1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,080 Speaker 1: It is time now to check Steve's voicemail eight seven 2 00:00:03,200 --> 00:00:05,720 Speaker 1: seven twenty nine. Steve, call him, leave a message. You 3 00:00:05,800 --> 00:00:08,520 Speaker 1: might just hear your call on the air, ready. 4 00:00:08,240 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 2: Steve, Yeah, all right here, This is from d Ray 5 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:16,240 Speaker 2: from Dallas. Hey, Steve, it's d Raised from Dallas. I 6 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:18,720 Speaker 2: was calling because I got him. I got a situation. 7 00:00:18,840 --> 00:00:22,239 Speaker 2: I need good older man advice. I got a fourteen 8 00:00:22,280 --> 00:00:26,639 Speaker 2: year old son. Of course, he's all into girls and sticks, 9 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:30,160 Speaker 2: and of course he already got him some. But even 10 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:32,800 Speaker 2: though I've already ran everything to him, I gave it 11 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:35,320 Speaker 2: to him rawer and everything even before he had sick. 12 00:00:35,640 --> 00:00:38,159 Speaker 2: It's still not resonating to him. And we all been 13 00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:41,440 Speaker 2: young men before. But of course the divide in the 14 00:00:41,479 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 2: house is le him and his mama. But I get 15 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:48,239 Speaker 2: what I'm on me and as we say, man is 16 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:52,200 Speaker 2: kind of it's a tricky one. But I also started 17 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:54,320 Speaker 2: to think to myself as the advice I keep getting 18 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 2: some other men that have teenagers or acclaimed it's like 19 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 2: the world is transversing into man. It's just reality, and 20 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:03,480 Speaker 2: you have got to make it happen. And I thought 21 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:05,679 Speaker 2: we were supposed to be raising these boys to be 22 00:01:05,680 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 2: better than what we do, because everybody keeps telling me, 23 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:10,960 Speaker 2: what was you doing? When you know, you know how 24 00:01:11,080 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 2: it is, And I'm like, but is that what we're 25 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 2: supposed to stick with? And it's becoming a big problem 26 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:19,279 Speaker 2: in the house to where you know, mommy and Daddy 27 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:21,960 Speaker 2: more Mama really want to kick him at the house 28 00:01:22,080 --> 00:01:24,560 Speaker 2: to you know, and all that those types of stuff, 29 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:26,840 Speaker 2: and I'm just confused on it and I don't know 30 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:31,040 Speaker 2: what to do. So I need your help help your 31 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 2: boy out. 32 00:01:32,600 --> 00:01:36,400 Speaker 1: M M I got you, ma'am. If you're a father 33 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:41,520 Speaker 1: currently and you have sons, this is the dilemma. This 34 00:01:41,760 --> 00:01:45,720 Speaker 1: is the dilimma because you know what the proving marker 35 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 1: is for all boys, and that is girls. And if 36 00:01:50,240 --> 00:01:54,440 Speaker 1: you're a heterosexual man, you want your son quite naturally 37 00:01:54,920 --> 00:01:59,200 Speaker 1: to gravitate that way towards him girls. But here is 38 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:03,440 Speaker 1: the dilima. Even though you know it's going to happen, 39 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 1: you don't have to push him in that direction for 40 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 1: it to happen so early, and you don't have to 41 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:15,239 Speaker 1: condone it and reward it, because that's a dangerous thing 42 00:02:15,320 --> 00:02:18,799 Speaker 1: to do, especially at fourteen, because this boy don't even 43 00:02:18,880 --> 00:02:21,880 Speaker 1: have the capability of understanding the ramifications of it all 44 00:02:21,919 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: and even what it means at fourteen, he's just doing 45 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:28,440 Speaker 1: some reactionary stuff because of all of us. If you 46 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 1: remember your first time with the girl, just think back 47 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:35,679 Speaker 1: when the actual moment happened that the whole thing was 48 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:39,040 Speaker 1: supposed to It was rather confusing. You didn't really know 49 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:40,120 Speaker 1: what was going on. 50 00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:41,360 Speaker 2: Godo. 51 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 1: Your body was trembling all of a sudden, your hair 52 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:46,680 Speaker 1: stood up on your head, and you were just as confused, 53 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:49,520 Speaker 1: and you didn't know what was going on. So what 54 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 1: I decided to do was to raise my sons and 55 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:55,960 Speaker 1: tell him this, Look, man, this is the life you 56 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 1: should live as a respectful man. To be respectful for 57 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:02,360 Speaker 1: young girls. Do not go out here and do anything 58 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 1: you want with these girls and then lead these girls 59 00:03:05,080 --> 00:03:07,920 Speaker 1: hold in the bag. You go off to college, pursue 60 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:09,840 Speaker 1: your dreams, and this young girl sitting here with a 61 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:12,239 Speaker 1: baby trying to make it work. I said, bruh, don't 62 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:14,680 Speaker 1: do that, and I've tried to talk to them about that. 63 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:18,680 Speaker 1: At the same time, you know that the world we 64 00:03:18,760 --> 00:03:22,200 Speaker 1: live in, they are going to partake in it. It's 65 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:25,360 Speaker 1: no way to avoid this with your children. Because they 66 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:27,760 Speaker 1: got the internet, they got peer pressure, they go to 67 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:29,920 Speaker 1: school every day. They spend more time away from you 68 00:03:29,960 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 1: than they do with you. So all you can do 69 00:03:32,280 --> 00:03:35,880 Speaker 1: is hope that your teachings resonate with them while they away, 70 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 1: and then prepare yourself for the mistakes that they are 71 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:42,760 Speaker 1: going to make. And they are all going to make mistakes, 72 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:45,040 Speaker 1: and you will feel horrible about it, and you will 73 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 1: think of this as if reflection on you as parenting, 74 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:51,000 Speaker 1: but it's not. It's not reflective of you as a parent. 75 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:53,560 Speaker 1: You can teach your children the right way all you want, 76 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:55,480 Speaker 1: they gonna go out here and make a decision that 77 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:59,040 Speaker 1: goes counter to everything you've ever told them. So it's 78 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:01,920 Speaker 1: a dilemma. But putting your boy out the house is 79 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,600 Speaker 1: not the solution. And I don't know where she coming 80 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:06,760 Speaker 1: with that. If you think putting them out your house 81 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:10,480 Speaker 1: is the solution, you sadly mistaken about that. Because this 82 00:04:10,600 --> 00:04:13,120 Speaker 1: boy out here got active at fourteen, you're gonna put 83 00:04:13,160 --> 00:04:16,200 Speaker 1: him out? Well, what you're thinking to happen now? So 84 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:18,240 Speaker 1: you got to talk to your boy about respect. You 85 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:20,799 Speaker 1: got to get him to understand the way to treat 86 00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:25,359 Speaker 1: women and bro. That's it. It's a tough one, but 87 00:04:25,480 --> 00:04:27,320 Speaker 1: you got state of course, But raise your son is 88 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:29,040 Speaker 1: the right way, man, Tell them the right thing, how 89 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 1: to be respectful of women, you know, because you got 90 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:34,200 Speaker 1: to remember too. You don't want nobody doing your daughter 91 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 1: like that, do you right? So raise your boys accordingly 92 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:45,599 Speaker 1: and the whole protection. Come. No, bro, you're listening to 93 00:04:45,680 --> 00:04:47,279 Speaker 1: the Steve Harvey Morning Show.