1 00:00:01,600 --> 00:00:03,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, so Harvard has a porn archive. 2 00:00:04,000 --> 00:00:05,120 Speaker 2: I didn't know this. 3 00:00:05,240 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, there are a lot of universities like UC Santa 4 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:10,920 Speaker 3: Barbara also has a porn archive. Mirea Miller Young who 5 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:16,880 Speaker 3: was a purpose for university professors, students, grad students to 6 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:20,639 Speaker 3: be able to study the material and be able to 7 00:00:20,680 --> 00:00:23,040 Speaker 3: write about the work, to be able to identify folks 8 00:00:23,079 --> 00:00:25,479 Speaker 3: who were doing who are doing this, who were in 9 00:00:25,520 --> 00:00:26,159 Speaker 3: the business a. 10 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:28,760 Speaker 1: Part of Also, it's a blooming of sexual liberation. 11 00:00:29,160 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's black history, right, but for blackborn it's black 12 00:00:33,040 --> 00:00:36,640 Speaker 3: history when you look at people like let's say Johnny Keys, 13 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:39,839 Speaker 3: who was the first black man to ever star in 14 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:43,480 Speaker 3: an interracial sex scene in the Behind the Green Door. 15 00:00:44,280 --> 00:00:46,760 Speaker 1: He received death threats like do you know what I'm saying? 16 00:00:47,280 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 3: And so like, you know, Vanessa del Rio was the 17 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:53,320 Speaker 3: first big star, like you know, like Afro latinas star 18 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:54,440 Speaker 3: in the business. 19 00:00:54,800 --> 00:00:56,200 Speaker 1: Heather Hunter was a star. 20 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:01,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, but there's so many of us that are you know, 21 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:03,160 Speaker 3: this is black history. 22 00:01:03,200 --> 00:01:05,120 Speaker 2: And like you mentioned King Magazine. 23 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 3: You know, there's an one of the other people who 24 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 3: I'm I'm starting to work with, you know, curating his 25 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:12,840 Speaker 3: collection is this guy by the name of Dapper Dan 26 00:01:12,920 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 3: who's also. 27 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:14,200 Speaker 1: A New York Wang. 28 00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 3: Not not there's another dapper Gucci one. There's another dapper 29 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 3: Dan who was the He actually started Black Tail and 30 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 3: Portfolio Magazine and Black Lust magazine. Like he was working 31 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:36,840 Speaker 3: for another magazine company and they had no And this 32 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:39,600 Speaker 3: is like we're talking about the seventies right this late 33 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 3: seventies early eighties, they had no black magazines. He started 34 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:47,760 Speaker 3: the magazines, the vazines, and he actually has in his 35 00:01:47,840 --> 00:01:53,040 Speaker 3: apartment in Brooklyn every magazine that these companies that they 36 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:53,960 Speaker 3: ever produced. 37 00:01:54,040 --> 00:01:54,560 Speaker 1: Shut up. 38 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 3: He had so back then, like I'm going to save 39 00:01:56,680 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 3: this for one day or you just yeah, I mean, 40 00:01:58,280 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 3: like you know, someone like him did. 41 00:01:59,880 --> 00:02:01,400 Speaker 1: Like not only does he have the does he have 42 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 1: the magazines? He also has. 43 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:05,760 Speaker 2: Because they used to do video reviews. 44 00:02:05,320 --> 00:02:07,960 Speaker 1: So he has every video reviews. 45 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:11,120 Speaker 3: Like the companies would send them the video vhs, tapes, 46 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:13,360 Speaker 3: DVDs to review the movies. 47 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:15,240 Speaker 1: And they would record their review. No, they would put 48 00:02:15,240 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 1: it in the magazine. 49 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:20,800 Speaker 3: Oh, so he has he has chromes from the photos. 50 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:22,960 Speaker 1: He has all of the videos that were ever sent 51 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:23,359 Speaker 1: to them. 52 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:27,519 Speaker 3: For like, he has an entire archive of black porn. 53 00:02:27,680 --> 00:02:31,519 Speaker 3: Like he he was the first person to put strippers 54 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:35,119 Speaker 3: like Black like Black and Latina strippers in New York 55 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:36,600 Speaker 3: City in magazine. 56 00:02:36,680 --> 00:02:40,239 Speaker 4: How old does he know? He's eighty something. Have you 57 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:42,960 Speaker 4: ever seen porn archives? By the way, No, that's why 58 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:47,000 Speaker 4: I saw that Andy Warhol porn archives basically eat it porn. 59 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:50,040 Speaker 1: No, he shot at it, so I didn't know. 60 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:51,400 Speaker 2: I have any Warol in my kitchen. 61 00:02:51,600 --> 00:02:53,079 Speaker 1: Did not know that old gay. 62 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:53,639 Speaker 2: I just don't. 63 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:59,400 Speaker 4: And when you watch it, it's like, Okay, porn Archives 64 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:01,160 Speaker 4: is funny because I'm like, I'm trying to like, we're 65 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:02,959 Speaker 4: acting like this is real art, but I'm watching porn. 66 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:04,760 Speaker 4: But it is, but it is, but it is so 67 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:07,919 Speaker 4: like you're watching these two guys in a toilet stall 68 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 4: suck each other's dick and one of them is eating 69 00:03:10,200 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 4: an apple. The third guy is just on the floor 70 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 4: eating an apple watching them suck dick, and then he 71 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:16,760 Speaker 4: puts the apple down starts sucking the dick, and at 72 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:19,120 Speaker 4: what At the first glance, you're like, this is porn. 73 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:21,800 Speaker 4: And then you're watching something in black and white with 74 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 4: no sound and you're like, this is art. 75 00:03:24,560 --> 00:03:26,239 Speaker 1: Yeah, holy shit. 76 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:28,920 Speaker 4: Now, I like I want to see a porn art. 77 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:31,840 Speaker 4: There's a day threesome. He has with a woman. Excuse me, 78 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 4: I'm mess but it's by yeah, and she's got a 79 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:39,040 Speaker 4: full bush just shot Like what what probably? 80 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:39,560 Speaker 2: Wow? 81 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:42,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's I mean so so Like, I'm really excited 82 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:45,200 Speaker 3: to go through Big John's archives because he has trunks 83 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 3: of photographs. He has photos in frames like on his 84 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:51,600 Speaker 3: that were on his wall. He has like just stacks 85 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:55,600 Speaker 3: and stacks of like this, especially with him being that age. 86 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 5: Is this something that you're requesting, he writes in his 87 00:03:58,640 --> 00:04:00,480 Speaker 5: will and as a part of his estate that you 88 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:02,640 Speaker 5: have accessed to all this suff With. 89 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:06,840 Speaker 3: Dapper Dan, he has someone who already is like the 90 00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 3: who will run his estate. But now since he is 91 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:14,080 Speaker 3: still living, like I'll be working with him to inventory 92 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:19,159 Speaker 3: the archive, ngetize everything, and then make sure and figure out. 93 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 2: Where it's gonna go. 94 00:04:20,600 --> 00:04:22,880 Speaker 3: Like he and I were talking about the possibility of 95 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:26,760 Speaker 3: like a of like a gallery exhibition. You know. It's 96 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:29,719 Speaker 3: like I ran into a guy a museum of sex museums. 97 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 3: There's a bunch of a bunch of places. I met 98 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:36,680 Speaker 3: a guy on Instagram last year who has his name 99 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:39,920 Speaker 3: is Andre Uncut. He's a young artist here in New York. 100 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 3: He has an archive called Daddy's secret stash that I 101 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:46,599 Speaker 3: like done the airy sexy and it's all. But he 102 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:50,359 Speaker 3: has like the he has the original Players magazine with 103 00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:52,640 Speaker 3: Big Daddy Kane on it. He has a copy of 104 00:04:52,720 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 3: he has the one with Pam Greer on it. There's 105 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:58,359 Speaker 3: another one with this woman Anita. I can't think of 106 00:04:58,400 --> 00:05:00,800 Speaker 3: her last name, but she was the for the one 107 00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 3: and only black trans woman to be on the cover 108 00:05:03,360 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 3: of a cover and a layout in Players Magazine. Like 109 00:05:06,680 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 3: he has a cover, he has that. He has images 110 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:11,480 Speaker 3: from the twenties and the forties. 111 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:12,560 Speaker 2: And like, I need to, you know, like. 112 00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:13,680 Speaker 1: The psychology of this. 113 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:16,680 Speaker 5: I need to know because there's so many things Like 114 00:05:16,760 --> 00:05:19,520 Speaker 5: growing up, I was like, this is gonna be worth 115 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:20,719 Speaker 5: something one day it's gone. 116 00:05:20,800 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 2: It's God. 117 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:23,240 Speaker 4: I need to know the psychology of someone who knows 118 00:05:23,279 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 4: to just keep shit and keep it well in store 119 00:05:26,200 --> 00:05:27,560 Speaker 4: to where it doesn't get fucked up. 120 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, because I don't know how. 121 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:30,200 Speaker 2: I still just have. 122 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:33,240 Speaker 5: A box of all my like letters from middle school. Yeah, 123 00:05:33,320 --> 00:05:35,159 Speaker 5: the only thing I really have that I fucking kept. 124 00:05:35,160 --> 00:05:36,160 Speaker 2: My mom kept. Yeah. 125 00:05:36,200 --> 00:05:37,840 Speaker 5: But now she's like, but you and your thirties, come 126 00:05:37,839 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 5: get your shit. You want your trophies, get them to Yeah. 127 00:05:39,880 --> 00:05:41,320 Speaker 2: I'm moving. I'm stick of moving all your shit. 128 00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:46,240 Speaker 5: Yeah, but for someone to know to keep history like this, Yeah, 129 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:47,960 Speaker 5: and it's today. 130 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:51,720 Speaker 3: It's so much more important because the Internet is not forever. Well, 131 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:54,719 Speaker 3: it's not forever. Everything from before two thousand is gone. 132 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:57,839 Speaker 4: Oh I was gonna say, like today, the digital aspect 133 00:05:57,880 --> 00:06:00,679 Speaker 4: of it, we don't collect it anymore because it's gone. 134 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:04,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, and the Internet is not forever. Yes, that's the thing. 135 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 3: It's not Ela running it and with Yeah, it's like 136 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:09,359 Speaker 3: I mean, Project twenty twenty five was very, very clear 137 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:12,360 Speaker 3: that they want to get rid of porn. They want 138 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 3: anything that is considered harmful to children, which extends outside 139 00:06:16,720 --> 00:06:20,320 Speaker 3: of what we think of as porn, and it extends 140 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:22,600 Speaker 3: to sex education, it extends. 141 00:06:22,640 --> 00:06:24,719 Speaker 4: The only thing I'm okay with is getting rid of porn. 142 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:29,400 Speaker 4: Can't believe I want to say this on social platforms. 143 00:06:30,760 --> 00:06:33,560 Speaker 2: Now, I'll tell you why I. 144 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:36,600 Speaker 4: Don't want my kids to have a phone right right, 145 00:06:36,640 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 4: I'm talking about family planning right now in my relationship, 146 00:06:39,320 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 4: And I'm like, why am I like that? And it's 147 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:45,560 Speaker 4: because I think sex is so accessible and I think 148 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:49,839 Speaker 4: they're going to be desensitized too young. I'm terrified that 149 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:53,120 Speaker 4: my kids are going to be too young and seeing 150 00:06:53,160 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 4: something super hardcore that they shouldn't be accessing. I think 151 00:06:56,760 --> 00:07:01,320 Speaker 4: there really isn't anywhere that a kid couldn't go and 152 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:05,040 Speaker 4: find it. It's hyper sexual for me though, knowing that 153 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:09,520 Speaker 4: this is knowing that I saw your trailer on social media. 154 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 4: The only fans people that I actually do pay four monthly, 155 00:07:14,320 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 4: I found them on X So I get where we 156 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:20,440 Speaker 4: can see social media being this super accessible thing. 157 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:21,640 Speaker 2: But right now, watch porn. 158 00:07:22,040 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 4: I watched porn on X No on Instagram where the 159 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:26,239 Speaker 4: trailer was that was age appropriate? 160 00:07:26,280 --> 00:07:30,360 Speaker 3: No, But I like, but but you can and you can. 161 00:07:30,520 --> 00:07:33,320 Speaker 5: Oh, there's the whole page right now, a sance sentence 162 00:07:33,360 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 5: to me and we right now don't know how to 163 00:07:35,240 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 5: sign down. It's nothing but dicks and maybe because they 164 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 5: like to, uh what is it they like to censor 165 00:07:41,680 --> 00:07:45,840 Speaker 5: women's bodies, bab We do not know how the nothing 166 00:07:45,880 --> 00:07:50,080 Speaker 5: but like on Instagram full pages of big dicks and 167 00:07:50,080 --> 00:07:52,200 Speaker 5: I'm like, how is this still up? Mining one hundred 168 00:07:52,200 --> 00:07:56,040 Speaker 5: thousand fucking followers? And I'm like, what's crazy? At hearing 169 00:07:56,720 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 5: all the women that we've had on here talk about 170 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:00,680 Speaker 5: I showed a nipple, they were moved it. I can't 171 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:03,000 Speaker 5: even they've removed my Full Course Soul's page. Now I 172 00:08:03,040 --> 00:08:05,120 Speaker 5: know it's because I'm a woman. There's a whole page 173 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:08,440 Speaker 5: on Instagram. Yeah, launting the male body. Yeah, but women 174 00:08:08,520 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 5: have such a hard time doing It's great. 175 00:08:10,200 --> 00:08:13,480 Speaker 3: And also there is a double standard for celebrities, you know, 176 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:19,200 Speaker 3: Lizzo Cardi. They can, they can, they can like free 177 00:08:19,240 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 3: the nipple, they can torque, they can do all these 178 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:23,520 Speaker 3: because we're soliciting. 179 00:08:23,760 --> 00:08:25,880 Speaker 4: Yes, the last time I got my Instagram removed was 180 00:08:25,880 --> 00:08:28,360 Speaker 4: pretty recent. I think it was right before a live show. 181 00:08:28,400 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 4: Maybe I don't know, but it was some Oh was 182 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:32,080 Speaker 4: it before the rebrand? 183 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:34,000 Speaker 2: And I would I don't know, yes. 184 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:35,520 Speaker 5: Because you cut your page off so much, I don't 185 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:38,160 Speaker 5: know when it gets removed. I just know you shut off, 186 00:08:38,200 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 5: like I need a mental health break, So I don't 187 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:41,480 Speaker 5: know when it's removed or when you did it. 188 00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 4: Shut Off is not mental health related. 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We can. 217 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:15,040 Speaker 5: I mean you still just need a beat and like 218 00:10:15,280 --> 00:10:17,600 Speaker 5: a way to do it, like Chat Gibt's gonna write 219 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 5: the words, but you gotta still kind of put it 220 00:10:19,240 --> 00:10:20,720 Speaker 5: into a little flow to make. 221 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:23,360 Speaker 4: It the point I thought you were supposed to. Okay, 222 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 4: here's my great y'all. Let me tell you about this 223 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 4: rant I had online before a meeting and the nigga 224 00:10:29,440 --> 00:10:30,840 Speaker 4: called me out. 225 00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:33,520 Speaker 2: Oh so Alex and. 226 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:36,880 Speaker 4: I Alex from WTF We did a picture podcasting where 227 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:39,720 Speaker 4: we gave way free studio time to the winners. All 228 00:10:39,720 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 4: they had to do was pitch their podcast us in 229 00:10:42,160 --> 00:10:44,720 Speaker 4: order to get a chance to come to the event 230 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:46,640 Speaker 4: live and go back to back. By the way, shout 231 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 4: out to s K from the episode. S K and 232 00:10:50,080 --> 00:10:52,920 Speaker 4: my Lynn, the couple we had that were turgates for 233 00:10:52,960 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 4: their kids and her podcast actually won. 234 00:10:57,000 --> 00:10:59,440 Speaker 2: Oh I want I know they gonna think that they was. 235 00:10:59,520 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 2: They was awesome. I felt that too. My boyfriend was like, yeah, 236 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:05,680 Speaker 2: sure like that. You can't be giving it to guess 237 00:11:05,679 --> 00:11:08,480 Speaker 2: on the pod. That's kind of no, Lie, Mandy, I. 238 00:11:08,440 --> 00:11:12,160 Speaker 4: Didn't choose the finalists Clara, me and Alex did she wasn't. 239 00:11:12,240 --> 00:11:13,160 Speaker 2: They weren't my pick. 240 00:11:14,360 --> 00:11:17,840 Speaker 4: I was sitting with ettn Maurice Oaklove from Essence, who 241 00:11:18,240 --> 00:11:20,960 Speaker 4: interview does Jacob Willis from the Justice Podcast and Alex 242 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:22,480 Speaker 4: and we all were like hands. 243 00:11:22,640 --> 00:11:25,000 Speaker 2: It wasn't even a everybody in the room. 244 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:27,200 Speaker 4: So I felt bad too because I was like, damn, 245 00:11:27,640 --> 00:11:28,760 Speaker 4: now I gotta pick this bitch. 246 00:11:29,120 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 2: But whatever, they were the best. It is what it is. 247 00:11:31,280 --> 00:11:33,200 Speaker 4: And as you guys can tell because when they came on, 248 00:11:33,240 --> 00:11:34,360 Speaker 4: they were so lovable and sweet. 249 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:34,920 Speaker 2: They were great. 250 00:11:34,920 --> 00:11:38,040 Speaker 4: Well, anyway, we go through about fifty pitches and I'd 251 00:11:38,080 --> 00:11:41,840 Speaker 4: say thirty five of them were chat GBT. Now this 252 00:11:41,880 --> 00:11:43,400 Speaker 4: is what I mean by chat GPT, and this is 253 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:44,959 Speaker 4: what I mean by everybody needs to start using it. 254 00:11:45,040 --> 00:11:49,480 Speaker 4: Right People giving me the outline of their podcast through 255 00:11:49,559 --> 00:11:52,760 Speaker 4: chat GBT and like the verbiage doesn't even sound original. Now, 256 00:11:52,760 --> 00:11:55,080 Speaker 4: if you're pitching a podcast, you want to kind of 257 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:56,640 Speaker 4: see and feel the personality. 258 00:11:57,160 --> 00:12:00,080 Speaker 2: People are like, here are the games I would play and. 259 00:12:00,040 --> 00:12:02,280 Speaker 4: Then it's like a list of three bullet pointed games 260 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:04,840 Speaker 4: with the line in the spacing, and I'm like, oh, dog, 261 00:12:05,080 --> 00:12:08,560 Speaker 4: like this is really crazy. So I get on a 262 00:12:08,559 --> 00:12:10,560 Speaker 4: call the next day for someone that wants me to 263 00:12:10,600 --> 00:12:13,000 Speaker 4: produce this show. Well, WT have to produce it, and 264 00:12:13,040 --> 00:12:14,800 Speaker 4: he goes, hey, ways, he lovely to meet you. I 265 00:12:14,840 --> 00:12:16,960 Speaker 4: actually follow you on Instagram where I've been called out 266 00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:19,600 Speaker 4: for chat GPT. But that's why I'm trying to hire 267 00:12:19,640 --> 00:12:24,360 Speaker 4: you guys. I was like, okay, I'll know what to say. 268 00:12:24,360 --> 00:12:26,920 Speaker 4: So I'm like, was I wrong for what I said? 269 00:12:27,080 --> 00:12:29,720 Speaker 4: Mitch that email was probably used with chet GPT, the 270 00:12:29,760 --> 00:12:31,959 Speaker 4: one he sent me, it was probably I know what 271 00:12:32,280 --> 00:12:34,320 Speaker 4: now I saw it, so bitch, I went, wait to 272 00:12:34,320 --> 00:12:39,200 Speaker 4: go take a look, I said, Sam, wrong. Now I 273 00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:41,360 Speaker 4: feel bad because Clara and Alex are just like, with this, bitch, 274 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:44,800 Speaker 4: shut up. He's like, many people use chat GPT in 275 00:12:44,840 --> 00:12:47,079 Speaker 4: the same industry we're all in, So I don't know 276 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:49,040 Speaker 4: why there's so much shame around it. I was like, 277 00:12:49,040 --> 00:12:51,560 Speaker 4: maybe it's just the way you used it. Mitch Ill 278 00:12:51,600 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 4: was dad serious. 279 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 5: All I know is chet GPT is one of my 280 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:59,520 Speaker 5: many boyfriends. He chet GPT is actually my husband. Then 281 00:12:59,520 --> 00:13:03,440 Speaker 5: I have boyfriends, so I mean I I and again, 282 00:13:03,480 --> 00:13:05,960 Speaker 5: I think that's why we're yin and yang. For a 283 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:08,640 Speaker 5: lot of things that you like, I dislike and vice versa, 284 00:13:08,720 --> 00:13:10,640 Speaker 5: and chat GPT is one of them things. 285 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:13,880 Speaker 4: I think you should love it, replacing your own words. 286 00:13:13,960 --> 00:13:17,559 Speaker 4: I think chat GBT for research. I don't shade that 287 00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:21,720 Speaker 4: I'm shading chat GPT as a replacement for your own voice. 288 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:23,319 Speaker 2: Oh no, I get that. 289 00:13:23,320 --> 00:13:25,280 Speaker 4: That to me is really I mean, did I kind 290 00:13:25,280 --> 00:13:27,520 Speaker 4: of use that too a little bit like when like 291 00:13:28,480 --> 00:13:31,600 Speaker 4: definitely for like my my monologues, like and now I'm 292 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:33,640 Speaker 4: ALREADYO guys, y'all can listen to me on Hot one 293 00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:36,120 Speaker 4: on seven nine off the clock six' eight On. Saturdays 294 00:13:36,280 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 4: but even for HOW i want to break, down especially 295 00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:42,520 Speaker 4: because radio is LIKE i have like two fifty second 296 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:45,280 Speaker 4: breaks AND i have to get like a summary of 297 00:13:45,480 --> 00:13:47,040 Speaker 4: the topics That i'm going to talk about for my 298 00:13:47,040 --> 00:13:49,560 Speaker 4: two minute, Break it's easier to use CHAT gbt to 299 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:52,200 Speaker 4: help me condense my thoughts and to say it. 300 00:13:52,280 --> 00:13:58,439 Speaker 2: QUICKLY i Fucking i'll. LISTEN i love. It I'm i'm because. 301 00:13:58,120 --> 00:14:00,120 Speaker 5: We weren't, touring AND i know y'all, are AND i 302 00:14:00,160 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 5: hate me to say, This, well not, touring, Bitch i've 303 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:06,520 Speaker 5: been in, class and When i'm in, Class i'm doing 304 00:14:06,960 --> 00:14:09,640 Speaker 5: all the not even CHET, youbt just all THE ai. 305 00:14:09,760 --> 00:14:13,320 Speaker 5: TOOLS i think that a part of me is really 306 00:14:13,440 --> 00:14:17,440 Speaker 5: upset with myself for feeling left behind by not taking 307 00:14:17,480 --> 00:14:21,960 Speaker 5: on learning TikTok during the pandemic that right NOW i 308 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:24,360 Speaker 5: see all of the benefits OF, ai and a part 309 00:14:24,360 --> 00:14:27,160 Speaker 5: of me doesn't want to get left. Out like it's 310 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:30,320 Speaker 5: it's able to make a lot of THINGS i do 311 00:14:30,400 --> 00:14:33,520 Speaker 5: more affordable and. Cheaper it's able to like give me 312 00:14:33,640 --> 00:14:36,960 Speaker 5: calendars and condense my. Time and y'all already Know i've 313 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:39,600 Speaker 5: talked about being insecure about my inability. 314 00:14:39,080 --> 00:14:39,760 Speaker 2: To say certain. 315 00:14:39,800 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 5: Words so there's things THAT i would like to say 316 00:14:43,080 --> 00:14:45,600 Speaker 5: THAT i just need some fine tuning on how to say. 317 00:14:45,640 --> 00:14:47,920 Speaker 5: It SO i love everything about, it BUT i do get, 318 00:14:47,920 --> 00:14:51,200 Speaker 5: it like remove the. Emojis emails don't need all the 319 00:14:51,200 --> 00:14:55,280 Speaker 5: emojis and bullet. Points, no that's like crazy bullbari emojis 320 00:14:55,320 --> 00:14:57,000 Speaker 5: with the emojis and bullet. 321 00:14:57,040 --> 00:15:00,560 Speaker 2: Points the way that it phrases out your thoughts is. 322 00:15:01,480 --> 00:15:02,760 Speaker 2: Nuts like y'all can change that. 323 00:15:02,800 --> 00:15:12,080 Speaker 4: Out you know what's fighting with my neighbor about a 324 00:15:12,120 --> 00:15:13,200 Speaker 4: sound issue, right. 325 00:15:14,600 --> 00:15:16,480 Speaker 2: Let me read you this email he wrote. 326 00:15:16,520 --> 00:15:18,480 Speaker 4: Me this is did he writes you at chet chip 327 00:15:18,560 --> 00:15:23,680 Speaker 4: t roach CHAT gbt wrote, Me, okay Hi, guila thank 328 00:15:23,720 --> 00:15:26,160 Speaker 4: you again for all the energy and intention you've brought 329 00:15:26,240 --> 00:15:30,320 Speaker 4: behind your letter to. Me we're genuinely excited to see 330 00:15:30,320 --> 00:15:32,880 Speaker 4: if we can make this work as we've been finalizing 331 00:15:32,920 --> 00:15:35,160 Speaker 4: things on our. End we've landed on a structure that 332 00:15:35,200 --> 00:15:40,119 Speaker 4: would make the most sense moving. Forward bullet pointed headphones 333 00:15:40,120 --> 00:15:44,080 Speaker 4: in class with the Emoji mandyama removing. 334 00:15:43,760 --> 00:15:44,440 Speaker 2: Speakers from the. 335 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:49,720 Speaker 4: Ceiling comma, like oh, no, sorry dash all these other. 336 00:15:49,720 --> 00:15:50,680 Speaker 2: Things please let us know your. 337 00:15:50,720 --> 00:15:53,960 Speaker 4: Thoughts looking forward to hearing from you, WARMLY i replied, Back, 338 00:15:55,000 --> 00:15:58,280 Speaker 4: hey exclamation, point why don't you come downstairs and let's 339 00:15:58,280 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 4: have a conversation without the app you're. 340 00:15:59,800 --> 00:16:06,360 Speaker 2: Using thank, You i'm playing with that. Niggas oh my, goodness. 341 00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:08,640 Speaker 2: Bitch my lawyer said him to some ship to, say 342 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:09,479 Speaker 2: call the police. 343 00:16:09,200 --> 00:16:12,560 Speaker 4: On that hole, again and you're getting, Evicted and my landlord, said, 344 00:16:12,600 --> 00:16:15,960 Speaker 4: yeah absolutely so once he started sending you CHAT, gpt oh, 345 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:17,560 Speaker 4: BITCH i, okay. 346 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:20,080 Speaker 2: This whole a thousand dollars an hour for. You the 347 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:22,400 Speaker 2: fuck around with, me bit y'all was. 348 00:16:22,480 --> 00:16:28,120 Speaker 4: Pissed use CHAT, GPT i think for me to get 349 00:16:28,160 --> 00:16:30,000 Speaker 4: you the information you need and maybe learn how to 350 00:16:30,080 --> 00:16:33,280 Speaker 4: use the. Language something that EVEN i iPhones ruined for 351 00:16:33,360 --> 00:16:36,600 Speaker 4: me was a lot of like my spelling When i'm writing, 352 00:16:36,600 --> 00:16:39,600 Speaker 4: handwritten DON'T i don't HAVE t Nine so. 353 00:16:40,640 --> 00:16:43,720 Speaker 2: Like i've removed that from my, shit cause they be. 354 00:16:44,120 --> 00:16:46,760 Speaker 5: Bruh they just be putting words THAT i would never 355 00:16:46,960 --> 00:16:49,120 Speaker 5: fucking say or do and they just be, it just 356 00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:49,640 Speaker 5: be fucking it. 357 00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:52,000 Speaker 2: Up So i've never had auto correct on my. 358 00:16:52,080 --> 00:16:56,160 Speaker 5: Phone oh so you gonna get these misspelled, words y'all 359 00:16:56,200 --> 00:16:57,080 Speaker 5: know what the FUCK i was trying to. 360 00:16:57,120 --> 00:17:00,200 Speaker 4: SAY i actually prefer misspelled words and like bull shit 361 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:03,720 Speaker 4: chat THEN i know if something feels. Real it's like 362 00:17:03,760 --> 00:17:05,240 Speaker 4: WHEN i get on the, phone this is HOW i 363 00:17:05,240 --> 00:17:05,680 Speaker 4: feel about. 364 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:06,480 Speaker 2: Chat oh, no that's a. 365 00:17:06,520 --> 00:17:10,480 Speaker 4: Text to, me an, EMAIL i don't on your, phone 366 00:17:10,760 --> 00:17:12,760 Speaker 4: or you're calling the cell phone, company calling, somebody or 367 00:17:12,800 --> 00:17:14,800 Speaker 4: you call Them delta and you're, like is this? 368 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:17,080 Speaker 2: Hello or are you? 369 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:19,280 Speaker 4: Going when scam likely calls you and it's, Like, Hi 370 00:17:19,720 --> 00:17:22,399 Speaker 4: i'm NOT i don't answer them. Calls if this they scam, 371 00:17:22,480 --> 00:17:24,520 Speaker 4: likely it ain't GETTING. Ansl you're getting me? 372 00:17:24,560 --> 00:17:26,639 Speaker 2: Now hold they? Did NOW i got no. Scam? No 373 00:17:26,760 --> 00:17:26,920 Speaker 2: you know? 374 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 4: WHAT i feel so down bad for my nine year 375 00:17:28,760 --> 00:17:31,480 Speaker 4: old dad because now you even don't say scam. Likely 376 00:17:31,720 --> 00:17:34,800 Speaker 4: he is having phone conversations with somebody in front of. 377 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:36,840 Speaker 2: Me i'm, Like, daddy why do you need to take the? 378 00:17:36,840 --> 00:17:38,119 Speaker 2: Phone they need to talk to? 379 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:43,520 Speaker 4: Me, yeah, NO i can't let. It and them telemarketing, 380 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:46,800 Speaker 4: Companies oh that's that's who they be scamming the. Most 381 00:17:46,800 --> 00:17:51,639 Speaker 4: they be getting all their retirement funds every single. Time all, 382 00:17:51,720 --> 00:17:54,360 Speaker 4: right well we're gonna get into this Week's You Got. Decisions, 383 00:17:54,400 --> 00:17:58,240 Speaker 4: also if you are watching us On, patreon because the 384 00:17:58,280 --> 00:18:00,840 Speaker 4: full video goes On, patreon make sure you drop in 385 00:18:00,880 --> 00:18:01,840 Speaker 4: the comments below your. 386 00:18:01,880 --> 00:18:05,280 Speaker 2: Thoughts all chat. Chept i'd like to. Know i'd like 387 00:18:05,359 --> 00:18:07,760 Speaker 2: to hear. IT i, am that's what they. Said i'd 388 00:18:07,840 --> 00:18:09,280 Speaker 2: like to hear. It all, right. 389 00:18:09,320 --> 00:18:12,520 Speaker 5: Guys if you also want us to answer your, email 390 00:18:13,080 --> 00:18:16,880 Speaker 5: make sure you email Us Decisions pod at gmail dot, 391 00:18:16,920 --> 00:18:21,400 Speaker 5: com where we can give y'all our very, professional very 392 00:18:21,480 --> 00:18:26,880 Speaker 5: needed advice on your. Problems, okay so here we. Go, hey, 393 00:18:26,880 --> 00:18:30,560 Speaker 5: GUYS i recently turned twenty nine and have found myself 394 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:33,879 Speaker 5: in a really difficult place in my. RELATIONSHIP i was 395 00:18:33,920 --> 00:18:37,720 Speaker 5: in WHAT i thought was a, serious committed. Partnership we 396 00:18:37,720 --> 00:18:41,919 Speaker 5: were about to reach our two year. Anniversary we initially 397 00:18:41,960 --> 00:18:45,280 Speaker 5: met online during the, pandemic but didn't make it official 398 00:18:45,400 --> 00:18:46,520 Speaker 5: until twenty twenty. 399 00:18:46,640 --> 00:18:47,960 Speaker 2: Three what DID i need to? 400 00:18:48,040 --> 00:18:50,760 Speaker 5: Do even though we live in different parts Of, Florida 401 00:18:51,200 --> 00:18:54,160 Speaker 5: we've been making the distance work with flights and road. 402 00:18:54,160 --> 00:18:58,560 Speaker 5: Trips back in twenty twenty, four right before our one year, 403 00:18:58,640 --> 00:19:00,400 Speaker 5: mark my best friend told me. 404 00:19:01,880 --> 00:19:03,440 Speaker 2: Her, sister who was. 405 00:19:03,400 --> 00:19:07,520 Speaker 5: On dating, apps saw him On hinge after he liked. 406 00:19:07,520 --> 00:19:10,399 Speaker 5: HER i had no idea he was even on the. 407 00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:16,560 Speaker 5: Apps her, sister her best friend's, sister matched her boyfriend On. Hinge, 408 00:19:16,840 --> 00:19:19,600 Speaker 5: OOH i had no idea he was even on the. 409 00:19:19,640 --> 00:19:23,000 Speaker 5: Apps he gave me a half hearted, apology and THOUGH 410 00:19:23,040 --> 00:19:26,800 Speaker 5: i forgave, HIM i never. Forgot fast forward To july 411 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:29,800 Speaker 5: of this, YEAR i found him again on the tea, 412 00:19:29,920 --> 00:19:32,800 Speaker 5: app where a woman claimed they had met him On 413 00:19:32,960 --> 00:19:37,560 Speaker 5: tender In march of this. Year she mentioned they had been, 414 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:41,880 Speaker 5: texting facetiming and had gone on a. Date WHEN i confronted, 415 00:19:41,920 --> 00:19:45,359 Speaker 5: him he admitted to, it but brushed it off as just. 416 00:19:45,520 --> 00:19:49,200 Speaker 5: Conversation his excuse was that he only did it because 417 00:19:49,200 --> 00:19:51,639 Speaker 5: he wanted me closer to him and was too afraid 418 00:19:51,680 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 5: to bring up the long distance issue without making me 419 00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:56,879 Speaker 5: feel pressure that he wants me to move in with. 420 00:19:56,960 --> 00:20:00,880 Speaker 5: Him despite knowing the answer deep, DOWN i still find 421 00:20:00,920 --> 00:20:03,840 Speaker 5: myself asking is this relationship? 422 00:20:03,920 --> 00:20:07,880 Speaker 2: Repairable and more, importantly what drives. 423 00:20:07,600 --> 00:20:11,280 Speaker 5: Men to become repeat, offenders even when they claim to love. 424 00:20:11,320 --> 00:20:14,919 Speaker 5: You it feels like a classic case of fool me, 425 00:20:15,000 --> 00:20:18,159 Speaker 5: once shame on, you fool me, twice shame on. Me 426 00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:20,840 Speaker 5: as much as he is trying to convince me, OTHERWISE 427 00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:24,720 Speaker 5: i don't see myself going. Back, still the situation is 428 00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:27,879 Speaker 5: taking a heavy toll on me, mentally and i'd appreciate your. 429 00:20:27,920 --> 00:20:30,120 Speaker 2: Advice thank you for taking the time to read. This 430 00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:33,199 Speaker 2: get rid of, him. 431 00:20:33,200 --> 00:20:38,520 Speaker 4: Bitch, Okay i'm actually really heavy on to get rid of. 432 00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:39,560 Speaker 2: Him number. 433 00:20:39,600 --> 00:20:44,120 Speaker 4: One you not knowing he's on an app is a big, deal, 434 00:20:44,400 --> 00:20:46,840 Speaker 4: right like going on a dating app actively looking for 435 00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:48,359 Speaker 4: people and then being like whatever. 436 00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:50,359 Speaker 2: Sign and the t. 437 00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:54,720 Speaker 4: App here's the thing with the, TAPP i actually really 438 00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:56,920 Speaker 4: don't like it BECAUSE i think it can be. Fake 439 00:20:57,760 --> 00:21:01,040 Speaker 4: but here's WHAT i really think it. Is so this 440 00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:03,280 Speaker 4: was a CONVERSATION i was having with a homegirl of. Mine, 441 00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:06,960 Speaker 4: okay even if what they wrote is, fake which could 442 00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:09,560 Speaker 4: very much well be, true it's. 443 00:21:09,359 --> 00:21:12,200 Speaker 2: Still someone that's mad enough at that nigga that they 444 00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:13,040 Speaker 2: want to do something. 445 00:21:13,119 --> 00:21:18,440 Speaker 4: Mean that means he's really out here misleading or lying 446 00:21:18,560 --> 00:21:21,600 Speaker 4: or kissing someone. Off i've dated some fuck niggas in the, past. 447 00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:25,000 Speaker 4: Right but my first thought isn't to take someone from 448 00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:28,560 Speaker 4: the past and just start airing them out that many years. Later, 449 00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:31,840 Speaker 4: yeah probably going to do it with someone that recently hurt. 450 00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:34,800 Speaker 4: You so maybe one hundred percent of it ain't gonna be, 451 00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:37,639 Speaker 4: true but something might be. True AND i think that 452 00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:41,960 Speaker 4: it's just that there's that energy behind, it like he's 453 00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:44,600 Speaker 4: being deceitful with other. Women that's why they're finding him 454 00:21:44,600 --> 00:21:46,600 Speaker 4: and looking for him on this app and trying to 455 00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:49,960 Speaker 4: get more. Shit someone's not necessarily being. Open so that's 456 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:52,920 Speaker 4: what's really hurtful. About are you dating the same guy 457 00:21:52,960 --> 00:21:56,439 Speaker 4: On facebook and the tea? App it's like a woman 458 00:21:56,520 --> 00:21:58,120 Speaker 4: really needing to search because they. 459 00:21:58,040 --> 00:21:58,600 Speaker 2: Know you a fuck. 460 00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:03,440 Speaker 5: Nigga, Okay i'm not mad at that. Period the man 461 00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:06,720 Speaker 5: is one hinge well hinge and. Tender the girl on 462 00:22:06,880 --> 00:22:09,719 Speaker 5: the te app said that they met on. Tender now 463 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:11,399 Speaker 5: here is my. 464 00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:12,680 Speaker 2: Thing it's a few. 465 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:16,920 Speaker 5: Things first, OFF i felt like he was completely gaslighting 466 00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:20,679 Speaker 5: you by saying that he was entertaining these other women 467 00:22:22,160 --> 00:22:25,480 Speaker 5: because he didn't think that you would like the pressure of, 468 00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:28,000 Speaker 5: him making it seem like he wanted you to move, in. 469 00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:30,720 Speaker 5: RIGHT i think you have to sit with a couple. 470 00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:34,960 Speaker 5: Things if this is his way to express that the 471 00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:38,320 Speaker 5: distance thing and needing somebody close to him or more 472 00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:41,480 Speaker 5: around him is an, ISSUE i think that's what you 473 00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:45,400 Speaker 5: sit With, First would you consider moving to where he? 474 00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:47,480 Speaker 5: Is would you be willing to make it to where 475 00:22:47,520 --> 00:22:49,760 Speaker 5: you guys are closer and no longer in a long distance? 476 00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:53,320 Speaker 5: Relationship if you've been navigating a two year long long distance, 477 00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:56,679 Speaker 5: relationship at what point do you want to be closer 478 00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:59,920 Speaker 5: to this person because clearly the distance isn't working for him. 479 00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:02,240 Speaker 2: Right, secondly. 480 00:23:03,320 --> 00:23:05,800 Speaker 5: You did take him back once after being on a dating, 481 00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:07,119 Speaker 5: app SO i don't believe. 482 00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:10,520 Speaker 2: YOU i think you're gonna take him back. Again SO i. 483 00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:12,960 Speaker 4: Think that then you have to sit with yourself and be, Like, 484 00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:17,320 Speaker 4: okay as long as we're in a long distance, relationship. 485 00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:20,919 Speaker 2: What really are my hard lines and? 486 00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:23,320 Speaker 5: Boundaries because you've already called them on a dating app 487 00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:27,080 Speaker 5: at your one year. Anniversary now it's the two year 488 00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:30,400 Speaker 5: anniversary and you're getting this information. AGAIN i think it's 489 00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:34,119 Speaker 5: up to you to decide to is him going on 490 00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:38,040 Speaker 5: dates a hard limit for you or is that something 491 00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:41,119 Speaker 5: that you're fine introducing into your. Relationship y'all know that 492 00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:45,240 Speaker 5: this podcast leans heavily into non traditional, relationships and so to, 493 00:23:45,359 --> 00:23:47,879 Speaker 5: me once you stay with a cheating ass, nigga to, 494 00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:50,720 Speaker 5: me you are unofficially in a non monogamous. 495 00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:53,920 Speaker 2: Rely not to, ME i mean to, me you. Are 496 00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:56,840 Speaker 2: i'm speaking for. Me you shared your thoughts on. IT 497 00:23:56,880 --> 00:23:57,840 Speaker 2: i would give you a give her. 498 00:23:57,880 --> 00:24:02,120 Speaker 5: MIND i feel like if if you if deep down 499 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:03,639 Speaker 5: inside it's more of an ego. 500 00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:05,760 Speaker 2: THING i get you. 501 00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:09,560 Speaker 5: Leaving but if you love this man or you really like, 502 00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:12,440 Speaker 5: him to, me the only option right now is one 503 00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:15,359 Speaker 5: of two. Things get closer to him so that he's 504 00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:17,960 Speaker 5: no longer feeling the, distance or. 505 00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:23,560 Speaker 2: Talk about what is. Allowed will you two may have 506 00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:25,600 Speaker 2: to go. Tie, okay let me tell you Why i'm 507 00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:26,040 Speaker 2: not feeling that. 508 00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:30,560 Speaker 4: Answer, Okay monogamous people shouldn't have to resort to non 509 00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:32,280 Speaker 4: monogamy to have success in their. 510 00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:34,359 Speaker 2: Relationship i'm going to scream. 511 00:24:34,560 --> 00:24:38,320 Speaker 4: That, okay monogamous people cannot do that because it's not 512 00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:42,960 Speaker 4: a natural. Movement for, that he's not naturally. Monogamous that's 513 00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:43,479 Speaker 4: the problem. 514 00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:47,119 Speaker 2: Too but here's the. Thing though he's a, liar that 515 00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:48,760 Speaker 2: doesn't mean He's that's not Means. 516 00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:50,840 Speaker 5: I'm not saying he's poly but he's definitely not not 517 00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:54,880 Speaker 5: he's definitely not. Monogamous but if and you only called 518 00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:57,639 Speaker 5: him twice and you're on two different, apps they're the 519 00:24:57,640 --> 00:24:59,800 Speaker 5: only ones you know you're talking about give him a 520 00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:03,240 Speaker 5: bad then it ain't Gonna And i'm gonna. 521 00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:03,920 Speaker 2: Be honest with you's. Sister. 522 00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:09,080 Speaker 4: Okay, one you don't live in the same. City he's 523 00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:10,600 Speaker 4: only gonna get closer to another. 524 00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:10,920 Speaker 2: Beach. 525 00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:14,920 Speaker 4: Two this is SOMETHING i learned recently because it's only 526 00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:19,240 Speaker 4: happened to me in two. Relationships, Okay, now anyone listening 527 00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:21,200 Speaker 4: to this that has read the chapter In No Holds 528 00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:23,919 Speaker 4: barre know when you've stayed too. LONG i promise you 529 00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:28,720 Speaker 4: it didn't hit me until it hit. Me your relationship 530 00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 4: is kind of getting dicey around two, years. 531 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:34,399 Speaker 2: RIGHT i always thought the puppy phase would be in the. 532 00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:38,520 Speaker 4: BEGINNING i realized in a good, situation it gets even. 533 00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:40,840 Speaker 2: Better i've only experienced that. 534 00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:45,000 Speaker 4: WELL i almost said her name scissors in this, relationship, 535 00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:47,840 Speaker 4: obay AND i started feeling weird around that mark. 536 00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:50,280 Speaker 2: Too i've been another, relationship So i'm, like let's get in. 537 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:54,159 Speaker 4: Dicey when it starts getting, heightened that actually means, like all, 538 00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:56,119 Speaker 4: right this is a great. Direction and that's what we 539 00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:59,080 Speaker 4: all want if we're dating for long term, commitment, right 540 00:25:59,119 --> 00:26:01,920 Speaker 4: we want to feel an increase in that, spark passion and. 541 00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:05,120 Speaker 4: Trust if it's getting if it's going, backward it's very 542 00:26:05,119 --> 00:26:07,560 Speaker 4: hard to refuel and like get it back to where 543 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:09,879 Speaker 4: it was in the. Beginning it is hard to like 544 00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:15,080 Speaker 4: reverse engineer. Shit, yep it really. Is that's why this 545 00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:17,159 Speaker 4: bitch is LEARNING ai right, now like she said in the, 546 00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:19,920 Speaker 4: beginning instead of, Saying i'm focusing on TikTok because it's, 547 00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:21,320 Speaker 4: like fuck, It i'm going to jump on a new 548 00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:21,879 Speaker 4: wave after. 549 00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:23,560 Speaker 2: That sometimes going back. 550 00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:25,480 Speaker 5: Is you, NO i, know And i'm about to start my, 551 00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:26,920 Speaker 5: TikTok and, Baby i'm, like. 552 00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:29,639 Speaker 2: Fow so, hard Like i'm like seeing people do it. 553 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:31,320 Speaker 4: Nowadays but, ANYWAY i say all that to, say, like 554 00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:33,280 Speaker 4: it's just a lot, harder it's a lot more, effort 555 00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:36,040 Speaker 4: AND i think you may be pouring into something that 556 00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:37,520 Speaker 4: isn't worth. It and the REASON i think it's not 557 00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:41,320 Speaker 4: worth it is because he was on hinge and much 558 00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:42,800 Speaker 4: worse than being on hinge. 559 00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:45,639 Speaker 5: The t APP i want to see. Too, also here's my. 560 00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:51,320 Speaker 5: Thing let me go back to this. Email We, oh 561 00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:56,639 Speaker 5: here's another. Thing she, said we initially met online during the. 562 00:26:56,680 --> 00:27:00,560 Speaker 5: PANDEMIC i think that maybe that should have been conversation 563 00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:02,080 Speaker 5: in the beginning that, yeah maybe it's too. 564 00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:04,000 Speaker 2: Late but to know that you even met him. 565 00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:07,000 Speaker 5: ONLINE i think that this is why this is even 566 00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:08,960 Speaker 5: more of an issue for you to find out that 567 00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:12,080 Speaker 5: he's still on these dating. APPS i feel like you 568 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:14,040 Speaker 5: initially probably met him on a dating. 569 00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:15,880 Speaker 2: App so to know that you. 570 00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:18,760 Speaker 5: Could be celebrating a two year anniversary with someone you met, 571 00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:21,800 Speaker 5: ONLINE i think that's also the thing that's making you 572 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,280 Speaker 5: feel a. Way you feel like maybe you could be 573 00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:28,400 Speaker 5: losing this guy that you like because he's essentially meeting 574 00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:30,560 Speaker 5: people the same way you met. You And andy, said 575 00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:33,040 Speaker 5: this guy you, like you think it's your? Boyfriend, girl 576 00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,399 Speaker 5: that shit has. TOOUGH i mean, no, no, NO i 577 00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:40,320 Speaker 5: mean they said two year. ANNIVERSARY i, Mean i'll be 578 00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:43,280 Speaker 5: honest with, you. Though it's really interesting to. 579 00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:48,639 Speaker 2: Me AND i know you called him a. 580 00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:54,840 Speaker 5: Liar hear me, Out oh you think? No every time 581 00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:59,040 Speaker 5: she confronted, him he admitted to. It so what's crazy to? 582 00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:02,640 Speaker 2: Me but here's first, off we talked about the hold. 583 00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:05,400 Speaker 5: On we talked about the white lives and how it's 584 00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:08,760 Speaker 5: not lying if you just don't bring it. Up the 585 00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:12,199 Speaker 5: fact that both times she confronted him about, this he's, like, 586 00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:14,080 Speaker 5: yeah bitch it to. 587 00:28:14,200 --> 00:28:16,240 Speaker 4: Screenshot what the fuck is he gonna? 588 00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:19,639 Speaker 5: DO i, mean, well the other one was the sister 589 00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:21,960 Speaker 5: was on the dating, App like he's that's the. 590 00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:24,399 Speaker 2: Thing he's admitted to both of these, times being on 591 00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:28,800 Speaker 2: the dating. Apple, say. 592 00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:31,480 Speaker 4: He did admit it both, times so he's not really a. 593 00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:34,920 Speaker 4: Liar he, said, Yeah AND i showed you the little 594 00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:39,120 Speaker 4: teeth he, said. Yeah he, said, yeah, okay, girl you. 595 00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:40,600 Speaker 2: Know, what do you know how many? 596 00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:43,320 Speaker 4: Okay and maybe this is me being triggered by dating a. 597 00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:46,040 Speaker 4: Narcissist do you know how many niggas could look at 598 00:28:46,040 --> 00:28:48,200 Speaker 4: the screen? Shot do you not remember WHEN i showed 599 00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:50,600 Speaker 4: the nigga the timestamp of him in the hospital when 600 00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:54,360 Speaker 4: he said it was that weekend and it, Wasn't and 601 00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:55,400 Speaker 4: he literally tried. 602 00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:58,240 Speaker 5: To convince me that the picture wasn't two years. Old maybe, 603 00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:01,000 Speaker 5: okay so, y'all maybe this is me. PROJECTING i just loved. That, 604 00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:03,760 Speaker 5: YEAH i did it because. 605 00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:07,840 Speaker 4: Because imagine showing a screenshot to a nigga and him 606 00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:10,840 Speaker 4: trying to convince you that that screenshot is not real. 607 00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:14,640 Speaker 5: Like so to, Me i'm giving the goddamn cheating as 608 00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:17,120 Speaker 5: niggas some cool points for at least admitting that he 609 00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:17,440 Speaker 5: on the. 610 00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:20,680 Speaker 2: Apps goddamn, it, y'all this is this is, Her he's. 611 00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:25,080 Speaker 4: Confronted this is where y'all the dating is in, hell 612 00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:26,200 Speaker 4: because look at. 613 00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:28,160 Speaker 2: ME i just like that he admitted it when she 614 00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:28,560 Speaker 2: came to. 615 00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:31,720 Speaker 4: Him do you know how many niggas like when when 616 00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:33,480 Speaker 4: a woman come to you to ask you a, question 617 00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:35,120 Speaker 4: it's because she already knows the. 618 00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:36,560 Speaker 2: Answer SO i just. 619 00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:38,760 Speaker 4: Want to give him a little bit of points for 620 00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:42,160 Speaker 4: at least being, like, YUP i did. 621 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:43,440 Speaker 1: It, ny what was he gonna? 622 00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:47,960 Speaker 2: Do bitch lie because other niggas. Lie, okay you know, 623 00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:50,640 Speaker 2: what and then they try to make you feel. Crazy 624 00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:51,520 Speaker 2: you know What i'm. 625 00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:54,960 Speaker 5: Saying, Okay i'm wishing you to be nominogamous in your 626 00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:57,960 Speaker 5: long distance relationship because now all you long. 627 00:29:57,800 --> 00:29:59,280 Speaker 2: Distance bitch is about to get real mad at. 628 00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:01,320 Speaker 5: Me if you're you're monogamous and you are in a 629 00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:04,520 Speaker 5: long distance fucking, relationship one of y'all is getting cheated. 630 00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:07,280 Speaker 4: On get the fuck out of. Here niggas need to 631 00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:10,000 Speaker 4: let off their motherfucking, nuts and bitch is like. Attention 632 00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:12,640 Speaker 4: so if they if either person is not getting what they, 633 00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:15,600 Speaker 4: want they, cheat whether if it's with their, friend whether 634 00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:17,600 Speaker 4: it's with a, coworker whether it's with the bitch at the, 635 00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:19,000 Speaker 4: bar whether it's with somebody they. 636 00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:22,200 Speaker 2: Met on motherfucking. Hinge if you are in a monogamous 637 00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:25,560 Speaker 2: long distance, relationship you're being cheated on. Period. 638 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:31,000 Speaker 4: Anyway thank you so much everyone listening in To you've 639 00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:32,960 Speaker 4: got decisions and we would love to take you to 640 00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:35,400 Speaker 4: patreon dot com dot Slash Corbal. Decisions you can see 641 00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:39,680 Speaker 4: the Video mandy cursing out a. 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