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Speaker 3: It's Kiki's Court, Judge, Kiky all rise for the honorable judge, Kiki,

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Speaker 3: your honor.

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Speaker 5: Yes, take it away? All right, let's seven to the courtroom.

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Speaker 5: The gavel has been hit. It says, Hey, Ki, Ki,

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Speaker 5: am I wrong for making my husband miss his interview? Okay,

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Speaker 5: my thirty five year old husband has been out of

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Speaker 5: work for six months. I've been carrying the bills on

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Speaker 5: my salary and working overtime to keep us afloat. Last week,

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Speaker 5: he finally got an interview for a job he's been

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Speaker 5: chasing for years, which has truly been a dream opportunity

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Speaker 5: for him. I was excited and relieved, and the interview

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Speaker 5: was scheduled at nine am. He said he'd wake up

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Speaker 5: by seven thirty to prepare. However, the night before he

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Speaker 5: stayed up until two am playing video games.

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Speaker 2: I was reminding him.

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Speaker 5: Twice that he needed to get up, and he waved

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Speaker 5: me off and got snappy. So the next morning I

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Speaker 5: got up at six forty five to go to work.

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Speaker 2: He was still dead asleep.

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Speaker 5: His alarm started blaring at seven thirty and I watched

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Speaker 5: him snooze it three times. At this point, to avoid

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Speaker 5: an argument, I decided I'm not waking him up and

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Speaker 5: left for work. He finally woke up at nine point fifteen,

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Speaker 5: missed the interview, completely freaked out and called me at

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Speaker 5: work asking me why didn't I wake him, and I

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Speaker 5: told him, you're not a child.

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Speaker 2: He was livid and.

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Speaker 5: Said that I was passive, aggressive, unsupportive, and that I

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Speaker 5: sabotaged him. Now he's not talking to me, and even

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Speaker 5: his mother called me to say I should have had

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Speaker 5: his back. I think he needed this wake up call.

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Speaker 5: But now I'm wondering if I crossed the line. Am

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Speaker 5: I wrong? Judge Kicky, girl, You're not wrong, girl, you

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Speaker 5: are not wrong. If his mother want to get involved,

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Speaker 5: she should have called him.

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Speaker 6: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Mother's always cay.

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Speaker 7: I backed off, right, yes.

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Speaker 2: But no, you're not wrong.

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Speaker 5: This is a grown man who has been unemployed for

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Speaker 5: six months. You don't have anything else to do but

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Speaker 5: prepare for this interview. Okay, you have no other obligations

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Speaker 5: right now.

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Speaker 2: Lazy person with no job is that's a bad combination.

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Speaker 2: I mean, and things happen.

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Speaker 5: People lose their jobs every day, so I don't want

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Speaker 5: to even say it's just a lazy person, but this story.

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Speaker 3: But you're right, No, yeah, I'm talking about this. I mean,

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Speaker 3: six months no job, and then when you have the

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Speaker 2: That to me is not responsible.

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Speaker 5: And then your wife is warning you, like women tend

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Speaker 5: to do, you know, give you a little reminder and

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Speaker 3: She did, and she did look out for him, she hey,

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Speaker 3: let's get some rest before this interview.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and then you're like nah.

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Speaker 7: And you keep playing your video games.

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Speaker 5: And then now now says you were a little petty

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Speaker 5: That was a little petty. You know, she watched them,

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Speaker 5: she watched some snoozy alarm. But she was like, I'm

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Speaker 2: It's not up to her.

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Speaker 3: The her argument that I would make, though, is abo

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Speaker 3: of that is this affects her negatively too. So you know,

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Speaker 3: she may have taught him a lesson, but it doesn't

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Speaker 3: very well. And ultimately, now this is another job he

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Speaker 3: won't get. So how does that affect her negatively? How

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Speaker 3: did that behavior really? Did it really penalize him or

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Speaker 3: did it really penalize her?

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Speaker 2: Well?

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Speaker 5: I think at this point she I would be considering

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Speaker 5: not be a first time offender where you sleeping through alarms.

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Speaker 5: You might sleep through alarms all the time, and maybe

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Speaker 5: that's why you don't.

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Speaker 2: Have a job.

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Speaker 3: Ah, are you guys with the jury eight five, five, five, nine,

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Speaker 3: one one three five. She could have woken him up.

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't have either. But then I guess if I

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Speaker 3: and I want to stay with him, then that's on

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Speaker 3: me at some point, like I've chosen this life, did

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Speaker 3: you though?

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Speaker 2: Well?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because again, no job for six months. I know

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Speaker 3: that it's hard to get a job. Yeah, it's very

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Speaker 3: difficult to get a job right now. But the behavior

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Speaker 3: like this is not going to your point, might be

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Speaker 3: the reason why he doesn't have a job exactly.

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Speaker 2: And so then the question is is.

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Speaker 3: She gonna motivate him, she's gonna wake him up, Is

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Speaker 3: but if she doesn't do that, then he's probably never

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Speaker 3: going to get one. And then if she stays with him,

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Speaker 3: then she's choosing that life.

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Speaker 5: So you say, leave them all together, divorce, Yeah, but

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Speaker 5: you just said that too, So don't you'll talk about

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Speaker 5: like I don't even say I'm.

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Speaker 2: The only one that said that.

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Speaker 7: You're not wrong.

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Speaker 2: You said the same thing.

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Speaker 3: I think, honestly, at some point you got to ask

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Speaker 2: Maybe he didn't want this. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: There could be other parameters here, but I wonder, I

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Speaker 3: And if that's the case, then maybe this is what

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Speaker 8: Yeah, right, But tough priorities though, like instead of maybe

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Speaker 8: playing video games at night. And maybe this is a

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Speaker 8: little bit different, but why don't you do some side

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Speaker 7: Again, Yes, getting a job is very hard and it's not.

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Speaker 1: Like they're just handing them out these days, but I

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Speaker 7: I think you can still have that drive to do it.

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Speaker 7: He seems like he doesn't want to do it, right,

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Speaker 7: That's what I'm getting. I don't know this man. I

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Speaker 7: don't want to know this man, but it just seems

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Speaker 3: Because if jobs are hard to get, and you want

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Speaker 3: job interview that might be the one night that you

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Speaker 3: take it seriously, yes, and that you don't stay up,

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Speaker 3: and that you make sure that you're awake and that

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Speaker 3: best to get the job. But again, I gotta wonder

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Speaker 3: does this guy even care?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 5: And then I remind you about it and I'm up

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Speaker 5: late telling you to go to bed, and you get

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Speaker 5: snappy with me, and I've been compaying these meals for

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Speaker 5: six months alone, working over time, sir.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 3: Then then for him to turn around and gaslight her

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Speaker 3: and be like, somehow this is your fault, right, you sabotage.

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Speaker 7: He was waiting for that opportunity at Batah.

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Speaker 3: No, but I will say, and this is that this

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Speaker 3: is not her fault. But how long does this go

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Speaker 3: And we don't have all the context, but how long

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Speaker 3: does this go on before you need to start making

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Speaker 7: That's real?

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Speaker 2: You know? Hey, Brian? Yes, how you doing? Brian? Good

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Speaker 2: morning Kiki's Court. You're the jury? What say you?

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Speaker 9: I wanted to know what it would it be the

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Speaker 9: same if the show was on all the footnet of

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Speaker 9: the woman that was out of work, Because me and

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Speaker 9: get a bad rep sometimes and my wife has been

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Speaker 9: out of work for over two years, and I'll still

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Speaker 9: pay the bills and do what I got to do

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Speaker 9: for my family, and that's considered being a man. But

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Speaker 9: when it's when it's turned around, you know, why don't

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Speaker 2: Well out here for everybody.

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Speaker 3: I hear what he's saying, but doesn't But doesn't that

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Speaker 3: depend on sort of the parameter within your relationship and

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Speaker 3: what you guys have decided. For example, if you two

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Speaker 3: don't I don't necessarily know that this has to be

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Speaker 3: gender based, right If you have agreed to take care

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Speaker 3: and the kids, well that's a job, so that you

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Speaker 3: I mean, So I guess I guess what I said

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Speaker 3: is is, yeah, he sounds like a deadbeat, But I

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Speaker 3: don't know you know your wife. Is your life predicated

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Speaker 3: on her working too? Are you having to do twice

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Speaker 9: We we we downgraded our lifestyle. So it's a lot

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Speaker 9: of things that we don't do in order to in

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Speaker 9: order for us to stay financially safe. But it's a

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Speaker 9: lot of things that I would like to, like my family,

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Speaker 9: go back to doing, if my wife would see it,

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Speaker 9: back to work. But for right now, we're maintaining everything.

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Speaker 9: We have a home, two cars, and we're doing okay

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Speaker 9: because I get the whole men work.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I hear, I hear you, right, I hear the

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Speaker 3: men providing, the man providing thing and whatever. But I

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Speaker 3: guess what I would be thinking about is, regardless of

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Speaker 3: your gender, what what are our roles? What have we

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Speaker 3: decided we're going together? Who's going to pay what bills?

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Speaker 3: What have we decided? And are you living up to

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Speaker 3: what you agreed to do? And if the answer is no,

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Speaker 3: then that would be my problem. I wouldn't necessarily be well,

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Speaker 3: you're the man, so you should or whatever, only if

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Speaker 3: that's what we decided.

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Speaker 2: But thank you, Brian, having the day, no problem Brian her.

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Speaker 5: Some job links. Brian will how to get back to work.

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Speaker 7: Playing video games that night? That's what I really wanted

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Speaker 7: I agree with that. As a wife, I agree with them.

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't pressure her to make money because we agreed

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Speaker 5: She shouldn't be obligated to wake a grown man up

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Speaker 7: What else are you doing, my boy?

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Speaker 7: He wake up.

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Speaker 9: I'm like you, guys, I got a four m alarm

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Speaker 7: That's right, Go off, king, put your boots on the ground,

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, and that turns killing you on junk mail,

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 7: Hey, we need you.

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Speaker 3: Have a good day, Mike. That's right, hard working man

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Speaker 3: right there, he said enough of us, Yeah, Mike, he

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Speaker 7: Yeah, Mike was triggered too.

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Speaker 3: Listen, hey, Sarah, Sarah, how you doing?

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Speaker 6: I'm doing well? How are you guys?

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Speaker 3: Now he's mad at her.

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Speaker 2: What say you?

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Speaker 9: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Not okay.

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Speaker 6: My husband had the same issue when we first had

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Speaker 6: He was so sleep deprived that he ended up sleepwalking.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and that sucks that you kind of had to

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So I not acceptable, because you.

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Speaker 3: Know, people go through stuff in life and they get

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Speaker 3: sure would beat it to lift him up, but for

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Speaker 10: Right?

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Speaker 6: Right? And shame on the mother in law for even

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Speaker 2: Do better.

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Speaker 6: I raised you better than that.

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Speaker 3: Well that, yes, I'll go ahead and say it. Maybe

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Speaker 2: A good day. Thank you, because we all I.

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Speaker 3: Think sometimes people think they're doing kids a favor when

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Speaker 3: to enable. Right, So if every time he's up he

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Speaker 3: well then what is why would he Where is he

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Speaker 7: Exactly?

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Speaker 3: Because it's like, no, he's no, that's my baby boy,

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Speaker 3: he's perfect. Well, he's not taking care of his obligations,

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Speaker 2: Hey do you wanna yes, Hi, Hi, good morning. What

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Speaker 10: Good morning? I love you guys. I want to say

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he's totally guess lit her.

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Speaker 10: Not for responsibility to make sure that he gets up

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Speaker 3: Said, Moby's solving your problems. Come on, I'd be so embarrassed.

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Speaker 5: I didn't raise him like that.

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Speaker 7: Oh, yes you did, Miss Shirley, and I feel as

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Speaker 4: We feel like we're the moms of our partners sometimes

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Speaker 7: Yeah, that's true, you know what I mean. No, I'm

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Speaker 4: On The Fread Show, Katie Perry's concert took a scary

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Speaker 7: She gave us outfit changes.

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Speaker 7: I can feel it.

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Speaker 6: Right.

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Speaker 7: We were just talking about that off air. People were

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Speaker 3: Why was it port of potties like full or gross

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Speaker 2: Why were we doing that?

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Speaker 4: I could understand how I'd be your best bet, but

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Speaker 4: So I can't barely do that in the bathroom, honey.

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Speaker 7: He crushed it. I feel like he was made for

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Speaker 6: App The Fread Show is on Fread's fun fact Fred fund.

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Speaker 3: So much guys gives you know. The hippopotamuses can't swim hip,

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Speaker 3: which there's a fun fact right there. The hippopo hippopotamus

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Speaker 3: is doesn't even something of a real word.

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Speaker 7: Oh it's not.

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Speaker 2: Hippopotami is not.

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Speaker 3: Hippopotamuses cannot swim. You see him in the water, but

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Speaker 3: they can't really swim. Their bones are large and dance,

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Speaker 3: making it hard for them to float. Instead, they do

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Speaker 3: kind of a slow motion gallop on the riverbed or

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Speaker 3: the seafloor.

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Speaker 2: I'll sell you.

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Speaker 3: Something else I didn't know is there are people that

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Speaker 3: can't float, like humans that are like very dense and muscle.

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Speaker 3: I guess they can't float and they have a hard

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Speaker 3: time learning how to swim, which yeah, I've heard about

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Speaker 3: like a few like my friend Gideon. I don't have

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Speaker 3: that either, who have like no fat in their body,

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Speaker 3: like zero fat, you know percentage. He doesn't float very well,

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Speaker 3: so he doesn't swim. He doesn't really swim. I never

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Speaker 3: knew that Gideon couldn't float. I know it's fascinating.

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Speaker 2: More Fred show next right here,