WEBVTT - Ep 307: Guess Who's Back-ish! 0:00:06.440 --> 0:00:09.239 Hey, ba Fam, I don't even know what to say 0:00:09.280 --> 0:00:12.440 exactly and how to prepare you guys for today's show 0:00:12.480 --> 0:00:16.680 other than that I am so freaking happy to see 0:00:17.040 --> 0:00:20.640 this woman's face again. It has been such a long time, 0:00:20.800 --> 0:00:23.959 and I know that y'all have been keeping Tiffany and 0:00:24.000 --> 0:00:26.440 your thoughts and prayers and praying for her and sending 0:00:26.480 --> 0:00:29.520 all the dms and sending all the ba fam love 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:34.200 her way, and we have been patient and given tiff 0:00:34.280 --> 0:00:37.320 all the time that she needed to heal and to 0:00:37.360 --> 0:00:39.159 be ready to come back. And I just want to 0:00:39.159 --> 0:00:41.480 say Tiff, like, I'm so grateful to have you back, 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:45.159 and it feels very surreal to have you back. But 0:00:45.479 --> 0:00:49.400 I'm so ready to be back to broad ambition as 0:00:49.400 --> 0:00:51.640 we envisioned it, which was the two of us, you know, 0:00:52.000 --> 0:00:54.400 bouncing off one another and welcome back. 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:59.960 Well, I say back ish, back ish to my life. Thanks. 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:02.760 It feels, I guess, a little nerve racking and good 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:05.200 to be because well, I just want to be fully transparent. 0:01:05.200 --> 0:01:09.399 I'm still resetting what it looks like, what the new back. 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:11.560 It's like, you know, Brown's New Black or Orange is 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:13.840 New Black, whatever that show was. It's like, back is 0:01:13.880 --> 0:01:16.280 the new back. You know, I don't know what that 0:01:16.319 --> 0:01:19.679 looks like for me yet. You know, one of the 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:23.080 things I'm sure who knows you know, you might not 0:01:23.680 --> 0:01:25.080 for those of you who listening might not know. My 0:01:25.200 --> 0:01:28.560 husband passed away about five months ago, and so I 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:36.320 took obviously time away fortunate and that I have created 0:01:36.959 --> 0:01:39.760 a business or several businesses. I like for myself, Well, 0:01:39.760 --> 0:01:41.520 I don't have to work anymore. The truth is I 0:01:41.520 --> 0:01:43.120 could have been stopped working a long time ago, but 0:01:43.480 --> 0:01:46.920 workaholics don't know how to not stop working. But you know, 0:01:47.160 --> 0:01:50.040 now I'm really conscious that, you know, I don't have 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:53.559 to work anymore. And if there is a silver lining, 0:01:53.680 --> 0:01:56.280 it's like, oh, the things I've been teaching y'all through 0:01:56.280 --> 0:01:58.920 the budgetiest to like. I mean, I knew that it 0:01:58.960 --> 0:02:01.400 wasn't just rhetoric, but like, when life really got real, 0:02:01.440 --> 0:02:04.520 I got to see, like, oh, this is really life 0:02:04.600 --> 0:02:08.640 changing information because you know, it put me be in 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:10.560 a position that I don't have to work, and not 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:12.799 because of insurance money whatever. I don't have to work 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:15.600 because of the work I did prior period. So I 0:02:15.639 --> 0:02:18.840 really got to sit back and ask myself, what did 0:02:18.840 --> 0:02:21.160 I want life to look like? I'm still figuring that 0:02:21.200 --> 0:02:24.320 out moving forward, because a lot of what I was 0:02:24.320 --> 0:02:26.880 doing before was a lot of just autopilot. You know, 0:02:26.880 --> 0:02:28.959 you work because you're work it because you work bigger 0:02:29.000 --> 0:02:32.080 and bigger, bigger, more and more and more, and not 0:02:32.120 --> 0:02:34.960 even so much for the money truthfully, because you know, 0:02:34.960 --> 0:02:37.440 I'm always wearing my target's best. Literally, this t shirts 0:02:37.440 --> 0:02:39.480 from Target, and as are my jeans, and I'm sure 0:02:40.160 --> 0:02:41.600 even my bra I believe it's from. 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:43.080 Targeting, like I. 0:02:43.360 --> 0:02:46.280 So it's not that it was more so that, like 0:02:46.560 --> 0:02:48.919 I had this mentality like if I can get a B, 0:02:49.120 --> 0:02:50.600 can I get a If I can get a can 0:02:50.600 --> 0:02:52.320 I get a plus? If I can get a plus, 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:54.720 I get a plus plus. And I thought that that's 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:59.519 how life was supposed to progress. But death is really 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:04.160 clarify and you know, I have a new sense of Yeah, 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:07.080 I don't care anymore now, meaning like I don't care 0:03:07.120 --> 0:03:11.080 about collecting the things along the way that show me 0:03:11.160 --> 0:03:14.200 that I'm doing better that like how I am when 0:03:14.200 --> 0:03:17.760 I was a preschool teacher to budding business Tiffany to 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:21.959 now mogul Tiffany is each one of those stages was 0:03:22.080 --> 0:03:25.920 enough if I decided so that I can you know, 0:03:26.200 --> 0:03:30.320 I don't need to to quantify my worth by adding 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:32.680 things to it. And so I'm getting you know, I'm 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:34.720 still seeking clarity about what does that look like. I 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:38.720 am partially retired because I know it's like I went 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:40.840 live on IG and I told everybody else backsh and 0:03:40.880 --> 0:03:43.200 like the floodgates open. But it's a new Tiffany, so 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:45.400 the boundaries are here and I'm just like, yeah, no, 0:03:46.040 --> 0:03:46.720 I'm not doing that. 0:03:46.720 --> 0:03:48.200 I'm not doing this. I don't want to do this. 0:03:48.760 --> 0:03:51.960 And even with the podcast, I told myself like, I'm 0:03:52.000 --> 0:03:54.400 giving myself a mission to decide while I do it 0:03:54.440 --> 0:03:56.960 because I Mandy and I you know, you know, she's 0:03:57.080 --> 0:03:59.280 been such an amazing friend. You know, we spoke obviously, 0:03:59.320 --> 0:04:02.360 you know, I mean we haven't been here, but Mandy 0:04:02.880 --> 0:04:05.720 has been there for me, and we talked a lot. 0:04:06.000 --> 0:04:08.600 And my knee jerk is like, like, oh, I got 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:10.920 to come back to brand Ambish because I miss Mandy. 0:04:11.000 --> 0:04:12.840 And I'm like, well, missing Mandy and Brown and Bishon 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:16.960 are two different things, you know, And so I'm giving 0:04:16.960 --> 0:04:20.240 myself permission to say, you know, see how you like, 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:24.919 see how you feel, you know, because I knew, so 0:04:25.000 --> 0:04:27.960 I went to BALI for like almost two months, just 0:04:28.000 --> 0:04:28.400 to like. 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:30.320 Get space away and clarity. 0:04:31.320 --> 0:04:33.400 And I came back maybe like a less than a 0:04:33.400 --> 0:04:36.880 month ago, a few weeks ago, and I got to 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:38.719 write down the things that I did not miss and 0:04:38.760 --> 0:04:41.159 the things that I did miss, and there were things 0:04:41.160 --> 0:04:42.279 that kind of fell in between. 0:04:42.839 --> 0:04:44.520 And one of the things I knew that I. 0:04:44.520 --> 0:04:46.440 Miss I said brand ambition, but I realized what I 0:04:46.440 --> 0:04:48.000 was saying is I miss Mandy. I missed talking to 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:52.479 my friend every week, and I want to see if. 0:04:52.160 --> 0:04:53.000 That's tied to this. 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:54.640 I mean, I'm still seeing and I want to give 0:04:54.640 --> 0:04:57.400 myself permission, but also I want to give transparency for 0:04:57.520 --> 0:04:59.680 y'all when it comes to that. I don't know, you 0:04:59.680 --> 0:05:02.080 know how I feel after taping if I'm like, Okay, 0:05:02.120 --> 0:05:04.120 this is too much, or if I'm like, oh yeah, 0:05:04.120 --> 0:05:07.359 I really miss doing this because I don't want to 0:05:07.400 --> 0:05:10.400 give false yess, which I've been doing, like and so 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:11.640 many women we do this like. 0:05:11.600 --> 0:05:12.440 Your whole life. 0:05:12.440 --> 0:05:14.560 It's like, sure, I do it, it's not that big 0:05:14.600 --> 0:05:17.360 of a deal. I want to please. I want to 0:05:17.360 --> 0:05:20.799 make sure that people are not angry or upset or everybody. 0:05:20.839 --> 0:05:23.440 Everybody in my life got to get what they needed 0:05:23.520 --> 0:05:25.440 except for me, And I'm just not willing to do 0:05:25.480 --> 0:05:31.240 that anymore, especially now, because you know, the lessons that 0:05:31.279 --> 0:05:33.680 I've learned is like, well, what is the point and 0:05:33.720 --> 0:05:37.640 the purpose if you don't also get looked after, you know, 0:05:37.760 --> 0:05:39.760 if you give away all of that to everyone else. 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:44.000 And I'm just not willing to do that anymore. But yeah, 0:05:44.040 --> 0:05:47.000 it's been I mean, I don't know that you ever 0:05:47.040 --> 0:05:50.280 heal from like a great loss, but I do know, 0:05:50.400 --> 0:05:53.599 like I'm grateful of an amazing therapist. If y'all have 0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:56.039 been being listeners for a while, you've heard me talked 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:59.320 about talk about doctor green my coach, and she was 0:05:59.360 --> 0:06:02.400 an amazing Oh I needn't. I had felt I needed 0:06:02.560 --> 0:06:04.760 a therapist like some years ago, but I couldn't find 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:05.200 a good one. 0:06:05.240 --> 0:06:07.920 So someone suggested a coach to me. Her name is 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:08.440 doctor Greene. 0:06:08.480 --> 0:06:11.520 She's the sister I love her and so she so 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:13.520 she was like, okay, I can I can coach you. 0:06:13.560 --> 0:06:16.600 Although she's, like I said, a therapist because she didn't 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:20.960 have her license in New Jersey. But then, by God's grace, honestly, 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:23.120 I reached out to her when I was really like 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:24.919 in the depths of despair and I was like, I just, 0:06:25.839 --> 0:06:27.880 you know, can you suggest a therapist to me? And 0:06:27.920 --> 0:06:30.640 she was like, just a week ago because of quarantine, 0:06:30.640 --> 0:06:34.679 the pandemic or whatever that I guess at a federal level, 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:39.040 they have given therapists like passes to other states and. 0:06:39.000 --> 0:06:39.880 You can apply for them. 0:06:40.120 --> 0:06:42.960 And she had applied and gotten her therapy passed basically 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:45.640 for New Jersey, so she could actually be my therapist 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:48.440 and I could have wept with joy and so I 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:51.560 you know, so this person who's gotten to know and 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:54.080 grow with me the last few years, you know, she 0:06:54.120 --> 0:06:56.960 has really helped tremendously through this really. 0:06:57.360 --> 0:07:00.600 Like difficult and time. 0:07:00.800 --> 0:07:04.799 It's just it feels surreal, like if you guys are listening, 0:07:04.800 --> 0:07:06.400 you know, like the joke is that Darrell's gonna open 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:08.520 the door. We're all gonna be like every time I 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:13.000 tape the podcast, you're gonna hear the creek like it's 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:14.720 gonna be him, Like you need a sandwich, you need that. 0:07:14.800 --> 0:07:17.280 I'm like, I'm taping with Mandy and I thought, okay, okay, 0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:19.520 cow be back and like to know that that's not 0:07:19.520 --> 0:07:20.360 gonna happen again. 0:07:22.320 --> 0:07:28.920 It's just like, yo, it just never like I. 0:07:28.840 --> 0:07:32.040 Was just talking to you either it was because you 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:37.040 know that somewhere there's Darrell loving you, you know, being 0:07:37.080 --> 0:07:42.280 his wonderful self in the background, and. 0:07:42.320 --> 0:07:45.560 So it just I don't know, I don't know anything 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:46.760 other than like. 0:07:48.760 --> 0:07:48.840 That. 0:07:48.960 --> 0:07:50.280 I'm just gonna take it one day at a time, 0:07:50.320 --> 0:07:52.040 honestly figure out. 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:54.800 You don't have to know a damn thing. Tiff, and 0:07:54.840 --> 0:08:00.720 I think, as I think, the most beautiful gift we 0:08:00.720 --> 0:08:03.600 can give each other as friends sometimes is the space 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:05.600 to not know and to not have an answer, and 0:08:05.640 --> 0:08:09.520 to literally say I don't need anything from you, you know, 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:14.640 like of course I want I want your you know, 0:08:15.120 --> 0:08:16.800 as long as somewhere in the world Tiff is a 0:08:16.800 --> 0:08:19.720 happy person and she's feeling fulfilled that, you know, whether 0:08:19.840 --> 0:08:23.000 or not I am near or the show is near. 0:08:23.080 --> 0:08:26.400 I think that's the gift as a friend that maybe 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:29.560 even took me a long time to realize. But and 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:32.000 through the pandemic too. You know, you have friendships that 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:36.200 you feel have just had these like ebbs and flows 0:08:36.240 --> 0:08:38.800 to them. I guess all I'm just trying to say 0:08:38.920 --> 0:08:40.760 is it's fine. You don't have to say another word. 0:08:41.320 --> 0:08:46.040 And when you're when you want to come, this is 0:08:46.080 --> 0:08:49.760 a space you can come to. You know your passion 0:08:49.840 --> 0:08:52.480 and your knowledge and the gifts that you have to 0:08:52.520 --> 0:08:55.400 share in whatever form you want to share them when like, 0:08:55.480 --> 0:08:57.520 I don't see you ever stopping doing that, and if 0:08:57.520 --> 0:08:59.319 this is one of the platforms where you can do that, 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:02.120 like we're all the luckier for it. I love you 0:09:02.160 --> 0:09:02.439 a lot. 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:06.520 I love you too, Mandy, And honestly, you know, I 0:09:06.520 --> 0:09:09.000 don't if you guys have listened with us from the beginning. 0:09:09.040 --> 0:09:12.000 I mean, you really, we have grown so much. We 0:09:12.040 --> 0:09:15.040 were just like two single girls when we started off. 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:17.920 You know, and we've been here. I mean, you've seen 0:09:18.000 --> 0:09:20.760 us get married. You see Mandy have her beautiful baby. 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:24.400 I mean, all the things you've seen her like crushing 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:27.400 in corporate. You've seen me grow from like baby budgetista 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:29.880 to where I am now. You know, then you've seen 0:09:29.920 --> 0:09:32.760 her strike out on her own. It's just, you know, 0:09:34.400 --> 0:09:38.520 it's like this living diary of like this part of 0:09:38.520 --> 0:09:40.280 our lives. You know that I'm really grateful for. 0:09:40.400 --> 0:09:43.280 You know, I want to say, we're going to have 0:09:43.320 --> 0:09:45.880 time to sit down and listen to three hundred hours. 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:48.160 I don't let them ever do that. But it's out there. 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:50.040 At least it's out there. 0:09:50.559 --> 0:09:54.560 My son's going to be like Mama, let's talk about 0:09:55.360 --> 0:10:01.920 you almost didn't marry. 0:09:57.000 --> 0:10:04.679 Let But if I could like impress upon y'all any 0:10:04.800 --> 0:10:07.000 like kind of like words of wisdom. One take so 0:10:07.280 --> 0:10:10.160 many pictures in video. I'm not for the sake of posting, 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:12.400 but just for the sake of for the sake of it. 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:18.240 I mean, like almost like diary your life. Because Drug's 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:19.960 mom had passed away when he was in his twenties, 0:10:20.000 --> 0:10:21.240 and that was one of the things he said, I 0:10:21.280 --> 0:10:23.280 don't have enough pictures of her, and I have no video. 0:10:23.920 --> 0:10:25.880 But Jirelle, he was like a secret vlogger. 0:10:26.400 --> 0:10:28.160 Like after he passed, I went through his phone, Mandy 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:31.920 so many pictures in video, like of just like him. 0:10:31.640 --> 0:10:34.520 Talking like today was a good day. I did the laundry, 0:10:35.400 --> 0:10:37.920 although Tiffany didn't cook. That's all right, I'm like, you 0:10:37.960 --> 0:10:41.280 know what. So but to go through and see all 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:42.200 those things that I created like. 0:10:42.200 --> 0:10:45.559 A Google drive, and I added all the pictures, all 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:48.280 the video, and then I every person that came to 0:10:48.280 --> 0:10:50.120 see me. There's this thing you could do in Google 0:10:50.120 --> 0:10:53.200 where you can say, if this face appears in your phone, 0:10:53.280 --> 0:10:55.520 added to the drive. And so we have thousands and 0:10:55.559 --> 0:10:58.000 thousands of pictures in videos, so at any moment in time, 0:10:58.360 --> 0:11:01.000 you know, you can hear him laughing or play or 0:11:01.080 --> 0:11:03.800 singing or just saying I love you or whatever, so 0:11:03.840 --> 0:11:07.480 that you know, that's like such a blessing. Like I mean, 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:09.920 it's not just like when it's birthdays. I'm just talking 0:11:09.960 --> 0:11:13.040 about it's just a Tuesday, you know, And so like 0:11:13.480 --> 0:11:16.600 collect that for yourself and especially the mom's out there. 0:11:16.640 --> 0:11:18.600 So often you're taking pictures of the babies and you're 0:11:18.600 --> 0:11:20.800 not in it, you know, make sure like turn that 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:22.839 camera around it and put yourself in it as well. 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:27.400 And then two, honestly get your financial house in order, 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:31.559 like Jirella and I were about eighty five percent in order. 0:11:31.600 --> 0:11:33.280 And there were things we dragged our feet on, like, oh, like, 0:11:33.360 --> 0:11:34.920 for example, I did not have a will and needed 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:35.640 did he because. 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:37.120 I'm like, I mean he's forty one. 0:11:37.160 --> 0:11:40.280 We'll get Even though I've been working with Antili, my 0:11:40.320 --> 0:11:43.079 financial advisor, for like three years. We met with her quarterly, 0:11:43.200 --> 0:11:45.720 the both of us, and every time we met, are 0:11:45.720 --> 0:11:48.360 you guys done with that will? I had Tony, who's 0:11:48.400 --> 0:11:51.000 my attorney. Tony, every at least twice a year, she'd 0:11:51.040 --> 0:11:54.040 be like, let's get this will done because you like 0:11:54.320 --> 0:11:55.559 you can't anticipate that. 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:57.840 But but even though Jurrell. 0:11:57.640 --> 0:12:00.760 Didn't have a will because we had to findincial advisor 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:04.400 and everything else, I knew exactly what he wanted and 0:12:04.440 --> 0:12:07.320 as did everyone else. And so there's very little that 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:09.600 like slipped through the cracks that the will had to cover. 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:10.640 So that was good. 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:14.640 But update also your beneficiaries because like maybe just a 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:19.079 year ago, Angelie was going through our beneficiaries and for example, 0:12:19.080 --> 0:12:21.760 though the one he had at his job, it didn't 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:25.120 he still had Melissa's mother on there, you know, from 0:12:25.120 --> 0:12:26.920 what he started that job when he was like twenty two, 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:30.960 you know. And so update your beneficiaries because there was 0:12:31.040 --> 0:12:37.199 one there was one life insurance policy that he had 0:12:37.320 --> 0:12:39.760 ordered the beneficiary update form for because it was like 0:12:39.800 --> 0:12:41.880 his homework and I saw this inbox. 0:12:41.960 --> 0:12:44.079 He never signed it, and so that life insurance policy 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:46.800 is not signed to ALYSSA and it ought to be. 0:12:47.520 --> 0:12:49.720 So that was kind of like, you know, thankfully, like 0:12:49.800 --> 0:12:52.560 I have grown more than enough wealth that like she 0:12:52.679 --> 0:12:55.760 will always be fine. But that was really it, Like 0:12:55.800 --> 0:12:58.920 it was like because we had done all of the 0:12:58.960 --> 0:13:02.319 other work, you know, those small things. You know, it's 0:13:02.320 --> 0:13:04.080 not small because the life insuring policy wasn't a little 0:13:04.080 --> 0:13:04.480 bit of money. 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:05.319 But honestly, I. 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:08.800 Can make that money back really quickly. But still I 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:11.320 thought to myself, you know, if I was still preschool teacher, Tiffany, 0:13:11.320 --> 0:13:13.560 that could be devastating, you know, the loss of that 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:17.960 and that insurance policy. So I'm sharing this transparently because 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:22.160 so many times we wait, Like literally, my dad is 0:13:22.200 --> 0:13:24.760 in his eighties and I was like, yo, his will 0:13:24.840 --> 0:13:27.760 is still from when I was six. It was until 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:29.839 like I put my foot all the way down. I 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:31.880 had Tony. I didn't know this, but I one of 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:34.160 the reasons why we didn't do a will is because 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:35.520 I thought it was going to take a long time. 0:13:35.559 --> 0:13:37.080 And I was like, oh, I don't have time to 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:39.160 dig through all my stuff. It was a thirty minute 0:13:39.160 --> 0:13:40.079 conversation with Tony. 0:13:40.960 --> 0:13:41.520 That was it. 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:44.640 And in that conversation she asked me all these questions 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:46.920 and then she created the will. I was like, wait, 0:13:47.600 --> 0:13:49.360 that was it. All this time, what I've been avoiding. 0:13:49.360 --> 0:13:50.920 I thought I had to collect. I thought it was 0:13:50.920 --> 0:13:52.360 like doing the will was like doing your taxes. You 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:55.840 have to collect all of your stuff. And so I 0:13:55.880 --> 0:13:58.440 had her and she then Tony said I told her 0:13:58.480 --> 0:13:59.880 about my parents are my worry that they didn't have 0:13:59.880 --> 0:14:02.280 a will, they didn't have a health care directive, and 0:14:02.320 --> 0:14:05.440 she's like, I can create it, just a general one 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:07.920 which just basically says something happens to dad, it goes 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:08.320 to mom. 0:14:08.440 --> 0:14:10.080 Something happens to mom, it goes to dad. 0:14:10.400 --> 0:14:13.080 And I said, yes, create it, because if I had 0:14:13.080 --> 0:14:14.760 to sit down with them and had these questions, you're 0:14:14.800 --> 0:14:16.880 not going to do it. She created it their healthcare 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:20.200 directive as well. I went to them, they read it over, 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:22.760 they were like, this is good. We went to the bank, 0:14:23.040 --> 0:14:24.880 the bank and had them signed in front of the bank, 0:14:24.880 --> 0:14:27.120 and the bank notarized it for them, all within a 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:31.480 couple of days. And so I just because because of 0:14:31.520 --> 0:14:34.640 the work we did, I get to just miss Jerrell. 0:14:36.240 --> 0:14:39.520 You know, he didn't leave any dead. He didn't leave 0:14:39.600 --> 0:14:42.720 any like financial responsibilities that I'm like, what am I 0:14:42.760 --> 0:14:43.560 going to do behind? 0:14:44.280 --> 0:14:44.480 You know. 0:14:44.480 --> 0:14:46.920 We paid off both of the houses we have, you know, 0:14:46.960 --> 0:14:48.200 including our rental property. 0:14:48.240 --> 0:14:49.880 We like, his car was paid off. 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:52.360 There was no The last thing on his credit card 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:54.800 was some sneakers that he bought me, you know, but 0:14:54.840 --> 0:14:56.520 he didn't have any like real credit card that I 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:57.920 think it was like you know, like eighty dollars or 0:14:57.960 --> 0:14:58.560 something like that. 0:14:59.040 --> 0:15:02.920 And so the blessing in that is I get to 0:15:03.080 --> 0:15:04.080 just miss Jarrell. 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:07.160 And you know, we talk about money here and kind 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:10.280 of like this like outside way, but like it really 0:15:10.360 --> 0:15:14.720 hits home, like update your beneficiaries, get a well done, 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:17.360 you know, put put yourself in a position that you 0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:20.080 can just miss your loved one, or if it's you, 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:24.560 your loved one can just miss you, you know, because 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:28.360 if there is you know, there are things despite the grief, 0:15:28.440 --> 0:15:30.080 that I'm grateful for, and that's one of them. 0:15:30.080 --> 0:15:31.240 And I want that for all of us. 0:15:32.560 --> 0:15:34.640 Yeah, I mean I think as a mom, nothing makes 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:37.560 you think about dying more than having a kid, like 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:41.720 all the time. It's a horrific thought. It's a horrific thought. 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:44.080 I never want that to happen, but it is. And 0:15:44.200 --> 0:15:47.080 I and you know, I was kicking myself after having 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:49.160 like conversations with you about not getting that kind of 0:15:49.200 --> 0:15:51.600 stuff in order before I had the baby, because even 0:15:52.320 --> 0:15:56.200 those conversations only got more difficult when it was it 0:15:56.240 --> 0:15:58.720 wasn't just me and you know, my husband. It was 0:15:59.080 --> 0:16:01.720 imagining a world where I wouldn't be there for my son. 0:16:02.000 --> 0:16:04.960 But it's very possible, and like, am I going to 0:16:05.080 --> 0:16:08.440 let that get in the way of preparing or creating 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:11.080 a soft place for him to land and giving him. 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:14.000 You know, exactly what he needs. 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:17.720 So I hear you on that too, and I think 0:16:17.720 --> 0:16:20.160 for a lot of it's just like face, it's it's 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:22.640 silly that fear that we have to face the reality 0:16:22.680 --> 0:16:25.720 that you know we're all heading one place. You know, 0:16:26.640 --> 0:16:30.000 it's it's a certainty, just you don't know. The great 0:16:30.040 --> 0:16:33.080 trick of life is you don't know when and you 0:16:33.080 --> 0:16:35.520 know it is that like estate planning and getting the 0:16:35.520 --> 0:16:39.760 best beneficiaries in place. And then it's also, you know, 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:42.680 the beauty of your message I feel like too, is 0:16:42.720 --> 0:16:45.600 that financial empowerment on an individual level, so that if 0:16:45.600 --> 0:16:49.600 you're the one left behind, you have those resources so 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:51.800 that you said you can you can grieve on your 0:16:51.840 --> 0:16:55.920 own time and make choices that are healthier for you. 0:16:56.040 --> 0:16:57.800 How many people get up and go to work the 0:16:57.880 --> 0:17:01.320 day after something like that because they have no other choice. 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:04.159 I was like, Manny, how it made me so much 0:17:04.200 --> 0:17:06.439 more empathetic as a person. I'm like, how do you 0:17:06.480 --> 0:17:08.119 carry this grief and wrong with you and still have 0:17:08.160 --> 0:17:08.840 to go to work. 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:11.520 You know, it's just I was. 0:17:11.480 --> 0:17:13.920 Thinking that, honestly, I said, because that's one of the 0:17:13.960 --> 0:17:16.240 things like doctor Green, you know, like she let me 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:18.000 reach the conclusion on my own. But it was like 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:19.640 in the beginning, I kept saying, this is the worst 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:22.040 thing that could have ever happened, This is the worst thing. 0:17:22.640 --> 0:17:25.040 And then one day I realized, like I was in 0:17:25.119 --> 0:17:28.440 Bali and I'd taken that time, and I thought, it's 0:17:28.480 --> 0:17:32.240 not the worst thing that could have happened, because it 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:35.280 is a terrible thing that happened, but in such a 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:39.320 way that I am financially cared for. There is no 0:17:39.320 --> 0:17:41.639 financial burden left behind. I don't have to go back 0:17:41.680 --> 0:17:43.840 to work if I don't want to. I am surrounded 0:17:43.840 --> 0:17:46.040 by family and friends that loved me and support me. 0:17:46.359 --> 0:17:49.560 Like it's not the worst thing because these things still exist. 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:52.639 The worst thing is if everything is gone, and everything 0:17:52.680 --> 0:17:55.280 isn't gone, so there is still gratefulness to be had 0:17:55.320 --> 0:17:57.840 in the grief, and you know, I just kept thinking, like, 0:17:57.880 --> 0:18:00.359 you know, it's not the worst thing, but it's you know, 0:18:00.480 --> 0:18:03.600 there are I thought about, like the folks in Ukraine 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:06.200 who literally some of them their whole family is wiped away, 0:18:07.359 --> 0:18:09.920 you know, that's not what happened to me or people 0:18:09.920 --> 0:18:13.520 who suffer every day from abuse. There was a woman 0:18:13.560 --> 0:18:16.480 who told me that her husband too, suffered from an 0:18:16.520 --> 0:18:19.480 aneurism and he was in a coma. I want to 0:18:19.480 --> 0:18:22.120 say she said it was like three months. And when 0:18:22.160 --> 0:18:25.920 I tell you, I can't even imagine, because Jurell would 0:18:25.960 --> 0:18:28.479 go into the hospital on Tuesday and was gone by 0:18:28.480 --> 0:18:32.120 the weekend. Those few days in between were a nightmare 0:18:33.000 --> 0:18:35.520 because every day you don't know if this is the day. Literally, 0:18:36.520 --> 0:18:38.480 I would literally be putting on my clothes to go 0:18:38.480 --> 0:18:40.560 to the hospital and say, please, please, please, don't let 0:18:40.600 --> 0:18:42.200 this be to day, Please please put you know, because 0:18:42.560 --> 0:18:44.880 every day thinking is this the day that it gets 0:18:44.960 --> 0:18:47.359 ripped away from you? So I cannot imagine doing that 0:18:47.440 --> 0:18:50.720 for ninety days straight. And then he came to from 0:18:50.760 --> 0:18:54.640 the coma and did not remember her. And they've divorced, 0:18:54.680 --> 0:18:59.880 since divorced, and she is gutted because she's like, he's 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:02.840 still gone. It's like, you know, there's solace in knowing 0:19:02.840 --> 0:19:05.920 that he's alive, but he's gone from me. I cannot 0:19:05.960 --> 0:19:11.400 even or he Jorelle could have lived but then been 0:19:11.400 --> 0:19:15.680 a vegetable for me. It's like I don't even. 0:19:15.560 --> 0:19:17.200 Know what do you do. 0:19:17.720 --> 0:19:20.360 There are caregivers. I don't know how they manage honestly, 0:19:20.480 --> 0:19:25.440 It's just it just life is just such a crazy thing. 0:19:25.480 --> 0:19:25.639 You know. 0:19:25.720 --> 0:19:27.680 You you're going along. 0:19:27.400 --> 0:19:31.600 As every as if everything small matters, and then something 0:19:31.680 --> 0:19:32.680 huge happens and you. 0:19:32.600 --> 0:19:34.719 Realize how little those things mattered. 0:19:35.560 --> 0:19:38.080 And so that's just what I'm trying to spend the 0:19:38.160 --> 0:19:41.760 rest of my time doing, is really identifying what actually 0:19:41.880 --> 0:19:45.960 matters and focusing on that, you know, because in the end, 0:19:46.800 --> 0:19:48.080 like I feel. 0:19:47.800 --> 0:19:49.480 Like Jarell cracked the code. 0:19:49.520 --> 0:19:52.919 Like if you knew him personally, he was one of 0:19:52.960 --> 0:19:55.840 the few people that lived as though they had enough. 0:19:57.359 --> 0:19:59.600 I used to I used to wonder, like, you don't 0:19:59.600 --> 0:20:01.160 want to why don't you start this business? And why 0:20:01.160 --> 0:20:04.359 don't you do this m No. I was like, oh 0:20:04.359 --> 0:20:07.679 my god, he's not motivated. No, Derell's like I have enough, Jarrell. 0:20:07.800 --> 0:20:09.359 I mean, when I looked at his bank account, I 0:20:09.440 --> 0:20:14.000 was like, so we had personal checking, personal savings, and 0:20:14.040 --> 0:20:17.840 then we had joint checking, joint savings, so you know, 0:20:17.960 --> 0:20:19.760 like every pay period I set it up from his 0:20:19.800 --> 0:20:22.399 bank account or from his paycheck at work that it 0:20:22.400 --> 0:20:25.159 would automatically deposit like and filter where needed to go. 0:20:25.800 --> 0:20:30.719 His personal checking and savings was almost depleted. And all 0:20:30.760 --> 0:20:32.520 you saw because he was used to write himself notes 0:20:32.920 --> 0:20:34.959 A thousand dollars for such and such friends so they 0:20:34.960 --> 0:20:37.280 could do this, two hundred dollars for such and such friends, 0:20:37.280 --> 0:20:39.640 so they could do that, such and such straight aids 0:20:39.680 --> 0:20:42.000 on har redport card five hundred here, And I'm like, 0:20:42.359 --> 0:20:47.560 this man gave everything away because in his mind he 0:20:47.640 --> 0:20:52.280 was like, I have enough, Like he had fifteen hundred 0:20:52.320 --> 0:20:55.159 dollars left in his savings account. And I know for 0:20:55.200 --> 0:20:57.399 a fact because I heard him the Sunday before he 0:20:57.440 --> 0:20:59.520 passed away. One of his friends was struggling to buy 0:20:59.560 --> 0:21:01.840 a car, was like, I could put a thousand on it, 0:21:02.640 --> 0:21:04.399 like you know, I got you like, and I'm looking like, 0:21:04.840 --> 0:21:07.679 you have fifteen hundred dollars. Obviously we had, you know, 0:21:07.720 --> 0:21:09.720 he knew we had investments. You know, we had, like 0:21:09.720 --> 0:21:11.439 I said, our joint saving. But when it came to 0:21:11.480 --> 0:21:14.640 the money that he he meta for himself, Drell gave 0:21:14.680 --> 0:21:16.680 everything away because he always felt like he had enough. 0:21:16.840 --> 0:21:18.919 He gave so much of himself away because he always 0:21:18.960 --> 0:21:22.479 is like it's enough, and now it's just whereas I 0:21:22.920 --> 0:21:26.280 like I can tell by where I give from the 0:21:26.359 --> 0:21:30.000 places where I believe that there's enough, you know, And 0:21:30.080 --> 0:21:32.840 to see him give holistically let me know that he 0:21:32.960 --> 0:21:35.640 just was really living this life where he was just 0:21:35.680 --> 0:21:38.880 like I am enough, this is enough. I have more 0:21:38.920 --> 0:21:41.200 than enough to give and share, really giving from a 0:21:41.240 --> 0:21:43.679 place of abundance, where so much I was giving from 0:21:43.720 --> 0:21:45.399 a place and so many of us from a place 0:21:45.400 --> 0:21:48.720 of fear, you know, and like I could just I could, 0:21:48.760 --> 0:21:50.040 I can do this, But I don't know if I 0:21:50.080 --> 0:21:53.119 could do that, you know, that's just enough or I 0:21:53.160 --> 0:21:55.560 have to work extra, extra, extra hard because the millions 0:21:55.560 --> 0:21:58.680 that have already accumulated, even though I don't even spend them, 0:21:58.960 --> 0:22:01.400 can't possibly be enough. And I just was like, yeah, 0:22:01.400 --> 0:22:03.680 I don't. I don't want to subscribe to that anymore. 0:22:04.320 --> 0:22:06.760 The get it, so just just to get it, you know, 0:22:07.119 --> 0:22:08.520 you know, me and Manny, you know, we had that 0:22:08.640 --> 0:22:11.760 chat the other day about like entrepreneurship, and you know, 0:22:12.400 --> 0:22:14.240 like how much really is enough when it comes to 0:22:14.240 --> 0:22:15.960 making it. I know that if I put my mind 0:22:16.000 --> 0:22:17.679 to it, I can build a company that makes one 0:22:17.760 --> 0:22:18.880 hundred million dollars a year. 0:22:19.400 --> 0:22:20.320 But at what cost? 0:22:20.720 --> 0:22:25.679 Everything costs, especially money, At what cost to grow to 0:22:25.720 --> 0:22:28.480 one hundred million? At what cost to my personal life, 0:22:28.640 --> 0:22:31.800 my spiritual life, my professional life, at what cost? And 0:22:31.840 --> 0:22:33.920 so only you can decide that for yourself. But there's 0:22:33.960 --> 0:22:36.560 just so many lessons that I took away from living 0:22:36.600 --> 0:22:40.600 a more filled and fulfilled life, you know, because I 0:22:40.640 --> 0:22:42.400 look at him and I'm just like, you really. 0:22:42.160 --> 0:22:45.520 Cracked the code, babe, you like you did. 0:22:45.560 --> 0:22:47.320 And sometimes I wonder maybe that's why he's not here, 0:22:47.359 --> 0:22:50.840 because he's like, well, I ate this thing called life. 0:22:51.040 --> 0:22:54.880 I'll see all on the other side, you know, whereas 0:22:54.880 --> 0:22:58.080 I'm just like, wait, so millions are enough. 0:23:00.440 --> 0:23:03.919 Well, it's like this notion in America that six billions 0:23:04.000 --> 0:23:09.760 and billions and being incredibly wealthy and founding your own 0:23:09.800 --> 0:23:13.919 company and revolutionizing some industry, that that is what the 0:23:14.000 --> 0:23:17.439 ultimate success is. And I think for you know, it 0:23:17.480 --> 0:23:19.320 sounds like what you're saying, and what I believe to 0:23:19.320 --> 0:23:22.000 be true too, is that does that is not what 0:23:22.119 --> 0:23:25.639 makes you happy? And fundamentally, like when you when you 0:23:25.680 --> 0:23:27.359 go back to that, like you know, that vision of 0:23:27.400 --> 0:23:29.440 you as a preschool teacher and who you are and 0:23:29.440 --> 0:23:32.800 it being the same as today, I think that's that's 0:23:32.840 --> 0:23:35.240 the key. Can you put yourself in any situation with 0:23:35.280 --> 0:23:37.840 any amount of money and still say that you're content 0:23:37.920 --> 0:23:41.639 and happy. That for me is the that's the mountaintop, 0:23:41.880 --> 0:23:45.280 you know, that's what I'm going for, and it doesn't 0:23:46.160 --> 0:23:49.800 And for me it's of course financial gain is important 0:23:49.800 --> 0:23:51.680 in building wealth because then what can you give back 0:23:51.680 --> 0:23:53.159 and what you know, how can you do it? But 0:23:53.760 --> 0:23:55.960 I want to be in the right mindset so that 0:23:56.280 --> 0:23:59.280 when you know I have those resources, that I'm then 0:23:59.320 --> 0:24:01.560 able to use them in a way that aligns with 0:24:02.680 --> 0:24:06.560 my values and what I feel is important, you know. 0:24:06.680 --> 0:24:10.520 So it all feels good and not like you're being 0:24:10.520 --> 0:24:13.400 pulled in anyone direction that you don't want. 0:24:13.240 --> 0:24:16.879 To be because it's like, if you get this like 0:24:16.960 --> 0:24:19.880 outward success, how will it meet you? Like I wanted 0:24:19.960 --> 0:24:23.439 to meet me healthy, happy whole, because if not, then 0:24:24.080 --> 0:24:25.760 what is it that we're really saying. We see a 0:24:25.800 --> 0:24:28.080 lot of people with a lot of money and there's 0:24:28.080 --> 0:24:30.760 no joy there, you know. So it's like then they 0:24:31.040 --> 0:24:34.160 accumulate more and there's even less joy, And they accumulate 0:24:34.200 --> 0:24:36.320 more and then there's even less joy. So it's like, 0:24:36.400 --> 0:24:39.240 oh man, I want to meet a healthy, happy whole, 0:24:39.720 --> 0:24:43.560 you know. And so yeah, I just I don't, like 0:24:43.600 --> 0:24:44.919 I said, I don't know what that looks like. But 0:24:44.920 --> 0:24:46.840 I'm trying to give myself the space and the grace 0:24:46.880 --> 0:24:50.159 to decide without the say yes because don't let this 0:24:50.200 --> 0:24:52.199 person be mad at you or so yes because you 0:24:52.240 --> 0:24:54.359 said yes last week. I'm the type I would have 0:24:54.359 --> 0:24:56.359 said yes to you ten years ago and be like 0:24:56.400 --> 0:24:59.119 I got to say yes because ten years ago, you know, 0:24:59.240 --> 0:25:01.560 I said I going to do it. It's like, yeah, no, 0:25:01.680 --> 0:25:04.480 you have you know, certainly, you know you try to 0:25:04.560 --> 0:25:07.920 keep your promises, but the biggest promise that you ought 0:25:07.920 --> 0:25:12.159 to be keeping is to yourself, you know. And I 0:25:12.160 --> 0:25:14.240 don't think I ever really believe that anymore, but I'm 0:25:14.280 --> 0:25:17.399 really leaning into that now. For example, like y'all know, 0:25:17.440 --> 0:25:19.680 I have my online school, the Literature Academy. I step 0:25:19.760 --> 0:25:23.399 down as CEO because when I say death is so clarifying. 0:25:23.440 --> 0:25:24.960 I had like a list of things that I wanted 0:25:25.000 --> 0:25:27.160 to do that I was like if first I got 0:25:27.160 --> 0:25:28.840 to do this, and then like I got to make 0:25:28.880 --> 0:25:30.440 sure this and that was like and then one day 0:25:30.480 --> 0:25:33.480 I was just like Tiffany, I've been wanting to step 0:25:33.520 --> 0:25:36.359 down the CEO for some time, but finding a CEO 0:25:36.680 --> 0:25:39.879 and putting the company in position and d d no. 0:25:40.480 --> 0:25:42.240 I just was like, so, I'm not doing this anymore, 0:25:42.320 --> 0:25:43.720 So Tam. 0:25:43.520 --> 0:25:44.040 You're up. 0:25:44.680 --> 0:25:47.440 And she's working with PEP since the beginning of the academy, 0:25:47.520 --> 0:25:50.520 and certainly she's never been a CEO before. But I 0:25:50.560 --> 0:25:53.080 had my business coach, Diane, who has been coaching me 0:25:53.119 --> 0:25:56.360 for the last two years now. He coaches her and 0:25:56.480 --> 0:25:58.480 she and I speak whenever she needs to. But we 0:25:58.520 --> 0:26:01.720 have a standing call every other week, and it's my 0:26:01.800 --> 0:26:04.320 expectation that we will see a dip in revenue this year, 0:26:04.359 --> 0:26:07.280 maybe even next year. But she'll be just fine, you know, 0:26:07.440 --> 0:26:09.439 because the truth of the matter is, you know, and 0:26:09.480 --> 0:26:11.520 I let everyone know. It's either that or we shut 0:26:11.560 --> 0:26:13.640 it down because I'm not doing it anymore. 0:26:14.080 --> 0:26:14.320 You know. 0:26:14.440 --> 0:26:16.879 I love the mission of the Literature Academy and what 0:26:16.920 --> 0:26:19.720 it does, but I don't like being a CEO. I 0:26:19.840 --> 0:26:22.040 like being a teacher. It's not as sexy or as 0:26:22.119 --> 0:26:24.520 fancy or as I'm a CEO. I don't care about that. 0:26:25.400 --> 0:26:28.520 So it's either this or ain't no Literature Academy. They're like, 0:26:28.560 --> 0:26:31.480 we'll do this, so I'm like, yes, I'm sure, and 0:26:31.520 --> 0:26:33.440 that company is very successful, as y'all know, we made 0:26:33.480 --> 0:26:36.080 eight figures in twenty twenty with ten million. We've hit 0:26:36.119 --> 0:26:39.360 our first ten million, and I was like, okay, and 0:26:39.560 --> 0:26:42.520 I will walk away from it. And I just want 0:26:42.560 --> 0:26:45.320 to do the budgeonista. I just want to be a teacher, 0:26:46.000 --> 0:26:48.679 you know, I just want to That's it. And so 0:26:49.600 --> 0:26:52.879 it was also hard to because a budgetista. You know, 0:26:53.000 --> 0:26:55.760 I'm someone where I wanted to hire as many black 0:26:55.800 --> 0:26:59.760 women as possible, and so I did. We had a 0:27:00.320 --> 0:27:03.840 like twenty something women and they were getting good money. 0:27:03.960 --> 0:27:06.719 You know, I would say, you know, maybe one fourth 0:27:07.000 --> 0:27:10.840 six figures and above. But as a result of doing 0:27:10.880 --> 0:27:14.760 them and they were like, you know, awesome, it forced 0:27:14.800 --> 0:27:17.920 me to work at a certain level that I didn't 0:27:17.960 --> 0:27:20.280 get as many breaks as like like I needed to, 0:27:20.359 --> 0:27:22.320 Like you know, I took Fridays off and Wednesday's light, 0:27:22.480 --> 0:27:24.880 but I'm talking about like really not having days where 0:27:25.040 --> 0:27:26.639 or even weeks or even months where I didn't have 0:27:26.680 --> 0:27:29.840 to work, Like I had to work to support the 0:27:29.880 --> 0:27:33.000 people that had hired, who were awesome, and it was hard. 0:27:33.359 --> 0:27:36.040 But I had to let some of them go, not 0:27:36.200 --> 0:27:38.280 because of any faults of their own for the most part, 0:27:39.400 --> 0:27:43.080 but because it was like, who do you get to choose, Tiffany, 0:27:43.600 --> 0:27:47.640 you work yourself to the bone so everyone else can eat, 0:27:48.040 --> 0:27:51.920 or you get to decide you've done enough. That's been 0:27:51.960 --> 0:27:54.720 like the buzzword for me. It's enough, Tiffany. You don't 0:27:54.720 --> 0:27:58.520 owe someone your whole life. And the thing is so crazy. 0:27:58.359 --> 0:28:01.960 They never asked for that. My team wasn't like girl 0:28:02.440 --> 0:28:04.560 hit the track so we could eat. When they found 0:28:04.600 --> 0:28:06.320 out that I wasn't taking me a salary from the 0:28:07.040 --> 0:28:09.720 budgetista so everyone else could get a bigger one, they 0:28:09.720 --> 0:28:14.840 were like, why I over sacrifice And I was like, enough, Tiffany, 0:28:14.960 --> 0:28:18.080 no one is asking you to continue to over sacrifice. 0:28:18.080 --> 0:28:19.920 So we went from like twenty people down to three. 0:28:20.040 --> 0:28:23.000 And I'm one of the three. It's myself, my admin, 0:28:23.920 --> 0:28:26.960 Rose and logan, my content person. 0:28:27.600 --> 0:28:28.080 That's it. 0:28:28.280 --> 0:28:30.320 And when I tell you it's been so awesome that 0:28:30.480 --> 0:28:33.840 like I would say, of the seven days out of 0:28:33.880 --> 0:28:35.320 the week, maybe I work two days. 0:28:35.359 --> 0:28:37.760 This is my only thing today. This is it. I'm 0:28:37.800 --> 0:28:40.160 taping the podcast. That's literally it. 0:28:40.240 --> 0:28:42.400 I went to the post office earlier to just mail 0:28:42.400 --> 0:28:44.000 something off to a friend of mine, but this is 0:28:44.040 --> 0:28:46.240 my and tomorrow I think I have a call in 0:28:46.280 --> 0:28:50.520 the morning, and like it's so crazy. Because when I 0:28:50.560 --> 0:28:53.520 finally realized I don't have to, I thought to myself, well, 0:28:53.600 --> 0:28:55.320 without all these people were going to make less money 0:28:55.560 --> 0:28:58.080 as long as we make enough to just cover Roses 0:28:58.760 --> 0:28:59.920 salary and Logan salary. 0:29:00.040 --> 0:29:00.720 But that wasn't true. 0:29:00.760 --> 0:29:04.080 I came back from my hiatus to almost a million 0:29:04.120 --> 0:29:08.360 dollars worth of business. I'm talking about spokesperson work, contracts, 0:29:08.400 --> 0:29:11.760 speaking engagement contracts, brand and bachelor of contract eight hundred 0:29:11.800 --> 0:29:14.680 and fifty thousand dollars. And I was like, and I'm 0:29:14.680 --> 0:29:16.560 being candid about this because I want you to see 0:29:16.560 --> 0:29:22.320 them the like what happens when you align yourself because 0:29:22.360 --> 0:29:25.440 I had told myself the story that if I slow down, 0:29:26.000 --> 0:29:29.720 it means business also slows down and fails, and that's 0:29:29.760 --> 0:29:32.480 not true. Life was like, yeah, actually, no, you're actually 0:29:32.480 --> 0:29:35.640 doing way less work and surprise, here's almost a million dollars. 0:29:35.400 --> 0:29:36.880 For you when you come back. And I was like, wait, 0:29:37.320 --> 0:29:38.880 what you know? 0:29:39.000 --> 0:29:41.720 So it just is like so many times, you know, 0:29:42.480 --> 0:29:44.800 you tell yourself a thing and you believe it's true, 0:29:44.800 --> 0:29:47.040 and then you lock yourself in the prison of that thought. 0:29:47.640 --> 0:29:50.920 And you know, what I'm learning is that like I 0:29:50.960 --> 0:29:56.880 can step away and business continues. I have done the 0:29:56.920 --> 0:30:00.560 work necessary and required to do, so I can put 0:30:00.560 --> 0:30:04.000 someone else in place and business continues. I can take 0:30:04.000 --> 0:30:07.600 a break and business continues, you know. Like so it's 0:30:07.640 --> 0:30:10.040 just like all these lessons that I'm like learning from myself, 0:30:10.080 --> 0:30:13.000 and it just you know, like that one in particular, 0:30:13.080 --> 0:30:16.000 is like I had told myself all that time, like wait, 0:30:16.600 --> 0:30:18.840 I can really be gone gone. Remember I took those 0:30:18.880 --> 0:30:20.520 like you know, like that four weeks off or whatever, 0:30:20.600 --> 0:30:23.600 that month off, you know, and even that I had 0:30:23.640 --> 0:30:26.440 not really learned the lesson. Now I'm really like, no, 0:30:26.560 --> 0:30:28.840 you can be gone and you can never come back 0:30:29.360 --> 0:30:32.400 to that capacity and still be more than fine. And 0:30:32.440 --> 0:30:35.160 so my one of my mentees is she asked me, 0:30:35.200 --> 0:30:37.560 she said, do you think you couldn't have gotten You 0:30:37.600 --> 0:30:39.760 could have gotten here without the work that you did prior. 0:30:39.800 --> 0:30:42.080 And the truth is no, I'm not going to pretend 0:30:42.120 --> 0:30:44.360 as if you can start off at two days a week. 0:30:45.200 --> 0:30:46.200 That's just not how it looks. 0:30:46.520 --> 0:30:46.600 That. 0:30:46.680 --> 0:30:50.360 There's a lot of planting and the podits you have 0:30:50.480 --> 0:30:50.920 to make. 0:30:51.360 --> 0:30:52.800 And it's only because. 0:30:52.520 --> 0:30:55.680 I've reached the level of mastery in what I do 0:30:56.280 --> 0:30:59.840 that I'm able to now pick from the garden that 0:30:59.880 --> 0:31:02.840 I I've grown I'll never not pick because. 0:31:02.520 --> 0:31:03.880 Of so many seeds that I planted. 0:31:03.920 --> 0:31:06.040 So yes, you might be in your sowing seeds and 0:31:06.240 --> 0:31:07.680 it is a little hectic and crazy and. 0:31:07.640 --> 0:31:08.560 A little overwhelming. 0:31:09.000 --> 0:31:10.880 But the key, and this is Mayday, and I chat 0:31:10.920 --> 0:31:14.960 about this before, is that my garden has been overflowing 0:31:15.160 --> 0:31:18.040 for a few years now, and I was still sowing 0:31:18.120 --> 0:31:22.480 seeds as if I had just started. I had seen 0:31:22.640 --> 0:31:25.360 my goal and I ran past it and just kept running. 0:31:25.520 --> 0:31:27.960 I didn't even know how to stop. I'm like, wait, 0:31:28.000 --> 0:31:30.600 so the goal was like two years ago, we hit it. Okay, 0:31:30.720 --> 0:31:32.960 you want to pay off your parents' house done, student alone, 0:31:33.000 --> 0:31:35.800 deat done, debt free done, no mortgage done, all the 0:31:35.840 --> 0:31:37.040 things done, done done? 0:31:37.200 --> 0:31:39.080 Why are you still running so fast? 0:31:39.240 --> 0:31:44.320 And so like I'm finally finally, finally slowing down, you know, 0:31:45.040 --> 0:31:46.880 and like I hate that it had to take the 0:31:46.880 --> 0:31:48.760 loss of Darrell's life to teach me how to live, 0:31:48.800 --> 0:31:51.480 but sometimes that's how that's how it goes. 0:31:51.520 --> 0:31:54.280 But yeah, all right, well let's take a quick break. 0:31:54.280 --> 0:31:59.360 We'll be right back with more of brown ambition. All 0:31:59.440 --> 0:32:02.160 rightba fan, we're back. While you were talking, I kept 0:32:02.320 --> 0:32:04.360 envisioning the p and es in my garden that the 0:32:04.400 --> 0:32:07.280 previous owners of this house planted. And I get to 0:32:07.440 --> 0:32:09.960 every and I'm waiting. I see they're sprouting up right now, 0:32:10.120 --> 0:32:11.160 and it's mid May. 0:32:11.640 --> 0:32:13.480 Around mid May. Every year they. 0:32:13.320 --> 0:32:15.800 Bloom and I just get to enjoy it, and I 0:32:15.840 --> 0:32:17.800 hate it because it's so quick. You know they're there, 0:32:17.920 --> 0:32:19.440 and then they last for a couple of weeks and 0:32:19.440 --> 0:32:22.240 then they're gone. But that whole analogy around sewing and 0:32:23.480 --> 0:32:26.680 planting and like looking but actually getting to sit down 0:32:26.680 --> 0:32:28.800 and look at it and appreciate what you've built. Hell, no, 0:32:29.400 --> 0:32:32.400 you are not an overnight success and you're just you know, 0:32:32.480 --> 0:32:34.960 able to do this. I don't think anyone who's listened 0:32:35.000 --> 0:32:39.520 to the show, you know, could could ever kid themselves 0:32:39.680 --> 0:32:42.120 that you haven't, you know, worked incredibly hard to get 0:32:42.120 --> 0:32:43.800 to where you are now. And I think the message 0:32:43.800 --> 0:32:46.560 there is like, if you're in your like, can you 0:32:46.600 --> 0:32:50.760 say a season of sewing, keep sewing, keep going so 0:32:50.960 --> 0:32:56.000 that when something, you know, whatever the whatever the need is, 0:32:56.160 --> 0:32:59.560 whatever the emergency is, whatever the unknown is, that you 0:32:59.640 --> 0:33:03.080 have thing that you had that foundation to lean on. Yeah, 0:33:03.200 --> 0:33:05.400 I mean, you know, I'm incredibly just like proud of 0:33:05.440 --> 0:33:09.800 you and also as much sitting back with wide eyes, 0:33:10.000 --> 0:33:12.920 just wanting to see how you blossom and grow from this, 0:33:13.480 --> 0:33:15.920 because I know it's going to be extraordinary as it 0:33:15.960 --> 0:33:19.240 already has been. I mean, you haven't become you are backish. 0:33:19.280 --> 0:33:22.680 Now do you want to talk about your how you 0:33:22.720 --> 0:33:26.600 approached your new Can you call it a business venture? 0:33:26.800 --> 0:33:28.920 You new Patreon membership community? 0:33:29.200 --> 0:33:32.080 Yeah? Numbers? Now it's so crazy. 0:33:32.720 --> 0:33:34.760 I want to hear about it. Well, tell abroad ambition, 0:33:34.960 --> 0:33:38.360 like what is the community? What was your thought behind it? 0:33:38.400 --> 0:33:39.800 And yeah, what's going on? 0:33:40.440 --> 0:33:42.400 So I said, like I was talking to Mandy and 0:33:42.440 --> 0:33:44.800 I was just like, you know, figuring out like what what? 0:33:45.040 --> 0:33:46.640 Like when I was in Bali, what did I miss? 0:33:46.760 --> 0:33:50.479 And I missed going live. I missed teaching basically, and 0:33:50.720 --> 0:33:52.200 one of the ways that I used to teach like 0:33:52.240 --> 0:33:53.600 a lot is I you know, if you follow me 0:33:53.640 --> 0:33:56.040 on social media, I would go live, especially on Instagram, 0:33:56.360 --> 0:33:58.120 and I missed it so much so that even when 0:33:58.120 --> 0:33:59.920 I was in BALI supposed to like I had taken 0:34:00.040 --> 0:34:02.960 the social media everything hiatus. There were times when I 0:34:03.000 --> 0:34:06.760 was tempted to download Instagram just to go live because 0:34:06.760 --> 0:34:08.319 I would have learned a lesson that day while I 0:34:08.320 --> 0:34:10.600 was at the waterfall or learned a lesson while I 0:34:10.719 --> 0:34:13.600 was like, you know, hiking or whatever, and I wanted 0:34:13.640 --> 0:34:14.000 to share it. 0:34:14.000 --> 0:34:15.920 And I realized, Okay, Tiffany, you really loved teaching. 0:34:15.960 --> 0:34:19.560 But honestly, I dislike social media, and for myself now 0:34:19.600 --> 0:34:21.040 I used to really enjoy it. 0:34:21.640 --> 0:34:25.560 But it got to a place where it's, like I did. 0:34:25.840 --> 0:34:27.600 Social media is like, you know, you're like in this 0:34:27.640 --> 0:34:29.520 movie and you're ready to sit down and people are 0:34:29.560 --> 0:34:31.680 running past you, and you feel like, well, I guess 0:34:31.680 --> 0:34:34.200 I should run too, even though you're tired you want 0:34:34.200 --> 0:34:37.560 to sit down. And so social media kept showing me 0:34:37.600 --> 0:34:40.200 that like, get up, keep going, get up, keep going, 0:34:40.200 --> 0:34:43.160 And it was really it was hard for me to say, 0:34:43.360 --> 0:34:46.080 you don't need to run. I don't know what stage 0:34:46.120 --> 0:34:48.799 those folks are in their race, let them run. But 0:34:48.840 --> 0:34:51.680 it was hard because it was a daily reminder of girl, 0:34:51.719 --> 0:34:54.359 you ain't doing enough, maybe getting lazy. Oh, you're losing 0:34:54.400 --> 0:34:56.399 your touch. And so I was like, so I've been 0:34:57.080 --> 0:34:58.960 pulling myself back from social but I'm like, well, then 0:34:59.000 --> 0:35:01.120 how do I reach my folks and teach like I 0:35:01.280 --> 0:35:04.520 like to without being on social So I thought about 0:35:04.560 --> 0:35:06.000 it like logan, and I like, I said, there's only 0:35:06.000 --> 0:35:07.920 three people let on the team. I was techt the 0:35:08.000 --> 0:35:10.839 telling logan. I said, you know, here's a list of 0:35:10.880 --> 0:35:13.440 like the twenty things that the budgetista does and how 0:35:13.440 --> 0:35:18.000 it makes money. I'm not doing all that spokesperson working 0:35:18.040 --> 0:35:19.640 in Brandon bassador work, which's kind of like one and 0:35:19.680 --> 0:35:24.520 the same that I'll keep speaking engagements. I like speaking, 0:35:24.840 --> 0:35:26.440 and then I want to do something where I get 0:35:26.480 --> 0:35:28.480 to like teach live. Those are the three things I'm 0:35:28.520 --> 0:35:29.560 committed that I like doing. 0:35:29.640 --> 0:35:31.120 What do you want to do? That's what I told her. 0:35:31.200 --> 0:35:33.400 She was like, hmmm, well I like these three things. 0:35:33.440 --> 0:35:35.240 I said, all right, as long as you make your salary, 0:35:35.880 --> 0:35:37.279 I don't, you know, like that's on you. 0:35:37.640 --> 0:35:38.560 And she was like okay. 0:35:38.960 --> 0:35:40.960 So we took our two or three things off the table, 0:35:41.080 --> 0:35:44.239 and so the live thing, I said, you know, I'm 0:35:44.280 --> 0:35:46.040 going to create a Patreon. I had thought about it 0:35:46.120 --> 0:35:49.160 last year, about doing digital mentoring because I've got like 0:35:49.280 --> 0:35:52.160 ten like mentees that I speak to on a regular basis, 0:35:52.160 --> 0:35:54.759 but I really can't add on like you know, as 0:35:54.800 --> 0:35:55.560 many people. 0:35:55.280 --> 0:35:55.840 That ask me. 0:35:56.160 --> 0:35:58.279 And I thought, well, what if I can Instead of 0:35:58.320 --> 0:36:00.200 going live on Instagram, I can go live here on 0:36:00.280 --> 0:36:03.879 Patreon because what I love about Patreon is that once 0:36:03.920 --> 0:36:05.800 I'm done, it's just us. 0:36:06.000 --> 0:36:07.200 It's not the whole world. 0:36:07.280 --> 0:36:09.240 Like Patreon, you get to live in your own bubble 0:36:09.320 --> 0:36:10.640 on your Patreon page. 0:36:11.000 --> 0:36:12.080 And I said, what if I do that? 0:36:12.880 --> 0:36:16.040 And so I went live kind of like where it 0:36:16.080 --> 0:36:18.160 was like my backash live maybe like two weeks ago 0:36:18.320 --> 0:36:21.320 on Instagram and like all my social platforms, just to 0:36:21.400 --> 0:36:23.360 kind of get people an update, like I shared with y'all, 0:36:23.800 --> 0:36:25.880 and I told folks like you know, my Patreon's open. 0:36:27.280 --> 0:36:30.200 The purpose of it is digital mentoring. It's less budget 0:36:30.200 --> 0:36:33.920 needs to more Tiffany Elyche, meaning like we already have 0:36:34.000 --> 0:36:36.160 my literature academy, you already have my social I'm not 0:36:36.160 --> 0:36:37.640 going to teach you how to raise your credit score 0:36:37.800 --> 0:36:38.280 over there. 0:36:39.160 --> 0:36:41.319 We're not budgeting over there. We're not. It's not about debt. 0:36:41.360 --> 0:36:46.240 It's about personal and professional development and for business and 0:36:46.520 --> 0:36:47.719 business and entrepreneurship. 0:36:47.719 --> 0:36:48.040 That's it. 0:36:48.080 --> 0:36:51.600 Personal professional development, business entrepreneurship. That is my Patreon. It's 0:36:51.640 --> 0:36:54.320 about like how do you go from here to here 0:36:54.719 --> 0:36:56.920 as a person, but also as a business while you're 0:36:56.920 --> 0:36:57.600 growing your business. 0:36:57.680 --> 0:37:01.160 So it's specifically for that type of woman, especially black women. 0:37:01.920 --> 0:37:04.560 Right, although I don't turn anyone away, but like it 0:37:04.680 --> 0:37:06.400 just know, I'm gonna say sis and if you are 0:37:07.120 --> 0:37:10.440 assists head white man, as long as you don't mind that, hey, Sys, 0:37:10.520 --> 0:37:13.319 you can get it too, you know. And so I said, 0:37:13.360 --> 0:37:14.840 I'm going to launch it, and my goal in my 0:37:14.880 --> 0:37:19.640 head was a thousand people by the end of the year. 0:37:19.760 --> 0:37:20.680 I was like, I think I could do it. I 0:37:20.719 --> 0:37:21.600 think I told me that. 0:37:21.640 --> 0:37:26.080 I was like, do you know, within twenty four hours 0:37:27.120 --> 0:37:28.279 a thousand people signed up? 0:37:28.600 --> 0:37:31.760 Yes. I was like, wait what sorry? 0:37:32.000 --> 0:37:35.120 Soone knowoying how you don't realize. 0:37:35.800 --> 0:37:37.920 And so right now we're at like twelve hundred. It's 0:37:37.920 --> 0:37:40.359 like like eleven ninety three. So about twelve hundred people 0:37:40.440 --> 0:37:43.000 have signed up and it's been great. We did like 0:37:43.280 --> 0:37:46.040 So the thing is that I've sly had clear boundaries 0:37:46.680 --> 0:37:52.080 that I am going to promise one live lesson a month, 0:37:52.600 --> 0:37:53.880 you know, like if you'll be able to watch it 0:37:53.920 --> 0:37:55.680 live and like participate, like I tell you ahead of 0:37:55.680 --> 0:37:58.040 time when I'm going to go, and you know you 0:37:58.040 --> 0:38:00.800 can watch the replay it's posted forever, and like I 0:38:00.920 --> 0:38:04.440 will I will share regularly, like resources and tools and 0:38:04.920 --> 0:38:07.560 the things that I'm using or have used for success, 0:38:07.600 --> 0:38:10.480 whether it's getting you know, writing a New York Times bestseller, 0:38:11.200 --> 0:38:16.839 launching a successful podcast, like hiring firing in business, you know, 0:38:17.080 --> 0:38:19.319 how to hit your quotas, all these types of things 0:38:19.360 --> 0:38:22.279 I've learned in business, being fourteen years in business and 0:38:22.360 --> 0:38:24.640 so yeah, and cause I see a lot of people, 0:38:25.080 --> 0:38:27.640 I'm not here to like shame anyone with their high 0:38:27.680 --> 0:38:28.239 ticket item. 0:38:28.640 --> 0:38:30.040 But for me, I feel like one of. 0:38:30.040 --> 0:38:32.200 The roles that I play in the marketplace is to 0:38:32.280 --> 0:38:36.160 give an accessible amount, you know, so minus just ten 0:38:36.200 --> 0:38:38.960 bucks a month on purpose because although I don't need 0:38:38.960 --> 0:38:40.839 a reason to quantify, but I like to for people 0:38:40.880 --> 0:38:44.359 to understand, like, you know, like why at that price point. 0:38:44.400 --> 0:38:46.440 It's like, one, I want it to be accessible to 0:38:46.520 --> 0:38:49.080 many people as possible. Two, you're not going to stress 0:38:49.080 --> 0:38:52.319 me out for ten bucks a month. I'm like, don't. 0:38:52.400 --> 0:38:55.840 I'm not answer every question individually. No, I'm not jumping 0:38:55.840 --> 0:38:58.799 on the call like you know, Like I'm like, you know, 0:38:59.160 --> 0:39:01.720 like if you if you mad, certainly you can withdraw 0:39:01.760 --> 0:39:05.000 your ten dollars. We all right here, sis And you know, 0:39:05.160 --> 0:39:07.000 so even though I say one a month, one live 0:39:07.040 --> 0:39:08.600 a month, the truth is I do more than that. 0:39:08.600 --> 0:39:12.440 But I wanted to give like this is what's guaranteed, 0:39:12.800 --> 0:39:16.200 And I'm really enjoying myself over there. The audience has 0:39:16.239 --> 0:39:19.160 been like you know, my mentees over there have been awesome. Actually, 0:39:19.239 --> 0:39:21.560 our next by the time this comes out, you'll have 0:39:21.600 --> 0:39:23.440 missed it. But our next live is actually on Tuesday, 0:39:23.440 --> 0:39:26.160 because today's Monday. We're taping is we're doing a business 0:39:26.200 --> 0:39:28.719 and an entrepreneur Q and A. And so I'm taking 0:39:28.800 --> 0:39:32.719 questions right now from my mentees, putting them in a spreadsheet, 0:39:32.840 --> 0:39:35.160 seeing like because some questions kind of overlap, and for 0:39:35.160 --> 0:39:37.319 like an hour and a half, I will answer as 0:39:37.360 --> 0:39:40.840 many questions as possible, both live and the ones pre given. 0:39:40.960 --> 0:39:42.720 And so that's our next mentor live session. 0:39:42.760 --> 0:39:45.200 So I'm excited about it because some of the questions 0:39:45.200 --> 0:39:47.319 I'm like, oh, this is a really good one and 0:39:47.320 --> 0:39:48.000 they're gonna. 0:39:47.760 --> 0:39:48.600 Be shocked by the answer. 0:39:49.080 --> 0:39:51.680 How how like what a great tool resources I can 0:39:51.960 --> 0:39:54.759 share And so I mean I'm sharing everything from like 0:39:54.840 --> 0:39:58.759 my contracts to my book proposal, like the one that 0:39:58.800 --> 0:40:02.319 got me nine nine big publishers wanting to sign me 0:40:02.680 --> 0:40:04.680 and that got me my multi six figure. 0:40:05.440 --> 0:40:06.439 Book proposal deal. 0:40:06.960 --> 0:40:08.719 So like yeah, it's just a place where I get 0:40:08.719 --> 0:40:12.279 to share all of my knowledge and so yeah, and 0:40:12.360 --> 0:40:14.799 so I can't believe my sister said, only you within 0:40:14.840 --> 0:40:16.719 twenty four hours to launch a six figure business, because 0:40:16.719 --> 0:40:19.560 you figure one thousand people times ten dollars is ten 0:40:19.600 --> 0:40:22.160 thousand bucks a month, and that's what one twenty a year, 0:40:22.200 --> 0:40:24.799 although patron takes like a percentage. But do you see 0:40:24.880 --> 0:40:28.040 it's crazy because I thought to myself, wow, look at 0:40:28.040 --> 0:40:31.239 the seeds planted that I can share this thing and 0:40:31.360 --> 0:40:34.399 then have a thousand people sign up within twenty four 0:40:34.400 --> 0:40:38.000 hours and you know, make ten thousand dollars a month 0:40:38.040 --> 0:40:41.560 from the rip. But that is the because I first 0:40:41.560 --> 0:40:43.359 I used to tell doctor Green, like, oh, I wish 0:40:43.400 --> 0:40:45.160 maybe I had done things differently. She said, no, you 0:40:45.160 --> 0:40:47.680 don't get to judge past Tiffany. Pass Tiffany is the 0:40:47.719 --> 0:40:50.360 reason why you don't have to work right now. Passtivity 0:40:50.400 --> 0:40:52.080 is the reason why you don't have to worry about financially. 0:40:52.160 --> 0:40:54.080 She did what she had to do, and you're here 0:40:54.120 --> 0:40:57.160 as a result. And I'm like, true, past Tiffany has 0:40:57.160 --> 0:40:59.840 created chilling Tiffany. And so but yeah, if you're in 0:41:00.360 --> 0:41:04.759 you can It's just called mymntor Tiffany dot com. And yeah, 0:41:05.160 --> 0:41:07.680 you can join us over there. It's good fun times. 0:41:08.640 --> 0:41:11.720 Yeah, it's you and Ray for me. You're my team Patreon. 0:41:13.280 --> 0:41:14.560 That's the level of adoration. 0:41:14.760 --> 0:41:15.920 It's you an Ray. 0:41:17.160 --> 0:41:19.600 Well, I mean congratulations and I mean and it's also 0:41:19.960 --> 0:41:22.560 as painful as that big business that I don't want 0:41:22.560 --> 0:41:24.640 to like discount the business decision that you had to 0:41:24.680 --> 0:41:26.600 make and the personal decision you had to make to 0:41:26.680 --> 0:41:30.239 let go of seventeen budgetisto or liverat er you know, 0:41:30.560 --> 0:41:36.120 staff body, And I think for anyone listening like that 0:41:36.400 --> 0:41:40.879 is the that is what happens when you sometimes put 0:41:40.920 --> 0:41:44.680 yourself first. I mean those difficult decisions. You know. I 0:41:44.719 --> 0:41:47.320 coach a lot of women now on how to leave 0:41:47.880 --> 0:41:50.160 work environments, how to quit and move on to a 0:41:50.200 --> 0:41:52.799 better situation for themselves. And the agony and the time 0:41:52.840 --> 0:41:56.840 and the stress and the anxiety over inconveniencing other people 0:41:57.120 --> 0:41:59.799 or doing something that is persue. You know that you 0:41:59.800 --> 0:42:02.399 can perceived to be for you and not for someone else, 0:42:02.440 --> 0:42:05.879 even though I think you know you also gave those 0:42:05.960 --> 0:42:10.040 women an incredible opportunity to work for a black female 0:42:10.080 --> 0:42:14.200 CEO and to watch from the inside a business like 0:42:14.280 --> 0:42:17.880 that go grow and thrive. I can't even say I 0:42:17.920 --> 0:42:20.680 got to experience that through my career, I never got 0:42:20.680 --> 0:42:22.799 to work for a black female CEO, and how many 0:42:22.880 --> 0:42:26.960 of us don't write, So that takes nothing away from 0:42:26.960 --> 0:42:30.000 the job experience. You gave them the opportunities to advance 0:42:30.080 --> 0:42:33.480 the safe community, the Unicorn Squad, like those connections that 0:42:33.520 --> 0:42:36.080 they've made, and I think when we look at it 0:42:36.080 --> 0:42:37.799 that way, and I mean I encourage anyone to look 0:42:37.840 --> 0:42:40.040 at it that way, it is it's all positive and 0:42:40.080 --> 0:42:42.880 even if it had to end at this moment in time, 0:42:43.000 --> 0:42:47.040 it takes nothing away from the value you know that 0:42:47.239 --> 0:42:50.719 you starting your business from scratch gave to them, and 0:42:50.800 --> 0:42:53.120 also the message that now you can move forward with 0:42:53.160 --> 0:42:55.680 clarity and do this new community in the way that 0:42:55.719 --> 0:42:58.280 you want to and feel good about it without having 0:42:58.320 --> 0:43:01.759 to keep something else running because you feel some sort 0:43:01.800 --> 0:43:05.960 of loyalty or like you said, like obligation to that 0:43:06.440 --> 0:43:09.640 you can be free and lighter and be light and 0:43:09.719 --> 0:43:10.760 chill Chill Tiffany. 0:43:11.000 --> 0:43:12.880 I like Chill Tiffany. I know, I like her. 0:43:13.520 --> 0:43:14.839 It feels like I get to know you all over 0:43:14.920 --> 0:43:17.360 again in a way, but it's not what life is. 0:43:17.400 --> 0:43:22.799 I feel like we change, we do. It's impossible for 0:43:22.840 --> 0:43:26.800 you to not change after going through what you've been through. Wow, 0:43:26.880 --> 0:43:29.680 all right my mentor Tiffany, So don't email her anymore 0:43:29.760 --> 0:43:31.480 if you get your ten dollars ready. 0:43:33.320 --> 0:43:36.680 Yes, like us over there we have Honestly, I'm really 0:43:36.800 --> 0:43:38.839 that is a happy place for me. I'm just like, 0:43:38.920 --> 0:43:41.120 I love it there. I'm there all the time, you know, 0:43:41.320 --> 0:43:43.120 just like you know, like I said, I don't be 0:43:43.120 --> 0:43:45.239 answering every question, but I read out and I'm like 0:43:45.239 --> 0:43:45.799 I'll answer that. 0:43:45.840 --> 0:43:46.239 I'm live. 0:43:47.719 --> 0:43:50.240 Yeah, so it's you Rose and Logan. Dang. 0:43:50.560 --> 0:43:53.399 I know it's awesome though, because we don't do I 0:43:53.440 --> 0:43:55.640 hate meetings, but I'm not gonna lie I hate meetings. 0:43:55.680 --> 0:43:59.359 We don't do meetings like I'm like I told Logan, 0:43:59.360 --> 0:44:01.880 if you push myself on my on my calendar, I 0:44:01.880 --> 0:44:05.880 better see a power point. It better be that you like. 0:44:08.080 --> 0:44:11.799 Yes, there, it's funny how you coming well. I know, 0:44:11.920 --> 0:44:16.520 back lowercase b back ish to Brian, ambition understood, message received. 0:44:16.520 --> 0:44:18.719 But when you know, we used to have like a 0:44:18.760 --> 0:44:22.040 monthly meeting with our network that was always like I 0:44:22.040 --> 0:44:23.759 could never really find the right time for it, never 0:44:23.760 --> 0:44:25.960 really to be that important, but it was always on 0:44:26.000 --> 0:44:28.799 the calendar and when you were coming back and it 0:44:28.920 --> 0:44:30.799 was like, Okay, let's look at the time for this 0:44:30.880 --> 0:44:33.960 meeting and having you. I'm like, is this worth Tiffany's 0:44:34.040 --> 0:44:36.080 Is it? If it's not worth Tiffany's time, let's not 0:44:36.160 --> 0:44:37.600 do it, you know what I mean? Like, and I 0:44:37.680 --> 0:44:39.359 just knew this does not have to be a meeting. 0:44:39.360 --> 0:44:42.440 It has to be an email. It's fine, but I 0:44:42.520 --> 0:44:44.799 needed you to sort of like to think of other 0:44:44.880 --> 0:44:47.040 than myself because if I was honest, it wasn't worth 0:44:47.120 --> 0:44:49.040 anyone's time really to happen. 0:44:49.520 --> 0:44:52.239 It could be a message or a quick call or 0:44:52.600 --> 0:44:54.680 because I'm like, lookan, I can be a target right now? 0:44:55.080 --> 0:44:56.480 Why you put this on a calendar because now I'm 0:44:56.480 --> 0:44:59.080 sitting in front of my computer like girl, like cause 0:44:59.120 --> 0:45:00.080 you know, because most. 0:44:59.840 --> 0:45:02.880 Of times it's like because I've want one people who. 0:45:02.760 --> 0:45:05.840 I hire, I actually like them, you know, and so 0:45:06.280 --> 0:45:08.000 like logan and I will chit chat and I could 0:45:08.000 --> 0:45:09.719 be a target like ooh, girl, did you know me? 0:45:09.719 --> 0:45:11.560 Ask jeez? Let me see send me a picture. 0:45:11.760 --> 0:45:14.000 So like I was saying about today's post, you know, 0:45:14.200 --> 0:45:17.080 like i'd rather I when I say I hate meetings, 0:45:17.080 --> 0:45:20.279 I hate formal meetings, but no informally quick phone call 0:45:20.640 --> 0:45:22.319 we talk. I check up on you, how's your mom, 0:45:22.400 --> 0:45:25.560 how's your You know, I loved, I loved connecting, and 0:45:25.640 --> 0:45:27.759 so I just realized, so we don't do that. The 0:45:27.800 --> 0:45:30.239 only standing meeting I really have is Tamra because I 0:45:30.239 --> 0:45:32.200 want to make sure that she has the support she needs. 0:45:32.680 --> 0:45:35.799 And my finance person I meet with her once a 0:45:35.840 --> 0:45:38.440 month just to go over the monthly P and L 0:45:38.520 --> 0:45:39.800 statement and how things are going. 0:45:40.000 --> 0:45:42.280 But the truth is, like I do quick. 0:45:42.360 --> 0:45:46.200 Like I called my finance person this morning, Georgia, and 0:45:46.239 --> 0:45:49.160 I said, hey, for Patreon, you know the money is 0:45:49.200 --> 0:45:52.000 in there. Should we should we have it connected the 0:45:52.000 --> 0:45:54.880 paypaler strike. I said, can you do a financial analysis 0:45:54.880 --> 0:45:56.600 to see where we get the most because each of 0:45:56.600 --> 0:45:58.440 them takes their own kind of fees and where you know, 0:45:58.960 --> 0:46:00.920 And she was like, okay, I was a five minute 0:46:00.920 --> 0:46:03.279 call versus me because before it was let me get 0:46:03.280 --> 0:46:07.000 on Tiffany's calendar to do that. No, you know, like 0:46:07.480 --> 0:46:09.480 text me real quick. It might be just a quick yes, 0:46:09.560 --> 0:46:11.920 no maybe. And so like I love the fact that 0:46:12.000 --> 0:46:14.120 we don't. I don't have standing meetings with Rose. 0:46:14.280 --> 0:46:17.319 Or Logan because also one of the lessons that I 0:46:17.400 --> 0:46:19.839 learned in business is that if I have to run 0:46:19.880 --> 0:46:21.920 behind you, then I already know you're not right for 0:46:21.960 --> 0:46:25.359 that position, meaning like you know, if I have to, oh, 0:46:25.440 --> 0:46:27.040 let me check, like I don't when I tell you 0:46:27.080 --> 0:46:29.880 how little I'm in my inbox now. And I realized 0:46:29.880 --> 0:46:31.880 that I was in my inbox a lot before because 0:46:32.640 --> 0:46:35.480 the admins I had before, although there were great folks, 0:46:35.760 --> 0:46:37.560 they just weren't the right person for that job. 0:46:37.600 --> 0:46:40.319 So I always have to like double check to make 0:46:40.320 --> 0:46:43.800 sure nothing slipped through. With Rose, don't I know that 0:46:43.840 --> 0:46:45.239 if it's important and she doesn't know what to do, 0:46:45.280 --> 0:46:48.279 she'll let me know, you know. And she's awesome at 0:46:48.280 --> 0:46:50.719 what she does. I mean, like everything from sending flowers 0:46:51.000 --> 0:46:54.040 to my mom for Mother's Day to I had her 0:46:54.040 --> 0:46:57.480 negotiate our first contract, like a speaking engagement that didn't 0:46:57.480 --> 0:47:00.759 want to pay me my full amount, and I knew 0:47:00.760 --> 0:47:02.640 if I got on the call then I would close 0:47:02.640 --> 0:47:03.840 the deal, because you know, I get on the call, 0:47:03.880 --> 0:47:06.200 they're like, oh yeah, let me say, I'm like, give 0:47:06.200 --> 0:47:07.400 me my money, and they're like okay. 0:47:07.680 --> 0:47:10.719 But I said, Rose, you don't negotiates. She was like me. 0:47:11.120 --> 0:47:12.319 I was like, she said, but what if I don't 0:47:12.320 --> 0:47:12.560 get it? 0:47:12.560 --> 0:47:16.239 I said, so, so I said, one we made our 0:47:16.320 --> 0:47:18.000 quoter for the year. Already I had a number in 0:47:18.040 --> 0:47:20.279 mind that I wanted to make that everybody got paid well, 0:47:20.320 --> 0:47:24.040 including me for once, and I said, we already made 0:47:24.040 --> 0:47:26.919 that number. So worst case scenario, they say kick rocks, 0:47:27.000 --> 0:47:29.960 and then they kick rocks and we keep it moving. 0:47:30.280 --> 0:47:32.160 So I told her exactly what to say. I told 0:47:32.200 --> 0:47:34.440 her what they were likely to say and the motivation 0:47:34.600 --> 0:47:38.239 behind it, and she said everything. And they went from 0:47:38.239 --> 0:47:40.080 asking us to give them a discount to saying, we 0:47:40.160 --> 0:47:41.880 found the money. We can't wait to work with you. 0:47:42.040 --> 0:47:44.840 She was so excited, but now she's empowered. I'm like, girl, 0:47:45.120 --> 0:47:46.759 because I'm not trying to get on another damn meeting 0:47:46.800 --> 0:47:48.920 if I don't have to, like, let Rose do it, 0:47:51.080 --> 0:47:53.719 and so like girl like cause I'm like, yo, I 0:47:53.760 --> 0:47:55.160 want to tell you I'd be walking three hours a 0:47:55.200 --> 0:47:57.520 day and listen to my audible. I'm like, that's my day. 0:47:57.640 --> 0:48:00.760 Like today after this, I'm like, if it was raining outside, 0:48:00.800 --> 0:48:02.720 that's what I'll do next. Maybe I'll do laundry today, 0:48:03.160 --> 0:48:05.560 you know. I'm just like, I don't know. Maybe I'll 0:48:05.600 --> 0:48:08.000 like like go hang on my sister because the kids 0:48:08.000 --> 0:48:09.759 should be back from school soon, and maybe I'll go 0:48:09.800 --> 0:48:13.000 play with the crazies, like that's my niece and my nephew. 0:48:13.040 --> 0:48:15.400 That's what I call them, and so like it just 0:48:16.080 --> 0:48:18.799 this is how I want life to go. One where 0:48:18.800 --> 0:48:20.239 it's just like you know, maybe I'll call one of 0:48:20.239 --> 0:48:23.000 my mentees and pour into them and so like, yeah, 0:48:23.080 --> 0:48:28.040 I just I'm excited about this this shift. But yeah, 0:48:28.040 --> 0:48:30.600 this is like you know, but it does feel good 0:48:30.640 --> 0:48:34.759 to be back here, Like I I'm like eager to 0:48:34.760 --> 0:48:37.600 see like what it all shakes out to be, especially 0:48:37.600 --> 0:48:39.120 now that we're Webby Award winners. 0:48:39.160 --> 0:48:41.359 You see us we say that. 0:48:41.400 --> 0:48:44.600 I was like, you know, yeah, well yes I'm social, 0:48:44.640 --> 0:48:45.400 but not officially. 0:48:45.520 --> 0:48:47.240 Yes, not here, thank you all. 0:48:50.320 --> 0:48:56.840 Yes, yes, he see and also listen brown, ambition is 0:48:56.880 --> 0:48:59.480 a garden that we sowed seven years ago for me. 0:48:59.560 --> 0:49:02.400 It's ambition has sewn like we sew those sees so 0:49:02.400 --> 0:49:04.160 many years ago. Seven years now. We've been doing this 0:49:04.200 --> 0:49:08.120 a long time. We're like geriatric podcasters almost. I had 0:49:08.120 --> 0:49:11.080 a very frustrating phone call, my first frustrating phone call 0:49:11.120 --> 0:49:13.719 with a coaching client. I've coached two hundred women since 0:49:13.760 --> 0:49:18.279 last July. It's been phenomenal this journey. And and I've 0:49:18.360 --> 0:49:20.239 yet I had yet to have an interaction with one 0:49:20.239 --> 0:49:22.400 where it was like just not the right fit, you 0:49:22.400 --> 0:49:24.120 know what I mean in this particular one, you know, 0:49:24.480 --> 0:49:27.520 someone who was starting a podcast and and I was 0:49:27.800 --> 0:49:29.520 and had asked me for feedback and I and I 0:49:29.560 --> 0:49:34.640 was giving it. And the resistance to the notion of 0:49:34.800 --> 0:49:38.520 organic audience growth and that it takes time and it 0:49:38.560 --> 0:49:41.359 takes consistency and showing up and there's no I had 0:49:41.400 --> 0:49:43.759 no secret tricks. If you want my advice and how 0:49:43.800 --> 0:49:46.120 to build a podcast, I got. I got no secret 0:49:46.160 --> 0:49:48.680 tricks in terms of, oh, pay this exact amount in 0:49:48.880 --> 0:49:52.680 ads or you know, do this amount of promotion. There's 0:49:52.680 --> 0:49:55.440 no tricks we tip and I have shown up, you know, 0:49:55.600 --> 0:49:58.479 for the most part, every week for seven years and 0:49:59.239 --> 0:50:02.440 created content that people enjoyed and kept doing it and 0:50:02.520 --> 0:50:05.480 kept doing it. And I think what is great about 0:50:05.480 --> 0:50:08.600 the whole award situation is it's nice. Let's not kid around, 0:50:08.640 --> 0:50:11.160 like it's nice to get recognized and about damn time, 0:50:11.280 --> 0:50:13.840 you know what I mean? Okay, Plutus Awards, where the 0:50:13.840 --> 0:50:15.839 hell y'all at? We keep getting a nominated and never went. 0:50:17.320 --> 0:50:22.600 But anyway, like there's there's and it feels it feels 0:50:22.680 --> 0:50:25.560 nice and gratifying to have that recognition. But Tip and I, 0:50:25.600 --> 0:50:27.640 we haven't done this show for that. It was always, 0:50:28.280 --> 0:50:32.640 you know, to make ourselves and our audience feel good. 0:50:32.840 --> 0:50:35.040 And I think that that's why we continue showing up. 0:50:35.040 --> 0:50:36.920 If you're showing up for the awards and for the 0:50:37.000 --> 0:50:40.040 numbers and for the sponsorships and things like that, what 0:50:40.120 --> 0:50:44.440 an empty, unfulfilling way to approach it anyway. And I 0:50:44.480 --> 0:50:46.160 think that it was good to have that kind of 0:50:46.239 --> 0:50:49.960 awkward interaction because it reinforced for me why there's not 0:50:50.000 --> 0:50:52.239 going to be another broad I aint gotta worry, you know, 0:50:52.560 --> 0:50:55.799 there's not another Brown ambition because we get it. I 0:50:55.800 --> 0:50:58.680 think at the end of the day, why we're here 0:50:58.719 --> 0:51:00.840 and what we're doing it for and take away the 0:51:00.880 --> 0:51:05.200 awards and we're still showing up, right, So thank y'all, 0:51:05.200 --> 0:51:07.600 Thank you so much for voting. Thank you dream Catchers, 0:51:07.760 --> 0:51:12.560 thank you VA Fan, thank you Logan, thank you Amber 0:51:12.840 --> 0:51:16.279 on our social team at VA for promoting it. Yeah 0:51:16.280 --> 0:51:18.040 it feels damn good. Do we get a trophy or something? 0:51:18.080 --> 0:51:19.600 I don't actually know what happens now. 0:51:19.920 --> 0:51:22.400 Yeah, we have to ask because we got not just 0:51:22.440 --> 0:51:26.520 like the people's choice, but the judges too, which is like, oh, 0:51:26.560 --> 0:51:28.840 we went on BOLLS because you know, just like for 0:51:28.960 --> 0:51:32.080 full clarity that that was amazing that it was like, 0:51:32.160 --> 0:51:34.960 oh wow, y'all voted and we won, but also the judges. 0:51:35.239 --> 0:51:37.480 We got an award from the judges, which is like. 0:51:37.480 --> 0:51:41.600 So you know, it's not often that you can win 0:51:41.640 --> 0:51:43.239 on both sides of the aisle, which is like the 0:51:43.239 --> 0:51:44.920 people love you, but then like you know, the powers 0:51:44.920 --> 0:51:47.560 that be, So it's like we out. 0:51:47.440 --> 0:51:51.560 Here, we out here, We've been out here and even 0:51:51.600 --> 0:51:54.600 through and y'all have stayed so loyal and you know, 0:51:54.719 --> 0:51:58.239 the show has grown this past year. And I think 0:51:58.320 --> 0:52:01.320 for there was a time, you know, Tiffany after Darrell 0:52:01.360 --> 0:52:03.040 had passed or even I had no idea what the 0:52:03.040 --> 0:52:04.880 future of Brown Ambition was and I had made my 0:52:04.920 --> 0:52:08.680 peace with it. I'm like, okay, you know, this was 0:52:08.719 --> 0:52:12.040 an amazing journey. It's me and Tiffany or bust, you 0:52:12.040 --> 0:52:14.480 know what I mean, Like, I didn't know what it 0:52:14.520 --> 0:52:17.440 would be like doing it or trying to do it solo, 0:52:18.200 --> 0:52:21.920 and it y'all have shown up like and continue to 0:52:21.960 --> 0:52:24.440 show up, and you know, I think that's a beautiful 0:52:24.480 --> 0:52:29.320 testament to that, you know, the like the relationships that 0:52:29.320 --> 0:52:31.239 we've built with our audience and you guys. 0:52:31.280 --> 0:52:34.560 It's just like you've grown, you know, from like this 0:52:35.040 --> 0:52:41.520 corporate badass to like this entrepreneur like you know, you're 0:52:41.560 --> 0:52:44.799 sorry and now you're like this like go to influencer. 0:52:44.880 --> 0:52:47.360 So it's like you got a chance to like flex 0:52:47.400 --> 0:52:49.279 your chops. You know, I don't even know if that's worried. 0:52:49.320 --> 0:52:51.960 You know, like hone, your chops flex yours either way, 0:52:51.960 --> 0:52:53.719 you know what I mean. I'm so my dad's daughter. 0:52:53.760 --> 0:52:57.640 He always mixes up all metaphors and like simply I'm 0:52:57.680 --> 0:52:59.960 like flex for chops. I'm sure that's not the word, 0:53:00.320 --> 0:53:02.000 but you know what I mean, you really got a chance, 0:53:02.040 --> 0:53:04.880 Like I love to see how you have stepped in 0:53:04.920 --> 0:53:08.080 to this space and are like shine and shining, and 0:53:08.120 --> 0:53:12.040 it's just like, you know, in only one year, that's incredible. 0:53:12.080 --> 0:53:13.879 I mean, I know you look at it like wow, 0:53:14.320 --> 0:53:17.000 like girl, dude, any idea what I was doing year one? 0:53:18.000 --> 0:53:20.399 I know, I know, I know, which I'm like, yes, 0:53:20.480 --> 0:53:23.359 I get it. It's fine, I know, it's yeah. I'm 0:53:23.400 --> 0:53:25.040 going to do a lot more reflecting and coming up 0:53:25.080 --> 0:53:28.400 on my one year anniversary in one month of establishing 0:53:28.400 --> 0:53:31.239 my LLC, and it's hard to wrap my head around 0:53:31.280 --> 0:53:34.160 it too, But I got to get some reflection and 0:53:34.200 --> 0:53:38.400 gratitude affirmations in my head real quick, because the anxiety started. 0:53:38.480 --> 0:53:41.239 Anxiety and doubt dog, my ugly doubt dog that kind 0:53:41.239 --> 0:53:43.000 of like sits on my desk and yeah, sent me 0:53:43.000 --> 0:53:45.160 every once in a while. It's been coming back, and 0:53:45.680 --> 0:53:47.759 it's more of that mindset work that I'm trying to 0:53:47.800 --> 0:53:50.320 do now, and just like, appreciate what you have done. 0:53:50.719 --> 0:53:54.279 Of Course I wasn't replacing my corporate salary in a year, 0:53:54.600 --> 0:53:58.239 you know, but I've done, I've done. Okay, I've done. 0:53:58.280 --> 0:54:01.520 Okay, First of all, Nanny's being. 0:54:03.080 --> 0:54:06.160 She's being humble because first of all, her corporateality wasn't 0:54:06.440 --> 0:54:08.360 she was making surgeon money. Okay, I'm not try to 0:54:08.360 --> 0:54:09.799 put a business out here, but it's not like she 0:54:09.880 --> 0:54:12.480 had a regular corporateality. So of course she's not replacing 0:54:12.520 --> 0:54:14.879 that old, big old paycheck in one year. And then 0:54:14.920 --> 0:54:18.319 on top of that, she's done really well. Like first year, 0:54:18.320 --> 0:54:25.319 I made fifteen thousand gross, take home five thousand. I'm 0:54:25.400 --> 0:54:28.200 laugh because I was living off of French fries and 0:54:28.320 --> 0:54:30.759 meanwhile I was a whole thirty one Okay, it what 0:54:30.800 --> 0:54:30.960 was it? 0:54:31.080 --> 0:54:33.200 Like, well, that's because she were nineteen. No, I was 0:54:33.239 --> 0:54:34.000 a grown lady. 0:54:34.480 --> 0:54:38.160 And so year two I think I made thirty five thousand, 0:54:38.280 --> 0:54:40.719 year three fifty. Then year four I think I made 0:54:40.800 --> 0:54:44.160 like seventy five, then one fifty, and then it you know, 0:54:44.800 --> 0:54:47.719 like success is is cumulative. It layers on top of 0:54:47.800 --> 0:54:50.160 each other. And so you have put in the work 0:54:50.440 --> 0:54:53.400 and so you are like, yeah, you are doing literally 0:54:53.440 --> 0:54:55.920 ten times better than I was when I first started. 0:54:55.960 --> 0:54:58.520 And so I'm just really proud of you because it's 0:54:58.520 --> 0:54:59.920 only going to grow. 0:55:00.120 --> 0:55:02.319 So because and this is not just for Mandy but 0:55:02.360 --> 0:55:05.680 for everyone, Like you don't have to work on being 0:55:05.719 --> 0:55:10.080 more yourself, like Mandy is a hard worker and smart. 0:55:10.600 --> 0:55:13.040 That part is the easy part. It's like you ain't 0:55:13.040 --> 0:55:14.120 got to work on that, girl, We get it. 0:55:14.160 --> 0:55:16.399 You're smart your heart, Like at any moment of time, 0:55:16.480 --> 0:55:18.600 if you know, let's just say you had a week, 0:55:18.680 --> 0:55:21.360 month or whatever, you know, you could do you know, 0:55:21.440 --> 0:55:23.480 financial editing on the side and make the coin. You 0:55:23.480 --> 0:55:25.600 need to make sure that the family's fine, so that 0:55:25.640 --> 0:55:26.640 part is secured. 0:55:27.120 --> 0:55:29.839 It's really the other part that you said about the anxiety, 0:55:30.440 --> 0:55:32.040 the am I good enough? 0:55:32.080 --> 0:55:32.319 Am I? 0:55:32.480 --> 0:55:35.440 That if you master that part of you, Mandy, Oh 0:55:35.520 --> 0:55:37.320 my gosh, you will be unstoppable. 0:55:38.080 --> 0:55:38.919 So many of us. 0:55:38.840 --> 0:55:41.200 Work on the parts of ourselves that are already developed, 0:55:41.840 --> 0:55:43.720 and then we're like, you know, we're like a baby 0:55:43.800 --> 0:55:47.120 in this other part. But it's like, really, success is 0:55:47.239 --> 0:55:51.000 self mastery. Self mastery. Do you know how to have 0:55:51.080 --> 0:55:54.520 the hard conversations? Have you stopped people pleasing? Have you 0:55:54.560 --> 0:55:57.680 looked in the mirror and said, hey, I am good enough. 0:55:59.000 --> 0:56:00.960 Do you take your mistakes personally and you have you 0:56:01.040 --> 0:56:02.280 learned how to stop doing it? 0:56:02.360 --> 0:56:05.000 That's self mastery. If you can do that, then it 0:56:05.080 --> 0:56:06.919 opens the door and unlocks everything else. 0:56:07.040 --> 0:56:10.399 Like I so much of Like I could have been 0:56:10.480 --> 0:56:13.799 much more successful in business if I worked on like, 0:56:14.480 --> 0:56:17.040 you know, not needing their approval of others because it 0:56:17.239 --> 0:56:21.560 forced me needing their approval, had me hire people who, 0:56:22.160 --> 0:56:24.480 you know, weren't always the nicest because I was. 0:56:24.480 --> 0:56:25.640 Like, well, I don't want her to be mad at me. 0:56:25.719 --> 0:56:27.120 Da da da, Oh my god, girl. 0:56:27.120 --> 0:56:28.719 If I could have been like, actually you can go, 0:56:29.160 --> 0:56:32.160 I could have grown faster. You know, if I had 0:56:32.200 --> 0:56:36.880 self mastery and you know, like being more assertive, you know, 0:56:37.040 --> 0:56:39.680 I could have gotten more money from brands that I 0:56:39.760 --> 0:56:40.880 know we're trying to just plain me. 0:56:41.120 --> 0:56:42.839 But do you see when you master that, that other 0:56:42.840 --> 0:56:43.840 stuff becomes easy? 0:56:44.200 --> 0:56:45.960 And so like, yeah, I tell that to my mentees 0:56:46.000 --> 0:56:48.520 all the time because I always wanted like tricks and 0:56:48.560 --> 0:56:52.320 tips about marketing and and you know, like scaling and 0:56:52.320 --> 0:56:53.680 all that stuff, and I'm like, yeah, I'm gonn show 0:56:53.719 --> 0:56:55.759 you that stuff, but it's not going to be as 0:56:55.760 --> 0:57:01.120 effective until you master these internal struggles within you, because 0:57:01.160 --> 0:57:04.160 then it's gasoline on the fire of those external things 0:57:04.239 --> 0:57:06.080 because most people don't work on those internal things. 0:57:06.080 --> 0:57:08.600 You do that, you know, Sky is the mother at 0:57:08.600 --> 0:57:09.080 the limit. 0:57:10.800 --> 0:57:12.919 I get that, and for me, it's a daily There's 0:57:13.000 --> 0:57:15.200 days when I got it and there's days when I don't, 0:57:15.280 --> 0:57:17.000 and I think I'm making peace with the days that 0:57:17.040 --> 0:57:19.960 I don't, and realizing as someone who deals with like 0:57:19.960 --> 0:57:24.720 clinical depression, especially after having my son, you I made 0:57:24.760 --> 0:57:28.240 peace with like there are going I'm there's going to 0:57:28.280 --> 0:57:31.400 be lulls, Like there's going to be times when the 0:57:31.520 --> 0:57:33.480 but then what are your support systems and what are 0:57:33.520 --> 0:57:36.400 your you know, what are your what levers can you 0:57:36.440 --> 0:57:39.080 pull to get yourself through it? Because there's happiness and 0:57:39.120 --> 0:57:41.480 there's you're going to get back to that place of strength, 0:57:41.680 --> 0:57:43.959 you know, on the other side of it, and going 0:57:44.000 --> 0:57:46.880 with those flows has really really helped me as an entrepreneur. 0:57:46.960 --> 0:57:49.440 I didn't realize how I had set myself up for 0:57:49.520 --> 0:57:53.240 success in that way, already working on so much mindfulness 0:57:53.240 --> 0:57:57.000 around anxiety and depression and the you know, in twenty 0:57:57.040 --> 0:57:59.880 twenty after having my son and dealing with that, because 0:58:00.320 --> 0:58:02.600 as an entrepreneur it's the same thing. It's like, at 0:58:02.640 --> 0:58:03.880 the end of the day, I wasn't gonna be able 0:58:03.920 --> 0:58:06.080 to control my child and fix him as I was 0:58:06.120 --> 0:58:09.000 trying to do through my anxiety, and as a business owner, 0:58:09.040 --> 0:58:11.920 I've had to make peace with you know, there may 0:58:11.960 --> 0:58:13.920 be things that fall through. It may not work out 0:58:13.920 --> 0:58:17.040 how I always envisioned it. I may you know, screw 0:58:17.120 --> 0:58:19.480 up something or could it on this better or whatever, 0:58:19.520 --> 0:58:23.080 But Okay, that's the thing that's happened, and you've got 0:58:23.120 --> 0:58:25.360 to move through it and learn from it and do 0:58:25.440 --> 0:58:27.840 better the next time and don't put so much damn 0:58:27.920 --> 0:58:32.880 pressure to have everything perfect. And like you said, sometimes 0:58:32.920 --> 0:58:35.680 I'm a lot easier about easier on myself about my 0:58:35.760 --> 0:58:38.400 mistakes than even other people. And I'm like, damn, almost 0:58:38.400 --> 0:58:40.800 be hard on yourselves. Like I just made a mistake. 0:58:40.840 --> 0:58:42.560 It's not that big of a deal. You know, we 0:58:42.640 --> 0:58:46.160 all make mistakes, but you're right, it's that mindset. It's 0:58:46.200 --> 0:58:50.160 a mindset mastery. And who's other Who are the other 0:58:50.240 --> 0:58:52.720 voices that influence I'm going to allow into my little 0:58:52.760 --> 0:58:56.120 protective into my little bubble, and what voices are there. 0:58:56.120 --> 0:58:58.680 I'm so glad that your voice is back in the mix. 0:58:58.840 --> 0:59:02.520 I have to say that, Yeah, well. 0:59:02.320 --> 0:59:04.160 Welcome back is yes. 0:59:04.320 --> 0:59:06.360 If you guys, I mean honestly hopefully this is this 0:59:06.400 --> 0:59:08.720 is not just for y'all, like if you're like, if 0:59:08.720 --> 0:59:11.880 you have not invited somebody to listen. Tobout Ambition Evans 0:59:11.920 --> 0:59:13.600 is a really great episode for them to hop on 0:59:13.720 --> 0:59:16.120 in because I feel like there's going to be a 0:59:16.160 --> 0:59:19.880 message for so many people here about what it looks 0:59:19.920 --> 0:59:25.000 like to master yourself but also to to like to 0:59:25.200 --> 0:59:29.120 find enough in being okay with that. So we welcome you, 0:59:29.200 --> 0:59:34.480 to welcome your bestie, work mom, even your work dad. 0:59:34.560 --> 0:59:35.360 He can listen to. 0:59:37.800 --> 0:59:41.640 We couldn't we couldn't not tape this show seven years ago. 0:59:42.200 --> 0:59:46.080 We weren't here, you know what I mean, Like we've 0:59:46.120 --> 0:59:49.480 grown and matured in such like extraordinary ways. The show 0:59:49.600 --> 0:59:52.240 is never the same and for those of you, I 0:59:52.840 --> 0:59:55.080 hear them all the time on like dming me. I 0:59:55.160 --> 0:59:57.080 just started listening. I'm starting at the beginning. I'm like 0:59:57.080 --> 1:00:00.360 you about to go on a journey. So you think 1:00:00.360 --> 1:00:02.880 you're talking to twenty fifteen Mandy. Now how. 1:00:05.000 --> 1:00:08.280 Many different animal Yes? Oh my gosh, what. 1:00:08.320 --> 1:00:11.480 A privilege, What a freaking privilege. And this also feels 1:00:11.480 --> 1:00:13.720 like a reset for what does even brown ambition mean. 1:00:14.080 --> 1:00:17.240 It's not just accumulating wealth for the sake of it, 1:00:17.240 --> 1:00:20.520 It's really not. I still love our show title because 1:00:20.520 --> 1:00:22.720 it gives room for that. But yeah, if I could, 1:00:22.760 --> 1:00:25.000 if I could define brown ambition today versus what I 1:00:25.000 --> 1:00:28.320 thought of it seven years ago, it is the understanding 1:00:28.400 --> 1:00:31.760 that you can. It's there's nothing wrong with wanting more 1:00:32.080 --> 1:00:36.360 and wanting to achieve things, you know, if they matter 1:00:36.440 --> 1:00:41.920 to you. But it's also about understanding that as especially 1:00:42.000 --> 1:00:45.480 black and brown people, and our listeners are largely black women, 1:00:46.280 --> 1:00:48.160 we have to take care of ourselves along the way 1:00:48.200 --> 1:00:51.080 so that data, you know, that ambition actually leads to 1:00:51.120 --> 1:00:55.520 happiness and not just more misery. We deal with enough 1:00:55.520 --> 1:00:59.400 of that shit waking up, you know every day. That's 1:00:59.400 --> 1:01:01.840 a beautiful thing. I think, and I'm proud to be 1:01:01.880 --> 1:01:02.760 a part of brown. 1:01:02.800 --> 1:01:04.280 Ambition needs to me. It's like. 1:01:05.720 --> 1:01:09.840 Seeking health, happiness, and wholeness and peace in this brown skin. 1:01:10.040 --> 1:01:12.520 So whatever that looks like for you, And so like 1:01:12.560 --> 1:01:16.400 the ambition part is really like, you know, working toward that, 1:01:17.160 --> 1:01:21.320 you know, the holistic version of yourself that does include 1:01:21.360 --> 1:01:24.200 money and finance also because you know, we're we live 1:01:24.240 --> 1:01:25.440 here in the real world. 1:01:25.240 --> 1:01:27.840 You know. But it doesn't it doesn't exclude the other 1:01:27.880 --> 1:01:29.880 parts because they're just equally as important. 1:01:30.000 --> 1:01:33.560 So absolutely, well we did it. 1:01:34.120 --> 1:01:36.240 We did it. Yeah, well, no, we didn't do Brown Break, 1:01:36.240 --> 1:01:38.520 Brown Boost. I think they'll forgive us for a long show, 1:01:38.560 --> 1:01:39.280 for this backshow. 1:01:39.520 --> 1:01:42.240 Oh please, this is gonna be one hundred percent people 1:01:42.280 --> 1:01:44.320 watch them and listen to the entire show through. Yeah, 1:01:44.600 --> 1:01:46.960 I need to like dust off my brown booth, Brown Boost, 1:01:47.000 --> 1:01:49.800 Brown Break muscle. I don't know what that even is anymore. 1:01:50.840 --> 1:01:54.520 I forget. We used to have like a song, but 1:01:54.600 --> 1:01:56.320 we don't think. We don't figure it out. Yeah, we 1:01:56.400 --> 1:01:57.080 don't figure it out. 1:01:57.360 --> 1:01:59.560 All right, it will be right back with Brown Boost, 1:01:59.600 --> 1:02:05.840 Brown Break. All right, bea fan. We're back, We're black, 1:02:05.880 --> 1:02:06.360 We're brown. 1:02:07.000 --> 1:02:09.360 Yes, Well, since it was a pretty long shot. I'm 1:02:09.360 --> 1:02:12.160 just going to do just a real quick brown boost 1:02:12.520 --> 1:02:19.160 to asking for help. You know, sometimes it's really hard, 1:02:19.240 --> 1:02:22.560 especially for us brown folks, to allow people to look 1:02:22.560 --> 1:02:24.960 after themselves. When I when I went to Bali, I 1:02:24.960 --> 1:02:28.080 thought to myself, I'm here to learn how to take 1:02:28.120 --> 1:02:30.120 better care of myself self care, you know, self self, 1:02:30.120 --> 1:02:32.440 self self care, you know that's that word self self. 1:02:32.760 --> 1:02:36.080 But what I realized because the Bolanese are known for 1:02:36.200 --> 1:02:41.080 their kindness that is non transactional. It's not inexpecting, you know, 1:02:41.120 --> 1:02:43.800 they don't tipping is not this huge thing. And people 1:02:43.840 --> 1:02:46.440 are literally not just kind to you as a tourist, 1:02:46.440 --> 1:02:49.080 but kind to each other. And I thought to myself, 1:02:49.120 --> 1:02:51.720 it like it took me almost a whole trip to realize, Oh, 1:02:51.880 --> 1:02:54.560 one of the lessons I'm here to learn is not 1:02:54.760 --> 1:02:57.280 how to take care of myself, but how to allow 1:02:57.320 --> 1:03:02.120 others to take care of me. Because like, like literally 1:03:02.160 --> 1:03:04.760 like I had like a woman would come every every 1:03:04.760 --> 1:03:07.000 other day and she would take my laundry or they 1:03:07.000 --> 1:03:08.919 would come and clean because I'd read to the villa 1:03:09.200 --> 1:03:11.160 and so I found myself cleaning and she was like 1:03:11.520 --> 1:03:14.160 after like the fourth time, she was like stop, I'm like. 1:03:14.120 --> 1:03:15.440 No, but I feel back, so I don't want you know, 1:03:15.480 --> 1:03:17.560 She's like, no, this is Tiffany. 1:03:17.200 --> 1:03:20.480 You are a blessing. For two years we've had no tourist. 1:03:20.480 --> 1:03:23.080 They've been they were shut down during the pandemic. For 1:03:23.160 --> 1:03:25.720 two years, we've had no tourists. The fact that you're 1:03:25.760 --> 1:03:28.840 here and I can clean the villa is a blessing 1:03:28.880 --> 1:03:31.800 to me and my family. Like, you're doing me a 1:03:31.840 --> 1:03:34.120 disservice by cleaning, because if you do that, then the 1:03:34.200 --> 1:03:35.640 villa owners gonna be like, well, we don't need you. 1:03:35.920 --> 1:03:38.440 So I learned for me to be like Tiffany, like 1:03:39.240 --> 1:03:41.320 allowing people to take care of you is one of 1:03:41.320 --> 1:03:43.440 the best gifts that not only can you could give yourself, 1:03:43.440 --> 1:03:46.040 but to give to other people. I didn't realize that 1:03:46.520 --> 1:03:48.480 my friends who wanted to lean in and help me 1:03:48.520 --> 1:03:52.080 through this time, blocking them wasn't I wasn't shielding them 1:03:52.080 --> 1:03:53.880 from anything. I was actually making life harder for them 1:03:53.920 --> 1:03:56.840 as well. And so like asking for help and allowing 1:03:56.880 --> 1:03:59.600 people to help you, that is my brown boost that 1:03:59.640 --> 1:04:03.160 you are are deserving of allowing people to lean in 1:04:03.280 --> 1:04:06.080 and to look after you. And so don't don't be 1:04:06.160 --> 1:04:07.240 afraid to ask for help. 1:04:07.960 --> 1:04:10.040 So does that mean, you'd like to order another dozen 1:04:10.160 --> 1:04:13.080 chocolate chip cookies because bringing. 1:04:12.800 --> 1:04:17.760 Them cookies, I'm gonna lie. They were so me And 1:04:17.760 --> 1:04:21.680 Alyssa she's like, Maddie, why chocoatip cookies? Like we have 1:04:21.800 --> 1:04:24.560 been dogging those Dagon cookies. They were just amazing. And 1:04:24.600 --> 1:04:26.320 I'm like, manby no more, Okay a little bit. 1:04:26.240 --> 1:04:28.960 I'll put you down for another order. It's been a while, Okay, 1:04:29.040 --> 1:04:33.960 only round twice. I'm gonna do a boost. I would 1:04:33.960 --> 1:04:38.000 love to boost Mandy money Makers. I just opened applications 1:04:38.040 --> 1:04:41.080 for my third cohort. I can't believe in January this 1:04:41.160 --> 1:04:44.400 was an idea that didn't even really exist, and now 1:04:44.480 --> 1:04:48.440 I am about to welcome my third cohort of Mandy 1:04:48.440 --> 1:04:51.560 money Makers. So if you want to join the June cohort, 1:04:51.640 --> 1:04:54.040 you can go to Mandy money dot com and apply. 1:04:54.800 --> 1:04:57.360 You know, when I approached Mandy money Makers, I thought, 1:04:57.920 --> 1:05:00.200 let's make this small. I didn't want to create a 1:05:00.240 --> 1:05:02.880 business where I felt like I couldn't really connect to people. 1:05:03.240 --> 1:05:04.960 So as I'm figuring things out, at least in my 1:05:05.000 --> 1:05:06.560 first year, I was like, I want to do small 1:05:06.920 --> 1:05:09.640 group coaching sessions and I want there to be magic 1:05:09.680 --> 1:05:12.000 in the air. I want people to come, women to 1:05:12.080 --> 1:05:16.080 come and to feel like they are learning every day 1:05:16.080 --> 1:05:18.400 from me but also from one another. And it's just 1:05:18.480 --> 1:05:23.360 been this largely incredible journey. So my second cohort is 1:05:23.400 --> 1:05:27.040 about to graduate, my second well cohort in Many money Makers, 1:05:27.320 --> 1:05:29.800 and I'm ready. I decided I'm going to start in June. 1:05:29.880 --> 1:05:33.360 So mandimoney dot com to apply and I need to apply. 1:05:34.360 --> 1:05:37.320 Write words in your application. Sorry, what how many people 1:05:37.320 --> 1:05:38.040 are you taking on? 1:05:38.120 --> 1:05:38.840 What's the match? 1:05:39.400 --> 1:05:43.120 I'm maxing it out at forty. So my first cohort 1:05:43.240 --> 1:05:46.680 was about twenty five, second one is about twenty and 1:05:46.760 --> 1:05:50.280 I wanted them to stay small, but I think I'm 1:05:50.280 --> 1:05:53.160 gonna I'm gonna experiment going a little bit bigger this 1:05:53.280 --> 1:05:56.120 time and just see how that feels. This is all 1:05:56.200 --> 1:05:58.640 an experiment, and I'm just kind of opening myself up 1:05:58.680 --> 1:06:02.480 to Okay, let's see how this feels. Anything over fifty 1:06:02.560 --> 1:06:04.640 starts to feel I just don't know if we would 1:06:04.640 --> 1:06:08.240 ever have the personal connections that we're having with one another. 1:06:09.040 --> 1:06:12.000 And then each time Mandy money Makers graduate from the program, 1:06:12.040 --> 1:06:14.720 you get inducted into or you get the option to 1:06:14.840 --> 1:06:19.240 continue in the alumni community. And I have ongoing events. 1:06:19.240 --> 1:06:22.080 We just had Janice Torres Rodriguez from Joky Dinero was 1:06:22.080 --> 1:06:25.840 our first guest speaker at our alumni event, and oh god, 1:06:26.000 --> 1:06:26.840 I fucking love her. 1:06:27.320 --> 1:06:28.000 She's amazing. 1:06:28.600 --> 1:06:30.760 And she talked a lot about mindset too, because you 1:06:30.800 --> 1:06:33.600 think that she started that brand overnight and she's a success. No, 1:06:34.040 --> 1:06:39.000 but yeah, it's been, it's been wonderful. Yeah, so I'm 1:06:39.000 --> 1:06:41.360 really proud of that. I can't believe it's my third cohort. 1:06:41.760 --> 1:06:45.200 God, Mandy, look at that. Yeah, they tried to marry you, 1:06:45.240 --> 1:06:50.280 but they didn't know you as a seed. Let's not 1:06:50.320 --> 1:06:50.840 talk about the. 1:06:53.280 --> 1:06:56.000 Yeah, it's it's phenomenal. And June's also going to be 1:06:56.000 --> 1:07:00.280 my one year entrepreneur versary. I don't know what I'm 1:07:00.280 --> 1:07:02.200 going to do, but I'm gonna freaking acknowledge it. I'm 1:07:02.200 --> 1:07:03.840 going to freaking acknowledge it. 1:07:03.800 --> 1:07:06.520 Because you deserve. Like, I'm really proud of you, And. 1:07:06.480 --> 1:07:09.320 We never got to say congratulations to you either on 1:07:09.360 --> 1:07:12.520 your amazing Like we all know you're a New York 1:07:12.520 --> 1:07:16.440 Times bestselling author, but right before you took your hiatus, 1:07:16.480 --> 1:07:19.360 you were about to cross over one hundred thousand books sold. 1:07:19.840 --> 1:07:22.520 Mark right, No, even no before I don't even know 1:07:22.520 --> 1:07:24.520 why Penguin said that. I think they were talking about hardcover, 1:07:24.600 --> 1:07:28.160 but in books total, I was already over one hundred, 1:07:28.280 --> 1:07:32.200 meaning like ebooks as well as as well as Kindle 1:07:32.560 --> 1:07:34.800 and audio. So now I want to say we're at 1:07:34.840 --> 1:07:39.960 one hundred and forty one thousand books sold, and just 1:07:39.960 --> 1:07:44.720 for context, like twenty five thousand they consider good, fifty 1:07:44.760 --> 1:07:47.120 they considered great, one hundred thousand they consider I'm talking 1:07:47.120 --> 1:07:50.080 about in the lifetime and so to have done that 1:07:50.160 --> 1:07:51.080 with Unicorn No. 1:07:51.280 --> 1:07:53.880 Twenty five, I've heard ten is what you can hope. 1:07:53.960 --> 1:07:57.600 Ten thousand is what a really good debut, And I've 1:07:57.600 --> 1:07:59.880 heard that from someone who works on nonhait. 1:08:00.040 --> 1:08:01.640 I mean with the first year, you mean within the 1:08:01.680 --> 1:08:02.440 first week. 1:08:02.720 --> 1:08:06.880 In the first year, like ten k, ten k, that's like, 1:08:07.720 --> 1:08:10.840 that's like, here's what you can expect. Ten k is good, 1:08:11.160 --> 1:08:13.880 Like that's a reasonable goal to make. So you're like 1:08:14.720 --> 1:08:17.720 fifteen X. Everyone probably has their own, you know, their 1:08:17.760 --> 1:08:20.720 own subjective opinions about what's a good debut and what's not, 1:08:20.800 --> 1:08:23.920 but we can all objectively agree that's phenomenal. 1:08:24.680 --> 1:08:26.960 And then they told me that, like one thing I 1:08:27.000 --> 1:08:29.759 did learn is that like in twenty twenty one, Giga 1:08:29.880 --> 1:08:33.200 with Money was the number one selling new personal finance 1:08:33.200 --> 1:08:36.080 book of the year. Like I was like for Penguin, 1:08:36.120 --> 1:08:38.800 They're like, no, for all personal finance books that were 1:08:38.800 --> 1:08:42.160 categorized as such that year that launched in twenty twenty, 1:08:42.960 --> 1:08:45.200 twenty twenty one, you're sold more than any of them. 1:08:45.240 --> 1:08:47.639 I'm like, but like some of these big names came out, 1:08:47.640 --> 1:08:52.400 They're like, I know, just so that just that's just incredible, 1:08:52.479 --> 1:08:55.840 you know, like just letting that like settle for me, 1:08:56.360 --> 1:08:58.320 because sometimes you get like onto the next don't you know. 1:08:58.360 --> 1:09:01.120 I'm not doing that anymore. So I'm just like, or 1:09:01.120 --> 1:09:02.840 how I used to call myself baby millionaire. I member, 1:09:02.840 --> 1:09:04.160 I used to say that, and I'm like, oh, tyfinitally, 1:09:04.160 --> 1:09:06.120 stop with the bullshit. You're a fucking millionaire. It's fine, 1:09:06.360 --> 1:09:08.559 it's happened. I just didn't want to acknowledge. I felt 1:09:08.600 --> 1:09:11.280 like awkward and bad and I felt bad, and it's like, no, 1:09:11.320 --> 1:09:13.240 it's okay to acknowledge the good work you've put in. 1:09:13.320 --> 1:09:19.040 And this book is like, yeah, I'm really proud of it. Yes, 1:09:19.080 --> 1:09:21.200 for the numbers that's hit, but what I really really 1:09:21.240 --> 1:09:23.519 really am proud of how many people come up to 1:09:23.560 --> 1:09:25.760 me and said this was really helpful. Like I was 1:09:25.800 --> 1:09:29.120 at like I was someone out last night and this 1:09:29.200 --> 1:09:31.400 guy came up to me. He said, I got my 1:09:31.439 --> 1:09:34.360 girlfriend your book for her birthday. And he showed me 1:09:34.400 --> 1:09:35.920 a picture of how he put it in a basket 1:09:35.920 --> 1:09:37.640 with like a bottle of wine and so she can 1:09:37.720 --> 1:09:39.599 have like a zen night. And he was like, because 1:09:39.640 --> 1:09:41.080 I got it for myself at first, and it was 1:09:41.120 --> 1:09:44.080 so helpful so many men. That's what shocked me too 1:09:44.240 --> 1:09:45.880 about it. Like I'm like, really, because you know it 1:09:45.920 --> 1:09:48.360 wasn't it's not anti man, not at all. 1:09:48.720 --> 1:09:51.040 But in the book, you know, my audience is largely women. 1:09:51.160 --> 1:09:54.000 So I say, sis, and girl get that dress from Target, 1:09:54.160 --> 1:09:58.360 Like I say that, and so yeah, it's just amazing. 1:09:58.360 --> 1:10:01.600 I'm a look at us girl and girl continued success. 1:10:02.040 --> 1:10:03.160 You pave in them way, dude. 1:10:03.200 --> 1:10:06.479 I mean, you're literally and more women of color will 1:10:06.479 --> 1:10:08.599 get book deals because of the success of that book. 1:10:09.040 --> 1:10:11.400 So that, I mean, if you need someone to remind 1:10:11.439 --> 1:10:13.080 you how fucking amazing it is, just talked to me. 1:10:14.280 --> 1:10:15.080 Thanks, because I know. 1:10:15.080 --> 1:10:18.280 For a fact the proposed like the success of future 1:10:18.280 --> 1:10:21.759 black female authors who want to write personal finance books, 1:10:21.840 --> 1:10:24.000 Your book is going to be in every single proposal 1:10:24.439 --> 1:10:27.519 as someone as an example of, because that's part of 1:10:27.520 --> 1:10:30.320 the proposal is where you have to talk about the 1:10:30.400 --> 1:10:33.080 market and who else is out there. The success of 1:10:33.120 --> 1:10:35.680 your book is going to make publishers less afraid to 1:10:35.760 --> 1:10:38.080 work with women of color and put them on the title, 1:10:38.120 --> 1:10:39.760 put them on the cover. You know what I mean. 1:10:40.160 --> 1:10:42.640 That's incredibly a proposal grew. You got to be what 1:10:42.720 --> 1:10:44.479 you meant anyway, So we're gonna post it, but I'm 1:10:45.120 --> 1:10:46.240 give you a copy. 1:10:46.160 --> 1:10:48.599 All right, Tiff, Well that is the show, you guys, 1:10:48.680 --> 1:10:52.559 thank you so much for listening. As Tiff said, tell 1:10:52.600 --> 1:10:55.640 a friend, tell a friend, tell a friend, take a screenshot, 1:10:55.760 --> 1:10:57.840 tag us in this post, tell us how excited you 1:10:57.880 --> 1:11:01.280 are to see Tiffany back, and of course all positive 1:11:01.320 --> 1:11:04.360 love and thoughts to Tiffany. Don't or I guess if 1:11:04.360 --> 1:11:06.639 you can't, you know, reach out to Tiffany on ig anymore, 1:11:06.680 --> 1:11:07.680 say hi, logan. 1:11:09.439 --> 1:11:12.400 A little bit, but yeah, largely logan, but yeah I 1:11:12.720 --> 1:11:14.200 am the every once in a while, once we got 1:11:14.240 --> 1:11:15.800 poked my head in and like, or she'll send me 1:11:15.840 --> 1:11:18.080 a screenshot if you guys, send me something nice, like 1:11:18.120 --> 1:11:19.800 you know, she's like, look, isn't this sweet? I'm like 1:11:19.880 --> 1:11:21.360 it is. Tell them I said hi. 1:11:22.840 --> 1:11:24.280 And what's the website again? 1:11:24.320 --> 1:11:28.839 For the Patreon It's my mentor Tiffany dot. 1:11:28.600 --> 1:11:32.920 Com, My mentor Tiffany dot com. All right, beautiful, that's it. 1:11:33.000 --> 1:11:34.439 We did it. Yeah, we did it. 1:11:34.560 --> 1:11:39.599 Joe, Hey, ba fan. 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