1 00:00:01,960 --> 00:00:05,840 Speaker 1: Loca Radio is the radiophonic Novela, which is just a 2 00:00:05,960 --> 00:00:10,480 Speaker 1: very extra way of saying a podcast. I'm Theos FM 3 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:14,240 Speaker 1: and I am Mala njos. Loca To Radio is your 4 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:19,040 Speaker 1: Freema's favorite podcast hosted by us Mala and Theosa. We're 5 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:24,320 Speaker 1: two ig friends turned podcast partners, breaking down pop culture, feminism, 6 00:00:24,520 --> 00:00:28,800 Speaker 1: sexual wellness, and offering fresh takes on trending topics through 7 00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:32,640 Speaker 1: nuanced interviews with up and coming lat Next creatives known 8 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:37,200 Speaker 1: as Las Locas, Las Mammy, Submit and Bullshit A Next 9 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 1: Store and Lasses. We've been podcasting independently since twenty sixteen, 10 00:00:43,720 --> 00:00:47,559 Speaker 1: and we're bringing our radiophonic novela to the Micikura network 11 00:00:47,600 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 1: to continue sharing stories from the latinxt community. Welcome to 12 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 1: Loca to Radio season seven. Take us to your network, locomotis, Oh, 13 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 1: welcome back to another Gio. I'm Diosa and I'm Mala. 14 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:11,559 Speaker 1: You're tuning into one fifty three. Last time on Look Radio, 15 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:15,400 Speaker 1: we talked about the me Too backlash, so tune into 16 00:01:15,440 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 1: that one if you haven't already. And we're keeping it 17 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:20,680 Speaker 1: light this episode because the last two have been kind 18 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:23,080 Speaker 1: of heavy and we'd like to give a variety for 19 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 1: our listeners, for y'all. So we are to give you 20 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:30,679 Speaker 1: guys a cute little recap of our Gallantine's Day celebration. 21 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 1: Diosa put together an adorable little just gathering like a 22 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 1: salon at her house, and we're kind of in recovery 23 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 1: mode actually because we just had so much fun. We 24 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:45,600 Speaker 1: had too much fun. We had too much fun, and 25 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: you know, it was a school night, a work night, 26 00:01:47,920 --> 00:01:51,360 Speaker 1: if you will, and so we're like recovering today. A 27 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 1: little slow start for us today at lot, but we're 28 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 1: here and it was such a cute gathering. So yeah, 29 00:01:57,920 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 1: I made like um a curated like a little DIY 30 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 1: pizza station. There was dessert, there was wine, and then 31 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:09,960 Speaker 1: we played a game. Yes, we played this really fun game. 32 00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:14,360 Speaker 1: It's called Wordiful the game, and it's like based on 33 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:17,520 Speaker 1: a vertical that Liz Hernandez started and she would share 34 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:20,000 Speaker 1: these really beautiful videos on her YouTube where she's talking 35 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 1: about different words each episode and like what they mean 36 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 1: to her, her thoughts about them. And Liz sent us 37 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:29,680 Speaker 1: the game, and so it was just like the perfect 38 00:02:29,720 --> 00:02:33,160 Speaker 1: thing to pair with like our homemade pizzas that the 39 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:36,120 Speaker 1: also set up for us. It was Adorb's yeah, And 40 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:37,960 Speaker 1: it was so funny because Mala and I were on 41 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 1: the same wavelength. Per usual, I had my little deck 42 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:45,480 Speaker 1: ready at the table, and then Mama unknowingly also brought 43 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 1: her own deck and was like, oh, I thought we 44 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:49,360 Speaker 1: could do this today, and I was like, me too, 45 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:52,679 Speaker 1: So that's what we did. The questions got pretty intense. 46 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:57,440 Speaker 1: Oh my god. They were actually very introspective. They were 47 00:02:57,560 --> 00:03:03,560 Speaker 1: They were definitely a game to play with close intimate people. Yes, 48 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:06,320 Speaker 1: maybe not even your partner, like I feel like it's 49 00:03:06,320 --> 00:03:11,440 Speaker 1: a girlfriend games, very gallantines. As Robert said, we had 50 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 1: to have a brave space. Yes, it was a brave space. 51 00:03:14,600 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 1: And my mom was with us, and once she got 52 00:03:17,480 --> 00:03:19,959 Speaker 1: to her second question, she was like, I'm out. She 53 00:03:20,360 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 1: did not want to participate in the intimacy and was 54 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 1: like this is too much for me, and she went 55 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:27,680 Speaker 1: to her room. That it was enough, enough was enough, 56 00:03:27,960 --> 00:03:29,920 Speaker 1: she was done. She was there for the wine and 57 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:32,320 Speaker 1: the pizza. That's what she was there for, and the 58 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:37,720 Speaker 1: gossip and now it's like, what's your deepest, darkest secret 59 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:42,440 Speaker 1: relationship drama. Yeah, exactly. It was funny because there was 60 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:46,640 Speaker 1: a question about relationships and she looked over at me 61 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:48,680 Speaker 1: and I looked over at her, and then we both 62 00:03:48,720 --> 00:03:52,560 Speaker 1: looked away, and I knew. I knew then it was 63 00:03:52,600 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 1: time for her to go. Yeah, she was going to 64 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:58,480 Speaker 1: excuse herself. Yeah, but the hardcore ones we stayed and 65 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:01,360 Speaker 1: we played round after round, and we got to know 66 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:05,680 Speaker 1: each other, I think even even better than we already did. Yeah. Yeah, 67 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 1: And I think so in that spirit of Yallentine's of intimacy, 68 00:04:11,120 --> 00:04:14,720 Speaker 1: we wanted to take our Oyloka's addition or oilokas segment, 69 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 1: I should say, and play the wordiful game with y'all. 70 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:20,560 Speaker 1: And so we're going to ask a couple of questions. 71 00:04:20,800 --> 00:04:23,120 Speaker 1: We're gonna ask each other a couple questions that we'll 72 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:26,720 Speaker 1: both answer to on today's episode. I love it. Let's 73 00:04:26,720 --> 00:04:28,960 Speaker 1: do it, Let's go for app Okay. So this just 74 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:31,719 Speaker 1: to just to get ease us into it, get us started. 75 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:37,159 Speaker 1: What feels more intimate to you? Holding hands in public 76 00:04:37,640 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 1: or cuddling in private? You know, I think that holding 77 00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:45,919 Speaker 1: hands in public is almost more intimate because you have 78 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 1: an audience, other people can see you like being close 79 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:54,240 Speaker 1: with this other person, and of course, like when you're 80 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:57,560 Speaker 1: one on one, you're one on one. But cuddling in 81 00:04:57,600 --> 00:04:59,839 Speaker 1: private I think can also be like I don't know, 82 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:03,279 Speaker 1: think of like my friends and like I will cuddle 83 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 1: with someone like Gowna for example, and so like that's 84 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:09,800 Speaker 1: its own type of intimate. So I guess it's like 85 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:12,039 Speaker 1: what kind of intimate are we talking about? You know 86 00:05:12,040 --> 00:05:16,400 Speaker 1: what I mean? Yeah, I definitely think like the context matters, 87 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:19,960 Speaker 1: like who you're holding hands with, who you're cuddling with 88 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:25,279 Speaker 1: in private totally, because I think when you're like queer, 89 00:05:25,320 --> 00:05:28,360 Speaker 1: for example, and you're holding hands with like another woman, 90 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:34,080 Speaker 1: it feels like we're we're gonna be lowed today, or 91 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:36,680 Speaker 1: we're like we know that we're gonna us holding hands, 92 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:38,840 Speaker 1: people are gonna be looking at us, or we might 93 00:05:38,880 --> 00:05:42,320 Speaker 1: get strange eyes, or people might also love it too. Yeah, 94 00:05:42,360 --> 00:05:46,080 Speaker 1: And so I think that because of that, depending on 95 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:49,600 Speaker 1: who you're with, like holding hands in public can be 96 00:05:49,640 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: like super intimate but also super brave, whereas you know, 97 00:05:54,240 --> 00:05:57,920 Speaker 1: cuddling in private has its own intimacy, like you said, 98 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:01,040 Speaker 1: but I think, yeah, I think maybe holding hands is 99 00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: more intimate. There's just something about it about interlaced fingers. Yes, 100 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:10,920 Speaker 1: it's just so precious. Yeah, yeah, I love it. I 101 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:13,479 Speaker 1: love it. Holding hands is very cute That's why, Like 102 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 1: sometimes I love getting my nails done because my nail 103 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:18,120 Speaker 1: tag is so hot and I'm like, yeah, just hold 104 00:06:18,160 --> 00:06:21,080 Speaker 1: my hands for an hour and a half. Like there 105 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:24,280 Speaker 1: is like so I feel like so much intimacy with 106 00:06:24,480 --> 00:06:30,040 Speaker 1: your like beauty services. Like if you're getting a Brazilian oh, 107 00:06:30,160 --> 00:06:32,880 Speaker 1: very intimate. That is the most intimate beauty service I 108 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 1: think you can get. Yeah, and I just love that 109 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:37,360 Speaker 1: You're like Spready goal and they're like, so what are 110 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:40,159 Speaker 1: you up to today? What are you doing after this? 111 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:43,600 Speaker 1: And you're just bearing it all on the table. Oh yeah, 112 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:46,680 Speaker 1: it's all out there and they are dealing with like 113 00:06:46,839 --> 00:06:49,919 Speaker 1: really hot wags, like they have to be very careful 114 00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:53,040 Speaker 1: with your bits. I was getting a Brazilian ones and 115 00:06:53,400 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 1: the waxer started going off about Amber Heard and I'm like, 116 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 1: like you said, Spready, Well, I'm in the middle of it, 117 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:05,600 Speaker 1: like she is putting hot wax on my nethers, you know, 118 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:10,320 Speaker 1: and she's like Amber Heard and then she's like very 119 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:14,320 Speaker 1: anti Amber And we had just gotten done talking about 120 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 1: dephard like to some degree on a past episode, and 121 00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 1: I'm there, like I can't engage in a debate with 122 00:07:20,840 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 1: my wax tech right now. I'm in a very vulnerable position. 123 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:29,840 Speaker 1: You're too vulnerable. I just have to listen. And it 124 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:32,240 Speaker 1: was so wild because then a couple of weeks after 125 00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 1: that happened to you, that happened to me, and my 126 00:07:35,760 --> 00:07:40,720 Speaker 1: aesthetician started saying something about amber and I felt the 127 00:07:40,760 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 1: exact same. I was like, I am too exposed right now, 128 00:07:45,760 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 1: yea to have this conversation and I'm just gonna mh 129 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:54,280 Speaker 1: the whole time because I'm not doing that today. No, 130 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 1: what can I do? That was not the time for discourse, 131 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:02,560 Speaker 1: not in not the time for education. No, no, you've 132 00:08:02,600 --> 00:08:05,520 Speaker 1: not make hot steam and the hot wax, and no 133 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:09,400 Speaker 1: thank you behind the closed door. And it's too much, 134 00:08:09,640 --> 00:08:15,040 Speaker 1: way too much. Okay, So next question, what makes you 135 00:08:15,440 --> 00:08:21,160 Speaker 1: feel connected to someone? Connection? You know, I think just 136 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:25,800 Speaker 1: like shared time and space, like hanging out or like, 137 00:08:25,880 --> 00:08:29,840 Speaker 1: you know, we are constantly in communication to some degree, 138 00:08:29,960 --> 00:08:34,040 Speaker 1: so there's that constant connectedness. And then I'll like, if 139 00:08:34,080 --> 00:08:36,239 Speaker 1: I just like hang out with my mom and grandma 140 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:39,320 Speaker 1: and we're just like watching reruns, you know, we're not 141 00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 1: even talking all the time, you know, just like being 142 00:08:43,520 --> 00:08:46,640 Speaker 1: in the same place makes me feel very connected. Yeah, 143 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:49,640 Speaker 1: I agree, I'm definitely like I think I've come to 144 00:08:49,679 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 1: really appreciate quality time, you know, and spending time with 145 00:08:54,320 --> 00:08:59,719 Speaker 1: people in smaller settings. You know. That's also why I 146 00:08:59,760 --> 00:09:02,319 Speaker 1: plan and the gallantines. I just wanted to have people 147 00:09:02,360 --> 00:09:06,680 Speaker 1: over no pressure of like going to a restaurant a bar, 148 00:09:06,920 --> 00:09:09,240 Speaker 1: getting dressed up like come as you are, you know, 149 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:12,920 Speaker 1: and I'm here and providing things. But I think, yeah, 150 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:15,800 Speaker 1: I've definitely come to appreciate quality time a lot more. 151 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:19,520 Speaker 1: And even like that was obviously a very like planned thing, 152 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:22,679 Speaker 1: a planned to dinner, but just also the low key things, 153 00:09:22,800 --> 00:09:26,080 Speaker 1: right like going on a walk, going to get coffee 154 00:09:26,080 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 1: with someone, going on a run with someone, Like those 155 00:09:28,920 --> 00:09:32,920 Speaker 1: are things that make me feel connected. And also like 156 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:37,240 Speaker 1: words of affirmation like tell me you love me, tell 157 00:09:37,280 --> 00:09:40,320 Speaker 1: me something great about me, tell me something you admire 158 00:09:40,360 --> 00:09:43,920 Speaker 1: about me, and vice versa. You know, I'll reciprocate as well. 159 00:09:44,280 --> 00:09:48,600 Speaker 1: And I think giving people that kind of love like 160 00:09:49,160 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 1: telling them what I appreciate about them, thank you for 161 00:09:51,960 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 1: listening to me, thank you for understanding, thank you for 162 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:57,520 Speaker 1: reaching out, Like those things make me feel really connected 163 00:09:57,559 --> 00:10:02,320 Speaker 1: to someone. Yeah, Like people know otis and then make 164 00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:04,720 Speaker 1: it a point to talk about it and say something 165 00:10:04,720 --> 00:10:10,079 Speaker 1: and verbalize yeah, yes, definitely. Yeah. The words of affirmation 166 00:10:10,640 --> 00:10:14,640 Speaker 1: yes are huge. They really are for me, not like 167 00:10:15,000 --> 00:10:18,160 Speaker 1: that's not the case for everyone, yeah, but definitely for me, 168 00:10:18,280 --> 00:10:21,480 Speaker 1: Like that's I need that. I need that too. We 169 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:24,880 Speaker 1: talk about this. We have a praise king here at 170 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:27,640 Speaker 1: look at thought our radio. We love to hear that 171 00:10:27,720 --> 00:10:30,840 Speaker 1: we're good girls doing a good job, like honestly, like 172 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 1: make my day. Tell me that I am a gold 173 00:10:35,160 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 1: star a plus literally the way that I give myself 174 00:10:38,040 --> 00:10:41,120 Speaker 1: gold stars quite literally, like something that I picked up 175 00:10:41,160 --> 00:10:45,439 Speaker 1: for my friend Sylvia aka Silky She when she would 176 00:10:45,440 --> 00:10:47,120 Speaker 1: work out, she would put a little gold star in 177 00:10:47,200 --> 00:10:50,680 Speaker 1: her calendar. And I started doing that because the Catholic 178 00:10:50,720 --> 00:10:53,160 Speaker 1: school girl in me needs the praise. Yeah, I need 179 00:10:53,240 --> 00:10:56,760 Speaker 1: to praise myself. Yeah. And then you and I whenever 180 00:10:56,800 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 1: we have meetings or we get together and we're working 181 00:11:00,200 --> 00:11:02,840 Speaker 1: to close our meetings, we always say good job. Oh yeah, 182 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:05,520 Speaker 1: we always say good job. We say yay, good job 183 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:10,840 Speaker 1: literally to celebrate when we're getting off the phone, when 184 00:11:10,840 --> 00:11:14,960 Speaker 1: we're ending a meeting in person. Everywhere, it's yea good job. 185 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:17,320 Speaker 1: The last thing we say to each other, well, because 186 00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:21,680 Speaker 1: we're doing a great job. We're doing such a good job. Exactly. 187 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:24,679 Speaker 1: Somebody has to point it out, and it's gonna be us. 188 00:11:24,720 --> 00:11:29,880 Speaker 1: It's gonna be us. You know, go us. We're doing 189 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:34,840 Speaker 1: a great job who we are. We're very accomplished. Okay. 190 00:11:34,840 --> 00:11:38,120 Speaker 1: So on the flip side of this question is what 191 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:47,800 Speaker 1: makes you feel disconnected from someone? Disconnection? This is interesting. 192 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:51,600 Speaker 1: I like, Okay, you know when you meet someone new 193 00:11:51,840 --> 00:11:54,920 Speaker 1: and like everything is going well and you're vibing and 194 00:11:55,080 --> 00:12:00,040 Speaker 1: getting along and all these boxes are being checked and 195 00:11:59,800 --> 00:12:04,480 Speaker 1: they say something right that is like, oh shit, like 196 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:06,800 Speaker 1: this person has this whole other side to them that 197 00:12:06,920 --> 00:12:12,640 Speaker 1: maybe I don't like. And usually it's some it's some opinion, 198 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 1: usually about women or the state of the world, you know, 199 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:22,320 Speaker 1: like our politics. That just switches up like how I 200 00:12:22,320 --> 00:12:27,240 Speaker 1: feel about them, which ends up making me feel disconnected 201 00:12:27,280 --> 00:12:30,640 Speaker 1: from that person, you know what I mean, Like especially 202 00:12:30,679 --> 00:12:34,680 Speaker 1: with like with takes on gender and stuff that will 203 00:12:34,760 --> 00:12:37,680 Speaker 1: like really turn me off of somebody and make me 204 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:40,640 Speaker 1: feel like, Okay, we're not we're not in alignment anymore, 205 00:12:40,679 --> 00:12:44,160 Speaker 1: we're not vibing anymore, we're not on the same page. 206 00:12:44,240 --> 00:12:48,640 Speaker 1: Actually there is a chasm here. Yeah. I think it's 207 00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:52,760 Speaker 1: like it's also like you don't have to deal with 208 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:55,959 Speaker 1: those things, like you don't have to date someone that 209 00:12:56,200 --> 00:12:59,679 Speaker 1: has that difference of beliefs, especially when it comes to 210 00:12:59,760 --> 00:13:03,000 Speaker 1: you you're being like your well being, your overall personhood, 211 00:13:03,520 --> 00:13:07,040 Speaker 1: like you don't need to deal with that. No, And 212 00:13:07,120 --> 00:13:11,240 Speaker 1: that's exactly why that makes me feel disconnected, because I'm 213 00:13:11,240 --> 00:13:14,560 Speaker 1: going to disconnect from you, yeah, and not engage anymore. 214 00:13:14,679 --> 00:13:19,120 Speaker 1: Like literally, this is we're unplugging now. That's that stuff 215 00:13:19,160 --> 00:13:23,560 Speaker 1: will scare me away very quickly. Ye. Quite often it's 216 00:13:23,640 --> 00:13:29,040 Speaker 1: in there somewhere, I gotta go. Yeah, No, I yeah, 217 00:13:29,080 --> 00:13:33,000 Speaker 1: I agree. I think something that makes me feel disconnected 218 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:38,200 Speaker 1: from someone is like I think lack of care or 219 00:13:38,280 --> 00:13:42,240 Speaker 1: like lack of like listening, you know. I think I 220 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:46,160 Speaker 1: very much have surrounded myself with people that like some 221 00:13:46,280 --> 00:13:49,280 Speaker 1: way that the USTA is like they notice things, they listen, 222 00:13:50,240 --> 00:13:52,760 Speaker 1: and it shows with like how they interact with me, 223 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:56,520 Speaker 1: and like gift giving like those kinds of things, you know, 224 00:13:56,520 --> 00:13:59,160 Speaker 1: I think because that's my mother is very much like that, 225 00:13:59,200 --> 00:14:02,000 Speaker 1: Like she notices things and she'll remember these things, and 226 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:05,880 Speaker 1: it just has created this like impossible model no one 227 00:14:05,960 --> 00:14:09,200 Speaker 1: because no one loves you like your mother's true. But 228 00:14:09,240 --> 00:14:11,800 Speaker 1: I think like that's one example I think another thing too, 229 00:14:11,960 --> 00:14:16,400 Speaker 1: is like I cannot deal with people that come on 230 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:20,560 Speaker 1: too strong coo. I think just talking about dating, because 231 00:14:20,560 --> 00:14:23,360 Speaker 1: that was like an example you gave, Like if someone 232 00:14:23,440 --> 00:14:27,120 Speaker 1: comes on too strong, I'm like no longer interested. Yeah, 233 00:14:27,160 --> 00:14:30,560 Speaker 1: And it's not even about like the chase or anything 234 00:14:30,640 --> 00:14:32,880 Speaker 1: like that. It's just that I don't like to feel 235 00:14:32,920 --> 00:14:38,840 Speaker 1: overwhelmed by someone's like attraction to me, or I start 236 00:14:38,840 --> 00:14:41,200 Speaker 1: to feel like very suffocated or very like, oh, I 237 00:14:41,240 --> 00:14:44,840 Speaker 1: need to pull back and disengage because you're coming on 238 00:14:44,960 --> 00:14:48,800 Speaker 1: really strong, you know, And there's like a like there's 239 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:52,160 Speaker 1: like an art I feel to like courting someone, yes, 240 00:14:52,760 --> 00:14:56,000 Speaker 1: where it's like just enough you know. Of course you're 241 00:14:56,040 --> 00:14:58,240 Speaker 1: not going to be with someone or date someone that's 242 00:14:58,280 --> 00:15:01,880 Speaker 1: like giving you nothing, you know, like showing no interest. 243 00:15:01,920 --> 00:15:03,920 Speaker 1: Of course not that's That's not what I'm saying. But 244 00:15:04,240 --> 00:15:06,480 Speaker 1: I think there's like a very fine line of like 245 00:15:07,520 --> 00:15:11,240 Speaker 1: someone showing you enough attention and energy and time and 246 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:16,120 Speaker 1: all of that and then like way over the top. Yes, 247 00:15:16,240 --> 00:15:19,960 Speaker 1: it's a delicate balance. And also because like person to person, 248 00:15:20,200 --> 00:15:24,280 Speaker 1: what is considered too much or it can vary so much, 249 00:15:24,360 --> 00:15:27,560 Speaker 1: like I think there are people who are way more 250 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:31,760 Speaker 1: absorbent when it comes to like attention and like that 251 00:15:31,960 --> 00:15:35,560 Speaker 1: eagerness on the front end. You know what a lot 252 00:15:35,600 --> 00:15:37,640 Speaker 1: of people call that these days is love Bob. I 253 00:15:38,040 --> 00:15:42,040 Speaker 1: wanted to say that, but I'm like, that's that's used incorrectly. Yeah, 254 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:46,320 Speaker 1: it's different. It's different. Love loving is an abuse cycle, yeah, 255 00:15:46,320 --> 00:15:49,360 Speaker 1: but that is like colloquially, what is what it's called now? 256 00:15:49,600 --> 00:15:52,320 Speaker 1: It used to be known as the honeymoon phase, right 257 00:15:52,400 --> 00:15:56,040 Speaker 1: in the cycle of abuse, where that's where they're just 258 00:15:56,160 --> 00:15:59,600 Speaker 1: globbing you with love and affection and praise and attention 259 00:15:59,640 --> 00:16:03,200 Speaker 1: and sorries and things like that right after abusing you. Yes, 260 00:16:03,240 --> 00:16:06,320 Speaker 1: And it's part of a cycle of like a repeated behavior, 261 00:16:06,400 --> 00:16:09,040 Speaker 1: you know, over and over again. And so like what 262 00:16:09,160 --> 00:16:12,800 Speaker 1: I've seen people online say about love bombing, it's like, oh, 263 00:16:12,800 --> 00:16:15,520 Speaker 1: when they are super attentive at the front end and 264 00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:17,920 Speaker 1: you've just met them, this is a new person, yes, 265 00:16:18,280 --> 00:16:21,520 Speaker 1: you know, yes, And I'm like, that is maybe it's 266 00:16:21,880 --> 00:16:25,080 Speaker 1: I think we're getting our wires crossed here a little bit. 267 00:16:25,160 --> 00:16:31,280 Speaker 1: But yeah, like some folks are more kind of receptive 268 00:16:31,600 --> 00:16:34,760 Speaker 1: to a lot of attention and a lot of love 269 00:16:34,920 --> 00:16:38,920 Speaker 1: at the beginning, and then other folks are like whoe 270 00:16:39,640 --> 00:16:42,720 Speaker 1: a double text? This is a lot, you know. So 271 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:46,120 Speaker 1: it's a very delicate balance. Something that used to bother 272 00:16:46,240 --> 00:16:50,800 Speaker 1: me when I was dating obviously was like people using 273 00:16:50,840 --> 00:16:55,680 Speaker 1: like names for you, like too quickly, like babe or baby, 274 00:16:56,800 --> 00:17:00,760 Speaker 1: getting too comfortable, too familiar to And I only feel 275 00:17:00,760 --> 00:17:03,240 Speaker 1: that way about dating, like of course I call my 276 00:17:03,280 --> 00:17:07,959 Speaker 1: friends love and mommy whatever. But when it comes to 277 00:17:07,960 --> 00:17:10,720 Speaker 1: like someone showing interest in me very early on and 278 00:17:10,760 --> 00:17:13,560 Speaker 1: they start using these names for me, it like very 279 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:17,280 Speaker 1: much freaks me out. I'm like, no, no, no, like no, 280 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:20,720 Speaker 1: call me by my name literally, you know my name, 281 00:17:21,240 --> 00:17:27,320 Speaker 1: use it exactly, all right. So next question, how far 282 00:17:27,920 --> 00:17:30,480 Speaker 1: would you move for love? You know I would move? 283 00:17:31,359 --> 00:17:33,760 Speaker 1: You would? I think I would move? Yeah, totally, but 284 00:17:34,200 --> 00:17:37,560 Speaker 1: it would be under the stipulation that we probably end 285 00:17:37,600 --> 00:17:40,960 Speaker 1: up back in LA if there ever comes a time 286 00:17:40,960 --> 00:17:43,960 Speaker 1: where there are kids, because I need my mom to 287 00:17:44,000 --> 00:17:46,280 Speaker 1: help me for sure, I'm not going to be honestly, 288 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:48,679 Speaker 1: I refuse, Like, if I'm ever going to have children, 289 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:51,080 Speaker 1: I'm not going to be pregnant somewhere without my mom 290 00:17:51,080 --> 00:17:54,040 Speaker 1: like a phone call away. Why would I do that 291 00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:57,560 Speaker 1: to myself? Yeah, And that doesn't make sense to me, totally. 292 00:17:57,680 --> 00:17:59,199 Speaker 1: So I would move, but it would only be for 293 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:02,480 Speaker 1: a time, not for forever, A short stint somewhere else, 294 00:18:02,600 --> 00:18:05,840 Speaker 1: a stint exactly. How about you? Would you move for love? No? 295 00:18:07,280 --> 00:18:12,280 Speaker 1: Quite simply Latin me, No, tell us why I don't 296 00:18:12,320 --> 00:18:16,080 Speaker 1: see myself leaving La like to move to live. I 297 00:18:16,080 --> 00:18:19,440 Speaker 1: could see myself a couple of months here and there, 298 00:18:19,440 --> 00:18:22,480 Speaker 1: you know, living somewhere else, doing like a remote situation. 299 00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:24,359 Speaker 1: We've talked about moving to New York, you and I 300 00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:27,199 Speaker 1: yea this week we have we've talked about moving to 301 00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:29,800 Speaker 1: New York for like a summer and doing some work 302 00:18:29,840 --> 00:18:34,080 Speaker 1: out there. Um, but I don't see myself. So I 303 00:18:34,080 --> 00:18:35,920 Speaker 1: guess what I'm saying is I would move for you, Mala. 304 00:18:36,080 --> 00:18:39,040 Speaker 1: But that's it. That's a I think so you would 305 00:18:39,040 --> 00:18:41,560 Speaker 1: move for love? For you? Yes, I would move for you, 306 00:18:42,560 --> 00:18:46,960 Speaker 1: um but yes, yeah, No, I don't see myself leaving 307 00:18:47,080 --> 00:18:49,960 Speaker 1: La like for long term. It would like it would 308 00:18:50,000 --> 00:18:53,840 Speaker 1: have to be like very extreme circumstances that would like 309 00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:56,560 Speaker 1: make me move. But I'm with you, Like, even if 310 00:18:56,560 --> 00:18:58,120 Speaker 1: I were to move, I'm like, well, mom, you're gonna 311 00:18:58,160 --> 00:19:00,280 Speaker 1: you gotta come. I would have to move my mom 312 00:19:00,320 --> 00:19:02,719 Speaker 1: with me, you know, for the same the same reason, 313 00:19:02,960 --> 00:19:05,359 Speaker 1: Like it would either be if I have a family 314 00:19:05,400 --> 00:19:07,040 Speaker 1: and have to come back to l A, or my 315 00:19:07,080 --> 00:19:09,719 Speaker 1: mom would have to move with me. Exactly. There's just 316 00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:15,119 Speaker 1: no other way that that could work. Sorry. Yeah, if 317 00:19:15,119 --> 00:19:18,280 Speaker 1: you're out there listening, I know if you want to 318 00:19:18,320 --> 00:19:20,160 Speaker 1: move me away from my mother, you want to take 319 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:22,400 Speaker 1: me away from my mother? Is that what you want? Right? 320 00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:26,520 Speaker 1: She has to come. She got to come with Michelle 321 00:19:26,560 --> 00:19:29,000 Speaker 1: Obama took her mother to the White House. Good. I 322 00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 1: didn't know that grandma was in DC. She was like 323 00:19:33,720 --> 00:19:38,160 Speaker 1: with the kids, because you need your mom. Yeah, grandma 324 00:19:38,200 --> 00:19:40,760 Speaker 1: was in the White House. Yeah, I really close by. 325 00:19:40,920 --> 00:19:43,119 Speaker 1: You know, we're very blessed to have great relationships with 326 00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:46,400 Speaker 1: our mothers. I think we've learned how to navigate their 327 00:19:46,440 --> 00:19:50,000 Speaker 1: personalities and like who they are, yes, and not take 328 00:19:50,040 --> 00:19:53,680 Speaker 1: it take what they say with a grain of salt. Yeah, totally, 329 00:19:53,760 --> 00:19:58,360 Speaker 1: but also like enjoy them for who they are. Yeah. Yeah. 330 00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:02,400 Speaker 1: And they're super supportive and they are like they come 331 00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:04,639 Speaker 1: to our events, and they come to our shows and 332 00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:08,160 Speaker 1: our dinners, and they're there with us, you know, through 333 00:20:08,240 --> 00:20:11,480 Speaker 1: through the journey. They're on the back end, right, keeping 334 00:20:11,560 --> 00:20:15,520 Speaker 1: us alive, keeping us functioning. It's true. My mom is 335 00:20:15,560 --> 00:20:19,159 Speaker 1: like the Haynes babysitter. So oh yeah, you know my 336 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:22,280 Speaker 1: mom baby said spot us also exactly like, I'm like, 337 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:25,800 Speaker 1: you you are babysitting in some capacity. Yeah. So yeah, 338 00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:29,280 Speaker 1: And I explained to her recently and she's like, oh, 339 00:20:29,359 --> 00:20:32,760 Speaker 1: like we're gonna we're gonna be in our golden years 340 00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:36,080 Speaker 1: and just retire and travel. I'm like, Mom, you're like 341 00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:39,840 Speaker 1: begging for grandkids, so I don't know when you're gonna 342 00:20:39,840 --> 00:20:45,680 Speaker 1: be traveling, right, You're gonna be babysitting. So true. She's like, well, 343 00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:49,480 Speaker 1: maybe which is the dogs for now? It hit her. Wow, 344 00:20:49,760 --> 00:20:51,760 Speaker 1: she doesn't want to She doesn't want to change diapers. 345 00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:57,120 Speaker 1: Damn no, No, she wants to retire her and enjoy 346 00:20:57,320 --> 00:21:01,320 Speaker 1: her retired life before grandkids. I think all grand pre 347 00:21:01,520 --> 00:21:04,800 Speaker 1: grandparents should do that. Yeah, go have fun. Yeah. I 348 00:21:04,800 --> 00:21:08,760 Speaker 1: mean my mom became a grandmother very young because my 349 00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:11,959 Speaker 1: brother had a baby when he was eighteen. So my 350 00:21:12,040 --> 00:21:15,240 Speaker 1: mom was like a young hot grandma. Love that. You know, 351 00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:17,399 Speaker 1: she's been a grandma since she was like in her forties. 352 00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:21,000 Speaker 1: That is so great. Yeah. So I'm like, please, like, 353 00:21:21,040 --> 00:21:26,000 Speaker 1: you have plenty of grandchildren there, enjoy them. Yes, hang 354 00:21:26,000 --> 00:21:31,680 Speaker 1: out with them, yes, and she does. Okay, So name 355 00:21:32,359 --> 00:21:38,080 Speaker 1: three of your biggest turnofs Oh my god, Okay, here's 356 00:21:38,080 --> 00:21:40,560 Speaker 1: a turn off is someone who does not pay enough 357 00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:45,280 Speaker 1: attention to me. I'm turned off because they're turned off clearly, 358 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:49,639 Speaker 1: you know. So I need that attention and I feel 359 00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:53,320 Speaker 1: like that's its own type of love language and not everybody. 360 00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:58,240 Speaker 1: Paying attention is not everyone's love language, you know. Yeah, 361 00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:00,760 Speaker 1: Like I feel like sometimes people think that like a 362 00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:03,800 Speaker 1: romantic partner is like a succulent, Like you could just 363 00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:06,480 Speaker 1: gonna It's gonna be fine, you can just leave it there. 364 00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:09,639 Speaker 1: You don't have to attend to it. It's not true. No, 365 00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:14,000 Speaker 1: what is like your ideal way of being like paid 366 00:22:14,040 --> 00:22:22,160 Speaker 1: attention to Well, I think like I really appreciate obviously, 367 00:22:22,320 --> 00:22:26,840 Speaker 1: like responsiveness and like communication when it comes to like 368 00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:29,040 Speaker 1: texting and phone calls, and I like phone calls, Like 369 00:22:29,080 --> 00:22:31,840 Speaker 1: I like someone who will just call me, just call 370 00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:34,080 Speaker 1: me up, you know what I mean, Like, um, that 371 00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:37,159 Speaker 1: is really fun for me. And then like I also 372 00:22:37,240 --> 00:22:41,040 Speaker 1: really like yeah, like thing like like thoughtfulness when it 373 00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:44,600 Speaker 1: comes to like activities and outings and things and stuff 374 00:22:44,680 --> 00:22:50,320 Speaker 1: that we're doing together. Like I'm very like done with like, oh, 375 00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:53,359 Speaker 1: like whatever, whatever you feel like, I don't know, what 376 00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:55,879 Speaker 1: do you want to do? Whatever? I'm down for, you know, 377 00:22:55,920 --> 00:22:59,000 Speaker 1: like I'm like, let's have some specificity here and something, 378 00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:03,480 Speaker 1: so like that type of attention, okay, And as far 379 00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:07,600 Speaker 1: as like your other turnofs oh yeah, yeah, yeah, oh god. 380 00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:11,160 Speaker 1: You know, I don't like I don't like people who 381 00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:15,359 Speaker 1: are are like super judgmental. Like I think I've shared 382 00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:17,240 Speaker 1: this story before, but like this one always sticks out 383 00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:19,920 Speaker 1: to me. Like I went to dinner with this guy 384 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:21,400 Speaker 1: and he was asking me what I like to do 385 00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:24,160 Speaker 1: pre pandemic. So at the time, I was like going 386 00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:26,040 Speaker 1: to a lot of Dodger games, and I was like, oh, well, 387 00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:29,000 Speaker 1: I've been really enjoy enjoying like going to Dodger Stadium. 388 00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:33,359 Speaker 1: And he was like, he was like, you know about 389 00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:36,320 Speaker 1: the history of Javez Ravine, don't you. I'm like, it's 390 00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:41,520 Speaker 1: kind of like a problematic activity. And I'm sitting there 391 00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:44,879 Speaker 1: looking at this man and I'm like, we're in Los Angeles, 392 00:23:44,880 --> 00:23:49,000 Speaker 1: like we're both the fucking like La like Chicanos, and 393 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:52,000 Speaker 1: you're gonna give me grief about going to Dodger Stadium 394 00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:56,439 Speaker 1: and like very judgmental. This guy with the tone in 395 00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:58,520 Speaker 1: which he said it, and he like kind of kept 396 00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:01,560 Speaker 1: pressing on it, and I'm like, I can't ever date 397 00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:05,240 Speaker 1: you ever again because this is so annoying. Right, No, yeah, 398 00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:07,600 Speaker 1: of course I know about the history of Javis Ravine. 399 00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:10,280 Speaker 1: What's wrong with you? Right, I'm still going to go 400 00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:12,399 Speaker 1: to a game. What do you want for me? You 401 00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:16,560 Speaker 1: know what I mean? For sure? Wow? Yeah? Okay, so 402 00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:20,880 Speaker 1: not too judgmental or not judgmental at all. Chill out, 403 00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:23,320 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Chill out? Tell me I 404 00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:25,600 Speaker 1: look pretty and take me to a movie. Like, why 405 00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:28,760 Speaker 1: is that so difficult? You know what I mean? Don't 406 00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:33,840 Speaker 1: lecture me about the history of displacement at Dodger Stadium, right, 407 00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:39,080 Speaker 1: how about you? That is it? I'm like, that isn't important, combo, 408 00:24:39,160 --> 00:24:41,280 Speaker 1: but because some people don't know. But no, I agree, like, 409 00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:45,359 Speaker 1: especially on a date like judgment the judgment it's not cute, 410 00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:48,960 Speaker 1: you know, Like, yeah, if you don't like baseball, that's okay. 411 00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:54,720 Speaker 1: You can just say that you don't like baseball. Okay. 412 00:24:54,760 --> 00:25:01,879 Speaker 1: Three of my biggest turn offs I don't I know. 413 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:04,000 Speaker 1: I know that I have them, but I'm like, I 414 00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:07,960 Speaker 1: don't know what they are. Okay, I guess, like I 415 00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:10,200 Speaker 1: think this is like a lot of people, right, but like, 416 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:15,880 Speaker 1: you know, be respectful to service workers, you know, like 417 00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:18,600 Speaker 1: that's a big one. I've never been with someone that isn't, 418 00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:22,400 Speaker 1: but that would that would definitely be a big turn off. 419 00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:26,160 Speaker 1: I did actually go on a date once where this 420 00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:31,199 Speaker 1: guy didn't didn't tip well, and I like saw and 421 00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:33,000 Speaker 1: I was like, what are you doing? And we had 422 00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 1: been going out for a couple of weeks, so I 423 00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:38,720 Speaker 1: felt like enough I like do and I was like, wait, 424 00:25:39,520 --> 00:25:42,320 Speaker 1: what are you doing? Like that's like ten percent and 425 00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:45,159 Speaker 1: he was like, oh yeah, like it was normal. And 426 00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:48,680 Speaker 1: I was like, no, like the baseline should be like twenty, 427 00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:52,160 Speaker 1: like maybe fifteen, but like that should be the baseline. 428 00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:55,600 Speaker 1: And so we had this conversation about tipping and he 429 00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:58,320 Speaker 1: was like, okay, yeah, I hadn't considered it that way. Whatever, 430 00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:01,240 Speaker 1: And so then he started tipping well or tipping better 431 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:03,080 Speaker 1: I should say, at least in front of me. I 432 00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:05,200 Speaker 1: don't know if like what he was doing without me, 433 00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:09,240 Speaker 1: but that was like that I think was kind of 434 00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:11,600 Speaker 1: like that was probably my only experience with some being 435 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:14,879 Speaker 1: dating someone that was like not aware or like didn't 436 00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:18,000 Speaker 1: know better or didn't want to. I don't know, but yeah, 437 00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:21,640 Speaker 1: I think like being kind to service workers, Like definitely 438 00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:24,320 Speaker 1: if you're not, then that's a big turn off. Another 439 00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:26,040 Speaker 1: one would be like, you know, I like a well 440 00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:30,320 Speaker 1: kept person, you know, so like someone that takes care 441 00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:33,520 Speaker 1: of themselves, like they have good hygiene. So if you 442 00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:37,560 Speaker 1: don't have that, like that would be a big turn off. Yeah, totally, 443 00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:41,320 Speaker 1: that's a very big one. There's like constant conversation online 444 00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:45,400 Speaker 1: too about like women in particular who date men, and 445 00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:48,880 Speaker 1: like those women talking about how dirty their boyfriends are. 446 00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:53,920 Speaker 1: Can't relate. It's very odd, but it is a problem. Yeah, 447 00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:57,800 Speaker 1: it's like personal like with bathing, very basic, like this 448 00:26:57,880 --> 00:27:02,359 Speaker 1: is like basic stuff, totally showering and like using the potty, 449 00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:09,480 Speaker 1: literally cleaning yourself, washing your hands, like basic things, super basic. Yeah, 450 00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:12,560 Speaker 1: Like I don't know how those women can be in 451 00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:15,080 Speaker 1: these relationships because that would be such a turn off 452 00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:19,280 Speaker 1: for me, especially like we've talked about, I'm a little like, 453 00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:21,479 Speaker 1: like cleanliness is a very big thing for me, Like 454 00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:24,320 Speaker 1: I have to like if you know, no outside clothes 455 00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:26,399 Speaker 1: on the bed, like no outside, take your shoes off 456 00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:28,679 Speaker 1: at home, Like that's a very big thing. And I 457 00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:31,240 Speaker 1: think if the pandemic just heightened it. It was already 458 00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:34,400 Speaker 1: there and then it got worse. Yeah, with the pandemic. Yeah, 459 00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:36,600 Speaker 1: those would be Those are my two big turn offs. 460 00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:38,840 Speaker 1: I can't think of a third one. Okay, just thought 461 00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:40,440 Speaker 1: of one. Okay, I think you'll agree with this one. 462 00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:44,119 Speaker 1: So I diated a guy where like they never ever, ever, 463 00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:46,960 Speaker 1: ever ever took their German shepherd for a while, and 464 00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:50,040 Speaker 1: the poor German shepherd was just like not tended to 465 00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:52,560 Speaker 1: and not taken care of. And then he would make 466 00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:55,960 Speaker 1: comments about like because I would walk my dog and 467 00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:59,160 Speaker 1: then pick up after my dog on our walks because 468 00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:02,040 Speaker 1: I bring doggy backs, because that's what you're supposed to do, right, 469 00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:04,679 Speaker 1: And then he'd be like, oh, you're a good person, 470 00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:08,600 Speaker 1: because wow, not only would they not walk their dog, 471 00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:10,880 Speaker 1: but if they did, they definitely wouldn't pick up after 472 00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:14,479 Speaker 1: their dog, you know. And so that to me, I 473 00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:17,159 Speaker 1: was like, I don't like you guys. M I know 474 00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:19,359 Speaker 1: that would be Yes, I can add that one to 475 00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:21,960 Speaker 1: my list. Squak your dog, take care dog has a 476 00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:25,400 Speaker 1: hip displasia, Like your dog is suffering and you need 477 00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:27,760 Speaker 1: to take your dog to a vet, you know, Like 478 00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:32,200 Speaker 1: I it made me. It was like the biggest ick ever, Yeah, 479 00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:36,240 Speaker 1: I couldn't handle that, Like people that don't care for 480 00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:39,160 Speaker 1: their pets, like why have one? You know? Yeah, I 481 00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:41,480 Speaker 1: think lots of people don't realize how much work it is. 482 00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:44,840 Speaker 1: They need a lot of attention they really do um 483 00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:48,720 Speaker 1: And also like I couldn't handle the potential public shaming 484 00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,239 Speaker 1: of like not picking up after my dog. No. Like 485 00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:55,200 Speaker 1: one time, I like forgot to take a baggy and 486 00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:57,520 Speaker 1: a lady yelled at me, and I'm like, wow, this 487 00:28:57,600 --> 00:29:00,000 Speaker 1: is exactly why I have to be prepared at all time, 488 00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:02,960 Speaker 1: because I can never experience this ever again. Oh I'm like, yeah, 489 00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:05,560 Speaker 1: this is my bad, like yes, and then she yielded me. 490 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:09,160 Speaker 1: That happened to me a couple like a couple of 491 00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:11,800 Speaker 1: years ago during the pandemic. I was walking my dogs 492 00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:13,400 Speaker 1: and I but I was a block away from my 493 00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:15,360 Speaker 1: house and I realized, oh, I didn't have a bag 494 00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:18,400 Speaker 1: and no one had had like done anything yet, none 495 00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:19,880 Speaker 1: of the dogs. So I was like, I have let 496 00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:21,360 Speaker 1: me just I'm gonna walk back and I'm gonna get 497 00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:25,360 Speaker 1: bags as I'm walking back. Of course, of course, Daisy 498 00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:28,120 Speaker 1: obvious has to go. A little white dog that all 499 00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:30,840 Speaker 1: Latinos have, the crusty white dog has to go. She's 500 00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:35,080 Speaker 1: not crusty, please, she's a little crusty. She is. It's 501 00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:37,040 Speaker 1: just the sound. It's just a sound. It's just a 502 00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:40,840 Speaker 1: tiny bit. But anyway, so she goes. She decides she 503 00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:43,240 Speaker 1: has to go in the middle of the street and 504 00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:46,320 Speaker 1: my some neighbors were out, not my direct neighbors, no, 505 00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:51,000 Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh shit, no, literally, I literally and 506 00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:53,360 Speaker 1: I had nothing on me, and so I'm like, well, 507 00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:55,520 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go home anyway, and I'm coming back. Yeah, 508 00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:58,440 Speaker 1: I have every intention of picking this up. And then 509 00:29:58,480 --> 00:30:01,520 Speaker 1: of course this man like yell at me and he 510 00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:03,400 Speaker 1: was like, hey, pick up after your dog. And I 511 00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:05,160 Speaker 1: was like, I lived down the street. I'm going to 512 00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,200 Speaker 1: go get a bag. And he was like, well, I hope. 513 00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:10,880 Speaker 1: So I know. It's awful, it really is. It's you 514 00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:12,760 Speaker 1: don't want to be caught in that. And I like 515 00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:14,200 Speaker 1: went home and got a bag, and I came back 516 00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:16,600 Speaker 1: and I picked it up. Of course continued my walk, right, 517 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:20,600 Speaker 1: but that public shaming, like, I don't want to do that. 518 00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:23,160 Speaker 1: I don't want to deal with that. It's the greatest pain. Yeah, 519 00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:27,880 Speaker 1: it's literally the worst. It's funny because we're like talking 520 00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:31,960 Speaker 1: about our braise kinks and so like, yes, the shaming, 521 00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:35,360 Speaker 1: we can't handle it. I can't handle it. I'm like, 522 00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:39,200 Speaker 1: be nice to me, talk to me nice. Yeah, yeah, 523 00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:42,080 Speaker 1: don't look at me. Don't don't look at me literally 524 00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:47,560 Speaker 1: like I'm I'm not a here totally okay. So to 525 00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:51,720 Speaker 1: wrap this up, the flip side is like, name three 526 00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:59,959 Speaker 1: of your biggest turn ons. Oh, man, I like people 527 00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:02,200 Speaker 1: who are funny, and I like people who think that 528 00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:07,040 Speaker 1: I'm funny. And then the third one would be, you know, 529 00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:10,080 Speaker 1: I really like a creative person, Like I like somebody 530 00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:13,520 Speaker 1: who can like make something, you know, like that really 531 00:31:13,560 --> 00:31:18,960 Speaker 1: does it for me? How about you? I mean, definitely 532 00:31:19,120 --> 00:31:27,360 Speaker 1: a good beard. She likes some bearded. I love a 533 00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:32,240 Speaker 1: thick beard, Yes you do, I really do. A good dresser. 534 00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:36,160 Speaker 1: I've dated the men mainly. All the women I've dated 535 00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:39,400 Speaker 1: have been wonderful dressers. But I've dated some men that 536 00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:42,400 Speaker 1: have not known how to dress right, very real. But 537 00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:44,640 Speaker 1: it's like that would also be a turn off. But 538 00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:47,000 Speaker 1: the turn on, you know, is someone that knows how 539 00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:49,880 Speaker 1: to put a look together. Because I feel like I've 540 00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,880 Speaker 1: seen men like not all men, right, but like not 541 00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:57,560 Speaker 1: all men, God, not all men know how to dress 542 00:31:57,600 --> 00:32:01,480 Speaker 1: like wear suits, but the ones that do do yeah. 543 00:32:01,600 --> 00:32:04,920 Speaker 1: But the casual where I feel like is lacking with men, 544 00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:07,440 Speaker 1: you know, like they don't know how to do a 545 00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:09,240 Speaker 1: casual look. So if you can do both, like a 546 00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:13,040 Speaker 1: casual look and like a suit it up look. Yes. 547 00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:16,240 Speaker 1: And then I think the last one is like I 548 00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:21,479 Speaker 1: love someone that plans something like same with you. It's like, 549 00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:24,000 Speaker 1: take me on a date, take me on an experience, 550 00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:29,720 Speaker 1: plans something for me. Yeah that is Yeah, that is 551 00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:32,600 Speaker 1: definitely a turn on look. And that's Look, this is 552 00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:36,520 Speaker 1: my biggest I'm just like, at this stage of the game, 553 00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:40,040 Speaker 1: like we should be People should be taking us out 554 00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:44,200 Speaker 1: to dinner, people should be making reservations, people should be 555 00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:48,280 Speaker 1: calling ahead. Yes. So this was a game by word 556 00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:51,040 Speaker 1: a fall and this was just a little taste of 557 00:32:51,040 --> 00:32:53,920 Speaker 1: what we did last night. 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