1
00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:01,800
Speaker 1: Buggle up and hold on tight. We got it for

2
00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:04,400
Speaker 1: you here. It is a strawberry letter. Here we go.

3
00:00:04,880 --> 00:00:12,760
Speaker 1: Subject Yes, years and years of cheating. Dear Steve, Shirley

4
00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:15,520
Speaker 1: and Tommy. I'm a wife of fourteen years. I've been

5
00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:18,440
Speaker 1: with my husband for eighteen years. We were together as

6
00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:22,599
Speaker 1: young teenagers. He doesn't know that I've been seeing someone

7
00:00:22,640 --> 00:00:26,160
Speaker 1: else since before we got married. I love this other

8
00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:29,560
Speaker 1: man simply for the man that he is when we're together.

9
00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:34,920
Speaker 1: His focus is on me. He is, he has unlimited

10
00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:38,960
Speaker 1: he has limitless sex drive is what she meant to say,

11
00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:42,239
Speaker 1: and pleases me every time. About a year ago, I

12
00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:45,760
Speaker 1: began a sexual relationship with another man who I care

13
00:00:45,880 --> 00:00:49,000
Speaker 1: very much for. I love his company, I love the sex,

14
00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:51,960
Speaker 1: and I feel safe when we are together. My husband

15
00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:57,680
Speaker 1: and I spend our time arguing, screaming, yelling, and slinging insults.

16
00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:01,200
Speaker 1: I know everyone will say that it's because of my cheating,

17
00:01:01,280 --> 00:01:05,399
Speaker 1: but my husband has no idea, never busted me. It's

18
00:01:05,440 --> 00:01:09,800
Speaker 1: more about his shortcomings. He hardly works. I pay mostly everything,

19
00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:12,440
Speaker 1: and I don't respect him for that. I love him,

20
00:01:12,840 --> 00:01:16,120
Speaker 1: but I don't like who he has become. Sometimes I

21
00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:19,080
Speaker 1: pray that he comes home after I am asleep so

22
00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:21,640
Speaker 1: I don't have to hear his voice. He failed me.

23
00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:24,920
Speaker 1: I believed in him, but in all these years he

24
00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:28,480
Speaker 1: has failed to deliver. His only true passion is smoking weed.

25
00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:30,920
Speaker 1: Am I wrong for running to the arms of two

26
00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:37,280
Speaker 1: very successful men? Well, morally, I know, take that all

27
00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:40,319
Speaker 1: in right. Morally, yes, of course you're wrong. I mean,

28
00:01:40,360 --> 00:01:41,800
Speaker 1: you know as well as I do that this is

29
00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:44,840
Speaker 1: adultery and that cheating is wrong. You know that, But

30
00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:47,360
Speaker 1: I mean, why did you write the letters? The question?

31
00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:50,040
Speaker 1: Is this like a true confession sort of thing that

32
00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:52,440
Speaker 1: you just wanted to get this off your chest? What

33
00:01:52,600 --> 00:01:55,520
Speaker 1: is really going on with you? And I'm quite frankly,

34
00:01:55,520 --> 00:01:58,600
Speaker 1: I'm not surprised that, um, your husband never caught you,

35
00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:01,280
Speaker 1: because usually women are are just way smarter than men

36
00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:04,440
Speaker 1: at cheating. But but having said that, you are miserable

37
00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:07,040
Speaker 1: in your marriage and something else is going on. You're

38
00:02:07,120 --> 00:02:11,520
Speaker 1: cheating with not one, but two different men. I don't

39
00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:15,399
Speaker 1: get that. Why just haven't you filed for divorce? You're

40
00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:20,359
Speaker 1: some sort of serial cheater? I think, um, I think

41
00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:23,480
Speaker 1: sort of some sort of really uh you know, I

42
00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:25,959
Speaker 1: think you enjoy the thrill of cheating, you know, of

43
00:02:26,120 --> 00:02:29,639
Speaker 1: possibly getting caught maybe or something. You need that excitement

44
00:02:29,639 --> 00:02:31,760
Speaker 1: in your life, because honestly, I don't think you ever

45
00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:34,760
Speaker 1: gave your marriage a fighting chance because you admit that

46
00:02:34,840 --> 00:02:38,359
Speaker 1: you were cheating with this man before you even married him.

47
00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:40,720
Speaker 1: Now you're cheating not only on your husband, but you're

48
00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:42,880
Speaker 1: cheating on the man you started cheating with. So you're

49
00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:47,400
Speaker 1: just a serial cheater to me, Steve um years and

50
00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:51,760
Speaker 1: years of cheating. Let's start at the bottom on the letter.

51
00:02:52,720 --> 00:02:55,640
Speaker 1: Am I wrong for running to the arms of two

52
00:02:55,800 --> 00:03:02,000
Speaker 1: very successful men? Uh? You're asking us? Am I wrong?

53
00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:07,959
Speaker 1: You already know, But the thing is you don't care though. Okay, then,

54
00:03:08,040 --> 00:03:12,240
Speaker 1: now let's go back up to the top. Shirley, Steve

55
00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:15,400
Speaker 1: and Tommy. You're the first person to ever put Tommy

56
00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:18,600
Speaker 1: in the Strawberry Letter, and I know why because he's

57
00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:21,799
Speaker 1: been talking a lot during the Strawberry Letters. And we

58
00:03:21,960 --> 00:03:26,160
Speaker 1: offer you are humblest apology of that. Now, let's get

59
00:03:26,200 --> 00:03:29,960
Speaker 1: to the letter. You've been with your you've been a

60
00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:34,639
Speaker 1: wife of fourteen years, you've been with your husband for eighteen.

61
00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:40,400
Speaker 1: You got together as teenagers. He doesn't know that I've

62
00:03:40,440 --> 00:03:46,160
Speaker 1: been seeing someone else since before we got married. Okay,

63
00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:53,520
Speaker 1: right there, right there. You would never ever committed to

64
00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:58,120
Speaker 1: this man or to the marriage. Now you got the

65
00:03:58,400 --> 00:04:02,480
Speaker 1: nerves in your letter. After you state your case as

66
00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:05,760
Speaker 1: to why you with these two men, you say in

67
00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:12,920
Speaker 1: the nerve of you to say he failed me. I

68
00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:17,159
Speaker 1: believed in him, but in all these years he has

69
00:04:17,360 --> 00:04:23,320
Speaker 1: failed to deliver. He has failed you. Right, You've never

70
00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:27,760
Speaker 1: really been in the man's wife, You've never been true

71
00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:31,520
Speaker 1: to him, you've never been committed to him. And then

72
00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:34,920
Speaker 1: you got the audacity to turn around and say that

73
00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:41,080
Speaker 1: this man has failed you failed you. You're getting out

74
00:04:41,120 --> 00:04:46,239
Speaker 1: of him what you deserve, which is nothing. You ain't

75
00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:49,240
Speaker 1: putting nothing in you. You've been getting a lot put

76
00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:54,720
Speaker 1: in you, but you ain't putting nothing in. Oh you're true,

77
00:04:58,839 --> 00:05:01,920
Speaker 1: you man, because he sm can we here? You ain't here?

78
00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:11,760
Speaker 1: Oh my god, watching watching cartoons. You ain't here. We'll

79
00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:13,960
Speaker 1: be back with more of Steve's response coming up at

80
00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:16,479
Speaker 1: twenty three after the hour. By his I mean him

81
00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:19,719
Speaker 1: him right there, I mean coming back. All right, come on,

82
00:05:19,800 --> 00:05:22,360
Speaker 1: let's get to part two of your response, Steve to

83
00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:30,360
Speaker 1: today's Strawberry letter. He just sucked to Steve. You know, uh,

84
00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:33,640
Speaker 1: this woman right here, Shirley says, it's just a chronic cheater,

85
00:05:33,839 --> 00:05:37,760
Speaker 1: and that's what she is. I don't care. See, she's

86
00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:41,720
Speaker 1: been seeing this man since before they got married. She says,

87
00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:44,400
Speaker 1: I love this man simply for the man that he is.

88
00:05:44,800 --> 00:05:48,000
Speaker 1: When we're together, his focus is on me. He has

89
00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:52,120
Speaker 1: unlimitless sex drive and pleases me every time. Okay. Then

90
00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:55,240
Speaker 1: the question was, well, why didn't she marry him? Then

91
00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:58,960
Speaker 1: guess what if she'd married him, she would still be

92
00:05:59,120 --> 00:06:02,800
Speaker 1: seeing some one else. Let me explain something to you.

93
00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:07,239
Speaker 1: If you have a husband and you're cheating on him

94
00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:12,000
Speaker 1: with someone since you were married, and your description of

95
00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:16,120
Speaker 1: this other man is that when we're together, his focus

96
00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:23,120
Speaker 1: is on me. He has unlimitless sex drive and pleases

97
00:06:23,279 --> 00:06:27,920
Speaker 1: me every time. Okay, that you would think was the ultimate.

98
00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:36,080
Speaker 1: Right after that, she goes about a year, I began

99
00:06:36,320 --> 00:06:46,640
Speaker 1: a sexual relationship with another man for what you just say.

100
00:06:46,640 --> 00:06:51,520
Speaker 1: He was a man who is unlimitless and pleases you

101
00:06:51,839 --> 00:06:56,279
Speaker 1: every time you turn around and go get another man.

102
00:06:56,880 --> 00:07:02,200
Speaker 1: You're not just a chader, You're freaking a for real

103
00:07:02,480 --> 00:07:05,240
Speaker 1: you just what's wrong with you? Can get enough? Why

104
00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:09,240
Speaker 1: don't you sit your hot trash? She tailed down from somewhere,

105
00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:16,520
Speaker 1: just thirsty, big old thirsty man. It's nothing worse than

106
00:07:16,560 --> 00:07:22,080
Speaker 1: an old thirsty chick. You're just thirsty. You see, you

107
00:07:22,160 --> 00:07:27,000
Speaker 1: got to drink. That's her just sits your tail down somewhere.

108
00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:32,280
Speaker 1: Do you have children? She didn't say that, but does she?

109
00:07:32,280 --> 00:07:36,800
Speaker 1: She probably does after fourteen years of marriage. Now there's

110
00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:42,240
Speaker 1: other man who I care for very much. Love his company.

111
00:07:42,320 --> 00:07:46,040
Speaker 1: She wouldn't love the sex, and I feel safe when

112
00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:49,600
Speaker 1: he together. Oh he just great, big old man, dingo,

113
00:07:49,720 --> 00:07:52,760
Speaker 1: big old slave love. If she did have children, who

114
00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:57,559
Speaker 1: would the daddy be? Though? It ain't the dope smoke?

115
00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:08,760
Speaker 1: Don't you? You got a freak show you got you

116
00:08:08,840 --> 00:08:14,640
Speaker 1: got a man dingo? Man, you got a weed smoking here?

117
00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:19,000
Speaker 1: You want here? He is smoking weed all day. Man.

118
00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:23,440
Speaker 1: All right, Steve, you know we gotta get out of here.

119
00:08:23,720 --> 00:08:26,040
Speaker 1: You can email us or instagram us your thoughts on

120
00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:30,080
Speaker 1: today's strawberry letter at my girls surely okay? You're listening

121
00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:32,160
Speaker 1: to the Steve Harvey Morning Show