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Speaker 3: My girlfriend cheated on me with another woman and tried

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Speaker 3: to blame me for it. That's some backwards logend Okay,

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Speaker 3: little backstory. I'm twenty two and my girlfriend her we'll

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Speaker 3: call her Jess, and I have been in a relationship

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Speaker 3: for nearly eighteen months. She's very attractive and in all honesty,

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Speaker 3: I couldn't say that I'm a lost cause, but I'm

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Speaker 3: certainly dating on my league. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 3: from Jackson twenty thirteen three and if you want to

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Speaker 3: Storytime Separate it and I'm Angie, I'm Carly, and we're

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Speaker 3: here to give good advice. Goofily, But we don't have

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Speaker 3: all the answers. We just know what we would do

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Speaker 3: in this situation, so let us know what you would

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Speaker 3: do in the comments, so op seys. Anyway, last week

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Speaker 3: we were at an exhibition function for our shared university course.

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Speaker 3: It was a fairly normal evening up until I saw

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Speaker 3: her talking to this girl from the other side of

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Speaker 3: the hall. Nothing unusual, I just didn't recognize. However, when

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Speaker 3: hands seriously low on my girlfriend's back. I didn't think

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Speaker 3: much of it at the time, but they were completely

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Speaker 3: inseparable for the entire evening. The next week or so,

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Speaker 3: we were usually distant from each other. I wanted to

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Speaker 3: was going to Bristol for the weekend and I didn't

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Speaker 3: want to leave things on bad terms before I left.

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Speaker 3: But she was having none of it, just being really

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Speaker 3: blunt and such. So I left for my parents, who

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Speaker 3: were giving me a lift to Bristol. But when I

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Speaker 3: we wouldn't be going at least not today. So already

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Speaker 3: angry that she didn't tell me this over the phone,

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Speaker 3: I drove back to ours in a foul mood, and

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Speaker 3: that's when I caught her. The front door was off

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Speaker 3: I came in the door normally, but kind of stopped

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Speaker 3: when I heard what sounded like Jess Giggly. We live

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Speaker 3: to creak. As I got closer, I could hear someone,

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Speaker 3: clearly a female, sounding quite breathy, like panting. Oh. At

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Speaker 3: this point, I thought Jess might have been having some

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Speaker 3: At this point, confusion was starting to build, and as

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Speaker 3: I turned the corner, our bedroom door was wide open,

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Speaker 3: and there was a girl from the gallery in my

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Speaker 2: What the app is?

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Speaker 4: This?

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Speaker 3: I believe was my first reaction. Gallery girl just stared

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Speaker 3: As I called to Jess, something strange happened, Absolutely nothing

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Speaker 3: to be my fault. What I literally I didn't know

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Speaker 3: We'll discuss this later. When I got back to the car,

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Speaker 3: the belated rage began to set it. I was angry

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Speaker 3: she cheated, Angry she blamed it on me, and angry

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Speaker 3: that I didn't say something else. Honestly, it's the most ridiculous,

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Speaker 3: absurd scenario I've ever found myself in, And perhaps that's

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Speaker 3: wondering what to do. I didn't know she was into girls,

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Speaker 3: she never mentioned anything like that, and now she's cheated

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Speaker 3: Is this just her experimenting? Can we recover? Has anyone

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Speaker 3: been in this situation before? I'm at my wits and

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Speaker 3: here people, Okay, we do have an edit. I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: read it really quick. I've just realized how insanely British

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Speaker 3: this all is. So lift equals ride, nigger's equals panties,

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Speaker 3: some relevant comments. Dave Azosier, uh is experimenting her not

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Speaker 3: she cheated on you. Now there's two things you can

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Speaker 3: do try and patch it up round the relationship. Skellem says, actually,

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Speaker 3: him to hide her spicy proclivity. Opie says, yeah. To

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Speaker 3: it sounds like she's way past experimenting and Deleted says,

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Speaker 3: able to believe this was an experimenting thing if it

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Speaker 3: just don't. Regardless, it's still cheating, Opie says, Honestly, it's

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Speaker 3: this kind of thing that has been going around in

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Speaker 3: like the whole thing we had has just been alive.

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Speaker 3: Another comment says that can you go into a little

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Speaker 3: more detail about her absurd reaction? You teased it in

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Speaker 3: the title, but trying to make this out to be

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Speaker 3: my fault and really deliver it's like, Uh, you need

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Opie says, well, partly absurd because she was wearing

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Speaker 3: Worse though, because she said something along the lines of

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Speaker 3: Then the nail in the coffin was what so I

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Speaker 3: get all the blame for this? Yeah you do? Yeah, Like,

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Speaker 3: what what do you mean? To which I had no

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Speaker 3: I left. And we do have an edit. I've read

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Speaker 3: nearly all of these comments now, and honestly, you guys

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Speaker 3: are pretty much spot on. I'm afraid I can't go

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Speaker 3: after I found Gallery Girl in her social media earlier

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Speaker 3: and messaged her. She admitted it had been going on

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Speaker 3: tell anyone, As much as it would be a crappy move,

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Speaker 3: I'm seriously considering outing them both Nope.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you would revert back at that point to also

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Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. If they were both like already out, then

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Speaker 3: like sure you could tell people that they cheated.

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Speaker 4: But it doesn't add her out somebody. That could be

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Speaker 3: Yeah, knowing her friends, the last thing Jess would want

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Speaker 3: And we do have an update. Do we think he's

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Speaker 4: Right now, o pie, you have not been the a

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Speaker 4: hole anything, but if you do this, you become one

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're about to lose all your complaining rights.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she's crappy still, but doing this won't make her uncrappy.

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Speaker 4: It will just make you also crappy.

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Speaker 3: Totally. We do have an update. Two days later. I

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Speaker 3: She's stopped saying she's sorry, instead trying to say that

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Speaker 3: I didn't see what I thought I saw, which is hilarious.

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Speaker 3: Here's the best part. She told one of our mutual friends,

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Speaker 3: I wasn't gonna divulge the full story to anyone, but

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Speaker 3: a cheat and a liar. Also, I told the landlord

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Speaker 3: to Opie divulging the whole story, You're I suspected once

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Speaker 3: Claimed that I didn't see what I know I saw.

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Speaker 6: Okay, my wife cheated for years, but now everyone thinks

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Speaker 6: it's my fault. It's not my forty five male wife

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Speaker 6: forty three female just told me a few hours ago

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Speaker 6: that fifteen years ago she was having an affair.

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Speaker 3: Great to reddit.

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Speaker 4: We have been married for almost fifteen years and together

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Speaker 4: for nineteen. Tonight we had a game of truth or

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Speaker 4: truth on a date at the football game. We agreed

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Speaker 4: it would be a chance for anger and consequence, free

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Speaker 4: questions and answers that we have never told each other.

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Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from formal Outcome sixty four

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Speaker 4: oh four. And if you want to submit your own stories,

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Speaker 4: go to the r slash okay storytime subreddit. I'm Carly,

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Speaker 4: I'm Anjie, and we're here to give good advice.

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Speaker 3: Goofully.

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Speaker 4: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

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Speaker 4: what we would do, So let's say what you would

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Speaker 4: do in the comments, and Opie says, after several questions

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Speaker 4: both ways, I asked if she had ever been unfaithful,

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Speaker 4: fully knowing it would be a no, but yes came

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Speaker 4: out fifteen years ago. She was friends with the guy

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Speaker 4: I didn't trust, but she told me he's just a friend.

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Speaker 4: Stop being so jealous.

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Speaker 3: All the while I.

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Speaker 4: Heard my seven year old ask the officer if he

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Speaker 3: Roadblocks with her.

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Speaker 5: Away from the game.

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Speaker 4: Is a police officer?

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Speaker 3: Do you want to play roadblocks? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, you can take my dad, but just

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it just needs someone to play roeblox me.

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Speaker 4: I can't pause this.

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Speaker 4: Finally my wife talked to the police and everything was

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Speaker 4: I had a great night of movies, chips, coloring.

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Speaker 3: And of course rowblocks.

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Speaker 4: My wife called and said she wanted to come home

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Speaker 4: now that she is heavily medicated and our son's birthday

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Speaker 4: and dress in our Halloween costumes for the night. Sunday,

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Speaker 4: So I cooked spaghetti sauce all morning, makes upper and

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Speaker 3: This story has been wild. Yeah, that took a turn. Wow, insanely,

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Speaker 3: like all.

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Speaker 4: Because this wife was having an insane affair for fifteen years.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like, girl, come on, Like I'm just imagining Opie

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Speaker 3: my god, it's insane, like I I cause I'm thinking too,

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Speaker 3: Like at first, some of the panic attack stuff from

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Speaker 3: I mean obviously they probably feel guilty, right maybe, but

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Speaker 4: I was worried that it was gonna be like a

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Speaker 4: manipulation tactical yeah. Same until she puked from one yeah

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Speaker 4: was kind of like, Okay, I didn't really like that

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Speaker 4: we like verbally came at her with insults until she puked.

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Speaker 3: Sure, but then they came and stole.

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Speaker 5: Two of your kids, yeah, like your own sisters.

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Speaker 3: Like what I was like, uh, Like, I don't know,

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Speaker 4: Him, like right, Like I'm like, sure, maybe hindsight, you

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Speaker 4: we shouldn't.

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Speaker 3: Have had one.

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Speaker 4: Sure, I don't know that that's gonna happen, right, You

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Speaker 4: can't control that in the moment you just found out

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Speaker 4: that fifteen years were a lie.

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Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, okay, we got a little bit left.

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Speaker 4: Everyone leaves finally, and my wife gets into our bed

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Speaker 4: my children's sake. She has done nothing to reconcile and

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Speaker 4: Sorry this was so long winded, but I am effing

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Speaker 4: exhausted and destroyed on all levels of manhood and humanity.

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Speaker 4: But I effing love my children more than myself. So

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Speaker 4: for now, until separation papers are signed and the house

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Speaker 4: is decided, I keep carrying on. I am going to

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Speaker 4: take responsibility for not being a great husband. I am

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Speaker 4: avoidant and very closed, but I am learning. But I

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Speaker 3: expects me to stay with him. Why I've been with

438
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Speaker 3: him for four and a half years. We have two

439
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Speaker 3: kids together now. They are both toddlers, a three year

440
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Speaker 3: old and a two year old boy, and I myself

441
00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:05,520
Speaker 3: have a thirteen year old son. So I left Arizona

442
00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:07,520
Speaker 3: and all my family about a year ago to come

443
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Speaker 3: be with him and give it a go again. Things

444
00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:12,520
Speaker 3: were great at the beginning. Then I started noticing changes.

445
00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:15,800
Speaker 3: About five months in. He started drinking more and smoking

446
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Speaker 3: the Devil's lettuce, like over indulging, by the way, that

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450
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Speaker 3: and we're here to give good advice goofily. But we

451
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Speaker 3: don't have all the answers. We just know what we

452
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Speaker 3: would do in the situation. So let us know what

453
00:21:32,280 --> 00:21:34,840
Speaker 3: you would do in the comments. So oh p says,

454
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Speaker 3: we'll backtrack. Four years ago, I caught him being inappropriate

455
00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:43,840
Speaker 3: messaging one of his exes. They were flirting and had

456
00:21:44,119 --> 00:21:46,840
Speaker 3: and he had deleted the messages, but I saw just

457
00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:49,960
Speaker 3: enough to know what was up. Then down the line

458
00:21:50,080 --> 00:21:54,640
Speaker 3: more he's talking to his baby mama, same thing, being inappropriate,

459
00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:58,160
Speaker 3: living in effing la La land. He always says, it's

460
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Speaker 3: nothing that I'm worried about nothing, and then he usually

461
00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:04,960
Speaker 3: comes around and admits to it being some bs that

462
00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:07,240
Speaker 3: happened when we found out that we were pregnant with

463
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Speaker 3: our first child, our daughter. Now, fast forward to four

464
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Speaker 3: and a half years later, he's working as a maintenance

465
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Speaker 3: man where we live. The place was willing to give

466
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Speaker 3: him an apartment, even though his background is bad because

467
00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:20,480
Speaker 3: of his in and out charges in the system. Mind you,

468
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Speaker 3: we met through the system on a jail bus. Except

469
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Speaker 3: I've completely changed my whole life and myself around, while

470
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Speaker 3: he would be doing good and then fall off, et cetera.

471
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Speaker 3: So we're living here together in this apartment. Things are great.

472
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Speaker 3: Then I noticed changes, and then of course I lose

473
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Speaker 3: my car. So now I am literally a stuck stay

474
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Speaker 3: at home mom, worried about what he may or may

475
00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:45,199
Speaker 3: not be doing. Well, there are these other people that

476
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Speaker 3: live here. I'm thirty one female and he's thirty five male,

477
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Speaker 3: So I don't know what theF he even sees in

478
00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:54,000
Speaker 3: wanting to hang out with them, but he does so.

479
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Speaker 3: Now the guy ends up becoming my fiance's friend. Well,

480
00:22:58,200 --> 00:23:00,600
Speaker 3: when I first met the girl, I didn't like her

481
00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:03,199
Speaker 3: from the jump. She carries herself as if any and

482
00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:06,800
Speaker 3: everyone can have her, if that makes sense. Also, she

483
00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:09,639
Speaker 3: has tattoos all over her, which some do look okay,

484
00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:13,960
Speaker 3: but eh. She also dresses very inappropriately. She has two

485
00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:16,760
Speaker 3: little babies as well. So I noticed my husband going

486
00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:18,840
Speaker 3: over to hang out with them more and more. Well,

487
00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:22,840
Speaker 3: these people aren't any good. They sell substances, party all

488
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Speaker 3: the time, and crab like that. Of course he got

489
00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:29,520
Speaker 3: intrigued and interested. Well, my fiance and her dude start

490
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Speaker 3: becoming closer or whatever. So all of a sudden a

491
00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:34,920
Speaker 3: month ago, this guy's phone breaks, so now he has

492
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Speaker 3: to use her phone to get a hold of my fiance.

493
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Speaker 3: I'm sure you see where this is going. I don't

494
00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:41,479
Speaker 3: ever go through his phone, but I just had this

495
00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:44,120
Speaker 3: weird feeling. So I go through his phone, and sure

496
00:23:44,240 --> 00:23:47,720
Speaker 3: enough I find some crap, except he deleted all the

497
00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:51,480
Speaker 3: messages and the recently deleted so I wait and try

498
00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:54,240
Speaker 3: to piece it together more. My fiance is a self

499
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Speaker 3: absorbed person. Also, I'm gonna just throw that out there.

500
00:23:57,480 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 3: He thinks he never does anything wrong ever, So yes,

501
00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 3: of course I'm upset, except I have nothing really to

502
00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:06,720
Speaker 3: go off of except for a few messages between him

503
00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:09,640
Speaker 3: and her that make absolutely no sense. From the moment

504
00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:11,520
Speaker 3: I met this girl and her boyfriend, I knew they

505
00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:15,480
Speaker 3: were trouble. They're just not any good. Her boyfriend isn't

506
00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:17,879
Speaker 3: such a bad guy, but the fact that he tolerates

507
00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 3: the bs she does is what makes me not trust

508
00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:23,879
Speaker 3: the whole situation. So this last Friday happens, I know

509
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 3: a little bit, but all I know is that my

510
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:29,680
Speaker 3: fiance is being sneaky because all I saw were scrambled

511
00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 3: messages that made little to no sense. My God is

512
00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:34,800
Speaker 3: telling me that there is more, otherwise.

513
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Speaker 2: They wouldn't be deleted.

514
00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:38,200
Speaker 3: I remember seeing messages between her boyfriend and my fiance

515
00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:40,600
Speaker 3: on her phone, and that's how I know he deleted

516
00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:44,040
Speaker 3: stuff because I remember seeing him in his messages. So

517
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:46,639
Speaker 3: we get into a big old fight Friday because he

518
00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:49,720
Speaker 3: has the nerve to ask me out of nowhere, why

519
00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:51,560
Speaker 3: do I not like her? And why do I have

520
00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 3: such an issue with her? I told him, I don't know.

521
00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:57,199
Speaker 3: Ask yourself, why why do you think I might not

522
00:24:57,359 --> 00:24:59,440
Speaker 3: like her? So I brought up the messages to him,

523
00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:03,199
Speaker 3: of course, and makes up some lame story as to

524
00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:06,440
Speaker 3: why they were talking and why he deleted the messages.

525
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:10,080
Speaker 3: I'm furious at this point because remember we've gone through

526
00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:13,240
Speaker 3: this before in the past, with him being sneaky and inappropriate.

527
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:15,560
Speaker 3: So some time goes by through the nights and I

528
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:18,160
Speaker 3: decided to message her myself because I saved her phone

529
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Speaker 3: number off of my fiancee's phone. So I messaged her

530
00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:23,280
Speaker 3: and she asks to call me. She tells me all

531
00:25:23,320 --> 00:25:25,960
Speaker 3: of it, which could be nothing, but in my opinion,

532
00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:29,680
Speaker 3: all of it is inappropriate, and she sends me screenshots.

533
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 3: But also that's irrelevant because at this point she's only

534
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Speaker 3: gonna send me screenshots of what she told me. Happen,

535
00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:38,880
Speaker 3: get it? Yeah, me too. So I read them all

536
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:41,400
Speaker 3: and noticed that she was saying crap that she shouldn't

537
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:44,760
Speaker 3: have been saying as well. I'm disgusted and repulsed by

538
00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:47,159
Speaker 3: the things that he was saying to her. And also

539
00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:50,080
Speaker 3: this happened back at the beginning of March, so she

540
00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 3: knew all this time. Obviously, Supposedly her boyfriend knows too,

541
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:57,760
Speaker 3: and he's seen the messages too. All of it sounds

542
00:25:57,800 --> 00:26:00,400
Speaker 3: shady and weird to me. I don't trust her, her

543
00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:05,639
Speaker 3: boyfriend or my fiance I feel completely betrayed, humiliated, shattered

544
00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 3: and broken, and now I'm completely stuck. I've been looking

545
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 3: into family shelters for me and my kids, but they

546
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:14,600
Speaker 3: are all full at the moment. Then my fiance, of course,

547
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:17,320
Speaker 3: tries to justify how he didn't do anything wrong, and

548
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:20,560
Speaker 3: he rereads the messages over and over and decides that

549
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:23,399
Speaker 3: he didn't say anything that was really that bad on

550
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 3: in all. We got into a fight the next day

551
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:27,479
Speaker 3: about it, and he came clean and told me, of

552
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 3: course he wants to effer, of course she's his type,

553
00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:33,440
Speaker 3: and that he isn't attracted to me anymore.

554
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 4: Great.

555
00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:37,520
Speaker 3: He says more bs to me and then blames me

556
00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:41,040
Speaker 3: for what he's done. Then Monday comes around. I'm not

557
00:26:41,119 --> 00:26:43,159
Speaker 3: talking to him at all at this point, so he

558
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:45,680
Speaker 3: comes out to the parking lot and starts a big scene,

559
00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 3: telling me that I don't even want to fix things.

560
00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:50,879
Speaker 3: I said, I didn't break it, so why should I

561
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:53,280
Speaker 3: fix it. You're the one who did this, and he

562
00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:56,080
Speaker 3: doesn't see that he did anything wrong. So any advice,

563
00:26:56,359 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 3: please be honest, not critical. I know I need to leave,

564
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:03,040
Speaker 3: but I'm scared too, and I don't know why.

565
00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:06,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, girl, I can't even be critical of you, because

566
00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:07,920
Speaker 4: I'm just as confused as you are.

567
00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 5: I think this is like just why gosh, this is

568
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:15,919
Speaker 5: the wildest thing to just like slowly uncover and you

569
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:18,160
Speaker 5: know that you need to get out like you're doing it.

570
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:22,399
Speaker 3: I think it's totally fair to be scared of personally

571
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 3: totally like you. I mean, you know, at the worst

572
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:28,439
Speaker 3: of it, you might be scared of his reaction of

573
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 3: how he's gonna do, and that's something you know, obviously

574
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 3: to pay attention to. I think you know, it's also

575
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:38,359
Speaker 3: very possible that you're just scared to be alone because

576
00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 3: you know, you've been in this relationship for a reason.

577
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 3: You guys are engaged, you're you want to get married,

578
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,400
Speaker 3: like you're probably scared of losing.

579
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 4: All that and from the sounds of it, not having

580
00:27:48,359 --> 00:27:50,400
Speaker 4: a place to go, so having to jump with two

581
00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:51,960
Speaker 4: kids into a shelter like that.

582
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, Like that's you're in a tough spot. So

583
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:57,399
Speaker 3: it's totally understandable that you're scared to leave. But I

584
00:27:57,440 --> 00:27:59,639
Speaker 3: think you know the fact that you know that you

585
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Speaker 3: should it is amazing. Yeah, amazing. Yeah, we have some

586
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Speaker 3: comments coming. Number one says, this is a lot of

587
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:08,879
Speaker 3: drama for a thirty something year old, especially when you

588
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:11,320
Speaker 3: have children to raise. I'm curious how you came to

589
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:13,359
Speaker 3: decide to have kids with him before deciding to spend

590
00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:15,359
Speaker 3: the rest of your life with him. Seems like that's

591
00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 3: more permanent than marriage. But I suggest you go to work,

592
00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:20,639
Speaker 3: maybe even daycare, so you can bring the kids, start

593
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:23,520
Speaker 3: being financially responsible for you, and don't put yourself in

594
00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:25,960
Speaker 3: a position where you rely on someone you aren't married too.

595
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:28,359
Speaker 3: This is too much drama to be a healthy environment

596
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:30,720
Speaker 3: as a parent. Yeah, I'm assuming that they didn't really

597
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:34,199
Speaker 3: mean to get pregnant and have kids. I mean, if

598
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:37,120
Speaker 3: they started dating a four and a half years ago

599
00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:39,200
Speaker 3: and they have a three year old, it is kind

600
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Speaker 3: of wild that they have like multiple kids together. But also,

601
00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 3: I mean, they could all get it. They could all

602
00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 3: be accidents. So that's what I'm assuming. But we do

603
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 3: have an update eight days later. Okay, okay, update I

604
00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:54,480
Speaker 3: got away. Yeah, me and my kids are safely at

605
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:57,959
Speaker 3: a at a DV shuttle. Oh wow, okay, wow. I'm

606
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Speaker 3: working on getting a job and childcare set up, been

607
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:02,520
Speaker 3: eventually housing. This will be a good thing for us.

608
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Speaker 3: And that's the end of that story.

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632
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651
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:13,000
Speaker 2: was just two days when the guys. When the guys

652
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 2: thought the party was just two days and one night,

653
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:18,080
Speaker 2: everyone was okay with this. It's reasonable to ask for

654
00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:21,000
Speaker 2: one night for a bachelor party. However, at least three

655
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 2: groomsmen found four days difficult due to financial burden and

656
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:27,320
Speaker 2: stress on family. They told Billy they really wanted to

657
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 2: celebrate him, but the four day trip was too much.

658
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 2: They offered to throw him an additional party in town

659
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 2: so everyone could celebrate and he could have his destination

660
00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 2: party on top of it. Billy quickly nixed that idea

661
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 2: and said if they weren't going on this trip, they

662
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:47,640
Speaker 2: wouldn't be part of the celebration. The three friends worked

663
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:50,440
Speaker 2: through their budgets and work schedules and family obligations to

664
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 2: figure out how to make it work. They were all

665
00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:54,480
Speaker 2: able to go for at least three of the days,

666
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:58,440
Speaker 2: arriving late Saturday, being there all day Sunday, and leaving Monday.

667
00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 2: Ken shared some private information to explain why he wasn't

668
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:05,120
Speaker 2: comfortable being gone for so long. Billy said he totally

669
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 2: understood and appreciated they'd all be there. Alan had a

670
00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:11,600
Speaker 2: family wedding to attend during the day on Saturday, which

671
00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:15,320
Speaker 2: had been RSVP too well in advance. Ken and Will

672
00:32:15,440 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 2: planned to pick Allan up after the wedding and head

673
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:21,160
Speaker 2: to Indiana they'd missed the joint day, which they didn't

674
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 2: care about anyway, and be there for Billy's day. Billy

675
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:29,440
Speaker 2: okayed this schedule, and the boys were relieved. Then Allan's partner,

676
00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:34,240
Speaker 2: thirty Female, received a message from Billy's fiancee, Kelly. Kelly

677
00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:37,120
Speaker 2: said she knows it's a huge ask, but since Billy's

678
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:41,400
Speaker 2: increasingly disappointed about his bachelor party weekend, and since Ken

679
00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 2: and Will probably won't be there the full four days,

680
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:48,440
Speaker 2: would Allan be able to skip the wedding and go

681
00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 2: to the bachelor party instead. Kelly said she doesn't know

682
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 2: anything about this wedding, but she doesn't like seeing Billy

683
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:58,640
Speaker 2: so sad. Also don't mention this message to Billy because

684
00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:02,200
Speaker 2: he doesn't know she sent it. Alan's partner was flabbergasted.

685
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 2: Why would she need to give permission for her adult

686
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:08,880
Speaker 2: partner to do something also, Billy had agreed to the schedule.

687
00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:12,120
Speaker 2: The family member getting married was on Alan's side, and

688
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:15,520
Speaker 2: clearly an actual wedding has more weight than a bachelor party.

689
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:18,960
Speaker 2: Alan's partner explained their situation to Kelly, who seemed to

690
00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:22,320
Speaker 2: understand at the time. A few days later, Ken was

691
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:25,120
Speaker 2: hanging out with Billy during their weekly get together when

692
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 2: Billy got a call from Tate. He said he'd talked

693
00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:31,400
Speaker 2: to him later and then became distant to text Tate.

694
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 2: The rest of the night. Ken was charging his phone,

695
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:36,680
Speaker 2: so he had no idea what was coming. As he

696
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 2: walked to his car, he saw that Will had informed

697
00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:43,680
Speaker 2: the Groomsman group chat about their Saturday night through Monday plan.

698
00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 2: Immediately after that timestamp, Billy had received the call from Tate.

699
00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 2: Ken then saw a new group chat between Tate, Ken, Allan,

700
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:54,120
Speaker 2: and Will. Tate was angry with them for not being

701
00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 2: there to support Billy and that Billy was the glue

702
00:33:56,880 --> 00:34:00,400
Speaker 2: that holds them all together. Ben was very said and

703
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:03,760
Speaker 2: stated that the schedule was already discussed with Billy, who understood.

704
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:06,880
Speaker 2: Ken shared his very private reason for not making it

705
00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:09,239
Speaker 2: four days and said Allan and Will shouldn't have to

706
00:34:09,320 --> 00:34:12,400
Speaker 2: divulge their private reasons either. They were all adults and

707
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:14,839
Speaker 2: don't need to give excuses or explanations for what they

708
00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:18,560
Speaker 2: decide to do. Billy then created a group chat with Alan, Ken,

709
00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:20,960
Speaker 2: and Will, stating he didn't know why any of this

710
00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:23,279
Speaker 2: was happening and why they couldn't just go the whole time.

711
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:26,960
Speaker 2: This threw everyone for a loop because this had already

712
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:31,400
Speaker 2: been discussed. Billy said he understood now after talking with

713
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:34,239
Speaker 2: Tate behind everyone's back, while Ken was right there with him,

714
00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 2: he seems to have totally forgotten the previous conversations. Due

715
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:41,120
Speaker 2: to this sudden change, Alan and Will spoke with Billy individually,

716
00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:44,120
Speaker 2: divulging their own personal reasons for not being able to attend.

717
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:47,560
Speaker 2: It came out that Kelly was insisting everyone be there

718
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:49,719
Speaker 2: for the joint day because of a booze cruise they

719
00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:52,439
Speaker 2: had already spent money on. None of the boys cared

720
00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 2: about the joint day. The bachelorette party meant nothing to them.

721
00:34:56,360 --> 00:35:00,160
Speaker 2: They were there for Billy and his bachelor party. The

722
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 2: discussion Billy had with Alan, Alan shared that his partner

723
00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:06,360
Speaker 2: was pregnant. Billy immediately apologized that it wasn't getting the

724
00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:09,359
Speaker 2: pomp and circumstance that it deserved. But at least it's

725
00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:12,279
Speaker 2: a silver lining with all the chaos. Then, he said,

726
00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:14,359
Speaker 2: if Alan wasn't going to make it to the booz cruise,

727
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:16,720
Speaker 2: he was no longer invited to the bachelor party.

728
00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:19,840
Speaker 1: This is this is ridiculous, dude, You're whack.

729
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:23,759
Speaker 2: Enjoy your wife, Enjoy your life. I'm done. I'm backing up.

730
00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:24,319
Speaker 2: You're being so.

731
00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:26,759
Speaker 1: Weird, you're being up to Sure, yeah, dude, where is

732
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:29,279
Speaker 1: this like? Especially when you guys had a previous conversation

733
00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 1: about this, We're like, all right, everything's cool, everything's cool,

734
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:34,600
Speaker 1: and then like the plan has changed.

735
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:38,200
Speaker 2: Alan said he understood, but was crushed. Ken tried to

736
00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 2: convince Billy that you can't just uninvite Alan, one of

737
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:43,279
Speaker 2: his oldest friends, because of a scheduling oversight and an

738
00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:46,560
Speaker 2: inconvenience at a party. Billy said Allan had made his

739
00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 2: own tough decision, and now Billy was making his. Will

740
00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:52,319
Speaker 2: decided to go Friday through Sunday to keep some peace.

741
00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 2: Ken wasn't sure if he'd go at all. The thought

742
00:35:55,080 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 2: of abandoning Alan was getting to him. He also didn't

743
00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:00,640
Speaker 2: want to leave Will in the lurch, making him travel

744
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:04,160
Speaker 2: five hours alone. Ken realized if Billy was able to

745
00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:08,600
Speaker 2: hurt Allan, possibly causing irreparable harm over attending a booze cruise,

746
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 2: Billy wasn't really a friend to any of them. In

747
00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:16,280
Speaker 2: the end, he decided to go with Will Friday through Sunday,

748
00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:19,839
Speaker 2: but only so Will didn't have to go alone. Will

749
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 2: and Ken had a great road trip together. Once they arrived,

750
00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 2: Billy pretended everything was normal. No apologies for forcing the

751
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:29,880
Speaker 2: guys to divulge private information because he was being pushy

752
00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:33,760
Speaker 2: and controlling. No apologies for contradicting himself and throwing a tantrum.

753
00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:37,280
Speaker 2: No apologies for complaining about the situation behind their backs

754
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:40,719
Speaker 2: while Ken was right there. Nope, just a glad you

755
00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:43,319
Speaker 2: two made it. Other than that, they had no cane

756
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:45,759
Speaker 2: night with the grooms men. The following day, they were

757
00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:48,399
Speaker 2: told to rush the girl's house to get there on time.

758
00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:51,400
Speaker 2: They didn't have time for breakfast. Will and Ken had

759
00:36:51,440 --> 00:36:54,200
Speaker 2: planned and packed for the beach day with swim shorts, sandals,

760
00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:56,680
Speaker 2: T shirts, and beach towels. The guys were staying at

761
00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 2: an airbnb about fifteen minutes away and the girls were

762
00:36:59,080 --> 00:37:02,000
Speaker 2: staying at a bridesmaid house That's when Will and Ken

763
00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 2: realized the whole reason the bachelor party was happening in

764
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:08,280
Speaker 2: Indiana was so the girls wouldn't have to pay for lodging.

765
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:11,880
Speaker 2: Cool for the girls not sure why this had to

766
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 2: be a joint bachelorette party anyway, none of them had

767
00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:17,600
Speaker 2: met Kelly's friends, and after the wedding they weren't going

768
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:20,799
Speaker 2: to see them again. When they got to the bridesmaid's house,

769
00:37:20,880 --> 00:37:23,560
Speaker 2: no one was there. Tate barged in and then popped

770
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:26,280
Speaker 2: out of a balcony right above the front door and shouted,

771
00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:30,960
Speaker 2: no one's there. The guys were seething. They skipped breakfast

772
00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:32,799
Speaker 2: because they were told they had to get there on time.

773
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:36,239
Speaker 2: Forty minutes later, the girls came up through the backyard,

774
00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:39,840
Speaker 2: which had a path to the beach. They said, oh hey, guys,

775
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:44,000
Speaker 2: didn't know you were here. All of them were completely baked.

776
00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:47,480
Speaker 2: Everyone gathered in the backyard, which was under a canopy

777
00:37:47,520 --> 00:37:51,400
Speaker 2: of trees, making it ten degrees colder. Then they found

778
00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:55,440
Speaker 2: out they'd all been playing beer Olympics. These are thirty

779
00:37:55,520 --> 00:37:58,440
Speaker 2: year olds, tired adults, not twenty one year olds. They

780
00:37:58,480 --> 00:38:01,400
Speaker 2: all played flip club and and had some fun, but

781
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:03,200
Speaker 2: when it came to Dizzey Bat. No one was willing

782
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:04,839
Speaker 2: to put their head on a baseball bat and spin

783
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:08,440
Speaker 2: until Dizzy no one shotgunned any Bruce kis Ken and

784
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:11,360
Speaker 2: Will didn't even drink anything because they hadn't had breakfast

785
00:38:11,520 --> 00:38:14,759
Speaker 2: after the Olympics. They finally got some beach time. They

786
00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 2: were there for about a half an hour and then

787
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:19,719
Speaker 2: Billy's brother needed the restroom. Ken walked up to the

788
00:38:19,800 --> 00:38:22,080
Speaker 2: house with him. They looked around the kitchen for snacks

789
00:38:22,120 --> 00:38:24,040
Speaker 2: since they were famished, but all that was left were

790
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:26,560
Speaker 2: empty chip bags. And the time it took them to

791
00:38:26,719 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 2: use the restroom and fail to find food, everyone was

792
00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:31,960
Speaker 2: heading back to the house. Ken was sad there was

793
00:38:32,040 --> 00:38:34,440
Speaker 2: nearly no beach for a beach day, but was happy

794
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:36,920
Speaker 2: to hear they were grilling out. By now, it was

795
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 2: mid afternoon and the guys were excited to finally eat

796
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 2: one Groomsman made hamburgers. Ken grabbed the last one of

797
00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:47,800
Speaker 2: the first batch. Several people still hadn't gotten a border.

798
00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:50,759
Speaker 2: That's when grill Master let them know that was the

799
00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:52,280
Speaker 2: last burger period.

800
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:53,239
Speaker 3: Who planned this?

801
00:38:53,560 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 2: This is the worst? This is the worst? Who planned this?

802
00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 1: Where you're like, mm, we only got we have twenty

803
00:38:58,960 --> 00:39:02,080
Speaker 1: people only have six patties. But I'm not gonna let

804
00:39:02,120 --> 00:39:05,440
Speaker 1: anyone know about grill master messed up. Whoever bought this

805
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 1: stuff messed up, whoever planned this stuff all messed up.

806
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 1: This is all messed up. This is not fun anymore.

807
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:14,480
Speaker 1: Like I get stressed planning and getting ready for the

808
00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:18,799
Speaker 1: bachelor party or what have you partying with everybody, even

809
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:22,319
Speaker 1: if it's not a bachelor party. This is falling through

810
00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 1: the cracks really badly. I don't know.

811
00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:28,080
Speaker 2: Billy Kelly, the maid of honor and Tate hadn't planned

812
00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:31,120
Speaker 2: enough food for everyone. Ken offered to split his burger,

813
00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 2: but the grill master said there was a pack of

814
00:39:32,680 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 2: hot dogs he could make for everyone else. Now much

815
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 2: happened after this. Will and Ken waited around while the

816
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:41,720
Speaker 2: girls partied loudly in the house. They were freezing, hungry

817
00:39:41,800 --> 00:39:45,200
Speaker 2: and just waited to go back to the ARABNB. Eventually

818
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:47,880
Speaker 2: they left to get ready for the booze cruise. Kelly

819
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 2: yelled at the guys that they better look nice after

820
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:53,880
Speaker 2: being miserably cold all day. Will decided to wear his joggers,

821
00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:56,880
Speaker 2: a nice button up, short sleeve shirt, and bring his hoodie.

822
00:39:57,719 --> 00:40:00,880
Speaker 2: Will also ordered pizza for the boys. He tried, hinting

823
00:40:00,960 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 2: to take that as best man, he should probably get

824
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:07,840
Speaker 2: food for everyone, especially the groom before a night of drinking.

825
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:11,440
Speaker 2: He gave up and just ordered it himself. Kelly and

826
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:14,920
Speaker 2: the bridesmaids barged in shortly after the pizza arrived. Kelly

827
00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:17,759
Speaker 2: judged them and said, oh, you got food. Then they

828
00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:19,720
Speaker 2: went straight to the back of the house to shmirk.

829
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:21,920
Speaker 2: When they came in, they took a bunch of the

830
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 2: pizza without asking. She didn't even say thank you, so

831
00:40:24,719 --> 00:40:27,719
Speaker 2: Will and Ken only got one slice each. Kelly then

832
00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:29,279
Speaker 2: walked up to Will, looked him up and down, and

833
00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 2: in the snarkiest tone, said will you look nice? With

834
00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:37,359
Speaker 2: heavy sarcasm. He said, yeah, I'm warm. The ladies left

835
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 2: as loudly as they arrived, and Kelly yelled that they

836
00:40:39,719 --> 00:40:42,280
Speaker 2: better not be laid and they better have cash because

837
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:45,719
Speaker 2: the cruise was cash only. The guys were all under

838
00:40:45,760 --> 00:40:48,239
Speaker 2: the impression that the Booze cruise was already paid for.

839
00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:51,160
Speaker 2: Why would they need cash and why were they just

840
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:54,400
Speaker 2: finding out now? They were a fifteen minute walk from

841
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:57,880
Speaker 2: the marina. But after trying to gather enough cash and

842
00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:00,960
Speaker 2: failing because it's twenty twenty three, and who has cash.

843
00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:04,120
Speaker 2: They decided to just go by now. They had to

844
00:41:04,160 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 2: be there in less than fifteen minutes, so they had

845
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:08,919
Speaker 2: to drive. They also realized they didn't actually know where

846
00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 2: they were going. Billy didn't know the name and said

847
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:14,520
Speaker 2: Kelly didn't tell him. Luckily, Alan and Will's partners and

848
00:41:14,560 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 2: I had done research on Booze cruises in the area

849
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:19,560
Speaker 2: a week earlier. Ken had it saved and they were

850
00:41:19,600 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 2: able to get there on time. They also found out

851
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:26,560
Speaker 2: it wasn't cash only. The cruise was happening on Lake Michigan.

852
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:29,960
Speaker 2: Ken has a phobia of deep dark water. Will has

853
00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 2: a fear of not being able to see the shoreline

854
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:34,320
Speaker 2: while on a boat, and they were going out on

855
00:41:34,400 --> 00:41:37,800
Speaker 2: open water at night. Ben was drinking like crazy to

856
00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:40,600
Speaker 2: try to calm his nerves, but stayed completely sober as

857
00:41:40,640 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 2: he white knuckled through the boat ride. He learned deep

858
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:47,279
Speaker 2: panic level fear burns through Booze. At one point, the

859
00:41:47,400 --> 00:41:49,479
Speaker 2: DJ insisted the bride and groom go to the middle

860
00:41:49,520 --> 00:41:51,320
Speaker 2: of the dance floor for Billy to give Kelly a

861
00:41:51,480 --> 00:41:54,240
Speaker 2: lap dance. He kind of tried to say he didn't

862
00:41:54,280 --> 00:41:56,680
Speaker 2: want to, but Kelly was there in the chair waiting,

863
00:41:56,960 --> 00:41:59,920
Speaker 2: so he performed. Ken and Will were shocked at this

864
00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:04,439
Speaker 2: severe change in behavior while looking away from the spectacle. Yeah,

865
00:42:04,560 --> 00:42:07,360
Speaker 2: Kelly's making him worse. Kelly has turned Billy into a

866
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:09,200
Speaker 2: stranger a husk.

867
00:42:09,480 --> 00:42:13,120
Speaker 1: Yeah that's not Billy, the billy I know would never

868
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:16,400
Speaker 1: twork on his wife. Yeah that's that's Kelly's partner.

869
00:42:16,640 --> 00:42:19,919
Speaker 2: After that, the DJ announced it was Kelly's turn. Tate

870
00:42:20,080 --> 00:42:24,839
Speaker 2: was way too into this. Will, Ken, and Billy's brother

871
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:27,359
Speaker 2: all continued to look away because they really didn't want

872
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:30,399
Speaker 2: to see that. Tate wouldn't stop saying what a hero

873
00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:34,560
Speaker 2: Kelly was. No one was surprised by how Tate reacted, though,

874
00:42:34,960 --> 00:42:38,480
Speaker 2: in addition to constantly demeaning and feeling entitled to women,

875
00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:41,040
Speaker 2: he does have a past with Kelly. No one's one

876
00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:43,879
Speaker 2: hundred percent sure if Billy's aware of Tate's passed with Kelly,

877
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:46,879
Speaker 2: But during a break in the relationship about eight years ago,

878
00:42:47,440 --> 00:42:51,359
Speaker 2: Kelly at the very least had sent nakey pictures to Tate.

879
00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:54,719
Speaker 2: It just seemed a little odd to be sending noodles

880
00:42:54,760 --> 00:42:57,120
Speaker 2: to one of your recent ex's best friend.

881
00:42:57,400 --> 00:42:57,600
Speaker 1: Oh.

882
00:42:57,960 --> 00:43:00,560
Speaker 2: Also, the kind of guy who would share these pictures

883
00:43:00,600 --> 00:43:04,240
Speaker 2: with other members of the friend group. These other members

884
00:43:04,320 --> 00:43:07,839
Speaker 2: didn't feel comfortable being shown these I can't imagine Date

885
00:43:07,920 --> 00:43:11,239
Speaker 2: had consent to share those pictures. Perhaps Billy is well

886
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:14,560
Speaker 2: aware and they've worked everything out. I doubt it. It's

887
00:43:14,760 --> 00:43:19,080
Speaker 2: just a strange dynamic. Anyway, that was the mandatory Boo's cruise.

888
00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:22,799
Speaker 2: It was worth uninviting a groomsman and friend of over

889
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:26,960
Speaker 2: a decade. Apparently, the following day sounds like it would

890
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:30,080
Speaker 2: have been enjoyable. The groomsmen went to breweries, acts throwing,

891
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:32,320
Speaker 2: and then a nice dinner. The girls went to a

892
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 2: tattoo shop to get matching tattoos Kelly designed and coerced

893
00:43:36,719 --> 00:43:37,359
Speaker 2: them to get.

894
00:43:37,600 --> 00:43:40,279
Speaker 1: That's brutal. I'm sorry, that's brutal, girl.

895
00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:41,120
Speaker 2: I'm not doing that.

896
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:44,040
Speaker 1: Sorry, there, anyone's down to do that again, it's your

897
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:46,760
Speaker 1: own free will, your own choice. But if I'm coerce

898
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 1: and forced to get a tattoo that someone designed for me,

899
00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:51,640
Speaker 1: that was gotta placed on my body? Big no.

900
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:55,200
Speaker 2: I heard they looked like line art clip art of

901
00:43:55,280 --> 00:44:01,680
Speaker 2: the Google location pin with either a tree, burger or mountain. Well,

902
00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:04,919
Speaker 2: that's the end of the bachelor party. Following this, four

903
00:44:05,000 --> 00:44:08,880
Speaker 2: day three for Kenon will zero for Allan. For this

904
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:13,000
Speaker 2: four day extravaganza, the wedding is coming up this weekend. Again,

905
00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:15,800
Speaker 2: the bridal party will all be staying for free in

906
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:19,040
Speaker 2: one of the bride's family's cabins. Billy, the groomsmen, and

907
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:22,640
Speaker 2: plus ones had to pay for another Airbnb. Alan's partner

908
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 2: is very pregnant and had been planning on getting a

909
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:27,680
Speaker 2: hotel room. Ken and I were also planning on getting

910
00:44:27,680 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 2: a hotel room because we both have sensory issues and anxiety.

911
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:33,720
Speaker 2: Before we could book our rooms, Alan mentioned the idea

912
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 2: to Billy, who again said he understood. Then Kelly texted

913
00:44:37,520 --> 00:44:41,120
Speaker 2: Alan saying he had better not abandoned Billy again.

914
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:44,399
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be like I'm gonna respond, have Billy talk

915
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:45,320
Speaker 1: to me, not you.

916
00:44:45,800 --> 00:44:49,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I want, I'm no longer carrying a conversation with you.

917
00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 2: By the time I put my foot down and said

918
00:44:51,280 --> 00:44:54,360
Speaker 2: no way, we need our own room for our own sanity,

919
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 2: the last hotel room for less than five hundred dollars

920
00:44:57,239 --> 00:45:02,440
Speaker 2: was booked and I couldn't find anything else. So this weekend, Ken, Allen, Will, myself,

921
00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:05,600
Speaker 2: and each of their partners, along with Billy and the

922
00:45:05,680 --> 00:45:08,200
Speaker 2: rest of the groomsmen will be staying under the same

923
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 2: roof six hours away in Michigan. Also, neither the bride

924
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:16,640
Speaker 2: nor groom are from Michigan. Kelly's from Illinoy and Billy's

925
00:45:16,640 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 2: from Iowa. Another odd tidbit, Billy thought the groomsman would

926
00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:22,520
Speaker 2: be staying with him for a week after the wedding.

927
00:45:22,880 --> 00:45:25,279
Speaker 2: He booked the airbnb for a week, thinking he'd be

928
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:27,040
Speaker 2: spending his honeymoon with his friends.

929
00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:31,360
Speaker 1: Sorry, get big thing was he thought? He never asked,

930
00:45:31,719 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 1: he never said anything.

931
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:36,759
Speaker 8: He thought, who does the friend of vacation on their

932
00:45:37,040 --> 00:45:41,160
Speaker 8: honeymoon for a week? Who is going when we were

933
00:45:41,160 --> 00:45:43,480
Speaker 8: already struggling to get four days?

934
00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:47,000
Speaker 1: You want? You want seven? After the four?

935
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:48,759
Speaker 2: The nightmare never ends.

936
00:45:48,800 --> 00:45:50,719
Speaker 1: It's a nightmare that keeps a nightmare.

937
00:45:51,719 --> 00:45:54,880
Speaker 2: Oh. That is the very lengthy story of how a

938
00:45:55,000 --> 00:45:57,880
Speaker 2: bachelor party has ended friendships and caused so much stress

939
00:45:58,520 --> 00:46:01,239
Speaker 2: heading to the wedding tomorrow. Oh, wish us luck and

940
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:02,840
Speaker 2: there's an update post wedding.

941
00:46:03,080 --> 00:46:05,719
Speaker 1: Man, I'm stressed out. I'm not even there. I don't

942
00:46:05,760 --> 00:46:07,760
Speaker 1: want to because the night it's gonna keep her throwing.

943
00:46:08,200 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 2: This is much shorter. Lots of complaints on the location,

944
00:46:11,239 --> 00:46:14,959
Speaker 2: but it is what it is. Kelly was incredibly disrespectful

945
00:46:15,000 --> 00:46:18,040
Speaker 2: to the event staff and groom. I witnessed one of

946
00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:20,920
Speaker 2: these moments. My partner witnessed the other. All the events

947
00:46:21,160 --> 00:46:24,080
Speaker 2: were a mess that could have been fixed by simple communication.

948
00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 2: Billy's family missed photos because they were never told about them.

949
00:46:27,880 --> 00:46:30,800
Speaker 2: The bride screamed at the groom that if his effing

950
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:34,200
Speaker 2: family didn't want any effing photos, she didn't even care.

951
00:46:35,440 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 2: The groom ended up trying to contact them, but there

952
00:46:37,600 --> 00:46:41,360
Speaker 2: wasn't much cell reception in middle of nowhere Michigan. He

953
00:46:41,520 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 2: did get a hold of Allan's partner and took his

954
00:46:43,760 --> 00:46:47,880
Speaker 2: anger out on her, heavily pregnant. Allan's partner, Uh huh.

955
00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:51,120
Speaker 1: If I'm Alan, I'm like, honey, go in the car,

956
00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:54,879
Speaker 1: we're heading, we're leaving, and I'm giving him a mouthful. Yeah,

957
00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:58,759
Speaker 1: And I'm giving Kelly two mouthfuls and I'm out. I'm

958
00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:02,400
Speaker 1: gonna take some some of the food from the wedding too. Thanks.

959
00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:03,360
Speaker 1: Don't talk to me.

960
00:47:03,480 --> 00:47:06,120
Speaker 2: I'm given. I'm gonna ask. I'm gonna ask Billy, what

961
00:47:06,239 --> 00:47:08,240
Speaker 2: did the five thing is say in the face? Sap.

962
00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:10,800
Speaker 2: She doesn't know Billy's family, So I'm not sure what

963
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:13,400
Speaker 2: we were supposed to do about that after this, I

964
00:47:13,560 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 2: think my relationship with Billy is fundamentally brokay.

965
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:19,319
Speaker 1: I don't know who that's not Billy though Billy's gone,

966
00:47:19,480 --> 00:47:21,719
Speaker 1: Billy's no longer a power ranger.

967
00:47:21,600 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 2: And Tate's weird Tate who hooks up with the fiance

968
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:26,800
Speaker 2: maybe and had photos.

969
00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:30,760
Speaker 1: No one knows it was Billy's friend during the wedding

970
00:47:31,239 --> 00:47:33,759
Speaker 1: at least or at some time through all of this.

971
00:47:33,920 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 1: A big brother, what are you doing?

972
00:47:36,640 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, you gotta have a heart to heart with him

973
00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:40,480
Speaker 2: at some point. If you did not, or I have

974
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 2: not blink twice.

975
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:42,920
Speaker 1: If you're happy you're.

976
00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:45,280
Speaker 2: Getting screamed at at your own wedding by your wife.

977
00:47:45,560 --> 00:47:47,279
Speaker 2: Crazy work, crazy work.

978
00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:51,240
Speaker 1: And also I'll be like, brother, work on your communication skills,

979
00:47:51,760 --> 00:47:54,359
Speaker 1: not just with us, but with your wife now.

980
00:47:54,520 --> 00:47:57,080
Speaker 2: The morning of the wedding, Billy stated he needed to

981
00:47:57,120 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 2: remind himself he wasn't marrying the Kelly he was seen

982
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:03,160
Speaker 2: that weekend. He was marrying the Kelly who curls up

983
00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:06,040
Speaker 2: in a blanket and watches TV with him. On the

984
00:48:06,120 --> 00:48:09,879
Speaker 2: bridesmaid tattoo front, none of them got the designs done

985
00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:11,920
Speaker 2: by Kelly. When they got to the tattoo shop, they

986
00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:14,800
Speaker 2: decided to do a stock design palm tree for a

987
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:18,200
Speaker 2: Michigan beach wedding that wasn't actually on a beach, but

988
00:48:18,320 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 2: in a mediocre backyard of an inland venue. They had

989
00:48:21,800 --> 00:48:24,480
Speaker 2: some photos on the beach of Lake Michigan. They trust

990
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:26,680
Speaker 2: passed on a private beach because the photographer liked it

991
00:48:26,760 --> 00:48:29,240
Speaker 2: better than the public beach. But now we are done,

992
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:31,439
Speaker 2: and it ever have to deal with Billy and Kelly again,

993
00:48:31,640 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 2: except for large social gatherings they could be at. And

994
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:38,880
Speaker 2: that is the end of that story. Oh man, hey,

995
00:48:38,920 --> 00:48:40,400
Speaker 2: it's John here. We're gonna get back to the stories.

996
00:48:40,440 --> 00:48:42,400
Speaker 2: But I quick three minute ad break from our sponsors

997
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Speaker 2: that keep the show going.

998
00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:46,840
Speaker 1: My best friends left me in another country and blame

999
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:48,120
Speaker 1: me for ruining the trip.

1000
00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:51,960
Speaker 2: That's on you, dude, A fur real skiz.

1001
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:54,919
Speaker 1: I went on a Jet two holiday in twenty twenty

1002
00:48:54,960 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 1: four with seven other girls, all of us eighteen years old.

1003
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:01,440
Speaker 1: Three of them were my best friend. We'll call them Casey, Cora,

1004
00:49:01,600 --> 00:49:04,360
Speaker 1: and CALLI. Four of them were friends of one of

1005
00:49:04,400 --> 00:49:07,960
Speaker 1: my best friends. We'll call them Sophie, Ava, Delilah, and Paige.

1006
00:49:08,280 --> 00:49:11,120
Speaker 1: By the way. This comes from user Inevitable Friend twenty

1007
00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:12,640
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1008
00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:15,280
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1009
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:18,040
Speaker 1: I'm Keon, I'm Dakota, and we're here to give good

1010
00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:21,160
Speaker 1: advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers. Unfortunately,

1011
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 1: we only know what we do, So let us know

1012
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:25,239
Speaker 1: what you'd do in the comments, pretty pretty please. Two

1013
00:49:25,320 --> 00:49:28,080
Speaker 1: days of the holiday went by with no issues. We

1014
00:49:28,280 --> 00:49:30,000
Speaker 1: enjoyed the daytime and then we went out at night

1015
00:49:30,040 --> 00:49:33,040
Speaker 1: to clubs. Our hotel was only a ten minute taxi

1016
00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:36,280
Speaker 1: ride from a party town with tons of clubs and bars.

1017
00:49:36,920 --> 00:49:39,440
Speaker 1: On the third night of Christmas, my true love gave

1018
00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:41,920
Speaker 1: to me. We decided to get tickets to an event

1019
00:49:42,120 --> 00:49:45,360
Speaker 1: and go to this party town to one of the

1020
00:49:45,400 --> 00:49:48,439
Speaker 1: biggest clubs in Europe. Me, Casey, Kelly, and the rest

1021
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:51,320
Speaker 1: of the girls were going. Cora stayed at the hotel.

1022
00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:54,880
Speaker 1: We had our pre drinks like normal, but Casey and

1023
00:49:54,960 --> 00:49:58,040
Speaker 1: her friends had bought some shots of absinthe to try

1024
00:49:58,120 --> 00:50:00,719
Speaker 1: for fun, so we all passed around a shot and

1025
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:05,400
Speaker 1: laugh at each other's reactions. It was fun. Then it

1026
00:50:05,600 --> 00:50:09,320
Speaker 1: came to get the taxi probably no longer fun, and

1027
00:50:09,440 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 1: I was very wasted. All my friends could tell I

1028
00:50:13,400 --> 00:50:16,239
Speaker 1: was very wasted, and they were telling me as much.

1029
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:19,040
Speaker 1: They all know I'm quite a lightweight and that I

1030
00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:22,359
Speaker 1: pass out sometimes if I get too wasted, it can

1031
00:50:22,480 --> 00:50:25,120
Speaker 1: last hours. Since I knew this about myself, I always

1032
00:50:25,120 --> 00:50:27,880
Speaker 1: tried my best to drink slowly and ease myself into it.

1033
00:50:28,360 --> 00:50:30,640
Speaker 1: But I think the absence was just a bit too strong.

1034
00:50:30,719 --> 00:50:32,399
Speaker 1: Did we get out of the taxi at the huge

1035
00:50:32,440 --> 00:50:35,560
Speaker 1: club and we go inside? Me, Casey and Sophie go

1036
00:50:35,640 --> 00:50:38,200
Speaker 1: to the bar together and we get drinks. Casey and Sophie,

1037
00:50:38,560 --> 00:50:41,799
Speaker 1: knowing I'm very wasted, walk away while I'm still waiting

1038
00:50:41,840 --> 00:50:44,719
Speaker 1: on my drink to be made, and obviously I then

1039
00:50:44,800 --> 00:50:47,520
Speaker 1: have no idea where they are or where anyone else is.

1040
00:50:48,120 --> 00:50:50,720
Speaker 1: At this point, I also realized I left my vape

1041
00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:53,200
Speaker 1: in the taxi and now don't have one. By this

1042
00:50:53,320 --> 00:50:57,920
Speaker 1: time I get my drink, the drunkenness has fully smacked

1043
00:50:58,000 --> 00:51:01,759
Speaker 1: me and I'm gone. I don't remember anything properly after

1044
00:51:01,880 --> 00:51:05,000
Speaker 1: this point. Uh, Since I now have no idea where

1045
00:51:05,160 --> 00:51:07,440
Speaker 1: Eddie and my friends are and don't have the cognitive

1046
00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:10,440
Speaker 1: ability to care, I asked someone in the club where

1047
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:12,759
Speaker 1: I could get a vape. So again I asked where

1048
00:51:12,760 --> 00:51:14,160
Speaker 1: I could get a vape, and he led me to

1049
00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:17,200
Speaker 1: the shop across the road. So I'm at the shop

1050
00:51:17,239 --> 00:51:20,759
Speaker 1: across the road. I FaceTime my boyfriend, who is back

1051
00:51:20,800 --> 00:51:22,960
Speaker 1: home because I'm alone in the biggest party town I

1052
00:51:23,080 --> 00:51:26,480
Speaker 1: know other than a Ibitha, and I'm chatting to him

1053
00:51:26,680 --> 00:51:29,040
Speaker 1: while I get my vape. I have a video that

1054
00:51:29,080 --> 00:51:31,160
Speaker 1: I sent to him of me with this random guy,

1055
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:33,200
Speaker 1: and I'm asking him if he's going to the club

1056
00:51:33,239 --> 00:51:36,920
Speaker 1: across the road. Except in the video, I called the

1057
00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:38,920
Speaker 1: club by the name of one of two clubs in

1058
00:51:38,960 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 1: the town of our hotel. I forgot we had left

1059
00:51:42,480 --> 00:51:46,359
Speaker 1: that town. I forgot where I was completely, even though

1060
00:51:46,360 --> 00:51:48,200
Speaker 1: I was looking at this place with the name in

1061
00:51:48,440 --> 00:51:53,000
Speaker 1: big bold letters. My boyfriend was obviously very concerned, and

1062
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:55,239
Speaker 1: he tried to get in contact with my friends, who

1063
00:51:55,280 --> 00:51:57,680
Speaker 1: were all still in the club. My friends all had

1064
00:51:57,719 --> 00:52:00,600
Speaker 1: my live location on Life through sixty. He was sure

1065
00:52:00,640 --> 00:52:03,040
Speaker 1: they'd come get me again. I was directly across the

1066
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:06,279
Speaker 1: street right away, and it would be all good and

1067
00:52:06,400 --> 00:52:07,719
Speaker 1: we'd be reunited for the night.

1068
00:52:08,719 --> 00:52:09,000
Speaker 8: Wrong.

1069
00:52:10,160 --> 00:52:12,280
Speaker 1: They didn't want to leave their spawn on the dance floor.

1070
00:52:12,640 --> 00:52:15,520
Speaker 1: They were booging too much. They told him to tell me.

1071
00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:18,520
Speaker 1: I'm completely shmacked out of my brain, no idea where

1072
00:52:18,560 --> 00:52:20,359
Speaker 1: I was to go find them, right in the middle

1073
00:52:20,400 --> 00:52:25,240
Speaker 1: of the dance floor of the third biggest club in Europe.

1074
00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:27,759
Speaker 1: Obviously I wasn't able to do this. I did go

1075
00:52:27,880 --> 00:52:30,280
Speaker 1: back into the club for a bit. I remember speaking

1076
00:52:30,320 --> 00:52:32,360
Speaker 1: to someone in Spanish for a while, and then I

1077
00:52:32,400 --> 00:52:35,440
Speaker 1: don't remember how or why, but I was back outside

1078
00:52:35,520 --> 00:52:40,240
Speaker 1: and walking around because obviously I did not find my friends. Basically,

1079
00:52:40,360 --> 00:52:43,480
Speaker 1: to sum up this night, I was walking around Magaliff alone,

1080
00:52:43,840 --> 00:52:46,560
Speaker 1: just wasted, with no idea where I was or where

1081
00:52:46,640 --> 00:52:49,520
Speaker 1: my friends were, in a tiny top and small skirt

1082
00:52:49,960 --> 00:52:53,759
Speaker 1: for five hours. I've been in this situation where I

1083
00:52:54,360 --> 00:52:56,440
Speaker 1: kind of had this, but luckily my friends were there

1084
00:52:56,520 --> 00:52:58,480
Speaker 1: to check out. At least I like a like, this

1085
00:52:58,640 --> 00:53:01,160
Speaker 1: is why you have a system of if you go

1086
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:03,680
Speaker 1: out in a country and you have no reception or

1087
00:53:03,760 --> 00:53:06,360
Speaker 1: you don't know the location, it's called you have a buddy.

1088
00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:07,600
Speaker 1: It's the buddy system.

1089
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:08,600
Speaker 2: The buddy system at.

1090
00:53:08,560 --> 00:53:10,120
Speaker 1: Least have one person who's like, I got your back,

1091
00:53:10,120 --> 00:53:10,440
Speaker 1: you got my.

1092
00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:13,400
Speaker 2: Back, y'all have knowledge of the buddiesys come on in.

1093
00:53:13,440 --> 00:53:15,640
Speaker 1: The fact that this wasn't established, maybe because again you

1094
00:53:15,680 --> 00:53:18,040
Speaker 1: guys are young, but this is a huge thing to

1095
00:53:18,120 --> 00:53:22,440
Speaker 1: do in countries, especially big thing here when you're a woman.

1096
00:53:23,360 --> 00:53:26,920
Speaker 1: You know how scary that is that Like if one

1097
00:53:26,960 --> 00:53:28,880
Speaker 1: of my female friends was doing this, like goes off

1098
00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:31,160
Speaker 1: by yourself, I'm going with you. I don't care. This

1099
00:53:31,360 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 1: is Europe taken the movie real thing. It happens a lot,

1100
00:53:35,920 --> 00:53:40,920
Speaker 1: very scary, Like your friends suck, I'm sorry. And the

1101
00:53:41,000 --> 00:53:43,120
Speaker 1: fact that this is not like a blatant thing like

1102
00:53:43,280 --> 00:53:44,920
Speaker 1: I was just walking around at night in like a

1103
00:53:45,120 --> 00:53:46,920
Speaker 1: country all by myself. He who.

1104
00:53:48,320 --> 00:53:50,840
Speaker 2: Girl, Yeah, your friends are terrible. Your friends have failed you.

1105
00:53:51,080 --> 00:53:52,919
Speaker 1: Back to the store. My friends didn't leave their club

1106
00:53:53,080 --> 00:53:56,000
Speaker 1: once to try and find me, regardless of my boyfriend

1107
00:53:56,080 --> 00:53:59,600
Speaker 1: calling and texting them persistently because he was worried about

1108
00:53:59,640 --> 00:54:02,680
Speaker 1: my safety. Cali even hung up on him, saying, I

1109
00:54:02,800 --> 00:54:04,320
Speaker 1: need to put my phone back in my bag so

1110
00:54:04,400 --> 00:54:06,800
Speaker 1: I don't lose it. Good luck. He was four and

1111
00:54:06,840 --> 00:54:09,919
Speaker 1: a half hours away by plane. They were five minutes

1112
00:54:09,960 --> 00:54:12,919
Speaker 1: away by foot and had my location and she told

1113
00:54:13,040 --> 00:54:16,720
Speaker 1: him good luck. Anyway, They eventually found me walking around

1114
00:54:16,840 --> 00:54:22,560
Speaker 1: sobbing at around six am, five hours later, after Casey

1115
00:54:22,600 --> 00:54:25,799
Speaker 1: and Sophie left me at the bar and instantly all

1116
00:54:25,840 --> 00:54:30,080
Speaker 1: started screaming at me, telling me I ruined their night. Obviously,

1117
00:54:30,239 --> 00:54:32,239
Speaker 1: I did not respond well to this because I was

1118
00:54:32,360 --> 00:54:34,960
Speaker 1: still crunked out of my mind and I had been

1119
00:54:35,040 --> 00:54:38,120
Speaker 1: left to wander alone for again five hours, so I

1120
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:41,960
Speaker 1: shouted back and argued. Then they booked themselves a taxi

1121
00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:45,400
Speaker 1: back to our hotel, leaving me with Delilah, who was

1122
00:54:45,440 --> 00:54:47,560
Speaker 1: the only person who cared enough to actually wait with

1123
00:54:47,680 --> 00:54:51,080
Speaker 1: me for a second taxi. We got these taxis to

1124
00:54:51,120 --> 00:54:53,680
Speaker 1: the beach where they wanted to go swimming. I went

1125
00:54:53,760 --> 00:54:57,920
Speaker 1: swimming with them while still crunked out wasted. I walked

1126
00:54:57,960 --> 00:55:00,440
Speaker 1: home way behind them in my bare feet and went

1127
00:55:00,520 --> 00:55:03,280
Speaker 1: to bed. Woke up the next day with zero memory

1128
00:55:03,560 --> 00:55:05,239
Speaker 1: and walked out of my room to see Casey and

1129
00:55:05,320 --> 00:55:08,880
Speaker 1: Kelly on the sofa. I said hi to them, as usual,

1130
00:55:09,000 --> 00:55:11,200
Speaker 1: but they didn't even lift their heads from their phones

1131
00:55:11,239 --> 00:55:14,600
Speaker 1: to look at me, never mind even respond. I started

1132
00:55:14,600 --> 00:55:18,120
Speaker 1: freaking out hard and went back into my room. We

1133
00:55:18,239 --> 00:55:20,239
Speaker 1: all know the anxiety of waking up after a bad

1134
00:55:20,320 --> 00:55:22,399
Speaker 1: night out, but waking up in a foreign country after

1135
00:55:22,760 --> 00:55:24,840
Speaker 1: being crunked out of my mind for six hours and

1136
00:55:24,960 --> 00:55:27,960
Speaker 1: your best friends won't even look at you. That's a

1137
00:55:28,040 --> 00:55:32,480
Speaker 1: new feeling that I never want to experience ever again. Anyway,

1138
00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:35,359
Speaker 1: I went back into my room, got ready, and by

1139
00:55:35,400 --> 00:55:38,359
Speaker 1: the time I was back out, all my friends were

1140
00:55:38,440 --> 00:55:41,239
Speaker 1: gone and no one would answer me in the group chat.

1141
00:55:42,080 --> 00:55:44,080
Speaker 1: So I went down to the beach and cried for

1142
00:55:44,239 --> 00:55:47,680
Speaker 1: hours by myself. Naturally, I went back to my room

1143
00:55:47,719 --> 00:55:50,080
Speaker 1: after a long boyfriend pep talk and tried to talk

1144
00:55:50,120 --> 00:55:53,640
Speaker 1: to Casey, asking here if I could apologize, giving my best,

1145
00:55:53,760 --> 00:55:57,640
Speaker 1: heartfelt apology, and she responded with okay, and then left

1146
00:55:57,680 --> 00:56:00,120
Speaker 1: the room. At that point I freaked out eve and

1147
00:56:00,200 --> 00:56:02,760
Speaker 1: more and had to leave the hotel. I walked around

1148
00:56:02,800 --> 00:56:05,840
Speaker 1: for an hour or so, having a panic attack, hyperventilating

1149
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:08,480
Speaker 1: and sobbing, and I didn't go back to my room

1150
00:56:08,719 --> 00:56:11,840
Speaker 1: until they were all going out for that night. This

1151
00:56:12,000 --> 00:56:15,160
Speaker 1: continued for the next four days of the holiday.

1152
00:56:15,200 --> 00:56:16,399
Speaker 2: Girl, go home.

1153
00:56:17,280 --> 00:56:18,720
Speaker 3: These are not your friend.

1154
00:56:19,200 --> 00:56:22,000
Speaker 1: The fact that you're with these six other girls and

1155
00:56:22,200 --> 00:56:25,319
Speaker 1: you're just panic attack and just having a terrible time.

1156
00:56:25,440 --> 00:56:27,160
Speaker 1: This is no longer a holiday, This is a nightmare.

1157
00:56:27,239 --> 00:56:30,360
Speaker 2: Well, because you've did something that like everyone has basically

1158
00:56:30,480 --> 00:56:31,080
Speaker 2: done before.

1159
00:56:31,320 --> 00:56:32,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, everyone gets you littng and.

1160
00:56:33,040 --> 00:56:37,040
Speaker 2: You go too hard and then you end up being

1161
00:56:37,280 --> 00:56:40,839
Speaker 2: kind of, you know, a nuisance. But that's what friends

1162
00:56:40,880 --> 00:56:42,680
Speaker 2: are for. Friends are there to be like, all right,

1163
00:56:42,800 --> 00:56:46,280
Speaker 2: little baby bird, nuisance girl, We're gonna wrangle you tonight,

1164
00:56:46,480 --> 00:56:46,960
Speaker 2: and you.

1165
00:56:47,480 --> 00:56:49,319
Speaker 1: Know, maybe the night ends for a couple of people.

1166
00:56:49,440 --> 00:56:51,160
Speaker 1: Do they take you back home? They can go back out.

1167
00:56:51,280 --> 00:56:53,840
Speaker 2: They valued a spot on some dance floor more than

1168
00:56:53,920 --> 00:56:55,120
Speaker 2: your actually safety.

1169
00:56:55,200 --> 00:56:58,239
Speaker 1: That's an actual human being they valued. And that guess what,

1170
00:56:58,480 --> 00:57:02,000
Speaker 1: eighteen year olds just heartless, hollow. Despite many attempts, no

1171
00:57:02,080 --> 00:57:05,239
Speaker 1: one wanted to give me the time of day to apologize.

1172
00:57:05,800 --> 00:57:07,920
Speaker 1: I spent four of the seven days of our holiday

1173
00:57:08,200 --> 00:57:12,280
Speaker 1: completely alone and isolated. I wasn't included in a single

1174
00:57:12,360 --> 00:57:15,359
Speaker 1: plan made, I wasn't invited out, and Casey and CALLI

1175
00:57:15,440 --> 00:57:18,320
Speaker 1: started sleeping in the other hotel room with Casey's friends.

1176
00:57:19,000 --> 00:57:22,120
Speaker 1: I was completely alone and cried pretty much all day

1177
00:57:22,720 --> 00:57:25,760
Speaker 1: every day. Casey and I had shared a suitcase, so

1178
00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:27,400
Speaker 1: when we got home, she said she would take it

1179
00:57:27,480 --> 00:57:30,200
Speaker 1: first and drop my stuff off to me the next day.

1180
00:57:31,160 --> 00:57:32,920
Speaker 1: I was fine with this because I just wanted to

1181
00:57:32,960 --> 00:57:35,120
Speaker 1: get out of there and not wait for the baggage

1182
00:57:35,160 --> 00:57:39,320
Speaker 1: claim BS. I was heartbroken. How could my friends treat

1183
00:57:39,360 --> 00:57:41,800
Speaker 1: me like this? She said she wasn't home that day.

1184
00:57:42,240 --> 00:57:44,400
Speaker 1: The day after, I texted her again and she made

1185
00:57:44,520 --> 00:57:47,680
Speaker 1: up some big excuse. I told her that I needed

1186
00:57:48,080 --> 00:57:50,440
Speaker 1: that I needed my stuff and I couldn't really keep

1187
00:57:50,480 --> 00:57:53,360
Speaker 1: going without it, all my makeup and hair products and

1188
00:57:53,400 --> 00:57:58,600
Speaker 1: supper clothing in the middle of summer, and she was outraged.

1189
00:57:58,800 --> 00:58:01,960
Speaker 1: She started arguing with me about that third night and

1190
00:58:02,080 --> 00:58:05,200
Speaker 1: tried to apologize. God she started arguing with me about

1191
00:58:05,200 --> 00:58:08,240
Speaker 1: that third night, and I tried again to apologize, and

1192
00:58:08,720 --> 00:58:10,360
Speaker 1: then tried to get her to see that how they

1193
00:58:10,480 --> 00:58:13,640
Speaker 1: treated me afterwards was a bit excessive and uncalled for.

1194
00:58:14,640 --> 00:58:17,360
Speaker 1: This was apparently her final straw, and she refused to

1195
00:58:17,400 --> 00:58:20,200
Speaker 1: text me anymore and instead texted my boyfriend to say

1196
00:58:20,280 --> 00:58:24,520
Speaker 1: she couldn't deal with me anymore. She said he could

1197
00:58:24,560 --> 00:58:27,040
Speaker 1: come pick my stuff up, but that I wasn't allowed

1198
00:58:27,080 --> 00:58:30,320
Speaker 1: to come to her door. My boyfriend hated them all

1199
00:58:30,480 --> 00:58:33,160
Speaker 1: more than me at this point. That night, I got

1200
00:58:33,240 --> 00:58:35,600
Speaker 1: a message from Page, who I saw on snap maps

1201
00:58:35,960 --> 00:58:39,440
Speaker 1: was now at Casey's house. After she said she she

1202
00:58:39,560 --> 00:58:42,080
Speaker 1: said I couldn't get my stuff that night along with

1203
00:58:42,200 --> 00:58:45,400
Speaker 1: everyone else but Calli and Cora. The text was three

1204
00:58:45,440 --> 00:58:48,040
Speaker 1: screenshots worth, a list of things I did wrong on

1205
00:58:48,160 --> 00:58:51,360
Speaker 1: the holiday, and the text underneath. Before you try to

1206
00:58:51,400 --> 00:58:53,560
Speaker 1: say any of it, it was our fault. This is

1207
00:58:53,600 --> 00:58:55,800
Speaker 1: what we had to put up with. It was full

1208
00:58:55,840 --> 00:58:58,720
Speaker 1: of either actual lies or just really hurtful things that

1209
00:58:58,840 --> 00:59:00,439
Speaker 1: I didn't think were anything wrong.

1210
00:59:00,680 --> 00:59:04,480
Speaker 2: These these are you know, I think they're in Europe. J. R. R.

1211
00:59:04,560 --> 00:59:08,360
Speaker 2: Tolkien wrote about orcs. I think these are the inspiration

1212
00:59:08,680 --> 00:59:11,840
Speaker 2: behind the orcs. The all these girls slithered out of

1213
00:59:11,920 --> 00:59:15,920
Speaker 2: a pool of ooze, because what are you talking about?

1214
00:59:17,080 --> 00:59:19,160
Speaker 2: She didn't even hang out with you for four days

1215
00:59:19,280 --> 00:59:21,360
Speaker 2: things you had to deal with the whole trip. You

1216
00:59:21,520 --> 00:59:26,200
Speaker 2: abandoned your friend when she needed help, and you could

1217
00:59:26,200 --> 00:59:29,919
Speaker 2: have just arranged for one person to take her back

1218
00:59:30,000 --> 00:59:33,240
Speaker 2: to the hotel to go to sleep and then come

1219
00:59:33,360 --> 00:59:33,840
Speaker 2: back out.

1220
00:59:34,000 --> 00:59:36,800
Speaker 1: It's it's not hard, you know what, You lose. These people,

1221
00:59:36,920 --> 00:59:40,200
Speaker 1: they're gonna experience this once in their life. It does happen.

1222
00:59:40,320 --> 00:59:42,720
Speaker 1: It does happen. It's a learning thing. Hopefully, I don't

1223
00:59:42,760 --> 00:59:44,880
Speaker 1: want anyone to experience this, but it does happen in your.

1224
00:59:44,760 --> 00:59:48,160
Speaker 2: Young it does. Its silver lining is that you're very young,

1225
00:59:48,320 --> 00:59:50,560
Speaker 2: and you know what, most of these people are your friends.

1226
00:59:50,680 --> 00:59:52,760
Speaker 2: You don't need to worry about. You will make new friends,

1227
00:59:52,800 --> 00:59:55,480
Speaker 2: You will meet new people yea, and people who actually

1228
00:59:56,400 --> 00:59:57,840
Speaker 2: give a crap aboue.

1229
00:59:58,400 --> 00:59:59,840
Speaker 1: But you know it isn't the worst experience of your

1230
00:59:59,880 --> 01:00:03,080
Speaker 1: life fishing up the store. So after spending four days

1231
01:00:03,120 --> 01:00:06,680
Speaker 1: on my holiday completely isolated, having panic attacks every day,

1232
01:00:07,200 --> 01:00:10,360
Speaker 1: and I got home and had my belongings held hostage

1233
01:00:10,600 --> 01:00:13,440
Speaker 1: and got sent a list of things I did it

1234
01:00:13,520 --> 01:00:16,560
Speaker 1: wrong as a consequence of calling out their behavior. I

1235
01:00:16,760 --> 01:00:20,640
Speaker 1: was absolutely devastated, and I can honestly say this is

1236
01:00:20,680 --> 01:00:24,080
Speaker 1: one of the most traumatizing experiences I've been through. This

1237
01:00:24,280 --> 01:00:26,560
Speaker 1: was the summer before starting UNI as well, and it

1238
01:00:26,720 --> 01:00:29,720
Speaker 1: really affected my ability to make friends and trust new people.

1239
01:00:30,520 --> 01:00:33,120
Speaker 1: These girls had been my best friends for seven years

1240
01:00:33,440 --> 01:00:35,560
Speaker 1: and they turned on me like that for making one

1241
01:00:35,640 --> 01:00:39,120
Speaker 1: mistake one night out of our seven day holiday. Anyway,

1242
01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:41,000
Speaker 1: if you stayed this long, am I.

1243
01:00:41,080 --> 01:00:42,800
Speaker 2: The A hole? What are you asking?

1244
01:00:42,960 --> 01:00:44,080
Speaker 3: You're got the A hole for anything.

1245
01:00:44,160 --> 01:00:44,680
Speaker 1: Girly Pop