that was difficult.

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<v Speaker 2>But I will say that's also another I Choose me moment,

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<v Speaker 2>is just knowing that I wasn't going to have access

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<v Speaker 2>to my family and vice versa, and saying, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to choose me in this moment and really

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<v Speaker 2>stay committed to the show and do what I need

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<v Speaker 2>to do. And this is one of the things.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean, because you said you didn't have your phone,

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<v Speaker 1>was there a feeling of like isolation or just like

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<v Speaker 1>complete disconnect from because you're so I would imagine in

0:14:44.400 --> 0:14:47.200
<v Speaker 1>that environment. You have to just fully jump in and

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<v Speaker 1>be consumed by it all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>You do, you do. I think that's how you probably

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<v Speaker 2>survive is you really just have to stay committed and

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<v Speaker 2>remembering your why and your purpose being there. That I

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<v Speaker 2>think is a big part of the mental preparation is

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<v Speaker 2>just really committing, you know, and not lying to yourself,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, like really being honest with yourself for why

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<v Speaker 2>you're doing it and giving it your all. Because it's

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<v Speaker 2>very similar in that way to the Bachelor and Bachelorette.

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<v Speaker 2>You really have to just give in emotionally to the

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<v Speaker 2>experience because you can't get out of it anything if

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<v Speaker 2>you don't fully you know, commit to the experience and

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<v Speaker 2>truthfully be yourself, right right.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's the case with any experience, right.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, totally. I agree, any relationship, any experience. Yeah, you

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<v Speaker 2>gotta agree. Just dive in, yep, and I did. Or

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<v Speaker 2>I got pushed in, but you didn't die.

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<v Speaker 1>You got pushed in. I was like, ouch my neck.

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<v Speaker 1>I would have come up and come been like, you're

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<v Speaker 1>I have whiplash. You seem to get pretty close with

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<v Speaker 1>some of your fellow castmates. Who would you say you

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<v Speaker 1>were closest with and who did you rely on the most.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so, like I mentioned my angels as as it

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<v Speaker 2>showed in the last part of that, well, they're calling

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<v Speaker 2>it the second episode, the second hour of the first episode,

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<v Speaker 2>however you want to look at it. And after the beach,

0:16:20.400 --> 0:16:22.680
<v Speaker 2>which was like the surf emrgin where you're linked up

0:16:22.720 --> 0:16:26.520
<v Speaker 2>and you're you know, essentially drowning yourself, I got back

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<v Speaker 2>to the vehicle and I went through. They didn't show

0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:37.040
<v Speaker 2>much of it, but I went through. I believe hypothermia.

0:16:37.120 --> 0:16:39.960
<v Speaker 2>Took a while for the medics to get to me,

0:16:40.960 --> 0:16:43.560
<v Speaker 2>but I was I could not move my head, I

0:16:43.560 --> 0:16:46.920
<v Speaker 2>couldn't lift my head. My jaw was locked. I was

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<v Speaker 2>in like lockjaw, if that's what you call it, and

0:16:50.560 --> 0:16:56.800
<v Speaker 2>shivering like uncontrollably. And Christy Carlson, Romano and Cam were

0:16:56.800 --> 0:17:00.720
<v Speaker 2>in my vehicle and they scooped me up and put

0:17:00.720 --> 0:17:03.640
<v Speaker 2>me on their lap and mind you were all wet,

0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:05.719
<v Speaker 2>you know, I think, Yeah, I was still wet at

0:17:05.760 --> 0:17:08.760
<v Speaker 2>the time, and they scooped me up and like just

0:17:09.720 --> 0:17:12.479
<v Speaker 2>kept me close to them for body body heat and

0:17:12.520 --> 0:17:15.679
<v Speaker 2>then piled everyone's coats and stuff on top of me.

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<v Speaker 2>So they are definitely two of my angels that kind

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<v Speaker 2>of took care of me, and I bonded with them

0:17:22.359 --> 0:17:25.200
<v Speaker 2>because of that. And then Golden was one of those

0:17:25.200 --> 0:17:30.720
<v Speaker 2>people too, like always looking to help. And then you know, Ali,

0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:33.440
<v Speaker 2>I've known for years and years, so to be able

0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:37.159
<v Speaker 2>to be there with somebody that I already called a

0:17:37.160 --> 0:17:39.879
<v Speaker 2>friend was awesome, and she was really there for me

0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:42.600
<v Speaker 2>when I was going through that hypothermia. Once I got

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<v Speaker 2>back to the accommodations, but Denise Richards and I really bonded.

0:17:47.640 --> 0:17:52.160
<v Speaker 2>I loved the entire group, like they're good people, which

0:17:52.240 --> 0:17:55.520
<v Speaker 2>is odd, you know, not odd that they're good people,

0:17:55.560 --> 0:17:57.840
<v Speaker 2>odd that you know, there's so many people, and I

0:17:57.880 --> 0:18:01.200
<v Speaker 2>felt like everyone was a great person. So we feel

0:18:01.240 --> 0:18:02.960
<v Speaker 2>like we got lucky. You know.

0:18:03.000 --> 0:18:06.920
<v Speaker 1>It's like a big group of people you would never

0:18:07.000 --> 0:18:10.720
<v Speaker 1>expect to have together and they're all so completely different.

0:18:11.200 --> 0:18:14.320
<v Speaker 1>I can imagine like going into that on just being

0:18:14.400 --> 0:18:19.399
<v Speaker 1>open and getting to know these people from a different perspective,

0:18:19.480 --> 0:18:21.439
<v Speaker 1>you know, like you had that you all are in

0:18:21.480 --> 0:18:23.720
<v Speaker 1>the same boat. I'm sure it was so bonding.

0:18:25.000 --> 0:18:28.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it was. I Mean, when you go through anything

0:18:30.160 --> 0:18:35.520
<v Speaker 2>challenging or away from your family, away from your normal life,

0:18:35.880 --> 0:18:40.040
<v Speaker 2>with you know, other people, you definitely bond if you're

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<v Speaker 2>willing to. You know, I'm sure there's people who go

0:18:42.640 --> 0:18:45.480
<v Speaker 2>into this kind of experience that are just like, you

0:18:45.520 --> 0:18:48.240
<v Speaker 2>know what, I'm here for myself and I'm just gonna

0:18:48.920 --> 0:18:51.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm just going to do it for myself. But I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like that was one of the big takeaways that

0:18:55.560 --> 0:18:58.720
<v Speaker 2>I wanted to take away, And also what I'm so

0:18:58.800 --> 0:19:02.840
<v Speaker 2>grateful for now is just having the camaraderie of the

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<v Speaker 2>rest of the recruit.

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<v Speaker 1>I know when you went away to do this, there

0:19:09.400 --> 0:19:15.080
<v Speaker 1>was a big hubbabaloo on the Internet about some messages

0:19:15.160 --> 0:19:19.040
<v Speaker 1>your husband put out there that they were cryptic, and

0:19:19.040 --> 0:19:21.040
<v Speaker 1>people were like, oh my god, are they breaking up?

0:19:21.040 --> 0:19:24.159
<v Speaker 1>And I was very scared that that was happening, because

0:19:24.760 --> 0:19:27.280
<v Speaker 1>you two are like a couple goals, Like I just

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<v Speaker 1>think you're such an awesome pair together. But what happened

0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:30.800
<v Speaker 1>with that?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, yeah. So if you look back on it,

0:19:35.800 --> 0:19:38.320
<v Speaker 2>and I read it on my podcast with Bob Guiney,

0:19:38.359 --> 0:19:42.040
<v Speaker 2>I do a it's called almost Famous Oje's and we

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<v Speaker 2>talked about it, and I read the post that Ryan posted,

0:19:47.640 --> 0:19:51.040
<v Speaker 2>and now it makes complete sense if you go back

0:19:51.119 --> 0:19:54.400
<v Speaker 2>and you know that I'm in Wales filming this show,

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<v Speaker 2>but of course I couldn't talk about it because they

0:19:57.720 --> 0:20:01.280
<v Speaker 2>have you, you know, dialed into secret. You just can't.

0:20:02.080 --> 0:20:04.439
<v Speaker 2>And so I was just away filming the show. My

0:20:04.520 --> 0:20:07.280
<v Speaker 2>husband was being really sweet and kind of shouting it

0:20:07.320 --> 0:20:11.760
<v Speaker 2>from the rooftops via Instagram, and you know, it was

0:20:11.920 --> 0:20:15.600
<v Speaker 2>it was shocking to me, actually, because we've been married

0:20:15.600 --> 0:20:20.040
<v Speaker 2>twenty one years, right, and it's been a long time,

0:20:20.160 --> 0:20:25.280
<v Speaker 2>and it is really sweet that people actually cared. You know,

0:20:25.359 --> 0:20:27.720
<v Speaker 2>most of the time they don't care, and Ryan will post,

0:20:27.800 --> 0:20:30.640
<v Speaker 2>you know, sweet things, or I'll post something or whatever,

0:20:31.240 --> 0:20:33.080
<v Speaker 2>and most of the time it just kind of you know,

0:20:33.200 --> 0:20:36.159
<v Speaker 2>our normal numbers whatever of people who liked it or

0:20:36.160 --> 0:20:39.160
<v Speaker 2>commented or reached out and said, you know, happy anniversary,

0:20:39.200 --> 0:20:43.080
<v Speaker 2>your happy birthday or what, you know, whatever. But the

0:20:43.160 --> 0:20:47.639
<v Speaker 2>fact that it like all the news outlets were talking

0:20:47.680 --> 0:20:50.679
<v Speaker 2>about it all everyone was talking about it, and I'm like,

0:20:50.840 --> 0:20:53.400
<v Speaker 2>oh my gosh, people have lost their minds. But they're

0:20:53.400 --> 0:20:56.200
<v Speaker 2>really sweet for losing their minds.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so crazy. Yeah, I always think when something goes

0:21:01.480 --> 0:21:04.520
<v Speaker 1>viral or is lifted out of something, I'm like, wow,

0:21:04.640 --> 0:21:08.280
<v Speaker 1>must be a slow news day, because they wanted to

0:21:08.359 --> 0:21:12.879
<v Speaker 1>talk about this, but I stopped realizing that it's of

0:21:12.960 --> 0:21:15.919
<v Speaker 1>interest to other people because you're just living your life

0:21:15.960 --> 0:21:19.200
<v Speaker 1>and you're just having a marriage and a family. All

0:21:19.200 --> 0:21:22.680
<v Speaker 1>of a sudden you're in the news and it's like controversial.

0:21:22.960 --> 0:21:26.080
<v Speaker 1>I can imagine that would have thrown.

0:21:25.840 --> 0:21:30.159
<v Speaker 2>She having a nervous breakdown? Are they divorcing? Oh my gosh,

0:21:30.240 --> 0:21:33.240
<v Speaker 2>Like I mean, I had so many of my friends

0:21:33.280 --> 0:21:36.320
<v Speaker 2>from college, from high school, from you know, life here

0:21:36.359 --> 0:21:39.920
<v Speaker 2>in Colorado writing me, are you okay? What's going on?

0:21:43.280 --> 0:21:43.879
<v Speaker 1>I'm fine.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just over in Wills almost probably having a nervous

0:21:47.640 --> 0:21:51.520
<v Speaker 2>breakdown from the show. But you know, you know, they

0:21:51.560 --> 0:21:55.320
<v Speaker 2>didn't show a lot of what I did, which was

0:21:55.600 --> 0:21:57.720
<v Speaker 2>like frustrating for me because I'm like, I do want

0:21:57.760 --> 0:21:59.840
<v Speaker 2>to show my kids that I actually did jump off

0:21:59.840 --> 0:22:05.320
<v Speaker 2>the rich you know, and and how well I did

0:22:05.359 --> 0:22:08.600
<v Speaker 2>at the end. I actually failed that one because I

0:22:08.760 --> 0:22:10.080
<v Speaker 2>made noise.

0:22:12.119 --> 0:22:15.159
<v Speaker 1>That was like a good call on their part. I

0:22:15.160 --> 0:22:18.800
<v Speaker 1>think that was a little rough. Well, if you jump

0:22:18.800 --> 0:22:22.480
<v Speaker 1>off a thing like that and your body's like like slammed,

0:22:22.960 --> 0:22:25.640
<v Speaker 1>you get whiplash, Like of course you're going to make

0:22:25.680 --> 0:22:28.080
<v Speaker 1>a noise like h or something.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I don't know if they have superpowers, they

0:22:31.960 --> 0:22:35.080
<v Speaker 2>pretty much do the DS. But they're like, you're an

0:22:35.200 --> 0:22:38.880
<v Speaker 2>enemy territory. This is your mission. You're an enemy territory.

0:22:38.920 --> 0:22:40.840
<v Speaker 2>You cannot make a noise or else they're going to

0:22:40.920 --> 0:22:45.520
<v Speaker 2>hear you. And totally understand that and respect that. But

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<v Speaker 2>what I had a problem with is Nathan Adrian did it.

0:22:49.359 --> 0:22:52.040
<v Speaker 2>I think he went first or second. He went pretty

0:22:52.080 --> 0:22:56.800
<v Speaker 2>early and I was second to last. And I remember

0:22:56.880 --> 0:22:59.560
<v Speaker 2>him making like a grunt, like a noise when he

0:22:59.640 --> 0:23:03.399
<v Speaker 2>when the bungeee like hit, you know, And I was like,

0:23:03.400 --> 0:23:05.639
<v Speaker 2>but he passed, So why do I pass?

0:23:06.240 --> 0:23:09.440
<v Speaker 1>I know, I felt like, you're right, that rule kind

0:23:09.440 --> 0:23:12.000
<v Speaker 1>of came on slow and then took everybody out. Basically,

0:23:12.840 --> 0:23:14.919
<v Speaker 1>I know, I got a fail for everybody.

0:23:16.000 --> 0:23:19.480
<v Speaker 2>Oh and then the boat. They didn't show me on

0:23:19.560 --> 0:23:23.200
<v Speaker 2>the helicopter either, like jumping to the helicopter. And it's

0:23:23.240 --> 0:23:26.040
<v Speaker 2>so funny. I was watching with my family like two

0:23:26.119 --> 0:23:29.199
<v Speaker 2>nights ago. Finally we got you know, all in the

0:23:29.240 --> 0:23:32.520
<v Speaker 2>same house at the same time so we could watch together.

0:23:32.760 --> 0:23:36.960
<v Speaker 2>And they were like, wait, why is the helicopter so

0:23:37.119 --> 0:23:39.800
<v Speaker 2>close for some people and so far away for some people?

0:23:39.840 --> 0:23:42.000
<v Speaker 2>Like Stephen Baldwin. All he had to do was go

0:23:42.080 --> 0:23:46.680
<v Speaker 2>like this, like literally that far, you know, poor guy.

0:23:46.840 --> 0:23:48.440
<v Speaker 1>He was so excited and he made it.

0:23:49.480 --> 0:23:53.199
<v Speaker 2>He did awesome, I mean awesome, but it was so close.

0:23:53.440 --> 0:23:57.359
<v Speaker 2>And then like Nathan Adrian is six six and he

0:23:57.520 --> 0:24:00.719
<v Speaker 2>still didn't make it, and he jumped pretty high. So

0:24:00.800 --> 0:24:04.800
<v Speaker 2>that shows you, like, obviously, I mean, it's a helicopter, right,

0:24:04.960 --> 0:24:07.720
<v Speaker 2>so they try to get as close as they can

0:24:08.080 --> 0:24:10.919
<v Speaker 2>to the boat and they know what they're doing, but

0:24:11.000 --> 0:24:14.399
<v Speaker 2>it's just not like a perfect science. So mine was

0:24:14.440 --> 0:24:17.600
<v Speaker 2>pretty far away, and I had the fear in the

0:24:17.600 --> 0:24:21.000
<v Speaker 2>back of my mind that Foxy tells you when you

0:24:21.040 --> 0:24:24.679
<v Speaker 2>get onto the boat, if you don't jump by the

0:24:24.760 --> 0:24:28.000
<v Speaker 2>time we need you to jump, then I'm pushing you

0:24:28.320 --> 0:24:32.200
<v Speaker 2>in the water from a moving speedboat. And so that's

0:24:32.240 --> 0:24:35.040
<v Speaker 2>all I could think was like, Okay, they're telling me

0:24:35.119 --> 0:24:37.800
<v Speaker 2>to go, and maybe I should wait for the helicopter

0:24:37.880 --> 0:24:40.680
<v Speaker 2>to get closer, but I don't want I don't want

0:24:40.720 --> 0:24:44.280
<v Speaker 2>him pushing me off this boat like as we're going

0:24:44.320 --> 0:24:45.439
<v Speaker 2>really fast, you know.

0:24:45.640 --> 0:24:49.040
<v Speaker 1>So anyway, complete madness.

0:24:48.520 --> 0:24:51.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it is. It was crazy intent.

0:24:52.720 --> 0:24:55.399
<v Speaker 1>I'm still thrilled by the idea that you like, you

0:24:55.480 --> 0:24:58.760
<v Speaker 1>were away and then you had this crazy, wild life

0:24:58.840 --> 0:25:01.359
<v Speaker 1>changing experience and and then you come back and you

0:25:01.400 --> 0:25:05.080
<v Speaker 1>can't tell your best friend, or you can probably tell

0:25:05.119 --> 0:25:07.520
<v Speaker 1>your husband because you know he's not gonna tell them.

0:25:07.560 --> 0:25:10.040
<v Speaker 1>Not to tell anyoney one. But like you can't tell

0:25:10.040 --> 0:25:12.800
<v Speaker 1>anybody where you were, what you just experienced, or like

0:25:12.880 --> 0:25:15.520
<v Speaker 1>how it transformed you totally.

0:25:15.720 --> 0:25:18.200
<v Speaker 2>You have to wait, and you know, you just sign

0:25:18.280 --> 0:25:20.600
<v Speaker 2>your life away and you also signed that you have

0:25:20.640 --> 0:25:23.160
<v Speaker 2>to keep everything in secret. And it's not my first

0:25:23.280 --> 0:25:26.000
<v Speaker 2>rodeo when it comes to that. You know, like I

0:25:26.000 --> 0:25:30.359
<v Speaker 2>I remember signing the contract for Bachelor and they were like, Okay,

0:25:30.400 --> 0:25:32.280
<v Speaker 2>well if you tell anybody, then we're going to see

0:25:32.280 --> 0:25:34.080
<v Speaker 2>you five million dollars. I'm like, good luck with that,

0:25:34.280 --> 0:25:38.919
<v Speaker 2>because I don't have it. Yeah, but it's like, you know,

0:25:39.760 --> 0:25:42.280
<v Speaker 2>the fear, the fear of God or the fear of

0:25:42.359 --> 0:25:44.800
<v Speaker 2>lawyers are put into you and you're like, okay, well

0:25:45.119 --> 0:25:46.840
<v Speaker 2>guys have it Zip Phillips.

0:25:47.400 --> 0:25:56.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, how would you say as a wife, as a mother,

0:25:57.080 --> 0:26:01.320
<v Speaker 1>this experience sort of changed you or maybe changed even

0:26:01.359 --> 0:26:03.679
<v Speaker 1>your approach on life moving forward.

0:26:04.680 --> 0:26:08.240
<v Speaker 2>You know, I know that I can do hard things,

0:26:08.680 --> 0:26:10.600
<v Speaker 2>you know when you said in the beginning, I know

0:26:10.640 --> 0:26:12.199
<v Speaker 2>what I can do and I know what I can't do.

0:26:12.600 --> 0:26:14.439
<v Speaker 2>And this is one of those things I can't do.

0:26:14.840 --> 0:26:19.120
<v Speaker 2>While I wanted to just challenge myself. If you had

0:26:19.200 --> 0:26:24.679
<v Speaker 2>told me six months ago that I would be bungee

0:26:24.760 --> 0:26:28.400
<v Speaker 2>jumping off of a one hundred and thirty foot bridge

0:26:28.760 --> 0:26:32.760
<v Speaker 2>in the middle of Wales, I would have said, you're crazy.

0:26:33.119 --> 0:26:34.600
<v Speaker 2>There's no way I'm.

0:26:34.480 --> 0:26:35.960
<v Speaker 1>Still gonna say it. You're crazy.

0:26:36.960 --> 0:26:43.159
<v Speaker 2>I am. I am, and I am so proud of

0:26:43.160 --> 0:26:46.119
<v Speaker 2>myself that I did that. I treaded water for fifteen minutes,

0:26:46.280 --> 0:26:49.720
<v Speaker 2>you know, like that's not something that I do on

0:26:49.760 --> 0:26:53.960
<v Speaker 2>a daily basis. So I am just proud. I'm proud

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<v Speaker 2>of myself. I walk away from the experience thinking, you

0:26:57.119 --> 0:26:59.600
<v Speaker 2>know what, you should be proud of yourself. You did

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<v Speaker 2>really hard things and you survived and lived to tail

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<v Speaker 2>the tail Yeah, by god.

0:27:09.560 --> 0:27:12.320
<v Speaker 1>I would, Yeah, I would. I would imagine a sense

0:27:12.359 --> 0:27:18.080
<v Speaker 1>of some sort of affirmative feeling in my either ability

0:27:18.119 --> 0:27:21.520
<v Speaker 1>to do hard things or my just even being risky,

0:27:21.880 --> 0:27:24.560
<v Speaker 1>you know, in that way it didn't make those choices.

0:27:25.040 --> 0:27:28.639
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, yeah, And that's that's kind of normal life

0:27:28.680 --> 0:27:31.560
<v Speaker 2>for me too, is being not risky. You know, I

0:27:31.640 --> 0:27:37.399
<v Speaker 2>played pickleball and majong and like it's everywhere, and yeah,

0:27:37.480 --> 0:27:40.240
<v Speaker 2>those are not risky things, So I'm not usually that

0:27:40.440 --> 0:27:44.399
<v Speaker 2>risk taker. I never really have been. I've been an athlete,

0:27:44.480 --> 0:27:47.840
<v Speaker 2>but I haven't been a risk taker. The biggest risk

0:27:47.880 --> 0:27:51.080
<v Speaker 2>I feel like I did before this was rock climbing,

0:27:51.600 --> 0:27:56.800
<v Speaker 2>and I was terrified of that. But actually I kept

0:27:56.800 --> 0:28:00.480
<v Speaker 2>saying during the bridge that I wasn't as scared because

0:28:00.520 --> 0:28:03.960
<v Speaker 2>I had been rock climbing and the heights weren't as

0:28:04.000 --> 0:28:06.880
<v Speaker 2>much of a fear for me as they had been

0:28:06.880 --> 0:28:09.359
<v Speaker 2>in the past. So you never know. I mean, I

0:28:09.400 --> 0:28:13.840
<v Speaker 2>feel like it's really a great feeling when you challenge

0:28:13.880 --> 0:28:18.800
<v Speaker 2>yourself and you, you know, are able to surprise yourself

0:28:18.920 --> 0:28:23.280
<v Speaker 2>and succeed, and that just fills your bucket, you know,

0:28:23.520 --> 0:28:26.560
<v Speaker 2>it fills that like the bucket of the insecurities that

0:28:26.680 --> 0:28:29.320
<v Speaker 2>I feel like all of us carry, for maybe most

0:28:29.320 --> 0:28:31.199
<v Speaker 2>of us, maybe some people don't have any, but I

0:28:31.240 --> 0:28:35.600
<v Speaker 2>sure do. And I you know, I loved being able

0:28:35.680 --> 0:28:38.040
<v Speaker 2>to give myself that sense of pride that I can

0:28:38.080 --> 0:28:38.560
<v Speaker 2>do hardly.

0:28:39.720 --> 0:28:42.560
<v Speaker 1>I love that For you. Do you miss the adrenaline

0:28:42.600 --> 0:28:45.600
<v Speaker 1>of it all? Do you miss jumping out of boats

0:28:45.640 --> 0:28:49.000
<v Speaker 1>and jumping off bridges? Do you miss sleeping on a cot?

0:28:49.240 --> 0:28:50.640
<v Speaker 2>Oh? I sure don't know.

0:28:50.760 --> 0:28:53.560
<v Speaker 1>Do you miss having someone shout in your face like that,

0:28:53.680 --> 0:28:56.400
<v Speaker 1>for me, I will be like, Okay, this is my

0:28:56.480 --> 0:29:00.720
<v Speaker 1>personal space and this is your personal space. I wouldn't

0:29:00.720 --> 0:29:02.080
<v Speaker 1>have been able to handle the shouting.

0:29:02.760 --> 0:29:07.200
<v Speaker 2>It's really hard. It's very hard. But what I realized,

0:29:07.480 --> 0:29:12.480
<v Speaker 2>I think maybe even before we started filming, was I

0:29:12.600 --> 0:29:16.240
<v Speaker 2>think that the whole and I interviewed you, Who's the

0:29:16.280 --> 0:29:18.760
<v Speaker 2>guy who was yelling at me as I'm leaving the beach.

0:29:19.320 --> 0:29:23.920
<v Speaker 2>He's the Navy beal. I interviewed him yesterday for my podcast,

0:29:24.160 --> 0:29:27.640
<v Speaker 2>and that was really actually kind of like a little

0:29:27.640 --> 0:29:33.680
<v Speaker 2>full circle moment. But I've realized that we all, like

0:29:33.720 --> 0:29:36.560
<v Speaker 2>I just said, the insecurities, like you hear me talking

0:29:36.600 --> 0:29:38.280
<v Speaker 2>on the trailer about the devil and the angel on

0:29:38.320 --> 0:29:39.320
<v Speaker 2>my shoulder right.

0:29:40.000 --> 0:29:40.400
<v Speaker 1>And.

0:29:42.880 --> 0:29:45.680
<v Speaker 2>I feel like when you all of us are going

0:29:45.760 --> 0:29:48.840
<v Speaker 2>to tell there's this inner dialogue right when you're doing

0:29:48.920 --> 0:29:52.560
<v Speaker 2>something new, if you're not doing well, you're like, you

0:29:52.600 --> 0:29:55.520
<v Speaker 2>shouldn't be here, you need to go home, you don't

0:29:55.520 --> 0:29:57.800
<v Speaker 2>deserve to be here. You're too old, you're too out

0:29:57.800 --> 0:30:01.560
<v Speaker 2>of shape, like you know, you're not enough, essentially, And

0:30:02.880 --> 0:30:08.240
<v Speaker 2>I feel like the reason that the directing staff yell

0:30:08.640 --> 0:30:11.760
<v Speaker 2>or the military when they're putting people through basic training.

0:30:12.040 --> 0:30:17.720
<v Speaker 2>Is they know that you're telling yourself this in your head.

0:30:17.880 --> 0:30:20.880
<v Speaker 2>It's just a human I feel like it's a human thing, right,

0:30:21.480 --> 0:30:25.080
<v Speaker 2>And so if you're telling yourself, you're going to believe

0:30:25.400 --> 0:30:29.440
<v Speaker 2>what your inner dialogue is telling you. But if somebody

0:30:29.760 --> 0:30:34.320
<v Speaker 2>else says it, then you want to prove them wrong.

0:30:34.640 --> 0:30:37.880
<v Speaker 2>You want to be like through off, I deserve to

0:30:37.920 --> 0:30:40.800
<v Speaker 2>be here. I'm not ready to go home. I know

0:30:40.880 --> 0:30:43.200
<v Speaker 2>everyone's waiting for me, but they're really nice people, and

0:30:43.200 --> 0:30:44.960
<v Speaker 2>they're going to continue to wait for me, you know

0:30:44.960 --> 0:30:47.720
<v Speaker 2>what I mean. So, like, I feel like there's a

0:30:47.880 --> 0:30:50.560
<v Speaker 2>reason that they do it. They also want to like

0:30:50.680 --> 0:30:52.600
<v Speaker 2>break us down so they can build us up and

0:30:52.640 --> 0:30:54.480
<v Speaker 2>show us that we can do hard things and we

0:30:54.520 --> 0:30:58.080
<v Speaker 2>should believe in ourselves. It is really hard to take, though,

0:30:58.240 --> 0:31:02.480
<v Speaker 2>but I think you know me to that realization at least,

0:31:02.560 --> 0:31:04.920
<v Speaker 2>you know. I don't know if that's reality, but that

0:31:05.120 --> 0:31:08.400
<v Speaker 2>was kind of my my rationale for why they do it,

0:31:08.440 --> 0:31:10.560
<v Speaker 2>and that helped me deal with.

0:31:10.680 --> 0:31:14.800
<v Speaker 1>The yelling what did you guys eat? I'm so curious

0:31:14.880 --> 0:31:16.160
<v Speaker 1>about all the details?

0:31:16.640 --> 0:31:19.800
<v Speaker 2>Do you know what's funny? I have the worst memory,

0:31:20.000 --> 0:31:26.440
<v Speaker 2>and oh, Jenny, I feel like I'm like, Okay, I

0:31:26.480 --> 0:31:28.040
<v Speaker 2>need to go to the doctor because do I have

0:31:28.040 --> 0:31:31.400
<v Speaker 2>Alzheimer's or a brain tumor or something, because this is

0:31:31.400 --> 0:31:31.959
<v Speaker 2>not normal.

0:31:32.160 --> 0:31:34.680
<v Speaker 1>It's probably just a perimenopause for you.

0:31:35.600 --> 0:31:38.680
<v Speaker 2>Oh, it's sure, it is for sure. Along with just

0:31:39.040 --> 0:31:41.600
<v Speaker 2>I've always had a bad memory, but it's gotten way worse.

0:31:41.800 --> 0:31:43.000
<v Speaker 1>I know, it's kind of scary.

0:31:43.480 --> 0:31:48.080
<v Speaker 2>It's very scary. So the details like that, I don't

0:31:48.120 --> 0:31:51.040
<v Speaker 2>actually remember a lot of what we ate. I know,

0:31:51.280 --> 0:31:54.800
<v Speaker 2>one day it was like pasta, you know, like they

0:31:54.840 --> 0:31:57.920
<v Speaker 2>do cook for us, and in the vehicles they gave

0:31:58.040 --> 0:32:06.200
<v Speaker 2>us snacks. Those snacks were like yogurt, a sandwich, an orange,

0:32:06.880 --> 0:32:11.960
<v Speaker 2>like healthy nola bar. Yeah, but they stopped giving it

0:32:12.000 --> 0:32:16.240
<v Speaker 2>to us. I remember Cam. He was so frustrated because

0:32:16.280 --> 0:32:17.520
<v Speaker 2>he's giant.

0:32:17.960 --> 0:32:21.480
<v Speaker 1>He needs food, he needs galleries, he needs.

0:32:21.320 --> 0:32:25.080
<v Speaker 2>Food, and he's a vegan and they were giving him

0:32:25.360 --> 0:32:29.200
<v Speaker 2>like not vegan stuff and he was just like, I

0:32:29.280 --> 0:32:34.200
<v Speaker 2>need food. You guys am not gonna last. So yeah,

0:32:34.240 --> 0:32:37.040
<v Speaker 2>the food, you know, it's it leaves a lot to

0:32:37.080 --> 0:32:40.880
<v Speaker 2>be desired. But you're it's not like I expected good food,

0:32:41.240 --> 0:32:43.920
<v Speaker 2>you know, I wasn't expecting.

0:32:43.520 --> 0:32:46.959
<v Speaker 1>Where's the caterer, where's craft service?

0:32:47.000 --> 0:32:50.760
<v Speaker 2>Please? And actually Denise said that like I was, I

0:32:50.880 --> 0:32:52.800
<v Speaker 2>was wondering when we would get our break and we

0:32:52.840 --> 0:32:56.840
<v Speaker 2>could go to craft services. Oh, bless her heart.

0:32:56.920 --> 0:32:59.760
<v Speaker 1>She did a great job. She was like, I knew

0:33:00.000 --> 0:33:02.160
<v Speaker 1>I'd be the first one to go.

0:33:02.520 --> 0:33:07.360
<v Speaker 2>She was so scared. She did not want to look like, uh,

0:33:07.560 --> 0:33:10.600
<v Speaker 2>you know, the weakling that goes first. But yeah, she

0:33:10.880 --> 0:33:14.040
<v Speaker 2>was not weak at all. I feel like she didn't watch.

0:33:14.560 --> 0:33:17.240
<v Speaker 2>I interviewed her too, and we've talked. When I was

0:33:17.240 --> 0:33:21.960
<v Speaker 2>in LA, we did press together and she was like,

0:33:22.000 --> 0:33:24.440
<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to watch. I don't like watching myself,

0:33:24.760 --> 0:33:27.320
<v Speaker 2>And so I texted her and I'm like, you look

0:33:27.440 --> 0:33:31.360
<v Speaker 2>really vulnerable and relatable, and I think that came across beautifully,

0:33:31.520 --> 0:33:34.760
<v Speaker 2>like you have nothing to be embarrassed about. I feel

0:33:34.760 --> 0:33:37.360
<v Speaker 2>like she had a lot of injuries and she's talked

0:33:37.360 --> 0:33:42.120
<v Speaker 2>about them, you know, openly now. But she was dealing

0:33:42.160 --> 0:33:44.400
<v Speaker 2>with a lot. We all were. And you know it's

0:33:45.000 --> 0:33:49.440
<v Speaker 2>if people leave early, you know, then don't get to

0:33:49.520 --> 0:33:53.520
<v Speaker 2>the end. That's okay, that's just their path. So yeah,

0:33:53.560 --> 0:33:54.160
<v Speaker 2>she did great.

0:33:55.440 --> 0:34:01.120
<v Speaker 1>What is next for you? Like, what big giant risk

0:34:01.320 --> 0:34:05.200
<v Speaker 1>you're going to take next? First, the risked taking a

0:34:05.280 --> 0:34:07.880
<v Speaker 1>risk on love a long time ago.

0:34:09.960 --> 0:34:11.200
<v Speaker 2>I haven't looked at it like that.

0:34:11.719 --> 0:34:13.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you're a risk taker.

0:34:14.600 --> 0:34:18.480
<v Speaker 2>Ah, I didn't know that. I mean, actually, like I'm not,

0:34:18.719 --> 0:34:22.239
<v Speaker 2>but that's true. I mean, even like we did Celebrity

0:34:22.719 --> 0:34:26.799
<v Speaker 2>Marriage boot Camp and that was a whole crazy experience.

0:34:27.920 --> 0:34:30.959
<v Speaker 2>Dancing with the Stars was not se Look, it wasn't

0:34:31.000 --> 0:34:33.960
<v Speaker 2>even a show, you know. I just was like, okay,

0:34:34.080 --> 0:34:36.560
<v Speaker 2>well sure, sign me up.

0:34:36.960 --> 0:34:39.040
<v Speaker 1>I wait, what season did you do of Dancing with

0:34:39.080 --> 0:34:39.560
<v Speaker 1>the Stars?

0:34:40.080 --> 0:34:40.600
<v Speaker 2>Number one?

0:34:40.880 --> 0:34:44.120
<v Speaker 1>The very first one? Oh my gosh, I remember because

0:34:44.160 --> 0:34:47.840
<v Speaker 1>they sent out those mailers and you opened it and

0:34:47.880 --> 0:34:50.440
<v Speaker 1>it was like a twirling dancer. Do you remember, Like

0:34:50.800 --> 0:34:53.640
<v Speaker 1>I was mesmerized by it. It was like a dance ball

0:34:53.680 --> 0:34:56.280
<v Speaker 1>thingy whatever that's called disco ball. I like a twhirling

0:34:56.400 --> 0:34:59.719
<v Speaker 1>dancer When you opened it was a great media thing.

0:35:00.080 --> 0:35:04.680
<v Speaker 1>Well yeah, wow, you see you are a trailblazer and

0:35:04.760 --> 0:35:07.480
<v Speaker 1>a risk taker. Did you ever forget that.

0:35:09.719 --> 0:35:11.239
<v Speaker 2>You were on Stars? Right?

0:35:11.520 --> 0:35:13.320
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Season five?

0:35:13.880 --> 0:35:16.760
<v Speaker 2>Okay, yeah, you were an OG two. I love it.

0:35:16.760 --> 0:35:19.200
<v Speaker 2>It was a great experience. I don't it's not as

0:35:19.280 --> 0:35:23.080
<v Speaker 2>risky that you know, although it is like performing live

0:35:23.280 --> 0:35:25.759
<v Speaker 2>on stage in front of a national audience, so that's

0:35:25.800 --> 0:35:26.520
<v Speaker 2>a little crazy.

0:35:26.920 --> 0:35:29.759
<v Speaker 1>Yes, it's it's equal like equally death defying to some

0:35:29.800 --> 0:35:32.080
<v Speaker 1>of us who don't like doing that kind of thing.

0:35:32.880 --> 0:35:37.200
<v Speaker 2>That's so true, It is true. Next, I feel like

0:35:37.320 --> 0:35:41.200
<v Speaker 2>I really just have to get through to the finish

0:35:41.320 --> 0:35:45.160
<v Speaker 2>line of you know, getting my kids off to college

0:35:45.239 --> 0:35:47.160
<v Speaker 2>or whatever they're going to do after high school. I

0:35:47.360 --> 0:35:49.480
<v Speaker 2>you know, that's my biggest goal in life, is just

0:35:49.600 --> 0:35:54.160
<v Speaker 2>helping them succeed and be happy. And so right now

0:35:54.440 --> 0:35:57.719
<v Speaker 2>it's just kind of revolved around that I continue to

0:35:57.760 --> 0:36:02.799
<v Speaker 2>do my podcast and and just you know, work with

0:36:02.920 --> 0:36:05.719
<v Speaker 2>companies that I feel like are authentic to who I am,

0:36:05.840 --> 0:36:09.680
<v Speaker 2>and you know, happily promote them via social media, and

0:36:09.719 --> 0:36:14.759
<v Speaker 2>then just hope that in two years or howeur many

0:36:14.880 --> 0:36:16.760
<v Speaker 2>is left when my kids are gone, that I can

0:36:17.840 --> 0:36:21.200
<v Speaker 2>I can figure out how, you know, how to truly

0:36:21.640 --> 0:36:24.480
<v Speaker 2>continue to get back to me and enjoy my life

0:36:24.480 --> 0:36:25.759
<v Speaker 2>with Ryan after they're run.

0:36:27.120 --> 0:36:30.880
<v Speaker 1>Oh, your husband is a risk taker too, He's a fireman, right.

0:36:32.120 --> 0:36:35.000
<v Speaker 2>Very yes, it's it's who he is at his core,

0:36:35.160 --> 0:36:38.239
<v Speaker 2>like running in when everyone else is running out, that

0:36:38.239 --> 0:36:42.400
<v Speaker 2>that's him. So yes, big time. He's always been a

0:36:42.520 --> 0:36:46.319
<v Speaker 2>huge risk taker and I look up to that. And

0:36:46.440 --> 0:36:48.720
<v Speaker 2>actually that was that was also part of the reason

0:36:48.800 --> 0:36:50.759
<v Speaker 2>that I did the show is you know, they were

0:36:50.800 --> 0:36:53.640
<v Speaker 2>asking me when I thought they should be asking him,

0:36:54.480 --> 0:36:58.040
<v Speaker 2>and I wanted to have him kind of live vicariously

0:36:58.200 --> 0:37:00.239
<v Speaker 2>through me until they get him on the sho show.

0:37:00.360 --> 0:37:03.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm pushing Fox, like, get right on the show. He

0:37:03.239 --> 0:37:04.200
<v Speaker 2>needs to do it next.

0:37:04.239 --> 0:37:07.200
<v Speaker 1>He'd be so great too, he would be so great.

0:37:08.440 --> 0:37:09.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:37:09.239 --> 0:37:12.040
<v Speaker 1>Well, yeah, it seems like with all that you've learned

0:37:12.040 --> 0:37:15.520
<v Speaker 1>about yourself in this new confidence that you always had,

0:37:15.560 --> 0:37:17.600
<v Speaker 1>but you kind of had to rekindle and get back

0:37:17.640 --> 0:37:20.560
<v Speaker 1>in touch with you know, I know what it's like

0:37:20.640 --> 0:37:23.200
<v Speaker 1>when you're a mom and you you give it all away.

0:37:24.360 --> 0:37:27.680
<v Speaker 1>And I'm so happy that you were able to find

0:37:27.800 --> 0:37:31.160
<v Speaker 1>that light inside of you and just let it burn

0:37:32.239 --> 0:37:37.080
<v Speaker 1>because you did a very risky thing. And uh, you

0:37:37.120 --> 0:37:38.520
<v Speaker 1>should be so proud of yourself.

0:37:38.960 --> 0:37:42.400
<v Speaker 2>Thank you. I am. I'm proud. I even you know,

0:37:42.719 --> 0:37:45.360
<v Speaker 2>we had like a little reunion with all the recruits

0:37:45.840 --> 0:37:50.040
<v Speaker 2>and the would you would you do it again? And

0:37:50.040 --> 0:37:53.160
<v Speaker 2>and I actually raised my hand. I know, I'm a

0:37:53.280 --> 0:37:59.120
<v Speaker 2>Looney Tunes, but because it kind of they were once

0:37:59.160 --> 0:38:02.680
<v Speaker 2>in a lifetime. You don't normally get to like put

0:38:02.719 --> 0:38:07.600
<v Speaker 2>yourself through these challenges and and learn more about yourself,

0:38:07.719 --> 0:38:10.759
<v Speaker 2>especially when I'm fifty two, you know, don't You don't

0:38:10.760 --> 0:38:14.960
<v Speaker 2>get those chances unless you really do, you know, take

0:38:15.000 --> 0:38:20.320
<v Speaker 2>some risks. So I just thought, you know, yeah, sure

0:38:20.440 --> 0:38:23.040
<v Speaker 2>I would do it again. Maybe I would rethink it

0:38:23.080 --> 0:38:25.200
<v Speaker 2>if I knew where the location was and I was

0:38:25.280 --> 0:38:28.120
<v Speaker 2>freezing cold, because that would definitely be a crux for me.

0:38:28.239 --> 0:38:33.480
<v Speaker 2>But but yeah, it was. It was a really cool experience.

0:38:33.480 --> 0:38:34.640
<v Speaker 2>And I'm so glad you're watching.

0:38:35.400 --> 0:38:38.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I've been a fan of the show since day one.

0:38:38.760 --> 0:38:41.760
<v Speaker 1>More just like in awe of like what is happening

0:38:41.840 --> 0:38:44.359
<v Speaker 1>right now? Are these people out of their minds? Like

0:38:44.400 --> 0:38:46.279
<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm thinking the whole time I'm watching it.

0:38:47.280 --> 0:38:50.440
<v Speaker 2>Ah, we are a little bit. But if they asked

0:38:50.440 --> 0:38:52.399
<v Speaker 2>you for next season, would you say yes?

0:38:52.880 --> 0:38:59.880
<v Speaker 1>No? What part of that didn't you understand? No? I

0:39:00.239 --> 0:39:03.480
<v Speaker 1>will not do that. Also, I don't think I could

0:39:03.600 --> 0:39:06.800
<v Speaker 1>physically do that anymore with my I have two fake hips,

0:39:06.840 --> 0:39:11.319
<v Speaker 1>so I can't imagine even being that cold, or you know,

0:39:11.480 --> 0:39:14.600
<v Speaker 1>just be pushing myself to the point I just as

0:39:14.600 --> 0:39:17.040
<v Speaker 1>I've gotten older, I just don't push my body further

0:39:17.160 --> 0:39:20.279
<v Speaker 1>than I think I should. You know, I have to

0:39:20.360 --> 0:39:21.960
<v Speaker 1>listen to my body so much more.

0:39:23.000 --> 0:39:25.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and that's good, that's I mean.

0:39:25.920 --> 0:39:28.680
<v Speaker 1>But the person inside me would love to make the

0:39:29.080 --> 0:39:31.640
<v Speaker 1>do that, you know I am. I love a challenge,

0:39:31.640 --> 0:39:34.200
<v Speaker 1>I love a risk like that. So the person inside

0:39:34.239 --> 0:39:36.560
<v Speaker 1>of me would be like, oh, I really kind of

0:39:36.640 --> 0:39:38.719
<v Speaker 1>want to do it. But then I would think about

0:39:38.760 --> 0:39:41.279
<v Speaker 1>the physical aspects of it, and I just don't think

0:39:41.320 --> 0:39:41.760
<v Speaker 1>I could.

0:39:42.480 --> 0:39:46.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah you could, though, honestly you could. You'd be surprised

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<v Speaker 2>at the kind of things that you can do. But hey,

0:39:49.719 --> 0:39:52.400
<v Speaker 2>if you know that, you're like, nope, and your gut's

0:39:52.400 --> 0:39:56.120
<v Speaker 2>telling you that, Like I actually went into it. So

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if you believe in angel numbers, but.

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<v Speaker 1>I it was an angels. What's an angel number?

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<v Speaker 2>Angel numbers are like I would be really bad at

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<v Speaker 2>giving the other official definition, but the gist of it

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<v Speaker 2>is if you see like a number over and over

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<v Speaker 2>and over again, or like you see a number pop

0:40:18.320 --> 0:40:21.320
<v Speaker 2>up and you're having a particularly hard day or whatever,

0:40:21.760 --> 0:40:24.680
<v Speaker 2>it's a way for your guardian angels to reach out

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<v Speaker 2>to you and say it's okay, I've got you. Kind

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<v Speaker 2>of kind of thing, you know, totally totally. And so

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<v Speaker 2>I saw four forty four when before I was about

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<v Speaker 2>to turn my phone off. I feel like maybe it

0:40:40.840 --> 0:40:46.279
<v Speaker 2>was four forty four in the morning, and and I

0:40:46.280 --> 0:40:49.520
<v Speaker 2>immediately looked up what four forty four meant, and it

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<v Speaker 2>said something about how your guardian angels are with you.

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<v Speaker 2>They they've got your back, you know, they're watching over

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<v Speaker 2>to you. And so I went into the experience with

0:41:00.080 --> 0:41:05.000
<v Speaker 2>a kind of peace in a way of thinking, I

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<v Speaker 2>believing this that that God and you know, my guardian

0:41:10.080 --> 0:41:13.560
<v Speaker 2>angels are watching over me. And maybe that also helped

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<v Speaker 2>me too, you know, to not be quite as fearful

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<v Speaker 2>knowing they they were watching over me. You know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I totally believe in angels and angel numbers. I

0:41:26.160 --> 0:41:27.399
<v Speaker 1>guess that's what you call them.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, go look at look at at that. It's actually

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<v Speaker 2>kind of cool.

0:41:30.480 --> 0:41:34.040
<v Speaker 1>Did you have your angels visiting you while you were there,

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<v Speaker 1>like pushing you or getting reassurance?

0:41:38.040 --> 0:41:41.960
<v Speaker 2>I did, And it's so it's so powerful to me

0:41:42.080 --> 0:41:44.400
<v Speaker 2>if you can tap into that kind of thing, that

0:41:44.560 --> 0:41:48.719
<v Speaker 2>kind of belief. You know, I haven't lost my parents,

0:41:48.840 --> 0:41:52.160
<v Speaker 2>I've lost my grandparents and have had a couple very

0:41:52.200 --> 0:41:55.520
<v Speaker 2>close friends and close family friends that have lost and

0:41:56.120 --> 0:42:01.160
<v Speaker 2>just just knowing that or believing you know, I know,

0:42:01.360 --> 0:42:05.080
<v Speaker 2>just because I believe, but I have faith that they're

0:42:05.120 --> 0:42:08.560
<v Speaker 2>watching over me. So yeah, they definitely I felt like

0:42:08.560 --> 0:42:09.279
<v Speaker 2>they were there with me.

0:42:10.600 --> 0:42:14.560
<v Speaker 1>I feel like I really started listening to that feeling

0:42:14.600 --> 0:42:18.240
<v Speaker 1>that you're talking about of being supported by my angels

0:42:18.320 --> 0:42:20.520
<v Speaker 1>or the universe or whatever, God, whatever you want to

0:42:20.560 --> 0:42:22.799
<v Speaker 1>call it. I had struggled for so long in my

0:42:22.840 --> 0:42:27.280
<v Speaker 1>life to find any kind of faith or belonging, and

0:42:27.560 --> 0:42:34.000
<v Speaker 1>so when I started to develop that faith in something,

0:42:34.719 --> 0:42:37.960
<v Speaker 1>whether it was the Buddhist teachings that I was learning

0:42:38.239 --> 0:42:43.680
<v Speaker 1>or the angels that I felt and saw, whatever, it

0:42:43.719 --> 0:42:48.239
<v Speaker 1>is like, if it's the faith, it ignites something in

0:42:48.280 --> 0:42:54.160
<v Speaker 1>you and comforts you and pushes you, and just that's

0:42:54.200 --> 0:42:58.920
<v Speaker 1>that feeling of comfort I think that I was so seeking.

0:42:59.880 --> 0:43:01.840
<v Speaker 1>I found it in faith faith of something.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, for sure. I feel like that's a huge

0:43:05.880 --> 0:43:09.680
<v Speaker 2>part of the mental struggle too, and that goes you know,

0:43:09.760 --> 0:43:13.799
<v Speaker 2>you don't have to be on special forces to use

0:43:13.840 --> 0:43:19.120
<v Speaker 2>this in your daily life, you know, mental setbacks, challenges,

0:43:19.520 --> 0:43:25.920
<v Speaker 2>emotional things going on. Faith has gotten me through a

0:43:25.960 --> 0:43:31.200
<v Speaker 2>lot a lot in my life, and I I am

0:43:31.200 --> 0:43:34.120
<v Speaker 2>thankful that I had that to draw on for the show,

0:43:34.320 --> 0:43:38.080
<v Speaker 2>and I'll continue to use that you know every day.

0:43:38.760 --> 0:43:42.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's faith is amazing. It's right there accessible at

0:43:42.960 --> 0:43:43.560
<v Speaker 1>any moment.

0:43:45.200 --> 0:43:46.320
<v Speaker 2>It's almost comforting.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Well, I'm so proud of you. I don't even know.

0:43:50.400 --> 0:43:52.160
<v Speaker 1>It's not my place to be proud of you, but

0:43:52.280 --> 0:43:52.680
<v Speaker 1>I am.

0:43:53.560 --> 0:43:54.680
<v Speaker 2>I know. At the same.

0:43:54.480 --> 0:43:57.399
<v Speaker 1>Age, I think you're amazing and I'm just in all

0:43:57.480 --> 0:44:00.360
<v Speaker 1>that you chose to do this, and you're such a

0:44:00.440 --> 0:44:03.360
<v Speaker 1>risk taker and a leader. That's a great message for

0:44:03.440 --> 0:44:07.040
<v Speaker 1>your daughter and your son. And yeah, I think you're awesome.

0:44:08.680 --> 0:44:11.560
<v Speaker 2>Right back, as I said, I've been such a huge

0:44:11.600 --> 0:44:14.759
<v Speaker 2>fan for so long, So thank you.

0:44:15.080 --> 0:44:16.960
<v Speaker 1>It's been so nice to chat with you. Before I

0:44:17.040 --> 0:44:18.720
<v Speaker 1>let you go, though, I want to ask you, Trista,

0:44:18.840 --> 0:44:20.480
<v Speaker 1>what was your last I choose me a moment?

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<v Speaker 2>You know, obviously this show was a huge one, but

0:44:24.680 --> 0:44:28.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to say, like, just yesterday I went was

0:44:28.960 --> 0:44:31.799
<v Speaker 2>it yesterday? Two days ago? I went and played pickle ball,

0:44:31.960 --> 0:44:37.040
<v Speaker 2>even though my I think my friend, my kids were

0:44:37.040 --> 0:44:40.080
<v Speaker 2>needing to be somewhere, and I'm like, you know what,

0:44:40.280 --> 0:44:43.880
<v Speaker 2>this is my time. I don't schedule a lot of these,

0:44:43.960 --> 0:44:46.239
<v Speaker 2>but this is my time. I'll come pick you up.

0:44:46.360 --> 0:44:48.920
<v Speaker 2>You're safe, You're at a friends I'll come pick you

0:44:49.000 --> 0:44:51.440
<v Speaker 2>up when I'm done, you know what I mean. So

0:44:52.080 --> 0:44:54.680
<v Speaker 2>sometimes you just got to be like, you know what,

0:44:55.160 --> 0:44:58.640
<v Speaker 2>this is my time, and if you're safe and where

0:44:58.640 --> 0:45:03.520
<v Speaker 2>you you know, where you're okay, then I'm going to

0:45:03.560 --> 0:45:06.560
<v Speaker 2>put myself first. So I did that, and I feel

0:45:06.560 --> 0:45:09.839
<v Speaker 2>like that is so so important for moms out there

0:45:10.320 --> 0:45:14.839
<v Speaker 2>and caregivers just to understand that if you don't fill

0:45:14.880 --> 0:45:16.719
<v Speaker 2>your bucket, then you're not going to be able to

0:45:16.719 --> 0:45:18.640
<v Speaker 2>fill anybody else's. You're going to be empty, You're going

0:45:18.719 --> 0:45:23.000
<v Speaker 2>to be depleted, and so put your oxygen mask on

0:45:23.520 --> 0:45:27.839
<v Speaker 2>first and fill your bucket so that you can help

0:45:27.840 --> 0:45:29.839
<v Speaker 2>out the people in your life that you're trying to help.

0:45:30.520 --> 0:45:31.320
<v Speaker 2>It's so important.

0:45:32.200 --> 0:45:35.600
<v Speaker 1>Love that message. Thank you so much for coming on

0:45:35.640 --> 0:45:39.000
<v Speaker 1>the show and sharing your journey with us. You're inspiring

0:45:39.040 --> 0:45:39.880
<v Speaker 1>to all of us.

0:45:40.560 --> 0:45:43.719
<v Speaker 2>I hope. So you know, you always wonder like, oh gosh,

0:45:43.760 --> 0:45:45.080
<v Speaker 2>how are they going to edit it? And what am

0:45:45.120 --> 0:45:47.720
<v Speaker 2>I going to look like? And are people like, oh

0:45:47.800 --> 0:45:52.200
<v Speaker 2>what is she thinking? You know, but no cares. Yeah,

0:45:52.320 --> 0:45:53.600
<v Speaker 2>I know it's true.

0:45:54.680 --> 0:45:57.759
<v Speaker 1>You you'd prove to yourself what you're capable of, and

0:45:58.440 --> 0:46:01.000
<v Speaker 1>it does not matter what anybody yel thinks.

0:46:01.360 --> 0:46:04.399
<v Speaker 2>Thank you agreed. I need to hear that good. Thank

0:46:04.480 --> 0:46:05.320
<v Speaker 2>you for telling.

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<v Speaker 1>Me we'll stay safe, be well loved.

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<v Speaker 2>Please please, much love,