1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,720 Speaker 1: It's time to ask the c l o uh to Shonda, 2 00:00:06,240 --> 00:00:07,240 Speaker 1: or maybe maybe I should know. 3 00:00:07,280 --> 00:00:08,280 Speaker 2: I'm sorry, Toronto. 4 00:00:08,400 --> 00:00:11,560 Speaker 1: Her name is Toronta, Toronto, and Lafayette says, my husband's 5 00:00:11,560 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 1: sister is having problems in her marriage, so she's staying 6 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:17,959 Speaker 1: with us. When I got home from work, she was 7 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:21,640 Speaker 1: wearing one of my ropes. I will gladly get her 8 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:25,240 Speaker 1: some things if need be. So how do I nicely 9 00:00:25,360 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 1: tell her that my stuff, my stuff is off limits. 10 00:00:30,160 --> 00:00:31,600 Speaker 3: Let me catch you ass in this robe? 11 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:34,239 Speaker 2: Forget him nicely? 12 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:35,560 Speaker 1: She said, nice? 13 00:00:35,720 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 2: Nice? 14 00:00:36,880 --> 00:00:39,879 Speaker 4: Catch it off of second, just walk up there. Just 15 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:44,360 Speaker 4: tad awful hand. Or if I can't wear the robe, 16 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:46,560 Speaker 4: ain't nobody gonna wear a rope? Take a butcher knife 17 00:00:46,600 --> 00:00:51,600 Speaker 4: and cut the cold, cut the bill, just swing, just 18 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:52,680 Speaker 4: do wood stuff. 19 00:00:53,320 --> 00:00:56,200 Speaker 1: Here's my question. Is she's saying anything while she's cutting 20 00:00:56,200 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 1: the robe off? 21 00:00:57,080 --> 00:00:59,800 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, everybody cussing and cutting is a part 22 00:00:59,800 --> 00:01:03,560 Speaker 2: of it. Yeah, it goes, it goes go. 23 00:01:03,960 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 3: Yeah, and see, don't look the same on you no more? 24 00:01:10,160 --> 00:01:10,520 Speaker 2: All right? 25 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:14,480 Speaker 1: Moving on to Marissa and Stockbridge, Marissa writes, I'm thirty 26 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:17,200 Speaker 1: eight years old and my husband likes to watch porn 27 00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:21,360 Speaker 1: while we're intimate. He says, he imagines that I'm the 28 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:25,360 Speaker 1: women in the video. This doesn't sit well with my soul. 29 00:01:25,800 --> 00:01:28,560 Speaker 1: Does this mean that he is not satisfied with my 30 00:01:28,680 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 1: body and normal intimacy? 31 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:34,400 Speaker 3: Well, he imagined that you the women in the video. 32 00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:36,440 Speaker 2: Uh, huh, you do what? 33 00:01:36,440 --> 00:01:36,600 Speaker 4: What? 34 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:39,280 Speaker 3: What did you text? What did you write us? This fault? 35 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:41,080 Speaker 2: He just told you. 36 00:01:41,680 --> 00:01:45,520 Speaker 4: He imagines that you are the women in the video. 37 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:50,640 Speaker 4: So he takes his mind off you and puts it 38 00:01:50,760 --> 00:01:54,960 Speaker 4: on huh. And instead of doing you, he's doing huh. 39 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 4: Which partities you don't get Just don't sit right with 40 00:01:58,320 --> 00:01:58,880 Speaker 4: my soul. 41 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 3: You ain't got to drag your soul and it. 42 00:02:01,080 --> 00:02:05,600 Speaker 2: Is it did take it somewhere else, didn't it. 43 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:11,919 Speaker 1: That's the name of the movie back in the day, 44 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 1: my soul. 45 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:13,960 Speaker 2: She needs to. 46 00:02:13,919 --> 00:02:18,840 Speaker 1: Shut that down, all right, Frankie in Texas. As we 47 00:02:18,880 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: move on, Frankie says, my son's child, that would be 48 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:25,680 Speaker 1: your grandchild. My son's child and child's mother live with me. 49 00:02:26,600 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 1: She can't stay with my son because he has a 50 00:02:29,360 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: new girlfriend. But he still comes to have sex with 51 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:35,520 Speaker 1: his child's mother. And I don't need to be hearing that, 52 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:41,240 Speaker 1: and neither does the child. What should I do got. 53 00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:43,480 Speaker 4: Well, you got to put a stop to that in 54 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 4: your house. Your house, you could actually put a stop 55 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:50,320 Speaker 4: to that and just tell him that he's being disrespectful. 56 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:55,560 Speaker 4: Very and then now he has a new girlfriend somewhere else, 57 00:02:57,160 --> 00:03:02,080 Speaker 4: but his former girlfriend and baby live with his mama. 58 00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:02,959 Speaker 2: Right, and he has his own. 59 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:08,640 Speaker 1: Mama live with the mama too. Yeah, he has his 60 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:11,840 Speaker 1: own house that you know. He has this new girlfriend 61 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:12,680 Speaker 1: over I'm sure. 62 00:03:12,919 --> 00:03:15,400 Speaker 3: Well, see, you got to take all this to your house. 63 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:18,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you're coming back over. 64 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:21,280 Speaker 4: Here still having relations with her in front of me 65 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:24,560 Speaker 4: and this boy. That ain't gonna work. Being disrespectful. You 66 00:03:24,600 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 4: need to sit the girl down at and hask go 67 00:03:26,680 --> 00:03:27,520 Speaker 4: what's wrong with her? 68 00:03:28,560 --> 00:03:31,080 Speaker 1: That's what Frankie should do, because that's what she wants 69 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:31,320 Speaker 1: to know. 70 00:03:31,360 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 2: What should she do? 71 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:34,840 Speaker 4: Well, you need to have conversations with your son about 72 00:03:34,880 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 4: being respectful of your house and your rooms. Secondly, you 73 00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:42,320 Speaker 4: need a conversation with this girl and just go what's. 74 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 3: Wrong with you? 75 00:03:43,560 --> 00:03:44,000 Speaker 2: Yeah? 76 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:48,400 Speaker 4: Now, you ain't good enough to go with him, You 77 00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:51,600 Speaker 4: ain't good enough to be with him. You got you 78 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 4: gotta stop being good enough to do him. 79 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:56,400 Speaker 2: Better than that? 80 00:03:57,000 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's good. Yeah, and none good loving and then 81 00:04:01,480 --> 00:04:03,000 Speaker 1: Mama's food right after that. Though. 82 00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:04,480 Speaker 2: That's pretty damn good thought. 83 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 3: You come in. 84 00:04:06,120 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 2: That's the bright side for you. 85 00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 3: That's why you That's why you do pranks. 86 00:04:17,000 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 1: All right, Steve, here's the last one. This one's Nevea 87 00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:24,159 Speaker 1: in Culver City. Davea says, I've been dating a man 88 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 1: for fourteen years and we both turned forty in December. 89 00:04:28,839 --> 00:04:31,560 Speaker 1: I was hoping for an engagement ring for Christmas, but 90 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:34,120 Speaker 1: he said the ring is custom made and won't be 91 00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:36,159 Speaker 1: ready until Valentine's Day. 92 00:04:36,800 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 2: If I don't get it, then should I leave? Oh? Well, 93 00:04:43,720 --> 00:04:51,040 Speaker 2: she's been they've been dating. What what? What? 94 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:52,719 Speaker 3: What do y'all want me to say? 95 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:54,919 Speaker 2: Say it? Just say it? 96 00:04:55,200 --> 00:04:58,320 Speaker 4: You know, Hell, listen to me. I've said this one 97 00:04:58,400 --> 00:05:02,200 Speaker 4: hundred times on this show. Why is it that women 98 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 4: do not understand this fact that you have every right 99 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:13,839 Speaker 4: to know and have a say so with the direction 100 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 4: your life is going. You have a right to know, 101 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:26,719 Speaker 4: to have a say so and know the direction in 102 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:30,080 Speaker 4: which your life is going. That's your right as a 103 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:30,800 Speaker 4: human being. 104 00:05:31,880 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: Okay, stop right there. Why don't they Why don't they then. 105 00:05:36,360 --> 00:05:41,040 Speaker 4: Because you think that you're supposed to center around and 106 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:45,320 Speaker 4: wait on somebody else to make a decision about your 107 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:51,800 Speaker 4: life when you have the power to exact the decisions 108 00:05:51,839 --> 00:05:58,320 Speaker 4: you want. Example, Okay, the reason you keep waiting on 109 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:02,320 Speaker 4: a ring and don't it is because a ring is 110 00:06:02,440 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 4: not a requirement of yours. It is a hope of yours. 111 00:06:07,720 --> 00:06:11,200 Speaker 4: And if that ain't the hope of his, then all 112 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:12,799 Speaker 4: hope is lost. 113 00:06:13,279 --> 00:06:15,120 Speaker 2: We're hopeless. 114 00:06:15,240 --> 00:06:19,440 Speaker 4: So why don't you make it a requirement for this 115 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 4: to continue? 116 00:06:20,920 --> 00:06:21,520 Speaker 3: I am no. 117 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 2: Fourteen years that's a little long's life. 118 00:06:28,800 --> 00:06:31,440 Speaker 4: And now it's custom made and it won't be ready 119 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:32,800 Speaker 4: to custom boy? 120 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:34,159 Speaker 3: What boy? 121 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:38,040 Speaker 4: Stop them rings ain't custom made? Their asses in k jewler, 122 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:43,760 Speaker 4: they in the window or they in the window. 123 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:48,160 Speaker 3: You ain't got enough smart to make a damn custom ring? 124 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:49,920 Speaker 2: Are you nuts? 125 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:52,120 Speaker 4: Let me tell you something, man, if you go in 126 00:06:52,120 --> 00:06:54,280 Speaker 4: there and pick out that diamond in that setting, your 127 00:06:54,320 --> 00:06:57,400 Speaker 4: ass can come back tomorrow the ring ready? 128 00:06:59,000 --> 00:06:59,240 Speaker 2: Yeah? 129 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 1: Okay, Well, one more question because we need to understand 130 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 1: the see go ahead, Well why fourteen years? I mean, 131 00:07:07,120 --> 00:07:10,800 Speaker 1: why would you stay with someone for fourteen years without anything? 132 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:14,200 Speaker 2: A lot of people have done it because you keep. 133 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:17,520 Speaker 4: Waiting on this theme to happen that you have not 134 00:07:17,680 --> 00:07:22,240 Speaker 4: made a requirement, and I keep telling y'all listen to me, ladies. 135 00:07:22,800 --> 00:07:25,880 Speaker 4: A wedding day is a woman's dream. The wedding day 136 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:28,800 Speaker 4: is not the man's dream. All the man dreams of 137 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:30,880 Speaker 4: is the chick of his dreams. We don't dream of 138 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:32,720 Speaker 4: our wedding day. And if we can get to chick 139 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 4: without the wedding day, bam, he got with he. 140 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 1: Oh, don't all right, clo, thank you. 141 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:41,840 Speaker 3: This is Steve Harvin Martin show man hit. 142 00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:44,240 Speaker 5: The twenty four year old girl is dating this sixty 143 00:07:44,240 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 5: five year old man that buys and does everything for her. 144 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:49,880 Speaker 5: Five months ago, I met another man closer to my age. 145 00:07:49,960 --> 00:07:52,480 Speaker 5: He took me to a family reunion and to my surprise, 146 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 5: my sugar daddy is his stepdaddy. He ain't say anything, 147 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:57,560 Speaker 5: and I showed didn't because his. 148 00:07:57,400 --> 00:07:58,160 Speaker 3: Wife is down. 149 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 5: Now you over there got to be quiet and stupid, 150 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:02,840 Speaker 5: but you're dating the man's damn son. 151 00:08:03,120 --> 00:08:07,240 Speaker 3: My question is, is the sugar daddy his daddy? Your daddy? 152 00:08:07,640 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 2: Why is his daddy? 153 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:11,840 Speaker 3: How many dadaes you got? I'm gonna be this morder 154 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 3: Steve Harby Morn Show coming up right after that.