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Speaker 2: Am I? They home?

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Speaker 3: That's just locking a dude into child support that doesn't

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Speaker 4: So this person is doing the baby daddy a favor.

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Speaker 3: Oh well, I guess yeah, she's doing the baby daddy

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Speaker 2: But it's not the baby daddy. Not favor.

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Speaker 4: Not a favor, right, No, but for this guy, no

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Speaker 3: Children are not a gift that you should give to

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Speaker 3: another person. You should never white elephant children? Is adoption

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Speaker 3: just regifting? Oh shit, I think it is. Adoption is

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Speaker 3: totally children regifting. It's like, ah shit, Like do I

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Speaker 3: really want this bag of beans? Maybe I'll give it

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Speaker 4: Maybe I'll go up the beanstalk and swap it out

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Speaker 3: This aunt in our family that's a like Schedule four

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Speaker 3: regifter and we'll just like shamelessly give. Like I remember

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Speaker 3: one of my gifts was like a can of salted

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Speaker 2: And I opened it, I'm like, oh, should I eat these? Nass?

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Speaker 2: Like oh no, wait I open it later has already

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. I was going to jokingly ask that,

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Speaker 1: but the fact that it's true makes it very tragic. Well,

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Speaker 1: much like your story, this baby daddy has unloaded a

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Speaker 4: So let's find out.

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Speaker 2: Great segue.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this was submitted by one of our

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Speaker 1: incredible fans and community members, Reddit user assumption ok two

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Speaker 1: seven five to three.

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Speaker 4: Is that username inspired by okop?

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Speaker 3: Maybe it might be, And you should also submit your

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Speaker 1: That's right, all right, let's get into it. Oh and

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Speaker 1: by the way, this is not the person who submitted it.

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Speaker 1: They shared another person story. I twenty six female, grew

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Speaker 1: up in the Midwest, but went to college in California.

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Speaker 1: There I met and David Jeff twenty six mail for

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Speaker 2: Cute. Everything's going so great, sounds so good.

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Speaker 1: After I finished my school, Jeff got cold feet about

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Speaker 3: Wow, so she poked holes in all the condoms? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: getting away that fast. You're gonna be a dad whether

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Speaker 2: But I see you if you see what's going happen.

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Speaker 1: Heartbroken feels like it would barely scratch the surface of

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Speaker 2: We never did. Yikes.

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Speaker 1: He met Grace twenty five and started dating her about

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Speaker 3: Jeff is the ex boyfriend? Yes, okay, and then who

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Speaker 1: Jeff got Grace the new girl, but then they broke

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Speaker 1: He said he couldn't remain friends with me because he

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Speaker 1: Final words to me were to not call him unless

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Speaker 1: one last time to say I left California behind. Three

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Speaker 1: shooter just shooting children. Not that way, my god.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, he's not a school shooter, Jesus clarified. But

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Speaker 2: For him so long, she was like ready, she was fertile.

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Speaker 2: She was like, give me your seed.

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Speaker 4: The baby was Jeff's.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't going to be that girl that uses a

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Speaker 3: I think that's kind of a dick move. Actually, if

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Speaker 3: Literally, the worst person, the worst person.

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Speaker 4: The tea, the tea spiller just got a fresh.

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Speaker 3: New fucking Boston tea party right here. The most amount

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Speaker 1: Then she started grilling me, asking if Jeff knows, dude,

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Speaker 4: I said no, and that he doesn't need to know,

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Speaker 1: Damn Tanya is doing some matrix level math over here.

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Speaker 1: She needs to my goodness. She's like, well, this is

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Speaker 2: So yeah, dude, God, damn.

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Speaker 4: Tany needs to become a detective over here.

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Speaker 1: Good gravy. I told her that Jeff and I broke

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Speaker 2: To rededs, internet strangers.

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Speaker 3: I have some thoughts. I want to know what everyone

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Speaker 2: If anyone's been in a similar situation.

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Speaker 3: But I personally think it's an asshole move, extenuating circumstances

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Speaker 3: I mean, like, yes, but he didn't necessarily, he didn't

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but like it's normal to hook up with your

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Speaker 4: It's normal. But is it good?

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Speaker 2: No, it's not good. I'm not saying.

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Speaker 3: I'm not saying it is not messy, and like this

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Speaker 2: Is he an asshole? I do not think so.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Contendually hooking up with your ex is not an

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Speaker 1: If he knew some degrees of how vulnerable she is

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Speaker 2: But he doesn't know how she's feeling, and he might not.

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Speaker 4: He totally might not.

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Speaker 1: But I just have a sneaking assumption and suspicion, yeah,

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Speaker 3: But I do think it is in whether Obviously it's complicated.

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Speaker 4: Person who you had a baby with.

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Speaker 2: What do you think of our takes? Put your answers

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Speaker 3: We want to read them and look at them, and

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Speaker 3: we're gonna look at you.

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Speaker 1: Oh yes, and let us know your stories below. If

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Speaker 1: you've been in a similar situation, tell us and we'll

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Speaker 1: see you next time.

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Speaker 2: If you confess one sin.

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Speaker 6: Here we go.

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Speaker 2: Hey, let's go. This is greatup of Mike.

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Speaker 6: Welcome.

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Speaker 2: Hello, what's your name?

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Speaker 5: How are you doing doing it? My name is Confidential.

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Speaker 5: Just call me psychedelic like ooh, psychedelic for sure.

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Speaker 6: Confidential is cool too.

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Speaker 2: I like that.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, both of them could work.

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Speaker 5: So this is what it is. Bro, here's one of

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Speaker 5: my sins.

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Speaker 2: Okay, ship, we're ready to hear it.

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Speaker 5: I gotta stop having hot dirty three sims in my van, bro,

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Speaker 5: I gotta stop picking up these rail johns.

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Speaker 2: Wait, what are these? What are these hot dirty three sims? Bro?

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Speaker 5: I skate the park. You look over there right now.

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Speaker 5: Occasionally every thirty seven seconds and that's say a battie

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Speaker 5: walks up and she says, on the rail you do

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Speaker 5: a trick. You see they're engaged. I walk up. I'm like,

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Speaker 5: what's up? I got a swift? You're trying to smoke?

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Speaker 5: Instantly boom to the Johns and then we're John, and

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Speaker 5: then I sprinkle with John Farmers on it. Yeah you

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Speaker 5: know you know he's Philly. Thank you Billy, Broah you

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Speaker 5: feel me?

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Speaker 2: I do know the w was the Philly thing.

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Speaker 6: Yeah. Oh I didn't know that too. I thought that

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Speaker 6: was like a self thing.

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Speaker 5: No. But anyways, so when I say John, that's the person,

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Speaker 5: place or thing I'm using it for a personal.

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Speaker 6: Like like, dude, okay, that John over there, yeah, thank you?

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Speaker 2: Here his name is John.

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Speaker 5: Oh damn well no, that's John. This is John. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: listen to John.

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Speaker 6: John John John John John, Yeah, John John.

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Speaker 2: You know when was your first dirty threesome?

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Speaker 6: Bro?

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Speaker 5: So I lost one hundred and twenty pounds in the

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Speaker 5: last six months.

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Speaker 2: Great, thank you, Bro.

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Speaker 6: I'm about to reach Bro.

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna tell you all right, we're about to join that. Bro.

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Speaker 5: I walked in and my old John was with another John,

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Speaker 5: and I was like, why are you doing that? She's like, yeah,

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Speaker 5: you just ain't fit enough. So then I, dude, I

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Speaker 5: literally woke up the next morning started doing a thousand dips,

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Speaker 5: a thousand push ups every single day for the last

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Speaker 5: like six months, bro. And then one day I just

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Speaker 5: looked up and I was like, what the fuck?

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Speaker 2: Who is this Greek God?

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Speaker 5: They just started coming, Bro, and it's never stopped since.

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Speaker 2: Damn.

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Speaker 5: I'm a sex Wow, that's my sinse. You win someone,

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Speaker 5: you lose some, you win some, you lose in the

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Speaker 5: band gets gruesome.

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Speaker 6: It does get cruise. Now, now what kind of ban

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Speaker 6: are we talking?

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Speaker 2: We're talking like he already does.

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Speaker 5: So we're talking about a John Van Bro basically like

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Speaker 5: an aerostar, ninety seven lots of space, temper pedic back,

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Speaker 5: I know, hot boxing while we're thought boxing, Bro.

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Speaker 3: How do you choose like, do you have to like

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Speaker 3: make sure that your threesome partners are vibing to gether?

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Speaker 2: Like it like curating a lie bro.

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Speaker 5: Like here in Venice, they'd be free, bro, Like I'd

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Speaker 5: just be like, what's up? They're with it. They experience

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Speaker 5: you to understand, ninety seven percent of these women are

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Speaker 5: tourists staying at that hostel right there at the John. Hey,

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Speaker 5: what's it up with the John? The John?

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Speaker 6: What you know?

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Speaker 5: What's the J word? But yeah, so all of them

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Speaker 5: But yeah, so basically after that happens, it's very easy.

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Speaker 5: I don't know, bro. Like sometimes I literally look at

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Speaker 5: just give them a nod. I'll show you right now,

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Speaker 5: I want to.

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Speaker 6: I'll give you.

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Speaker 5: I'll let you pick.

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Speaker 2: I could pick.

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Speaker 6: Wow, hmm.

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Speaker 5: There's not really a lot of John.

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Speaker 2: These people over here walking right now. I need like

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Speaker 2: a John scanner underage.

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Speaker 5: I can tell I have a censor. We call it

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Speaker 5: the mirage.

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Speaker 6: I swear the mirage effect.

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Speaker 5: Bro. Look at shoes, shoes backpacked?

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Speaker 2: No shoes backpack? About how about this is the suitcase lady?

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Speaker 5: Backpack and having like a Louis baiton.

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Speaker 6: Right.

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Speaker 2: Okay, suitcase lady.

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Speaker 5: Where's she coming to?

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Speaker 6: Where she is?

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Speaker 5: She's not You don't want me to walk to them.

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Speaker 5: They're got to be coming right next.

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Speaker 6: Okay, yeah, okay, drive by.

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Speaker 5: This guy understands. But yeah, bro, that's those are my sins?

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Speaker 2: Well, do you want us to absolve you?

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Speaker 5: What does that mean?

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Speaker 3: We're gonna we have the power to absolve your sins

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Speaker 3: if we give you this dollar, your sins are clean?

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Speaker 6: Are you ready?

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Speaker 2: You're ready?

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Speaker 3: And nobody battery fill you with Santi's the hell you're absolved?

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Speaker 5: Oh look, Ellen's already looking fifty six agility eighty four.

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Speaker 6: My goodness, Hi, how's it going? Sin?

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Speaker 5: Oh frank it not like that. I'm gonna leave because

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Speaker 5: I'm a whipper snappery confidential psychedelic psychedelic I am man.

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Speaker 6: Did meet you tell your friends? Yeah? Well, there we go.

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Speaker 6: We'll spread the word, keep.

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Speaker 2: It down, load of the john.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I still eat. You gotta do it.

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Speaker 2: You gotta do it.

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Speaker 3: Hey, give us a shout, Give us a shout when

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Speaker 3: you do.

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Speaker 6: There we goes. Wow, that was beautiful.

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Speaker 5: Oh never mind, I got it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, let's go confidential. Think Idelic