WEBVTT - Kirk Allen and Maladaptive Daydreaming

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Stuff to Blow Your Mind from how Stuff

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<v Speaker 1>Works dot com. Hey, welcome to Stuff to Blow your Mind.

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<v Speaker 1>My name is Robert Lamb and I'm Joe McCormick, and

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<v Speaker 1>we're back with our second episode about the story of

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<v Speaker 1>Kirk Allen, or at least based on the story of

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<v Speaker 1>Kirk Allen. Yeah, the story of Kirk Allen being a

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<v Speaker 1>recurring element, but ultimately we're talking about, you know, imagination,

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<v Speaker 1>We're talking about daydreams. We're talking about how we try

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<v Speaker 1>to objectively understand the universe even as more subjective narratives

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<v Speaker 1>are presented to us, narratives like UFOs or demons, etcetera,

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<v Speaker 1>or traveling into the future and being a space lord exactly. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>if you haven't heard the last episode, you should probably

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<v Speaker 1>go and check that one out first, where we tell

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<v Speaker 1>the whole story of Kirk Allen. We're gonna be following

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<v Speaker 1>up on some of the threads from it and this

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<v Speaker 1>one and pursuing some research on the idea of malad

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<v Speaker 1>active day dreaming, because the idea with Kirk Allen is that, essentially,

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<v Speaker 1>the short version is you had a guy with a

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<v Speaker 1>with a very important job, like a nuclear physicist for

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<v Speaker 1>a government institution, that was daydreaming so much that it

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<v Speaker 1>became a problem that his employers said, we want you

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<v Speaker 1>to go talk to a professional about this. Now, the

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<v Speaker 1>story goes, at least as it's presented by his therapist,

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<v Speaker 1>who was writing later and fictionalizing elements of the story,

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<v Speaker 1>both to protect the identity of the patient and as

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<v Speaker 1>far as we know, maybe maybe not also embellishing the

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<v Speaker 1>story to make it a better story. We don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>But the story goes that kirk Allen the pseudonym for

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<v Speaker 1>this patient, that he was referred to Robert Linden, or

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<v Speaker 1>the therapist, and that Lindener became so involved in kirk

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<v Speaker 1>Allen's beliefs that he could travel into the future and

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<v Speaker 1>in his mind and be a space lord and go

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<v Speaker 1>from planet to planet and explore all these technologies and

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<v Speaker 1>galactic civilizations, that he got so involved in that that

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<v Speaker 1>he started to believe it himself. And then it took

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<v Speaker 1>kirk Allen admitting that he made the whole thing up

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<v Speaker 1>and didn't actually believe any of it, to snap the

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<v Speaker 1>therapist out of believing in the delusion. And it makes

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<v Speaker 1>for a great story, like it illustrates like the power

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<v Speaker 1>the contagious nature of of of of a compelling fiction exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>But today we wanted to explore this other element of it.

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<v Speaker 1>So if we go with the story and we assume

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<v Speaker 1>that Kirk Allen never did believe any of what he

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<v Speaker 1>was saying, He never actually believed he was a space lord.

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<v Speaker 1>He just spent a lot of time fantasizing about it,

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<v Speaker 1>though he can tell the difference between his fantasy and reality.

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<v Speaker 1>What would that situation be. Imagine You've got this guy,

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<v Speaker 1>He's doing important nuclear physics or whatever other kind of

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<v Speaker 1>government research, and they can't keep him on task because

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<v Speaker 1>he's always thinking about how he's going to finish his

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<v Speaker 1>paper on the hyperdrive thruster that will get him to

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<v Speaker 1>tow St nine or whatever. Yeah. I mean, the cool

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<v Speaker 1>thing about all this, and I think ultimately the fascinating

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<v Speaker 1>part about it, is that we I think we can

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<v Speaker 1>all relate on some level to the you know, the

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<v Speaker 1>the attractive power of daydreaming. I mean we we we

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<v Speaker 1>all do it, and certainly we all did it when

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<v Speaker 1>we were children. Uh. I mean, I I've always had

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<v Speaker 1>a pretty active imagination as a kid. I was I

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<v Speaker 1>was content to pace around the backyard. I would generally

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<v Speaker 1>have a red or a green rubber band in my hand,

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<v Speaker 1>and I would just daydream a litany of imagined worlds,

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<v Speaker 1>inspired you know by typical things that are going to

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<v Speaker 1>inspire a kid, you know, the TV shows, movies, cartoons

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<v Speaker 1>and action figures, that sort of thing. And uh, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think everybody in my family probably thought I was

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit weird because of it, but they, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>they tolerated it, even only so they could continue to

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<v Speaker 1>make fun of me as an adult. And uh, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>then to their to everyone's credit, they encouraged my creative

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<v Speaker 1>activities later on in life that employed much of the

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<v Speaker 1>same energy, just without the rubber band and all the pacing. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess maybe I still do some of the pacing.

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<v Speaker 1>But you do the pacing if you're not noticed. Yeah, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I you know, it's it's good for one to get up,

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<v Speaker 1>um all the time during work, not trying to call

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<v Speaker 1>you out. I paced two. Well like for well, one

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<v Speaker 1>thing I do now is I I do a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of swimming, and while I'm swimming, I am inevitably doing

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<v Speaker 1>some form of imaginative thoughts, some sort of daydreaming I'm

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about, say, uh, you know, the fiction podcast that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm putting together here for how stuff works and sort

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<v Speaker 1>of plotting that out. Uh, it's and it's all sort

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<v Speaker 1>of an experiment in like constructive daydreaming. Right, if I'm

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<v Speaker 1>lucky enough to visit a beach, that's the kind of

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<v Speaker 1>thing that occupies my mind on long walks, like I

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<v Speaker 1>I love those times in my life when I'm able

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<v Speaker 1>to not worry about the future, you know, or or

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<v Speaker 1>or you know, hang up over the past, and instead

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<v Speaker 1>just daydream about something uh, completely different. Well, as I've

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<v Speaker 1>said recently on the show, I think narrative is a

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<v Speaker 1>sacred retreat. But it's not just to sacred retreat when

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<v Speaker 1>you're reading the narratives of others. It's certainly a sacred

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<v Speaker 1>retreat when you're composing your own. Yeah. Now I have

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<v Speaker 1>to say that I'm I'm fortunate to have outlets for

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<v Speaker 1>my creativity and uh, and I'm also very fortunate that

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<v Speaker 1>daydreaming and imagination doesn't negatively impact my life and at

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<v Speaker 1>least currently uh and not everyone though, can make these claims. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that that's a lot of what we're gonna be focusing

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<v Speaker 1>on today is like when when when it crosses that

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<v Speaker 1>line when daydreaming goes over the line and becomes something

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<v Speaker 1>not not so positive but more destructive to people's lives,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. Thinking about my own childhood, I can specifically

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<v Speaker 1>remember the process of trying to prolong or reinter dreams

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<v Speaker 1>that I had exited by waking up. Did you ever

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<v Speaker 1>have this experience? I remember, in particular this one dream

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<v Speaker 1>I had where I found a tunnel in my closet

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<v Speaker 1>and crawling through the tunnel, it went to a beach

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<v Speaker 1>where there was a girl there who was a friend

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<v Speaker 1>of mine, and she could turn into a fish, I think,

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<v Speaker 1>or a dolphin or a cat. But I could also

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<v Speaker 1>in this dream swing around on tree branches by using

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<v Speaker 1>a whip like Indiana Jones, And that was just the

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<v Speaker 1>coolest thing ever, because I loved Indiana Jones, and I

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<v Speaker 1>especially loved the swinging action. That sounds amazing. That that

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<v Speaker 1>reminds me of how I once had a Rocketeer dream.

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<v Speaker 1>Only once did I have this dream where I was

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<v Speaker 1>flying with the Rocketeers jet pack and it was just

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<v Speaker 1>so beautiful. It was just so breathtaking, and I've never

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<v Speaker 1>had that dream again. Yeah, I remember this just being

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<v Speaker 1>an overwhelmingly fun dream I had a morphin friend, and

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<v Speaker 1>I could swing around in tree branches like like Indiana Jones,

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<v Speaker 1>and for some reason it was just so fun that

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<v Speaker 1>when I woke up, I was like, oh, I've got

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<v Speaker 1>to get back there, and I tried to re enter it,

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<v Speaker 1>but I couldn't do it. I tried to go back

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<v Speaker 1>to sleep again and dream the same dream, but I

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't make myself And I remember trying really hard to

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<v Speaker 1>imagine having the same dream again while I was awake,

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<v Speaker 1>but I couldn't really do that either, at least not

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<v Speaker 1>with the same intensity. And I know this wasn't the

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<v Speaker 1>only time I tried to recreate a dream state while

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<v Speaker 1>I was awake. This is just one really vivid one

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<v Speaker 1>that I remember. And I think this impulse to try

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<v Speaker 1>so hard to imagine myself back into a dream sort

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<v Speaker 1>of is part of what led me to become interested

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<v Speaker 1>in fiction writing. Because while dreams always fade very quickly

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<v Speaker 1>in memory, even very vivid ones tend too if you

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<v Speaker 1>don't talk about them or write them down after you

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<v Speaker 1>wake up. Imaginary scenarios coded down in writing those are permanent,

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<v Speaker 1>and you can re enter them with full fidelity at

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<v Speaker 1>any time. You know your story reminds me a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of HP Lovecrafts, The dream Quest of Unknown Cats. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know that it's it's a wonderful and imaginative tale,

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<v Speaker 1>very unlike most of his. It's one of his dream stories,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's it's it's more fantasy than horror, though it

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<v Speaker 1>has you know, the horror elements for sure. But the

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<v Speaker 1>basic idea is that a dream or a man dreams

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<v Speaker 1>a dream so beautiful that the gods, the elder beings

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<v Speaker 1>deny it to him, and hasked to go on a

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<v Speaker 1>quest to try and reclaim that dream. Whoa is it

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful or or sad and melancholy? That that's so much

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<v Speaker 1>of what life is is not not necessarily chasing a

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<v Speaker 1>new experience that you haven't had, but trying to recapture

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<v Speaker 1>a perfect experience, you remember, Yeah, it's true. It kind

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<v Speaker 1>of gets to the heart of the power of nostalgia, right. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, in our previous episode, we we talked a

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<v Speaker 1>good a good deal about Carl Sagan's The Demon Haunted

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<v Speaker 1>World because that was the context in which we read

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<v Speaker 1>this original story about Kirk Allen. Yeah, and uh and

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<v Speaker 1>and Sagan has a wonderful quote here just about fantasy

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<v Speaker 1>and reality that I wanted to read, He says, quote.

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<v Speaker 1>Out of all these contending propensities and child rearing practices,

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<v Speaker 1>some people emerge with an intact ability to fantasize and

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<v Speaker 1>a history extending well into adulthood of confabulation. Others grow

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<v Speaker 1>up believing that everyone who doesn't know the difference between

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<v Speaker 1>reality and fantasy is crazy. Most of us are somewhere

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<v Speaker 1>in between. That's a good point. I mean, I so

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<v Speaker 1>obviously somebody who is U two wrapped up in their

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<v Speaker 1>in their fantasies, in their own head, that person is

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<v Speaker 1>obviously going to be having trouble. And when you you

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<v Speaker 1>encounter somebody like that, you can often recognize it. But

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<v Speaker 1>I think equally, you don't trust somebody at the far

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<v Speaker 1>opposite end of the spectrum who just has no tolerance

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<v Speaker 1>for imagination. You know, you sometimes meet people like this.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, I saw a guy at um It was

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<v Speaker 1>a tiki bar in uh in, Hawaii, and he was

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<v Speaker 1>ordering a drink, probably a mind hie or something, but

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<v Speaker 1>he had specific directions for the servery. He said, he said,

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<v Speaker 1>bring me one of these, but no umbrellas, no fancy

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<v Speaker 1>mug just makes you basically make this drink as boring

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<v Speaker 1>as possible, no fun for me, no umbrellas, Like I

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<v Speaker 1>refuse to pretend that there's a tiny man living on

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<v Speaker 1>the surface of my drink that needs shade from the

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<v Speaker 1>sun exactly. It's like, why are you even here if

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<v Speaker 1>you're if you're not here to engage in in funny

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<v Speaker 1>umbrella drinks, that's a tiki bar. Heretic right there. But

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<v Speaker 1>let's come back to just the subject of day dreaming

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<v Speaker 1>and creativity. Robert you know who had some interesting thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>about daydreaming and creativity, Good old Sigmund Freud, who I

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<v Speaker 1>bet he did dr joy So he talked about this

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<v Speaker 1>in a nineteen o seven essay called Creative Writers in Daydreaming,

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<v Speaker 1>And I just want to preempt please do not take

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<v Speaker 1>this discussion as an endorsement in general of Freudianism. While

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<v Speaker 1>Freud is of course a very important figure to read

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<v Speaker 1>in the history of ideas, a lot of his influence

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<v Speaker 1>on psychology has given way too much more rigorous, more

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<v Speaker 1>explicitly science based practices. I think these days Freud is

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<v Speaker 1>more worth reading in the vein of thinking about him

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<v Speaker 1>as a kind of like philosopher or something. But so

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<v Speaker 1>Freud starts with one of those great questions that we

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<v Speaker 1>might sometimes think of as too simple bowl or too

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<v Speaker 1>fundamental to actually ask out loud. The Robert. You might

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<v Speaker 1>have heard this one before. Somebody knows you write fiction,

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<v Speaker 1>or they read one of your stories and they ask you, Robert,

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<v Speaker 1>where do you get your ideas? How do you think

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<v Speaker 1>up what to get the characters to say and to do?

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever been asked this? Yeah, I've been asked

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<v Speaker 1>versions of this before. I've been asked this too. I

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<v Speaker 1>was actually asked it fairly recently, and it's always struck

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<v Speaker 1>me as a bizarre question because I thought, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I would think the answer is obvious. It's like I

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<v Speaker 1>get ideas by using my imagination and imagining what the

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<v Speaker 1>character would do. But the fact that some people end

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<v Speaker 1>up asking this question of other people indicates that obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>not everybody has the same propensity for imagining fictional characters

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<v Speaker 1>and places and scenarios and all that. So to some

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<v Speaker 1>people it comes more naturally than it does to others.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm always reminded of the subject of a fantasia,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the idea that not everyone can form mental images,

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<v Speaker 1>which doesn't directly relate to what we're talking about here,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's a reminder of just how different our brains

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<v Speaker 1>can be. So I can you know, see why someone

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<v Speaker 1>might not initially grasp how an imagined character uh comes

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<v Speaker 1>to speak or act uh, and they might find it

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<v Speaker 1>harder still to understand how these fictional characters that people

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<v Speaker 1>dream up may well think or act in ways that

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<v Speaker 1>the imagineer does not expect. Yeah. Yeah, that's a good point.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, one of the things I noticed in writing

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<v Speaker 1>is that the process of creativity, at least for me,

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<v Speaker 1>is very highly uh shaped by the act of recording

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<v Speaker 1>the creative process. So it's like writing a story is

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<v Speaker 1>very different than just trying to think out a story

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<v Speaker 1>in my head. Once once it turns into words, then

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<v Speaker 1>you realize, oh, all this has got to change. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I I often feel like I have two processes that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm working with. One is that that day dreaming while

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<v Speaker 1>I'm swimming laps or whatever. But then there's the process

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<v Speaker 1>of actually writing things, and things may change drastically, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>depending on the demands of that process. Just to point

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<v Speaker 1>out quickly, also before we move on, you mentioned the

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<v Speaker 1>idea that not everybody can form images in their head

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<v Speaker 1>as one possible uh factor affecting whether people can compose fiction.

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<v Speaker 1>But we've heard from people who are fiction writers who

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<v Speaker 1>have a fantasition. Know, yeah, I I don't. I bring

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<v Speaker 1>it up more as just an example of how our

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<v Speaker 1>brains are different. Not that it would would impact, it

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<v Speaker 1>would change, not it would change the way one composes fiction,

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<v Speaker 1>I think. But but yeah, certainly someone of the fantasia

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<v Speaker 1>can and and they do write fiction. They do, uh

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<v Speaker 1>come up with fabulous ideas. Um. But yeah, we we

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<v Speaker 1>we often fall into that trap of thinking that everyone

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<v Speaker 1>has a brain more or less like mine. Maybe it's

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<v Speaker 1>you know, maybe it's it's it's it's you know it.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe it's more powerful than mine, or maybe it's not

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<v Speaker 1>as finely tuned as mine. But all our brains are

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<v Speaker 1>basically the same, and an example like a fantasia just

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<v Speaker 1>reminds you know, this is not the at all. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you're exactly right. So Freud began by observing this idea

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<v Speaker 1>that not all brains are the same, and that not

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<v Speaker 1>all brains are the same in terms of ability to

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<v Speaker 1>be creative, to come up with creative stories, and specifically

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<v Speaker 1>for the purpose of this conversation. We are talking about

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<v Speaker 1>creativity in terms of like making up stories, not the

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<v Speaker 1>more generalized idea of creativity, right, which can well and

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<v Speaker 1>does entail things that are not like you know, literature

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<v Speaker 1>major creativity. I mean, certainly there is creativity within science,

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<v Speaker 1>there's creativity within programming, etcetera. There's creativity and getting a

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<v Speaker 1>piece of meat out of a cage trap exactly. But

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<v Speaker 1>no way, So we're talking about like coming up with ideas,

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<v Speaker 1>like creative storytelling and stuff. So so, Freud says, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>even non creative people do have some experience with the

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<v Speaker 1>thinking of creative writers. Even if you're one of these

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<v Speaker 1>people who asks how do you come up with your ideas? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>how do you know what the characters should do? These people,

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<v Speaker 1>Freud says, do have experience with that because it's in

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<v Speaker 1>the imagination based play of their childhood. Think back on

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<v Speaker 1>your childhood, what was it like to play pretend? And

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<v Speaker 1>he writes, quote, might we not say that every child

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<v Speaker 1>at play behaves like a creative writer, and that he

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<v Speaker 1>creates a world of his own, or rather rearranges the

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<v Speaker 1>things of his world in a new way which pleases him.

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<v Speaker 1>It would be wrong to think he does not take

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<v Speaker 1>the world seriously. On the contrary, he takes his play

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<v Speaker 1>very seriously, and he expends large amounts of emotion on it.

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<v Speaker 1>The opposite of play is not what is serious, but

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<v Speaker 1>what is real? Might we not say that every creative

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<v Speaker 1>writer is a giant baby? I'm kidding, well, I I

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<v Speaker 1>agree with that last part of what Freud says, because

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<v Speaker 1>play play is a departure from constraints, not a departure

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<v Speaker 1>from stakes. There's nothing in the world more serious and

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<v Speaker 1>important than what happens in a child's game. I'm sure

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<v Speaker 1>you know from experience. If the floor is lava, the

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<v Speaker 1>floor is lava. Yeah. Though, I have to say, play

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<v Speaker 1>is definitely a topic that demands its own episode at

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<v Speaker 1>some point. I mean, there's so much going on when

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<v Speaker 1>a child plays, even when an adult engages in play.

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<v Speaker 1>And then of course we have other mammals that engage

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<v Speaker 1>in play as well, especially when they're young. Totally true.

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<v Speaker 1>So Freud says that the creative writer just extends this

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<v Speaker 1>type of play into adulthood and then uses the help

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<v Speaker 1>of writing to record the play. Otherwise, the process is

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<v Speaker 1>very similar. The creative writer creates a world of fantasy

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<v Speaker 1>and then takes it very seriously by investing huge amounts

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<v Speaker 1>of genuine emotion into it, but keeps it separated sharply

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<v Speaker 1>from the constraints of reality. So what's happening here? Why

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<v Speaker 1>does the day dreamer or the fiction writer do this?

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<v Speaker 1>You know? Why does the play in the imagination happen?

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<v Speaker 1>And Freud notes something. He says, what's common to almost

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<v Speaker 1>every single work of fiction. Well, we gotta have a hero,

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<v Speaker 1>right exactly the song says we need a hero, right.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm holding out for a hero for Freudian reasons. There

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<v Speaker 1>now this. Obviously, there's all kinds of fiction out there

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<v Speaker 1>in the world today. There's experimental fiction and fiction that

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<v Speaker 1>breaks every rule in the book, right, but most fiction

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<v Speaker 1>still does abide by this. You've gotta have a hero

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<v Speaker 1>around which the interest of the story is centered and

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<v Speaker 1>to which the author wishes to engender the audience's sympathies.

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<v Speaker 1>And another thing he points out is that the hero is,

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<v Speaker 1>by necessity of the plot invulnerable. The reader can always

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<v Speaker 1>trust that the hero will not be killed in chapter two,

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<v Speaker 1>or else there would be no story, or at least

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<v Speaker 1>that's what it's like as an adult. I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>any time I get my son to watch any time

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<v Speaker 1>we introduce him to a new film. Um, he does

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<v Speaker 1>not realize that the main character is going to make

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<v Speaker 1>it to the end of a children's film. Man, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I wish I could go back to that. That's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>I know it's it's at once uh amazing and frustrating,

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<v Speaker 1>because on one hand it's like, wow, he is experiencing

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<v Speaker 1>this film with such raw uh you know, vulnerability and

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<v Speaker 1>the other and then on the other side, it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>I just want you to be able to watch Muana

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<v Speaker 1>and uh and with the with the family. We just

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<v Speaker 1>want to make it to the end of this movie.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just a Disney princess movie. We should be able

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<v Speaker 1>to handle it, don't you dare take that magic away

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<v Speaker 1>from him? That No, that's a beautiful thing. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't believe it. I remember what that was like

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<v Speaker 1>back before I understood all of the like cliches of

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<v Speaker 1>story structure, when every when, every narrative was a radical

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<v Speaker 1>surprise to me. Things aren't quite like that anymore, and

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<v Speaker 1>I and I wish I could return to that mind state.

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<v Speaker 1>But anyway, Sorry, going back to Freud, so Freud notices

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<v Speaker 1>that the hero is always invulnerable by necessity of the plot,

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<v Speaker 1>and also the hero enjoys unrealistic good fortune in like

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<v Speaker 1>love and romance. So Freud writes, quote, through this revealing

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<v Speaker 1>characteristic of invulnerability, we can immediately recognize his majesty, the ego,

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<v Speaker 1>the hero alike of every day dream and every story.

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<v Speaker 1>It's probably telling about the kind of fiction I read.

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<v Speaker 1>But I can't remember the last time I read something

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<v Speaker 1>where the protagonist had great fortune in love in romance,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like, I feel like they're mostly having a

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<v Speaker 1>pretty bad time. Well, I think if you take the

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<v Speaker 1>long view, okay, when the stories resolve, there are a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of stories where people go through a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>tragedy and then in the end that everything comes out right.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, I'll get back to you on that. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna do a full cataloging of of recent reads for that.

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<v Speaker 1>What's your Freudian analysis of the ar Scott Baker books

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<v Speaker 1>that everybody has a pretty tough time with relationships. For

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<v Speaker 1>starters is something about death drive maybe maybe anyway, So

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<v Speaker 1>ultimately Freud gets Freudian right. He says that both the

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<v Speaker 1>daydream and the act of creative writing, which are really

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<v Speaker 1>sort of one and the same, thing realized through different means.

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<v Speaker 1>He says these are the result of unconscious memories which

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<v Speaker 1>give rise to an unfulfilled wish, and the wishes then

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<v Speaker 1>fulfilled through the daydream or the act of creative writing,

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<v Speaker 1>but in a way that is tempered about the social

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<v Speaker 1>and moral restraints imposed by society. This obviously is you know,

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<v Speaker 1>classic Freudian kind of stuff. But you don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>give any credence to this repressed childhood memory part, which

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<v Speaker 1>is probably nonsense to appreciate. There may be some insight

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<v Speaker 1>in the earlier parts about drawing this connection between the

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<v Speaker 1>creative process and what's going on in daydreaming. Oh, by

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<v Speaker 1>the way, if anyone would want, anyone wants like a

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<v Speaker 1>deeper exploration of like early childhood trauma and Freudian ideas. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>there's an older episode of stuff to blow your mind

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<v Speaker 1>about the work work of hr Geiger and some Freudian

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<v Speaker 1>explanations for his His visual style was Gieger or Freudian. Uh.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think it was quite a Freudian, but at

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<v Speaker 1>least one major commentator on his work was and pointed

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<v Speaker 1>to a lot and basically the the death and birth imagery. Uh.

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<v Speaker 1>That that that weird. Uh, you know, bio mechanical synthesis

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<v Speaker 1>of things that are both the vibrantly alive and just

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<v Speaker 1>unredeemably dead. Interesting. You know, I can actually see a

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<v Speaker 1>redemptive arc of of Freudiani is um maybe not so

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<v Speaker 1>much as a as the best tool for for psychology,

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<v Speaker 1>but maybe as like a literary and artistic criticism school. Well, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Like it comes back to what you said earlier about

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<v Speaker 1>Freud being perhaps more useful today if you think of

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<v Speaker 1>him as a philosopher and I and I do think

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<v Speaker 1>there's something to his insight here, like drawing this connection

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<v Speaker 1>between daydreaming and the creative impulse in order and and

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<v Speaker 1>and appreciating that the story spinning impulse, whether it's in

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<v Speaker 1>creative writing or simple daydreaming, is psychologically important, and it

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<v Speaker 1>does in many cases fill some psychological need and provide

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<v Speaker 1>some psychological benefit. But as we're exploring today, can spill

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<v Speaker 1>over into territory that's clearly not beneficial, such as in

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<v Speaker 1>the case of Kirk Allen, like we were talking about earlier,

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<v Speaker 1>where it was interfering with his work enough that his

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<v Speaker 1>superior has got in touch with Lindner, or in many

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<v Speaker 1>cases of what has come to be known as maladaptive

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<v Speaker 1>day dreaming. And we will explore that more when we

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<v Speaker 1>come back from break. Thank thank alright, we're back. So

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<v Speaker 1>now adaptive now adaptive daydreaming. It seems pretty obvious, right,

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<v Speaker 1>daydreaming that is uh, that is that is maladaptive. That

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<v Speaker 1>is that is probably not having a good influence on

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<v Speaker 1>your life. Things are out of balance because of your daydreaming. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a term coined by the Israeli clinical psychologist Elie Summer,

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<v Speaker 1>and Summer defines the term to mean quote, extensive fantasy

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<v Speaker 1>activity that replaces human interaction and or interferes with academic, interpersonal,

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<v Speaker 1>or vocational functioning. So essentially, it is fantasizing that interferes

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<v Speaker 1>with your life. And there's actually been kind of a

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<v Speaker 1>renaissance of attention to this subject just in the past

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<v Speaker 1>couple of years. Yeah, there's in particular, there's a there's

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<v Speaker 1>an excellent episode of the MPR podcast Invisibility. Uh have

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<v Speaker 1>you listened to in Visibilia? No? I haven't. Well, I

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<v Speaker 1>listened to a little clip from this episode, but that's all.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a wonderful series, and there's one episode in particular

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<v Speaker 1>that discusses the story of a forty nine year old

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<v Speaker 1>suburban mother who they referred to as em who's rich

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<v Speaker 1>in her world, becomes a secret addiction that she keeps

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<v Speaker 1>from her family. So she So it's not just that

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<v Speaker 1>she's escaping into her her day dreams, you know, while

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<v Speaker 1>she's driving to work, or while she's swimming laps or

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<v Speaker 1>what have you. Uh No, she's making up excuses and

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<v Speaker 1>cover stories to go off and dream in this world. Right. So,

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<v Speaker 1>so this is an adult living a mostly normal life,

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<v Speaker 1>but she engages in elaborate fantasies about space adventures and

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<v Speaker 1>saving the Earth and getting sucked into a black hole

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<v Speaker 1>and all this. And she's got fictional companions who are

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<v Speaker 1>her her fictional friends, and she sometimes does this for

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<v Speaker 1>multiple hours a day. And there's one part that I

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<v Speaker 1>found very moving where she mentions, one thing about these

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<v Speaker 1>fantasy worlds is that you know you're going to be

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<v Speaker 1>understood in them because all the characters are you. On

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<v Speaker 1>one hand, that's beautiful, but then I also I think

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<v Speaker 1>of like characters that I've created, and I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>most of them probably would not tolerate me. So I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if they really would understand me or not.

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<v Speaker 1>You need to create more sympathetic characters. Probably so, probably so.

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<v Speaker 1>So you can hear just from that that you know

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<v Speaker 1>that she she can go to this place to be understood.

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<v Speaker 1>So it obviously serves some purpose for her. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>it helps her cope and it helps her feel better

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<v Speaker 1>in a way. But it also you know, she wonders

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<v Speaker 1>if this is doing more harm than good in her life, right,

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<v Speaker 1>because if if you have to spend all this time

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<v Speaker 1>in secret doing this thing that you keep secret from

0:24:42.840 --> 0:24:45.919
<v Speaker 1>your family, I mean this, this is generally not healthy

0:24:46.000 --> 0:24:48.479
<v Speaker 1>behavior and it's going to lead to a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>negative effects. So what does it mean for daydreaming to

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<v Speaker 1>become a problem, a real problem, on the level of

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<v Speaker 1>a disorder that people would want to seek professional help

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<v Speaker 1>to cure. Rob And I don't know if you share

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<v Speaker 1>this bias, but I feel like in reading about the subject,

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<v Speaker 1>one of the things that's been really hard for me

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<v Speaker 1>to get around is a bias I have to think

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<v Speaker 1>about day dreaming as a just inherently very good and

0:25:14.080 --> 0:25:17.480
<v Speaker 1>admirable thing. Yeah, I agree, because I, for one am

0:25:17.480 --> 0:25:22.040
<v Speaker 1>a daydream believer, so I'm gonna always side with the

0:25:22.119 --> 0:25:24.639
<v Speaker 1>daydream I was just looking at a meme on the

0:25:24.640 --> 0:25:27.000
<v Speaker 1>Internet that was like has a unicorn on it and

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<v Speaker 1>it says, don't quit your daydream I mean, and that's

0:25:29.920 --> 0:25:34.239
<v Speaker 1>supposed to be a whimsical but encouraging thing to say. Like,

0:25:34.320 --> 0:25:38.840
<v Speaker 1>I associate daydreaming with the character trait of imagination, which

0:25:39.040 --> 0:25:41.200
<v Speaker 1>most of us view is a good thing. I certainly do.

0:25:41.560 --> 0:25:45.040
<v Speaker 1>And think about this, Robert. Imagine you're picking up a

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<v Speaker 1>new novel and there's a young character in the story

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<v Speaker 1>who's introduced as always daydreaming, daydreaming through classes in school

0:25:52.760 --> 0:25:55.360
<v Speaker 1>or something. Do you expect this character to turn out

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<v Speaker 1>to be a hero or a villain. I'd say they

0:25:57.840 --> 0:26:00.399
<v Speaker 1>are either the hero, or they are going about to

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<v Speaker 1>be tragically transformed into the villain, or they're just an

0:26:04.320 --> 0:26:07.000
<v Speaker 1>introductory character that's going to be killed by a villainous

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<v Speaker 1>force before we move on to the actual protagonists. Well,

0:26:10.000 --> 0:26:13.240
<v Speaker 1>no matter what you're they're sympathetic at this. Yes, definitely,

0:26:13.359 --> 0:26:17.359
<v Speaker 1>day day dream nous is an inherently sympathetic trait. But

0:26:17.400 --> 0:26:19.240
<v Speaker 1>I think this is because we usually think about it

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<v Speaker 1>in several contexts. Number One, it's primarily an activity of

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<v Speaker 1>children and the young. Would you agree with that, Yes,

0:26:26.080 --> 0:26:28.600
<v Speaker 1>If nothing else, that is often seen as you know,

0:26:28.640 --> 0:26:32.080
<v Speaker 1>it's sort of a childlike quality, right Yeah. Number two,

0:26:32.080 --> 0:26:34.639
<v Speaker 1>I'd say it's usually done in a positive sense of

0:26:34.680 --> 0:26:39.399
<v Speaker 1>aspiration and ambition. Like in fictional narratives, daydreaming about a

0:26:39.440 --> 0:26:43.600
<v Speaker 1>different kind of life is often foreshadowing that that character

0:26:43.720 --> 0:26:46.359
<v Speaker 1>will actually later get to do those things that they

0:26:46.400 --> 0:26:49.280
<v Speaker 1>day dreamed about. Number three. At least in fiction, it's

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<v Speaker 1>usually grounded within an otherwise functional set of relationships and

0:26:52.760 --> 0:26:55.760
<v Speaker 1>behavior patterns. It's not usually presented as something that keeps

0:26:55.800 --> 0:26:59.240
<v Speaker 1>people from doing what's right or having relationships right there,

0:26:59.320 --> 0:27:04.440
<v Speaker 1>daydreaming is their escape from there, from from their daily troubles. Yeah,

0:27:04.440 --> 0:27:06.520
<v Speaker 1>and that's the fourth part. The fourth part is that

0:27:06.560 --> 0:27:10.639
<v Speaker 1>it's usually brought about by unfair external constraints, Like a

0:27:10.760 --> 0:27:14.480
<v Speaker 1>child is in an intellectually deadening grammar class and it

0:27:14.600 --> 0:27:16.720
<v Speaker 1>and it causes that child to say, it's our young

0:27:16.760 --> 0:27:20.040
<v Speaker 1>heroine to sit there dreaming about, you know, shooting a

0:27:20.200 --> 0:27:22.480
<v Speaker 1>bow off the back of a horse or about space

0:27:22.480 --> 0:27:26.760
<v Speaker 1>adventures because she's in this horribly boring, mind numbing scenario.

0:27:27.280 --> 0:27:29.480
<v Speaker 1>I certainly feel all of this in general, and so

0:27:29.600 --> 0:27:31.760
<v Speaker 1>this is this episode is certainly not to cast a

0:27:31.800 --> 0:27:34.320
<v Speaker 1>negative light on all forms of daydreaming, because there are

0:27:34.320 --> 0:27:37.480
<v Speaker 1>clearly lots of cases where daydreaming is great, but there

0:27:37.480 --> 0:27:40.240
<v Speaker 1>are also plenty of cases we've come to understand where

0:27:40.320 --> 0:27:44.760
<v Speaker 1>daydreaming goes beyond a harmless exercise of imagination and it

0:27:44.840 --> 0:27:48.480
<v Speaker 1>becomes a destructive obsession, causing harm to the dreamer and

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<v Speaker 1>to the people around them. Yeah. I mean, I'd say

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<v Speaker 1>if daydreaming prevents one from being present when one should

0:27:56.119 --> 0:27:59.920
<v Speaker 1>be present, or when one wishes to be present, then

0:28:00.040 --> 0:28:02.119
<v Speaker 1>could certainly be seen as a problem. You know, I

0:28:02.119 --> 0:28:04.760
<v Speaker 1>think it's one of those, Uh, it could be viewed

0:28:04.760 --> 0:28:08.119
<v Speaker 1>as one of those chains of iron, chains of gold situations, Right, Like,

0:28:08.160 --> 0:28:10.280
<v Speaker 1>if you're not present with a loved one due to

0:28:10.320 --> 0:28:13.040
<v Speaker 1>worries over past or future events. That's one thing, But

0:28:13.240 --> 0:28:15.120
<v Speaker 1>isn't it still just as bad as you if you're

0:28:15.359 --> 0:28:18.960
<v Speaker 1>half zoning out during a conversation with a loved one

0:28:19.040 --> 0:28:21.280
<v Speaker 1>because there's a space battle going on in your head.

0:28:22.280 --> 0:28:24.080
<v Speaker 1>It's a fantasy, much in the same way that many

0:28:24.080 --> 0:28:28.520
<v Speaker 1>of our worries are ultimately fantasies about things going wrong. Yeah,

0:28:28.560 --> 0:28:30.880
<v Speaker 1>that's a that's a form of daydreaming as well. Yeah,

0:28:31.000 --> 0:28:34.640
<v Speaker 1>coupled with say, fantasy is about say winning the lottery

0:28:34.840 --> 0:28:38.080
<v Speaker 1>or finding This is when I still do all the time.

0:28:38.120 --> 0:28:41.280
<v Speaker 1>I think it's from from watching various like kidnapping movies.

0:28:42.040 --> 0:28:44.760
<v Speaker 1>But I'll think, what if I happened upon a garbage

0:28:44.760 --> 0:28:47.760
<v Speaker 1>can and there's like a like a drop off of

0:28:47.840 --> 0:28:50.320
<v Speaker 1>money in the garbage and then I get to take

0:28:50.320 --> 0:28:52.440
<v Speaker 1>off with the money and not of course I won't

0:28:52.440 --> 0:28:55.240
<v Speaker 1>be killed by the hitmen or the kidnappers or what

0:28:55.320 --> 0:28:58.200
<v Speaker 1>have you. Uh, surely I'll get away with the money

0:28:58.200 --> 0:29:00.080
<v Speaker 1>I just found in the trash can. But it's a

0:29:00.120 --> 0:29:03.840
<v Speaker 1>stupid fantasy that's still like, uh, you know, I don't

0:29:03.920 --> 0:29:06.120
<v Speaker 1>dwell on it, but it still flies through my head

0:29:06.840 --> 0:29:09.080
<v Speaker 1>every now and then two or three times a week tops.

0:29:11.000 --> 0:29:13.680
<v Speaker 1>You find yourself checking garbage can sometimes. I mean I

0:29:13.680 --> 0:29:16.520
<v Speaker 1>don't actually dig in them, but I you know, I

0:29:16.520 --> 0:29:18.840
<v Speaker 1>don't go looking for the money. But for some reason

0:29:19.080 --> 0:29:22.120
<v Speaker 1>lean and peak in a in a sense like this,

0:29:22.280 --> 0:29:25.520
<v Speaker 1>just this stupid fantasy will will will rear its head

0:29:25.600 --> 0:29:29.000
<v Speaker 1>for just a moment, uh, without me even you know,

0:29:29.080 --> 0:29:32.520
<v Speaker 1>really thinking about it. One thing I find is obviously

0:29:32.680 --> 0:29:36.880
<v Speaker 1>media influences what kinds of things we daydream about. Uh,

0:29:36.960 --> 0:29:40.720
<v Speaker 1>did you notice a lot of people, including yourself during

0:29:40.800 --> 0:29:45.200
<v Speaker 1>say the late two thousands, when zombie movies were everywhere,

0:29:45.920 --> 0:29:49.720
<v Speaker 1>constantly thinking about the best place to get to defend

0:29:49.840 --> 0:29:52.600
<v Speaker 1>from a zombie attack. Oh yeah, I mean that just

0:29:52.680 --> 0:29:57.680
<v Speaker 1>that falls into sort of h worst case disaster fantasizing. Yeah,

0:29:57.720 --> 0:29:59.440
<v Speaker 1>it's like, oh, I'd want to be on top of

0:29:59.640 --> 0:30:01.960
<v Speaker 1>that building right there, and here's what I'd want to

0:30:02.000 --> 0:30:06.560
<v Speaker 1>have with me, And mercifully the zombie craze has has

0:30:06.600 --> 0:30:08.800
<v Speaker 1>somewhat died down. I think people are thinking about that

0:30:08.880 --> 0:30:13.560
<v Speaker 1>kind of thing. Less, I'm still wondering Freudian explanations to

0:30:13.640 --> 0:30:15.920
<v Speaker 1>the side, like why do we do that? What's going

0:30:16.000 --> 0:30:18.719
<v Speaker 1>on in our brains when we day dream? Like, so

0:30:19.000 --> 0:30:21.080
<v Speaker 1>you're just hanging out, maybe waiting to meet a friend

0:30:21.160 --> 0:30:23.640
<v Speaker 1>or something like that, and then you start thinking, like,

0:30:23.960 --> 0:30:26.200
<v Speaker 1>what would be the best building around here to defend

0:30:26.240 --> 0:30:29.120
<v Speaker 1>from a zombie attack? What's what's going on in your brain?

0:30:29.280 --> 0:30:32.480
<v Speaker 1>Then well, this actually brings us back to something we've

0:30:32.480 --> 0:30:36.000
<v Speaker 1>discussed on the show plenty of times before, the default

0:30:36.040 --> 0:30:38.760
<v Speaker 1>mode network. I was looking at a two thousand, seventeen

0:30:38.800 --> 0:30:42.800
<v Speaker 1>University of Cambridge study that found that the brain network

0:30:42.880 --> 0:30:46.720
<v Speaker 1>previously associated with daydreaming, that the default mode network also

0:30:46.760 --> 0:30:49.600
<v Speaker 1>seemed to play a role, an important role in allowing

0:30:49.680 --> 0:30:54.520
<v Speaker 1>us to perform tasks on autopilot. Autopilot so like when

0:30:54.600 --> 0:30:58.760
<v Speaker 1>you are say, unconstabed that like highway hypnosis kind of thing, yeah,

0:30:58.920 --> 0:31:02.080
<v Speaker 1>or I'm yeah doing the dishwasher, you know, or taking

0:31:02.400 --> 0:31:05.400
<v Speaker 1>taking clothes to the taking the laundry to the washing machine,

0:31:05.440 --> 0:31:07.880
<v Speaker 1>that sort of thing. Things you've done so many times

0:31:07.920 --> 0:31:10.680
<v Speaker 1>that you just kind of zone out and you're thinking

0:31:10.680 --> 0:31:15.120
<v Speaker 1>about space battles or the lottery or what have you. Um.

0:31:15.440 --> 0:31:17.840
<v Speaker 1>The researchers here were also very interested in this because

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<v Speaker 1>abnormal activity in the default mode network has been linked

0:31:21.280 --> 0:31:26.760
<v Speaker 1>to an array of disorders, including Alzheimer's disease, schizophrenia, attention deficit,

0:31:26.880 --> 0:31:31.240
<v Speaker 1>hyperactivity disorder, and disorders of consciousness. And this study in

0:31:31.240 --> 0:31:34.640
<v Speaker 1>particular found that the default mode network plays an important

0:31:34.720 --> 0:31:37.640
<v Speaker 1>role in allowing us to switch to autopilot once we

0:31:37.680 --> 0:31:41.720
<v Speaker 1>are familiar with a task. So it seems fitting that

0:31:41.840 --> 0:31:45.560
<v Speaker 1>the default mode network should emerge again in an episode

0:31:45.560 --> 0:31:48.600
<v Speaker 1>on Daydreaming. We've discussed it quite a bit in the past,

0:31:48.640 --> 0:31:51.600
<v Speaker 1>as as is, this is where we find so much

0:31:51.600 --> 0:31:54.880
<v Speaker 1>of the worry and anxiety that we seek to escape

0:31:55.160 --> 0:31:59.080
<v Speaker 1>through flow states. Um, you know, such as a creative

0:31:59.120 --> 0:32:03.840
<v Speaker 1>activity like of writing or or would carving or yoga

0:32:03.960 --> 0:32:07.680
<v Speaker 1>or anything like like this, um, as well as through

0:32:08.000 --> 0:32:11.400
<v Speaker 1>meditation or you know, some other kind of meditative activity.

0:32:11.880 --> 0:32:14.920
<v Speaker 1>The default mode network activity is also linked to difficulty

0:32:15.080 --> 0:32:17.720
<v Speaker 1>in sleeping in new environments. You know, it's just kind

0:32:17.720 --> 0:32:19.960
<v Speaker 1>of totally find this to be true. Yeah, So you

0:32:20.000 --> 0:32:22.600
<v Speaker 1>have just like this heightened narrative of things that have

0:32:22.760 --> 0:32:25.600
<v Speaker 1>gone wrong and things that might go wrong. And I

0:32:25.640 --> 0:32:29.920
<v Speaker 1>feel like myself especially, so much of my my life

0:32:29.960 --> 0:32:33.120
<v Speaker 1>comes down to trying to to turn that that the

0:32:33.200 --> 0:32:36.480
<v Speaker 1>volume down on that network. You never get a good

0:32:36.560 --> 0:32:40.480
<v Speaker 1>night's sleep the first time you're somewhere new. Yeah. Furthermore,

0:32:40.680 --> 0:32:43.920
<v Speaker 1>Daniel Koneman proposed in his book Thinking Fast and Slow

0:32:44.080 --> 0:32:46.800
<v Speaker 1>that we use two systems to make decisions, a rational

0:32:46.800 --> 0:32:51.080
<v Speaker 1>system for calculated decisions and a fast system for intuitive decisions.

0:32:51.480 --> 0:32:54.840
<v Speaker 1>And this Cambridge study argued that it's the latter system,

0:32:54.920 --> 0:32:57.800
<v Speaker 1>the fast system, that may be linked with the default

0:32:57.800 --> 0:33:00.960
<v Speaker 1>mode network. So it sounds as if dreaming is kind

0:33:00.960 --> 0:33:03.440
<v Speaker 1>of a it's kind of a mistake of cognition, right.

0:33:03.600 --> 0:33:06.800
<v Speaker 1>A byproduct of it, at any rate are predictive software

0:33:06.840 --> 0:33:10.000
<v Speaker 1>to envision not only extreme cases of joy or horror,

0:33:10.320 --> 0:33:15.080
<v Speaker 1>but impossible fantasies. Fantasies they may not even involve us,

0:33:15.280 --> 0:33:19.800
<v Speaker 1>you know. But that's now that's considering standard daydreaming, which,

0:33:19.840 --> 0:33:23.880
<v Speaker 1>as we've discussed, is extremely common. I mean, almost everybody

0:33:23.920 --> 0:33:25.920
<v Speaker 1>does it. Just to cite a couple of figures on that.

0:33:26.080 --> 0:33:28.440
<v Speaker 1>For one thing, in the book day Dreaming in nineteen

0:33:28.520 --> 0:33:32.960
<v Speaker 1>sixty six, Singer reported that nine percent of normal, non

0:33:32.960 --> 0:33:36.240
<v Speaker 1>clinical adults who were educated and living in the United

0:33:36.280 --> 0:33:39.680
<v Speaker 1>States day daydreamed at least every day. And so that

0:33:39.720 --> 0:33:42.200
<v Speaker 1>kind of thing happens most when the person is alone. Right,

0:33:42.280 --> 0:33:44.680
<v Speaker 1>you are, say, laying in bed at night, getting ready

0:33:44.760 --> 0:33:47.240
<v Speaker 1>to go to sleep, and you start to daydream. You imagine,

0:33:47.640 --> 0:33:52.640
<v Speaker 1>you know, scenarios, you imagine fantasies, Your mind wanders, oh wow,

0:33:52.680 --> 0:33:55.120
<v Speaker 1>well mind mind does it far more often than that? Well,

0:33:55.160 --> 0:33:58.640
<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, yeah, but I meant nine percent of people

0:33:58.880 --> 0:34:02.040
<v Speaker 1>at least do this one a day. Um, And there

0:34:02.120 --> 0:34:04.440
<v Speaker 1>there's some evidence that it happens even more often. There's

0:34:04.440 --> 0:34:07.160
<v Speaker 1>a really good article in the Atlantic from that I'll

0:34:07.200 --> 0:34:09.279
<v Speaker 1>come back to a few times in this episode, called

0:34:09.320 --> 0:34:13.239
<v Speaker 1>When Daydreaming Replaces Real Life by Jane Biggelson, and Tina

0:34:13.360 --> 0:34:18.000
<v Speaker 1>Kelly from its April and the authors there speak to

0:34:18.120 --> 0:34:21.520
<v Speaker 1>a University of Minnesota psychologist named Eric Klinger who has

0:34:21.560 --> 0:34:24.600
<v Speaker 1>done a lot of important research on mind wandering, fantasy,

0:34:24.640 --> 0:34:28.759
<v Speaker 1>and daydreaming, and Clinger says that quote, daydreaming accounts for

0:34:28.840 --> 0:34:33.080
<v Speaker 1>about half of the average person's thoughts, amounting to about

0:34:33.080 --> 0:34:36.879
<v Speaker 1>two thousand segments a day. Oh wow, that's that's quite

0:34:36.920 --> 0:34:38.600
<v Speaker 1>a lot. Does that match with your number? I mean,

0:34:38.680 --> 0:34:41.319
<v Speaker 1>try to think about how many times a day do

0:34:41.400 --> 0:34:45.759
<v Speaker 1>you find yourself daydreaming? I mean the the like, the

0:34:45.800 --> 0:34:48.040
<v Speaker 1>really critical way of putting this is that we are

0:34:48.200 --> 0:34:52.759
<v Speaker 1>off task like half the time? Right, Yeah, do you

0:34:52.800 --> 0:34:55.000
<v Speaker 1>ever find yourself daydreaming while you're sitting right here in

0:34:55.040 --> 0:34:59.680
<v Speaker 1>the podcast studio? And I'm talking it's generally less daydreamed.

0:34:59.719 --> 0:35:03.160
<v Speaker 1>I feel if my mind drifts during podcasting, it's more

0:35:03.200 --> 0:35:09.959
<v Speaker 1>like worry based, you know, like I mean a bad kind.

0:35:10.800 --> 0:35:12.640
<v Speaker 1>So but I'm not I'm I'm not going to think

0:35:12.640 --> 0:35:15.360
<v Speaker 1>about space battles because ultimately our show is the space

0:35:15.400 --> 0:35:18.200
<v Speaker 1>battle show. Like this, this is a this, this show

0:35:18.280 --> 0:35:21.680
<v Speaker 1>is an escape. So Robert, you're gonna make me cry,

0:35:21.960 --> 0:35:25.200
<v Speaker 1>warming my heart over here. But the podcast booth is

0:35:25.200 --> 0:35:28.360
<v Speaker 1>not airtight. The worries in the fear is still managed

0:35:28.400 --> 0:35:33.080
<v Speaker 1>to creep them. Well, obviously there's no way to totally

0:35:33.120 --> 0:35:35.680
<v Speaker 1>keep them out. And that's one thing. I mean, one

0:35:35.719 --> 0:35:39.280
<v Speaker 1>difference that I'm already seeing here is the difference between

0:35:40.160 --> 0:35:44.080
<v Speaker 1>the idea of fleeting mind wandering and moments of daydreaming.

0:35:44.120 --> 0:35:46.200
<v Speaker 1>I mean, if if a person is having about two

0:35:46.200 --> 0:35:49.800
<v Speaker 1>thousand segments of day dreaming a day, those can't last

0:35:49.960 --> 0:35:53.480
<v Speaker 1>very long, just by the math of time, right, I mean,

0:35:53.520 --> 0:35:55.160
<v Speaker 1>it's it's kind of like the money and the garbage

0:35:55.160 --> 0:35:59.040
<v Speaker 1>can like daydreams that are they're regular, but they're just

0:35:59.120 --> 0:36:02.160
<v Speaker 1>so flee eating that you you don't it's almost like

0:36:02.200 --> 0:36:05.360
<v Speaker 1>they're not even occurring. They're they're really just like background static.

0:36:05.520 --> 0:36:07.200
<v Speaker 1>But when we think back to the story of m

0:36:07.400 --> 0:36:08.560
<v Speaker 1>or to some of the people that we're going to

0:36:08.600 --> 0:36:12.000
<v Speaker 1>talk about in a minute, um, it's clear that they're

0:36:12.040 --> 0:36:15.239
<v Speaker 1>not just having like a moment of a fleeting day

0:36:15.360 --> 0:36:17.600
<v Speaker 1>dream that comes for a second and then goes and

0:36:17.600 --> 0:36:20.000
<v Speaker 1>then comes back a few minutes later and goes again.

0:36:20.400 --> 0:36:26.520
<v Speaker 1>They are having prolonged, involved, continuous fantasies that's spin out

0:36:26.560 --> 0:36:29.160
<v Speaker 1>at that that spin out stories that have some sense

0:36:29.200 --> 0:36:33.760
<v Speaker 1>of continuity and that they engage in in a sustained way.

0:36:34.200 --> 0:36:37.040
<v Speaker 1>So I think that's a kind of important and interesting difference,

0:36:37.040 --> 0:36:38.759
<v Speaker 1>and and maybe we can think more about that as

0:36:38.800 --> 0:36:40.719
<v Speaker 1>we go on. But I mean, one of the things

0:36:40.760 --> 0:36:43.120
<v Speaker 1>we should take away from this is that everybody day dreams.

0:36:43.280 --> 0:36:45.759
<v Speaker 1>Normal people do it quite a bit. There's nothing pathological

0:36:45.800 --> 0:36:49.360
<v Speaker 1>at all about daydreaming. So there's really nothing abnormal about

0:36:49.560 --> 0:36:53.120
<v Speaker 1>some amount of it, provided that it is really daydreaming

0:36:53.120 --> 0:36:56.319
<v Speaker 1>and not some form of hallucination or something like that.

0:36:56.960 --> 0:37:00.919
<v Speaker 1>I mean, normal daydreaming is a fantasy that subject can

0:37:00.920 --> 0:37:05.040
<v Speaker 1>clearly distinguish from reality. If you can't tell the difference

0:37:05.480 --> 0:37:08.520
<v Speaker 1>between your fantasy and reality, then something else is going on,

0:37:08.640 --> 0:37:10.879
<v Speaker 1>and you definitely have grounds for seeking a mental health

0:37:10.880 --> 0:37:14.080
<v Speaker 1>professionals help. Right, the situation with m is not that

0:37:14.160 --> 0:37:17.279
<v Speaker 1>she finds these things the daydream is reality. She just

0:37:18.040 --> 0:37:20.480
<v Speaker 1>prefers it to reality. But if it is really just

0:37:20.600 --> 0:37:24.160
<v Speaker 1>daydreaming clearly delineated from reality, it's also important that it

0:37:24.160 --> 0:37:27.040
<v Speaker 1>doesn't occur in a way that's injurious to your way

0:37:27.040 --> 0:37:29.239
<v Speaker 1>of life or to the lives of others around you.

0:37:29.360 --> 0:37:32.080
<v Speaker 1>And we'll come back to that in a bit. So

0:37:32.120 --> 0:37:34.520
<v Speaker 1>One of the things that's interesting about the recent attention

0:37:34.600 --> 0:37:38.359
<v Speaker 1>on maladaptive daydreaming is just the fact that we went

0:37:38.520 --> 0:37:43.600
<v Speaker 1>so long with so little psychological recognition of the possibility

0:37:43.680 --> 0:37:47.000
<v Speaker 1>that excessive daydreaming could be a disorder that caused suffering

0:37:47.040 --> 0:37:50.400
<v Speaker 1>in people's lives. Probably the first major work on maladaptive

0:37:50.480 --> 0:37:53.680
<v Speaker 1>daydreaming was in the Journal of Contemporary Psychotherapy in two

0:37:53.719 --> 0:37:57.520
<v Speaker 1>thousand two, mentioned earlier by by Elie Summer, called maladaptive

0:37:57.600 --> 0:38:02.480
<v Speaker 1>daydreaming a qualitative inquiry, and Summer rites first about Freud's thoughts,

0:38:02.480 --> 0:38:05.480
<v Speaker 1>which we talked about earlier, that daydreaming is this attempted

0:38:05.520 --> 0:38:08.960
<v Speaker 1>solution to a deprivation state that you know, it's a

0:38:08.960 --> 0:38:12.840
<v Speaker 1>form of wish fulfillment that's moderated by all these constraints

0:38:12.880 --> 0:38:15.759
<v Speaker 1>that society puts on you. But then, of course the

0:38:15.800 --> 0:38:18.799
<v Speaker 1>idea developed. You've got Hartman and fifty eight saying that

0:38:19.120 --> 0:38:23.000
<v Speaker 1>maybe fantasies serve some kind of actual adaptive function in

0:38:23.040 --> 0:38:26.200
<v Speaker 1>the organism. You've got Eric Klinger, who we mentioned a

0:38:26.200 --> 0:38:30.520
<v Speaker 1>minute ago, talking about how often people spend fantasizing, or

0:38:30.560 --> 0:38:33.719
<v Speaker 1>how much time a day people spend fantasizing. Clinger said

0:38:33.760 --> 0:38:37.000
<v Speaker 1>he found in his research that most fantasies, including both

0:38:37.040 --> 0:38:42.239
<v Speaker 1>sleeping dreams and daydreams, primarily involve current concerns, you know,

0:38:42.440 --> 0:38:45.160
<v Speaker 1>stuff that you're thinking about right now. So like you're

0:38:45.200 --> 0:38:48.719
<v Speaker 1>probably more likely, you know, not dreaming about space adventures,

0:38:48.719 --> 0:38:52.120
<v Speaker 1>but about what's in your email, yeah, or perhaps say

0:38:53.000 --> 0:38:57.080
<v Speaker 1>your your evening plans, daydreaming about that or particular video

0:38:57.160 --> 0:38:59.960
<v Speaker 1>game or film you're looking forward to right yeah. Or

0:39:00.160 --> 0:39:04.719
<v Speaker 1>interpersonal conflicts that's a big one. How common is that

0:39:04.880 --> 0:39:09.600
<v Speaker 1>dream of I'm having an argument with Jeffrey finally, and

0:39:09.640 --> 0:39:12.400
<v Speaker 1>here's what I would really tell him. See now, this

0:39:12.440 --> 0:39:15.360
<v Speaker 1>is an area where I feel like it's still daydreaming,

0:39:15.400 --> 0:39:20.040
<v Speaker 1>but one might easily categorize it more as simply worrying

0:39:20.120 --> 0:39:22.960
<v Speaker 1>and rehearsing for strife. You know, That's what a lot

0:39:22.960 --> 0:39:26.200
<v Speaker 1>of what daydreaming is, and like imagining scenarios is a

0:39:26.239 --> 0:39:29.040
<v Speaker 1>way of thinking about what you should do. But people

0:39:29.280 --> 0:39:31.520
<v Speaker 1>when when they talk when they talk about daydreams sort

0:39:31.520 --> 0:39:34.040
<v Speaker 1>of that they're very positive spin on it, you know,

0:39:34.040 --> 0:39:36.000
<v Speaker 1>where they say, oh that that Dan, he's such a

0:39:36.120 --> 0:39:39.399
<v Speaker 1>he's such a daydreamer. Nobody's thinking, oh that Dan, he's

0:39:39.440 --> 0:39:42.520
<v Speaker 1>just always trying to think up what he would say

0:39:42.520 --> 0:39:45.360
<v Speaker 1>if he had the courage to, you know, confront his

0:39:45.440 --> 0:39:48.120
<v Speaker 1>boss or something. Right, Yeah, that's that's the good dan.

0:39:48.200 --> 0:39:50.439
<v Speaker 1>The dan we like is the one who's daydreaming about

0:39:50.520 --> 0:39:53.839
<v Speaker 1>swash buckling on Mars and you know, flying flying around

0:39:53.880 --> 0:39:57.040
<v Speaker 1>the ridges of Phobos. The dan you do not like

0:39:57.239 --> 0:39:59.600
<v Speaker 1>is the one who's thinking, like, here's what I should

0:39:59.600 --> 0:40:01.880
<v Speaker 1>have said to Jeffrey. I should have told him that.

0:40:02.600 --> 0:40:04.640
<v Speaker 1>But I know that is a common thing. I know

0:40:04.719 --> 0:40:07.399
<v Speaker 1>people all the time or thinking about either what they

0:40:07.440 --> 0:40:09.920
<v Speaker 1>would say if they had the guts to, or what

0:40:10.000 --> 0:40:12.840
<v Speaker 1>they should have said in that argument they had yesterday,

0:40:13.040 --> 0:40:15.840
<v Speaker 1>earlier today, and that at least it can be in

0:40:15.880 --> 0:40:18.480
<v Speaker 1>a in the short term now adaptive for a lot

0:40:18.520 --> 0:40:20.560
<v Speaker 1>of us, you know. I mean, you have like something

0:40:21.120 --> 0:40:24.160
<v Speaker 1>kisses you off. The next day, it can be difficult

0:40:24.200 --> 0:40:26.080
<v Speaker 1>to focus on the things you need to focus on,

0:40:26.200 --> 0:40:27.880
<v Speaker 1>or to be present when you need to be present,

0:40:28.320 --> 0:40:32.720
<v Speaker 1>because you're just running the same dialogue through your head. Well,

0:40:32.760 --> 0:40:36.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, I actually have a kind of counterintuitive view

0:40:36.080 --> 0:40:39.480
<v Speaker 1>about the virtues of venting. People often talk about how

0:40:39.520 --> 0:40:41.040
<v Speaker 1>they had a bad day at work and they need

0:40:41.080 --> 0:40:43.080
<v Speaker 1>to vent, you know, and that's like I need to

0:40:43.160 --> 0:40:45.120
<v Speaker 1>just let off all the steam and talk about it.

0:40:45.640 --> 0:40:49.640
<v Speaker 1>I noticed that in myself and in other people, venting

0:40:49.880 --> 0:40:54.320
<v Speaker 1>very frequently does not alleviate frustrations but makes them worse

0:40:54.800 --> 0:40:57.120
<v Speaker 1>because you just get to talking about it, and then

0:40:57.120 --> 0:40:59.319
<v Speaker 1>you keep talking about it, and it makes you more

0:40:59.400 --> 0:41:01.840
<v Speaker 1>obsessed with the issue then you would have been otherwise.

0:41:02.719 --> 0:41:04.960
<v Speaker 1>What it makes me think of the scene in Poltergeist too,

0:41:05.120 --> 0:41:08.680
<v Speaker 1>where um, the dad coughs up the awful Giger creature

0:41:08.680 --> 0:41:10.759
<v Speaker 1>and then it crawls off, Like that's what I feel like.

0:41:10.800 --> 0:41:13.080
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes venting feels like it's like, oh, it's out of me,

0:41:13.239 --> 0:41:15.880
<v Speaker 1>but now it's out of me, and it's disgusting and horrifying.

0:41:16.120 --> 0:41:18.600
<v Speaker 1>Way to go. It's under the bed. Well, I think

0:41:18.640 --> 0:41:20.560
<v Speaker 1>if you're going to vent, I think you should try

0:41:20.560 --> 0:41:22.440
<v Speaker 1>to keep it short. You know, you should say what

0:41:22.480 --> 0:41:24.279
<v Speaker 1>you got to say, but don't dwell on it. If

0:41:24.280 --> 0:41:26.359
<v Speaker 1>you're dwell on it, it's it's just worse for you.

0:41:26.560 --> 0:41:31.400
<v Speaker 1>So pinch off that Giger and you know venting, Yeah,

0:41:31.680 --> 0:41:34.920
<v Speaker 1>that's all right, let her go. But then okay, so

0:41:35.080 --> 0:41:38.279
<v Speaker 1>back back to Summer. So Summer's chronicling the history of

0:41:38.320 --> 0:41:41.680
<v Speaker 1>this idea before before we get to maladaptive daydreaming, itself,

0:41:41.719 --> 0:41:44.720
<v Speaker 1>and in and eighty three he points out how Wilson

0:41:44.760 --> 0:41:47.440
<v Speaker 1>and Barber discovered there's this group of people that they

0:41:47.440 --> 0:41:51.480
<v Speaker 1>class as what are called fantasy prone personalities who were

0:41:51.520 --> 0:41:54.879
<v Speaker 1>avid day dreamers, and these people tended to quote live

0:41:54.960 --> 0:41:57.600
<v Speaker 1>much of their time in a world of their own making,

0:41:57.880 --> 0:42:01.359
<v Speaker 1>in a world of imagery, imagination, and fantasy. So these

0:42:01.360 --> 0:42:03.920
<v Speaker 1>people sort of have the ability to like pick a

0:42:04.000 --> 0:42:06.680
<v Speaker 1>theme and not just think about it a little bit,

0:42:06.719 --> 0:42:11.319
<v Speaker 1>but watch a scenario unfold in their imagination almost with

0:42:11.400 --> 0:42:14.279
<v Speaker 1>the same kind of continuous quality as a person would

0:42:14.320 --> 0:42:18.120
<v Speaker 1>watch a movie. They estimated that this group of fantasy

0:42:18.160 --> 0:42:21.560
<v Speaker 1>prone people with sort of high fantasizing capabilities is about

0:42:21.640 --> 0:42:25.000
<v Speaker 1>four percent of the general population, or up to four percent.

0:42:25.360 --> 0:42:28.719
<v Speaker 1>Other studies on fantasy proneness found somewhat similar numbers, maybe

0:42:28.719 --> 0:42:31.640
<v Speaker 1>between four percent and six percent of people, but also

0:42:31.719 --> 0:42:35.600
<v Speaker 1>found some interesting correlations. Fantasy prone adults had often been

0:42:35.680 --> 0:42:39.200
<v Speaker 1>encouraged to fantasize by a significant adult in their lives

0:42:39.200 --> 0:42:43.160
<v Speaker 1>when they were younger, and also uh fantasy proneness is

0:42:43.200 --> 0:42:47.239
<v Speaker 1>correlated with aversive childhood environments, with some studies finding that

0:42:47.560 --> 0:42:49.799
<v Speaker 1>though it's about four to six percent maybe in the

0:42:49.840 --> 0:42:52.880
<v Speaker 1>general population, it was at a rate of maybe nine

0:42:52.960 --> 0:42:56.480
<v Speaker 1>to fourteen percent in people with the history of childhood abuse.

0:42:56.960 --> 0:42:59.360
<v Speaker 1>And this sort of goes along, you know, in a

0:42:59.480 --> 0:43:01.760
<v Speaker 1>in a limit, it did way with the Freudian idea,

0:43:01.880 --> 0:43:05.600
<v Speaker 1>right that if you had some kind of inversive environment

0:43:05.640 --> 0:43:08.120
<v Speaker 1>when you were a child, you had some kind of

0:43:08.719 --> 0:43:10.960
<v Speaker 1>thing that you wanted to get through, you didn't want

0:43:11.000 --> 0:43:13.800
<v Speaker 1>to be present in the unpleasant reality you were living,

0:43:14.040 --> 0:43:17.240
<v Speaker 1>you would learn to come up with fantasy environments to cope.

0:43:18.000 --> 0:43:20.440
<v Speaker 1>And they also found that fantasizers were more prone to

0:43:20.520 --> 0:43:23.600
<v Speaker 1>depression and other issues. And we should we should be

0:43:23.640 --> 0:43:26.960
<v Speaker 1>clear that fantasy proneness is not necessarily the same thing

0:43:27.000 --> 0:43:29.960
<v Speaker 1>as maladaptive daydreaming, because there could be people who are

0:43:30.000 --> 0:43:33.560
<v Speaker 1>prone to fantasies, but it doesn't necessarily interfere with their lives.

0:43:33.880 --> 0:43:36.640
<v Speaker 1>And of course, when we're talking about ed adversary and trauma,

0:43:37.040 --> 0:43:39.960
<v Speaker 1>I mean it's it's not necessarily just like a situation

0:43:40.000 --> 0:43:43.840
<v Speaker 1>of like physical abuse, right, but just say, um, yeah,

0:43:43.880 --> 0:43:46.520
<v Speaker 1>you know problems at school or we have we always

0:43:46.520 --> 0:43:50.799
<v Speaker 1>have to remember how how difficult say a move can be. Uh,

0:43:51.680 --> 0:43:53.480
<v Speaker 1>family picks up and moves from one suited the other,

0:43:53.520 --> 0:43:57.400
<v Speaker 1>you know, changing schools, etcetera. Yeah, exactly, or social problems,

0:43:57.440 --> 0:44:01.120
<v Speaker 1>social isolation, um, any kind of family problems. I mean,

0:44:01.160 --> 0:44:04.600
<v Speaker 1>I think things like that can drive a child inward

0:44:05.000 --> 0:44:07.680
<v Speaker 1>and and send them to their inner resources. I mean,

0:44:07.719 --> 0:44:10.799
<v Speaker 1>I know, as you've probably described, I mean you've had

0:44:10.800 --> 0:44:13.000
<v Speaker 1>experiences like this, right, oh yeah, yeah, like you know,

0:44:13.040 --> 0:44:15.160
<v Speaker 1>moving from one school to another, of being an example,

0:44:15.280 --> 0:44:18.239
<v Speaker 1>or being in a school where you basically all of

0:44:18.280 --> 0:44:21.640
<v Speaker 1>middle school. I think this can Middle school was definitely

0:44:21.680 --> 0:44:24.960
<v Speaker 1>a time that drove me inward in a way that

0:44:25.120 --> 0:44:29.359
<v Speaker 1>I probably never quite returned from. Middle schoolers really are

0:44:29.400 --> 0:44:33.600
<v Speaker 1>the worst that is, like the worst age of humanity. Now,

0:44:33.640 --> 0:44:36.240
<v Speaker 1>another strain of research that emerged in the twentieth century

0:44:36.280 --> 0:44:39.279
<v Speaker 1>was that while healthy people use daydreaming to kind of

0:44:39.320 --> 0:44:43.480
<v Speaker 1>work through problems or to enhance good feelings, distressed people

0:44:43.520 --> 0:44:46.960
<v Speaker 1>can often enter into a kind of negative feedback loop

0:44:47.040 --> 0:44:49.239
<v Speaker 1>with daydreams in a lot of the same ways that

0:44:49.239 --> 0:44:52.400
<v Speaker 1>you could see other addictions coming into playing people's lives,

0:44:52.400 --> 0:44:57.200
<v Speaker 1>where the excessive day dreaming causes them to feel weak

0:44:57.400 --> 0:45:01.240
<v Speaker 1>or inadequate or generally bad about their lives for various reasons.

0:45:01.239 --> 0:45:03.399
<v Speaker 1>They might be you know, missing out on things that

0:45:03.520 --> 0:45:06.560
<v Speaker 1>it's causing them problems, and then the problems in their

0:45:06.600 --> 0:45:08.919
<v Speaker 1>lives are driving them to want a day dream more

0:45:09.080 --> 0:45:11.640
<v Speaker 1>so they can escape from their lives. It reminds me

0:45:11.719 --> 0:45:16.000
<v Speaker 1>the line and the Warren Zevon song Splendid Isolation. We're saying, Mickey,

0:45:16.000 --> 0:45:18.240
<v Speaker 1>take my hand and lead me through the world of self.

0:45:18.840 --> 0:45:22.160
<v Speaker 1>WHOA what albums that on? Was that the eighties? Oh?

0:45:22.200 --> 0:45:24.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure when I got into the Zevon I

0:45:24.800 --> 0:45:27.759
<v Speaker 1>was the greatest hits album? Uh oh, I see it.

0:45:27.840 --> 0:45:30.759
<v Speaker 1>So I'm not exactly sure where one finds that in

0:45:30.880 --> 0:45:33.839
<v Speaker 1>its original form. You're one of those Yvon posers. You're

0:45:33.840 --> 0:45:38.920
<v Speaker 1>one of those those are sadly sadly uh so. So

0:45:39.080 --> 0:45:42.240
<v Speaker 1>clearly there are different kinds of daydreaming right there, people

0:45:42.239 --> 0:45:44.840
<v Speaker 1>with different levels of proneness. For some people it helps,

0:45:44.880 --> 0:45:47.439
<v Speaker 1>for some people it hurts. And so Summer was trying

0:45:47.440 --> 0:45:49.960
<v Speaker 1>to get a flavor of what this was like when

0:45:49.960 --> 0:45:54.120
<v Speaker 1>people claim to experience maladaptive daydreaming symptoms, and so he

0:45:54.200 --> 0:45:57.440
<v Speaker 1>used a qualitative methodology to assess people who presented with

0:45:57.480 --> 0:46:00.720
<v Speaker 1>what seemed to be negative patterns of daydreaming, which again

0:46:00.760 --> 0:46:04.439
<v Speaker 1>he coined this term maladaptive daydreaming. And so here here's

0:46:04.440 --> 0:46:08.640
<v Speaker 1>what he found common themes of daydreaming tended to be violence,

0:46:09.000 --> 0:46:15.160
<v Speaker 1>idealized self power and control, captivity, rescue and escape, and

0:46:15.320 --> 0:46:18.239
<v Speaker 1>sexual arousal. And I think that's kind of interesting because

0:46:18.239 --> 0:46:20.319
<v Speaker 1>it's strange how much it sounds like a list of

0:46:20.320 --> 0:46:23.960
<v Speaker 1>the most common themes and adventure stories. Yeah. I mean,

0:46:24.000 --> 0:46:27.279
<v Speaker 1>basically the that list could be the narrative flow of

0:46:27.320 --> 0:46:31.359
<v Speaker 1>a swashbuckling tale, uh huh. And then common functions he

0:46:31.440 --> 0:46:36.600
<v Speaker 1>identified apparently were disengagement from stress and pain by mood

0:46:36.719 --> 0:46:40.279
<v Speaker 1>enhancement and wish fulfillment fantasies. And then the other main

0:46:40.320 --> 0:46:44.520
<v Speaker 1>one was for companionship, intimacy and soothing. So he they

0:46:44.520 --> 0:46:46.400
<v Speaker 1>are all kinds of examples that he cites in his

0:46:46.440 --> 0:46:48.560
<v Speaker 1>paper from the interviews, I just picked a couple of

0:46:48.600 --> 0:46:51.319
<v Speaker 1>the more vivid ones to mention. Not all of them

0:46:51.320 --> 0:46:54.239
<v Speaker 1>are this action movie like, but I want to read

0:46:54.280 --> 0:46:57.520
<v Speaker 1>one of the quotes. Quote. I used to imagine America

0:46:57.640 --> 0:47:00.839
<v Speaker 1>and the West at war against the Communist lock. There

0:47:00.840 --> 0:47:04.720
<v Speaker 1>were bombardments, shelling, marine landings, and hand to hand battles

0:47:04.719 --> 0:47:08.120
<v Speaker 1>in which the Communists would have many casualties. I imagine

0:47:08.160 --> 0:47:11.000
<v Speaker 1>that my hometown is in ruins and under occupation, and

0:47:11.040 --> 0:47:14.400
<v Speaker 1>I am fighting a guerrilla war with the underground. Sometimes

0:47:14.440 --> 0:47:16.920
<v Speaker 1>I imagine myself fighting the guerrillas as part of the

0:47:16.920 --> 0:47:20.560
<v Speaker 1>occupying forces. I often imagine myself as a soldier in

0:47:20.600 --> 0:47:24.200
<v Speaker 1>battle against terrorists. I kill scores of them. The shooting

0:47:24.239 --> 0:47:28.920
<v Speaker 1>fantasies relieve my tension. It sounds like red Dawn, yeah, basically,

0:47:29.040 --> 0:47:31.879
<v Speaker 1>and it also reminds me of these the zombie apocalypse

0:47:31.920 --> 0:47:35.319
<v Speaker 1>fantasies we discussed earlier right, which can clearly serve as

0:47:35.320 --> 0:47:38.680
<v Speaker 1>a form of mental empowerment and escape. Right and then also,

0:47:38.719 --> 0:47:42.319
<v Speaker 1>like both of these examples, a simpler worldview and which

0:47:42.680 --> 0:47:48.000
<v Speaker 1>clearly defined lines of good and bad, of of of enemy,

0:47:48.040 --> 0:47:50.840
<v Speaker 1>and ally. Here's another one quote. I am seated on

0:47:50.880 --> 0:47:53.560
<v Speaker 1>the field of a football stadium, surrounded with barbed wire.

0:47:53.880 --> 0:47:56.319
<v Speaker 1>I am chosen by the prisoners to negotiate with the

0:47:56.360 --> 0:47:59.960
<v Speaker 1>captors because she is known to be an emotionally disassociate

0:48:00.000 --> 0:48:05.040
<v Speaker 1>ated person, hence not susceptible to psychological pressure. I am

0:48:05.080 --> 0:48:07.880
<v Speaker 1>allowed to walk toward a desk with two chairs and

0:48:07.920 --> 0:48:10.480
<v Speaker 1>sitting in the bigger one. My opponent is putting forth

0:48:10.560 --> 0:48:13.439
<v Speaker 1>his demands and threatens me with a gun. I pour

0:48:13.520 --> 0:48:16.280
<v Speaker 1>myself a hot drink and sit from it with stable hands,

0:48:16.320 --> 0:48:18.640
<v Speaker 1>smile at him and tell him that I am suicidal,

0:48:18.840 --> 0:48:21.600
<v Speaker 1>so he cannot threaten me with anything because I've got

0:48:21.640 --> 0:48:24.759
<v Speaker 1>nothing to lose. He realizes he lost the bargaining, and

0:48:24.800 --> 0:48:28.000
<v Speaker 1>I give the sign for the insurrection to begin. From

0:48:28.040 --> 0:48:30.799
<v Speaker 1>now on, it's like a Hollywood action movie with explosion,

0:48:30.960 --> 0:48:34.120
<v Speaker 1>smoke and lots of blood. Although I am wounded, I

0:48:34.239 --> 0:48:37.040
<v Speaker 1>managed to free most of the prisoners and I leave

0:48:37.120 --> 0:48:39.200
<v Speaker 1>them to safety. I love this because I get a

0:48:39.239 --> 0:48:44.080
<v Speaker 1>real Garth Marenghee dark place five from it. Blood, blood

0:48:44.360 --> 0:48:49.000
<v Speaker 1>and bits of the sick. It's such a great, great show. Now.

0:48:49.040 --> 0:48:51.839
<v Speaker 1>One of the really interesting things that I've found when

0:48:51.880 --> 0:48:55.760
<v Speaker 1>reading about maladaptive daydreaming, and that's reported in this study,

0:48:55.800 --> 0:48:58.719
<v Speaker 1>but then also in some others, is that there are

0:48:58.800 --> 0:49:03.400
<v Speaker 1>some common pros sesses associated with this, with obsessive or

0:49:03.400 --> 0:49:07.560
<v Speaker 1>maladaptive daydreaming UH processes having to do with physical place

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<v Speaker 1>and physical action, often with an object in the hand. Robert,

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<v Speaker 1>you mentioned earlier when you were a child that you

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<v Speaker 1>would day dream with a rubber band in your hand,

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<v Speaker 1>manipulating it with your hands always. I had to have

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<v Speaker 1>a rubber band, and you it had to be green

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<v Speaker 1>or red. It couldn't be just the brown ones because

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<v Speaker 1>they weren't they weren't exciting enough. And also this this

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<v Speaker 1>is I guess maybe this sounds kind of strange, but

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<v Speaker 1>the the red and green rubber bands were explosions. And

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<v Speaker 1>I would also make explosion noises as explosions were needed

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<v Speaker 1>in these imagined scenarios, because apparently there were a lot

0:49:43.719 --> 0:49:47.239
<v Speaker 1>of explosions. Well, I mean, given our samples, sometimes explosions

0:49:47.239 --> 0:49:49.640
<v Speaker 1>if you got to happen. I want to read a

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<v Speaker 1>quote from one of the subjects in Summer's study quote.

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<v Speaker 1>When I daydream, I often hold an object in my hand,

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<v Speaker 1>say an a racer or a marble. I taw sit

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<v Speaker 1>in the air. This repetitive monotone movement helps ME concentrate

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<v Speaker 1>on the fantasy. Daydreaming is easier when I do this

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't get distracted by other things in the room.

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<v Speaker 1>At other times, I would go down to the basement

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<v Speaker 1>and pace for hours while daydreaming. Also from the same patient,

0:50:17.320 --> 0:50:20.080
<v Speaker 1>sometimes I would go into an orchard behind my house.

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<v Speaker 1>Nobody comes there. I like the solitude because I could

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<v Speaker 1>act the fantasies out loud. I can shout and scream

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<v Speaker 1>there without shame. And these are commonly reported elements having

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<v Speaker 1>a place to go to, being in physical motion while

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<v Speaker 1>doing the daydreaming, like pacing or driving or something like that,

0:50:38.280 --> 0:50:41.920
<v Speaker 1>and having an object to manipulate in the hand. Why

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<v Speaker 1>that that is so interesting to me? Why those things? Yeah,

0:50:45.360 --> 0:50:48.040
<v Speaker 1>it really makes me think back on my my own

0:50:48.080 --> 0:50:51.000
<v Speaker 1>imaginative behavior as a kid, for sure. All right, well,

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<v Speaker 1>let's take a break and when we come back we

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<v Speaker 1>will continue and conclude our exploration of maladaptive daydreaming. Thank

0:50:58.640 --> 0:51:02.360
<v Speaker 1>thank thank you. All Right, we're back now. We mentioned earlier,

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<v Speaker 1>there's a good piece in The Atlantic about maladaptive daydreaming

0:51:05.440 --> 0:51:09.400
<v Speaker 1>from by Jane Biggleson and Tina Kelly called win day

0:51:09.480 --> 0:51:12.760
<v Speaker 1>Dreaming Replaces Real Life that has some really good stories

0:51:12.800 --> 0:51:15.040
<v Speaker 1>in it about what this experience is like. So I

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<v Speaker 1>just wanted to read maybe a couple of quotes from

0:51:17.760 --> 0:51:22.000
<v Speaker 1>this article of the author describing her own experience. She writes,

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<v Speaker 1>when I was eight years old, I had a game

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<v Speaker 1>I like to play in my front yard in suburban

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<v Speaker 1>New Jersey. My siblings were older and mostly out of

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<v Speaker 1>the house. My parents worked long hours, and when there

0:51:32.360 --> 0:51:35.279
<v Speaker 1>was nothing much to do, I'd walk in circles while

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<v Speaker 1>shaking a piece of string, daydreaming about Little House on

0:51:38.880 --> 0:51:42.440
<v Speaker 1>the Prairie or the Brady Bunch. One afternoon, I created

0:51:42.480 --> 0:51:45.680
<v Speaker 1>an episode where instead of going to Hawaii, where dangerous

0:51:45.719 --> 0:51:49.120
<v Speaker 1>spiders lurk, the Bradys went to the Bahamas, where I

0:51:49.120 --> 0:51:52.080
<v Speaker 1>had just been a week with my family. Greg Brady

0:51:52.160 --> 0:51:55.520
<v Speaker 1>met my teenage sister there and they started dating. The

0:51:55.560 --> 0:51:58.360
<v Speaker 1>show playing in my head was so detailed and entertaining

0:51:58.360 --> 0:52:01.960
<v Speaker 1>that it lasted forty five minute. Another day, I imagine

0:52:02.000 --> 0:52:05.320
<v Speaker 1>myself as the actress who played the seventh Brady sibling.

0:52:05.680 --> 0:52:07.799
<v Speaker 1>I met all the other young actors on set, and

0:52:07.840 --> 0:52:11.880
<v Speaker 1>they commented on my cute outfit and amazing acting skills. Again,

0:52:11.920 --> 0:52:15.359
<v Speaker 1>the string in her hand, the object to manipulate. Yeah,

0:52:15.440 --> 0:52:18.359
<v Speaker 1>I totally get it. I it's hard again, it's it's

0:52:18.440 --> 0:52:20.319
<v Speaker 1>it's difficult for me to put it into words, but

0:52:20.400 --> 0:52:24.560
<v Speaker 1>I know exactly what she's doing there. And the author

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<v Speaker 1>goes on to chronicle how with her experiences of of

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<v Speaker 1>of obsessive daydreaming going on throughout her life, she eventually

0:52:31.080 --> 0:52:35.200
<v Speaker 1>came to investigate this issue full like she got involved

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<v Speaker 1>in the subject of maladaptive daydreaming at the research level,

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<v Speaker 1>and she was a test subject in some research and

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<v Speaker 1>one of the things she found was that, So she

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<v Speaker 1>went in for some brain imaging for some fm R

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<v Speaker 1>I to look at what's going on in her brain

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<v Speaker 1>while she's actively daydreaming, and one of the things they

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<v Speaker 1>found was quote, great activity in the ventral stree atom,

0:52:55.160 --> 0:52:57.120
<v Speaker 1>the part of the brain that lights up when an

0:52:57.120 --> 0:53:00.759
<v Speaker 1>alcoholic has shown images of a martini. It's so it's

0:53:00.800 --> 0:53:04.480
<v Speaker 1>literally setting off some kind of addiction response type feeling

0:53:04.719 --> 0:53:07.840
<v Speaker 1>cheaper and healthier. Though right, probably healthier, but not necessarily

0:53:07.920 --> 0:53:09.759
<v Speaker 1>better for your life. I mean, depending on what the

0:53:09.760 --> 0:53:12.640
<v Speaker 1>circumstances are. I mean again, we we certainly don't want

0:53:12.640 --> 0:53:16.080
<v Speaker 1>to demonize healthy forms of daydreaming, but for many of

0:53:16.120 --> 0:53:20.200
<v Speaker 1>these people, they end up seeking communities online for people

0:53:20.239 --> 0:53:22.680
<v Speaker 1>who have the same issues as them, or seeking clinical

0:53:22.719 --> 0:53:26.359
<v Speaker 1>help because these people realize, like, this is taking up

0:53:26.360 --> 0:53:28.840
<v Speaker 1>so much of my life, it is making me unable

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<v Speaker 1>to live my life, it's interfering with my work, with

0:53:31.320 --> 0:53:35.920
<v Speaker 1>my relationships, it's it's gone beyond its useful role. One

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<v Speaker 1>of the other things that's interesting that gets pointed out

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<v Speaker 1>in this article is the possible overlap between maladaptive daydreaming

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<v Speaker 1>and a disorder that's been known as stereotypic movement disorder,

0:53:48.360 --> 0:53:51.799
<v Speaker 1>which involves repetitive motions of the body, kind of like

0:53:51.840 --> 0:53:54.480
<v Speaker 1>what we've been talking about with like pacing or repeatedly

0:53:55.080 --> 0:53:57.920
<v Speaker 1>UM moving you know, an object in the hand like

0:53:58.040 --> 0:54:02.280
<v Speaker 1>often SMD seems to have something to do with flapping

0:54:02.320 --> 0:54:04.880
<v Speaker 1>of the hands or movement of the arms or something

0:54:04.920 --> 0:54:08.200
<v Speaker 1>like that. And one of the things the authors talk

0:54:08.280 --> 0:54:11.680
<v Speaker 1>about is that UM. There was a study that studied

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<v Speaker 1>children who have stereotypic movement disorder forty two children, and

0:54:15.920 --> 0:54:19.319
<v Speaker 1>this was in two thousand and ten. And when the

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<v Speaker 1>researchers in the study asked the kids what they were

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<v Speaker 1>doing when they were performing their repetitive motions, eight three

0:54:26.200 --> 0:54:29.239
<v Speaker 1>percent of the of the kids said they were repeating

0:54:29.360 --> 0:54:32.239
<v Speaker 1>stories in their heads. So it sounds like there may

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<v Speaker 1>be some overlap with this existing known condition. And again

0:54:36.160 --> 0:54:39.880
<v Speaker 1>I wonder what is the neural link between the motions

0:54:39.920 --> 0:54:44.520
<v Speaker 1>of the body and the internal storytelling impulse. Well, it

0:54:44.560 --> 0:54:47.400
<v Speaker 1>makes me think back to the more recent study we

0:54:47.440 --> 0:54:51.680
<v Speaker 1>talked about discussing default mode network and the being on autopilot,

0:54:52.080 --> 0:54:56.240
<v Speaker 1>Like maybe there has to be some sort of autopilot

0:54:56.719 --> 0:55:00.480
<v Speaker 1>thing you're doing, and it could be swimming or or

0:55:00.719 --> 0:55:04.600
<v Speaker 1>pacing about, but also just manipulating an object. Maybe you're

0:55:04.600 --> 0:55:09.000
<v Speaker 1>not actually performing a task but in in object manipulation

0:55:09.120 --> 0:55:11.640
<v Speaker 1>or you know, some sort of basic tool use uh

0:55:11.719 --> 0:55:15.839
<v Speaker 1>and it maybe it's a necessary part of that network. Yeah,

0:55:15.880 --> 0:55:17.920
<v Speaker 1>that that could be. You know, one of the researchers

0:55:17.920 --> 0:55:20.080
<v Speaker 1>in this article who gets quoted talks about how there's

0:55:20.080 --> 0:55:23.640
<v Speaker 1>a possibility that day dreaming is somehow kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>a fever, Like it is a natural defense mechanism. It's

0:55:27.960 --> 0:55:32.520
<v Speaker 1>a cognitive defense mechanism for dealing with cognitive threats. Um.

0:55:32.560 --> 0:55:35.120
<v Speaker 1>But it can, of course, like a fever, be harmful

0:55:35.160 --> 0:55:37.600
<v Speaker 1>if it gets out of control. And for some people

0:55:37.600 --> 0:55:40.759
<v Speaker 1>this defense mechanism, while in some cases useful, it does

0:55:40.800 --> 0:55:43.359
<v Speaker 1>get out of control for them. What that makes sense too?

0:55:43.400 --> 0:55:46.760
<v Speaker 1>And when you think about the ways that that writer's

0:55:46.840 --> 0:55:49.799
<v Speaker 1>end up exploring, or not just writer has been any

0:55:49.840 --> 0:55:51.759
<v Speaker 1>kind of a you know creative individual is doing some

0:55:51.800 --> 0:55:54.400
<v Speaker 1>sort of art or something. To consider their art, you know,

0:55:54.440 --> 0:55:58.040
<v Speaker 1>you end up processing a lot of your own anxieties

0:55:58.040 --> 0:56:00.759
<v Speaker 1>and fears and hopes and dreams the who that art?

0:56:02.000 --> 0:56:05.040
<v Speaker 1>So it maybe and maybe that is just and something

0:56:05.040 --> 0:56:08.080
<v Speaker 1>that's overlaid here and not part of the actual uh

0:56:08.680 --> 0:56:11.879
<v Speaker 1>you know, origin of the the impulse. But maybe there's

0:56:11.880 --> 0:56:14.360
<v Speaker 1>a connection. Yeah, well, I mean I often think with

0:56:14.360 --> 0:56:17.800
<v Speaker 1>with like works of fiction. It's funny when people ask

0:56:17.920 --> 0:56:21.239
<v Speaker 1>authors like to interpret their own work in the light

0:56:21.280 --> 0:56:24.080
<v Speaker 1>of their biography. You know, you hear that. It's like, oh,

0:56:24.160 --> 0:56:26.680
<v Speaker 1>you wrote this character in this novel, who does this?

0:56:26.840 --> 0:56:28.799
<v Speaker 1>What is that? You know? How does that relate to

0:56:28.880 --> 0:56:31.520
<v Speaker 1>your life? This thing that happened to you? I feel

0:56:31.520 --> 0:56:33.839
<v Speaker 1>like you've got it backwards. You should be telling the

0:56:33.920 --> 0:56:37.359
<v Speaker 1>writer how what they wrote explains their life. The writer

0:56:37.480 --> 0:56:40.480
<v Speaker 1>doesn't know. Yeah, yeah, like like often the writer has

0:56:40.520 --> 0:56:42.719
<v Speaker 1>to sort of have the realization like, oh, well, I

0:56:42.719 --> 0:56:45.839
<v Speaker 1>guess I guess this story was about, you know, my

0:56:46.120 --> 0:56:49.080
<v Speaker 1>substance abuse problem or what have you. You You know. And

0:56:49.320 --> 0:56:51.480
<v Speaker 1>speaking of substance abuse, of course, I mean one of

0:56:51.520 --> 0:56:53.359
<v Speaker 1>the things that comes up again and again in these

0:56:53.400 --> 0:56:57.560
<v Speaker 1>reports is that some of the people who experience maladaptive

0:56:57.600 --> 0:57:02.000
<v Speaker 1>daydreaming compare it in way in some ways to an addiction.

0:57:02.320 --> 0:57:03.959
<v Speaker 1>Going back to you know what some of the brain

0:57:03.960 --> 0:57:06.200
<v Speaker 1>imaging seem to show we mentioned a minute ago, is

0:57:06.239 --> 0:57:09.880
<v Speaker 1>that there isn't an addiction like response in the brain,

0:57:10.360 --> 0:57:13.319
<v Speaker 1>and then some people subjectively describe it as being like

0:57:13.440 --> 0:57:15.440
<v Speaker 1>in addiction. One of the people quoted in the Atlantic

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<v Speaker 1>article says, I felt the daydreaming was my main reality

0:57:18.960 --> 0:57:21.080
<v Speaker 1>and I only peek out into the main world now

0:57:21.120 --> 0:57:24.320
<v Speaker 1>and then it's like I'm an alcoholic with an unlimited

0:57:24.360 --> 0:57:27.640
<v Speaker 1>supply of booze. I can't turn it off. Yeah, I mean,

0:57:27.760 --> 0:57:30.040
<v Speaker 1>for the most part, you don't have to worry about

0:57:30.560 --> 0:57:34.439
<v Speaker 1>becoming physically ill from too much daydreaming, or falling over

0:57:34.480 --> 0:57:37.840
<v Speaker 1>from too much daydreaming, etcetera. Like there, it seems like

0:57:37.840 --> 0:57:40.120
<v Speaker 1>there are fewer obviously their limits, but there are few

0:57:40.160 --> 0:57:43.280
<v Speaker 1>are hard limits involved there. Yeah, that's true. But as

0:57:43.320 --> 0:57:46.600
<v Speaker 1>we've seen, of course, it can be a strong interference

0:57:46.640 --> 0:57:48.600
<v Speaker 1>with the kind of life people want to live. And

0:57:48.640 --> 0:57:51.280
<v Speaker 1>that's the reason there are all these you know, support

0:57:51.320 --> 0:57:55.480
<v Speaker 1>groups and and a push to get this more recognized

0:57:55.560 --> 0:57:59.480
<v Speaker 1>in in psychiatric and psychological treatment communities now, and there

0:57:59.480 --> 0:58:02.800
<v Speaker 1>are some treatments that that seemed to be coming along.

0:58:03.080 --> 0:58:05.959
<v Speaker 1>I mean, we're still in the early days of understanding

0:58:06.040 --> 0:58:10.040
<v Speaker 1>maladaptive daydreaming as a psychological condition that that is treated

0:58:10.040 --> 0:58:12.600
<v Speaker 1>in a clinical way, but some are in his two

0:58:12.600 --> 0:58:15.840
<v Speaker 1>thousand two articles found that therapy helped some patients with

0:58:15.880 --> 0:58:20.760
<v Speaker 1>aspects of their maladaptive daydreaming, including reducing violent themes in

0:58:20.800 --> 0:58:24.560
<v Speaker 1>the daydreaming and reducing the amount of time spent on it.

0:58:25.160 --> 0:58:27.560
<v Speaker 1>There are some drugs that in some cases have been

0:58:27.560 --> 0:58:31.440
<v Speaker 1>found work. Fluvoxamine, which is primarily used to treat obsessive

0:58:31.480 --> 0:58:35.280
<v Speaker 1>compulsive disorder, has apparently been used with some success. Other

0:58:35.320 --> 0:58:37.840
<v Speaker 1>patients have had some success with S S R. Eyes.

0:58:38.360 --> 0:58:41.200
<v Speaker 1>One of the most interesting things I came across was

0:58:41.280 --> 0:58:44.680
<v Speaker 1>also from that Atlantic article that it referred to one

0:58:44.760 --> 0:58:49.160
<v Speaker 1>person with maladaptive daydreaming who said quote, I recently found

0:58:49.240 --> 0:58:55.160
<v Speaker 1>that constantly writing wandering thoughts down or keeping track of them,

0:58:55.400 --> 0:59:00.600
<v Speaker 1>keeps you from falling into intense daydreaming. So the act

0:59:00.640 --> 0:59:02.240
<v Speaker 1>of right, I mean this brings it back to the

0:59:02.520 --> 0:59:06.120
<v Speaker 1>Freud issue with like creative writing versus day dreaming. The

0:59:06.200 --> 0:59:10.440
<v Speaker 1>act of writing down your creative thoughts somehow makes them

0:59:10.480 --> 0:59:14.000
<v Speaker 1>stop flowing so hard, And I mean I know that

0:59:14.080 --> 0:59:18.280
<v Speaker 1>from experience. Sometimes it's almost like weaponizing writer's block against

0:59:18.360 --> 0:59:22.440
<v Speaker 1>your own imagination. You run the risk though then of

0:59:22.960 --> 0:59:25.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, you write down the ones that you think

0:59:25.240 --> 0:59:28.080
<v Speaker 1>I promise and then that to fill you with with

0:59:28.160 --> 0:59:30.440
<v Speaker 1>joy on some level. But then you don't maybe you

0:59:30.440 --> 0:59:33.600
<v Speaker 1>don't write down the ones that are like stupid and

0:59:33.720 --> 0:59:36.120
<v Speaker 1>uh and and awful, you know, the ones that are

0:59:36.360 --> 0:59:38.680
<v Speaker 1>that are that fall into that special category of you know,

0:59:38.680 --> 0:59:40.560
<v Speaker 1>because yeah, I feel like, especially people who are write

0:59:40.600 --> 0:59:43.640
<v Speaker 1>up like horror or anything horror esque, you know, they're

0:59:43.680 --> 0:59:47.080
<v Speaker 1>they're liable to turn their fears into something useful, into

0:59:47.160 --> 0:59:49.880
<v Speaker 1>something artistic and artistic expression of their fears. But what

0:59:49.920 --> 0:59:52.120
<v Speaker 1>do you do when it's just something dumb, Like it's

0:59:52.240 --> 0:59:56.160
<v Speaker 1>dumb and it's hurtful, uh, dumb and hurtful day dream

0:59:56.560 --> 0:59:59.840
<v Speaker 1>that you've got to make us like a special activity,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess, of extracting it, of putting it on paper

1:00:02.480 --> 1:00:04.919
<v Speaker 1>and then just watting it up and forgetting about it. Well,

1:00:04.960 --> 1:00:09.080
<v Speaker 1>you know, I wonder, so there's the common experience of

1:00:09.080 --> 1:00:13.120
<v Speaker 1>people sort of daydreaming by writing their lives into the

1:00:13.200 --> 1:00:17.360
<v Speaker 1>existing plots and storylines of other TV shows and books

1:00:17.400 --> 1:00:20.840
<v Speaker 1>and stuff like that. I wonder how often this type

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<v Speaker 1>of daydreaming phases into just writing fan fiction. Oh yeah,

1:00:26.800 --> 1:00:28.960
<v Speaker 1>because you're you're I can see that where that could

1:00:29.040 --> 1:00:31.680
<v Speaker 1>that could occur because you're just so into this world,

1:00:32.120 --> 1:00:34.640
<v Speaker 1>you know, and then you you can't help it, want

1:00:34.640 --> 1:00:36.880
<v Speaker 1>to become a part of it. Yeah, I can't help.

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<v Speaker 1>But wonder in general if if some people who have

1:00:40.680 --> 1:00:44.600
<v Speaker 1>this condition would find relief through just creative writing, like

1:00:44.720 --> 1:00:47.880
<v Speaker 1>if you force yourself to write kind of like this

1:00:47.880 --> 1:00:50.160
<v Speaker 1>this last person was saying, if you force yourself to

1:00:50.200 --> 1:00:53.640
<v Speaker 1>write your creative thoughts down, that might only not just

1:00:53.800 --> 1:00:56.920
<v Speaker 1>limit them, but also give you something productive you can

1:00:56.960 --> 1:00:59.720
<v Speaker 1>do with that time you spent. So you don't just say, well,

1:00:59.800 --> 1:01:02.440
<v Speaker 1>I spent three hours daydreaming today, I don't know you

1:01:02.480 --> 1:01:04.439
<v Speaker 1>know where that time went. You could say I spent

1:01:04.480 --> 1:01:06.960
<v Speaker 1>three hours writing today. Well, not only do I think

1:01:07.280 --> 1:01:10.360
<v Speaker 1>that's a great idea, but I totally support anything that

1:01:10.440 --> 1:01:15.760
<v Speaker 1>will create employment opportunities for my fellow creative writing majors. Well,

1:01:15.800 --> 1:01:17.840
<v Speaker 1>I think we have to accept that not all writing

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<v Speaker 1>can be writing for money, and that's okay. But you know,

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<v Speaker 1>if somebody is trying to tell you to write, they

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<v Speaker 1>should be paying you money. So let's bring it all

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<v Speaker 1>back to good old Kirk Allen. Okay. I mean, ultimately,

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<v Speaker 1>we just don't have a lot of hard facts about

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<v Speaker 1>about who he was or what he actually went through.

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<v Speaker 1>But I wonder how we can apply everything we've discussed

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<v Speaker 1>in these two episodes to his case. Yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>I wonder if he would have directly fit this emerging

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<v Speaker 1>diagnosis of the maladaptive daydreamer. Um, and I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I wonder what we what we will continue to learn

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<v Speaker 1>about maladaptive daydreaming in the in the coming years, and

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<v Speaker 1>whether that will shed any new light on the Kirk

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<v Speaker 1>Allen story. Yeah. And of course we have a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of listeners out there who to write in and share

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<v Speaker 1>you have experiences with daydreaming, and I imagine there are

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<v Speaker 1>going to be some of you who have experience with

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<v Speaker 1>maladaptive daydreaming or something that in self analysis feels close

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<v Speaker 1>anonymous if if you would hope, if you want to

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<v Speaker 1>do it that way, sure, um, you know so, certainly

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