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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocatesla dot com.

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Speaker 2: Alena is on the phone today for our first Date

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Nikolaiso.

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Speaker 2: In a few minutes, we're gonna call him and Siva

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Speaker 2: tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her a

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Speaker 2: second date. But first, Elena, we need to find out

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Speaker 2: about your date with Nikolai. How long has it been

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Speaker 2: since he talked to him?

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Speaker 3: Oh, like two weeks. Maybe that's a long time.

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Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, yeah, and it's been that long.

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Speaker 1: Why do you want to get hold of them?

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Speaker 5: Oh my, I just like really liked him and stuff.

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Speaker 5: He was like really handsome and like, I don't know,

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Speaker 5: we hit it off so well.

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Speaker 4: Okay, well tell us about the date.

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Speaker 5: Okay, Well, you know we met at this like local place,

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Speaker 5: like he was like so gorgeous and like, you know,

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Speaker 5: he kept talking about his family in Italy and how

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Speaker 5: he would take me there and then like he was

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Speaker 5: like finance room, but like.

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Speaker 3: He gave I can take care of you like vies.

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Speaker 5: You know. I think, you know, he's like you seem

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Speaker 5: like one of those people that say that they're comfortable. Okay.

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Speaker 4: Did anything else happen on the date?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, well, so I noticed like this like loner guy

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Speaker 5: on the down floor, like he was just like by himself,

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Speaker 5: and like I felt really bad for him, and like

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Speaker 5: expressed martinis like they make me want to dance, and

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Speaker 5: like emotionally support strangers, like you know, like when you

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Speaker 5: make a best friend in the bathroom and stuff like that, and.

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Speaker 3: You're like, yeah, you talk to everyone. Yeah, that's how

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Speaker 3: I get thank you.

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Speaker 5: And then like I see the guy and I started

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Speaker 5: dancing with him, but it's like more like encouraging like

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Speaker 5: vibes and not flirting.

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Speaker 3: So you know what I mean.

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Speaker 4: So you're with Nikolai, you saw a guy dancing, you

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Speaker 4: left the guy that you were to go dance with

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Speaker 4: another one.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, But like I want you to see it like

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Speaker 3: charity work. I want you to see it like a kindness,

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Speaker 3: you know what I mean? Yeah, Yeah, like I did

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Speaker 3: a kindness calling.

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Speaker 5: It charity work and kindness in the same sentence are

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Speaker 5: a little bit.

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Speaker 4: It's like emotional support. I get it. But that also

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Speaker 4: would be a reason why because from his point of view,

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Speaker 4: he sees he saw you kind of like leave him

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Speaker 4: to go dance to the guy.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, no, I I think that's what happened, because he

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Speaker 5: was like watching the bar and he was like amused, right,

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Speaker 5: and then like this guy like Nikolay totally like shifts

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Speaker 5: like mood shifts, like you know, like mic drop, like

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Speaker 5: record scratch like everything, and like his smile is gone.

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Speaker 3: He starts like driving his phone.

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Speaker 5: But like if he was mad at me about that,

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Speaker 5: like we wouldn't be living together, right, like he would

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Speaker 5: be less right.

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Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, that's true, but yeah, who I don't know.

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Speaker 2: All Right, Well, we'll see if we can figure it out.

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Speaker 2: Elena is on the phone and she he's getting ghosted

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Speaker 2: by a dude named Nikolai. So we're about to call

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Speaker 2: him and Stefa tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her a second date. But first, Elena, break down

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Speaker 2: your date again for us real quick.

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Speaker 5: Hy. So, you know, we were at this local spot

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Speaker 5: and it was super cute and we had like expressed

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Speaker 5: with martini and chocolate and we had a really great time.

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Speaker 5: I danced to this other guy that was by himself

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Speaker 5: because I felt bad for him, but I went back

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Speaker 5: to Nikolay and.

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Speaker 3: We went home together. So I don't know. I don't

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Speaker 3: know what he's coaching me.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you felt like his mood change because you were

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Speaker 4: dancing the other guy, but you did go home together.

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Speaker 6: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: This is weird.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, are you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Please, okay, here we go, Brondo, Hi, nest week to Nikolay. Please.

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Speaker 2: Oh I'm in Oh hey Nikolai, how are you? This

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Speaker 2: is a radio shows all the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, nikolayam Nina.

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Speaker 1: Hi, I am Victoria and my name is Jewel.

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Speaker 3: Hello.

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Speaker 7: Did it on the radio?

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Speaker 1: Yes? Have you ever listened to I don't know. Have

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Speaker 1: you ever listened to The Jubil Show before?

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Speaker 8: No?

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Speaker 7: No?

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Speaker 9: Not?

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Speaker 4: Okay?

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Speaker 2: All right, well it's a radio show. You can check

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Speaker 2: us out if you want or not, whatever, it's up

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Speaker 2: to you. But we do do a segment on our

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Speaker 2: show called the First Date follow Up. What that is

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Speaker 2: is where if you go out on a date with

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Speaker 2: somebody and then you end up ghosting them, they can

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Speaker 2: email us to call you and ask why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 2: And we got to email about you from somebody.

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Speaker 9: Oh uh yeah, an email from a date.

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Speaker 4: Are you ghosting somebody?

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Speaker 7: Well that's a kind of new term. But I did

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Speaker 7: go on on a date with someone then didn't work out.

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Speaker 3: Is that ghosting?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Well, if you didn't call them, if you didn't talk

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Speaker 2: to them after, if you just went out on a

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Speaker 2: date and didn't.

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Speaker 8: Talk to okay, yeah, well then.

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Speaker 1: Yes, okay. What was her name? Elena?

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Speaker 9: Yeah?

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Speaker 8: I remember Elena?

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Speaker 2: Yes, okay, Well, Elena emailed us and she said it's

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Speaker 2: been about two weeks since she talked to you, and

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Speaker 2: she thought the date was great, and she's wondering if

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Speaker 2: you would tell us while you're ghosting her.

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Speaker 7: All right, Oh okay, okay, let me a second to place,

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Speaker 7: all right.

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Speaker 8: So I met Elena and she was beautiful. Everything was great,

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Speaker 8: conversation was flowing, she started dancing. Her moves were amazing.

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Speaker 8: You know when when you've got more drinks, more dancing.

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Speaker 9: Uh.

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Speaker 7: And I have to admit the attraction was real. Everything

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Speaker 7: was on fire.

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Speaker 9: Uh you know.

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Speaker 7: Uh, I bring her to my place and uh yeah,

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Speaker 7: you know, there's chemistry, there's the passion, there's everything. And

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Speaker 7: that's when you know, that's when I have to stop.

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Speaker 4: Okay, wait, so so stop? What when you got to

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Speaker 4: your place?

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Speaker 7: Yeah, we are at our place. We're making out.

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Speaker 6: You know, there's fire passion, and you know, things get

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Speaker 6: hot and heavy. And while we're making out, I notice

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Speaker 6: her toenail polish.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, wrong with her turnail polish.

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Speaker 7: I know it sounds bad, but it's you got to

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Speaker 7: I don't know this is my thing. I don't know it.

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Speaker 7: My brain kept saying, why is that one blue? Why

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Speaker 7: is that?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: All right, well, thank you for telling us, Nichola. I

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Speaker 2: also let you know that Elena is on the phone

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Speaker 2: and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: Oh she's here, yep. Well Hi, that's ridiculous, so you

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Speaker 3: go see me over that.

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Speaker 7: Okay, Okay, I know it sounds worse, but I'm just

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Speaker 7: being honest. And the lighting and the house low lights

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Speaker 7: and everything made it look worse.

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Speaker 3: The lighting, yeah, it was warm, lighting, very you know, revealing,

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Speaker 3: It was very you know, it showed a lot. You

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Speaker 3: were sinn with me dancing, but like one at all

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Speaker 3: took you out. I just kept seeing it.

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Speaker 7: It's like every angle, every moment, every place I look,

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Speaker 7: it was there for you.

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Speaker 3: The toll police, listen, listen.

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Speaker 7: I'm I am not proud of this, but my brain

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Speaker 7: kept my brain kept saying, why is that one different.

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Speaker 7: Why is this one? I simply it's I don't understand you.

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Speaker 3: No, you kissed me for twenty minutes.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, and then the toe entered the.

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Speaker 3: Chat completely unchanged.

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Speaker 9: I just don't understand. I I've accepted that.

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Speaker 8: You know it's not right, but I couldn't.

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Speaker 7: I couldn't shake it. You know?

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Speaker 3: Is that a baby in the background?

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Speaker 8: Oh yeah, I it wasn't right to say the guy, Yes,

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Speaker 8: I do have a baby.

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Speaker 3: You didn't tell me about your baby. You're here forget

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Speaker 3: about my toe? Like you lied to me. You you

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Speaker 3: never told me about your baby. I can hear it.

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Speaker 7: So what I it's.

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Speaker 9: Not for everyone to meet the baby, but everyone has

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Speaker 9: to meet the toenail.

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Speaker 3: That's not that's not fair. Wow. How old is this baby?

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Speaker 3: Like it sounds brand new?

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Speaker 7: Oh yeah, like No, I'm six months old.

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Speaker 3: You know I'm just a baby. Are you even single?

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Speaker 4: Where's the mom?

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Speaker 9: So?

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Speaker 1: How do you not know if it's your baby?

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Speaker 9: Yeah? I was single at the moment I met you.

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Speaker 1: No work in two weeks?

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Speaker 7: What you have?

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Speaker 1: You had a baby in two weeks?

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Speaker 7: We worked it out?

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Speaker 3: Do I worked it up with No, you're disgusting. You

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Speaker 3: should have been up the mom helping and then looking

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Speaker 3: at people's toes like you're crazy.

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Speaker 7: Hey, okay, okay, what was I going to say?

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Speaker 3: Hey, I love the night, but fear the food.

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Speaker 1: But what.

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Speaker 9: Yeah?

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Speaker 8: No, I what was I supposed.

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Speaker 7: To tell her?

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 3: No, I don't like, I don't get it.

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Speaker 7: Uh. It didn't work, and I just let her off easy,

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Speaker 7: and I said.

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Speaker 3: You know what, I called my losses.

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Speaker 9: I caught the troll and I just called the mama

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Speaker 9: and we worked it out all right.

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Speaker 2: Well, Nikolai, would you like to go on another date

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Speaker 2: with Helena? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't think so.

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Speaker 1: No.

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Speaker 5: Not.

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Speaker 1: Jubile's first date fall