WEBVTT - What You Know 'Bout Love? 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.120 Welcome to Canfully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:08.119 and the Black Effect. Nice little ass back there, Nice 0:00:08.200 --> 0:00:18.599 little ass back there, Oh ship, and we're back with 0:00:18.720 --> 0:00:22.480 another episode of Carefully Reckless, which your girl just hilarious. 0:00:22.520 --> 0:00:25.440 But this episode is not about me. This is about 0:00:25.520 --> 0:00:28.520 everybody in general who's ever been in a relationship but 0:00:28.680 --> 0:00:30.720 can't seem to get to the bottom of the problem 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:34.240 of why it doesn't work right. And especially these days, 0:00:34.240 --> 0:00:35.760 we see a lot of breakups, we see a lot 0:00:35.840 --> 0:00:38.760 of divorces. The rates are as high as they've ever been. 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:44.720 So grab your t because it's story time. Okay, So 0:00:44.800 --> 0:00:47.280 I once had a friend who started dating a guy. 0:00:47.520 --> 0:00:49.960 He was older. She was very, very attracted to him 0:00:50.000 --> 0:00:51.960 because she had never dated a guy like this before, 0:00:52.240 --> 0:00:54.720 not of his caliber and his status. He owned his 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:59.120 own businesses plural, His children were grown. Now she's my 0:00:59.240 --> 0:01:02.920 age twenty eight, so this is something new for her. Right. 0:01:03.200 --> 0:01:06.560 Everything was going fine. By his birthday, they had only 0:01:06.600 --> 0:01:09.960 been dating for about a month thirty days, and they 0:01:09.959 --> 0:01:12.280 went out of town, had a lovely trip. She took 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:14.600 him to dinner, she bought him some gifts, even playing 0:01:14.600 --> 0:01:17.600 a little surprise birthday party with some of his closest friends. 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:20.840 That's what the dinner entailed. Now, they took pictures at 0:01:20.840 --> 0:01:24.520 this dinner party, some kissing, some not, but they took pictures. Now, 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:27.120 women love to take pictures more than guys. That's just 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:29.119 what we love to do. We love a good selfie 0:01:29.200 --> 0:01:32.080 without man, or a good selfie by ourselves, but we 0:01:32.120 --> 0:01:35.200 love pictures. Doesn't matter, especially if we feel like we 0:01:35.240 --> 0:01:38.160 look good. That day, she took a picture, she posted 0:01:38.200 --> 0:01:40.600 it on her page. Now they've only been dating for 0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:42.920 thirty days, mind you, and she was fresh out of 0:01:42.959 --> 0:01:46.440 another relationship with the guy that she never posted. So 0:01:46.480 --> 0:01:49.360 this was like different behavior that I saw. I'm like, 0:01:49.400 --> 0:01:52.760 oh snap, she posted this guy cool. He had a 0:01:52.760 --> 0:01:55.160 problem with that, she told me. The day after. He 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:57.200 asked me to take it down. I noticed he got 0:01:57.200 --> 0:01:59.480 a little quiet. I said, all right, well, did you 0:01:59.520 --> 0:02:02.000 tell him that she were going to post him? And 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:05.120 she said no, I just did it. I said, damn, well, why, 0:02:05.600 --> 0:02:07.160 she saidcause I can do what I want. I mean, like, 0:02:07.400 --> 0:02:10.040 we've been going at it. We had a solid month, 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:13.639 Like although it's thirty days, it's been solid. It's great. 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:16.040 I spent every day with this man. I really really 0:02:16.040 --> 0:02:18.960 like him. He's into me. I'm into him, I said, okay, cool. 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:21.639 She didn't take the picture down. They got past it. 0:02:21.680 --> 0:02:24.400 A few days later, she comes over to his house 0:02:24.520 --> 0:02:27.120 to spend the night. She asked him, why didn't you 0:02:27.160 --> 0:02:29.880 post the picture, and he said, you posted enough for 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:32.800 all of us, Like you know, and I'm really, really 0:02:33.000 --> 0:02:35.520 a private person. I don't want my business out there 0:02:35.600 --> 0:02:37.600 right now. And then we've only been dating for a 0:02:37.720 --> 0:02:39.440 month or so, you know what I mean. I want 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:42.240 to make sure this is right before I put anything 0:02:42.560 --> 0:02:45.200 on social media. And then I'm a grown ass man. 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:47.560 Social media really don't matter to me. I really only 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:51.040 have social media for my business, to promote my business, 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:54.720 to reach my my customers, my markets. So they watched 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:56.640 the movie. She was quiet the whole night, she said. 0:02:56.800 --> 0:02:58.960 She admitted to me she had an attitude about this. 0:02:59.280 --> 0:03:02.360 He went to sleep. She went in his phone and 0:03:02.440 --> 0:03:06.320 posted the picture of them kissing on his page. She 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:08.160 went in his phone because I don't think you'll hurt me. 0:03:08.200 --> 0:03:11.080 Let me. Let me say it again. She went in 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:15.480 his phone as this man was lying there asleep, and 0:03:15.560 --> 0:03:20.400 posted the picture of them kissing on his page for him, 0:03:20.440 --> 0:03:23.400 and she hid his phone under the bed. He wakes 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:26.000 up early because he got to go to work. He's 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:28.320 looking for his phone. He wakes her up, Look, babe, 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:30.480 have you seen my phone? She's like, um, I don't know. 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:32.560 So he goes out to his car. He has two phones. 0:03:32.600 --> 0:03:33.880 He goes out to his car to see if he 0:03:33.960 --> 0:03:36.480 left that one in the car. While he's outside, she 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:38.240 reaches under the bed, gets the phone and puts it 0:03:38.320 --> 0:03:40.320 under the pillow, as if it was there all that time, 0:03:40.520 --> 0:03:43.520 Like this nigga didn't check under the pillow first before. 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:46.000 So he comes back in the house. She's like, oh, 0:03:46.280 --> 0:03:49.040 chuck under the pillow. He already knew, she said. He 0:03:49.120 --> 0:03:51.840 gave me that look, bitch that he already knew that 0:03:52.080 --> 0:03:53.760 I had had his phone. He just didn't know what 0:03:53.800 --> 0:03:56.960 I had done. Now he went on the social media. 0:03:57.000 --> 0:03:59.320 Of course he checked it, you know, amongst other things. 0:03:59.320 --> 0:04:02.520 He probably when you wake up anyway, regularly he gives 0:04:02.520 --> 0:04:05.800 her a look because he sees the picture. It's Hella comments, 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:08.320 Hella likes more than he has ever gotten before, because 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:10.600 this is something new to his followers too, which are 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:13.240 a lot of customers and old friends. By the way, 0:04:13.240 --> 0:04:15.360 like I said, he's an older guy, so this is 0:04:15.440 --> 0:04:18.279 kind of crazy. Now this guy was previously married. Well 0:04:18.320 --> 0:04:20.559 he is still married, but he was separated from his wife. 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:23.640 Still married, though still going through a fucking divorce. You 0:04:23.720 --> 0:04:25.640 understand what I'm saying. He tells her she needs to 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:28.080 get the funk up, she needs to leave, goodbye. She 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:30.799 starts arguing, She's not going anywhere. I'm not going anywhere. 0:04:30.920 --> 0:04:32.280 He's like, you're gonna get the funk out of here, 0:04:32.600 --> 0:04:34.760 or I'm called police. Real ship. She got the funk 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:36.520 out of here because she don't do police, all right, 0:04:36.800 --> 0:04:41.160 nobody wants to do fucking police. She leaves. She's upset, 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:43.240 she thinks about it. She calls me. She's like, Yo, 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:46.440 I don't think I'm gonna ever get this nigga back. Um. 0:04:46.560 --> 0:04:49.240 I just feel like he was hiding something because he 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:51.120 fucking deleted the picture as soon as he saw that 0:04:51.160 --> 0:04:53.679 I posted it. So I said, Yo, maybe he deleted 0:04:53.720 --> 0:04:55.680 the ship because he didn't post it. I said, damn, 0:04:55.720 --> 0:04:57.680 did you find anything in the phone. Did you go 0:04:57.800 --> 0:05:00.040 through the phone or was that you're only a and 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:03.159 that you post the picture so people can know about you. 0:05:03.400 --> 0:05:04.880 She said, I did go through it. I ain't gonna lie. 0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:06.400 I went through his DMS. I went through his Texas 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:08.240 and went through his call logue. See who we called, 0:05:08.240 --> 0:05:09.880 See who he was talking to, you see who he 0:05:09.960 --> 0:05:12.200 was talking to about what whatever? I said, Did you 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:14.479 find anything? She said, no, not really, nothing that I 0:05:14.520 --> 0:05:17.359 have to be worried about. No, not at all. I said, okay, 0:05:17.440 --> 0:05:19.920 and you still posted the picture? She said, yes. That 0:05:19.960 --> 0:05:22.280 made me want to post the picture even more because 0:05:22.320 --> 0:05:25.560 I didn't find anything. As dumb as that fucking sounded. 0:05:25.760 --> 0:05:27.720 I just let her keep on going. Now that's the 0:05:27.839 --> 0:05:30.839 end of that story. The thing about that situation to 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:33.880 me is she kept telling me that she didn't trust 0:05:33.920 --> 0:05:37.320 him because he snatched down the picture, insinuating that he 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:40.480 was hiding her from people, from other bitches that he 0:05:40.560 --> 0:05:43.479 might have had, or other females, or even not even 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:46.240 darning the fucking wife that's trying to take them for 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:49.839 everything anyway ship that she can use in court. They're separated, 0:05:50.200 --> 0:05:52.560 they're they're done, but they are still in the process 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:56.200 of divorcing. That's not an easy process. It's not easy 0:05:56.200 --> 0:05:58.440 and it's not cheap, you know what I mean, especially 0:05:58.720 --> 0:06:02.120 when you have a spite full spouse. So take it easy, 0:06:02.240 --> 0:06:03.919 is what I'm telling her. I said, listen, so you 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:07.159 don't trust him. But baby, now he can't trust you 0:06:07.400 --> 0:06:10.520 because you went in his phone. So like you now 0:06:10.560 --> 0:06:13.640 have the same problem where he did trust you at 0:06:13.640 --> 0:06:15.640 first until you gave him a reason not to. He 0:06:15.760 --> 0:06:18.000 never gave your reason not to trust him. You are 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:21.839 carrying baggage from your last relationship, from your past, probably 0:06:21.880 --> 0:06:24.479 even your childhood. Because she was my friend, so she 0:06:24.480 --> 0:06:26.680 would tell me about previous relationships, and none of what 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:29.160 she ever said she was cheated on in them. So 0:06:29.240 --> 0:06:32.839 this comes from somewhere else. This was deeply rooted. She 0:06:32.880 --> 0:06:37.200 has trust issues already, which is a sign of toxicity. 0:06:37.240 --> 0:06:41.000 That's very toxic for you to go in somebody's phone 0:06:41.040 --> 0:06:44.039 without their permission. He already, he already gave you the 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:46.160 password to the phone, because I asked, how the hell 0:06:46.200 --> 0:06:47.840 did you get in it, and she said, he gave 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:50.960 me the password. So you used that, the same thing 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:53.680 that he trusted you with. You used it. You used 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:57.160 it against him. You used it to be sneaky. That's conniving. 0:06:57.520 --> 0:07:00.240 You don't do that. So imagine what else you could 0:07:00.240 --> 0:07:03.200 have done. Imagine what else you can do. And he 0:07:03.240 --> 0:07:05.520 can see this now, he's seeing this. Now, that was 0:07:05.520 --> 0:07:08.800 a red flag. That's toxic. That's why a lot of 0:07:08.839 --> 0:07:13.239 relationships don't make it today. Now, the definition of toxic, 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:17.880 it means the quality of being poisonous. That was very poisonous. 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:21.200 You invaded the man's privacy. And I know a lot 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:23.720 of you that are listening has also done the same thing. Ship. 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:25.720 I don't even went through a gos phone, but I 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:29.240 have never went and posted myself. That's taking it a 0:07:29.280 --> 0:07:32.760 bit further than just going through his phone. Her goal 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:35.600 was to let everybody know that he has someone new 0:07:35.600 --> 0:07:37.680 in his life. He needs to tell people about me. 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:40.280 You want people to see that's something you can see. 0:07:40.280 --> 0:07:42.720 If people see it, they love it. People thrive off 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:47.160 of seeing other people's love, or seeing what somebody else has, 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:49.880 or because they were very nice and dressed up in 0:07:49.920 --> 0:07:52.920 the picture. She's very caught up on image, which is, 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:56.640 you know why we are no longer friends, amongst other reasons, 0:07:56.840 --> 0:08:01.280 but imagery. Imagery, that's what people will get lost these days. 0:08:01.760 --> 0:08:04.520 Because everybody wants to be goals. Everybody wants to make 0:08:04.560 --> 0:08:07.080 the explore page. Everybody wants to give somebody else something 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:10.960 to go oh ah about. She was looking for validation. 0:08:11.240 --> 0:08:16.000 Definition of validation recognition or affirmation that a person or 0:08:16.040 --> 0:08:20.200 their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile, the action 0:08:20.280 --> 0:08:24.040 of checking or proving the validity or accuracy of something. 0:08:24.680 --> 0:08:28.560 That's validation. A lot of people seek validation from others. 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:31.360 Will Really, you don't need anyone to validate your love 0:08:31.440 --> 0:08:34.760 for a person. You don't need it anyone to validate 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:37.960 how you feel inside about a person, because it's nobody business. 0:08:38.320 --> 0:08:40.520 You are the only person who is supposed to know. 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:43.800 There are supposed to be some type of sacred privacy 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:46.400 that you and your significant other, you and your meet 0:08:46.480 --> 0:08:50.839 you and your potential boyfriend or husband shares. You know 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:52.360 what I mean that y'all have to share, that you 0:08:52.480 --> 0:08:55.200 have to keep something sacred. Everything cannot be put out 0:08:55.400 --> 0:08:58.840 in the forefront. Especially today, social media has grown to 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:02.959 be a very very cruel place, a place where you 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:05.400 can say anything, a place where people hide behind their 0:09:05.400 --> 0:09:09.880 computers and their accounts, and they ridicule people. They bully people, 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:14.320 They make up lies, they try to defameing people's character, 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:19.600 They try to destroy and diminish reputations. Stop seeking validation. 0:09:19.720 --> 0:09:23.280 You don't need it. Get validation from God, whether this 0:09:23.400 --> 0:09:25.280 is the person that you're supposed to be with or not. 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:27.920 And if it's not that serious and you just want to, 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:31.360 you know, have sex with this person or you know anything, 0:09:31.440 --> 0:09:34.080 whatever tickles your fancy, whatever your goals is for this, 0:09:34.280 --> 0:09:36.440 be honest and put it on the table with that person. 0:09:36.720 --> 0:09:39.480 So you're you're giving that person a choice, because what 0:09:39.520 --> 0:09:41.920 if that person wants to get married, but you just 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:43.319 want to suck this person. You want this person to 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:46.120 be a fun buddy. That's why things shouldn't hit the internet, 0:09:46.800 --> 0:09:51.000 and if they do, not so fast. Another thing insecurities. 0:09:51.480 --> 0:09:55.720 She had insecurities. Okay, she is not firmly fixed. Being 0:09:55.720 --> 0:09:58.720 insecure is being uncertain and anxious at the same time. 0:09:58.920 --> 0:10:00.640 That is why a lot of really and ships don't 0:10:00.640 --> 0:10:04.520 make it as well. People try to ignore that they're 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:08.040 insecure and really still force themselves to try to love 0:10:08.080 --> 0:10:10.840 a lot of people are pretending that they're not. You 0:10:10.880 --> 0:10:13.960 have to fix yourself in order to go into a 0:10:14.040 --> 0:10:17.319 real relationship with somebody where you could wholeheartedly be yourself 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:20.679 and trust someone start to grow a bond. That's why 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:23.680 it's good to be friends first. Another thing that's really 0:10:23.720 --> 0:10:27.960 popular that people have made relationships based on these days. 0:10:28.520 --> 0:10:31.240 Sex Now a lot of women. They play around. You 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:33.520 know what I mean. I've done videos on Instagram about this. 0:10:33.800 --> 0:10:35.920 Say you're dealing with a guy. You meet him, you 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:39.160 have sex with him early, whatever it happens, you have 0:10:39.240 --> 0:10:41.160 sex with him the first two weeks that you're talking. 0:10:41.679 --> 0:10:44.680 It's bomb, It's good. His head is good. He makes 0:10:44.720 --> 0:10:48.559 you come more than once in ten minutes. Whatever. He 0:10:49.000 --> 0:10:53.920 tickles every oh, he hits every spot, makes you feel good, 0:10:54.160 --> 0:10:57.120 best sex you ever had. You automatically feel like, should 0:10:57.160 --> 0:10:59.400 we go together? I ain't letting this go? But what 0:10:59.520 --> 0:11:02.560 are the the qualities? You can't just settle for sex. 0:11:03.120 --> 0:11:07.800 He may be abusive, not only physically, may be mentally abusive. 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:11.760 He may be emotionally abusive. He may have baggage from 0:11:12.000 --> 0:11:15.840 other relationships as well. He may be broken as a 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:18.000 man because he didn't have his father around. What are 0:11:18.040 --> 0:11:20.679 his other qualities? Can he cook? Can he clean? Can 0:11:20.679 --> 0:11:23.640 he help take care of you? Now? Can he take 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:25.760 care of you? Can he help take care of your needs? 0:11:25.800 --> 0:11:28.479 You know what I'm saying? Um? Can he be affectionate? 0:11:29.280 --> 0:11:31.680 You know, because sex is is different. Affection is not 0:11:31.760 --> 0:11:35.360 only sex. Does he make you feel wanted? Do you 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:37.240 feel like the only girl in the world. When you're 0:11:37.320 --> 0:11:39.800 not having sex, when he's away from you, do you 0:11:39.800 --> 0:11:41.800 worry about is he with somebody else? It could be 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:44.520 bomb sex. But he's a cheater, he's a womanizer, he's 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:48.760 afraid of commitment. All types of things go into play 0:11:48.800 --> 0:11:53.360 when you're trying to really build a real relationship. Things 0:11:53.679 --> 0:11:57.520 that we have gotten away from that destroys our relationships 0:11:57.559 --> 0:12:00.480 these days, that they had some time go back in 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:04.600 a day. Communication. A lot of people are scared to communicate. 0:12:04.600 --> 0:12:06.880 That's why a lot of relationships fail. No one is 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:10.040 telling someone how they really feel. Communication, and honestly, it 0:12:10.080 --> 0:12:12.360 goes hand in hand. A lot of people do communicate, 0:12:12.480 --> 0:12:15.120 but they lie. A lot of relationships are built on 0:12:15.200 --> 0:12:19.120 lies loyalty. Not a lot of men and women know 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:23.640 the real definition of loyalty these days. Trust. If you 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:27.200 have trust, you can build if you trust someone. Now, 0:12:27.240 --> 0:12:29.440 trusting someone takes time. When we first meet a person, 0:12:29.640 --> 0:12:32.280 you have to at least give them a chance, you know, 0:12:32.440 --> 0:12:34.480 to try to trust. That's what a lot of people do. 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:37.080 They jump in these relationships knowing that they have these 0:12:37.160 --> 0:12:40.640 goddamn trust issues. You're not allowing someone to show you 0:12:40.679 --> 0:12:43.120 that you can't trust them. First, you can't go in 0:12:43.160 --> 0:12:47.560 to something banking on it not working because you're waiting 0:12:47.600 --> 0:12:50.719 for something to go wrong. You're so anxious and insecure 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:54.360 from your past that you're waiting for this man to 0:12:54.440 --> 0:12:57.000 do something wrong, or you're waiting for this woman to 0:12:57.080 --> 0:12:58.880 to step out because your ex wife did, or your 0:12:58.880 --> 0:13:00.600 ex girlfriend did, or you saw your mom do it 0:13:00.640 --> 0:13:02.120 to your dad. You know what I'm saying, I gotta 0:13:02.160 --> 0:13:04.679 get rid of the baggage. Also, like I said, affection, 0:13:04.840 --> 0:13:08.280 I'm talking about affection looking into your partner's eyes. On dates. 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:10.400 You go out to a restaurant nowadays, and people are 0:13:10.400 --> 0:13:12.280 on days, they're in their phones the whole time. Nobody 0:13:12.400 --> 0:13:15.960 is making eye contact when they're talking. Nobody is really 0:13:16.040 --> 0:13:19.800 into the person that they are with because they're so busy, 0:13:19.840 --> 0:13:23.000 both on social media showing each other. Oh look, look 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:24.920 at this, Look at this. Oh my god, can you 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:26.920 believe that? Oh my god, Tiny and t I got 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:29.760 into it this week. Oh my god, tyres just he 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:32.160 getting a divorce? Oh my god. You know you're so 0:13:32.240 --> 0:13:34.800 worried about other people's business. That's also a reason why 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:38.640 relationships fail. You're worried about everybody else and not each other. 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:41.040 That brings me to the segment of Just Fix My 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:43.560 Mess where I asked some of my fans and my 0:13:43.640 --> 0:13:47.040 followers to give me some of their personal dilemmas, their 0:13:47.120 --> 0:13:50.800 personal situations that I can kind of help them maneuver through. 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:53.320 So I posted on Instagram, what are some of the 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:57.839 main problems in relationships slash marriages these days? Giving experience 0:13:58.080 --> 0:14:02.560 of your own go under score underscore, Nikki says, everybody 0:14:02.600 --> 0:14:04.640 think they know everything and don't want to listen to 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:07.800 the other person. Also, it's so easy to find your 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:11.000 ex or someone who liked you online when you and 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:13.800 your bull are going through problems. So the quick fixes 0:14:13.880 --> 0:14:16.640 vent slash fuck someone else. Back in the day, you 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:19.600 couldn't jump online and swipe left. You didn't have booty 0:14:19.640 --> 0:14:22.440 ass and dick picks in two seconds. So y'all was mad, 0:14:22.600 --> 0:14:24.960 got over it and got back with each other. Now 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:29.600 it's who's next, Go Go, Go go, and Nikki, you 0:14:29.640 --> 0:14:31.760 are totally right. A lot of people do not like 0:14:32.160 --> 0:14:36.720 to listen to the other person. And then another thing accountability. 0:14:36.800 --> 0:14:39.120 It takes a great amount of dignity as a woman 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:42.360 to admit when you're wrong about something, to admit that 0:14:42.680 --> 0:14:46.560 you are insecure to lay your flaws out there and say, look, 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:49.720 I am sucked up. So sorry, I've been sucked over before, 0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:51.360 but I do love you and I want this to work. 0:14:51.520 --> 0:14:53.320 You just have to help me. You have to bear 0:14:53.360 --> 0:14:55.320 with me. We have to work and build this together. 0:14:55.520 --> 0:14:59.480 That's accountability, that's honesty, that's communication. So you are so right, 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:03.560 NICKI lead Box on Instagram Instagram name Already Box Jr. 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:07.680 Says my wife is not nasty enough. You won't have 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:09.680 a wife after this because you did not tell me 0:15:09.720 --> 0:15:13.720 you want you wanted to remain anonymous. I hope Mrs 0:15:13.800 --> 0:15:17.200 Already Box Junior ain't ain't gonna hit is um. But 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:21.280 let's get into her being not nasty enough for you. 0:15:21.720 --> 0:15:25.240 Does she do other things with her other qualities? Because listen, 0:15:25.240 --> 0:15:27.480 this is what I always say. You don't let someone 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:30.320 go because they can't do one thing. You can work 0:15:30.320 --> 0:15:32.120 with them. You can teach them, Teach her how to 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:35.240 be nasty, tell her what you like. Compromises a very 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:39.120 important factor in relationships and marriages. She has to be 0:15:39.160 --> 0:15:41.240 willing to compromise if that's the only thing that you 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:43.400 don't like about her, But that cannot be a deal 0:15:43.400 --> 0:15:46.280 breaker because she's not nasty enough as you can, Babe, 0:15:46.320 --> 0:15:48.000 you want to watch Plaulin with me, Let's do some 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:51.280 some role play. Let's let let let me do whatever, 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:53.600 find out what she likes, tell her to come into 0:15:53.640 --> 0:15:57.800 your world now already. I'm not saying that you shouldn't 0:15:57.840 --> 0:16:01.000 be honest enough to express this, because yeah, you should. 0:16:01.160 --> 0:16:04.480 That cannot be why you stepped out. If you did, 0:16:04.520 --> 0:16:06.320 I'm not saying you did. Maybe you did, maybe you 0:16:06.360 --> 0:16:08.880 did not, But I know you think about it because 0:16:09.120 --> 0:16:12.720 you're a man. And if she's not nasty enough, there 0:16:12.720 --> 0:16:15.640 are women who are, but you can't get into that. 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:18.440 You have to teach your wife how to please you 0:16:18.840 --> 0:16:21.480 as she can teach you how to please her. And 0:16:21.560 --> 0:16:23.600 you have to be willing to go that extra mouth 0:16:23.640 --> 0:16:26.160 for your mate, for your husband, for your wife. That's 0:16:26.160 --> 0:16:29.960 how you keep your wife. It's easy getting married, It's 0:16:30.160 --> 0:16:33.880 hard keeping the person that you're married to. It's hard 0:16:34.360 --> 0:16:39.000 staying married after a certain point of marriage. Okay. Maria 0:16:39.120 --> 0:16:44.680 Henriquez Tall Underscore and Underscore Fabulous on Instagram says Jet 0:16:44.840 --> 0:16:47.600 doesn't work and isn't looking for a job. Talks to 0:16:47.680 --> 0:16:50.480 other women on social media while I bust my ass 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:53.480 at work in school, oh, she gave me the nigga's name. 0:16:53.480 --> 0:16:55.440 I hope this is that that's what she did. She 0:16:55.560 --> 0:16:58.960 and this is not a misspelling. But um okay, Jit, 0:16:59.080 --> 0:17:02.200 get your ship together. A matter of fact, funk that hey, 0:17:02.320 --> 0:17:04.639 you ready for you? Baby? Leave his ans. Honestly, I 0:17:04.960 --> 0:17:08.320 feel like you. You're a woman, and obviously, if you're 0:17:08.359 --> 0:17:10.639 in a relationship, you should not feel single. Do you 0:17:10.720 --> 0:17:13.800 understand what I'm saying? You should not feel single, You 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:17.840 should not feel alone in your relationship. You should not 0:17:17.920 --> 0:17:21.840 feel lonely in your relationship. So Jit need to hit 0:17:21.840 --> 0:17:24.880 the motherfucking role. Jack and Maria. I'm looking at you 0:17:25.040 --> 0:17:27.680 on Instagram and you are beautiful and you and and 0:17:27.720 --> 0:17:30.040 your Instagram name is tall and fabulous girl. Get you 0:17:30.119 --> 0:17:34.280 a taller and a taller and fabulous man. Fuck a Jit, 0:17:34.680 --> 0:17:37.760 he don't work any motherfucking way. Girl should last one. 0:17:37.760 --> 0:17:41.560 I'm gonna read fat boy underscore, BENI says, funk all 0:17:41.560 --> 0:17:45.000 that what you're trying do? I'm trying fuck in your voice? 0:17:45.320 --> 0:17:48.320 Wait a minute, so this is why niggas can never 0:17:48.359 --> 0:17:51.119 participate in ship. I ain't trying to fuck you, fat 0:17:51.160 --> 0:17:54.679 boy Benji. Come on now, ship, let me go to 0:17:54.760 --> 0:17:57.920 your page. Because no, I'm at the road. Shot Ah. 0:17:57.960 --> 0:18:00.240 You got a nerve to have your page open first 0:18:00.240 --> 0:18:03.120 of all, and you look like Florida Evans, a fat 0:18:03.160 --> 0:18:06.600 ass Florida Evans with a smaller bush. Get your ass 0:18:06.640 --> 0:18:08.520 out of here kind of time for this ship. That's 0:18:08.520 --> 0:18:11.359 why you can't give Nigga's nothing to participate in this. 0:18:11.440 --> 0:18:14.359 Nigga looked like he invented detention. Get on my fucking nerves. 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:18.600 So I need everybody except fat boy Benji. Everybody's story 0:18:18.680 --> 0:18:20.200 that I just read off. Y'all need to go back 0:18:20.200 --> 0:18:25.640 and evaluate yourselves first. The guy who's not satisfied with 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:28.159 his sex life in his marriage because his wife is 0:18:28.200 --> 0:18:32.320 not nasty enough, re evaluate yourself. Go sit down with 0:18:32.400 --> 0:18:35.320 your wife and talk to her about that ship. And 0:18:35.359 --> 0:18:38.120 if there's no resolution, then you take the next step. 0:18:38.160 --> 0:18:39.920 Then you'd be honest with her and you say, look, 0:18:39.920 --> 0:18:41.320 if I'm not getting here, I have to go get 0:18:41.359 --> 0:18:43.399 it somewhere else. I'm a man. You have to You 0:18:43.440 --> 0:18:45.280 have to cater to me. We have a covenant, we 0:18:45.359 --> 0:18:47.200 set our vows. This is a marriage. This is not 0:18:47.280 --> 0:18:50.840 a girlfriend a boyfriend situation. You have to compromise, confide 0:18:50.840 --> 0:18:53.240 in her, talk to her, Nikki, you are so right. 0:18:53.320 --> 0:18:56.680 People have to take accountability and when something is not working, 0:18:57.119 --> 0:18:59.480 sit down and talk about it and get back right 0:18:59.520 --> 0:19:01.120 with each other. That don't go look for the next 0:19:01.160 --> 0:19:03.480 best thing because you might catch something out there. Ain't 0:19:03.520 --> 0:19:06.720 nothing out there with a whole bunch of COVID and STDs. 0:19:07.000 --> 0:19:09.560 Don't because I'm telling you another thing that is more 0:19:09.640 --> 0:19:14.000 popular than breakups and divorces these days, raw sex. The 0:19:14.240 --> 0:19:17.720 STD statistics are at all time high. I'm talking about 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:23.760 like COVID, strap up, protect yourself, Maria, do better because 0:19:23.800 --> 0:19:27.160 you know better and you deserve better. Now let's kick 0:19:27.160 --> 0:19:30.840 it over to current news. Sage, the Gemini and super 0:19:30.880 --> 0:19:35.400 Scent are broken up. Now listen these too. We're so 0:19:35.480 --> 0:19:37.040 fucking cute to me. I don't give a funk When 0:19:37.080 --> 0:19:40.160 nobody's saying the comments with I, I don't care. They 0:19:40.200 --> 0:19:43.960 were cute as ship. I love Supercent. That's my baby, Sage, 0:19:44.400 --> 0:19:46.440 you fucking trod it and I'm gonna slap the ship 0:19:46.520 --> 0:19:47.960 out you when I see you. Nigga, I want to 0:19:48.000 --> 0:19:50.679 fade and my best ras B voice. Nigga. Now I know, 0:19:50.680 --> 0:19:52.600 I ain't no violence, ship, I ain't no straight, I 0:19:52.600 --> 0:19:54.760 ain't no street ship. But when I see you, I'm 0:19:54.840 --> 0:19:58.720 slapping the ship out period. Now that that's out my system, 0:19:58.760 --> 0:20:01.800 because Supercent is my girl. She's real. She's she's a 0:20:02.840 --> 0:20:05.320 single mother, you know what I mean. Not saying she 0:20:05.400 --> 0:20:07.480 doesn't have help with her babies, because I don't know 0:20:07.560 --> 0:20:10.359