WEBVTT - Ep. 75 "The Prototype" 0:00:03.120 --> 0:00:07.040 We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion to 0:00:07.280 --> 0:00:12.479 talk back. What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in 0:00:12.520 --> 0:00:15.400 for a new episode of We Talked Back, A show 0:00:15.480 --> 0:00:19.320 dedicated to you, nigga's and knees hose. That's my new intro. 0:00:22.200 --> 0:00:32.600 You like it, I like it you nigga's and knees hose. Hey, y'all, 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:35.320 it's me Tim. Hey, y'all, I'm a niggah at the 0:00:35.360 --> 0:00:37.680 same time, So this is all. This show is a 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:44.199 hyd it's a hybrid, it's a whole red, It's a 0:00:44.320 --> 0:00:52.480 me Marie ho. Hey, y'all. I love y'all. Thank y'all 0:00:52.479 --> 0:00:56.880 for tuning in. Man, Hey, j hey girl, we're going on. 0:00:57.000 --> 0:01:03.000 How was your weekend? Ship? What are do this weekend? Oh? 0:01:03.040 --> 0:01:08.039 My god, baby turn one this weekend like such a 0:01:08.120 --> 0:01:10.959 lit party for her. It was really an adult party, honestly, 0:01:11.120 --> 0:01:13.720 Like she was sleepy the whole time with the party honestly, 0:01:14.440 --> 0:01:18.120 and we was just drinking. We had like cocktails, you know, 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:20.960 name for her and it was such a good time. 0:01:21.000 --> 0:01:23.720 We had so much fun. I was all down bad. 0:01:23.760 --> 0:01:26.560 I stayed in the bed all day Sunday because I 0:01:26.600 --> 0:01:30.520 had I was lit Saturday for one year, shame party. 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:33.720 That's how it be. For the kid's birthdays, sho turned 0:01:33.760 --> 0:01:37.199 to the adult party after six. Yeah, it was adult 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:41.880 party from the time it started. Shame Yeah. What about you? 0:01:42.840 --> 0:01:45.160 What you do this weekend? Yeah? Remember I told you 0:01:45.319 --> 0:01:47.440 last he goes into Atlanta this week So that's what 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:53.080 I did all weekend. Oh yeah, drinking and smoking and 0:01:53.400 --> 0:01:56.800 all of all. Had a whole ship you could think of. Okay, 0:01:56.800 --> 0:01:59.600 no three SOMs and no ship like that, but all 0:01:59.600 --> 0:02:07.160 around ship, y'all can think of tomato, tomato, all about 0:02:07.320 --> 0:02:09.360 had the whole ship y'all could think of. I was 0:02:09.400 --> 0:02:13.080 doing it and my body shut the funk down. On Sunday, 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:15.160 y'all noticed. I've been canceling a lot of flights. I 0:02:15.160 --> 0:02:18.560 don't know if anybody's been flying recently, but about the 0:02:18.600 --> 0:02:20.520 grace of God, I made it home. My flight was 0:02:20.560 --> 0:02:24.200 a laid, not canceled, and I just sucked up my day. 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:27.320 Atlanta Airport is terrible. First of all, it took me 0:02:27.320 --> 0:02:31.480 an hour to get through security. Just ruined my whole ship. 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:34.480 But all in all, it was a good trip. That's 0:02:34.520 --> 0:02:38.120 my That was my birthday celebration for the most part. 0:02:38.160 --> 0:02:40.639 So I hung out with my home girl. We ate 0:02:40.680 --> 0:02:42.959 a lot of good food. One thing about Atlanta, The 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:46.399 motherfucker's got some good food in Atlanta. There's so many restaurants. 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:48.400 If you open a business there, that ship is gonna 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:51.120 thrive because Nigga is gonna show up. Every place is 0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:53.800 packed all the time. You haven't you haven't in at 0:02:53.800 --> 0:02:58.239 the steakhouse called House mhm. They have really good food. 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:01.240 It's a vibe. And if you're looking for a white zaddy, 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:05.560 that's where you go. Ladies. Okay, the white zaddi's getting 0:03:05.560 --> 0:03:08.160 off of work, but they button up and slacks there 0:03:08.200 --> 0:03:12.839 in there. The golf players, they in there, so all 0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:16.480 the working girls. Yes, I mean like it's a two 0:03:16.600 --> 0:03:22.120 floor house. H a l postri apostrophe s it's two 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:27.480 floors full of white daddy's. Did you get one? No, 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:32.120 because I was in there with a black zaddy, So no, 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:35.920 I got no white daddy I was looking for. But yeah, 0:03:36.080 --> 0:03:40.640 it was good vibes, great vibes. Yep, that sounds like fun. 0:03:41.360 --> 0:03:43.560 I might get me a steak and some white meat 0:03:43.600 --> 0:03:53.560 on the side. Just joking, guys, let's get into stupid 0:03:53.560 --> 0:03:57.280 internet news child. What we got going on this week. 0:03:57.680 --> 0:04:00.839 It's a slow week, you don't think, Yeah, it was. 0:04:01.200 --> 0:04:05.360 So apparently the reps from Ripley's Museum is coming for 0:04:05.520 --> 0:04:08.920 kim K because y'all remember she where she wore um 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:13.560 Marilyn Monrose famous tear drop, a little diamond, little number, 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:16.159 a little strappy dress for the mat Galla this year, 0:04:16.680 --> 0:04:18.760 and they posted pictures online and how it had a 0:04:18.839 --> 0:04:21.960 few of the beads the bedazzled missing off of it. 0:04:22.080 --> 0:04:24.159 We're talking about how old is this dress? Fifty years, 0:04:24.200 --> 0:04:27.159 sixty years old or some ship? Kim K went on 0:04:27.160 --> 0:04:30.159 a strict diet to lose weight to even fit the dress. 0:04:30.200 --> 0:04:33.920 First of all, she got in it and it got 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:37.320 some damage. You know, That's what happened when you wear 0:04:37.400 --> 0:04:39.680 ships sometimes, that's what happened when we wear old ship 0:04:39.839 --> 0:04:42.880 like that, that ship, this drift store at this point, 0:04:43.640 --> 0:04:46.839 dry rot at this point. Imagine you all trying to 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:50.000 come for her about that ship. Yeah, like, I don't 0:04:50.000 --> 0:04:53.240 think that's dumb. Like, listen, don't let her wear the 0:04:53.360 --> 0:04:55.240 dress if you didn't want it to be you know, 0:04:55.320 --> 0:05:03.239 potentially ruined. Like and yeah, why you want to wear 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:07.800 a dead woman's dress anyway? Why do you want to 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:13.040 wear that dress. What type of goddamn conjuring where you're 0:05:13.160 --> 0:05:16.800 trying to do that night? Why do you want it? 0:05:18.080 --> 0:05:19.840 I knew, I thought we might be able to go 0:05:19.920 --> 0:05:22.840 one episode when the cat I just don't want to 0:05:22.839 --> 0:05:25.200 give the people a different perspective. This is a wild 0:05:25.279 --> 0:05:28.279 world we're living in, right, y'all. Don't realize how time 0:05:28.400 --> 0:05:31.000 speeding up, should is just getting crazy and crazy and 0:05:31.040 --> 0:05:34.280 crazy at every fucking day. Why are you wearing this 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:38.200 dead woman's dress? Is like? To me? So you won't 0:05:38.279 --> 0:05:42.359 wear a dead woman ship? No? No, I would define 0:05:43.440 --> 0:05:48.600 Houston's fur right now. I would do a replica like 0:05:48.640 --> 0:05:52.240 I wouldn't I would? I guess I respect the dead 0:05:52.279 --> 0:05:55.080 a little bit more, I guess, so i'd wear a 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:58.080 replica of it. Did she need to wear the actual dress? 0:05:58.560 --> 0:06:02.680 Mail and Meroe or to me, Kim Baby, yeah you 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:05.520 you you're not that I fucking conic man comes. No, 0:06:05.720 --> 0:06:08.640 Kim is iconic now, I don't think so, not for me, 0:06:08.839 --> 0:06:11.760 not to me as iconic as Marilyn Monroe. Are we 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:13.800 going to be having the posters of Kim King on 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:17.320 our wall thirty years from now? We won't, but maybe 0:06:17.320 --> 0:06:20.520 these the young people might. I don't think so I 0:06:20.600 --> 0:06:25.480 just don't think so okay, she might be then she 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:29.120 might be the starlet of our time. I can see Beyonce, 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:32.080 but we also know we already know that Kim can't 0:06:32.120 --> 0:06:36.960 even sit with Beyonce. I can see to some people, 0:06:38.440 --> 0:06:40.760 Kim Cass said, would Beyonce? You like beyonce new song? 0:06:41.000 --> 0:06:43.600 I love the lyrics. It's not the beat and all that, 0:06:43.760 --> 0:06:48.239 but the lyrics of it. I'm not Drake and Beyonce 0:06:48.480 --> 0:06:53.120 came out with like house music this week, and I 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:56.120 feel like I need to be like rich and doing 0:06:56.160 --> 0:06:59.920 cocus something to be listening to get some Coke sniffed off, 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:03.080 asked on the back of a boat, everything right exactly? 0:07:03.360 --> 0:07:06.279 Every time? I like, I was listening to Drake's album 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:09.960 earlier at work and I was It made me think 0:07:09.960 --> 0:07:12.239 of that episode of Martin what was the white character 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:14.440 and they was having that party in the inst the phone. 0:07:14.480 --> 0:07:17.000 He was like, oh my good, things are going really 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:24.880 well right now here. WHOA that's was listening to that album? 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:31.239 Why the fund does WHOA go at? Coke would be like, WHOA, 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:35.000 I'm trying to score some blow? Oh my god, you 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:40.640 got any blow? I like those larrics though, for Beyonce 0:07:40.800 --> 0:07:44.640 that ship, like that motherfucker said, quit that job. Don't 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:47.040 be letting people stress you out. Like I feel like 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:50.440 that's what our our generation in particular, that's what we're on. 0:07:50.840 --> 0:07:52.840 I mean, I liked the song, but I'm not just 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:54.360 putting it on in the car and ride down this 0:07:55.160 --> 0:07:57.160 for me, I don't I mean beating all that. I 0:07:57.240 --> 0:07:59.440 literally listened to the song for a maybe a minute, 0:08:00.360 --> 0:08:03.120 and then I just read the lyrics because that's what 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:05.800 resonated with me the most, not not really the music. 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:08.440 My getto asked, need a bass drum? I need a 0:08:08.440 --> 0:08:11.240 bass drums? You need them eight o eights? Yeah, I 0:08:11.280 --> 0:08:13.680 need that in the back socket? No that you know, 0:08:13.720 --> 0:08:18.320 that's no, that's the devil. Right. Oh, here we go. Hey, look, 0:08:18.520 --> 0:08:21.040 I just want y'all to just be knowing stuff all right, 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:24.320 y'all know, like pro tools is what they're using the studios, right. 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:27.880 Pro tools was created by the government. Back in the day. 0:08:28.080 --> 0:08:31.200 All our music was acoustic. We played instruments. It's just 0:08:31.240 --> 0:08:34.560 a different frequency. So now that eight o eight, that 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:38.160 drumbeat we love so much and wrap fucking music, it's 0:08:38.200 --> 0:08:40.360 a problem. This is why you addicted to that ship 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:44.320 and that's why niggas be Papa pills. Listening to on 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:48.000 the Way to kill somebody, our ancestors. You played drune. 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:50.800 That that's what I'm saying. They played real drums. They 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:54.079 weren't playing mechanical drums off of a computer with a 0:08:54.160 --> 0:09:03.120 fucking evil last frequency coming through. But yeah, and y'alla, yawn, 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:08.240 it's real, man changed the music change to people. That's true. 0:09:08.480 --> 0:09:10.720 So I appreciate this song because I feel like it's 0:09:10.720 --> 0:09:14.520 a good it's a good frequency here. You guys, you 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:21.720 know where I can score some blue. But look, we're 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:23.520 gonna go ahead and get into the main topic. Y'all 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:26.920 listening today, We want to talk about black hair and 0:09:27.000 --> 0:09:31.680 black women, uh, in relation to their hair. You know, 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:33.760 it's a major, it's a big thing. It's a big 0:09:33.800 --> 0:09:36.800 thing for black women. Okay, please don't touch my ship. 0:09:37.760 --> 0:09:39.800 Y'all can't see me, but I'm about to put my 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:41.800 hair in the chair beside me because it's hot them 0:09:41.800 --> 0:09:46.040 the motherfucker. Right now, let's go to commercial. We'll be 0:09:46.160 --> 0:09:53.080 right back and we'll get into it. Okay, Well you're back, y'all, 0:09:53.120 --> 0:09:55.800 and let's guess what. I got. Two of my very 0:09:55.840 --> 0:09:59.320 best friends on the show, and we're talking black hair 0:09:59.360 --> 0:10:02.200 with them, and one of them I've known since I 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:04.400 was a little girl, and we started doing each other's 0:10:04.440 --> 0:10:07.640 hair like as kids, fucking each other's hair up. And 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:10.560 then one of them I'm known for at least seven years, 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:12.480 and I've been doing her hair the whole time, and 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:14.400 I love them both very much. Thank you all for 0:10:14.480 --> 0:10:21.320 joining us today, Thank you, thanks for the thanks. So Stacy, 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:25.280 tell our listeners a little bit about yourself. Hi everyone, 0:10:25.760 --> 0:10:29.800 I'm Stacy Mitchell. I've been the hairstyles for twenty one years, 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:33.720 but I started way before then, about four years old, 0:10:33.760 --> 0:10:38.439 playing her Barby's. Um, I love it? Can you think 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:40.440 of anything else I want to do? And you still 0:10:40.480 --> 0:10:43.360 love it? I still love it, but I give myself 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:46.320 break so I can continue to love it. M that's smart. 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:51.319 That's smart smart. And then uh to me can introduce yourself. Hi, 0:10:52.240 --> 0:11:02.760 Tamika down but yeah, um but from Virginia living here 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:05.680 in Charlotte now, um, you just happy to be here. 0:11:06.240 --> 0:11:10.080 Thank you for joining us a bit. So yeah, I 0:11:10.120 --> 0:11:12.360 think most styles I think I've probably been doing here 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:14.480 since first grade, but I never got my license to 0:11:14.520 --> 0:11:19.400 do here because I cannot stand the customer service aspect 0:11:19.760 --> 0:11:23.239 of dealing with black women, and they fucking here, Okay, 0:11:23.440 --> 0:11:25.840 did you do a bit here on Thursday and see 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:28.080 her ass on Monday? She unless I'm nigga pulling that 0:11:28.080 --> 0:11:30.040 ship all weekend and now you ain't did it right. 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:37.199 So that's the fact. That's a fact. The customer service 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:41.760 aspect is trying at times, and sometimes it does make 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:44.200 me want to quit, Like, you know what, funk these bitches. 0:11:44.240 --> 0:11:46.760 I'm sticking y'all cut my hair and make it a 0:11:46.800 --> 0:11:48.920 little longer, dumb assh it like that, Like how I'm 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:50.800 gonna cut your hair and make it look longer, bitch. 0:11:53.160 --> 0:11:57.880 So sometimes it can be like crazy with black women 0:11:57.920 --> 0:12:01.400 in our expectations for hair stacy, have you do you 0:12:01.400 --> 0:12:03.800 have any experience with that? Like what your customers like? 0:12:04.120 --> 0:12:07.400 What do you do? You know? After so many years, 0:12:07.480 --> 0:12:09.920 I've tried to figure out the best plan for that, 0:12:10.000 --> 0:12:15.560 and I really just over the liver and under sell it, 0:12:15.720 --> 0:12:18.719 like if I know there's a possibility things won't turn out. 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:21.160 I'm trying to be really upfront about it. But I 0:12:21.160 --> 0:12:23.000 don't have a whole lot of problems like that anymore. 0:12:23.040 --> 0:12:25.160 I promise I have gotten it down to a science 0:12:26.120 --> 0:12:29.120 where bitches just be happy all the time. Well, they 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:32.120 know upfront, like I can't make a miracle, you know, 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:36.000 we talked about it before and they're always pleasantly surprised 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:38.679 after I try to make it work. You can't just 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:41.800 make blonde hair out of blue black hair, you know, 0:12:41.920 --> 0:12:44.320 and one day, but you know, you gotta just let 0:12:44.360 --> 0:12:47.440 them know you might be a little redhead for a while, right, 0:12:47.520 --> 0:12:49.560 unless it's a week at we would throw that ship 0:12:49.640 --> 0:12:53.760 on top and you could be blind, right. Yeah. I 0:12:53.800 --> 0:12:56.280 try to be honest as much as possible because at 0:12:56.320 --> 0:12:58.360 the end of the day, I mean, they respect the 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:02.559 honesty in my opinion, Tama. So you're one of my clients. 0:13:02.559 --> 0:13:05.959 Do you have any any gripes with me? As a 0:13:06.000 --> 0:13:10.120 hairstyles for you, I'm speaking for the for the clients. Now, 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:13.719 we had heard from the stylus, so we'd be put 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:16.440 the customer from We'll be leading it on y'all down 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:22.280 because you know, let us be five minutes late. You 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:25.760 you're texting your calling and you're on your way. I 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:28.800 just sat there with you. Yeah, I want my way, 0:13:29.000 --> 0:13:31.440 So I did you know, I guess it's on both 0:13:31.440 --> 0:13:34.400 sides of the spectrum, Like you know, give and tape. 0:13:34.760 --> 0:13:37.040 Sometimes y'all get on my nerves and sometimes you get 0:13:37.040 --> 0:13:40.120 on y'alls with the purpose side of it, because I 0:13:40.160 --> 0:13:43.120 can't really say this with you tame me. But I've 0:13:43.160 --> 0:13:47.160 had other stylists where I'm they literally triple book and 0:13:47.200 --> 0:13:52.000 I'm sitting there waiting two hours on top of my 0:13:52.160 --> 0:13:56.160 appointment time, you know, to get my hair done. And 0:13:56.160 --> 0:13:57.880 if I would have did the same thing, if I'm 0:13:57.880 --> 0:14:01.800 freaking thirty minutes late, you canceling ship, you you're blocking me. 0:14:01.920 --> 0:14:04.240 You trying to me a seventy five dollars to try 0:14:04.240 --> 0:14:06.600 to book with you again. You know, sometimes sometimes I 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:09.520 feel like starting this need to be a little bit 0:14:09.600 --> 0:14:12.800 leanent when it comes to Sometimes life happens, sometimes we 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:16.120 maybe a little bit late, and then sometimes you know, 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:19.640 we love y'all, so sometimes when on y'all day off 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:22.120 and we see a cute hairstyle, like I wanted she 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:24.040 could do this, and I get it, that's y'all time, 0:14:24.360 --> 0:14:26.920 but y'all forget that that relationship with us so we 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:30.360 can feel like we can do that. I literally like 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:36.640 Sunday night, like you like this, No, this not right now. 0:14:36.680 --> 0:14:38.760 I don't like that right now? And I try to 0:14:38.760 --> 0:14:40.840 slideing in and now I'll try to slide it in 0:14:41.120 --> 0:14:43.160 and you know, we'll be having a good conversation. I'd 0:14:43.160 --> 0:14:45.920 be like, I've seen this, and she catch you on, 0:14:46.040 --> 0:14:50.920 like bitch, you'm off, like shi, yeah, we do to that. 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:54.560 We get spoiled, like you guys really be trying, and 0:14:54.640 --> 0:14:56.880 I get it. Y'all need your days off to peace 0:14:56.880 --> 0:14:58.320 of mind. When you talk about here today and we 0:14:58.400 --> 0:15:03.040 talked about so, and you know what, And in your defense, 0:15:03.520 --> 0:15:06.280 some of these stylists have gotten outrageous with the rules 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:09.520 and the expectations of their clients, like come with your 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:11.840 hair wash, come with your hair braided down, so with 0:15:11.960 --> 0:15:16.400 in yourself and then I'm a curly foot and yourself 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:23.760 how to do all that? I don't know how to do. 0:15:24.360 --> 0:15:28.600 But I can't bless my own stuff down. Oh in 0:15:28.640 --> 0:15:31.560 my experience, I tried to say, hey, I can squeeze 0:15:31.600 --> 0:15:33.120 you in if you sha't put your own hair, and 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:34.840 that's the only way I can get you in, and 0:15:34.920 --> 0:15:38.960 they come with the greasiest I'm like, never, I don't 0:15:39.000 --> 0:15:40.600 trust my clients and sha't p with their hair. I 0:15:40.600 --> 0:15:42.960 shampool their hair and so it can flow and be 0:15:43.520 --> 0:15:47.240 soft I just can't. But also what you're saying to 0:15:47.320 --> 0:15:50.720 Maka about silence with their grace peer is and running 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:53.000 behind and stuff, I mean it is. It's a slippery 0:15:53.040 --> 0:15:55.320 slope because if you have a stylist that's on time 0:15:55.680 --> 0:15:58.560 and wants to be on time and respects and never 0:15:58.640 --> 0:16:01.520 makes you wait, then and she's gonna be on time 0:16:01.560 --> 0:16:03.320 with you. That means if you have a dinner appointment 0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:06.480 at eight o'clock, you can make that appointment. But and 0:16:06.520 --> 0:16:08.120 everybody wants that, you know, you want to be in 0:16:08.160 --> 0:16:11.280 and out, and that's great. But then if she's that 0:16:11.320 --> 0:16:15.000 type of stylens and never like runs behind, then she 0:16:15.080 --> 0:16:17.400 can't squeeze you in because she has to stick to 0:16:17.440 --> 0:16:20.160 a schedule. So it's always a catch twenty two with it. 0:16:20.240 --> 0:16:23.080 You know, it's like be on time or take me 0:16:23.120 --> 0:16:25.200 whenever I need you to do me. You know, it's tough. 0:16:25.680 --> 0:16:27.880 It's tough. Oh yeah, I didn't think about it like that. 0:16:33.360 --> 0:16:35.760 Or it'll be like you was late, but it don't 0:16:35.760 --> 0:16:38.200 even be the stylist. It will be like somebody who 0:16:38.280 --> 0:16:42.000 was before you was late, right, and I allowed them 0:16:42.040 --> 0:16:44.040 to come late, and now it's pushed my whole day back. 0:16:44.360 --> 0:16:47.400 But now to you as a client. You're late as 0:16:47.400 --> 0:16:50.040 a hair stylist. It don't matter what else happened. So 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:51.960 now they're like, but you was late this time, So 0:16:52.000 --> 0:16:55.440 now I'm a hundred minutes late today. You know it's 0:16:56.080 --> 0:16:57.880 but I don't charge for that. I'm not one of 0:16:57.920 --> 0:17:00.400 you know those people like fifteen minutes late, you start 0:17:00.440 --> 0:17:02.880 paying twenty dollars for every five minutes late after that. 0:17:03.920 --> 0:17:06.760 I just that's unfair. I feel like that's unfair practice. 0:17:07.920 --> 0:17:11.160 It can get out control. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's unfair. 0:17:11.320 --> 0:17:14.040 And sometimes sometimes I'm late just because I ain't shore. 0:17:14.119 --> 0:17:19.879 Sometimes I ain't even gonna lie. Sometimes I'll be sleep. Well, 0:17:20.280 --> 0:17:22.840 I've been on the other end of it. I went 0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:26.400 out my eyebrows micro blading, and I didn't engage the traffic, 0:17:27.080 --> 0:17:29.080 and she was like, let me see if I can 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:31.680 move my next client. If not, I can't take you. 0:17:32.200 --> 0:17:36.000 And she politely kept my deposit and could not take 0:17:36.040 --> 0:17:38.360 me because I was late, and I had to respect 0:17:38.400 --> 0:17:41.200 it because when can I do? You know, she told 0:17:41.200 --> 0:17:43.200 me up front it was tough that I ate that 0:17:43.280 --> 0:17:48.120 hundred dollars, but yes, dollars is a lot to eat. Yes, 0:17:48.600 --> 0:17:52.080 that was my deposit. No, I'm refundable. I had a 0:17:52.080 --> 0:17:54.240 bit trying to fight me over her deposit. In turn, 0:17:55.800 --> 0:17:58.440 for real, she was put she pulled up outside. I 0:17:58.480 --> 0:18:06.080 was like, girl, given you wanted to talk, Okay, that's 0:18:06.080 --> 0:18:09.960 fine because I've been in the gym. Get your ass 0:18:10.160 --> 0:18:16.280 just locked the door, right, So let's talk about our 0:18:16.400 --> 0:18:19.480 childhood and our hair, like our relationship with our hair 0:18:19.560 --> 0:18:23.480 as kids. Like, did y'all feel like your hair was 0:18:23.520 --> 0:18:25.639 beautiful as a child where you brought up in a 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:29.000 household where there was emphasis on your hair and the 0:18:29.040 --> 0:18:35.480 beauty of it. M I would say, no, Um, it 0:18:35.560 --> 0:18:38.720 was basically good hair and bad hair type thing with 0:18:39.160 --> 0:18:41.879 you know, she got good hair if her hair was 0:18:42.560 --> 0:18:45.320 you know, a certain way and straighter, or it was 0:18:45.359 --> 0:18:50.840 a bad hair. So um, I don't think growing up 0:18:50.920 --> 0:18:53.920 we really embraced our hair like we do now, which 0:18:53.960 --> 0:18:56.920 is beautiful. Like my daughter she you know, she will 0:18:57.000 --> 0:19:00.320 rock her natural hair. You know back then when I 0:19:00.359 --> 0:19:04.280 was growing up, it was like oh no, like yeah, 0:19:04.320 --> 0:19:08.119 it was like relaxed, textorized. This is that you know, 0:19:08.280 --> 0:19:10.920 if you had any type of kink in it or 0:19:10.960 --> 0:19:14.879 any type of wave, you had bad hair. Right, So 0:19:16.400 --> 0:19:20.320 say me and Stacy, I remember what sixth grade, we 0:19:20.320 --> 0:19:24.520 were doing each other's just for me, what was what 0:19:24.560 --> 0:19:30.920 was that permit? A box stream and nature, whichever one 0:19:31.000 --> 0:19:37.880 was four dollars and ninety seven, burning the ship out 0:19:37.880 --> 0:19:39.800 of our heads because it was not learning it was 0:19:41.280 --> 0:19:47.160 right right. Yeah. So I'm the youngest of three girls, 0:19:47.200 --> 0:19:50.400 so in the house of just four women, I didn't 0:19:50.400 --> 0:19:52.840 get shipped for real, So I didn't learn to do 0:19:52.880 --> 0:19:55.320 my own here. But I did have a fucking Jerry curl. 0:19:55.960 --> 0:19:59.000 I had a nouveau wave, and then the Jerry curl 0:19:59.119 --> 0:20:02.720 came out camp finally, you know, swimming all the summer long, 0:20:02.800 --> 0:20:05.480 so my mom just never got the Jerry curl back 0:20:05.480 --> 0:20:07.320 in there. But from that point I was doing my 0:20:07.359 --> 0:20:11.680 own hair all the time. Mm hmm from a little yeah, 0:20:11.720 --> 0:20:16.320 me too. So nobody really teaches to manage your hair, 0:20:16.520 --> 0:20:19.120 and it's time consuming also that we were learning now 0:20:19.160 --> 0:20:22.359 as adults, once we stopped doing the perms and everything else, 0:20:22.359 --> 0:20:24.639 it's a little bit more time consuming to keep up 0:20:24.640 --> 0:20:27.120 with your natural hair. Do y'all think that people are 0:20:27.160 --> 0:20:30.440 now spending more money on natural hair than they did 0:20:30.520 --> 0:20:35.879 when they when perms were absolutely yes, m well, natural 0:20:35.960 --> 0:20:39.240 hair costs more in general, like them in the salon. 0:20:39.320 --> 0:20:41.080 If you get your hair done in your natural costs 0:20:41.080 --> 0:20:43.080 more than get your hair done if you're if you're relaxed, 0:20:43.560 --> 0:20:46.159 and then just the amount of products you need. If 0:20:46.200 --> 0:20:47.960 you get go to the salon and you have a 0:20:48.000 --> 0:20:50.760 relaxed there, you can wrap. It's just a wrap, I mean, 0:20:51.000 --> 0:20:52.920 but when you get your hair done now, if you're natural, 0:20:53.000 --> 0:20:54.800 you have to buy a ton of products to keep 0:20:54.880 --> 0:20:57.000 up with it. You know, we spray a little light oil. 0:20:57.040 --> 0:20:58.639 She and it kept going back in the day. I mean, 0:20:58.680 --> 0:21:03.520 it was I didn't even know all this stuff would 0:21:03.520 --> 0:21:06.879 exist with hair, like steam treatment, like growing up, steam 0:21:07.000 --> 0:21:09.600 treatments and all that. When I first seeing that, I 0:21:09.640 --> 0:21:16.359 was like, okay, well what black women natural hair? Didn't 0:21:16.359 --> 0:21:20.360 do anything with it? No products? How would how would 0:21:20.560 --> 0:21:23.840 how would y'all think our relationships would be if we 0:21:23.960 --> 0:21:28.399 actually walked around with our natural hair without having to 0:21:28.440 --> 0:21:31.879 do all the manipulation that we have to do to 0:21:31.920 --> 0:21:34.119 make it look nice, you know for our current So 0:21:34.480 --> 0:21:37.200 you mean basically not but we can still hold it. 0:21:37.359 --> 0:21:40.080 But it would just everybody would have whatever the natural 0:21:40.119 --> 0:21:43.640 texture maybe maybe you know, the foresty like forcy hair 0:21:43.960 --> 0:21:48.360 or whatever the other the spectrum hair it's just like 0:21:48.440 --> 0:21:51.080 for real natural because even with using all the products, 0:21:51.520 --> 0:21:56.159 is your hair really still natural? Yeah? That's what I 0:21:56.280 --> 0:21:59.600 was gonna say, AJ, Like, is it really still natural hair? 0:22:00.160 --> 0:22:05.480 Because all the manipulation of the hair, all this taming 0:22:05.640 --> 0:22:08.720 the hair, all of this, that's really not the natural 0:22:08.760 --> 0:22:11.520 state of your hair. Like you that hair be get 0:22:11.560 --> 0:22:18.159 a lot of help to little. Yes, I feel like no, 0:22:18.440 --> 0:22:21.399 that definitely would be something with men would be like, 0:22:22.520 --> 0:22:25.600 especially man, you know what's going on with that? Like, 0:22:25.640 --> 0:22:28.040 what's what's up with your hair? Yeah, let's get you know, 0:22:28.119 --> 0:22:31.160 I got a home girl who she would always wear 0:22:31.320 --> 0:22:33.600 so Wind's wigs and stuff like that. And then her 0:22:33.800 --> 0:22:35.760 the guy she got with, like he was asking her 0:22:35.800 --> 0:22:38.360 to stopping up first for me, a J I give 0:22:38.400 --> 0:22:40.399 a disclaimer the niggas when I meet them. Look, I 0:22:40.480 --> 0:22:43.120 wear we've all the time. Don't wait a year from 0:22:43.160 --> 0:22:45.920 now to be trying to come at me by my motherfucker, We've. No, 0:22:46.119 --> 0:22:48.679 I'm wearing my hair natural. If I feel like it, 0:22:48.760 --> 0:22:51.680 I might, but you won't have anything to do with that. Right, 0:22:51.720 --> 0:22:54.040 So she changed that her style for her dude, right, 0:22:54.800 --> 0:22:57.879 But then he then realized how much longer it was 0:22:57.920 --> 0:23:02.040 taking her to get ready. That frustrated him more than 0:23:02.040 --> 0:23:05.280 her wearing the wigs, so he suggested her to go 0:23:05.359 --> 0:23:08.320 back to wearing weaves, just because it was taking her 0:23:08.440 --> 0:23:10.719 longer to get ready when they had some ship to do. 0:23:11.200 --> 0:23:13.760 The question, do y'all feel like men are more attracted 0:23:13.840 --> 0:23:17.960 to women with their natural hair or with we've black women? 0:23:22.600 --> 0:23:28.280 That's a horrid one quite silence. They say one thing, 0:23:29.200 --> 0:23:33.159 they say one thing. You know, well, I can speak 0:23:33.200 --> 0:23:38.639 for my husband. He loves long we've, He likes a 0:23:38.720 --> 0:23:43.160 short cut. He even likes my sister lots. And I 0:23:43.240 --> 0:23:46.960 was worried about that for sure, But he just wants 0:23:47.000 --> 0:23:49.399 you to look done, no matter what. Make sure you 0:23:49.440 --> 0:23:52.680