WEBVTT - Closing the Mental Health Gap in the Black Community 0:00:06.440 --> 0:00:09.080 What's your family. It's your girl to make a d. Mallory, 0:00:09.520 --> 0:00:12.879 and it's your boy general, and we're your hosts of 0:00:13.000 --> 0:00:19.279 Street Politicians, the place where the politics. Wow, there is 0:00:19.320 --> 0:00:22.720 so so much happening, my slege, I feel like, you know, 0:00:23.320 --> 0:00:26.479 we're like like I don't know. It's like the world 0:00:26.640 --> 0:00:29.400 is just moving and there's so much stuff happening. At 0:00:29.440 --> 0:00:33.920 one time, when we talked about the COVID precautions, precautions 0:00:34.240 --> 0:00:37.120 and staying six ft apart, you were saying that a 0:00:37.120 --> 0:00:40.199 lot of people are sort of just fighting to remain 0:00:40.360 --> 0:00:46.000 to have some communication and contact like some Yeah, like 0:00:46.120 --> 0:00:50.479 people are fighting to maintain some level of normalcy or 0:00:50.479 --> 0:00:54.080 whatever is normal. But I was thinking to myself, it's 0:00:54.200 --> 0:00:57.440 really we're not it's not normal, Like we're just not 0:00:57.720 --> 0:01:01.760 Things are just not normal, and um, you know everything 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:07.720 I think from politics to uh, what's happening in our communities. 0:01:07.920 --> 0:01:11.520 Our dear sister Leslie Redman, who's been a guest on 0:01:11.640 --> 0:01:16.559 Street Politicians. She also was the just the immediate past 0:01:16.600 --> 0:01:20.040 president of the n double a c P chapter in Minneapolis, 0:01:20.440 --> 0:01:24.080 one of the organizers there during George Floyd, even before 0:01:24.120 --> 0:01:28.720 before George Floyd was murdered, and after um, you know, 0:01:28.800 --> 0:01:31.280 with other activities that she has going on. Now, she 0:01:31.400 --> 0:01:36.319 has her campaign, don't complain. Activate this a powerful young sister. 0:01:36.640 --> 0:01:39.080 She's out there doing the work. And yet her brother, 0:01:39.120 --> 0:01:43.560 who was in his thirties, was killed just this past weekend. Um, 0:01:43.600 --> 0:01:46.280 he was shot and killed by someone that more than 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:50.560 likely looks just like us. And uh, you have that happening. 0:01:50.720 --> 0:01:53.200 You have young people being killed. I think we just 0:01:53.400 --> 0:01:57.840 had another shooting where a child was harmed in New York. Um. 0:01:57.920 --> 0:02:00.600 You know, you had the school shooting where young black 0:02:00.680 --> 0:02:06.040 kid went and shot up a school. Some say kids 0:02:06.080 --> 0:02:09.000 in New York was a bron a ten year old 0:02:09.320 --> 0:02:12.320 shot a thirteen year old. That ten year old. Wow, 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:16.320 I didn't even know that ten old kid shot a 0:02:16.400 --> 0:02:20.400 thirteen year old. Wow. A ten year old shot at thirteen. Again, 0:02:20.960 --> 0:02:24.360 you know, just crazy things. And then you have the 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:29.480 the the guy who shot people at a school, a 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:35.800 young black man. We don't often hear of major school shootings, UM, 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:39.680 where black kids are the ones shooting up at school. 0:02:39.720 --> 0:02:44.360 But his family talked about bullying. UM talked about you know, 0:02:44.480 --> 0:02:47.640 him being attacked. Uh. So you know, and of course 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:51.040 there's still no excuse for picking up a gun and 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:54.799 taking the lives of a number of individuals, putting people 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:57.880 in harms way, causing that type of trauma. But yet 0:02:57.880 --> 0:03:01.680 there are some serious things happening in society around the 0:03:01.760 --> 0:03:04.720 issues of bullying, the issues of trauma that have to 0:03:04.760 --> 0:03:08.400 be dealt with, and it's finding the balance between all 0:03:08.480 --> 0:03:12.040 of these things to still be able to maintain home, 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:15.880 maintain home and family and what have you. It's a 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:19.120 lot happening. It's a whole lot happened. And then you 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:24.240 got um John Gruden, who was the the Los Angeles 0:03:24.360 --> 0:03:29.560 Raiders head coach, who's they found these emails from years 0:03:29.600 --> 0:03:34.480 ago from about two eighteen before two eighteen of him 0:03:34.480 --> 0:03:38.920 just saying racists and homophobic and just like every level 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:42.960 a white supremacy. He just possessed it. It wasn't he didn't. 0:03:43.040 --> 0:03:45.200 He wasn't just mad at black people. He didn't like 0:03:45.360 --> 0:03:51.119 gay people, he didn't like he didn't like nobody. Everything. 0:03:51.160 --> 0:03:55.560 He had an issue with everything, and usually smacist work. 0:03:55.640 --> 0:03:59.200 So you know that that's been something like me and 0:03:59.240 --> 0:04:02.520 eat your cb D candies. That's what I do. This 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:06.320 is my CBD candies. I found this. I was riding 0:04:06.640 --> 0:04:09.320 and I was like, stop, this is a story that 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:13.400 has CBD candies and this is what I eat during 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:16.960 my day keep my nerves together. This is supposed to 0:04:16.960 --> 0:04:23.400 be this is legal. You know candies. Are you looking 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:29.440 at me like a crazy that's what you got in CBDs? Lord, 0:04:29.520 --> 0:04:34.599 that get you fall asleep? Now, don't get that doesn't 0:04:34.600 --> 0:04:37.880 make you go to sleep. It takes the edge for 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:43.640 you're saying. And it's supposed to be better than having 0:04:43.680 --> 0:04:48.239 a midday drink, which I am not above. But I'm working, 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:51.760 so I don't wanna have a drink. So I pulled 0:04:51.760 --> 0:04:55.560 out my candies for my CBD in the You know, 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:57.440 you gotta get you some stuff. You know, I'm gonna 0:04:57.440 --> 0:05:00.320 get you some CBD cands unless you see I'm enough. 0:05:01.600 --> 0:05:05.720 You're never in your life smoke weed one time? One time, 0:05:05.920 --> 0:05:07.680 that's right. You tell the story is when you was 0:05:07.760 --> 0:05:10.880 with DMX and you had a trip. You were tripping. 0:05:10.920 --> 0:05:13.560 Everybody has a trip like the first time they smoke weed, yea, 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:15.760 And then you was like, I never want to go 0:05:15.800 --> 0:05:20.120 back to it. It wasn't for me. Why you just 0:05:20.120 --> 0:05:22.840 didn't like the feeling or you didn't like the fact 0:05:22.839 --> 0:05:28.320 that experience. I didn't like it. It wasn't for me. 0:05:28.680 --> 0:05:33.640 But the thing is you have been around marijuana enclosed spaces, 0:05:33.920 --> 0:05:37.599 so you probably have felt high. And after that, yeah, 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:39.880 I have, Like you know the time we was in 0:05:39.880 --> 0:05:44.680 the studio and we had a huge chicken that did 0:05:44.800 --> 0:05:50.080 happen to us and you know, two hundred pounds and 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:52.960 I was moving slower in thethargic and I'm like, nah, 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:56.080 the same for me. But there's some people that just 0:05:56.120 --> 0:06:02.280 smoke weed all day night and I don't know, they 0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:07.839 can't wait, You'll never catch them. Not smooth. That is 0:06:07.880 --> 0:06:11.760 so true. I forgot about that story. But anyway, that's 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:14.080 one another day. We have to have the people who 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:16.640 who are a part of that to be a part 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:19.240 of the conversation so it will not be like we're 0:06:19.400 --> 0:06:26.360 a scandalous when we tell it about anyway. So so 0:06:26.400 --> 0:06:34.480 I was taken. I was thinking, how does how does 0:06:34.480 --> 0:06:39.880 the Democratic Party intend to win mid term elections without 0:06:39.960 --> 0:06:44.080 voting rights? Confused? I don't think. I don't think the 0:06:44.800 --> 0:06:48.919 Democratic Party attends to win anything. No, they they intend 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:55.200 wasn't that will is something different. You can't, you can't, 0:06:55.279 --> 0:06:59.560 they can't. It's good. There's no way that they expect 0:06:59.600 --> 0:07:02.520 those good old people that they would have voted that 0:07:02.600 --> 0:07:05.679 they didn't private things that ain't got nothing else, people 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:08.080 that saved them. There's no way they expect those good 0:07:08.080 --> 0:07:13.040 old people to like you as CBD candy. What do 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:15.320 you want? They know, them good old people. They're going 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:19.160 back out there to vote again after this. Now they ain't. No. 0:07:19.400 --> 0:07:22.720 Come on, now, you're gonna have to pull another rabbit 0:07:22.760 --> 0:07:25.920 out the hat for this one. Because you Because but 0:07:26.040 --> 0:07:29.200 I'm saying that voting right specifically, let's just say, I 0:07:29.280 --> 0:07:34.640 get your point, right, I get your point from our perspective, 0:07:34.920 --> 0:07:40.480 it's almost impossible to believe it disrespectful. It's actually disrespectful 0:07:40.520 --> 0:07:43.880 to even to even to even not just assume, but 0:07:44.040 --> 0:07:49.680 to request stand the people that they belief right that 0:07:49.760 --> 0:07:54.920 they vote for um, anyone who has not fulfilled any 0:07:54.960 --> 0:07:58.080 of the promises that were made. Right So that I 0:07:58.120 --> 0:08:00.280 agree with I agree with you a hundred on that, 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:04.520 But I'm speaking of something different. I'm saying that because 0:08:04.560 --> 0:08:09.280 what happens is even when you say I'm not engaging 0:08:09.320 --> 0:08:12.800 myself in this election, I don't believe, I don't trust right. 0:08:12.880 --> 0:08:16.160 We have that position, and that's okay. But the thing is, 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:19.240 then you have to start listening to the people who 0:08:19.280 --> 0:08:22.960 are running against these folks, and when you start listening 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:26.800 to them and understanding their agenda, it may encourage a 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:28.800 lot of people to say, you know what, I'm going 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:31.400 to the post, right, I'm going to the post. Now. 0:08:31.400 --> 0:08:34.520 I'm not saying everyone, and I'm certainly not talking about 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:37.280 ray Raids and Keysha's and others. But I'm saying there 0:08:37.320 --> 0:08:41.160 are there is a there there is a there are 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:44.320 a group of people people want to kill me. Man. 0:08:44.960 --> 0:08:50.120 I know I agree with you need to I'm on 0:08:50.280 --> 0:08:52.600 the attack about it all the time, and I still 0:08:52.600 --> 0:08:55.280 would make the same decision if I had to do 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:58.400 it all over again. But I'm not even I'm speaking 0:08:58.440 --> 0:09:02.320 of something even differ, friends. I'm saying there are some 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:08.559 folks in our society that, when approached and they are 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:11.839 listening just because you're watching the news, or you're at church, 0:09:12.000 --> 0:09:15.360 or you're reading the paper, you're in your community, when 0:09:15.360 --> 0:09:18.439 you hear the other side of what you may be 0:09:18.640 --> 0:09:22.760 looking at, and you're listening to someone who absolutely wants 0:09:22.800 --> 0:09:26.600 to take away your right to having abortion so you're 0:09:26.679 --> 0:09:30.440 right to choose, and or they want to open more prisons, 0:09:30.720 --> 0:09:33.960 or you know they want to um, I don't know 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:36.200 you know they want to they want to close more 0:09:36.320 --> 0:09:40.439 schools or you know, take more funding from the communities 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:45.160 in order to invest more in punitive measures and support 0:09:45.320 --> 0:09:48.920 police and uh, you know they bleed the blue. When 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:53.800 you hear that rhetoric in that tone, right, it may 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:57.320 encourage you to say, I don't think that these other 0:09:57.400 --> 0:09:59.760 folks is worth the damn either, but I know I 0:09:59.840 --> 0:10:03.760 have to block this individual from becoming whatever its senator 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:07.160 or whatever they're voting for in their community. What I'm 0:10:07.200 --> 0:10:09.760 speaking of is, now you're on your way to go 0:10:09.880 --> 0:10:12.720 vote and you find out that your vote is actually 0:10:12.760 --> 0:10:17.200 being suppressed by way of the laws in that particular state, 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:22.679 just just forget it. I'm saying everything they could have 0:10:22.720 --> 0:10:26.199 done it all right, and this that I'm something about voting, right, 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:28.199 it's going to vote. The people that want to vote 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:29.880 that civil believe and say, you know what, I'm going 0:10:29.880 --> 0:10:32.400 to vote, and they get there and realize they can 0:10:32.520 --> 0:10:36.040 the name has been purged. They need this, you know, 0:10:36.160 --> 0:10:39.520 their I D has to be updated there. You know 0:10:39.559 --> 0:10:44.200 they've been voting knowing that you got elderly people who 0:10:44.200 --> 0:10:49.960 have been voted for years with one little letter misspelled 0:10:50.480 --> 0:10:55.040 on their identification versus their voting record, because when we 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:58.760 were coming out of enslavement and I we never had 0:10:58.840 --> 0:11:03.000 the appropriate records. A lot of people have continued through 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:07.400 life with things that's not one accurate, but it's it's 0:11:07.480 --> 0:11:11.080 Mama Mad's leaves information, you know what I'm saying. And 0:11:11.120 --> 0:11:15.480 so to have this, this this situation where it seems 0:11:15.520 --> 0:11:20.080 like people are fumbling and now we're at the administration 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:23.960 and others are fumbling on fighting as hard as hell 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:28.520 to get voting rights accomplished. I'm trying to figure out 0:11:28.559 --> 0:11:32.560 when you're already failing at all getting the policy in place, 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:35.480 and then you're not even giving people who might just 0:11:35.640 --> 0:11:38.560 still want to be with you the ability to go 0:11:38.640 --> 0:11:42.160 to the post like you. They can't be planning on 0:11:42.240 --> 0:11:44.760 winning anything. They don't plan on winning I'm trying to sell. 0:11:44.880 --> 0:11:48.080 They don't have any plan on They're just at this 0:11:48.160 --> 0:11:50.559 point like it's just going through the motions. And it's 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:55.559 disappointing because you know, you want as somebody who wants 0:11:55.679 --> 0:11:57.760 things to be good, you want things to be right. 0:11:58.640 --> 0:12:00.800 You know, you actually praying on it and all that. 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:05.720 You want to believe that there is some side or 0:12:05.920 --> 0:12:09.720 some individuals that are in power to some certain degree 0:12:09.760 --> 0:12:13.000 that actually want to do right, you know, they want 0:12:13.040 --> 0:12:15.400 to do that, are willing to do whatever necessary to 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:17.079 do right. So I'm not saying I don't I don't 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:19.200 believe they don't want to do I think they're not. 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:22.079 What they haven't come to the stage in the mind 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:25.319 frame of that they have to do was ever necessary 0:12:25.400 --> 0:12:28.440 to do right? Not doing right. It's just not an option. 0:12:28.480 --> 0:12:31.720 I'm not gonna allow you to delay justice and delay 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:34.840 things that are right. I have to do whatever it 0:12:34.960 --> 0:12:37.800 is within my power to make things right, you know. 0:12:37.840 --> 0:12:40.640 And that's even though we hope for that, that's not 0:12:40.679 --> 0:12:43.560 where we are. So, you know, if people can't even 0:12:43.600 --> 0:12:46.160 go to the polls, and then the people that ain't 0:12:46.160 --> 0:12:50.280 never going to the polls, and the people on obviously God, 0:12:50.480 --> 0:12:53.120 so I've got people going to the polls and they reinvigorate, 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:58.440 you know, Chap. They're going to the polls for their 0:12:58.440 --> 0:13:03.720 own agenda, and their agenda is either they're gonna get 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:08.480 some things that they want done that open communities, or 0:13:08.760 --> 0:13:12.600 just stop that community from being able to progress in 0:13:12.640 --> 0:13:18.360 any way they can't get gain anymore ground into um, 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:22.679 you know, sort of breaking down systems of oppression and 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:26.360 so they vote for different reasons. They vote because you 0:13:26.440 --> 0:13:31.720 might be somebody who maybe you're not as radically conservative 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:35.640 UM as I want you to be, but I at 0:13:35.760 --> 0:13:39.840 least know that you're not going to support a progressive agenda. 0:13:40.440 --> 0:13:44.400 That's right. We have people that are on both sides 0:13:44.480 --> 0:13:48.640 that think similarly. But I think the the issue with 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:51.480 us as black people at this point is that we 0:13:51.679 --> 0:13:55.080 are no longer in a position to just like we've 0:13:55.120 --> 0:13:58.839 already stopped. Some people can't just keep kicking, you know, 0:13:59.120 --> 0:14:02.360 we just want the shoffing and dry ki ki and 0:14:02.720 --> 0:14:05.760 go alone and get along. So you know, we're just 0:14:05.840 --> 0:14:13.080 in a different space. You know, We've We've got like 0:14:13.120 --> 0:14:17.600 a really really dope show today, two amazing guests that 0:14:17.880 --> 0:14:20.760 I'm gonna take us deeper. You know, I'm all about 0:14:20.840 --> 0:14:23.720 going deeper and getting deeper into like who I am 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:27.200 and where I need to be in lining up all 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:31.800 of the aligning all of what is going on inside. 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:34.320 There's a lot happening with all of us. And we've 0:14:34.360 --> 0:14:37.240 already talked about um at the beginning of the show, 0:14:37.720 --> 0:14:41.600 just the stresses and the pressures and just how life 0:14:41.680 --> 0:14:44.960 is just not what has been considered normal. And I 0:14:45.000 --> 0:14:48.720 guess even what was normal should not have been accepted 0:14:48.760 --> 0:14:52.880 as normal. So we're gonna be learning from two people today, 0:14:53.000 --> 0:14:56.640 really really learning. Um. And so we're right off of 0:14:56.720 --> 0:15:02.920 the heels of International Mental Health Awareness Day just this 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:07.880 past Sunday and our that's a lot. I didn't even 0:15:07.920 --> 0:15:10.400 know they had something like that. They do. They have 0:15:10.480 --> 0:15:12.800 a month, they have a day. There's a lot of stuff, 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:15.000 you know. You know, you got to be learned. That's 0:15:15.040 --> 0:15:18.800 why we're about to learn. I'm here to learn. We're 0:15:18.800 --> 0:15:22.160 gonna learn from our two guests today, Anita co Catch 0:15:22.600 --> 0:15:26.880 and also sent to Chay friend Sella. I love her name. 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:29.440 I can't wait for us. These people got dope names. 0:15:29.440 --> 0:15:31.360 So I hope they've got the dope energy because I 0:15:31.400 --> 0:15:35.240 need some. I need to get my my mind right. Well, 0:15:36.040 --> 0:15:39.200 we're gonna bring Anita into the studio, if you will, 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:41.880 and find out what type of dope energy she has 0:15:42.000 --> 0:15:49.200 right now. That's so, so we have a new friend 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:54.520 on street politicians today. We we always joke about the 0:15:54.560 --> 0:15:57.360 fact that all of the guests that we have come 0:15:57.440 --> 0:16:01.440 up here doing such powerful work. Our friends, people we know, UM, 0:16:01.520 --> 0:16:04.760 people who we admire. This sister is someone who I 0:16:04.880 --> 0:16:08.240 absolutely admire and have been watching her. And you know, 0:16:08.600 --> 0:16:12.760 we've all introduced one another to some really incredible people. 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:17.280 My son, you introduced me to Charlomagne some time ago, 0:16:17.760 --> 0:16:21.200 and now Charlemagne has introduced us to this wonderful woman 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:24.840 who was who was our guests, um, Anita co Patch, 0:16:24.880 --> 0:16:29.520 who is a spiritual psychologist and a sex therapist. And 0:16:29.560 --> 0:16:31.560 you know, I'm all about that. I'm getting ready to 0:16:31.600 --> 0:16:37.280 like get all into the details. She also just published 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:41.760 her best selling book, Shallow Waters, and we are sort 0:16:41.800 --> 0:16:47.120 of like siblings under the Black Privilege publishing brand. UM 0:16:47.480 --> 0:16:50.400 with Charlemagne the God as our I guess he's like 0:16:50.600 --> 0:16:53.920 the boss man. I tell him he's boss all the time. UM. 0:16:54.160 --> 0:16:59.600 And she also just finished a real deep mental health 0:17:00.000 --> 0:17:05.800 taken a spiritual of mental health awareness conference that Charlottamagne 0:17:05.960 --> 0:17:09.080 just held. And so there's a lot going on with Anita. 0:17:09.240 --> 0:17:12.480 And I'm so so grateful that you took a little 0:17:12.520 --> 0:17:15.160 bit of time to come on street politicians and talk 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:19.239 to my town and us and me today. It is 0:17:19.800 --> 0:17:22.280 such a deep honor for me to be here with 0:17:22.320 --> 0:17:26.320 both of you. The work that you do for our community. 0:17:26.400 --> 0:17:30.320 I'm tearing up now. You can tell I'm already emotional. 0:17:30.920 --> 0:17:34.480 The work that you do for our community is so 0:17:34.560 --> 0:17:37.919 important and it is just such an honor for me 0:17:38.000 --> 0:17:41.880 to be sitting here right now. I just love the phone. 0:17:45.680 --> 0:17:48.679 It's just it just gives you healing vibes, like you 0:17:48.720 --> 0:17:52.320 can just tell like everything and here it goes with 0:17:52.400 --> 0:17:57.520 the the comforter and the world. Just look, everything is 0:17:57.520 --> 0:17:59.920 just beautiful. Now. We appreciate you. Thank you for her. 0:18:00.000 --> 0:18:02.280 I've been having us on our show. Thank you for 0:18:02.359 --> 0:18:08.040 having you got him like all twisted around. But that's 0:18:08.080 --> 0:18:11.080 all good, you know. I I just want to drop 0:18:11.160 --> 0:18:13.399 this little note in to say that before you and 0:18:13.440 --> 0:18:16.320 I ever laid eyes on one another, we were already 0:18:16.359 --> 0:18:20.560 supporting one another's books, um, and just supporting and by 0:18:20.640 --> 0:18:24.160 sharing content and and being there to say hey sis, 0:18:24.400 --> 0:18:27.040 you know, love to you. And so this idea that 0:18:27.119 --> 0:18:31.280 people need relationships that span over years in order to 0:18:31.359 --> 0:18:34.400 support one another, I think we've debunked that just by 0:18:34.560 --> 0:18:38.520 already having a sisterhood from a distance and you know, 0:18:38.600 --> 0:18:41.560 and so that's what makes today incredible. And I have 0:18:41.960 --> 0:18:46.879 you know, been listening and reading and you know, really 0:18:47.160 --> 0:18:52.639 deeply um, paying attention to you and your spiritual advice 0:18:52.760 --> 0:18:57.879 and support, and I already see why Charlemagne and folks 0:18:57.920 --> 0:19:01.959 like Angela Ry and others are attracted to you. And 0:19:02.000 --> 0:19:04.240 so tell us a little bit about the work that 0:19:04.320 --> 0:19:10.600 you do and why you do it. Absolutely so um 0:19:10.760 --> 0:19:13.480 I you know, first of all, I always share this first. 0:19:13.600 --> 0:19:16.720 I believe that the black woman is God, and so 0:19:17.280 --> 0:19:22.680 I do everything that I can to um bow to 0:19:23.040 --> 0:19:26.720 black women and to support black women, and to support 0:19:26.800 --> 0:19:32.359 those who are supporting black women. And so that is already, 0:19:32.480 --> 0:19:35.959 um just a part of my mission. I was the 0:19:36.119 --> 0:19:38.879 editor in chief of Heart and Soul for five years 0:19:39.000 --> 0:19:41.959 and so within that I was able to get a 0:19:41.960 --> 0:19:47.440 lot of information, uh disseminated out into our communities about 0:19:48.160 --> 0:19:54.920 different ways of getting health and wellness into our hands. 0:19:55.680 --> 0:20:00.919 And what I do as a spiritual psychologist and um 0:20:01.000 --> 0:20:06.480 A certified contra coach sex therapists, I work with people, 0:20:06.760 --> 0:20:12.000 mostly people who have experienced sexual trauma. And the interesting 0:20:12.080 --> 0:20:16.919 thing with sexual trauma, especially within our community, is that, uh, 0:20:18.080 --> 0:20:21.480 pretty much everyone is touched by it because if you 0:20:21.600 --> 0:20:26.280 haven't experienced it, your mom has, or your grandmother has, 0:20:26.480 --> 0:20:29.879 or your great grandmother has or your father has. You know, 0:20:29.960 --> 0:20:35.159 like there's it's it's very prevalent in our communities. And 0:20:35.240 --> 0:20:40.760 what happens is that trauma can be passed down through 0:20:41.080 --> 0:20:45.160 the generations, which we all know this, and and so 0:20:45.240 --> 0:20:52.239 sometimes you can be walking around with the with the 0:20:52.320 --> 0:20:57.160 symptoms of having been raped or molested, but you're like, wait, 0:20:57.200 --> 0:20:59.960 I haven't been molested, Like why am I feeling this way? 0:21:00.119 --> 0:21:04.480 Why can't I connect? And it's because it's happened somewhere 0:21:04.520 --> 0:21:07.400 down the line. And so with the work that I do, 0:21:07.520 --> 0:21:12.320 I do a lot to try to normalize the healing 0:21:12.600 --> 0:21:17.320 of it, the speaking of it, especially for men. I've 0:21:17.320 --> 0:21:21.320 talked to Charlemagne about this as well. Um that that 0:21:21.400 --> 0:21:25.880 you know, one in six men have been molested between 0:21:26.359 --> 0:21:33.119 the ages of one and eighteen zero and eighteen and um, 0:21:33.160 --> 0:21:37.320 and that's reported. You know, most people are not reporting 0:21:37.320 --> 0:21:40.960 that ship right you know, Um, I forgot to ask 0:21:41.000 --> 0:21:50.040 if I'm able to we say, shit, Dan, every around 0:21:50.160 --> 0:21:53.400 good gets the you know, gets the point of exactly. 0:21:54.640 --> 0:21:57.480 And so and it's one in three. So it's one 0:21:57.480 --> 0:22:01.920 in three for women, and so it's it's very prevalent 0:22:02.040 --> 0:22:05.120 in our communities. And and well that's actually not even 0:22:05.160 --> 0:22:11.320 just our community, that's for everyone. Okay, Well, I was 0:22:11.359 --> 0:22:15.000 sitting here. When do you when did you notice? Because 0:22:15.040 --> 0:22:17.280 this is not like a to me right when I'm 0:22:17.320 --> 0:22:20.280 listening to you and the understanding that you have to 0:22:20.359 --> 0:22:22.159 I don't think this is something that you just go 0:22:22.280 --> 0:22:25.120 to school to study. I think there's like a calling. 0:22:25.160 --> 0:22:27.560 It's a feeling, like when you call yourself with healing 0:22:27.640 --> 0:22:30.119 all this, Like when did you feel like this was 0:22:30.240 --> 0:22:33.800 something that you was supposed to be doing? Yes? So 0:22:34.400 --> 0:22:41.680 when I was around eighteen, I started hearing voices right. 0:22:42.359 --> 0:22:47.040 And what most people would say is like, oh, she's crazy, 0:22:47.720 --> 0:22:52.119 you know, like go to uh you know, like I 0:22:52.160 --> 0:22:55.280 would have to go to an institution. But what what 0:22:55.680 --> 0:23:02.919 happened was that, UM, I started listening to what the 0:23:03.000 --> 0:23:07.080 voices were saying and when I would hear them, and 0:23:07.560 --> 0:23:10.600 my thing, I was actually just sharing this at the 0:23:10.640 --> 0:23:16.720 Mental Wealth UM expo with Charlemagne. I was sharing that, UM, 0:23:16.760 --> 0:23:22.440 I feel like black privilege to me means that we 0:23:22.520 --> 0:23:27.080 have the access to the voice of God and and 0:23:27.359 --> 0:23:32.280 a lot of times we think we're going crazy because 0:23:32.400 --> 0:23:34.919 all of this information is coming to us and we 0:23:34.960 --> 0:23:37.920 don't know what to do with it. And so for me, 0:23:38.040 --> 0:23:41.920 when I was eighteen, I start I start hearing these voices, 0:23:42.560 --> 0:23:44.760 the voices I was hearing. It was not the voice 0:23:44.760 --> 0:23:48.480 of God. These were these were not not good voices 0:23:48.480 --> 0:23:52.199 that I was hearing. And so what I realized was 0:23:52.280 --> 0:23:55.120 that when I would walk by people, the voice would 0:23:55.119 --> 0:23:58.000 get louder, and then I had pass and the voice 0:23:58.000 --> 0:24:01.199 would go away. And so I'm wait, am I hearing 0:24:01.240 --> 0:24:04.960 what people are saying or thinking? And so I started 0:24:05.040 --> 0:24:08.880 asking them. I was eighteen, I didn't have very much discernment, 0:24:09.520 --> 0:24:14.080 and so what would happen was that people would get 0:24:14.119 --> 0:24:16.240 freaked out because I would tell them what they were 0:24:16.280 --> 0:24:18.879 thinking and they were like, how did you know? And 0:24:18.920 --> 0:24:21.159 this one the last person that I did it too. 0:24:22.080 --> 0:24:25.679 Um It was this older man and he's like talking 0:24:25.720 --> 0:24:29.040 to me and smiling, and all I could hear was 0:24:29.160 --> 0:24:31.040 I don't know where my wife and kids are. And 0:24:31.080 --> 0:24:32.840 I was like, look, I know you don't know where 0:24:32.880 --> 0:24:35.360 your wife and kids are. And he grabbed me up 0:24:35.400 --> 0:24:38.000 and he was like, where are they? What do you mean? 0:24:38.200 --> 0:24:41.280 You know? Like like I was feeling like I was 0:24:41.320 --> 0:24:45.480 going to be attacked, and so I like ran home. 0:24:45.720 --> 0:24:48.200 I ran upstairs and I just started praying to God. 0:24:48.720 --> 0:24:50.520 I was like, listen, if this is supposed to be 0:24:50.560 --> 0:24:53.440 a gift. I don't want it. I can't handle it. 0:24:53.920 --> 0:25:00.399 And um, just if there's something that that you feel 0:25:00.440 --> 0:25:02.959 like I might be able to handle, show me how 0:25:03.000 --> 0:25:07.160 to do that, but please take these voices away. And 0:25:07.160 --> 0:25:10.320 and so I woke up those voices were gone, and 0:25:10.359 --> 0:25:13.240 then I had this dream that I was like throwing 0:25:13.400 --> 0:25:17.480 rocks and reading them for people. Which back, that's more 0:25:17.480 --> 0:25:21.160 than twenty years ago, so there wasn't really very many 0:25:21.280 --> 0:25:25.000 people doing those type of things around, so I didn't 0:25:25.040 --> 0:25:27.440 know who to ask, so I just started doing it. 0:25:27.920 --> 0:25:31.960 And so that's how it started. I started giving readings 0:25:31.960 --> 0:25:37.840 to people, and what I realized is that I didn't 0:25:37.880 --> 0:25:42.080 know what tools to give them to continue on their 0:25:42.119 --> 0:25:46.240 healing journey, and they were getting addicted to reading and 0:25:46.280 --> 0:25:48.679 they would come back and you know, like so it 0:25:48.800 --> 0:25:50.840 was I was just like, okay. So that's when I 0:25:50.880 --> 0:25:55.480 decided to get my masters in spiritual psychology. And what 0:25:55.480 --> 0:25:59.479 did your family members say? So? Okay? So I was 0:25:59.640 --> 0:26:03.120 raised in the church, so I was super scared. Once 0:26:03.160 --> 0:26:07.080 I realized I could um see the future and those 0:26:07.080 --> 0:26:10.000 type of things, I was like, oh no, So I 0:26:10.119 --> 0:26:12.160 you know, I asked my mom. I was like, Mom, 0:26:12.280 --> 0:26:16.560 you know, like am I a demon, right right, And 0:26:16.760 --> 0:26:20.359 she was like anything that comes out of you as 0:26:20.440 --> 0:26:23.760