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It's eight hundred and ninety four one, Sean. 0:00:05.080 --> 0:00:07.600 If you want to be a part of the program, 0:00:07.880 --> 0:00:09.640 you know, I got to tell you something there there 0:00:10.200 --> 0:00:15.000 there's so many toxic people online in the I'm just 0:00:15.120 --> 0:00:18.200 learning with the launch of our new podcast, Hanging Out 0:00:18.239 --> 0:00:20.040 with Me Sean Hannity, And by the way, you can 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:22.800 find it on YouTube wherever you get your video podcast. 0:00:23.520 --> 0:00:26.160 And it just and then you got the crazy people 0:00:26.160 --> 0:00:29.000 out there, the anti Semitic people out there, the isolationist 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:33.479 lunatics out there, people with insane agendas that are you know, 0:00:33.520 --> 0:00:35.559 say things that are just not true, but they make 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:39.320 it sound so believable that I guess people are drawn 0:00:39.400 --> 0:00:43.680 to the mystery of total complete Adam Bullshiff and it 0:00:43.880 --> 0:00:45.239 just it's frustrating to me. 0:00:45.320 --> 0:00:46.919 And then when I find good people that. 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:50.879 Offer really, really good advice, I'm like, oh, well, this 0:00:51.320 --> 0:00:54.560 this is refreshing. And I found that in this guy 0:00:54.600 --> 0:00:56.560 by the name of Nick Fradis is his name, and 0:00:56.560 --> 0:00:58.600 he has a new book out and I started looking 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:01.480 at him like this is awesome. And whether you're young, 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:05.000 old doesn't matter. You always look for ways to improve. 0:01:05.040 --> 0:01:09.440 You should be embracing something called life long learning. And 0:01:09.680 --> 0:01:12.280 you know, the book is a list of hard lessons 0:01:12.400 --> 0:01:15.959 learned through marriage and fatherhood and war and business and politics, 0:01:16.520 --> 0:01:19.360 you know all, you know all in one retired Green 0:01:19.360 --> 0:01:22.200 Beret husband, father, Virginia legislator. 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:25.600 He spent a lifetime, very demanding life that he's had. 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:29.720 He's thought deeply about the standards that every man. We're 0:01:29.720 --> 0:01:32.279 not talking about man of sphear, we're not talking about 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:35.280 being Barney Rubble. I am the head of my household. 0:01:35.560 --> 0:01:38.600 Where is my dinner at six o'clock when I walk 0:01:38.640 --> 0:01:40.199 in the door. I want that dinner set. 0:01:40.240 --> 0:01:43.839 I want to why can't you cook the steak away? 0:01:43.880 --> 0:01:44.320 I like it? 0:01:44.360 --> 0:01:47.720 I mean, nah, Being loving and kind? You know, when 0:01:47.760 --> 0:01:50.000 you break down the word gentleman has a word of 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:55.800 a gentle man, kind, loving, thoughtful, patient, kind, all of 0:01:55.800 --> 0:01:58.560 these things. Anyway, so he kind of goes through this 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:01.240 in this's new book, bok Is. He calls it the 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:04.880 man book. And you're not the man you want to be, 0:02:04.880 --> 0:02:05.520 because none. 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:05.880 Of us are. 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:10.080 It's a quest, it's not a destination. And it really 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:12.840 is a cool book. And how to win an argument fairly, 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:15.720 how to plan the perfect date, how to win a fight, 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:18.400 how to prepare a steak, and by the way, he 0:02:18.400 --> 0:02:21.200 cannot give me advice on that because I cooked the 0:02:21.360 --> 0:02:24.959 perfect steak. You know how to pit a car, all 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:29.600 of this. Anyway, the answer to the crisis of masculinity 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:32.880 is not a bunch of weak, wimpy, pathetic men. 0:02:33.240 --> 0:02:34.120 That's not the answer. 0:02:34.160 --> 0:02:38.440 And it's not toxic masculinity that I believe that men 0:02:38.680 --> 0:02:41.320 should pay for any date that they go on. And 0:02:41.360 --> 0:02:43.840 I know they got this new femisphere thing, and Linda 0:02:43.840 --> 0:02:45.560 and I will talk about it in the next half hour. 0:02:46.919 --> 0:02:47.799 And I guess that's in. 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:50.760 Reaction to these these bam bam characters that are out 0:02:50.760 --> 0:02:52.799 there that think they're manly and they're not. They're a 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:57.040 bunch of jackasses that treat women like crap and use them, 0:02:57.240 --> 0:03:01.280 you know, for their own personal reasons. They don't know 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:04.520 what the word love really means. I don't understand what 0:03:04.520 --> 0:03:07.160 it means from a Christian standpoint, to serve other people. 0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:07.520 Anyway. 0:03:07.680 --> 0:03:09.600 You can get it on Amazon dot com. We're gonna 0:03:09.600 --> 0:03:11.960 put a link up on Hannity dot com and now 0:03:12.000 --> 0:03:16.600 in bookstores everywhere. Anyway, Nick, I've become a little from 0:03:16.639 --> 0:03:18.720 a distance, A bit of a fan of yours. I 0:03:18.840 --> 0:03:22.560 like your the way you approach life. Is there anything 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:24.160 that I said in the lead up to this that 0:03:24.200 --> 0:03:25.120 you disagree with? 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:28.280 No, no, no, I think he did a great job 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:30.680 I made. Can you just go straight the next one? 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:31.480 That would be great? 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:33.400 Well, I mean here's the thing. 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:36.240 Do you believe a man should pay for the date? 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:38.720 Whether if and a man should ask a woman out? 0:03:39.120 --> 0:03:39.520 Yeah? 0:03:39.600 --> 0:03:41.160 Yeah, absolutely absolutely. 0:03:41.240 --> 0:03:43.720 Should a man opened a door for a woman? 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:47.120 Yes, a man should open a door, A man should protect, 0:03:47.160 --> 0:03:49.600 a man should provide. Now, look, and I go into 0:03:49.600 --> 0:03:51.760 this book too. I think there's other things too that 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:54.800 you know. Again, a woman owes a good woman, owes 0:03:54.800 --> 0:03:56.480 a good man, just like a good man owes a 0:03:56.480 --> 0:03:58.880 good woman. I think that God made us to actually 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:01.960 be cooperative, not competitive with one another. That's one of 0:04:02.000 --> 0:04:05.720 the lies that gets spewed by wokeism, by modern feminism. 0:04:06.640 --> 0:04:09.640 But yeah, I think God calls us to be strong, 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:11.560 He calls us to be competent, he calls us to 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:13.840 be capable, but he also calls us to do it 0:04:13.880 --> 0:04:16.000 for something more than just pursuing our own you know, 0:04:16.080 --> 0:04:19.359 hedonistic in states, we do it to honor God, we 0:04:19.440 --> 0:04:22.240 do it to be good husbands, to be good fathers, 0:04:22.320 --> 0:04:24.160 and to be the sort of patriots that it can 0:04:24.200 --> 0:04:25.960 actually sustain a good and free country. 0:04:26.120 --> 0:04:28.560 Well, I mean, it's very biblical in terms of what 0:04:28.600 --> 0:04:30.719 you're saying. The Bible couldn't be any more clear on 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:35.479 all of this, you know, very clear instructions when it 0:04:35.520 --> 0:04:39.279 talks about the teachings on how men should honor their 0:04:39.320 --> 0:04:44.200 wives the most direct versus Peter. You know, husbands live 0:04:44.240 --> 0:04:47.200 with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:50.880 the woman. This is a weaker vessel. Linda, our producer, 0:04:50.960 --> 0:04:53.360 is gonna have a fit when I go through this. 0:04:54.040 --> 0:04:57.520 But anyway, since they are heirs with you of the 0:04:57.560 --> 0:05:00.919 grace of life, and you know, two and joined together 0:05:01.000 --> 0:05:04.720 shall be one, live with them an understanding, show honor. 0:05:06.200 --> 0:05:07.280 And you know, I. 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:11.120 Really think, and husbands, love your wives, love them, don't 0:05:11.160 --> 0:05:15.760 be a jackass, impatient jerk. And then you know, later 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:18.800 that night, you know expect that you're gonna you know, 0:05:20.200 --> 0:05:21.320 hold your wife closely. 0:05:21.400 --> 0:05:22.120 Good luck with that. 0:05:23.160 --> 0:05:25.600 Yeah, well, I say, you know, this is another thing 0:05:25.640 --> 0:05:28.039 where my wife and I we both came from you know, 0:05:28.080 --> 0:05:30.720 homes of divorce, and then we got married in nineteen 0:05:30.760 --> 0:05:33.080 and twenty. I was in the military, so we lived 0:05:33.120 --> 0:05:34.560 on the other side of the country, away and from 0:05:34.560 --> 0:05:35.159 our families and. 0:05:35.160 --> 0:05:35.960 Our support group. 0:05:36.520 --> 0:05:38.000 And I've had a lot of people say, well, you 0:05:38.040 --> 0:05:41.240 just got lucky. I'm like, if I just got lucky, 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:43.600 then we set ourselves up in all the worst possible 0:05:43.640 --> 0:05:45.520 ways in order to one day get in a divorce, 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:47.920 and yet we did it. So why is that? And 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:49.720 it goes back to what you're saying there is we 0:05:49.760 --> 0:05:53.440 actually took scripture seriously. She took scripture seriously with respect 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:56.400 to her roles, responsibilities and duties to me, and I 0:05:56.440 --> 0:06:00.599 took my I took scripture seriously with respect my role's 0:06:00.640 --> 0:06:04.120 responsibilities introduced to her. And again, it just goes to 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:07.159 show that when you treat the Bible as if it's 0:06:07.320 --> 0:06:10.120 the truth instead of just another book to read, and 0:06:10.160 --> 0:06:12.240 you actually try to apply it, even when you do 0:06:12.279 --> 0:06:16.960 it imperfectly, you know, God blesses a faithful attempt. And 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:18.800 that's what we found in our relationship. I mean, I 0:06:18.800 --> 0:06:21.280 spent the first ten years of my marriage away from home, 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:24.279 whether it was training, whether it was combat deployments. We 0:06:24.320 --> 0:06:26.440 had all three of our kids in the military. I 0:06:26.520 --> 0:06:29.039 learned a lot about how do you effectively raise the sun, 0:06:29.120 --> 0:06:32.800 how do you effectively raise daughters, especially in difficult circumstances. 0:06:33.080 --> 0:06:34.960 And you know, the way I wrote this book was 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:37.800 it wasn't meant to be preachy at all. There's like 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:40.040 fifty three things that I think it's important for men 0:06:40.120 --> 0:06:42.120 to know. And I wrote it more from the perspective of, 0:06:42.360 --> 0:06:44.960 here's some things I've learned, oftentimes the hard way, but 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:46.240 if I had to do it all over again, and 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:48.040 I was looking for advice, this is the sort of 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:51.400 advice that older Nick would give the younger Nick about 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:54.360 the way to think about life, about marriage, about combat, 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:59.360 about fatherhood, about politics, about your faith. And again it 0:06:59.440 --> 0:07:01.479 was it was a lot of fun writing. There's some 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:03.800 funny chapters in there. You're gonna have some people. You're 0:07:03.800 --> 0:07:05.760 gonna have some people asking you why do you need 0:07:05.800 --> 0:07:07.599 to know how to pit a car? And the first 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:09.040 thing I'm gonna tell is you and you need to 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:10.400 get rid of that friend. You don't need that kind 0:07:10.400 --> 0:07:12.720 of negativity in your life. Right, It's cool to learn 0:07:12.760 --> 0:07:14.560 know how to put a car, and you never know. 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:17.680 But there's also a lot of other stuff where we 0:07:17.760 --> 0:07:20.560 really delve in deeply on how do you effectively argue 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:23.720 for your faith in like an intellectually rigorous way. How 0:07:23.760 --> 0:07:26.280 do you have difficult discussions with your wife? I had 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:29.000 somebody tell me this belongs in the fiction section because 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:31.120 they have the audacity of the title chapter and how 0:07:31.160 --> 0:07:33.760 to argue with your wife and win? And yet I've 0:07:33.800 --> 0:07:37.200 done it? So how is that possible? And we go 0:07:37.320 --> 0:07:39.520 through a lot of those questions. I think a lot 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:42.680 of men, especially now, especially young men that have been 0:07:42.680 --> 0:07:47.080 living in a time where the culture, Hollywood, arts, entertainment, politics, 0:07:47.080 --> 0:07:49.560 have just tried to demoralize young men. And I want 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:52.480 them to understand that the reason why so many efforts 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:55.560 on the left especially have been made to demoralize you 0:07:55.640 --> 0:07:58.040 is not because you don't have power. It's because you do, 0:07:58.680 --> 0:08:00.400 and we need you to step up and we need 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:02.600 you to exercise it. And older men need to come 0:08:02.640 --> 0:08:04.880 alongside younger men in order to show them and train 0:08:04.920 --> 0:08:06.480 them and disciple them in the way to do that. 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:10.360 I think that's a great analysis. One of the words 0:08:10.360 --> 0:08:12.440 that I like in the Bible is you know, to 0:08:12.560 --> 0:08:17.400 serve your family as as Jesus serve the church. You know, 0:08:17.520 --> 0:08:20.880 love others as I have loved you. Those are very deep, profound. 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:25.560 You know, things that Christ themselves taught us that will 0:08:25.560 --> 0:08:29.920 never reach that standard. Obviously, however, it is to aspire to. 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:34.520 You talk in this book about how to win a fight. 0:08:35.000 --> 0:08:35.400 Explain. 0:08:35.600 --> 0:08:39.120 Yeah, I think men should be protectors and providers. And 0:08:39.400 --> 0:08:40.920 one of the things I always tell young men is 0:08:40.960 --> 0:08:43.760 you should have a violent hobby. So it could be shooting, 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:45.920 it could be hunting, it could be mma, it could 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:46.400 be boxing. 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:50.559 By the way, I check check, I'm not a big hunter, 0:08:50.920 --> 0:08:54.760 but mixed martial arts. Guns, more guns, and a lot 0:08:54.800 --> 0:08:58.880 more guns. And yeah, I trained situational self defense. I've 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:00.480 been doing a fifteen years. I agree with you. 0:09:00.520 --> 0:09:01.280 It's great training. 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:04.160 Yeah, well, and it really helps the man with their 0:09:04.520 --> 0:09:08.680 sense of confidence, and it also it also adds confidence 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:11.680 to your wife and children. The joking way I explain 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:14.520 this is when your son says, my dad can beat 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:17.319 up your dad. You want that to be a true statement, right. 0:09:17.800 --> 0:09:19.920 But but the way I try to put it to bring. 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:22.280 It home to see what some people listening to this, 0:09:22.360 --> 0:09:25.079 if the liberals listening in California right now, this is 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:26.440 toxic masculinity. 0:09:26.480 --> 0:09:29.200 What they're talking talking about stakes and pitting a car. 0:09:29.640 --> 0:09:32.599 Why would anyone need to learn a pit a car. No, 0:09:32.760 --> 0:09:35.440 you're talking about loving your family and being the protector 0:09:35.480 --> 0:09:38.800 of your family, and I think that that is men 0:09:38.800 --> 0:09:41.520 are physically stronger than women. You want to dispute that, 0:09:41.640 --> 0:09:44.320 go right ahead. But in generally speaking, that's the case. 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:46.120 And if your wife is stronger than you, good luck. 0:09:46.280 --> 0:09:48.840 Let her take control of the defense of your family 0:09:48.840 --> 0:09:49.320 if you want. 0:09:49.440 --> 0:09:49.600 Well. 0:09:49.800 --> 0:09:52.080 The way the way when I say when I tell men, hey, 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:54.800 learn how to fight again, you don't got to be 0:09:54.800 --> 0:09:56.959 a professional fighter. You don't got to be a professional soldier. 0:09:56.960 --> 0:09:58.360 But the way I try to bring it home and 0:09:58.400 --> 0:09:59.920 for him is this, I said, I want to imagine 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:02.520 you're married, you love your wife, you love your children. 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:04.760 I want you to imagine they're in a situation and 0:10:04.800 --> 0:10:07.400 the only way you can help them is to call 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:11.800 another man in to provide for their safety. Not because 0:10:11.920 --> 0:10:13.760 you couldn't have acted in the way you did, but 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:15.719 because you never trained, You never thought about it, you. 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:16.600 Never prepared for it. 0:10:16.840 --> 0:10:18.520 You just assumed that the world was always going to 0:10:18.559 --> 0:10:20.560 be a safe place for you. And now you have 0:10:20.640 --> 0:10:22.800 to rely on somebody else. Your wife and children have 0:10:22.840 --> 0:10:26.119 to rely on somebody else. To protect them because you couldn't, 0:10:26.480 --> 0:10:28.760 not because you have didn't have the opportunity, but because 0:10:28.760 --> 0:10:30.520 you didn't take it. They said, if you don't want 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:31.760 to be that kind of man, then you need to 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:35.000 start planning for it now. And you know, I'm a 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:36.959 former Green Beret, and one of the things I learned 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:41.839 throughout that is that training is incredibly important. Guys that think, well, 0:10:41.880 --> 0:10:43.520 if I was ever in that situation, I would just 0:10:43.520 --> 0:10:45.240 do the right thing, of the brave thing or the 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:49.000 strong thing. Okay maybe, but if you actually want to 0:10:49.000 --> 0:10:51.720 come out the other side on top, then you need 0:10:51.760 --> 0:10:53.439 to train. So you need to dedicate some time in 0:10:53.480 --> 0:10:53.800 your life. 0:10:53.800 --> 0:10:56.400 Do you ever watch the average video that goes viral 0:10:56.480 --> 0:10:58.920 of two people fighting and they're just whiling away and 0:10:58.920 --> 0:10:59.920 they have no clue. 0:10:59.720 --> 0:11:00.320 What the doing. 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:06.520 Yeah? Yeah, oh, especially this day and age, with minimal training, 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:09.720 you're you're now better than ninety percent of the population 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:13.200 at a fight. And so again I encourage, I encourage 0:11:13.200 --> 0:11:14.440 me to do this to give them a great deal 0:11:14.480 --> 0:11:18.480 of self confidence. It's usually an incredible workout, and it's 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:20.760 not just good for physical and mental side too, it's 0:11:20.760 --> 0:11:22.720 also good for your cognitive side. The more we find 0:11:22.760 --> 0:11:25.679 out about like lifting weights, about staying strong. The more 0:11:25.800 --> 0:11:28.960 not only helps you maintain physically, but maintain cognitively as well. 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:31.680 Plus the way I always tell the guys, I'm like, look, 0:11:31.720 --> 0:11:33.840 when my wife married me, I'm the only guy she 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:35.920 gets for her whole life. I would like her to 0:11:35.920 --> 0:11:36.640 be happy about it. 0:11:37.640 --> 0:11:39.960 So yeah, I quick break right back. 0:11:40.000 --> 0:11:42.679 More would the cretus On the other side, The Man Book, 0:11:42.760 --> 0:11:45.120 point by point guide to stucking it up, getting the 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:45.839 job done. 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:48.240 Uh, How to plan the perfect. 0:11:47.960 --> 0:11:50.400 Date, How to be the best husband you can be 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:52.880 when an argument fairly, how to win a physical fight, 0:11:52.960 --> 0:11:55.400 how to prepare a stake? You know what even pitting 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:57.160 a car is? Linda, I bet you don't know what 0:11:57.240 --> 0:11:58.040 pitting a car is? 0:11:58.080 --> 0:11:58.320 Do you? 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:04.400 Anyway? Nick, on the other side, as we continue, the 0:12:04.559 --> 0:12:05.400 gradus is with us. 0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:07.240 By the way, I'm further this will be deemed a 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:09.079 toxic masculinity segment. 0:12:09.640 --> 0:12:11.040 He wrote a terrific new book. 0:12:11.440 --> 0:12:13.520 It is called The Man Book, A point by point 0:12:13.520 --> 0:12:15.439 guy to suck it up, Getting the job done, How 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:17.880 to be a great husband, How to plan the perfect date, 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:20.600 how to win a fight physically, how to prepare a stake, 0:12:20.640 --> 0:12:23.360 how to pit a car? You know all guys stuff. Anyway, 0:12:23.400 --> 0:12:25.640 we continue with Nick. All right, so you actually give 0:12:25.760 --> 0:12:29.200 dating advice too, and and one part of your book 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:32.200 you deal with how to plan the perfect date. And 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:34.200 I think after you get married, I think a lot 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:37.960 of people stop that that that that courtship part that 0:12:38.040 --> 0:12:39.920 you love so much, And I think that's a huge 0:12:39.920 --> 0:12:40.839 mistake people make. 0:12:41.240 --> 0:12:42.640 Yeah, what is the perfect date? 0:12:43.040 --> 0:12:45.800 Oh, it's going to depend entirely on who your wife 0:12:45.840 --> 0:12:47.880 is or who your girlfriend is, the girl that you're courting. 0:12:47.960 --> 0:12:49.840 That's That's part of one of the things I really 0:12:49.880 --> 0:12:53.160 emphasized too with respected dating, which is very unpopular right now. 0:12:53.200 --> 0:12:56.280 But promise, I promise you it works, is to not 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:58.520 get physical right away. You need you need to actually 0:12:58.559 --> 0:13:00.280 fall in love with who that person is, who that 0:13:00.320 --> 0:13:03.360 woman is, how they think, what they want out of life, 0:13:03.400 --> 0:13:05.160 all those things. And the more you actually spend the 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:07.000 time getting to know them that way, if you love 0:13:07.040 --> 0:13:09.000 them for who they are, for what they think, for 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:11.960 what they believe, then you're gonna have all the necessary 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:14.320 information to be able to plan something that is truly 0:13:14.440 --> 0:13:17.200 romantic and personal and is going to signify to her 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:19.480 that you cared enough to understand about what she cares 0:13:19.480 --> 0:13:22.479 about what she likes. You're gonna remember a little details 0:13:22.559 --> 0:13:24.559 and that's going to signify to her that you're someone 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:27.960 that pays attention and truly cares. And so those are 0:13:28.000 --> 0:13:29.840 the things that I go into and again I always 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:32.040 emphasize that, Look, my wife is going to read some 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:33.560 of these chapters ago. You need to do more of this. 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:37.160 But it's it's true when you can, when you can 0:13:37.200 --> 0:13:39.680 have that special moment that you created where you where 0:13:39.679 --> 0:13:43.240 you spent that time focusing very very specifically on her, 0:13:44.040 --> 0:13:46.240 that sticks with her over time. It's not just the 0:13:46.440 --> 0:13:48.319 you didn't just win a you didn't just win points 0:13:48.320 --> 0:13:51.280 to that moment. You win points for every time in 0:13:51.320 --> 0:13:53.240 the future that she thinks back to it. And so 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:55.240 I just encourage men to really consider that. 0:13:55.559 --> 0:13:57.440 By the way, there's no way you cook a better 0:13:57.480 --> 0:14:01.720 stake than me, no way, hand happy impossible. I cook 0:14:01.960 --> 0:14:04.680 a perfect steak every time, and I make it almost 0:14:04.720 --> 0:14:06.320 every day, so I'm an expert at it. 0:14:06.360 --> 0:14:08.920 That's what I eat, eggs and meat. 0:14:10.320 --> 0:14:13.120 But you know, this is really good advice, especially some 0:14:13.160 --> 0:14:15.160 of our younger listeners, or even if you're in a 0:14:15.200 --> 0:14:20.160 marriage and maybe your marriage is kind of stalled out, stale, boring, dull. 0:14:21.080 --> 0:14:23.160 Maybe it's time for you to up your game a 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:26.840 little bit. And maybe if you don't know situational self defense, 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:29.160 you know what's the big deal. I trained people for 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:31.600 the first time and I have them join me. And 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:34.400 sometimes people are so weak they can they can't even 0:14:34.440 --> 0:14:36.120 do two push ups, and I'm like, all right, we'll 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:38.000 just start with two. Do what you can do to 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:41.400 do today, tomorrow, three, and you know, in a month 0:14:41.400 --> 0:14:43.800 from now you'll be doing ten, and five months from 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:44.880 now you'll be doing thirty. 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:46.800 And that's just simply how it works. 0:14:46.840 --> 0:14:48.760 And I can't tell you how many people have taken 0:14:48.760 --> 0:14:50.840 my advice come back to me later and say, Wow, 0:14:50.840 --> 0:14:54.080 it's had a profound impact on me. The book is awesome, 0:14:54.360 --> 0:14:57.840 called The Man Book, and you know, point by playing 0:14:57.920 --> 0:15:01.000 point guide to sucking it up and getting the job done. 0:15:01.520 --> 0:15:03.840 We've got it on Hannity dot comments, on Amazon dot 0:15:03.840 --> 0:15:05.400 comments and bookstores everywhere. 0:15:06.040 --> 0:15:06.520 Uh. 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:09.840 Nick Fradus, Uh, we really appreciate your congrats and and 0:15:09.920 --> 0:15:11.920 much success to you, and we hope you'll come back. 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:13.320 Maybe we'll have you on the pod one night. 0:15:13.640 --> 0:15:14.160 Sounds great. 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:14.720 Thank you, Sean. 0:15:35.160 --> 0:15:41.120 Keeping Uncle Sam accountable to you every day, Hannity is on. 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:47.000 All right, So we were just talking to Nick Fradis. 0:15:47.160 --> 0:15:50.360 I'm talking about the Man Book, and you keep hearing 0:15:50.400 --> 0:15:54.720 about the manosphere out there and toxic masculinity, all these 0:15:54.920 --> 0:15:58.600 all these phrases that keep coming out of anywhere. Now, 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:00.680 I brought this up very briefly yet yesterday Linda and 0:16:00.680 --> 0:16:03.040 I want to get your thoughts on this. There is 0:16:03.080 --> 0:16:08.840 a new movement online with these female influencers urging women 0:16:08.960 --> 0:16:13.640 to ditch their romantic delusions, be more aggressive in the 0:16:13.760 --> 0:16:19.400 dating game, and snare what they describe a high value man. Now, 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:21.600 by the way, all of this is not new in 0:16:21.200 --> 0:16:26.400 my opinion, It's just kind of being spoken about on 0:16:26.440 --> 0:16:30.280 social media and now it's become the it thing. But 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:33.040 it sounds to me like the perfect description of a 0:16:33.080 --> 0:16:36.120 gold digger. And everybody knows what a gold tigger is, right, 0:16:37.000 --> 0:16:39.160 And this is how it starts. For example, Wall Street 0:16:39.200 --> 0:16:42.960 Journal did a piece on this and yeah, all these people, 0:16:43.040 --> 0:16:47.560 now you know, men are inherently selfish. That's how this 0:16:47.680 --> 0:16:52.160 article starts. They're only interested in one thing. By the way, 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:54.480 some men are like that. There are a lot of 0:16:54.520 --> 0:16:58.760 men that are inherently selfish, and women need to understand 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:01.760 that not every guy has their best intentions at heart. 0:17:02.240 --> 0:17:05.439 And if you do, think that, you're being naive, And 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:07.240 I think you got to learn to stand up for 0:17:07.280 --> 0:17:11.760 yourself and respect yourself, and you get to ultimately decide, 0:17:12.200 --> 0:17:13.840 you know the type of person that you want to 0:17:13.880 --> 0:17:16.920 be with, date, get engaged to, maybe marry one day. 0:17:17.000 --> 0:17:19.520 That's all of those decisions will be yours. 0:17:19.840 --> 0:17:19.959 Uh. 0:17:20.400 --> 0:17:22.960 This article goes on if you do manage to hook 0:17:23.119 --> 0:17:26.760 one into a relationship, don't be surprised if you find 0:17:26.760 --> 0:17:30.960 yourself doing all the housework, tending to his emotions as 0:17:31.000 --> 0:17:35.000 well as his sexual desires, at least until he decides 0:17:35.040 --> 0:17:39.520 to replace you with an even more compliant I'll use 0:17:39.560 --> 0:17:42.280 their term in the Wall Street Journal bang made. 0:17:42.400 --> 0:17:42.520 Now. 0:17:42.560 --> 0:17:44.639 I want to make it clear that these are not 0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:47.399 my personal beliefs, but if you hang around long enough 0:17:47.760 --> 0:17:50.760 in the quarter of the Internet known as the femosphere, 0:17:51.359 --> 0:17:54.240 these are the messages you're gonna hear. You'll also discover 0:17:54.359 --> 0:17:57.959 that there's a solution. Women need to harden their hearts 0:17:58.119 --> 0:18:00.960 learn how to manipulate men the same way that men 0:18:01.000 --> 0:18:05.360 have purportedly been manipulating women for millennia. By the way, 0:18:05.440 --> 0:18:08.760 haven't there always been women that have manipulated men or 0:18:09.280 --> 0:18:11.840 I remember when you know, for the twenty plus years 0:18:11.840 --> 0:18:14.600 that I had a place on the other coast in Florida, 0:18:14.880 --> 0:18:17.080 and that was my vacation spot, and I owned this 0:18:17.119 --> 0:18:21.200 place forever. And there was a there was a bar. 0:18:21.240 --> 0:18:23.520 It was in Naples, Flora. It's called the Blue Martini. 0:18:24.000 --> 0:18:28.000 Blue Martini Glinda was the greatest people watching spot you'd 0:18:28.080 --> 0:18:31.480 ever see in your life. You had all of these young, 0:18:31.640 --> 0:18:34.760