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Speaker 1: Well, today's election day for the primaries in Maryland, so

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Speaker 1: All right, switching gears, It is now time for today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex,

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Speaker 1: parenting and more, please submit your Strawberry letter. Please submit it,

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Speaker 1: letter and we could be reading your letter live on

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Speaker 1: the air, just like this, and we'll try to help you.

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Speaker 1: You never know, it could be yours. You never know.

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Speaker 1: Buckle up it hold on type We got it for you.

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Speaker 1: Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject. I'll

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Speaker 1: take it anyway I can get it. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I've been dating a man, or we have been messing around,

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Speaker 1: as he says, it's been almost five years and he's

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Speaker 1: not the settling down type, so I'll take it anyway

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Speaker 1: I can get it. I have fallen in love with him,

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Speaker 1: and he knows it. I think he uses it against

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Speaker 1: me at times he's dating other women because I see

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Speaker 1: him posting pictures in the club and he's hugged up

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Speaker 1: with other females. He's a flashy type of guy that

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Speaker 1: needs to go out at night, and I'm a lot

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Speaker 1: more conservative. He makes fun of me because I like

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Speaker 1: game nights at home and house get togethers with my family.

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Speaker 1: I don't drink a lot, and I won't smoke cigars

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Speaker 1: when I'm tipsy. I smoke a cigar and threw up

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Speaker 1: the entire next day, so he hates when I smoke.

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Speaker 1: I have tried to match him and whatever he's got

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Speaker 1: going going on, but he will not include me in

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Speaker 1: that part of his life. I get to see him

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Speaker 1: when he's not with his friends or turning up in

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Speaker 1: the club. I often cook for him and rub his

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Speaker 1: feet so he can relax at the end of the day.

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Speaker 1: He claims he doesn't like to go out with me

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Speaker 1: because I'm his peace, and when he is with me,

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Speaker 1: he feels safe and at home. I stay and I

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Speaker 1: pray that he will choose me if he decides to

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Speaker 1: settle down one day soon. I know for a fact

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Speaker 1: that he is not spending quality time with anyone else.

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Speaker 1: I never see traces of other women at his house,

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Speaker 1: so I think I'm the closest thing to a girlfriend

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Speaker 1: that he's got. I hate that old saying that a

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Speaker 1: man will be a man, because that's condoning cheating. I

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Speaker 1: don't want him to ever get his foot rubs from

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Speaker 1: another woman. I know I am settling, but there are

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Speaker 1: no good men out there anymore. I put in five

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Speaker 1: years with him, and I don't want to start over.

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Speaker 1: Am I wrong for accepting whatever he gives me? Well, yes, ma'am,

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Speaker 1: yes you are. You're wrong for settling. This whole letter

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Speaker 1: is about him and what he says and what he wants,

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Speaker 1: and it's about rubbing his feet. You're the ones that

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Speaker 1: should be getting your feet rubbed. You're in the heels,

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Speaker 1: and you know this letter is on and on and

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Speaker 1: on about him. What about you? Who's looking out for

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Speaker 1: and who's caring for you? Or don't you think you

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Speaker 1: deserve that. Listen, I'm just here to tell you that

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Speaker 1: I don't care if he was the only man left.

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Speaker 1: Don't ever settle. There are plenty of good man out here.

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Speaker 1: You just don't know because you've been tied up with

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Speaker 1: this guy for the last five years. You just have

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Speaker 1: to not be afraid to be by yourself and wait

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Speaker 1: or walk away until the right man comes along. Five

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Speaker 1: years of your life you've given to this man and

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Speaker 1: you've got nothing in return. All you do is serve him.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you said, he tells you you're his piece

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Speaker 1: pe a ce as you put it in the letter,

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Speaker 1: but in reality, you're his pie cepiece. You don't have

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Speaker 1: to settle for anything. Nothing is that good. I mean nothing.

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Speaker 1: I just don't think it is. Don't let him continue

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Speaker 1: allow him to treat you this way. Get a backbone,

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Speaker 1: put an end to this situation now. Don't waste another

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Speaker 1: five years of your time with him, because he'll stay

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Speaker 1: you know that's it. He doesn't even call this a relationship.

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Speaker 1: He calls it messing around, messing around. You don't want

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Speaker 1: to do that for another five years? Steve very Good

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Speaker 1: responds during Good. You know when you send in a

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Speaker 1: What can we do? Because you you you you're you're

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Speaker 1: willing to accept whatever. Let let's go through the letter

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Speaker 1: this Stephen Sherlly. I've been dating a man or we

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Speaker 1: have been messing around, as he says, and it's almost

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Speaker 1: been five years, and he's not the settling down type. Well,

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Speaker 1: I have news for you. You ain't either. See it

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Speaker 1: ain't just him, is you? You ain't the settling down

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Speaker 1: type because you've been letting this man tell you y'all

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Speaker 1: messing around for five years and you've been cool with that.

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Speaker 1: Then your next statement is, so I'll take it anyway

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Speaker 1: I can get it. Oh, so you just miss anything

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Speaker 1: and everything? What you want to do anything because I

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Speaker 1: I take anything? What's what's wrong with you? I have

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Speaker 1: fallen in love with him, and he knows it, falling

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Speaker 1: uses it against me at times he's dating other women

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Speaker 1: that needs to go out tonight, and I'm not. And

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Speaker 1: I'm a lot more conservative girl. Let's say in the

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Speaker 1: work not for you, because he's working out just fine

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Speaker 1: for him. When we come back, I'll tell you the

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Speaker 1: rest of it. It's just gonna be pretty necessaried. All right,

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Speaker 1: hang on, we'll have part two of Steve's refunds coming

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Speaker 1: up in twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: Subject I'll take it anyway I can get it. We'll

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject

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Speaker 1: I'll take it, I can get it. Sisters that's listening

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Speaker 1: about to share some important information. I'll take it anywhere

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Speaker 1: I can get it. She's been dating a man, been

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Speaker 1: messing around, as he calls it, for five years, because

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Speaker 1: he won't call it dating, and she's going along with it.

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Speaker 1: It's been almost five years and he's not the settling

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Speaker 1: down type. Well, lady, you ain't either, so I'll take

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Speaker 1: That's so she just go along with anything. He's dating

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Speaker 1: posting these pictures. You don't, You don't see what's happening here.

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Speaker 1: But you say, I know he's dating other women. You

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Speaker 1: said that, What do dating them lead to? What do

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Speaker 1: to go out at night, and I'm a lot more concertan. Now,

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Speaker 1: and he hates when I'm tipsy. I smoke the cigar

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Speaker 1: and threw up the entire next day, so he hates

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Speaker 1: when I smoke. Okay, can I tell you something, man,

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Speaker 1: He don't like you. He don't like you. Okay, let's

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Speaker 1: start there. I've tried to match him in whatever he's

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Speaker 1: that part of his life. He don't like I get

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Speaker 1: I often cook for him and rub his feet so

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Speaker 1: he can relax at the end of the day. Oh

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Speaker 1: so now you stupid too. You're rubbing his feet so

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Speaker 1: he can go stand back on and take them pictures

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Speaker 1: with their mother. He claims he doesn't like to go

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Speaker 1: It's in the centers. He claims he doesn't like to

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Speaker 1: go He don't like you because I'm his piece. Shirley said,

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Speaker 1: pe a Ce, you're his side piece. He ain't got

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Speaker 1: other pieces is on tape, they on video. They at

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Speaker 1: the club, and when he is with me, he feels safe.

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Speaker 1: And at home, he tied. He the ward's ass out.

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Speaker 1: It came to you. Yeah, I stay and pray that

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Speaker 1: one day. Son, you that's stupid. God ain't put you

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Speaker 1: in this situation. So don't don't don't don't, don't. Don't

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Speaker 1: pray God to fix this situation here because you bought

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Speaker 1: this on yourself. I know for a fact that he's

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Speaker 1: not spending quality time with anyone else. Are you stupid?

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Speaker 1: You just said you see the post. You just said,

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Speaker 1: I don't know he's not spending quality time with anyone.

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Speaker 1: I never see traces of other women at his house,

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Speaker 1: so I think I'm the closest thing to a girlfriend

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Speaker 1: that he's got. He got cleaning lady, He got to

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Speaker 1: cleaning lady. You can't see trade. You ain't no blood.

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Speaker 1: How a matter of fact, you're stupid, so you don't

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Speaker 1: Why they got to leave everdence over there for somebody

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Speaker 1: They think they it too. I hate the old saying

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Speaker 1: that a that a man's a man, because that's condoned

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Speaker 1: in cheak. He cheating, he's seeing other people. You think

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Speaker 1: it is cheating because you think he yours, he belonged

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Speaker 1: to them streets. I don't want him to ever get

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Speaker 1: his foot rubs from another woman. Well, you keep doing

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Speaker 1: the lady, You're stupid. I know I'm settling, Okay, glad

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Speaker 1: you know that. But there are no good men out

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Speaker 1: there anymore. Okay, see this is what, this is what

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Speaker 1: now we gotta get to. There are no good men

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Speaker 1: out there anymore. Okay. And so now that you've made

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Speaker 1: that statement, please describe to me which one you have,

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Speaker 1: because it sounds like you got one of them, no

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Speaker 1: good ones to me, you put into the universe. There

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Speaker 1: are no good men out there anymore. So now you

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Speaker 1: didn't took one of these no good men? And I

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Speaker 1: hope they're gonna turn into a good man by praying

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Speaker 1: that he don't go no whales and get his feet rubbed.

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Speaker 1: You stupid. I put five years in with him and

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Speaker 1: I don't want to start over. Am I wrong for

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Speaker 1: accepting whatever he gives me? Don't it sound wrong? To you.

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Speaker 1: Did you read this letter for you? Send it back

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Speaker 1: to me? Stop being blind to your own self. If

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Speaker 1: you advise her to stay? I don't think so, but

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Speaker 1: it's amazing how people don't follow their own advice. That

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Speaker 1: are good men out there, You're just not available to

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Speaker 1: locate one and they can't locate you because you ain't available.

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Speaker 1: Can I say this to you again? That are good

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Speaker 1: men out there, You're just not available to locate one

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Speaker 1: and they can't locate you because you are not available.

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Speaker 1: Rubbing understand because you're rubbing mister wronges feet. So where

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Speaker 1: is mister wrong wherever? Mister rightfin to sit at on

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Speaker 1: the couch next to y'all while you love and mister

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Speaker 1: ronges man, don't be stupid? All right? You said it?

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