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Speaker 1: Welcome to Canfully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect. Nice little ass back there, Nice

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Speaker 1: little ass back there, Oh ship, and we're back with

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Speaker 1: another episode of Carefully Reckless, which your girl just hilarious.

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Speaker 1: But this episode is not about me. This is about

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Speaker 1: everybody in general who's ever been in a relationship but

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Speaker 1: can't seem to get to the bottom of the problem

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Speaker 1: of why it doesn't work right. And especially these days,

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Speaker 1: we see a lot of breakups, we see a lot

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Speaker 1: of divorces. The rates are as high as they've ever been.

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Speaker 1: So grab your t because it's story time. Okay, So

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Speaker 1: I once had a friend who started dating a guy.

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Speaker 1: He was older. She was very, very attracted to him

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Speaker 1: because she had never dated a guy like this before,

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Speaker 1: not of his caliber and his status. He owned his

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Speaker 1: own businesses plural, His children were grown. Now she's my

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Speaker 1: age twenty eight, so this is something new for her. Right.

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Speaker 1: Everything was going fine. By his birthday, they had only

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Speaker 1: been dating for about a month thirty days, and they

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Speaker 1: went out of town, had a lovely trip. She took

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Speaker 1: him to dinner, she bought him some gifts, even playing

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Speaker 1: a little surprise birthday party with some of his closest friends.

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Speaker 1: That's what the dinner entailed. Now, they took pictures at

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Speaker 1: this dinner party, some kissing, some not, but they took pictures. Now,

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Speaker 1: women love to take pictures more than guys. That's just

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Speaker 1: what we love to do. We love a good selfie

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Speaker 1: without man, or a good selfie by ourselves, but we

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Speaker 1: love pictures. Doesn't matter, especially if we feel like we

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Speaker 1: look good. That day, she took a picture, she posted

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Speaker 1: it on her page. Now they've only been dating for

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Speaker 1: thirty days, mind you, and she was fresh out of

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Speaker 1: another relationship with the guy that she never posted. So

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Speaker 1: this was like different behavior that I saw. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: oh snap, she posted this guy cool. He had a

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Speaker 1: problem with that, she told me. The day after. He

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Speaker 1: asked me to take it down. I noticed he got

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Speaker 1: tell him that she were going to post him? And

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Speaker 1: she said no, I just did it. I said, damn, well, why,

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Speaker 1: she saidcause I can do what I want. I mean, like,

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Speaker 1: we've been going at it. We had a solid month,

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Speaker 1: Like although it's thirty days, it's been solid. It's great.

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Speaker 1: I spent every day with this man. I really really

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Speaker 1: like him. He's into me. I'm into him, I said, okay, cool.

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Speaker 1: She didn't take the picture down. They got past it.

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Speaker 1: A few days later, she comes over to his house

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Speaker 1: all of us, Like you know, and I'm really, really

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Speaker 1: a private person. I don't want my business out there

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Speaker 1: right now. And then we've only been dating for a

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Speaker 1: month or so, you know what I mean. I want

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Speaker 1: to make sure this is right before I put anything

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Speaker 1: on social media. And then I'm a grown ass man.

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Speaker 1: Social media really don't matter to me. I really only

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Speaker 1: have social media for my business, to promote my business,

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Speaker 1: to reach my my customers, my markets. So they watched

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Speaker 1: the movie. She was quiet the whole night, she said.

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Speaker 1: She admitted to me she had an attitude about this.

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Speaker 1: He went to sleep. She went in his phone and

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Speaker 1: posted the picture of them kissing on his page. She

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Speaker 1: went in his phone because I don't think you'll hurt me.

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Speaker 1: Let me. Let me say it again. She went in

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Speaker 1: and she hid his phone under the bed. He wakes

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Speaker 1: So he goes out to his car. He has two phones.

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Speaker 1: He goes out to his car to see if he

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Speaker 1: Like this nigga didn't check under the pillow first before.

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Speaker 1: So he comes back in the house. She's like, oh,

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Speaker 1: Of course he checked it, you know, amongst other things.

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Speaker 1: He probably when you wake up anyway, regularly he gives

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Speaker 1: Hella likes more than he has ever gotten before, because

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Speaker 1: kind of crazy. Now this guy was previously married. Well

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Speaker 1: Still married, though still going through a fucking divorce. You

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Speaker 1: understand what I'm saying. He tells her she needs to

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Speaker 1: He's like, you're gonna get the funk out of here,

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Speaker 1: or I'm called police. Real ship. She got the funk

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Speaker 1: nobody wants to do fucking police. She leaves. She's upset,

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Speaker 1: I don't think I'm gonna ever get this nigga back. Um.

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Speaker 1: I just feel like he was hiding something because he

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Speaker 1: I posted it. So I said, Yo, maybe he deleted

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Speaker 1: the ship because he didn't post it. I said, damn,

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Speaker 1: did you find anything in the phone. Did you go

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Speaker 1: She said, I did go through it. I ain't gonna lie.

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Speaker 1: I went through his DMS. I went through his Texas

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Speaker 1: and went through his call logue. See who we called,

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Speaker 1: See who he was talking to, you see who he

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Speaker 1: have to be worried about. No, not at all. I said, okay,

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Speaker 1: him because he snatched down the picture, insinuating that he

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Speaker 1: is what I'm telling her. I said, listen, so you

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Speaker 1: carrying baggage from your last relationship, from your past, probably

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Speaker 1: That's very toxic for you to go in somebody's phone

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Speaker 1: me the password. So you used that, the same thing

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Speaker 1: it against him. You used it to be sneaky. That's conniving.

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Speaker 1: You don't do that. So imagine what else you could

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Speaker 1: a red flag. That's toxic. That's why a lot of

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Speaker 1: it means the quality of being poisonous. That was very poisonous.

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Speaker 1: You invaded the man's privacy. And I know a lot

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Speaker 1: I don't even went through a gos phone, but I

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Speaker 1: You want people to see that's something you can see.

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Speaker 1: If people see it, they love it. People thrive off

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Speaker 1: you know why we are no longer friends, amongst other reasons,

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Speaker 1: but imagery. Imagery, that's what people will get lost these days.

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Speaker 1: Definition of validation recognition or affirmation that a person or

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Speaker 1: That's validation. A lot of people seek validation from others.

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Speaker 1: You don't need it. Get validation from God, whether this

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Speaker 1: And if it's not that serious and you just want to,

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Speaker 1: So you're you're giving that person a choice, because what

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Speaker 1: and if they do, not so fast. Another thing insecurities.

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Speaker 1: She had insecurities. Okay, she is not firmly fixed. Being

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Speaker 1: it's good to be friends first. Another thing that's really

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Speaker 1: It takes a great amount of dignity as a woman

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Speaker 1: NICKI lead Box on Instagram Instagram name Already Box Jr.

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Speaker 1: this is what I always say. You don't let someone

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Speaker 1: you want to watch Plaulin with me, Let's do some

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Speaker 1: That cannot be why you stepped out. If you did,

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying you did. Maybe you did, maybe you

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Speaker 1: You have to teach your wife how to please you

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Speaker 1: staying married after a certain point of marriage. Okay. Maria

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Speaker 1: Henriquez Tall Underscore and Underscore Fabulous on Instagram says Jet

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Speaker 1: doesn't work and isn't looking for a job. Talks to

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Speaker 1: I hope this is that that's what she did. She

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Speaker 1: and this is not a misspelling. But um okay, Jit,

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Speaker 1: you ready for you? Baby? Leave his ans. Honestly, I

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Speaker 1: the motherfucking role. Jack and Maria. I'm looking at you

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Speaker 1: your Instagram name is tall and fabulous girl. Get you

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Speaker 1: he don't work any motherfucking way. Girl should last one.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna read fat boy underscore, BENI says, funk all

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Speaker 1: that what you're trying do? I'm trying fuck in your voice?

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, so this is why niggas can never

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Speaker 1: participate in ship. I ain't trying to fuck you, fat

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Speaker 1: boy Benji. Come on now, ship, let me go to

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Speaker 1: your page. Because no, I'm at the road. Shot Ah.

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Speaker 1: You got a nerve to have your page open first

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Speaker 1: of all, and you look like Florida Evans, a fat

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Speaker 1: Nigga looked like he invented detention. Get on my fucking nerves.

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Speaker 1: So I need everybody except fat boy Benji. Everybody's story

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Speaker 1: that I just read off. Y'all need to go back

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Speaker 1: if there's no resolution, then you take the next step.

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Speaker 1: Then you'd be honest with her and you say, look,

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Speaker 1: in her, talk to her, Nikki, you are so right.

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Speaker 1: People have to take accountability and when something is not working,

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Speaker 1: Don't because I'm telling you another thing that is more

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Speaker 1: like COVID, strap up, protect yourself, Maria, do better because

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Speaker 1: it over to current news. Sage, the Gemini and super

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Speaker 1: Scent are broken up. Now listen these too. We're so

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Speaker 1: I ain't no violence, ship, I ain't no straight, I

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Speaker 1: that revivement of yourself, that spring cleaning of a bad nigga,

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Speaker 1: and then it comes another one that makes you blossom,

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean. That's what she was showing us.

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Speaker 1: Only to have now been broken up with this nick

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Speaker 1: and what I did not like about the situation. I'm

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Speaker 1: I just want to want to be very very honest

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Speaker 1: Now listen, It may very well not be over. They

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Speaker 1: may still work it out. We don't know. We only

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Speaker 1: where you can mind your fucking business. So you do

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Speaker 1: mad you are, my nigga? Don't put that out there, like,

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Speaker 1: why would you even do that? For a fucking reaction

425
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Speaker 1: right from us? That's that's not cool, that's loving hip

426
00:21:21,800 --> 00:21:25,280
Speaker 1: hop ship. That's oh they've recording Real Housewives of Atlanta

427
00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:29,640
Speaker 1: type ship. That's reality TV bullshit. And that probably more

428
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Speaker 1: than likely hurt her feelings. I know it did. It

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Speaker 1: would have hurt mine. As tough as we are, we

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Speaker 1: still have feelings. So that was clowned out to me.

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Speaker 1: I did not appreciate him doing that. But Horma and

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Speaker 1: I wish my baby super the best future and death

433
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Speaker 1: de Or. They've been kicking it for a while. They've

434
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Speaker 1: been looking happy, they've been looking like they smell good.

435
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Speaker 1: Everything they dressed it like. I don't know about y'all,

436
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Speaker 1: but I've never seen this out of future. He seems

437
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Speaker 1: genuinely happy with deaths. And she's a beautiful girl. No

438
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Speaker 1: surgery and don't look like this girl in handles ergery

439
00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:02,159
Speaker 1: not could be wrong what I'm telling you, if she did,

440
00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:04,400
Speaker 1: that's one of the most natural bodies I've ever seen

441
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Speaker 1: in my life. And it ain't it crazy how you

442
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,680
Speaker 1: gotta question every single body, you know what I mean.

443
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Speaker 1: But she's a beautiful, brown skinned girl. Sh don't pack

444
00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:14,080
Speaker 1: too much makeup on her face. She got a nice hairline.

445
00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:15,960
Speaker 1: She don't need no lace front, you know what I mean.

446
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Speaker 1: She she got all her teeth, she looks good. Our

447
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Speaker 1: music is prop and she's also um an artist. But

448
00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:25,400
Speaker 1: it looks like they're thriving off of each other. I've

449
00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:27,879
Speaker 1: never seen Future post a woman so much and I

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Speaker 1: love it. And then also I haven't heard him say

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Speaker 1: anything disrespectfully about women or disrespectful to women or pertaining

452
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Speaker 1: to women since he's been with death. Why because she's

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Speaker 1: keeping his attention. Hain't worried about nobody else. That's when

454
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Speaker 1: you know you have the one, when you're used to

455
00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:45,600
Speaker 1: being in everything and ship and when the mothercker come

456
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Speaker 1: along and grabs your attention, And have you only worried

457
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Speaker 1: about that person focused on them. My god, I bet you,

458
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Speaker 1: by golly wow, that's what That's what everybody needs. That's

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Speaker 1: why I meet me to sit as low ass down

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Speaker 1: some goddamn where, because he talks about everything and everyone

461
00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:04,880
Speaker 1: and always is focused on someone else and other problems

462
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Speaker 1: and everything, except for like when he was in a

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Speaker 1: relationship with Milano, that's all he did was talking about

464
00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:11,920
Speaker 1: other bitches, talk about his ex, talk about other ship

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Speaker 1: that other people are going through. If you paid more

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Speaker 1: attention to her, then you would be happy. But that's

467
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Speaker 1: not where he is in his life right now. Maybe

468
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Speaker 1: not so, I guess what we have yet to see

469
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Speaker 1: what's gonna happen with me, But I do wish him

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Speaker 1: the best in his love life. Tamiya and Grant Hill

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Speaker 1: not want to highlight this couple because I know a

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Speaker 1: lot of people when you think of relationships and goals

473
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Speaker 1: and people that you want to be like, a lot

474
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Speaker 1: of people say Beyonce and jay Z and Will and Jada,

475
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Speaker 1: those were the two most highlighted couples by the people.

476
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Speaker 1: But then we clearly seen jay Z cheated on Beyonce

477
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Speaker 1: and she made a whole fucking album about it, and

478
00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:47,960
Speaker 1: she even told the nigga. You try that ship again,

479
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Speaker 1: you're gonna lose your life. Like I'm that was the

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Speaker 1: most smooth ship this nigga. The the next time we've

481
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Speaker 1: seen Beyondce, jay Z was glued. He was with ver.

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Speaker 1: He was on every tour show. You know what, let's

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Speaker 1: get the kids, because I ain't gonna lose this bitch.

484
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Speaker 1: Let me. He went on tour with her. The next year,

485
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Speaker 1: he went on a whole lemonade tour with the bit

486
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Speaker 1: he looked. He was like, oh no, you're right, baby,

487
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Speaker 1: right baby. But they were goals. And do you know why,

488
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Speaker 1: let's dig deeper into why they're fucking goals. They were

489
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Speaker 1: goals because people look at who they are and not

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Speaker 1: what they mean to each other, and not the real

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Speaker 1: love surrounding them. Jay Z is one of the most

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Speaker 1: wealthiest businessmen in the world. That's goals in itself. Beyonce

493
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Speaker 1: most legendary, epic and icon, one of the most gifted

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Speaker 1: women in the world. I'm not gonna say talented. Beyonce

495
00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:40,040
Speaker 1: is gifted. God gave that to her. She even singing

496
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Speaker 1: straight out the womb period always been twisted and turning

497
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Speaker 1: them lott of hips and and working her, you know

498
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Speaker 1: her because I don't want to say talent because it's

499
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Speaker 1: way beyond when you're born with it. It's a gift,

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Speaker 1: and I feel as if she was. But that's goals.

501
00:24:54,800 --> 00:24:57,320
Speaker 1: Them two together. Their love life, that's a different story.

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Speaker 1: That's not goals. We don't know what they go through.

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Speaker 1: We know they've been through ship. Maybe Beyonce got goals

504
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Speaker 1: for somebody else. Maybe to me and grand Hill is

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Speaker 1: Beyonce's goals. But I know damn well that they're mine.

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Speaker 1: To me and grand Hill, they are. They still keep

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Speaker 1: the spark in their relationship. Hey loves her. You can

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Speaker 1: tell the way he looks at her. He loves her.

509
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Speaker 1: You can tell the way she sings to him, she

510
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Speaker 1: loves him. These are two celebrities that I follow, you

511
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Speaker 1: know what I mean? And no, no, not on Instagram

512
00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:26,240
Speaker 1: cause you know, I'll only follow four people and about

513
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:28,199
Speaker 1: gonna follow Ashton because he don't post on them, so

514
00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:30,080
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, about to be three. But I

515
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:32,359
Speaker 1: follow these people. I go to their pages and I

516
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:35,720
Speaker 1: look at them and they're very beautiful couple. Will and Jada.

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Speaker 1: They were also goals to society at one point in time,

518
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Speaker 1: until it comes out that. You know, it's been rumored

519
00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:43,680
Speaker 1: that they were swingers and ship. They've never copped to that.

520
00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:47,040
Speaker 1: But just this past year, we've we came up with entanglements.

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00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:48,879
Speaker 1: We've seen that they go through ship. We've seen that

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00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:51,159
Speaker 1: they haven't always been happy with one another. You know

523
00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:52,600
Speaker 1: what I mean? That that's the ship that they don't

524
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:56,119
Speaker 1: put out there. Why with they that's the meaning of privacy.

525
00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:59,040
Speaker 1: But we were all so shocked and in disbelief when

526
00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:03,880
Speaker 1: we saw that they weren't that perfect couple. Sierra and Russell.

527
00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 1: I'm coming to them because they are also goals as well.

528
00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:11,400
Speaker 1: That man loves this woman, that woman loves that man.

529
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:15,440
Speaker 1: And the family. I love it. Gabrielle and d Wait

530
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:19,480
Speaker 1: I love I love their love because they're real. They

531
00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 1: show us how you can be your man's best friend.

532
00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 1: They show you how, Oh my wife, that's my homie

533
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:28,840
Speaker 1: right there. You know what I mean? They have more

534
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 1: than just oh pictures posted. They have personality. They have

535
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:36,640
Speaker 1: fun together, They talk to each other, they communicate. They're

536
00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:39,760
Speaker 1: so into each other that they're not fucking worried about y'all.

537
00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 1: That's a real relationship, that's real love, and it's beautiful

538
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:46,199
Speaker 1: when it's real and when it's built on all the

539
00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:49,000
Speaker 1: right things. First of all, you have to build a friendship.

540
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:51,000
Speaker 1: I said that earlier in the episode. And you have

541
00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:53,760
Speaker 1: to put God first. I need for y'all to understand

542
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:56,439
Speaker 1: a lot of people ask for a Sierra's prayer. You

543
00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 1: know that's that's like a thing. Now, see Ira, what's

544
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:01,200
Speaker 1: your prayer? But listen, you can't ask for her prayer

545
00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:03,680
Speaker 1: if you don't have the faith. You understand what I'm saying.

546
00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:08,320
Speaker 1: You cannot ask her prayer if you don't even have

547
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:11,639
Speaker 1: a relationship with God. God Like, don't ask me to

548
00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:13,200
Speaker 1: send you a man like that. And you don't even

549
00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 1: tell me how much you appreciate me that you wake

550
00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 1: up every morning. You don't even you know, you don't

551
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:21,120
Speaker 1: even know yourself yet. You're not ready for a man

552
00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:23,639
Speaker 1: like Russell Wilson. You're not ready for me to do

553
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:26,159
Speaker 1: for you what I did for them because you're still broken.

554
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 1: You still have ship that you need to get yourself to. Well, now,

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00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 1: God ain't gonna cuss at you. You You know what I'm

556
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:33,199
Speaker 1: saying that, So I'm sorry about that. I'm paraphrasing, but

557
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 1: you know that is real ship. Don't ask for a prayer.

558
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:40,400
Speaker 1: If you don't pray already, if you don't pray for yourself,

559
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:42,320
Speaker 1: if you don't even know who you are, don't ask

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00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:44,840
Speaker 1: for no God damn prayer. And on that note, that

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Speaker 1: brings us to the end of the episode today. Okay,

562
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:51,120
Speaker 1: now we went a little longer. You know what I'm saying.

563
00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:53,600
Speaker 1: But this was some ship that I needed to get out.

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00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:56,160
Speaker 1: I needed to talk to you all about this. Another

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00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:58,600
Speaker 1: message I want to leave y'all with. Don't think you

566
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 1: have to date everyone you like, because more than likely

567
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 1: you're gonna like a lot of people. That's natural, that's human.

568
00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:07,800
Speaker 1: And don't think you have to date everyone that likes you. Okay,

569
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,160
Speaker 1: just let some people like you. I had to find

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00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:12,440
Speaker 1: that out the hard way, you know, giving this nigga chance,

571
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 1: giving this nigga chance, giving this nigga chance, until I

572
00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:15,840
Speaker 1: looked up and I was like, damn, my, my, goddamn,

573
00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:18,920
Speaker 1: hold up, wait a minute, hold up, hold up, damn it.

574
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:21,360
Speaker 1: Let this nigga like you. You don't even like him.

575
00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:23,440
Speaker 1: You're just giving him a chance because they're like you.

576
00:28:23,440 --> 00:28:26,720
Speaker 1: You can't do that, ship, because ladies, you are worth more, men,

577
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:29,120
Speaker 1: you are worth more. You have to find out who

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00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,160
Speaker 1: you are. First, you have to get rid of your

579
00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:33,119
Speaker 1: you know, not your flaws, but get rid of your

580
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:36,439
Speaker 1: insecurities and become comfortable with yourself. You have to be

581
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:39,160
Speaker 1: able to sit down and tell a person what you're

582
00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:41,920
Speaker 1: dealing with, what you're battling, and how they can be

583
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 1: of help to you if they're willing. But give a

584
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:47,400
Speaker 1: person a choice. Don't just jump in a relationship hiding

585
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:50,960
Speaker 1: all of your problems in the closet because you're ultimately

586
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:53,640
Speaker 1: being selfish. You're not even giving that person a choice

587
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 1: to say, all right, this nigga guy trust issues. I

588
00:28:56,160 --> 00:28:58,960
Speaker 1: ain't gonna sunk with him. Instead, you reflect all that

589
00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:01,600
Speaker 1: ship on her. She don't deserve it. Ladies, you reflect

590
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 1: all that ship on him. He don't deserve it. So again,

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00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:08,560
Speaker 1: y'all need to learn learn learn the five keys to

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00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:14,800
Speaker 1: a relationship communication, honestly, loyalty, trust, and affection, the five

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00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:23,880
Speaker 1: no nos in relationships, imagery, toxicity, validation, insecurity, and just sex. Okay,

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Speaker 1: and that's it for real Love and Relationships. Episode three,

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Speaker 1: I killed It. Make sure you're tuning in the camfully

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Speaker 1: reckless next Wednesday. Matter of fact, every Wednesday. I love

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Speaker 1: y'all and I know y'all love me back. And with

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Speaker 1: that being said, and my best deep Pam voice, peace, no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: he don't know how the way. Let me not fucking peace.

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm gonna be. I'm gonna I'm gonna do it

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Speaker 1: right next week. I'm hungover like a motherfucker. Hit me

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Speaker 1: your ass, nicker, shut the fuck up. I've been out

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Speaker 1: hit on my cash, so you hustle. I've been what

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Speaker 1: s I don't know happen. Get into listen carefully. Reckless

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