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Speaker 2: Damien is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up. He's getting ghosted by a woman named Serena.
Speaker 2: So we're going to see if we can find out
Speaker 2: why and maybe get him another date if he still
Speaker 2: wants one. After he finds out why, Damien was some man,
Speaker 2: thank you for your email. Before we get into your date,
Speaker 2: how long has it been since you talked to Serena.
Speaker 3: It's been about two weeks.
Speaker 2: Above two weeks.
Speaker 4: That's kind of a sweet spot, you know, you start
Speaker 4: to really panic at the two week point.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I didn't want to like rush or anything, but I am.
Speaker 3: I am.
Speaker 5: Once.
Speaker 6: When I heard yall we're looking for, you know, things
Speaker 6: like this, I was like, I don't want to try.
Speaker 3: And reach out.
Speaker 2: Okay, we'll tell us a little bit about Serena and
Speaker 2: why you think you're getting ghosted.
Speaker 6: Like, honestly, I think I'm a pretty self aware guy,
Speaker 6: and I am puzzled as to what's going on because
Speaker 6: we went. I took her on a date to a
Speaker 6: wine bar, and first of all, actually she is a
Speaker 6: friend of a co worker of mine. And so we
Speaker 6: took her to a wine bar and it was pretty casual.
Speaker 6: I thought we had great conversation, and let me just say,
Speaker 6: she is absolutely stunning.
Speaker 3: She's beautiful. But more importantly, I just thought that she
Speaker 3: was really intriguing and she was a little shy. I
Speaker 3: could tell she was a little nervous, But overall I
Speaker 3: thought the date went really well, and I was surprised
Speaker 3: when she just left in the middle of it.
Speaker 2: She's just left in the middle of your date.
Speaker 3: Yes, Like she went to the bathroom and was just gone.
Speaker 6: I'd say probably like were we were three quarters of
Speaker 6: the way through the state, and I thought everything was
Speaker 6: going like wonderful, and then all of a sudden, she's
Speaker 6: just gone.
Speaker 4: Did it seem like something had happened.
Speaker 6: I did notice that, like something came up, and she
Speaker 6: was like it looked like maybe like halfway through she
Speaker 6: got a text or something and something looked a little frantic,
Speaker 6: So maybe something came up.
Speaker 3: And now she's like maybe too shy to reach out
Speaker 3: or something. But yeah, I mean, like she she was.
Speaker 6: Kind of texting a bunch and then we talked a
Speaker 6: little bit more. She went at the restroom, and then
Speaker 6: she's gone. M.
Speaker 4: I mean, either you really sucked in her mind or
Speaker 4: you know, something did did happen.
Speaker 6: I will be the first to admit, you know, like
Speaker 6: my bad, but I really don't think that's the case.
Speaker 4: If you're running out on somebody, how do you redeem
Speaker 4: yourself after that?
Speaker 3: I just hope something like came up.
Speaker 6: I asked my friend about it too, and he said
Speaker 6: he hasn't heard from them, and so I'm not really
Speaker 6: sure what's going on.
Speaker 4: Huhuh, Yeah, it must have been something then with the
Speaker 4: with the phone or the text message.
Speaker 2: Yeah, did it seem like she was distracted? I mean,
Speaker 2: was you know, was she getting a lot?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 2: Did it look like an emergency happened? Is what I mean?
Speaker 2: Did it look like there was something she was paying
Speaker 2: attention to so much on her phone where all of
Speaker 2: a sudden she just had to go if.
Speaker 3: It was an emergency? She played it off pretty well.
Speaker 6: But I will say, like the first like you know,
Speaker 6: hour or so, like we were talking and she wasn't
Speaker 6: really on her phone at all, and then she started
Speaker 6: like getting on her phone at bunch and so like
Speaker 6: that was like noticeable, but it didn't I don't know,
Speaker 6: it didn't seem like it was mess necessarily anything too crazy,
Speaker 6: to the point where, like, you know, she went to
Speaker 6: the bathroom and then I was there for another forty
Speaker 6: five minutes before I was like, I think she's.
Speaker 2: Gone, Oh wow, Okay, that's that's got to be awkward.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm sorry. To me, that's like worse than ghosting.
Speaker 4: You got, like, what is it called leaving a day ditched?
Speaker 3: I would have felt like at least a heads up
Speaker 3: or something, but I don't know.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that would be a common courtesy.
Speaker 2: So since that happened, how many times have you tried
Speaker 2: to reach out to her?
Speaker 7: You know?
Speaker 6: I texted her a couple of times really, just like
Speaker 6: early on, like maybe a week ago, but I haven't
Speaker 6: wanted to like blow her up or anything like that,
Speaker 6: so I just kind of let it be.
Speaker 3: And I've still been thinking about it. So that's why
Speaker 3: I reached out to y'all.
Speaker 4: I think I'd be more worried at this point than
Speaker 4: anything else, because that's just too strange.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I am kind of worried.
Speaker 6: I mean, like, I guess I'm worried about her, but
Speaker 6: you know, I'm always like, is there something wrong with me?
Speaker 7: Too?
Speaker 5: Right?
Speaker 7: All Right?
Speaker 2: Well, we'll try to figure out for you to play
Speaker 2: a song, come back and then call her and see
Speaker 2: if we can figure it out and get you another
Speaker 2: date if you still want one. Okay, sounds good, All right,
Speaker 2: well play us. I'll come back and get your first
Speaker 2: day follow up next.
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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of your first day follow up
Speaker 2: and if you're just joining us, Damien is on the
Speaker 2: phone and Damien is getting more than ghosted by Serena.
Speaker 2: He actually got ditched in the middle of his date
Speaker 2: by Serena, and he doesn't know why. Damien before we
Speaker 2: call her to see if we can figure it out,
Speaker 2: just refresh everybody's memory. Run down real quick. How your
Speaker 2: date went.
Speaker 3: Yeah, my friend set me up with the date.
Speaker 6: We went to a line bar and she was awesome
Speaker 6: and we had a great time, or we were having
Speaker 6: a great time, and then about now we're in I've
Speaker 6: noticed that, like she started, I guess she got a
Speaker 6: text message or something and started maybe freaking out a
Speaker 6: little bit, and a little after that went to the
Speaker 6: restroom and never came back.
Speaker 3: Been trying to hit her up, and that's when I
Speaker 3: reached out.
Speaker 2: Yea, that was it? Like, no response. I just want
Speaker 2: to know what it was me too. All Right, we're
Speaker 2: about to call her, Damien.
Speaker 3: You ready, Yeah, I'm ready?
Speaker 2: All right, Here we go. Hello, Hi, man, I speak
Speaker 2: to Serena. Hey, Serena, how are you? This is Jubil
Speaker 2: from the Jubil Show. It's a radio show.
Speaker 4: Hi, Serena. My name's Nina. I'm here too, Nina, Serena.
Speaker 4: See we could be friends.
Speaker 7: Hi.
Speaker 2: I'm Victorian. So there's three people on the phone with.
Speaker 5: Your Oh wow, okay, Hi.
Speaker 2: Are you familiar with the show at all?
Speaker 7: A little bit? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Have you ever heard the segment that we do called
Speaker 2: a first date follow up before?
Speaker 7: Oh gosh?
Speaker 2: Oh so we got an email about you from somebody
Speaker 2: that you're ghosting.
Speaker 4: Have you ran out on a date recently?
Speaker 2: Oh my god, a little more than.
Speaker 7: Ghost okay, horrifying. This is like the worst case there.
Speaker 2: Damien emailed us and he is wondering what he did,
Speaker 2: like why you just ran out on your date with him?
Speaker 5: Oh? Oh no, okay, hmm.
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, let's breathe really good together, Serena.
Speaker 7: Okay, I'm so embarrassed. Oh my gosh. Okay, No, it
Speaker 7: had nothing to do with Jamie. I mean he's there.
Speaker 7: I mean he's not there, but he can hear me.
Speaker 7: I guess you had nothing to.
Speaker 5: Do with him.
Speaker 2: So you have heard a few of these, Yeah, no
Speaker 2: I have. I can tell because you know that he's
Speaker 2: on the other line listening and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 4: Let's not put the pressure on yet. I feel like,
Speaker 4: let's let him listen. I agree before we put him
Speaker 4: on point Nina.
Speaker 5: Yeah, No, it had nothing to do with him. It's
Speaker 5: just really embarrassing. I was really excited about this date.
Speaker 5: My friend works with Damien, so I really wanted to
Speaker 5: look nice and I don't really have a lot of
Speaker 5: you know, like nice dress up stuff. So I borrowed
Speaker 5: some clothes from her. And it was like a really
Speaker 5: low cut body suit. Yeah.
Speaker 7: It was as cute until it wasn't. Uh.
Speaker 5: At one point I reached like to get some water,
Speaker 5: and it like fell open and I had like I
Speaker 5: had a wardrobe.
Speaker 7: Malfunction, a little like a nip slip.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I know he saw it, Like, I know, he
Speaker 5: looked straight at me, and I was just there was
Speaker 5: way more than I'm not like that. I I don't
Speaker 5: dress up like that at all, and I sure don't
Speaker 5: you know, strip No. I was mortified. So I started
Speaker 5: texting my roommate about I mean, I can't believe that
Speaker 5: he made.
Speaker 4: Me wear this, and.
Speaker 5: Now I'm you know, I just I look like a stripper.
Speaker 5: And so I just excused myself to the bathroom and
Speaker 5: then I couldn't. I just couldn't come back to the table.
Speaker 5: I was just so embarrassed that I knew he'd seen me.
Speaker 2: You know, are you sure he saw you?
Speaker 5: I know he saw me, like he smiled, you know,
Speaker 5: he smiled at me and was like, I mean, he
Speaker 5: was playing it.
Speaker 7: Off, but I was just it was horrible.
Speaker 4: It's definitely an embarrassing moment. Just to make you feel
Speaker 4: better really quickly, just to know that you're not alone.
Speaker 4: I have actually split my pants on a date, wide
Speaker 4: open in the back, and I was wearing a thong
Speaker 4: and it was completely visible, to the point that he
Speaker 4: had to go to his car to get me a
Speaker 4: hoodie to tie around my waist. And I was wearing
Speaker 4: a nice outfit to make sure people didn't see my butt.
Speaker 4: So you're not alone. This kind of stuff. It happens day.
Speaker 2: Even if it was your first date. Though, I find
Speaker 2: it hard pressed to believe that most people would judge
Speaker 2: somebody for that on a first date, Right, it just happens,
Speaker 2: It's an accident.
Speaker 4: Well what if it happened to you, Jubil. Let's pretend
Speaker 4: that you were single and you went on a date
Speaker 4: with somebody and all of a sudden they had a
Speaker 4: little oopsie.
Speaker 2: Right, are you cool with that? Yeah? Yeah, and not
Speaker 2: not in a pervy way, sure, right, but I would
Speaker 2: try to make the fo I would actually look at
Speaker 2: it as an opportunity to like, watch, I'm going to
Speaker 2: show her understanding I am, and then maybe I'll get
Speaker 2: to see him for real later, you know, I don't know.
Speaker 4: I asked my question because you know, Jul will be like,
Speaker 4: it's okay, pulls his pants down and the restaurant. Well,
Speaker 4: maybe we should talk to Damien. Yeah, see if he
Speaker 4: even saw it, Srina, you already know he's on the
Speaker 4: other line listening, so we'll just bring him on.
Speaker 2: Damien.
Speaker 6: Hey, uh yeah, I just want to go ahead and
Speaker 6: like clear the area. I had no idea that this happened, Like,
Speaker 6: honest to god, I had no.
Speaker 3: Idea, Are you serious? I know you said that.
Speaker 8: I like smiled and played it off, but like, I
Speaker 8: don't know if like I just wasn't looking like I
Speaker 8: feel like that's something I would have noticed.
Speaker 3: But I swear to god, I had no idea that
Speaker 3: that happened.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, does that make you feel better? Serena?
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, I mean it does. But I'm so sorry
Speaker 7: that I left.
Speaker 5: I just I was mortified. I just I just wanted
Speaker 5: the words of like, swallow me up. I was so
Speaker 5: horrified by it.
Speaker 6: Well, and I also just want to say that I
Speaker 6: thought that you looked like fantastic and I jumped it.
Speaker 3: It was you look incredible that night.
Speaker 7: Oh well, thank you. I'll never be wearing it again,
Speaker 7: but thank you.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 8: Like, I really had no idea, and I thought i'd like,
Speaker 8: I thought they're puzzled, Like when I finally realized you
Speaker 8: weren't coming back, I was like, man, what did I
Speaker 8: do that?
Speaker 3: Like really screwed up the state? And I thought it
Speaker 3: was I thought it was going really well. I thought
Speaker 3: we really connected.
Speaker 7: No, it really was, and it's just me.
Speaker 4: It was just me.
Speaker 5: I was just I couldn't. I felt like I couldn't
Speaker 5: come back from that, and I'm really sorry. I should
Speaker 5: have I should have said something, but I honestly felt
Speaker 5: like I couldn't even I couldn't even come back to
Speaker 5: the table after that.
Speaker 3: That's okay, I get I'm sure that's yeah.
Speaker 8: That would be really really tough to like try and
Speaker 8: cover up with if you thought that's what was going on,
Speaker 8: and I, yeah, I get it.
Speaker 2: You see, That's what I've noticed about, especially when things
Speaker 2: like that happen, people are self conscious about it because
Speaker 2: they know it happened. Yeah, but most of the time
Speaker 2: people aren't even checking for it and they didn't see
Speaker 2: it at all. Yeah.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I didn't know what to say.
Speaker 2: Hey, Serena, would you like another date with Damien now
Speaker 2: that you know he didn't see it and it wasn't
Speaker 2: awkward for him because he didn't even see it at all.
Speaker 2: And he's also really liked you and it's been wondering
Speaker 2: why you ran out.
Speaker 7: That would be great, absolutely sweet, Damien.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that sounds great.
Speaker 8: Yeah, let's uh, let's we go maybe like we'll go
Speaker 8: walk in the park and we can wear big sweatshirts
Speaker 8: or something so we don't have to worry about it.
Speaker 7: You know that'd be awesome. Thank you, Thank.
Speaker 3: You so much.
Speaker 4: You're so cute. Serena.
Speaker 7: Oh, thank you, guys. I really appreciate it so much better.
Speaker 7: I'm so sorry, Damon, I'm really not like that. I'm
Speaker 7: not I'm not.
Speaker 3: Just I'm looking forward to another thing all too.
Speaker 7: Thank you so much giving me another chance.
Speaker 3: You Will's first
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