Speaker 1: Welcome to Canfully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio
Speaker 1: and the Black Effect. Nice little ass back there, Nice
Speaker 1: little ass back there, Oh ship, and we're back with
Speaker 1: another episode of Carefully Reckless, which your girl just hilarious.
Speaker 1: But this episode is not about me. This is about
Speaker 1: everybody in general who's ever been in a relationship but
Speaker 1: can't seem to get to the bottom of the problem
Speaker 1: of why it doesn't work right. And especially these days,
Speaker 1: we see a lot of breakups, we see a lot
Speaker 1: of divorces. The rates are as high as they've ever been.
Speaker 1: So grab your t because it's story time. Okay, So
Speaker 1: I once had a friend who started dating a guy.
Speaker 1: He was older. She was very, very attracted to him
Speaker 1: because she had never dated a guy like this before,
Speaker 1: not of his caliber and his status. He owned his
Speaker 1: own businesses plural, His children were grown. Now she's my
Speaker 1: age twenty eight, so this is something new for her. Right.
Speaker 1: Everything was going fine. By his birthday, they had only
Speaker 1: been dating for about a month thirty days, and they
Speaker 1: went out of town, had a lovely trip. She took
Speaker 1: him to dinner, she bought him some gifts, even playing
Speaker 1: a little surprise birthday party with some of his closest friends.
Speaker 1: That's what the dinner entailed. Now, they took pictures at
Speaker 1: this dinner party, some kissing, some not, but they took pictures. Now,
Speaker 1: women love to take pictures more than guys. That's just
Speaker 1: what we love to do. We love a good selfie
Speaker 1: without man, or a good selfie by ourselves, but we
Speaker 1: love pictures. Doesn't matter, especially if we feel like we
Speaker 1: look good. That day, she took a picture, she posted
Speaker 1: it on her page. Now they've only been dating for
Speaker 1: thirty days, mind you, and she was fresh out of
Speaker 1: another relationship with the guy that she never posted. So
Speaker 1: this was like different behavior that I saw. I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh snap, she posted this guy cool. He had a
Speaker 1: problem with that, she told me. The day after. He
Speaker 1: asked me to take it down. I noticed he got
Speaker 1: a little quiet. I said, all right, well, did you
Speaker 1: tell him that she were going to post him? And
Speaker 1: she said no, I just did it. I said, damn, well, why,
Speaker 1: she saidcause I can do what I want. I mean, like,
Speaker 1: we've been going at it. We had a solid month,
Speaker 1: Like although it's thirty days, it's been solid. It's great.
Speaker 1: I spent every day with this man. I really really
Speaker 1: like him. He's into me. I'm into him, I said, okay, cool.
Speaker 1: She didn't take the picture down. They got past it.
Speaker 1: A few days later, she comes over to his house
Speaker 1: to spend the night. She asked him, why didn't you
Speaker 1: post the picture, and he said, you posted enough for
Speaker 1: all of us, Like you know, and I'm really, really
Speaker 1: a private person. I don't want my business out there
Speaker 1: right now. And then we've only been dating for a
Speaker 1: month or so, you know what I mean. I want
Speaker 1: to make sure this is right before I put anything
Speaker 1: on social media. And then I'm a grown ass man.
Speaker 1: Social media really don't matter to me. I really only
Speaker 1: have social media for my business, to promote my business,
Speaker 1: to reach my my customers, my markets. So they watched
Speaker 1: the movie. She was quiet the whole night, she said.
Speaker 1: She admitted to me she had an attitude about this.
Speaker 1: He went to sleep. She went in his phone and
Speaker 1: posted the picture of them kissing on his page. She
Speaker 1: went in his phone because I don't think you'll hurt me.
Speaker 1: Let me. Let me say it again. She went in
Speaker 1: his phone as this man was lying there asleep, and
Speaker 1: posted the picture of them kissing on his page for him,
Speaker 1: and she hid his phone under the bed. He wakes
Speaker 1: up early because he got to go to work. He's
Speaker 1: looking for his phone. He wakes her up, Look, babe,
Speaker 1: have you seen my phone? She's like, um, I don't know.
Speaker 1: So he goes out to his car. He has two phones.
Speaker 1: He goes out to his car to see if he
Speaker 1: left that one in the car. While he's outside, she
Speaker 1: reaches under the bed, gets the phone and puts it
Speaker 1: under the pillow, as if it was there all that time,
Speaker 1: Like this nigga didn't check under the pillow first before.
Speaker 1: So he comes back in the house. She's like, oh,
Speaker 1: chuck under the pillow. He already knew, she said. He
Speaker 1: gave me that look, bitch that he already knew that
Speaker 1: I had had his phone. He just didn't know what
Speaker 1: I had done. Now he went on the social media.
Speaker 1: Of course he checked it, you know, amongst other things.
Speaker 1: He probably when you wake up anyway, regularly he gives
Speaker 1: her a look because he sees the picture. It's Hella comments,
Speaker 1: Hella likes more than he has ever gotten before, because
Speaker 1: this is something new to his followers too, which are
Speaker 1: a lot of customers and old friends. By the way,
Speaker 1: like I said, he's an older guy, so this is
Speaker 1: kind of crazy. Now this guy was previously married. Well
Speaker 1: he is still married, but he was separated from his wife.
Speaker 1: Still married, though still going through a fucking divorce. You
Speaker 1: understand what I'm saying. He tells her she needs to
Speaker 1: get the funk up, she needs to leave, goodbye. She
Speaker 1: starts arguing, She's not going anywhere. I'm not going anywhere.
Speaker 1: He's like, you're gonna get the funk out of here,
Speaker 1: or I'm called police. Real ship. She got the funk
Speaker 1: out of here because she don't do police, all right,
Speaker 1: nobody wants to do fucking police. She leaves. She's upset,
Speaker 1: she thinks about it. She calls me. She's like, Yo,
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm gonna ever get this nigga back. Um.
Speaker 1: I just feel like he was hiding something because he
Speaker 1: fucking deleted the picture as soon as he saw that
Speaker 1: I posted it. So I said, Yo, maybe he deleted
Speaker 1: the ship because he didn't post it. I said, damn,
Speaker 1: did you find anything in the phone. Did you go
Speaker 1: through the phone or was that you're only a and
Speaker 1: that you post the picture so people can know about you.
Speaker 1: She said, I did go through it. I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I went through his DMS. I went through his Texas
Speaker 1: and went through his call logue. See who we called,
Speaker 1: See who he was talking to, you see who he
Speaker 1: was talking to about what whatever? I said, Did you
Speaker 1: find anything? She said, no, not really, nothing that I
Speaker 1: have to be worried about. No, not at all. I said, okay,
Speaker 1: and you still posted the picture? She said, yes. That
Speaker 1: made me want to post the picture even more because
Speaker 1: I didn't find anything. As dumb as that fucking sounded.
Speaker 1: I just let her keep on going. Now that's the
Speaker 1: end of that story. The thing about that situation to
Speaker 1: me is she kept telling me that she didn't trust
Speaker 1: him because he snatched down the picture, insinuating that he
Speaker 1: was hiding her from people, from other bitches that he
Speaker 1: might have had, or other females, or even not even
Speaker 1: darning the fucking wife that's trying to take them for
Speaker 1: everything anyway ship that she can use in court. They're separated,
Speaker 1: they're they're done, but they are still in the process
Speaker 1: of divorcing. That's not an easy process. It's not easy
Speaker 1: and it's not cheap, you know what I mean, especially
Speaker 1: when you have a spite full spouse. So take it easy,
Speaker 1: is what I'm telling her. I said, listen, so you
Speaker 1: don't trust him. But baby, now he can't trust you
Speaker 1: because you went in his phone. So like you now
Speaker 1: have the same problem where he did trust you at
Speaker 1: first until you gave him a reason not to. He
Speaker 1: never gave your reason not to trust him. You are
Speaker 1: carrying baggage from your last relationship, from your past, probably
Speaker 1: even your childhood. Because she was my friend, so she
Speaker 1: would tell me about previous relationships, and none of what
Speaker 1: she ever said she was cheated on in them. So
Speaker 1: this comes from somewhere else. This was deeply rooted. She
Speaker 1: has trust issues already, which is a sign of toxicity.
Speaker 1: That's very toxic for you to go in somebody's phone
Speaker 1: without their permission. He already, he already gave you the
Speaker 1: password to the phone, because I asked, how the hell
Speaker 1: did you get in it, and she said, he gave
Speaker 1: me the password. So you used that, the same thing
Speaker 1: that he trusted you with. You used it. You used
Speaker 1: it against him. You used it to be sneaky. That's conniving.
Speaker 1: You don't do that. So imagine what else you could
Speaker 1: have done. Imagine what else you can do. And he
Speaker 1: can see this now, he's seeing this. Now, that was
Speaker 1: a red flag. That's toxic. That's why a lot of
Speaker 1: relationships don't make it today. Now, the definition of toxic,
Speaker 1: it means the quality of being poisonous. That was very poisonous.
Speaker 1: You invaded the man's privacy. And I know a lot
Speaker 1: of you that are listening has also done the same thing. Ship.
Speaker 1: I don't even went through a gos phone, but I
Speaker 1: have never went and posted myself. That's taking it a
Speaker 1: bit further than just going through his phone. Her goal
Speaker 1: was to let everybody know that he has someone new
Speaker 1: in his life. He needs to tell people about me.
Speaker 1: You want people to see that's something you can see.
Speaker 1: If people see it, they love it. People thrive off
Speaker 1: of seeing other people's love, or seeing what somebody else has,
Speaker 1: or because they were very nice and dressed up in
Speaker 1: the picture. She's very caught up on image, which is,
Speaker 1: you know why we are no longer friends, amongst other reasons,
Speaker 1: but imagery. Imagery, that's what people will get lost these days.
Speaker 1: Because everybody wants to be goals. Everybody wants to make
Speaker 1: the explore page. Everybody wants to give somebody else something
Speaker 1: to go oh ah about. She was looking for validation.
Speaker 1: Definition of validation recognition or affirmation that a person or
Speaker 1: their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile, the action
Speaker 1: of checking or proving the validity or accuracy of something.
Speaker 1: That's validation. A lot of people seek validation from others.
Speaker 1: Will Really, you don't need anyone to validate your love
Speaker 1: for a person. You don't need it anyone to validate
Speaker 1: how you feel inside about a person, because it's nobody business.
Speaker 1: You are the only person who is supposed to know.
Speaker 1: There are supposed to be some type of sacred privacy
Speaker 1: that you and your significant other, you and your meet
Speaker 1: you and your potential boyfriend or husband shares. You know
Speaker 1: what I mean that y'all have to share, that you
Speaker 1: have to keep something sacred. Everything cannot be put out
Speaker 1: in the forefront. Especially today, social media has grown to
Speaker 1: be a very very cruel place, a place where you
Speaker 1: can say anything, a place where people hide behind their
Speaker 1: computers and their accounts, and they ridicule people. They bully people,
Speaker 1: They make up lies, they try to defameing people's character,
Speaker 1: They try to destroy and diminish reputations. Stop seeking validation.
Speaker 1: You don't need it. Get validation from God, whether this
Speaker 1: is the person that you're supposed to be with or not.
Speaker 1: And if it's not that serious and you just want to,
Speaker 1: you know, have sex with this person or you know anything,
Speaker 1: whatever tickles your fancy, whatever your goals is for this,
Speaker 1: be honest and put it on the table with that person.
Speaker 1: So you're you're giving that person a choice, because what
Speaker 1: if that person wants to get married, but you just
Speaker 1: want to suck this person. You want this person to
Speaker 1: be a fun buddy. That's why things shouldn't hit the internet,
Speaker 1: and if they do, not so fast. Another thing insecurities.
Speaker 1: She had insecurities. Okay, she is not firmly fixed. Being
Speaker 1: insecure is being uncertain and anxious at the same time.
Speaker 1: That is why a lot of really and ships don't
Speaker 1: make it as well. People try to ignore that they're
Speaker 1: insecure and really still force themselves to try to love
Speaker 1: a lot of people are pretending that they're not. You
Speaker 1: have to fix yourself in order to go into a
Speaker 1: real relationship with somebody where you could wholeheartedly be yourself
Speaker 1: and trust someone start to grow a bond. That's why
Speaker 1: it's good to be friends first. Another thing that's really
Speaker 1: popular that people have made relationships based on these days.
Speaker 1: Sex Now a lot of women. They play around. You
Speaker 1: know what I mean. I've done videos on Instagram about this.
Speaker 1: Say you're dealing with a guy. You meet him, you
Speaker 1: have sex with him early, whatever it happens, you have
Speaker 1: sex with him the first two weeks that you're talking.
Speaker 1: It's bomb, It's good. His head is good. He makes
Speaker 1: you come more than once in ten minutes. Whatever. He
Speaker 1: tickles every oh, he hits every spot, makes you feel good,
Speaker 1: best sex you ever had. You automatically feel like, should
Speaker 1: we go together? I ain't letting this go? But what
Speaker 1: are the the qualities? You can't just settle for sex.
Speaker 1: He may be abusive, not only physically, may be mentally abusive.
Speaker 1: He may be emotionally abusive. He may have baggage from
Speaker 1: other relationships as well. He may be broken as a
Speaker 1: man because he didn't have his father around. What are
Speaker 1: his other qualities? Can he cook? Can he clean? Can
Speaker 1: he help take care of you? Now? Can he take
Speaker 1: care of you? Can he help take care of your needs?
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? Um? Can he be affectionate?
Speaker 1: You know, because sex is is different. Affection is not
Speaker 1: only sex. Does he make you feel wanted? Do you
Speaker 1: feel like the only girl in the world. When you're
Speaker 1: not having sex, when he's away from you, do you
Speaker 1: worry about is he with somebody else? It could be
Speaker 1: bomb sex. But he's a cheater, he's a womanizer, he's
Speaker 1: afraid of commitment. All types of things go into play
Speaker 1: when you're trying to really build a real relationship. Things
Speaker 1: that we have gotten away from that destroys our relationships
Speaker 1: these days, that they had some time go back in
Speaker 1: a day. Communication. A lot of people are scared to communicate.
Speaker 1: That's why a lot of relationships fail. No one is
Speaker 1: telling someone how they really feel. Communication, and honestly, it
Speaker 1: goes hand in hand. A lot of people do communicate,
Speaker 1: but they lie. A lot of relationships are built on
Speaker 1: lies loyalty. Not a lot of men and women know
Speaker 1: the real definition of loyalty these days. Trust. If you
Speaker 1: have trust, you can build if you trust someone. Now,
Speaker 1: trusting someone takes time. When we first meet a person,
Speaker 1: you have to at least give them a chance, you know,
Speaker 1: to try to trust. That's what a lot of people do.
Speaker 1: They jump in these relationships knowing that they have these
Speaker 1: goddamn trust issues. You're not allowing someone to show you
Speaker 1: that you can't trust them. First, you can't go in
Speaker 1: to something banking on it not working because you're waiting
Speaker 1: for something to go wrong. You're so anxious and insecure
Speaker 1: from your past that you're waiting for this man to
Speaker 1: do something wrong, or you're waiting for this woman to
Speaker 1: to step out because your ex wife did, or your
Speaker 1: ex girlfriend did, or you saw your mom do it
Speaker 1: to your dad. You know what I'm saying, I gotta
Speaker 1: get rid of the baggage. Also, like I said, affection,
Speaker 1: I'm talking about affection looking into your partner's eyes. On dates.
Speaker 1: You go out to a restaurant nowadays, and people are
Speaker 1: on days, they're in their phones the whole time. Nobody
Speaker 1: is making eye contact when they're talking. Nobody is really
Speaker 1: into the person that they are with because they're so busy,
Speaker 1: both on social media showing each other. Oh look, look
Speaker 1: at this, Look at this. Oh my god, can you
Speaker 1: believe that? Oh my god, Tiny and t I got
Speaker 1: into it this week. Oh my god, tyres just he
Speaker 1: getting a divorce? Oh my god. You know you're so
Speaker 1: worried about other people's business. That's also a reason why
Speaker 1: relationships fail. You're worried about everybody else and not each other.
Speaker 1: That brings me to the segment of Just Fix My
Speaker 1: Mess where I asked some of my fans and my
Speaker 1: followers to give me some of their personal dilemmas, their
Speaker 1: personal situations that I can kind of help them maneuver through.
Speaker 1: So I posted on Instagram, what are some of the
Speaker 1: main problems in relationships slash marriages these days? Giving experience
Speaker 1: of your own go under score underscore, Nikki says, everybody
Speaker 1: think they know everything and don't want to listen to
Speaker 1: the other person. Also, it's so easy to find your
Speaker 1: ex or someone who liked you online when you and
Speaker 1: your bull are going through problems. So the quick fixes
Speaker 1: vent slash fuck someone else. Back in the day, you
Speaker 1: couldn't jump online and swipe left. You didn't have booty
Speaker 1: ass and dick picks in two seconds. So y'all was mad,
Speaker 1: got over it and got back with each other. Now
Speaker 1: it's who's next, Go Go, Go go, and Nikki, you
Speaker 1: are totally right. A lot of people do not like
Speaker 1: to listen to the other person. And then another thing accountability.
Speaker 1: It takes a great amount of dignity as a woman
Speaker 1: to admit when you're wrong about something, to admit that
Speaker 1: you are insecure to lay your flaws out there and say, look,
Speaker 1: I am sucked up. So sorry, I've been sucked over before,
Speaker 1: but I do love you and I want this to work.
Speaker 1: You just have to help me. You have to bear
Speaker 1: with me. We have to work and build this together.
Speaker 1: That's accountability, that's honesty, that's communication. So you are so right,
Speaker 1: NICKI lead Box on Instagram Instagram name Already Box Jr.
Speaker 1: Says my wife is not nasty enough. You won't have
Speaker 1: a wife after this because you did not tell me
Speaker 1: you want you wanted to remain anonymous. I hope Mrs
Speaker 1: Already Box Junior ain't ain't gonna hit is um. But
Speaker 1: let's get into her being not nasty enough for you.
Speaker 1: Does she do other things with her other qualities? Because listen,
Speaker 1: this is what I always say. You don't let someone
Speaker 1: go because they can't do one thing. You can work
Speaker 1: with them. You can teach them, Teach her how to
Speaker 1: be nasty, tell her what you like. Compromises a very
Speaker 1: important factor in relationships and marriages. She has to be
Speaker 1: willing to compromise if that's the only thing that you
Speaker 1: don't like about her, But that cannot be a deal
Speaker 1: breaker because she's not nasty enough as you can, Babe,
Speaker 1: you want to watch Plaulin with me, Let's do some
Speaker 1: some role play. Let's let let let me do whatever,
Speaker 1: find out what she likes, tell her to come into
Speaker 1: your world now already. I'm not saying that you shouldn't
Speaker 1: be honest enough to express this, because yeah, you should.
Speaker 1: That cannot be why you stepped out. If you did,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying you did. Maybe you did, maybe you
Speaker 1: did not, But I know you think about it because
Speaker 1: you're a man. And if she's not nasty enough, there
Speaker 1: are women who are, but you can't get into that.
Speaker 1: You have to teach your wife how to please you
Speaker 1: as she can teach you how to please her. And
Speaker 1: you have to be willing to go that extra mouth
Speaker 1: for your mate, for your husband, for your wife. That's
Speaker 1: how you keep your wife. It's easy getting married, It's
Speaker 1: hard keeping the person that you're married to. It's hard
Speaker 1: staying married after a certain point of marriage. Okay. Maria
Speaker 1: Henriquez Tall Underscore and Underscore Fabulous on Instagram says Jet
Speaker 1: doesn't work and isn't looking for a job. Talks to
Speaker 1: other women on social media while I bust my ass
Speaker 1: at work in school, oh, she gave me the nigga's name.
Speaker 1: I hope this is that that's what she did. She
Speaker 1: and this is not a misspelling. But um okay, Jit,
Speaker 1: get your ship together. A matter of fact, funk that hey,
Speaker 1: you ready for you? Baby? Leave his ans. Honestly, I
Speaker 1: feel like you. You're a woman, and obviously, if you're
Speaker 1: in a relationship, you should not feel single. Do you
Speaker 1: understand what I'm saying? You should not feel single, You
Speaker 1: should not feel alone in your relationship. You should not
Speaker 1: feel lonely in your relationship. So Jit need to hit
Speaker 1: the motherfucking role. Jack and Maria. I'm looking at you
Speaker 1: on Instagram and you are beautiful and you and and
Speaker 1: your Instagram name is tall and fabulous girl. Get you
Speaker 1: a taller and a taller and fabulous man. Fuck a Jit,
Speaker 1: he don't work any motherfucking way. Girl should last one.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna read fat boy underscore, BENI says, funk all
Speaker 1: that what you're trying do? I'm trying fuck in your voice?
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, so this is why niggas can never
Speaker 1: participate in ship. I ain't trying to fuck you, fat
Speaker 1: boy Benji. Come on now, ship, let me go to
Speaker 1: your page. Because no, I'm at the road. Shot Ah.
Speaker 1: You got a nerve to have your page open first
Speaker 1: of all, and you look like Florida Evans, a fat
Speaker 1: ass Florida Evans with a smaller bush. Get your ass
Speaker 1: out of here kind of time for this ship. That's
Speaker 1: why you can't give Nigga's nothing to participate in this.
Speaker 1: Nigga looked like he invented detention. Get on my fucking nerves.
Speaker 1: So I need everybody except fat boy Benji. Everybody's story
Speaker 1: that I just read off. Y'all need to go back
Speaker 1: and evaluate yourselves first. The guy who's not satisfied with
Speaker 1: his sex life in his marriage because his wife is
Speaker 1: not nasty enough, re evaluate yourself. Go sit down with
Speaker 1: your wife and talk to her about that ship. And
Speaker 1: if there's no resolution, then you take the next step.
Speaker 1: Then you'd be honest with her and you say, look,
Speaker 1: if I'm not getting here, I have to go get
Speaker 1: it somewhere else. I'm a man. You have to You
Speaker 1: have to cater to me. We have a covenant, we
Speaker 1: set our vows. This is a marriage. This is not
Speaker 1: a girlfriend a boyfriend situation. You have to compromise, confide
Speaker 1: in her, talk to her, Nikki, you are so right.
Speaker 1: People have to take accountability and when something is not working,
Speaker 1: sit down and talk about it and get back right
Speaker 1: with each other. That don't go look for the next
Speaker 1: best thing because you might catch something out there. Ain't
Speaker 1: nothing out there with a whole bunch of COVID and STDs.
Speaker 1: Don't because I'm telling you another thing that is more
Speaker 1: popular than breakups and divorces these days, raw sex. The
Speaker 1: STD statistics are at all time high. I'm talking about
Speaker 1: like COVID, strap up, protect yourself, Maria, do better because
Speaker 1: you know better and you deserve better. Now let's kick
Speaker 1: it over to current news. Sage, the Gemini and super
Speaker 1: Scent are broken up. Now listen these too. We're so
Speaker 1: fucking cute to me. I don't give a funk When
Speaker 1: nobody's saying the comments with I, I don't care. They
Speaker 1: were cute as ship. I love Supercent. That's my baby, Sage,
Speaker 1: you fucking trod it and I'm gonna slap the ship
Speaker 1: out you when I see you. Nigga, I want to
Speaker 1: fade and my best ras B voice. Nigga. Now I know,
Speaker 1: I ain't no violence, ship, I ain't no straight, I
Speaker 1: ain't no street ship. But when I see you, I'm
Speaker 1: slapping the ship out period. Now that that's out my system,
Speaker 1: because Supercent is my girl. She's real. She's she's a
Speaker 1: single mother, you know what I mean. Not saying she
Speaker 1: doesn't have help with her babies, because I don't know
Speaker 1: that to confirm that, but she's a hard working, fucking
Speaker 1: mother and she is now single. But they have been
Speaker 1: in love and been looking very much in love for
Speaker 1: the past two three months now, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: And I've been loving it. It's nice to see a
Speaker 1: black couple, a black woman who feels appreciated after feeling depreciated,
Speaker 1: that revivement of yourself, that spring cleaning of a bad nigga,
Speaker 1: and then it comes another one that makes you blossom,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. That's what she was showing us.
Speaker 1: Only to have now been broken up with this nick
Speaker 1: and what I did not like about the situation. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you this. Nigga posted a couple of days
Speaker 1: ago single on his Instagram story. Nigga, you a fucking clown.
Speaker 1: I just want to want to be very very honest
Speaker 1: with you, because y'all could have kept that ship under wraps.
Speaker 1: Now listen, It may very well not be over. They
Speaker 1: may still work it out. We don't know. We only
Speaker 1: know what they tell us. We only know what we
Speaker 1: see online. And once y'all make it out business, we
Speaker 1: get into it because the internet is not a place
Speaker 1: where you can mind your fucking business. So you do
Speaker 1: not put on your story single I'm gonna suck how
Speaker 1: mad you are, my nigga? Don't put that out there, like,
Speaker 1: why would you even do that? For a fucking reaction
Speaker 1: right from us? That's that's not cool, that's loving hip
Speaker 1: hop ship. That's oh they've recording Real Housewives of Atlanta
Speaker 1: type ship. That's reality TV bullshit. And that probably more
Speaker 1: than likely hurt her feelings. I know it did. It
Speaker 1: would have hurt mine. As tough as we are, we
Speaker 1: still have feelings. So that was clowned out to me.
Speaker 1: I did not appreciate him doing that. But Horma and
Speaker 1: I wish my baby super the best future and death
Speaker 1: de Or. They've been kicking it for a while. They've
Speaker 1: been looking happy, they've been looking like they smell good.
Speaker 1: Everything they dressed it like. I don't know about y'all,
Speaker 1: but I've never seen this out of future. He seems
Speaker 1: genuinely happy with deaths. And she's a beautiful girl. No
Speaker 1: surgery and don't look like this girl in handles ergery
Speaker 1: not could be wrong what I'm telling you, if she did,
Speaker 1: that's one of the most natural bodies I've ever seen
Speaker 1: in my life. And it ain't it crazy how you
Speaker 1: gotta question every single body, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: But she's a beautiful, brown skinned girl. Sh don't pack
Speaker 1: too much makeup on her face. She got a nice hairline.
Speaker 1: She don't need no lace front, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: She she got all her teeth, she looks good. Our
Speaker 1: music is prop and she's also um an artist. But
Speaker 1: it looks like they're thriving off of each other. I've
Speaker 1: never seen Future post a woman so much and I
Speaker 1: love it. And then also I haven't heard him say
Speaker 1: anything disrespectfully about women or disrespectful to women or pertaining
Speaker 1: to women since he's been with death. Why because she's
Speaker 1: keeping his attention. Hain't worried about nobody else. That's when
Speaker 1: you know you have the one, when you're used to
Speaker 1: being in everything and ship and when the mothercker come
Speaker 1: along and grabs your attention, And have you only worried
Speaker 1: about that person focused on them. My god, I bet you,
Speaker 1: by golly wow, that's what That's what everybody needs. That's
Speaker 1: why I meet me to sit as low ass down
Speaker 1: some goddamn where, because he talks about everything and everyone
Speaker 1: and always is focused on someone else and other problems
Speaker 1: and everything, except for like when he was in a
Speaker 1: relationship with Milano, that's all he did was talking about
Speaker 1: other bitches, talk about his ex, talk about other ship
Speaker 1: that other people are going through. If you paid more
Speaker 1: attention to her, then you would be happy. But that's
Speaker 1: not where he is in his life right now. Maybe
Speaker 1: not so, I guess what we have yet to see
Speaker 1: what's gonna happen with me, But I do wish him
Speaker 1: the best in his love life. Tamiya and Grant Hill
Speaker 1: not want to highlight this couple because I know a
Speaker 1: lot of people when you think of relationships and goals
Speaker 1: and people that you want to be like, a lot
Speaker 1: of people say Beyonce and jay Z and Will and Jada,
Speaker 1: those were the two most highlighted couples by the people.
Speaker 1: But then we clearly seen jay Z cheated on Beyonce
Speaker 1: and she made a whole fucking album about it, and
Speaker 1: she even told the nigga. You try that ship again,
Speaker 1: you're gonna lose your life. Like I'm that was the
Speaker 1: most smooth ship this nigga. The the next time we've
Speaker 1: seen Beyondce, jay Z was glued. He was with ver.
Speaker 1: He was on every tour show. You know what, let's
Speaker 1: get the kids, because I ain't gonna lose this bitch.
Speaker 1: Let me. He went on tour with her. The next year,
Speaker 1: he went on a whole lemonade tour with the bit
Speaker 1: he looked. He was like, oh no, you're right, baby,
Speaker 1: right baby. But they were goals. And do you know why,
Speaker 1: let's dig deeper into why they're fucking goals. They were
Speaker 1: goals because people look at who they are and not
Speaker 1: what they mean to each other, and not the real
Speaker 1: love surrounding them. Jay Z is one of the most
Speaker 1: wealthiest businessmen in the world. That's goals in itself. Beyonce
Speaker 1: most legendary, epic and icon, one of the most gifted
Speaker 1: women in the world. I'm not gonna say talented. Beyonce
Speaker 1: is gifted. God gave that to her. She even singing
Speaker 1: straight out the womb period always been twisted and turning
Speaker 1: them lott of hips and and working her, you know
Speaker 1: her because I don't want to say talent because it's
Speaker 1: way beyond when you're born with it. It's a gift,
Speaker 1: and I feel as if she was. But that's goals.
Speaker 1: Them two together. Their love life, that's a different story.
Speaker 1: That's not goals. We don't know what they go through.
Speaker 1: We know they've been through ship. Maybe Beyonce got goals
Speaker 1: for somebody else. Maybe to me and grand Hill is
Speaker 1: Beyonce's goals. But I know damn well that they're mine.
Speaker 1: To me and grand Hill, they are. They still keep
Speaker 1: the spark in their relationship. Hey loves her. You can
Speaker 1: tell the way he looks at her. He loves her.
Speaker 1: You can tell the way she sings to him, she
Speaker 1: loves him. These are two celebrities that I follow, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean? And no, no, not on Instagram
Speaker 1: cause you know, I'll only follow four people and about
Speaker 1: gonna follow Ashton because he don't post on them, so
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, about to be three. But I
Speaker 1: follow these people. I go to their pages and I
Speaker 1: look at them and they're very beautiful couple. Will and Jada.
Speaker 1: They were also goals to society at one point in time,
Speaker 1: until it comes out that. You know, it's been rumored
Speaker 1: that they were swingers and ship. They've never copped to that.
Speaker 1: But just this past year, we've we came up with entanglements.
Speaker 1: We've seen that they go through ship. We've seen that
Speaker 1: they haven't always been happy with one another. You know
Speaker 1: what I mean? That that's the ship that they don't
Speaker 1: put out there. Why with they that's the meaning of privacy.
Speaker 1: But we were all so shocked and in disbelief when
Speaker 1: we saw that they weren't that perfect couple. Sierra and Russell.
Speaker 1: I'm coming to them because they are also goals as well.
Speaker 1: That man loves this woman, that woman loves that man.
Speaker 1: And the family. I love it. Gabrielle and d Wait
Speaker 1: I love I love their love because they're real. They
Speaker 1: show us how you can be your man's best friend.
Speaker 1: They show you how, Oh my wife, that's my homie
Speaker 1: right there. You know what I mean? They have more
Speaker 1: than just oh pictures posted. They have personality. They have
Speaker 1: fun together, They talk to each other, they communicate. They're
Speaker 1: so into each other that they're not fucking worried about y'all.
Speaker 1: That's a real relationship, that's real love, and it's beautiful
Speaker 1: when it's real and when it's built on all the
Speaker 1: right things. First of all, you have to build a friendship.
Speaker 1: I said that earlier in the episode. And you have
Speaker 1: to put God first. I need for y'all to understand
Speaker 1: a lot of people ask for a Sierra's prayer. You
Speaker 1: know that's that's like a thing. Now, see Ira, what's
Speaker 1: your prayer? But listen, you can't ask for her prayer
Speaker 1: if you don't have the faith. You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You cannot ask her prayer if you don't even have
Speaker 1: a relationship with God. God Like, don't ask me to
Speaker 1: send you a man like that. And you don't even
Speaker 1: tell me how much you appreciate me that you wake
Speaker 1: up every morning. You don't even you know, you don't
Speaker 1: even know yourself yet. You're not ready for a man
Speaker 1: like Russell Wilson. You're not ready for me to do
Speaker 1: for you what I did for them because you're still broken.
Speaker 1: You still have ship that you need to get yourself to. Well, now,
Speaker 1: God ain't gonna cuss at you. You You know what I'm
Speaker 1: saying that, So I'm sorry about that. I'm paraphrasing, but
Speaker 1: you know that is real ship. Don't ask for a prayer.
Speaker 1: If you don't pray already, if you don't pray for yourself,
Speaker 1: if you don't even know who you are, don't ask
Speaker 1: for no God damn prayer. And on that note, that
Speaker 1: brings us to the end of the episode today. Okay,
Speaker 1: now we went a little longer. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: But this was some ship that I needed to get out.
Speaker 1: I needed to talk to you all about this. Another
Speaker 1: message I want to leave y'all with. Don't think you
Speaker 1: have to date everyone you like, because more than likely
Speaker 1: you're gonna like a lot of people. That's natural, that's human.
Speaker 1: And don't think you have to date everyone that likes you. Okay,
Speaker 1: just let some people like you. I had to find
Speaker 1: that out the hard way, you know, giving this nigga chance,
Speaker 1: giving this nigga chance, giving this nigga chance, until I
Speaker 1: looked up and I was like, damn, my, my, goddamn,
Speaker 1: hold up, wait a minute, hold up, hold up, damn it.
Speaker 1: Let this nigga like you. You don't even like him.
Speaker 1: You're just giving him a chance because they're like you.
Speaker 1: You can't do that, ship, because ladies, you are worth more, men,
Speaker 1: you are worth more. You have to find out who
Speaker 1: you are. First, you have to get rid of your
Speaker 1: you know, not your flaws, but get rid of your
Speaker 1: insecurities and become comfortable with yourself. You have to be
Speaker 1: able to sit down and tell a person what you're
Speaker 1: dealing with, what you're battling, and how they can be
Speaker 1: of help to you if they're willing. But give a
Speaker 1: person a choice. Don't just jump in a relationship hiding
Speaker 1: all of your problems in the closet because you're ultimately
Speaker 1: being selfish. You're not even giving that person a choice
Speaker 1: to say, all right, this nigga guy trust issues. I
Speaker 1: ain't gonna sunk with him. Instead, you reflect all that
Speaker 1: ship on her. She don't deserve it. Ladies, you reflect
Speaker 1: all that ship on him. He don't deserve it. So again,
Speaker 1: y'all need to learn learn learn the five keys to
Speaker 1: a relationship communication, honestly, loyalty, trust, and affection, the five
Speaker 1: no nos in relationships, imagery, toxicity, validation, insecurity, and just sex. Okay,
Speaker 1: and that's it for real Love and Relationships. Episode three,
Speaker 1: I killed It. Make sure you're tuning in the camfully
Speaker 1: reckless next Wednesday. Matter of fact, every Wednesday. I love
Speaker 1: y'all and I know y'all love me back. And with
Speaker 1: that being said, and my best deep Pam voice, peace, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: he don't know how the way. Let me not fucking peace.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm gonna be. I'm gonna I'm gonna do it
Speaker 1: right next week. I'm hungover like a motherfucker. Hit me
Speaker 1: your ass, nicker, shut the fuck up. I've been out
Speaker 1: hit on my cash, so you hustle. I've been what
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