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Speaker 1: Let's go, Let's buckle up, hold on, tight head? Is strap?

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Speaker 1: Everyletta alright? Subject? Ex girlfriends, Dear Stephen Shirley. I love

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Speaker 1: your show dearly, and I am a faithful listener every morning. However,

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Speaker 1: I am in a relationship with a guy I work with.

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Speaker 1: We have been together for seven months and things have

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Speaker 1: been great. However, he has like three different ex girlfriends

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Speaker 1: who work with us. He does not understand why I

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Speaker 1: get upset when he flirts or kisses females on the

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Speaker 1: forehead or go around hugging every girl that walks in

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Speaker 1: his path. Please don't get me wrong, he treats me

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Speaker 1: like a queen. But I am just tired of the

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Speaker 1: flirts that go on at work. I first thought would

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Speaker 1: be to meet them in the parking lot and deal

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Speaker 1: with it there. I have two kids to raise and

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Speaker 1: I don't need the trouble. Sometimes I think that maybe

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Speaker 1: I don't look as good or have the best dress

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Speaker 1: clothes as they do. None of that should matter when

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Speaker 1: it comes to love. Anyway, Sometimes I find myself being

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Speaker 1: depressed about the situation. We go to dinner and a movie,

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Speaker 1: amusement parks together. The sex is great. The only problem

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Speaker 1: we have is his ex girlfriends? How should I deal

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Speaker 1: with this problem the right way? Okay? Really, Um, why

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Speaker 1: are you mad? And why are you depressed? Uh? You're

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Speaker 1: dating a guy who dates women at work? This is

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Speaker 1: what he does. I mean, I guess somewhere in there

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Speaker 1: he does his job at work, but the main thing,

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Speaker 1: it seems to be, uh, that he's doing is dating women.

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Speaker 1: You're just number four. Are you really trying to tell

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Speaker 1: me that he was not flirting with you and hugging

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Speaker 1: you and kissing you on the forehead when he was

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Speaker 1: dating numbers one, two and three? Um? You know, you

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Speaker 1: just have someone who dates women at work and it's

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Speaker 1: your turn right now? All right? This is what he does.

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Speaker 1: I don't see any kind of future here. I really don't.

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Speaker 1: This is what this guy does. He just goes around

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Speaker 1: the dates different women at work. UM. So how you

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Speaker 1: handle it, uh, you know, is to just accept it

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Speaker 1: for what it is. If you're going to date this guy,

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Speaker 1: is that that's what he does, date women at work,

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Speaker 1: and you're one of those women. See wow? Is he

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Speaker 1: a sports fisherman which means that are two types of

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Speaker 1: fishermen that me and are with sports fishing, or we're

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Speaker 1: fishing for keepers. We either fishing for sports or we're

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Speaker 1: fishing to eat. When you're fishing to eat, you keep those.

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Speaker 1: If you just sport fishing, you hook him and you

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Speaker 1: throw him back. The amazing thing is Sureley is one

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Speaker 1: thousand percent correct. This is what he does. He dates

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Speaker 1: women on the job. He's turned it into a sport.

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Speaker 1: And the amazing thing is that you all are lining up,

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Speaker 1: pick me, pick me, who me, next, me, next me, next,

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Speaker 1: so you're getting the same treatment. Shirley's exactly right when

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Speaker 1: she he was dating number one wasn't girlfriend? And number

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Speaker 1: two and three and you the ones getting hugged on

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Speaker 1: in the hallway pecked on the cheek. Listen to me,

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Speaker 1: dude is a playboy. You know, he's done nothing to

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Speaker 1: show you anything different. You've been together for seven months

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Speaker 1: and things have been great, and he has three different

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Speaker 1: ex girlfriends who worked with He does not understand why

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Speaker 1: I gives set when he flirts or kisses females on

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Speaker 1: the forehead or goes around hugging every girl that walks

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Speaker 1: in his path. See listen to me, lady. That's how

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Speaker 1: you get three girlfriends in one workplace. That's how you

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Speaker 1: become number four in the workplace. I have news for you.

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Speaker 1: When he's through playing with you, he's gonna get number

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Speaker 1: five or number six. Because all of you women on

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Speaker 1: that job are sitting now. We wo me next. You

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Speaker 1: all are talking about how great the sex is, and

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Speaker 1: everybody wonna line them get a little bit. The problem

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Speaker 1: ain't that he has three exes. The problem is that

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Speaker 1: he treats them as currents. So you're gonna have three

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Speaker 1: X as long as you treat them as an X.

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Speaker 1: Your problem is he don't treat them like they ha X.

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Speaker 1: That's the problem. And the fact that he treats you

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Speaker 1: like like a queen. Players know how to do that.

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Speaker 1: We have good treatment, but you're not being treated special.

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Speaker 1: You're not being treated special because guess what. Men who

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Speaker 1: treats you special don't kiss women in front of you,

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Speaker 1: grow on women in front of you. That ain't I'm sorry,

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Speaker 1: we'll be back. I got coming up next. It's Cheryl Underwood.

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Speaker 1: She is on deck. But please, Steve, finish your response

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Speaker 1: to part two of today's Jewberry letter. Come on, Steve, Yeah, uh.

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Speaker 1: This woman right here in this letter, man is is

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Speaker 1: very disappointing for me because I see so many women

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Speaker 1: who are doing um you know, and a faithful listener.

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Speaker 1: We we We've been in a relationship with seven months.

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Speaker 1: Things have been great. However, he has like three different

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Speaker 1: girlfriends who work with us. He just not understand why

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Speaker 1: I get upset when he flirts or kisses females on

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Speaker 1: in his past. Please don't get me wrong, he treats

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Speaker 1: me like a queen, but I'm just tired of the

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Speaker 1: flirts that go on at work. My first thought would

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Speaker 1: be to meet them in the parking lot and deal

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Speaker 1: with the day. I have two kids raised and don't

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Speaker 1: need the trouble. Sometimes I think that maybe I don't

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Speaker 1: look as good to have the best dress closes as

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Speaker 1: they do. None of that should matter when it comes

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Speaker 1: to love anyway, Sometimes I find myself being depressed about

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Speaker 1: the situation. We go to dinner, to a movie, amusement

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Speaker 1: parks together, the sexiest great. The only problem is he

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Speaker 1: has his ex girlfriends. How should I deal with this

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Speaker 1: problem the right way? Like I told you, lady, the

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Speaker 1: problem ain't that they ha exes. The problem that he

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Speaker 1: keeps treating these excess like they current. And now these

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Speaker 1: other women that he's walking around kissing and hugging that

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Speaker 1: crossed his path. Now you want to go and meet

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Speaker 1: them in the parking lot and deal with it. Excuse me,

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Speaker 1: excuse me, no, no, no, no no, no, no no, you have

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Speaker 1: nothing to do with these women. You should be in

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Speaker 1: the parking lot addressing the kids, sir, not the kiss See,

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Speaker 1: so you need to talk jalc to the dude that's

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Speaker 1: doing the kissing. They just walking in this path. He's

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Speaker 1: doing all of this if just like he did it

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Speaker 1: to you, and he did it to the other three

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Speaker 1: exits all y'all falling for the same okay, dough. And

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Speaker 1: then here's what it hurts me about women. Oftentimes sometimes

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Speaker 1: I think that maybe I don't look as good I

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Speaker 1: had the best dress clothes as they do. Who don't

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Speaker 1: start lowering your self esteem because see, you was dressed

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Speaker 1: and looked good enough for him to come and get

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Speaker 1: you in the first case. So now don't start a

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Speaker 1: second guessing yourself. You got them two kids to raise

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Speaker 1: this This dude is trife. He's a player. While get

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Speaker 1: in line and be number four. What's the purpose of it?

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Speaker 1: Why you got three of them? I'm telling you, man,

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Speaker 1: you see something, you think it looks good. Everything that

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Speaker 1: glitter ain't gold. So what he finds? So what he got?

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Speaker 1: Gray sex? You think you're getting treated like a queen,

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Speaker 1: but you're not being treated special. When is it that

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Speaker 1: women are gonna get it? What you need to do

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Speaker 1: in order to be treated special, you have to act

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Speaker 1: like you're special. It's all we're gonna do. We take

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Speaker 1: everybody to the movie. We take everybody to dinner. Hell,

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Speaker 1: we got to eat. We all wanta sit up and

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Speaker 1: talk to you. You damn right, we're gonna take you

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Speaker 1: to the movie. You know. And then you think it

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Speaker 1: he had changed for me. No, he's not changing for you.

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Speaker 1: He's gonna do you like he did all the rest

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Speaker 1: of them. You're about to be X number four because

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Speaker 1: you can't take it no more. Then number five is

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Speaker 1: gonna think, well, I can't take it. And if she's

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Speaker 1: gonna get involved to get and she's gonna find out

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Speaker 1: she can't take it. There the guy ain't serious. What

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Speaker 1: what else you need to know from me? I think

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Speaker 1: your kids are gone about your life. Find you somebody

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Speaker 1: with some all right sex, but treat you special. Pill

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Speaker 1: by that you're listening st