Speaker 1: Yeah, so Harvard has a porn archive.
Speaker 2: I didn't know this.
Speaker 3: Yeah, there are a lot of universities like UC Santa
Speaker 3: Barbara also has a porn archive. Mirea Miller Young who
Speaker 3: was a purpose for university professors, students, grad students to
Speaker 3: be able to study the material and be able to
Speaker 3: write about the work, to be able to identify folks
Speaker 3: who were doing who are doing this, who were in
Speaker 3: the business a.
Speaker 1: Part of Also, it's a blooming of sexual liberation.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's black history, right, but for blackborn it's black
Speaker 3: history when you look at people like let's say Johnny Keys,
Speaker 3: who was the first black man to ever star in
Speaker 3: an interracial sex scene in the Behind the Green Door.
Speaker 1: He received death threats like do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 3: And so like, you know, Vanessa del Rio was the
Speaker 3: first big star, like you know, like Afro latinas star
Speaker 3: in the business.
Speaker 1: Heather Hunter was a star.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but there's so many of us that are you know,
Speaker 3: this is black history.
Speaker 2: And like you mentioned King Magazine.
Speaker 3: You know, there's an one of the other people who
Speaker 3: I'm I'm starting to work with, you know, curating his
Speaker 3: collection is this guy by the name of Dapper Dan
Speaker 3: who's also.
Speaker 1: A New York Wang.
Speaker 3: Not not there's another dapper Gucci one. There's another dapper
Speaker 3: Dan who was the He actually started Black Tail and
Speaker 3: Portfolio Magazine and Black Lust magazine. Like he was working
Speaker 3: for another magazine company and they had no And this
Speaker 3: is like we're talking about the seventies right this late
Speaker 3: seventies early eighties, they had no black magazines. He started
Speaker 3: the magazines, the vazines, and he actually has in his
Speaker 3: apartment in Brooklyn every magazine that these companies that they
Speaker 3: ever produced.
Speaker 1: Shut up.
Speaker 3: He had so back then, like I'm going to save
Speaker 3: this for one day or you just yeah, I mean,
Speaker 3: like you know, someone like him did.
Speaker 1: Like not only does he have the does he have
Speaker 1: the magazines? He also has.
Speaker 2: Because they used to do video reviews.
Speaker 1: So he has every video reviews.
Speaker 3: Like the companies would send them the video vhs, tapes,
Speaker 3: DVDs to review the movies.
Speaker 1: And they would record their review. No, they would put
Speaker 1: it in the magazine.
Speaker 3: Oh, so he has he has chromes from the photos.
Speaker 1: He has all of the videos that were ever sent
Speaker 1: to them.
Speaker 3: For like, he has an entire archive of black porn.
Speaker 3: Like he he was the first person to put strippers
Speaker 3: like Black like Black and Latina strippers in New York
Speaker 3: City in magazine.
Speaker 4: How old does he know? He's eighty something. Have you
Speaker 4: ever seen porn archives? By the way, No, that's why
Speaker 4: I saw that Andy Warhol porn archives basically eat it porn.
Speaker 1: No, he shot at it, so I didn't know.
Speaker 2: I have any Warol in my kitchen.
Speaker 1: Did not know that old gay.
Speaker 2: I just don't.
Speaker 4: And when you watch it, it's like, Okay, porn Archives
Speaker 4: is funny because I'm like, I'm trying to like, we're
Speaker 4: acting like this is real art, but I'm watching porn.
Speaker 4: But it is, but it is, but it is so
Speaker 4: like you're watching these two guys in a toilet stall
Speaker 4: suck each other's dick and one of them is eating
Speaker 4: an apple. The third guy is just on the floor
Speaker 4: eating an apple watching them suck dick, and then he
Speaker 4: puts the apple down starts sucking the dick, and at
Speaker 4: what At the first glance, you're like, this is porn.
Speaker 4: And then you're watching something in black and white with
Speaker 4: no sound and you're like, this is art.
Speaker 1: Yeah, holy shit.
Speaker 4: Now, I like I want to see a porn art.
Speaker 4: There's a day threesome. He has with a woman. Excuse me,
Speaker 4: I'm mess but it's by yeah, and she's got a
Speaker 4: full bush just shot Like what what probably?
Speaker 2: Wow?
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's I mean so so Like, I'm really excited
Speaker 3: to go through Big John's archives because he has trunks
Speaker 3: of photographs. He has photos in frames like on his
Speaker 3: that were on his wall. He has like just stacks
Speaker 3: and stacks of like this, especially with him being that age.
Speaker 5: Is this something that you're requesting, he writes in his
Speaker 5: will and as a part of his estate that you
Speaker 5: have accessed to all this suff With.
Speaker 3: Dapper Dan, he has someone who already is like the
Speaker 3: who will run his estate. But now since he is
Speaker 3: still living, like I'll be working with him to inventory
Speaker 3: the archive, ngetize everything, and then make sure and figure out.
Speaker 2: Where it's gonna go.
Speaker 3: Like he and I were talking about the possibility of
Speaker 3: like a of like a gallery exhibition. You know. It's
Speaker 3: like I ran into a guy a museum of sex museums.
Speaker 3: There's a bunch of a bunch of places. I met
Speaker 3: a guy on Instagram last year who has his name
Speaker 3: is Andre Uncut. He's a young artist here in New York.
Speaker 3: He has an archive called Daddy's secret stash that I
Speaker 3: like done the airy sexy and it's all. But he
Speaker 3: has like the he has the original Players magazine with
Speaker 3: Big Daddy Kane on it. He has a copy of
Speaker 3: he has the one with Pam Greer on it. There's
Speaker 3: another one with this woman Anita. I can't think of
Speaker 3: her last name, but she was the for the one
Speaker 3: and only black trans woman to be on the cover
Speaker 3: of a cover and a layout in Players Magazine. Like
Speaker 3: he has a cover, he has that. He has images
Speaker 3: from the twenties and the forties.
Speaker 2: And like, I need to, you know, like.
Speaker 1: The psychology of this.
Speaker 5: I need to know because there's so many things Like
Speaker 5: growing up, I was like, this is gonna be worth
Speaker 5: something one day it's gone.
Speaker 2: It's God.
Speaker 4: I need to know the psychology of someone who knows
Speaker 4: to just keep shit and keep it well in store
Speaker 4: to where it doesn't get fucked up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I don't know how.
Speaker 2: I still just have.
Speaker 5: A box of all my like letters from middle school. Yeah,
Speaker 5: the only thing I really have that I fucking kept.
Speaker 2: My mom kept. Yeah.
Speaker 5: But now she's like, but you and your thirties, come
Speaker 5: get your shit. You want your trophies, get them to Yeah.
Speaker 2: I'm moving. I'm stick of moving all your shit.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but for someone to know to keep history like this, Yeah,
Speaker 5: and it's today.
Speaker 3: It's so much more important because the Internet is not forever. Well,
Speaker 3: it's not forever. Everything from before two thousand is gone.
Speaker 4: Oh I was gonna say, like today, the digital aspect
Speaker 4: of it, we don't collect it anymore because it's gone.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and the Internet is not forever. Yes, that's the thing.
Speaker 3: It's not Ela running it and with Yeah, it's like
Speaker 3: I mean, Project twenty twenty five was very, very clear
Speaker 3: that they want to get rid of porn. They want
Speaker 3: anything that is considered harmful to children, which extends outside
Speaker 3: of what we think of as porn, and it extends
Speaker 3: to sex education, it extends.
Speaker 4: The only thing I'm okay with is getting rid of porn.
Speaker 4: Can't believe I want to say this on social platforms.
Speaker 2: Now, I'll tell you why I.
Speaker 4: Don't want my kids to have a phone right right,
Speaker 4: I'm talking about family planning right now in my relationship,
Speaker 4: And I'm like, why am I like that? And it's
Speaker 4: because I think sex is so accessible and I think
Speaker 4: they're going to be desensitized too young. I'm terrified that
Speaker 4: my kids are going to be too young and seeing
Speaker 4: something super hardcore that they shouldn't be accessing. I think
Speaker 4: there really isn't anywhere that a kid couldn't go and
Speaker 4: find it. It's hyper sexual for me though, knowing that
Speaker 4: this is knowing that I saw your trailer on social media.
Speaker 4: The only fans people that I actually do pay four monthly,
Speaker 4: I found them on X So I get where we
Speaker 4: can see social media being this super accessible thing.
Speaker 2: But right now, watch porn.
Speaker 4: I watched porn on X No on Instagram where the
Speaker 4: trailer was that was age appropriate?
Speaker 3: No, But I like, but but you can and you can.
Speaker 5: Oh, there's the whole page right now, a sance sentence
Speaker 5: to me and we right now don't know how to
Speaker 5: sign down. It's nothing but dicks and maybe because they
Speaker 5: like to, uh what is it they like to censor
Speaker 5: women's bodies, bab We do not know how the nothing
Speaker 5: but like on Instagram full pages of big dicks and
Speaker 5: I'm like, how is this still up? Mining one hundred
Speaker 5: thousand fucking followers? And I'm like, what's crazy? At hearing
Speaker 5: all the women that we've had on here talk about
Speaker 5: I showed a nipple, they were moved it. I can't
Speaker 5: even they've removed my Full Course Soul's page. Now I
Speaker 5: know it's because I'm a woman. There's a whole page
Speaker 5: on Instagram. Yeah, launting the male body. Yeah, but women
Speaker 5: have such a hard time doing It's great.
Speaker 3: And also there is a double standard for celebrities, you know,
Speaker 3: Lizzo Cardi. They can, they can, they can like free
Speaker 3: the nipple, they can torque, they can do all these
Speaker 3: because we're soliciting.
Speaker 4: Yes, the last time I got my Instagram removed was
Speaker 4: pretty recent. I think it was right before a live show.
Speaker 4: Maybe I don't know, but it was some Oh was
Speaker 4: it before the rebrand?
Speaker 2: And I would I don't know, yes.
Speaker 5: Because you cut your page off so much, I don't
Speaker 5: know when it gets removed. I just know you shut off,
Speaker 5: like I need a mental health break, So I don't
Speaker 5: know when it's removed or when you did it.
Speaker 4: Shut Off is not mental health related. I just hate
Speaker 4: living for the Internet.
Speaker 2: I get that.
Speaker 3: So So here's my thing about the about the about
Speaker 3: porn on social media right there. I think there is
Speaker 3: space for platforms to create a you know, a twenty
Speaker 3: an eighteen and over, twenty one and over access to
Speaker 3: their platforms. The problem is that the federal banking regulations
Speaker 3: do not allow any venture capitalist funding for any any
Speaker 3: porn related business, any adult or sex related business.
Speaker 2: So they can't make the technique behind it.
Speaker 1: They can't make the tech re find it to be
Speaker 1: able to create it. So fair answer, so they won't
Speaker 1: do it.
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Speaker 2: No, if anyone's a jingle maker, hit us up.
Speaker 4: Does chat GIBT do the year, because then maybe I'll
Speaker 4: start to like it if it does.
Speaker 2: I mean, of course they do jingles. We can.
Speaker 5: I mean you still just need a beat and like
Speaker 5: a way to do it, like Chat Gibt's gonna write
Speaker 5: the words, but you gotta still kind of put it
Speaker 5: into a little flow to make.
Speaker 4: It the point I thought you were supposed to. Okay,
Speaker 4: here's my great y'all. Let me tell you about this
Speaker 4: rant I had online before a meeting and the nigga
Speaker 4: called me out.
Speaker 2: Oh so Alex and.
Speaker 4: I Alex from WTF We did a picture podcasting where
Speaker 4: we gave way free studio time to the winners. All
Speaker 4: they had to do was pitch their podcast us in
Speaker 4: order to get a chance to come to the event
Speaker 4: live and go back to back. By the way, shout
Speaker 4: out to s K from the episode. S K and
Speaker 4: my Lynn, the couple we had that were turgates for
Speaker 4: their kids and her podcast actually won.
Speaker 2: Oh I want I know they gonna think that they was.
Speaker 2: They was awesome. I felt that too. My boyfriend was like, yeah,
Speaker 2: sure like that. You can't be giving it to guess
Speaker 2: on the pod. That's kind of no, Lie, Mandy, I.
Speaker 4: Didn't choose the finalists Clara, me and Alex did she wasn't.
Speaker 2: They weren't my pick.
Speaker 4: I was sitting with ettn Maurice Oaklove from Essence, who
Speaker 4: interview does Jacob Willis from the Justice Podcast and Alex
Speaker 4: and we all were like hands.
Speaker 2: It wasn't even a everybody in the room.
Speaker 4: So I felt bad too because I was like, damn,
Speaker 4: now I gotta pick this bitch.
Speaker 2: But whatever, they were the best. It is what it is.
Speaker 4: And as you guys can tell because when they came on,
Speaker 4: they were so lovable and sweet.
Speaker 2: They were great.
Speaker 4: Well, anyway, we go through about fifty pitches and I'd
Speaker 4: say thirty five of them were chat GBT. Now this
Speaker 4: is what I mean by chat GPT, and this is
Speaker 4: what I mean by everybody needs to start using it.
Speaker 4: Right People giving me the outline of their podcast through
Speaker 4: chat GBT and like the verbiage doesn't even sound original. Now,
Speaker 4: if you're pitching a podcast, you want to kind of
Speaker 4: see and feel the personality.
Speaker 2: People are like, here are the games I would play and.
Speaker 4: Then it's like a list of three bullet pointed games
Speaker 4: with the line in the spacing, and I'm like, oh, dog,
Speaker 4: like this is really crazy. So I get on a
Speaker 4: call the next day for someone that wants me to
Speaker 4: produce this show. Well, WT have to produce it, and
Speaker 4: he goes, hey, ways, he lovely to meet you. I
Speaker 4: actually follow you on Instagram where I've been called out
Speaker 4: for chat GPT. But that's why I'm trying to hire
Speaker 4: you guys. I was like, okay, I'll know what to say.
Speaker 4: So I'm like, was I wrong for what I said?
Speaker 4: Mitch that email was probably used with chet GPT, the
Speaker 4: one he sent me, it was probably I know what
Speaker 4: now I saw it, so bitch, I went, wait to
Speaker 4: go take a look, I said, Sam, wrong. Now I
Speaker 4: feel bad because Clara and Alex are just like, with this, bitch,
Speaker 4: shut up. He's like, many people use chat GPT in
Speaker 4: the same industry we're all in, So I don't know
Speaker 4: why there's so much shame around it. I was like,
Speaker 4: maybe it's just the way you used it. Mitch Ill
Speaker 4: was dad serious.
Speaker 5: All I know is chet GPT is one of my
Speaker 5: many boyfriends. He chet GPT is actually my husband. Then
Speaker 5: I have boyfriends, so I mean I I and again,
Speaker 5: I think that's why we're yin and yang. For a
Speaker 5: lot of things that you like, I dislike and vice versa,
Speaker 5: and chat GPT is one of them things.
Speaker 4: I think you should love it, replacing your own words.
Speaker 4: I think chat GBT for research. I don't shade that
Speaker 4: I'm shading chat GPT as a replacement for your own voice.
Speaker 2: Oh no, I get that.
Speaker 4: That to me is really I mean, did I kind
Speaker 4: of use that too a little bit like when like
Speaker 4: definitely for like my my monologues, like and now I'm
Speaker 4: ALREADYO guys, y'all can listen to me on Hot one
Speaker 4: on seven nine off the clock six' eight On. Saturdays
Speaker 4: but even for HOW i want to break, down especially
Speaker 4: because radio is LIKE i have like two fifty second
Speaker 4: breaks AND i have to get like a summary of
Speaker 4: the topics That i'm going to talk about for my
Speaker 4: two minute, Break it's easier to use CHAT gbt to
Speaker 4: help me condense my thoughts and to say it.
Speaker 2: QUICKLY i Fucking i'll. LISTEN i love. It I'm i'm because.
Speaker 5: We weren't, touring AND i know y'all, are AND i
Speaker 5: hate me to say, This, well not, touring, Bitch i've
Speaker 5: been in, class and When i'm in, Class i'm doing
Speaker 5: all the not even CHET, youbt just all THE ai.
Speaker 5: TOOLS i think that a part of me is really
Speaker 5: upset with myself for feeling left behind by not taking
Speaker 5: on learning TikTok during the pandemic that right NOW i
Speaker 5: see all of the benefits OF, ai and a part
Speaker 5: of me doesn't want to get left. Out like it's
Speaker 5: it's able to make a lot of THINGS i do
Speaker 5: more affordable and. Cheaper it's able to like give me
Speaker 5: calendars and condense my. Time and y'all already Know i've
Speaker 5: talked about being insecure about my inability.
Speaker 2: To say certain.
Speaker 5: Words so there's things THAT i would like to say
Speaker 5: THAT i just need some fine tuning on how to say.
Speaker 5: It SO i love everything about, it BUT i do get,
Speaker 5: it like remove the. Emojis emails don't need all the
Speaker 5: emojis and bullet. Points, no that's like crazy bullbari emojis
Speaker 5: with the emojis and bullet.
Speaker 2: Points the way that it phrases out your thoughts is.
Speaker 2: Nuts like y'all can change that.
Speaker 4: Out you know what's fighting with my neighbor about a
Speaker 4: sound issue, right.
Speaker 2: Let me read you this email he wrote.
Speaker 4: Me this is did he writes you at chet chip
Speaker 4: t roach CHAT gbt wrote, Me, okay Hi, guila thank
Speaker 4: you again for all the energy and intention you've brought
Speaker 4: behind your letter to. Me we're genuinely excited to see
Speaker 4: if we can make this work as we've been finalizing
Speaker 4: things on our. End we've landed on a structure that
Speaker 4: would make the most sense moving. Forward bullet pointed headphones
Speaker 4: in class with the Emoji mandyama removing.
Speaker 2: Speakers from the.
Speaker 4: Ceiling comma, like oh, no, sorry dash all these other.
Speaker 2: Things please let us know your.
Speaker 4: Thoughts looking forward to hearing from you, WARMLY i replied, Back,
Speaker 4: hey exclamation, point why don't you come downstairs and let's
Speaker 4: have a conversation without the app you're.
Speaker 2: Using thank, You i'm playing with that. Niggas oh my, goodness.
Speaker 2: Bitch my lawyer said him to some ship to, say
Speaker 2: call the police.
Speaker 4: On that hole, again and you're getting, Evicted and my landlord, said,
Speaker 4: yeah absolutely so once he started sending you CHAT, gpt oh,
Speaker 4: BITCH i, okay.
Speaker 2: This whole a thousand dollars an hour for. You the
Speaker 2: fuck around with, me bit y'all was.
Speaker 4: Pissed use CHAT, GPT i think for me to get
Speaker 4: you the information you need and maybe learn how to
Speaker 4: use the. Language something that EVEN i iPhones ruined for
Speaker 4: me was a lot of like my spelling When i'm writing,
Speaker 4: handwritten DON'T i don't HAVE t Nine so.
Speaker 2: Like i've removed that from my, shit cause they be.
Speaker 5: Bruh they just be putting words THAT i would never
Speaker 5: fucking say or do and they just be, it just
Speaker 5: be fucking it.
Speaker 2: Up So i've never had auto correct on my.
Speaker 5: Phone oh so you gonna get these misspelled, words y'all
Speaker 5: know what the FUCK i was trying to.
Speaker 4: SAY i actually prefer misspelled words and like bull shit
Speaker 4: chat THEN i know if something feels. Real it's like
Speaker 4: WHEN i get on the, phone this is HOW i
Speaker 4: feel about.
Speaker 2: Chat oh, no that's a.
Speaker 4: Text to, me an, EMAIL i don't on your, phone
Speaker 4: or you're calling the cell phone, company calling, somebody or
Speaker 4: you call Them delta and you're, like is this?
Speaker 2: Hello or are you?
Speaker 4: Going when scam likely calls you and it's, Like, Hi
Speaker 4: i'm NOT i don't answer them. Calls if this they scam,
Speaker 4: likely it ain't GETTING. Ansl you're getting me?
Speaker 2: Now hold they? Did NOW i got no. Scam? No
Speaker 2: you know?
Speaker 4: WHAT i feel so down bad for my nine year
Speaker 4: old dad because now you even don't say scam. Likely
Speaker 4: he is having phone conversations with somebody in front of.
Speaker 2: Me i'm, Like, daddy why do you need to take the?
Speaker 2: Phone they need to talk to?
Speaker 4: Me, yeah, NO i can't let. It and them telemarketing,
Speaker 4: Companies oh that's that's who they be scamming the. Most
Speaker 4: they be getting all their retirement funds every single. Time all,
Speaker 4: right well we're gonna get into this Week's You Got. Decisions,
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Speaker 2: Thoughts all chat. Chept i'd like to. Know i'd like
Speaker 2: to hear. IT i, am that's what they. Said i'd
Speaker 2: like to hear. It all, right.
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Speaker 5: make sure you email Us Decisions pod at gmail dot,
Speaker 5: com where we can give y'all our very, professional very
Speaker 5: needed advice on your. Problems, okay so here we. Go, hey,
Speaker 5: GUYS i recently turned twenty nine and have found myself
Speaker 5: in a really difficult place in my. RELATIONSHIP i was
Speaker 5: in WHAT i thought was a, serious committed. Partnership we
Speaker 5: were about to reach our two year. Anniversary we initially
Speaker 5: met online during the, pandemic but didn't make it official
Speaker 5: until twenty twenty.
Speaker 2: Three what DID i need to?
Speaker 5: Do even though we live in different parts Of, Florida
Speaker 5: we've been making the distance work with flights and road.
Speaker 5: Trips back in twenty twenty, four right before our one year,
Speaker 5: mark my best friend told me.
Speaker 2: Her, sister who was.
Speaker 5: On dating, apps saw him On hinge after he liked.
Speaker 5: HER i had no idea he was even on the.
Speaker 5: Apps her, sister her best friend's, sister matched her boyfriend On. Hinge,
Speaker 5: OOH i had no idea he was even on the.
Speaker 5: Apps he gave me a half hearted, apology and THOUGH
Speaker 5: i forgave, HIM i never. Forgot fast forward To july
Speaker 5: of this, YEAR i found him again on the tea,
Speaker 5: app where a woman claimed they had met him On
Speaker 5: tender In march of this. Year she mentioned they had been,
Speaker 5: texting facetiming and had gone on a. Date WHEN i confronted,
Speaker 5: him he admitted to, it but brushed it off as just.
Speaker 5: Conversation his excuse was that he only did it because
Speaker 5: he wanted me closer to him and was too afraid
Speaker 5: to bring up the long distance issue without making me
Speaker 5: feel pressure that he wants me to move in with.
Speaker 5: Him despite knowing the answer deep, DOWN i still find
Speaker 5: myself asking is this relationship?
Speaker 2: Repairable and more, importantly what drives.
Speaker 5: Men to become repeat, offenders even when they claim to love.
Speaker 5: You it feels like a classic case of fool me,
Speaker 5: once shame on, you fool me, twice shame on. Me
Speaker 5: as much as he is trying to convince me, OTHERWISE
Speaker 5: i don't see myself going. Back, still the situation is
Speaker 5: taking a heavy toll on me, mentally and i'd appreciate your.
Speaker 2: Advice thank you for taking the time to read. This
Speaker 2: get rid of, him.
Speaker 4: Bitch, Okay i'm actually really heavy on to get rid of.
Speaker 2: Him number.
Speaker 4: One you not knowing he's on an app is a big, deal,
Speaker 4: right like going on a dating app actively looking for
Speaker 4: people and then being like whatever.
Speaker 2: Sign and the t.
Speaker 4: App here's the thing with the, TAPP i actually really
Speaker 4: don't like it BECAUSE i think it can be. Fake
Speaker 4: but here's WHAT i really think it. Is so this
Speaker 4: was a CONVERSATION i was having with a homegirl of. Mine,
Speaker 4: okay even if what they wrote is, fake which could
Speaker 4: very much well be, true it's.
Speaker 2: Still someone that's mad enough at that nigga that they
Speaker 2: want to do something.
Speaker 4: Mean that means he's really out here misleading or lying
Speaker 4: or kissing someone. Off i've dated some fuck niggas in the, past.
Speaker 4: Right but my first thought isn't to take someone from
Speaker 4: the past and just start airing them out that many years. Later,
Speaker 4: yeah probably going to do it with someone that recently hurt.
Speaker 4: You so maybe one hundred percent of it ain't gonna be,
Speaker 4: true but something might be. True AND i think that
Speaker 4: it's just that there's that energy behind, it like he's
Speaker 4: being deceitful with other. Women that's why they're finding him
Speaker 4: and looking for him on this app and trying to
Speaker 4: get more. Shit someone's not necessarily being. Open so that's
Speaker 4: what's really hurtful. About are you dating the same guy
Speaker 4: On facebook and the tea? App it's like a woman
Speaker 4: really needing to search because they.
Speaker 2: Know you a fuck.
Speaker 5: Nigga, Okay i'm not mad at that. Period the man
Speaker 5: is one hinge well hinge and. Tender the girl on
Speaker 5: the te app said that they met on. Tender now
Speaker 5: here is my.
Speaker 2: Thing it's a few.
Speaker 5: Things first, OFF i felt like he was completely gaslighting
Speaker 5: you by saying that he was entertaining these other women
Speaker 5: because he didn't think that you would like the pressure of,
Speaker 5: him making it seem like he wanted you to move, in.
Speaker 5: RIGHT i think you have to sit with a couple.
Speaker 5: Things if this is his way to express that the
Speaker 5: distance thing and needing somebody close to him or more
Speaker 5: around him is an, ISSUE i think that's what you
Speaker 5: sit With, First would you consider moving to where he?
Speaker 5: Is would you be willing to make it to where
Speaker 5: you guys are closer and no longer in a long distance?
Speaker 5: Relationship if you've been navigating a two year long long distance,
Speaker 5: relationship at what point do you want to be closer
Speaker 5: to this person because clearly the distance isn't working for him.
Speaker 2: Right, secondly.
Speaker 5: You did take him back once after being on a dating,
Speaker 5: app SO i don't believe.
Speaker 2: YOU i think you're gonna take him back. Again SO i.
Speaker 4: Think that then you have to sit with yourself and be, Like,
Speaker 4: okay as long as we're in a long distance, relationship.
Speaker 2: What really are my hard lines and?
Speaker 5: Boundaries because you've already called them on a dating app
Speaker 5: at your one year. Anniversary now it's the two year
Speaker 5: anniversary and you're getting this information. AGAIN i think it's
Speaker 5: up to you to decide to is him going on
Speaker 5: dates a hard limit for you or is that something
Speaker 5: that you're fine introducing into your. Relationship y'all know that
Speaker 5: this podcast leans heavily into non traditional, relationships and so to,
Speaker 5: me once you stay with a cheating ass, nigga to,
Speaker 5: me you are unofficially in a non monogamous.
Speaker 2: Rely not to, ME i mean to, me you. Are
Speaker 2: i'm speaking for. Me you shared your thoughts on. IT
Speaker 2: i would give you a give her.
Speaker 5: MIND i feel like if if you if deep down
Speaker 5: inside it's more of an ego.
Speaker 2: THING i get you.
Speaker 5: Leaving but if you love this man or you really like,
Speaker 5: him to, me the only option right now is one
Speaker 5: of two. Things get closer to him so that he's
Speaker 5: no longer feeling the, distance or.
Speaker 2: Talk about what is. Allowed will you two may have
Speaker 2: to go. Tie, okay let me tell you Why i'm
Speaker 2: not feeling that.
Speaker 4: Answer, Okay monogamous people shouldn't have to resort to non
Speaker 4: monogamy to have success in their.
Speaker 2: Relationship i'm going to scream.
Speaker 4: That, okay monogamous people cannot do that because it's not
Speaker 4: a natural. Movement for, that he's not naturally. Monogamous that's
Speaker 4: the problem.
Speaker 2: Too but here's the. Thing though he's a, liar that
Speaker 2: doesn't mean He's that's not Means.
Speaker 5: I'm not saying he's poly but he's definitely not not
Speaker 5: he's definitely not. Monogamous but if and you only called
Speaker 5: him twice and you're on two different, apps they're the
Speaker 5: only ones you know you're talking about give him a
Speaker 5: bad then it ain't Gonna And i'm gonna.
Speaker 2: Be honest with you's. Sister.
Speaker 4: Okay, one you don't live in the same. City he's
Speaker 4: only gonna get closer to another.
Speaker 2: Beach.
Speaker 4: Two this is SOMETHING i learned recently because it's only
Speaker 4: happened to me in two. Relationships, Okay, now anyone listening
Speaker 4: to this that has read the chapter In No Holds
Speaker 4: barre know when you've stayed too. LONG i promise you
Speaker 4: it didn't hit me until it hit. Me your relationship
Speaker 4: is kind of getting dicey around two, years.
Speaker 2: RIGHT i always thought the puppy phase would be in the.
Speaker 4: BEGINNING i realized in a good, situation it gets even.
Speaker 2: Better i've only experienced that.
Speaker 4: WELL i almost said her name scissors in this, relationship,
Speaker 4: obay AND i started feeling weird around that mark.
Speaker 2: Too i've been another, relationship So i'm, like let's get in.
Speaker 4: Dicey when it starts getting, heightened that actually means, like all,
Speaker 4: right this is a great. Direction and that's what we
Speaker 4: all want if we're dating for long term, commitment, right
Speaker 4: we want to feel an increase in that, spark passion and.
Speaker 4: Trust if it's getting if it's going, backward it's very
Speaker 4: hard to refuel and like get it back to where
Speaker 4: it was in the. Beginning it is hard to like
Speaker 4: reverse engineer. Shit, yep it really. Is that's why this
Speaker 4: bitch is LEARNING ai right, now like she said in the,
Speaker 4: beginning instead of, Saying i'm focusing on TikTok because it's,
Speaker 4: like fuck, It i'm going to jump on a new
Speaker 4: wave after.
Speaker 2: That sometimes going back.
Speaker 5: Is you, NO i, know And i'm about to start my,
Speaker 5: TikTok and, Baby i'm, like.
Speaker 2: Fow so, hard Like i'm like seeing people do it.
Speaker 4: Nowadays but, ANYWAY i say all that to, say, like
Speaker 4: it's just a lot, harder it's a lot more, effort
Speaker 4: AND i think you may be pouring into something that
Speaker 4: isn't worth. It and the REASON i think it's not
Speaker 4: worth it is because he was on hinge and much
Speaker 4: worse than being on hinge.
Speaker 5: The t APP i want to see. Too, also here's my.
Speaker 5: Thing let me go back to this. Email We, oh
Speaker 5: here's another. Thing she, said we initially met online during the.
Speaker 5: PANDEMIC i think that maybe that should have been conversation
Speaker 5: in the beginning that, yeah maybe it's too.
Speaker 2: Late but to know that you even met him.
Speaker 5: ONLINE i think that this is why this is even
Speaker 5: more of an issue for you to find out that
Speaker 5: he's still on these dating. APPS i feel like you
Speaker 5: initially probably met him on a dating.
Speaker 2: App so to know that you.
Speaker 5: Could be celebrating a two year anniversary with someone you met,
Speaker 5: ONLINE i think that's also the thing that's making you
Speaker 5: feel a. Way you feel like maybe you could be
Speaker 5: losing this guy that you like because he's essentially meeting
Speaker 5: people the same way you met. You And andy, said
Speaker 5: this guy you, like you think it's your? Boyfriend, girl
Speaker 5: that shit has. TOOUGH i mean, no, no, NO i
Speaker 5: mean they said two year. ANNIVERSARY i, Mean i'll be
Speaker 5: honest with, you. Though it's really interesting to.
Speaker 2: Me AND i know you called him a.
Speaker 5: Liar hear me, Out oh you think? No every time
Speaker 5: she confronted, him he admitted to. It so what's crazy to?
Speaker 2: Me but here's first, off we talked about the hold.
Speaker 5: On we talked about the white lives and how it's
Speaker 5: not lying if you just don't bring it. Up the
Speaker 5: fact that both times she confronted him about, this he's, like,
Speaker 5: yeah bitch it to.
Speaker 4: Screenshot what the fuck is he gonna?
Speaker 5: DO i, mean, well the other one was the sister
Speaker 5: was on the dating, App like he's that's the.
Speaker 2: Thing he's admitted to both of these, times being on
Speaker 2: the dating. Apple, say.
Speaker 4: He did admit it both, times so he's not really a.
Speaker 4: Liar he, said, Yeah AND i showed you the little
Speaker 4: teeth he, said. Yeah he, said, yeah, okay, girl you.
Speaker 2: Know, what do you know how many?
Speaker 4: Okay and maybe this is me being triggered by dating a.
Speaker 4: Narcissist do you know how many niggas could look at
Speaker 4: the screen? Shot do you not remember WHEN i showed
Speaker 4: the nigga the timestamp of him in the hospital when
Speaker 4: he said it was that weekend and it, Wasn't and
Speaker 4: he literally tried.
Speaker 5: To convince me that the picture wasn't two years. Old maybe,
Speaker 5: okay so, y'all maybe this is me. PROJECTING i just loved. That,
Speaker 5: YEAH i did it because.
Speaker 4: Because imagine showing a screenshot to a nigga and him
Speaker 4: trying to convince you that that screenshot is not real.
Speaker 5: Like so to, Me i'm giving the goddamn cheating as
Speaker 5: niggas some cool points for at least admitting that he
Speaker 5: on the.
Speaker 2: Apps goddamn, it, y'all this is this is, Her he's.
Speaker 4: Confronted this is where y'all the dating is in, hell
Speaker 4: because look at.
Speaker 2: ME i just like that he admitted it when she
Speaker 2: came to.
Speaker 4: Him do you know how many niggas like when when
Speaker 4: a woman come to you to ask you a, question
Speaker 4: it's because she already knows the.
Speaker 2: Answer SO i just.
Speaker 4: Want to give him a little bit of points for
Speaker 4: at least being, like, YUP i did.
Speaker 1: It, ny what was he gonna?
Speaker 2: Do bitch lie because other niggas. Lie, okay you know,
Speaker 2: what and then they try to make you feel. Crazy
Speaker 2: you know What i'm.
Speaker 5: Saying, Okay i'm wishing you to be nominogamous in your
Speaker 5: long distance relationship because now all you long.
Speaker 2: Distance bitch is about to get real mad at.
Speaker 5: Me if you're you're monogamous and you are in a
Speaker 5: long distance fucking, relationship one of y'all is getting cheated.
Speaker 4: On get the fuck out of. Here niggas need to
Speaker 4: let off their motherfucking, nuts and bitch is like. Attention
Speaker 4: so if they if either person is not getting what they,
Speaker 4: want they, cheat whether if it's with their, friend whether
Speaker 4: it's with a, coworker whether it's with the bitch at the,
Speaker 4: bar whether it's with somebody they.
Speaker 2: Met on motherfucking. Hinge if you are in a monogamous
Speaker 2: long distance, relationship you're being cheated on. Period.
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