1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,840 Speaker 1: My fiance left after I cheated, even though I had 2 00:00:02,880 --> 00:00:03,720 Speaker 1: a great excuse. 3 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:05,760 Speaker 2: Am, I've a whole Sam. 4 00:00:05,800 --> 00:00:08,840 Speaker 1: Do we think that uh op is the I mean, 5 00:00:08,880 --> 00:00:11,639 Speaker 1: the excuse would have to be like it was your 6 00:00:11,720 --> 00:00:14,520 Speaker 1: clone and I thought it was you, or it was 7 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:17,439 Speaker 1: like I had to do it, or the whole world 8 00:00:17,480 --> 00:00:20,319 Speaker 1: would explode, or it was like I did it for 9 00:00:20,440 --> 00:00:23,160 Speaker 1: my country. It was now sure espionage and I needed 10 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:26,480 Speaker 1: to steal the nuclear codes from the Russians because they 11 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:31,319 Speaker 1: can't set off another sabamba no, So we can't no 12 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:35,920 Speaker 1: more saw babs. Please please spare us. But can we 13 00:00:35,960 --> 00:00:37,040 Speaker 1: be Can we be real here? 14 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:40,400 Speaker 2: Sam? None of those scenarios happened. I don't know. 15 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:45,120 Speaker 1: We are so excited to hear what the excuse was. 16 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 1: If you have a good excuse, put it in the comments. 17 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:48,319 Speaker 1: I would love to hear. 18 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 2: Well. 19 00:00:48,880 --> 00:00:51,520 Speaker 1: You should get even more excited because this is a 20 00:00:51,520 --> 00:00:54,160 Speaker 1: our slash o Kop Show submission. 21 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:56,000 Speaker 2: Again. 22 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:57,480 Speaker 1: If you want to send in your stories, go to 23 00:00:57,520 --> 00:01:00,000 Speaker 1: our slash o Kop Show on reddit dot com or 24 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:02,840 Speaker 1: call four for zero five six five sixty seven. We 25 00:01:02,920 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: love reading your stories just like this. There's only one 26 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:06,600 Speaker 1: way to find out what happens to this story? 27 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:08,200 Speaker 2: Spill that day. 28 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 1: Sizo Beell Parker says, apologies in advance if this is awkward. 29 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:13,800 Speaker 2: I don't usually post. 30 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:18,399 Speaker 1: I'm honestly crushed, numb, et cetera, all the things, so 31 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 1: I hope writing this will lighten my heart a little bit. 32 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:24,200 Speaker 1: Me twenty eight female, and my fiance, thirty male, have 33 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: been together for the past six years. We met, became friends, 34 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 1: started dating, and we're moving in together by year two, 35 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:35,640 Speaker 1: engaged by year three. There's always been ups and downs 36 00:01:35,680 --> 00:01:38,440 Speaker 1: and lots of things in between, but for the purpose 37 00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:41,679 Speaker 1: of the dramatic ending, I will focus on the last 38 00:01:41,920 --> 00:01:44,960 Speaker 1: one to two ish years. My fiance and I bought 39 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:47,360 Speaker 1: a house two years ago that gave us more space, 40 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 1: less financial burden, and allowed us more space for our dog, 41 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:53,240 Speaker 1: and we ended up getting a second dog as well. 42 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:56,000 Speaker 1: That's a whole story in itself. I work full time 43 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 1: in a job that I've had the whole time, while 44 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:02,240 Speaker 1: my fiance has had a few different jobs during this 45 00:02:02,280 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: whole time. So I'm sensing a man's maybe can't hold 46 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:08,840 Speaker 1: down a job, to hold down a job, maybe can't 47 00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:10,480 Speaker 1: hold down his fiance. 48 00:02:11,040 --> 00:02:14,440 Speaker 2: Maybe he can't hold down his little little head from 49 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:18,280 Speaker 2: exploring every cave that comes his way, or maybe vice versa. 50 00:02:18,360 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 2: We don't know. I don't know. Yes, it was going 51 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 2: to be. 52 00:02:20,960 --> 00:02:23,640 Speaker 1: My fiance and Ice relationship has been good up until 53 00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: this point as far as I was concerned. But about 54 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:30,840 Speaker 1: one year ago, my fiance brought up concerns that have 55 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:35,160 Speaker 1: been plaguing our life for years. All right, what are 56 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:35,800 Speaker 1: these concerns? 57 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 2: The first time I've heard of the natural question? Right, 58 00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 2: what are these concerns? 59 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: These concerns I wasn't even aware were happening? Or was 60 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:47,800 Speaker 1: the concern or we're actually an issue? My fiance started 61 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:52,119 Speaker 1: acting more closed off and guarded, started asking random questions 62 00:02:52,280 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: that were hard to me to follow over the next 63 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:59,000 Speaker 1: few days, but wouldn't actually talk about what the f. 64 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:00,640 Speaker 2: Was actually going on. 65 00:03:01,639 --> 00:03:05,400 Speaker 1: I feel like we got to throw a little red flag, 66 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 1: red flag on the plane. 67 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:06,960 Speaker 2: Am I right? 68 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:08,800 Speaker 1: Or am I okay? I do think you're right? And 69 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:10,960 Speaker 1: it's something that we've said on the show before. Is 70 00:03:11,160 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 1: on often often what happens is when someone cheats, they 71 00:03:15,560 --> 00:03:18,400 Speaker 1: kind of like throw the guilt onto the other person 72 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 1: and then accuse them of cheating. 73 00:03:20,840 --> 00:03:23,160 Speaker 2: This is an interesting one which also happens. 74 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 1: I feel like that's the most usual occurrences, they accuse 75 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 1: the other person of cheating, which is just so backwards 76 00:03:28,720 --> 00:03:31,240 Speaker 1: and hilarious, But this one, it seems like they're just 77 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 1: going into their like emo dark brooding mode and being like, 78 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:38,640 Speaker 1: I can't even possibly possibly begin to speak about the horrors, 79 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 1: the horrors of what's happened in the last few years. 80 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:44,520 Speaker 1: Hor Well, I want to hear about these horrors. You know, 81 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:46,680 Speaker 1: we haven't gotten them. Yeah, I want to be in 82 00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 1: this horror house, but we can only pray that while 83 00:03:49,840 --> 00:03:51,920 Speaker 1: I guess open the door to that house with the 84 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:55,600 Speaker 1: door to the horror house. Well, okay, so, for example, 85 00:03:56,160 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 1: do you remember friend and us standing in the house 86 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 1: and some other random dude busted in and I got punched. 87 00:04:03,880 --> 00:04:06,440 Speaker 1: You and our friend were talking about it when I 88 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:07,520 Speaker 1: came to and he. 89 00:04:07,560 --> 00:04:12,880 Speaker 2: Was gone, wait wait, wait, oh, he's husband got knocked. 90 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:18,239 Speaker 1: Out a situation where someone just busted in, molly lopped 91 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:20,600 Speaker 1: him and then snaddled and then he woke up and. 92 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:24,000 Speaker 2: Was like, what just happened? Yeah? Why did that happen. 93 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 1: It's been a few years, so I don't exactly remember 94 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 1: how each question was worded or what exactly was asked, 95 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:34,520 Speaker 1: but this one sticks in my head because it was 96 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:40,000 Speaker 1: brought up several times since then. Conversation finally happened when 97 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 1: I kind of blew up and told him he needed 98 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:45,320 Speaker 1: to stop and explain to me what the hell he's 99 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:48,280 Speaker 1: talking about, because you're being crazy and I know it, 100 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:50,919 Speaker 1: and I have no idea where this is going, which 101 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:54,600 Speaker 1: I feel like is exactly how right now. I am confused. 102 00:04:55,200 --> 00:04:58,640 Speaker 1: I am very very confused. I need more contact. 103 00:04:58,760 --> 00:04:59,039 Speaker 2: Please. 104 00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:02,760 Speaker 1: My My fiance got defensive and started prompting me with 105 00:05:03,080 --> 00:05:06,520 Speaker 1: more questions and hand gestures like he was waiting for 106 00:05:06,600 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 1: me to continue. 107 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:11,400 Speaker 2: My fiance doesn't have that You need to tell us 108 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:12,240 Speaker 2: what's going on. 109 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:15,240 Speaker 1: Bro, Like, talk to me about it, about what it 110 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:20,280 Speaker 1: kits EDG. So, fiance, Oh, you don't know what I'm 111 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:23,440 Speaker 1: talking about? Eyebrows go up, yo. 112 00:05:23,520 --> 00:05:25,560 Speaker 2: Ob ain't a Biden reader, dude. 113 00:05:25,440 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 1: Because eyebrows go up with this WTF face like I'm 114 00:05:28,839 --> 00:05:29,719 Speaker 1: losing it me. 115 00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:31,960 Speaker 2: No, fiance, I. 116 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:35,520 Speaker 1: Legit have no idea what you're talking about, So why 117 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:36,839 Speaker 1: don't you just tell me? 118 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:37,520 Speaker 2: Tell us? 119 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:40,400 Speaker 1: I'm getting kind of confused and frustrated at this point 120 00:05:40,560 --> 00:05:43,520 Speaker 1: because this is not funny anymore and it's getting weird. 121 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:47,720 Speaker 1: My fiance You're seriously going to pretend like you have 122 00:05:47,839 --> 00:05:50,520 Speaker 1: no idea what I'm talking about. 123 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:52,520 Speaker 2: Dude. 124 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:55,839 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm on a fever dream game show 125 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:59,359 Speaker 1: or the game show host is like, h can you 126 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:06,000 Speaker 1: tell me, uh what is the capital of Philadelphia? And 127 00:06:06,040 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 1: then they're like like do do And he's like, seriously, 128 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:13,280 Speaker 1: no one knows, no one, come on, someone tell us. No. 129 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 1: He's he's asking a question like like who is the 130 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:18,600 Speaker 1: president of a planet Zyborg? And everyone's like, what is this? 131 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:24,039 Speaker 1: Seriously seriously, oh my god, you don't have anything to say, 132 00:06:24,240 --> 00:06:29,159 Speaker 1: he says, basically, he's baiting her. He's like, you know 133 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:30,800 Speaker 1: what I think he's trying to do. I think he's fishing. 134 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 1: Wait wait wait wait wait wait what is he fishing 135 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:38,640 Speaker 1: forgan seemy? 136 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:39,039 Speaker 2: What? What? 137 00:06:39,040 --> 00:06:41,719 Speaker 1: What deep sea creatures could he possibly be casting a 138 00:06:41,720 --> 00:06:45,680 Speaker 1: line for? Why my conspiracy theory here is that he 139 00:06:45,760 --> 00:06:49,200 Speaker 1: has been cheating and he's fishing for evidence of her cheating. 140 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:52,480 Speaker 1: Oh wow, dude, that was so crazy. Just blew your 141 00:06:52,520 --> 00:06:55,040 Speaker 1: hat right off your head, like kind of insane. I 142 00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:59,360 Speaker 1: think that is a yeah, yeah, I'm tracking, I'm tracking. 143 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:01,600 Speaker 1: I think so that is basically he's like he doesn't 144 00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:04,279 Speaker 1: know that she's cheating, but he is like, okay, like 145 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:06,520 Speaker 1: I already cheated it. Let's see if she's cheating too, right, 146 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: And it's like, you don't know what I'm talking about. 147 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 1: It's the incident, a cheating incident. Yeah, yeah, right, what 148 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 1: am I confessing to? 149 00:07:14,480 --> 00:07:14,760 Speaker 2: Wow? 150 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 1: Well that's you know what, that's that's well, let's see 151 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:18,600 Speaker 1: that's true. 152 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 2: I'm about to go out of conspiracy mode and back 153 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:22,000 Speaker 2: into the real world. 154 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:25,120 Speaker 1: He's basically shocked and mad and waving his hand with 155 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:28,000 Speaker 1: this go on motion, urging me to spill my guts 156 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:31,680 Speaker 1: when I still have no clue. Then my fiance finally 157 00:07:31,720 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 1: got to the point and yells, I already know you've 158 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:40,560 Speaker 1: been sleeping with my boss what f's boss from two 159 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:43,960 Speaker 1: years ago that we met like four times, So you 160 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:46,320 Speaker 1: can just cut the crap because I know. 161 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:50,080 Speaker 2: Evidence. 162 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 1: I think I emotionally blocked out a lot of pain 163 00:07:55,040 --> 00:08:00,680 Speaker 1: over the next two weeks because this obviously started more conversations, crying, 164 00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:05,640 Speaker 1: more fights, more accusations, more fights, more crying. I tried 165 00:08:05,760 --> 00:08:09,120 Speaker 1: talking to him over and over, day after day for 166 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:13,720 Speaker 1: hours over the next two weeks. SOPI didn't do anything 167 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:19,440 Speaker 1: so far, this looks like no. Each time I addressed 168 00:08:19,440 --> 00:08:22,760 Speaker 1: one thing, he would bring up another. He accused me 169 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:27,080 Speaker 1: of guy number one. Okay, so we talked, fought, cried, 170 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 1: and made up. Two days later he threw another one 171 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 1: at me, another guy, Rinse and repeat. I've been dragged 172 00:08:35,600 --> 00:08:38,680 Speaker 1: through seven circles of hell at this point, and I've 173 00:08:38,679 --> 00:08:43,040 Speaker 1: discovered a new superpower. I can actually sleep with men 174 00:08:43,760 --> 00:08:49,840 Speaker 1: without being the same room as them. Now, so case 175 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:54,000 Speaker 1: it wasn't crystically or Obie is not doing anything doing anything, 176 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:56,959 Speaker 1: I feel like at a certain point, you just gotta 177 00:08:57,120 --> 00:08:58,960 Speaker 1: have to be you just to say, like, I'm fed 178 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:02,360 Speaker 1: up with you accusing me true truly, I mean, like 179 00:09:02,400 --> 00:09:04,520 Speaker 1: OPI doesn't deserve this, Honestly, I feel like the line 180 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:07,120 Speaker 1: has been crossed at this point. I even called up 181 00:09:07,120 --> 00:09:10,200 Speaker 1: my ex boyfriend as well as my male best friend 182 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:13,679 Speaker 1: who's known me since junior high, and even my ex 183 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:16,400 Speaker 1: came to bat for me and vouched for my character 184 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:17,840 Speaker 1: and mental stability. 185 00:09:18,040 --> 00:09:20,439 Speaker 2: Lol. Yeah, if your ex is vouching for your character 186 00:09:20,520 --> 00:09:23,080 Speaker 2: and mental stability, then you ended up pretty good terms 187 00:09:23,320 --> 00:09:26,520 Speaker 2: right right, Like like Opie seemen like pretty even That 188 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 2: shows character. 189 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 1: The fact that you could even do that, that's a 190 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:31,680 Speaker 1: great point is that you're hooking up with your ex, 191 00:09:33,080 --> 00:09:34,160 Speaker 1: which I don't think it's happening. 192 00:09:34,360 --> 00:09:37,080 Speaker 2: I don't think it's the farmer. 193 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:41,800 Speaker 1: Now my best friend was the goat. My fiance wanted 194 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:44,320 Speaker 1: me to delete and block my best friend, but before 195 00:09:44,360 --> 00:09:46,800 Speaker 1: he tried to get me to do that, he decided 196 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 1: to message my best friend. 197 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:52,200 Speaker 2: He basically did a hey, this is woman, and I 198 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:53,079 Speaker 2: don't like you. 199 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:59,360 Speaker 1: What an insecure butthole op op. I feel like we're 200 00:09:59,400 --> 00:10:01,840 Speaker 1: just getting one un red flag after another. 201 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:03,000 Speaker 2: I think like that. 202 00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 1: Honestly, we're gonna break our wrists. We're waving these things 203 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:08,880 Speaker 1: all day. I feel like this is a red We 204 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:15,640 Speaker 1: need a red flag forest, like just red flag. Yes, 205 00:10:16,760 --> 00:10:22,120 Speaker 1: so every time our heads moved it because the red 206 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:26,200 Speaker 1: flags are ever present. I'm keeping this here until I 207 00:10:26,240 --> 00:10:28,760 Speaker 1: hear something that is going to be done about this. 208 00:10:28,840 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 2: Is there some sort of red flag headman or some 209 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 2: sort of crazy red flag headbands. 210 00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:38,840 Speaker 1: I don't know, dude, something there. He goes on to say, 211 00:10:38,920 --> 00:10:42,600 Speaker 1: so don't talk to her, may man. My best friend 212 00:10:42,640 --> 00:10:46,439 Speaker 1: proceeds to tell him that it's all good man demand. 213 00:10:46,679 --> 00:10:49,040 Speaker 1: He can respect that and he won't get in the way. 214 00:10:49,480 --> 00:10:52,200 Speaker 1: But I am one of the best friends and most 215 00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:55,559 Speaker 1: caring people that he's ever known, and he has absolutely 216 00:10:55,600 --> 00:10:58,560 Speaker 1: nothing to worry about. If he feels that way, he's 217 00:10:58,600 --> 00:11:04,480 Speaker 1: basically a clown lull. I've felt some clown behavior. Yeah, 218 00:11:04,559 --> 00:11:08,680 Speaker 1: this may for sure. I've given him any and all evidence. 219 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:11,880 Speaker 2: I have. Look at my phone, read my messages. There's 220 00:11:12,080 --> 00:11:12,760 Speaker 2: nothing there. 221 00:11:13,280 --> 00:11:17,120 Speaker 1: Even my phone maps driving history prove that I don't 222 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:20,360 Speaker 1: own a freaking teleporter that has allowed me to pay 223 00:11:20,480 --> 00:11:24,160 Speaker 1: my way across all these people while working full time. 224 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:29,679 Speaker 1: I have to pause real quick here, everyone listening right now. 225 00:11:30,400 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 1: Do you kind of just pull a like like a 226 00:11:34,440 --> 00:11:36,520 Speaker 1: red alert breakup where you're like, I need to just 227 00:11:36,640 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 1: get my stuff out and just you know, But they 228 00:11:39,040 --> 00:11:41,520 Speaker 1: have a house. Keep in mind, they have house together, 229 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:43,959 Speaker 1: finances tied up, all of these things, so there's a 230 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:45,720 Speaker 1: lot of consider Do you think. 231 00:11:45,520 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 2: That's the ring? 232 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 1: There's been so many red flags. Yeah, I feel like 233 00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:51,960 Speaker 1: you have to address where this is coming from. But 234 00:11:52,080 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 1: like it's been like a month of this so far, 235 00:11:54,480 --> 00:11:57,920 Speaker 1: and they've been together. They've been together for three years 236 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:00,640 Speaker 1: at this point, three years, and they're engaged, not married, 237 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:03,720 Speaker 1: but they're engaged, own a home together. Okay, they own 238 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:06,319 Speaker 1: I mean I feel like you get a little bit 239 00:12:06,400 --> 00:12:10,960 Speaker 1: more leeway in terms of like being freaking bonkers. Yeah, 240 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:14,240 Speaker 1: now that you have so much tied together. But it 241 00:12:14,320 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 1: feels like it's trending towards a breakup, like or at 242 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:21,440 Speaker 1: least a break because like this is kind of I 243 00:12:21,480 --> 00:12:23,600 Speaker 1: feel like maybe you need some distance from each other 244 00:12:23,640 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 1: to resolve whatever's going on here. That's what I was 245 00:12:26,440 --> 00:12:28,280 Speaker 1: thinking and why I wanted to ask the question. And 246 00:12:28,360 --> 00:12:30,960 Speaker 1: maybe maybe you don't even have to label it as 247 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:33,760 Speaker 1: a break, which might make him go even crazier. You 248 00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:36,959 Speaker 1: could even say, like we need to be like living 249 00:12:37,120 --> 00:12:40,040 Speaker 1: separately right now, so I can like, like, you're just 250 00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:43,120 Speaker 1: too much, like I cannot handle this. If we want 251 00:12:43,120 --> 00:12:46,560 Speaker 1: to even have the slimmest, slightest of chances to work 252 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:48,920 Speaker 1: on this, I need to hopefully if if has some 253 00:12:49,000 --> 00:12:50,640 Speaker 1: parents or something. I don't know that I feel like 254 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:55,480 Speaker 1: it intentionally sabotaging the marriage. Yes, that's what it feels 255 00:12:55,520 --> 00:12:57,840 Speaker 1: like to me. Yes, because it's all smoking mirrors, there's 256 00:12:57,840 --> 00:13:00,400 Speaker 1: no cheating. I feel like he doesn't have he's not 257 00:13:00,559 --> 00:13:04,640 Speaker 1: like I feel like he is not strong enough to 258 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:07,840 Speaker 1: end the relationship himself, and so he's trying to look 259 00:13:07,880 --> 00:13:11,600 Speaker 1: for a reason to end the relationship, like that has 260 00:13:11,720 --> 00:13:14,959 Speaker 1: originated from her. Yeah, so he's not the bad guy. 261 00:13:15,080 --> 00:13:17,480 Speaker 1: He's not bad guy, the villain. Yeah, I'm just like, 262 00:13:17,679 --> 00:13:21,520 Speaker 1: it's just like, is it's it's so wild and so 263 00:13:21,600 --> 00:13:23,079 Speaker 1: like I feel like he's not going to stop. 264 00:13:23,120 --> 00:13:25,000 Speaker 2: So it's like, is it worth continuing to engage? 265 00:13:25,240 --> 00:13:25,440 Speaker 1: Yeah? 266 00:13:25,559 --> 00:13:29,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, really a tough one. Let's let's find out. I 267 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:31,200 Speaker 2: don't know how much more I would take. 268 00:13:31,520 --> 00:13:34,640 Speaker 1: So I'm caring for my horde of pets and dealing 269 00:13:34,720 --> 00:13:37,160 Speaker 1: with my darling fiance at the same time. 270 00:13:37,760 --> 00:13:41,360 Speaker 2: So he wanted to leave. Wait, he wants to the 271 00:13:41,400 --> 00:13:42,480 Speaker 2: fiance wants to leave. 272 00:13:42,880 --> 00:13:45,600 Speaker 1: He was over everything and all of these things that 273 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:48,040 Speaker 1: I've done that I don't remember that have caused so 274 00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:51,199 Speaker 1: much animosity and feelings of disrespect between us. 275 00:13:52,000 --> 00:13:54,000 Speaker 2: So he's like, I've had enough. 276 00:13:54,240 --> 00:13:56,679 Speaker 1: I think I think it's the the the full circle, 277 00:13:56,760 --> 00:14:00,440 Speaker 1: the final moment of your prophecy of like he was 278 00:14:00,640 --> 00:14:03,240 Speaker 1: using an excuse and now he's pulling the final trigger. Yea. 279 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:05,840 Speaker 2: Red flags, red flags everywhere. 280 00:14:06,160 --> 00:14:10,800 Speaker 1: I have screamed, cried, begged him. I loved this man 281 00:14:10,920 --> 00:14:14,839 Speaker 1: with my entire body. Feeling rejected and abandoned by him, 282 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:17,800 Speaker 1: felt like I was dying. I've been through so much 283 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:20,400 Speaker 1: with this person who I thought was my soulmate, and 284 00:14:20,440 --> 00:14:23,160 Speaker 1: if he doesn't want me, Oh, what's wrong with me? 285 00:14:23,360 --> 00:14:26,560 Speaker 2: No, no, Opie, it's nothing to do with you. Everything 286 00:14:26,600 --> 00:14:27,520 Speaker 2: is right with you. 287 00:14:27,280 --> 00:14:30,440 Speaker 1: Your your character has shown flawlessly and brilliantly through this 288 00:14:30,480 --> 00:14:34,080 Speaker 1: whole story. Yeah, he is making out one hundred percent. 289 00:14:34,520 --> 00:14:37,840 Speaker 1: I begged him for days to give me a second chance. 290 00:14:38,640 --> 00:14:41,440 Speaker 1: If there's some sort of explanation for a blank memory 291 00:14:41,520 --> 00:14:44,520 Speaker 1: or something freaky going on, I'm willing to figure it out. 292 00:14:45,040 --> 00:14:47,920 Speaker 1: I'll get hypnotized so we can talk to my subconscious. 293 00:14:47,960 --> 00:14:50,400 Speaker 1: I'll do a polygraph test. 294 00:14:51,240 --> 00:14:55,040 Speaker 2: Hope he's reatten for anything, and like. 295 00:14:54,600 --> 00:14:57,120 Speaker 1: Like, look at all the effort that she's willing to 296 00:14:57,160 --> 00:14:59,320 Speaker 1: go through when she's done now. 297 00:15:00,120 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 2: Really nothing wrong. We can do anything to make this work. 298 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:06,120 Speaker 2: Don't give up on me, please. 299 00:15:06,680 --> 00:15:09,960 Speaker 1: I've started watching videos and reading content on becoming an 300 00:15:10,040 --> 00:15:13,840 Speaker 1: active listener. How to address conflict, how to communicate with 301 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:18,200 Speaker 1: your partner, validate their feelings thoughts, et cetera without leading 302 00:15:18,240 --> 00:15:21,400 Speaker 1: with the defensive. How to change the language we use 303 00:15:21,480 --> 00:15:25,080 Speaker 1: when we discuss these conflicts, et cetera, et cetera. I 304 00:15:25,120 --> 00:15:28,280 Speaker 1: started validating him more. I wanted him to see that 305 00:15:28,440 --> 00:15:32,120 Speaker 1: I was trying, so I'd say things like, whatever you're 306 00:15:32,160 --> 00:15:34,800 Speaker 1: feeling today is okay, even if you don't want to 307 00:15:34,840 --> 00:15:36,560 Speaker 1: talk to me about it, I just want you to 308 00:15:36,640 --> 00:15:39,840 Speaker 1: know she's doing their foulest, she's doing the most, so much, 309 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:42,240 Speaker 1: and honestly like it's it's I feel like he doesn't 310 00:15:42,240 --> 00:15:44,960 Speaker 1: even deserve it. He doesn't deserve it because he's I 311 00:15:45,000 --> 00:15:47,400 Speaker 1: feel like he's gonna use that as fuel or just 312 00:15:47,440 --> 00:15:49,560 Speaker 1: like make her feel even worse. I would say, you 313 00:15:49,600 --> 00:15:52,000 Speaker 1: are important to me, and I love you. I would 314 00:15:52,040 --> 00:15:54,360 Speaker 1: hug my fiance and I'm here for you if you 315 00:15:54,480 --> 00:15:58,960 Speaker 1: need anything. You are enough, You're important. I'm not perfect either, 316 00:15:59,080 --> 00:16:02,880 Speaker 1: and we both have trauma, but I honestly feel like 317 00:16:03,080 --> 00:16:09,360 Speaker 1: I tried. Guys, Then I see that she is TRYINGPI 318 00:16:09,480 --> 00:16:11,520 Speaker 1: is doing the absolute question. I feel like we're about 319 00:16:11,520 --> 00:16:16,040 Speaker 1: to get a hammer dropped on us. Then it happened 320 00:16:16,240 --> 00:16:21,440 Speaker 1: again today. It's been six ish months since this spiral started, 321 00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:25,640 Speaker 1: and after all the trying, crying and conversations that didn't 322 00:16:25,680 --> 00:16:29,280 Speaker 1: go anywhere, I think I'm finally at a point where 323 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:32,440 Speaker 1: I know I deserve better. 324 00:16:32,680 --> 00:16:38,280 Speaker 2: Yes, that is what we need to hear. 325 00:16:38,480 --> 00:16:41,400 Speaker 1: My fiance is still one hundred percent believes that I 326 00:16:41,480 --> 00:16:45,080 Speaker 1: was unfaithful and nothing I say can change that in 327 00:16:45,200 --> 00:16:47,960 Speaker 1: his mind. So when he said he was done and 328 00:16:48,080 --> 00:16:50,560 Speaker 1: wanted to go stay somewhere else and that this time 329 00:16:50,600 --> 00:16:53,600 Speaker 1: it's over, I didn't argue with him that time. 330 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:53,920 Speaker 2: Good. 331 00:16:54,680 --> 00:16:58,080 Speaker 1: I've tried the begging and screaming, crying and pleading for 332 00:16:58,160 --> 00:17:01,840 Speaker 1: him to understand and believe me, and nothing changed. I'm 333 00:17:01,840 --> 00:17:04,639 Speaker 1: not going to fight with him over this anymore because 334 00:17:04,720 --> 00:17:07,680 Speaker 1: I can't force him to work through things that he 335 00:17:07,760 --> 00:17:11,359 Speaker 1: can't even talk about to me without shutting down. That 336 00:17:11,520 --> 00:17:15,960 Speaker 1: is absolute facts, absolute facts. I don't know what the 337 00:17:16,040 --> 00:17:19,000 Speaker 1: heck is gonna happen. I don't think I can afford 338 00:17:19,040 --> 00:17:21,760 Speaker 1: my house alone. But if this is what it takes 339 00:17:21,760 --> 00:17:24,520 Speaker 1: for me to move forward with everything, then I'll just 340 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:29,280 Speaker 1: figure out everything, one single hour at a time until 341 00:17:29,359 --> 00:17:32,280 Speaker 1: I can find a path forward. I am not perfect, 342 00:17:32,600 --> 00:17:35,920 Speaker 1: but honestly, I believe that someone else exists that will 343 00:17:35,960 --> 00:17:39,640 Speaker 1: love me and care for me in the way that 344 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:43,960 Speaker 1: I deserve, which is straight facts. 345 00:17:44,000 --> 00:17:46,720 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, Like yeah, wow, what. 346 00:17:47,080 --> 00:17:51,360 Speaker 1: Creat there is something that he's hiding, something that he's 347 00:17:51,400 --> 00:17:53,960 Speaker 1: hiding for shore and I hope he tried to do 348 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:56,879 Speaker 1: everything she could to like meet this guy where he 349 00:17:57,000 --> 00:17:59,119 Speaker 1: was at, and he just kept throwing in her face 350 00:17:59,280 --> 00:18:02,520 Speaker 1: absolutely like this is this is a prime example of 351 00:18:02,600 --> 00:18:06,200 Speaker 1: like and like Opie said, six months like even earlier, 352 00:18:06,359 --> 00:18:07,960 Speaker 1: you know, but sometimes the. 353 00:18:07,960 --> 00:18:11,919 Speaker 2: Roads for these yeah, the roads into classes to to fade. 354 00:18:12,320 --> 00:18:13,080 Speaker 2: It's a tough thing. 355 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:16,760 Speaker 1: So I think OPI has kind of I think in 356 00:18:16,800 --> 00:18:18,600 Speaker 1: a way posed a question to us at the end 357 00:18:18,640 --> 00:18:20,760 Speaker 1: that I would love to hear from you all. I 358 00:18:20,800 --> 00:18:25,119 Speaker 1: would love to hear u from Sam. How does she 359 00:18:25,520 --> 00:18:26,520 Speaker 1: move forward from here? 360 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:30,080 Speaker 2: Maybe go to a bagel shop and give your number 361 00:18:30,080 --> 00:18:32,400 Speaker 2: to the bagel boy. Interesting, thank god. 362 00:18:32,560 --> 00:18:34,520 Speaker 1: I mean I think just you know, you put yourself 363 00:18:34,520 --> 00:18:37,200 Speaker 1: out there or take time to heal if you need it. 364 00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:39,640 Speaker 1: I think maybe it's probably take time to heal first 365 00:18:39,640 --> 00:18:41,840 Speaker 1: and then you can put yourself out there. But definitely 366 00:18:41,840 --> 00:18:44,359 Speaker 1: go like, definitely don't go back to this guy. Yeah, 367 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:47,679 Speaker 1: for sure, get some get some therapy, other things to 368 00:18:47,800 --> 00:18:50,320 Speaker 1: like invest in yourself, some self love, all that stuff. 369 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:52,640 Speaker 1: I wonder about the house and there's probably some people. 370 00:18:53,240 --> 00:18:56,040 Speaker 2: Second is a little rough. I'm wondering I have. 371 00:18:56,240 --> 00:18:58,560 Speaker 1: This is all feelings, you know, facts, I wonder if 372 00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:02,280 Speaker 1: you can just simply sell your equity in the house, 373 00:19:03,160 --> 00:19:04,960 Speaker 1: if that is possible. I don't know if you need 374 00:19:04,960 --> 00:19:07,919 Speaker 1: the consent of the other person. You may I actually 375 00:19:07,920 --> 00:19:09,760 Speaker 1: I would love to know in the comments, what if 376 00:19:09,800 --> 00:19:14,920 Speaker 1: you guys know. Yeah, I'm also curious when you would 377 00:19:14,920 --> 00:19:19,840 Speaker 1: have left, Like how long after this spiral started happening 378 00:19:19,880 --> 00:19:23,320 Speaker 1: would you have left? I feel like after three months. 379 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:27,200 Speaker 1: I feel like that's when either something like something has 380 00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:29,879 Speaker 1: to change at that point. Three months living together like 381 00:19:29,960 --> 00:19:32,760 Speaker 1: this is like every day I couldn't have met. 382 00:19:32,840 --> 00:19:34,080 Speaker 2: Three months is a long time. 383 00:19:34,119 --> 00:19:37,080 Speaker 1: It's a long time, and I feel like six months, yeah, 384 00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:39,680 Speaker 1: I think I would say three, like two or three honestly. 385 00:19:39,840 --> 00:19:41,840 Speaker 1: And you kind of have to like lay down the 386 00:19:41,880 --> 00:19:44,240 Speaker 1: line at some point, like probably pretty early on after 387 00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:47,320 Speaker 1: like a month. It's like I'm laying down a line here. 388 00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:51,600 Speaker 1: You need to like communicate and and tell me exactly 389 00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:54,960 Speaker 1: what this is, because this is like lies. I don't 390 00:19:54,960 --> 00:19:58,760 Speaker 1: know what's going on like this it's this or the 391 00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:03,280 Speaker 1: relationship is over. You have to tell me, like exactly, 392 00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:05,320 Speaker 1: But we would love to know what you think. Put 393 00:20:05,320 --> 00:20:08,600 Speaker 1: your hands's blow. At what point would you have left? 394 00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:11,919 Speaker 1: We got to get some info from the Okay fam 395 00:20:12,080 --> 00:20:15,840 Speaker 1: the Okay Biscuits that we did unity. My boyfriend saw 396 00:20:15,880 --> 00:20:18,280 Speaker 1: me naked with my friends and thought it was a fivesome. 397 00:20:18,560 --> 00:20:21,240 Speaker 2: But I can explain, how do you explain away that, 398 00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:23,080 Speaker 2: man like that? I don't, I don't know. 399 00:20:23,119 --> 00:20:26,080 Speaker 1: It sounds like you're trying to get out of some 400 00:20:26,520 --> 00:20:31,000 Speaker 1: hot and steamy action. Oh yeah, that's super fishy, like 401 00:20:31,200 --> 00:20:34,199 Speaker 1: super fishy, so A says, I can explain. I'm just like, 402 00:20:34,720 --> 00:20:37,480 Speaker 1: how help me? And you show me the receipts. This 403 00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:40,240 Speaker 1: up happened last week. My boyfriend and I have only 404 00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:42,280 Speaker 1: been dating for a little over a month. Man, you 405 00:20:42,400 --> 00:20:47,240 Speaker 1: throw number one, bro, this is a massive wrench thrown 406 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:48,320 Speaker 1: in this relationship. 407 00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:49,160 Speaker 2: Geez, little wee. 408 00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:51,760 Speaker 1: I live in Germany and I've been a newdicst all 409 00:20:51,800 --> 00:20:55,399 Speaker 1: my life, along with my family and a few close friends. Kay. 410 00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:58,840 Speaker 2: So now we're European. What is it man? 411 00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:02,560 Speaker 1: Europeans just just love doing interesting things. I will say, 412 00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:04,880 Speaker 1: the left side of the road. That's a sin. I'm 413 00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:08,560 Speaker 1: not I will I will go to the grave on 414 00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:11,879 Speaker 1: that one. My boyfriend did not know this, and I 415 00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:14,359 Speaker 1: was planning on sinning him down and talking to him 416 00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:19,040 Speaker 1: about it, but he found out in the worst way possible. 417 00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:22,320 Speaker 1: Oh no, I can imagine. There's many many bad ways 418 00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:25,560 Speaker 1: that can Yeah, what if like the boyfriend's like super 419 00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:30,520 Speaker 1: conservative order. 420 00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:30,600 Speaker 2: He's like he's a nudist. He's like, oh my god, 421 00:21:30,800 --> 00:21:32,320 Speaker 2: no way. 422 00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:36,199 Speaker 1: Very very quick aside to ask someone to prom I 423 00:21:36,280 --> 00:21:40,439 Speaker 1: made my own velcrow pants and created golden booty shorts 424 00:21:40,480 --> 00:21:44,080 Speaker 1: that said prom and I talked to ask my prom date. 425 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:45,320 Speaker 2: It did work. 426 00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:49,760 Speaker 1: Yes, let we go see it works. So last week 427 00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:51,879 Speaker 1: was the start of my spring break. Some friends came 428 00:21:51,920 --> 00:21:54,240 Speaker 1: over to my place and we went swimming and tanned. 429 00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:57,200 Speaker 1: They are the same friends who are also nudists, two 430 00:21:57,200 --> 00:22:01,080 Speaker 1: guys and two girls. BLUs myself newest together. Those who 431 00:22:01,080 --> 00:22:03,560 Speaker 1: are nude together stay together, That's what they say. My 432 00:22:03,640 --> 00:22:06,159 Speaker 1: boyfriend had class early that afternoon, so he could not 433 00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,760 Speaker 1: join us. Truth be told, I didn't want to invite 434 00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:11,119 Speaker 1: him just yet either, because I wanted to try to 435 00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:14,040 Speaker 1: better explain my lifestyle to him before throwing him right 436 00:22:14,040 --> 00:22:14,720 Speaker 1: in the middle of it. 437 00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:17,120 Speaker 2: Which probably understandable. Pretty good. 438 00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:19,680 Speaker 1: That's a great idea, you know, you want to be like, hey, 439 00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:24,320 Speaker 1: this is my lifestyle and uh, nugget naked. After a 440 00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:26,639 Speaker 1: few hours, we are all tired, so we decided to 441 00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:29,680 Speaker 1: head inside and cool off, eat some food, and just relax. 442 00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:32,160 Speaker 1: Being nude is almost second nature to us. We didn't 443 00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:34,400 Speaker 1: really think twice about it. It's the same feeling as 444 00:22:34,480 --> 00:22:37,240 Speaker 1: hanging out with their friends fully closed. Wait, Sam, didn't 445 00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:39,800 Speaker 1: you also go to a nudist community. Yes, I did. 446 00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:44,120 Speaker 1: I did an interview for the show Finding Founders. It's 447 00:22:44,160 --> 00:22:47,199 Speaker 1: not as weird as you might think. Our default is nudity. 448 00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:49,240 Speaker 2: We were made that way. Maybe we were made that way. 449 00:22:49,280 --> 00:22:51,840 Speaker 2: That's my mama made me. I'm gonna be proud strutting 450 00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:53,040 Speaker 2: it around. Oh yeah yeah. 451 00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:54,720 Speaker 1: If you want to learn more about this crazy story, 452 00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:57,680 Speaker 1: there's a link in the bio for the Finding Founder's podcast, 453 00:22:57,720 --> 00:23:01,560 Speaker 1: and specifically the nudist episode where I interview them nude. 454 00:23:01,560 --> 00:23:04,600 Speaker 2: Well, I'm nude? Is this a video podcast? 455 00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:07,480 Speaker 1: Back to the nudist in our story, Yes, we would 456 00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:10,280 Speaker 1: never take off our clothes in public places, but in 457 00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:11,440 Speaker 1: the privacy. 458 00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:13,400 Speaker 2: Of my own home and the pool, it was appropriate. 459 00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:15,959 Speaker 1: So they were all ound and around on the couch 460 00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:19,000 Speaker 1: but naked, and I completely lost track of time, as 461 00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:19,480 Speaker 1: one does. 462 00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:20,840 Speaker 2: It was three PM and. 463 00:23:20,840 --> 00:23:24,000 Speaker 1: My boyfriend was about to arrive at my house at 464 00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:28,360 Speaker 1: any minute you set a timer, man, Yes, seriously. 465 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:30,200 Speaker 2: I phone a lots. I could do it here. 466 00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:32,240 Speaker 1: We don't live together, but he was going to pick 467 00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:34,119 Speaker 1: me up so we could run a few errands together. 468 00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:36,600 Speaker 1: After his class got out, I quickly explained to my 469 00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:39,200 Speaker 1: friends what the situation was, and I didn't want him 470 00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:41,520 Speaker 1: to find out by walking in on that site. Maybe 471 00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:44,720 Speaker 1: they're all gonna be like, no, we will only be ourselves. 472 00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:46,479 Speaker 1: And then at that moment he just like walks in 473 00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:47,480 Speaker 1: and they're. 474 00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:50,480 Speaker 2: Like, we will not change for you. You can't clothe me. 475 00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:52,679 Speaker 2: That's right, I want to be free. 476 00:23:52,720 --> 00:23:54,920 Speaker 1: We all hurried to find our clothes so we could 477 00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:56,840 Speaker 1: at least be dressed when he walked in. But the 478 00:23:56,920 --> 00:24:00,000 Speaker 1: thing was, none of us could find any of our clothes. 479 00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:02,359 Speaker 2: Where are you just like tossing it to the wind. 480 00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:04,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, how does everyone lose their clothes like that? 481 00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:07,320 Speaker 1: That's a bit suspicious. They were all left out near 482 00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:10,400 Speaker 1: the pool on the patio. Now, just imagine two guys 483 00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:14,120 Speaker 1: and three girls running butt naked around the living room 484 00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:17,840 Speaker 1: onto the outside patio, just skurrying for their clothes. I'm magic, 485 00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:20,000 Speaker 1: like like a Scooby Dee. When they have those scenes 486 00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:25,320 Speaker 1: of them all running together. Yeah, well, my boyfriend certainly 487 00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:28,040 Speaker 1: imagined it. In fact, he saw the whole thing. He 488 00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:31,120 Speaker 1: couldn't find the key to the mat to the front door, 489 00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:34,840 Speaker 1: so he decided to come around the back because I 490 00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:37,880 Speaker 1: always leave the patio door along, and. 491 00:24:37,680 --> 00:24:40,960 Speaker 2: That's where everyone is just running around. That is the worst. 492 00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:45,639 Speaker 1: Everyone's running like panicking, trying to find their clothes, and 493 00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:50,120 Speaker 1: he just walks in like that is the worst possible scenario. 494 00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:52,720 Speaker 1: And there's like two guys there and three girls and 495 00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:57,360 Speaker 1: you're like, whoa, wait, way too suspicious, Like you cannot 496 00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:00,600 Speaker 1: tell me that that was not going down. We all 497 00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:04,480 Speaker 1: frozen place, and his jaw was almost to the floor, 498 00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:08,200 Speaker 1: eyes wider than anything I've ever seen before. To any 499 00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:11,760 Speaker 1: normal person, the situation he was witnessing must have been 500 00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:15,000 Speaker 1: insane and the worst thoughts definitely crossed his mind. 501 00:25:15,040 --> 00:25:17,400 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, well for shut I've. 502 00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:21,240 Speaker 1: Just as he was about to storm off in anger, 503 00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:24,639 Speaker 1: all of my friends jumped in and tried to explain 504 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:27,639 Speaker 1: the situation to him. Well, after a few minutes of 505 00:25:27,680 --> 00:25:32,200 Speaker 1: explaining everything, he soon became eased and accepted everything that happened, 506 00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:35,080 Speaker 1: and he even said he had no problem with nudity 507 00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:36,240 Speaker 1: being a part of my life. 508 00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:39,439 Speaker 2: Wow. Wow, dude, he came around real quick. Dude. I 509 00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:43,400 Speaker 2: mean this guy deserves a medal. Yeah, wow, open minded, 510 00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:44,080 Speaker 2: open hearted. 511 00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:46,280 Speaker 1: I could see him like coming around like just like 512 00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,480 Speaker 1: storming off and like the next day when they're able 513 00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:51,159 Speaker 1: to like sit down fully closed, like as like okay, 514 00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:51,760 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. 515 00:25:51,800 --> 00:25:53,719 Speaker 2: But he just like came right around to it. Good 516 00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:55,159 Speaker 2: for him. Nice a keeper. 517 00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:57,600 Speaker 1: Luckily, the situation was diffused and we've had a few 518 00:25:57,600 --> 00:25:59,440 Speaker 1: good laughs about the whole thing over the last couple 519 00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:01,320 Speaker 1: of days. Even said he wanted to go with me 520 00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,399 Speaker 1: and my friends to a nude beach over the summer 521 00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:05,120 Speaker 1: to get a better feeling for it. If anyone has 522 00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:07,679 Speaker 1: any questions about my story or growing up as a newdist, 523 00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:09,800 Speaker 1: I'll be happy to answer anyone's questions. 524 00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:10,600 Speaker 2: Who's curious. 525 00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:14,240 Speaker 1: Actually, if you guys have any questions about nudists, check 526 00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:17,879 Speaker 1: out that episode Finding Founders. It's linked in the bio. Yeah, 527 00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:20,680 Speaker 1: it's like the full deep dive from the whole community. Yeah, yeah, 528 00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:21,360 Speaker 1: it's super cool. 529 00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:23,600 Speaker 2: Check it out. Check it out.