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Speaker 1: First date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Free is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Jeff.

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Speaker 2: And so we're about to see if we can get

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Speaker 2: another date and find out why she was ghosted by

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Speaker 2: calling him in a second. But first let's find out

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Speaker 2: about the date. Brie, how long has it been since

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Speaker 2: you heard from Jeff?

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Speaker 3: I have not heard from him in four days, for

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Speaker 3: a very long days.

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Speaker 4: When did you last talk to I mean, like, what

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Speaker 4: was your last interaction with him?

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Speaker 3: Like, so it was our date with our last interaction,

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Speaker 3: I've not heard from him since the date, and I'm

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Speaker 3: not sure what happened.

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Speaker 1: Did you reach out to him since?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, I'm starting to look a little bit crazy.

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Speaker 3: So friends, you guys.

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Speaker 1: Okay, fair, well, let's talk about the day. How did

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Speaker 1: it go?

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Speaker 3: Okay, So we met on Hinge. He ticks all of

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Speaker 3: my boxes. It was a great first date. So he

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Speaker 3: basically picked everything out. He has his favorite neighborhood spots.

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Speaker 3: So we went to this really really nice Battalion restaurant

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Speaker 3: and all the Italian food was really thoughtful. He asked

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Speaker 3: me before we went what my favorite food was, so

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Speaker 3: we had that in common, which was really cool. And

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Speaker 3: then we went to another little cute spot to get

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Speaker 3: some drinks and there was a twoth box there, which

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Speaker 3: I thought was pretty cool, and he gave me money

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Speaker 3: so I could pick out my favorite songs. It was

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Speaker 3: very thoughtful. Yeah, like just really a low key, sweet, sweet,

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Speaker 3: thoughtful date. And we sat next to each other and

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Speaker 3: we sang like my favorite songs and uh like, we

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Speaker 3: accidentally brushed elbows a couple of times, and it was

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Speaker 3: like the best date that I've ever been on. So

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Speaker 3: I'm kind of confused. We had a lot in common,

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Speaker 3: like we talked about sunny movies, like like our childhood.

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Speaker 3: I was telling him I was interested in self a

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Speaker 3: dancing and he said he was like open to going

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Speaker 3: because I was trying to test the waters because we'd be,

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Speaker 3: you know, interested.

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Speaker 1: In the mother hang.

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Speaker 3: We both are mediocre cooks. There was just like a

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Speaker 3: it's perfect, like yeah, we closed down the bar and

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Speaker 3: then Ricky walked me home and then we kissed and

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Speaker 3: I thought it was magic. And then I have not

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Speaker 3: heard from him since, so I don't know I've been

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Speaker 3: We texted that night and that was fine, but then

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Speaker 3: I tried to keep texting to like, you know, I'm

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Speaker 3: going to the salta Cross. We're gonna hang out. How

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Speaker 3: is your day? How is work? Any of that.

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Speaker 1: I've got nothing, any idea of why he is ghosts

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Speaker 1: to you at all.

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Speaker 3: My friends have a prediction. Okay, so I talk a lot.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if she's noticed. They think maybe I

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Speaker 3: over did. I was talking about like pillar talk and

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Speaker 3: just I was too hardcore for flirting. I came, I'm

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Speaker 3: too strong with Hey, let's go salt the dancing. I'm

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Speaker 3: looking too far into it. I don't know. They're thinking

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Speaker 3: I did maybe too much flirting or too much like

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Speaker 3: where are we going with it? The next step? How

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Speaker 3: do you feel about this or that?

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Speaker 2: Maybe when your elbows brushed? Did you guys have long

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Speaker 3: I rolled my sleeves up. He did not.

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Speaker 2: Oh, that's why we thought you were a little risky

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Speaker 2: going in like that. All right, skin to skin. Well,

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Speaker 2: we'll see if we can figure it out for you.

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Speaker 2: We'll play a song come back, and then call him

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Speaker 2: and see what tells why he's ghosting you and hopefully

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Speaker 2: another date.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, we'll get your.

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Speaker 2: First date follow up next by in the middle of

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Speaker 2: your first date follow up if you're just joining us.

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Speaker 2: Brie is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 2: a dude named Jeff. So we're about to call him

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Speaker 2: and see if you'll tell us why he's ghosting her

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Speaker 2: and maybe get her another date. But before we do that, Rie,

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Speaker 2: why don't you catch everybody up on your situation?

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Speaker 3: Okay? Because name is Jeff. We met on Hinge, best

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Speaker 3: gate of my life, very thoughtful, very kind. Now has

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Speaker 3: been ghosting me for four days. My friends think it's

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Speaker 3: because maybe over shit. Maybe I like came on too strong.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Ye, that must have been what it was? All right, Well,

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Speaker 1: are you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 3: Yes? Please?

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Speaker 1: All right, here we go, Hello him.

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Speaker 2: I speak to Jeff. Please, Yeah, Jeff, how are you?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jewbel and I host the radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called the Jebel Show.

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Speaker 1: Hi, Jeff, the whole show's here. I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 4: Hi.

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Speaker 1: Good, how are you? What do I owe the honor?

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Speaker 1: Have you ever listened to the show before? Once or twice?

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Speaker 1: We do a segment on the show it's called the

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Speaker 1: first date follow up.

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Speaker 2: So that's where if you go out on a date

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Speaker 2: with somebody and end up ghosting them, that person can

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Speaker 2: have us get you on the phone to ask why

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Speaker 2: you're ghosting them. So we got an email about you, sucka,

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Speaker 2: you need.

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Speaker 1: To be very nice, coaxing, but we got an email

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Speaker 1: about you. I think I see where this is going.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, about about Kaylen No, I'm sorry, her.

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Speaker 1: Name is Bree Busy, You're busy, Jeff? Never mind about that?

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Speaker 1: Can okay? And I heard it?

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Speaker 5: Okay, I'm going to give you a short answer. Relie

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Speaker 5: to me's a liar? About what about her age?

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Speaker 1: I mean she was. I liked her. I liked her

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Speaker 1: a lot.

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Speaker 5: So I went and you know, I did the the

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Speaker 5: proverbial scouting technique where you going on you know, social

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Speaker 5: media find out things about them. And I found out

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Speaker 5: that actually she told me she was thirty three the

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Speaker 5: app that she was thirty three. I'm thirty years old.

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Speaker 5: Turns out she thirty eight?

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Speaker 1: What and yeah?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, kind of like counting me for a loop. I

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Speaker 5: was like, well, we had a lot in common, we

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Speaker 5: shared a lot of stuff, we had it. I had

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Speaker 5: a great day. I thought we had a good time.

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Speaker 5: But I just don't do well with liars.

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Speaker 1: How do you know she was lying about her age?

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Speaker 5: Well her because her birthday on her on her social

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Speaker 2: Okay, and then you asked her her real birthday or

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Speaker 2: something like how'd you find out the real birthday?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? It shows on apps like how old they are

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Speaker 1: on what? Right? But then so she said she's said

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Speaker 1: she was thirty three. Okay, so it said she was,

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Speaker 1: But then you saw her birthdate on what on her

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Speaker 4: Oookay?

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, So you didn't ask her about that.

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Speaker 5: Well I didn't really need to ask her anything. I mean,

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Speaker 5: she already lied to me. She's gonna lie to me again.

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Speaker 3: What do you ask?

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Speaker 1: You're not supposed to have a woman her age, right, I.

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Speaker 4: Mean, maybe it's like an accident. Maybe it was like

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Speaker 4: wrong number and you're thirty eight. I don't know, I

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Speaker 4: just feel like, does it matter how old she is? Though?

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Speaker 1: Like, does is that really what bothers you?

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Speaker 5: No, don't get it twisted. It's not about her age, okay,

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Speaker 5: It's about the fact that she was. She wasn't a forecoming.

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Speaker 5: It's about I've had my own pass experience that some

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Speaker 1: So it's just it's just kind of a deal breaker

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Speaker 1: for me, you know. So we spiral her a little bit.

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Speaker 1: That makes sense.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, thanks for telling us, Jeff, I appreciate that.

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Speaker 1: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Also, Bri is on the phone. She's been listening to this

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Speaker 2: whole time and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh, okay, three.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, the age on Hine is not correct. However,

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Speaker 3: you would not have met me if I didn't fudge

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Speaker 1: A little bit. Oh so you know you did.

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Speaker 3: Okay, there's so many it's not people normally don't bump

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Speaker 4: I think it's safe to assume that anytime you go

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Speaker 4: on a day, you're at risk of being googled.

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Speaker 3: He should have asked me. You didn't even ask me.

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Speaker 3: You just assumed that I'm like a big wire because

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Speaker 3: it was hinge. Well, I mean, honestly, that.

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Speaker 5: Should have been one of the things you addressed on

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Speaker 3: Okay, I understand that my intention was never to not

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Speaker 1: So have you lied to me about anything else?

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Speaker 5: Is there anything else you want to come clean about?

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Speaker 3: Or No, that's it. I don't know why I would

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Speaker 5: So, you know, we were listening there at the jukebox

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Speaker 5: and you play all these songs. Is I mean Flowers

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Speaker 5: you know by Miley? Is that not your favorite song?

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Speaker 5: Is that are you lied about that too?

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Speaker 3: That is my favorite song. You saw me sing to

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Speaker 3: it loudly. That is definitely my favorite song.

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Speaker 5: I mean, do you did you like the food that

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Speaker 5: did you lie about that as well?

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Speaker 3: I hate I enjoyed the food. It was great.

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Speaker 1: I think Jeff has some trust issues, and that's okay.

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Speaker 3: I'm not a liar, I'm not a bad person. I'm

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Speaker 3: not like trying to trick you. Nobody after thirty five,

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Speaker 3: like there's a cutoff on hinge.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why.

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Speaker 3: So the pools small for dating options, so I just

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Speaker 3: made my net a little wider and I wouldn't have

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Speaker 3: met you otherwise. I really don't think it's a big deal.

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Speaker 3: I'm not lying about all sorts of weird things like

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Speaker 3: pasta and music. Okay, I was planning on telling you

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Speaker 3: and then I just got caught up. That's all.

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Speaker 2: Jeff, would you like to go on another date with Brie?

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Speaker 2: We'll pay for it. Give it a chance. You can

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Speaker 2: griller in person, right.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I would love to go on another date with Bree,

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Speaker 5: and I would love to, you know, come clean about

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Speaker 5: whatever we need to come.

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Speaker 2: Clean about Okay, Well, Bree, congratulations, you got another date.

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Speaker 1: more power to you.

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